Your content is on a higher level than most channels not only because you take an intellectual, impartial view but also because your female counterparts aren’t the stereotypical, loud, obnoxious, all-knowing type of bw that we seem to be cursed with more and more these days. All participants are respectful of each other and honestly looking to find solutions and common ground. This is what the black community needs. Not the bunch of black men and women telling each side how right they are and how partners from other races are the answer. Thank you for that. ✊🏾
“Woe to those who call evil good and good evil, who put darkness for light and light for darkness, who put bitter for sweet and sweet for bitter!” Isaiah 5:20
I have never heard this broken down so well! This was also great. I would like to add to this. I also think your theory indirectly explains why these women are so willing to have children by these men. They try to fix the father, but once they realize they can't they try to fix the father through the child. They say "You are broken, and I can't fix you, but I can take your DNA, and make a better version." Then, motherhood becomes a performative act, and the child becomes an extension of the mother's ego. Hence, the son-husband.
@sidjones16 he really is. Heres the real reason: theyre attracted to them sexually because theyre "exciting", women regularly do not use contraceptives nowadays, baby gets made and she pumps out the baby of the kind of man shes attracted to, the no good pookie. Theyre not tryna fix anyone, they like these men broken and disturbed. Thats why see so many videos now of women wanting drug dealers or wishing for boyfriends who will be violent on her behalf. Or why theres an app for women to pick and choose what prisoners they want to conceive children with. Or why some women wish men wrre born in prison and have to fight there way out. Because theyre attracted to these violent, dangerous and no good men. The end, theres nothing more than that. There is no noble cause.
A theory ? This BS barely passes as a well thought out hypothesis. Why do we keep trying to rationalize the irrational ? This has fsck all to do with anything but far too many women having poor decision making skills that are turned on by bums and the stupid sh*t that they do.
Man bro was not lying about the bw going to therapy and using that to become a narcissist. My ex was like this . She actively went to therapy and was a therapist her self. Therefore, she could not see her wrong doings . The only therapists who called her out was our couples counselor. He notice she had in-depth anger problems. She didn’t want to hear that. Therefore she kept putting her hands on me and starting these delusional arguments out of no where. I just hope she finds peace within herself.
Same Brother... Mines had hit me in face with a chair while praying and punched me a lot. I admit to triggering her anger but not to that level and not on most occasions. Can you believe I was the only one that took therapy between us, at her request too. Then when couple therapy was suggested she fought it so much even for simply going herself. That's when I knew she didn't want to work on anything but somehow simply place issues of our relationship on me.
A lot of people go to therapy not to fix their behavior, but to validate their behavior. It’s like me, as a golfer, going to see a teaching professional for help…but I reject every method he/she gives because I “feel” my swing still works. I want my golf swing validated and I just want to fix my outcomes. It doesn’t work like that. You have to accept that behaviors you may feel valid in expressing, are not conducive to you getting where you want to go. And fixing it means fixing your attitude and your association that also validates your cantankerous behavior.
Let's not forget the pressure that comes with being with a man that got it together. He won't put up with foolishness and toxic behavior some women are not looking to get rid of. I believe you guys are tiptoeing missing that factor. That is a huge portion of the women who choose Pookie and RayRay as well.
A lot of these women want to compete/ be men but don’t want to do man shit. They really admire us if you think about it. They things that make us attractive doesn’t work for them. They don’t want to deal with a man that is successful because they don’t want to compete with other women. They’d rather deal with ray ray and pookies because they can be controlled rather than dudes doing well.
Once, I've taken in a women that needed some fixing. Got her in a great career and in return, she almost got me in jail over her personal issue. I was fortunate to survive and learned.
I think that over the years men have confused, nurturing with just outright. Bribery even loansharks have the notion of I’ll pay you now, but you will pay me later I want to say hypergamy has just become predatory and that’s why the dating pool is phasing out and I think it’s all finished.
I think k it's more of both sides really us8ng their leverage... men never forget being looked over for a type of guy when a woman is young fine and pretty. the hurt from that drives them to be in the position where they can pick and choose
@@aneedkassim9727 I don’t think that’s the case because men setting standards for what exactly they want in a woman is considered toxic. If she’s overweight, you’re fat shaming if she has a questionable background with men you’re slut shaming. If she has children from other relationships, and she’s unmarried and you choose not to deal with her you’re difficult and don’t deserve to be around her children. Men are sick of the BS & jumping through hoops, for someone who is psychologically emotionally & financially exhausting just for her to divorce you at a rate of over 70% with a fail rate that large why bother?
When it comes to the whole broken thing, it works differently for men and women. It's hard dealing with a broken woman, and they have to fix themselves most of the time. Being a broken man makes them stronger, especially if you get them around a good group of guys that build him up. I just personally haven't met any women who have successfully fixed a broke man.
He is speaking straight facts. I was being looked at as lame, etc. I had to make the choice to protect my future kids and create a stable family environment for myself and my kids. So I married a woman from Asain, it was a hard choice to make but I must do what was right for me and my kids. Now my kids are doing great, one is in college and one is about to graduate from high school, heading to college for free due to their grades, etc. I don't hate my sisters, I just wish they would stop this madness and start checking and putting sisters like Cynthia G in their place. until that happens, I feel that we need to go elsewhere to find peace and give our kids a better life and a stable family that we never got. Africa, the Middle East, and Southeast Asia is the best place to go if you have your stuff in order and not playing any games. If you are going to play games, then stay in the west with those women because the women and the people in the non-western countries are not going to play games with it and it will end badly for you.
I'm a single father of five children that I have custody of after we were abandoned. I am going to take that route, difficult because I love our sisters so much. But I dedicated most of my life to two serious relationships and to my people. I just can't anymore, I want reciprocation and appreciation when applicable. 😢
@@OmaAlkebulan-grace sorry to hear about that brother. The reason why I made such a choice was due to seeing what men like you and my dad, and uncles went through. It is time to abandon ship and find peace elsewhere. Most of these black women don't give a damn about us until they are old, used up, overweight, and have kids from the bad boys.
I think its less of self sabotage and more of protecting their ego. When a woman tries to nurture a healed man usually it ends up requiring the women to heal herself and do some internal work and have to be held accountable. When youre a "pookie" youre so compromised whatever she gives you you have to just appreciate it, but a man of worth can set standards and require a woman to be better. And women reject that, cause any critique or analysis of black women makes them feel inadequate and not good enough. Whether the critique is just and valid it doesnt matter the messenger or the timing, black women reject it cause they dont want to feel lesser than. And dealing with a bum is the perfect formula for that. They get to be superior to their man and run the show and when things go wrong they can play the victim and garner sympathy at the end. At no point do they have to improve and get better just rinse and repeat.
Being good is harder than being bad. Let's not forget the women who are not up for the task of being good women. There are plenty of women who will choose bad men because the bad guy won't require self development. What hurts my heart some is that women don't even realize that good men are also men are hurting. They just actively trying to be better through their pain(s). Why not reward those men that are putting in the effort? Nah, but then women are shocked the man that wasn't putting in the effort doesn't pour back into them and they get left done dirty. When a good man would have cherished the love and support.
Emotional exhibitionist. Thank you for the articulation. I've been telling women that they are not emotionally intelligent since they have been using the term against men. They would say they were, and I would say that they are emotionally dramatic. Because some of them think that they are an example of intelligence, but when men display it how we've seen them show it they call us soft, itches or sassy.
@renzo7503 🎯👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿💯 As someone who is in their early 60s and has seen a lot of the changes from the early 60s until now you guys are definitely correct and right about what you just said It is all DEFINITELY social programming and social engineering Not trying to be disrespectful or anything But a lot of young ppl who are trying to analyze what's going on today most were born in the late seventies to the early 90s They are quite young right now and it is hard for them to see or understand what has transpired to get us in this type of situation that we are in right now it has not always been like this back in the 50s and the 60s when Martin Luther King and Malcolm X were around these same social problems were around then but they did not exist on such a large scale as they are now There is always going to be the bad whiskey bad blues and even badder women crowd around
You spitting 🔥🔥🔥 bro!! Make it plain! I have lived as a good dude for a long time. Been called boring and square for years now looking at the opposite sex that chose past me and well it is what it is
I loved hearing that the spirit moves you when you speak. I feel the same way. It is the only way to explain why your perspective is out of this world. Your breakdown was spot on!
dude on point breaking it down its a forgotten caveat... what if tgat no good dude turn her on at that carnal level?... the other man cant do that. thats the real issue that woman dont want 2 or cant admit.
This is interesting to me. I personally don’t have any children, never was attracted to Pookies or Rays Rays. The “hood”, “tough”, mentality never crossed my mind towards attracting the opposite sex. I never understood why women chose such men to be with (as a Black woman myself).I see a new perspective now, it’s quite mind blowing.
My wife once told she made me I e been this way since 13 when I realized how broken people are I just happen to fall in love which I thank her for cause the state of the world made me fear love
Absolutely… It mainly comes out of an entire “broken community” and culture where our youth are not INSTRUCTED in the best way or best mindset to approach relationships.
I wish I could have been on this show 😤 I’ve been saying this passionately forever! That’s how the women that have sons, even the married ones, turn their sons in to “son husbands” - A term I learned from KS Some of the women I grew up with since we were young always got into relationships where they built men up 🤦🏽♀️Moved them in, call me everywhere you go, take around your friends and family etc Wooo chow
No functional families is the genesis of this problem. The solution is generations in the making. Mental health is a viable solution in the interim. Raise a family as best you can within matrimony if you can. Love y'all.
These are great and valid points. My dad was handsome, charismatic, generous, military, anal taskmaster full of gifts and criticism. I cldnt wait to get out of the house; his drive and standards made everyone miserable including himself. Every man I've loved is easygoing validating, kindhearted and broken (bums). Im a high achiever, high earner but i want fun and peace n my home not leadership, accountability, and authority. But my kids definitely needed a dad like mine. Great observation!
@RC-fe9py not at all; she did what women did at the time, she married to escape her parents then she grew up; all her relationship choices were great on paper ; not so good day to day
@shanikad3999 why do you think BW feel that being happy is what marriage is all about? Marriage is an institution of God not a vacation from responsibility. I think BW have the wrong attitude of what marriage means. Do you think it's fun to work hard, deal with racist arrogant folks on the job that think you are dumb so you have to prove in a society built on killing you off through free labor that you are worthy of keeping your job only to give it all away to a woman and children is easy? Sacrificing your freedom in order to protect and provide everything to people that grow up to treat you like a mule? See the problem is most BW DO NOT appreciate what it takes for a BM to conquer all he has to for you to belittle his efforts and patronize his position as husband and father. This is why modern BW will pay for generations of disrespect not only to him but more importantly to God. It is clear the BW hate God and anything resembling Him and this is why you all are either alone perpetually or destined to be so sooner or later. It's sad how almost all of you are incapable of overcoming this phenomenon, and thus unable to achieve the goal of being a true blessing to a man. There's nothing cheerful, or genuinely loving in almost all of you today especially. No man in his right mind should risk it ALL for that. It take massive bravery to trust everything to someone who hates everything you are deep down inside. Why should you ever be blessed with a man then? You clearly cannot appreciate him. All is as it should be then and the single digit percentage marriage rates for gen y and lower prove it.
I've been feeling this way for years. A lot of times the Black women at the PWIs I attend do not date, get engaged to, or marry the Black men on campus. Glad to hear someone talking about this. I think we need to heal our relationships, especially in school.
Along with women believing that they are not deserving of good men/things, when approaching that good man that has everything going for him , can cause pause because that intimidation is going to require a lot of work! Unfortunately, if what you need is blatant and tangible, then that’s easy to identify, on the other hand, if you’re requiring a relationship without need of tangibles, that might be a path they’ve never taken before and would be hesitant. Also, control is another major factor in these type of dynamics when women feel like the man “needs” them. I hope that my message was clear. Lol. Loved the discussions in this sit down. ✨
Message is clear and well said. Appreciate the candor. It’s true. The sad part is we need each-other but it’s like we are designed these days to repel eachother😢
Appreciate what you are doing brother. Definitely keeping the conversation going intelligently and with integrity. I wish I got therapy earlier in life. I never dated African American women in my 20s and early 30s because of the low key anti-African and colorist culture deeply embedded in black American culture. I experienced it early in life. But now in my 30s I realize that we all have trauma. And I’m realizing African American women are actually more open to changing, growing and understanding you if you give them the proper opportunity. Our women and other African/foreign women can be very stuck in their ways and judgmental at the same time . I legitimately closed the door on potentially amazing love. But overall the conversations needs to keep happening. If not for us then the younger generations. We are in a unique period of Africa intermingling with the diaspora more and the diaspora collectively being more connected. Great things could happen.
I’m not so sure that it’s “insensitivizing brokenss” rather than a subconscious coping mechanism. Most people who grew from broken families tend to want “better lives” and to not make the same mistakes that their parents did. However, subconsciously history repeats itself no matter what our level of status, education or financial stability. No matter how much we improve and build up ourselves we will repeat the same patterns. A bunch of broken people trying to give meaning to their “brokeness”. “If I can get her to love me then the abuse I got from my mother doesn’t matter anymore” “If I can get this Pookie to be a great man and commit to me then I can give my kids the father I never had.” Just look at Will and Jada, they have it all but, Will is trying to succeed in not being abandoned by another person who is supposed to love him. As Jada is trying to make up for a multitude of dysfunctional family issues including sexual abuse by her grandmother by embracing her promiscuous behavior and desire for freedom over being a wife and mother.
@@c____89 no, in fact I’m a janitor with just simple understanding of cause and effect. Truth is the educational system has is flaws in that because most people are followers they tend to develop there way of thinking based on their teachings and not their own outside of “the box” thinking. Look people in general are very pattern based. This great minds and philosophers of old had already figured out these patterns and used them to control/direct their civilizations. When you start to see and understand this then you tend to realize that through fear, ignorance and trauma people can be extremely easy to manipulate. Especially if you’re able to detract them by dividing them using their own fear, ignorance and trauma to start civil wars. All this happening while the “manipulators” reap the benefits.
That stream of conciousness at the beginning is like crack to a receptive mind. I unfortunately do this by myself. I use conversations like this as a type of proof reader
Women love titles. And anything that seemingly increases their social standing/superiority. It also gives them another layer of percieved "protection." Therapy gives credence to both for them.
I think some Women "choose to focus" on another person's pain and issues as a distraction to their own. (E.g. Man or Kid) And a Good Man, appears to not need anything. However, the "Peace and Stability" a Good Man provides allows a Woman to really see and focus on herself. Which I believe provides and opportunity for a Woman to "Find Herself." However, she ends up becoming a Stranger to the Man and to Herself. And that new found freedom or confidence is like an Overweight Woman losing weight and starting to get attention from Men that always dismissed her in the past. Which is a vulnerable and dangerous position to be in. Awesome conversation and discussion.
THERAPY… is NOT an end-all/be-all. It’s flawed like everything else bc “flawed people” facilitate it. Often times, these kinds of authentic conversations are WAY BETTER than actual “therapy”.
It's not that these women want to help a broke/needy man, is that they find security in a man that needs them! They can manipulate the situation of a man that needs them.
Where the young’s heads at 🤣. These woman on here are in their 40’s already no disrespect but of course they more woke and ready to settle down and listen. You gotta get some young folks on here my Guy
Why were all of our women in need of therapy? That’s a scary thought! Also, why does everyone keep talking about black dudes with nothing; what about those with something?! People keep talking like bm are broke busted and disgusted! I can’t agree because me and the bm I know all have degrees, some advanced, houses, careers and some even have own their own businesses on top of that! So, I can’t relate! Maybe it’s time for me to move on to circles of women and people that are on that same level. I come from the ilk where my father told me and my brother to never depend on a woman for nothing. Stand on your own to feet and if you need help, come back to your family or friends for it.
Not to be disrespectful and speak bad about your pops Arthur speak ill about people I really don't know BUT you don't think that your pops who gave you that pretty good advice wasn't carrying anger issues against some women who did him dirty ??? I say this because I hear that same statement from a lot of black women
I agree with you bro...but remember that's the dominant narrative though. I've got 3 advanced degrees in engineering but you'll never hear a talk about us. 😂😂 It's boring i suppose
@@wethepplwhorblackerthanblu6442 no and thanks for the respect. His hold thing was to make us men and able to stand on our own two feet to take care of ourselves. That way, you won’t get accused of being sorry and he would know we would be ok in life not leaning on people. People can’t seem to make their mind up. Either they want us manly and not leaning on a woman for anything, or they want us to lean in a woman and then get told how we sorry and other men don’t do it! I took it to heart and knew exactly what he was saying. Not only did I learn to do manly things and provide for myself like an adult is supposed to, but I also I mastered all the other things as well, cooking, cleaning, annual doctors visits, etc. So now, a woman can’t complain about Jack when dealing with me. I don’t act like a man child needing his mommy and I’m not those dusty, broke never have nothing dudes that they love to complain about! Most women freak out because they come across y brother and I and we fit none of the negative stereotypes they like to throw around. However, the problem they have is that we know our worth and are not given to tolerate the nonsense they put other guys through because we will get rid of them and move on; as it should be. For some reason, women hate men that have standard and are self sufficient and reliant. I literally had one girl tell me she was enamored by me because I called her out on all of her issh! My response to her: why are you giving me issh to call you out on in the first place?!” Needles to say, that relationship didn’t last long!
@@vr4892I have a lucrative career and several degrees as well. Keep in mind, that the dominant narrative gets views, and views = money. Most black men are not sorry (less than 20% are actually), but they get all the limelight to push the age old narrative that the negro is lazy and good for nothing. Women are actually programmed (sorry ladies; not as an insult) much easier than men in this game if conditioning; to the point where they look for these 20% in their daily lives to procreate with. Genetically, pookie and rayray actually produce inferior children (genes carry the markers for increased criminality, mental health disorders, drug dependence, violence, emotional instability, spiritual degradation) which is the bottom line of the powers that be. Hence why they receive all the focus. Even more so to make sure that agenda sticks, they frame everything outside of that as “square” , lame, loser, etc. Are you familiar with the works of B.F. Skinner? This is his work but extrapolated to a sociological level using the vehicle of social magic (media), to indoctrinate the minds of the youth. My girlfriend, who is a therapist just like I am, was shocked when I put her on to the work of Skinner and explained what it was, and gave real world examples of its application.
I literally would rather watch this than “tonight’s conversation”. These are the real talks versus the panderbear bs to get clicks an likes. I appreciate you folks 🙏🏽
Not agreeing with much in this one. The good man is going to have to force her to meet a higher standard of being a good woman. Since when do women think they don't deserve good things? That's all they say is "they deserve...." The responsible one really is seen as the boring one because she sees having to be responsible with him as a burden. The locals can be reckless or thrilling to them The one that's studying to be a software engineer is going to seen as "I'll check back with him when he becomes a software engineer...." or at least around the time when he's due to graduate.
They want to try and nuture a broken man, or a pookie and ray ray to be more than what he is. At the same time pookie and Ray doesn't have any boundaries or expectations from the woman. In her twisted mind she gets the best of both worlds! She can be her boss babe self and maternal to a total ain't shit dude
0:19 part of women nature is to be nurturing!! yes you’re right but it’s also both women & men nature to be nurturing!! Men are taught that nurturing is for the sensitive aka weak /feminine energy 🥴🥴🥴 which is an old head mentality & im glade to see my fellow black millennial/gen-Z men break that cycle, but in reality both women & men are naturally nurturing!! Nurturing is both a masculine & feminine trait because you’re making sure your offspring becomes a productive individual in the world
A lot of sistas are going to therapy just to say they are working on themselves, but they are not being honest while in those sessions. The therapy is in vain.
Most women do not want most men and all of this low key talking down to women is not going to make them want the men they don't want. It's not men's job to question or judge what women are attracted to, it's not meant for men to understand. It's also not men's job to try and change women's minds. We already tried that and all we did was force women into unfulfilling relationships (for centuries) with men they did not really like and create more men women don't like by giving those men an opportunity to reproduce... Women will not be happier if they switch to being with the unattractive(for whatever reason) men they already have no interest in. There simply is something about "Pookie" he usually has a character trait or physical characteristics that women want to pass down to their children despite flaws that may make them not ideal for relationships,n but it all makes sense when you realize relationships are largely man-made institutions mainly created to give men women don't want a chance at access...
And that’s fine if are women fundamentally like ain’t shit men then so be it. If a lot of our women like pookies that’s fine just don’t complain when that archetype of men treats them like dog shit. I don’t want to here how all men ain’t shit and where the good men at blah blah blah. The problem is our women are procreating with literally the worst of our men, literally risking their life to pop out these men’s kids and then complaining that those men are not the men they claim they want. So that is why I have zero empathy for women who purposely get with losers and bitch and complain about him being a loser🤷🏿♂️
This is the bitter truth a lot of guys don’t want to admit. As a 6’2 220 guy with tattoos and dreads (formally) I’ve never had the problems these dudes complain about. My problem with most BW is the competition vibe they try to give just to save face from feeling inadequate. Or feeling comfortable or entitled to be informal with me just because “we black” (addressing me on a first name basis) My cousin on the other hand is real big on this manosphere stuff and I tell him all the time. You can’t hate the player (pookie), hate the game (hypergamy). Like an old pimp told me, you cant be mad cause the b*tch chose me 🤷🏿♂️
Damn. Learn to use some punctuation. This was a long word salad. That basically explained nothing. Even the response is confusing,… I’m 6’3 220 with tattoos and dreads ?!? So, lol. I’m 6’4 215, thick curly hair and I was a helluva athlete (once upon a time) ~ That is just random… correct? There is something about a Pookie a character trait or physical trait ~ so a man that’s not a Pookie can’t be a hardworking handsome man with a good sex game? Literally everything you said was factually incorrect and total bullshit. It is also subjective, you can’t substantiate with empirical data anything you rambled on about… it’s just your “feelings and perceptions based on your personal experiences.
@@richmondwotters Exactly. All this time is being spent trying to neg women down and gaslight them into accepting LESS instead of teaching men ways to build up other qualities that make women want to engage with them as they are. You gotta pick a struggle, you can't be short ugly, broke and ,mean and hateful all the time. There are plenty of stereotypically unattractive men who have found genuine love and relationships, and the thing behind it is they stop trying to get whatever other men have coming to them. These 5 and below guys are getting out of sorts trying to get what 10's are getting and its never going to happen.
@@r.walker7986 see the thing is I don’t even consider myself traditionally attractive. And the cousin I spoke about in my first comment is taller than me. Cuz is literally 6’4 & some change but he is obese and has a bit of a acne problem, but honestly I don’t think it’s all about looks or even your money. I was broke as hell still pulling CNA’s and school teachers. The problem is most men just don’t know how to interact with women. Plain and simple. See alot of times n*ggas just be so thirsty they don’t even take the time to even try to put a bug in a woman ear. You gotta say the right sh*t, at the right time & it can’t be pressure on sex or a relationship. You gotta let HER CHOOSE YOU. Usually I don’t even bring sex up, I let the woman say something first then I start plotting on my slam 😈 . You gotta be dangerous to get respect my boy. That’s all around the board, not just with women. Most men don’t understand that women can tell when you’re a lame. They can tell when you have experience. They can tell if you’re just trying to use her for arm candy. They can tell if you’re a trick. They can tell if you’re a p*ssy n*gga. I think that’s a big aspect of why Pookie wins most the time. He doesn’t care and he’s not afraid to take risk. He’s spontaneous, and to women they can’t help but to be attracted to the it, it’s in their dna. It’s gotta be in you not on you. I was into Pookie activities in my 20s so I can partially understand their complaints as I’m 30 now and have wised up and calmed down on the street bs, so now I’m considered a “lame” now to most women, but I never take it personal 🤷🏿♂️ You can’t be mad if she doesn’t find your life interesting bro. Your intelligence isn’t exciting to hear about. Your job isn’t exciting to hear about Women need excitement. Especially these young “bad b*ches they say they want. What can the “good guy” really talk about? Most y’all n*ggas don’t play sports, you never did anything dangerous and on top of all that y’all don’t be having no experience. Of course she gon choose the bad boy. I’m so confused as to why men are complaining about that component of relationships. When have women not went for the bad boy? She just hopped out a 2020 AMG smoking top shelf marijuana after getting her back blowed out while parked at the lake. Phone constantly blowing up from other women and drug customers (now she feels special) Then I went 150 on the highway to drop her off and I might have gave a lil bit of money to fill them gaps in her purse, smack her on the ass and scratch off…she gets in the house, lays in her bed and hops on hersocial media…and there yo lame ass go talking bout “wyd beautiful”. You tryna take her to Apple bees n sh*t. These n*ggas just don’t get it 🤦🏿♂️
Many of these women are NOT going to Therapy/Counseling btw. As a Therapist, there are certain markers of progress we look for in our clients. For those unfamiliar with the field, sublimation of the Ego and Accountability are some of those markers. If you don’t see ownership of our own actions, they are not going to therapy. In Reality therapy, there is something called Choice Theory, which acknowledges what choice does the consumer have in every action. Don’t be fooled people. Dr. Google is not a therapist 😂.
This world is killing me. I need to get off RUclips..so toxic!! We want so much yet we like bums. Which is it? And let me guess, BLACK WOMEN its Black women that we're talking about? 😮💨🙄
Wanting someone who you can Help is a HUMAN experience, WE as MEN are the same way. I am a chubby chaser because i can see how fine she would be if she was skinny i want to convince a bbw to get skinny for me. An stay skinny, so i can enjoy her when she was at least attractive and reaped the benefits of me making her HOT ie my type.
In order to have these conversations we have to say healing and trama in every sentence? Its like dang bro why not just tighten up get your self together. The whole discussion sounds like theapy speak outside of you bro. You hit it on the head at the end. They just talk the talk.
Unfortunately for me, after decades of seeing the mentalities of "I don't need a man," or "I can do bad all by myself," I'm convinced that there's nothing in this universe that will give me any benefit of relationships/marriage. When women go out of their way to be loud, obnoxious, and overbearing, there's no hope of gender reconciliation, as I see it. And, that level of hostility is not limited to just black women. Thus, I have no sympathy for those women who now complain that they can't find a good man. That's my $0.03.
Boys need strong, masculine fathers to teach them how to become a REAL man. In concert with the mother, *instill a high moral baseline.* To teach him emotional discipline, in order to be productive members of society. How to respect people, and how to treat women. GIRLS need fathers to show them what a strong, male looks like. Again, with the mother, *instill a strong moral baseline foundation.* To aid her self confidence and validation. To be shown how a man is supposed to treat her. Both sexes, without a supportive nuclear family structures with a strong father as the head of the household, go into a mode of “overcompensation.” When Black women today encounter a Black man who doesn’t need to overcompensate, he’s called “Lame. Whack. Corny. Boring.”
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Bums remove all accountability.
u r what u attract
@@godsbruh True.
Your content is on a higher level than most channels not only because you take an intellectual, impartial view but also because your female counterparts aren’t the stereotypical, loud, obnoxious, all-knowing type of bw that we seem to be cursed with more and more these days. All participants are respectful of each other and honestly looking to find solutions and common ground. This is what the black community needs. Not the bunch of black men and women telling each side how right they are and how partners from other races are the answer. Thank you for that. ✊🏾
Cursed with 😂 that’s a fact
Yes ❤❤❤❤
Agreed
Real talk
I 100% agree on your comment. Anton Daniels comes to mind.
I swear if they say "healing" one more damn time. We need HUMILITY
They want the bum so they can have something to hold against him 🤷🏾♂️
Well said
We live in a world where bad is good and good is bad
I have said that sooooo many times. Thank you
“Woe to those who call evil good and good evil, who put darkness for light and light for darkness, who put bitter for sweet and sweet for bitter!”
Isaiah 5:20
I have never heard this broken down so well! This was also great. I would like to add to this.
I also think your theory indirectly explains why these women are so willing to have children by these men. They try to fix the father, but once they realize they can't they try to fix the father through the child. They say "You are broken, and I can't fix you, but I can take your DNA, and make a better version." Then, motherhood becomes a performative act, and the child becomes an extension of the mother's ego. Hence, the son-husband.
I think you're making that more intellectual than it really is.
Oooooh....nice
Wheeeeeewwwwww. Lawd.
@sidjones16 he really is.
Heres the real reason: theyre attracted to them sexually because theyre "exciting", women regularly do not use contraceptives nowadays, baby gets made and she pumps out the baby of the kind of man shes attracted to, the no good pookie.
Theyre not tryna fix anyone, they like these men broken and disturbed.
Thats why see so many videos now of women wanting drug dealers or wishing for boyfriends who will be violent on her behalf.
Or why theres an app for women to pick and choose what prisoners they want to conceive children with.
Or why some women wish men wrre born in prison and have to fight there way out.
Because theyre attracted to these violent, dangerous and no good men.
The end, theres nothing more than that. There is no noble cause.
A theory ? This BS barely passes as a well thought out hypothesis. Why do we keep trying to rationalize the irrational ? This has fsck all to do with anything but far too many women having poor decision making skills that are turned on by bums and the stupid sh*t that they do.
Man bro was not lying about the bw going to therapy and using that to become a narcissist. My ex was like this . She actively went to therapy and was a therapist her self. Therefore, she could not see her wrong doings . The only therapists who called her out was our couples counselor. He notice she had in-depth anger problems. She didn’t want to hear that. Therefore she kept putting her hands on me and starting these delusional arguments out of no where. I just hope she finds peace within herself.
Same Brother... Mines had hit me in face with a chair while praying and punched me a lot. I admit to triggering her anger but not to that level and not on most occasions. Can you believe I was the only one that took therapy between us, at her request too. Then when couple therapy was suggested she fought it so much even for simply going herself. That's when I knew she didn't want to work on anything but somehow simply place issues of our relationship on me.
Crazy how the therapists we recommend so much can be so damaged and toxic.
Your therapists should be your family who love you. They seldom lie.
A lot of people go to therapy not to fix their behavior, but to validate their behavior. It’s like me, as a golfer, going to see a teaching professional for help…but I reject every method he/she gives because I “feel” my swing still works. I want my golf swing validated and I just want to fix my outcomes. It doesn’t work like that. You have to accept that behaviors you may feel valid in expressing, are not conducive to you getting where you want to go. And fixing it means fixing your attitude and your association that also validates your cantankerous behavior.
The response to the pookie and ray ray phenomena is correctly and maturely addressed in this discussion
Let's not forget the pressure that comes with being with a man that got it together. He won't put up with foolishness and toxic behavior some women are not looking to get rid of. I believe you guys are tiptoeing missing that factor. That is a huge portion of the women who choose Pookie and RayRay as well.
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They love Pookie and ray ray that need to drive their cars or a place to stay
@@BigWelt it’s all in the power dynamic and control, they love control pookie and ray don’t care and have no standards
What this man is saying is true!
He's 100% on point with this.
Women talking about therapy reminds me of women talking about church.
Water seeks it's own level. These females know what they are doing and pick their males accordingly.
Should be top comment 👍
Power and Control… it’s all about power and control
When you layer that therapy superiority on top of the EXISTING superiority then you get what we have now....
A lot of them are NOT going to therapy (and say they are) because one goal of therapy is sublimation if the Ego
Question: How is it that women see a guy pursuing higher education as lame or corny, but they have degrees themselves???
it’s a safe path. women tend to be risk averse but they are attracted to risk takers.
@@sbrooks904 Holy irony, Batman!
A lot of these women want to compete/ be men but don’t want to do man shit. They really admire us if you think about it. They things that make us attractive doesn’t work for them. They don’t want to deal with a man that is successful because they don’t want to compete with other women. They’d rather deal with ray ray and pookies because they can be controlled rather than dudes doing well.
Once, I've taken in a women that needed some fixing. Got her in a great career and in return, she almost got me in jail over her personal issue. I was fortunate to survive and learned.
"Your power is in the type of masculinity you can incentivize" 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 A STRAIGHT BAR!
I think that over the years men have confused, nurturing with just outright. Bribery even loansharks have the notion of I’ll pay you now, but you will pay me later I want to say hypergamy has just become predatory and that’s why the dating pool is phasing out and I think it’s all finished.
I think k it's more of both sides really us8ng their leverage... men never forget being looked over for a type of guy when a woman is young fine and pretty. the hurt from that drives them to be in the position where they can pick and choose
@@aneedkassim9727 I don’t think that’s the case because men setting standards for what exactly they want in a woman is considered toxic. If she’s overweight, you’re fat shaming if she has a questionable background with men you’re slut shaming. If she has children from other relationships, and she’s unmarried and you choose not to deal with her you’re difficult and don’t deserve to be around her children. Men are sick of the BS & jumping through hoops, for someone who is psychologically emotionally & financially exhausting just for her to divorce you at a rate of over 70% with a fail rate that large why bother?
When it comes to the whole broken thing, it works differently for men and women. It's hard dealing with a broken woman, and they have to fix themselves most of the time. Being a broken man makes them stronger, especially if you get them around a good group of guys that build him up. I just personally haven't met any women who have successfully fixed a broke man.
He is speaking straight facts. I was being looked at as lame, etc. I had to make the choice to protect my future kids and create a stable family environment for myself and my kids. So I married a woman from Asain, it was a hard choice to make but I must do what was right for me and my kids. Now my kids are doing great, one is in college and one is about to graduate from high school, heading to college for free due to their grades, etc. I don't hate my sisters, I just wish they would stop this madness and start checking and putting sisters like Cynthia G in their place. until that happens, I feel that we need to go elsewhere to find peace and give our kids a better life and a stable family that we never got. Africa, the Middle East, and Southeast Asia is the best place to go if you have your stuff in order and not playing any games. If you are going to play games, then stay in the west with those women because the women and the people in the non-western countries are not going to play games with it and it will end badly for you.
I'm a single father of five children that I have custody of after we were abandoned. I am going to take that route, difficult because I love our sisters so much. But I dedicated most of my life to two serious relationships and to my people. I just can't anymore, I want reciprocation and appreciation when applicable. 😢
@@OmaAlkebulan-grace sorry to hear about that brother. The reason why I made such a choice was due to seeing what men like you and my dad, and uncles went through. It is time to abandon ship and find peace elsewhere. Most of these black women don't give a damn about us until they are old, used up, overweight, and have kids from the bad boys.
After he finished, chaos ensued.
Exactly.
I think its less of self sabotage and more of protecting their ego. When a woman tries to nurture a healed man usually it ends up requiring the women to heal herself and do some internal work and have to be held accountable. When youre a "pookie" youre so compromised whatever she gives you you have to just appreciate it, but a man of worth can set standards and require a woman to be better. And women reject that, cause any critique or analysis of black women makes them feel inadequate and not good enough. Whether the critique is just and valid it doesnt matter the messenger or the timing, black women reject it cause they dont want to feel lesser than. And dealing with a bum is the perfect formula for that. They get to be superior to their man and run the show and when things go wrong they can play the victim and garner sympathy at the end. At no point do they have to improve and get better just rinse and repeat.
Brother you’re preaching 🙏🏿…
Love your show bro. You have a measured and balanced perspective.
A show on what "Therapy" is what type of practitioner is needed?
I need a Black Clinical sociologist that study black men issues
Being good is harder than being bad. Let's not forget the women who are not up for the task of being good women. There are plenty of women who will choose bad men because the bad guy won't require self development.
What hurts my heart some is that women don't even realize that good men are also men are hurting. They just actively trying to be better through their pain(s). Why not reward those men that are putting in the effort? Nah, but then women are shocked the man that wasn't putting in the effort doesn't pour back into them and they get left done dirty. When a good man would have cherished the love and support.
I like the healthy dialogue; a breath of fresh air
Reminds me of the woman who rejected the nuclear physicist on the pineapple show.
Emotional exhibitionist. Thank you for the articulation. I've been telling women that they are not emotionally intelligent since they have been using the term against men. They would say they were, and I would say that they are emotionally dramatic. Because some of them think that they are an example of intelligence, but when men display it how we've seen them show it they call us soft, itches or sassy.
Don't forget.. Saucy
True
Women like men pick what they have been indoctrinated to like.
Exactly. Media programming through music and hip hop videos play a major role in what people choose.
@renzo7503 🎯👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿💯 As someone who is in their early 60s and has seen a lot of the changes from the early 60s until now you guys are definitely correct and right about what you just said It is all DEFINITELY social programming and social engineering
Not trying to be disrespectful or anything
But a lot of young ppl who are trying to analyze what's going on today most were born in the late seventies to the early 90s They are quite young right now and it is hard for them to see or understand what has transpired to get us in this type of situation that we are in right now it has not always been like this back in the 50s and the 60s when Martin Luther King and Malcolm X were around these same social problems were around then but they did not exist on such a large scale as they are now
There is always going to be the bad whiskey bad blues and even badder women crowd around
You spitting 🔥🔥🔥 bro!! Make it plain! I have lived as a good dude for a long time. Been called boring and square for years now looking at the opposite sex that chose past me and well it is what it is
I loved hearing that the spirit moves you when you speak. I feel the same way. It is the only way to explain why your perspective is out of this world. Your breakdown was spot on!
Agreed
dude on point breaking it down its a forgotten caveat... what if tgat no good dude turn her on at that carnal level?... the other man cant do that. thats the real issue that woman dont want 2 or cant admit.
Real Talk Here 🎯💥✊🏿
Remember a lot of these broken women were broken by the same type of dudes they are choosing.. It's a neighborhood thing
This is interesting to me. I personally don’t have any children, never was attracted to Pookies or Rays Rays. The “hood”, “tough”, mentality never crossed my mind towards attracting the opposite sex. I never understood why women chose such men to be with (as a Black woman myself).I see a new perspective now, it’s quite mind blowing.
That nigga spittin' 🔥
Excellent conversation. By far the most intelligent, calm, respectful show i have seen on RUclips. PLEASE keep doing your thing
My wife once told she made me I e been this way since 13 when I realized how broken people are I just happen to fall in love which I thank her for cause the state of the world made me fear love
Love this channel and will continue to share your content. Keep going brother. We are rooting for you!
If I hear another woman talking about a "Healing Journey"...Lawd HAb Murcy Jesus!
On point brother. On point.
Absolutely…
It mainly comes out of an entire “broken community” and culture where our youth are not INSTRUCTED in the best way or best mindset to approach relationships.
Great and precise breakdown
This is really high level discourse. Great work
This guy knows what he's saying. I been saying the same things
I wish I could have been on this show 😤 I’ve been saying this passionately forever!
That’s how the women that have sons, even the married ones, turn their sons in to “son husbands” - A term I learned from KS
Some of the women I grew up with since we were young always got into relationships where they built men up 🤦🏽♀️Moved them in, call me everywhere you go, take around your friends and family etc
Wooo chow
No functional families is the genesis of this problem.
The solution is generations in the making.
Mental health is a viable solution in the interim.
Raise a family as best you can within matrimony if you can.
Love y'all.
He never misses.
He is one of the most solid brothers in this space.
The man with his life together will leave her if she doesn't add value to his life, and she feels useless
These are great and valid points. My dad was handsome, charismatic, generous, military, anal taskmaster full of gifts and criticism. I cldnt wait to get out of the house; his drive and standards made everyone miserable including himself. Every man I've loved is easygoing validating, kindhearted and broken (bums). Im a high achiever, high earner but i want fun and peace n my home not leadership, accountability, and authority. But my kids definitely needed a dad like mine. Great observation!
What was your mother like?
@@TURBOBEATZZZdocile, passive aggressive, resilient
@shanikad3999 truthfully, you look down on her don't you?
@RC-fe9py not at all; she did what women did at the time, she married to escape her parents then she grew up; all her relationship choices were great on paper ; not so good day to day
@shanikad3999 why do you think BW feel that being happy is what marriage is all about?
Marriage is an institution of God not a vacation from responsibility.
I think BW have the wrong attitude of what marriage means. Do you think it's fun to work hard, deal with racist arrogant folks on the job that think you are dumb so you have to prove in a society built on killing you off through free labor that you are worthy of keeping your job only to give it all away to a woman and children is easy?
Sacrificing your freedom in order to protect and provide everything to people that grow up to treat you like a mule?
See the problem is most BW DO NOT appreciate what it takes for a BM to conquer all he has to for you to belittle his efforts and patronize his position as husband and father.
This is why modern BW will pay for generations of disrespect not only to him but more importantly to God. It is clear the BW hate God and anything resembling Him and this is why you all are either alone perpetually or destined to be so sooner or later.
It's sad how almost all of you are incapable of overcoming this phenomenon, and thus unable to achieve the goal of being a true blessing to a man. There's nothing cheerful, or genuinely loving in almost all of you today especially.
No man in his right mind should risk it ALL for that. It take massive bravery to trust everything to someone who hates everything you are deep down inside. Why should you ever be blessed with a man then? You clearly cannot appreciate him. All is as it should be then and the single digit percentage marriage rates for gen y and lower prove it.
I've been feeling this way for years. A lot of times the Black women at the PWIs I attend do not date, get engaged to, or marry the Black men on campus. Glad to hear someone talking about this. I think we need to heal our relationships, especially in school.
This is a deep as it is dope conversation
Along with women believing that they are not deserving of good men/things, when approaching that good man that has everything going for him , can cause pause because that intimidation is going to require a lot of work! Unfortunately, if what you need is blatant and tangible, then that’s easy to identify, on the other hand, if you’re requiring a relationship without need of tangibles, that might be a path they’ve never taken before and would be hesitant. Also, control is another major factor in these type of dynamics when women feel like the man “needs” them. I hope that my message was clear. Lol. Loved the discussions in this sit down. ✨
Message is clear and well said. Appreciate the candor. It’s true. The sad part is we need each-other but it’s like we are designed these days to repel eachother😢
@@toluomoba4223 It's being promoted and it will get worse.
This made me cry, like it hit so deep, so very, very deep. Wow, thank you, the realization was astonishing.
Love this channel
Appreciate what you are doing brother. Definitely keeping the conversation going intelligently and with integrity.
I wish I got therapy earlier in life.
I never dated African American women in my 20s and early 30s because of the low key anti-African and colorist culture deeply embedded in black American culture. I experienced it early in life.
But now in my 30s I realize that we all have trauma. And I’m realizing African American women are actually more open to changing, growing and understanding you if you give them the proper opportunity. Our women and other African/foreign women can be very stuck in their ways and judgmental at the same time .
I legitimately closed the door on potentially amazing love.
But overall the conversations needs to keep happening. If not for us then the younger generations.
We are in a unique period of Africa intermingling with the diaspora more and the diaspora collectively being more connected. Great things could happen.
I’m not so sure that it’s “insensitivizing brokenss” rather than a subconscious coping mechanism. Most people who grew from broken families tend to want “better lives” and to not make the same mistakes that their parents did. However, subconsciously history repeats itself no matter what our level of status, education or financial stability. No matter how much we improve and build up ourselves we will repeat the same patterns. A bunch of broken people trying to give meaning to their “brokeness”. “If I can get her to love me then the abuse I got from my mother doesn’t matter anymore” “If I can get this Pookie to be a great man and commit to me then I can give my kids the father I never had.” Just look at Will and Jada, they have it all but, Will is trying to succeed in not being abandoned by another person who is supposed to love him. As Jada is trying to make up for a multitude of dysfunctional family issues including sexual abuse by her grandmother by embracing her promiscuous behavior and desire for freedom over being a wife and mother.
Well said. Are you in Psychology or counseling by chance?
@@c____89 no, in fact I’m a janitor with just simple understanding of cause and effect. Truth is the educational system has is flaws in that because most people are followers they tend to develop there way of thinking based on their teachings and not their own outside of “the box” thinking. Look people in general are very pattern based. This great minds and philosophers of old had already figured out these patterns and used them to control/direct their civilizations. When you start to see and understand this then you tend to realize that through fear, ignorance and trauma people can be extremely easy to manipulate. Especially if you’re able to detract them by dividing them using their own fear, ignorance and trauma to start civil wars. All this happening while the “manipulators” reap the benefits.
That stream of conciousness at the beginning is like crack to a receptive mind. I unfortunately do this by myself. I use conversations like this as a type of proof reader
Women love titles. And anything that seemingly increases their social standing/superiority. It also gives them another layer of percieved "protection." Therapy gives credence to both for them.
I think some Women "choose to focus" on another person's pain and issues as a distraction to their own. (E.g. Man or Kid)
And a Good Man, appears to not need anything. However, the "Peace and Stability" a Good Man provides allows a Woman to really see and focus on herself. Which I believe provides and opportunity for a Woman to "Find Herself."
However, she ends up becoming a Stranger to the Man and to Herself. And that new found freedom or confidence is like an Overweight Woman losing weight and starting to get attention from Men that always dismissed her in the past. Which is a vulnerable and dangerous position to be in.
Awesome conversation and discussion.
Real talk he described women perfectly!!
Attention: You cannot fix a bum. The delusion is crazy!!
"My lil' lawyer", lol.
I think its a control issue too.
THERAPY… is NOT an end-all/be-all. It’s flawed like everything else bc “flawed people” facilitate it. Often times, these kinds of authentic conversations are WAY BETTER than actual “therapy”.
He’s 100 percent correct
It's not that these women want to help a broke/needy man, is that they find security in a man that needs them! They can manipulate the situation of a man that needs them.
Where the young’s heads at 🤣. These woman on here are in their 40’s already no disrespect but of course they more woke and ready to settle down and listen. You gotta get some young folks on here my
Guy
Sounds like remote therapy.
I subscribed because the African recognized that he’s African and we are melanated American…
Why were all of our women in need of therapy? That’s a scary thought! Also, why does everyone keep talking about black dudes with nothing; what about those with something?! People keep talking like bm are broke busted and disgusted! I can’t agree because me and the bm I know all have degrees, some advanced, houses, careers and some even have own their own businesses on top of that! So, I can’t relate! Maybe it’s time for me to move on to circles of women and people that are on that same level. I come from the ilk where my father told me and my brother to never depend on a woman for nothing. Stand on your own to feet and if you need help, come back to your family or friends for it.
Not to be disrespectful and speak bad about your pops Arthur speak ill about people I really don't know BUT you don't think that your pops who gave you that pretty good advice wasn't carrying anger issues against some women who did him dirty ???
I say this because I hear that same statement from a lot of black women
I agree with you bro...but remember that's the dominant narrative though. I've got 3 advanced degrees in engineering but you'll never hear a talk about us. 😂😂 It's boring i suppose
@@wethepplwhorblackerthanblu6442 no and thanks for the respect. His hold thing was to make us men and able to stand on our own two feet to take care of ourselves. That way, you won’t get accused of being sorry and he would know we would be ok in life not leaning on people. People can’t seem to make their mind up. Either they want us manly and not leaning on a woman for anything, or they want us to lean in a woman and then get told how we sorry and other men don’t do it! I took it to heart and knew exactly what he was saying. Not only did I learn to do manly things and provide for myself like an adult is supposed to, but I also I mastered all the other things as well, cooking, cleaning, annual doctors visits, etc. So now, a woman can’t complain about Jack when dealing with me. I don’t act like a man child needing his mommy and I’m not those dusty, broke never have nothing dudes that they love to complain about! Most women freak out because they come across y brother and I and we fit none of the negative stereotypes they like to throw around. However, the problem they have is that we know our worth and are not given to tolerate the nonsense they put other guys through because we will get rid of them and move on; as it should be. For some reason, women hate men that have standard and are self sufficient and reliant. I literally had one girl tell me she was enamored by me because I called her out on all of her issh! My response to her: why are you giving me issh to call you out on in the first place?!” Needles to say, that relationship didn’t last long!
@@paullamah5073 yep
@@vr4892I have a lucrative career and several degrees as well. Keep in mind, that the dominant narrative gets views, and views = money. Most black men are not sorry (less than 20% are actually), but they get all the limelight to push the age old narrative that the negro is lazy and good for nothing. Women are actually programmed (sorry ladies; not as an insult) much easier than men in this game if conditioning; to the point where they look for these 20% in their daily lives to procreate with. Genetically, pookie and rayray actually produce inferior children (genes carry the markers for increased criminality, mental health disorders, drug dependence, violence, emotional instability, spiritual degradation) which is the bottom line of the powers that be. Hence why they receive all the focus. Even more so to make sure that agenda sticks, they frame everything outside of that as “square” , lame, loser, etc.
Are you familiar with the works of B.F. Skinner? This is his work but extrapolated to a sociological level using the vehicle of social magic (media), to indoctrinate the minds of the youth. My girlfriend, who is a therapist just like I am, was shocked when I put her on to the work of Skinner and explained what it was, and gave real world examples of its application.
I literally would rather watch this than “tonight’s conversation”. These are the real talks versus the panderbear bs to get clicks an likes. I appreciate you folks 🙏🏽
If I hear “mmmmm” one more time 😂. Love the conversation though
At this point people just be talking from what they think.. from their perspective but they don’t be actually right
I feel like black women abuse the term "healing"
I woulda love a collaboration with Wntt and KS if he was still alive
Not agreeing with much in this one.
The good man is going to have to force her to meet a higher standard of being a good woman.
Since when do women think they don't deserve good things? That's all they say is "they deserve...."
The responsible one really is seen as the boring one because she sees having to be responsible with him as a burden. The locals can be reckless or thrilling to them
The one that's studying to be a software engineer is going to seen as "I'll check back with him when he becomes a software engineer...." or at least around the time when he's due to graduate.
Agreed. Theres a lot of BS being said. Using trauma as an excuse for intentionally made bad choices.
Two half’s don’t make a whole??? See here we go with this hood shit. Smh…
They want to try and nuture a broken man, or a pookie and ray ray to be more than what he is. At the same time pookie and Ray doesn't have any boundaries or expectations from the woman. In her twisted mind she gets the best of both worlds! She can be her boss babe self and maternal to a total ain't shit dude
Therapy is bull shit. Seat with an elderly man and woman and let them teach you how things work.
Mental health therapy absolutely works, when the “work” is done.
Everyone isn't broken
0:19 part of women nature is to be nurturing!!
yes you’re right but it’s also both women & men nature to be nurturing!! Men are taught that nurturing is for the sensitive aka weak /feminine energy 🥴🥴🥴 which is an old head mentality & im glade to see my fellow black millennial/gen-Z men break that cycle, but in reality both women & men are naturally nurturing!! Nurturing is both a masculine & feminine trait because you’re making sure your offspring becomes a productive individual in the world
A lot of sistas are going to therapy just to say they are working on themselves, but they are not being honest while in those sessions. The therapy is in vain.
Most women do not want most men and all of this low key talking down to women is not going to make them want the men they don't want. It's not men's job to question or judge what women are attracted to, it's not meant for men to understand. It's also not men's job to try and change women's minds. We already tried that and all we did was force women into unfulfilling relationships (for centuries) with men they did not really like and create more men women don't like by giving those men an opportunity to reproduce... Women will not be happier if they switch to being with the unattractive(for whatever reason) men they already have no interest in. There simply is something about "Pookie" he usually has a character trait or physical characteristics that women want to pass down to their children despite flaws that may make them not ideal for relationships,n but it all makes sense when you realize relationships are largely man-made institutions mainly created to give men women don't want a chance at access...
And that’s fine if are women fundamentally like ain’t shit men then so be it. If a lot of our women like pookies that’s fine just don’t complain when that archetype of men treats them like dog shit. I don’t want to here how all men ain’t shit and where the good men at blah blah blah. The problem is our women are procreating with literally the worst of our men, literally risking their life to pop out these men’s kids and then complaining that those men are not the men they claim they want. So that is why I have zero empathy for women who purposely get with losers and bitch and complain about him being a loser🤷🏿♂️
This is the bitter truth a lot of guys don’t want to admit. As a 6’2 220 guy with tattoos and dreads (formally) I’ve never had the problems these dudes complain about. My problem with most BW is the competition vibe they try to give just to save face from feeling inadequate. Or feeling comfortable or entitled to be informal with me just because “we black” (addressing me on a first name basis)
My cousin on the other hand is real big on this manosphere stuff and I tell him all the time. You can’t hate the player (pookie), hate the game (hypergamy). Like an old pimp told me, you cant be mad cause the b*tch chose me 🤷🏿♂️
Damn. Learn to use some punctuation. This was a long word salad. That basically explained nothing.
Even the response is confusing,… I’m 6’3 220 with tattoos and dreads ?!? So, lol. I’m 6’4 215, thick curly hair and I was a helluva athlete (once upon a time) ~
That is just random… correct?
There is something about a Pookie a character trait or physical trait ~ so a man that’s not a Pookie can’t be a hardworking handsome man with a good sex game?
Literally everything you said was factually incorrect and total bullshit.
It is also subjective, you can’t substantiate with empirical data anything you rambled on about…
it’s just your “feelings and perceptions based on your personal experiences.
@@richmondwotters Exactly. All this time is being spent trying to neg women down and gaslight them into accepting LESS instead of teaching men ways to build up other qualities that make women want to engage with them as they are. You gotta pick a struggle, you can't be short ugly, broke and ,mean and hateful all the time. There are plenty of stereotypically unattractive men who have found genuine love and relationships, and the thing behind it is they stop trying to get whatever other men have coming to them. These 5 and below guys are getting out of sorts trying to get what 10's are getting and its never going to happen.
@@r.walker7986 see the thing is I don’t even consider myself traditionally attractive. And the cousin I spoke about in my first comment is taller than me. Cuz is literally 6’4 & some change but he is obese and has a bit of a acne problem, but honestly I don’t think it’s all about looks or even your money. I was broke as hell still pulling CNA’s and school teachers. The problem is most men just don’t know how to interact with women. Plain and simple. See alot of times n*ggas just be so thirsty they don’t even take the time to even try to put a bug in a woman ear. You gotta say the right sh*t, at the right time & it can’t be pressure on sex or a relationship. You gotta let HER CHOOSE YOU. Usually I don’t even bring sex up, I let the woman say something first then I start plotting on my slam 😈 . You gotta be dangerous to get respect my boy. That’s all around the board, not just with women. Most men don’t understand that women can tell when you’re a lame. They can tell when you have experience. They can tell if you’re just trying to use her for arm candy. They can tell if you’re a trick. They can tell if you’re a p*ssy n*gga. I think that’s a big aspect of why Pookie wins most the time. He doesn’t care and he’s not afraid to take risk. He’s spontaneous, and to women they can’t help but to be attracted to the it, it’s in their dna. It’s gotta be in you not on you. I was into Pookie activities in my 20s so I can partially understand their complaints as I’m 30 now and have wised up and calmed down on the street bs, so now I’m considered a “lame” now to most women, but I never take it personal 🤷🏿♂️ You can’t be mad if she doesn’t find your life interesting bro. Your intelligence isn’t exciting to hear about. Your job isn’t exciting to hear about Women need excitement. Especially these young “bad b*ches they say they want. What can the “good guy” really talk about? Most y’all n*ggas don’t play sports, you never did anything dangerous and on top of all that y’all don’t be having no experience. Of course she gon choose the bad boy. I’m so confused as to why men are complaining about that component of relationships. When have women not went for the bad boy?
She just hopped out a 2020 AMG smoking top shelf marijuana after getting her back blowed out while parked at the lake. Phone constantly blowing up from other women and drug customers (now she feels special) Then I went 150 on the highway to drop her off and I might have gave a lil bit of money to fill them gaps in her purse, smack her on the ass and scratch off…she gets in the house, lays in her bed and hops on hersocial media…and there yo lame ass go talking bout “wyd beautiful”. You tryna take her to Apple bees n sh*t. These n*ggas just don’t get it 🤦🏿♂️
Many of these women are NOT going to Therapy/Counseling btw. As a Therapist, there are certain markers of progress we look for in our clients. For those unfamiliar with the field, sublimation of the Ego and Accountability are some of those markers.
If you don’t see ownership of our own actions, they are not going to therapy. In Reality therapy, there is something called Choice Theory, which acknowledges what choice does the consumer have in every action.
Don’t be fooled people. Dr. Google is not a therapist 😂.
They also choose pookies because they (BW) can control pooky.
idk why this video is even 10 minutes long when the first 2 and a half minutes summed it up in a nutshell.
"Who does that?!"
Acting like women don't hold things over men's heads.
This world is killing me. I need to get off RUclips..so toxic!! We want so much yet we like bums. Which is it? And let me guess, BLACK WOMEN its Black women that we're talking about? 😮💨🙄
Wanting someone who you can Help is a HUMAN experience, WE as MEN are the same way.
I am a chubby chaser because i can see how fine she would be if she was skinny
i want to convince a bbw to get skinny for me. An stay skinny, so i can enjoy her when she was at least attractive and reaped the benefits of me making her HOT ie my type.
In order to have these conversations we have to say healing and trama in every sentence? Its like dang bro why not just tighten up get your self together. The whole discussion sounds like theapy speak outside of you bro. You hit it on the head at the end. They just talk the talk.
Unfortunately for me, after decades of seeing the mentalities of "I don't need a man," or "I can do bad all by myself," I'm convinced that there's nothing in this universe that will give me any benefit of relationships/marriage. When women go out of their way to be loud, obnoxious, and overbearing, there's no hope of gender reconciliation, as I see it. And, that level of hostility is not limited to just black women. Thus, I have no sympathy for those women who now complain that they can't find a good man. That's my $0.03.
Naaaah , don’t need no damn mama
Im going to quit my job and have someone take care of me.
Brother with value,please,please walk away from these brawds.
Boys need strong, masculine fathers to teach them how to become a REAL man. In concert with the mother, *instill a high moral baseline.* To teach him emotional discipline, in order to be productive members of society. How to respect people, and how to treat women. GIRLS need fathers to show them what a strong, male looks like. Again, with the mother, *instill a strong moral baseline foundation.* To aid her self confidence and validation. To be shown how a man is supposed to treat her. Both sexes, without a supportive nuclear family structures with a strong father as the head of the household, go into a mode of “overcompensation.” When Black women today encounter a Black man who doesn’t need to overcompensate, he’s called “Lame. Whack. Corny. Boring.”
How the hell is it natural to intentionally do the wrong thing
Baby Boy Syndrome😢 just subscribed! 🎉 you are correct. I noticed women are not comfortable around you if you are not "F"-Ed Up.
Any woman talking about “healing and therapy” is really talking about their sex lives and the body count.
This sht always turn into some color purple nonsense!!
That's where men bring them back out of their feelings and hold them accountable for getting into their feelings instead of self-reflecting
That's because regardless of how well he explains it, These women like most, will stand on their position and their beliefs.
@@dr.manhattan6278 no matter how wrong they are smh