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Mom says it's my turn to do the timestamps:
0:00 brutal - Olivia Rodrigo
2:26 Are You Satisfied? - Marina and the Diamonds
5:42 Oh No! - Marina and the Diamonds
8:45 Cry Baby - Melanie Martinez
12:45 Class of 2013 (Audiotree Live Version) - Mitski
14:58 burned out - dodie
18:28 i need to be alone - girl in red
21:25 Sorry Haha I Fell Asleep - Egg
24:04 I Promise I'm Trying - cavetown
28:20 Young - VACATIONS
31:25 Look Who's Inside Again - Bo Burnham
32:47
Better Than Me - The Brobecks
Yes it's its Ur turn 🕺
timestamps ppl always doing god's work
thaaaank youuuu sm✨🦋
@@zazu2006 PFFFFTTT
I don't think Better Than Me is on my gifted kid playlist yet... and I call myself a Brobecks fan smh
Am I the only one who regrets discovering things that make me happy? Cause before, I was a top student and now I'm rock bottom
this is so relatable it hurts
why is this relatable??
As soon as I got good friends who I love hanging out with, my grades and the rest of my life has just gone downhill
Gods yeah. At the beginning of last year I was so strict with myself and really unhappy but found good friends and great hobbies and obsessions and started achieving less toward the end of the year after being the first person to achieve all these great academic things in just 8th grade. It kinda sucked but at least I know myself a bit better now.
Why is this so relatable? i realized it way too late that the pressures i had when i'm the top student was just from myself and my own standards back then and thinking that people expects way too much from me when i'm the one who expected so much in what i should achieve. Right now, i'm happy with just going with the flow and taking things on my on pace. I hope you could do that too!
burnt out gifted kid checklist
-Anger issues
-full-time procrastinator
-people are calling you a nerd so you try to pretend not to care about school and now you're failing
-Going to bed at 12AM +
-Waking up at 1PM +
-staying up all night
-Quieter
-Failed test
-Giving up on math
-living on the internet
-trying to start drama bc i'm basic and a nobody
-"KILL ME, but wait until I finish this video"
-can't focus anymore
-lost motivation to be enough
-not enough for trying
-new hyper fixation/obsession every day
-VERY socially awkward
-strict parents who expect A+
-random breakdowns because I'm so dumb
-random bursts of happiness that last for a couple hours
-mood swings
-fake scenarios
-obsessing on trying to be perfect
-comparing myself to plastic people
-beating myself up because i don't have the intelligence of a Harvard student
-just wanting to give up
-only a few people who keep you going
-LOST ALL THEIR FRIENDS:
*checks everything*
I guess, we're all the same
Ye
I wasn't expecting to be called out like this while listening to music.
accurate :(
burnt out gifted kid checklist
-academic validation: "i'm gonna kill myself if I don't get an A" ✅
-anger issues babe 💅✅
-staying up till 2 am studying and stressing at the same time ✅
-"what if i don't meet their expectation?" ✅
-intense anxiety ✅
Dammit it’s me
dammit u had me on "im gonna kms if i dont get an A"
omg true af
remove the first one.. im trying to get over giving my fam external extra validation through my marks ffs
Same
When people call you a gifted kid but no one acknowledges how much work you put in
PLEASE- ;-;
Istg that's the worst
i hate when ppl stick me with "smart" for granted
"U r a good kid...it must be easy for u"....no dude i worked hard to make it seem easy🙂
I swear to God, that is the worst thing possible. They do not care to know about the amount of effort I had to put to get those grades or the amount of sleep I lost trying to keep them up
they labeled me as a gifted kid and now I have to carry these expectations that I have to reach.
it's just honestly tiring.
Same, I hope you are feeling better today! I had taken a "gifted kid" quiz in school around second grade and I have been in gifted classes since, it's horrible.
@@hearts4ava_ same thing, second grade quiz I didn’t really didn’t ask for, hating the gt system *crying noises* this is so relatable
um why did i cry over this comment
Are you ok?
yk the accuracy of this playlist is true when all the gifted kids listen to these songs
yknow I could be wrong but I'm guessing you either kin Oikawa or Suga
@@PARKZYO That probably hardcore simp over oikawa when he has his glasses on .
@@deadish8709 agreed .
@@PARKZYO omg I kin both lol 🤣
@@lulu-kz5gf HQIHSJHA1😹😹
Based on the 1.6 million views, either a lot of us are obsessed with this playlist or this problem is more widespread than we realize
Probably the latter
I never realized how many fellow gifted kids there were
Well yeah a lot of people I've meet say " your either smart and hardworking or a felon and stupid"
@@pixelzebra8440There probably isn't that much gifted students its just the video that gathered us.
Widespread for sure. Gifted kids are set up for failure, as the school system isn't made for us. We are unique in how we work and school isn't buit for this way of learning/growing.
Definition.
Gifted Kid: Someone who lives a life of being told they’re smart as a child, and has the hardest time once they get older.
shoutout to all the kids who
- grew up smart but lost it when they got to high school and don't know what happened
- are so bright but just can't focus academically
- are told their effort isn't good enough when in reality they just don't understand
- are too shy to ask for help and go without it and therefore don't reach the potential they know they have
- are brilliant in class but under perform in exams
- have to pretend that they don't care about their grades because they constantly under perform and don't want to look stupid
currently listening to this whilst i try to save my failing biology grades. hopefully they'll improve soon so i don't have to start taking supplementary classes :/
to anyone reading this, it will be okay. i promise. you're doing a great job.
take care of yourself and remember that i love you
its the second and third one for me ;{
Damn who is chopping onions here...
literally all of them and im currently trying to save my geometry grade but idk if i want to, besides the fact if i get another D my parents might take away any 'privilege' i have (phone, books, art supplies, sometimes snacks/food, clothes, and bedding)
where did you get the idea that you were gifted? genuine question
for the first one, you did not lose your ability to be smart and you still are a smart kid.
the only difference is that in high school you need more than just that gift of being smart, you actually need to work instead of just relying on the smart you were gifted.
took me years to realize it, hope it helps
gifted burnt-out kid starter pack ;)))
15+ missing assignments
staying up till 3 am
sleeping in till 1 pm
this playlist
prob has a calorie counter
how are those anger issues panning out for ya?
flipping between apathy and crying till you can't breathe 💅
mommy/daddy issues
ex best friend for a little spice
would have straight As if late deduction didn't exist
kinda has vine energy??
addiction to lofi cause it makes us feel "productive"
new hyper fixation every day
do i wanna die or have i just sat in front of my laptop for 10 hours
only reads fanfic and fast paced books
wants to make a difference but can't even get outa bed
have some more depression memes luv
"idc if i fail school is a construct lol"
"if i don't get an A someone will literally shoot me"
"WHY CAN'T I JUST WRITE THE ESSAY”
edit: wow i’m speechless so many of you have the same issues as i did. recovery is difficult but if i could pull thru then so can you. i’m so sorry the school system and possibly your parents have failed you. you’re bright and talented and still just as smart as you once were praised for being. the difference is your curiosity and love of life has since expired. you have to reclaim it. you have to take it back and pull yourself out of this hellish cycle. you can do it. it’s in your capability. i’m so proud of you all
welp this hit too fucking close to home
I've never related so hard
there's no way you just got all of that right HAHAAHA
How’d you just describe me?? This is so accurate
Edit: nah because when I’m writing an essay I go: “WHY CAN I WRITE A 1K WORD FANFIC AND NOT WRITE A 750 WORD ESSAY??”
STOP STOP! I AM ALL OF THESE UGHHHHHHHHH. I FEEL CALLED OUUUUUUUUTTTTTTT.
Welp I relate. I’m an ADHD, burned out gifted kid with social anxiety that craves academic validation. 😭
same
Same
Same
Same
Bro that's literally me
I used to be “the smart one” but I don’t wanna go to college and I don’t wanna be valedictorian like everyone expects me to. Now I’m barely passing and I’ve never been happier. My mom is scolding me because I barely passed math (I used to be top of the class) but I wanna be a rockstar who makes relatable lyrics and ends up in a playlist like this so helpless gemstones like us can cry to them. When I graduate I’m packing up and starting a band a couple hundred miles away. I’ve never been happier becoming the Pinterest girl I created and not the stuck up smart girl who I wasn’t happy with
I literally love you so much😭 I'm so fucking tired of expectations
@@kare.love you more 😭
I don't really know what I exactly was but I was an extroverted kid my grades were filled with A's and god I WAS so happy like I remember thanking god for like everything fr when I was a kid I never bothered to study still got nice grades and praised by teachers and all , now that I am in my junior year of high school everything is going downhill ....like I was that kid who knew what is going on in all and like used to participate actively and now whenever the teacher randomly asks anything and I don't splutter a word and just stand there listening to her humiliating me and yelling at me like a dumbfck....i really don't know what's wrong with me.........but yk what at the end of the day I don't even care about it .......and that's just so wrong ........................anyways LYSMMMM
Used to be me but I'm not brave enough so just gonna settle with what my parents want me to do..
I hope you're doing well :)
The worst feeling is I know that I wasn't even really gifted. The label was just plastered on me because I happen to have some good grades during my early school years, but the truth is there were many kids who were far smarter than me at the time. I just happened to be the "smart kid" in my hometown. The moment I stepped out of my comfort zone and went to a school in a different city was the moment I realized just how mediocre I was.
Just a li'l vent:
My mental health rapidly declined back in 8th grade. At the time, I was still the top student in my new school, but I started to feel symptoms of burnout. It became worse in 9th grade due to other personal drama happening outside of school. I still maintained straight A grades while studying advanced subjects but I fell off the top rankings because I constantly felt tired. My family turned their backs on me, made me break up with my boyfriend, cut me off from my friends, and even threatened to move me to a different school. They never stopped to ask how I felt and why I turned out that way (to be fair, I never learned how to express myself to them either and I didn't know what "burnout" is).
A few years later, they stopped putting as much pressure on me to get into the top 10. Whether it is out of genuine concern or loss of hope in me, I have no idea. What I do know is *I* never stopped putting myself under pressure. I trapped myself into thinking that my worth is attached to quantitative means alone, whether it is academic grades, fake internet points, or something as trivial as video game scores. I constantly compare and criticize myself along with those around me. Although, yes, I'm hoping to change that mindset, it's hard to do that consistently when I'm still ridden with self-doubt, envy, and anxiety on a daily basis.
Music, art, and my really small circle of friends are the only things keeping me sane 'til this day.
even i have the same problem, back in middle skool, i had good grades, but as i entered high skool, my grades began to fall badly. i constatly question what do i do with this life. like there's no such thing in the world which i can say that i'm good at it. there's no such thing that i can say, that i love it and can spend hours doinng it. studies have been pressurising a bit, but still, i find my way to procastination. but i'm still trying to get better, maybe that's the way, we can come out of this thought process... hope you stay sane and keep going
@@happieeepenguin5319 I hope you'll find your true calling as well
It's hard to find it when you've been too focused with aimlessly studying for years, but once you let go of your expectations for yourself, you'll realize just how good you can be at things outside of academics. Good luck ❤️
the fear of being average is such a prominent thing in the gifted kid community
Same! I aslo don't know whether I am a gifted kid or not. I had some good grades during my early school until mid uni years, and then my grades and my eager to study are gradually declining
I am writing my graduation thesis right now while reading your comment and already late by 1 semester to graduate normally (I am in 9th semester currently). I don't know I am a gifted kid or not but obviously I burned out right now :((
A lot of people always are jealous of people being called the "gifted kid" but actually for us gifted kids, it's very pressurous, trying to keep up to the expectations of people. Honestly it wasn't too bad in primary school, but when it's middle school it just became like a crown you have to keep on your head so you won't make them lose faith and hope in you. We all are burnout by aimlessly studying without having a real goal in life. I'm pretty sure some of us have identity crisis somewhere in our lives.
Hope every gifted kid stay positive and live out of all those high expectation for yourself. Don't let people's high standards for you make you fall, because remember, you're living for youself, not for them.
I met a guy who struggled a lot with his mental state, he was basically the blueprint of the perfect student: Straight A's, perfect skin, flawless hair, nice personality, big friend group, teachers loved him, all that jazz.
One day I remember going to my classroom early in the day to drop off a project and I saw him crying in a corner, I walked up to him and asked him what happened and he just shoved a test on my chest and continued crying, he got a big fat C+ and the teacher left a "What happened? You did so well before" note under it.
To me it wasn't too bad, I got C's before and didn't mind them a lot, but what he said next almost made me break down.
He looked at me and said "I was doing so well..", I couldn't say anything, I just kinda hugged him while he cried it all out.
He then asked if he could show me something and I said yeah, he pulled out a piece of paper from his bag and showed it to me, it was drenched in pen ink with words like "I could've done better" "I did so well" "Why am I such an idiot", he then said "I didn't know what else to do", I don't remember much but I think I took him to the principal and made an excuse that he had thrown up and needed to go back home or something along those lines.
We're pretty close now, he's in therapy and talks to me everyday, I'm happy he's doing better but god I feel bad for the poor dude...
Now i’m crying, hope he’s doing much better now, wishing for the best
you’re a genuinely amazing person for being there for him. i really hope he’s okay
"what happened?" is the most painful thing to hear. The thing is you know everything kept crumbling down and have been asking that same question but you all you can do is watch it fall. "What happened?" a simple question that holds more questions. It's a question you have been asking before anyone ask yet holds no answer.
ok sorry for the dump. I just have been on the same situation
i wish i had someone like you
Ok now i am in same situation as that boy 😭😭😭
After suffering through high school with anxiety and internet hyperfixations that killed my grades, I'm finally studying Psychology in college and writing a paper about Gifted kid syndrome.
Feeling very accomplished with how far I've come to get here. Wishing my fellow gifted kids luck in school. You've got this, dude.
proud of you!
Let’s go! Bring some recognition!
Well done!
❤ you
The best thing about these playlists are the comments. It feels much better to know that there are other people like me. You guys are so relatable and thank you for uploading this :)
love your name
People's satisfaction is really scary, once you achieve something you worked hard for they expect more and more until your just doing everything so that you won't hear the "I'm not angry with you, I'm just disappointed" my family is just like this
true their expectations rises so high that I dont even get time check on myself they never appreciate and only hate
I get that.
I relate
If you dont try, they will be impressed in little things like not failing. :)
@@studentmd5903 fr, i never appreciate my work or talents. only hate myself for my apparent failures or the mistakes i make
Literally I fit the exact description of burned out gifted kid-
-I always stress over unfinished work
-always procrastinate even though the work is in front of me
-stay up very late working on work but I barely get anything down
-gets mostly A and A+’s
-extreme social anxiety
-anger issues
-cries over dumb things
-listening to this playlist
It’s nice to have people to relate to :)
Well my friend I found you as my alike
s a m e,,,
I resisted crying over small things bc I hated crying and being sensitive and now I can't cry even I want to and the extreme social anxiety is soo relatable wow
Found a spirit animal 😩
Sir that's not you that's me
me listening to this:
- stresses over unfinished work but procrastinates a lot anyway so always submits works late ✅
- lonely, no friends, and social anxiety ✅
- sleep deprived ✅
- anger issues ✅
- emotional ✅
- not realizing that playlist is full of overachiever songs ✅
-pessimistic ✅
- never realizing that I actually am an overachiever ✅
Girl I feel u
Relatable, wanna have a friend tho? You could vent or anything if you're having a bad day
That’s just being a normal human in the modern world 💀 💀 💀
@@IcecreamMcGuy let's not invalidate ppl, shall we?
@@rosie2871 just saying people really overreact because they want to be special
I was a "gifted kid" back then, my life was great at school. I had good grades, I had friends, the staff knew me, some of the teachers knew me. People knew me well. I always submitted my assignments on time or early. I had mostly perfect scores. I was on top, I was a perfect daughter, I was religious, I was "pretty" , I was "cute", I was smart, I was determined, I was a good kid. Until highschool started. I transferred to a new school, puberty happened, I didn't know anyone, I was failing, I was desperately trying to get back up, I was trying and tired not to be burnt out, I'm a mess, I can't keep up, I can't help like people hate me, I can't stop being a disappointment, I'm trying to help myself, I'm really trying to be better, I'm greatful to have friends that I have now, but sometimes I can't help think that they hate me. I'm nobody's favorite, that must sound narcissistic, but I feel like I'm always behind. Behind my friends, behind my brothers, behind everyone. Some teachers are probably annoyed at me for being childish, for not understanding simple instructions, for not being confident. I'm always behind everyone that I feel like I'm the only who'll fail in life. The staff probably don't like me either, I have no reason why they might think that, they probably just do.
"Why can't I just be like my younger self. Why can't I be someone who is deemed normal?" I keep asking myself that. I keep competing with my younger self. Sometimes I see myself in my younger sibling. They're possibly the favorite.
Sometimes I feel like I don't deserve any of this. Sometimes it's just so annoying how knowing that your younger self is the better than you'll ever be now. I hate it. I'm trying, really I am. I'm so close to giving up
🥺🥺 it will be okay! don't blame yourself💗 sorry, my English is bad, but your story really made me wonder. I feel the same. you will definitely survive this and be happy!
Don't give up. No matter what you think, I am cheering for u. (:
you were never gifted, you just based your life on grades and validation, grow up or you will fail, the world doesn’t revolve around you
@zenr_u when did they say the world revolved around them? Just curious
EDIT: Because all I read was about someone struggling while competing with their younger self and beating themselves down over it.
@@dxrkerrxses bc her younger self was validated by people of authority, making her seek the validation of others and causing to believe (although not consciously) that her worth is determined by what others think of her, and when reality hits (in this case highschool), her ego is shattered and thinks the world is against her.
i would like to clarify that i’m not attacking her, i’m attacking the system that not only put her into this situation, but also created the notion that some kids are better than others bc of their grades, and trying to help her; in the world’s of albert einstein, “if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its life thinking it’s stupid.” i truly believe everyone is good at something, all you have to do is find it, but unfortunately some people give up. also if somehow you’re reading this random girl who i’m talking abt, just remember that there is something you’re good at, and you will find it, just never give up, and if you do, your life will be even worse, and i’m sorry for coming off as rude.
i read at one year old. i got 100% on every single spelling test in elementary. i won the spelling bee most (if not every) year. i've won the school essay contest 3 times; i actually went onto state once. i'd read at least 3 books in the span of 2 days.
i've never really had to try.
but then middle school rolled around and everything went downhill. i hate myself because i'm so lazy and i'm such a procrastinator. i try to convince myself i'm trying but i'm really not. and my attention span became that of a goldfish.
i'm not used to trying.
edit: bro i had no idea there were SO many people who felt the same way
As someone who has won a lot of stuff ( like you with reading but with art ) It’s a lot to deal with and I’m sorry you have to go through that, it’s super hard to keep up with school and even harder with a big change. But just know that it will get easier, just don’t go to hard on yourself and push yourself
*nervous laughter* stop calling these people out hahaha *laughs as in way to relatable*
It's hard actually trying to get back into the things you used to love so much. I'd love writing and drawing when I was younger, like when I was8 to 10. But with all my parents expectations I kind of dropped them as I was forced to be the really good smart girl, and provided I'm in the highest classes of my school my life is kind of falling apart. I've tried bringing up what I think is wrong to me with my parents and they just shove it away, heck I didn't even have friends until recently because I had no time for friends when I was younger.
So really, I understand where you're coming from.
Because really I'm not used to trying anymore.
that last part hits so hard
@@em111ya same
I have a girl in my class who fits the gifted kid description, but i'm pretty sure she's burned out because of all her responsibilities; she's vice president of the student council, she's the class president (we have that in our school) she's the leader of most of the group projects she's done, and she plays many different instruments and tries way too many things. I wish i could send this to her but i don't want to get close to her that much because she's kinda extroverted and could easily call me out which would make me popular at some sort (she's the person that's like, when you hear her name it somehow sounds like a personality trait, like if you say "oh you're like ____ you would know exactly what they mean ???) I hope she's doing well
5 months later: ok look i dont want to sound like those "MOM IM FAMOUS" people but ty and i hope everyones okayyy and to the girl im talking abt if you're reading this hi i hope youre okay sorry if i offended u in this comment idk please rest if you need to and enjoy ur summer
that one is so relatable. i mean, everybody talks about my talents, success and intelligence. but that just makes me more and more stressful. they dont know how hard i try to make them proud, how hard i try to make them NOT dissappointed. to make them satisfied. they dont know somedays i cant even eat or even drink water because i dont have enough time. they dont know i even study when i stay in hospital. i love people and life, but im so burned out. sometimes i just want to die or punish myself for not being able to do better. i just wanna feel worthy, not because of my exam grades but for being myself. sorry if my comment bothers you, i just related to it so much and wanted to write it down.
I relate so much. I am having the same trouble like hers. It's hard but I love my job and responsibilities in the school but it's exhausting sometimes.
it is horrible because when you fail people go "oh." like your going to start crying.
no offense, but that is none of your business. she could be happy doing so many things or she could be burnt out and if she doesnt want to open up about it then dont force her to. ask her if shes ok
Same, one of my closest friends is like this. She tries so hard in everything and puts 100% of effort in whatever she is working on and she succeeds tremendously, her sister (who is only a year younger than her) is similar but is going down a more rebellious path compared to my friend. She’s a really cool person and was very popular till she moved, (I lived in an area where people would come and go a lot) at first I found her extremely intimidating and at times I still do but most of the time i want to tell her to just sit down and take a break, and not try so hard all the time because eventually you will get burnt out. (Which has happened from time to time) she has a breathing condition and has to use an inhaler, I used to walk with her to the bus every morning for school and every morning i would always remind her to bring her inhaler, sometimes she acts like she doesn’t need it and it makes her feel weak. I wouldn’t know how that would feel since i dont use one but i wish she would take care of herself better, she wants to be an engineer for NASA and i 100% believe that she could do it.
I'm proud of each of you guys, just know that grades don't determine who you are, and you are a person on your own. Don't do something just to make others happy; do it yourself. You should know your worth. I am proud of you
Tell my anxiety and my mom
i feel like no one talks about this trait much for fellow burned out gifted kids, you overthink so, so much.
- even when you’re supposed to be enjoying an event there will always be those assignments you still haven’t done weighing you down.
- after you finish an assignment some pressure you can’t describe is still there, it never feels like you’re finished.
Damnn in each checklist of the comments, I check out all the boxes 😢
P.s. do I have trauma??
ikr ive had to deal with the overthinking for 3 years now every single day and its completely changed me
Honestly, after I finish the old assignments all I think is "I still have two more years of school, jobs to find, trips to help plan, can't make my parents mad, then I'll live the rest of my life barely making rent and working jobs I hate" and suddenly I want to stop living. Like, I don't want to die, but I have never wanted to be a rich kid who doesn't have to worry about their parent making rent and can live without a job more. I think that's the pressure that still lingers even after solving your apparent problem.
I never was a gifted child, I just had a passion for learning and found most things easy. Then my mental health went to shit, and I found that enjoying the things you were once passionate about whilst being depressed is a bit harder than I originally thought. I've always been told the same "you could do better, you have a lot of potential" shit, but I don't think I'll ever reach that potential I supossedly have. Idk lol
Edit: I'm now so much worse than when I posted this lmao
Edit 2: I'm actually better now, still have some stuff that I need to work on, but things can get better.
What’s stopping you from taking control go jump in the cold shower fully dressed what’s stopping you take control it’s your world start thinking like that
omfg yes. Because I love to try new things and pick up on things easily, it's like an expectation for me to excel in everything I try. I'm not considered gifted, but i always hear the "you have alot of potential, if only you tried", I'm so fucking tired of that as well, I just want to run away from everything, I even made plans to fake my death and run away to Japan and be a farmer in some small town lmao.
That's precisely what most burnt out gifted kids are, the good thing about the Internet is that you're never alone
Sameee
THE SAME WITH ME!!!
My mental health's shit but idk what is it, it's hard to solve a problem when you dont know what the problem is..
not to sound sadistic but i love the comment section. i feel understood and validated because now i know it's not just me who went through this.i feel like a failure while once i was the perfect star kid but whatever . i hope we all make it through.
this
me too, it was hard for me to relate to other people but seeing the comment section is so comforting.
It's not sadistic to realize you're not alone. Hope you make it through whatever it is that's not ok in your life
same. I used to be so perfect. perfect grades one of the best schools in the country always so smart. and now I barely went to school the last year. I have anxiety and depression and I'm trying to find myself. I feel like a failure.
yuh
CHEERS TO US!
BurnING gifted child checklist of mine:
-Perfectionist
-' ' Limitless ' '
-Pushes self beyond limit
-A+, A+, A+, A+, A+, A+, A+, A+, A+..... B?......
- Masking
-Literal masks as well
-Insecurities
-"You're exaggerating"
-"You're fine"
-Constant negative thoughts
-Fake scenarios
-Aggressive urges
-Under 15
-Spacing out 24/7
-"Your trauma isn't that bad"
-"Why are you so scared of therapists?"
-STRESS LMFAO
-Quiet.
-For some reason years pass by really quickly but days don't..?
-SOCIAL ANXIETY-...... (to the point I stutter when talking to 3 people at once)
-All nighters are fun
-F*cked up sleep schedule
-Mood swings all the time
-I'm not happy but I can't die :(
-"YOUCANTFAILYOUCANTFAILYOUCANTFAILYOUCANTFAIL.."
-"extra credit..?"
-*breakdown about a B+*
-"Why can't I be normal."
-Silent-
-"She's pretty!" *Looks at stomach* *Guilt* *Stops eating for 4 days*
-Best isn't enough
-Too shy to ask for help
-"You have potential"
Good vibes to everyone who read this !
why are you stalking me :)
also is it just me or does it feel like you have no purpose but like you can’t die because it’s like written in the rule book you gotta stay alive?
Checklist for your checklist 2 (because youtube decided to delete the first one as I was about to finish it)
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-✅ (I was literally forced to stop against my will)
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-✅ (I also tell this to myself)
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-✅ (not 24/7 but alot)
-✅ (again telling myself this)
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-✅ (unless you bring up one of my special interests(
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-✅ (too accurate)
-✅ (I'm pulling one right now)
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-✅ (again again telling myself this)
-✅ (I don't know if this is a thing to check but I'm doing it anyway)
-✅ (wanted to put something here but couldn't figure out how to word it without it being a vent essay)
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-✅ (if I ask for help then I'm not smart enough I know thats not true but I still won't do it)
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This was a little long and venty so sorry about that, anyways have a good day
Yeah my one B is killing me dude 😭
I love this. I hate being the gifted kid most of the time. I just wish i could fit in with others and be a normal kid. But then "I won't be successful." And I don't know if I should just fake being happy with the title as the gifted kid. I have it all. What more could I want? Besides the many burdens that lay on my shoulders and everyone's eyes watching me to see when I eventually fall, I have it all. Right?
I'm tired.
that's painfully relatable. the duality of being a gifted kid, unfortunately
Can’t be a burned out gifted kid if you were never gifted-
(Love your playlist so much
Absolute vibe thanks XD
well, that's one way to avoid being burnt out, i suppose
M̶o̶o̶d̶
true still burned out tho :D
I totally get you, I'm one of those that weren't gifted as well :) sending virtual hugs
im not even gifted. ive always worked soo damn hard to get everything ive or everything i get. everyone's like " damn she's so lucky. " like no bro i worked freakin hard for that shit. i stayed up for months to get that. it's not ✨luck✨ it's HARDWORK
hate when they say "luck" instead of hard exhausting depressing work. if it was luck, why was it SO HARD to achieve?
@@yogstheyogurt no but fr :|
I got top grade on my science exams and everyone is like wow your so lucky your so clever but when we teacher asked who did the most revision I did I put in the hours of hard work to get these grades
So I have nobody else to ask about this, all the people around me are like me, lazy and unmotivated when it comes to studying, so I have nobody else to ask, but, How can you guys study so hard? How do you get what you want? How do you guys bring yourself’s to be disciplined?
I admire you guys for working hard, I wish I could be like that, But if I’m being honest and pretty shameless(sorry), where do you guys begin? How does it work? How does it feel?
@@danirosa3804 I sometimes find it hard to just begin YK, but here are some things I think and do.
1. If you can sit alone in class, just do it or sit next to someone who doesn't distract you. Maybe people are going to think you're asocial, but actually, that doesn't matter because people will judge you no matter what you do. :)
2. NO ELECTRONICS in your workspace. They will only distract you. They are only allowed when needed, so once you're done, put them away!
3. Always remember that studying is something you MUST AND NEED to do and you can't choose whether you do it or not.
4. I try to study for like 5 minutes or something after I arrived home. I think it is better, or otherwise, you may be distracted for a long time and start studying too late.
5. Set a goal and work towards your goal. I think the path towards your goal is really important, so plan it all out! It's very important to set a goal and work towards it. :)
6. ACT LIKE YOU'RE THE MAIN CHARACTER IN A MOVIE OR SERIES for example ACT LIKE YOU'RE RORY GILMORE OR IDK HERMIONE :) THIS HAS HELPED ME A LOT!
7. VISUALISE YOURSELF GETTING THE GRADES YOU WANT. REALLY TRY TO FEEL WHAT YOU'LL FEEL WHEN YOU HAVE THE GRADES YOU'VE WANTED FOR SO LONG AND WORKED REALLY HARD FOR.
8. Remember you can achieve EVERYTHING you want, but ofc you need to put the effort in and work very hard. Things that distract you, only give you satisfaction for a short period and the goals you achieve will give you satisfaction for a long period.
9. Exercise bc when you exercise, your heart rate increases. When this happens, there will be pumped more oxygen to the brain. It aids the release of hormones which provide an excellent environment for the growth of brain cells. It also promotes brain plasticity by stimulating the growth of new connections between cells in many important cortical areas of the brain.
THESE TIPS MAY NOT WORK FOR EVERYONE, BUT YEAH THEY HELP ME THO. JUST TRY IT OUT
This matches my life eveyrday
Gifted Kid ✅
Failing math ✅
Stressed ✅
Listening to this playlist✅
Why are we all failing math as gifted people lmao
@@tisa37bokun57 idk 😭
Fr 💀
Istg how tf are our classmates passing math 😭
I feel like I’m failing math, I have a 79
@@ceciliabotello2533 I have a 71 helppp-
As a burnt out gifted kid (In academics, art and literature)
Here are the things that made me burn out.
-Sleepless nights(barely 2 hours of sleep)
-Pressure ( Pressure made me go from top 1 to top 3)
- Parents. (Too much expectations)
-Friends. (Distracted me and when I realized that, I studied for 20+hours with 10 minute breaks, YES I even study while eating and I try to recite the stuff I learned in the shower)
-School (99 for an A+?!)
-Teachers (They kept asking me "What happened Sasha? You used to be perfect.")
-Korean art teacher (Shes strict so i got Pressure to do tye BEST)
-Russian ballet teacher (Ykiyk)
-anger +trust issue's
- INTENSE Anxiety
Friends can work to your advantage if you find other gifted kids and work with them.
As a burned out gifted kid, I say this playlist is accurate-
Good playlist dude, love it
this comment section is like a breeding ground for burnt-out and not-yet-burnt-out gifted kids
Same
@@em111ya right
I feel you dude
same here
I used to be "the best" my teachers would flood my mom with good remarks for me "she's going places" "she has a bright future ahead of her" "you should be proud of your child"...and here i am now, last year of high-school, not having any plans to go to college, struggling to pass my classes since I never study because of my deteriorating mental health...I feel tired of it all and in the same time disappointed of myself for being "wasted potential" (sometimes I wonder if there even was any potential...)To all the people who may be going through something similar, i hope we all get through this together ❤
Honestly, f*ck potential. That doesn't matter anyways. What does potential get you besides those stupid expectations?!
I've been struggling with the whole "can't waste my potential" BS. I started studying maths at uni because that's what I thought was good for me. I'm good at maths and logic and like solving puzzles. It's a demanding path most would fail. But "I'm gifted" so I won't fail..I liked the idea of being that person. But then I struggled. Not because I was failing my classes actually. But because I tried to be someone i am not. To this day I'm still struggling to tell apart the things I like, the things I'm "supposed to like/be" and the things I would like to like and be good at.
So yeah. I'm not really qualified to give advice cuz I'm still in that phase of figuring stuff out. But what I regret not having done is first of all, of course not looking enough at what I actually spend my free time with. What kinds of videos I watch. What I talk about a lot. Etc. Not trying enough stuff before starting uni.
Though all that probably won't help you. On the other hand, I'll give you tips you probably don't want and maybe don't even need but I'll give them to you anyways because they would have been useful to me. I don't know what country you're from but if your situation offers for you to do internships, please do them. Try as many things as you can to figure out what you want. I didn't do it because I was too anxious to ask companies & organize it. But it's worth so much.
Some other things that are possible in some countries that you could look into are a year off with work and travel, au-pair, a social year (though that's very specific). They give you a ton of experience and time to deal with yourself and what you want. If you plan on going to uni, you could try looking into special courses that allow you to first take general courses so you don't need to decide on a specific major right from the start.
Also, if you decide on the wrong thing, don't worry. Maybe you can switch to the right thing immediately. But if not, there's always another way later on. You'll work for probably 40+ years. That's a ton if time to figure out where you wanna go with your career and how to get there. Even changing your career multiple times isn't a problem. I've heard of so many relatives that started doing one thing and now they're somewhere completely different. Just don't be afraid of making mistakes or of trying something new.
Try stuff. Make mistakes. Experiment. Don't commit crimes. And get to know yourself.
I wish you the best of luck and don't stress yourself too much over it
Also. Please be kind to yourself. You are precious. And please don't be too hard on yourself. You are enough just the way you are.
What I said are just suggestions. They aren't meant to stress you out further. If you don't wanna do them or if you would like to do a thing but don't feel ready to. That's okay. Some day. Or not. One step at a time. You will find your passion some day. One way or another
@@lilablau4560 omg thank you so much for taking time out of your day to tell me this( i found your advice very motivating and helpful), it really does mean A LOT to me.. I'm going through a rough time and you honestly made my day! I hope you have a wonderful day/night ❤
what a mood. i hope you feel better soon. you deserve the best.
i also had adults and teachers always say "you're going places" yada yada, i feel like wasted potential, and then i wonder if i had any at all. i still have mostly a's but the fact that they're not all a's feels like a failure in itself, stupid, i know, but i think other "gifted" kids can relate. i hate calling myself gifted too, but that's what they labeled us
YES
1:06, 1:45 "god, its brutal out here."
3:08 "are you satisfied?"
3:24 "high achiever dont you see?"
5:42
6:36 "one tract mind. One tract heart"??
7:36 "im gonna live, im gonna fly, im gonna fail, im gonna DIE"
Di pa ako tapos dito
When you're so burnt out that you don't recognise yourself anymore without the "top student" identity
when the first thing people say about you is 'smart' but they don't see the real you...
You ever get to that point in burnout when you finally realize your struggling but you’ve ignored it for so long that there’s no way to fix it? When you’ve let yourself get to the point of being secretly depressed? Not realizing your depressed? And then it hits you; you are gone. Cause like, same Bestie
Bestie?
@@alexandervanriet8737 bestie?
So far gone that there's nothing I can do about it. I'm drowning in my own guilt of not being able to hold good grades and keep them, drowning in the fact that I've been sucked into the world of academia at 14 and now I can't get myself out.
@@HH-vv1qi YES
Be patient with yourself, it really takes time to regain some energy after you worked so much but with rest, taking a step back and living slowly it will get better I hope
Something that always bothered me is how others (not everyone) that get “low” grades often judge perfectionists and over-achievers when they’re not satisfied with an almost perfect score.”Dude, it’s almost perfect, what’s your problem? You’re really complaining for an 84?? I got 64, be happy, at least it’s a good grade”. No, it’s not a good grade for me. This kid from another class got a better score, my other results were better, it will affect my grade overall, after spending my whole evening studying for something this easy, this is not enough (subjectively speaking). It happened a lot to me and it genuinely bothered me because people usually don’t know how much pressure we put on ourselves and how a score just a bit below perfect gets our motivation reaaaally low. Sure, you’re not happy with your result either, but you shouldn’t judge us if you don’t know how horrible it feels
I get it, but you still should give yourself more credit, you tried, that’s something. That kind of mindset that even getting one thing wrong is going to burn you out pretty rapidly, I mean, that is why you are probably here after all. I’m not saying be satisfied, I’m just saying give yourself a little bit more credit since it sounds like you are really rough on yourself, it will keep you more motivated in the long term compared to bringing yourself down and burning out quickly.
Also, a little tip, don’t study the whole evening, instead study little chunks every so day and review it. It is proven that you are bound to retain more information this way than cramming, it’s also more efficient, what I’m referring to is “spaced repetition”, should cut-off your load of work by A LOT. Also, active recall works pretty well too. Work smart not hard, but still try and work hard👍
@@danirosa3804 thanks for the advice. As for studying, I usually don’t have a problem tbh! I usually remember everything from class. I only study when mostly needed (tests, exams etc.) I usually read the materials and rewrite them down as I read it. If I don’t remember it, read it again and work with flashcards. Worst case scenario I ask my mother to help me as well, but in most cases I try to take breaks as well.
My main problem is grades. I’m a huge perfectionist. In my country the grading system is 1-10 (1 worst-10 best) even at a 9 I will immediately start comparing myself to others and will basically make me feel like shit.
I’m working on my mindset this year. I want to stop comparing myself as much and acknowledge the fact that I can’t be perfect and one bad grade won’t destroy my life. At the same time I still want to try and be serious about school, I still want to keep up the good grades and be proud of myself.
Thanks again for the tips!
@@IsimpforKavehandImnotashamed Ah okay, sounds like you’ve got a pretty good system down then , nice!
Also ,It’s awesome that you know where your problem lies and that you are trying to fix it , that is really admirable. I hope that one day you can get to where you desire your mindset to be in.
Literally! Like I can't even rant about it to anyone because everyone is like "tHat iS a gOoD grAdE sHuT uP yOu aRroGaNt aSs"
I’ve never related to something so much. This is exactly how I feel.
When I was a kid I always thought that I had to be friends with everyone, make events for my class, have the best grades ever, get a lot of trophys, i even had to do a sports competition even thought I hated sports.
All of that, from when I was 5, until I was 11-12.
After that I started noticing how horrible my classmates are, that grades aren't everything, and that I could be happy even thought I was perfect. But oh god, some people in my family had to make me think I had to be perfect *again* .
And here am I, being a total mess, expressing myself to f-cking strangers I will never know, and feeling like it's not bad and I'm just dramatic.
Yay!
A stranger here... Love you 🩷 I pray for your happiness from almighty.
Let peace and love be yours forever.
This hits different when it's 2 AM and your cramming to do everything you didn't during the week before school
more than gifted i was the good daughter bc i was 11 but so "mature", intelligent and so good with her parents. I used to think that too until I just realize I was anxious that if i did something they didn't like they would start screaming at me like they did everytime they argued
umm- relatable to a dark and truthful point....
Well shi-
Didn't think I could relate to a single comment so much- o.O
Relatable😶
same and im still like this :/
why am i in ur comment TT
I am a gifted kid but not yet burned out. Everything comes easy to me. So much so that memorizing a whole chapter in 20 minutes is like a game. But since middle school, I have become lazy and procrastinate a lot. I guess I just stopped caring at some point and wanted my parents to know that even I can fail at times. It is like once you set the bar too high, reaching it becomes THAT difficult. I usually spend my time doing art and journalling because I love those things. I am a gifted kid and I love being at the top. I love when I come first in my class. I don't want to be the burned out kid because I love the competition. I just hope it holds up.
EDIT:- Hey! It's me. Five months later. I just came back to check on this comment and it's so nice to see that people are so supportive. Thanks all of you for telling me to take breaks and to not worry that much. Your comments always help me. It's also nice to see that I'm not the only one who feels like this. It's comforting to know that you aren't the only one struggling and that there are people out there who are fighting the same battles and trying to figure things out.
To all of the people who read this comment and feel the same, here's a thing that I do whenever it all gets too much-
I draw, listen to music, watch tv shows, read books, eat something etc. Just anything that calms me down and makes me feel more refreshed. Basically, i do the things that i LOVE. Things that don't feel like a chore or a necessity. It's good to have some things like that. It doesn't matter what they are, as long as you feel better. Don't try to study 24/7. Chat with your friends, binge watch tv shows and waste a lot of time on RUclips. These things are just as important as studying.
I hope this helped you even a little bit! I will surely edit this comment 5 months later and come back with some more advice lol 🤣💞
It's amazing that you can manage to do all this ❤️ keep up with what you like and I hope your family and friends support you
@@user-uy9fx5mv2x thanks a ton! It really helps me when people like you are so kind. I love my friends as they are very supportive and encourage me when I get good grades. I really love my family too as my older sister always tells me that sometimes it's ok to not be first. I am very grateful for your support as well as my family and friends. 💞✨
I mean if you don't wanna go into a science-oriented field you will be able to keep good grades whilst spending lots of time journaling and drawing and find some competition. If that's not the case at least learn how to take notes properly and learn some studying habits now. Like zettlekasten or something. Also even if you think you are good at math pay special attention to logic, it will come up a lot. Here's a kirby: (>'-')>
@@philippezevenberg1332 thanks!! Actually as much as I hate to admit it i really like biology. I hate to admit it because everyone in my family is always like "become a doctor" and blah blah. It kind of takes the fun out of it. Right now I'm pretty young so I have tons of time to choose my field. Also ur completely right about the math part. My sister is in her 1st year of college and taking math in 11th and 12th grade helped her a lot.
Once again thanks for your advice as I will keep it in my mind ✨💞
I'm exactly like this but I spend my time writing I procrastinate alot but I'm still at the top of my class good to know there are ppl like me out there keep it up and just know it's okay to take a break
Wow, reading the comments here makes me feel seen to the point that I’m crying while reading all of them so I also want to share my story.
I’m not really a gifted kid, I would like to think that I just put effort into my studies which is why I always got As and I was always at the top of my class. I would always be the leader and groupworks and I will make sure that the output my group passes would be A+, it has to be perfect. As for my works, I would always make sure that it either met the expectations of my teachers or even go beyond that.
Last year, I experienced extreme burnout, it was so bad one day that I didn’t eat the whole day until it was late afternoon. It was so bad to the point that I would ghost my friends. It was so bad to the point that it showed through my skin ( I had a fungal infection and neglected it for months and the status my health ( I have multiple health issues now, I just want to take care of myself at this point) as I have neglected myself, not only at that point in my life but all throughout highschool. Last year was my breaking point, last year was when the last piece of Hay broke the Camel’s back. Fortunately, I managed to finish all my works last year and still managed to be recognized as the top student. Last Summer was when I found out how bad my health problems really were, to the point that one of my doctors recommended that I was to needed to find a sport I can do in order to help me in becoming healthier. I enrolled to a Taekwondo class/club that one of my friends was attending and I’m enjoying my time there. I love the people and I love how it takes my mind off of things. I also started a new hobby last summer which re-ignited my love for something - as school always manages to make me despise the things that I once loved - which was making small clay sculptures, nothing fancy just cute stuff I can give to my friends. I was finally recovering last summer, until school started again last month.
First day of school (its my last year of high school) and I was just chilling, as we didn’t have lessons yet and it was just a day to get to know each other. I was doing just that when one of my friends reminded me about College applications and I started to panic as I didn’t know it started already. A feeling of dread came over me as I didn’t know who I am, what I wanted to be, nor what university I wanted to apply to. Ever since I started school , all I knew was I had to ace everything yet despite acing everything up until that point, it felt like all the hardwork ai put into studying was all for nothing as I didn’t know what I wanted to become. That’s when everything went downhill. Lessons started and so do group works and quizzes, I’m the leader when it comes to groupworks but I don’t think I can do that anymore with my declining mental and physical health, I don’t think I can lead a group anymore. I always postpone group meetings and overall I felt like a navigator who suddenly forgot how to read a map and is now lost. I just can’t bear the responsibility of a leader anymore, physically and mentally. As for quizzes, I found out that I’m having a hard time reviewing my notes and the topics due to the fact that there has been a lot of things on my mind and I think I simply lost the ability to concentrate. It was so frustrating as a task that I could’ve done in 30 minutes before took me 2 hours to finish that day. It was so frustrating.
I brought up my concern to my parents and I realized that the pressure I was putting on my self was just from me. My parents just wanted me to do well in school, they were happy that I was achieving a lot but they also wanted me to take breaks and know my boundaries. After my breakdown, my mom, my sister, and I watched TV in order to take a break from my school responsibilities for a little while. While that didn’t solve all of my problems, I was happy as I didn’t expect them to understand what I was going through. I also reached out to my school’s guidance counsellor, and he told me that it was okay to disappoint people sometimes and that its not selfish to put yourself over school sometimes. Again, it didn’t solve everything but going to a professional and a trusted adult made me feel better.
Fast forward to today, I think I’ll try to get in touch with my school adviser later on and ask if they could stop making me the leader in every group works ever as I physically and mentally cannot do it anymore. I hope they understand and I hope that they will listen, as I need the time to not only take care of myself but also figure out who I am.
I do hope that everyone in this comment section see better days. I also apologize for any grammatical errors as I don’t think I can proof read my comments whilst I’m blinded by tears. Anyway, to the stranger who is reading this, thank you for reading my silly little story and I hope you also figure stuff out.
i love these types of playlists so much.
every day I wake up I just HAVE to remember how much everyone wants me to live up to. They say I'm fat when I eat, unhealthy when i don't eat, too proud when I talk, unfriendly when I don't talk, stupid when I try my best, and I don't even think my irl friends are real anymore. the only people that's keeping me alive rn is probably my online friends
I was that "perfect" child every asian mom would compare their child to. Got good grades no matter what, report cards were always full of A's. Everyone would always point at me if anyone mentioned singing because I could sing beautifully. Did the ABRSM music exams and passed each grade with distinctions. And now here I am, in highschool, getting grades my parents would never have expected me to take, failing maths and physics and barely holding onto the other subs. Idk what happened, but I feel ashamed about myself in every way possible. Gonna use this playlist to keep me up and keep going.
Good luck to everyone of you, we can do it.
From a random hooman being -3-
honestly, good luck with high school. the huge jump in difficulty is something everyone takes time adapting to. it's totally normal, specially if you're talking about maths and physics (which are, like, the most complex subjects). remember to take breaks! and you aren't alone on feeling like that (just look at the rest of the comments)!! you can do this!
I relate so much. I am very glad that you and me aren't the only one in this.... We have lost our shine but the day will come that we'll shine the brightest
jeez as another asian i can relate -
why is it the same for me (Ｔ▽Ｔ)
If you're still not doing good...
Try evidence based study methods and do a lot of practice problems. I'm in the same place now getting low grades when I did really good before but inpm trying evidence based study techniques and a lot of past papers and its really helping me.
I used to be an achiever in like everything, i love to draw af like literally and seeing my old paintings and sketches laying around my room breaks my heart because the universe keeps telling me “You used to be that girl what happened?” And now my grades are like shit fr, the scary part is im not even scared anymore like idgaf if i have low grades, and im not sad if I’m not into arts right now. Its scary af to see myself lose me. I miss me.
Ah shit forgot to swap accounts :D
@@-pratiksha hello kind stranger, your words actually made me realize that I rlly need to change rn because this behavior of mine will lead me to a huge mess. And I’m sorry if you can relate, and yes we should start caring for ourselves again. Thanks for your kind words ma’am. The world should have more ppl like u. You have no idea how much you’ve changed my life rn. And yes, Theres no time for waiting for the right moment, because the moment is now. So let’s clean our rooms, do skincare, work out, take long showers, and things that make a good impact in our lives. WE BADDIES
@@karaathena8993 best of luck
Can I just rant for a sec?
I’m currently labeled as a “gifted kid” which means I’m in all honors and straight a’s. Sounds great until you realize that since I have given myself these high expectations, I can start to cry once I realize I have a B in math. I just so happened to like reading, so I got in honors ELA in 4th. Then I was in all honors class in 6th, breezed through those bc of my decent ability at cheating and to memorize them. This year, I have all honors and straight a’s again, but it’s not at all as easy as it was last year. I don’t know what happened. Right now, it’s just a few Fs on small assignments, and C’s on larger ones. But I know what it’ll evolve to. And I’m terrified because I can’t get myself to study bc I never needed to before, so why should I now? I was supposed to be the smart girl with awards and certificates, but now everything is slowly crumbling and I’m scared.
Thanks :)
"gifted kid" is such a weird and annoying label, try not to let it dictate what grades you should be getting and what you should be doing. i'm going through similar things too, we'll get through this.
2 months a little late but...
You could do what this literal prodigy in my school did:
Write an 8 page essay how a certain teacher's teaching/the school system is miserable and how to fix it.
Her physics teacher changed his entire curriculum because of it.
But if you don't want to bother with that, find friends with similar situations and find common points. You'd find you'll feel a lot more confident when you find people going through the same thing. Find what you enjoy, incorporate it into your learning and studying. Then you can figure fun ways to discuss your academics with your friend and an enjoyable activity.
Similar situation as urs.. we got this! I guess lets keep going and last sentence I couldnt agree more
my feelings as a “gifted” kid :
- always have some competition
- doesn’t want to be too cocky or too humble
- tired of holding onto expectations
- insecure because i feel like i’m becoming dumber each year
- have to deal with teacher’s pet stereotypes
- tired of being asked to give people homework answers
- love faking people out with wrong answers when they’re trying to cheat on your test
- embarrassed of grades and achievements being posted on my relatives and school pages
- wanting to drop out and actually contemplating it
- can’t wait for college because i can work on my own time
- feeling like i have to do the classes my parents want me to and not my own
- having too much to do and feeling like i’m not doing enough
I'm a so called gifted person
I tend to stay calm even at the worst.
I don't freak untill i realise it'll effect me in anyway. I wouldn't want to care about people. A huge cry baby, terrible at academics (working on it)
Crying to this playlist bc I was labeled as gifted but I'm really just average and now its catching up to me as I get dropped from the honors program at my college for being 0.02 points below the required GPA
That must've hurt. You're strong you got this! We can never stop trying though right
noooooooooooooo
Ha, the school system screwed me in elementary and middle school, I'm in highschool now and I am drowning in school work, trying to keep my friends even when i forget about their existence, trying to deal with my anger, developing tic's, sexuality and gender crisis, and depression. (We're not going to mention my social anxiety in that list since I've had that since I was two years old.) Anywho, my life is....what's the word?? Oh yeah, shit.
Also, this playlist is amazing right now considering I am coming off a tic attack that had me breaking down in tears. Thank you very much for this.
ily
I never related to a comment this much, cant even cry anymore
social anxiety at 2 bro. messed up fr fr LOL
stay safe tho
I am this entire comment . Wow never thought I'd relate to a comment as much as this one.
im so scared of when i reach this point
Feeling so bad.. im a perfect achiever but since the pandemic, the times i discovered "rest", "enjoying", "being happy" and "relaxed" that momements made me feel finaly FREE and that's the reason i keep chasing that feeling being "addicted" to it.
But now that i need to go back, back to reality 3 years of pandemic and feeling free cost me my past achievements, not being able to do things the same anymore bringing me stress, anxiety, distress and panic as i keep trying to keep it on covers, trying to fool myself that it's okay but i know it's not..
Just letting my body move it's own
Spacing out
Finishing task im not aware of
Forgetting things
In my memories i already done it multiple times but in reality i dont
My memories getting mixed up to the point i forget even the day, year, my name, age and many more..
My mind not letting me sleep in peace, not being able to know which one is reality, dream, jusy in my head or the past
And many more..
Thank you for reading this.
Hi, here's a guide to burnout kids...
-used to only study because it felt good to be praised as smart
- kids talking behind your back cuz they don't like your simple and study attitude.
- kids only come to you when they need to ask you something.
- not many friends if you have, just 1 atleast and that too who's opposite of you but like you does not have friends.
- started getting bored and anxious because you started getting distracted at study
- Kids only talk to you or contact when they need something
- “You're lying. You must've completed all syllabus already, afterall you score well” . Is what you hear when you say you haven't done anything
- start getting pissed and annoyed at the other kids for this
- started sleeping, reading fanfics to procastrinate and escape your responsibilities
-you feel depressed for not studying but you can't concentrate anymore
-You have lost your focus and confidence and when other kids cut you off, you feel RAGE
-Anger issues meter at high
-Mommy/daddy issues
-that one friend seperated in college
-Have different preferences hence still friendless
-Raging at yourself for falling behind other kids but still can't focus
-Rather than praises, sarcastic praises instead.
-became a depressed potato
-Still friendless except for selfish kids who keep in check to see if you are studying so that they can distract and keep you annoyed
The urge to just boom this on the speakers until my family realizes I'm mentally burned out but I'm too scared to tell them and I'm tired of getting these expectations I'm not sure I can even achieve LMFAOOO
I love how this playlist is the first couple of songs have a angry and frustrated tone but as the playlist keeps proceeding the songs get more of a Sad expression, this is exactly how I felt once I started feeling burnt out at first I was frustrated that I couldn't do more then I just got really upset and quite and just accepted it
same🥺
I thought I was at peace with it. No. I was just unbelievabably numb.
yeah, kind of reminds me of how i used to get mostly as in middle school - 10th grade, and how i aspired to get as in all of my classes… but then 11th grade happened and now i’m just fine with getting bs in my ap classes now; just goes to show how much my standards have lowered since junior year despite how distraught i was over all my grades slipping at first…
I was always the kid with the perfect grades, always over achieving because I felt like I had to or I was a failure.
I got so overwhelmed I couldn't focus anymore, I didn't learn anything, I binged on snacks and got no sleep. I hit rock bottom and had thoughts of ending myself every night. I watched as my grades dropped and all I could to was sat there and cry. I remember the first test I did 'bad' on. It was a B-, my mum burst into my room and started yelling at me I barricaded myself in my room and refused to eat for days. I only left my room when it was time for school but I didn't focus. I remember every lunchtime leaving to go somewhere and cry.
My parents always complained about my grades, they couldn't understand what happened and constantly compared me to my brother and other kids. My teachers were always asking me what happened and I just couldn't do anything. I watched as all my hopes and dreams felt out of reach and started to fade away. I was studying for hours a day, never leaving the house or enjoying myself. My parents still call me lazy and always annoy me about never being happy or smiling anymore. What the hell did they think was going to happen. I study countless hours but I don't take anything in. I even compare myself to back when I was getting A's. I studied around 5 hours a day for straight A's and now I study even more and my grades are full of C's and D's and I just don't know what to do anymore. I constantly feel like breaking down during classes. Whenever my teacher asks me a question I never know the answer and go straight into a panic attack and start crying. My friends are worried but I don't want to be a burden to them so I never say anything. I'm my own comfort and I can't even rely on myself. People always tell me I look depressed or I was so much better years ago. It hurts. I still have suicidal thoughts on the daily and my parents don't help at all. I'm constantly reminded of my past: skinny, well liked, sporty, smart. I've always had anxiety but even back then I was more confident. Now I'm fat despite working out for hours on end daily, I'm dumb and don't understand anything despite studying even more and my confidence is at an all time low. I can't even talk to my friends without ending up on the verge of tears but still have to pretend to be okay.
I have my trophies and my medals I won from dance and other sports, I have my tests I achieved at least 95%/A on. And now I look, only one medal from this past year and it was bronze. All my tests are C's, D's, F's around 60% is my average and the highest score I achieved in the past exams was a 90% but everybody else got 95%-100% in it so the class and year average were higher so it turned into a lower grade. I'm so fucking fed up with life.
Hi, I fully understand. Also comming with problems like social anxiety and many others... I send u big hugs!
When I was younger, I didn't have to try at all to get good grades. I used to not care at all about studying. After all, I was *gifted* and I was a very *smart kid* . I never knew what "studying hard" meant and I had to learn it the hard way. DANG IT SUCKS! Now, I'm stressed. Wish I could go back to the carefree, not stressed me, confident, me.
God this playlist really gave me a reality check and made me remember I used to be a gifted kid too. Keywords; 'used to'
Nowadays I just push away my studying and just mindlessly doodle and then get burntout again because artblock is a lil bitch
Tip for Art block, find why you have Art block. I usually get Art block because when I do a painting for fun people start praising and then I start praising it too, and then I get scared of what if I don’t make a painting as good as this one? and then I become scared of painting leading me to Art block due to pressure. My solution to this problem is to destroy it and throw it in the garbage, or give it to someone else who likes it so I can forget about it, and continue freely with no expectations. In itself, what I am doing is somewhat making Art, but for myself. If I like it I’ll post it to my Instagram Art account but then throw it out because it is weighing me down.
As someone who was never a "gifted child" I relate to this, instead of being gifted I was part of resource classes ever since kindergarden. I tried my best go be as smart and as good as the other kids in my class but all I ever got was C's, D's, and F's. I was bullied for my learning disabilities and treated as less than simply because I struggled more and neeeded a little more extra help than most of the other kids. I'm almost in my final year of highschool now and those events have caused major self esteem issues and problematic ideologies that I have towards myself. I'm doing better than I ever have been in school and finally recieveing the help I need, I'm also working on myself to try and get rid of the idea I have that I am stupid and less than anyone else.
im so proud and so happy for you
I'm glad you're doing good. I'm so proud of you 🤍
Same here, my grades were always mediocre compared to my peers. Not everyone was designed to be the perfect student, and as long you are trying, you are not stupid. I believe in you!
@@turtleby same goes to you, thank you for the kind words they mean a whole lot to me :']
@@dr.baidyanathsoren158 thank you 💙
Vent :
I learned to speak my mother language at 5 months, learned my second language (english) at age 1. I was a kid that can hang onto new materials easily. The eldest born of millitary trained parents. Growing up, i was always the center of attention. I was called a “gifted kid”.
I learned how to draw as a 1 and a half years old. I was birn with what they call a “porcelain” baby face, which means its very precious and fragile.
I was raised in a happy environment, my parents love me, until i entered middle school.
I know im their first baby, their first toddler, their first tween, their first teenager.
They basically still let their trainings get into them, i let it slide alot tho.
I am a social kid, i always smile no matter the situation, trained in harsh environments, even though mentally trained, those words always get the insides of me somehow.
In middle school 7th grade, i started having online friendgroups (aka when the pandemic started). They all seemed nice to me.
I trusted them as a close friend, until they started showing me their true nature.
I was never let go into social activities as a kid often, so thats a new experience for me.
I was a tween, i didnt know about my actions yet, from good A+ grades, i went downhill.
Going to A, B+, B-, C and F.
I even almost get expelled.
My parents asked, “what caused you to be this dumb so suddenly?!”
It somehow, got into me that day.
For 2 years (2020-2022), i was going worse and worse.
They said this everyday.
“Where did my gifted, kind and caring baby girl go?”
2022 January, offline school started again, i met my friends in school for the first time. They were the people that.. has “crippling depression”, “multiple self diagnosed dissabilities”, “ broken family” and stuff, i yell at them because they were getting into my nerves, they had a whole entire breakdown in class, i was seen as the villain.
They think of me as “a gifted talented artist that cannot be in a bad mood” or “the perfect girl”, “the girl that cannot be angry” because i kept my emtions under control, even when i was already in the edge of breaking.
Whenever theyre angry or pissed of at me or someone else, they wouldnt talk to anyone including me. I always think of their silence and heads down on the table as “leave me alone, i need personal space”. And i was right, they thanked me for personal space after their whole shenanigans are done.
But WHEN they piss me off, they would shook me around, mess with my hair, hug and snuggle to me in my private parts, vent to me while im messed in my own mind because of them, annoy the hell out of me until i speak.
When i yell at them out of anger, because i basically lost control of my emotions, they would stood in shock, then had a mental breakdown saying its trauma and my screaming brings back all flooding bad memories, they said it like i havent experienced things like that too. (I experienced alot more, but i dont feel like typing because im tired.)
We would not talk for awhile, after theyre back in their good mood, they would always come to me asking this over snd over again. “Have you reflect on what makes you a f-cking fake friend?”
I feel like im a dissapointment to my family and friends, my siblings winning many competitions, them being the golden students of their schools, my cousins being athletes, my parents being also academically smart..
And im here, a failed “gifted” kid.
I somehow cant explain it properly.. i somehow.. cant..?
how tf were you able to speak English ehen you were 1
@@celinecore
I was taught earlier than other kids. And also because they told me that I am a fast learner.
Even though I learned since that age, my English wasn't perfect on either way.
hi there. this is a year late, im so sorry. okay, so i relate to you very much. ask my friends, the first word they describe me with is 'smart'. And it puts so much pressure to me that I can't explain... my friends are and still are super nice to me but they get on my nerves. when I'm in a messed up state they laugh, they chat ,they sing annoying songs and go 'im jenna and im depressed' and mock me in some way then say 'sorry sorry' with that STUPID innocent face. I don't know how to stop them because i dont think they know they hurt me or annoy me, no matter how much I tell them.
everyone thinks of me as the most mentally stable in my class, maybe I am, but they dont know how the 'perfect tHaT gIrL' cries herself to sleep when she gets a 91%.
so, one burnt out person to another, I want to tell you that someone out here understands, and I do not pity you one bit. people like us are warriors who put on a mask every single day, and when the mask breaks, people run. they'll never understand us because they have never done the same thing.
sometimes i just wish someone would hug me and tell me something that isn't 'im so sorry.' Cause i dont want them to be sorry.
my mask hasn't broken yet and I wonder when it will .
but for you, I'm just going to say: YOU CAN DO THIS! you're going to live a great life and don't let others get in your way. I hope you're feeling better!
@zxnyxie
Hello there! No worries if this is a year late, but oh man.. i feel the burden you carry on your chest. I appreciate you so much for taking the time to reply to my comment and sharing your experience. Sometimes, friends could be nice to you and super caring, but at times, they could be just somebody that is just the complete opposite..
I thank you so so much for the compliment you just shared with me and to both of us. I appreciate it very, very much!
Im so happy, and im so proud that you are able to open up to this reply section. I am proud that you are still able to keep yourself together, though everything is so hard and challenging.
My mental stability is on the edge, im on the edge of losing it all, but i still have hope for me and everybody that relates! Even if it's just a little.
I just recently lost all my friends, but i have made peace with the fact that they're just.. not worth my time and tears.
Stay strong, friend. If you ever feel down, remember that there's still many people that care and love you for who you are, and not for your intelligence nor your grades. But for purely, yourself. ❤️
@@NarumiNazura well, damn, i took part in an international competition a month ago and found the paper easy. The results came yesterday and i didnt get anything, not top 10 per cent, 20 per cent, 30 per cent, or 50 per cent. My mom checked with the comitee and they checked the system... Then even rechecked manually because my mom asked them to. Nothing. Im so disappointed i swear all my friends got top 20 per cent and i cqnt imagine when my school announces the results... And everyone will look at me and wonder 'jenna? Arent you the smartest in your class? Whats wrong with you?' while my friends receive their medals...
I've been feeling down for the longest time. I constantly crave validation not just academically. I have anger issues and a constant fear of failing. I overthink a lot and I have social anxiety. It's honestly because my grades hit the rock bottom the past couple of months, I failed in math, barely passed in physics and got only okay-ish grades even in the subjects that I'm very good at. I'm doing much better now as I gave myself some time and focused on myself but there's still this voice inside my head that at times tells me that I'll never be good enough no matter what I do. But I read this quote that said "You fall just so you could rise again" and I feel that I'm back on the right path stronger and more motivated than ever and I now have a goal that I'm working towards. It feels good that I'm finally out of the anxiety stricken phase of my life.
"this is me trying" by Taylor Swift would've fit in here too, but anyways, I was happy to see "burned out" by Dodie in here
I'm not gifted, I happened to have good grades when I was younger, but I still feel like I have to uphold that image, at least my family still thinks I'm super smart
It's tiring honestly
same, i was never at the TOP top, just one of the the good ones. I managed to get in this school that only accepts 10% of the people that apply to it and everyone else is so much better than me. All my friends have higher grades than me and it makes me feel horrible about myself. Its my 2nd year here and I just want to disappear.
Listening to this playlist while attempting to have the following finished within 5 days:
-4 research paper
-4 modules
-and other incompletes (activities, assessments, projects)
Feels good. And if you're reading this, we got this.
Update: I was able to submit all of my schoolwork a couple of days ago! Currently recovering from burnout, I was able to make it which is why I know that y'all will too :' )
yes!!! you GOOOOOOO!!
You are my inspiration
Good job, make sure you keep yourself healthy, even if work is there, your physical and mental health are more important
How are you recovering from the burn out. I feel so tired and weary.
I successfully finished 20+ assignments in one week the other week. GOD I’m so happy it’s break
I can rarely concentrate because I have ADHD but I somehow found myself writing an essay since forever while listening to this playlist. It really helped alot! I have 3 exams tomorrow and I want to tell anyone that read this to know that your efforts will always be appreciated and stay calm during examinations. You can always let your anger or sadness in this comment, i might not reply but I’ll always read and appreciate them.
I got burned out gifted kid I think
-stressing over everything
-crying over bad grades
-crying myself to sleep over grades and other stuff
-can't focus anymore
-lose motivation on everything
-gets in a bad mood easily
-Not being to stay still
(Probably nothing to do with this but is a problem I deal with)
-anger issues
-Losing friends
-dying inside
-Staying alive cause of the internet
-feeling like a failure
-Listening to this playlist
-Always upset/arguing with someone
I was never the "gifted child" in primary school but it was just labelled onto me since I was someone who got constant A's and rarely I get Bs. The only reason was that I had a tutor that my dad had made me go to every day of the week and at weekends and when I came home I would need to study for 4 more hours with my dad screaming at me at the smallest mistakes at the dinner table. He wouldn't let me eat until I got a complete 100% on the tests that he would give me and finally put on his kind father act and tell me to stop crying. When I failed my selective test which I was surprised by, my parents completely gave up on me. Took away tutoring since it was "wasted resources". Acted like I didn't matter, didn't even believe me when I said I was studying, and constantly called me names and my grades dropped from straight A's to Ds and Es. I always hid it from my parents, but I'm honestly pretty sure they wouldn't care anyway.
I'm sorry about your parents. You are perfect the way you are, and I am soooo proud of you. So work hard, but this time don't do it for your parents, do it for yourself. Have fun, and stay happy!!
I love you 🤗
P.s: You can talk to me if you ever feel like venting.
@@CulturalMemes845 remember it doesn’t really matter and the first priority is mental and physical health
@@LocalLizardFound of course, take care ✧♡(◕‿◕✿)
Hello love, I really hope you're alright
Yesterday was the worst day of my life. So I'm like the "gifted kid" and I always am at the top of my class and yesterday my results came and I went from 1st to 7th, grade As to Bs and I've never been that disappointed in my whole life. My parents were devastated and it almost looked like they gave up on me. So currently I'm trying to figure out how I'm going to face others like friends and family
I don't really understand I tried my best and this still happened, honestly as I'm typing this tears are welling up in my eyes, I keep feeling like I didn’t try at all and that I dont deserve anything. Sorry for the long vent haha
It's okay, in the long run, you are the most important thing in your life, not grades ❤
It’s okay. We got this shit.
This is a little late. BUT, you can do this. You tried your best and that's all that matters, sure the grades weren't perfect but they're still fucking great. And 7th is not bad, 7th is a god damn good place. Look at everything you did, you should be proud of what you accomplished. You CAN do this.
God I'm a hypocrite, anyway sorry this is long. Hope you have an amazing day. ❤
dude did you overcome that. I'm in the same situation and Idk how to ever life with that, and I'm scared.
Listening to this on full volume while studying hit hard
Burned out gifted kid checklist:
- Was told as a kid that you were a "gifted" child but had a hard time at middle-highschool.
- Full-time procrastinater
- Never focused.
- always thinking of your grades during class.
- Saying stuff like "KILL ME IF I DONT GET AN A+" or "IM GOING TO KILL MYSELF IF I DONT GET AN A+ I SWEAR"
- Grades started dropping
- Having friends to give you answers
- Sleeping past 12am thinking about your grades
- Being pressured to have better grades
- Anger issues
- Anxiety
- Socially Awkward
- OCD
- Cry when mad
- Never asks for help from anyone but friends
- Dying in the inside but no one notices
- Laugh off your pain so it doesn't hurt
- Always Relied on having a high grade
- wakes up at 1pm+
- Always worrying about your grades
- Stressed out
- Dont know what to do in life anymore
- never enough for people
- crave academic validation
- Lost in life
Remember to always love yourself, and relax yourself, we all will get through this together. I wish you all the best of luck! ✨
Reading these comments make me realize how much I've learned these past few years.
Dear fellow burnt out gifted kids, you are still gifted.
You are so amazing, and because of that people expect you to always achieve greatness. That is a true impossibility. You must breathe in in order to exhale. You are not lazy, you are tired. You need to do things for yourself, take the time to take care of yourself, in order to do anything, much less achieve greatness. A fire needs both air and fuel in order to burn.
And I'm so, so sorry that the system, a lot of the time our parents too, have failed us. They only see the surface level of brilliance in decline. Don't let them make you only see that too. Please take a moment to realize that a lot of you have been running on fumes for years, and that it's amazing that you've gotten so far.
But it's time to learn how to heal. I know you can do it. I believe in you. Half ass as many things as you need, but don't stop. Find a way to live your life. Grades are stupid and arbitrary and they do not determine your worth. You do. And though I know I'm just a stranger on the internet, I think you're pretty great.
I keep pushing the dislike button instead of "read more"💀💀
I am weeping
Thanks mate..... means a lot to me
Thank you bro. I'm not really a gifted kid but more of a high achiever, i feel the need to achieve high and explode my self because I want to lessen my parents struggles because they are struggling with money and so I thought that if I do well in school I'll have a chance to be successful one day and possibly help them but in the end there's too many responsibilities for me to handle and I'm starting to fear that if I fail that everything will fall apart and there will be no opportunity for me, I need to explode my intelligence that's what my parents fed me but they're not a bad person they just narrate it wrongly and they just want the best for me but I absorb. but with your comment it gave me light and relief, I still feel the need but Im starting to recognize that I'm just human everyone has its limits and we all make mistakes and we get tired theres time where we can't do it because we are tired and burnt out, for that I feel regretful if I didn't finish my works but its ok, its ok to stop and just breathe, life is too short
Thank you that helps a lot
couldnt be a more perfect timing i was cryin bout my drawing wasnt good enough so my teacher said these are nothing if you wanna go to a good collage. I sometimes wanna dissappear and never come back. His words just fucked up my day actually i got a bad grade from my math quiz so they did a combo for me ig. And i ended up crying and my mum says its good no mum its wearing me down and im sick of it. Ill go to psycologist monday, hope shes good. If you read this dont do what i do im just an dumbass who dont know to live plz take care of urself and drink water
ily
@@suzan7867 ily2 bby have a good one
@@xenniexploring6218 u too 💕💕
I bet your drawings are better than you think. Yes, everyone wants to get better, but that takes time! It's okay not to be satisfied with what you have created, and to get upset over it, but I promise you you can get better and you have your own beautify and unique style. Have a good day.
@@bumblegumbee gosh i just saw thank you so much for your kind words
My checklist as the gifted kid!
•Always meeting people’s expectations
•Doesn’t show how I feel
•Always cries when I get a 94-90
•Hates getting in trouble even if it’s just a teacher telling me to not do something
•Always has to be on top
•Tired of always being nice and smart
•wants to be like the other kids in my grade that really don’t care
•Always has to be better than the others but doesn’t mean to be rude
•Tired of being on the top.
•has to ask if I’m doing everything right even though I know I am
•Being expected to always be good
•Having to be an example
😋😋😋😋there’s more but 🥰
as somebody who was forced into a gifted program when I was eight, this hits really hard.
(VENT) I've been listening to this playlist when I was doing my school presentation. It's honestly tiring, it's a weekend and I'm supposed to be resting. But here I am, burned out. But I can't even rest. The moment I try and focus on my mental health, my grades drop. I got a 75 score on my Math grade (C+) and my mom got mad at me for it because she thinks I can't get into my dream school with a grade like this as a scholar student :(( The rest of my grades from other subjects were A's and B's, but she didn't even acknowledged my high scores, and only focused on my ONE LOW GRADE FROM ONE SUBJECT. Out of 11 total subjects, she only paid attention to 1 failing subject and I'm disappointed in myself for it. If only I never focused on my mental health, maybe she would've been proud of me
Okay, I'm just gonna say, if ya want any advice/whatever ya wanna call i, here be it: Your mental health should come before school, before homework, before making people proud, your mental (As well as physical and emotional) health is more important than all of that, even if you get low grades because your trying to focus on your mental health!! You did not deserve your mom yelling at you for that that, your mom needs a reality heck of how much your dealing with!! She should be proud no matter what, and I know this may not mean anything since I'm a stranger on the internet but, I am proud of you. Don't be disappointed in yourself because of a low grade/her focusing on the low grade, yo tried, right? Yo tried and that's all that matter's at the end of the day is that *you tried*!
I recently found out that i never took care of my mental health because of this, i thought i was objectively happy until a few weeks ago when school started again, but i'm really not ok, my socialization skills have deteriorated vastly, my comprehension and concept of affection is so toxic and i failed to give decent emotinal advice to many people i care about because my mentality was flawed as fuck. I have high grades, i'm keeping up with work and my family isn't screaming at me right now, why shouldn't i be happy about it? why do i feel so tired and heavy? why do i think i'm still not enough?
I can relate with parents having that great big eye for the failure. Once in high school, my mom went to school for the releasing of grades, and my rank went down but my grades were up. She wasn't happy about it, and my friend who was there with me told her, 'but her grades went up'. That friend was doing great with her studies but she was always compared to her younger sister who's getting more awards. We both feel that somehow 'unjustified' disappointment. :(
This playlist scratches an itch in my brain-
Little vent if you don’t mind:
In elementary school I was in so many advanced programs and I loved reading, I was consistently told how “smart” I am. I joined band in middle school and we started getting letter grades, my main problem was (and is) that I compare myself to others too much…
My friends were excelling and I was so tired of trying to keep up. I still am, but I’m on this pedestal where if I step down, so many people will look down on me.
I don’t like reading as much anymore, but I’m trying to get back into it. This year my goal is to focus on myself and build healthy habits. Best of luck to everyone else who are also tired. I don’t know how tired you are of hearing this, but *you are capable.*
Dude, same- I get you!! I always compare myself to others. Just switched classes in my school and there’s this girl, super smart and talented, impecable grades, and as far as she’s told me, she’s going through the same thing. I kind of taught myself to stop seeing her as competition and gradually stopped caring about other people’s grades, but my grades in general, I still do compare myself to others from time to time, sometimes to irrealistic ideas, so I’m trying to stop that as well.
Even if your friends might be going forward and you feel like you’re falling behind, what’s most important is for you to try your best. You’re more than capable to focus on your health and I’m sure you’ll do great. Good luck on that
@@IsimpforKavehandImnotashamed I’m glad we can relate- and I’m actually so proud of you for adapting and trying to make good changes!!
And thank you for the encouragement, you’re gonna do awesome too
@@marinara_zauce5666 awee, thank you!! Good luck for you too! Try to take it slowly, it’s close to impossible to turn away in a second from perfectionism, and that’s ok. Remember, you’re doing it for yourself, it’s you against you. And in the worst case scenario, fake it till’ you make it.
Wish you luck! I’m sure you’ll do great, and don’t forget! You’re trying your best and that’s already amazing!
Oh my God THAT'S ME. I loved reading SO MUCH in elementary and primary school. It just. My dreams just died. My passion died. I have absolutely no idea what to do anymore.
Same- Im a B average student now and I always compare myself to people. :/
Used to be that one kid who was good at every single subject and now I have no energy to do anything. It all happened in summer holidays in highschool in yr 8 but I still have no idea what the heck changed to make me this way!!
As a previous gifted child that was left in the dust the minute I started struggling, I can indeed confirm that this is what it sounds like.
my burnt-out pack :)
staying up til 4,5,6 am
waking up at 2 pm
frustrated for no reason
so done with school knowing that I'm barely passing
my brain won't work
anxiety, depression, ADHD disorders
not showing up to anything
constantly mentally tired
my life is boring
mommy issues
crying because of all of this
reading fanfics more than usual
staring at a computer for 12+ hours a day
barely any friends
hating how my brain is wired
screaming in my pillow eventually
my natural gifts:
art
music
singing
writing
fast learner
this playlist is literally perfection bruh istg-
@Mapo Hawk so relieving to hear that im not alone on all this lol
We should all start a support group cause I feel the exact same way
@@hunainahussain5185 i agree, we should :)
@@hunainahussain5185 i agree
my best gift is song writing , dance and singing well atleast now i used to be a smart gifted kid until 4th grade
my heart hurts for all the kids in the comments, i was one of you (mostly still am) but god being a teenage burnt out just sucks so bad, its so shity and miserable
It kinda got better for me (in therapy right now) and while there are just some horrible days, i kinda wish someone had told me it could get better, so i am telling you guys:
it can get better and it will, i love you and i´m proud of you for all the work you do, you are enough and your efforts are enough, remember that
Right now, I am crying as I am writing some essays for the end of my school year, balancing a job, taking care of my younger siblings, social event, and school has been so stressful for me recently, I have always been the "picture" child, used as the example for others, called up to the front to be talked about, or always getting called on for questions. But recently I have had no motivation, no drive, and everything has felt different. I just can't help it; I've broken down so many times. I just don't understand, I can't write, it just isn't coming out of my head like it normally does. I feel like I am failing everyone. If anyone knows what to do please let me know.
~ A burnt-out gifted kid
POV: Your friends say you take school too seriously, you have mental breakdowns from stress, you think everything has to be done, you can't focus, everyone asks you for help, but you don't know how to explain you don't know something, you lash out at others over a build-up of stress, you're known as the smart one in class but you're not always, you're very competitive when it comes to being known as good at something academically to not let the ones who believe in you down, everyone looks to you for help, you do every single little project too detailed, you do so much for others and your grades that you don't do anything for you, you get overwhelmed over every single mistake, you're a perfectionist, you never believe it when someone compliments your work, you feel like you have to do everything, you're the only one who works in a school project, you barely get sleep due to school and stress, etc.
This playlist is so helpful. Sometimes, I burn myself out. Currently in a state of stress since I have the biggest project of the year to present in about a week, but I can do it! (hopefully)
Burned out gifted child starter pack me edition
Gets straight As but they mean nothing
Used to spend 5 hours on a hard question but only guesses now
Used to love school but dreads it now
Scared to get a B bc they think fam will be upset
Constantly compared to a sibling my toxic family
Eligible for advanced projects but rejects them
Dammit you had a perfect description of me
thank you
I constantly get compared to my past self and how much smarter I was back then
i was considered "gifted" as a kid and i still am. they'd look at my achievements, and they'd look at the fact that i'm autistic and they treat me like i'm so talented and smart and "oh you're so special did you know that??". but really, i don't _care_ about school anymore. they focus so much on students being a ""SuCcEsS"" that it doesn't even mean anything anymore. you want success? okay, sure, i'll successfully write of a list of all the issues you've given me, because it's not primarily about learning anymore. it's about crunching to get those sweet penstrokes that judge you on how useful they think you're going to be in society:
1. anger issues. a LOT of anger issues.
2. crushing self-doubts.
3. intense fear of failure.
4. overwhelming apathy.
5. being burnt out every few months.
6. trust issues.
7. a fear of socialising.
8. the surprisingly terrifying realisation that you've probably just wasted most of your life doing schoolwork.
9. loss of sleep.
10. a loss of direction when you don't have anything you need to get done.
11. headaches. a lot of headaches.
12. feeling like school is just a giant roadblock that is actually in the way of what you _really_ want to do.
13. the oddly horrific realisation that you're probably just a number to them. just an example. just fake inspiration for someone else like you.
14. a burning hatred for school and everything it stands for... maybe a bit exaggerated but still!
wow. being """gifted""" must be really lucky, isn't it?
yeah, veeerryyyyy lucky, right? and there's also the crippling perfectionism (although it's a derivate of other topics, but still)
ig that’s what you get for making other kids feel horrible about themselves, karma is funny isn’t it?
Still lucky. Mine's so stupid.
Before pandemic, i have 129 iq (less than average but ok), i was a happy child. Good grades, love learning maths, etc. But after the pandemic, my grades started to go downhill because of online school. My iq is just 111. Now im at the rock bottom of my brain. I fear that i may or may not, is now a miserable idiot.
Tldr: being smart is still lucky.
@@justinkianaalfredo6843 your iq can never “go down”, also a 129 iq is above average
@@zenr_u fun fact
An iq can decrease due to stress
And 130 is an average for my goals
Gifted kid checklist:
-anger issues
-fake smile (no one should see that your hurting, they’ll call you emo)
-tries not to show that you put effort to not be called a nerd
-daddy AND mommy issues
-strict parents
-toxic parents
-bookworm
-infinite insecurity
-ex best friend
-single (for me at least)
-depressed
-burnt out
-tired
-has insomnia
-body pain
-random spurts of laughter
When I started middle school, like every other kid in my country, i took the exam for the "special talented students" school. I got accepted, which was a big deal for my family and everyone i knew. I tried to keep that perfect gifted kid image and do well in school, but i felt empty everyday, the same routine and hard studies, not that i didn't liked it but i was certainly missing something, only 5 months had past when corona happened, and i found a passion i was terrible at, drawing. I enjoyed it so much that i decided to improve and give my all, 8th and 9th grade passed online with me, being the "unknown stupid kid", but i never stopped drawing. In my country, you will decide on what you want to study in high-school, and after fighting to get out of the special school, im starting my first year at an art academy, finally feeling appreciated, feeling full, of both the fear of the future, since its hard to make a living as an artist here, and the love i have for creating.
I'm really tired that sometimes I just want to snap. All people want to believe what they only see but beyond it all the responsibilities, works to do, reaching their expectations, and their unending demands always creep inside of me. Whenever I do things they say I don't contribute enough but when I try taking a rest, they told me I'm very lazy. I really wanna shout, glad this playlist exists, it somehow became my voice.
"I have to be better than them, I'm the one that was born with the talent right? why can't I focus?"
When it starts with brutal you know it's gonna be good
Keep coming back to this playlist because it keeps reminding me that other people can relate. I used to do so well. I used to be great. People used to call me the human dictionary. I slowly started failing, I started losing my spark. Teachers started ruining my mental health and want to learn. I fell into a rut. I started getting bullied, i wasn’t a dictionary, I wasn’t smart, I was an ugly freak with no skill. I used to have friends. I used to have fun. I’m down to the last two people who will even talk to me. Recently I’ve just given up. I’ve just started ruining my own grades. On purpose. I hate myself for it, but stressing over my test scores killed me. It made me want to off myself. So now I spend my lessons skipping, tormenting the teachers that basically destroyed my education, and ignoring the haters. Everyone thinks I’m just stupid, but I used to be the perfect one. And now I’m a little focused ball of chaos that wants to ruin the teachers’ school year for ruining three of mine.
The worst thing is when you're a burnt out gifted kid and all of your friends are as well but they still manage to get A's and you can't keep up with them and you just keep comparing yourself to them because if they can do it then you should be able to too but you just don't have the motivation and can barely get out of bed in the morning.
Omg yes. Especially, when you burn out and they burn out its a completely different thing, for my friend group. They just get burned out of school but I get burned out of life. Like they only are tired from school but life simply makes me tired. Its so difficult to explain to them so I don't and they just think I'm lazy because you can overcome an academic burn out easier than a burn out of life.
Every playlist always has at least three of the following artists:
Dodie
Marina + The Diamonds
Bo Burnham
Sushi Soucy
Cavetown
Wilbur Soot
(Specifically Alien Blues by) Vundabar
Feel free to add on because there's so many lol
omg you are so right
lmao I always see idfc by Blackbear on like every playlist 💀
check out chloe moriondo too!
Wilburrrr go brr
Melanie Martinez? Or no-
I’ve always been amazing at reading, writing, and art. And I’ve held myself to these standards that I have to do amazing. It’s honestly just lead to me being super burnt out and barely even getting assignments in.
I just had the worst thing happen to me.
Because I'm a tad bit weird, I was making small whines of excitement and anticipation because my parents and I just went out for desserts and I was so happy because I had been craving it for weeks. My parents mistook my small jolly noises for me bitching about something they said earlier about missing a friend's birthday party for extra credit. I wasn't upset about that because neither were that close and we'd still have another 2 weeks to figure something out. But regardless, they thought I was complaining about that even though I wasn't. I tried to explain myself but I kept getting shut down. They thought I was talking back and being disrespectful and having attitude _when I was just trying to say something._
So now here I am, getting done 6 assignments that are due in the next few days. This playlist and other people's stories and caring comments have been pushing me and giving me an almost magical boost of hope, that I can get the work done and be finished and get back my video games from my parents. Thank you, playlist maker and commenters for your optimism and reminding me that I can do this.
We can do this, if not by ourselves, then together.
Decided to vent here :)
I'm a high achieving student; doubling up in math and getting straight A's. I have always been so-called 'smart' so getting good grades weren't a hard thing for me to achieve until 8th grade where I started having a burnout. I wasn't getting the grades I wanted anymore and I was just putting my mental health on the line to get straight A's. My parents would comment on my gym grades because I had one B+ in that class. They always forced me to get the best grades but they noticed I wasn't doing well so they told me it was okay to fail. When they told me that I felt kind of angry because they were the ones who made me this way but now they're backing down.
But even after the pressure wasn't there, I kept forcing myself to get the grades that I desired. I weighed my self worth from my grades and started getting really anxious over every single little test or quiz score. My mental health was declining so much I felt like I needed help and I decided to open up. My parents were supportive at first but refused to send me to a therapist and then ended up getting angry at me. Then I started coping with humor and started acting like a narcissist to try and help cover up the things I was going through. But that just made it worse because I felt like a horrible and selfish person. My sister reassured me that a selfish person wouldn't feel so depressed but I still felt horrible. My friends told me that I should go get some sort of help but the only people I could vent to is my sister and my friends. I'm never venting to my parents again :). I hope this would get better.
Edit: I didn’t want anyone else to read this cringey story, but it’s getting better. I’m still juggling math classes, Chinese lessons, soccer, track, little sleep, and school and have very little free time but my mom’s loosened up a bit and she got me a phone. Still feeling a little burnout. I enjoy most of the things i’m doing, but it’s tiring so i’m working on my sleep schedule. Also, she didn’t freak out over my 83 in my S.S. class so she’s getting better, and she has been going to work more so i have time without her. I’m doing ok mentally, and actually want to go to school bc it’s still better than sitting at home.
Edit 2: i’m also drinking more water and taking time to get closer to friends :)
that really sucks, man. maybe she needs to relax quite a bit, overexigent parents usually get their kids burnout and tired at a very young age. i´m so sorry you have to go through all that.
i´m sending you a virtual hug and remember to drink some water ^^
stay safe
I'm so sorry you're going through that I have a bunch of extra activities and stuff too it's hard your parents expect you to be perfect just hang on a little longer I promise it gets better, I hope so at least
@all above, Ty!!
@@wennilin1076 Np! I mean we have to bring each other up since were all we have, right?
i'm glad you got better!
Was a burnt out gifted kid for the past year, but now i have realized i can do better..... A friend of mine paticularly gave me motivation by daily calling me at 5 am for 2 weeks just to wake me up and as a result i was more productive and now all my other friends are getting inspired by eachother and we are all working towards our goals, and rn i am studying for my maths exam and i have been getting up at 4 am daily and going on video call and studying with my frnds and now i am starting to get better at everything including my mental health...
So to people who are feeling burdened i just want to tell you this is were most people stop aka just a step from succes, so no matter how hard it is you can always make it!
And remember that when people say " oh yeah she's/he's a teachers pet", " you got full marks or high marks only because you are gifted".......NO IT'S BCUZ YOU WORKED VERY HARD TO GET THIS AND YOU DESERVE IT NO MATTER WHAT ANYONE SAYS, So thats my advice ig....
The worst part is when these certain phrases echo in your head
"What happened?"
"U used to be better than this"
"I thought you were smart"
Im desperately trying...
Trying to be perfect but wherever i go im just not good enough...
Constantly looking for my own mistakes
Overthinking what others think about me/ how they view me
Im tired of always trying...
*What happened?* Hurts the most.....The fact that They are Actually telling the truth hurts More....Like seriously What happened?🙂
i cant believe i found someone who did Brutal, Satisfied and Oh no for the start, i've been thinking for so long how good these 3 songs would sound without no one in between
tyyy
I started speaking at 6 months old. started school at one year old. learned to write alone, at 3. my family were always so proud of me, and convinced I would be so goddamn successful. then I started being bullied at 6, evolved anxiety at 11, and depression at 13. I couldn't watch most of my classes properly, and didn't have the energy to study anymore. I lost all my potential and now im in my last year, just trying to survive and wake up every day, even though I look at myself in the mirror and feel like shit. I know I could be so much better. it just doesn't seem fair to me
you started school at 1?? i dont think thats actually possible/gen
in any school the youngest you can start is atleast 4
hey, i've been through shitty times too. personally, i think it’s really strong of you to have held on so long. what you went through in your childhood never should have happened, and at one point or another any other person would've lost it. i'd bet you're a really cool person, and i hope you're doing better out there. if you need to vent or talk, feel free to rant to this random stranger over the internet. i hope you're okay. xx
@@cherrybeom4181Maybe they ment kinder garten?
@@user-bn9ki4nb2f yea theres no 1 yr olds in kindergarten
When you just used to enjoy/vibe with these songs but now you know and understand and relate with the lyrics.