Bipolar Romance in SILVER LININGS PLAYBOOK with guest Mason Davis
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- Опубликовано: 18 фев 2021
- He's been diagnosed with bipolar disorder and recently released from a psychiatric hospital. She's struggling to process the loss of her husband. Can they help each other heal?
Licensed therapist Jonathan Decker and filmmaker Alan Seawright are joined by actor Mason Davis as they talk about this film - from the interesting (and often dysfunctional) relationships, to the outstanding performances, to how realistic the portrayals of mental illness and therapy are. Mason, Alan, and Jonathan share some of their personal experiences and insights on these topics, and their thoughts on the romance between Pat and Tiffany.
Director David O. Russell got an Oscar-winning performance from Jennifer Lawrence, and knock-out performances from Bradley Cooper, Robert De Niro, Jacki Weaver, and (of all people) Chris Tucker in this simultaneously quirky and introspective acting showcase.
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Written by: Megan Seawright, Jonathan Decker and Alan Seawright
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Jonathan here. I want to apologize for my "identify as a farmer" quip towards the end. It was in poor taste and transphobic. I wish I hadn't said it and that I'd had the brains to ask that it not make the final cut. Clearly I'm still working on my own growth. Thank you for holding me accountable. You all help me be a better person and a better therapist.
I didn't feel it was wrong. While I agree that the statement is meant to bring power to the trans community. The statement has been manipulated by the media, government & corrupt people to the point of becoming a mockery of its origional intention. I also believe in looking to myself when something someone says hurts me. I don't feel you said that to be offensive or degrading to others. It's sad & I don't feel having a world full of people walking on eggshells is healthy for the world. Taking accountability for our own emotions is more powerful then having a victim mentality.
I just wanted to add that a lot of people probably wont "get it", the fact that it could be something of poor taste and transphobic. I didn't. I thought a farmer - is a farmer? Like a person taking care of cows and stuff. Don't know why i felt the need to say that but yeah. I'm from Sweden btw.
I think intention is important, and I don't think your intention was to hurt anyone in any way. As I am not a trans person, I can't be the one to accept the apology, but as a bystander and someone who does not always say the tight thing, I understand where you are coming from. I think it was done in good humor, and not to be transphobic.
Thank you for always trying to be better and not just brushing it off like other people. It was small and as a trans person its not the worst thing to ever happen to me but I am crying because you care and for that I am thankful. I don't wanna celebrate people doing the minimum but even the minimum kindness and human decency is hard to come by when you are trans :( again thank you for caring . I love you both and your content very much. Love from canada
Edit 2: I relistened to it a couple of times and I got so caught up in the idea of dating profiles for farmers only that I think I missed the explicit LGBT references. Leaving this comment up but I don’t necessarily know if I agree with it anymore. OK I’m out for real ✌🏻
Non-binary opinion (mine alone, I don’t claim to speak on behalf of anybody else): You’ll have to be the judge rather than the rest of us but I wonder if the context of this joke means that it isn’t trans phobic?
When I first heard you say it what I heard was that you were not actually a farmer but you’ll just identify as one because you want the title. Like you’re a farmer with none of the work. That sounds like an OK joke to me. I will frequently joke when I feel like I can’t study anymore that I identify as an A+ student and that this A+ identified student is going to bed.
I’ve never once meant that as a joke about gender or gender identity. We have lots of identities in society, I identify as an anarchist but I vote because it’s not the system I live in. Same line of thinking when I make these jokes.
Long story long when you said you identified as a farmer what I heard was not a joke about gender or a joke riffing on gender, again you’ll have to be the one that’s honest about that, but a joke about wanting a claim to a title that you don’t have any grounds to claim.
And if that’s true it’s a perfectly OK joke. One of those “what sounds transphobic but isn’t” meme moments.
Wayback in the last decade I saw people really upset about a cookbook called the queer cookbook which was just a recipe book full of weird things. That book was not heterosexist by any means But it pushed up against a really sensitive subject and the discourse had to work its way through the importance of the context of the title.
Edit: to be super clear if this isn’t correct and you were making a riff off of gender things I think it’s great that you recognized that you were wrong and listened to the community and publicly apologized. Not to give cookies but I want to recognize that that’s important and really necessary to have that demonstrated in society.
The parents looking at him like he's frightening when he's manic is so accurate. I think the worst thing is when you're hypo manic and you do something that seems perfectly normal to you but someone you love looks at you with fear in their eyes, but because you're hypo you can still recognise it and it's so scary and heart breaking. I hate seeing people look scared, I'm not a scary person I would never hurt anyone, but I forget not everyone knows that about me.
Yes! I hate that look that people give me when I’m hypomanic. It hurts my feelings and it makes me feel more paranoid.
I went to a restaurant while I was manic with a friend one time and I'll never forget the looks of fear I got from the entire restaurant as I continued to make a scene. Did not recognize it at the time for obvious reasons, but it's like those looks are burned in my memory. As much as I fucking hate my meds I don't miss being an absolute terror in the public eyes.
God, when I have an episode, usually my father explodes as well and what hurts me is that he's there yelling at me when I'm not in control, making me feel like a crazy asshole because he's scared of my behavior.
I am a depression patient sometimes I get into a manic phase(As long as it doesn't get over one week you don't consider it hypomanic or manic as a disease). Even in my extreme depression I was weird and when I am manic I get weirder but since I am used to it I don't regret it afterward and since my mother is a nurse she understands. In a bad manic phase, I know a patient who walked miles with bare feet(She had cuts and bruises everywhere) or one who didn't sleep one week and start seeing hallucinations. A patient had uncontrollable shopping sprees that left the family in huge debt. In story short, the body can tolerate depression in some levels but has no toleration towards the hypomanic or manic phase thus making it more dangerous.
Edit: I changed some expressions to make it more understandable since some people got missunderstood the whole concept of my comment.
@@exosproudmamabear558 Hypomanic is a mild form of mania, the hypo doesn't refer to time it's a prefix meaning 'low' or 'down.' The extreme episodes that include a break from reality are manic episodes, while hypomania doesn't include a break from reality and is generally harder to recognize because some people think they're just having a really good week. All of my up episodes are hypomania, whether it lasted a few days or for months
Fun fact I told my therapist about this RUclips channel while avoiding speaking about my feelings and now they like your videos
Fun fact, you're the greatest and thank you!
:D this is awesome!!!
This comment is funny, honest and wholesome and I love it
@@voyance4elle thank you
@@sspectre8217 I wonder if they saw my comment
I grew up with men that could not cry or talk about feelings. I have now surrounded myself with men and women who can talk about feelings and cry. It is very healing for me to watch this channel. Thank you.
Its so refreshing to watch
@Muggie Hyde Me too! I have six like this. The rest are not ok with emotions. I just spend more time to cultivate the emotionally mature friendships. It’s a hard find.
I feel normal after watching this, that helps a lot 😊
Men are trained by both men and women not to cry or share feelings. It’s a sign of weakness. But good for you.
@@richpivo772 i find its a bigger sign of weakness to be afraid of showing your feelings.
Having Jonathan say the therapy "thank you" after Alan shares something is so wholesome and heart-warming. We appreciate it too! Thank you for being open and honest!
This comment is exactly what I felt as well in that moment
I was just about to come here and write a comment about this. I love it so so much. I apriciate Alan and Johnatan more and more every week because they are open and honest and vulnerable. Seriously I feel like there is no words to express how much I love all that every body is doing to create this show.
when did that happen? Did I miss it?
@@voyance4elle 22:35
@@PeregrinWho Thank you!!! :)
Wow... “Taking medication to the point where you feel good, then you stop taking it because you think you’re better. But there’s a reason you’re better; it’s because you’re on the medication.” You just outlined my whole cycle.
Big same on that one. Couldn’t tell you how many meds I just stopped bc I felt better.
Can I ask what makes you think its good to stop? I'm on meds and have never thought about going off because I feel better, but rather I think that the meds are helping. Sorry if that's phrased in a way that sounds judgmental, I genuinely want to know how so many people come to this conclusion since the only people I know either are like me or they go off meds because they feel worse.
@@r3dak73d-6 I can only speak for myself, but I kinda forgot I was taking them, it was such a normal thing to do for me, became routine ... so at one point I just didn't make the connection. And it usually takes some time until you notice it wasn't a good idea bc the chemistry in your brain slowly gets unbalanced again (just like it needs a few weeks until you notice it's working - a reason why some think their meds don't work and stop taking it, don't do that! Give it time!).
I'm talking about anti-depressants here, don't know about other meds. It wasn't that bad for me bc I didn't take heavy doses, but you shouldn't stop taking your meds until your doctor or therapist says so!
@@r3dak73d-6 I guess part of it is that that's how many _physical_ ailments work: you take meds until the sickness passes or the pain stops, and then you're good. And the sooner you get off meds, even if a little bit of pain still remains, the tougher and more resilient you feel (as opposed to feeling weak and in need of a safety cushion). It's even encouraged with some pain meds to quit before you get too comfy taking them (opiates, for very legitimate reasons). And then just in general, the mentality of wanting to be "cured", even though that's not a thing for mental illnesses. You don't want to think of yourself as being sick and needing continuing treatment.
@@MiFelidae absolutely agree with you, and i can understand forgetting one day and then just totally stopping lol. I think i have a near instant reaction to when i miss mine (bipolar and an anti depressant that doubles for adhd) because if I'm feeling shitty i instantly think "did i take my meds"
Maybe it has something to do with the adhd for me :o
"We are more than our worst moments, but our worst moments are part of us and we need to own them." J. Deck.
YAAAS! So good :)
I was really moved by Mason’s candor (and Alan’s, too) about his diagnoses. He appeared a bit hesitant at first, but then he just laid it out. That’s difficult to do and probably even more so on camera. Being with people like Jonathan and Alan, who won’t judge you for your diagnoses, is certainly helpful (but unfortunately rare).
At the risk of pissing people off, with damn good reason, I think that people get a little competitive...
I agree. That aspect of this video felt really genuine and refreshing in a way; Mason just talking about his experiences of mental illness, fairly explicitly (but without being excessively triggering); clearly and calmly naming the diagnoses he takes medication for and just ... You could tell that he was feeling vulnerable, but I didn't read any shame - which I think was what felt so meaningful about it.
Honestly just naming his diagnoses out loud is a pretty powerful thing imo.
Alan mentioned how this movie has almost no score, and it made me realize that that made me feel unsettled when I watched this movie. Thank you for teaching film stuff too!
I agree. I like when he explains film making norms.
I also loved this note on the filmmaking. I super agree with the score informing you on how to feel about a scene as well!
I'm not a english native speaker, so I had to Google what the score was you were talking about, it turns out is the background music and it blow my mind that i haven't realized either that this music doesn't have score and how this is meaningful to the storytelling
Alan here, Thanks @Shaleah DeWitt! I’ve spent a lifetime accumulating this knowledge and experience, glad some of it could be of use!
I do think one's background and viewing history plays a lot into noticing this or not. I haven't until Alan pointed it because I see a lot of films from several times in history and several countries and a lot of films from the late '90s onwards are "overscored" (just compare the original Lion King with the not live action remake and see how many no soundtrack scenes or breaks between soundtrack tracks now got music all along), and having films sounding like this one is more common outside the US, but although my past viewings didn't make me uneasy at it, it made me feel confused that for a film pretty funny in many parts and overall a romantic comedy it didn't feel for me quite like the usual examples and it was that scoring difference to its other US counterparts. It totally worked to the films sake because it makes the unfunny parts hit harder and the psychological edge to the script hit deeper (a more traditional 21th century scoring would turn this into a more generic rom com even if the script was the same, as the fact that Runaway Bride actually has more psychological substance as you showed in your video on it but it "feels" like a "generic" rom com despite being more proves).
I gotta say I had the opposite reaction to the cold therapist. I grew up a people pleaser, because woe unto the small child that didn’t prioritize her parents’ feelings. So when I got into therapy, I kept picking up on the therapist’s desire to help me feel better, and it became more important to perform wellness than to actually get better. It wasn’t until I found a therapist with a world-class champion poker face - cold grey rock non-responsive blank wall presentation - that I could stop trying to give them what they wanted and focus on what I needed.
Just goes to show the benefits of both types of therapists and that, much like there isn't a one-size-fits-all for mental health, there also isn't a one-size-fits-all for therapists and therapy.
yes from this reformed people pleaser as well
Wow, that's really interesting how that ended being what worked for you!
But you should not play a person’s trigger the way he did outside of a controlled session
Great point! Wow- you just took me back to something I’ve been marinating on for weeks! An ex-boss of mine was a self-proclaimed people-pleaser which really affected her management skills and our work environment (it was awful). She always struggled to make a decision and made (what most of us perceived constantly) as poor choices. She had other problems (racist, being a big one of them) and I finally left that job. My ex coworkers recently told me that my ex-boss griped that she hated leading meetings I was sitting in - she hated my blank stare, my expressionless face, my poker face. She told them she hated presenting things/ideas and looking at me and not being able to read my thoughts or know what I was feeling about what she just said. When I heard that, it kind of irked me (but also intrigued me a little- I didn’t think she gave a damn about my opinion!) but now, reading your comment, I realize that as a people-pleaser, I now understand why that bugged her so much. It is uncomfortable to not know or have ANY idea how you’re being perceived and I think it forced us to look into ourselves and ask why and explore our feelings, wonder why we feel the way we do. My ex-boss- she had a lot of trauma - and one of my biggest gripes about her was that she refused to recognize her flaws, she refused to accept that she wasn’t perfect and that everything is NOT “fine”, not all the time, anyway.
Thanks for sharing your experience and comment- you’ve helped me analyze my situation (and my ex-boss) more.
Wait... The psychiatrist played the song on purpose to "see if it was still a trigger"? That's fucked up.
Edit. So glad you guys addressed that.
That was a very uncomfortable part of the film. I think it was unprofessional.
And that's not even best practice
@@thursoberwick1948 It was WILDLY unprofessional. I'm so glad Jonathan addressed that fact, and explained how he would approach it: not in public, and WITH a "trigger warning" for the client.
@@MsLovinDMutts The other thing is when he does become triggered in the waiting room, he becomes a risk to other patients and staff.
I mean those type of horrible therapists exist IRL unfortunately. This one jerk I had in middle school literally knew I was in a fragile state and kept pushing (more accurate word would be bully) me until I had a mental breakdown and then said he was out of time and told me to go back to class.
I would love to see you guys do an episode of Perks of Being a Wallflower and coping with sexual trauma. It’s a movie that messed me up in the best way as I worked through my own trauma
I found that a dull film. I really wanted to like it but it didn't work for me
Damn! That`s a wonderful recommendation :) I love this movie! I am happy for you that you are in your healing process
PLEASE!!
Also Ladybird and Dead Poets Society!!
I like how Perks didn't downplay Charlie's trauma just because his abuser was a woman. I really do hope they make an episode about it
"There will always be a part of me that are sloppy and dirty, but I like that, along with all the other parts of myself. Can you say the same about yourself? Can you forgive?"
Powerful words
one of my favorite moments of that movie
That IS a great line, but I always find that scene uncomfortable due to the frankly aggressive degree to which she is pursuing him. He asks her to leave him alone multiple times and literally runs away from her, but she still refuses to leave him be. Consent is still a thing, *movie* , even if the pursuer DOES look like Jennifer Lawrence! 😝
Yes!!!!!!!!!!
As a therapist and a pop culture nerd, this is the PERFECT corner of RUclips for me. Keep up the amazing work you two ✨✨
As a computer nerd and not-so-watcher of movies, this is actually great for discovering movies to watch and to entertain myself! As perfect a corner imo :D
@@QW3RTYUU exactly! There’s room for all nerds here 🤓
as a highschooler and nerd myself I have little time to spend on anything but studying and I agree this place is great :)
Thank you so much! We will!
As a filmmaker and a person who got PTSD after being married to a man with Bipolar 1 - this is match made in heaven
Hey Alan - as someone who's been through a psych hospitalization, no mental health is small mental health :) I've trained myself not to trauma compare - we've all got our stuff, doesn't make each other's any less real or valid. Love you guys!
I was trying to find the words to say this, so thank you!!
So true!
Alan here. That is so well-put. Thank you so much! I try to say this all the time, and you’ve given me really great words to say it! We just filmed a bunch of episodes, so that won’t make it into the show for a few months, but pay attention, I’m going to use this exact phrasing next time we shoot.
Nobody wins when we play the Pain Olympics
@@CinemaTherapyShow I can really recommend the channel "how to adhd", and helped me so much and it made realize that ADHD/ADD is much encompassing than attention deficit (also it's more about attention dysregulation)
I am so not used to seeing men analyze and understand emotion- I'm obsessed
This is the only channel I’ve ever gotten this excited about and I’ve been on RUclips almost my whole life
Me too, Grace!
Same!!
This is among the only channels I ever got excited about (and one of the few I still wait for), and I've been on RUclips its whole life!
You should also check out implicitly pretentious. It's cool
Saaame! It makes me really nostalgic since I used to watch movies with my two brothers and then analyze them in a similar way that they do, *Wipes away tear* memories :3
I just want to hug Alan😭❤
I'll hug him today and tell him it came from you. - Jonathan
@@CinemaTherapyShow Thank you so much❤😄😘
Oh god, yeah. If a therapist ever played a triggering song as a "test", I would find a new therapist IMMEDIATELY, and I would probably also see if I could sue
It was very unprofessional.
Same! I couldn't believe that.
Ive left therapists for a lot less lol. My last therapist (which, i blame covid for this, some people are just not good at working from home) left me to WALK HER NEW DOG for 10 minutes while i was in the middle of opening up about my dead dad. The one before her just straight up didnt remember anything about the previous sessions so i had like 3 sessions that were just repeats. I have such a respect for these guys and these videos have been better than my last two therapists combined.
My former psychiatrist triggered me on purpose because “my affect was too flat and he wanted to see something real”. The something real was me bursting into tears because he pushed on all the things that make me feel awful and then leaving and never coming back
I would love it if they reacted to "To the Bone" and talked about eating disorders. I don't feel they get enough attention and are definitely misunderstood by a lot of people.
Second this!
Not only that but the mother daughter relationship in the film
@@fischerprospers7609 both relationships mentioned would absolutely be interesting to discuss! And to look how the therapy is portrayed as well
yes!! one of my favorite movies ever
Absolutely love that movie! Means so much to me
"you've got the look of a woman"
*pause*
"Well not of a woman, sorry"
my transmasc ass agrees lmao
😂 Same.
I have yet to see a woman with hair even half that luxurious
Every time Alan tears up man 😭😭 normalize adult men having feelings! 🙌💜 Love this channel so much! Jonathan has the most beautiful insight! Love you guys!
We love ya right back!
I teared up myself 😥
We do, we just have been raised in a way that we are supposed to keep these in a cage and never let them appear especially in front of girls/women.
The relatable thing for me about this channel is that I tend to get very emotional by watching movies, I have the same mental process as Alan so it resonates a lot with my past
@@CaptainSportExtreme I 100% agree with you that "men just aren't allowed to cry" in front of women and I don't agree with it at all.
I have four brothers and a father and I've seen them cry maybe once or twice in the 28 years I've known them. I have many male friends and I always want to make a space where they can cry and let that out because I think it's most beautiful thing in the world when someone's able to express themselves without feeling judgment.
I hope that everyone, including men feel they are safe to express themselves. Wishing you well💜✨🙏
@@laurend7337 ahah it doesn't mean we all erase tears and trauma, we just work on them so we don't show it to others. It's often hard for those people because it's like a prison of solitude but you can't help it even though the answer is super easy. It just wouldn't come out and you wall your feelings with a mixed bag of happy expressions.
Anyway thanks, at least you admit that feelings are not gender linked, your friends are lucky to have you
Me as I watch: "There is something missing..."
Me at the end: "WhErE Is tHE pOpCOrN!?"
Omg you're right!!
I THINK ABOUT THAT EVERY TIME THEY DO A VIDEO AND I DONT SEE THE POPCORN!!!!
Yeah! Where is Lissa's popcorn
“Good Will Hunting” is another great film with a memorable therapist (Robin Williams)!!
I have REALLY good news for you! we just shot an episode about this! It'll be out in the next month or so!
I was about to ask for Good Will Hunting, so happy to hear this I can't wait for the episode!
Yesss!!!
"Ordinary People" (1980) is another therapy-classic. It also won multiple Academy awards and many people have forgotten about it.
This movie brought me so much peace when I was committed. I don't think my diagnosis is correct but I still identify with so many of his behaviours, so to see that there was a space for him in the world made me feel so much better
I definitely feel you on that.. I feel I walks misdiagnosed ass well, but it's one step closer to understanding yourself and getting healing
The guy who’s in Hallmark loves Silver linings... the world makes more sense now!
My mom has bipolar disorder. I was 12 when I was old enough to comprehend her actions, at the time I just didn't know that what she was saying and doing wasn't "right". She was convinced my dad was trying to kill her, my siblings, and myself. She told me so many times before one day she enacted a plan. My dad was gone for the day and she entrusted our neighbor, whom we were close to, to drop us off at the airport with nothing but the clothes on our back. We flew from Illinois to California where my mom's family is. She had managed to convince not just our neighbor but her family that what she said about my dad was true (I won't go into detail about the other things she accused him of).
This wasn't the first time she had an episode but was surprises me to this day is how normal she seemed. She was coherent and smart enough not only to get my siblings and me to California but also managed to convince everyone around her that what she claimed was true. Just last September she had a relapse, and it was nothing compared to her other episodes. It was devastating to me emotionally, mentally, and physically. She had strong hallucinations, voices in her head, and unbearable anxiety. I'm the oldest and a college student. My dad couldn't take off from work to help as much as he wished, and she didn't trust him at all. I was very lucky to have two of my aunt's help but either way, I was left to deal with all of the housework, reassuring my siblings, keeping an eye on her constantly, and work and school. She would describe to me what she saw and heard. Even with help from the rest of my adult family, we realized after just 4 days that we couldn't do it. We had to take her to the hospital, she was there for almost three weeks. She then spent another 2 weeks upon release with my aunt where she had space to walk around and a backyard. She's still in the process of recovering because she entered a strong depression afterward. She did things and said things she regrets, no one holds it against her and I think that's what makes it even more painful for her. The relapse she had when I was 12 took her 2 years for her to feel herself again.
Whenever I see depictions of mental illness in the media, especially portrayed so skillfully, it always makes me fall apart. I recognize the pain. I'm not gonna lie, I'm very afraid of people who don't have mental clarity. They can be going through a mental crisis or have developmental issues. Even if they are no threat to me or it's clear they are not trying to hurt me I get extremely anxious and want to get as far away as possible. I hate feeling this way because it's not fair to them.
I'm sorry for the long rant. Seeing this video made me want to take all of this off my chest.
❤❤❤❤ i hope things are ok now, and if not, know they will get better, i say this as someone with bipolar myself who saw how much effort it took from multiple people around me to keep me safe during my episode. so thank you for what you did to help out your mum.
When your guest spoke about how being medicated and feeling good leads to stopping medication I found myself thinking about this problem by comparing to a refrigerator. You plug it in and it gets up to temp and everything is as it should be. For that it needs to remain plugged in, if you unplug it, things go bad.
Pretty solid analogy.
Yes. I can relate.
I'm on anxiety medication and when I stop taking it I can feel myself getting worse. I must take it everyday to feel stable
High stakes trial and error has taught me the lesson of how important it is to continue my meds even when I start to feel relief from symptoms. It only takes a few days without my meds for me to start having suicidal ideations.
I think it's how we've been taught meds work: take it until you feel better, and then stop. That might be the case for analgesics, but it is not the case for mental health meds!
as someone with bipolar i really appreciated the depiction of mania/hypomania that is agitated, aggressive, and uncomfortable in this film, because so many people think it's just feeling happy/energetic/euphoric
I also love what Mason points out about wanting to quit meds because you feel good because they're working - there's a show called Please Like Me that has several characters with serious mental illness and there's a great conversation between two characters Rose (who has bipolar) and Hannah (played by Hannah Gadsby!) where Rose is talking about how badly she wants to stop taking her meds because she's better, and Hannah reminds her 'ok but you realise the reason you want to stop taking them is because they're working, right?' it's a concept i think people without mental illness probably don't consider - they hear 'they went off their meds' and assume that it's because the person was belligerent or delusional or was downspiraling and being self destructive, whereas so often the thought process is 'i don't need these anymore' rather than 'i don't need these at all'
The guy saw his wife with with another man in their shower while their wedding song was playing. And the bastard has the audacity to say "You should go." I dont blame the guy for snapping.
same here. Would have snap too.
@jowalter05 this is why I will never join accounts or give my spouse my account info. That way no one can steal money and he/she can go in debt by themselves. In fact cuz of my mistrust of people, I don’t do relationships at all. Do have friends but at arm’s length. It how I keep myself out of the drama.
@jowalter05 true but think about it. He messed up your financial situation cuz of joint accounts. When it comes to money, even if it easier doesn’t mean much to me. Don’t trust others when it comes to money. But then again I won’t be vulnerable with others either. We can work together but you don’t get close to me. Would always waiting for that other shoe to drop. You want to date me? Why? What trouble are you in that you need my help with? Do I look like a sucker to you?! Those are my questions in my head while dating. And always look at my bank statements to see if anything missing while I’m asleep. I don’t own a credit card either just in case. I just can’t trust people. Don’t trust my own family when it comes to money situations
I remember once having someone using the "you should go" line on me. I was in a writig group which lasted two hours and one hour was given over to one guy. Other people had other stuff to read, but this guy took over (and he was such a bore people often left in the past). I mentioned something about the time and he said, "I think you should go." I stood my ground and said, "Well, I don't. You've had your hour, quit while you're ahead". He was never allowed to take over the group like that again.
@@sandywolfr26 what you are describing are pathological trust issues, it is not something to be recommended. healthy suspicion is one thing, completely self-obsessed distrust is another. i have a little of the same but for me it is not universal (that is, i can trust individuals even if i don't have faith in people/humanity at large). constantly thinking everyone is out to get you and expecting the worst case scenario must be exhausting.
I'm bipolar, and I swear the conversation between the two of them talking about what meds they've taken/ currently is so on point. As those with mental illness are prone to do, I have quite a few friends that deal with some type of mood disorder, and we swap stories about what we're on all the time.
It's weird isn't it? A bit like some messed up competition... Very true though, and when I was on meds (I think I've sorted myself out enough now!) it was a common conversation with my other medicated friends.
Haha oops been having this convo with a friend I met on the psych ward today (I just started lithium two weeks ago)
@@katyr2382 Nothing wrong with that. In the movie, when they said they took Trazadone and they felt out of it, I thought, "That makes sense." One of the side effects of Trazadone is drowsiness. I know this because I take it as a sleep aid to counteract insomnia, which is a side effect of the Lamictal I take for my bipolar. Throw in a splash of Welbutrin, and I'm left with a mostly functional brain.
One of the hardest parts of dealing with any mental/mood disorder is figuring out the right cocktail of drugs. Conversations with people that have gone/ are going through the same thing can help with what side effects to look out for and give you more information to discuss with your doctor. What you're going through is not easy by any stretch of the imagination, but I hope it is a comfort to know you're not alone.
@@heatherwills3404 Thanks for the lovely reply. Yes peer reviews of meds is good as I often feel docs give a 'text book' view rather than the reality. I started Lamictal in Oct along with Zyprexa (I was in hospital with mania and psychosis) but hated the Zyprexa. Lithium will hopefully be better combo with the Lamictal once I get over the initial nausea and headaches and into the therapeutic range. Take care Xx
@@heatherwills3404 I was on Lamictal when I was misdiagnosed with bipolar, when I actually had narcolepsy. Not actually being bipolar, the ONLY change I experienced from Lamictal was from being drowsy all the time to being awake all the time, which somehow made my batshit psychiatrist think it was working. Um, how exactly? I'm no doctor, but if the only difference in a patient is an added symptom, seems obvious to me that's not the right med.
"Perks of Being a Wallflower" has probably the most accurate depiction of a person having anxiety. Amazing movie. Please do that next.
Took awhile but you finally got that episode
"You figure out how to handle life" this! My therapist has confirmed to me that I have a damaged nervous system and I suspect that I have a CPTSD, and it took me a long time but I created an environment where I can say that I have my own safe 'normal' life. And I've been told that what I have DOESN'T go away, but that's fine, because life is beautiful and love my friends and family.
I’m so proud of you!!! I have CPTSD too, and I confirm that even though it doesn’t “go away” it doesn’t stop you from building a good life. It just means you’ve gotta include your mental needs in the plan for a good life 💕
Same!! But I would say that T.I.R. therapy has helped some things to 'go away'
@@rosewhipple7513 aw thank you🥺 and exactly! So well worded
@@elsielinstrom Ooh! I never tried TIR, but it looks really good. Personally, EMDR made the biggest difference to me. Not gone, but more manageable ☺️
I’m not struggling with any significant issues but I think it’s like any chronic condition. It doesn’t go away, you can’t walk it off or get over it but it doesn’t mean you can’t live with it and live yo the fullest why you’re at it.
Your condition is a part of your life and will most likely always be to some extent but you’re strong and you’re much more than your diagnoses.
I’m really proud of you ❤️
I got borderline vibes from Jennifer Lawrence’s character too, I’m so happy you picked up on that (speaking as someone with it)
I came out as bi to my therapist and he just said "hm" and didn't change his face at all. It was... well I ended up feeling a thousand times more judged than if he had said almost anything else.
Well if he never said it, I shall just say that I am proud of you :)
I'm bi as well. I'm proud of you
Proud of you
It could be that it was not a big deal to your therapist. When my family came out to me I just "okay" because I was raised to believe it does not mean much. It didn't change her in any way so, just..."okay". She actually preferred that because it showed it was not a massive issue to me in her eyes. Every person wants a different kind of reaction but no one can predict that so let them know how that made you feel.
@@nessie4215 oh yeah you're right that's what it was. He's a super supportive guy and I really like him, my point was that no reaction approach totally backfired here.
I wish you guys talked about the breakdown he had at night, with his parents. I'm not bipolar, but I've lived with someone who is and that part shook me to my core. So incredibly real.
I do counseling for PWDs and once this mom told me she was going to put bleach up her baby's butt to cure autism. I did that "hmm, okay" thing but was freaking out internally. So we started looking at what bleach does and how it's used and she realised that would be a very bad move. I cried after she left coz... WTF!!!??
It's still so strange to see autism seen as though it's a crippling condition (it seldom is, and in those cases, there's usually other issues at play) and that it's better to get rid of the kid instead of learn how to properly care for them and help them deal with the inevitable social awkwardness.
As a therapist in-training... I just love how honest Johnathan is... I am learning so much from these videos... Thanks guys...
Same here! I like the tips he gives as well!
This is so cool :D
Same here. I love therapy geeking out while he's geeking out. 😂 Doing a lot of good work here.
Yeah, I know what type of licensed professional I need in my search for the “relationship that heals”, I’d be super untrusting of the ‘mirror method’/reflective (I can’t remember the exact terminology now, LOL) and my delusions would run wild.
I love stories (be it films or books) with mentally ill people being loved (and respected!) for who they are. Not the 'falling in love cures my anxiety/depression/hole in my head' tropes, but the realistic 'you fell in love with this messed up person, let's be weird together' story. Acceptance really warms the heart.
Had a co-worker who made her fiancé go to sessions with her therapist before she would agree to marry him. She wanted him to understand what he was getting into.
I'm gonna be real with you, I forgot this movie had anything to do with bipolar and haven't so much as thought about it since I got diagnosed so this one hit a little bit harder than expected but the meds discussion is so real. My brother in law, sister in law, AND two best friends are all bipolar and we talk meds like kids swapping lunch in the cafeteria.
Edit: Also the way he admits to experiencing a delusion is very on brand, it's like pulling teeth because it means I'm not doing "good enough."
Oddly enough, me and my friends do compare Colours of meds around the lunch table and try to deduce what they mean. We’re a bit of a cocktail of chronic and circumstantial issues so it’s a fun puzzle as far as coping mechanisms go.
I'm chronically ill and all of us spoonies do the same thing with pain meds lol. Also 90% of us are on antidepressants because constant pain sucks so we also talk about our favourites which is usually sertraline in my experience.
When you get excited about a Cinema Therapy premiere and realise it's to early to be part of it 🙈🙈😭😭😭😭
I got diagnosed with schizoaffective disorder when I was 19, I'm at a really good place in my life now but this pandemic has brought me to the edge again and this channel really has helped me keep it together so I can stay at the healthy point I've gotten too. You guys are doing a great thing and I love this channel.
Fellow ADHD'er here, and the meds conversation (both "these are messing with me, we need to try something else" and "what does it say about me if I need meds") absolutely hit home for me too
I've started a little routine. On Thursday night I see what movie is in your premiere, and if I haven't seen it, I seek it out and watch it Thursday night so I can enjoy your video on Friday. So far I've watched Runaway Bride and Silver Linings Playbook because of this channel, and both really moved me. Thank you for introducing me to some beautiful films.
That's an awesome idea, I think I'm going to start doing that too!
OMG! That’s amazing! We’re going to move to a Tuesday premiere. Should we post it like, Friday morning so people have time to watch the movie over the weekend?
@@CinemaTherapyShow Yes, please! That's a great idea!
I would love to see you guys do Black Swan and tell us what’s going on and how it would realistically manifest and how someone suffering could deal with that effectively
YES!! I LOVE that movie
I would love to see you guys watch Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind
I keep forgetting the film, and having to rewatch it to see what happened.
I hope they listen!!
@@thursoberwick1948 xD
I think it would be really cool if you reacted to The perks of being a wallflower. I thought it was a really beautiful movie and it would be interesting to see a therapist's take on a it
Ouuuu yesss!!! I support this idea
I love that film
Mason's gorgeous hair
Right? Filming with him and Alan I felt so hair-average.
Buff Shaggy / Bizarro-Alan was a cool addition
Mason's gorgeous EVERYTHING, FYM!?
Mason's gorgeous everything!
Shaggy
I’m listening to this as I work and was like: “why do I hear Rocket Raccoon? “ Then it dawned on me
Everyone has that moment, lol
The part about the importance of having support really spoke to me. I've been struggling with my mental illness for a long time, I've been in therapy for 3 years and I'm completely alone in this. There's no love in my life. I wish everyone would have at least one person to support them when they're fighting their demons, as I know from experience it's extremely hard and exhausting to be left alone with this.
It might not feel like this but you have one person that is always there for you, it's yourself.
It took me many years to realize that. I'm 40 now and the one person always being there for me is just me. Relationships come and go, be it romance or friendship, but the one constant is you.
I think that's why it is so important to "love" yourself, because if you do, there is that one person that's always in your corner and that makes all the difference.
("love" because going from hating myself to loving myself isn't something I have accomplished as of today. It started as a cease fire 5 years ago and turned into liking myself in the last 3 years.)
@@Teilchen2511 Well spoken. My therapist said to me multiple times: You need to be your best friend. A friend is someone you support and forgive, you need to learn to allow yourself doing it with yourself as well. (that was bad English, I hope you understand what I want to say)
If it makes a difference, I'm sending you love & support. It really is hard to feel alone in mental illness (speaking from experience).
My amazing phenomenal therapist would also do the nod and "okay" thing whenever I told him something off-the-wall bonkers. But he did something really great and that's that he never diagnosed me. He never told me I was crazy or disordered, I just had disordered thinking, which was a heck of a lot easier to fix than telling me I had a disorder because he knew that I would self-identify as that disorder. He was phenomenal
could you guys do a reaction/analysis of the father/son/single parent/child dynamic in a goofy movie? it’s probably one of the healthiest dynamics in all of disney and the movie is just so wholesome
Omgoodness, I want that, too! No one talks about single parent dads.
YAAAAAAS
@@kathrynnowack9601 And those who do demonise it :(
Yesss
I just watched that movie! And if I’m being completely honest I do think that goofy has an unhealthy need to be apart of every aspect of his sons life. I’m glad that it simmers out at the end when he finds someone other than his son to be around.
As someone with a sister with bipolar, a twin with bpd and a mother with Schizophrenia I found myself recognizing their behaviour and actions in the characters, especially Jenefer's, they didn't mention in the movie what she had but it was exactly like bpd to. me.
Bringing on guests that are open about their struggles is amazing! Keep these coming. They are normalizing the mental health conversation and give people (me) hope and growth.
Amen, we don’t have to stay broken, and there’s nothing wrong with accepting treatment 🖤🦋👍🏻
I love the honesty and the "realness" of this channel, please don't stop making videos like this, we all need videos like this, it helps me feel so normal to see that everybody is struggling with something, and whatever it is I'm dealing with is normal, and I can overcome it. Love this channel guys
That was such a beautiful moment when Alan talked about his family and their support. I am really loving your videos.
When Alan swears you know this vids gonna be a doozy! This channel is my therapy session, since I can't afford therapy. Lol
As a kid I had to go to a few school therapists for my "anger issues" and 100% they were the type of cold (in my case harsh as well) ones you were talking about. They somehow not only increased my paranoia in therapy but also to people in general. I really wish there were kinder therapists out there especially in childrens' schools.
“Tray-za-done” for whatever reason, that pronunciation ran all over me.
SAME hahaha
Yes! It’s a short A!
That's always bothered the shit out of me.
Honestly
When I first saw that part and she mocked the way he said it i about died laughing 💀
JONO BETTER BE WEARING THAT FLANNEL NEXT EPISODE! 🐄🐖🐑
Lol. We film in advance so I will not be. But maybe someday. What are some good lumberjack movies?
@@CinemaTherapyShow PUH-LEASE do Fern Gully sometime! 🧚♀️
@@CinemaTherapyShow Well you could do something about Supernatural :D Though difficult bc it has 15 seasons now ... but would be an excellent example for so many things ... denial, parent-child-relationships, no self-worth etc.
I rewatched all of it after finishing my therapy and it became a whole new level and perspective.
@@julsweaver Omg yes!!!! Fern Gully is amazing
@@MiFelidae Excellent recommendation :D but probably a lot of work to go through all the episodes and find the important bits (and not watch hours and hours of demons and monsters :D )
UGH IM SO EXCITED THIS IS MY FAVORITE ROM-COM-DRAMEDY 😭
Same 😭✨
@@josephine.strand it’s to the point where I know the music queues and the characters lines 😬😬😭
As someone with BPD, yes, she does show some of the 9 traits of BPD. You need to fulfill at least 5 of those to have a positive diagnosis.
I always related a lot to her back when I saw this movie. years later I got diagnosed with BPD. shocker
This movie will always hold a special place in my heart, because it's what helped me realize that the crap I've been dealing with most my life was undiagnosed bipolar disorder. Its portrayal was just... so real and accurate, and I saw so much of my own life in it. From the shame of realizing you just got so caught up in your own head that you've done something horrible, right down to having a bipolar dad who doesn't think he's bipolar. The explosive fight they have over nothing? Where they come to blows over a book? That hit wayyy too close to home for me. It was so dang identical to my reality that like... it was impossible to ignore it or pretend everything was okay anymore. Seeing this movie in theaters marked a huge turning point in my life and got me to seek the help I needed to get myself on the right track. I'm incredibly grateful for that; the difference has been night and day. So... thank you, Silver Linings Playbook!
The french title for this movie is "Happiness therapy" actually (french is my mother tongue). Found that interesting. Saw this movie when it came out, never thought just a few years later i'll relate to the pills jokes … But I found this movie really refreshing and calming (?) personnally
I appreciate how in the film they make it obvious that the community is more accepting of Lawrence's character for a number of reasons that are relatable to female viewers, especially those of us who are outwardly feminine presenting and dealing with mental health issues. First, they are more accepting and protective of her her because they associate her with her husband [she's not herself; she's 'her husband's widow']. That spot on with when people say a woman is 'someone's daughter/mother/wife' as if that's the main reason to feel compassion towards them. Another reason she has more acceptance in the community is because part of her coping was having sex with many men in the community, which some of the men want to take advantage of. Cooper's character is treated far more harshly by locals because he's a a man, therefore independent, and also his outbursts and coping mechanisms don't entertain others and are seen as more threatening. The fact that Lawrence's character is as far into her mental health self-care ad acceptance journey as she is is very impressive considering what she was up against. I'd be very interested to hear your channel talk more about how internalized sexism can negatively affect both men and women dealing with mental health issues.
You definitely nailed that analysis, thank you for this
Before seeing a Cinema Therapy video, I didn't know grown men could be so adorable. It's the wholesome content I never knew I needed
I probably write this every week, but once again I SO appreciate Alan's moments of emotion and vulnerability. I absolute adore the dynamics in these videos. Speaking about keeping your kids informed about your mental illness struggles, as someone with a mentally ill parent, I wish my mom/parents had told me what she was struggling with, what it looked like and what it meant. I think I could have processed her depressive episodes better AND known what to look for when I inevitably started experiencing my own. I always thought that keeping my own future children informed about our family's mental illness history was to make their experience better, I never even thought about the potential it could have to help me get through tough days.
You're our dad too now, Alan, and we see you and love you!
Someone mentioned reviewing Joker in the comments. I definitely agree with that movie. Also Whiplash. That movie really hit me emotionally since I had an abusive mentor for 2 and 1/2 years.
I have to say, I love the dinner night scene when Pat and Jennifer Lawrence talk about medicines and how much they are enjoying themselves doing it. The whole time before, Pat had been trying to be positive, he was trying to be normal, and he was failing hard because of the overcompensation, making him “the weird man”, and the dinner was a mess and uncomfortable except for that moment he started talking about his medication the way I talk about books or a tv show, and she replied him not with judgement, but with the same enthusiasm, and you see this like the first time he is truly comfortable in a situation, just to suddenly go back to the reality of the family dinner that got creeped out as outsiders. It’s brilliant.
I have a potential answer for why Jennifer Lawrence's character behaves the way she does, at least in part. Certain forms of trauma permanently change how people respond to certain situations, particularly stressful ones. While these changes in response may have been necessary for survival, often they make other people uncomfortable because the responses deviate from the socially accepted script for how people should respond. But the person didn't chose to respond that way, can't change how they respond, and literally needed to respond the way they did for survival. So, first the person becomes stigmatized and isolated by whatever happened that traumatized them in the first place, and then again because other people don't like how they coped with that or future trauma/stress. Eventually, it can often get to the point where the person just stops caring what other people think because of it. Not because they're sociopathic or lack empathy, but because other people do not and cannot understand, and because the person has a right to respond the way they do, the way they need to in order to survive.
Yes. (I was looking for this comment!) She starts yelling for her own survival, but once she realizes she's safe she recognizes what his needs are and is able to tell him there's no song. It appears that she's hot and cold (or whatever) but she's in her survival mode.
@@moravialaurich5423 Yay, so someone got my rambling and convoluted attempt to make a point! Some trauma responses stop being trauma responses and just become how people respond. It's not always great, and I think people should get therapy for the trauma responses that are truly problematic and make it difficult for them to function in the wider world. That said, I think it's important to recognize that someone may look cold/borderline sociopathethic because they've learned that that's the only way they can survive.
@@oesteful Yes yes yes. The brain adapts and the neural adaptations are permanently wired in (so to speak).
I had counseling trauma so it's really hard for me to open up to therapists or counselors. My first was when a biblical counselor was absolutely adamant that if I was having Panic Attacks, I HAD to be in sin. The second was when a secular therapist that tried to "fix" my anxiety and depression... And then flat out cut me off because I missed a two appointments over the course of three months or so. I finally had a good counselor for three semesters in college... Then I graduated. It is really good for me to see that there are counselors and therapists out there who are awesome!
I'm actually going to start going to a master's program next year that is a mix of psychology and Christian theology. The stuff you are mentioning is in the first book on what not to do. I'm sorry you got the bad ones and I'm glad you got a good one and hopefully you are doing good. If you have any tips or observations from the client's POV you would like to share with me and are comfortable with sharing, I would really appreciate that. All the same, I wish you the best in life.
I live with bipolar and the clips shown here are scarily accurate, from the audio hallucinations to the being slightly abrupt in mannerisms and being a bit off with your therapist / psychologist when talking medication. Interesting that you mentioned about people with mental illness finding each other in one of my previous jobs one of my best work friends also had bipolar and it got to a point our moods ended up bouncing off each other - if one of us was manic the other would end up manic in about 5 minutes 😅
"Having a litte kid say 'Hey I understand that, and I still love you' is huge." Yes. :)
Thanks for covering this film. Thanks for the visit, Mason.
as someone who suffered from an eating disorder since i was 12, i would love to see y’all watch a film that depicts eating disorders. i see so many harmful misconceptions that make me feel awful and misunderstood
What do you think about “to the bone”, if you ever watched it? It has multiple characters with eating disorders and they all seem to be in different stages of healing although it really focuses mostly on the protagonist. I thought it was an interesting movie but I couldn’t tell if it was realistic or not, the medical part seemed real.
22:28 when raw emotions come out and the others just listen and are support and say thank you ... is so pure and I love seeing men not judge each other for having feelings
That thank you was so lovely
I'm excited because I've watched all of their episodes now except two because I haven't seen the movies yet. Oh wait I haven't seen this one either 😱
So I re-watched the twilight ones. Still funny.
Could you make a therapist video to Joker (2019)?
Joker was such a good movie it triggered me. Not many movies have the ability to do that. I still love the movie though. I would love the CT duo to discuss it as well.
GothicHippie LoveChild I know right! Hope they could focus on the topic mental health or something like «sypmathy with Joker?» etc.
I second this, there's so much to unpack in that movie.
Now that would be something. That was is A LOT. In the best sense
I don't know :-/ it's a really good movie, but do we really need another story demonizing mental illness?
I watched this movie twice and despite my many years struggling with mental health I never understood the hype and by extension the movie. I know what to look for now, I have to rewatch it again.
I have a request for you: a film titled "Speak". It's about a girl who's become emotionally broken due to PTSD from a sexual assault. I would love to hear your take on it.
Yes! It's been a long time since I've watched it but I remember it had really interesting imagery with the girl having cracked, bleeding lips
I remember reading that in high school. That book was so important to me but it took me a long time to realize why
Hearing Mason list off the affliction he suffered from makes me look at all those Hallmart movies in a slightly different, slightly darker light.
When I watched Silver Linings Playbook I was confused whether the ending of them getting together was happy or not.
It's arguable. I think it's an improvement, but the cycle for either of them could begin again.
A lot of this movie makes sense to me because a difficult emotional situation can launch you into an episode like I told my best friend that I was in love with him and he ghosted me and I went crazy in a psychotic manic episode my friends convinced me to sign myself into a psych ward. I was having hallucinations and everything, it was really hard. Life is hard when you have bipolar 1.
My parents would always judge me for crying in front of them and make me feel ashamed of it so it’s such a relief to see people showing emotion like that without making it a big deal or something that isn’t normal or appropriate bc it absolutely is, it’s healthy. So thank you 🙏
I would love to see your take on "What's Eating Gilbert Grape" with Leonardo DiCaprio and Johnny Depp
Hi do you think that WandaVision (on disney+) is an example of maladaptive daydreaming? Coz i think so since wanda creates her own universe inside her head to escape reality and trauma. We would love to see a reaction to that!
I hope you have a good day ✨
The comment about Mason thinking he would come off as crazy by talking about his therapy and depression/anxiety/addiction. Alan then replies with something about "well you're an actor, we already knew you were crazy" (paraphrasing).
Just the fact that these icons, idols, and influences being REAL PEOPLE with real life problems should be.. not only celebrated.. but also normalized. Maybe then we will lose less people to these mental health illnesses. No one is perfect. Everyone hurts in some way. You're not alone.
Thank you to the boys for sharing their experiences with us.
I thought feeling foggy was normal until I finally tried medication. For the first time in my life I consistently felt aware and awake.
I really enjoyed having Mason in this video. He brought a lot of humility, and vulnerability, and straight up useful information to this discussion.
When I first watched this movie I found the characters to be so relatable and I actually enjoyed the first romcom in an unironically fashion. Fast forward six months I find out I have a mental disorder. Who would’ve thought 🤷🏽♀️
Mason makes me think of Shaggy and Fred if they had a love child 😂 he’s great and I love him 😂 you guys were brilliant, as always 😊
Just paused this to comment on the whole "my child telling me they still love me is huge." It goes both ways. My dad was undiagnosed a few things when I was a kid, including ADHD. Remembering his diagnosis later in life was one of the things that finally got me to talk to a psychiatrist about whether my diagnosis of anxiety/depression was the entire story. Spoilers: it was not, I am also very ADHD. We just missed it for most of my life bc I've been working so hard at managing it myself...and probably bc I'm a woman, and when I was a kid everyone assumed only boys had that struggle.
Anyway, having those conversations with your kids is going to help SO MUCH if they ever start having struggles and aren't sure what's going on.
7:36 Oh God I had a therapist like that and it was so bad xD I'm really reflective, so as a result I was really distanced and showed no emotions. And when he adressed it, I said that I just reflected him, but he insisted he reflected me. It was so annoying, because with my other therapist I was the opposite. She was open and let me see her personality, so I did that, too.
I've got a similar diagnosis as Bradley Cooper in this movie, albeit not quite as extreme, and I haven't been through an infidelity like him, but this movie really gets to me. I swear being bipolar turns movies up to 11.
I love your channel, by the way! I discovered it recently and listen to your entire back catalogue and now I have a request. I don't know what sort of therapy you could pull out of it, but my favorite movie of all time is THE MATRIX
Alan here. One of my favorites as well! We’re exploring what we can do with that one, since it’s so beloved.
Love this review and the comments, with some nitpicks: Jennifer L’s character had existing issues: her husband died trying to get her out of a depressive episode by buying her some lingerie.
Also, being aware of social mores-as an adult-doesn’t necessarily exclude Aspergers in women: as one, sometimes people make us aware of mores in childhood and adolescence, but because we can’t seem to figure out how to perform them correctly we just give up at trying. And I realize that I’m not good with reading other people’s emotions regarding *me*, but regarding others I’ve been told that I’m very perceptive to people’s inner lives-it comes it handy with toddlers and children who don’t have the words to fully express what’s going on in their head.
Mason is a sweetie and very courageous to be so open and I applaud him. Also Alan and his wife's parenting skills are clearly brilliant. Lil request: for those who're being introduced to therapy through this channel it might be a good idea to mention in a future video that it's worth waiting for the right fit. You brushed on it here, but no therapist can be better than a bad therapist, depending on what you're dealing with of course. Hugs from Ireland :)
This has quickly become one of the things I look forward to!
I know, I am so glad they make these videos
PLEASE do Seven Brides for Seven Brothers. I need to hear your take on a guy who talks his 6 brothers into kidnapping. :D
There's definitely some weird stuff going on in that movie.
Alan, thank you for sharing about being a dad with mental health challenges and how the love from your kids is healing. When the recession happened in '08, I remember my dad got overworked and pretty depressed for the next few years. My sister and I were around the age of your oldest, and while we didn't see the whole picture, we knew our dad wasn't his usual self, and we still loved him more than anyone in the world. Your kids will always be better off having you around.
First Wives Club has so much relationship breakdown opportunity. And what it means to lose your identity for the sake of a partners ego.