Going On A First Date With A Girl

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  • @Jess_Smith0903
    @Jess_Smith0903 Год назад +127

    You and I have almost nothing similar, in terms of how our lives are and preferences, yet you inspire me so much. Your courage, determination, honesty and resilience are attributes that I so admire in anyone. Given your young age, almost 10 years younger than me and having more of those attributes than most people I know my age, is very impressive! Stay true to yourself Cam, that’s your biggest quality!!!

  • @seven89eleven
    @seven89eleven Год назад +47

    I used to watch your videos a few years ago.. just found your channel again!! You've grown as a person for sure and I know you got this. Stay strong!💛

  • @kristenthomas9745
    @kristenthomas9745 Год назад +358

    “Just really hope she knows I’m gay” 😂❤ love Cam

    • @RachaelNelson-si3qc
      @RachaelNelson-si3qc Год назад

      U not gay u your Bi

    • @bubba283
      @bubba283 Год назад +4

      I wish I could be this open about being a gay guy I've always known I'm queer I just hide it , it's embarrassing

    • @kristenthomas9745
      @kristenthomas9745 Год назад +1

      @@bubba283 you will one day

    • @bubba283
      @bubba283 Год назад +1

      @@kristenthomas9745 I've told a few friends, my ex gf she found out, she caught me with him, I just said get out

    • @jodoodlyboi2963
      @jodoodlyboi2963 Год назад

      ​@@bubba283i hope one day you can live freely as yourself

  • @amylee0870
    @amylee0870 Год назад +79

    Dating apps are awkward for everyone I think. It always feels a little weird at first- but I promise, the awkwardness will disappear as you start talking.
    I had a lot of first dates via Dating apps, some casual dating as well, and then, found my current partner of 9 years on an app.
    It can be a great way to meet people! Have fun❤❤
    The outfit was super cute:)

    • @tanimaciel4654
      @tanimaciel4654 Год назад +6

      Yes sometimes meeting people online especially from dating sites can lead to find someone you’ve been looking for.
      Just be sure to never try to find anyone on Omegle……..I really wish RUclipsrs who have been going on there would warn people that site is really bad news.
      Nothing but horrible disgusting predators and trouble making minors go on there looking for trouble and dirty filthy people.
      But anyway I met my boyfriend on OKcupid and we’ve been dating for about two years and going steady. Unlike all the terrible males I spoke to and ghost me. I’m so blessed to have my boyfriend who really cares about me, will do his best to make me happy and would never neglect or give up on me. So yeah give it a try. Although you may meet a few or more people and none of them may not be the ones but like the old legendary phrase always say ………”The first you don’t succeed…….. try try again”.

  • @JH-eg8yk
    @JH-eg8yk Год назад +166

    Random stranger here, but I’m proud of you for allowing yourself to look for and find happiness again. Keep going❤️❤️❤️

  • @bethechange1226
    @bethechange1226 Год назад +14

    Random fan here, it’s so refreshing to see someone who’s been thru what you’ve been thru, allowing themselves to find happiness and fill the hole. Incredibly proud of u cam, u got no idea just how proud of u we are!

  • @drgnflylover0774
    @drgnflylover0774 Год назад +10

    You have been through hell & back for only being 22. You deserve nothing but joy & happiness for the rest of your life. I pray you find your forever love & live happily ever after. Your an amazing young woman. Hugs for staying true to you.

  • @baygoesmoo
    @baygoesmoo Год назад +12

    i don't watch you everyday because you're content isnt for me anymore but im still subscribed so i can keep up with you from time to time and im glad you're sharing this idk hope you have a good day

  • @jess.ursulean
    @jess.ursulean Год назад +108

    I CLICKED SO FAST CAM, as a fellow queer i am so excited for u :)) have fun babes! u deserve it can’t wait to finish the video

    • @yamaguchi3440
      @yamaguchi3440 Год назад +4

      ​@@Emma-qq4kono and I am also bi

    • @yamaguchi3440
      @yamaguchi3440 Год назад +3

      ​@@Emma-qq4koit depends on how you use it

    • @RachaelNelson-si3qc
      @RachaelNelson-si3qc Год назад +2

      She is Bi not Queer .

    • @obsessedwithsprinkles
      @obsessedwithsprinkles Год назад

      ​@@RachaelNelson-si3qc being queer just means you aren't straight and/or aren't cis so her being bi means she's not straight therefore is queer

  • @miserablemoonlight
    @miserablemoonlight Год назад +26

    I AM SO HAPPY FOR YOU CAM!!!! You deserve all the love and admiration in the world and I’m so glad that it went well!!! Wishing you the best girly!!!!💕💕💕💕💕💕

  • @city_gorl
    @city_gorl Год назад +7

    I really felt like we were on a facetime call lmao. I also came up with a term for guys going all out on first dates- I refer to it as "peacocking." They try to show all their fancy feathers at once *eye roll*. I very much rely on the organic ways of meeting people and learning about them as well. I hope for the best for you Cam.

  • @Jane_eerie
    @Jane_eerie Год назад +3

    This is my favorite video you've done in a while. I love talking makeup and dress up 😅 and the end was so cute haha

  • @munsonswife4747
    @munsonswife4747 Год назад +10

    I’ve been here for a long long time on your channel and I’m so happy to see you going out, having fun, and growing so much. Happy for you cam

  • @fionakirwan3255
    @fionakirwan3255 Год назад +64

    Happy pride month, Cam. Proud of you 💗

  • @lizziegregory6537
    @lizziegregory6537 9 месяцев назад +3

    Fuck sake this astrology 😂

  • @jaidenschylar2378
    @jaidenschylar2378 8 месяцев назад +2

    I feel like after Landon passed she just didn’t want to go out with men bc Landon was her everything and it’s so sad 😭

  • @sophiaisabelle01
    @sophiaisabelle01 Год назад +13

    This is great to see you going out. Hopefully everything goes well. We wish you and your family the best.

  • @ShortyRayRay17
    @ShortyRayRay17 Год назад +2

    i am going to support you no matter what Cam you are amazing and so pretty inside n out! you are just really truly amazing! You are a good mom to your girls! love you lots!

  • @starryfroot
    @starryfroot Год назад +3

    eeee i was hoping there'd be an update at the end!! i'm so glad it went well, u looked adorable c:

  • @ashleywilson2709
    @ashleywilson2709 Год назад +2

    I recently though I was done with men after being played by the “sweetest”guy and I just realized he was telling me what I wanted to hear to get something from me. I met a guy after that falling apart who just so happens to actually be the sweetest, emotionally available type of guy. Very respectful. Went for drinks on our first date and went back to his place afterwards, and was not pushing anything onto me even though we were tipsy. We emotionally bonded before we became physical with one another. We are now in a relationship. It’s very weird being mentally attracted to someone and not just having that physical aspect of a relationship, or that just being the only aspect of one

  • @mallory.allison
    @mallory.allison Год назад +3

    Been here since the beginning, I'm so happy for you!

  • @Audrey.ella123
    @Audrey.ella123 Год назад +8

    ive watched you for so long. thru everything, I am so unbelievably proud of you. congrats baby!💗

  • @matthewmanges9542
    @matthewmanges9542 Год назад +2

    You deserve to be happy whatever that means you deserve it. You deserve to smile and be genuinely happy

  • @kenneditompkins3609
    @kenneditompkins3609 Год назад +1

    O.M.G. this vlog Is Legit! I love your channel keep up the good work girl Cam your just drop dead gorgeous Collette Is pretty!!! Deliah Is super beautiful!!!!! ILYSM!!!!!!

  • @rubisanchez4568
    @rubisanchez4568 Год назад +3

    Hello im a real big fan and i hooe you know were so proud of you for everything you are doing you have so much support ❤😊

  • @pationcebennett8310
    @pationcebennett8310 Год назад +9

    So sweet! I recently did the same as a single mom. I was so worried, but super excited! Very much worth the nerves

  • @jaderose9784
    @jaderose9784 Год назад +2

    “A lil shawty” “a real girl” lmao

  • @milimartinez1460
    @milimartinez1460 Год назад +11

    I really liked this video. It felt like we were just having a conversation and chilling.

  • @connorframe9221
    @connorframe9221 Год назад +1

    Awwww yay I’m so excited to see this! Good luck Cam you got this 💪

  • @AshleyL1717
    @AshleyL1717 Год назад +6

    Your personality is making me laugh so hard 😂😂😂 I love this side of you

    • @bubba283
      @bubba283 Год назад

      This reminds me of my first boyfriend, after my ex gf and I split, it lasted 20 min, he fell asleep on couch 20 min after I get to his house. I just left. Then I get nervous hes gonna tell everyone about it since were both guys I didn't want anyone knowing about it

  • @SillySigmas69
    @SillySigmas69 Год назад +3

    EARLYY!!💗💗

  • @doslbabe
    @doslbabe Год назад +3

    I’m so excited for you!! ❤

  • @youareworthliving
    @youareworthliving Год назад +4

    My first relationship AND kiss was a girl I was 11 years old I am now 17 I’ll never forget it❤

  • @lex1fy
    @lex1fy Год назад

    i love seeing you feeling urself, ur growing confidence in urself is amazing. if she sees this video she's absolutely falling in love with you

  • @sullivan.the.monster7815
    @sullivan.the.monster7815 Год назад +14

    So proud of how far you’ve come. Keep going love 🤍

  • @sarinagrebler9619
    @sarinagrebler9619 11 месяцев назад +2

    I’m bisexual and I am so accepting of this

  • @xodancerxo312
    @xodancerxo312 Год назад +4

    i feel like we're on facetime hehe this is so fun

  • @christinem9280
    @christinem9280 Год назад +7

    Proud of you Cam!!! You are amazing!!! Love watching you!!

  • @evea.4358
    @evea.4358 Год назад +4

    Why are people in the comments surprised, she has been out since forever 💀💀💀
    Hope the date went well 🏳️‍🌈❤

  • @angelajaziewicz5861
    @angelajaziewicz5861 Год назад +2

    First 🎉 CONGRATS BABY OMG

  • @bentlysdino
    @bentlysdino Год назад +1

    18:31 (i don’t know their pronouns fyi) their laugh right here makes me so happy

  • @gerygery7
    @gerygery7 Год назад +1

    Your outfit was perfect and you were beautiful in it (like always❤). So happy for you that the date went well🥰

  • @erikwallis153
    @erikwallis153 Год назад +1

    Awesome Cam !! You do you and whatever happens you love your girls god bless

  • @maryalicesawesomevids
    @maryalicesawesomevids Год назад +3

    I’m so excited for you ❤

  • @kathyy99
    @kathyy99 Год назад +4

    So proud of how far you've come. Keep going love💕💕💕💕

  • @lulusparrow3054
    @lulusparrow3054 10 месяцев назад +1

    Life update: the last time I watched you was when Delilah was about 2 weeks old so uhm yeah seeing her and Colette now is just.. wow they are so big and adorable now ❤

  • @stfu_mariia
    @stfu_mariia Год назад +10

    IM SO GLAD UR DATE WENT SO WELL!!!!! :))))

  • @BridgeToAlicia
    @BridgeToAlicia Год назад +1

    Cam!!! Your romantic relationship can be all in, over consuming, crazy worldwind romance!!! Find your forever ❤️
    It took me 8 years of searching for the right man I’m married to now ❤️ don’t settle. Choose yourself and your girls first ❤️

  • @HardcoreHaleyyy
    @HardcoreHaleyyy Год назад +2

    I didn’t know Cam was a Pisces too x,D good vibes haha

  • @jackiswack9869
    @jackiswack9869 Год назад +6

    Yay for you!!!! Always be your authentic self so proud of your journey and you’ve really taught me to find myself 💕💕💕

  • @loribillings3810
    @loribillings3810 Год назад +1

    You and the girls should do a song together ❤️ 🎶 Your date outfit looked perfect on you. Nice to see the date went well you deserve it Cam.

  • @CarolinaRodriguez-zs9zm
    @CarolinaRodriguez-zs9zm Год назад

    We loveeee this Cam 🫶🏻🫶🏻

  • @AyeYoTay
    @AyeYoTay Год назад +4

    Im 39 and i would go i a date with a girl but i don't know how i would explain that to my daughter whos 10.. lol

    • @suckywucki1220
      @suckywucki1220 Год назад +4

      Just explain, “ you know how you have crushes on boys at school? Well I have a crush on a girl. It’s the same feeling :)”

    • @ShockResistor
      @ShockResistor Год назад +3

      Nowadays your 10 year probably already knows about different sexualities. Thats a good age to discuss it. It doesnt freak kids out as much. Its normalized for the most part.:)

    • @Annaleigh.L
      @Annaleigh.L Год назад +1

      @@ShockResistor10 year old kids shouldn’t be concerned in the slightest about sexualities!!! They are so young, literally kids!!!

    • @Lilith-cosplay-world
      @Lilith-cosplay-world 11 месяцев назад +2

      @@Annaleigh.L knowing something and being concerned about something are two different things

  • @laybayy
    @laybayy Год назад +1

    GIRL WE STAN YOU BRO ALL HAIL CAM

  • @Madison29600
    @Madison29600 Год назад +6

    Go girl

  • @nenaj1
    @nenaj1 Год назад +7

    Huh? I’m lost. You’re a lesbian now?

  • @HannahStorm-o7v
    @HannahStorm-o7v Год назад

    I love ur energy cam!!!

  • @oliviapinter9478
    @oliviapinter9478 Год назад +1

    No those shorts are so cute! paired with a different shirt though I would say or with a baggy hoodie

  • @inesc39
    @inesc39 Год назад

    LOVED THE VIDEO!! HOPE IT WENT WELL

  • @ilovesunsets234
    @ilovesunsets234 Год назад +2

    good luck cam! ❤️

  • @lucymartin3884
    @lucymartin3884 Год назад +1

    You describe me so well! I’m not a girly girl but also not too masculine and I can never decide what to wear. How dressed is overdressed lmao

  • @mayhem9932
    @mayhem9932 Год назад +2

    Whoever that girl was she was very lucky🤍

  • @IsabelJones69
    @IsabelJones69 Год назад +1

    I thought being gay was only for men and lesbian was only for girls. But now thanks to this video, I know that women can also be gay.

    • @hypernova9363
      @hypernova9363 Год назад +2

      Some women use the term gay to describe their sexuality

    • @cloudedcolour5329
      @cloudedcolour5329 11 месяцев назад +1

      actually shes bi which is both sides

  • @lychee8882
    @lychee8882 Год назад

    i really love watching your videos, i always have. it feels like we're keeping each other company.

  • @jaderose9784
    @jaderose9784 Год назад

    Omg yay! Happy for you 💫

  • @sidneyberjamin394
    @sidneyberjamin394 Год назад +1

    awww its so cute how ur so happy

  • @miagusho3398
    @miagusho3398 Год назад +3

    1:51 HELLO?! 😭

  • @aprilkearby6963
    @aprilkearby6963 Год назад +2

    I hope you have fun on your date 😊Cam 😉😉🙂

  • @carrieannemichelle3195
    @carrieannemichelle3195 Год назад

    I enjoyed the video.. your outfit was really cute. I also get nervous on first dates.

  • @kenneditompkins3609
    @kenneditompkins3609 Год назад +1

    You should reunite with Yasmyn Switzer again that would be Lit!!!!!

  • @erinm1373
    @erinm1373 Год назад +4

    SLAYY i’m so happy for u i’ve watched u since before i knew either one of us was queer and it’s so validating to see someone on a similar timeline to me, and it’s nice to see someone that i used to watch ending up being representation for the community :D

  • @sofiarodriguez6434
    @sofiarodriguez6434 Год назад +2

    1st pls pin also love your vids❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ your so beautiful ❤

  • @Iyonna_Lewis_
    @Iyonna_Lewis_ Год назад +6

    I’m so happy for you!!! I hope everything goes well. ♥️♥️

  • @kathywithak7529
    @kathywithak7529 Год назад +16

    Sweetheart, don’t make your sexuality your identity. You are much much more than who you are attracted to.

    • @suckywucki1220
      @suckywucki1220 Год назад +4

      She’s literally not

    • @kj6053
      @kj6053 Год назад +7

      If the title was “my first date with a boy” you wouldn’t have commented this.

    • @June-rb1nx
      @June-rb1nx Год назад +2

      Could this be part of the reason for Landon’s death? Perhaps things came out he couldn’t deal with.

    • @suckywucki1220
      @suckywucki1220 Год назад +4

      @@June-rb1nx are you saying he off himself because she’s bisexual? You’re sick. She’s always been bisexual. even before she met him. He always knew

    • @jodoodlyboi2963
      @jodoodlyboi2963 Год назад +1

      ​@@June-rb1nx he literally always new and never cared 💀 get a life

  • @laurenracey3199
    @laurenracey3199 Год назад +1

    The Jean jacket was giving mechanic

  • @youareworthliving
    @youareworthliving Год назад

    Cam you’re so beautiful cute smart brave and your personality is adorable

  • @tammiRue02
    @tammiRue02 Год назад

    Wild to me how many people in comments are just so unaware that bi/pansexual people exist.
    The biphobia is real and its so weird that so many people think she “switched” bc she’s bored … like no, you can like both genders and date both genders.

  • @kaitlynroyc3977
    @kaitlynroyc3977 Год назад +2

    Congratulations 🎊 ❤

  • @stalkercat9044
    @stalkercat9044 Год назад +4

    I’m so proud of you and I’m so glad you’ve healed. But as one of your OG followers, I just can’t see someone else with you other than Landon. I know sit been almost 3 years at this point. But it’s so hard seeing you married vlogging, easing your amazing children. Then doing it all alone without him. But have fun stay safe. ❤

    • @kkaassiiaaa
      @kkaassiiaaa Год назад +1

      you realise he was ab*sive

    • @stalkercat9044
      @stalkercat9044 Год назад +1

      @@kkaassiiaaa what!

    • @RachaelNelson-si3qc
      @RachaelNelson-si3qc Год назад +2

      @@stalkercat9044
      Cam says L was Abusive
      But saying nothing until after
      He took his own life

    • @stalkercat9044
      @stalkercat9044 Год назад +1

      @@RachaelNelson-si3qc wow! It’s still so hard to believe he’s gone though. I’d imagine it had a lot to do with his issues though I couldn’t ever imagine him hurting her just because. He needed a lot of help. He was struggling. Taking his own life though to silence his inner demons in order to protect the people he loved the most.

  • @IntrovertedLoLo
    @IntrovertedLoLo Год назад +1

    How do single moms find dates. I have no kids and can’t get a date

  • @lt4865
    @lt4865 Год назад

    Random comment, but its also about the perfume / cologne too lol. Fr tho, get a nice mens cologne that isnt too "manly" but when you smell it it makes you think SEXY. And im not talking about like a woodsy mens cologne, idk its hard to explain. But if you were to wear an amazing smelling mens cologne with even a somewhat girly outfit and your makeup, it might make you feel leveled out and feel like the YOU that you are describing!

  • @artist2527
    @artist2527 Год назад +2

    I never clicked so fast! HAHA

  • @Pinkypatootieuwu
    @Pinkypatootieuwu Год назад +1

    Happy pride month 🌈🏳️‍🌈🦄

  • @abbeywright8876
    @abbeywright8876 Год назад +1

    Omg super happy 4 u

  • @melissacain9221
    @melissacain9221 Год назад +4

    I have nothing wrong with you being gay. But I don’t understand why you come out at a young age but end up with you late husband if you are into women?

    • @suckywucki1220
      @suckywucki1220 Год назад +3

      She’s bisexual

    • @dearleah7299
      @dearleah7299 Год назад +1

      Exactly, you don’t understand. It’s simple but obviously you’re just ignorant or too young to get it.

    • @Samantha-rt5nz
      @Samantha-rt5nz Год назад +5

      sexuality isnt that simple. shes said that when she was younger she identified as bisexual. im not sure how she identifies now and that is her business and completely up to her to share or not, but since u mentioned her being with a guy before a lot of lesbians (like all of them) usually deal with comphet or internalized lesbophobia due to heteronormativity and whatnot so its not uncommon for lesbians to have been with men at some point before realizing theyre lesbian. again not saying cam is and this isnt me speculating just trying to explain if youre open to understand since you said you dont.

    • @AndrewCamb
      @AndrewCamb 6 месяцев назад

      ​@@suckywucki1220You're everywhere freak

  • @jah0514
    @jah0514 Год назад +6

    Sad you moved on so fast. Your kids are going to be so confused

    • @suckywucki1220
      @suckywucki1220 Год назад +4

      No they won’t. It’s the same as her dating a man. It’s just love. It’s healthy for her to move on!

    • @cloudedcolour5329
      @cloudedcolour5329 11 месяцев назад +1

      its been 3 yrs, thats not that fast and its also her choice and not anyone elses

    • @JUNKAI_KETCHUP
      @JUNKAI_KETCHUP 10 месяцев назад

      Yea-

    • @AndrewCamb
      @AndrewCamb 6 месяцев назад

      ​@@suckywucki1220keep believing that 🤭

  • @summer_the_rae
    @summer_the_rae Год назад +1

    “i hate it say it, but a capricorn”
    me, a capricorn: 👀

  • @mandy2829
    @mandy2829 Год назад +1

    Love the outfit♡ Have fun!

  • @autiegirlemma6061
    @autiegirlemma6061 Год назад

    Dating apps can be pretty awkward especially if you are new to it or if you get what i did which was lots of pervs and incels or bitches. Thankfully i met my now partner almost 1 year ago via Tami and they're incredible ❤ hope everything goes good for you cam 🏳️‍🌈

  • @abbymorgan126
    @abbymorgan126 Год назад +1

    Fun fact I matched your sister on bumble the friends edition a few years ago but I never started a conversation. i live outside of Austin lol

    • @abbymorgan126
      @abbymorgan126 Год назад

      It didn’t give me the option to send anything 😑

    • @RachaelNelson-si3qc
      @RachaelNelson-si3qc Год назад

      Not telling she has kids
      Bad idea u are a liar day 1 then
      Seems to me she wants Gay now
      To avoid having more kids .

    • @abbymorgan126
      @abbymorgan126 Год назад

      @@RachaelNelson-si3qc fuck out my comment section

    • @hypernova9363
      @hypernova9363 Год назад +1

      @@RachaelNelson-si3qcshe’s literally been out forever

  • @jadeydoodle
    @jadeydoodle Год назад +1

    SLAY

  • @sparklejumpropeslutt
    @sparklejumpropeslutt Год назад +1

    i feel like im on ft with a frind HAHSHHS

  • @jakaymallory4491
    @jakaymallory4491 Год назад +2

    So proud of you. You got this.

  • @Goldflower220
    @Goldflower220 Год назад +1

    wait this is unrelated im confused, how do you tell a is a girl asking you out by getting your number or they want to be friends?

  • @erinkelly1234
    @erinkelly1234 Год назад

    keep breathing cam you got this

  • @hannahsexton3312
    @hannahsexton3312 Год назад +7

    okay genuine question..how do you date/marry a guy and then just turn gay..

    • @edithsuarez4820
      @edithsuarez4820 Год назад +1

      🤔 I was thinking the same, maybe is bisexual.

    • @cinnamongirl9314
      @cinnamongirl9314 Год назад +5

      she’s bi

    • @suckywucki1220
      @suckywucki1220 Год назад +3

      SHES BISEXUAL!! Also people who come out as gay after marriage is mostly because they were closeted or realized

    • @Annaleigh.L
      @Annaleigh.L Год назад

      Idk, I see a common factor among people that claim to be gay and that is past trauma either dealing with their parents or somewhere along those lines and it seems like they look for “love” anywhere they can… it’s kinda sad. She has been through so much and continues to struggle and I feel so bad for her. 😔

    • @suckywucki1220
      @suckywucki1220 Год назад +1

      @@Annaleigh.L that rarely happens. I’m gay yet I’ve never had any trauma

  • @anettnajera6876
    @anettnajera6876 Год назад +3

    Hi cam u look so Beautiful

  • @quincerodriguez8044
    @quincerodriguez8044 Год назад +4

    Hello Cam&Fam I have a crush on you and I am new here

  • @Gracie23415
    @Gracie23415 Год назад +2

    ❤❤❤❤

  • @мин-г4х
    @мин-г4х Месяц назад

    I'm back after 3 years, I'm confused what happened to her ???