My advice for those sleepless nights as a mom of 6
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- Опубликовано: 10 сен 2024
- As a mom who just had her 6th kid and is the thick of it when it comes to sleepless nights, here is how I deal with it ❤️
In no way do I ever want to discredit how difficult the sleepless nights can be. But now that my older ones are sleeping through the night I am able to keep a better perspective about those sleepless nights. I have seen the light at the end of the tunnel and know it’s not far off 🤗
It can be difficult to know this though when it’s your first time going through it or all your children are young and not sleeping through the night. So as your big sis through pregnancy and motherhood, I hope sharing my experience helps a bit ❤️
What’s a perspective that has helped you get through the harder nights?
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As a mom who just had her 6th kid and is the thick of it when it comes to sleepless nights, here is how I deal with it ❤️
In no way do I ever want to discredit how difficult the sleepless nights can be. But now that my older ones are sleeping through the night I am able to keep a better perspective about those sleepless nights. I have seen the light at the end of the tunnel and know it’s not far off 🤗
It can be difficult to know this though when it’s your first time going through it or all your children are young and not sleeping through the night. So as your big sis through pregnancy and motherhood, I hope sharing my experience helps a bit ❤️
What’s a perspective that has helped you get through the harder nights?
You have a beautiful family. Congratulations on sweet baby girl ❤
Thank you for this! In the thick of cluster feeds at night. I'll "lean in to it" now 😊
@@MadisonGarcia-ep5jclol good for you. You win the award for the most insulting and invalidating comment I’ve read this week. My baby woke up every 30 minutes for the first 3 months of his life. Comments like yours are not helpful, and they’re just condescending.
Every baby is different. Some sleep through the night, but some babies don’t sleep long stretches right away. In our case, our baby had severe acid reflux- even medicine didn’t help him.
I’m glad YOU got to sleep. But some of us slept in 20 minute increments for months on end. By the time I got baby back to sleep, and finished pumping, baby was awake again.
Your comment is completely unnecessary and unhelpful.. This lady has had 6 babies, and you have the audacity to tell her how HER baby should sleep?!! So rude and insensitive.
Thank you❤ expecting my first and this is what I’m most scared of
i have 6 kids and im pregnant with my 7th and 8th i let my youngest lay on my belly while i jsut watch the glades at a low volume
it works like a charm
In tears from this. I'm 3 weeks postpartum with my 4th, and I feel like I'm drowing from the cluster feeding. I really needed this, thank you.
Same
bless your heart mama ❤
Same. 2 weeks with my 2nd. Love to you both!
You've got this! You've done it 3 times before and you can do it again. I know it's hard, but, you're amazing and will find a way!
You got this! It will get better!!
That really hit… to think I rocked my baby to sleep for the last time and didn’t even know it ❤ our babies grow too quickly enjoy every moment.
“One day a hug from me, a cuddle from me, a kiss from me isn’t going to solve their problems. But for tonight, they do.” This hit me so hard (in the best way) and I wanted to thank you it. Currently going through this phase with our third (and possibly last) child and I feel like I have lost my sanity more than once in the middle of the night when all she wants is to be held by me. I needed your words, so again, Thank You ❤
Great tips also what helped me so much with my 3rd bo, I read psalms atleast 5 verses and praise God and then when I’m able to get back to sleep I kept praying God almighty nothing is too hard for you even if I sleep for 15 min now let me body think it was for 8 hours and I kept doing that so much that I felt Even closer to God and I actually missed those moments now that my baby is 18 months and sleeping through the night ❤
Thanks 🙏
Thank you for sharing that! I’m in the thick of it right now with two-three of my four kids waking up in the middle of the night at different times I end up with a massive headache every two weeks from the lack of sleep. And yes prayer is the only thing that’s kept me sane. Sometimes though I’m so frustrated I can’t even pray 😭 but this I haven’t thought about ❤ gonna pray that the few hours I do get my body translates into 8. Thank you!
Thank you I will definitely do this with my baby soon. We appreciate you mamas 💓 💕 God bless you and family
My son is 23. Wow, this one really hit me. I remember these nights like they were yesterday. Rocking him, singing to him, holding him as I nursed him….these moments pass us by so so fast. Cherish these wonderful moments. They are extremely difficult, but you will get through the tough spots.
So grateful for being given the honor of being his mother, it’s the hardest job we are given in this life but truly the greatest gift ever.
THIS! For some reason, I was fighting this so hard at night - like I was so frustrated and didn't want to watch something to stay awake. It was a game changer when I finally gave in and just watched reality TV while I breastfed. Gratefully, baby girl was great at falling back asleep, and because of my set up, I would barely get out of bed. Just sit up, position my Brest Friend pillow, grab her out of her bassinet (right next to me), get her in the right position, have my electrolyte water and snack in reaching distance, and put something on my phone with my headphones on. I would also use my Himalayan salt lamp as a gentle source of light that wouldn't wake up me or baby too much. I don't necessarily miss those wake ups, but I'm so thankful for those moments and the peace I found when I finally gave in.
Very relatable!!!
That was lovely. Thanks for sharing your experience.
Yes this! Watching movies or a show really saved my sanity some nights
Me too! I wish I realise this sooner so that it could spare me the anger and stress I felt. Thank goodness I gave in at 3 months and that makes motherhood so much enjoyable
I wanna cry. My baby is 6 days old today & she's in the NICU. I'd give anything to have a sleepless night bc of her rn. 😢
Sending you and your baby so much love and strength m! May she be well and healthy and pull through whatever she is going through, with you by her side. 🫂🫂🫂🙏🙏🙏
❤ May God bring your baby home soon so that you can all enjoy time together.
Hoping she’s home with you soon! Having a baby in the nicu is tough!
I'm praying for you and your baby. May God heal her and bless her to be home with you soon! 🙏🏽❤️
Oh, i cried at your comment!😢 Praying for you here and wishing you both the best!❤
I’m glad someone was honest enough to admit it. Newborns are difficult. No sleep.
I'm 36 weeks today, haven't had a baby in almost 8 years and I've been terrified of going through this again, so I honestly needed this encouragement. Thank you.
I love your comment! This is my 6th baby, and I haven’t had a baby in 7 1/2 years. I am almost 43. I have anxiety too…in fact, I am being induced this morning! We have a blended family. I have 5 kids and he has 4. 10 all together! I plan to just take it one moment at a time and jot in my gratitude journal any time I can. You’ll do great! Just enjoy the ride! ❤
@@janaedawn9655! Wishing you a healthy delivery/ baby and recovery ❤
Mine are 8 years apart! Second is 6 months so we're through the newborn stage. It was easier for me this time even though I'm older now. Think being able to read baby's cues better, knowing what to expect, just riding it out, the newborn stage. And not afraid to take shortcuts with meals (stacked up the freezer with some frozen meals) and things this time and I just deciding, look of our house ends up going through a messy stage for the next few months is okay. As long as we're happy and healthy. Relaxed on tv limits for the eldest so she was occupied (we've since got things back on track a bit again). Also lined up some lifts where possible for the eldest to take the pressure off driving her here there and everywhere. Good luck. I'm enjoying this baby and was nervous about the newborn stage too! And on the days where things seem too hard I find it helpful to tell myself there will be good days and bad days, overall has been lovely though
@@janaedawn9655May you have a smooth delivery and hope you n your baby are healthy n happy!! ❤
Congratulations 😊
My great grandmother rocked me till I was too big to fit in her lap. And even then she would still tell me make believe stories she’s come up with off the top of her head till I was in my own room. I was probably 9 or so when that happened
Not many people have that relationship with great-grandparents. How special!
I just had my third and came to this same conclusion. No expectations for the next day and hold this baby like I would hold my bigger kids if I could go back in time:)
I will add though I have an amazing husband who is very willing to take over so my prayers to all you moms who gotta pull it off alone.
The blessing also is those older kids help the younger kids as you're dealing with the baby. My older siblings were so helpful to me. I still remember them helping me with meals etc. it definitely built bonds in us!
Thats why I love Kindle Unlimited! I sit in my recliner, nurse my baby, and read a good series. I realized after my first that you just have to embrace it. Its better to be fully awake and take care of babe than trying to handle things with one eye open.
That line about your hugs and kisses fixing your child's problems really hit me ❤
your a great mama and always remember God has a plan for-keep praying and giving those kids an awesome mom and life
I was just crying earlier today with baby blues about how forever this stage feels like. We're only on week 3. This video comes at the perfect time
Reminder to watch this again ❤ 😸 from a fellow newborn mumma, rewatching this myself 💖💖💖
Update: about to reach week 7 and things have gotten a bit easier now that the baby blues are gone and I'm actually enjoying having a newborn, trying to not let her crying get to me. I hear weeks 6-8 are the worst for fussying and crying, hopefully that's true for us.
@@wasdy6924 🥳 we just hit 14 weeks... I can say our LO peaked fussiness between 5-10 weeks, they were reaal tough going.
As soon as we approached the 3 month mark though, hallelujah things changed a lot! Waaay less randomly fussy and easier to distract/entertain back into that happy smiley bubba who melts your heart 🥰 & muuuuch better sleeping for longer & just waking to feed at night, all the best to you. This is the hardest job in the world, remember, be kind to yourself🥰
@@jessieblair5316 thank you so much, that gives me a lot of hope! All the best to you, your LO, and your family 😊
Thank you so much for this Chrissy! I am a 27 year old first time mom & the sleep deprivation is getting real! This has blessed my soul in ways you couldn’t even imagine… I will no longer complain, & appreciate the moments that I can soothe, feed & cuddle my new little one in the stillness of the night 💕 From here on striving to make every mom moment count!
I actually loved waking up through the night with my newborn. Felt like just me and her (and her dad) in this little magical bubble. There is just something magical about late night/early morning hours.
I miss the new born stage!
I’m no where near being a mom but gosh do I love your channel! I feel like I’m learning so much from you and can’t wait to put it to use when the time is right. Thank you for all that you do! 🫶🏻
Oh my gosh this is so sweet!! Thank you for taking the time to share 🥹❤️❤️❤️
Lord have mercy what a fresh perspective ! I almost lost my mind with my twins I’m still so sleep obsessed.. I haven’t reached this place 😂 but I love to hear it .. after rocking a baby for over an hour the anger and delusion start to set in and then guilt because it’s just a baby .. I’m learning ❤
This has got to be some of the best information to pit someone at ease.
Needed to hear this. Sleep deprivation was absolutely the most difficult part. I will use your technique when my next baby arrives in the coming weeks. Thank you and congrats on your beautiful new bundle as well ! 💕
My 9 kids ONLY slept as newborns and finally now a few sleep well as teens. I'm going to have a new baby again soon. I'll cherish the newborn sleeping phase 💗💗💗
Mama, you have an awesome attitude. It’s lovely to hear you talk so positively about motherhood. I was blessed with only one baby. My greatest job ever♥️♥️
Literary just watched this while feeding my baby at 5 in the morning feeling horrible and Lonely.. Thank you so much for the positive side you shared ❤❤❤
Just had my 6th too! That birth ball is a life saver 🙏🙏🙏 This mama speaks truth ♥️
I love the realism and positivity. This is so true!! Holding my One month old little baby girl ❤️
Fellow homeschool Mom here and mom of 4.. when you say you get a nap tomorrow... when 😅 .. someone is always awake 😵
Same! It was more like stay up all day and wake every hour at night 😢
Omg that last statement brought me to tears. Time is so short. My 3 are all adults and either in college or graduate school living their best lives. It's finally hit me to enjoy every second we're together even if it's mundane. Even something as simple as feeling so sad that summer is almost over and I won't see them as much has me all up in my feelings. Being a parent is so hard. Thank you for these reminders. God bless 🙏❤
This is precious for SAHM…for working mothers, may the force be with you!
Sleepless nights can continue to one year 🙂
I'm never going to miss this part about having kids
And beyond
I personally always kept lights to minimal and no noise. It was helping keep my nervous system calm and I would rest without sleeping. I’d like to believe that it also helped my babies find their night/day rhythm. We’ve got this ❤
I want to thank you. Thank you for having the will power and a heart filled with sharing advice.
6 kids
Wow!!
Bow Down.
Respect
Yes, great points!!! I’m due any day now and I have accepted that there will be sleepless nights but this phase is very short! Baby #3🎉
Mama of 8 and this is so so so spot on !!!
Love this
Another testament of how greatful I am that my one child was pretty easy. You super families are incredibly strong.
I loved all the cuddle things you say but...know that a cuddle, a kiss, a hug, even if it doesn't "resolve" our problems... believe me, it makes so much easier to deal with. Never underestimate what you can do for them in every step of their lives... They will always need that from you and can make the intolerable tolerable...parents, real parents with real love for your kids...you are changing their world and the world with this ❤
That's so lovely 🥰💖💖💖 amen!
I needed this ❤ just had my second and am struggling
I know it’s hard but I promise it’s not your new normal ❤️
Me too, my 1st one was way better about getting back to sleep at night but this 2nd one needs a lot more rocking
Girl I’m with you! Just had my 4th and it always blows my mind how it can hit you like a ton of bricks.
I remember making a routine of using night feedings for intimate time with Jesus so I read the Bible on my phone while I would feed. It was such good time during a difficult season of sleep deprivation that I was not prepared for. I miss that time and look forward to using those moments to have quiet time with God while praising for my blessings. Be strong and courageous mama’s God has built us for this!
I have found that in each difficult stage, that shifting my expectations to be inline with reality and not what I want reality to me really makes it easier. So much hard comes from fighting against what is going on and wanting it to be different. But the reality is babies will wake through the night. It’s who they are. And when you think you got the sleeping thing down, boom their brain changes and sleep is a nightmare again. You gotta roll with the punches.
Thanks girl I just needed to hear this. 6am here, almost no sleep, watching a lot of videos trying to understand whats is going on. I will save it to watch every difficult night ❤
Reminder to watch this again ❤ 😸 from a fellow newborn mumma, rewatching this myself 💖💖💖
Almost 3 months post partum with my first baby and I agree. I have learned to adjust and my son and I are developing a routine. I will enjoy him needing me for as long as I can. 😊
Wow… Thank you so much for sharing this ❤ As a first time mom with a newborn barely few days old, sleepless nights feel extremely daunting. Your video gives me hope. Thank you.
Reminder to watch this again ❤ 😸 from a fellow newborn mumma, rewatching this myself 💖💖💖
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Truer words have never been spoken. This is solid advice
We are expecting our 5th in November fall 🍁 and yes 🙌 being positive and embracing the late night wake ups is so key! Enjoy them while they are little wiggly worms 🐛
So true!! I said these exact words to myself when my second was born. I felt and remembered every bit of what you said. ❤❤❤ It's tough, but won't be for long.
I'm so sorry for your loss🙏🥺
"ok we don't have any expectations for tomorrow and can even take a nap" needed that. I always put pressure on myself to get so much done
Thank you for this 💖 I'm currently in my 3rd trimester with my first. I hope i can remember this advice when I'm having those sleepless nights and not stress too much about it.
Aww ❤thank you. I so needed to hear that. First time mom. Just gave birth to a beautiful healthy baby boy last Friday. Blessings 🙏🏾
What a beautiful perspective, I’m expecting and a bit scared of what nights will be like with a baby but this was encouraging ❤ I will try my best to enjoy those moments and to be grateful to be a momma and get to hold my baby 😊
That last part about rocking baby to sleep for the last time and not knowing it hits so hard!! 😭 Keeping that in mind makes every minute one I want to roll in.
3 weeks pp with my 3rd and I've really come to appreciate the night wake ups as the only time when I can really cuddle my baby with zero interruptions from someone else needing my attention.
This is wonderful guidance for new and aspiring moms! I highly suggest wearing blue blocker glasses so you can watch TV at odd hours without disrupting your natural sleep patterns too heavily ❤
I appreciate this perspective to let go of the “sleep through the night” goal, it’s ridiculous to have that expectation of a literal new human being
I like to use any excuse to watch TV and honestly baby not sleeping was a hall pass for binge watching lol 😮💨. Props to those mamas in pre-TV era. Sheesh!
This helped me so much! I had the same approach with my second and it’s honestly so much better for your mental health!
30 rock is the best, also the last part made me cry 😢
3, 3 and under. My bby girl is 16 wks and already sleeping better making me realize how little shut eye we get those first weeks! Such good advice. We should be less hard on our selves about completing goals! Reluctantly except these sleepless nights and you said it best after the rough newborn nights, we must be realistic about our days! We're not always gonna be super momma! Dishes can wait. Laundry will be waiting too lol ❤ And when we hold our older kids we see just how big they get :') and miss these precious passing moments!!
I love both my girls so much, but I wish I could do it all again. I stressed myself out so much thinking about all the wrong things with my first, and then with my second, I had to be there with my first, so I couldn't enjoy my second's tiny phase either. I wish I could have known how much I'd miss it, sit and enjoy it, and know it wasn't going to be forever.
That is true. It feels like forever but I started thinking that tomorrow there is no expectations and really worked
Your videos helped me a lot while having my newborn 🙏 she is almost 1 year old and I’m grateful you keep posting videos to help others. God bless your family always 🙏💖
Thank you! I’m 15 wks pregnant with my first baby and this is very encouraging! Thank you big sister! ❤
Love the positive perspective you've brought into this. Thank you. Subscribed. ❤❤
You're absolutely right! You don't know when those"lasts" will be so you have to really take it all in and give yourself breathing room. We had our 3rd and final baby and it really is bittersweet! ❤
I've learned through this channel that my newborn being up all night was normal. Due to cluster feedings and milk not being in yet. He was a 9lb baby, the colostrum didn't cut it. I thought it was something I was doing so we ended up doing bottles with exclusively pumping. And it did get him to do more three hour stretches 😢 pregnant with my second and incredibly nervous 😓
I’m definitely going through this rn. I haven’t had a good night’s sleep since I delivered. I’m always tired. He’s 6 months and still wakes up to eat.
THIS❤ I totally wish I'd been able to "roll with it" back with babies #1-3... All the external pressures and expectations and bad attitudes stole away a lot of joy during those years. Finally after baby #6, I feel like I can truly enjoy the NB phase.
Yes as new grandma and parent to all teens missing this time is real
I had my forth baby a year ago and she’s my last. I have 3 boys and now my baby girl. I’m soooo sad the newborn stage is over and I will never experience it again. It’s hard in the beginning but give yourself grace. Hold and love on your baby and bond with your baby at night when it’s just u and the baby. It’s the best time to get all your cuddles and chats in.
It does go by so quickly. It’s like a dream.
Just found out I'm pregnant with my 5th baby and I'm not even getting a full night sleep from 1.5 year old and am already dreading the rough nights... exactly the advice i needed ❤
Oh man, first RUclips short of the day and this is the one? I wasn't prepared to cry right now!
As an expectant mother, with my first on the way, it’s so reassuring to hear experienced mom’s say that you can let go of expectations for the next day. Like it’s just about trying to enjoy those moments and get as much out of it as you can while sleep deprived and just doing the best you can. There are a lot of videos out there with moms who have those videos of how they get their baby to sleep perfectly really early and act as if there’s never a hiccup or a regression and it’s so reassuring to see mom‘s RAW and honest that that is not usually how it goes and you’re not a failure just because it isn’t going the way you wanted.
So true!! It definitely is easier to decide to get up and watch something or scroll, whatever it may be, rather than waiting and intending to go back to sleep right away! The expectation and desire to sleep is worse than just staying up 😊
Thank you!
Going through a sleep regression and this is exactly what o need to hear
I know this now but I wish I had seen this when my daughter was a newborn as a first time mom because we went through it!! My mom said it would get better, and I remember asking her “WHEN?! 😩 when mom😫 when 🥺”
I’m now pregnant with baby #2 and know what to expect! And I have this mindset going in! I will no longer be a first time mom, I have experience.
So thank you for sharing this for others who are about to be a first time mom/dad or for those who are in the thick of this season! 🤍
Tears 😭 ❤❤❤❤😢I really love you God!! Thank you for the children you have given me. ❤
That last line- brought instant tears to my eyes 😭
Awe. This is so true!!!! I have an 11 year old and my youngest gets is 10 months with another in the way. There’s nothing like going through it before to put into perspective how quickly that time goes by. I really love all of your videos by the way. :) they always make me smile.
Stay strong mama!! You are doing great! 🙏🏿
It's really true. My youngest is starting high school. It feels like we are on a parenting speed run. I took her out for a dinner and boba after her second day of school. We had the best long hug. (I know she was tired after school and marching band practice, so she might have just not wanted to move.) I also know that's one of the last hugs like that from her. I don't remember the last time I held her. It goes by SOO fast. ❤
And this right here is why I desire to be a stay-at-home mom. Not a working mom, but a stay-at-home mom. I couldn’t imagine having a full time job and a baby on top of it. Babies have no schedules. They sleep when they want to sleep. They eat when they want to eat, etc. They are demanding little beings that require 24 hour care and I think it’s easier on moms to provide that care when they’ve got nothing else competing for their time and attention. Because who else is going to stay up with the baby at 2am or feed them at 4am? 🤔 Not the grandparents. Not the babysitter. Not Dad, because somebody has to the earn the income.
So, yeah, I feel like when moms complain about the sleepless nights, it’s probably because these are working moms who have to go the work the next morning. Not for me. I rather have nothing but free time for me and my baby. I will stay up late and bing watch Netflix while we’re doing the nightly feedings. I will take naps throughout the day. These early days are the shortest and you never get them back after the kids are all grown up.
I’ve felt guilty admitting that I don’t love the newborn stage, but I’ve had to remind myself that just because I’m not a fan of the sleep deprivation doesn’t mean I’m a bad mom. I actually did a sleep training program and it helped get my twins to sleep through the night beginning at 2 months old and my daughter started sleeping through the night at 6 weeks because we started right after she was born. It really helped with postpartum depression and anxiety and I feel like I’m a better mom when my kids are well rested and on a schedule.
Im 21 weeks and have been watching you for quite awhile. Ur videos give me so much insight. This isn't my first, but my kids r gonna be 12 years apart n i find every video u post enjoyable and comforting in a way. 😊
Currently in the early stages of weaning with our youngest (fifth) and last (medical reasons) baby. I am trying to savor every minute of my time with her because I know someday she'll sleep through the night and not need me. These years of babies and up-all-nighters have seemed never ending but now it is bittersweet to let them go, knowing we'll never be here again. Congratulations on your beautiful, new little one. May your family be blessed and joyful throughout this season and the ones to come.
I am 20 days postpartum with twin baby girls and these sleepless nights taking a toll on me
I'm a midwife and mum of 4. This is one of my biggest tips for my clients
I absolutely love this. Just have birth to my 3rd baby two weeks ago and honestly just loving my night with the baby. Just the mind shift change helped me so much ❤
This is helping me so much to be a better mum this time round. I gave birth 2 1/2 weeks ago to my second son. This is helping mentally prepare me for the nights to come ❤
I needed this. I’ve just had my roughest night yet with my baby where I felt I would go in insane due to the amount of cluster feedings from 11 pm to 4 am. And hours prior, I was told I needed to set a schedule with my 1 week old, when I am barely figuring out the latching and feedings as a first time mom. Thank you.
Your videos are so comforting , so reassuring ♥️♥️
That last part is making me cryyyyy so much ahhh!!!! Such a good reminder for all mamas 🤍🤍🤍🤍 thank you thank you thank you
Stop. My baby just turned 2 ❤ It is actually wild how fast it goes by. I will never forget the first night my baby fell asleep in her crib for because she was too big to get comfortable in my arms 😢 It is such a special time.
I'm a first time mom, sitting here feeding my 9 day-old and that last line really got to me. I've been really trying to soak up this newborn phase. I know one day he wouldn't want my kisses or hugs anymore. That's the part that makes me so sad, the idea that this phase goes by so quickly and that he'll grow up soon.
First time mom still pregnant but definitely needed this
My baby boy is 2mth old and I don’t try put him to sleep instead I sit get comfortable watch videos with him or play getting smiles from him makes every tear worth it and I say tears bcuz I have 5kids it’s incredibly difficult to keep up with house,cooking,kids school, toddler, baby, husband.
Everyone out there struggling just enjoy it it’s worth it! Pray for strength to keep goin ❤
Oh man that last time quote got me teary eyed having three kids myself. So true