What Happens to Sex in Midlife? A Look at the “Bedroom Gap” | Maria Sophocles | TED
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- Опубликовано: 3 апр 2024
- Menopause isn't just hot flashes, says gynecologist and sexual medicine specialist Maria Sophocles. It's often accompanied by overlooked symptoms like painful sex or loss of libido. Shedding light on what she calls the "bedroom gap," or the difference in sexual expectations of men and women in midlife due to societal norms, Sophocles advocates for education, medical advancement and a new understanding of menopause - because sex should be pleasurable and comfortable for everyone.
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Is it wrong for a guy to watch this?
I feel like I'm peeping into women's secret girl talk
14:14 minutes - It's lovely to hear from someone who's an expert in the sexual health arena. It resonates with our life well and the entire minutes are on to the point. I would love to build a network with these extraordinary people.
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Compare with my countries, when we talking about sexual issues in the public, almost of the people are feeling shame and shy. Because they have fix-opinion that sexual issue is privacy between male and female. through this video, I was shock because it gives the information for Generation X how to have a better sexual method. This is relatively different in my homeland. We don't teach how to improve your sexual issues, we just prevent the sexual behaviour for them. After I see this video, I consider that society need to change the point-view about sexual issues.
"When You come to that age, my Dear, Your pretty pink-ish, magnetic rose will deteriorate to some sorry, indifferent slate gray no man will even look for, let alone desire." After loosing the love of my life to menopause, I never heard that cruel, inhumane joke mother nature hits her daughters with summed up better, or more precise for that matter.
At least trying to change that is maybe one of the really important fields in gynocentric medical research - even with quite some of 'em probably just passionlessly concluding "what a blessing that this inconvenient drive is finally over !"
How did you lose the love of your life to menopause?
@@MrSpikethefirst She lost her spirit, her health, her love she used to ooze out to the world, her looks, her countenance, her seggs-drive, her sanity, and turned into an unbearable, miserable, nagging menace of some sort. She lost her job (employer couldn't carry on threatening their customership with her "new personality" without having considerable losses), she lost her formerly successful Yoga studio she had for over 20 years as a sidehustle when none of the regulars wanted to renew their contracts anymore due to her "new personality". None of the random newbies wanted to come back again after their first lesson or course, either. I tried a lot to help her finding her sanity and health again, but she never even saw an endocrinologist or a gynaecologist once and tried to blame it all on me and her children and her mother and her two brothers and whatnot - had to end it when she upgraded her attitude from petty insults to downright dangerous violence. Got a restraining order, threw her out, put her stuff in storage and changed the locks when she was out of town for a weekend. "Traumatizing" was an understatement.
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Thanks, Doc. My love, age 50, has quietly said it hurts a few times over the last year, even with my/our normal Circus Clown/Zorro swordplay/Cowboy Up/Gene Simmons treatment beforehand, dryness was the cause, applying slippery was the immediate solution each time however; we're watching this tonight together and then calling her gyne tomorrow.
She, like many women and men both, has struggled with acknowledging the arrival of this milestone of mid-life because we're healthy, active physically and mentally and haven't needed persistent daily prescription meds for chronic problems.
Honestly, I truly never want hear that small, beautiful voice say those words again when I know I'm the cause.
Comment of your actually help my extend horizon. Thank, Doc because shares professedly it’s extremely positive and making for my family blissful better ❤
*_YOU_* are cause .....?
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Omg! I like it!!
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vagina oestrogen did cause a rise in BP in me!
What is BP? Thank you!
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"Despite all this, today young people’s right to quality sexuality education and information is under attack."
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India needs new laws to tackle the so-called 'honour crimes' which attempt to control women's sexuality and choices, writes *Kavita Krishnan*
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Though there are far more missing and murdered aboriginal boys and men. Explain that.
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Its wonderful talk. Talk about it! Evry medical professionals advice!
Does vaginal estrogen positively impact libido? The discussion mentioned libido but focused almost entirely on physical impact of estrogen decline.
Yes it does, she mentioned it in the first minute or two.
Sweet, this lecture, informative and educational. However, one thing, I always understood is that the husband/lover has to pleasure his woman. A question I have is, whether simple lubricants / creams would not sufficiently reduce the problem.
Trust me, lubrication doesn't always work. It's much more complicated than that.
The medical industry not spending any time on actually helping women with women specific issues? Here’s an unpopular opinion….maybe if they spent less time debating “what is a woman?” And more time actually taking care of actual women….well, that would be a good freakin start.
As a liberal, leftist and queer ally, I totally agree! Conservatives are so obsessed with gender, if they just stopped talking back about it we would have moved on a long time ago!
The medical industry is not debating… it’s the politicized activists who do. Just shut yourself off from social media and you’ll notice that the real world is pretty ok.
They invest and research *_a lot_* in the field of fancy overpriced longterm drugs against foul female moods ..... which are sold way more successful _without_ delivering a cure for the issues Maria Sophocles picked as her theme here ..... "follow the money" does help with understanding I reckon.
Yeah but Viagara. Is shyt
From my point of view, leftists seem to be a lot more strongly opinionated on gender related issues than conservatives.
Another contributing factor that is rarely discussed is it a majority of the population are smokers, drink alcohol, take pharmaceutical drugs and are experiencing the negative side effects of long-term psychiatric medication. The loss of libido in both men and women including the loss of erection and the loss of lubrication is a direct correlation to taking antidepressants and antipsychotics. My menopause was uneventful. However my general practitioner thought it was wise to prescribe three, not one or two, three psychiatric medication‘s because he said when his wife was going through menopause it helped her. I can’t do not! Anybody that takes psychiatric medication for a normal developmental stage of life is not thinking in their right minds. And you can blame the medical and pharmaceutical communities for contributing to the ill health of all people in the US. People in other countries do not experience these maladies.
I reckon smoking, moderately drinking or moderate druguse ain't the *_real_* problem here - people do know what they do to themselves. The real problem is what's in Your everyday's food, Your "drinking" water and Your city's air. People have not the slightest clue what they actually eat, drink and breath 24/7
My wife is goin through it as we speak and she was so unhappy un sexual a 180° about face from the way it used to be and over night I was told don’t touch me when I have NEVER heard that from her in our 20+ year marriage. Me suggesting HRT. Was met with an aggressive response to worry about myself. Well time went by and I told her you’re wasting your life and ruining our relationship. She went to Dr and got estradiol gel and apparently it helped a little but she also came home with a prescription for PAXIL. So one step forward. 15 backwards. But apparently I have no idea what I’m talking about. Sucks.
"Til gap we part"
Here's a post to upvote, so you don't need to see the whiny misogynists
Very insughtful and unknown thing to know😳😳
What a negatige we're living in, half of the twitter crowd has come to YT.
Pity she turned this into a feminist rant. On the plus side, getting a straight answer about menopause enables men to have realistic sexual expectations about middle age female partners.
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20% downvote, crazy 😢
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"There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens ... a time to be born and a time to die ..."
It is simply unnatural for sexual vitality to go on and on forever!
A time comes for every human when the instinct begins to wane and there's no need for alarm when that phase arrives!
Let us begin to align with nature than seek to combat it!
No idea. No experience
yeah, after you had that multi colored haired gender whatever thing on, ted talks are done.
Despite of raising awareness for woman pleasure needs, i can't belive how she managed to web in sexist topics towards men and women..
Trying to trigger and cash in on suggesting women are unequal to men has a feminist touch,
but think about who would have the most benefit of a better sexdrive in women.
Its win win!
a long time i have thought better of this platform.
Has she ever heard about lube?
As my gynecologist put it when discussing this topic ''why use a bazooka to kill a fly? Try to catch it with a sticky fly trap first''.
Why must medication be the first proposed solution?
Even topical estrogen can cause side effects.
On another note: pregnant and lactating women have very low estrogen too with all that comes with it. And cannot take any meds. So again: lube!
And what is this piffle about doctors not being trained to talk about menopause? Are you serious? So once they leave university they stop learning? Really?! 😂
TED talk: do you even review what the speakers will say? Your standards are falling by the day.
Sometimes lube doesn't help enough when there is pain caused by vaginal skin that is not elastic anymore
*Gender* gap. The bedroom *gender* gap.
"Examine its root causes"😂😂😂
another feminism lecture
What sort of comment is this!!
If a "feminist lecture" can makes your wife, daughter, or sister happier isn't it a lecture worth existing? Even if not for you specificly, about half of the world's population and their partner needs to know about their biology better 😊
Thanks for the warning!!
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Imagine being the type of person who gets upset when a lecture on women's health ends up in their feed.
Sad
what racist mambo jambo this woman displays
Dude she's spouting gender mambo jambo not color.
Racist?! Huh?!
My dudes, this wasn’t “mambo jambo” of ANY kind. She was just spittin’ straight facts about female sexual health.
@@handlemonium racist sexist it s all the same
@@Dennis-uh2cu Goldberg Greenberg Iceberg it's all the same, huh? It's what brought down the Titanic after all ....
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