My Advice for Aspiring Homemakers || Tips for Future Housewives/Homemakers

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  • Опубликовано: 7 ноя 2024

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  • @caroliniert
    @caroliniert 4 года назад +1444

    I think C. S. Lewis said it very well: "The homemaker has the ultimate career. All others careers exist for one purpose only - and that is to support the ultimate career."

    • @5674Kc
      @5674Kc 4 года назад +32

      That is so coil. Lewis was an incredible man of God.

    • @5674Kc
      @5674Kc 4 года назад +4

      *Cool lol

    • @lilypenelope2353
      @lilypenelope2353 4 года назад +4

      I love C. S Lewis.

    • @louise5941
      @louise5941 4 года назад +18

      I love C S Lewis. We need a modern day CS Lewis to talk some sense to our society 🙂😃💓🙏

    • @arlet101
      @arlet101 4 года назад +3

      Wow beautiful 🥰

  • @teri2657
    @teri2657 4 года назад +1158

    I was a housewife when I first got married and after much time of being pressured and judged by family members I tried to be a woman in the work force...I fell into such a deep depression. For almost 2 years I hardly had anytime for my home or self care, my marriage was strained because of stress. It wasn’t for me. When I became a housewife again I felt so incredibly blessed, I never take it for granted! Love your channel and message! I hope we have many more years of your content🥰🥰

    • @MrsMidwest
      @MrsMidwest  4 года назад +78

      I’m so happy for you! It definitely is one of the biggest privileges and blessings I’ve had in life. !!

    • @iniutek9492
      @iniutek9492 4 года назад +23

      If you can afford to avoid stress and be happy at home you are very blessed :D Good for you Girl!

    • @Bella-mq4xv
      @Bella-mq4xv 4 года назад +10

      QUEEN 👑 DO WHAT YOU WANNA DO 😄

    • @iniutek9492
      @iniutek9492 4 года назад +4

      @Harshit Kapoor Now I'm looking for a job. It's not easy but still I'm happy :) I do small side jobs. My wedding was small (4 people including us haha).

    • @rebeccabourbon2830
      @rebeccabourbon2830 4 года назад +18

      Same here!! I finally admitted to myself that going to a job wasn’t for me. I’ve always wanted to be a housewife, and now I have a wayyyy less stressful life. :)

  • @rachelxcabrera
    @rachelxcabrera 4 года назад +1142

    Any other teens that desire this sort of lifestyle? I often feel alone in my generation, I'm pretty sure that not many traditional guys my age exist :(

    • @MrsMidwest
      @MrsMidwest  4 года назад +377

      I’ve noticed that men seem to become more traditional as they age and look towards having a wife, not just a girlfriend. All you need is one man! ;)

    • @Theprincessinyellow
      @Theprincessinyellow 4 года назад +90

      @@MrsMidwest that’s what has carried me through! @Rachel Cabrera Do not settle for less than you want in a man and a life long relationship because you only need one. My current boyfriend is absolutely everything I could ask for in a traditional man and he is only 23, they are out there and it takes some patience but you are worth it

    • @sashenkadumerve3017
      @sashenkadumerve3017 4 года назад +38

      @@Theprincessinyellow yes❤️ I love this! I WILL become a housewife

    • @sashenkadumerve3017
      @sashenkadumerve3017 4 года назад +58

      I am a GenZ Trad❤️❤️

    • @hana2o
      @hana2o 4 года назад +107

      You are not alone, I’m not a teen, I’m 22 but I really desire to find a traditional husband who would love for me to stay at home. A lot of my friends don’t have this desire and a lot of my peers too. So I understand the feeling so deeply of feeling like an outsider and almost as if it’s taboo. This shouldn’t be taboo. It’s sad the stigma that comes with being a stay at home wife/mum. I pray all those looking for a traditional husband find them in good time

  • @wearmag
    @wearmag 4 года назад +568

    I'm a single mother with a toddler, zero debt and I have a 6-figure salary. I want to be a stay at home wife/mom, but so many people tell me I cannot because I have a child. I'm great at budgeting and saving, I pray that God will allow me to have a great husband thats ok with me being at home.

    • @sashenkadumerve3017
      @sashenkadumerve3017 4 года назад +30

      God bless you for taking care of your Child❤️

    • @joettaxoxo
      @joettaxoxo 4 года назад +18

      You sound like a catch good luck on your dreams Tiffany! You can do it 🙌🏾💞

    • @HeyGal4041
      @HeyGal4041 4 года назад +49

      When I met my husband I was a single mom. And now we are expecting our 3rd child together and I’m becoming a stay at home mama. Don’t believe the lie you can’t find someone because you already have a child. There are so many men who respect single moms and motherhood and you’ll find someone who will love you and your child and have the same values as you❤️

    • @candyxoxo19
      @candyxoxo19 4 года назад +13

      Good work. Don't settle! I find men wanting to have a traditional values but no 💵

    • @louise5941
      @louise5941 4 года назад +3

      God bless you 💓🙏

  • @kozykasmr
    @kozykasmr 4 года назад +413

    New housewife here!! 🙋🏽‍♀️I’m so happy i have a big sister like you to help guide me on this journey, every woman in my family is that “strong independent black woman who don’t need no man” type and it’s so refreshing to hear you speak for us!!!💕😊

    • @dreamyanon5151
      @dreamyanon5151 4 года назад +28

      You should also watch channel called Chloe , she talks about that in depth (even if you don't want hypergamy exactly)

    • @MrsMidwest
      @MrsMidwest  4 года назад +53

      Oooo congratulations on achieving your dreams!! Proud of you for following your heart and going against the norm 🥰

    • @erinsymone1645
      @erinsymone1645 4 года назад +51

      Don't fall for that tired old stereotype about black women. The media's main mission seems to be to lie about us, don't let it get you too.

    • @dreamyanon5151
      @dreamyanon5151 4 года назад +8

      @@erinsymone1645 exactly

    • @ginalienn1112
      @ginalienn1112 4 года назад +6

      @@dreamyanon5151 I love Chloe ❤️

  • @mercedeswifelife6408
    @mercedeswifelife6408 4 года назад +160

    "It doesn't matter what your Mother in law thinks. If you, your husband and the Lord are on the same page, BLESSINGS TO YOU." Wow shed a lil tear at that moment

  • @preservid
    @preservid 4 года назад +180

    Coming from A women who became a Housewife/homemaker in the late 70s, I can tell you that all my friends were putting off having babies. They wanted the career and The big house. Making the choice to stay at home with Our children meant we delayed the second car and the purchase of our first home. 40 years later I hear from old friends that they were actually envious of me all those years ago! Nice to hear

    • @Vdekort11
      @Vdekort11 Год назад

      How old were you when you had kids if u don’t mind me asking?

    • @preservid
      @preservid Год назад +2

      @@Vdekort11 No Problem. Lol I had my first at 21, second at 24 and then my third at 26

  • @erikamargurite6292
    @erikamargurite6292 4 года назад +150

    I never knew I wanted to be a Homemaker, I grew up career-driven, and then I got sick. I had to leave my career and focus on battling cancer. I have been cancer-free for 9 months and me and my partner have decided that me being a homemaker is important for our lives to go smoothly. yes, I truly enjoy it. I love being at home. I can provide a much healthier lifestyle than we could have if we were both working our careers.

    • @melissahunt5074
      @melissahunt5074 3 года назад +6

      Congrats on your hard fight. My father had cancer this year and was able to win his battle too. I’m so happy for you and your family and I hope everything goes well from here on out.

    • @sunshinedayz7032
      @sunshinedayz7032 2 года назад +1

      Happy for you! Sorry you had to battle cancer! What a blessing to be cancer free!

  • @ilariaf.7421
    @ilariaf.7421 4 года назад +563

    Homemaking and becoming a mother is my calling..I "just" need to find a traditional man to marry 😂🤪
    Edit: thanks for all of the likes! Girls we ALL deserve a nice, traditional husband! I will pray for all of you ❤

    • @Mom_of_the_Chickies
      @Mom_of_the_Chickies 4 года назад +51

      Same 😢 and I keep seeing women marry men who are willing to let them be stay at home wives but the wives are too liberal for that

    • @HaleyMary
      @HaleyMary 4 года назад +25

      Same! While I love being a performing artist and going to open mics and pursuing that dream, I know that can't pay the bills long term and I would love to meet a traditional man who wants more than a hook up. I would love to meet a man who wants to marry and have kids. It's really difficult to meet traditional men.

    • @janeismymiddlename
      @janeismymiddlename 4 года назад +8

      Same, girl. Same 😆

    • @leticiaviegas6740
      @leticiaviegas6740 4 года назад +10

      Me too 😂 , waiting for a miracle 🙌

    • @britannybrumley3275
      @britannybrumley3275 4 года назад +5

      Same girl!!! Lol here's to praying for us both!! ❤

  • @karahjo231
    @karahjo231 4 года назад +72

    My fiancé and I are so much happier now that I stay home and I am making the house a HOME! He is so happy to come home from work to me and our home. I am so much happier being able to slow down and care for my home, my man and myself. I NEVER want to go back to regular work, I am working from home and I am way more happy. I am an artist, an expecting mother, a future wife, and an amazing homemaker, this is definitely the happiest I've ever been.🥰

  • @LauraP1324
    @LauraP1324 4 года назад +624

    My husband’s subordinates are always jealous of his lunches - homemade bread, slow cooked stews, baked treats. We’ve converted several of them over the years to have their wives stay home after the baby is born. The power of a good brownie is real! 😂😂

    • @MrsMidwest
      @MrsMidwest  4 года назад +134

      LOL! Yes!! Every time one of my husband’s friend’s wives becomes a homemaker or a stay at home mom, we celebrate. It can be such a relief for mama, child, AND hubby! :)

    • @LauraP1324
      @LauraP1324 4 года назад +67

      Hahaha Yes!!!! It’s so rarely discussed what a relief it is for the man to have his wife at home focused on keeping the ship steady and directed. He can focus only on work at work!

    • @stephanieandersen462
      @stephanieandersen462 4 года назад +5

      Yay! I love this comment so much!!!

    • @candyxoxo19
      @candyxoxo19 4 года назад +11

      Great work. Generational blessings will result. I am a single person but I support homemakers and grateful I can find more jobs and married men can find jobs with less wives working.

    • @dawnforlife
      @dawnforlife 4 года назад +3

      ahhaah love this!

  • @WeShareTheSameAffliction
    @WeShareTheSameAffliction 4 года назад +630

    Traditional masculine men are such a blessing! ❤

  • @shilohmorris5527
    @shilohmorris5527 4 года назад +99

    I feel really privileged to be a homemaker as well. I've met so many moms recently who say "I wish I could stay home" and I feel sad for them. I get to be in my cozy house all day (or leave if I choose) and raise my children (instead of sending them to daycare and missing them all day).

    • @shilohmorris5527
      @shilohmorris5527 4 года назад +1

      @@tammyvibes87 already saw that video. Its reaching

  • @NewEnglandBotanicals
    @NewEnglandBotanicals 4 года назад +200

    I was home for 7 years when my children were young and then worked full time as a teacher for 16 years. All I ever wanted to be was at home. I walked away from my job because of the pandemic and now only work 8 hours a week at a shop. It feels so good to be where I am most content and it has been wonderful to have a husband that supports homemaking💗 Thank you for your wise words and encouragement!

    • @MrsMidwest
      @MrsMidwest  4 года назад +11

      Congratulations Leslie! That must be such a relief after a long time away from homemaking. I am so pleased for you. I truly feel that homemakers and mothers like yourself are such a wise and helpful beacon in our community! :)

    • @bluemoon7561
      @bluemoon7561 4 года назад +7

      Leslie I also walked away from my job - the pandemic offered me the opportunity to leave my work where I was terribly unhappy. I had never considered homemaking before, but the last six months have led me down a path to a life I never knew was possible. I feel so blessed to spend my time taking care of my home. I'm happy to know that I am not the only one who has experienced something life-changing and positive from this situation!

  • @Goat.Cheese
    @Goat.Cheese 4 года назад +285

    I have no intention of ever being a homemaker or a mother, but I 100% respect other womens' choice to pursue a traditional life. I am a real feminist, and that means that women can make their own choices!

    • @margaretforsey7763
      @margaretforsey7763 4 года назад +23

      Totally agree! I view feminism the same way. Nice to find a kindred spirit here. 🙂

    • @bythebleezy2537
      @bythebleezy2537 3 года назад +18

      I used to hate homemakers in the name of feminism-that in itself is another form for of internalized misogyny. At the time i didn’t realize that. Now being 29, finally letting go of all that hate that stemmed from nowhere. Is such a good feeling. If a woman wants to only be a homemaker and mother, i support that and dont think its an unfulfilled existence.

    • @subscribee9792
      @subscribee9792 3 года назад +8

      Yay!!! Finally a REAL feminist.

    • @pebbie4762
      @pebbie4762 3 года назад +1

      Yes yes yes

    • @fitandfeminineover502
      @fitandfeminineover502 3 года назад +2

      Well said!

  • @BunsBooks
    @BunsBooks 4 года назад +92

    My goal is to live in a simple European cottage with a garden and work part time from home, tutoring/teaching online, with 2-4 kids. My background is in psychology and I eventually want to achieve a PhD and have my own practice when my future kids are grown. I’ve had to overcome this fear of not being “young and successful” that I’ve developed from comparing myself to my colleagues. I’ve realized I’d be happier spending my younger years at home enjoying family and living a healthy lifestyle so that I can eventually go back to school and become a cool successful grandma 😎

    • @boammaaruri8489
      @boammaaruri8489 2 года назад +1

      This 🥺🤞🏾.. i literally have a similar goal .. i have it saved as a note in my phone .

    • @marinavasquez8813
      @marinavasquez8813 2 года назад

      Agree

  • @sererainbow8143
    @sererainbow8143 4 года назад +210

    When people are happy with their own lives they do not pick on other people.

    • @chandaelizabeth3046
      @chandaelizabeth3046 4 года назад +5

      AMEN!!

    • @ceciliaramos2280
      @ceciliaramos2280 4 года назад

      She’s saying what she does in her life. Why are you here?

    • @ennuiblue4295
      @ennuiblue4295 4 года назад +7

      @@ceciliaramos2280 aren't they agreeing with her tho?

    • @eso4286
      @eso4286 3 года назад +1

      But she picks on feminists?

  • @annadaniels5129
    @annadaniels5129 4 года назад +151

    YES!! I love this video. I totally agree that women should be able to choose which lifestyle they want to live. YOU are one of the strong, wonderful, wise, intelligent woman. I look up to you so much.

    • @MrsMidwest
      @MrsMidwest  4 года назад +19

      That is so sweet. And you are bringing up one of my favorite points: you can totally homemake even while you do other things in life! While you’re still in the family home, or while you have a career. We can all incorporate it! :)

  • @Abigail-ib1nm
    @Abigail-ib1nm 4 года назад +147

    So excited to watch this!!! Im a senior in highschool, and i have to create a 10-year plan for life skills, and I plan on being a housewife :)

    • @MrsMidwest
      @MrsMidwest  4 года назад +22

      How exciting!!! 😍😍😍

    • @sarahb5853
      @sarahb5853 4 года назад +12

      Glad to know I'm not the only one, though I'm a junior 😄

    • @sheaannakulus
      @sheaannakulus 4 года назад +16

      I'm a senior too! Exciting to see women my age preparing for the same dream! 😊

    • @sarahb5853
      @sarahb5853 4 года назад +6

      @@sheaannakulus yeah :) I've never met anyone in real life who can relate to what I want. It's nice to know I'm not alone.

    • @Abigail-ib1nm
      @Abigail-ib1nm 4 года назад +2

      @@sheaannakulus Yes, so exciting !! And like Sarah said, its good to know we're not alone. :) Im just so blown away by the fact that by fully pursuing God everything will work out. (Ps. 37:4, phil. 2:13.) Such a dream.

  • @Chryslerdealership
    @Chryslerdealership 4 года назад +177

    I laughed out loud when you said’ “Are you comfortable in your cubicle?”until I realized that I was in my English class and everyone heard that 😂

  • @JiovanaSamadhi
    @JiovanaSamadhi 4 года назад +38

    I served in the military, I have a degree, I worked until I hit pregnant with my first daughter, we traveled the world and we are back in US and I CHOSE to stay home, have a mother baby and now homeschool, if your budget allows and it’s your dream to be a mom no one else can tell you it’s wrong. I’ve wanted to have a home and a family since I was 4 years old. Everyone’s dreams are different and that’s the beauty of life 🧡

  • @TheNinjaInConverse
    @TheNinjaInConverse 3 года назад +61

    Honestly, homemaking doesn't mean staying home. How many aspects of society fall apart because society can't afford to employ someone for the work. Even if you are only stay at home part time, so many important jobs aren't full time work and can't support a household. Working as a part time librarian, or volunteering in local schools with your kids and other kids, or helping organize a food bank or teaching English as a second language at a local community center are _so important_ for a community, and in many ways can be best done by somebody who doesn't have to "bring home the bacon."
    *Stay at Home* is community building.

  • @preppiandaesthetic
    @preppiandaesthetic 4 года назад +91

    Any other moms out there raising good boys who value traditional femininity and will be fantastic providers, husbands, and fathers for their own family one day?? Let's make some more traditional men, ladies! 😄 The hand that rocks the cradle rules the world. Raising my children right 🙌.

    • @karek4635
      @karek4635 3 года назад +6

      I am raising my kids in a traditional home with traditional values.

  • @kellyv7701
    @kellyv7701 Год назад +3

    Thank you so much for this video. I have been a stay at home mom/homemaker for 13 years already. When all my kids entered school, I went through a crisis because it's only okay to be home when they're 5 and under, right? I quit grad school to be home with my daughter because it was the right thing for me...2 more kids later and I'm positive that being home and available to them is 100% the only way I want to live. Homemaking has always suited me since I was very young. It's difficult to find women/people who are like me and so this year I turned to RUclips and have found women who are gracious enough to share this content for people who like me who have no close examples. So I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for putting up with the pushback and negativity of some people because having these channels with like minded women lifts me up and reminds me that I'm not alone or lesser than for just following the homemaking profession that I've always been suited for.

  • @sofiaqueiroga599
    @sofiaqueiroga599 3 года назад +27

    I uses to be ashamed of my dream, especially around other girls my age and distant relatives. Thanks to people like you I'm not anymore!

  • @birdman9265
    @birdman9265 4 года назад +28

    Mrs. Midwest has the best pregnancy glow! I love that you talk about tips for housewives. I love being a housewife! It is such a dream. You are right, forcing women into the workforce or into the home or to do anything is so wrong. We need to let women do what makes them happy!

  • @countrygirlxo7188
    @countrygirlxo7188 2 года назад +8

    I don’t know anyone who is a homemaker but myself. And I’m constantly shamed and judged by other WOMEN for being “lazy.” Never once have I been shamed by a man for choosing to be a homemaker.

  • @Rebecca-ck3qq
    @Rebecca-ck3qq 4 года назад +15

    Thanks for your advice Caitlin. I recently broke up with my boyfriend because we could not reconcile: I wanted to have a traditional relationship, and he did not. I felt like I was too open about my beliefs and wants, but your video made me realize that it was good this was put out into the open: we just didn't want the same things. I was really sad that we broke up, but good that I found that out before I invested more into the relationship. Hopefully I can find a special man that wants the same things as me someday. I would love to have a slow life and a traditional marriage.
    Thank you for being the voice of women who feel this way! It's very refreshing. Sending you much love from Canada.

  • @ShariKaye
    @ShariKaye 4 года назад +20

    “Do you get lonely in your cubicle” lol 😆. Love how you stated that most of us will not be marrying millionaires. I think this tone in the femininity community is jaded. It’s true, most will marry average income men and there is nothing wrong with that. It can work. I knew I didn’t want to continue working outside of the home so I made sure to keep our family finances at my husbands income. This way my departure from the workforce would not be a financial blow to my family. I left my six figure career in March and can’t even begin to describe the freedom and joy I feel. I still “work”, but I now work for myself (and family) doing projects that light me up.

  • @robinsonhomestead4745
    @robinsonhomestead4745 4 года назад +71

    When I first decided to be mostly a homemaker I felt kinda guilty for my partner making all the income. Since then I started working from home so I can bring in a little income (although not nearly as much as him) and it has helped put my mind at ease a bit. I am first and foremost a homemaker and I absolutely love that it helps me keep more traditional values. For instance I make everything from scratch when I cook and feel so accomplished when I'm done and feel great knowing I don't put unnecessary chemicals and preservatives into our bodies. I even make my own bread. I don't have kids yet but if and when I do I know that they will greatly benefit from someone who has time to prepare healthy fresh meals from scratch. There are certain things that women who work all day can't or find it very hard to do and I wish people talked as much about that as they do about women being degraded because they want to stay home.

    • @jasminemariedarling
      @jasminemariedarling 4 года назад +7

      Yes it's unfortunate that in today's age, with inflation, a lot of the time 2 incomes are necessary! Plus I think the man has to be 100% on board with wanting to support a housewife/kids. My husband would totally be a house husband if he could, so it's not fair to him for me to make no income 🤣... I'm rambling, just saying I hear what you're saying. If I could start over, I might have looked harder for a man who really wanted a housewife.

    • @dawnforlife
      @dawnforlife 4 года назад +4

      Wow! I can already see you as a great mom! I'm aspiring to make more from scratch :) And yes, so little credit given to home makers!

    • @robinsonhomestead4745
      @robinsonhomestead4745 4 года назад

      @@dawnforlife thank you 💕. I hope and pray I am

    • @fiestyfox2207
      @fiestyfox2207 4 года назад

      @@jasminemariedarling in california it's so incredibly inflated.. my husband works 2 $15 an hour jobs and it's still not enough to survive 😖

    • @LavenderSage7
      @LavenderSage7 3 года назад +1

      Yes ♡

  • @andreavasquez6650
    @andreavasquez6650 4 года назад +18

    There are more traditional guys out there than you might think, sometimes they need you to start the conversation.
    My first time dating an American man who is now my husband, I felt the need to start the conversation to say that if we married, I wanted to focus on homemaking once having children. Let me tell you, he was so relieved I brought it up, it allowed him to be comfortable in his traditional masculinity that he was afraid to express to former girlfriends from being mocked.

  • @monica195
    @monica195 4 года назад +160

    Me: applying to a naval school, and planning to major in civil engineering, hoping to double major and get involved in law or politics.
    Also me: I wanna be a trophy, stay at home wife. Be a traditional woman and provide for my husband and kids. While having tea parties and wearing gowns everyday.
    Oh, to find balance.

    • @MrsMidwest
      @MrsMidwest  4 года назад +93

      Lol!!!! So many people struggle with this. How privileged are we that life offers so many different opportunities!? The answers will come in time. Sending you love. :)

    • @monica195
      @monica195 4 года назад +23

      @@MrsMidwest wow, your reply made my whole week! It truly is a privilege to be able to have options and opportunities to find one's path. I definitely know I want to be a traditonal and feminine woman. And you have helped me so much in that Thank you! Thank you Caitlin, sending love to you and your family♡

    • @einom1236
      @einom1236 4 года назад +1

      I got an international relations masters degree from a prestigious university (while already married), then went on at getting an internship at a diplomatic institution. Did random jobs here and there and became a housewife after my first child was born, now pregnant with the second. To me it makes much more sense putting my energy into my family. Benefitting my children is also way more rewarding than working for a pervy boss who borderline sexually harasses you. BUT it is mentally taxing because my environment is largely women in the workforce, so you're stuck constantly defending your life choices. It's nice to therefore have this youtube community :) (sorry for my English, not a native speaker)

    • @monica195
      @monica195 4 года назад +1

      @@MsBella-qb9gc definitely time will only tell! Congratulations btw, you're doing amazing things prelaw and diplomacy? You're my dream to be, lol. Wishing you the best!

    • @monica195
      @monica195 4 года назад +1

      @@einom1236 you're a whole super woman, I don't think i could find the energy or create the skills to do half of what you do! Thank you for the advice. It sucks as woman we still have to constantly prove or capabilities! Congratulations on all your accomplishments and ofc your baby, i hope your pregnancy and birth go very well! Wishing you the best in this never ending train of family and personal goals! (BTW your English is amazing, dont apologize for it!)

  • @elizabethnoice9449
    @elizabethnoice9449 4 года назад +39

    Caitlin, you are positively glowing! Thank you for continuing to put out content during this pregnancy and continuing to share your life with us! ❤️

  • @kozykasmr
    @kozykasmr 4 года назад +169

    “Do you ever get lonely in your cubicle??”😂😂😂

  • @Meskel_Academy
    @Meskel_Academy 2 года назад +23

    Time 18:38 - Our purpose as homemakers
    Time 18:53 - Homemaking Skills
    Time 19:14 - Motherly Skills
    Time 19:25 - What you can do now

  • @inezketchup
    @inezketchup 4 года назад +33

    In the middle to middle-lower class, it's no longer possible for women to choose not to work, the two salaries are necessary. That's the issue we're dealing with. My dream is to be a housewife but it's just not financially possible.

    • @cjay233
      @cjay233 4 года назад +1

      @@Lorilores What does that mean please? Thanks

    • @stayathomemarine
      @stayathomemarine 4 года назад +3

      I'm not sure I agree with you there. If two incomes are needed today there would be no stay at home moms.. I stay at home and many of my friends stay at home

    • @inezketchup
      @inezketchup 4 года назад +7

      @@stayathomemarine it could be your partners salary or you live in a place where cost of living is fairly cheap. My particular situation and most people I know is that both have to work to maintain a comfortable lifestyle and be able to save a bit

    • @AnnaAnna-st2je
      @AnnaAnna-st2je 4 года назад +6

      Yeah Bit it also Depends. I feel like a lot of people think they Need More money than they actually Need. When i Look at my Friends i See so many who Need over 3000€ a month so they can buy extensive Clothes and eat in fancy Restaurants.

    • @satoshinakamoto7253
      @satoshinakamoto7253 3 года назад +1

      You really don’t need that much ,

  • @iniutek9492
    @iniutek9492 4 года назад +56

    I've just got married and people say that nothing changes after wedding but I feel different

    • @sashenkadumerve3017
      @sashenkadumerve3017 4 года назад +3

      Yesss ❤️❤️

    • @iniutek9492
      @iniutek9492 4 года назад +3

      @@gracewaterlilly8023 It will come for you too :) I wish you generous and loving husband.

    • @iniutek9492
      @iniutek9492 4 года назад +1

      @@gracewaterlilly8023 That's great. Nice to know we have such loving men in the world. I'm 27 :) When you know he is the one, trust yourself ^^ To find love is great blessing.

    • @iniutek9492
      @iniutek9492 4 года назад

      @@Dasher49225 Thank you! :D

  • @bananapancakes311
    @bananapancakes311 4 года назад +14

    What a great video Caitlyn! I naturally fell into becoming a homemaker this year when my Mother passed away and I took some time off; and then my work place limited shifts, so I'm working even below part time now...my man doesn't mind at all and we're making it work. It feels so natural to both of us, and he says almost everyday how much he appreciates how I cook and run our home! I've been at home now for 10 months and we're both loving it. Like you said however, family members have very strong opinions. I get those questions of, "what do you do all day" and I'm always so shocked in the moment because these questions are accompanied with a rude tone. I don't know if it's because I'm 25 and they think I should be climbing up the ranks - but they definitely think I'm lazy. And I feel so bad for them, that they feel that way. Because my man and I don't have a problem with our lifestyle at all. Anyways, I really appreciated this video! The comments here are so comforting, and it makes me feel confident in my decision to stay at home

  • @jessicakoch8018
    @jessicakoch8018 4 года назад +25

    I became a stay at home mom since the pandemic and it’s such a blessing. I hated having to get my kids up at 5 am and take them to a daycare.

  • @OutfitRepeater
    @OutfitRepeater 4 года назад +20

    Left my job in social work in May after being burnt out for over a year. I’m literally never bored at home though, and I get to see my family and hubby so much more

  • @madisonforquer6037
    @madisonforquer6037 4 года назад +10

    For 2 years, I hid who I was and my traditional beliefs from my progressive boyfriend. After we broke up, I was honestly far more relieved than heartbroken just from the sheer pressure of feeling like I had to put on a mask and aspire to be that "boss babe" that I knew I didn't aspire to be. Watching you helped me come into who I've always been, and now I look forward to my future with no shame and tons of excitement. Thank you for giving us tradtional women a voice!! :) Always praying for you and baby!

    • @laurenj432
      @laurenj432 4 года назад +1

      It’s really good that you feel comfortable being who you are now🥰💕

  • @serina4888
    @serina4888 4 года назад +58

    Hello from a fellow Michigander! I find your lifestyle so interesting and appealing- I am a working woman. Can you do a video on how to incorporate more homemaking tips for working women? Things you do that set your day off right for you and your family? I think that could be applicable to anyone watching. Thank you so much for sharing your life with all of us!

    • @MrsMidwest
      @MrsMidwest  4 года назад +9

      Of course! I have a video on this exact topic. Homemaking that anyone can do! Search my videos for “homemaking” and it should pop up :):)

  • @Riimachan
    @Riimachan 4 года назад +69

    Always support housewives! 💖 It's only deemed controversial in the West..😑 This role dynamic of a providing man and a homemaker as a wife runs throughout many cultures around the world, and those men and women are incredibly happy because they know what is expected of them and are in tune with their masculinity and femininity. Keep up the great content Caitlin 💐

  • @allisonnuckolls778
    @allisonnuckolls778 11 месяцев назад +2

    i love how contradicting modern feminism is. the ones who actually care about women WILL respect every path in life. supporting women is supporting femininity. We are not supposed to be men, femininity and the different paths that come with being a woman is so beautiful. Thank you so much for this video

  • @MyVideos4Laughs
    @MyVideos4Laughs Год назад +3

    I want to be a house wife. I don’t know… part of me feels guilty like I’m being lazy for wanting to stay home. But it sounds so nice to be able to go to the store at whatever the time of day and buy decorations for the holidays. To clean the house and decorate it the way I want, to have the time to learn new cooking recipes and impress my husband with it. To wake up at whatever time I want… just sounds like the dream life.

    • @JanieBee
      @JanieBee Год назад +2

      Being a housewife is far from lazy. Granted, we won’t be working as hard as our grandmothers of course but being a mom and a wife is a full time job. Trust, you’ll definitely have your hands full 😂 me and my man don’t even have kids and my hands are full with just him

  • @MissChinaDoll333
    @MissChinaDoll333 Год назад +1

    Such an insightful video, it’s really helped me to recognise how much happier I am assuming a more feminine role in my relationship in that I get to harness my innate, wholesome and nurturing talents and skills. I feel so much calmer and happier when I embrace my feminine side and let my man be in his masculine. He and I are so much more affectionate, kind, patient, generous, communicative, appreciative and content when we follow this natural dynamic and now admire and respect the value each of us bring to the relationship. Thank you so much for the kind and valuable content! Love from London girlie! ❤️

  • @MightyMouse169
    @MightyMouse169 4 года назад +27

    Thank you for emphasizing choice! I do recall several videos where you clearly stated women having the freedom to choose. Hope everyone is having an amazing day❤.

    • @MrsMidwest
      @MrsMidwest  4 года назад +3

      Absolutely!! Always a choice. 🥰 xoxo

  • @sumanreddy9240
    @sumanreddy9240 Год назад +2

    Thank you for being courageous in your decisions and so happy to see all these people support you and your message...Like the hand poses in your video stills too! Great pics!

  • @katyalaviola6840
    @katyalaviola6840 4 года назад +9

    I just got engaged! My fiance and I have discussed a while back what we envisioned when we live together in the future. He prefers a stay at home wife and mother, but if I do desire to still work or go back to school he is perfectly fine with that too.
    I'm eager to study your videos in depth as I prepare myself for that type of life style! Love your videos 🥰😍

    • @cbebop5
      @cbebop5 4 года назад +2

      Congratulations Katya, God is good! May He bless your marriage abundantly

  • @Ollie7707
    @Ollie7707 4 года назад +23

    I really want to hear more of your husbands perspective on things, I think that would be helpful for both aspiring homemakers and their husbands to hear

  • @kenyatte1020
    @kenyatte1020 3 года назад +9

    Ladies, share your your desires! When talking to my now boyfriend, i was nervous to say that staying at home was a desire. Then on our first date, we were talking about goals and I said that i wanted to be a stay at home mom. And he was shocked because that’s EXACTLY what he’s always wanted but didn’t think any women our age (21,22) wanted it. And now we’re moving forward with our goals, God willing of course. And single mommas, they have men out there for you who are traditional. I have a 3 year old whom he has treated like any of his nieces or nephews (he doesn’t have any kids). Continue trusting the Lord, if that’s what you believe.❤️

  • @echobean5222
    @echobean5222 4 года назад +9

    I've commented before, but I love that you openly acknowledge that different lifestyles are for different people. I enjoy watching to work on cultivating the areas on my life that I'm not quite as strong in a place where I dont feel judged that my aspirations aren't the same as yours. 💛

  • @Jesuslovesme137
    @Jesuslovesme137 4 года назад +37

    Future housewife here 🙋🏾‍♀️.

  • @LisasLifeThenandNow
    @LisasLifeThenandNow 3 года назад +7

    Thank you for this. My marriage of 13 years didn’t make it because I struggled with trying to make money for my husband and family when I really wanted to be home with all 4 of my children. I didn’t want to work just to pay for daycare. I have been made to feel lazy, unmotivated and even stupid for not having a ‘real job’. It’s caused depression and low confidence in me, just because I craved being home with my children and having the home ready for when my husband came home from work.. My children almost grown (teens) and grown. Maybe one day I’ll find a man that appreciates what I can give and not make me feel like I’m nothing.

    • @citlalliyepez5379
      @citlalliyepez5379 Год назад +1

      That’s one big reason I don’t work Rn as a mom cuz you’ll basically just be working to pay for childcare when you can do it for “free” yourself, make it make sense … unless you make like crazy money to actually have a lot left over . I’m more of a modern woman that just turned into a stay at home mom/ house wife from one day to another but I want to be more traditional I’m working on it I’m trying to be better

  • @shereena5700
    @shereena5700 4 года назад +11

    Home-making is so feminine and beautiful. i dont get why people are so against it, its a hard job but its wonderful also

  • @SunshineBloom777
    @SunshineBloom777 2 года назад +3

    It’s devastating watching our modern society tear so heavily a part the nuclear family, men (especially masculine) and push women to work for taxes (so the government gets more money) and the children then getting indoctrinated into whatever the government wants them to be. Your disclaimer was spot on too. Thank you for articulating it so well 🌱🤍

  • @amandamhighland
    @amandamhighland 4 года назад +5

    I completely respect and agree with this video, Caitlin! Thank you for sharing! “Women’s rights” mean women have choices. Any woman has the free choice to have a career, have children, be a homemaker/SAHM, not have children, dye their hair green, etc. And I choose to have my dream job as a homemaker when I am able to! As women, if we’re not lifting each other up with our choices, then we’re tearing each other down. 💗

  • @joyclendening9908
    @joyclendening9908 4 года назад +20

    Video idea - have your husband do a video with you to talk about the perks of having a housewife :) We aspiring housewives can show it to our partners!

  • @r3m0sgrl
    @r3m0sgrl 3 года назад +3

    Best homemaking video I have seen so far. The good, bad and ugly when it comes to preparing gas a homemaker. Also, a safe space of reality:) I feel so ready. This is my first week as a married wife and homemaker, I’m so happy to have found this community!

  • @kimberlycabrera9635
    @kimberlycabrera9635 Год назад +2

    I have been a stay-at-home--mom/ housewife for over 6 years. I have always said I would start working after my youngest child goes to school which right now gives me 3-4 years. To be honest, I'd rather stay as a housewife so our home and responsibilities can all get done. I hope my husband will accept that when the time comes.

  • @WindowAmbience
    @WindowAmbience 4 года назад +177

    Super excited to watch this! I'm getting married in a month and want all the advice I can get! 😊

    • @tennisgirl30
      @tennisgirl30 4 года назад +5

      Congrats girl!

    • @Adnilas
      @Adnilas 4 года назад +4

      Congratulations!!

    • @leslic3732
      @leslic3732 4 года назад +6

      Congratulations! Me too! What's your date? Mine is November 14th. 💕

    • @iniutek9492
      @iniutek9492 4 года назад +2

      Congrats! :D

    • @sashenkadumerve3017
      @sashenkadumerve3017 4 года назад +2

      Congrats 🥰

  • @ellaanimates554
    @ellaanimates554 2 года назад +3

    I don’t think you’ll see this now but I really hope you do.
    Your message is insanely true! I’m engaged right now and the conversation I had with my fiancé when I told him that this was what I wanted was tearful and almost embarrassing. My whole life I had the perception through my parents and the media that I was lazy or not valuable if I chose that path. My fiancé really doesn’t mind the idea of it and pointed out that I may be able to have time for things that matter to me (cooking, cleaning, and ESPECIALLY my creative ventures) I’m just glad my perspective hasn’t been overlooked and that someone understands. Thank you 🙏

  • @racindasmith290
    @racindasmith290 4 года назад +5

    Love this! This past spring I was able to achieve my long time dream of being a full time housewife. I came across your channel shortly after that, and finally found someone who put into words my heart for the home. Thank you for putting out such life-giving content 💗

  • @courtneypatillo7962
    @courtneypatillo7962 4 года назад +47

    Hope you are taken it easy with your pregnancy! Lots of love from Texas ❤️ When will we be getting a Q & A video? I'd love to hear how pregnancy is treating you Mrs.Midwest😃

    • @MrsMidwest
      @MrsMidwest  4 года назад +11

      Very soon! It’s next on my video list. Thank you! :)

    • @ellacarter9863
      @ellacarter9863 4 года назад +1

      @@MrsMidwest Well look at that! I'm excited to see it! :D

  • @emotional_oddity
    @emotional_oddity 4 года назад +3

    Thank you so much for making this video! As a teenage girl who dreams of becoming a housewife, this has encouraged me beyond what words can say. I'm so thankful I found your channel. Your videos make me so happy and excited for my future! God bless! 💕✨

  • @iwillbeunamed
    @iwillbeunamed 4 года назад +63

    It's all very well and good IF you can afford to be a homemaker. Unfortunately, nowadays, many women cannot afford the luxury to stay home and live well on just one salary, not to mention bringing up a family. It's also part of the reason why being housewife was the norm decades ago, it was much more affordable to do so. Unless you come from a wealthy, middle-class background, the reality of poorer, working-class women choosing to become a homemaker and living a comfortable life is extremely slim in 2020.

    • @janetsalazar-krom4409
      @janetsalazar-krom4409 4 года назад +4

      Right my husband can't find a good paying job unless he has years of experience or a degree.

    • @miggy7165
      @miggy7165 4 года назад +44

      One does not have to be wealthy to be a homemaker. My 4 children are grown now, but we raised all 4 with me staying home. I also homeschooled my children. When we started down this road, my husband was making$35,000 per year. Now he is making $60,000. It can be done, if you are both willing to live a modest life. Don't use credit cards or personal loans. These only put you deeper in debt. Live within your means and save for things you want. Don't rule out second hand stores or Craigslist. You can find some really nice things for a reasonable price. It's a common misconception that staying home is expensive. It's actually cheaper. Speaking from personal experience, that is. I would encourage you and your husband to sit down and look hard at your lifestyle and finances and see where you could make do with less. Especially if you have children. When they're grown and you look back through the years, you won't regret the sacrifices made to be there for them every day. An added benefit is the confidence you gain, as you encounter the various life challenges of staying home and making do and raising your own children with your belief system and values, not someone else's.

    • @candyxoxo19
      @candyxoxo19 4 года назад +7

      @@miggy7165 Yesssss!

    • @ducttapeheart
      @ducttapeheart 4 года назад +5

      @@miggy7165 How did you put your children through college? Were you able to take family vacations? Were they able to go on field trips, join sports, and fit in with their peers?

    • @miggy7165
      @miggy7165 4 года назад +22

      @@ducttapeheart while my 2 daughters decided not to go to college, my eldest son will graduate college this year with a double major and 3 minors with absolutely no school debt. His grades alone qualified him for a full ride scholarship - books, tuition, housing, meal plans, parking permits, anything purchased at the bookstore (including his laptop), everything was covered. All he had to do was put gas in his car. (My youngest son just graduated high school and is yet undecided about higher education.)
      While we didn't take a vacation every year, and we didn't go to Hawaii or disneyland, we were still able to take trips out of state to visit family on vacation or tag along when my husband had to go out of state for work training (paying for the bigger hotel room and meals and such) and turn it into a family trip.
      My kids were more interested in theater than sports, so we found a homeschool foundation where they could participate in yearly plays, take extracurricular classes and and learn from people with more knowledge then me about things like public speaking, bioethics and government and constitution.
      It wasn't always easy. There were things we had to prioritize or do without (like the fancy vacations or getting a pool installed. Or even paying for a membership to the city pool.) But there are still lots of ways to have fun as a family and get out and socialize.

  • @KrisisWorld
    @KrisisWorld 4 года назад +21

    I love this video so much! The debt thing: I'm trying to work on RUclips so I can eventually (hopefully) pay off my loan through RUclips but then be a homemaker, especially when we decide to start having children. It's really silly to get into debt and never use the degree after that, I wish I knew I wanted to be a homemaker earlier. It's okay though, there's always a solution!

    • @MrsMidwest
      @MrsMidwest  4 года назад +2

      Yes! Debt can sometimes be something we regret in hindsight but it doesn’t have to derail our dreams. Proud of you!

    • @Ashwin-oq1xt
      @Ashwin-oq1xt 4 года назад +1

      wisdom👍

    • @jliA7
      @jliA7 4 года назад +4

      I hope everything works out for you. But I have to say, it is nice to find others who are in similar situation. For a long time thought I could never become a homemaker, because of my student loan. I thought I'd be stuck at work paying it off forever! But now I've realized, I can still achieve my dream, I just need to be patient. I love this community 💕😊 I never had anything like this in "real life". In my country/culture, everyone including women, are very work oriented. I don't know any homemakers and it really isn't a thing at all in here. But after I found this channel, I started to feel like my dream can become true as well!

  • @sumanreddy9240
    @sumanreddy9240 Год назад +1

    Thank you for encouraging women to make their own choices and following their own beliefs and what makes them happy...!

  • @dawnforlife
    @dawnforlife 4 года назад +4

    I wouldn't say I chose to be a homemaker but life lead me "here" and like everything that life leads me to, I choose to make the most out of it. I feel now, that it has been a calling that I've "put off" because "I wanna be an independent woman" but so so glad that as God has a plan for me, and I let Him lead, this can't feel more right.
    My husband is VERY grateful that I was willing to embrace my new role as many (according to him/his friends) struggle to "choose" home making when required (ie. moving to a new country; lacking work opportunities, language skills etc..).

  • @kendrawhite6164
    @kendrawhite6164 3 года назад +2

    Much needed words of wisdom for a lot of women who want to be homemakers. I know a lot of successful women who work with kids at home. For me, I wanted to follow in my mother’s and grandmother’s footsteps being a stay at home mom. Glad I chose to because now I have 1 year old twin boys!!! ❤️
    For the women who want the stay at home and also want to figure out how they can help to bring income in, starting a business or going into partnership with companies is a great example. I’m currently doing so and will also be able to bring my husband home next year as well!! 🥰 Options are limitless when one of you has more time away from a job.

  • @hopefaithandbeauty
    @hopefaithandbeauty 4 года назад +10

    After being furloughed during this pandemic, I finally managed to show my boyfriend how amazing our life would be if I ended up becoming a housewife as I was at home and testing the waters! We are now making the steps on making that happen. Honestly my ultimate dream is to be a wife and have children 💗

  • @thymeandtenderness
    @thymeandtenderness 4 года назад +1

    Yes! Being open and honest about life goals IN THE BEGINNING is super super super important. I just had a discussion with someone the other day who asked me “how do you even tell the guy you’re interested in you’re goal is to be a housewife?” And I told her: “well... have you guys had that conversation of ‘what are your goals or where do you see yourself in the future?’” It’s normal to have that conversation early on in a relationship and normally people attribute that to Travel goals or career goals. Why not lifestyle goals? There should be no shame!

  • @tarverkim
    @tarverkim 4 года назад +41

    💝💝💝 I love how respectful and gracious you always are (including here), but this gives a little momma bear boldness that I am here for!! 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼

    • @MrsMidwest
      @MrsMidwest  4 года назад +15

      She comes out sometimes if I feel passionate about a subject! And I truly feel so strongly about advocating for our place as homemakers/housewives!

    • @elizabethanne8729
      @elizabethanne8729 4 года назад +2

      Yes this is my favorite Caitlin level 🤣 A lil sass with a whole lot of class!!

    • @selectrefineh1935
      @selectrefineh1935 4 года назад

      Hey, I have a femininity/homemaking Instagram blog called @mrs.refined and it's similar to Caitlyns! 🌸🌸🌸 I post often mostly everyday. I would appreciate it if you could check it out. I cover a variety of topics ❤❤

  • @shanaeb4814
    @shanaeb4814 4 года назад +4

    I’ve experienced much backlash/pushback in regards to just being self-employed at home over joining the workforce (among other things), or not competing with and not feeling oppressed by men. But instead actually respecting them as people! Many like to say “true” (or even original/traditional) feminism supports women in whatever they want to do. I for years now have known otherwise. I’ve never tried to impose my lifestyle on anyone though many have tried to do so to me. Thanks for speaking out about this! ♥️

  • @aura578
    @aura578 4 года назад +8

    Well said my dear 👏👏. I'm proud that we have more voices coming out advocating traditionalism. My greetings from Algeria 🇩🇿

  • @elisabethross2201
    @elisabethross2201 4 года назад +6

    Thank you for not being afraid to speak truth!! Why as a society do we push women to resist the God given desire for home and family and to see it as an inferior choice to a career outside the home? So sad! I am so glad for you as a young woman resisting the BIG lie and being an influencer and encourager to many women, young and old!!

  • @BBLuster
    @BBLuster 4 года назад +11

    I think another misunderstanding of being a housewife is that we can’t or don’t make money... we do! We just do it from home AND our primary focus is our husbands, children and homes. I agree with everything else! It is critical to know if a man wants a traditional house wife while dating. I would NOT recommend trying to convince and “strong arm” a man into seeing the value of having a housewife, if he doesn’t see the benefit in having a house wife then move in to the NEXT!

  • @jmcast3195
    @jmcast3195 4 года назад +18

    People really value going to nice restaurants and taking pictures of the food...but we can do that at home for far less money and it is cooked in a more nutritious way

    • @ducttapeheart
      @ducttapeheart 4 года назад +3

      I don’t think it’s fair to judge people for doing what makes them happy.

    • @ambersummer2685
      @ambersummer2685 4 года назад +2

      Either way is totally fine. That's up to them.

  • @deactivated-78936
    @deactivated-78936 4 года назад +11

    It's funny to me that some feminists talk about the Mrs Midwest channel in a negative way, saying that Caitlin's traditional beliefs are bad. Feminism is supposed to be about a woman's right to choose, a woman's right to live her life her own way. At the beginning of every video, Caitlin ALWAYS stresses that she is not forcing her lifestyle on anyone. She always encourages women to act, dress, and live however they choose to. Kinda seems like feminists should applaud her, not bring her down. 🤔 Keep it up, Cait!! Your videos are gentle, kind, and supportive towards women who want to live a more traditional lifestyle, and I am so grateful that a traditional woman as inclusive and welcoming as you are exists on RUclips! ❤️

  • @DivyaRaviraj
    @DivyaRaviraj 3 года назад +2

    Thank you for posting this and having this channel. I don't feel alone. A whole load of pressure is lifted off me. Thank you 🥲

    • @feminismiscancer3193
      @feminismiscancer3193 3 года назад

      ur a unicorn but most indian women I've met are feminists and they have such a bad vibe

  • @mediokritet
    @mediokritet 4 года назад +3

    I've been thinking about this a lot lately. I've been on a path of becoming a surgeon my entire adult life for reasons I wasn't even entirely aware of. I am grateful for trailblazing women who sacrificed and made it possible for a woman to have a whatever career she wants a priority. But for me personally I realized a less intense specialty where I will be able to both help people and work part time or even take a sabbatical and focus entirely on my family is more in line with what is truly important to me. Due to covid and physician shortages I will be working in my current job a little longer but it has even further made it crystal clear for me what I eventually really want. I also acknowledge I am extremely privileged to even have the option to choose. We are all doing the best we can with what we have right now. 💕

  • @dollysoto4974
    @dollysoto4974 4 года назад +6

    Will be nice videos about:
    1. How is your diet during pregnancy? (you look amazing healthy)
    2. How to organize yourself to be a housewife.

  • @gabriellas
    @gabriellas 4 года назад +22

    i'm not in favor or against traditional lifestyles. the only thing i could see as an "issue" is that if god forbid something happened with the husband, the woman is left in a pretty difficult spot to support herself.
    however, you seem very happy with your husband and your baby on the way, so i am happy for you! i wish you happiness 🤗

    • @magicandriches
      @magicandriches 4 года назад +12

      Yes! This is true, but you can make plans that will help take away those risks, such as insurance plans, trusts, etc. You just need to be intentional - whether this is your life path, or not - being intentional about your financial security is important.

    • @elfiebrocklehurst8839
      @elfiebrocklehurst8839 4 года назад +6

      I agree that things happen and you can get divorced and I think it is important to think about that. No one thinks there relationship can break down till it does so I would always make sure you have a good education, work experience and a nest egg. However, I don't think you should let the fear of a relationship breaking down stop you from being at home if that is what you want but I would encourage people to be smart about it :)

    • @annarocha3254
      @annarocha3254 4 года назад +5

      I have a degree and work experience. If something happens to my husband I would be able to get a job relatively easily. That is how we prepared for me staying home.

    • @candyxoxo19
      @candyxoxo19 4 года назад +3

      @@annarocha3254 exactly. If you prepare while single it is really fine. For example being educated, experienced, debt free and my home half way paid off by the time I get married.

    • @ambersummer2685
      @ambersummer2685 4 года назад +3

      My dad recently died and he was the "breadwinner" of the home. My aunt and friends came in and made sure she did the right things to get things stable. She also has insurance.
      But I'll admit we're mostly grown so she doesn't have to worry about small children when her older children are grown adults who can afford to feed themselves with jobs.

  • @cassidyjones5716
    @cassidyjones5716 4 года назад +4

    I'm around your age and I feel so grateful to have found your channel. So many of your beliefs align with mine and it has been so encouraging to me to find you here on RUclips!

  • @julia9557
    @julia9557 4 года назад +15

    "The hand that rocks the cradle rules the world"

  • @KacyJones
    @KacyJones Год назад +2

    Thank you for putting all this out there. I feel your support from here 🥰

  • @jgwfgyelwhiure
    @jgwfgyelwhiure 3 года назад +10

    I’m 15 and I really want to be a housewife but my mum keeps putting me down and feel bad for wanting to be a housewife :( I just want to be there for my future husband and kids. She says things like “look at all the people your age getting ready for their futures but look at you all you want to be is a useless, worthless, dumb housewife” it makes me so upset but I’m still going to be a housewife because I’ve always dreamt of it

    • @ShelbyCookie-ju5qr
      @ShelbyCookie-ju5qr 3 года назад +4

      Hi sweetie I am 21 and a stay at home mother it is the best thing to ever happen to me , keep having that dream do not give it up just because you Mother says so . Being housewife and stay at home mother is the best thing for you . You will Love it . When I use to work before I had my baby I was depressed an feeling something was missing. It is also nice to b home instead of leaving your baby to be cared for by someone else because so many people today could hurt your baby while u work and even Murder them . Also your husband would really love it to to come home to home cooked meals and a Lovely , caring wife like You. Keep having that dream it is so nice to b home with our loved ones instead of burnt out working for other People that could care less about us Point blank period🐥🐥🐥

    • @ShelbyCookie-ju5qr
      @ShelbyCookie-ju5qr 3 года назад +3

      Also housewife's and stay at Home mommy's are not worthless they are quite the opposite and do a lot , do not Listen to her just smile and be like yeah and Keep your head up 😊

    • @jgwfgyelwhiure
      @jgwfgyelwhiure 3 года назад +4

      @@ShelbyCookie-ju5qr awwww thank you so much, your words of encouragement mean a lot ☺️

    • @Chefgrlangel
      @Chefgrlangel 9 месяцев назад +2

      Idk if you’ll see this but my mother said very similar things growing up.
      I’m 35 now and have been a happy housewife to a good man for 10 yrs, we own our home and a tiny farm, and have a healthy child with plans for a second via adoption this year.
      My mother is divorced, bitter, and alone. Sometimes our moms do not have our best interest at heart. If you think you’d make a good wife you should follow your instincts.

  • @dayanaraviera3840
    @dayanaraviera3840 4 года назад +6

    Thank you for bringing up that it’s between me, and my husband and the Lord. It’s a great reminder especially when the Lord has opened that door for me.

  • @alien-iw1zj
    @alien-iw1zj 4 года назад +5

    Your homemaking inspires me so much! I was wondering if you could you do a video or blogpost on homemaking basics. I just graduated college, and I’m at that stage in life where I want to start learning how to be a good homemaker. I would love it if you could show us how you put your kitchen and bathroom “to bed” and your other homemaking habits!

  • @rosarioortiz93
    @rosarioortiz93 4 года назад +1

    I've been a homemaker for almost 5 years now, and your video gave me a total new insight. Thank you, God Bless!

  • @sarahyount9927
    @sarahyount9927 4 года назад +17

    It’s so hard finding traditional men like this, I live in the south and many of the traditional men get married young but I’m 31 and have always dreamed of being a homemaker and mom, but these days if you say that you want to be a homemaker when speaking to eligible men they see it as a less than, they think you should have to work outside the home along with taking care of all homemaking activities. It’s hard to find like minded people who are single and not in their early twenties

    • @spunkycat6144
      @spunkycat6144 4 года назад +5

      This is SO TRUE. When I was young, I was in the military for 5 years and then in college for 4 years, then working. Then dating and everyone else was already married. The traditional guys get taken up quick. It is really unfair. I have always wanted to be a homemaker, just like my mother but I am in my 50's now and the culture of marrying is just gone.

    • @luxuryedition78
      @luxuryedition78 4 года назад +3

      @@spunkycat6144 Do not ever lose hope in marrying a wonderful traditional man! Have faith, seek, & pray and I will keep you in my prayers as well!🙏🏾✊🏾💙

    • @sm7640
      @sm7640 4 года назад

      @@spunkycat6144 really because my mom is 55 and divorced, and is dating a 60 year old widow. They spend a lot of time together and do hobbies/take trips on the weekends. They’ve spoken about the possibility of marriage or moving into together sometime down the line. Each individual sets their own limitations. If you think your age is holding you back from any dreams of love/having a partner maybe it’s your negative mindset, not your age. 🤷🏽‍♀️

    • @luxuryedition78
      @luxuryedition78 4 года назад

      @Mrs White Such truth!!!👏🏾🙏🏾

    • @spunkycat6144
      @spunkycat6144 4 года назад +1

      @@luxuryedition78 Thank you. I think about this constantly.

  • @amberjankoviak
    @amberjankoviak 2 года назад +1

    This has helped me so much. I’m recently engaged and my fiancé has blessed me with the ability to not have to work. I’m going to work PRN at a hospital, but people are already questioning me. “You’re going to be so bored” etc. you have been such a positive light to me today. Thank you so much.

  • @joon_choco
    @joon_choco 4 года назад +4

    11:27 yes!!!🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼 and please stop bothering Muslims women too, it’s their life let them live it their way, we DO NOT need to be ‘freed’ by getting our head scarves pulled and forced to work and kept getting insulted by saying we are oppressed, it’s honestly so upsetting

  • @genevaelaine2076
    @genevaelaine2076 4 года назад +5

    Thank you thank you thank you! I’ve been waiting for this video for so so long. You give me so much fuel and hope for my future, and my future in homemaking! So much love your way 🙏💕

    • @MrsMidwest
      @MrsMidwest  4 года назад +1

      That’s so good!! Yes I’m trying to cover some topics that have been long requested before I take a break for the baby! Xoxo :):):)

  • @bvbblegvm
    @bvbblegvm 4 года назад +6

    I stopped working as a nurse this week. I had the time of my life and learnt so much things I will use throughout my whole life. But this feels like the first day of my dream life.... Very excited for my life right now! Also in december were are expecting our baby girl

    • @luisa1473
      @luisa1473 4 года назад +1

      Congrats on your baby girl :)

    • @bvbblegvm
      @bvbblegvm 4 года назад

      @@luisa1473 thanks so much

  • @chelsead8142
    @chelsead8142 3 года назад +1

    I'm still single and so am working full-time and living with friends but have seen the benefit that being a homemaker would have more and more. I notice how hard it is for me to find time to keep my own room clean, or do my part of the house chores, and cook good meals. Homemaking is a lot of work and takes a lot of time. Homemaking is working, it's working for you and your husband so that he can come home and the cleaning and/or cooking, etc. are already done or mostly done and you both can just enjoy each other's presence each evening with less stress over what still needs to get done at home.

  • @rizzaatinado6955
    @rizzaatinado6955 4 года назад +7

    I love seeing that notification of a new video! I love your videos. You have inspired me so much! I pray for you and your family daily. Have a blessed day!🤗❤️🥰

    • @MrsMidwest
      @MrsMidwest  4 года назад +1

      Thank you for watching :) it means the world too that you are praying for us. Thank you from the bottom of my heart!

  • @paolapetriortiz183
    @paolapetriortiz183 4 года назад +2

    I already had the desire to be a housewife, but you have really inspired me to fully embrace that vocation and also be more open about it and don't care what others (especially my mother) say :)
    I got married 4 months ago and the housewife lifestyle is so fulfilling

  • @eliseeey95
    @eliseeey95 4 года назад +38

    Education is never a waste, I agree with keeping debt down but I would never tell a woman not to go to college because she wasn’t planning on “using her degree.”

    • @ilik2spit
      @ilik2spit 4 года назад +4

      A lot of people can’t afford that, even with help.

    • @quinnwayland2105
      @quinnwayland2105 3 года назад +21

      If you're not planning on using it you're expecting someone else to pay it off, that's whats wrong about that.

    • @ilik2spit
      @ilik2spit 3 года назад +10

      @@quinnwayland2105 Especially in this day and age when you can get education for free with public library‘s and the Internet

    • @fibbleglumpf
      @fibbleglumpf 3 года назад +8

      This *may* be an argument in America (although I don’t fully agree) but there’s plenty of countries where education is a) not that expensive or b) partially or fully free, because the government supports the education of its citizens- welcome to the EU.

    • @ilik2spit
      @ilik2spit 3 года назад +4

      @@fibbleglumpf I never claimed *no one* can afford education. I said “a lot”, maybe I should have said “some” 🤷🏻‍♀️

  • @SummerGirl3302
    @SummerGirl3302 4 года назад +1

    THANK YOU so much for this video! Very reassuring to know there are women still out there with the same mindset & calling.. & yes, I said calling!! It baffles people’s mind that this can be a calling & that I’m choosing this lifestyle. I can go on & on because I’m very passionate about this topic but I’ll end it with this quote that sums it up:
    THE MOST IMPORTANT WORK YOU WILL EVER DO WILL BE WITHIN THE WALLS OF YOUR OWN HOME