Thanks for being real and vulnerable! I could tell that it wasn't the most comfortable, and you totally could've cut it out before posting....but i believe that you throwing it out there can help someone out there not feel alone...and that makes a difference...YOU ARE MAKING A DIFFERENCE! That's part of the reason i love your channel so much!
Listening to your honesty about your childhood has definitely effected my relationships with my students who are living in similar circumstances. It gives me a clearer picture of what they need from me now to help them become the adults they deserve to be. You have no idea how many futures you are helping me make even just a little bit better.
I'm so glad you have a therapist to help you out with this. My husbands childhood was jacked up as well.Sometimes its hard for me to relate because mine was so good, mostly I just get so mad about the things he went through and the stuff he had to deal with. I'm so glad you have Adam and a good relationship with your sister. I really hope you are able to proud of yourself for all you have accomplished and for the wonderful mother you are.
Jen, I know that took a lot for you to share. I think that you have done well and you and Adam are doing a wonderful job raising your children. Keep your head up, you are doing great.
That took a ton of courage and vulnerability. 💚 You made it, and you are doing really well. Is it weird to say that I am proud of you? I hope not. Thank you for sharing your story.
Jen~ It is so very hard when a parent passes, and then the hurt continues and intensifies when you start looking over all the belongings. You definitely broke the cycle of poverty and obviously have so much to be proud of. Sorry you have to relive the past trauma.
Jen…thank you for sharing….very therapeutic video. I also grew up poor and my parents divorced as well. You are so real and genuine, thank you for being you!
Big hugs. Thank you for being vulnerable. I appreciate your take on things and as a fellow child of divorce, I hear you and I see you. You are an awesome mom, wife daughter and granddaughter.
You are an incredibly strong person who has been through so much. Be proud. You’ve overcome. I’ve been through stuff too. I’m in my 50’s and starting to get over it.
You are brave and strong! Your determination makes the world a better place. And about your rebelliousness...well-behaved women rarely make history. You go, girl!
I love the family heirloom section. I am 29 (and recognize everything you had!) and I write letters to my mom. We started years ago and have just kept it up. I keep every letter from her. yes, she has a phone. We talk on the phone, and FaceTime. But there’s something about the letters, it’s SO special :)
It is sad when our parents fail us. I can relate to you in this regard, and I’m sorry. I remember another video where so much of your story resonated. I’m glad you’re working through it in therapy. That’s how we win.
Thanks for sharing part of your history. I love to see strong women who use adversity to show them what they DON'T want in their future. Going through all you did has made you who you are today. Your family is blessed to have you!
Oh Jen. You are such a wonderful and strong human being. Hearing what you went through sent chills through me…. I totally want to hug you. Such a strong woman. ❤️ Hugs
I admire the courage you gave yourself to address obvious trauma from your past. I wish to have been beside you holding your hand still, and provide the comfort you deserve. I am grateful you have your 3 ❤️ with you to travel your next path, even if they cannot truly feel your damaged self. I will smudge for you in my prayers
I don’t think you realize how important you sharing your life story is. There are more people who went through really tough things as kids and hearing that each one of us isn’t alone is comforting.
I have had to watch this in two sittings with having to take Lucas to school, but girl I feel you and I am so incredibly proud of you. You are an amazing woman and mom. You rock girl and just keep it up and stay smiling, even through the hard times and tears!( Well that's how I cope hahaha) xxxx
Thank you for talking about it. When you read the court documents, you made me realize that things that happened to me with my step father was indeed wrong. I can relate and I am proud of how you worked to make your life better. I feel I did with my life and always looked back and never wanted to treat anyone like I was treated. You are a strong woman and a wonderful mother.
You are such a strong and courageous woman. I have been through a lot as a child also. Very emotional and physical abuse. I sometimes feel guilty for turning out strong, financially stable and others didn’t come out as well. Keep doing what makes you feel happy. You are a survivor and deserve every single good thing that happens in your life.
Thank you for being so raw about this! I was so fortunate I’ve never gone through anything like this but some children aren’t that lucky. It’s so great you are giving your children the life they deserve and that you should have gotten when you were a child. You are breaking the cycle!
Thank you for continuing to share your story. I'm finally opening up about mine. I was sexually, physically, and mentally abused by my father and most people don't understand why I don't want to have anything to do with him. I haven't talked to him since 2013.
Thank you for sharing your story with us. I could tell parts were very uncomfortable but you share with us so we know we’re not alone. I’m so proud of the accomplishments you’ve made and have created such a loving family environment. You’re such an inspiration to us! Thanks💕
Sending you love and hugs. Thank you so always being so open, honest and real with us and letting us know that we are not alone when dealing with a similar history.
The realness and rawness of you sharing this is why we all keep coming back, Jen. You are so amazing for taking your hardship and making sure you broke the cycle! You are stronger than you realize. I never realized that the fear I have of growing up in poverty would carry over and instill a fear in me that makes me be a workaholic. Thank you for sharing. Thank you for being valuable! Lost of love from Canada
Wow…such a life you’ve endured! Does not matter as you are a VERY SUCCESSFUL DEDICATED PROFESSIONAL! And such an inspiration to many of us, and an amazing mother to your children. Enjoy watching the great care you take of your fury babies! Let it all go as you have said “your growing up life does not define you’. We all love YOU!!!
Your great grandparent's letter was so sweet. It's great that it has survived a century! Thank you also for sharing documents and stories from your childhood, that takes courage. I find it inspiring you have accomplished so much considering you didn't have the support from your parents. Thanks:)
Just finishing up this video... lost my mom in October, dad passed 12 years ago. I’m now starting going through my mommas stuff. Just was showing my teen my parents wedding albums. I’m an only child - both my parents worked their hardest always to create the best world growing up for me. It counts. Great work Jennifer. You have a beautiful weekend. Thank you for sharing. Xo 🌷
As a history buff I absolutely love that your mom kept all those little family memories. The letters especially are so special! Throughout all the hard times and struggles it is so important to remember how we got to where we are today. The fact that you can reflect on your life and use it to better yourself and your family rather than letting it keep you stagnant says a lot about the woman and mother you are.
Thanks for sharing and for being you. You are so admired and respected. I was severely bullied in my home my entire childhood. Our lives and memories are our own, and no one can tell us how we should feel or what we should remember or how we should process our memories. You are strong and healthy and you are trying to navigate the present and future while trying to understand your past. You are thriving and you have created such a beautiful and comforting life for your family and all who are around you. xoxo❤️🧸🌹🐕
Hugs, it took a lot to go through all that you were raised with & you are healing & dealing with the trauma. You are brave for sharing & I give you a big hug for that. My parents divorced when I was 9, and money was always an issue. I agree we block out some bad things & unfortunately a bit of good also gets blocked out. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️🙏🙏🙏
I always love your videos, but I especially love the ones where you show us a more vulnerable you because I know it’s not easy, but we love you! Thank you for sharing another part of your story with us.
Thanks for sharing part of your story! I feel for you , we all have our crap to work through. You can be so proud of all your hard work and making a better life for your family! When you loose family members with unresolved conflict it is hard to work through, keep doing the work. Love to you and your family.
Jen, thank you for sharing with us. It’s def hard to open up about childhood trauma and reflecting on how we really hold onto that pain throughout adulthood.. I think that you are a great example of actually changing your life’s circumstances. You didn’t take that Trauma and let it consume you. You share parts of your life with us and honestly watching your videos is a form of therapy for me without me even knowing it. Watching your content on organizing, cooking home cooked meals, still tackling mother/wife/house/work duties is so motivating. You are a superwoman! Again, thank you for sharing your greatness while also being vulnerable. You are appreciated! 💜💜💜
You and Adam have done a wonderful job creating the stable home life for your kids that you and your sister were denied. Everyone goes through difficult times. I went through two divorces by the time I was 14 years old. So I can totally relate to your experiences. Love to you my friend. ❤️
Sometimes trauma feels good to talk about and it’s amazing that you can open up like that to complete strangers on a very large viewing. I hope you feel love and support not just from here but in your life. You have roses above the lows and made your life what you wanted it to be. I wish you the best of luck working through therapy with your past. Your strong You are Beautiful and You are a child of God and can get through anything. Sending prayers and good vibes your way! ❤️
I remember my mom was moving maybe 15 years ago and I found an old tax return from 1997/1998 and I wondered how in the world did we make it....I knew back then (I was 17/18) that we didn't have a lot of money, but as an adult you can really see what that means. I also remember having an initial session with my old therapist and telling her some things about my childhood and she told me that it sounded like I had a traumatic childhood....that took me for surprise because I never thought of it as "traumatic". It was just childhood. But there are things that I have intentionally done/not done for my children because I know I didn't like it when I was a kid. There's a bittersweet feeling to know that you aren't the only one that went through things as a kid. But, Jen, you are an inspiration and I am so glad that I found your channel!
Jen, you are a beautiful, respectful, kind person, and no matter what our childhood experience, you are a true success story. I wish you were my neighbour so I could be your friend..You have a wonderful family, and a successful career, the past does not define us. Bravo to you girl!💗
You are an inspiration and I 100% understand from a personal POV as well. My dysfunctional divorced parents recently started “hanging out” after a nasty divorce 23 years ago. I have contemplated going to therapy to help me ensure I keep my growing family healthy and not let my emotions and PTSD regress back to when I was 14. I too, have talked myself out of therapy and hearing you admit those emotions helps me decision. 😊
I'm 52 and still have plenty to work through. I just started therapy a couple of months ago so I'm with you. And my hubby also came from a "normal" situation. It's a lot. Keep goin' mama, as will I.
Bless your heart. Therapy is such a good thing. I’m so glad you have someone to talk to objectively. That is always good. I applaud you……because you broke the cycle that made your early years hard. That is a true feat! My niece grew up in a similar situation and at 40 she is still trying to overcome it. In many ways it is a day to day struggle. I always tell her that it is okay to choose your family and let unhealthy relationships fall to the wayside. Your hurt is palpable through the screen and you have my great respect for sharing and being authentic. You are an overcomer!
Jen - you friggen rock, your strength is an inspiration! Thank you for sharing your story with us! You are so right, you just never know what someone's situation is or what their life is/was like. Practice Kindness Always!! :)
Thank you for sharing and being so vulnerable. I agree with the way you feel about overworking because of the fear of not having money. I have been on my own for a long time and have always provided for myself. I understand why you have tried hard to keep a safe environment for your kids so they done have to struggle. Ive done the same. Just because you feel blessed doesn't mean you cant express your unfortunate and difficult situations. Listening to you always makes me feel like it wasn't just me. Thank you thank you thank you. I came from Cuba in 1970 and didnt know the language or understand the USA way of living and only made being a kid much harder. I cant thank you enough for sharing. Sending virtual hugs always.
Thanks for being so open. Seems quite a few of us have had similar childhoods. You are quite a role model Jen. You've gone above and beyond your circumstances. You have alot to be proud of. Thanks for being so real. You seem to be a great Mom/Wife. 💜
Thank you for sharing that part of your life with us Jen. You're a strong, beautiful, and courageous woman. ❣️❣️❣️ I hope you and your family have a wonderful weekend! ✨
Thank you for sharing so many person things. My parents got divorced when I was 6 and to this day it has messed with my mind. It was always a loving home and nothing abusive, but it still messes with you.
Thank you for sharing Jen. These things are so hard to process and I hope this community you have built helps you through these tough times and bad days. You are a wonderful human being and I thank you for letting me share your life.
You are such an inspiration! You have come so far and should be very proud of what you have accomplished!! I am so sorry your childhood was so hard. Thanks for sharing.
You are such a strong woman! You're right - we tend to think we are allow in certain situations, and you have shown that we are not alone. I am strained from my family, and I get the comments that you do that we should mend the relationship because they are my parents. As you stated though, no one knows the whole story and the toxic behavior that I don't need in my life. Thank you for sharing Jen - you're an inspiration!❤❤❤
I agree I always loved the idea of working four ten hour days. I did it one summer and loved it. Thank you so much for sharing your heart and experiences. You helped me realize some things about myself as well. You are a strong and caring person. Keep going and growing! 💕💕
I greatly enjoyed your openness and willingness to share things that I know are painful. You seem to have weathered your personal storm well and it probably made you a stronger person. Thanks for sharing, dear friend!
Sending you hugs! No family....despite how it looks both inside and out is perfect. We all have our own struggles. Thank you for sharing your struggles. People need to hear that it is ok to not be ok and to get help! Sometimes people don't even realize that what they went through or are going through now is not healthy. Thank you for shedding light into the dark corners!
Jen, you are amazing. You are you an amazing wife and mother. Thank you for your video. Also, treasure your great grandparents love letters. Have a great weekend friend.
I found you because I was looking for a working mom's evening routine and stayed because you are awesome! I love your channel Jenn! You are so fun, so real and such an inspiration. You are doing a great job! Thank you❤
My goodness, thank you so much for sharing. Here's a virtual hug for you. You're a survivor and I admire you. On a lighter note, we grew up with view masters too. The love letter warmed my heart ❤
WOW Jen.....you are such a strong person! That was horrible what you went through and still going through. I'm glad you are seeing a therapist. That is a heavy load to carry. You are definately not alone. I have a toxic older sister don't care if I ever see her again. My therapist told me wisely "just because they have a label, "mother", "sister" "brother" doesn't mean you have to like/love or have a relationship....and she was right!! Frame those love letters....so beautiful!!!! Thank you for sharing....you are an incredible person!!!
Thank you for sharing this. It's good to see it's possible to turn things around. I'm glad you are in therapy, it is so important to process these emotions. Good for you 💞
Jen, thank you for sharing. I could tell that it wasn't easy for you. I'm so very sorry that you didn't have a loving, wonderful relationship with your mom. But, please know that you are SO COURAGEOUS and STRONG for removing yourself from that toxic relationship and surrounding. You did the right thing! Think of how many people whom you may have helped by just sharing your situation. You give people the will and strength to do the same. Children deserve and need to feel safe and unconditionally loved. And YOU are that mother for your children. You broke that chain and didn't pass it on to your babies. Kudos to you! So many people don't get themselves out of bad situations and they pass it down to their children and it's a vicious cycle. I'm so happy and proud of you! YOU ROCK, GIRLFRIEND! I hope and wish you all the love and happiness that you deserve. I, for one love you here on RUclips. XOXO'S
Thank you for sharing. Money is so connected to everything in our lives, the money habits are parents had when we were growing up really impacted me. And it has taken me what seems like forever to implement new beliefs around money.
You are so right Jen about we all struggle. Everyone just doesn't talk about it. I have gone to counseling in the past and may again soon. We have settled my parents in to assisted living. My dad and I are like oil and water. We don't relate well. With stress of the move he has been taking it out on me when I'm just trying to help. He has always come after me as the whipping person. Not physically but emotionally. I have to separate myself sometimes. You hang in there. I'm proud of you and what you are accomplishing. Blessings to you and the family!
I’m 60 and still go through child hood angst. But you have overcome your childhood trauma but you still have the trauma. Does that make sense? Talking is the best therapy. 😍
Thanks Jen. The Partridge Family is before MY time! Well la di da! I’m a grandma. A fairly young grandma. Compared to my granddaughters friends grandmas. Coming from someone who raised her daughter alone don’t get inside your head to much. My daughters father wasn’t in her life. I was earning below poverty level. I can only speak for myself. I did my best. I ate ronzoni for 30 days to make sure my daughter ate. Maybe she remembers things differently. But I’m sure I can speak for your mom. She did the best she could with what she had to give. Those papers are just that. Papers. Legal papers. Papers to show she did things right legally. But you don’t know what she really had to do. My dad passed away on my bedroom floor of a massive heart attack. I was 9. I had a sister 5 years older. My mom worked from then on to support us. My sister left at 18. My mom passed away at 92 from a abdominal aortic aneurism. I watched her flatline 2010. My mother was with me my whole life. Sure it was hard. My nursing career was done with etc. I took care of her. Don’t think to much about it. Those paper done show everything. Just know how are parents raised up is why we are such good adults and parents Before I forget, be careful opening those letter and such, even the Bible. The pages could break and/or crumble. I hope my words helped. 💚👍🥰🙏✌️
Jen - thank you for sharing. I went through VERY similar stuff - essentially needing to be my own adult and financially support myself at a very young age. Speaking openly about dealing with old trauma and therapy is a great way to destigmatize it for yourself and others. We all have dentists and doctors for the rest of our bodies - why not our brains, too? Think of the 20 year old, who just went through this, seeing your video and maybe getting help to deal with that trauma at an early age. Or the 60 year old who never thought her trauma was bad "enough" for therapy who might reconsider. Sharing all you do makes your channel more than just a "cooking channel to sell pots & pans" - it's an important facet in the landscape of motherhood. I was considered a "hard to handle" teen, too. I think those of us who have to mother ourselves, for whatever reason, rebel as a form of owning our own narative. If we're working, going to school, paying our own bills, why on earth would we still want to be treated like children, at that point? I also think working through that past trauma and deciding to not pass that trauma forward makes us better parents. Be proud of how far you've come and that you're still working on it. You are an important part of the youtube landscape! Also, I'm curious - where was your (great?)grandmother when they were writing letters to each other? I'm very currious.
Oh, sweetie!! Children are never responsible for their parents’ mistakes. Your two kids are so lucky to have you.
Thanks for being real and vulnerable! I could tell that it wasn't the most comfortable, and you totally could've cut it out before posting....but i believe that you throwing it out there can help someone out there not feel alone...and that makes a difference...YOU ARE MAKING A DIFFERENCE! That's part of the reason i love your channel so much!
Listening to your honesty about your childhood has definitely effected my relationships with my students who are living in similar circumstances. It gives me a clearer picture of what they need from me now to help them become the adults they deserve to be. You have no idea how many futures you are helping me make even just a little bit better.
I'm so glad you have a therapist to help you out with this. My husbands childhood was jacked up as well.Sometimes its hard for me to relate because mine was so good, mostly I just get so mad about the things he went through and the stuff he had to deal with. I'm so glad you have Adam and a good relationship with your sister. I really hope you are able to proud of yourself for all you have accomplished and for the wonderful mother you are.
Jen, I know that took a lot for you to share. I think that you have done well and you and Adam are doing a wonderful job raising your children. Keep your head up, you are doing great.
Yes… Blessings Jen… been there done that and I get it… sending love and healing peace to you♥️☮️‼️
I would never have guessed what you have been through because you are so put together. Good for you Jennifer.
That took a ton of courage and vulnerability. 💚 You made it, and you are doing really well. Is it weird to say that I am proud of you? I hope not. Thank you for sharing your story.
I think that’s a good thing. We can be proud of each other!
Very raw and real talk. The grieving process is different for everyone. Sending all the best vibes to you Jen! ❤️
Jen~ It is so very hard when a parent passes, and then the hurt continues and intensifies when you start looking over all the belongings. You definitely broke the cycle of poverty and obviously have so much to be proud of. Sorry you have to relive the past trauma.
Hello Loree
My favourite thing about you is how real and honest you are. I really appreciate you sharing your story.
Jen…thank you for sharing….very therapeutic video. I also grew up poor and my parents divorced as well. You are so real and genuine, thank you for being you!
Big hugs. Thank you for being vulnerable. I appreciate your take on things and as a fellow child of divorce, I hear you and I see you. You are an awesome mom, wife daughter and granddaughter.
You are an incredibly strong person who has been through so much. Be proud. You’ve overcome. I’ve been through stuff too. I’m in my 50’s and starting to get over it.
You are brave and strong! Your determination makes the world a better place. And about your rebelliousness...well-behaved women rarely make history. You go, girl!
I love the family heirloom section. I am 29 (and recognize everything you had!) and I write letters to my mom. We started years ago and have just kept it up. I keep every letter from her. yes, she has a phone. We talk on the phone, and FaceTime. But there’s something about the letters, it’s SO special :)
You are not alone is the childhood trauma and grief brings up so much that has been repressed. Hugs!
It is sad when our parents fail us. I can relate to you in this regard, and I’m sorry. I remember another video where so much of your story resonated. I’m glad you’re working through it in therapy. That’s how we win.
Hello Lori
Thank you for posting this and being real. I love your honesty. I’m sure it will help many people. Hugs my friend.
Hello chriztine
Thanks for sharing part of your history.
I love to see strong women who use adversity to show them what they DON'T want in their future. Going through all you did has made you who you are today.
Your family is blessed to have you!
Oh Jen. You are such a wonderful and strong human being. Hearing what you went through sent chills through me…. I totally want to hug you. Such a strong woman. ❤️ Hugs
I admire the courage you gave yourself to address obvious trauma from your past. I wish to have been beside you holding your hand still, and provide the comfort you deserve. I am grateful you have your 3 ❤️ with you to travel your next path, even if they cannot truly feel your damaged self. I will smudge for you in my prayers
I don’t think you realize how important you sharing your life story is. There are more people who went through really tough things as kids and hearing that each one of us isn’t alone is comforting.
I have had to watch this in two sittings with having to take Lucas to school, but girl I feel you and I am so incredibly proud of you. You are an amazing woman and mom. You rock girl and just keep it up and stay smiling, even through the hard times and tears!( Well that's how I cope hahaha) xxxx
Thank you for talking about it. When you read the court documents, you made me realize that things that happened to me with my step father was indeed wrong. I can relate and I am proud of how you worked to make your life better. I feel I did with my life and always looked back and never wanted to treat anyone like I was treated. You are a strong woman and a wonderful mother.
It takes so much courage to be so vulnerable and put your private life on social media. I commend you so much! We all love you!!
You are such a strong and courageous woman. I have been through a lot as a child also. Very emotional and physical abuse. I sometimes feel guilty for turning out strong, financially stable and others didn’t come out as well. Keep doing what makes you feel happy. You are a survivor and deserve every single good thing that happens in your life.
Thank you for being so raw about this! I was so fortunate I’ve never gone through anything like this but some children aren’t that lucky. It’s so great you are giving your children the life they deserve and that you should have gotten when you were a child. You are breaking the cycle!
I appreciate you being so open with your audience. It’s very inspiring 💕 your kids are extremely lucky to have you as their mom.
Thank you for continuing to share your story. I'm finally opening up about mine. I was sexually, physically, and mentally abused by my father and most people don't understand why I don't want to have anything to do with him. I haven't talked to him since 2013.
I’m so sorry you went through that 💔
I'm so glad you see a therapist. A therapist has been helpful for me, too. I'm old to remember watching the Partridge Family 😅. I'm proud of you.
Thank you for sharing your life And how strong you are. You are amazing. Xx
Thank you for sharing your story with us. I could tell parts were very uncomfortable but you share with us so we know we’re not alone. I’m so proud of the accomplishments you’ve made and have created such a loving family environment. You’re such an inspiration to us! Thanks💕
Sending you love and hugs. Thank you so always being so open, honest and real with us and letting us know that we are not alone when dealing with a similar history.
Thank you for sharing in such an honest and vulnerable way.
Hello 👋 Lisa, how are you doing Hope you don't mind if I subscribe to your RUclips channel??
The realness and rawness of you sharing this is why we all keep coming back, Jen. You are so amazing for taking your hardship and making sure you broke the cycle! You are stronger than you realize. I never realized that the fear I have of growing up in poverty would carry over and instill a fear in me that makes me be a workaholic.
Thank you for sharing. Thank you for being valuable! Lost of love from Canada
thank you so much ❤️
Wow…such a life you’ve endured! Does not matter as you are a VERY SUCCESSFUL DEDICATED PROFESSIONAL! And such an inspiration to many of us, and an amazing mother to your children. Enjoy watching the great care you take of your fury babies! Let it all go as you have said “your growing up life does not define you’. We all love YOU!!!
Jen, you're the MVP! I admire you greatly for what you've accomplished in your life. Thank you for sharing with us. I know that wasn't easy. Hugs.
im so sorry to hear about your Mom! I had no idea, my prayers and deepest condolences go out to you and your family!
Your great grandparent's letter was so sweet. It's great that it has survived a century! Thank you also for sharing documents and stories from your childhood, that takes courage. I find it inspiring you have accomplished so much considering you didn't have the support from your parents. Thanks:)
Just finishing up this video... lost my mom in October, dad passed 12 years ago. I’m now starting going through my mommas stuff. Just was showing my teen my parents wedding albums. I’m an only child - both my parents worked their hardest always to create the best world growing up for me. It counts. Great work Jennifer. You have a beautiful weekend. Thank you for sharing. Xo 🌷
As a history buff I absolutely love that your mom kept all those little family memories. The letters especially are so special! Throughout all the hard times and struggles it is so important to remember how we got to where we are today. The fact that you can reflect on your life and use it to better yourself and your family rather than letting it keep you stagnant says a lot about the woman and mother you are.
Thanks for sharing and for being you. You are so admired and respected. I was severely bullied in my home my entire childhood. Our lives and memories are our own, and no one can tell us how we should feel or what we should remember or how we should process our memories. You are strong and healthy and you are trying to navigate the present and future while trying to understand your past. You are thriving and you have created such a beautiful and comforting life for your family and all who are around you. xoxo❤️🧸🌹🐕
Hugs, it took a lot to go through all that you were raised with & you are healing & dealing with the trauma. You are brave for sharing & I give you a big hug for that. My parents divorced when I was 9, and money was always an issue. I agree we block out some bad things & unfortunately a bit of good also gets blocked out. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️🙏🙏🙏
I always love your videos, but I especially love the ones where you show us a more vulnerable you because I know it’s not easy, but we love you! Thank you for sharing another part of your story with us.
Wow, I'm sorry you and your Sister went through so much. That hard past is what has helped you be such a great Mom. Bless you!!
Glad you were able to speak about this and I enjoy that you get real…. I love seeing the old hand writing.
Thanks for sharing part of your story! I feel for you , we all have our crap to work through. You can be so proud of all your hard work and making a better life for your family! When you loose family members with unresolved conflict it is hard to work through, keep doing the work. Love to you and your family.
Jen, thank you for sharing with us. It’s def hard to open up about childhood trauma and reflecting on how we really hold onto that pain throughout adulthood.. I think that you are a great example of actually changing your life’s circumstances. You didn’t take that Trauma and let it consume you. You share parts of your life with us and honestly watching your videos is a form of therapy for me without me even knowing it. Watching your content on organizing, cooking home cooked meals, still tackling mother/wife/house/work duties is so motivating. You are a superwoman! Again, thank you for sharing your greatness while also being vulnerable. You are appreciated! 💜💜💜
You and Adam have done a wonderful job creating the stable home life for your kids that you and your sister were denied. Everyone goes through difficult times. I went through two divorces by the time I was 14 years old. So I can totally relate to your experiences. Love to you my friend. ❤️
Hello 👋 Barbara, how are you doing?
Sometimes trauma feels good to talk about and it’s amazing that you can open up like that to complete strangers on a very large viewing. I hope you feel love and support not just from here but in your life. You have roses above the lows and made your life what you wanted it to be. I wish you the best of luck working through therapy with your past. Your strong You are Beautiful and You are a child of God and can get through anything. Sending prayers and good vibes your way! ❤️
I remember my mom was moving maybe 15 years ago and I found an old tax return from 1997/1998 and I wondered how in the world did we make it....I knew back then (I was 17/18) that we didn't have a lot of money, but as an adult you can really see what that means. I also remember having an initial session with my old therapist and telling her some things about my childhood and she told me that it sounded like I had a traumatic childhood....that took me for surprise because I never thought of it as "traumatic". It was just childhood. But there are things that I have intentionally done/not done for my children because I know I didn't like it when I was a kid. There's a bittersweet feeling to know that you aren't the only one that went through things as a kid. But, Jen, you are an inspiration and I am so glad that I found your channel!
This is one of my favorite videos you have posted.
Thank you for sharing and showing vulnerability. I see so much of myself in you and you truly inspire me! Thank you!
Jen, you are a beautiful, respectful, kind person, and no matter what our childhood experience, you are a true success story. I wish you were my neighbour so I could be your friend..You have a wonderful family, and a successful career, the past does not define us. Bravo to you girl!💗
You are an inspiration and I 100% understand from a personal POV as well. My dysfunctional divorced parents recently started “hanging out” after a nasty divorce 23 years ago. I have contemplated going to therapy to help me ensure I keep my growing family healthy and not let my emotions and PTSD regress back to when I was 14.
I too, have talked myself out of therapy and hearing you admit those emotions helps me decision. 😊
I'm 52 and still have plenty to work through. I just started therapy a couple of months ago so I'm with you. And my hubby also came from a "normal" situation. It's a lot. Keep goin' mama, as will I.
Bless your heart. Therapy is such a good thing. I’m so glad you have someone to talk to objectively. That is always good. I applaud you……because you broke the cycle that made your early years hard. That is a true feat! My niece grew up in a similar situation and at 40 she is still trying to overcome it. In many ways it is a day to day struggle. I always tell her that it is okay to choose your family and let unhealthy relationships fall to the wayside. Your hurt is palpable through the screen and you have my great respect for sharing and being authentic. You are an overcomer!
Jen - you friggen rock, your strength is an inspiration! Thank you for sharing your story with us! You are so right, you just never know what someone's situation is or what their life is/was like. Practice Kindness Always!! :)
Thank you for sharing and being so vulnerable. I agree with the way you feel about overworking because of the fear of not having money. I have been on my own for a long time and have always provided for myself. I understand why you have tried hard to keep a safe environment for your kids so they done have to struggle. Ive done the same. Just because you feel blessed doesn't mean you cant express your unfortunate and difficult situations. Listening to you always makes me feel like it wasn't just me. Thank you thank you thank you. I came from Cuba in 1970 and didnt know the language or understand the USA way of living and only made being a kid much harder. I cant thank you enough for sharing. Sending virtual hugs always.
Love so much about you, Jen! Thank you for EVERYTHING you share with us.❤
Currently work 4- 10s and love it!
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It's nice to watch your channel! Your honesty is really appreciated. It's encouraging to feel you're not alone!
Amen to the 3 day weekend. I am an educator. I would love the 4 day teaching schedule that some schools have.
Thanks for being so open. Seems quite a few of us have had similar childhoods. You are quite a role model Jen. You've gone above and beyond your circumstances. You have alot to be proud of. Thanks for being so real. You seem to be a great Mom/Wife. 💜
Thank you for sharing that part of your life with us Jen. You're a strong, beautiful, and courageous woman. ❣️❣️❣️ I hope you and your family have a wonderful weekend! ✨
Thank you for sharing so many person things. My parents got divorced when I was 6 and to this day it has messed with my mind. It was always a loving home and nothing abusive, but it still messes with you.
Thank you for sharing Jen. These things are so hard to process and I hope this community you have built helps you through these tough times and bad days. You are a wonderful human being and I thank you for letting me share your life.
I feel your pain. Counseling is the best thing for coming to terms with things that can never be repaired.
Thank you for such a heartfelt vlog, we are all with you in this ‘life journey’ and we all love you. Xx
You are such an inspiration! You have come so far and should be very proud of what you have accomplished!! I am so sorry your childhood was so hard. Thanks for sharing.
You are such a strong woman! You're right - we tend to think we are allow in certain situations, and you have shown that we are not alone. I am strained from my family, and I get the comments that you do that we should mend the relationship because they are my parents. As you stated though, no one knows the whole story and the toxic behavior that I don't need in my life. Thank you for sharing Jen - you're an inspiration!❤❤❤
I agree I always loved the idea of working four ten hour days. I did it one summer and loved it. Thank you so much for sharing your heart and experiences. You helped me realize some things about myself as well. You are a strong and caring person. Keep going and growing! 💕💕
I greatly enjoyed your openness and willingness to share things that I know are painful. You seem to have weathered your personal storm well and it probably made you a stronger person. Thanks for sharing, dear friend!
Daaaaavidddd! *swoooon*. Thank you for sharing. I think you’ve turned out very well. I had 2 parents and they was supportive. ❤️
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You’re amazing! Be so proud of the amazing life you built. 🥰
Sending you hugs! No family....despite how it looks both inside and out is perfect. We all have our own struggles. Thank you for sharing your struggles. People need to hear that it is ok to not be ok and to get help! Sometimes people don't even realize that what they went through or are going through now is not healthy. Thank you for shedding light into the dark corners!
Jen, you are amazing. You are you an amazing wife and mother. Thank you for your video. Also, treasure your great grandparents love letters. Have a great weekend friend.
I found you because I was looking for a working mom's evening routine and stayed because you are awesome! I love your channel Jenn! You are so fun, so real and such an inspiration. You are doing a great job!
Thank you❤
I’m soo proud of you, knowing your trauma and being able to talk about it?? You are one strong woman and you should also be proud of yourself! 🐅🌈
My goodness, thank you so much for sharing. Here's a virtual hug for you. You're a survivor and I admire you. On a lighter note, we grew up with view masters too. The love letter warmed my heart ❤
WOW Jen.....you are such a strong person! That was horrible what you went through and still going through. I'm glad you are seeing a therapist. That is a heavy load to carry. You are definately not alone. I have a toxic older sister don't care if I ever see her again. My therapist told me wisely "just because they have a label, "mother", "sister" "brother" doesn't mean you have to like/love or have a relationship....and she was right!! Frame those love letters....so beautiful!!!! Thank you for sharing....you are an incredible person!!!
I’ve recently turned 48 & remember the view finder blast from the past & my childhood!!! Have a great weekend 👍🏻
Thank you for sharing this. It's good to see it's possible to turn things around. I'm glad you are in therapy, it is so important to process these emotions. Good for you 💞
❤️ Virtual hugs. Thanks for sharing. Love your videos and the person you have become! I know how hard it can be to overcome difficult pasts! ❤️
Jen, thank you for sharing. I could tell that it wasn't easy for you. I'm so very sorry that you didn't have a loving, wonderful relationship with your mom. But, please know that you are SO COURAGEOUS and STRONG for removing yourself from that toxic relationship and surrounding. You did the right thing! Think of how many people whom you may have helped by just sharing your situation. You give people the will and strength to do the same. Children deserve and need to feel safe and unconditionally loved. And YOU are that mother for your children. You broke that chain and didn't pass it on to your babies. Kudos to you! So many people don't get themselves out of bad situations and they pass it down to their children and it's a vicious cycle. I'm so happy and proud of you! YOU ROCK, GIRLFRIEND! I hope and wish you all the love and happiness that you deserve. I, for one love you here on RUclips. XOXO'S
Thank you for sharing. Money is so connected to everything in our lives, the money habits are parents had when we were growing up really impacted me. And it has taken me what seems like forever to implement new beliefs around money.
Thank you for sharing your experience with us. Like others are saying, you being you, is helping someone else ♥️
You are so right Jen about we all struggle. Everyone just doesn't talk about it. I have gone to counseling in the past and may again soon. We have settled my parents in to assisted living. My dad and I are like oil and water. We don't relate well. With stress of the move he has been taking it out on me when I'm just trying to help. He has always come after me as the whipping person. Not physically but emotionally. I have to separate myself sometimes. You hang in there. I'm proud of you and what you are accomplishing. Blessings to you and the family!
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A prep video on a Friday... absolutely motivational.
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I love you and thank you for sharing your life!
I’m 60 and still go through child hood angst. But you have overcome your childhood trauma but you still have the trauma. Does that make sense? Talking is the best therapy. 😍
A great video Jen! Thanks for sharing your vulnerabilities
OMG! So much to process! This hits home for me in such a big way. Thank you for sharing 💕
Yeah… me too! I could write a book.
Murphy!!!!! I had a viewmaster! And I feel you on the family childhood stuff. You are def NOT alone. ❤️
Jen, you are amazing. Your video made me cry.
Oh Jen, thank you for sharing. I’m sorry you went through that, but I am so happy you spoke up and moved with your dad.
Thanks Jen. The Partridge Family is before MY time! Well la di da! I’m a grandma. A fairly young grandma. Compared to my granddaughters friends grandmas. Coming from someone who raised her daughter alone don’t get inside your head to much. My daughters father wasn’t in her life. I was earning below poverty level. I can only speak for myself. I did my best. I ate ronzoni for 30 days to make sure my daughter ate. Maybe she remembers things differently. But I’m sure I can speak for your mom. She did the best she could with what she had to give. Those papers are just that. Papers. Legal papers. Papers to show she did things right legally. But you don’t know what she really had to do. My dad passed away on my bedroom floor of a massive heart attack. I was 9. I had a sister 5 years older. My mom worked from then on to support us. My sister left at 18. My mom passed away at 92 from a abdominal aortic aneurism. I watched her flatline 2010. My mother was with me my whole life. Sure it was hard. My nursing career was done with etc. I took care of her. Don’t think to much about it. Those paper done show everything. Just know how are parents raised up is why we are such good adults and parents
Before I forget, be careful opening those letter and such, even the Bible. The pages could break and/or crumble. I hope my words helped. 💚👍🥰🙏✌️
Thank you for your honesty .
Always!
Jen - thank you for sharing. I went through VERY similar stuff - essentially needing to be my own adult and financially support myself at a very young age. Speaking openly about dealing with old trauma and therapy is a great way to destigmatize it for yourself and others. We all have dentists and doctors for the rest of our bodies - why not our brains, too?
Think of the 20 year old, who just went through this, seeing your video and maybe getting help to deal with that trauma at an early age. Or the 60 year old who never thought her trauma was bad "enough" for therapy who might reconsider. Sharing all you do makes your channel more than just a "cooking channel to sell pots & pans" - it's an important facet in the landscape of motherhood.
I was considered a "hard to handle" teen, too. I think those of us who have to mother ourselves, for whatever reason, rebel as a form of owning our own narative. If we're working, going to school, paying our own bills, why on earth would we still want to be treated like children, at that point? I also think working through that past trauma and deciding to not pass that trauma forward makes us better parents.
Be proud of how far you've come and that you're still working on it. You are an important part of the youtube landscape!
Also, I'm curious - where was your (great?)grandmother when they were writing letters to each other? I'm very currious.
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