Aw Molly it’s ok!!! You don’t owe us anything. You went through a life changing event, you’re sleep deprived, your hormones are changing like crazy, you have a new life to take care of. Don’t feel like you need to rush into creating content, we’re doing just fine!
I had my baby around the time you had Bambi and I deeply connect with this video. It almost feels like we are feeling the exact same thing, the last two months have been the most beautiful months of my life yet the most difficult. I fully now understand when people say two things can be true at the same time. I also don’t know where to start from in terms of getting back on RUclips after my 1year hiatus. Anyway I just wanted to say you’ve inspired me to come on here and share my story. Hang in there mama, you’ve got this and you are not alone in this ❤
The first 3 months of my sons life, I don’t remember. I was still traumatised by his birth and being stuck in hospital with a blood infection for 5 days after. I only just started feeling myself around 6 months PP. He is now 10 months and I am starting to feel like a slight bit of my old self. This is totally normal to feel this way. Nobody is honest about motherhood and they need an influencer like you to tell the world so mothers are believed!
Yes, if it wasnt for photos or videos. Would not have known it happened. Then the pandemic happened and my LB was 5 months. Off back to work i went to help.
Why did her partner leave her for a month after giving birth to her first baby!? Is he in the military? What were his obligations, presumably schedualed 9 months earlier, that took priority over staying with his new baby and mom? Genuine question cause I have no idea who he is.
Aw listening to Molly invalidate herself is so sad. Many women experience trauma, ptsd and the baby blues after birth. Women’s health is something that is painted in a way that is not reflective of how intense child bearing and birthing is. You’re doing great Molly 🥹 keep spreading awareness x
@@cip438 I disagree with your comment. The pain and exhaustion she went through (from the birth through to the excruciating constipation- to the point she felt she needed medical attention) would be enough to cause trauma. Experiencing trauma and PTSD are different things. You can experience trauma and heal from that, although the effects will last in the mind, whereas with PTSD there are many symptoms that accompany that trauma and the effects of the mind, causing it to last longer. It does not have to be a life threatening event to cause trauma or PTSD. Please don’t confuse the two different things. One is a mental health condition/disorder, one is an experience that anyone can feel. I don’t doubt that she did experience trauma. Birthing a baby, the after effects of having a baby, the UTI she had, the tiredness/lack of sleep (a form of torture in itself), mixed with her partner leaving to go to another country would all be enough to experience trauma.
@@cip438 that’s such a strange thing to say. Molly herself used the word trauma to describe her experience and I think we should listen to her, and any person that feels they had been through something traumatic, without questioning the severity of the situation to fit your own definition of trauma. None of us can say how another person is supposed to feel or not feel about their own motherhood experience except the mother herself. Also, undermining motherhood is very strange, Mothers are fucking superhero’s are their job is no easy thing! so pls give credit where credit is due. These women created, birthed and raise life, that in of itself is not “easy” it’s brave.
@@cip438 “Trauma” is an event that we do not have sufficient emotional resources to process at the time. This is why an event can happen to one person and they can recover just fine, yet an identical thing can happen to someone else and they struggle to process it. It is not about the nature of the event that occurs, it is about how well the person is equipped emotionally at the time that it happens. Everyone’s capacity and threshold for coping with difficult events or circumstances is different. This is taught by therapists when a patient is invalidating their own trauma, or under the impression they are overreacting or “making a fuss” about something that has genuinely effected them.
@@cip438 I’m not saying if these events did or didn’t traumatise Molly (only she can know that). I was just commenting on the subject of trauma as a whole, and the meaning of the word when used in psychotherapy. However, the human threshold for trauma does not differ because of the overuse of a word. That’s a very bold statement to make. People were experiencing differing reactions to the same sort of event LONG before society became more aware of these things, and started speaking about it more openly. The level of a trauma response doesn’t depend on what is objectively more or less severe of an event.
@@cip438 Why does classifying something like this as trauma “invalidate real trauma survivors”? The presence of one person’s trauma will never equate to the absence of someone else’s. Comparing the severity of an event to something worse is not something that should ever come into it. That just feeds into the whole “my problems are worse than yours” dynamic that prevents people from speaking up in the first place. To me, that’s like saying somebody that’s three weeks pregnant calling themselves “pregnant” is invalidating for someone who’s eight months pregnant.
Thank u It's not easy, especially as a single mother, I feel like I don't have help from anyone! the friendships i thought i had disappeared and its sad but i look at my son and he gives me the strength to get up every day to face the world 😢
Totally relatable, you’re doing so, so well. I’m a mum and a midwife and was still totally unprepared for motherhood and how utterly overwhelming it is, especially in the beginning. I LOVE how honest you have been here. It really does get easier, as you’re already finding, but give yourself time to process everything and don’t rush yourself, like others have said there’s a reason why women (should ideally) have maternity leave. Lots of love x
Can I just state the obvious? You’re free to upload whatever content you want & whenever you want!!! Creating a content is already hard enough as it needs courage (being in front of a camera and being transparent) and time, and you should do it only when you’re happy to do it. We know how much you love RUclips and your audience. Every feeling you have is normal. We love you, Molly💗
Anyone else click on like before they’ve even watched it? Molly Mae is so honest and real which is so refreshing in this industry. We all love you Molly and Bambi xxxx🤍🤍🤍
I’m a new follower - Molly you are a breath of fresh air. As a mum to a nearly three year old, this is the most relatable 11 and a half minutes on RUclips! X
I really feel for you feeling like you can’t say certain things because it gets over analysed by everyone🥺. Just know that the majority of us here are rooting for you and can see how well you’ve come out the other side of all the crap life’s thrown at you since being in the public eye. You’re doing amazing 💗
Just wanna say to MollyMae that those feelings are normal, you would think having a baby/child, is the best thing ever but it really is very hard. Your own life is a little bit over. A child just take all your energy and time, especially when they are that little. Also a very important thing which I just hear you say, the epidural....... it is causing you to feel so bad. I have a book from a dutch doctor talking about the effects it has on a new mother and it is bad, especially your emotions are very normal. It takes around a year, up to 1,5 year to get the effects of the epidural worn out. What it comes down to is that an epidural makes you feel more distance from others because it does some terrible things with your hormones for example.
midwife here - nothing or no one can ever prepare you for motherhood, it's a journey that most of us will find ourselves on at one point in our life. mourning the loss of your old self whilst celebrating the love of a new life is such an overwhelming feeling but you WILL get through this! keep going mamma! you've got this 💪🏼✨
As a Mummy of a 5 week old I actually appreciate the transparency of this video. When you initially posted pictures looking done up after one month of Bambi etc and all your outings I felt like a complete failure that I couldn’t do the same. Keep on keeping it real. Sending love 🤍
this transparency is so refreshing. and it is so normal. and so many women can relate and so many need to hear it. thank you for sharing, we love you, hope you keep healing and getting better. xoxo
Trauma is the perfect word for it. Trauma doesn't have to be what we imagine extreme Trauma to be, it's just a case of going through something that your brain wasn't fully capable of processing or dealing with emotionally or mentally. I always wanted a baby and having my 2 year old still traumatised me, I had a really rough time too, you're not alone ❤
Exactly! And even if you think you’re mentally, emotionally and physically ready you can never fully be ready for such a life changing thing. I had a jaundice baby and even though I was told millions of times that it’s a common thing I still felt so alone and has absolutely traumatised me it has definitely given me doubts about having a second 😞 I thought I failed as soon as he was earth side
Please don’t feel like youre the only mummy that’s been through this girl. The constipation, the stitches, the breakdowns, the days without washing properly… we understand you!❤ youre not alone❤
My sister just had her first baby and I had to watch my nephew for 3 nights by myself (because she had mastitis) and by the third night of getting up every other hour, having to feed him, and then rock him back to sleep… I was crying by just the third day; sooo the fact that you pushed through as a new mom without Tommy after giving birth; you have every right to feel the way you did 💕 praying the transition gets smoother, you’re doing great 🤍
I LOVE this video!! This is exactly the kind of content that I love, I want to hear about everything and the realities of life instead of just perfection all of the time. Wishing you the best!! Thanks again ❤❤
This is fucking inspiring!!!! Actually some TRUTH about how difficult motherhood is!!!!!!! Go you!!!!! Just thank you so much for just being authentic and REAL!!!!!!! My son is now 17 months and looking back at the first 6 months was definitely traumatic!!!! Watch yourself for postpartum depression… I’m a mental health nurse and the brain fog etc can be a symptom. Look after yourself and this video is my favourite one you’ve ever done!!!! Xxxxxxx
This is so refreshing to watch. Although I’m sure EXTREMELY hard to put such vulnerability online, hearing someone say things that I’ve personally felt and is so raw & real is so reassuring. Bambi is so lucky to have such a wonderful, inspiring mummy. I’ve got two little boys and both situations were completely different post-partum but it’s so nice to finally see some normality online. Thank you 💖
I love your authenticity and braveness it is so relatable. I just lost my dad recently and my whole world came crashing down. It's not the same as your situation but everyone just keeps saying you need to move on and stuff and I feel so run down all the time too and am looking at trauma and trying to heal myself. There's a lot of great stuff out there to help, so hang in there and sending you love and massive virtual hug ❤
The brain feeling scrambled is soooo normal, my son is 11 months and I felt and still feel exactly the same. You’re an amazing mum and we can all see it. So proud of you ♥️
I felt this in my soul. I’m a first time mum and my daughter is now 10 weeks old. Motherhood has been something I was never prepared for. It is magical and beautiful but honestly the hardest thing I’ve ever done in my life and as you said it’s just something no one can ever prepare you for, no matter how much they explain it to you. Thank you for being so transparent, it helps so much knowing I’m not alone in my feelings. Stay strong mumma you got this and you don’t owe anything to anyone. I can barely remember to take my medication or eat on a daily basis, let alone film content like you do. Do what you can, when you can, that’s all you can do 🥰
I don't know why people want kids so bad. Your life is kind of over once you have them. All that work and then they will leave you for someone else when they get older. Some of my friends have kids and I see how little time they have. Just completely tired and have no time to do anything. Then there's all the expense too. Good luck to anyone who has or wants them but it's no fairytale. I respect people who have them but I don't know why they want them so bad other than a natural urge
I can totally relate Molly. I have an 11 month old and the first few months of her life I had almost an identity crisis, i felt like I was just her mum and not me anymore. It took me such a long time to wrap my head around it all. It’s so so overwhelming but at the same time magical and an amazing experience. Motherhood is indescribable. X
Very relatable! Becoming a mum is one the most life changing experience anyone goes through! Don’t be hard on yourself! I’m a first time mum to a 9 month old and even now I still get emotional! You’re doing great!!
This is why I love Molly. She's so real with us all. I hope she knows it's completely okay to take a break from interacting with us to focus on herself
She’s honestly smashing it! I love how honest and up front she is about everything she’s going through, because I guarantee many people can relate in some way. 💜
This girl is just so genuine and real I just love her. She is so open about everything and I hope everyone gets behind her and let’s enjoy her journey. Keep your head up molly your the best 😍😍😍
You know what makes me emotional? You’re the same age my mum was when she had me. She’d lost her own mum at 17. Her sisters lived abroad. It makes me realise how strong she had to be. She did it alone ❤
I’m glad you put this video out. It’s raw and real. Pregnancy isn’t all sunshine and rainbows and you’re allowed to admit that for all that you love being a parent to Bambi, that you were also overwhelmed. Trauma is the perfect word to use, it was a moment in time which changed you forever for good or bad ❤
Absolute credit to you!! Doing it without Tommy there must have been incredibly difficult, especially when you also worry and get anxiety about him fighting. So many emotions for such a big moment in your life. Take your time. We all love and support you 1000%❤❤️Remember to take care of yourself too❤
I rarely comment on videos but this is so open and honest that I couldn't not. Please know you're not alone! My youngest is 11 now but can still remember the after effects of birth like yesterday. The sh!t side of birth isn't spoken about enough (literally!) 😂 It's hardwork growing and birthing a human, we need to remember this!
Life is so so overwhelming as a mum and you have no idea of all these emotions and feelings until you’re thrown into this new life. 9 months into being a new mum and I still feel like this sometimes, it all gets a bit much and you lose your identity and you feel your being judged, you feel you’re alone, you feel your baby is the only baby with that habit etc. it’s all perfectly normal and your feelings are totally valid. You just take your time, remember just because you’re in the limelight doesn’t mean you owe anyone anything. You’ve got this xxx
Don’t be too hard on yourself Molly. This is a very difficult and emotional time and I guarantee all of us mothers know how you are feeling and can relate to so much. Take your time and don’t put pressure on yourself. Speaking from a mothers point of view, I know it’s difficult to explain the emotions at the beginning but trust me when I say we understand because we have been there. It does get easier but the emotions are real at the beginning.
This is so beautiful! Nothing can prepare you for the intense love that you feel and I think the realisation of knowing that if anything happens to the perfect yet vulnerable life that you created, you wouldn’t be able to live and that’s friggen scary. But that’s the love that makes you the incredible mom that you are.
Molly I’m a new mom too! My son was born January 26- Thank you for Filming this video!!!! If it makes you feel any better you helped me feel less alone. Thank you thank you!!!! It’s Soo overwhelming- it so true ! My life is just soooo different. NO BODY CAN PREPARE YOU. You are doing amazing. No one is a better mum than you to Bambi!!!
Oh girl :( most people take a year off of work after having a baby, and there’s a reason for it. Take care of yourself and don’t put so much pressure on yourself. You’re doing such an amazing job! Sending you so many prayers and love 🥹💗
No they don’t 😂. Most people only have a few months off. Also, those people don’t have 2 personal assistants, get weekly blowdries, makeup artists, stylists, cleaners, a partner who doesn’t work full time thats there to help, some not even a partner at all, a huge disposable income, a sister who runs to their beckon call, private healthcare, their own transport etc. Molly is a melodramatic, self obsessed moaner. Claiming she didn’t sleep for 5 days is laughable. It’s impossible and as she was under the care of the best postnatal health service in the UK, there is absolutely no way they would let one of their patients go without sleep. All you lot giving her sympathy is feeding her need for attention. Give it to people who need it and stop being so gullible.
Mummies are given maternity leave for a purpose, give yourself time to be the lovely mummy you are. Accept the fact that you and yours are going, and need, to go through this bonding , precious family time. you’ve made a massive step with this video, so many women will gain strength from knowing they are not alone. A teacher once shared her anxieties on having her first baby, she could teach a classroom of 30 children without ever feeling as she does with her one baby. Please don’t be too hard on yourself, this video is meant to be. Thanx for your honesty.x
When I had my daughter, it was he hardest thing I've ever done. she was born just before the pandemic, and I've done it all by myself for 18 months. You're doing AMAZING Molly ❤
My son is nearly 11 months old and no-one can prepare you for motherhood. It’s the most amazing thing in the world but so hard at the same time with all of your emotions running wild. You’re doing an amazing job, sending lots of love ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you for being so raw and real with us. Those first few weeks are tough mentally and physically. Love love love hearing you talk about the reality of motherhood but also the joy. Lots of mum accounts can be all about the negatives or they just focus on the highlights. You’re the perfect balance and can’t wait to see more but when you are ready. Pp brain fog is so real ❤
Sending so much love its such a hard time in the newborn phase, but just know it does get easier and you speaking about it is inspirational. As a mother society makes you feel like you can't complain or be honest about how crappy sometimes it is and the sad thing is so many people are going through it and would feel better knowing it isn't just them ❤
It’s mourning the loss of your old self while also celebrating the love of a new life. It’s an overwhelming feeling, the first baby is a shock to the system but it gets a lot easier and more enjoyable. My son is 2 in July and is the best thing to ever happen me 💙
I became a mum on Boxing Day 2022. I absolutely adore being a mum to my baby boy, and I feel the same that being mum has come so naturally to me. However it’s SO overwhelming, Graysons 13 weeks on Monday and I still don’t feel myself, my brain doesn’t want to brain and it’s so so hard. The night feeds, lack of sleep, complete life change, the 0 independence and freedom you suddenly have. It’s crazy. But it gets better with time you’re amazing parenting is so so hard nobody can ever prepare you for it. But you’re killing it
Never watched you on Love Island but I come across a lot of your videos lately and I must say you are so genuine and lovely, I don’t have children yet but hearing your down to earth stories on your motherhood journey has been inspiring. I think us women need to give ourselves more credit in everything we do in life. Lovely honest video ❤
So happy we have people like you in this world Molly to be an advocate for women’s feelings and to speak so openly about the struggles of transitioning within the world of motherhood. Hope you’re okay, you’re doing a brilliant job and it will all be worth it as you see your little girl grow throughout her years and how you’ve helped support her through that❤
Thank you Thank you Thank you for being so true! This takes courage to be so honest and real in this so called perfect world we call social media. Love and so much appreciation from all of us!
this is SO real and relatable to most of us who have had kids. don’t feel the pressure to post, everyone will be here when you’re better mentally 🫶🏼 you’re smashing it!!! 🙌🏼
God the first 6 months of motherhood for me were horrific! I had PTSD and just felt so alone!! Surround yourself with mums who have babies Bambi’s age! I found a mum community such a saviour ❤
100% relate!! I'm a mother of 3.. it's hard out specially in the first few months, but it gets easier. The nights are long but the years are short. Be kind to yourself, it's the hardest but most rewarding job ❤
Your feelings are so valid! Everything you’ve said is spot on I’m a new mom also and it’s SO HARD. Thank you for being so honest with us all. From your comments we can all relate your not alone even if you feel it, from one new mama to another, you’ve got this 💗💗💗💗
You truly are an inspiration Molly. Thank you for sharing your journey with us! Start slow with videos like this and you will be back in the swing when you get there. We all love you and your family ❤
i’ve never had more respect for you molly! thank you for being so raw and honest. and you really shouldn’t feel any pressure to be anything other than yourself as i’m sure this video has touched many women ❤
Molly I have so so much respect for you with sharing this, it’s really brave… and really relatable. Your experience of having a baby is so similar to mine, and I’m so sorry that you’ve had a tough time but please know that you have made some of us other mums who have struggled too a little bit more normal. Keep being you ❤
It’s honestly so refreshing that you are speaking so honestly about how things can be post baby. The brain fog is real. It hit me hard after having my 1st (still is with my 2nd who is 3 years old) Sleep deprivation is absolutely shocking. It’s a LOT. Be kind and gentle with yourself. Celebrate those little wins. They aren’t ridiculous at all. ❤
The whole thing of pushing people away, I did exactly the same thing. I felt like I wanted to do it all because he was my baby! It’s almost as though you don’t want to be defeated and just keep going. He is now 3 and I’m due my second baby totally ready to accept all the help I am offered, you can do this Molly!❤
So so needed to hear this, only a few weeks behind you postpartum- it’s so overwhelming & I went to a&e with the constipation cramps! Thank you for making me feel less alone ❤
Thank you for being so real and honest. I didn’t hear people when they said how my life is going to change etc and it hit me hard. I was so overwhelmed I felt like I couldn’t speak out about it because everyone else seemed to just get on with it and I didn’t want to seem like I had failure or a bad mum. I didn’t want to talk to or see anyone I just wanted my partner. Women like you who talk about the reality make me feel like I’m not alone and I can do this 💕 being a mum is the best thing ever, we need to be kinder to ourselves and support each other! ❤
I don't think she realises we actually care for her. No matter what you are going through, we are here for the good and bad. It makes you even more loveable. ❤
This is so heartfelt and admirably raw and honest and your dedication to being your true, authentic self and holding nothing back (even when you’ve been slammed for it in the past) is truly inspiring. With a mom like you, Bambi has so much to be proud of ♥️
Motherhood is a beautiful challenge! It’s so amazing but it’s so hard. Life changes not just a little bit but it changes soooooo much. As a mother you put everything but yourself first - with time you’ll be able to find a Routine that fits you but it is very overwhelming! Sending love, you’re not alone all the mums can relate 💗
I feel you girl… I’m a new mum to a preemie and also super run down from all the sleepless nights 😬 there are days that we don’t feel like ourselves but also there is a whole new part of us too! Just know that you’re doing an amazing job 👏 xxxx
I have a 3 month old and I couldn’t relate to this any more! I literally had such a similar experience in the first few weeks. I didn’t sleep for like two weeks and just had so many similar things so thank you for posting this! You truly can’t prepare for this especially mentally how hard it can be. So glad I’m not alone 💗
“Where is Molly at” - Molly is right here! This is authentic and so normal amongst new mums. You’ve got this ❤️
Aw Molly it’s ok!!! You don’t owe us anything. You went through a life changing event, you’re sleep deprived, your hormones are changing like crazy, you have a new life to take care of. Don’t feel like you need to rush into creating content, we’re doing just fine!
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What a lovely comment. Totally agree xx
@@iam_bored1119 well how about you stop being a hater and create your Instagram and RUclips and make your own money 🤦🏽♀️you’re giving loser energy !
This is what people need to hear. Honesty.
Totally agree with you Rachel
I had my baby around the time you had Bambi and I deeply connect with this video. It almost feels like we are feeling the exact same thing, the last two months have been the most beautiful months of my life yet the most difficult. I fully now understand when people say two things can be true at the same time.
I also don’t know where to start from in terms of getting back on RUclips after my 1year hiatus. Anyway I just wanted to say you’ve inspired me to come on here and share my story. Hang in there mama, you’ve got this and you are not alone in this ❤
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The first 3 months of my sons life, I don’t remember. I was still traumatised by his birth and being stuck in hospital with a blood infection for 5 days after. I only just started feeling myself around 6 months PP. He is now 10 months and I am starting to feel like a slight bit of my old self. This is totally normal to feel this way. Nobody is honest about motherhood and they need an influencer like you to tell the world so mothers are believed!
Yes, if it wasnt for photos or videos. Would not have known it happened. Then the pandemic happened and my LB was 5 months. Off back to work i went to help.
Keep going. You sound like a real life super hero Mum 🤍
Why did her partner leave her for a month after giving birth to her first baby!? Is he in the military? What were his obligations, presumably schedualed 9 months earlier, that took priority over staying with his new baby and mom? Genuine question cause I have no idea who he is.
@@ellaovai read he is a professional boxer.
Aw listening to Molly invalidate herself is so sad. Many women experience trauma, ptsd and the baby blues after birth. Women’s health is something that is painted in a way that is not reflective of how intense child bearing and birthing is. You’re doing great Molly 🥹 keep spreading awareness x
@@cip438 I disagree with your comment. The pain and exhaustion she went through (from the birth through to the excruciating constipation- to the point she felt she needed medical attention) would be enough to cause trauma. Experiencing trauma and PTSD are different things. You can experience trauma and heal from that, although the effects will last in the mind, whereas with PTSD there are many symptoms that accompany that trauma and the effects of the mind, causing it to last longer. It does not have to be a life threatening event to cause trauma or PTSD. Please don’t confuse the two different things. One is a mental health condition/disorder, one is an experience that anyone can feel.
I don’t doubt that she did experience trauma. Birthing a baby, the after effects of having a baby, the UTI she had, the tiredness/lack of sleep (a form of torture in itself), mixed with her partner leaving to go to another country would all be enough to experience trauma.
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that’s such a strange thing to say. Molly herself used the word trauma to describe her experience and I think we should listen to her, and any person that feels they had been through something traumatic, without questioning the severity of the situation to fit your own definition of trauma.
None of us can say how another person is supposed to feel or not feel about their own motherhood experience except the mother herself. Also, undermining motherhood is very strange, Mothers are fucking superhero’s are their job is no easy thing! so pls give credit where credit is due. These women created, birthed and raise life, that in of itself is not “easy” it’s brave.
@@cip438 “Trauma” is an event that we do not have sufficient emotional resources to process at the time. This is why an event can happen to one person and they can recover just fine, yet an identical thing can happen to someone else and they struggle to process it. It is not about the nature of the event that occurs, it is about how well the person is equipped emotionally at the time that it happens. Everyone’s capacity and threshold for coping with difficult events or circumstances is different.
This is taught by therapists when a patient is invalidating their own trauma, or under the impression they are overreacting or “making a fuss” about something that has genuinely effected them.
@@cip438 I’m not saying if these events did or didn’t traumatise Molly (only she can know that). I was just commenting on the subject of trauma as a whole, and the meaning of the word when used in psychotherapy.
However, the human threshold for trauma does not differ because of the overuse of a word. That’s a very bold statement to make. People were experiencing differing reactions to the same sort of event LONG before society became more aware of these things, and started speaking about it more openly. The level of a trauma response doesn’t depend on what is objectively more or less severe of an event.
@@cip438 Why does classifying something like this as trauma “invalidate real trauma survivors”? The presence of one person’s trauma will never equate to the absence of someone else’s. Comparing the severity of an event to something worse is not something that should ever come into it. That just feeds into the whole “my problems are worse than yours” dynamic that prevents people from speaking up in the first place.
To me, that’s like saying somebody that’s three weeks pregnant calling themselves “pregnant” is invalidating for someone who’s eight months pregnant.
You’re the most incredible Mumma, every single person is behind you Mols. We love you so much and you should be so proud of yourself xxx
Thank u It's not easy, especially as a single mother, I feel like I don't have help from anyone! the friendships i thought i had disappeared and its sad but i look at my son and he gives me the strength to get up every day to face the world 😢
We love you Molly and you are doing a heck of job for a new mommy. Sending hugs and kisses from Canada 🇨🇦 ❤❤❤
Your the best sister ❤
Yes to this ❤️ you’re amazing molly! And Zoe you’re the best sister to her!
@@lilymartins1991I am sorry that you are going through your experience alone.
Totally relatable, you’re doing so, so well. I’m a mum and a midwife and was still totally unprepared for motherhood and how utterly overwhelming it is, especially in the beginning. I LOVE how honest you have been here. It really does get easier, as you’re already finding, but give yourself time to process everything and don’t rush yourself, like others have said there’s a reason why women (should ideally) have maternity leave. Lots of love x
Can I just state the obvious? You’re free to upload whatever content you want & whenever you want!!! Creating a content is already hard enough as it needs courage (being in front of a camera and being transparent) and time, and you should do it only when you’re happy to do it. We know how much you love RUclips and your audience. Every feeling you have is normal. We love you, Molly💗
Bless you for being vulnerable and sharing with us. So many women will be able to relate. You are not alone ❤
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You tube loves Molly 🤣 commented on a couple of her vids haha cute
@@meganmorris9284 a couple? 24!! Thats So nice ❤
Anyone else click on like before they’ve even watched it? Molly Mae is so honest and real which is so refreshing in this industry. We all love you Molly and Bambi xxxx🤍🤍🤍
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Sure did! ❤
@Maria CANCER i wish you all the best!🤍🤍
I didn’t click like before I watched it because I can’t like a video without pressing it
I did exactly this!
I’m a new follower - Molly you are a breath of fresh air. As a mum to a nearly three year old, this is the most relatable 11 and a half minutes on RUclips! X
It’s not TMI , it’s the reality of being a mom ! I’ll forever thank you for making this video for everyone that are moms that can relate !! Xx
I really feel for you feeling like you can’t say certain things because it gets over analysed by everyone🥺. Just know that the majority of us here are rooting for you and can see how well you’ve come out the other side of all the crap life’s thrown at you since being in the public eye. You’re doing amazing 💗
Agreeed xxxx
Agreed also xxx
Very well said and completely agree!!
Agreeedddd
Just wanna say to MollyMae that those feelings are normal, you would think having a baby/child, is the best thing ever but it really is very hard. Your own life is a little bit over. A child just take all your energy and time, especially when they are that little. Also a very important thing which I just hear you say, the epidural....... it is causing you to feel so bad. I have a book from a dutch doctor talking about the effects it has on a new mother and it is bad, especially your emotions are very normal. It takes around a year, up to 1,5 year to get the effects of the epidural worn out. What it comes down to is that an epidural makes you feel more distance from others because it does some terrible things with your hormones for example.
midwife here - nothing or no one can ever prepare you for motherhood, it's a journey that most of us will find ourselves on at one point in our life. mourning the loss of your old self whilst celebrating the love of a new life is such an overwhelming feeling but you WILL get through this! keep going mamma! you've got this 💪🏼✨
As a Mummy of a 5 week old I actually appreciate the transparency of this video. When you initially posted pictures looking done up after one month of Bambi etc and all your outings I felt like a complete failure that I couldn’t do the same.
Keep on keeping it real. Sending love 🤍
I’m sorry to hear you felt like a failure, you could never be you’ve literally brought life into this world!
this transparency is so refreshing. and it is so normal. and so many women can relate and so many need to hear it. thank you for sharing, we love you, hope you keep healing and getting better. xoxo
Trauma is the perfect word for it. Trauma doesn't have to be what we imagine extreme Trauma to be, it's just a case of going through something that your brain wasn't fully capable of processing or dealing with emotionally or mentally. I always wanted a baby and having my 2 year old still traumatised me, I had a really rough time too, you're not alone ❤
Exactly! And even if you think you’re mentally, emotionally and physically ready you can never fully be ready for such a life changing thing. I had a jaundice baby and even though I was told millions of times that it’s a common thing I still felt so alone and has absolutely traumatised me it has definitely given me doubts about having a second 😞 I thought I failed as soon as he was earth side
You’re doing amazing Molly ❤️❤️
Please don’t feel like youre the only mummy that’s been through this girl. The constipation, the stitches, the breakdowns, the days without washing properly… we understand you!❤ youre not alone❤
My sister just had her first baby and I had to watch my nephew for 3 nights by myself (because she had mastitis) and by the third night of getting up every other hour, having to feed him, and then rock him back to sleep… I was crying by just the third day; sooo the fact that you pushed through as a new mom without Tommy after giving birth; you have every right to feel the way you did 💕 praying the transition gets smoother, you’re doing great 🤍
This is SO relatable! I’m a month ahead of you and I totally understand. Give yourself grace and take as much time as you need.
Her honesty & emotion makes her even more beautiful than surface beauty, thank you for being so real! Bambi is a lucky girl to have you as a mum!
Mum of a two week old newborn here!!! These comments are everything and to know we're not on our own means a heck of a lot 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼
I LOVE this video!! This is exactly the kind of content that I love, I want to hear about everything and the realities of life instead of just perfection all of the time. Wishing you the best!! Thanks again ❤❤
This is fucking inspiring!!!! Actually some TRUTH about how difficult motherhood is!!!!!!! Go you!!!!! Just thank you so much for just being authentic and REAL!!!!!!! My son is now 17 months and looking back at the first 6 months was definitely traumatic!!!! Watch yourself for postpartum depression… I’m a mental health nurse and the brain fog etc can be a symptom. Look after yourself and this video is my favourite one you’ve ever done!!!! Xxxxxxx
We missed you Molly. Sending my love this is already making me feel so emotional 🥲💜✨
This is so refreshing to watch. Although I’m sure EXTREMELY hard to put such vulnerability online, hearing someone say things that I’ve personally felt and is so raw & real is so reassuring. Bambi is so lucky to have such a wonderful, inspiring mummy. I’ve got two little boys and both situations were completely different post-partum but it’s so nice to finally see some normality online. Thank you 💖
I love your authenticity and braveness it is so relatable.
I just lost my dad recently and my whole world came crashing down.
It's not the same as your situation but everyone just keeps saying you need to move on and stuff and I feel so run down all the time too and am looking at trauma and trying to heal myself.
There's a lot of great stuff out there to help, so hang in there and sending you love and massive virtual hug ❤
The joy that comes over you when you talk about Bambi 🥹
The brain feeling scrambled is soooo normal, my son is 11 months and I felt and still feel exactly the same. You’re an amazing mum and we can all see it. So proud of you ♥️
I absolutely agree! My daughter is almost 3 and I still get the brain fog🧡
I felt this in my soul. I’m a first time mum and my daughter is now 10 weeks old. Motherhood has been something I was never prepared for. It is magical and beautiful but honestly the hardest thing I’ve ever done in my life and as you said it’s just something no one can ever prepare you for, no matter how much they explain it to you. Thank you for being so transparent, it helps so much knowing I’m not alone in my feelings. Stay strong mumma you got this and you don’t owe anything to anyone. I can barely remember to take my medication or eat on a daily basis, let alone film content like you do. Do what you can, when you can, that’s all you can do 🥰
My daughter is 9 weeks old 💞 but I relate so hard, no one prepares you enough. A new life , new body and trauma from birth x
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I don't know why people want kids so bad. Your life is kind of over once you have them. All that work and then they will leave you for someone else when they get older. Some of my friends have kids and I see how little time they have. Just completely tired and have no time to do anything. Then there's all the expense too. Good luck to anyone who has or wants them but it's no fairytale. I respect people who have them but I don't know why they want them so bad other than a natural urge
@@phoebeella8440❤
I can totally relate Molly. I have an 11 month old and the first few months of her life I had almost an identity crisis, i felt like I was just her mum and not me anymore. It took me such a long time to wrap my head around it all. It’s so so overwhelming but at the same time magical and an amazing experience. Motherhood is indescribable. X
Very relatable! Becoming a mum is one the most life changing experience anyone goes through! Don’t be hard on yourself! I’m a first time mum to a 9 month old and even now I still get emotional! You’re doing great!!
we all love you molly so much, you deserve nothing but the world 🤍
This is why I love Molly. She's so real with us all. I hope she knows it's completely okay to take a break from interacting with us to focus on herself
She’s honestly smashing it! I love how honest and up front she is about everything she’s going through, because I guarantee many people can relate in some way. 💜
agreed
This girl is just so genuine and real I just love her. She is so open about everything and I hope everyone gets behind her and let’s enjoy her journey. Keep your head up molly your the best 😍😍😍
You know what makes me emotional? You’re the same age my mum was when she had me. She’d lost her own mum at 17. Her sisters lived abroad. It makes me realise how strong she had to be. She did it alone ❤
I’m glad you put this video out. It’s raw and real. Pregnancy isn’t all sunshine and rainbows and you’re allowed to admit that for all that you love being a parent to Bambi, that you were also overwhelmed.
Trauma is the perfect word to use, it was a moment in time which changed you forever for good or bad ❤
This video is the first baby step back to yourself, Molly
I can totally relate to how you felt it’s does change your whole life! And I’m glad you have spoken about this as not everybody shares this x
Absolute credit to you!! Doing it without Tommy there must have been incredibly difficult, especially when you also worry and get anxiety about him fighting. So many emotions for such a big moment in your life. Take your time. We all love and support you 1000%❤❤️Remember to take care of yourself too❤
I rarely comment on videos but this is so open and honest that I couldn't not. Please know you're not alone! My youngest is 11 now but can still remember the after effects of birth like yesterday.
The sh!t side of birth isn't spoken about enough (literally!) 😂
It's hardwork growing and birthing a human, we need to remember this!
Totally relate. It's amazing, wonderful ,sleep depriving shock . I felt the same down there . Breath! X x x you did it back x x
Motherhood is savage. Everything you are feeling is absolutely valid ❤️ i struggled so much after having my daughter. It gets easier
Life is so so overwhelming as a mum and you have no idea of all these emotions and feelings until you’re thrown into this new life. 9 months into being a new mum and I still feel like this sometimes, it all gets a bit much and you lose your identity and you feel your being judged, you feel you’re alone, you feel your baby is the only baby with that habit etc. it’s all perfectly normal and your feelings are totally valid. You just take your time, remember just because you’re in the limelight doesn’t mean you owe anyone anything. You’ve got this xxx
Don’t be too hard on yourself Molly. This is a very difficult and emotional time and I guarantee all of us mothers know how you are feeling and can relate to so much. Take your time and don’t put pressure on yourself. Speaking from a mothers point of view, I know it’s difficult to explain the emotions at the beginning but trust me when I say we understand because we have been there. It does get easier but the emotions are real at the beginning.
Thank you for sharing this story! It’s so important to hear. I hope you are better!
This is so beautiful! Nothing can prepare you for the intense love that you feel and I think the realisation of knowing that if anything happens to the perfect yet vulnerable life that you created, you wouldn’t be able to live and that’s friggen scary. But that’s the love that makes you the incredible mom that you are.
Molly I’m a new mom too! My son was born January 26-
Thank you for Filming this video!!!!
If it makes you feel any better you helped me feel less alone.
Thank you thank you!!!!
It’s Soo overwhelming- it so true ! My life is just soooo different. NO BODY CAN PREPARE YOU.
You are doing amazing. No one is a better mum than you to Bambi!!!
I gave birth to my baby girl on the 26th of January 💗 Congratulations
Oh girl :( most people take a year off of work after having a baby, and there’s a reason for it. Take care of yourself and don’t put so much pressure on yourself. You’re doing such an amazing job! Sending you so many prayers and love 🥹💗
She 100% needs to see this comment !! Spot on about maternity leave❤️
No they don’t 😂. Most people only have a few months off. Also, those people don’t have 2 personal assistants, get weekly blowdries, makeup artists, stylists, cleaners, a partner who doesn’t work full time thats there to help, some not even a partner at all, a huge disposable income, a sister who runs to their beckon call, private healthcare, their own transport etc. Molly is a melodramatic, self obsessed moaner. Claiming she didn’t sleep for 5 days is laughable. It’s impossible and as she was under the care of the best postnatal health service in the UK, there is absolutely no way they would let one of their patients go without sleep. All you lot giving her sympathy is feeding her need for attention. Give it to people who need it and stop being so gullible.
she got the same 24 hours as everyone so she shouldn't be struggling theoretically
@@Bobby-vf6wd many mothers struggle with newborns, so idk what point you’re trying to make
@@chearileawheeler1540 like she said "everyone has the same 24 hours in a day" so theres no excuse to struggle
Love your honesty. It's good to talk about this stuff. It's all so relatable. If you can, try to live in the moment rather than stress about work xxx
Relate Relate RELATE SO MUCH. I experienced so many of these things. And OMG the baby brain after is unreal lol. You are not alone ❤
Mummies are given maternity leave for a purpose, give yourself time to be the lovely mummy you are. Accept the fact that you and yours are going, and need, to go through this bonding , precious family time. you’ve made a massive step with this video, so many women will gain strength from knowing they are not alone. A teacher once shared her anxieties on having her first baby, she could teach a classroom of 30 children without ever feeling as she does with her one baby. Please don’t be too hard on yourself, this video is meant to be. Thanx for your honesty.x
literally the most genuine person ever
Newborn life is absolute bliss, life changing and traumatic all at once 🤍 We relate Molly!
When I had my daughter, it was he hardest thing I've ever done. she was born just before the pandemic, and I've done it all by myself for 18 months. You're doing AMAZING Molly ❤
My son is nearly 11 months old and no-one can prepare you for motherhood. It’s the most amazing thing in the world but so hard at the same time with all of your emotions running wild. You’re doing an amazing job, sending lots of love ❤️❤️❤️
mommy to mommy, everything you’ve said in this video is so relatable & completely normal, you’re not alone, we love you Mol 🤍
Thank you for being so raw and real with us. Those first few weeks are tough mentally and physically. Love love love hearing you talk about the reality of motherhood but also the joy. Lots of mum accounts can be all about the negatives or they just focus on the highlights. You’re the perfect balance and can’t wait to see more but when you are ready. Pp brain fog is so real ❤
Sending so much love its such a hard time in the newborn phase, but just know it does get easier and you speaking about it is inspirational. As a mother society makes you feel like you can't complain or be honest about how crappy sometimes it is and the sad thing is so many people are going through it and would feel better knowing it isn't just them ❤
it’s so sweet how happy u are about being a mum you’re face just lights up everytime u talk about her 🫶🏽
Our little girls are a week apart 💗 I've not watched the video yet but the start when you're tearing up... I can relate 🙃 you've got this xx
This is so raw and real, you’re amazing!!
I absolutely love the transparency!! I went through the same struggles with my first born so you are not alone and trust me, it gets better everyday.
It’s mourning the loss of your old self while also celebrating the love of a new life. It’s an overwhelming feeling, the first baby is a shock to the system but it gets a lot easier and more enjoyable. My son is 2 in July and is the best thing to ever happen me 💙
i love how real you’re being it’s so nice to see and hear. time will heal everything. you got this molly, mothers really are superheroes.
I became a mum on Boxing Day 2022. I absolutely adore being a mum to my baby boy, and I feel the same that being mum has come so naturally to me. However it’s SO overwhelming, Graysons 13 weeks on Monday and I still don’t feel myself, my brain doesn’t want to brain and it’s so so hard. The night feeds, lack of sleep, complete life change, the 0 independence and freedom you suddenly have. It’s crazy. But it gets better with time you’re amazing parenting is so so hard nobody can ever prepare you for it. But you’re killing it
Never watched you on Love Island but I come across a lot of your videos lately and I must say you are so genuine and lovely, I don’t have children yet but hearing your down to earth stories on your motherhood journey has been inspiring. I think us women need to give ourselves more credit in everything we do in life. Lovely honest video ❤
This feels like one of the most natural and relatable videos I have ever seen. Thank you for being you and just telling us this. ❤❤
So happy we have people like you in this world Molly to be an advocate for women’s feelings and to speak so openly about the struggles of transitioning within the world of motherhood. Hope you’re okay, you’re doing a brilliant job and it will all be worth it as you see your little girl grow throughout her years and how you’ve helped support her through that❤
Sending you lots of love! We support you all the way. Thank you for being so real about motherhood💕😘
Thank you Thank you Thank you for being so true! This takes courage to be so honest and real in this so called perfect world we call social media. Love and so much appreciation from all of us!
this is SO real and relatable to most of us who have had kids. don’t feel the pressure to post, everyone will be here when you’re better mentally 🫶🏼 you’re smashing it!!! 🙌🏼
smashing it ha ha ha ha ha ha ha...she's an empty head
God the first 6 months of motherhood for me were horrific! I had PTSD and just felt so alone!! Surround yourself with mums who have babies Bambi’s age! I found a mum community such a saviour ❤
Thank you for being so honest!! The truth is we put pressures on our selves to keep up, you're doing amazing xxx
100% relate!! I'm a mother of 3.. it's hard out specially in the first few months, but it gets easier. The nights are long but the years are short. Be kind to yourself, it's the hardest but most rewarding job ❤
You’re an amazing woman! Do whatever works for you when you feel like it and we’ll all stand by you QUEEN ✨💭
Your feelings are so valid! Everything you’ve said is spot on I’m a new mom also and it’s SO HARD. Thank you for being so honest with us all. From your comments we can all relate your not alone even if you feel it, from one new mama to another, you’ve got this 💗💗💗💗
You truly are an inspiration Molly. Thank you for sharing your journey with us! Start slow with videos like this and you will be back in the swing when you get there. We all love you and your family ❤
Great video, you are going to help all new mum's with this content. It's overwhelming being a new mum. Thank you for being so candid and real. ❤
i’ve never had more respect for you molly! thank you for being so raw and honest. and you really shouldn’t feel any pressure to be anything other than yourself as i’m sure this video has touched many women ❤
We love you molly , praying for your healing ♥️
Love love love how honest you are in this video . As a mum of an 11 week old I can totally relate to how your feeling . 💕
Molly I have so so much respect for you with sharing this, it’s really brave… and really relatable.
Your experience of having a baby is so similar to mine, and I’m so sorry that you’ve had a tough time but please know that you have made some of us other mums who have struggled too a little bit more normal. Keep being you ❤
It’s honestly so refreshing that you are speaking so honestly about how things can be post baby. The brain fog is real. It hit me hard after having my 1st (still is with my 2nd who is 3 years old) Sleep deprivation is absolutely shocking. It’s a LOT. Be kind and gentle with yourself. Celebrate those little wins. They aren’t ridiculous at all. ❤
Girl, you are honest and raw and EVERYTHING that new Mums need to see! Not the perfect Instagram ❤ you’re smashing it!!
The whole thing of pushing people away, I did exactly the same thing. I felt like I wanted to do it all because he was my baby! It’s almost as though you don’t want to be defeated and just keep going. He is now 3 and I’m due my second baby totally ready to accept all the help I am offered, you can do this Molly!❤
Sending U so much love and happy taughts ❤ You are doing an amazing job as a mom 🌟 She is lucky to have you!
you’re amazing! don’t ever forget it 🫶🏻 post when you feel it’s right but excited to see whatever you post when you do!! sending lots of love 💕
So so needed to hear this, only a few weeks behind you postpartum- it’s so overwhelming & I went to a&e with the constipation cramps! Thank you for making me feel less alone ❤
Thank you for being so real and honest. I didn’t hear people when they said how my life is going to change etc and it hit me hard. I was so overwhelmed I felt like I couldn’t speak out about it because everyone else seemed to just get on with it and I didn’t want to seem like I had failure or a bad mum. I didn’t want to talk to or see anyone I just wanted my partner. Women like you who talk about the reality make me feel like I’m not alone and I can do this 💕 being a mum is the best thing ever, we need to be kinder to ourselves and support each other! ❤
You are amazing and thankyou for being SO real and honest!! Lots of love ❤xxx
I don't think she realises we actually care for her. No matter what you are going through, we are here for the good and bad. It makes you even more loveable. ❤
This is so heartfelt and admirably raw and honest and your dedication to being your true, authentic self and holding nothing back (even when you’ve been slammed for it in the past) is truly inspiring. With a mom like you, Bambi has so much to be proud of ♥️
Watching this video made me cry. Prayers and lots and lots of love for your bravery and transparency x x
Motherhood is a beautiful challenge! It’s so amazing but it’s so hard. Life changes not just a little bit but it changes soooooo much. As a mother you put everything but yourself first - with time you’ll be able to find a Routine that fits you but it is very overwhelming! Sending love, you’re not alone all the mums can relate 💗
We love you molly! We’re all supporting you❤❤❤❤
This is so relatable, motherhood is SO hard, nothing can ever prepare you for the 4th trimester!
I feel you girl… I’m a new mum to a preemie and also super run down from all the sleepless nights 😬 there are days that we don’t feel like ourselves but also there is a whole new part of us too! Just know that you’re doing an amazing job 👏 xxxx
I have a 3 month old and I couldn’t relate to this any more! I literally had such a similar experience in the first few weeks. I didn’t sleep for like two weeks and just had so many similar things so thank you for posting this! You truly can’t prepare for this especially mentally how hard it can be. So glad I’m not alone 💗