Thank u It's not easy, especially as a single mother, I feel like I don't have help from anyone! the friendships i thought i had disappeared and its sad but i look at my son and he gives me the strength to get up every day to face the world 😢
I had my baby around the time you had Bambi and I deeply connect with this video. It almost feels like we are feeling the exact same thing, the last two months have been the most beautiful months of my life yet the most difficult. I fully now understand when people say two things can be true at the same time. I also don’t know where to start from in terms of getting back on RUclips after my 1year hiatus. Anyway I just wanted to say you’ve inspired me to come on here and share my story. Hang in there mama, you’ve got this and you are not alone in this ❤
Aw Molly it’s ok!!! You don’t owe us anything. You went through a life changing event, you’re sleep deprived, your hormones are changing like crazy, you have a new life to take care of. Don’t feel like you need to rush into creating content, we’re doing just fine!
Aw listening to Molly invalidate herself is so sad. Many women experience trauma, ptsd and the baby blues after birth. Women’s health is something that is painted in a way that is not reflective of how intense child bearing and birthing is. You’re doing great Molly 🥹 keep spreading awareness x
@@cip438 I disagree with your comment. The pain and exhaustion she went through (from the birth through to the excruciating constipation- to the point she felt she needed medical attention) would be enough to cause trauma. Experiencing trauma and PTSD are different things. You can experience trauma and heal from that, although the effects will last in the mind, whereas with PTSD there are many symptoms that accompany that trauma and the effects of the mind, causing it to last longer. It does not have to be a life threatening event to cause trauma or PTSD. Please don’t confuse the two different things. One is a mental health condition/disorder, one is an experience that anyone can feel. I don’t doubt that she did experience trauma. Birthing a baby, the after effects of having a baby, the UTI she had, the tiredness/lack of sleep (a form of torture in itself), mixed with her partner leaving to go to another country would all be enough to experience trauma.
@@cip438 that’s such a strange thing to say. Molly herself used the word trauma to describe her experience and I think we should listen to her, and any person that feels they had been through something traumatic, without questioning the severity of the situation to fit your own definition of trauma. None of us can say how another person is supposed to feel or not feel about their own motherhood experience except the mother herself. Also, undermining motherhood is very strange, Mothers are fucking superhero’s are their job is no easy thing! so pls give credit where credit is due. These women created, birthed and raise life, that in of itself is not “easy” it’s brave.
@@cip438 “Trauma” is an event that we do not have sufficient emotional resources to process at the time. This is why an event can happen to one person and they can recover just fine, yet an identical thing can happen to someone else and they struggle to process it. It is not about the nature of the event that occurs, it is about how well the person is equipped emotionally at the time that it happens. Everyone’s capacity and threshold for coping with difficult events or circumstances is different. This is taught by therapists when a patient is invalidating their own trauma, or under the impression they are overreacting or “making a fuss” about something that has genuinely effected them.
@@cip438 I’m not saying if these events did or didn’t traumatise Molly (only she can know that). I was just commenting on the subject of trauma as a whole, and the meaning of the word when used in psychotherapy. However, the human threshold for trauma does not differ because of the overuse of a word. That’s a very bold statement to make. People were experiencing differing reactions to the same sort of event LONG before society became more aware of these things, and started speaking about it more openly. The level of a trauma response doesn’t depend on what is objectively more or less severe of an event.
@@cip438 Why does classifying something like this as trauma “invalidate real trauma survivors”? The presence of one person’s trauma will never equate to the absence of someone else’s. Comparing the severity of an event to something worse is not something that should ever come into it. That just feeds into the whole “my problems are worse than yours” dynamic that prevents people from speaking up in the first place. To me, that’s like saying somebody that’s three weeks pregnant calling themselves “pregnant” is invalidating for someone who’s eight months pregnant.
midwife here - nothing or no one can ever prepare you for motherhood, it's a journey that most of us will find ourselves on at one point in our life. mourning the loss of your old self whilst celebrating the love of a new life is such an overwhelming feeling but you WILL get through this! keep going mamma! you've got this 💪🏼✨
The first 3 months of my sons life, I don’t remember. I was still traumatised by his birth and being stuck in hospital with a blood infection for 5 days after. I only just started feeling myself around 6 months PP. He is now 10 months and I am starting to feel like a slight bit of my old self. This is totally normal to feel this way. Nobody is honest about motherhood and they need an influencer like you to tell the world so mothers are believed!
Yes, if it wasnt for photos or videos. Would not have known it happened. Then the pandemic happened and my LB was 5 months. Off back to work i went to help.
Why did her partner leave her for a month after giving birth to her first baby!? Is he in the military? What were his obligations, presumably schedualed 9 months earlier, that took priority over staying with his new baby and mom? Genuine question cause I have no idea who he is.
Trauma is the perfect word for it. Trauma doesn't have to be what we imagine extreme Trauma to be, it's just a case of going through something that your brain wasn't fully capable of processing or dealing with emotionally or mentally. I always wanted a baby and having my 2 year old still traumatised me, I had a really rough time too, you're not alone ❤
Exactly! And even if you think you’re mentally, emotionally and physically ready you can never fully be ready for such a life changing thing. I had a jaundice baby and even though I was told millions of times that it’s a common thing I still felt so alone and has absolutely traumatised me it has definitely given me doubts about having a second 😞 I thought I failed as soon as he was earth side
The brain feeling scrambled is soooo normal, my son is 11 months and I felt and still feel exactly the same. You’re an amazing mum and we can all see it. So proud of you ♥️
As a Mummy of a 5 week old I actually appreciate the transparency of this video. When you initially posted pictures looking done up after one month of Bambi etc and all your outings I felt like a complete failure that I couldn’t do the same. Keep on keeping it real. Sending love 🤍
Please don’t feel like youre the only mummy that’s been through this girl. The constipation, the stitches, the breakdowns, the days without washing properly… we understand you!❤ youre not alone❤
I really feel for you feeling like you can’t say certain things because it gets over analysed by everyone🥺. Just know that the majority of us here are rooting for you and can see how well you’ve come out the other side of all the crap life’s thrown at you since being in the public eye. You’re doing amazing 💗
Just wanna say to MollyMae that those feelings are normal, you would think having a baby/child, is the best thing ever but it really is very hard. Your own life is a little bit over. A child just take all your energy and time, especially when they are that little. Also a very important thing which I just hear you say, the epidural....... it is causing you to feel so bad. I have a book from a dutch doctor talking about the effects it has on a new mother and it is bad, especially your emotions are very normal. It takes around a year, up to 1,5 year to get the effects of the epidural worn out. What it comes down to is that an epidural makes you feel more distance from others because it does some terrible things with your hormones for example.
Totally relatable, you’re doing so, so well. I’m a mum and a midwife and was still totally unprepared for motherhood and how utterly overwhelming it is, especially in the beginning. I LOVE how honest you have been here. It really does get easier, as you’re already finding, but give yourself time to process everything and don’t rush yourself, like others have said there’s a reason why women (should ideally) have maternity leave. Lots of love x
This is so refreshing to watch. Although I’m sure EXTREMELY hard to put such vulnerability online, hearing someone say things that I’ve personally felt and is so raw & real is so reassuring. Bambi is so lucky to have such a wonderful, inspiring mummy. I’ve got two little boys and both situations were completely different post-partum but it’s so nice to finally see some normality online. Thank you 💖
I felt this in my soul. I’m a first time mum and my daughter is now 10 weeks old. Motherhood has been something I was never prepared for. It is magical and beautiful but honestly the hardest thing I’ve ever done in my life and as you said it’s just something no one can ever prepare you for, no matter how much they explain it to you. Thank you for being so transparent, it helps so much knowing I’m not alone in my feelings. Stay strong mumma you got this and you don’t owe anything to anyone. I can barely remember to take my medication or eat on a daily basis, let alone film content like you do. Do what you can, when you can, that’s all you can do 🥰
I don't know why people want kids so bad. Your life is kind of over once you have them. All that work and then they will leave you for someone else when they get older. Some of my friends have kids and I see how little time they have. Just completely tired and have no time to do anything. Then there's all the expense too. Good luck to anyone who has or wants them but it's no fairytale. I respect people who have them but I don't know why they want them so bad other than a natural urge
She’s honestly smashing it! I love how honest and up front she is about everything she’s going through, because I guarantee many people can relate in some way. 💜
This is why I love Molly. She's so real with us all. I hope she knows it's completely okay to take a break from interacting with us to focus on herself
I can totally relate Molly. I have an 11 month old and the first few months of her life I had almost an identity crisis, i felt like I was just her mum and not me anymore. It took me such a long time to wrap my head around it all. It’s so so overwhelming but at the same time magical and an amazing experience. Motherhood is indescribable. X
Anyone else click on like before they’ve even watched it? Molly Mae is so honest and real which is so refreshing in this industry. We all love you Molly and Bambi xxxx🤍🤍🤍
I’m glad you put this video out. It’s raw and real. Pregnancy isn’t all sunshine and rainbows and you’re allowed to admit that for all that you love being a parent to Bambi, that you were also overwhelmed. Trauma is the perfect word to use, it was a moment in time which changed you forever for good or bad ❤
this transparency is so refreshing. and it is so normal. and so many women can relate and so many need to hear it. thank you for sharing, we love you, hope you keep healing and getting better. xoxo
You know what makes me emotional? You’re the same age my mum was when she had me. She’d lost her own mum at 17. Her sisters lived abroad. It makes me realise how strong she had to be. She did it alone ❤
Life is so so overwhelming as a mum and you have no idea of all these emotions and feelings until you’re thrown into this new life. 9 months into being a new mum and I still feel like this sometimes, it all gets a bit much and you lose your identity and you feel your being judged, you feel you’re alone, you feel your baby is the only baby with that habit etc. it’s all perfectly normal and your feelings are totally valid. You just take your time, remember just because you’re in the limelight doesn’t mean you owe anyone anything. You’ve got this xxx
Can I just state the obvious? You’re free to upload whatever content you want & whenever you want!!! Creating a content is already hard enough as it needs courage (being in front of a camera and being transparent) and time, and you should do it only when you’re happy to do it. We know how much you love RUclips and your audience. Every feeling you have is normal. We love you, Molly💗
Molly I’m a new mom too! My son was born January 26- Thank you for Filming this video!!!! If it makes you feel any better you helped me feel less alone. Thank you thank you!!!! It’s Soo overwhelming- it so true ! My life is just soooo different. NO BODY CAN PREPARE YOU. You are doing amazing. No one is a better mum than you to Bambi!!!
Absolute credit to you!! Doing it without Tommy there must have been incredibly difficult, especially when you also worry and get anxiety about him fighting. So many emotions for such a big moment in your life. Take your time. We all love and support you 1000%❤❤️Remember to take care of yourself too❤
My sister just had her first baby and I had to watch my nephew for 3 nights by myself (because she had mastitis) and by the third night of getting up every other hour, having to feed him, and then rock him back to sleep… I was crying by just the third day; sooo the fact that you pushed through as a new mom without Tommy after giving birth; you have every right to feel the way you did 💕 praying the transition gets smoother, you’re doing great 🤍
This is fucking inspiring!!!! Actually some TRUTH about how difficult motherhood is!!!!!!! Go you!!!!! Just thank you so much for just being authentic and REAL!!!!!!! My son is now 17 months and looking back at the first 6 months was definitely traumatic!!!! Watch yourself for postpartum depression… I’m a mental health nurse and the brain fog etc can be a symptom. Look after yourself and this video is my favourite one you’ve ever done!!!! Xxxxxxx
God the first 6 months of motherhood for me were horrific! I had PTSD and just felt so alone!! Surround yourself with mums who have babies Bambi’s age! I found a mum community such a saviour ❤
I’m a new follower - Molly you are a breath of fresh air. As a mum to a nearly three year old, this is the most relatable 11 and a half minutes on RUclips! X
I rarely comment on videos but this is so open and honest that I couldn't not. Please know you're not alone! My youngest is 11 now but can still remember the after effects of birth like yesterday. The sh!t side of birth isn't spoken about enough (literally!) 😂 It's hardwork growing and birthing a human, we need to remember this!
It’s mourning the loss of your old self while also celebrating the love of a new life. It’s an overwhelming feeling, the first baby is a shock to the system but it gets a lot easier and more enjoyable. My son is 2 in July and is the best thing to ever happen me 💙
When I had my daughter, it was he hardest thing I've ever done. she was born just before the pandemic, and I've done it all by myself for 18 months. You're doing AMAZING Molly ❤
This is so so amazingly vulnerable. I swear I went clinically insane the first month of my son's life. I look back at those first 3 months and can not believe how hard they were. During the time I was just in complete survival mode. He is 8 months now, and motherhood has become so peaceful. It is so much easier and I actually feel more and more like myself every day. Better actually! Nobody can ever prepare you for those first few months. Videos like these are important to help shed light on the postpartum period. Sending so much love and healing to you, sweet mama ❤️
I went through the same thing the first 3 months. Glad to hear you’re way better! My son is now 14 months old and i feel like im getting back into the old groove of things. I absolutely hated the first 3 months of motherhood 😢
My son is nearly 11 months old and no-one can prepare you for motherhood. It’s the most amazing thing in the world but so hard at the same time with all of your emotions running wild. You’re doing an amazing job, sending lots of love ❤️❤️❤️
I suffered from PTSD after a really difficult birth. My brain would not allow me to sleep for 3 weeks. It was like a tired but wired feeling. Absolutely awful. The best content is the most authentic content! Keep bringing the truth!
The whole thing of pushing people away, I did exactly the same thing. I felt like I wanted to do it all because he was my baby! It’s almost as though you don’t want to be defeated and just keep going. He is now 3 and I’m due my second baby totally ready to accept all the help I am offered, you can do this Molly!❤
this is SO real and relatable to most of us who have had kids. don’t feel the pressure to post, everyone will be here when you’re better mentally 🫶🏼 you’re smashing it!!! 🙌🏼
I don't think she realises we actually care for her. No matter what you are going through, we are here for the good and bad. It makes you even more loveable. ❤
Oh girl :( most people take a year off of work after having a baby, and there’s a reason for it. Take care of yourself and don’t put so much pressure on yourself. You’re doing such an amazing job! Sending you so many prayers and love 🥹💗
No they don’t 😂. Most people only have a few months off. Also, those people don’t have 2 personal assistants, get weekly blowdries, makeup artists, stylists, cleaners, a partner who doesn’t work full time thats there to help, some not even a partner at all, a huge disposable income, a sister who runs to their beckon call, private healthcare, their own transport etc. Molly is a melodramatic, self obsessed moaner. Claiming she didn’t sleep for 5 days is laughable. It’s impossible and as she was under the care of the best postnatal health service in the UK, there is absolutely no way they would let one of their patients go without sleep. All you lot giving her sympathy is feeding her need for attention. Give it to people who need it and stop being so gullible.
Never watched you on Love Island but I come across a lot of your videos lately and I must say you are so genuine and lovely, I don’t have children yet but hearing your down to earth stories on your motherhood journey has been inspiring. I think us women need to give ourselves more credit in everything we do in life. Lovely honest video ❤
So happy we have people like you in this world Molly to be an advocate for women’s feelings and to speak so openly about the struggles of transitioning within the world of motherhood. Hope you’re okay, you’re doing a brilliant job and it will all be worth it as you see your little girl grow throughout her years and how you’ve helped support her through that❤
As another brand new mum whose son was born only 11 days before Bambi, I COMPLETELY get it. All mums will get it, especially those who have recently had their baby and it’s all still so fresh. You are not alone in how you’re feeling at all… I couldn’t begin to put together a proper catch up of the past 11 weeks, it just becomes a blur! Mum life is like that but SO SO worth it! I love how honest you are in your videos, it’s brilliant!
Mummies are given maternity leave for a purpose, give yourself time to be the lovely mummy you are. Accept the fact that you and yours are going, and need, to go through this bonding , precious family time. you’ve made a massive step with this video, so many women will gain strength from knowing they are not alone. A teacher once shared her anxieties on having her first baby, she could teach a classroom of 30 children without ever feeling as she does with her one baby. Please don’t be too hard on yourself, this video is meant to be. Thanx for your honesty.x
What you are feeling is so so normal when you become a new mum. Life itself is very overwhelming. You question every decision you make, you’re exhausted, it almost feels like an out of body experience for a while. It’s plain to see what a natural mum you are and the balance will work itself out eventually. Thank you for being so transparent because it’s so important. People in the media often make it look like it’s SO easy and perfect and it’s absolutely not the case so well done you for being so honest about it because it really is so hard and a massive change. It gets easier as you go and we’re all out here winging it. Sending you love 🫶🏼
i’ve never had more respect for you molly! thank you for being so raw and honest. and you really shouldn’t feel any pressure to be anything other than yourself as i’m sure this video has touched many women ❤
I became a mum on Boxing Day 2022. I absolutely adore being a mum to my baby boy, and I feel the same that being mum has come so naturally to me. However it’s SO overwhelming, Graysons 13 weeks on Monday and I still don’t feel myself, my brain doesn’t want to brain and it’s so so hard. The night feeds, lack of sleep, complete life change, the 0 independence and freedom you suddenly have. It’s crazy. But it gets better with time you’re amazing parenting is so so hard nobody can ever prepare you for it. But you’re killing it
It’s honestly so refreshing that you are speaking so honestly about how things can be post baby. The brain fog is real. It hit me hard after having my 1st (still is with my 2nd who is 3 years old) Sleep deprivation is absolutely shocking. It’s a LOT. Be kind and gentle with yourself. Celebrate those little wins. They aren’t ridiculous at all. ❤
I watched this video when you first uploaded it and I was pregnant with my first baby, I’ve now rewatched it 3 weeks post Partum and I fully understand exactly how you feel! I’m in survival mode and finding everything so overwhelming! It’s not spoken about enough how hard it is becoming a mum💓
Becoming a mum, no matter how much you wanted it or felt ready will always be the hardest thing you do. I've read that people with 5 kids and more will say that the transition from 0 to 1 kid is the hardest because you really can't comprehend how your life changes. My baby is just about to turn 10 months. I love him so much and love being his mum but the emotional rollercoaster of the first few months have absolutely terrified me with regards to having a second. I naively thought that because my baby was planned there was no way I could suffer from PPD, but I did until he was about 6 months. I think a lot more people will relate to you and what you're going through than you would expect. Take care of yourself and do what you want at your own pace ❤
As a mummy of 5 here I can completely agree with this, deffo going from no children to 1 child is an absolute change to everything in your life, and I would say when we have no children we live life selfishly and free. If we want to go somewhere or do anything you can just decide to go. With a baby you have to plan and think about everything! After 0-1 I found going from 1-2 is also hard, as you have this 1 child that is your main priority and you can just chase them round as a toddler, if you have your second baby close to the 1st then it is hard to look after a newborn and chase a toddler at the same time. And also after the 2nd you have less time to recover, you can’t just sit there and rest when your baby is sleeping because you have another child that also needs your attention and you do feel very overwhelmed with the amount of time you are on your feet straight after the birth. We had 3 children and my husband had a vasectomy as we decided 3 was enough, he went ahead and had the snip done then I started feeling unwell and the doctor sent me to the hospital as I said there is ovviously no way I could be pregnant and turns out I fell pregnant 2 days before hubby had the snip it worked out! I was 14 weeks pregnant with TWINS!!!! Omg the shock I was feeling was incredible! I felt blessed and horrified all in one go and going from 3 to 5 children was incredibly difficult! Just from the stares from people all the time when we are out with them, I’ve been asked if they all have the same dad, (they do, me and hubby been together since we were 15 and we are 35 now).
@@nikkijones7946 wow I can't imagine what a shock that must have been!! You are so strong ❤️ I did initially think I would like 2 close together but now I'm more in the mindset I will wait until he's 2 or 3 to try again for the exact reason you said about chasing a toddler with a newborn baby 🙈
100% agree. I’ll never forget the struggle of having my first son. I remember having the full on baby blues, it was so hard. Partly learning how to be a parent, partly losing yourself and the life you once knew. Nothing can prepare you. I remember being in tears a lot. Now second time around it’s so much easier, I feel confident and competent and I already know that the difficult moments pass and I’ve already figured out how to be mr as well as a mum. Those first few months are so hard with your first, but it gets better ❤ you’ve got this
@@sarahmcd9345 I have a 6 year gap between mine so that has helped, my first is independent with getting his own snacks and we can do activities like watching a movie together whilst I feed the baby and I don’t have to chase him round. That said, as he’s at school and has activities like swimming etc my second just has to deal with it and I can’t just stay at home if u don’t feel like going out 😅 so it’s harder in some ways too
This is the most real we’ve ever seen you. People forget you’re a person, like us, you’re young, experiencing motherhood for the first time. Thank you for sharing you experience with us and every feeling is valid❤
I feel this so bloody much! Trauma is the right word I don't care what anyone says! I went through such a traumatic ordeal and was the exact same, a blubbering mess, especially spending an entire week in hospital watching my newborn have an infection not knowing she was going to be okay! Then going home and reality hits like a tonne of bricks! But I PROMISE YOU it gets better Molly and this will all feel like a bad dream. Sending love, and please look after yourself and your little girl before anyone else 💖
I know the feeling of wanting to sleep and rest but this sickening overwhelming feeling comes up and I get so anxious. I think it’s because you finally have slowed down and left with your thoughts and shows how crazy it is
Being a Mam is so hard. Everything you’ve said is all normal. It’s definitely a shock to the system bringing a baby home. In a few weeks/months time all this will be a distant memory! You’ve got this Mollie ❤
Mum of a 7yo and 2.5yo and I can confirm it definitely takes a good 1-2 years to fully feel yourself again, and that self isn’t the same as before either. You are doing amazing ❤
As a first time mum I had really bad baby blues. I had anxiety attacks every afternoon at the same time and felt regret and felt doubt about being a mum and I also felt so alone even though I had people telling me they had gone through it. I’m honestly so grateful it went away eventually and I am loving motherhood now. You need to give yourself grace and time, you are doing amazing ❤
Molly we all literally adore you and how raw and real you are. We wouldn’t have you any other way, you’re so down to earth and beautiful inside and out and it’s okay to admit that you’ve been struggling. I’m so proud of the person and mum you are. There is no pressure from us do what you need to when you’re ready. Love you so much . 💜
This girl is just so genuine and real I just love her. She is so open about everything and I hope everyone gets behind her and let’s enjoy her journey. Keep your head up molly your the best 😍😍😍
I’m not a parent however I struggle massively with mental health, it makes me feel like I’m not myself, brain fog exhaustion & just emotional. Although it’s not the same as being a mum the issues can definitely be similar in ways. I’ve always admired how you keep yourself positive & find ways through hard times. Seeing you have such a hard time isn’t nice to watch as a fan however it has made me realise that we all are human & basically have to go through shit times whoever we are & not to be putting so much pressure on ourselves. It’s clear you idolise Bambi & the fact you are struggling shows how much it means to you. This video has helped me even though I’m not a parent so I’m sure you’ve helped so many others too. We all love you. Thanks for being a friend to us all as that’s how we see you ❤️❤️
MOM BRAIN IS A THING! We moms totally understand what you’re going through. Nothing, I mean nothing, is harder than being a mom - especially in this time and age. I hope you’re feeling better already ❤️ Sending lots of love from Finland xx
I LOVE this video!! This is exactly the kind of content that I love, I want to hear about everything and the realities of life instead of just perfection all of the time. Wishing you the best!! Thanks again ❤❤
Molly it’s insane how real and hardworking you are. Thank you for sharing the highs and lows. You’re the most genuine classy person ❤ please take care and GET A NANNY! It will help! No shame in it!!
Don't know too much about parenting, I'm a 20 year old man but I do hope you get through this. May God be with you. the fact you are and still going is testament of that don't give up. Better days are ahead.
Your feelings are so valid! Everything you’ve said is spot on I’m a new mom also and it’s SO HARD. Thank you for being so honest with us all. From your comments we can all relate your not alone even if you feel it, from one new mama to another, you’ve got this 💗💗💗💗
We love you Molly. You are a great mum. You're not alone; let your family and friends support you through this transition. You need lots of TLC. Bambi is so lucky to have a mum who loves her so much.
I'm 16 months into motherhood and honestly, I felt the same as you from the start but didn't get the help I needed because I thought it was how everyone felt so I thought I just had to get on with it. I had post natal depression it turns out! The charity PANDAS can help and also other support parents groups in your local area ❤
Oh gosh Molly I’m only 2 minutes in and I feel this on every level of my being. Your a new mom, learning each day hormones all over the place and sleep deprived never mind the whole world judging your every move! Becoming a mum changes your whole life you are not the same person anymore and that’s ok it takes time to find yourself again. I had my baby a year ago and still haven’t come back to RUclips my passions have changed and now it’s gone so long I feel overwhelmed like yourself and don’t even know where to start nor do I have the time 😂 between working and being a mum it’s also hard to find the time to film and edit so I get it girl. Be kind to yourself you don’t owe anyone anything you will get there x
I absolutely understand every single feeling you mentioned you went through. Nobody really speaks about how you are after birth, and it's so nice of you to speak about your experience so openly ❤ We love you millions!
This is so heartfelt and admirably raw and honest and your dedication to being your true, authentic self and holding nothing back (even when you’ve been slammed for it in the past) is truly inspiring. With a mom like you, Bambi has so much to be proud of ♥️
Everything you said is the reality of being a new mom babe. I went through the same thing. When my daughter was born I didn't sleep for 2 days straight and started having such terrible anxiety that I went into crisis. It was the scariest time of my life. Nobody prepares you for what can happen when you give birth. It's wild!!! Take all the time you need and things do get soooo much better ❤️
As a first time Mum to a 9-month old I resonated hard with this especially about how being a Mum is the best thing ever it’s all the other stuff around it that’s hard! Thank you for being so honest ♥️ I’m glad the younger generation have a real insight into motherhood and not just insta reality x
You are the most RELATABLE human being on this planet. This is why we love you. When I gave birth I was constipated so badly at the same time of giving birth and I was in so much pain not from giving birth but from being constipated, I would rather give birth than be constipated. I felt this video to the core!!!!!🤣🤣🤣🤣 keep being you, we love you for being your authentic self. Motherhood is the hardest job in the world & you are doing amazing 💛 p.s. it gets easier & more amazing by the day✨
Just Breathe. Everything will work out Ok? We love you and we understand, don’t feel rushed or stressed. Mom life isn’t easy and no one is every truly prepared for it but you are doing AMAZING. We love you, Tommy and Bambi🤍 you’re strong always
Molly take care of yourself. It’s an emotional and difficult time and all mothers know how you are feeling. Don’t put pressure on yourself. This is heartbreaking. Being a new mum is so hard ❤
I think every single mother will relate. My baby is now 18 months and I remember ever single second of the first few weeks/months she was born. The absolute best days of my life yet the saddest and most depressed I’ve ever been. Things always get better but there are still really hard days and nights. But they always alwaaays get better. Motherhood is truly something no body can ever prepare you for❤
You’ve done amazingly. And doing most of the first 4 weeks alone too, well done Mama. Hardest job in the world but most rewarding in every way. You are a fab mum and Bambi is very lucky to have you as her mummy 🥰 take in every second. They say the days are long and the years are short. Enjoy the tiny snuggles xxx
You’re the most incredible Mumma, every single person is behind you Mols. We love you so much and you should be so proud of yourself xxx
Thank u It's not easy, especially as a single mother, I feel like I don't have help from anyone! the friendships i thought i had disappeared and its sad but i look at my son and he gives me the strength to get up every day to face the world 😢
We love you Molly and you are doing a heck of job for a new mommy. Sending hugs and kisses from Canada 🇨🇦 ❤❤❤
Your the best sister ❤
Yes to this ❤️ you’re amazing molly! And Zoe you’re the best sister to her!
@@lilymartins1991I am sorry that you are going through your experience alone.
“Where is Molly at” - Molly is right here! This is authentic and so normal amongst new mums. You’ve got this ❤️
I had my baby around the time you had Bambi and I deeply connect with this video. It almost feels like we are feeling the exact same thing, the last two months have been the most beautiful months of my life yet the most difficult. I fully now understand when people say two things can be true at the same time.
I also don’t know where to start from in terms of getting back on RUclips after my 1year hiatus. Anyway I just wanted to say you’ve inspired me to come on here and share my story. Hang in there mama, you’ve got this and you are not alone in this ❤
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Aw Molly it’s ok!!! You don’t owe us anything. You went through a life changing event, you’re sleep deprived, your hormones are changing like crazy, you have a new life to take care of. Don’t feel like you need to rush into creating content, we’re doing just fine!
❤took the words out my mouth!
What a lovely comment. Totally agree xx
@@iam_bored1119 well how about you stop being a hater and create your Instagram and RUclips and make your own money 🤦🏽♀️you’re giving loser energy !
This is what people need to hear. Honesty.
Totally agree with you Rachel
Aw listening to Molly invalidate herself is so sad. Many women experience trauma, ptsd and the baby blues after birth. Women’s health is something that is painted in a way that is not reflective of how intense child bearing and birthing is. You’re doing great Molly 🥹 keep spreading awareness x
@@cip438 I disagree with your comment. The pain and exhaustion she went through (from the birth through to the excruciating constipation- to the point she felt she needed medical attention) would be enough to cause trauma. Experiencing trauma and PTSD are different things. You can experience trauma and heal from that, although the effects will last in the mind, whereas with PTSD there are many symptoms that accompany that trauma and the effects of the mind, causing it to last longer. It does not have to be a life threatening event to cause trauma or PTSD. Please don’t confuse the two different things. One is a mental health condition/disorder, one is an experience that anyone can feel.
I don’t doubt that she did experience trauma. Birthing a baby, the after effects of having a baby, the UTI she had, the tiredness/lack of sleep (a form of torture in itself), mixed with her partner leaving to go to another country would all be enough to experience trauma.
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that’s such a strange thing to say. Molly herself used the word trauma to describe her experience and I think we should listen to her, and any person that feels they had been through something traumatic, without questioning the severity of the situation to fit your own definition of trauma.
None of us can say how another person is supposed to feel or not feel about their own motherhood experience except the mother herself. Also, undermining motherhood is very strange, Mothers are fucking superhero’s are their job is no easy thing! so pls give credit where credit is due. These women created, birthed and raise life, that in of itself is not “easy” it’s brave.
@@cip438 “Trauma” is an event that we do not have sufficient emotional resources to process at the time. This is why an event can happen to one person and they can recover just fine, yet an identical thing can happen to someone else and they struggle to process it. It is not about the nature of the event that occurs, it is about how well the person is equipped emotionally at the time that it happens. Everyone’s capacity and threshold for coping with difficult events or circumstances is different.
This is taught by therapists when a patient is invalidating their own trauma, or under the impression they are overreacting or “making a fuss” about something that has genuinely effected them.
@@cip438 I’m not saying if these events did or didn’t traumatise Molly (only she can know that). I was just commenting on the subject of trauma as a whole, and the meaning of the word when used in psychotherapy.
However, the human threshold for trauma does not differ because of the overuse of a word. That’s a very bold statement to make. People were experiencing differing reactions to the same sort of event LONG before society became more aware of these things, and started speaking about it more openly. The level of a trauma response doesn’t depend on what is objectively more or less severe of an event.
@@cip438 Why does classifying something like this as trauma “invalidate real trauma survivors”? The presence of one person’s trauma will never equate to the absence of someone else’s. Comparing the severity of an event to something worse is not something that should ever come into it. That just feeds into the whole “my problems are worse than yours” dynamic that prevents people from speaking up in the first place.
To me, that’s like saying somebody that’s three weeks pregnant calling themselves “pregnant” is invalidating for someone who’s eight months pregnant.
It’s not TMI , it’s the reality of being a mom ! I’ll forever thank you for making this video for everyone that are moms that can relate !! Xx
Her honesty & emotion makes her even more beautiful than surface beauty, thank you for being so real! Bambi is a lucky girl to have you as a mum!
midwife here - nothing or no one can ever prepare you for motherhood, it's a journey that most of us will find ourselves on at one point in our life. mourning the loss of your old self whilst celebrating the love of a new life is such an overwhelming feeling but you WILL get through this! keep going mamma! you've got this 💪🏼✨
The first 3 months of my sons life, I don’t remember. I was still traumatised by his birth and being stuck in hospital with a blood infection for 5 days after. I only just started feeling myself around 6 months PP. He is now 10 months and I am starting to feel like a slight bit of my old self. This is totally normal to feel this way. Nobody is honest about motherhood and they need an influencer like you to tell the world so mothers are believed!
Yes, if it wasnt for photos or videos. Would not have known it happened. Then the pandemic happened and my LB was 5 months. Off back to work i went to help.
Keep going. You sound like a real life super hero Mum 🤍
Why did her partner leave her for a month after giving birth to her first baby!? Is he in the military? What were his obligations, presumably schedualed 9 months earlier, that took priority over staying with his new baby and mom? Genuine question cause I have no idea who he is.
@@ellaovai read he is a professional boxer.
Trauma is the perfect word for it. Trauma doesn't have to be what we imagine extreme Trauma to be, it's just a case of going through something that your brain wasn't fully capable of processing or dealing with emotionally or mentally. I always wanted a baby and having my 2 year old still traumatised me, I had a really rough time too, you're not alone ❤
Exactly! And even if you think you’re mentally, emotionally and physically ready you can never fully be ready for such a life changing thing. I had a jaundice baby and even though I was told millions of times that it’s a common thing I still felt so alone and has absolutely traumatised me it has definitely given me doubts about having a second 😞 I thought I failed as soon as he was earth side
You’re doing amazing Molly ❤️❤️
The brain feeling scrambled is soooo normal, my son is 11 months and I felt and still feel exactly the same. You’re an amazing mum and we can all see it. So proud of you ♥️
I absolutely agree! My daughter is almost 3 and I still get the brain fog🧡
As a Mummy of a 5 week old I actually appreciate the transparency of this video. When you initially posted pictures looking done up after one month of Bambi etc and all your outings I felt like a complete failure that I couldn’t do the same.
Keep on keeping it real. Sending love 🤍
I’m sorry to hear you felt like a failure, you could never be you’ve literally brought life into this world!
Please don’t feel like youre the only mummy that’s been through this girl. The constipation, the stitches, the breakdowns, the days without washing properly… we understand you!❤ youre not alone❤
I really feel for you feeling like you can’t say certain things because it gets over analysed by everyone🥺. Just know that the majority of us here are rooting for you and can see how well you’ve come out the other side of all the crap life’s thrown at you since being in the public eye. You’re doing amazing 💗
Agreeed xxxx
Agreed also xxx
Very well said and completely agree!!
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Just wanna say to MollyMae that those feelings are normal, you would think having a baby/child, is the best thing ever but it really is very hard. Your own life is a little bit over. A child just take all your energy and time, especially when they are that little. Also a very important thing which I just hear you say, the epidural....... it is causing you to feel so bad. I have a book from a dutch doctor talking about the effects it has on a new mother and it is bad, especially your emotions are very normal. It takes around a year, up to 1,5 year to get the effects of the epidural worn out. What it comes down to is that an epidural makes you feel more distance from others because it does some terrible things with your hormones for example.
Totally relatable, you’re doing so, so well. I’m a mum and a midwife and was still totally unprepared for motherhood and how utterly overwhelming it is, especially in the beginning. I LOVE how honest you have been here. It really does get easier, as you’re already finding, but give yourself time to process everything and don’t rush yourself, like others have said there’s a reason why women (should ideally) have maternity leave. Lots of love x
This is so refreshing to watch. Although I’m sure EXTREMELY hard to put such vulnerability online, hearing someone say things that I’ve personally felt and is so raw & real is so reassuring. Bambi is so lucky to have such a wonderful, inspiring mummy. I’ve got two little boys and both situations were completely different post-partum but it’s so nice to finally see some normality online. Thank you 💖
I felt this in my soul. I’m a first time mum and my daughter is now 10 weeks old. Motherhood has been something I was never prepared for. It is magical and beautiful but honestly the hardest thing I’ve ever done in my life and as you said it’s just something no one can ever prepare you for, no matter how much they explain it to you. Thank you for being so transparent, it helps so much knowing I’m not alone in my feelings. Stay strong mumma you got this and you don’t owe anything to anyone. I can barely remember to take my medication or eat on a daily basis, let alone film content like you do. Do what you can, when you can, that’s all you can do 🥰
My daughter is 9 weeks old 💞 but I relate so hard, no one prepares you enough. A new life , new body and trauma from birth x
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I don't know why people want kids so bad. Your life is kind of over once you have them. All that work and then they will leave you for someone else when they get older. Some of my friends have kids and I see how little time they have. Just completely tired and have no time to do anything. Then there's all the expense too. Good luck to anyone who has or wants them but it's no fairytale. I respect people who have them but I don't know why they want them so bad other than a natural urge
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She’s honestly smashing it! I love how honest and up front she is about everything she’s going through, because I guarantee many people can relate in some way. 💜
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This is why I love Molly. She's so real with us all. I hope she knows it's completely okay to take a break from interacting with us to focus on herself
Mum of a two week old newborn here!!! These comments are everything and to know we're not on our own means a heck of a lot 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼
I can totally relate Molly. I have an 11 month old and the first few months of her life I had almost an identity crisis, i felt like I was just her mum and not me anymore. It took me such a long time to wrap my head around it all. It’s so so overwhelming but at the same time magical and an amazing experience. Motherhood is indescribable. X
Anyone else click on like before they’ve even watched it? Molly Mae is so honest and real which is so refreshing in this industry. We all love you Molly and Bambi xxxx🤍🤍🤍
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Sure did! ❤
@Maria CANCER i wish you all the best!🤍🤍
I didn’t click like before I watched it because I can’t like a video without pressing it
I did exactly this!
I’m glad you put this video out. It’s raw and real. Pregnancy isn’t all sunshine and rainbows and you’re allowed to admit that for all that you love being a parent to Bambi, that you were also overwhelmed.
Trauma is the perfect word to use, it was a moment in time which changed you forever for good or bad ❤
this transparency is so refreshing. and it is so normal. and so many women can relate and so many need to hear it. thank you for sharing, we love you, hope you keep healing and getting better. xoxo
You know what makes me emotional? You’re the same age my mum was when she had me. She’d lost her own mum at 17. Her sisters lived abroad. It makes me realise how strong she had to be. She did it alone ❤
Life is so so overwhelming as a mum and you have no idea of all these emotions and feelings until you’re thrown into this new life. 9 months into being a new mum and I still feel like this sometimes, it all gets a bit much and you lose your identity and you feel your being judged, you feel you’re alone, you feel your baby is the only baby with that habit etc. it’s all perfectly normal and your feelings are totally valid. You just take your time, remember just because you’re in the limelight doesn’t mean you owe anyone anything. You’ve got this xxx
Can I just state the obvious? You’re free to upload whatever content you want & whenever you want!!! Creating a content is already hard enough as it needs courage (being in front of a camera and being transparent) and time, and you should do it only when you’re happy to do it. We know how much you love RUclips and your audience. Every feeling you have is normal. We love you, Molly💗
Bless you for being vulnerable and sharing with us. So many women will be able to relate. You are not alone ❤
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@@spodermantunes get a life mate
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Molly I’m a new mom too! My son was born January 26-
Thank you for Filming this video!!!!
If it makes you feel any better you helped me feel less alone.
Thank you thank you!!!!
It’s Soo overwhelming- it so true ! My life is just soooo different. NO BODY CAN PREPARE YOU.
You are doing amazing. No one is a better mum than you to Bambi!!!
I gave birth to my baby girl on the 26th of January 💗 Congratulations
Absolute credit to you!! Doing it without Tommy there must have been incredibly difficult, especially when you also worry and get anxiety about him fighting. So many emotions for such a big moment in your life. Take your time. We all love and support you 1000%❤❤️Remember to take care of yourself too❤
My sister just had her first baby and I had to watch my nephew for 3 nights by myself (because she had mastitis) and by the third night of getting up every other hour, having to feed him, and then rock him back to sleep… I was crying by just the third day; sooo the fact that you pushed through as a new mom without Tommy after giving birth; you have every right to feel the way you did 💕 praying the transition gets smoother, you’re doing great 🤍
we all love you molly so much, you deserve nothing but the world 🤍
We missed you Molly. Sending my love this is already making me feel so emotional 🥲💜✨
This is fucking inspiring!!!! Actually some TRUTH about how difficult motherhood is!!!!!!! Go you!!!!! Just thank you so much for just being authentic and REAL!!!!!!! My son is now 17 months and looking back at the first 6 months was definitely traumatic!!!! Watch yourself for postpartum depression… I’m a mental health nurse and the brain fog etc can be a symptom. Look after yourself and this video is my favourite one you’ve ever done!!!! Xxxxxxx
God the first 6 months of motherhood for me were horrific! I had PTSD and just felt so alone!! Surround yourself with mums who have babies Bambi’s age! I found a mum community such a saviour ❤
I’m a new follower - Molly you are a breath of fresh air. As a mum to a nearly three year old, this is the most relatable 11 and a half minutes on RUclips! X
I rarely comment on videos but this is so open and honest that I couldn't not. Please know you're not alone! My youngest is 11 now but can still remember the after effects of birth like yesterday.
The sh!t side of birth isn't spoken about enough (literally!) 😂
It's hardwork growing and birthing a human, we need to remember this!
It’s mourning the loss of your old self while also celebrating the love of a new life. It’s an overwhelming feeling, the first baby is a shock to the system but it gets a lot easier and more enjoyable. My son is 2 in July and is the best thing to ever happen me 💙
When I had my daughter, it was he hardest thing I've ever done. she was born just before the pandemic, and I've done it all by myself for 18 months. You're doing AMAZING Molly ❤
This is so so amazingly vulnerable. I swear I went clinically insane the first month of my son's life. I look back at those first 3 months and can not believe how hard they were. During the time I was just in complete survival mode. He is 8 months now, and motherhood has become so peaceful. It is so much easier and I actually feel more and more like myself every day. Better actually! Nobody can ever prepare you for those first few months. Videos like these are important to help shed light on the postpartum period. Sending so much love and healing to you, sweet mama ❤️
I went through the same thing the first 3 months. Glad to hear you’re way better! My son is now 14 months old and i feel like im getting back into the old groove of things. I absolutely hated the first 3 months of motherhood 😢
My son is nearly 11 months old and no-one can prepare you for motherhood. It’s the most amazing thing in the world but so hard at the same time with all of your emotions running wild. You’re doing an amazing job, sending lots of love ❤️❤️❤️
This video is the first baby step back to yourself, Molly
sending u so much love molly 🤍
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Wtf suck up
You tube loves Molly 🤣 commented on a couple of her vids haha cute
@@meganmorris9284 a couple? 24!! Thats So nice ❤
I suffered from PTSD after a really difficult birth. My brain would not allow me to sleep for 3 weeks. It was like a tired but wired feeling. Absolutely awful. The best content is the most authentic content! Keep bringing the truth!
The whole thing of pushing people away, I did exactly the same thing. I felt like I wanted to do it all because he was my baby! It’s almost as though you don’t want to be defeated and just keep going. He is now 3 and I’m due my second baby totally ready to accept all the help I am offered, you can do this Molly!❤
this is SO real and relatable to most of us who have had kids. don’t feel the pressure to post, everyone will be here when you’re better mentally 🫶🏼 you’re smashing it!!! 🙌🏼
smashing it ha ha ha ha ha ha ha...she's an empty head
I don't think she realises we actually care for her. No matter what you are going through, we are here for the good and bad. It makes you even more loveable. ❤
The joy that comes over you when you talk about Bambi 🥹
i love how real you’re being it’s so nice to see and hear. time will heal everything. you got this molly, mothers really are superheroes.
Oh girl :( most people take a year off of work after having a baby, and there’s a reason for it. Take care of yourself and don’t put so much pressure on yourself. You’re doing such an amazing job! Sending you so many prayers and love 🥹💗
She 100% needs to see this comment !! Spot on about maternity leave❤️
No they don’t 😂. Most people only have a few months off. Also, those people don’t have 2 personal assistants, get weekly blowdries, makeup artists, stylists, cleaners, a partner who doesn’t work full time thats there to help, some not even a partner at all, a huge disposable income, a sister who runs to their beckon call, private healthcare, their own transport etc. Molly is a melodramatic, self obsessed moaner. Claiming she didn’t sleep for 5 days is laughable. It’s impossible and as she was under the care of the best postnatal health service in the UK, there is absolutely no way they would let one of their patients go without sleep. All you lot giving her sympathy is feeding her need for attention. Give it to people who need it and stop being so gullible.
she got the same 24 hours as everyone so she shouldn't be struggling theoretically
@@Bobby-vf6wd many mothers struggle with newborns, so idk what point you’re trying to make
@@chearileawheeler1540 like she said "everyone has the same 24 hours in a day" so theres no excuse to struggle
Never watched you on Love Island but I come across a lot of your videos lately and I must say you are so genuine and lovely, I don’t have children yet but hearing your down to earth stories on your motherhood journey has been inspiring. I think us women need to give ourselves more credit in everything we do in life. Lovely honest video ❤
mommy to mommy, everything you’ve said in this video is so relatable & completely normal, you’re not alone, we love you Mol 🤍
So happy we have people like you in this world Molly to be an advocate for women’s feelings and to speak so openly about the struggles of transitioning within the world of motherhood. Hope you’re okay, you’re doing a brilliant job and it will all be worth it as you see your little girl grow throughout her years and how you’ve helped support her through that❤
As another brand new mum whose son was born only 11 days before Bambi, I COMPLETELY get it. All mums will get it, especially those who have recently had their baby and it’s all still so fresh. You are not alone in how you’re feeling at all… I couldn’t begin to put together a proper catch up of the past 11 weeks, it just becomes a blur! Mum life is like that but SO SO worth it! I love how honest you are in your videos, it’s brilliant!
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Mummies are given maternity leave for a purpose, give yourself time to be the lovely mummy you are. Accept the fact that you and yours are going, and need, to go through this bonding , precious family time. you’ve made a massive step with this video, so many women will gain strength from knowing they are not alone. A teacher once shared her anxieties on having her first baby, she could teach a classroom of 30 children without ever feeling as she does with her one baby. Please don’t be too hard on yourself, this video is meant to be. Thanx for your honesty.x
What you are feeling is so so normal when you become a new mum. Life itself is very overwhelming. You question every decision you make, you’re exhausted, it almost feels like an out of body experience for a while.
It’s plain to see what a natural mum you are and the balance will work itself out eventually. Thank you for being so transparent because it’s so important. People in the media often make it look like it’s SO easy and perfect and it’s absolutely not the case so well done you for being so honest about it because it really is so hard and a massive change. It gets easier as you go and we’re all out here winging it. Sending you love 🫶🏼
the fact that you’re so worried to call it trauma in case people will come for you is so sad. you absolutely went through trauma and it’s so valid xx
Girl, you are honest and raw and EVERYTHING that new Mums need to see! Not the perfect Instagram ❤ you’re smashing it!!
literally the most genuine person ever
Motherhood is savage. Everything you are feeling is absolutely valid ❤️ i struggled so much after having my daughter. It gets easier
This feels like one of the most natural and relatable videos I have ever seen. Thank you for being you and just telling us this. ❤❤
i’ve never had more respect for you molly! thank you for being so raw and honest. and you really shouldn’t feel any pressure to be anything other than yourself as i’m sure this video has touched many women ❤
I became a mum on Boxing Day 2022. I absolutely adore being a mum to my baby boy, and I feel the same that being mum has come so naturally to me. However it’s SO overwhelming, Graysons 13 weeks on Monday and I still don’t feel myself, my brain doesn’t want to brain and it’s so so hard. The night feeds, lack of sleep, complete life change, the 0 independence and freedom you suddenly have. It’s crazy. But it gets better with time you’re amazing parenting is so so hard nobody can ever prepare you for it. But you’re killing it
It’s honestly so refreshing that you are speaking so honestly about how things can be post baby. The brain fog is real. It hit me hard after having my 1st (still is with my 2nd who is 3 years old) Sleep deprivation is absolutely shocking. It’s a LOT. Be kind and gentle with yourself. Celebrate those little wins. They aren’t ridiculous at all. ❤
We love you molly , praying for your healing ♥️
I watched this video when you first uploaded it and I was pregnant with my first baby, I’ve now rewatched it 3 weeks post Partum and I fully understand exactly how you feel! I’m in survival mode and finding everything so overwhelming! It’s not spoken about enough how hard it is becoming a mum💓
Becoming a mum, no matter how much you wanted it or felt ready will always be the hardest thing you do. I've read that people with 5 kids and more will say that the transition from 0 to 1 kid is the hardest because you really can't comprehend how your life changes.
My baby is just about to turn 10 months. I love him so much and love being his mum but the emotional rollercoaster of the first few months have absolutely terrified me with regards to having a second. I naively thought that because my baby was planned there was no way I could suffer from PPD, but I did until he was about 6 months.
I think a lot more people will relate to you and what you're going through than you would expect.
Take care of yourself and do what you want at your own pace ❤
Complety agree❤
As a mummy of 5 here I can completely agree with this, deffo going from no children to 1 child is an absolute change to everything in your life, and I would say when we have no children we live life selfishly and free. If we want to go somewhere or do anything you can just decide to go. With a baby you have to plan and think about everything! After 0-1 I found going from 1-2 is also hard, as you have this 1 child that is your main priority and you can just chase them round as a toddler, if you have your second baby close to the 1st then it is hard to look after a newborn and chase a toddler at the same time. And also after the 2nd you have less time to recover, you can’t just sit there and rest when your baby is sleeping because you have another child that also needs your attention and you do feel very overwhelmed with the amount of time you are on your feet straight after the birth. We had 3 children and my husband had a vasectomy as we decided 3 was enough, he went ahead and had the snip done then I started feeling unwell and the doctor sent me to the hospital as I said there is ovviously no way I could be pregnant and turns out I fell pregnant 2 days before hubby had the snip it worked out! I was 14 weeks pregnant with TWINS!!!! Omg the shock I was feeling was incredible! I felt blessed and horrified all in one go and going from 3 to 5 children was incredibly difficult! Just from the stares from people all the time when we are out with them, I’ve been asked if they all have the same dad, (they do, me and hubby been together since we were 15 and we are 35 now).
@@nikkijones7946 wow I can't imagine what a shock that must have been!! You are so strong ❤️
I did initially think I would like 2 close together but now I'm more in the mindset I will wait until he's 2 or 3 to try again for the exact reason you said about chasing a toddler with a newborn baby 🙈
100% agree. I’ll never forget the struggle of having my first son. I remember having the full on baby blues, it was so hard. Partly learning how to be a parent, partly losing yourself and the life you once knew. Nothing can prepare you. I remember being in tears a lot. Now second time around it’s so much easier, I feel confident and competent and I already know that the difficult moments pass and I’ve already figured out how to be mr as well as a mum. Those first few months are so hard with your first, but it gets better ❤ you’ve got this
@@sarahmcd9345 I have a 6 year gap between mine so that has helped, my first is independent with getting his own snacks and we can do activities like watching a movie together whilst I feed the baby and I don’t have to chase him round. That said, as he’s at school and has activities like swimming etc my second just has to deal with it and I can’t just stay at home if u don’t feel like going out 😅 so it’s harder in some ways too
it’s so sweet how happy u are about being a mum you’re face just lights up everytime u talk about her 🫶🏽
This is the most real we’ve ever seen you. People forget you’re a person, like us, you’re young, experiencing motherhood for the first time. Thank you for sharing you experience with us and every feeling is valid❤
Our little girls are a week apart 💗 I've not watched the video yet but the start when you're tearing up... I can relate 🙃 you've got this xx
I feel this so bloody much! Trauma is the right word I don't care what anyone says! I went through such a traumatic ordeal and was the exact same, a blubbering mess, especially spending an entire week in hospital watching my newborn have an infection not knowing she was going to be okay! Then going home and reality hits like a tonne of bricks! But I PROMISE YOU it gets better Molly and this will all feel like a bad dream. Sending love, and please look after yourself and your little girl before anyone else 💖
I know the feeling of wanting to sleep and rest but this sickening overwhelming feeling comes up and I get so anxious. I think it’s because you finally have slowed down and left with your thoughts and shows how crazy it is
Being a Mam is so hard. Everything you’ve said is all normal. It’s definitely a shock to the system bringing a baby home. In a few weeks/months time all this will be a distant memory! You’ve got this Mollie ❤
This is so relatable, motherhood is SO hard, nothing can ever prepare you for the 4th trimester!
Mum of a 7yo and 2.5yo and I can confirm it definitely takes a good 1-2 years to fully feel yourself again, and that self isn’t the same as before either. You are doing amazing ❤
As a first time mum I had really bad baby blues. I had anxiety attacks every afternoon at the same time and felt regret and felt doubt about being a mum and I also felt so alone even though I had people telling me they had gone through it. I’m honestly so grateful it went away eventually and I am loving motherhood now.
You need to give yourself grace and time, you are doing amazing ❤
Molly we all literally adore you and how raw and real you are. We wouldn’t have you any other way, you’re so down to earth and beautiful inside and out and it’s okay to admit that you’ve been struggling. I’m so proud of the person and mum you are. There is no pressure from us do what you need to when you’re ready. Love you so much . 💜
This girl is just so genuine and real I just love her. She is so open about everything and I hope everyone gets behind her and let’s enjoy her journey. Keep your head up molly your the best 😍😍😍
I’m not a parent however I struggle massively with mental health, it makes me feel like I’m not myself, brain fog exhaustion & just emotional. Although it’s not the same as being a mum the issues can definitely be similar in ways. I’ve always admired how you keep yourself positive & find ways through hard times. Seeing you have such a hard time isn’t nice to watch as a fan however it has made me realise that we all are human & basically have to go through shit times whoever we are & not to be putting so much pressure on ourselves. It’s clear you idolise Bambi & the fact you are struggling shows how much it means to you. This video has helped me even though I’m not a parent so I’m sure you’ve helped so many others too. We all love you. Thanks for being a friend to us all as that’s how we see you ❤️❤️
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MOM BRAIN IS A THING! We moms totally understand what you’re going through. Nothing, I mean nothing, is harder than being a mom - especially in this time and age. I hope you’re feeling better already ❤️
Sending lots of love from Finland xx
I LOVE this video!! This is exactly the kind of content that I love, I want to hear about everything and the realities of life instead of just perfection all of the time. Wishing you the best!! Thanks again ❤❤
Molly it’s insane how real and hardworking you are. Thank you for sharing the highs and lows. You’re the most genuine classy person ❤ please take care and GET A NANNY! It will help! No shame in it!!
Don't know too much about parenting, I'm a 20 year old man but I do hope you get through this. May God be with you. the fact you are and still going is testament of that don't give up. Better days are ahead.
Your feelings are so valid! Everything you’ve said is spot on I’m a new mom also and it’s SO HARD. Thank you for being so honest with us all. From your comments we can all relate your not alone even if you feel it, from one new mama to another, you’ve got this 💗💗💗💗
We love you Molly. You are a great mum. You're not alone; let your family and friends support you through this transition. You need lots of TLC. Bambi is so lucky to have a mum who loves her so much.
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I'm 16 months into motherhood and honestly, I felt the same as you from the start but didn't get the help I needed because I thought it was how everyone felt so I thought I just had to get on with it. I had post natal depression it turns out! The charity PANDAS can help and also other support parents groups in your local area ❤
Oh gosh Molly I’m only 2 minutes in and I feel this on every level of my being. Your a new mom, learning each day hormones all over the place and sleep deprived never mind the whole world judging your every move! Becoming a mum changes your whole life you are not the same person anymore and that’s ok it takes time to find yourself again. I had my baby a year ago and still haven’t come back to RUclips my passions have changed and now it’s gone so long I feel overwhelmed like yourself and don’t even know where to start nor do I have the time 😂 between working and being a mum it’s also hard to find the time to film and edit so I get it girl. Be kind to yourself you don’t owe anyone anything you will get there x
We love you molly! We’re all supporting you❤❤❤❤
This is SO relatable! I’m a month ahead of you and I totally understand. Give yourself grace and take as much time as you need.
I absolutely understand every single feeling you mentioned you went through. Nobody really speaks about how you are after birth, and it's so nice of you to speak about your experience so openly ❤ We love you millions!
This is so heartfelt and admirably raw and honest and your dedication to being your true, authentic self and holding nothing back (even when you’ve been slammed for it in the past) is truly inspiring. With a mom like you, Bambi has so much to be proud of ♥️
Everything you said is the reality of being a new mom babe. I went through the same thing. When my daughter was born I didn't sleep for 2 days straight and started having such terrible anxiety that I went into crisis. It was the scariest time of my life. Nobody prepares you for what can happen when you give birth. It's wild!!! Take all the time you need and things do get soooo much better ❤️
As a first time Mum to a 9-month old I resonated hard with this especially about how being a Mum is the best thing ever it’s all the other stuff around it that’s hard! Thank you for being so honest ♥️ I’m glad the younger generation have a real insight into motherhood and not just insta reality x
I have 3 babies under 4 and I feel you, it’s so nice for someone in your position to be so real and raw about your life 💗
You are the most RELATABLE human being on this planet. This is why we love you. When I gave birth I was constipated so badly at the same time of giving birth and I was in so much pain not from giving birth but from being constipated, I would rather give birth than be constipated. I felt this video to the core!!!!!🤣🤣🤣🤣 keep being you, we love you for being your authentic self. Motherhood is the hardest job in the world & you are doing amazing 💛 p.s. it gets easier & more amazing by the day✨
Just Breathe. Everything will work out Ok? We love you and we understand, don’t feel rushed or stressed. Mom life isn’t easy and no one is every truly prepared for it but you are doing AMAZING. We love you, Tommy and Bambi🤍 you’re strong always
Molly take care of yourself. It’s an emotional and difficult time and all mothers know how you are feeling. Don’t put pressure on yourself. This is heartbreaking. Being a new mum is so hard ❤
I think every single mother will relate. My baby is now 18 months and I remember ever single second of the first few weeks/months she was born. The absolute best days of my life yet the saddest and most depressed I’ve ever been. Things always get better but there are still really hard days and nights. But they always alwaaays get better. Motherhood is truly something no body can ever prepare you for❤
You’re an amazing woman! Do whatever works for you when you feel like it and we’ll all stand by you QUEEN ✨💭
We love you so much Molly, take all the time you need, we’re here for you🤍🫶🏻
You’ve done amazingly.
And doing most of the first 4 weeks alone too, well done Mama. Hardest job in the world but most rewarding in every way. You are a fab mum and Bambi is very lucky to have you as her mummy 🥰 take in every second. They say the days are long and the years are short. Enjoy the tiny snuggles xxx