How To Know What To Say During Stressful Moments

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    How to Think Faster Under Pressure
    High-pressure situations are, unfortunately, absolutely inevitable. Whatever it is that you want, oftentimes, it comes after a high-pressure situation. Whether it's an interview, a networking event, or a date, it's those times where we really would like an outcome that we feel the most pressure. And unfortunately, all too often we go home kicking ourselves saying, "Why did I say that and why didn't I just say that other thing?"
    So that's why, in this video, I want to help you think more sharply and more quickly in those high-pressure situations so you don't wind up at home kicking yourself and instead you are celebrating your big win. The first thing is to initially recognize that high-pressure situations caused us to do the exact opposite of what we would if we were going to do things well. And what that means is that when somebody approaches you at work and they're being hypercritical, what is the instinct? It's to shut down and close off. If somebody walks into a room that you really would like to speak to whether it's a mentor or a date, the instinct is to have your heart race, breathe really shallow, then go, "What do I say? What do I say? What do I say?" We need to do the opposite of these things physically.
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    0:32 Change your state by doing the opposite
    1:59 Know what to say in any high pressure situation
    3:31 Know your framework
    6:57 Summary on how to deal with high pressure situations
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  • @MasculineMan
    @MasculineMan 5 лет назад +6441

    It's too bad youtube does not promote channels like this, it's clear that you care about your audience and want to add value to them, oppose to the other money grubbers on RUclips.
    If you ever want an animation done for you you, let me know :)
    Keep up the great work Charlie

    • @FishyFox
      @FishyFox 5 лет назад +95

      Masculine Man Dude, this is sweet! I hope he sees this because it's obvious that him caring about his audience makes us care back!

    • @Yonatan24
      @Yonatan24 5 лет назад +14

      What exactly makes you think YT doesn't promote channels like this one?

    • @Gerard-uo9zb
      @Gerard-uo9zb 5 лет назад +25

      Yonatan24 Because of the fact that they don't perhaps.

    • @Yonatan24
      @Yonatan24 5 лет назад +28

      So the 100 million views this channel has, from RUclips promoting his videos hundreds of millions and even billions of times, doesn't count?!
      I agree that this is a great channel but come on...

    • @Gerard-uo9zb
      @Gerard-uo9zb 5 лет назад +33

      Yonatan24 Let me make myself clear, in comparison to the absolute trash channels such as the Paul brothers, this channel isn't promoted enough for the quality content it produces.

  • @StephenRogue
    @StephenRogue 5 лет назад +4273

    As an introvert, every conversation is a high pressure situation

    • @spaak3465
      @spaak3465 5 лет назад +183

      Oof the relateableness is of the charts

    • @fryphilip7474
      @fryphilip7474 4 года назад +9

      Stephen Arellano buy the program

    • @BaioWithMayo
      @BaioWithMayo 4 года назад +163

      started using these tips and now there is sexual tension with every person i meet, idk which was better

    • @flamecrew9atroblox958
      @flamecrew9atroblox958 4 года назад

      Yes lol

    • @Dubhe68
      @Dubhe68 4 года назад +40

      @@BaioWithMayo dude 😂😂😂

  • @ispitmygumonthesidewalk9753
    @ispitmygumonthesidewalk9753 4 года назад +4549

    I watched this video 10 times already now I’m think at 100x speed

    • @mikethompson2745
      @mikethompson2745 4 года назад +239

      If each time made you 10 times faster, you'd be 10,000,000,00x speed. 10^10. ;P

    • @godzilla8690
      @godzilla8690 4 года назад +22

      Logic level🦸

    • @GreenZapperZ
      @GreenZapperZ 4 года назад +74

      It sure didn't improve your math as far as this comment shows.

    • @spuwuky7868
      @spuwuky7868 4 года назад +21

      *YEAH, IT'S BIG BRAIN TIME.*

    • @donnersmom
      @donnersmom 4 года назад +4

      Ha ha ha... You are great

  • @aNighthawk
    @aNighthawk 5 лет назад +3661

    "do the opposite"
    Interviewer:
    Charlie: you're hired

    • @maxclark5244
      @maxclark5244 5 лет назад +8

      HawQ Interviewee?

    • @MrJayXo
      @MrJayXo 4 года назад +89

      @@maxclark5244 No, he did the opposite. Instead of the interviewer saying you're hired, the interviewee told the interviewer he's hired

    • @_viridium_
      @_viridium_ 4 года назад +32

      @@ARMYALEX1869 "No, YOU'RE fired"

    • @mukulkopulwar
      @mukulkopulwar 4 года назад +3

      Lol 😂😂😂

    • @mikethompson2745
      @mikethompson2745 4 года назад +25

      I had a friend who hired himself like that.
      It's actually a common tactic to interview the interviewer to help you get a job.

  • @Trophonix
    @Trophonix 5 лет назад +3547

    I walked up to a woman and said "Hey, I don't think I've met you yet. I'm Charlie" and shook her hand
    We're married now
    She still thinks my name is Charlie

  • @MrLazini
    @MrLazini 5 лет назад +2791

    Watch this vid in 2x for 20 times faster thinking.. Works trust me

    • @hellterminator
      @hellterminator 5 лет назад +71

      Shouldn't that be 100 times faster?

    • @mswriter3612
      @mswriter3612 5 лет назад +48

      WOW it works..I had to speed up my listening and my brain adapted. I needed this.. I can do this with many videos..

    • @MrLazini
      @MrLazini 5 лет назад +6

      Not sure, we'll have to investigate it

    • @Peidaqsai
      @Peidaqsai 5 лет назад +25

      I've always done it with all videos. Your mind can get all the informations normally and it consumes less time, your mind just needs to adapt to the new speed

    • @varunr4526
      @varunr4526 5 лет назад +3

      Lazini lmaaaooo

  • @lincolnlogs9907
    @lincolnlogs9907 5 лет назад +2229

    I just asked my barber what he did for a living...

    • @melissa48027
      @melissa48027 4 года назад +297

      So... what does your barber do for the living?

    • @philly8068
      @philly8068 4 года назад +139

      One billion IQ😂

    • @TrueJEMtheArtist
      @TrueJEMtheArtist 4 года назад +96

      Lincoln logs lmao that’s just as bad as my situation:
      Server: here you go and enjoy your food
      Me: thanks you too

    • @housebrigade
      @housebrigade 4 года назад +97

      Looking at ur haircut he probably turned around and said he was a butcher

    • @ryantheapple7682
      @ryantheapple7682 4 года назад +1

      Lol

  • @annocount7990
    @annocount7990 5 лет назад +3751

    Teacher: Did you do your homework?
    Me: You are asking me if I did my homework?
    Teacher: Yes. Did you do it?
    Me: Hey, I don't think I've met you yet. I'm charlie

  • @DashingPartyCrasher
    @DashingPartyCrasher 5 лет назад +1178

    I'd like to expand on Charlie's summary:
    1. Do the opposite of what your body wants to do: Take a deep breath, put your arms down, and stand "tall" with shoulders back, chest out.
    2. Have a "go-to" phrase that you can say each time you meet someone in a certain situation, such as "Hi! I don't think we've met yet. I'm (your name)." Your go-to phrase(s) can be anything that have worked well for you.
    3. Know your framework or "step by step" process. For example on a date, start with fun banter, then share each other's values, and then make longer eye contact or even non-sexual touching. (Charlie has a link to the different frameworks.)
    4. If you ever feel lost in a conversation or are unsure of what to say, you can repeat what you (think you) just heard as a question. This forces the other person to repeat or clarify what they said.

    • @aur9035
      @aur9035 5 лет назад +4

      Oh! Thank you so much!

    • @unknownface284
      @unknownface284 5 лет назад +2

      Great work, mate

    • @tarylouisa7054
      @tarylouisa7054 5 лет назад +1

      Thanks a lot !

    • @giantchook3368
      @giantchook3368 3 года назад +2

      The Dale Carnegie Conversation Stack is a great tool to use to keep a conversation moving.

    • @selfdalireza4826
      @selfdalireza4826 3 года назад +2

      Well done Gary

  • @pawefornalik6638
    @pawefornalik6638 4 года назад +553

    First time driving a car:
    Instructor: stop on the red
    Me: *do the opposite*

    • @JermaineToussaint
      @JermaineToussaint 4 года назад +3

      Paweł Fornalik best one😹😹

    • @isabelac4758
      @isabelac4758 3 года назад +6

      Turn on left.. Do the opposite lol

    • @Cher1111
      @Cher1111 3 года назад +3

      I failed my drive test because of my instructor she’s a b¡tch she also yelled at me

    • @brickabang
      @brickabang 2 года назад +2

      @@Cher1111 Yeah they told me that I’m not allowed to go at 80 mph so I went at 400 and still failed

  • @joostvanrens
    @joostvanrens 5 лет назад +581

    I start all conversations with: "hey do you speak English?"
    Most co-workers don't even talk to me anymore

    • @yokaibyte2133
      @yokaibyte2133 4 года назад +30

      Hey, do you speak English anymore? Try that... 😄

    • @QuackersMcCrackers
      @QuackersMcCrackers 3 года назад +10

      Maybe they didn't speak English...

    • @savagenovelist2983
      @savagenovelist2983 3 года назад +4

      314 likes.
      The math lover inside me: *joy intensifies*

    • @terrybyrd3738
      @terrybyrd3738 3 года назад +2

      I'm gonna use that one at work - thanks!

    • @petershelton
      @petershelton 2 года назад +1

      They must not speak English

  • @NightOwlGamingz
    @NightOwlGamingz 4 года назад +465

    Me talking to a girl that I have a crush on in class: “hey, do you speak English?”

    • @yetypicalmusic1869
      @yetypicalmusic1869 3 года назад +32

      Her: *Angry Vietnamese*

    • @thedeadlinger6992
      @thedeadlinger6992 3 года назад +18

      School: *Turns into a Vietcong infested Forest*

    • @mikeymorrison272
      @mikeymorrison272 3 года назад +6

      @@thedeadlinger6992 *Fortunate Son plays*

    • @dabruh5741
      @dabruh5741 3 года назад +1

      SOILDER:FAILS BUT GETS A SUPPLIER FOR BLUE MAGIC AND IS NOW A INFAMOUS DEALER IN NEW YORK NAMED BUMPY JOHNSON

    • @roelinamackintosh5376
      @roelinamackintosh5376 2 года назад

      👏👏

  • @pooppooperson2328
    @pooppooperson2328 5 лет назад +1309

    Job Interview:
    Me: Hey, I don't think I've met you yet, I'm Charlie
    Interviewer: You're hired

    • @unknownface284
      @unknownface284 5 лет назад +1

    • @BasicShapes
      @BasicShapes 5 лет назад +36

      HR Manager: So I've called you in because of the sexual allegations against you
      Me: Hey, I don't think I've met you yet, I'm Charlie
      HR Manager: You're fired

    • @zchmxwl8195
      @zchmxwl8195 5 лет назад

      Fluffy Waffles 🤣

    • @epharonin1524
      @epharonin1524 4 года назад +16

      @Fluffy Waffles
      HR Manager: “So, I've called you in because of the sexual allegations against you."
      Me: “Hey, I don't think I've met you yet, I'm Charlie!"
      HR Manager: “You're fired."
      Me: “No, I'm Charlie..."

  • @nikitbarapatre
    @nikitbarapatre 5 лет назад +611

    I am thinking only 8.23X faster please help.

  • @xXSaberToothSamuraiXx
    @xXSaberToothSamuraiXx 5 лет назад +1804

    How to be Light Yagami 101

  • @DMM-cv5fh
    @DMM-cv5fh 5 лет назад +184

    In the Marines, we are taught a phrase over and over when dealing with high pressure situations- “slow is smooth, smooth is fast.” What do you think about that? I thought about that especially on your first point.

    • @BULLTRONHERO
      @BULLTRONHERO 4 года назад +7

      03DM M240 My Soul Mirror was in the army; she taught me many things, along with “slow is smooth, and smooth is fast” and it has been absolutely one of the most consistently useful bits of mindware I’ve yet acquired.

    • @epicmautauche2233
      @epicmautauche2233 4 года назад +1

      I'm not in the military or in the marines, im 14. What does that mean?

    • @DMM-cv5fh
      @DMM-cv5fh 4 года назад +37

      Epic Mautauche It means to slow down your movements and thought process enough for your rational mind to keep pace. For example, in Boot Camp the drill instructors are constantly screaming at you to go faster and faster and faster while you are required to perform different things from simply unlocking a combination lock to disassemble and assembling crew served weapons for cleaning and maintenance. You have to be fast and accurate in your movements, because in a combat situation your body movements will often go faster than your mind which makes you spaz out. So just take a breath remember slow is smooth and smooth is fast and you will find that what you’re doing is much faster than if you just go as fast as I can but really all you’re doing is shaking and spazzing out.

    • @epicmautauche2233
      @epicmautauche2233 4 года назад +2

      @@DMM-cv5fh Oohh, okey thankss

    • @GoblinQueen2008
      @GoblinQueen2008 2 года назад +8

      I found your comment very helpful and have learned something today. Thanks for sharing that. Also, kudos on the way you treated 14-year old 'Epic Mautauche'...your patient explanation, I think, clarified it for more than just him/her and we have gained valuable insight on something we didn't know that we didn't know. You have the makings of a great teacher, as well as, no doubt, being as chilled as a cucumber in an iceberg when under pressure. Awesome stuff. :}

  • @brayjsanimation6165
    @brayjsanimation6165 3 года назад +92

    is talking to my robber
    "Hey, do you speak english"
    *gets shot*
    "I don't think we've met yet, I'm Charlie."

  • @AirElegant
    @AirElegant 5 лет назад +598

    Take a deep breath. Oxygen is our best friend

    • @hellterminator
      @hellterminator 5 лет назад +25

      The Apollo 1 crew might not agree with that.

    • @boslyporshy6553
      @boslyporshy6553 5 лет назад +10

      Doesn't directly injecting oxygen into your blood stream kill you?

    • @hq4290
      @hq4290 5 лет назад +17

      Bosly Porshy as does injecting any gas would reallt.

    • @Horesmi
      @Horesmi 5 лет назад +20

      *hyperventilates in front of a crowd*

    • @EB8-1.1
      @EB8-1.1 5 лет назад +2

      Even if i‘m a Fish ?

  • @littlecandygamer
    @littlecandygamer 4 года назад +82

    Thank you so much for creating this content! As someone who has ADHD and Autism I struggle so much with social interactions and you are really helping me learn more about what to do, even if I don't really understand it.

    • @DaveE99
      @DaveE99 Год назад +1

      Even for me just adhd, there is so many layers to things humans do. Understanding it can help but is different than learning how to relate to it to some extent.

  • @njamison1000
    @njamison1000 5 лет назад +371

    "Do the opposite of what your body tells you to do."
    *twerks against management table*
    Job Interviewer: "What are you doing?"
    Me: *In a more relaxed tone* "Relieving my stress. Why the concern?"

    • @_omaradnan
      @_omaradnan 4 года назад +28

      no you should say "what am I doing ?"

    • @abdulvahid4203
      @abdulvahid4203 4 года назад +1

      TurtleTroll lol.

    • @Creepernator
      @Creepernator 4 года назад +7

      Hahahah, this made me laugh out loud.

    • @sockpuppet2109
      @sockpuppet2109 4 года назад +1

      @@_omaradnan b b bbbb:b ::g

    • @sallymichael2355
      @sallymichael2355 3 года назад

      NO U DIDN'T
      Hahahaha how did u even think of that

  • @CuriosityCulture
    @CuriosityCulture 5 лет назад +525

    I usually don't like talking head videos. But you just have that energy man! Love it

    • @Charismaoncommand
      @Charismaoncommand  5 лет назад +41

      Thanks man!

    • @grivar
      @grivar 5 лет назад +46

      Not sure this qualifies as a talking head video. A bit too much torso for that :P

    • @mahesh-re5ln
      @mahesh-re5ln 5 лет назад +1

      Harshil Patel tom

    • @EscapingElyisum
      @EscapingElyisum 5 лет назад +29

      it's almost like he does charisma tutorials

    • @joshmesser374
      @joshmesser374 5 лет назад +3

      Not even once in a lifetime? That's a good music video come on

  • @ryansecord8071
    @ryansecord8071 5 лет назад +809

    Step 1: Stop caring.

    • @Tubeytime
      @Tubeytime 5 лет назад +45

      Step 2: Be based.

    • @makeithappen8906
      @makeithappen8906 5 лет назад +1

      Golden

    • @htoodoh5770
      @htoodoh5770 5 лет назад

      Teodor Lukas what?

    • @BTwice-PSB
      @BTwice-PSB 5 лет назад +11

      Ryan Secord this works 100 % if not then u still care but when u dont give shit anymore ur rock solid but yes u do end up as a litte cold on the inside haha

    • @kenonerboy
      @kenonerboy 5 лет назад +6

      If i didnt care I'd leave...

  • @adadadrian9117
    @adadadrian9117 5 лет назад +59

    i tried this in my kickboxing lesson. i opened up, found a solution to handle the punch and my partner broke my nose, thanks dude!

    • @iamyouare4308
      @iamyouare4308 4 года назад +7

      You couldn't knock the froth of a cappuccino

    • @nathanjuan8737
      @nathanjuan8737 3 года назад

      situation? application.....

  • @talkingwalex2163
    @talkingwalex2163 4 года назад +253

    Who else is here to learn how to human? 🙋‍♀️

    • @shriharir6450
      @shriharir6450 3 года назад +3

      Meeee

    • @savagenovelist2983
      @savagenovelist2983 3 года назад +1

      Turtle behind video screen with pfp of some random kid: Same...

    • @SoulTouchMusic93
      @SoulTouchMusic93 3 года назад +3

      Gotta prepare to sneak by in case they decide to raid area 51 again ...

    • @TorontosFinestKrew
      @TorontosFinestKrew 3 года назад

      I’m good enough to trust in my recklessness

    • @davidthor4405
      @davidthor4405 3 года назад +1

      I mean I do have autism, so yeah

  • @SelfMadeMillennial
    @SelfMadeMillennial 5 лет назад +8

    I didn't start doing this first tip until a few months ago when someone told me, "Anything you feel, besides physical pain, you have the power to change." This has got me to start controlling my breathing, taking control of my feelings. Once you even have even just mild results it feels amazing!

  • @sebastianelytron8450
    @sebastianelytron8450 5 лет назад +1283

    Under pressure? Stay cool as ice, ice, baby.

    • @iadjjisciajad3682
      @iadjjisciajad3682 5 лет назад +28

      It's the terror of knowing what the world is about

    • @williams7787
      @williams7787 5 лет назад +20

      Watching some good friends screaming let me out

    • @thomas.02
      @thomas.02 5 лет назад +11

      best reference ever, unfortunately not quite original ;)

    • @fclp67
      @fclp67 5 лет назад +8

      du du du dudududu

    • @akashchoudhary8162
      @akashchoudhary8162 5 лет назад +4

      But ice melts under high pressure...

  • @X2StealthZeikon2X
    @X2StealthZeikon2X 5 лет назад +3

    I can't express how thankful I am for coming across this channel. As a person who has gone through a very rough year on my personal self worth, it's amazing how motivational these videos are to get myself back on my feet; whether its taking mental or physical notes on my diary. Keep up the good work!

  • @randynelson5998
    @randynelson5998 4 года назад +2

    How is this guy so genius. The sheer simplicity of the things he says blows my mind. “Hey, I haven’t met you yet. I’m Randy.” That is the simplest easiest thing I’ve never thought of. You can say that to ANYONE you don’t know and it’ll just unfold into a conversation. Thank you Charlie, I’ve watched your videos for years and you’ve helped my interactions so much. There’s just nowhere else to get this help!! Not everyone has the confidence to trial-and-error human interaction

  • @saarahturtle
    @saarahturtle 5 лет назад +46

    This video is so needed for me. When I feel like there’s a lot of attention on me (from presenting or even putting my hand up in class to group situations) I feel like my mind goes foggy and I can’t think straight. I’m usually pretty confident but I become a different person and it’s the worst because I feel like there’s a physical boundary that I need to put the work in to stop.

    • @user-ok7gr2lw2j
      @user-ok7gr2lw2j 5 лет назад +6

      Social Anxiety? Because I have that too...

    • @bellaw.5195
      @bellaw.5195 5 лет назад +3

      That happeneds to me too!

    • @saarahturtle
      @saarahturtle 5 лет назад +2

      LotusStream OceanMermaid I never thought that I had social anxiety. I might look into it.

    • @user-ok7gr2lw2j
      @user-ok7gr2lw2j 5 лет назад +4

      No no... if you doubt you have that, you might decide yourself that you have social anxiety.
      Go to a RUclips channel named Vanessa Van Edwards and look at her recent about how to deal with social anxiety. This might help you.

    • @PracticalInspiration
      @PracticalInspiration 5 лет назад +4

      Responses like these are usually because you're so focused on yourself that you lose confidence. The techniques in this video are genuinely helpful. One other thing is working on your mindset as you'll develop your confidence. Do things, routines, that put you in a frame of mind that will have you believe the day ahead is going to be an amazing day. You'd be amazed how much of a positive effect this will have.
      In addition, practice! Seriously, if you get nervous in a group setting, then don't be afraid to push yourself to speak your mind. At first it's hard, but I promise it gets easier

  • @harithomas1911
    @harithomas1911 5 лет назад +5

    I just wanted to say thank you so so much. These videos help someone who has a behavioural disorder to read other behavioural traits and stop them from feeling lonely and unwanted. On behalf of myself and others like me, thank you ever so much!!!

  • @charitytoke6461
    @charitytoke6461 Год назад +83

    Superb video. But, let me share this here knowing it can uplift someone that comes across it. Effective financial management made me rich and it is all you need if you want to build a strong financial future tomorrow. I started with 1000USD, 3 years ago I invested in a diversified stock market and fast forward to now I am worth 500000USD and am currently finishing my 8 unit apartments. I'm only 35 years old. Diversified stock investments have always proven to be very profitable, especially with the help of experts.

    • @catherinehughes2155
      @catherinehughes2155 Год назад

      I'm really impressed. At 35, i was worth a little over $200,000 from * in the stock market. But what you've done with your *finances* and numbers you worth, is pure genius.

    • @torkwaskipolischez8484
      @torkwaskipolischez8484 Год назад

      You have done well. It's people like you who set the benchmark for people like us to know that achieving financial stability and transition of status from being comfortable to wealthy is possible with the right *investment* plan.

    • @arlingjonathan4263
      @arlingjonathan4263 Год назад

      I'm curious, is *investing* in a diversified stock *market* a pretty lucrative venture? Can you share how you achieved these figures?

    • @charitytoke6461
      @charitytoke6461 Год назад

      @@arlingjonathan4263 Experience plays a key role when *investing* in diversified *stock markets*, which is why I have Rachel Hilda, whose experience has greatly helped me persevere in the diversified *stock market*. For three years she helped me grow my portfolio using her diversified knowledge of the financial *market*.

    • @arlingjonathan4263
      @arlingjonathan4263 Год назад

      @@charitytoke6461 Thank you very much for the response, I don't know if you can share a medium that I could use to communicate with Rachel. It's really a tough time for me due to inflations and an additional source of *income* would be exactly what I need for me in these unprecedented times and does she accept a minimum amount for startup?

  • @SergioRugerio
    @SergioRugerio 5 лет назад +165

    Charlie i have recently seen all your *infront of the camera* videos, it is amazing how much you have imporved your presentation skills, honestly i dont think there is a better presenter considering that you only make one take videos, with no cuts. I would love if you could go deeper on explaining how you prepare the videos.
    I know you already did a videos called "zero notes needed", but if you could go a little deeper it would be awesome.
    Thanks for sharing amazing, mind shifting content.

    • @PracticalInspiration
      @PracticalInspiration 5 лет назад +6

      This is what I was thinking, his on camera charisma is amazing when you consider the subtleties of how he communicates. In general, I feel they've really done great work with how they generally edit videos, it's really come a huge way.

  • @imransurbakti4417
    @imransurbakti4417 3 года назад +29

    "OH MY GOD! YOU KILLED THAT GIRL?"
    "heyyy, do you speak english?"

  • @MCFishNuggets
    @MCFishNuggets 4 года назад +26

    Boss: you haven’t been reaching your goal, your on thin ice
    Employee: hi, I don’t think we’ve met

  • @Knowledge_Nuggies
    @Knowledge_Nuggies 4 года назад +7

    Good stuff; here's my summary:
    • If there's something valuable to win, a high-pressure situation is usually the gate-keeper, e. g. dates, exams, job interviews etc.
    • 3 strategies to excel in high-pressure situations:
    1. Do the opposite of what u'd do by instinct
    □ We tend to do the wrong thing by instinct, that is get nervous, shut down, close off etc.
    □ Better: Consciously open ur body language, take a deep breath & calm down
    □ Think of the rituals athletes use to change their physical state
    2. Know the first thing to do/say in a particular type of situation
    □ Have a standard go-to-strategy, e. g. particular ice-breakers for meeting new ppl at networking events
    □ e. g. "Hey! I don't think I've met u yet. I'm [insert name]."
    3. Know ur frameworks for each type of situation
    □ There are many different frameworks (due to processual regularities), e. g. for dates, first impressions, case studies etc.
    □ e. g. good dates have 3 elements (in that order):
    1. Intrigue / interest (first spark; light fun; air of mystery)
    2. sharing of values, ambitions etc. (make a deeper connection)
    3. physical / sexual tension (comfortable long eye contact etc.)
    □ Use these frameworks as mental checklists to navigate these situations
    • Extra tip: Caught off-guard by a question? Rephrase the last words as a question ("Blablabla. What do u think of X?"->"Oh, u want my view on X?")
    ○ That gives u valuable time to change ur state, think etc.
    ○ Bonus points, if ur opponent even elaborates the initial question as a follow-up

  • @Iron-Bridge
    @Iron-Bridge 5 лет назад

    I'm glad this channel has passed the million subscriber mark. Lot of value to be found. You're doing very well and I wish you the very best on your rise. Cheers!

  • @thesquirteler4520
    @thesquirteler4520 5 лет назад +19

    Charlie, thank you again for your words of wisdom. They really do work! I was in a public setting all of today, and just by opening up my arms and rolling back my shoulders, I was totally at ease! Thank you for your dedication to this channel, it really does make a difference.

  • @metas1779
    @metas1779 5 лет назад +41

    This guy's the guy! These vids are super helpful without being over the top like some other stuff I've seen. Well done.

  • @tarikalakkad2005
    @tarikalakkad2005 4 года назад

    Man can't get enough of your videos. I see sincerity in every single video.

  • @moritzschroder
    @moritzschroder 5 лет назад +7

    Loved the video! Staying sharp under pressure has been a problem for me for a while now... when I create content, such as blog posts or my youtube videos, I can take my time with thinking and aligning my thoughts. But when put on the spot I tend to crash and burn. Definitely something I need to work more on in the future! 😉

  • @Blessthemartyr132
    @Blessthemartyr132 4 года назад +6

    I love every video you make and I think you do such a great job gettingyour message across. I've definitely learned a lot from you and thanks so much.

  • @vm3mm3mv29
    @vm3mm3mv29 5 лет назад +606

    This channel is for aliens that want to mingle between humans

    • @thenoblemute7669
      @thenoblemute7669 5 лет назад +41

      vm3m m3mv ~ oh no they've figured me out

    • @ishpeeedy
      @ishpeeedy 5 лет назад +8

      You got me!
      Pshhht! Alert master Zucc ASAP!

    • @machduel
      @machduel 5 лет назад +11

      Jokes aside there is a lot of stuff that he covers that you'd expect people to have already (charisma wise) then you go out into the world and everyone's a jerk.

    • @mihlalipotwana7448
      @mihlalipotwana7448 4 года назад +2

      You dont have to be soo loud

    • @scrapthatwithmatt9520
      @scrapthatwithmatt9520 4 года назад

      Mythron na, not everyone, just the majority (80%)

  • @saarahturtle
    @saarahturtle 5 лет назад

    Even after a year of subscribing to this channel, I can’t get over how you managed to do these videos so well in one take

  • @celticsfangreen
    @celticsfangreen 5 лет назад

    You’re a genius making a video and then linking 4 more of your videos that tag along with the main concept no wonder you have so many views

  • @PracticalInspiration
    @PracticalInspiration 5 лет назад +5

    Great video as always! This video focuses heavily on high pressure social situations, but the principle ideas can be extended to other pressure situations too. I've personally worked a lot on coping with stress myself and doing so allows me to achieve so much more in life.

  • @cody9744
    @cody9744 5 лет назад +4

    I’ve been watching you for two years now and love how you still bring new skills to bear!

    • @Charismaoncommand
      @Charismaoncommand  5 лет назад +3

      ~ Thanks Cody! Appreciate you sticking with us since the beginning. :-)

  • @jonneyblack4458
    @jonneyblack4458 5 лет назад

    I've seen and read a lot of stuff on this topic, and this is the best video I've EVER seen. Very informative and clearly explained.

  • @h4468
    @h4468 4 года назад

    I hope you know how much impact your videos make in the world. You have literally shifted my entire life and how I view it

  • @nicspinks
    @nicspinks 5 лет назад +39

    I really liked the zoom in when you took a deep breath

  • @MagicLink43
    @MagicLink43 5 лет назад +163

    I've recently had trouble formulating my sentences and expressing what I want to say. Any advice that can help me overcome this hurdle?

    • @Charismaoncommand
      @Charismaoncommand  5 лет назад +109

      My guess is that the number one thing that would help you is slowing down. Often times we think we are speaking much more slowly than we are (if you've watched yourself on tape, it becomes obvious). Take a deep breath, collect your thoughts without filler words, and take advantage of the silence. In addition to giving you a few extra seconds to think, it can be great for commanding attention if you don't interrupt it with filler words

    • @Charismaoncommand
      @Charismaoncommand  5 лет назад +25

      My guess is that the number one thing that would help you is slowing down. Often times we think we are speaking much more slowly than we are (if you've watched yourself on tape, it becomes obvious). Take a deep breath, collect your thoughts without filler words, and take advantage of the silence. In addition to giving you a few extra seconds to think, it can be great for commanding attention if you don't interrupt it with filler words

    • @MagicLink43
      @MagicLink43 5 лет назад +39

      Charisma on Command I think you're right. Many times I scramble through thoughts in my mind and can't seem to get anything out. Slowing down will definitely help. Looking back, I also do tend to interrupt silence and use filler words often. I will make a conscious effort to stop that. Thank you very much!

    • @PracticalInspiration
      @PracticalInspiration 5 лет назад +16

      lol, I was about to respond with the same suggestions as the guys at Charisma on Command (not sure if it was Charlie or Ben).
      Another thing that might help is consider where your focus is. Often when we stumble on words or feel nerves it's because our focus is so heavily on ourselves rather than who we're talking to. For example, if you struggle in social situations, one really good thing is to keep asking questions, because if you ask others about themselves, then your focus is on them, not yourself. This can be a great confidence booster as you feel more comfortable in the conversation. I'm aware that may not be an answer to your specific issue, but hopefully identifying where your focus is when speaking will help you understand how to overcome it.

    • @dannyclub09
      @dannyclub09 5 лет назад +6

      I'm like this. And then I try and jokingly address the fact I'm being inarticulate but then am inarticulate in doing that and come across as a complete mess. Charlie is right though, I slow down and try and form the sentence in my mind first, even if it means pausing for a while mid-sentence, and it does help.

  • @DemetriosLevi
    @DemetriosLevi 5 лет назад

    This is the first video of yours I've watched, and I can see why you have over one million subs...this info is GOLD, man!

  • @TheDenisedrake
    @TheDenisedrake 5 лет назад

    Fabulous! Four times a year I am the lobby manager for huge dance recitals (300+ dancers). There are always a few parents or grandparents etc. who think they should be let in early, can go backstage or have some other issue that I have to say "no" to. I love the open body language and repeating the question or request. Thanks!

  • @missestomlinson99
    @missestomlinson99 3 года назад +32

    cashier: that’ll be 1.99$
    me: “think fast”
    also me: hands her 25 cents

  • @DepressionTalks1
    @DepressionTalks1 5 лет назад +115

    These tips are helpful for sure. I think overall you just have to be yourself, and be okay with slowly growing.

    • @DepressionTalks1
      @DepressionTalks1 5 лет назад +4

      Solutionist ' Hm.. slow growth is better than no growth.

    • @woodsofchaos
      @woodsofchaos 5 лет назад +6

      And it would have been equal to normal growth too, until you called it slow growth.

    • @Shifterfire
      @Shifterfire 5 лет назад +5

      In personal growth, usually any meaningful growth is slow. And if you think it's fast, you realise later you haven't actually grown that much.

    • @DepressionTalks1
      @DepressionTalks1 5 лет назад

      Himanshu Singh Cool perspective:]

    • @DepressionTalks1
      @DepressionTalks1 5 лет назад

      Shifterfire Never thought of it that way:]

  • @sdaisyclaire
    @sdaisyclaire 5 лет назад

    This video just magically appears right after I worked in a shift where we were severly understaffed and a crowd of people exceeded our projections. Awesome!

  • @jnellieeightyfive7725
    @jnellieeightyfive7725 3 года назад

    Love you Charlie. Keep up the amazing work ❤ we appreciate your support

  • @alexanderSnilsson
    @alexanderSnilsson 5 лет назад +6

    These are all great tips I've tried to apply lately to varying degree. However, I must say that working on being conscious and aware throughout the day, really has paid off good to these high-pressure situations. It's like I've gotten better at "slow-mo" down the time to think and be less reactive. This is the more longterm fix that also requires tons of work. I've been using meditation, journaling and just focusing on being more present and aware. Thanks for GREAT content as always Charlie,
    /Alex

    • @Charismaoncommand
      @Charismaoncommand  5 лет назад +1

      I'm getting hooked on meditation. Definitely more videos on that soon!

    • @alexanderSnilsson
      @alexanderSnilsson 5 лет назад

      SWEET! I'm starting to fall in love in it as well

  • @claeswelinder2014
    @claeswelinder2014 5 лет назад +66

    I can’t overemphasis the value in making a habit of visualizing possible scenarios and mentaly practice routines.
    This might require you to put down the phone and study your surroundings though ;)

    • @sgnome1725
      @sgnome1725 5 лет назад

      Darn

    • @CBLK159
      @CBLK159 5 лет назад +4

      Phone bad speak good

    • @rodrigozanabria2978
      @rodrigozanabria2978 5 лет назад +3

      @@CBLK159 yes

    • @Resunaa
      @Resunaa 4 года назад +1

      Oh people dont already do this?
      It's actually nice to visualize a universe with a conversation that I'm anticipating. Sometimes you can take replies you used in that scenario and place that in a real convo you're having, almost like reading a script from your memory. The more you do it the more accurate you can become and the more fluent your sentences will be.

    • @bsivoljr
      @bsivoljr 3 года назад

      @@Resunaa The crazy thing is that Im really good at this and can visualize tons of scenarios, however I never practice this.

  • @patriciavideojourn9117
    @patriciavideojourn9117 4 года назад +1

    i have been watching their videos since the quarantine every morning as I prepare breakfast. Very helpful!

  • @justineamador8160
    @justineamador8160 5 лет назад +2

    Charlie!
    Im so proud if you!
    Love your videos! 😍

  • @thatguyrajat
    @thatguyrajat 5 лет назад +4

    Thanks for this one Charlie 👍

  • @xZankiohx
    @xZankiohx 5 лет назад +66

    I came here in order to learn how to think 10x faster under pressure but now I can think 12x faster than normal under pressure. How can I go back please?

    • @Charismaoncommand
      @Charismaoncommand  5 лет назад +61

      Watch on .75 speed. 9X should be close enough

    • @xZankiohx
      @xZankiohx 5 лет назад +10

      Charisma on Command thank you! Hahahahaha.

    • @vm3mm3mv29
      @vm3mm3mv29 5 лет назад +3

      Charisma on Command 😂😂😂😂

    • @Infaviored
      @Infaviored 5 лет назад +1

      That was actually really funny

  • @nabeel9187
    @nabeel9187 4 года назад +1

    This channel has improved my life and mind a thousand times more than anything else.I found all the videos I have watched on this channel useful.
    Thank You

  • @freshprince8919
    @freshprince8919 4 года назад +1

    I had a similar experience with this, had this one friend that always attacked me in a social situation, I tried this technique. after a while though all the humility, I started speaking up ... go for it!

  • @thewarhammer6606
    @thewarhammer6606 5 лет назад +26

    Me: *Doing Tai Chi in the office's waiting room*
    Secratary: Sir... are you ok?
    Me: Can't talk. Im doing my interview ritual

  • @physical_insanity
    @physical_insanity 5 лет назад +12

    Thing is, even if I do say what I want, I still end up kicking myself thinking "why didn't I say this today?" even though it probably went pretty well.

  • @deathsoulger1
    @deathsoulger1 3 года назад +1

    This channels content is changing my life radically. Highly recommend this to anyone

  • @RokonGaming
    @RokonGaming 5 лет назад

    Fantastic video as always, Charlie. I'm always looking forward to improving myself socially.

  • @VIK_1903
    @VIK_1903 5 лет назад +184

    HOW TO MAKE ME CLICK HERE 10X FASTER

  • @abirdonalilactree
    @abirdonalilactree 5 лет назад +34

    Under pressure, I'm pretty sure I'm going to say 'Hello, I'm Charly', now 😀

    • @amymartinez6477
      @amymartinez6477 5 лет назад +3

      Funny if they are like oh you saw the video too!?

  • @kyrier9827
    @kyrier9827 4 года назад

    The thing I love about your advise is you dont say, "change your personality this way so people will like you." You instead suggest start doing this in daily life to be a more magnetic person. You help us to better our charisma without making it seem like we need to completely change who we are to be a "better person." You want us to better ourselves for our own wellbeing and not just for what other people think. Keep up the amazing work! 👍

  • @a2h579
    @a2h579 3 года назад +1

    That’s important to think faster for every successful person, good video ❤️

  • @klubkudu
    @klubkudu 5 лет назад +4

    Hey Charlie,
    I was just wondering if you could cover some texting or online behaviour that is charismatic. Like a certain way of texting because texting is a pretty big part of dating and relationships these days.
    Just a suggestion, keep up the good work!

  • @chiemikaononiwu4985
    @chiemikaononiwu4985 5 лет назад +27

    The emoji he slid in at 5:14 💀💀💀

    • @CaptainCocaine
      @CaptainCocaine 5 лет назад +2

      I'm surprised I don't see more comments about that.

    • @flueepwrien6587
      @flueepwrien6587 4 года назад +2

      @@CaptainCocaine exactly, best part of the video

  • @Seeker_CS
    @Seeker_CS 4 года назад

    The fact that there are no cuts or jumps in this make it so much better. Nice

  • @lauragriffin3368
    @lauragriffin3368 5 лет назад +1

    Wow! This is great advice! I’m constantly surprised at how much value any one of these videos offer. They’re just awesome! They package up so many different things into one context so it’s useful immediately. Thank you for making this!

    • @Charismaoncommand
      @Charismaoncommand  5 лет назад

      ~ Happy to make it! Glad to hear you're getting value from our videos. :-)

  • @ukaszs3986
    @ukaszs3986 3 года назад +6

    Boss: Kowalski where is that crucial report I wanted on my desk yesterday?
    Me: Hey, do you speak english?

  • @quadraticequation8196
    @quadraticequation8196 5 лет назад +5

    Last time I was in a fight with my teacher....my nose started shaking 😢😖

  • @muskduh
    @muskduh 2 года назад

    Appreciate your video, my man. Keep up the great work!

  • @RiaLuna1
    @RiaLuna1 5 лет назад +1

    Thank you so much! Such a great and extremely helpful video!❤️❣️

  • @1dgram
    @1dgram 5 лет назад +3

    Or you could get into a bunch of different extreme sports that seem really dangerous but in actuality aren't that bad and eventually you'll rarely get adrenaline rushes any more and when you do they'll be much sublimed. Then the only thing is that teammates might wonder why you don't panic when something goes really wrong; you just weigh the options and calmly choose one; it can really freak some people out and make them wonder if you really care.

  • @TrashReturns
    @TrashReturns 5 лет назад +9

    Your biceps just looks... handsome. Ever thought about a video on your workout?

  • @abenerice
    @abenerice 5 лет назад

    Thank you Charlie, great content as usual!

  • @suryahr307
    @suryahr307 3 года назад

    I have the most important interview of my life in 2 days and I get this video recommended. I didn't even watch any videos related to interviews!!

  • @nathanh5448
    @nathanh5448 5 лет назад +41

    Hi charlie, I wanted to ask you, can you do a video on Jeff Goldblum?

    • @Charismaoncommand
      @Charismaoncommand  5 лет назад +26

      He's definitely an interesting character. Maybe for the new Jurassic World? I'll take a look and see if it makes sense

    • @victoryzy
      @victoryzy 5 лет назад

      Especially his interviews with Conan!

    • @epharonin1524
      @epharonin1524 4 года назад

      Got to do one on Rodney Dangerfield, too 😁

  • @MetaphoricMinds
    @MetaphoricMinds 3 года назад +19

    It is awkward that I'm here to learn how to socialize better, but my wife comes in while I'm being given dating advice from some guy on the internet.

    • @Ohakoo
      @Ohakoo 2 года назад +3

      Are u alive?

  • @QwertyTSecond
    @QwertyTSecond 5 лет назад +1

    One thing I'd add is knowing what you want, gearing a framework to a specific goal you want and figuring out if you're on the right track to that.

  • @marcosilva9260
    @marcosilva9260 5 лет назад

    I'm so glad I crossed through ur channel but tbh I'm a bit sad that I haven't seen it before cause I'd have made an effort to meet you here in Brazil. You're so beautiful inside and outside too. Tks for being so generous when talking about Brazil! Big hug!! -kako

  • @ACompleteUnknown97
    @ACompleteUnknown97 3 года назад +7

    “Do the opposite”
    *George Costanza wants to know your location*

  • @DBZMacky
    @DBZMacky 5 лет назад +6

    I guess this is Michael De Santa's ability IRL.

  • @PianistaPeralta
    @PianistaPeralta 5 лет назад +1

    Your videos are just awesome, thank you for doing it! ❤

  • @clintzandrewmatugas5846
    @clintzandrewmatugas5846 4 года назад

    Thanks a lot guys. may God bless all of you and everyone who needs this info more.

  • @thomasappelflap4433
    @thomasappelflap4433 5 лет назад +33

    1. Don’t let the pressure go to your head in the first place

    • @BSJINTHEHOUSE420
      @BSJINTHEHOUSE420 5 лет назад +2

      Thomas Appelflap I should consider that because that makes me lose many Fortnite games.

    • @thomasappelflap4433
      @thomasappelflap4433 5 лет назад

      BSJ IN YO HOUSE AHAHAHAHAH TRUE

    • @thomasappelflap4433
      @thomasappelflap4433 5 лет назад +4

      Somesh feeling some form of gratitude, realising that everything isn’t that big of a deal

    • @vladb420
      @vladb420 5 лет назад

      or you can just be very proud of yourself

  • @shaun_rambaran
    @shaun_rambaran 5 лет назад +4

    "Yes, Charlie. The proposal. Weren't you listening?..."

  • @robbytheyogi990
    @robbytheyogi990 5 лет назад +1

    Interesting addition of graphics in your videos Charlie!
    I like em :) Keep up the awesome work my man

  • @gloriawang5608
    @gloriawang5608 4 года назад

    These videos are so well-made and universally useful!

  • @skortana3760
    @skortana3760 3 года назад +3

    Listened to this at 2X speed so I can think 20X faster instead

  • @thegoodkidboy7726
    @thegoodkidboy7726 5 лет назад +3

    "So, what do you think?"
    "Yes"

  • @Bace17
    @Bace17 5 лет назад +1

    Dude! Your videos are improving! Nice work

  • @n8style
    @n8style 5 лет назад

    Dude you're a fricking genius, love these videos