When he said "guilt should have a purpose" that struck me hard. Guilt should serve the purpose of motivating you to set things right, and once that's done, it is useless. It's such a self-evident concept, but I wish I understood it years ago.
But you back then probably wouldn’t have ever understood what it really meant and even if they did, you were too young to have the confidence to apply it
The sad thing is that people would die for their kids in a blink of an eye, but wouldn't learn to love them better, wouldn't do the hard work of getting rid of their own issues so the kids can have a good life - the very life the parents would die for to preserve. How many people have a chance in their lifetime to actually give their life for their kids? It's far easier sometimes to physical give than to give the deeper gift of spiritual and emotional health.
I don't remember where I heard this quote, but it went something like "it's easy to say I'd die for you, true love is when you can say I'll live for you" I think I messed it up but something like that.
But seriously, "sandwich the kids with love and safety" is the way to go. In the fellowship of the ring Aragorn always was in the back, the hobbits walking in front of him. It shows affection and protective instincts. And that the hobbits are kids in every way Give us more examples of healthy marriages in the big screen.
What Aragon did is also standard pack behaviour. Shows that it was completely instinctual, not a learned 'I have to do this to be the guy who does the right thing' display.
6:29 is a great example of how hiring a deaf actress to play a deaf character emphasizes the skill of speaking sign language. She truly SPEAKS with her hands; when she says "stop" you can hear her voice. She hasn't just learned for the purpose of the film but she's already lived her life with her hands as her most expressive and communicative sense. Isolating the sound of her hands on her palms in that scene makes it so powerful. And for that, I think she's a great young actress, especially in this role.
I personally love how they f-ed up the Second Movie so hard that it retrospectively makes those 2 RUclipsrs here be wrong about 'Its good how they grieve: No one's at fault" by showing us that those Parents ARE STUPID BEYOND STUPID and kinda killed their Child.
This. She uses her sign language to communicate way more than just words. You can see the tone, the pacing - all the stuff you would see in a spoken language. You can tell this is someone who truly speaks that language - not just someone who's learned to mimic the words. Not that it's not awesome to learn other languages, including sign. It's just always gonna be pretty obvious to an extent who is a "native" speaker versus who has been taught later in life, because there's always certain things you can't pick up on from a crash course.
@@LordofFullmetal Random Question: Ever thought of using the report-system that RUclips has to get the plattform to be less s-ual and p0rn-filled? Cause its easy, i tell ya, to search them up and flag them real quick.
I'm a young woman who's hard-of-hearing and used hearing aids all my life. I loved this movie, but my dad literally cannot watch it. He stopped at the part when the dad tries to give the daughter upgraded hearing aids; it just hits way too close to home for him. If my dad ever finished the movie, he'd be a sobbing mess :'(
Did anybody else infer that when John screams he was actually showing for the first time his grief for the loss of his son while simultaneously releasing it?
This is totally that. That scream is grief, not bravery. Like, it totally was brave, but the emotion behind that is the soul-wrenching grief behind the loss of his son.
For me, it didn't read as grief for his son, but rather grief for his daughter and how he never realized how just much she was hurting. I'm sure it was meant to have that be cumulative, as of course he had pent up grief, but I read that mostly as about his daughter and the fact that he knew he was losing them all in that moment.
Wow I never would’ve realized that myself, I also can’t help but think maybe the stress and overwhelming emotions he feels trying to protect his family and failing to do so also coming out as well? I love how many interpretations you can make of his scream.
The way Emily Blunt says, "My hands were *free*," just breaks my heart. When tragedy strikes, we can fixate on the smallest details of how we might have changed the outcome, and I think this is a perfect portrayal of that.
I want to thank Alan for being so open and honest about his experiences and struggles. It's so brave to talk about that in general, but doing so on a platform like this is really amazing. It helps me understand that vulnerability is okay. It's awesome. I mean, I wish you didn't have these struggles in the first place but I deeply appreciate the way you trust us the way you do.
Wow, thank you! The thing is, everybody has struggles. We all just need to recognize that in each other, help and support each other where we can. Thank you for earning my trust!
All the struggles I've ever had were solved by my self, but being vulnerable to someone else and admitting to those vulnerabilities and struggles sure does feel better than just keeping them piled up like toxins fucking up my self, but does it make the other party listening to me fucked up if it is i think I'll just keep my trauma to my self
@@nolashingout4940 depends on the party so just know that you can trust them enough to treat you well and that they can handle understanding your situation
I burst into tears every time I hear that yell. He KNOWS that this yell is going to be one of his final acts and it's his one and only chance not just to save his daughter, but to let out all of his pain and frustration that he can't express because _even speaking_ would put his family in danger.
I’ve never seen a yell like that in movies, and here’s why it’s so unique. You see it build before it happens. Krasinski’s neck tenses up, his eyes widen, he’s crying. He is fighting against every nerve in his body. Every nerve is screaming at him NO. DON’T. STAY ALIVE. He doesn’t want to die. But he would die for his kids and that’s how it is.
17:22 she's giving her brother what he wanted: a light-up toy. She's cutting the green cord that connects the sound, so even in death, her brother can safely play with his toy (and any other passersby won't be put in danger by accidentally triggering the sound).
@@wesleywallace4426 true, if she just hadn't given him the toy and the parents had the children in their sight then he wouldn't have died, i blame all 3 of them cause who let's their toddler walk behind them, especially in a monster filled world, that's ridiculous
At least the old ones. The original and the Black and white were about a crooky family that even thou they are diferent and have diferent values, they treat other with kindness and respect. Even thou they are rich they respect others and NEVER UNDERVALUE OR MISTREAT no one. Most of that was lost on the movies, even the old ones.
My emotions aren't as near the surface as Alan's (which is not an insult, just an observation) but they're definitely there. See our Inside Out ep for the other time so far that the movie and conversation got to me :) We've got an episode coming up where I go "full Alan." I was a wreck, in a healthy way. After filming we laughed as I empathized with how exhausted he must feel after our shoots. - Jonathan
Read my thoughts! I was pleased to see Jonathan get emotional this time too, which made sense, considering the subject matter. Keep crying and choking up and being vulnerable! Our society needs this! Perhaps now more than ever.
@@summerskull9379 They meant it as a tease I think, as Alan is always the one getting openly emotional during movies that have an influence (e.g. Inside Out), and Jonathan is a little more tough-skin (comes with being a therapist I think because I keep getting lectured about me being emotional, but I ignore them as it is my way of showing empathy to others and I am majoring in psych, soooo....yeah. Let me be empathetic to be sympathetic :). But yeah, this commentor is saying there's a movie where both Jonathan and Alan are crying and are openly emotional for similar reasons (fathers).
It was actually Millie (the daughter's) idea to include the line "I have always loved you." The daughter realizes when her dad signs it that he never stopped loving her or that he blamed her for her brother's death, and I think it makes her reaction to his sacrifice more profound.
"As adults we take things for granted, like of course they know ... but they don't." This is a statement that i wish my parents had heard before during my childhood.
About the trend of scary movies: creators FINALLY realized that they can't just be about fear and jump scares, so they actually have to write a decent story. The community much appreciates it.
Oh yes, the jump scares were being so over-played and obvious that it just wasn’t fun anymore. ‘Oh, they think the person/monster is dead’ but jumps up for one more ‘fright’ scene, pa-lease(!!!!!!!) not again!!
Also jumpscares are just "gotcha" moments but in this movie it's actually a sign of danger. In other movies the tension goes away after the jumpscare but here it doesn't go away because we know something else is coming
My mum's friend and her husband lost their 22 year old son about 5 years ago. He had a massive stroke, basically sudden death. They have another son, and they've all been in this healing journey ever since. Both parents immediately went into "we can't afford to fall apart, we have another son who just lost his brother". They all take care of each other like that, they grieve for their own loss but they don't forget what the other parent or child lost too. They are amazing, Im so happy to hear them laugh and enjoy life now.
My husband lost his older brother, who was 36, few years back and his family did the same. They're knitting became a lot closer and it was heart breaking but amazing to see how strong they were for each other. Much love💕
I have had many therapists tell me that I have to have self love before someone else can love me. I always took that in as I’m not worthy of others love until I love myself which, of course, was not at all helpful. This is the first time I’ve heard self love explained in way that made total sense to me and I finally got it. Between the self love talk and talk of guilt (healthy vs unhealthy) this is a perspective shifting episode. Thank you so much for doing this show.
If the therapists phrased it as "you have to love yourself before someone else can love you" then they need to be kicked repeatedly in the crotch. I was told "if you don't love yourself you can never *believe* or accept that someone else loves you" and also that I can't actually give of myself if I don't value that which I am giving. You need to know that you are *worthy* of love and also that what you give of your time, your emotion and your engagement is of value because *you* have value.
@@mwuahugz1115 I don't think you need to love yourself. Just thinking that you are okay sometimes and doing the best you are mentally able to do, is enough. Everything else just pushes too much pressure on yourself and doesn't help at all. Edit: And as Wolf NZ Outdoors said you need to know that you have value. I think that's the single most important thing to realize: You have value simply because you exist and because you are you and therefor you have the right to express yourself and get a piece of the world for yourself.
As a gay man who took years to learn to love himself I have always, always hated the line from Rupaul’s catchphrase “if you can’t love yourself how the hell you gonna love somebody else”?. Just because all those yrs of not truly loving myself DOES NOT mean I was incapable of loving others. I LOVE my baby brother and I LOVE my best friend. They are my rocks in life. So how dare anyone in this world make me feel that way. Or say it’s not love.
@@wolf1066 Being somebody with low self esteem and always being surrounded by people who are always more competent than me in more ways than one, it's really hard to believe I'm of any kind of worth. Almost 3 years ago, I got into a relationship with my friend. It was really rocky since I'd just gotten out of an online relationship with a cheating ex. I was constantly paranoid, looking at the end and knowing it's gonna end the same way. But somehow, she'd always have the patience to reassure me. During one of these episodes, she told me "You don't have to be scared, I love you". Something so small and so simple, and something we tell each other everyday, that was the first time in my life I actually felt safe. I can't ever thank her enough for being my hero
And somehow, it just makes me feel safe and warm and fuzzy, and oddly loved by these internet strangers who don't even know I exist. Somehow, I feel like we're friends. I love Cinema Therapy.
@@ZemplinTemplar because sometimes people are not given, or do not realize they have, a "safe space" to cry in. This is especially so with men that have experienced toxic masculinity and are taught "men don't cry."
He did an interview on Colbert about how he didn't really make a horror movie. He made a movie about a family that just happened to take place in a horror story. It was a very excellent insight.
Fun little ASL fact! At 2:58 when the dad calls her Beautiful, and she answers by puffing her cheeks out: Meaning she’s calling herself fat. And that’s why he says “forget I said anything”
My husband is hard of hearing and my son’s long term partner is deaf. This film is so special to our family because of how it explores non-verbal communication and family bonds. All three of us have at least one disability that messes with our ability to navigate socially outside our home, but what doesn’t often get explored well in movies or other media is how it affects us inside our families and homes - especially in difficult times and tragedies. This film does that, and the sound design is actually like a character in the movie so we who hear perfectly can appreciate the story that much more.
This series has become so comforting that I'm no longer able to play it in the background while I do other work, because I always just get sucked back in to the video lol
"If you're worried you're messing your kids up, you're probably not." I feel personally attacked with gentle understanding... I've watched most of your videos and this made me cry.
Idk I don’t find this true, if you’re worried you should always ask the children/child you parent how they think you’re doing or what they need you to do for them :) act on the concern
@@googoogaga7986 For sure! I'm always working on ways to improve my parenting. But this struck me personally as I struggle with OCD and my kids are only toddlers :)
@@somebodyinparticular5951 I empathize so much with this. I deal with post partum anxiety and OCD and it makes me constantly worry I'm doing something wrong as a parent. It sucks.
This comment thread is interesting. I have a parent who worries a lot too. He's my dad, and he deals with slight narcissism, anxiety, and passive-aggressive tendencies among other things. I love him, but I know he worries a lot sometimes. I think the suggestion of listening to your children and always trying to improve is really good. Remember that they change over time. Treat them as the person they are right now, not the person they were when they were younger or the person you expect them to be. Take your time and be willing to learn. I hope this advice isn't dumb or repetitive or something, you guys seem like good parents. It just reminded me of my parents because they deal with a lot of mental heath issues too, so I felt like I should say something.
@@thistle_berry That's good advice. Even with toddlers, as soon as I think I have them figured out they change and require a different approach. I relate with you and your relationship with your dad. And that's part of the worry, not being my parents, learning from their mistakes and treasuring the things they did right. Thank you for your input.
I always bloody cry at the ‘I love you. I have always loved you.’ Followed by that scream filled with so many different emotions and that beautiful score in the backround. John krasinski is honestly such an amazing actor and this film proves it; he can do sooo much with just his face.
I'm an Alan. I cry at everything. Give a commercial 30 seconds and a hook and I'm reaching for the tissues. ... I carry a handkerchief with me to the cinema...
As much as I love the sentiment of "dying for your children" I wish more parents were just more present in the day to day. My father would always do grand gestures (buying an expensive gift, driving several hours to get me when I was stranded, etc) but never wanted to go to soccer games and recitals, didn't want to help me with my homework, didn't want to play with me. As an adult our relationship is a bit strained. He's incredibly hurt because he'll say "I did this for you, and that for you, how could you think I don't care?" and it's hard to argue with that. He's always there when the going gets tough, but he didn't want to put the effort into knowing me and supporting me, the boring everyday stuff that my mom always loved and cherished. Being consistent and showing up is just as important as the big moments in life.
I wonder how much of his choices were affected by different love languages or values? Your example reminded me of a communications class I took in college and supposedly, men are more inclined to show love in big gestures whereas women focus on the small details. Don't you just wish we could all learn to communicate better? :-/ Coming from someone that has a far-from-ideal relationship with her own parents.
You’re dads wrong and imperfect..... and that’s okay. But the things you mentioned were bigger for you than for him. You being stranded is harder for you than him have to go out of his way to pick you up. That’s not that hard for him. But him getting to know what your likes and interests are requires more of him than of you. You just have to say your likes and interests. He has to actually try and engage that. He’s wrong . “ I did this for you, how is that not caring?” It’s not. He’s wrong.... and that’s okay. We move forward. ( I have the same kind of parents. They paid for all my wisdom teeth to be pulled when I was 18 and in big pain. But they never taught me teeth hygiene, took me to regular dentist appts, and didn’t pick me up on time once surgery was over. And they don’t think they’re wrong )
Man, I felt that. Big gestures are proof of love, always, but they're only the bricks of a relationship. What keep those bricks together is the cement, and that's what the small things are. That day you sat down and watched something together, the game you played together, even the attention given when you talked about something you liked, those cement the love brought by the big things. It's hard for a wall to stand up with only bricks.
I'm in a sort of similar place, except my parents split when I was still very young and I only got to see my dad once every couple of years, so in that limited time he would show his love for me (or as far as I can tell that was the motivation, could've just been him trying to 'make it up to me') in material ways. Buying me the food I wanted, giving me like 300$ to play in an arcade by myself while he went in a casino, taking me to an amusement park or beach... but he never really participated. He used money and stuff to essentially 'buy' my love (which, ironically, he later judged me for accepting) and as a replacement for his own. He was also too embarrassed to show non-material forms of affection, like a hug, or just saying 'I love you'. We haven't been on good terms or even spoken for... almost ten years now. I don't think he didn't love me, or that he was a bad man (even though there was plenty about him I didn't like)... I just think he was bad at being a good father.
I love that everyone's characters have a real story: The mom is worried about going into labor The sister feels guilty and wants to prove herself The brother feels like he needs to grow up too fast And the dad carries all of their safety on his shoulders
oof as someone whose dad was raised in that traditional "masculinity= not showing emotions" its so eye-opening to hear these two men just verbalize how much they love their kids but also recognize that that sometimes isnt received.
I'd probably die in extreme depression, since it means that I wouldn't be able to talk at all. The pandemic hits me hard, since I can't meet my friends, and the little interactions I have everyday with them are the one that keeps me going. I've been fighting over a trauma (caused by my mom who refused to acknowledge, pushing the "fact" that it's always been my fault for "being difficult") since I was 11 (I'm currently 22) without any professional help since my parents don't trust people with psychology background (a.k.a. degree), saying "they're just full of theories without any real implementations to the real life". With that being said, it's really hard to get one without them knowing, for obvious reasons...
I LOVE that there is 2 white males, adults, husbands and fathers, openly crying, being vulnerable and crushing on handsome guys on RUclips in 2021. I love you guys so much! Thank you! PS: people, please respect my experience and my comment. I'm not bringing up gender and race to be disrespectful. I live in a reality that these factors are brought up as an excuse to have toxic masculinity on the table. THAT'S ALL! I'm not being disrespectful, I am literally telling them that I love them. Why can't people understand "well, she mentioned that because she thinks that this is important somehow, that's her life, her experience, but she is talking about good stuff, about love and recognition so I don't agree with all of her words therefore I'm going just to scroll down"??? That's not that difficult. Peace!
In the scene with the daughter, I really appreciate the fact that he accepts that she's not ready to accept his love and he gives her the new hearing aids and allows her the time to heal, letting her know that he'll be there for her when she's ready, and not trying to force it.
I'm 17, and lost my dad to Covid in Janurary, it's been months and I'm still battling with guilt and denial, but you're videos are very helpful and they help me confront my pain 🙏 thank you guys
John did an interview on Colbert the other day where he said his goal was basically to write a family drama with the trappings of horror, in the hopes it would be that much more impactful because you cared about the characters. I imagine he would take your analysis as a high compliment.
I also immediately panicked when I saw that they didn't have the family 'safety sandwich'🥺 but it just showed how exhausted they were that. How their whole lives were centered around staying alive, they missed a small but very important thing.
Watching the film in the theatre was amazing. EVERYONE was quiet. We all sat as still as possible, no screaming, no munching, nothing. If anyone ate or drank? During the monster’s parts
Megan here (writer for the show, and Alan's wife). Fun story: when Alan and I saw it theaters, there was a couple a few rows behind us that would NOT STOP TALKING! Everyone around them kept looking at them and glaring, and a few people shushed them. Finally Alan turned around and said something like "we didn't come to a movie called A Quiet Place to listen to you talk." That mostly got them to be quiet. But when the movie ended, the guy came up and asked Alan if he wanted to take it out to the parking lot, trying to pick a fight with him. Alan was like, "uh... no." Also Alan was about a foot taller than him. 😂
@@bubumaczko I had to go see it in a theater because I live with two very loud people lol. We usually watch horror movies together, but I always wait until they're out of the apartment to rewatch this one
The scene where the father sacrificed himself for his daughter is never fails to make me teary-eyed Can you guys react to Coco and talk about the familial bonds in it?
I always felt that the Yell at the end was him letting go of everything all at once. His fear his grief everything. It was such a powerful scream that was more than just a "Hey I'm over here"
I think my favorite thing about this film (other than everything) is its depiction of such a healthy family! And a healthy family going through so much. They’re not just doing fine because everything is great; they’re struggling and hurting and staying focused on each other, and you get to see the consequences of grief and guilt and both good and poor communication. So, so good.
You guys should react to A Silent Voice! Such a beautiful story that is from the bullies’ point of view. Deals with sign language, disability, bullying, redemption, mental illness. So, so good.
I really appreciate the dad saying “it’s no ones fault. Even though he must have felt a huge amount of grief and guilt over it. But he doesn’t put the burden of his own conflicted emotions on his son. He tells him what he genuinely believes is the truth even if he himself struggles to accept because he’s just a human being.
@@wesleywallace4426 logically that’s the answer. But logic and reason is extremely hard to see through grief and loss sometimes. Especially in these kinds of stressful situations.
when they started talking about how you don’t accept other people’s love when you don’t love yourself i started to get emotional because i once wrote: “I love so fiercely and so strongly it brings me pain, because I can’t turn it in towards myself. Half of the love I give to other people should be for me, yet I’m riddled with holes and wounds, so my cares and affections pour out from me until there’s none left to salvage.” so i know it all too well lol edit: thanks for all the kind words in the replies, i feel a lot less alone :)
I've had many moments like that. Heck, even now I still partly struggle with that myself. However, I've learned that thinking and imagining myself in a room as a little child crying helped me sympathize myself and instead of hating myself for the mistakes I did, I forgave myself because every desicion I've done was to help me cope with not feeling loved. So I deeply suggest you try that too: close your eyes, imagine you're walking on this dark room, then you come across a light, and there is a little child crying. Imagine the child is you, and then imagine what you'd say to them and what you'd do in that situation. It really helps :)
"And I never had a case of them saying 'yeah, they would'." My therapist asked me to imagine a person that I lost and what they would say to me if they were here. And let me tell you, Jonathan, I absolutely broke down because I could not imagine anything else than they saying "yes, you should be guilty, you should be ashamed, you should do penance" because that is all I heard from them my whole childhood. I am happy that you never experienced that, because that means your patients are better than some of us.
The "DAMN IT JIM" was the exact comedic relief I needed after Lee's primal scream to save his children. Thank you for that 😅 A Quiet Place is my favourite movie of all time because of how intricate it is, how full of soul it is, and how truly beautiful the story is-- not to mention how unique it was! I want more fresh ideas! this video was so good thank you 🙏💕
The part about messing your kids up is so true. My dad was very abusive and did real mental damage to me as a kid which will affect me for the rest of my life but he ALWAYS said he was a great dad and told me other kids would die to have a dad like him. He never worried about being a good dad. I also just think he’s a sociopath but yeah :/// very true, you guys make me feel valid all the time
I’m sorry that happened to you and I thank you for sharing your story! As someone commented above, sometimes parents struggle showing their kids emotional and spiritual love/health especially if parents struggle with their own issues. My father was also verbally and physically abusive due to his own mental health and the way he grew up. Although at the same time there was no doubt in my mind that I knew he would give his life for my siblings and I. He literally walked around with holes in his shirt to provide for us, but him being consistent(and owning up to his mistakes) in the way he loved us was hard and confusing to deal with as a child . It caused me to have mental health issues that I still deal with at 26 years old. I just hope those who are watching this video keep these words that would told in mind with their children or future kids because it’s so easy to cause damage in a child’s psyche. Here’s to us having more love and emotional/spiritual health to ourselves and with those around us 💗.
im sorry ur dad was awful. my dad's similar. he's emotionally and verbally abusive, and i feel ruined as a person (especially as an adult) as a result. my dad is too stubborn and prideful to admit he was a horrible father...
@@memyselfandi7782 yes, I am a full blown adult now. I’ve lived on my own for 4 years now and am in a very healthy relationship and get lots of therapy! Thank you💖 hope you’re in a safe and healthy space too
@@theultimateusukfan I feel for you, but pls know that you are not ruined. Everyone has different hardships and that doesn’t mean any of us are ruined. You are deserving of so much love and respect. Hoping nothing but the best for you and your healing process. I believe in you and I’m so proud of you for getting this far❤️
One of the things about the movie that really get to me is that they all blame themselves for the death of Beau. The dad for not reaching him in time, the sister for giving him the toy, the mother for not holding him, and the brother for being weak, needing the medicine, and being the reason why they were out there. We often see what death does to the parents but it's not often we see what it does to the siblings or the family as a whole. Each of the has their internalized guilt that is really portrayed well in the movie.
I lost my brother when I was 15 and I'm now 17, I know that my parents love me and that my dad would die for me in a heart beat if it means I could live. But even with that knowledge there are still times when I see my parents so washed up in guilt and grief that I don't always feel it. This movie does such a great job at not only showing a parents intense pain at losing a child but also the siblings pain as well. Now if you excuse me I have to go clean my face because of all the ugly crying I just did.
Seeing two men so emotional talking about their kids (and other kids through the film) is one of the most beautiful thing I've seen in a long time. We need more men like you!
At 22:20, where Jon talks about the person being the room with you and "would they yell at you and blame you for this?" made me cry. I have never cried from watching any RUclips video before, but it really got to me. On my 14th birthday, my 4 year old nephew was murdered by my sister and her boyfriend. This whole time, I've blamed myself for his death and that it should've been me who died. I struggle with "why am I here and not him?" and even at 20 years old, it is so hard to let go of the what ifs, the guilt, the blame, the shame, etc. I have struggled for so long, trying to prove to myself and everyone that I deserve to live. And hearing Jon say that, I couldn't even look at the screen. It's so hard to hear after years of building resentment towards my family and towards myself, years of hating myself, and being full of regret. It was something I needed and I cannot thank you enough.
I'm so sorry you have to deal with such an unimaginable nightmare. I truly hope that you are able to find some healing and peace, and that you can let go of the guilt that you feel. Of course you deserve to live and you do not need to prove that to anyone. It's clear that you loved your nephew and that you would have protected him if it had been within your power. Please reach out and ask for help and support. You will find it.
wow, i'm so sorry for your loss, i cannot imagine having this type of tragedy happening in my family, what happened was not your fault, hope you doing better now
“Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid” I could not just scroll past your comment.
Your comment is so bravely shared. I am so sorry for your loss, and SO MUCH loss in so many ways. 💔 You are still quite young, and you have a lifetime to find new reasons to love and move into a life that is full of deep meaning. Do not lose hope that your golden heart knows the way. Trust it. Know that you are indeed worthy and capable of love in all its forms. Peace and comfort to you as you heal at your own pace. Please be gentle and kind to yourself. ~ Love and Light ~
The characters names were actually revealed after the first movie! (They have now also been said in the sequel) Dad - Lee Abbott Mom - Evelyn Abbott Daughter - Regan Abbott Oldest son - Marcus Abbott Son that died - Beau Abbott The baby’s name hasn’t been revealed. They might not even have named him (it is a boy) due to the other stressors in their life at the time (Beau’s death, focusing on staying quiet, Lee working on Regan’s cochlear implants, general survival and finally the events of the birth and them trying to flee)
The ending where John sacrifices himself gets me every time I cry so hard. Because John Krasinski and this character reminds me so much of my husband. It is hard for me to watch, but I also love this movie.
That scream at the end of the movie is so emotional for me every time. It isn’t just a sound to make sound, there is feeling in it too. John Krasinski is a phenomenal actor and it hurts my heart so much in that moment. Well done! You made me love a horror movie (and I get scared and don’t watch horror). 👏
We lost my 20 year old brother in 2011 when I was 16 years old. He died of a sudden heart attack, completely unexpected. He went to take a nap one evening after college and 2 hours later I went into his room and found him blue and seizing. He had been oxygen deprived for nearly an hour. For a long time our family (myself & my parents) felt distant as we individually processed our grief. I was so scared that our family would fall apart as I had heard that's common after losing a child. I am so thankful to my parents for not playing the blame game and for sticking together. It's been several years now and my mum still gets upset when we talk about my brother, but I don't worry about my parents as much anymore. What Jonathan says is so true, real love is build through turmoil, making it through the hard times together. My parents are nearing their 46th anniversary.
I'm not a parent but I'm the oldest child, when I'm walking with my younger siblings I always have to see them, I always walk behind them. I feel panicked when I can't, even my friends, I have to see them lmao
What do you want to bet, the writers wrote the scene for a reason, and the actors reacted with, "WAIT! You're doing it WRONG!" and then had to deal with "but plot reasons!"
@@tiny-angry-chicken Because you do it right, with always keeping the kids in view, when walking, but in the movie, the parents were in front, with the kids behind? And Alan was saying how he freaked out at that, and "you're doing it wrong!" at the screen. Sorry I wasn't more clear.
I remember watching this in theater, its has a very unique experience..it feels that as you were watching, you also try not to make sound in the cinema..it feels like the audience experienced the same feeling/situation as the movie's character.
The interesting thing is, in a recent interview with Colbert about Part 2, Krazinsky said when they were filming, he wasn't making a horror film; he was making a family film, that just also happened to be horrifying.
Nothing can top those two. Though for another good couple, for some reason I kept thinking of The Mummy II. Like most sequels would have had the couple from the first film bickering and making comments about married life as comedy fodder but the comedic moments were mostly situational "Oh that just happened" or snappy one liners but the couple and their son to best of my memory were always loving and protecting each other and scared for each other and nearly lost each other and that closeness is also what drives the action I think in part because you know if any one of them was lost the family would be devastated. Gosh I need to watch both of those again.
@@Kahtisemo I was thinking of The Mummy Returns the entire time when trying to think of another couple XD I recently rewatched it and noticed just how well that family really UNDERSTANDS each other and how much love exists between Rick, Evy, and Alex. In addition, Brendan Frasier and Rachel Weisz have the best on-screen chemistry I've ever seen in my life which adds to the believability of their characters' marriage.
@@JessCsBooks RICK! Thanks, like I said it's been quite a while since I've seen the movie and I remember Evey and Alex but for some reason I was blanking on Rick so I decided to just skip using names. Which I suppose says a lot about how well that's done that even years later, I may not remember all the details but the love and emotion and a few very distinct scenes made a very clear impact. I do really need to watch that again.
When Alan talk about how he reacted when his close ones told him them loved him by thinking it was just to say something "nice" or it was because they didn't know everything that hit really close to home.
I love the scene where Evelyn and Lee are dancing together because of the emotion and expression on their faces, but also the way they start listening to music. Being able to listen to music when the world has to go silent would be the treating thing.
What you said about parents worrying about messing their kids up is so true. I work in child protection and I see so many parents every single day who genuinely don’t care about the well-being of their children and it’s so heart breaking.
I was a kid in the 1960s when "the pill" came out. My first thought was "From now on every child will be wanted." Damn to hell the people who fought contraception and abortion. And oh yes, as soon as the Supreme Court overturned Roe, many of those same groups started talking about ending contraception. Every child deserves to be wanted. My very best wishes to you "Lovable Teal Cow".
couple thoughts: another perspective on the scene where he is trying to give her another transmitter for her CI and she is refusing is an experience for many deaf children where they resist their hearing parents attempts to 'fix' them (CIs, hearing aids, oral training) in favor of being comfortable with being deaf and using sign. I don't know if John Krasinski incorporated that or Millie did but it was very impactful to me from that viewpoint and a common experience for deaf people. I would say the movie was perfect except they captioned the signed scenes so hearing people could understand but did not caption the speaking parts so deaf people could understand. I saw this in theaters with a deaf friend and she could not understand the speaking scenes (the caption device they gave her was so small and the letters where those old green broken letters from like the 80s). The whole movie should have been captioned for both groups. Finally, the idea that she could not survive w/o hearing is not the best message (although I get where he is coming from). Deaf people overall are more visually perceptive to their surroundings (in Walking Dead deaf character Connie who is played by Lauren Ridloff, a deaf actress and wife of Douglas Ridloff who was the deaf and sign consultant on the movie, is so visually perceptive that other characters defer to her whenever she notices something others do not).
Thank you for verbalizing the subtitles thing. I saw this in theatres and found that odd, and that was exacerbated when I watched it at home on Netflix later on and while I’m not HOH or deaf I use subtitles for sensory reasons and was confused when I set that and no subtitles came on for the ASL. I had to turn subtitles off to get the ASL subtitles back but then there were no subtitles for the spoken sections. So stupid, one of the weirder ableist things I’ve seen in awhile. All movies should have subtitled showing options in theatres! Even more so if the rest of the movie is already subtitles! Before considering it’s just damn lazy to leave subtitles hanging for a few lines; they’re already doing it for 90% of the film. Talk about finish your work right lol
Love your perspective and i agree. It would be epic to have both subtitles and bê a movie that IS naturaly for the deaf. Maybe some countries did make the whole translation subtitles thing
For all of us who have HOH issues or deafness, going to theater released films is not very enjoyable….. so now we would rather stay home. The music is played excessively loud and then the dialog is almost whisper quiet!! Another issue: many theaters need better seats (need to be really comfortable and with designated areas by each seat, for the popcorn, drinks, et). We used to really look forward to a night out and going to see a movie at a local theater. We still do try …… especially when we have been so looking forward to watching an upcoming film. Yet every time, we find the same problems. Theater attendance would benefit by having a few viewing times that accommodate our aging population who need CC and also still really want the theater experience.
@@slcRN1971 I'm neither deaf nor HOH, but I've enjoyed captions for over a decade now, because I got tired of asking, "What did that mumbling mumbler say?" and missing the new stuff happening, because my family (at home, with videos, not in the theater) was discussing what he said. Captions solve it all. But ideally, I'd like to see captions UNDER the screen, not over the bottom of it, because sometimes it's hard to see the letters, depending on the background, and sometimes, the captioning covers something important. If I could do it, I'd have a movie theater with a band under the big screen, to show captions of every movie, all the time, with nothing covering any portion of the screen. I'd also like to provide headphones and audible commentary, or whatever it's called, when someone tells a blind person what's happening visually. I know it's a thing, but I can't remember what it's called.
I lost my brother 3 years ago. I was able to tell him I love him. He said he knew. I would have given my life for him. I know that to the core of my very being. I was not given the chance. I miss him daily. I wish I had him so I could still tell him I love him and to hear his voice, and feel his warm hand.
I personally love how they f-ed up the Second Movie so hard that it retrospectively makes those 2 RUclipsrs here be wrong about 'Its good how they grieve: No one's at fault" by showing us that those Parents ARE STUPID BEYOND STUPID and kinda killed their Child.
Even when my mom’s been at her angriest with me (and I’ve given her a lot of reasons to be angry with me growing up lmao) she’s always said “I still love you, I’ll always love you, I want to strangle you right now, but I’ll always love you” lmao. Which is something I really appreciate because sometimes children doubt their parents’ love. I did, and having that assurance (and especially when she was furious) really meant something.
I've always felt the way Alan describes: unable to accept others' love because of my insecurities. Believing they don't trully feel it (like parents are supposed to be nice and all) or thinking that they don't know my true self, and the moment they see it, they will leave me. I still feel unconfortable when people says nice things to me, and it has been very difficult to accept other people's love and to have an stable relationship. To me, what made me notice maybe the cause of it was in me, was the moment I realized that parents don't have to be nice, they don't have to love their kids, and so, mine could have treated me badly but they didn't. That thought has stayed with me ever since. This, together with the thought that with this feeling I'm not only doubting myself, but also the person telling me they love me, is my personal way to fight this off. Thank you for giving a voice to these feelings and let us feel we are not alone in the moments of inner darkness.
I’m in therapy and my therapist asked me “how can you expect someone to love you if you can’t love yourself?” I’m on a journey to discover what does loving myself wholly and unconditionally look like.
Everyone: *crying* Jonathan: I always wondered if I'd give my life for another person...because I kinda like being alive. Me: god damn it, let me cry already.
@@beerenmusli8220 I personally love how they f-ed up the Second Movie so hard that it retrospectively makes those 2 RUclipsrs here be wrong about 'Its good how they grieve: No one's at fault" by showing us that those Parents ARE STUPID BEYOND STUPID and kinda killed their Child.
Said goodbye to my lovely Biscuit (the dog in my profile pic) a month ago, and I've really been struggling with feeling guilt over not picking up on her having a tumour sooner, and anger at my parents who were with her more often. Logically I know there's nothing we could've done - she'd been to the vets one week before it made her collapse and they noticed nothing - but the guilt has been huge. The moment where you spoke about thinking about what your lost loved one would want for you hit me like a ton of bricks. She was the sweetest most loving dog I've ever met, despite being abused until we rescued her at age 4 - all she ever wanted was for us, her pack, to be together and happy (and for someone to throw a ball for her occasionally). Thank you for reminding me to think of that 💕
Hey thanks for your comment. I had to put down my dog last month (the dog in my profile pic) due to a tumor also. I am struggling with guilt because we already had it removed once and we were waiting and literally watching it grow on the vets advice before getting it removed again and then in 2 days it got so swollen so fast that it couldn’t even be operated on. I really miss him. I know that being guilty about it doesn’t help anything, but it’s hard to shake. I hope you’re doing better now than you were when you wrote your comment.
@@daenite2480 i think i got through like half of it HAHAHAH and my friend was sitting next to me a eating freaking bag of CHIPS i couldnt stop laughing it was so loud
Same was with a friend of mine, he ate entire handfuls of popcorn whenever a loud scene was (Like with the waterfall and so on) and every other part of the movie he barely touched the popcorn
I had this video on in the background while getting my work done for the day, and just hearing the emotion in their voices actually got me tearing up. Great insights and wonderful introspections. this is why I subbed after the first time I saw one of these videos. Keep up the great work you guys!
I know they don’t react to shows, but man did this make me wish that they would react to the Haunting of Bly manor. A horror show that talks about love and obsession. Absolutely heart wrenching.
Thank you for speaking about loss of a child. I personally have lost my babies and you saying, " it was nobody fault, nobody saw that coming" spoke volumes of healing to me. Thank you.
The content on this channel feels so genuine, healthy and wholesome. Just two friends who care deeply about each other and can share their ideas and struggles without any apparent shame about being vulnerable in front of their male friend. It feels so rare to see this sometimes that it takes me off guard (in a positive way). I love the mix of therapy and film analysis and friendship
My husband was brought up with that whole myth of ‘real men don’t show emotion’ nor say ‘I love you’ nor hugs being given. Until we met and even though he was uncomfortable about it, eventually he changed (it did take several years). He used to walk off when he cried, I noticed though and gave him some space.
@@slcRN1971 That's so wonderful to hear. It saddens me to see people struggling with feeling their full range of human emotions when there's no real reason they should have to. It's wild that society has conditioned human beings to feel shame for responding like human beings. It's such a task for many people to break out of that so it's lovely that he got the help and support to feel comfortable taking those steps, no matter how big or small. I'm sure he's better off for it.
As someone who practically raised my younger brother, I would without a doubt sacrifice my life for him. In a heartbeat. It's nice to know I'm not the only one.
@@Sungirl801 I would say that we can love them even before they are conceived. We can never understand it until we live through it, so I won’t say I understand your situation. But I’ve been trying for a child for so long that every period now causes a little grief for me. Probably not even comparable with yours
Yeah, I've seen a lot if people do that. They only want to mourn or acknowledge the "intensity" of grief if it's a baby in hand but not through miscarriage or failed fertility treatment. It's a harsh reality that some people gatekeep grief of loss in parenting.
Your babies did nothing wrong, so they went straight to Heaven!👼👼They're the most innocent humans out of all of us and yet they keep being treated like less-than-human just because they're not fully developed yet. If there's a Pregnancy Center nearby, I recommend asking them if they do the "Little Angels" program, which is where they make baby Baptism tunics out of donated wedding dresses for free. They'll happily make one for each of your two babies and they can put your babies' names on them too and if they don't have it yet, they can at least help you with the mourning process for free too! Your babies need the dignity they deserve!❤ If you need help finding a Pregnancy Center, I can help you👍
I have a very strong emotional connection to seeing A Quiet Place. I feel like it basically pulled me back from the brink of a nervous breakdown. I was feeling probably the worst I ever had - I was supposed to be going in to work after a breakfast meeting, but emailed to make an excuse because I was already feeling on the verge of full on snotty ugly crying. It was the hottest day of the year so far, and my feet randomly took me across Waterloo Bridge and into Leicester Square. For some reason I decided to see what movies were on - probably just so I could sit in the cool darkness. The first screening I could find was about 11am, and it was a Quiet Place. You wouldn't think it would be the kind of movie I would want to see in that frame of mind, but when the lights came up afterwards I felt a thousand times better. Me and the only other person in that auditorium wordlessly turned to each other and exchanged a look, and ended pausing to have a conversation about how good it was. It's not the first time a movie has saved me, and I'm sure it won't be the last. Thank you guys, as always, for a wonderful and insightful reading of the movie
@@Puppy_Puppington A long story. Poor mental health prompted by realising I'd been unhappy for a long time in a long-term relationship. This episode happened shortly before I decided to end that relationship
I've gotta be honest, I've always had issues with being open about showing my negative emotions and especially crying. Even though I know it's nothing bad, I never felt comfortable with it. But seeing how vulnerable you guys are in each epsiode is so reassuring. I always thought being emotional was a weakness but now I really want to work on seeing the healthy side of letting the tears flow when you need to. Thank you so much for always being so transparent and encouraging with us!!!! 💕
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When he said "guilt should have a purpose" that struck me hard. Guilt should serve the purpose of motivating you to set things right, and once that's done, it is useless. It's such a self-evident concept, but I wish I understood it years ago.
And I find it hard to keep that mentality. It's easy to go back into the box of beating yourself up.
That speech about guilt was more useful to me than anythyn several therapists, psychologist, etc have ever said to me.
But you back then probably wouldn’t have ever understood what it really meant and even if they did, you were too young to have the confidence to apply it
It's easy to understand in theory but hard to really follow it
I learned about the "good guilt and bad guilt" in their analysis of Tony Stark's PTSD. Very profound. I'm getting free therapy on this channel.
Jonathan: SHHHHHHHH ᴵ'ᵐ ᴶᵒⁿᵃᵗʰᵃⁿ ᴰᵉᶜᵏᵉʳ, ˡⁱᶜᵉⁿˢᵉᵈ ᵗʰᵉʳᵃᵖⁱˢᵗ, ᵃⁿᵈ ᴵ ˡᵒᵛᵉ ᵐᵒᵛⁱᵉˢ
Also Jonathan: *aggressively eats popcorn*
Plus that look Alan gave him.
That is how I would cope with a horror movie
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*ah yes, finally some GOOD HECKIN POPCORN*
I deeply appreciate your formatting of this comment! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
I love the they hired a young actress with a disability, she TAUGHT THEM sign language to make sure it was authentic.
Damn that's awesome
Johnathon said there was an interpreter.
@@NightWink129 The actress also worked with an interpreter on set, but she helped the other actors playing the family with their sign language.
That is indeed awesome.
that's so cool!
The sad thing is that people would die for their kids in a blink of an eye, but wouldn't learn to love them better, wouldn't do the hard work of getting rid of their own issues so the kids can have a good life - the very life the parents would die for to preserve. How many people have a chance in their lifetime to actually give their life for their kids? It's far easier sometimes to physical give than to give the deeper gift of spiritual and emotional health.
So much this.
I don't remember where I heard this quote, but it went something like "it's easy to say I'd die for you, true love is when you can say I'll live for you" I think I messed it up but something like that.
@@0ptixs didn’t the joker tell Harley Quinn that in suicide squad before they jumped into the vat of acid?
OMG absolutely this. I wish more people realised the damage they did by not dealing with their own stuff.
@@mollybean461well I really hope not because I really liked that quote
But seriously, "sandwich the kids with love and safety" is the way to go. In the fellowship of the ring Aragorn always was in the back, the hobbits walking in front of him. It shows affection and protective instincts. And that the hobbits are kids in every way
Give us more examples of healthy marriages in the big screen.
that's adorable 🥺😂
Unless if you are sitting down. My parents had to always separate us or we would be too rowdy.
What Aragon did is also standard pack behaviour.
Shows that it was completely instinctual, not a learned 'I have to do this to be the guy who does the right thing' display.
Legolas and his elven eyes in the front scouting, Aragorn in the back making sure everyone is safe.
@@TheMajorStranger yup, look at packs of dogs: the more... assertive or scouting ones out front, guards, bruisers and tanks in the rear.
6:29 is a great example of how hiring a deaf actress to play a deaf character emphasizes the skill of speaking sign language. She truly SPEAKS with her hands; when she says "stop" you can hear her voice. She hasn't just learned for the purpose of the film but she's already lived her life with her hands as her most expressive and communicative sense. Isolating the sound of her hands on her palms in that scene makes it so powerful. And for that, I think she's a great young actress, especially in this role.
I remember hearing or read that John Krasinski was set on making sure a Deaf actress would play the role
I personally love how they f-ed up the Second Movie so hard that it retrospectively makes those 2 RUclipsrs here be wrong about 'Its good how they grieve: No one's at fault" by showing us that those Parents ARE STUPID BEYOND STUPID and kinda killed their Child.
This. She uses her sign language to communicate way more than just words. You can see the tone, the pacing - all the stuff you would see in a spoken language. You can tell this is someone who truly speaks that language - not just someone who's learned to mimic the words.
Not that it's not awesome to learn other languages, including sign. It's just always gonna be pretty obvious to an extent who is a "native" speaker versus who has been taught later in life, because there's always certain things you can't pick up on from a crash course.
@@LordofFullmetal Random Question:
Ever thought of using the report-system that RUclips has to get the plattform to be less s-ual and p0rn-filled?
Cause its easy, i tell ya, to search them up and flag them real quick.
@@slevinchannel7589 the relevance is?
I'm a young woman who's hard-of-hearing and used hearing aids all my life. I loved this movie, but my dad literally cannot watch it. He stopped at the part when the dad tries to give the daughter upgraded hearing aids; it just hits way too close to home for him. If my dad ever finished the movie, he'd be a sobbing mess :'(
thats so sweet, what a wonderful dad
Hope you and your dad are doing well
If your dad _does_ ever finish the movie, you better be nearby to reassure him that both you and he are ok. {thumbs up}
@@kwalker123 Absolutely!
has he watched the whole movie yet?
Did anybody else infer that when John screams he was actually showing for the first time his grief for the loss of his son while simultaneously releasing it?
This is totally that. That scream is grief, not bravery. Like, it totally was brave, but the emotion behind that is the soul-wrenching grief behind the loss of his son.
For me, it didn't read as grief for his son, but rather grief for his daughter and how he never realized how just much she was hurting. I'm sure it was meant to have that be cumulative, as of course he had pent up grief, but I read that mostly as about his daughter and the fact that he knew he was losing them all in that moment.
Wow I never would’ve realized that myself, I also can’t help but think maybe the stress and overwhelming emotions he feels trying to protect his family and failing to do so also coming out as well? I love how many interpretations you can make of his scream.
@@justarandompeep8945 Along with the fact that he was going to finally die
Wow, that's an incredible observation. Love it
The way Emily Blunt says, "My hands were *free*," just breaks my heart. When tragedy strikes, we can fixate on the smallest details of how we might have changed the outcome, and I think this is a perfect portrayal of that.
That scene absolutely breaks me every time I watch it. Her performance is just phenomenal.
I want to thank Alan for being so open and honest about his experiences and struggles. It's so brave to talk about that in general, but doing so on a platform like this is really amazing. It helps me understand that vulnerability is okay. It's awesome. I mean, I wish you didn't have these struggles in the first place but I deeply appreciate the way you trust us the way you do.
Wow, thank you! The thing is, everybody has struggles. We all just need to recognize that in each other, help and support each other where we can.
Thank you for earning my trust!
All the struggles I've ever had were solved by my self, but being vulnerable to someone else and admitting to those vulnerabilities and struggles sure does feel better than just keeping them piled up like toxins fucking up my self, but does it make the other party listening to me fucked up if it is i think I'll just keep my trauma to my self
@@nolashingout4940 depends on the party so just know that you can trust them enough to treat you well and that they can handle understanding your situation
@@everythingdibs344 It's my boyfriend, i feel OK in being vulnerable to my big lug
@@nolashingout4940 good for you
John Krasinski's yell. It's so painful. Just something about that yell.
It's like he's yelling at both the pain he and his family are in and anticipating the pain that's coming for him and them.
I burst into tears every time I hear that yell. He KNOWS that this yell is going to be one of his final acts and it's his one and only chance not just to save his daughter, but to let out all of his pain and frustration that he can't express because _even speaking_ would put his family in danger.
It felt wrong to like this comment but it is valid; that scream is primal. It scares me.
I was fine until that scream. It broke me. It's a quarter to three in the morning and I'm ugly crying into my doritos.
I’ve never seen a yell like that in movies, and here’s why it’s so unique. You see it build before it happens. Krasinski’s neck tenses up, his eyes widen, he’s crying. He is fighting against every nerve in his body. Every nerve is screaming at him NO. DON’T. STAY ALIVE. He doesn’t want to die. But he would die for his kids and that’s how it is.
17:22 she's giving her brother what he wanted: a light-up toy. She's cutting the green cord that connects the sound, so even in death, her brother can safely play with his toy (and any other passersby won't be put in danger by accidentally triggering the sound).
It's so mortifying that all they had to do cut one wire and change their walking formation to avert a tragedy.
@@wesleywallace4426 true, if she just hadn't given him the toy and the parents had the children in their sight then he wouldn't have died, i blame all 3 of them cause who let's their toddler walk behind them, especially in a monster filled world, that's ridiculous
@@glamgirl854 they are still children and they are still human
@@glamgirl854I think that’s what makes the story so great, to me it seems like they all blame themselves (maybe except for the oldest son)
@@stephaniesantiago92 exactly, there's lots of cases where kids go out playing and someone gets killed by accident.
"Healthy marriage movies" I am once again preaching to 'The Addams Family' relationship between Gomez and Morticia.🖤
At least the old ones. The original and the Black and white were about a crooky family that even thou they are diferent and have diferent values, they treat other with kindness and respect. Even thou they are rich they respect others and NEVER UNDERVALUE OR MISTREAT no one.
Most of that was lost on the movies, even the old ones.
I will never not like a comment recognizing their healthy relationship 🖤
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We finally got both Alan and Jonathan get emotional. You are building and empire over tears and vulnerability. We love it
My emotions aren't as near the surface as Alan's (which is not an insult, just an observation) but they're definitely there. See our Inside Out ep for the other time so far that the movie and conversation got to me :) We've got an episode coming up where I go "full Alan." I was a wreck, in a healthy way. After filming we laughed as I empathized with how exhausted he must feel after our shoots. - Jonathan
@@CinemaTherapyShow Can't wait!!! And don't worry, most of the time I tear along with you guys. Bring forth the tears!!!
What do you mean "finally"?
Read my thoughts! I was pleased to see Jonathan get emotional this time too, which made sense, considering the subject matter. Keep crying and choking up and being vulnerable! Our society needs this! Perhaps now more than ever.
@@summerskull9379 They meant it as a tease I think, as Alan is always the one getting openly emotional during movies that have an influence (e.g. Inside Out), and Jonathan is a little more tough-skin (comes with being a therapist I think because I keep getting lectured about me being emotional, but I ignore them as it is my way of showing empathy to others and I am majoring in psych, soooo....yeah. Let me be empathetic to be sympathetic :). But yeah, this commentor is saying there's a movie where both Jonathan and Alan are crying and are openly emotional for similar reasons (fathers).
It was actually Millie (the daughter's) idea to include the line "I have always loved you." The daughter realizes when her dad signs it that he never stopped loving her or that he blamed her for her brother's death, and I think it makes her reaction to his sacrifice more profound.
"As adults we take things for granted, like of course they know ... but they don't."
This is a statement that i wish my parents had heard before during my childhood.
sending love and light your way 💛
@@ambriaashley3383 thank you so much. I wish all of the beautiful people who read this the same ♡
Sending virtual hugs and warmth, darling
@@alishalobo1677 thank you so very much. I wish you the best, kind soul ♡
@@hamsterlp0372 🥺♥️
About the trend of scary movies: creators FINALLY realized that they can't just be about fear and jump scares, so they actually have to write a decent story. The community much appreciates it.
Oh yes, the jump scares were being so over-played and obvious that it just wasn’t fun anymore. ‘Oh, they think the person/monster is dead’ but jumps up for one more ‘fright’ scene, pa-lease(!!!!!!!) not again!!
*Write = put down words
*Wright = last name of the brothers that invented the plane
@@viirinsoftworks1304 thanks, wrote too fast didn’t notice
Also jumpscares are just "gotcha" moments but in this movie it's actually a sign of danger. In other movies the tension goes away after the jumpscare but here it doesn't go away because we know something else is coming
@@Kharis- ...when you're still scared after it's over 🙌🙌🙌
The dad's sacrifice destroyed me ...the theaters was crying everyone was sobbing. This movie represented so many things in a beautiful real way
My mum's friend and her husband lost their 22 year old son about 5 years ago. He had a massive stroke, basically sudden death.
They have another son, and they've all been in this healing journey ever since. Both parents immediately went into "we can't afford to fall apart, we have another son who just lost his brother". They all take care of each other like that, they grieve for their own loss but they don't forget what the other parent or child lost too. They are amazing, Im so happy to hear them laugh and enjoy life now.
My husband lost his older brother, who was 36, few years back and his family did the same. They're knitting became a lot closer and it was heart breaking but amazing to see how strong they were for each other. Much love💕
Oh my God. I would never recover from that. 😔 It would take a huge amount of strength to keep going after that.
“More horror should be beautiful” “it can convey more than any other genre” YES! This is exactly why I love it
Is your icon asexual aaron burr
@@pissfrog hurrrrr👀
You should watch 1408, the saddest horror movie I can think of.
I have had many therapists tell me that I have to have self love before someone else can love me. I always took that in as I’m not worthy of others love until I love myself which, of course, was not at all helpful. This is the first time I’ve heard self love explained in way that made total sense to me and I finally got it. Between the self love talk and talk of guilt (healthy vs unhealthy) this is a perspective shifting episode. Thank you so much for doing this show.
If the therapists phrased it as "you have to love yourself before someone else can love you" then they need to be kicked repeatedly in the crotch. I was told "if you don't love yourself you can never *believe* or accept that someone else loves you" and also that I can't actually give of myself if I don't value that which I am giving. You need to know that you are *worthy* of love and also that what you give of your time, your emotion and your engagement is of value because *you* have value.
I know the 'love yourself first...' blah blah but so hard to actually do it
@@mwuahugz1115 I don't think you need to love yourself. Just thinking that you are okay sometimes and doing the best you are mentally able to do, is enough. Everything else just pushes too much pressure on yourself and doesn't help at all.
Edit: And as Wolf NZ Outdoors said you need to know that you have value. I think that's the single most important thing to realize: You have value simply because you exist and because you are you and therefor you have the right to express yourself and get a piece of the world for yourself.
As a gay man who took years to learn to love himself I have always, always hated the line from Rupaul’s catchphrase “if you can’t love yourself how the hell you gonna love somebody else”?. Just because all those yrs of not truly loving myself DOES NOT mean I was incapable of loving others. I LOVE my baby brother and I LOVE my best friend. They are my rocks in life. So how dare anyone in this world make me feel that way. Or say it’s not love.
@@wolf1066 Being somebody with low self esteem and always being surrounded by people who are always more competent than me in more ways than one, it's really hard to believe I'm of any kind of worth. Almost 3 years ago, I got into a relationship with my friend. It was really rocky since I'd just gotten out of an online relationship with a cheating ex. I was constantly paranoid, looking at the end and knowing it's gonna end the same way. But somehow, she'd always have the patience to reassure me. During one of these episodes, she told me "You don't have to be scared, I love you". Something so small and so simple, and something we tell each other everyday, that was the first time in my life I actually felt safe. I can't ever thank her enough for being my hero
Cinema Therapy: Watching two men show how "safe" it is to express emotions. (And cry with them.)
And somehow, it just makes me feel safe and warm and fuzzy, and oddly loved by these internet strangers who don't even know I exist. Somehow, I feel like we're friends.
I love Cinema Therapy.
We are friends Michelle. Internet crying friends? That's a thing, right?
Why would it be "unsafe" ?
@@ZemplinTemplar because sometimes people are not given, or do not realize they have, a "safe space" to cry in. This is especially so with men that have experienced toxic masculinity and are taught "men don't cry."
Been binging and crying all day. damn, it feels good. thank you.
He did an interview on Colbert about how he didn't really make a horror movie. He made a movie about a family that just happened to take place in a horror story. It was a very excellent insight.
I hope your kids watch these videos and understand just how much you love them. The world needs more dads like you two.
Aw.. Thanks. We try. Don't always succeed.
@@CinemaTherapyShow and that's okay 🙏
@@catherine7818 I didn't expect the comments to make me tear up today.
Fun little ASL fact! At 2:58 when the dad calls her Beautiful, and she answers by puffing her cheeks out: Meaning she’s calling herself fat. And that’s why he says “forget I said anything”
Thank you! Love little things like that, it's always the details that make it!
Actually, I totally recommend Coraline. I'd like to see your take on the neglectance present in the movie. Unless you guys see another theme. Ok bye 😄
Ooh, yea!
Yes pls
Omg yes
Yeah!
Yes please
My husband is hard of hearing and my son’s long term partner is deaf. This film is so special to our family because of how it explores non-verbal communication and family bonds. All three of us have at least one disability that messes with our ability to navigate socially outside our home, but what doesn’t often get explored well in movies or other media is how it affects us inside our families and homes - especially in difficult times and tragedies. This film does that, and the sound design is actually like a character in the movie so we who hear perfectly can appreciate the story that much more.
This series has become so comforting that I'm no longer able to play it in the background while I do other work, because I always just get sucked back in to the video lol
Excellent. My sinister plan is working to perfection....
"If you're worried you're messing your kids up, you're probably not."
I feel personally attacked with gentle understanding... I've watched most of your videos and this made me cry.
Idk I don’t find this true, if you’re worried you should always ask the children/child you parent how they think you’re doing or what they need you to do for them :) act on the concern
@@googoogaga7986 For sure! I'm always working on ways to improve my parenting. But this struck me personally as I struggle with OCD and my kids are only toddlers :)
@@somebodyinparticular5951 I empathize so much with this. I deal with post partum anxiety and OCD and it makes me constantly worry I'm doing something wrong as a parent. It sucks.
This comment thread is interesting. I have a parent who worries a lot too. He's my dad, and he deals with slight narcissism, anxiety, and passive-aggressive tendencies among other things. I love him, but I know he worries a lot sometimes. I think the suggestion of listening to your children and always trying to improve is really good. Remember that they change over time. Treat them as the person they are right now, not the person they were when they were younger or the person you expect them to be. Take your time and be willing to learn. I hope this advice isn't dumb or repetitive or something, you guys seem like good parents. It just reminded me of my parents because they deal with a lot of mental heath issues too, so I felt like I should say something.
@@thistle_berry That's good advice. Even with toddlers, as soon as I think I have them figured out they change and require a different approach. I relate with you and your relationship with your dad. And that's part of the worry, not being my parents, learning from their mistakes and treasuring the things they did right. Thank you for your input.
I always bloody cry at the ‘I love you. I have always loved you.’ Followed by that scream filled with so many different emotions and that beautiful score in the backround. John krasinski is honestly such an amazing actor and this film proves it; he can do sooo much with just his face.
Jono is crying too? We are all crying now. Im crying, I can feel everyone else crying.
We all crying in the club this morning 😭
I'm not crying... it's allergies! I was...cutting an onion. There is something in my eye...
I'm an Alan. I cry at everything. Give a commercial 30 seconds and a hook and I'm reaching for the tissues.
... I carry a handkerchief with me to the cinema...
We all cried. And it was wonderful ✨
Im also crying, especially at the 'you dont actually mean that, you just say you do' part
As much as I love the sentiment of "dying for your children" I wish more parents were just more present in the day to day. My father would always do grand gestures (buying an expensive gift, driving several hours to get me when I was stranded, etc) but never wanted to go to soccer games and recitals, didn't want to help me with my homework, didn't want to play with me. As an adult our relationship is a bit strained. He's incredibly hurt because he'll say "I did this for you, and that for you, how could you think I don't care?" and it's hard to argue with that. He's always there when the going gets tough, but he didn't want to put the effort into knowing me and supporting me, the boring everyday stuff that my mom always loved and cherished. Being consistent and showing up is just as important as the big moments in life.
I wonder how much of his choices were affected by different love languages or values? Your example reminded me of a communications class I took in college and supposedly, men are more inclined to show love in big gestures whereas women focus on the small details. Don't you just wish we could all learn to communicate better? :-/ Coming from someone that has a far-from-ideal relationship with her own parents.
You’re dads wrong and imperfect..... and that’s okay. But the things you mentioned were bigger for you than for him. You being stranded is harder for you than him have to go out of his way to pick you up. That’s not that hard for him. But him getting to know what your likes and interests are requires more of him than of you. You just have to say your likes and interests. He has to actually try and engage that. He’s wrong . “ I did this for you, how is that not caring?” It’s not. He’s wrong.... and that’s okay. We move forward. ( I have the same kind of parents. They paid for all my wisdom teeth to be pulled when I was 18 and in big pain. But they never taught me teeth hygiene, took me to regular dentist appts, and didn’t pick me up on time once surgery was over. And they don’t think they’re wrong )
Man, I felt that. Big gestures are proof of love, always, but they're only the bricks of a relationship. What keep those bricks together is the cement, and that's what the small things are. That day you sat down and watched something together, the game you played together, even the attention given when you talked about something you liked, those cement the love brought by the big things.
It's hard for a wall to stand up with only bricks.
I'm sorry this is how things went for you. 💜
I'm in a sort of similar place, except my parents split when I was still very young and I only got to see my dad once every couple of years, so in that limited time he would show his love for me (or as far as I can tell that was the motivation, could've just been him trying to 'make it up to me') in material ways. Buying me the food I wanted, giving me like 300$ to play in an arcade by myself while he went in a casino, taking me to an amusement park or beach... but he never really participated. He used money and stuff to essentially 'buy' my love (which, ironically, he later judged me for accepting) and as a replacement for his own. He was also too embarrassed to show non-material forms of affection, like a hug, or just saying 'I love you'. We haven't been on good terms or even spoken for... almost ten years now. I don't think he didn't love me, or that he was a bad man (even though there was plenty about him I didn't like)... I just think he was bad at being a good father.
I love that everyone's characters have a real story:
The mom is worried about going into labor
The sister feels guilty and wants to prove herself
The brother feels like he needs to grow up too fast
And the dad carries all of their safety on his shoulders
oof as someone whose dad was raised in that traditional "masculinity= not showing emotions" its so eye-opening to hear these two men just verbalize how much they love their kids but also recognize that that sometimes isnt received.
I would 100% die in this situation cause even my blinking is loud
LOL Vids or it didn't happen!
I would be a goner pretty quickly, I can't shut up.
In a single generation, humanity would forget there was ever a food crop know as "beans".
I'd probably die in extreme depression, since it means that I wouldn't be able to talk at all. The pandemic hits me hard, since I can't meet my friends, and the little interactions I have everyday with them are the one that keeps me going. I've been fighting over a trauma (caused by my mom who refused to acknowledge, pushing the "fact" that it's always been my fault for "being difficult") since I was 11 (I'm currently 22) without any professional help since my parents don't trust people with psychology background (a.k.a. degree), saying "they're just full of theories without any real implementations to the real life". With that being said, it's really hard to get one without them knowing, for obvious reasons...
Gimme RUclips, a basement, and some soft food and I’ll happily live down there for years. Without a single word.
I love how Alan is comfortable with opening up and crying on camera. It shows that this is really a safe space
I LOVE that there is 2 white males, adults, husbands and fathers, openly crying, being vulnerable and crushing on handsome guys on RUclips in 2021.
I love you guys so much! Thank you!
PS: people, please respect my experience and my comment. I'm not bringing up gender and race to be disrespectful. I live in a reality that these factors are brought up as an excuse to have toxic masculinity on the table. THAT'S ALL! I'm not being disrespectful, I am literally telling them that I love them. Why can't people understand "well, she mentioned that because she thinks that this is important somehow, that's her life, her experience, but she is talking about good stuff, about love and recognition so I don't agree with all of her words therefore I'm going just to scroll down"??? That's not that difficult. Peace!
What a beautiful comment ❤️
This is nothing new. I am brown from Pakistan. I always found white men to be way more expressive than other men of colour.
@@arraikcruor6407 what
Did you have to really bring up race..?
@@dangermenatwork its true, within POC communities its even more frowned upon for men to be emotional than it is for white men
In the scene with the daughter, I really appreciate the fact that he accepts that she's not ready to accept his love and he gives her the new hearing aids and allows her the time to heal, letting her know that he'll be there for her when she's ready, and not trying to force it.
I'm 17, and lost my dad to Covid in Janurary, it's been months and I'm still battling with guilt and denial, but you're videos are very helpful and they help me confront my pain 🙏 thank you guys
You're very welcome, and I'm so sorry for your loss.
Sorry for your loss.
I pray and hope u r at peace. Jesus is still with u.
I'm sorry for your loss.
I'm so sorry ❤️
I love Darth Vader in the background, being like, “Damn it, why couldn’t I have been a good dad like this dude?”
In the end, he ended up doing something similar.
He screwed up a lot along the way, but he died being a good dad.
@@Justanotherconsumer you know, that’s true!
John did an interview on Colbert the other day where he said his goal was basically to write a family drama with the trappings of horror, in the hopes it would be that much more impactful because you cared about the characters. I imagine he would take your analysis as a high compliment.
I also immediately panicked when I saw that they didn't have the family 'safety sandwich'🥺 but it just showed how exhausted they were that. How their whole lives were centered around staying alive, they missed a small but very important thing.
Watching the film in the theatre was amazing. EVERYONE was quiet. We all sat as still as possible, no screaming, no munching, nothing. If anyone ate or drank? During the monster’s parts
Megan here (writer for the show, and Alan's wife).
Fun story: when Alan and I saw it theaters, there was a couple a few rows behind us that would NOT STOP TALKING! Everyone around them kept looking at them and glaring, and a few people shushed them. Finally Alan turned around and said something like "we didn't come to a movie called A Quiet Place to listen to you talk." That mostly got them to be quiet. But when the movie ended, the guy came up and asked Alan if he wanted to take it out to the parking lot, trying to pick a fight with him. Alan was like, "uh... no." Also Alan was about a foot taller than him. 😂
@@CinemaTherapyShow who wants more stories from Alan’s wife?? 🤚
@@bubumaczko I had to go see it in a theater because I live with two very loud people lol. We usually watch horror movies together, but I always wait until they're out of the apartment to rewatch this one
@@amadarobles6415 me!
@@CinemaTherapyShow in fairness Alan is a foot taller than EVERYBODY.
The scene where the father sacrificed himself for his daughter is never fails to make me teary-eyed
Can you guys react to Coco and talk about the familial bonds in it?
OMG! PLEASE! Coco is magnificent!
Omg this too☝️
OHHHH THAT WOULD BE THE BEST
Watching Coco for the 1000th time with my daughter while reading our comment
OMG yessss
I always felt that the Yell at the end was him letting go of everything all at once. His fear his grief everything. It was such a powerful scream that was more than just a "Hey I'm over here"
I think my favorite thing about this film (other than everything) is its depiction of such a healthy family! And a healthy family going through so much. They’re not just doing fine because everything is great; they’re struggling and hurting and staying focused on each other, and you get to see the consequences of grief and guilt and both good and poor communication. So, so good.
You guys should react to A Silent Voice! Such a beautiful story that is from the bullies’ point of view. Deals with sign language, disability, bullying, redemption, mental illness. So, so good.
Coming soon! We already shot the episode!
@@CinemaTherapyShow Oh my gosh YESSS!! 🙌🏽 you guys are quick!
I’ll forgive you for getting me with the jump-scare at the end now😂
A silent voice omg that’s such a great movie :’)
@@CinemaTherapyShow THANKS!!!! LOVE YOU
@@CinemaTherapyShow I CAN'T WAIT FOR THIS ONEEEE! I'M SO THRILLED YAYAYAYAAAAAY
I really appreciate the dad saying “it’s no ones fault. Even though he must have felt a huge amount of grief and guilt over it. But he doesn’t put the burden of his own conflicted emotions on his son. He tells him what he genuinely believes is the truth even if he himself struggles to accept because he’s just a human being.
Nobody is at fault because blaming someone wouldn't have a productive purpose.
@@wesleywallace4426 logically that’s the answer. But logic and reason is extremely hard to see through grief and loss sometimes. Especially in these kinds of stressful situations.
He's wrong.
It's the fault of the monster / alien that killed him.
when they started talking about how you don’t accept other people’s love when you don’t love yourself i started to get emotional because i once wrote: “I love so fiercely and so strongly it brings me pain, because I can’t turn it in towards myself. Half of the love I give to other people should be for me, yet I’m riddled with holes and wounds, so my cares and affections pour out from me until there’s none left to salvage.”
so i know it all too well lol
edit: thanks for all the kind words in the replies, i feel a lot less alone :)
That was beautiful.
That was the best comment I've read in my entire life, thank you! ✋❤️❤️
oh my god thank you
Dang that’s actually good and not an edgy 14 year old
I've had many moments like that. Heck, even now I still partly struggle with that myself. However, I've learned that thinking and imagining myself in a room as a little child crying helped me sympathize myself and instead of hating myself for the mistakes I did, I forgave myself because every desicion I've done was to help me cope with not feeling loved. So I deeply suggest you try that too: close your eyes, imagine you're walking on this dark room, then you come across a light, and there is a little child crying. Imagine the child is you, and then imagine what you'd say to them and what you'd do in that situation. It really helps :)
The couples names are Lee and Evelyn, the kids are Regan and Marcus, and their son that died was named Beau
"And I never had a case of them saying 'yeah, they would'."
My therapist asked me to imagine a person that I lost and what they would say to me if they were here. And let me tell you, Jonathan, I absolutely broke down because I could not imagine anything else than they saying "yes, you should be guilty, you should be ashamed, you should do penance" because that is all I heard from them my whole childhood. I am happy that you never experienced that, because that means your patients are better than some of us.
“If we get stuck in blame, they don’t heal.” That, this episode really is beautiful as heck. That just hits home for me. ❤️
Whenever you read this, somewhere right now in the world, someone is crying with Johnathan and Alan
me reading this crying right now haha!
Me rn 😭
The "DAMN IT JIM" was the exact comedic relief I needed after Lee's primal scream to save his children. Thank you for that 😅 A Quiet Place is my favourite movie of all time because of how intricate it is, how full of soul it is, and how truly beautiful the story is-- not to mention how unique it was! I want more fresh ideas! this video was so good thank you 🙏💕
The part about messing your kids up is so true. My dad was very abusive and did real mental damage to me as a kid which will affect me for the rest of my life but he ALWAYS said he was a great dad and told me other kids would die to have a dad like him. He never worried about being a good dad. I also just think he’s a sociopath but yeah :/// very true, you guys make me feel valid all the time
I’m sorry that happened to you and I thank you for sharing your story! As someone commented above, sometimes parents struggle showing their kids emotional and spiritual love/health especially if parents struggle with their own issues. My father was also verbally and physically abusive due to his own mental health and the way he grew up. Although at the same time there was no doubt in my mind that I knew he would give his life for my siblings and I. He literally walked around with holes in his shirt to provide for us, but him being consistent(and owning up to his mistakes) in the way he loved us was hard and confusing to deal with as a child . It caused me to have mental health issues that I still deal with at 26 years old. I just hope those who are watching this video keep these words that would told in mind with their children or future kids because it’s so easy to cause damage in a child’s psyche.
Here’s to us having more love and emotional/spiritual health to ourselves and with those around us 💗.
That's so messed up. Where are you at rn. Are you ok? In a more healthy space?
im sorry ur dad was awful. my dad's similar. he's emotionally and verbally abusive, and i feel ruined as a person (especially as an adult) as a result. my dad is too stubborn and prideful to admit he was a horrible father...
@@memyselfandi7782 yes, I am a full blown adult now. I’ve lived on my own for 4 years now and am in a very healthy relationship and get lots of therapy! Thank you💖 hope you’re in a safe and healthy space too
@@theultimateusukfan I feel for you, but pls know that you are not ruined. Everyone has different hardships and that doesn’t mean any of us are ruined. You are deserving of so much love and respect. Hoping nothing but the best for you and your healing process. I believe in you and I’m so proud of you for getting this far❤️
One of the things about the movie that really get to me is that they all blame themselves for the death of Beau. The dad for not reaching him in time, the sister for giving him the toy, the mother for not holding him, and the brother for being weak, needing the medicine, and being the reason why they were out there. We often see what death does to the parents but it's not often we see what it does to the siblings or the family as a whole. Each of the has their internalized guilt that is really portrayed well in the movie.
I lost my brother when I was 15 and I'm now 17, I know that my parents love me and that my dad would die for me in a heart beat if it means I could live. But even with that knowledge there are still times when I see my parents so washed up in guilt and grief that I don't always feel it. This movie does such a great job at not only showing a parents intense pain at losing a child but also the siblings pain as well. Now if you excuse me I have to go clean my face because of all the ugly crying I just did.
I come here to see two amazing Dads in touch with their feelings, sometimes also a movie review.
Seeing two men so emotional talking about their kids (and other kids through the film) is one of the most beautiful thing I've seen in a long time. We need more men like you!
At 22:20, where Jon talks about the person being the room with you and "would they yell at you and blame you for this?" made me cry. I have never cried from watching any RUclips video before, but it really got to me. On my 14th birthday, my 4 year old nephew was murdered by my sister and her boyfriend. This whole time, I've blamed myself for his death and that it should've been me who died. I struggle with "why am I here and not him?" and even at 20 years old, it is so hard to let go of the what ifs, the guilt, the blame, the shame, etc. I have struggled for so long, trying to prove to myself and everyone that I deserve to live. And hearing Jon say that, I couldn't even look at the screen. It's so hard to hear after years of building resentment towards my family and towards myself, years of hating myself, and being full of regret. It was something I needed and I cannot thank you enough.
I'm so sorry you have to deal with such an unimaginable nightmare. I truly hope that you are able to find some healing and peace, and that you can let go of the guilt that you feel. Of course you deserve to live and you do not need to prove that to anyone. It's clear that you loved your nephew and that you would have protected him if it had been within your power. Please reach out and ask for help and support. You will find it.
wow, i'm so sorry for your loss, i cannot imagine having this type of tragedy happening in my family, what happened was not your fault, hope you doing better now
“Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid”
I could not just scroll past your comment.
Your comment is so bravely shared. I am so sorry for your loss, and SO MUCH loss in so many ways. 💔
You are still quite young, and you have a lifetime to find new reasons to love and move into a life that is full of deep meaning. Do not lose hope that your golden heart knows the way. Trust it. Know that you are indeed worthy and capable of love in all its forms.
Peace and comfort to you as you heal at your own pace. Please be gentle and kind to yourself.
~ Love and Light ~
What a fucking awful thing to go through. I wish you love and healing in your journey, and the skill to be kind to yourself.
When the guy who "doesn't cry" starts to cry, you know something's hitting hard 😭
LOL. So true!
@@CinemaTherapyShow please can you cover the HTTYD trilogy
Oh, man... The amount of honesty and pure emotion of these guys, without any trace of toxic masculinity, is such a breath of fresh air. Thank you!
*limiting masculinity. Is the term these guys use, for more on that you should watch their other video on Aragorn.
@@thescholarlychronicler1805 Sure will. Thanks!
The characters names were actually revealed after the first movie! (They have now also been said in the sequel)
Dad - Lee Abbott
Mom - Evelyn Abbott
Daughter - Regan Abbott
Oldest son - Marcus Abbott
Son that died - Beau Abbott
The baby’s name hasn’t been revealed. They might not even have named him (it is a boy) due to the other stressors in their life at the time (Beau’s death, focusing on staying quiet, Lee working on Regan’s cochlear implants, general survival and finally the events of the birth and them trying to flee)
They should name him “The Boss Baby”. You know? Like a little man. A little dude in a suit.
Oh my god I have never cried so quickly in my life, despite all the other times I've cried watching you guys
Thanks?
Lol same. It is a compliment.
The ending where John sacrifices himself gets me every time I cry so hard. Because John Krasinski and this character reminds me so much of my husband. It is hard for me to watch, but I also love this movie.
That scream at the end of the movie is so emotional for me every time. It isn’t just a sound to make sound, there is feeling in it too. John Krasinski is a phenomenal actor and it hurts my heart so much in that moment. Well done! You made me love a horror movie (and I get scared and don’t watch horror). 👏
We lost my 20 year old brother in 2011 when I was 16 years old. He died of a sudden heart attack, completely unexpected. He went to take a nap one evening after college and 2 hours later I went into his room and found him blue and seizing. He had been oxygen deprived for nearly an hour.
For a long time our family (myself & my parents) felt distant as we individually processed our grief. I was so scared that our family would fall apart as I had heard that's common after losing a child. I am so thankful to my parents for not playing the blame game and for sticking together. It's been several years now and my mum still gets upset when we talk about my brother, but I don't worry about my parents as much anymore. What Jonathan says is so true, real love is build through turmoil, making it through the hard times together. My parents are nearing their 46th anniversary.
I'm not a parent but I'm the oldest child, when I'm walking with my younger siblings I always have to see them, I always walk behind them. I feel panicked when I can't, even my friends, I have to see them lmao
Know that feeling
Guardian instincts. That is natural to many but also developed by parents and older siblings. We are wired to protect the young
What do you want to bet, the writers wrote the scene for a reason, and the actors reacted with, "WAIT! You're doing it WRONG!" and then had to deal with "but plot reasons!"
@@AuntLoopy123 ..... what does that have to do with my comment? I don’t mean to sound rude, I’m just really confused
@@tiny-angry-chicken Because you do it right, with always keeping the kids in view, when walking, but in the movie, the parents were in front, with the kids behind? And Alan was saying how he freaked out at that, and "you're doing it wrong!" at the screen.
Sorry I wasn't more clear.
I remember watching this in theater, its has a very unique experience..it feels that as you were watching, you also try not to make sound in the cinema..it feels like the audience experienced the same feeling/situation as the movie's character.
The interesting thing is, in a recent interview with Colbert about Part 2, Krazinsky said when they were filming, he wasn't making a horror film; he was making a family film, that just also happened to be horrifying.
On the subject of healthy marriage movies, please do The Addams Family. To this day, Gomez and Morticia are still the ultimate healthy power couple.
You speak the truth!
Nothing can top those two. Though for another good couple, for some reason I kept thinking of The Mummy II. Like most sequels would have had the couple from the first film bickering and making comments about married life as comedy fodder but the comedic moments were mostly situational "Oh that just happened" or snappy one liners but the couple and their son to best of my memory were always loving and protecting each other and scared for each other and nearly lost each other and that closeness is also what drives the action I think in part because you know if any one of them was lost the family would be devastated. Gosh I need to watch both of those again.
Absolutely, they have such a wonderful marriage, they express their joy in each other all the time, and they don't care who knows it. It's amazing. :)
@@Kahtisemo I was thinking of The Mummy Returns the entire time when trying to think of another couple XD I recently rewatched it and noticed just how well that family really UNDERSTANDS each other and how much love exists between Rick, Evy, and Alex. In addition, Brendan Frasier and Rachel Weisz have the best on-screen chemistry I've ever seen in my life which adds to the believability of their characters' marriage.
@@JessCsBooks RICK! Thanks, like I said it's been quite a while since I've seen the movie and I remember Evey and Alex but for some reason I was blanking on Rick so I decided to just skip using names.
Which I suppose says a lot about how well that's done that even years later, I may not remember all the details but the love and emotion and a few very distinct scenes made a very clear impact. I do really need to watch that again.
Krazinsky was brilliant-as an actor, director, producer-just brilliant.
You guys should do the Train to Busan. It is a beautiful horror movie.
Love Train to Busan! I wish they hadn't removed it from Netflix.
Train to Busan made me cry so much
That movie is tragic. It was so scary and sad. I also liked the symbolism and messages of that movie. It's the best zombie movie I've ever seen.
I saw this for the first time a week ago and my gosh. Not many films like it, deffo agree with this recommendation!!
It is my literal favorite movie
When Alan talk about how he reacted when his close ones told him them loved him by thinking it was just to say something "nice" or it was because they didn't know everything that hit really close to home.
I love the scene where Evelyn and Lee are dancing together because of the emotion and expression on their faces, but also the way they start listening to music. Being able to listen to music when the world has to go silent would be the treating thing.
What you said about parents worrying about messing their kids up is so true.
I work in child protection and I see so many parents every single day who genuinely don’t care about the well-being of their children and it’s so heart breaking.
That is heartbreaking just hearing it, wow!
Well flip...
I was a kid in the 1960s when "the pill" came out.
My first thought was "From now on every child will be wanted."
Damn to hell the people who fought contraception and abortion.
And oh yes, as soon as the Supreme Court overturned Roe, many of those same groups
started talking about ending contraception.
Every child deserves to be wanted.
My very best wishes to you "Lovable Teal Cow".
couple thoughts: another perspective on the scene where he is trying to give her another transmitter for her CI and she is refusing is an experience for many deaf children where they resist their hearing parents attempts to 'fix' them (CIs, hearing aids, oral training) in favor of being comfortable with being deaf and using sign. I don't know if John Krasinski incorporated that or Millie did but it was very impactful to me from that viewpoint and a common experience for deaf people. I would say the movie was perfect except they captioned the signed scenes so hearing people could understand but did not caption the speaking parts so deaf people could understand. I saw this in theaters with a deaf friend and she could not understand the speaking scenes (the caption device they gave her was so small and the letters where those old green broken letters from like the 80s). The whole movie should have been captioned for both groups. Finally, the idea that she could not survive w/o hearing is not the best message (although I get where he is coming from). Deaf people overall are more visually perceptive to their surroundings (in Walking Dead deaf character Connie who is played by Lauren Ridloff, a deaf actress and wife of Douglas Ridloff who was the deaf and sign consultant on the movie, is so visually perceptive that other characters defer to her whenever she notices something others do not).
Thank you for verbalizing the subtitles thing. I saw this in theatres and found that odd, and that was exacerbated when I watched it at home on Netflix later on and while I’m not HOH or deaf I use subtitles for sensory reasons and was confused when I set that and no subtitles came on for the ASL. I had to turn subtitles off to get the ASL subtitles back but then there were no subtitles for the spoken sections. So stupid, one of the weirder ableist things I’ve seen in awhile. All movies should have subtitled showing options in theatres! Even more so if the rest of the movie is already subtitles! Before considering it’s just damn lazy to leave subtitles hanging for a few lines; they’re already doing it for 90% of the film. Talk about finish your work right lol
Love your perspective and i agree. It would be epic to have both subtitles and bê a movie that IS naturaly for the deaf. Maybe some countries did make the whole translation subtitles thing
For all of us who have HOH issues or deafness, going to theater released films is not very enjoyable….. so now we would rather stay home. The music is played excessively loud and then the dialog is almost whisper quiet!! Another issue: many theaters need better seats (need to be really comfortable and with designated areas by each seat, for the popcorn, drinks, et). We used to really look forward to a night out and going to see a movie at a local theater. We still do try …… especially when we have been so looking forward to watching an upcoming film. Yet every time, we find the same problems. Theater attendance would benefit by having a few viewing times that accommodate our aging population who need CC and also still really want the theater experience.
@@raindownonme21 One great thing about watching a foreign film: You ALWAYS get the subtitles.
@@slcRN1971 I'm neither deaf nor HOH, but I've enjoyed captions for over a decade now, because I got tired of asking, "What did that mumbling mumbler say?" and missing the new stuff happening, because my family (at home, with videos, not in the theater) was discussing what he said.
Captions solve it all.
But ideally, I'd like to see captions UNDER the screen, not over the bottom of it, because sometimes it's hard to see the letters, depending on the background, and sometimes, the captioning covers something important.
If I could do it, I'd have a movie theater with a band under the big screen, to show captions of every movie, all the time, with nothing covering any portion of the screen. I'd also like to provide headphones and audible commentary, or whatever it's called, when someone tells a blind person what's happening visually. I know it's a thing, but I can't remember what it's called.
I lost my brother 3 years ago. I was able to tell him I love him. He said he knew. I would have given my life for him. I know that to the core of my very being. I was not given the chance. I miss him daily. I wish I had him so I could still tell him I love him and to hear his voice, and feel his warm hand.
As someone who lost a brother, did not expect to get some therapy while watching this one. I cried for sure.
I'm sorry.
I personally love how they f-ed up the Second Movie so hard that it retrospectively makes those 2 RUclipsrs here be wrong about 'Its good how they grieve: No one's at fault" by showing us that those Parents ARE STUPID BEYOND STUPID and kinda killed their Child.
So many feels… “if you really knew me, you wouldn’t love me…” the struggle is real
Yes
Even when my mom’s been at her angriest with me (and I’ve given her a lot of reasons to be angry with me growing up lmao) she’s always said “I still love you, I’ll always love you, I want to strangle you right now, but I’ll always love you” lmao. Which is something I really appreciate because sometimes children doubt their parents’ love. I did, and having that assurance (and especially when she was furious) really meant something.
I've always felt the way Alan describes: unable to accept others' love because of my insecurities. Believing they don't trully feel it (like parents are supposed to be nice and all) or thinking that they don't know my true self, and the moment they see it, they will leave me.
I still feel unconfortable when people says nice things to me, and it has been very difficult to accept other people's love and to have an stable relationship. To me, what made me notice maybe the cause of it was in me, was the moment I realized that parents don't have to be nice, they don't have to love their kids, and so, mine could have treated me badly but they didn't. That thought has stayed with me ever since.
This, together with the thought that with this feeling I'm not only doubting myself, but also the person telling me they love me, is my personal way to fight this off.
Thank you for giving a voice to these feelings and let us feel we are not alone in the moments of inner darkness.
I’m in therapy and my therapist asked me “how can you expect someone to love you if you can’t love yourself?”
I’m on a journey to discover what does loving myself wholly and unconditionally look like.
@@SAN_E7 if it makes you feel better I still haven't figured it out and it is toxic for relationships
Everyone: *crying*
Jonathan: I always wondered if I'd give my life for another person...because I kinda like being alive.
Me: god damn it, let me cry already.
You probably need more time.
@@beerenmusli8220 I personally love how they f-ed up the Second Movie so hard that it retrospectively makes those 2 RUclipsrs here be wrong about 'Its good how they grieve: No one's at fault" by showing us that those Parents ARE STUPID BEYOND STUPID and kinda killed their Child.
@@slevinchannel7589 Ooooofda.
@@beerenmusli8220 Yep...
@@slevinchannel7589 that’s a great opinion that doesn’t need to be repeated on every single comment on this video.
Said goodbye to my lovely Biscuit (the dog in my profile pic) a month ago, and I've really been struggling with feeling guilt over not picking up on her having a tumour sooner, and anger at my parents who were with her more often. Logically I know there's nothing we could've done - she'd been to the vets one week before it made her collapse and they noticed nothing - but the guilt has been huge. The moment where you spoke about thinking about what your lost loved one would want for you hit me like a ton of bricks. She was the sweetest most loving dog I've ever met, despite being abused until we rescued her at age 4 - all she ever wanted was for us, her pack, to be together and happy (and for someone to throw a ball for her occasionally). Thank you for reminding me to think of that 💕
Hey thanks for your comment. I had to put down my dog last month (the dog in my profile pic) due to a tumor also. I am struggling with guilt because we already had it removed once and we were waiting and literally watching it grow on the vets advice before getting it removed again and then in 2 days it got so swollen so fast that it couldn’t even be operated on. I really miss him. I know that being guilty about it doesn’t help anything, but it’s hard to shake. I hope you’re doing better now than you were when you wrote your comment.
the popcorn thing was me in the theatre lMao i had to take small and slow bites so i didnt disturb anyone XD
How the hell did you manage to not eat all your popcorn before the movie started?
@@daenite2480 i think i got through like half of it HAHAHAH and my friend was sitting next to me a eating freaking bag of CHIPS i couldnt stop laughing it was so loud
Same was with a friend of mine, he ate entire handfuls of popcorn whenever a loud scene was (Like with the waterfall and so on) and every other part of the movie he barely touched the popcorn
@@daenite2480 easy solution: show up late
we did not watch it in the movie theatre for that particular reason, it would have made my partner c r a z y. :')
It took a whole eleven and a half minutes for Alan to tear up
And eighteen minutes in it's Jonathan's turn
I had this video on in the background while getting my work done for the day, and just hearing the emotion in their voices actually got me tearing up. Great insights and wonderful introspections. this is why I subbed after the first time I saw one of these videos. Keep up the great work you guys!
Wow, thank you!
Train to Busan, a zombie movie that does a fabulous job telling the story of a parent’s love for their child...
it was so sad aidhjssh
@@madmissmadairy Who knee a zombie movie could be so moving?
@@cassied7048 ikr :(
Dude, we watched it once in class. We all cried, you could hear silent sniffles coming from various spots around the room.
@@GenerallyChaotic6839 IN SCHOOL?? WHAT CLASS??
I know they don’t react to shows, but man did this make me wish that they would react to the Haunting of Bly manor. A horror show that talks about love and obsession. Absolutely heart wrenching.
I agree!
YES!!
Thank you for speaking about loss of a child. I personally have lost my babies and you saying, " it was nobody fault, nobody saw that coming" spoke volumes of healing to me. Thank you.
"Do not get trapped in blame." There is a lot of great life advice on this channel, you guys. These are things I need to hear. Keep up the good work.
The content on this channel feels so genuine, healthy and wholesome. Just two friends who care deeply about each other and can share their ideas and struggles without any apparent shame about being vulnerable in front of their male friend. It feels so rare to see this sometimes that it takes me off guard (in a positive way). I love the mix of therapy and film analysis and friendship
My husband was brought up with that whole myth of ‘real men don’t show emotion’ nor say ‘I love you’ nor hugs being given. Until we met and even though he was uncomfortable about it, eventually he changed (it did take several years). He used to walk off when he cried, I noticed though and gave him some space.
@@slcRN1971 That's so wonderful to hear. It saddens me to see people struggling with feeling their full range of human emotions when there's no real reason they should have to. It's wild that society has conditioned human beings to feel shame for responding like human beings. It's such a task for many people to break out of that so it's lovely that he got the help and support to feel comfortable taking those steps, no matter how big or small. I'm sure he's better off for it.
As someone who practically raised my younger brother, I would without a doubt sacrifice my life for him. In a heartbeat. It's nice to know I'm not the only one.
You should react to Wandavision and analyze her grief journey
OMG YES !!!
OMFG YES
THAT WOULD BE AWESOME
Yes please
YESSSSSS VOUCH SO MUCH ON THIS!
I’ve lost two children through miscarriage and my community didn’t acknowledge my children as real. I’m in therapy now!
I'm so sorry. Your babies matter. ❤
We love them from the first minute we know they are there. I lost mine not even 4 days after getting a positive test result and still I grieved.
@@Sungirl801 I would say that we can love them even before they are conceived. We can never understand it until we live through it, so I won’t say I understand your situation. But I’ve been trying for a child for so long that every period now causes a little grief for me. Probably not even comparable with yours
Yeah, I've seen a lot if people do that. They only want to mourn or acknowledge the "intensity" of grief if it's a baby in hand but not through miscarriage or failed fertility treatment. It's a harsh reality that some people gatekeep grief of loss in parenting.
Your babies did nothing wrong, so they went straight to Heaven!👼👼They're the most innocent humans out of all of us and yet they keep being treated like less-than-human just because they're not fully developed yet. If there's a Pregnancy Center nearby, I recommend asking them if they do the "Little Angels" program, which is where they make baby Baptism tunics out of donated wedding dresses for free. They'll happily make one for each of your two babies and they can put your babies' names on them too and if they don't have it yet, they can at least help you with the mourning process for free too! Your babies need the dignity they deserve!❤ If you need help finding a Pregnancy Center, I can help you👍
I have a very strong emotional connection to seeing A Quiet Place. I feel like it basically pulled me back from the brink of a nervous breakdown. I was feeling probably the worst I ever had - I was supposed to be going in to work after a breakfast meeting, but emailed to make an excuse because I was already feeling on the verge of full on snotty ugly crying. It was the hottest day of the year so far, and my feet randomly took me across Waterloo Bridge and into Leicester Square. For some reason I decided to see what movies were on - probably just so I could sit in the cool darkness. The first screening I could find was about 11am, and it was a Quiet Place. You wouldn't think it would be the kind of movie I would want to see in that frame of mind, but when the lights came up afterwards I felt a thousand times better. Me and the only other person in that auditorium wordlessly turned to each other and exchanged a look, and ended pausing to have a conversation about how good it was. It's not the first time a movie has saved me, and I'm sure it won't be the last. Thank you guys, as always, for a wonderful and insightful reading of the movie
Why were you freaking out though?
@@Puppy_Puppington A long story. Poor mental health prompted by realising I'd been unhappy for a long time in a long-term relationship. This episode happened shortly before I decided to end that relationship
The beginning made me laugh so hard. My boyfriend brought KETTLE CHIPS to eat during this movie. It was so embarrassing.
I love how open Alan is with his struggles and his feelings, it's not an easy thing to do, especially in front of 400K+ people. Love you guys!
10:55 alan opening up took such guts. Wow lots of respect for this man.
I've gotta be honest, I've always had issues with being open about showing my negative emotions and especially crying. Even though I know it's nothing bad, I never felt comfortable with it. But seeing how vulnerable you guys are in each epsiode is so reassuring. I always thought being emotional was a weakness but now I really want to work on seeing the healthy side of letting the tears flow when you need to. Thank you so much for always being so transparent and encouraging with us!!!! 💕