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I married my husband because I was his dream girl. Now, I take care of our home and kids, don’t have to work an awful job, and can move freely in life because of his undying love and support. From the very beginning, this man was incredibly intentional with me WITHOUT having to be asked. I can trust his leadership because he does it so well. I had a long string of bad relationships before him, growing up in a toxic household, then recreating that behavior, so it was a huge breath of fresh air to be with him. Of course, we are not perfect and have had our share of problems, but I grow more confident with each passing day that I made the right choice. Being loved by a man who ENJOYS loving you can’t be beat. This channel is gold, ladies. The things they talk about here are true. ❤
I keep 😊hearing people say that you are not responsible for making the other person happy and I agree, but what I never hear anyone say is that another person can and often does make the other person unhappy, and that is exactly the basis that leads to the end of the relationship. You can't make others happy, but you sure can make them unhappy, via your actions and your words.
I escaped a potentially bad relationship on a first date. The fellow used a vulnerability I shared early on against me on that first in person time together. So happy it happened because it gave me advanced notice of potentially, likely, more to come. What was worse was he was a couples therapist. I was stunned. Lesson learned. Don’t share too much. Go slow. Watch words and actions. Don’t give second chances for that kind of psychological harm.
Two people must meet eachother mutually, filling eachothers needs is a dance of reciprocation and appreciation. A man wants to do things and Step UP for his woman. A man must FEEL she is in her Feminine high value energy. If she is over giving then she is under receiving. If a high value woman tries to turn the low value man into high value man the man will dig his heels in and they will butt heads. Accept people where there are today or walk away.
Like I.told my son today,.I.will never get married again.and I won't shack.up. I'm financially secure and I am becoming self sufficient. Maybe a date and dinner.once in awhile but otherwise I'm done. Relationship problems?, you all can have them!
I completely agree! I was married to a terrible man for over 30 years and my peace now is priceless and I will not give it up for nothing. Alone and VERY happy!!!!
This is why I hate when anyone says, “I love you.” Usually it’s not true. And even if it is, they expect you say it back. So then it comes with expectations. And expectations are pre-mediated resentments.
I agree, there is a great misconception about love. I now love from a healed view of love. I recently shared my feelings with the words I love you, and I had no expectation of hearing it back. I just needed him to understand he is loved.
Wow. This “old girl” learned more watching this one video than I have in years & it’s spot on. As a female whose mother was Bipolar & she had multiple personalities, my self esteem has always been zero. But there’s a reason for that. The physical & mental abuse / bullying that I, my two younger brothers, Dad & Stepdad survived was unbearable most of the time. She saw me not as a daughter, but as a competitor to be humiliated, put down & defeated. I could not understand Why she hated me so much & blamed me/others for her unhappiness. Sadly, it wasn’t until I became her care giver, during the last 3 years of her life; through Alzheimer’s, that I finally saw how the bullying was to cover up her own insecurities. She wasn’t able to love others, because she struggled with her daily inability to love herself. Add to that that from childhood she decided “nobody is going to tell her what to do” & that if she couldn’t get her way, she would just became someone else so she didn’t have to deal with it. It became an escape from reality. To this day, I love her though & wish so much she would have seen me as a daughter. & they say you go to what you know & I ended up in an abusive marriage which didn’t help my self esteem, or make me feel confident & deserving of love either. By God’s grace I was able to leave for the safety of my daughter & myself & I am still single after years, but I have the true love of God to carry me through life, until he takes me home. & that brings me joy. So, men just please remember when a woman seems to have low self esteem &, or trust issues, you don’t know what she has survived to get that way. Be kind & patient. Don’t overlook that Northern star, while watching all the shooting stars go by. & older fellas looking for that young trophy model wife, remember too; the new broom may look pretty, but the old broom already knows where all the dirt is & how to clean it up quick. We All need love. May all those here find true love, but if not, know that Christ will lead you with His nail scarred hand & give you joy, til His return. Bless you all! 🙏
My husband.always used.leverage with me. He would say to.me "if.I do this for you than you need to do this for.me" Always wanted to make deals. Love really didn't exist, only sex interested him. He said once to me that if there.is no sex than what is the point of life. Very troubling, I think there was something very, very wrong in his mind.
Where’s his love for you? Does he even realize that’s the point of a relationship? Sure, sex in a relationship is important, but not more important than love & respect.
It will be hard for me to need someone. I really love doing things myself. The one thing I love for others to do for me is cook for me. It's funny because I'm a chef. Cooking for others is pure love and joy for me. When I find someone that wants to cook for me...I found my ❤.
You can't change a man. No amount of insight or therapy will do any good. The idea itself is wrong. Many men are happy with very little, thinking the woman is o.k. wirh that. But that's not how it works. What I don't understand, is why men don't tell women from the get go what they want and what they don't want. A simple sentence:" I don't want to change anything amd I want to stay the way I am." would be helpful.
@@athenaanon8878 Yep, you're right! Now a more impersonal reaction: When a man says, "I don't want to change" early in a relationship, it often comes across as a red flag, especially to someone with a growth mindset. It suggests resistance to growth, which can be a dealbreaker. However, if you’re with a man who is consistently reliable and compatible with your future plans, the same phrase can mean something entirely different. In this context, "I don't want to change" could mean he’s content with the way things are because they’re already working well. In this case, it’s a green flag. The difference between a red flag and a green flag comes down to compatibility. If you don’t have goals or dreams, you can’t truly align with someone else. Clear communication of personal goals is key to finding that alignment, and once you have it, there’s no need for significant changes. This concept applies to women as well. A woman who seems to have no clear goals or who is demanding and pushy might appear incompatible to a man who has already found his peace. If she can’t communicate what’s bothering her directly, it can create tension. Both partners need to adapt and make room for each other. Failure to communicate clearly can lead to misunderstandings and frustration, making it hard to collaborate effectively. At some point, the buildup of frustration turns into the idea the other is not competent enough to collaborate. What I’m seeing is that many men and women struggle to connect because they lack the patience to find common ground. This, in my view, reflects immaturity. Cheers!
When they don’t help you it’s a huge red flag, for myself out of being responsible for everything 🥵exausting Men are getting too feminine A narc will slowly chip at your identity
It's important to clarify that being feminine doesn't equate to being weak. As a feminine man, I find it concerning that you're conflating femininity with a lack of strength or responsibility. Why can't a feminine man be strong? And if femininity in men is seen as a flaw because it doesn't contribute to his strength, what does that imply for feminine women? Regardless of whether someone is feminine or masculine, everyone deserves respect for their boundaries. If there's a misunderstanding, both parties share responsibility for the lack of collaboration. Yes, even two feminine people can work together-otherwise, how could a mother teach her daughter to be a woman? Weakness isn't inherently feminine or masculine; it's a natural state that all humans experience, especially as babies. What you're describing as feminine sounds more like immaturity to me. Immature men can't help you because they still need help themselves, which puts you in a parental role. A narcissist will inevitably try to chip away at your identity unless you set firm boundaries. Respect is something that must be earned, not freely given. If someone hasn't earned that privilege, how can they chip away at something they don't have access to? Failing to set boundaries is, in itself, a form of self-disrespect. Lastly, consider that the issues you attribute to certain men might also be present in others around you.Be sure not to generalise everyone. Your very idea may cause you to see what you want to see, as opposed to how it is. .. Just some food for thought.
Yes love is unconditional and does not expect things but if you need something you just gracefully ask for it and let him know why it's important to you
This video is packed with SO many good points! I know your content is for women but this one has great points for men too. The one where the woman used the man’s vulnerability that he shared with her, …against him… SOOO toxic! Time to get out. Thanks for all your content, very informative for women that desire attracting a healthy masculine man for their next relationship.
Would you please describe the difference between trying to change a man, vs inspiring him, supporting him on his quest to become his best self. There’s the saying ‘behind every great man is a strong woman.’ There’s also the medieval image of the maiden who inspires her knight to greatness. If for example, you see that your man could be a successful entrepreneur, and that’s his self chosen dream, but he’s struggling, how do inspire and help him to pursue his dream, without leading him? I would love a whole show in this theme. Thank you.
I think the gist of it is letting him lead and I mean not just your relationship but also himself towards his own goals. People in general are not inspired when you’re insisting your way on them.
Usually if we have a dream/goal that we struggle to get towards, there's usually a childhood wound still present that needs facing and working through so he can be free emotionally to move forward without anything stopping him. Maybe just making suggestions for him that could be helpful e.g attending therapy or getting a Life Coach to overcome anything that stops him from moving forwards :) suggesting those things and then letting him make the choices/decisions towards them if he wants to. You could also just talk it out with him, using your innate feminine intuition to be there for him emotionally so he can work through what he needs to, to fulfill his dreams :)
The difference is that one of them is trying his best to do that and perhaps needs your love and encouragement to help him to keep going. That’s very different from trying your best to point an unmotivated man in the right direction.
Omg...im so tired of the idea that a woman has to worry about how valuable another man sees them...when no one asks about how we see the man. Period. Most times men take advantage of her loving and trusting character. Some of us were just gullible to a man who had no commitment or integrity. Women, stop thinking that you are always at fault if a man uses you! But do set boundaries.... esp. when it comes to sex. And listen... a queen isnt a prize...shes a fucking ruler! Thats gotta take some masculan balls gentlemen! Maybe the issue is that some men just cant handle a strong woman.
Please do a video on how a woman should deal with a partner who feels he's "not enough" for her - 'cos I'm baffled. I have my own home, an office job (nothing fancy), no children, no debt - I'm just an ordinary, very humble person. My ex was a gorgeous, career-driven, high earning Alpha Male - BUT very deeply in debt due to a previous relationship so he always felt 'inferior' to me (though in my eyes, he wasn't at all). So how should I have handled his feelings of inadequacy? I'd have helped him through his debt situation but he left me. I'm at a loss.
I would love it if you guys could do a video about how to tell if a very reserved man likes you (because they don't aggressively approach and chase the way more extroverted men do). And how to get reserved men to step up and make a move.
Yes. This enquiry is very true. And some men are not self assured or confident or they put their existing family first or have walks up about their heart and mind. Or they are very jealous And anxious.
@@Nika-je6zd Well that's my point. I'm not willing to ask a guy out, when I don't even know if he likes me. Its hard to tell if he likes me, because he is so reserved. With everyone.
Yes, this is a problem with the masculine/feminine dynamic that I'm having as well. The guy I was interested in is very introverted though I knew he liked me for a few years before he finally asked me out. The relationship ended up being difficult though because I had to take the initiative a lot of the time and didn't feel like I could be in my feminine, and he wasn't being masculine, and we only lasted 2 months I don't personally have a problem with a more feminine man but I do see how it effects a relationship dynamic in a negative way and I'm not sure how to navigate it better
I'll have to disagree. I value myself. I have a life. I've attracted narcissistic men and if you learn the Bible, you'll see that it's spiritual. In other words, the devil is real & he will come to harass & destroy God's children.
In which kind of cruel world do we live in where women who try to be nice to someone who they will turn away from her?!? Why do you now come up and tell her not to do so when in fact she just wants to do?!? This is a sick world.
What's caring for your heart that u usually talk about? Caring not to hurt me (putting down or ignoring or criticizing) when I open up to him (share my Feelings)?🤔
No to friends with benefits,i dont care what other ppl says i wont stay in a loveless relationship that is only you is the one who makes an effort to maintain that relationship
So true. My family see me as a failure when it comes to marriage. I have been married twice. My first husband was physically and emotionally abusive and it lasted for five years. The second husband was a lovely man buf was a drug addict and it lasted 13 years. I have now been single for 24 years and just celebrated my 60th birthday. It is not easy being single and I miss having an intimate relationship, but I will not settle for anything less than I deserve. I have a right to be treated with respect; I have a right to feel safe with my man; I have a right to be valued in the marriage and treated as an equal. Yes, I might have two failed marriages under my belt, but I chose to leave because I deserved better. I am not a failure, I am a strong woman that knows what marriage is and what it should look like and I will not settle for less. Even if that means being single for the rest of my life. However, the loneliness is hard to bear at times and I just have to cry and let it out. Some people may ask why I stuck around so long and put up with it. Simply, a lot of apologies were expressed, in both marriages, and I believed that people could change and I gave them that chance repeatedly, but at the end of the day they didn't change and things got worse. I'm not a failure, I'm a fighter. 😊❤️🙏🇦🇺
I am not proud of it but I actually done that vicious move with a man but he deserved it. Well basically, he was only interested in using me so he was emotionally unavailable and treated me horribly over months and so by the end as he always gave me the silent treatment during each argument I told him he deserved to he cheated on bcz he would treat a good girl badly. He treated me like shit all bcz I wanted him while he had this cheater of an x whom he treated so well despite her sneaky careless behaviour towards him. Yeah I am not proud of it it was the only time I used that on someone but honestly he deserved it bcz he wasted too much of my time, wanted to used me, and was never really there available for me... I am so glad I am free now and the curse of having feelings for him has lifted... I know I am worth more and better now and I'll only accept what is worthy of me
I have a question; I'm dating a masculine man for almost 3 months now, I've been to his family a few times. So last weekend there was a big festival in his town where everyone was drinking alot. I don't drink that often, only occasionaly. Certainly not beer. So I started having a few glasses of wine, which turned out to be too much. I got a bit drunk, nothing crazy.. but now I'm really embarressed about this and afraid this changes the way he views me. (Not seeing me as his dream girl?). I think I was so nervous for this event and also did it to 'fit in' somehow. What can I do about this? Talk to him about it?
I overdrunk once, on an early date and even got sick. He stayed anyway, until now. To answer your question - if he is very into you, it will not matter - if he is not too into you, it does not matter either even if you drunk only camomile tea that event. So let go of anxiety and just worry, are you getting a high value man? Him or another, but is he best for you? Watch for red and green flags, and walk away no matter the charm, if he is not suitable.
This is such a great question. I’m in a great place financially/ career wise and I love giving gifts to men and I’m realizing this is masculine and I need to stop, but idk how to be more feminine? I’m girly but do I need help…? Not really. I’d like to be with a committed masculine man, where are they … ? It’s maddening :(
How do I know if it’s situationship, relationship or friends with benefits?? My friends take every opportunity to bad mouth the issue. They are jealous I think!
Situationship/ u want to move forward into exclusivity he will not. Feels like a relationship but refuses labels. Relationship clearly communicated FWB no dates just sex
@@TheOracleOfApollo not much sex cause a truck hit their car at the airport and then I had a really bad knee injury playing soccer. Just night dinner and coffee and fishing on the boat kind of dates.
How do you let yourself call a man who needs a woman to make him feel like he's her leader a quality man? I think you need to look into the idea of equal partnership. Both need to be in their feminine nurturing and reception of that nurturing when they're together. Not at work. But with each other.
Our relationship is not good. He says we do not have a relationship. Where does that leave.me, he's too young anyway. I can tell I.need to move on. I'm being.perfectly honest. He only wants around me if I give him sex. I totally refuse!
Sigh that’s what I’m wondering … is there any other feminine things we can ask for? Or the help I’d like he can’t provide… like hey I really need a get away I can pay can you join me? Now I’ve become masculine but I know he can’t afford it and I want him to go … sigh 😔
6:50 maybe he was doing that because he lives in poverty and is at an all time low in life. Can’t even solve his own let alone mine…Learned not to lower my standards and save people. Let people be
It's always like that and with polarity teachings too, polarity is biblical but many teach it as if they were the ones that invented it or without mentioning the bible
What would you like to know about the LORD GOD ALMIGHTY? The Bible is the written Word of God. GOD MADE MARRIAGE BETWEEN A MAN AND A WOMAN. FOR MARRIAGE TO WORK, YOU HAVE TO OBEY HIS WORD.😊
There is FAR TOO MUCH ABOUT WOMEN. TIME TO TELL THE MAN WHAT HIS ROLE IS ACCORDING TO GOD'S HOLY WORD. GOD DOES NOT EVER WANT A WOMEN TO CHASE A MAN. THE MAN CHASES. GOD MADE HIM TO. THE WOMEN IS THE NURTURER.
@@theupgraded6558 That’s what gets me too. It seems like I only see videos for what women should do to please a man, to build up His ego & make him feel loved, needed, & everything is for the man’s satisfaction. It’s so degrading & frustrating sometimes.
@@debbiejameson7816 right & men dont do the same for a woman to feel loved, pleased etc. no they just say 'she's a gold digger' & move on with their day
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I married my husband because I was his dream girl. Now, I take care of our home and kids, don’t have to work an awful job, and can move freely in life because of his undying love and support. From the very beginning, this man was incredibly intentional with me WITHOUT having to be asked. I can trust his leadership because he does it so well. I had a long string of bad relationships before him, growing up in a toxic household, then recreating that behavior, so it was a huge breath of fresh air to be with him. Of course, we are not perfect and have had our share of problems, but I grow more confident with each passing day that I made the right choice. Being loved by a man who ENJOYS loving you can’t be beat. This channel is gold, ladies. The things they talk about here are true. ❤
So great to hear and thanks for sharing Madeline! :)
❤ your so blessed and lucky! ❤
@@Portia620 God blessed me beyond what I could imagine. Thank you 🙏🏻 ❤️
My apologies, this was a typo.
Similar background, I’m hoping to meet a man like this one day ❤
I keep 😊hearing people say that you are not responsible for making the other person happy and I agree, but what I never hear anyone say is that another person can and often does make the other person unhappy, and that is exactly the basis that leads to the end of the relationship. You can't make others happy, but you sure can make them unhappy, via your actions and your words.
This! 🎯
Seems men complain what women did not do for them and women complain bout what they did to them...
I dated a man for his potential- BIG MISTAKE
True, men never ask for ANYTHING from their dream girl...
No friends with benefits 🚫🚫🚫
I made a mistake to even get married him...We lasted less than 2 years.
I escaped a potentially bad relationship on a first date. The fellow used a vulnerability I shared early on against me on that first in person time together. So happy it happened because it gave me advanced notice of potentially, likely, more to come. What was worse was he was a couples therapist. I was stunned. Lesson learned. Don’t share too much. Go slow. Watch words and actions. Don’t give second chances for that kind of psychological harm.
Sounds like you escaped a narc❗️
@@DivestedConfessions I didn’t understand those terms back then but yes probably so
Yes! Be yourself, set your boundaries, and let them DO FOR YOU! They will feel needed and that makes them commit.
Two people must meet eachother mutually, filling eachothers needs is a dance of reciprocation and appreciation. A man wants to do things and Step UP for his woman. A man must FEEL she is in her Feminine high value energy. If she is over giving then she is under receiving. If a high value woman tries to turn the low value man into high value man the man will dig his heels in and they will butt heads. Accept people where there are today or walk away.
Totally
Move on from a situationship!
A Queen removes herself ..🥰
Oh wow I love the “imagine you are his celebrity crush”! What a fantastic thought to go one each date with! Thank you ❤
Like I.told my son today,.I.will never get married again.and I won't shack.up. I'm financially secure and I am becoming self sufficient. Maybe a date and dinner.once in awhile but otherwise I'm done. Relationship problems?, you all can have them!
I thought I'm the only one feeling this.
I completely agree! I was married to a terrible man for over 30 years and my peace now is priceless and I will not give it up for nothing. Alone and VERY happy!!!!
Yes, Karen....
This is why I hate when anyone says, “I love you.”
Usually it’s not true.
And even if it is, they expect you say it back.
So then it comes with expectations. And expectations are pre-mediated resentments.
I agree, there is a great misconception about love. I now love from a healed view of love. I recently shared my feelings with the words I love you, and I had no expectation of hearing it back. I just needed him to understand he is loved.
Wow. This “old girl” learned more watching this one video than I have in years & it’s spot on. As a female whose mother was Bipolar & she had multiple personalities, my self esteem has always been zero. But there’s a reason for that. The physical & mental abuse / bullying that I, my two younger brothers, Dad & Stepdad survived was unbearable most of the time. She saw me not as a daughter, but as a competitor to be humiliated, put down & defeated. I could not understand Why she hated me so much & blamed me/others for her unhappiness. Sadly, it wasn’t until I became her care giver, during the last 3 years of her life; through Alzheimer’s, that I finally saw how the bullying was to cover up her own insecurities. She wasn’t able to love others, because she struggled with her daily inability to love herself. Add to that that from childhood she decided “nobody is going to tell her what to do” & that if she couldn’t get her way, she would just became someone else so she didn’t have to deal with it. It became an escape from reality. To this day, I love her though & wish so much she would have seen me as a daughter. & they say you go to what you know & I ended up in an abusive marriage which didn’t help my self esteem, or make me feel confident & deserving of love either. By God’s grace I was able to leave for the safety of my daughter & myself & I am still single after years, but I have the true love of God to carry me through life, until he takes me home. & that brings me joy. So, men just please remember when a woman seems to have low self esteem &, or trust issues, you don’t know what she has survived to get that way. Be kind & patient. Don’t overlook that Northern star, while watching all the shooting stars go by. & older fellas looking for that young trophy model wife, remember too; the new broom may look pretty, but the old broom already knows where all the dirt is & how to clean it up quick. We All need love. May all those here find true love, but if not, know that Christ will lead you with His nail scarred hand & give you joy, til His return. Bless you all! 🙏
My husband.always used.leverage with me. He would say to.me "if.I do this for you than you need to do this for.me" Always wanted to make deals. Love really didn't exist, only sex interested him. He said once to me that if there.is no sex than what is the point of life. Very troubling, I think there was something very, very wrong in his mind.
Where’s his love for you? Does he even realize that’s the point of a relationship? Sure, sex in a relationship is important, but not more important than love & respect.
Both sides when you are in relationship should make an effort to make both happy ,everyone tells true
It will be hard for me to need someone. I really love doing things myself. The one thing I love for others to do for me is cook for me. It's funny because I'm a chef. Cooking for others is pure love and joy for me. When I find someone that wants to cook for me...I found my ❤.
May I add, not only wanting to cook for you but also a good cook at that 😅
I also had this for 30 years until I suddenly wadnt his dream middle aged woman anymore. ..Count no man happy until the end is known..
I agree. When you really LOVE someone, the conversation, including body language, posture etc. Is genuine. There's no faking it.
You can't change a man. No amount of insight or therapy will do any good. The idea itself is wrong.
Many men are happy with very little, thinking the woman is o.k. wirh that. But that's not how it works.
What I don't understand, is why men don't tell women from the get go what they want and what they don't want.
A simple sentence:" I don't want to change anything amd I want to stay the way I am."
would be helpful.
Because if they were honest about it they wouldn't get what they want❤
@@athenaanon8878 Yep, you're right!
Now a more impersonal reaction:
When a man says, "I don't want to change" early in a relationship, it often comes across as a red flag, especially to someone with a growth mindset. It suggests resistance to growth, which can be a dealbreaker.
However, if you’re with a man who is consistently reliable and compatible with your future plans, the same phrase can mean something entirely different. In this context, "I don't want to change" could mean he’s content with the way things are because they’re already working well. In this case, it’s a green flag.
The difference between a red flag and a green flag comes down to compatibility. If you don’t have goals or dreams, you can’t truly align with someone else. Clear communication of personal goals is key to finding that alignment, and once you have it, there’s no need for significant changes.
This concept applies to women as well. A woman who seems to have no clear goals or who is demanding and pushy might appear incompatible to a man who has already found his peace. If she can’t communicate what’s bothering her directly, it can create tension. Both partners need to adapt and make room for each other. Failure to communicate clearly can lead to misunderstandings and frustration, making it hard to collaborate effectively. At some point, the buildup of frustration turns into the idea the other is not competent enough to collaborate.
What I’m seeing is that many men and women struggle to connect because they lack the patience to find common ground. This, in my view, reflects immaturity.
Cheers!
When they don’t help you it’s a huge red flag, for myself out of being responsible for everything 🥵exausting
Men are getting too feminine
A narc will slowly chip at your identity
It's important to clarify that being feminine doesn't equate to being weak. As a feminine man, I find it concerning that you're conflating femininity with a lack of strength or responsibility. Why can't a feminine man be strong? And if femininity in men is seen as a flaw because it doesn't contribute to his strength, what does that imply for feminine women?
Regardless of whether someone is feminine or masculine, everyone deserves respect for their boundaries. If there's a misunderstanding, both parties share responsibility for the lack of collaboration. Yes, even two feminine people can work together-otherwise, how could a mother teach her daughter to be a woman?
Weakness isn't inherently feminine or masculine; it's a natural state that all humans experience, especially as babies. What you're describing as feminine sounds more like immaturity to me. Immature men can't help you because they still need help themselves, which puts you in a parental role.
A narcissist will inevitably try to chip away at your identity unless you set firm boundaries. Respect is something that must be earned, not freely given. If someone hasn't earned that privilege, how can they chip away at something they don't have access to? Failing to set boundaries is, in itself, a form of self-disrespect.
Lastly, consider that the issues you attribute to certain men might also be present in others around you.Be sure not to generalise everyone. Your very idea may cause you to see what you want to see, as opposed to how it is.
.. Just some food for thought.
What's interesting is that the mistakenis always on the woman, "women make this mistake", never on the man.
It's a channel directed to women...so that those who want, can do better. There are other channels that address the "mistakes" and give advice to men.
Yes love is unconditional and does not expect things but if you need something you just gracefully ask for it and let him know why it's important to you
Love the Hansel & Gretel analogy! Exactly how it went down with narcissist.
This video is packed with SO many good points! I know your content is for women but this one has great points for men too. The one where the woman used the man’s vulnerability that he shared with her, …against him… SOOO toxic! Time to get out. Thanks for all your content, very informative for women that desire attracting a healthy masculine man for their next relationship.
Would you please describe the difference between trying to change a man, vs inspiring him, supporting him on his quest to become his best self. There’s the saying ‘behind every great man is a strong woman.’ There’s also the medieval image of the maiden who inspires her knight to greatness. If for example, you see that your man could be a successful entrepreneur, and that’s his self chosen dream, but he’s struggling, how do inspire and help him to pursue his dream, without leading him? I would love a whole show in this theme. Thank you.
Great question!!!
Too much to go into detail here but we cover it more in other videos and with our free quiz at MagnetizeYourMan.com :) Stay tuned!
I think the gist of it is letting him lead and I mean not just your relationship but also himself towards his own goals. People in general are not inspired when you’re insisting your way on them.
Usually if we have a dream/goal that we struggle to get towards, there's usually a childhood wound still present that needs facing and working through so he can be free emotionally to move forward without anything stopping him. Maybe just making suggestions for him that could be helpful e.g attending therapy or getting a Life Coach to overcome anything that stops him from moving forwards :) suggesting those things and then letting him make the choices/decisions towards them if he wants to. You could also just talk it out with him, using your innate feminine intuition to be there for him emotionally so he can work through what he needs to, to fulfill his dreams :)
The difference is that one of them is trying his best to do that and perhaps needs your love and encouragement to help him to keep going. That’s very different from trying your best to point an unmotivated man in the right direction.
Omg...im so tired of the idea that a woman has to worry about how valuable another man sees them...when no one asks about how we see the man. Period. Most times men take advantage of her loving and trusting character. Some of us were just gullible to a man who had no commitment or integrity. Women, stop thinking that you are always at fault if a man uses you! But do set boundaries.... esp. when it comes to sex. And listen... a queen isnt a prize...shes a fucking ruler! Thats gotta take some masculan balls gentlemen! Maybe the issue is that some men just cant handle a strong woman.
Please do a video on how a woman should deal with a partner who feels he's "not enough" for her - 'cos I'm baffled. I have my own home, an office job (nothing fancy), no children, no debt - I'm just an ordinary, very humble person. My ex was a gorgeous, career-driven, high earning Alpha Male - BUT very deeply in debt due to a previous relationship so he always felt 'inferior' to me (though in my eyes, he wasn't at all). So how should I have handled his feelings of inadequacy? I'd have helped him through his debt situation but he left me. I'm at a loss.
It was an excuse to not be in a relationship with you. That is all.
I would love it if you guys could do a video about how to tell if a very reserved man likes you (because they don't aggressively approach and chase the way more extroverted men do). And how to get reserved men to step up and make a move.
Just ask him - would you like to go for a coffee together/ parc/ museum this Friday night/ Saturday?
Yes. This enquiry is very true. And some men are not self assured or confident or they put their existing family first or have walks up about their heart and mind. Or they are very jealous And anxious.
I have the same problem with a guy
@@Nika-je6zd Well that's my point. I'm not willing to ask a guy out, when I don't even know if he likes me. Its hard to tell if he likes me, because he is so reserved. With everyone.
Yes, this is a problem with the masculine/feminine dynamic that I'm having as well. The guy I was interested in is very introverted though I knew he liked me for a few years before he finally asked me out. The relationship ended up being difficult though because I had to take the initiative a lot of the time and didn't feel like I could be in my feminine, and he wasn't being masculine, and we only lasted 2 months
I don't personally have a problem with a more feminine man but I do see how it effects a relationship dynamic in a negative way and I'm not sure how to navigate it better
I'll have to disagree. I value myself. I have a life. I've attracted narcissistic men and if you learn the Bible, you'll see that it's spiritual. In other words, the devil is real & he will come to harass & destroy God's children.
Nobody is responsible for my happiness 😢
This is awesome. Pay attention, great work young man
My ex used the term,, I will do what I want and no one will stop me. 🚩🚩🚩
It looks Love become too hard and too manipulated , why we need to feel working hard for love, its getting annoying .
In which kind of cruel world do we live in where women who try to be nice to someone who they will turn away from her?!? Why do you now come up and tell her not to do so when in fact she just wants to do?!? This is a sick world.
What's caring for your heart that u usually talk about? Caring not to hurt me (putting down or ignoring or criticizing) when I open up to him (share my Feelings)?🤔
Yes that's a big part of it. And wanting to hear your feelings, solve problems and be your Hero, protector, provider etc.
@@MagnetizeYourMan Got it! Thanks! 😊
No to friends with benefits,i dont care what other ppl says i wont stay in a loveless relationship that is only you is the one who makes an effort to maintain that relationship
I pour into people too much. No romantic status required. I end up drained emotionally, and I don’t expect anything in return.
6:40 LADIES LISTEN ON REPEAT🏁‼️
When I do my thing, my husband says he's just "The Mule" working to take care of me & the children
Thank you for your channel
You are very welcome!
So true. My family see me as a failure when it comes to marriage. I have been married twice. My first husband was physically and emotionally abusive and it lasted for five years. The second husband was a lovely man buf was a drug addict and it lasted 13 years. I have now been single for 24 years and just celebrated my 60th birthday. It is not easy being single and I miss having an intimate relationship, but I will not settle for anything less than I deserve. I have a right to be treated with respect; I have a right to feel safe with my man; I have a right to be valued in the marriage and treated as an equal. Yes, I might have two failed marriages under my belt, but I chose to leave because I deserved better. I am not a failure, I am a strong woman that knows what marriage is and what it should look like and I will not settle for less. Even if that means being single for the rest of my life. However, the loneliness is hard to bear at times and I just have to cry and let it out. Some people may ask why I stuck around so long and put up with it. Simply, a lot of apologies were expressed, in both marriages, and I believed that people could change and I gave them that chance repeatedly, but at the end of the day they didn't change and things got worse. I'm not a failure, I'm a fighter. 😊❤️🙏🇦🇺
Yes, see him.for who he is right now..I need to keep looking when I have healed a bit.more..😊
Okay, but there is still some truth to the saying, "beggars can't be choosers."
This was good
I told his history to the social media, that public was unknown .I told his family's history also.
I am not proud of it but I actually done that vicious move with a man but he deserved it. Well basically, he was only interested in using me so he was emotionally unavailable and treated me horribly over months and so by the end as he always gave me the silent treatment during each argument I told him he deserved to he cheated on bcz he would treat a good girl badly. He treated me like shit all bcz I wanted him while he had this cheater of an x whom he treated so well despite her sneaky careless behaviour towards him. Yeah I am not proud of it it was the only time I used that on someone but honestly he deserved it bcz he wasted too much of my time, wanted to used me, and was never really there available for me... I am so glad I am free now and the curse of having feelings for him has lifted... I know I am worth more and better now and I'll only accept what is worthy of me
It's always about serving the men . Yes sir let's serve the men 😂
Thankyou.
Very interesting
Welcome and glad you enjoyed it!
I'm nobody's dream girl. Never been. End of the story 😂
Same, it’s never gonna happen like that.
Me too😂😂😂
X3, it's ok💜
Same. I have opinions, and that is a no no.
Sigh I feel the same way toi
Nothing. Clear. Even more confused than I was before. Thanks. At least this is free.
I have a question; I'm dating a masculine man for almost 3 months now, I've been to his family a few times. So last weekend there was a big festival in his town where everyone was drinking alot. I don't drink that often, only occasionaly. Certainly not beer. So I started having a few glasses of wine, which turned out to be too much. I got a bit drunk, nothing crazy.. but now I'm really embarressed about this and afraid this changes the way he views me. (Not seeing me as his dream girl?). I think I was so nervous for this event and also did it to 'fit in' somehow.
What can I do about this? Talk to him about it?
I overdrunk once, on an early date and even got sick. He stayed anyway, until now.
To answer your question - if he is very into you, it will not matter - if he is not too into you, it does not matter either even if you drunk only camomile tea that event. So let go of anxiety and just worry, are you getting a high value man? Him or another, but is he best for you? Watch for red and green flags, and walk away no matter the charm, if he is not suitable.
What happens if you accidentally blurt out that you love them…?
He did that to me twice at one time the other day on accident I think it was on purpose lol
Sigh.. same here and he didn’t say it back… I felt so dumb 😢
@razz0dazzle man I didn't think about that...he will probably never say it again ?
Maybe I missed this somewhere, but would you please give examples of HOW to ask for help? I think I just need help with the wording 🤔
The simplest version: May I have some help?
This is such a great question. I’m in a great place financially/ career wise and I love giving gifts to men and I’m realizing this is masculine and I need to stop, but idk how to be more feminine? I’m girly but do I need help…? Not really. I’d like to be with a committed masculine man, where are they … ? It’s maddening :(
thank you😍
Thank you
How do I know if it’s situationship, relationship or friends with benefits?? My friends take every opportunity to bad mouth the issue. They are jealous I think!
If he is not married to you and sleeping with you
If you have to ask strangers where you stand then it's probably a situationship!
Situationship/ u want to move forward into exclusivity he will not. Feels like a relationship but refuses labels.
Relationship clearly communicated
FWB no dates just sex
@@TheOracleOfApollo not much sex cause a truck hit their car at the airport and then I had a really bad knee injury playing soccer.
Just night dinner and coffee and fishing on the boat kind of dates.
Top advice, as usual ❤
Welcome! :)
I was,until I let him know I did not like him having too friendly female relationships
"celebrity crush" what ? I was on board - until that child- like comment
If you have already stated your love, you better say I love you when your partner says it to you.
But let the man say it first otherwise he will feel the lady in the relationship
How do you let yourself call a man who needs a woman to make him feel like he's her leader a quality man?
I think you need to look into the idea of equal partnership.
Both need to be in their feminine nurturing and reception of that nurturing when they're together. Not at work. But with each other.
Our relationship is not good. He says we do not have a relationship. Where does that leave.me, he's too young anyway. I can tell I.need to move on. I'm being.perfectly honest. He only wants around me if I give him sex. I totally refuse!
Start investing in yourself and meeting new people. Trust what he said the first time and who he is and walk away.
This is true.
What if we don’t need help 🤔
Sigh that’s what I’m wondering … is there any other feminine things we can ask for? Or the help I’d like he can’t provide… like hey I really need a get away I can pay can you join me? Now I’ve become masculine but I know he can’t afford it and I want him to go … sigh 😔
6:50 maybe he was doing that because he lives in poverty and is at an all time low in life. Can’t even solve his own let alone mine…Learned not to lower my standards and save people. Let people be
Is that Olivia Rodrigo?
Men do that too. So showing a clip like that shows this channel is pro man, anti woman
Where is a lino to the 90 day challenge?
Use this one here: MagnetizeYourMan.com
@@MagnetizeYourMan thank you
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#codependency
You are talking exactly what the Bible says about men's role and woman's role. Why don't you mention anything about God?
It's always like that and with polarity teachings too, polarity is biblical but many teach it as if they were the ones that invented it or without mentioning the bible
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What would you like to know about the LORD GOD ALMIGHTY? The Bible is the written Word of God. GOD MADE MARRIAGE BETWEEN A MAN AND A WOMAN. FOR MARRIAGE TO WORK, YOU HAVE TO OBEY HIS WORD.😊
There is FAR TOO MUCH ABOUT WOMEN. TIME TO TELL THE MAN WHAT HIS ROLE IS ACCORDING TO GOD'S HOLY WORD.
GOD DOES NOT EVER WANT A WOMEN TO CHASE A MAN. THE MAN CHASES. GOD MADE HIM TO. THE WOMEN IS THE NURTURER.
08:36 men do that too
What's interesting is that the mistakenis always on the woman, "women make this mistake", never on the man.
Right? Men don’t even ever watch such videos they don’t give a f about relationships
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That’s what gets me too. It seems like I only see videos for what women should do to please a man, to build up His ego & make him feel loved, needed, & everything is for the man’s satisfaction. It’s so degrading & frustrating sometimes.
@@debbiejameson7816 right & men dont do the same for a woman to feel loved, pleased etc. no they just say 'she's a gold digger' & move on with their day