The first story is so weird to me! College entrance essays aren’t like…heavily researched data papers. They’re usually personal stories about yourself and I genuinely don’t understand why OP’s former friend didn’t simply write about being the first person in her family to go to college. The culmination of generations of hopes and dreams is a GREAT entrance essay.
Yeah, perhaps that person should have gone a technical route. If you can't manage to even write your own entrance essay, you probably don't need to pursue college, either ever, or until you are ready to do those kinds of things.
This is why I'm glad I went into the music school part of our uni, cuz instead of an essay, we audition and you can't exactly fake an in person audition Edit: spelling
To that same point though so many people will lie in those stories to sound more interesting. And at the same time given that, I feel like it wasn’t even that big a deal that she plagiarized it. Because it wasn’t even for some exam or contest. It’s just using someone else’s story to make yourself sound more interesting. She should’ve asked but to blow up her academic career over it just feels like overkill
Also, even though that essay isn’t a heavily researched pieced of academic writing, committing the act of plagiarism is a huge issue in academia as it shows the person’s practices/integrity cannot be trusted. It could have OP in trouble too. OP could easily have submitted her own writing at some point down the line and got unknowingly flagged for plagiarism since Tia submitted it first.
About the Bully story: "People went through her comments to find out. The girls were part of the same friend group and I think had a crush on the same guy. OP got the guy and decided to destroy Rock Star socially for whatever reason. Turned all their friends against her, made sure to hold a graduation party the same day as Rock Stars so no one would show up. Also, Rock Star lived on the same street as her so saw everyone go to OPs party, not hers." And that's only what she confessed online. Imagine how much worse she was irl.
Okay this adds a lot of context into her character and why rockstar was so afraid of her being in the same company. That shit is traumatizing to go through having all of your friends taken away from you like that and then to have your bully ruin a celebration of an important day in your life by purposely holding a grad party the same day is awful. In rockstar's mind, I assume she thinks she could do the same thing and ruin her work life as well. For how much work rockstar put in to get to the place she is now, she probably doesn't want to lose that potentially to a manipulative person like OP
@@queenautumnween2796I agree that OP is not entitled to work in that place. But for rockstar to rub salt in the wound is cruel. Being a teenager you make a lot of mistakes. I think it’s not fair for something you did in your teen years to define you for life. No OP doesn’t deserve that job, but she also doesn’t deserve to be tormented for something she did 10+ years ago.
@@doid4354she does. she probably scarred that person for life and deserves punishment for it. she was not regretful for any of her actions and did not apologise beforehand.
I think what's really telling is that OP described those tweets as 'rubbing salt in the wound'. Not only does she mentally gloss over the fact that her past actions caused Rockstar severe mental anguish, but she continues to make it all about herself. Yeah, girl, the reason she wrote about what you did (without naming you, btw) couldn't possibly be about the fact that her teenage demon screamed at her on her anniversary and she decided to process the resulting feelings in a way that could help others; it was definitely just about making YOU feel bad.
Exactly. This isn't a thing in the past, it's a very real thing that would be re-entering her professional and personal life in the present. OP's first drunken reaction upon seeing rockstar is to blow up in her face. I think rockstar called it right. The fact that OP had to tell a whole "woe is me" story about how hard her life was, how her boyfriend cheated on her, how she lost her job etc. to try and get the readers on her side before she detailed how she blew up is a massive tell on how she wants to be seen as the victim here. None of that stuff anything to do with rockstar. That's 100% on OP, and she refused to take responsibility for any of that either.
yuuup. my first thought too. And the fact that it seemed to BUG bully in PRESENT day. Imagine getting personally offended by someone putting out MH resources? Its pretty easy to imagine what actually happened that shes not admitting too, because I've been through that. 100% on rockstars side, if thats what happened
@@rainestar82 From what I've seen in other comments, OP and Rockkstar were friends/friendly until they liked the same guy, at which point OP set out to ruin RS's social life. This is what OP ADMITTED to, which A) further displays her mental disconnect, as she earlier dimissed her mistakes as 'something I said when I was 17', and B) really makes you wonder what else she left out, or honestly doesn't even remember.
The person saying that the *student* had power over their professor without acknowledging that the professor is the one with actual institutional power over his student is WILD
Before we read the update I do think she actually did have power over him because she didn’t do anything wrong, but if she even told some friends about it and a rumor started going around that a professor hired one of his students as a naked maid it could totally fuck up the guys career, even if nothing illegal or even inappropriate happened, that’s just how colleges work, especially if he wasn’t tenured. BUT after the update the lecturer was clearly a lying piece of shit
Tommy's "YES!" And slamming the pillow down when Shayne said "update" on the last story is such a great embodiment of the collective audience during reddit stories.
"Her mental health is not your responsibility". Thank you for saying that, Tommy. I've seen so many people living with so much sh*t because of similar situations. It's another thing to offer support, but to an extent. Thank you Tommy
Unfortunately men in positions of power tend to get away with this. He'll almost definitely harass another female student of his and likely has to many before. But like, what do you even do as the victim in that scenario?
I had a lecture who gave me a bad score on my dissertation (a historical fiction novel) because he thought it was “historically inaccurate”. I provided him resources in my introduction proving that it was all based in reality, but I don’t even think he read it. The uni sided with him, even though I had a dozen historians who would back me up. Academia is so messed up
@@KindredKaye damn right, look at Berkly or barkley or whatever college has the people protesting due to people whispering or whatever. What in the name of heck are they teaching over there
Bullies always think that the bullied must have moved on because it was so long ago(I was a different person then), but often, the person who was bullied often still carries scars and/or will never forget the person who bullied them.
As if them putting a concerted effort towards not giving a s*** about what happens when they leave the room actually makes thing less important in reality.
yep. it also definitely depends on the degree of bullying in my experience! like i had some bullies who were downright VIIIIILE and i don't think i could ever forgive them unless they gave me a TED Talk presentation type apology (and even then, there are some i'd never forgive) but there are some that were just baseline "shitty teenager" that if they apologized i'd be like "listen man, we were kids and we all had our own shit, let's move forward and start fresh." clearly OP did something extreme, and Rockstar definitely had to go through *years* of therapy to get to the point she's at now. OP just wants 1. a job and 2. for Rockstar to validate her supposed "growth" to make herself feel better ab her own past
Fr. I still hold a lot of trauma from being bullied in school. With some of my bullies I'm totally fine with bc they did change by the time we graduated. Others not so much even if they did change bc of things they did or said.
The professor is so unprofessional the slightest indication of his student just trying to be his student after their awkward interaction he lies??? He lies about her?? To what save his ass ? he should be fired bc WTH is wrong with him.
He was a paranoid and vindictive ass for sure. The kind of unfair abuse of dynamic that will never be payed for. It's so incredibly wrong for him to have done, no matter if he was being paranoid about her intending to use it against him, since she had given no reason for him to beleive so. Hi was just an entitled brick who had no regard to her humanity and future, ready to use a service but equally as ready to use it against her after. The kind of person who makes jobs like that dangerous for the workers. They're not allies.
Part of me really hopes that a faculty member from the college watches this video and realizes who it is about. The Reddit post is technically evidence in OP's favour, since OP wrote about the incident at least a week before the hypocritical a-hole professor reported her.
As a teacher, I can tell you parents should be labeling their children's belongings-especially clothing. Thirty parents asking where a jacket is can be a lot! Also, Shayne--you are 💯 % correct about one reason teachers are leaving.
I label everything, because why not, my kids still lose stuff but eventually end up finding it because it's labeled, the one time my kid lost a water bottle at a field trip and we used it as a lesson, things get lost and that's life, he cried for like 2 days and eventually got over it. I don't understand how parents are this entitled and delulu
@@magda1448 The child is 3; Many 3 year olds don’t put everything back where they are supposed to go. I used to work in a daycare and things getting misplaced is normal. 12 kids, 12 jackets, 24 shoes and socks, random toys, etc aren’t easy to keep track of at all times.
Yes, the power of labeling… the one jacket we never got back was the one I failed to label 🤷🏼♀️ Also, I don’t let toys go to school unless it’s special show and tell where the teacher is more aware of the toy needing to go back with the kid.
As someone who has been apologized to from a former bully AND also has reached out to a girl from middle school I was really mean to to say sorry… it is 100000% worth it to reach out and apologize. Even if the person doesn’t forgive you, it means something and changes the narrative for both people. It’s healing to hear an apology - always!
I'd hope so! But there are always instances or other ways (ie not a bully, but a different type of person who causes harm in other ways) where apologies could not mean much.
@@AJ-ht3kf I can agree to that, it’s more so just about the principle of it. You don’t have to accept the apology but to hear it is at least *something*
but op said they got a degree for it, i kinda thought tattoo artist also but how they explain the job and company and industry doesnt all fit. and im just super stumped and i wanna know what it really is 😭😭
@@Elizondobass Rockstar and OP were in the same friend group and had a crush on the same guy, OP got the guy and then turned the entire group against Rockstar, and later when Rockstar organized a graduation party, OP hosted one at the same time and everyone went to hers instead. they also lived on the same street so Rockstar would've seen people going past her house to OP's
@@haileyedwards6907she couldve been lying about the degree? or gotten one where she was trained? like not an actual degree but like a diploma of completion or smth
As someone who was bullied daily for several years in school, I can put it this way. The bully forgets, but the bullied always remember. Bullies very often are like "oh yeah, but what I did wasn't *that* bad". But they aren't the ones who are left with trauma, pain, and sometimes scars that are daily reminders of what they did. Bullies will always minimize what they've done and rarely take accountability for their actions. Oh, also. The OP said she was prepared to move in order to work. So far she's been to 2 places trying for that career. There's a whole country, where she can try. I doubt the "rockstar" has gotten her blacklisted nationwide.
Lol get over it;) jk obv lol. fr though bullies usually have problems at home and take it out on others, people aren't 15 their whole lives but also karma is funny sometimes
As a parent of a baby and toddler... that mom hasn't taught her kid things. My 2 year old understands "oh it went bye bye" toys get lost and stickers usually can get replaced. Kids need to learn consequences good and bad.
Seriously op was ridiculous. Lol thinking a teacher is going to pay attention to everything a kid brings to school. If someone asked me to find a sticker that probably disappeared hours ago I would have laughed in their faces
That instructor is disgusting. I feel so bad for the student. I'm a professor and they should have had a meeting with a provost or Dean to figure out best steps. There was no need to lie and make her life so difficult now. I hope he gets penalized.
Remember when there was that Reddit story of a student accidentally sleeping with his professor's wife? The way they handled that one was a lesson in professionalism. This is the opposite.
Yeah, that is probably the best she can do and being straight up what the job is like how she stated in the post would likely clear that from being used against her. If she doesn't or it didn't work, I hope the best for her
Right like I don't understand why he thought she was going to report him. If she did or was going to then she likely would not try to schedule a meeting with him. If she was going to report him she likely would have at that point and he likely would have heard from the administration
As a preschool teacher- we have it in our parent handbook that every thing they need for “routine care” like jackets, water bottles, etc. are required to be labeled- if the parents don’t we take a sharpie to an inconspicuous but easily found place and do it ourselves. We also have it noted that we’ve got enough materials for kids to play and learn with, so no outside toys aside from a “nap time stuffy” are brought in. It makes things clear from the beginning on what the expectations are.
As a parent of a preschooler, my toddler tends to just forget and lose everything, so yeah, everything has to be labelled. one day, my daughter came back with the wrong socks 😂 and lost her plushie... well, it's on us ! we know teachers deal with a bunch of kids, just one is tiring, but 12 or more of them omgoshhh, I salute teacher mental and physical health !
I feel like you about have to have a clause about it so you don't have to rely on the parents to label it and then they can't come back at you when you do it.
This honestly, aside from maybe being a bit snarky the teacher isn't in the wrong, all of these are common things that happen when you don't teach your children to mind their things.
Yeah like okay not all parents can afford labels but every parent should have AT LEAST one sharpie to write their name (or initials) on every inside tag. We did that all the way through to college because I never wanted to accidentally grab someone else's coat either 😂😂
@@dudeorduuude5211 the lecturer did NOT report "conflicts of interests". He discriminated against her without communicating with her, putting her education under some strain, and then he LIED about the encounter and accused her of trying to bribe the lecturer with sex. YOU must be really young if your narrative comprehension is that confused.
@@dudeorduuude5211If anything, the STUDENT should’ve been the one reporting the TEACHER for a supposed “conflict of interests” since clearly the student was professional enough to move on from the situation while the teacher was too childish to just get over it and avoided his OWN STUDENT. Now she has to get punished for it since he LIED about the situation to not embarrass himself like (again) a CHILD. This teacher is insanely unprofessional and immature it’s insane to me.
@@dudeorduuude5211he also fully lied in his report, there WAS no conflict of interest because there wasn’t a conflict. He made this problem much bigger than it needed to, and has so faced no consequences for his actions
@@javanzi2183 what the hell are you talking about. You clearly weren't listening to the story at all. The LECTURER brought it up. Stop accusing OP for the things the LECTURER did. Seriously are you doing this on purpose???
I was severely bullied from 4th to 8th grade for having a lisp. With a few exceptions, everything came from one girl. While I don't recall everything she ever said to me, I remember exactly how she made me feel. I still feel self-conscious about my voice. I don't think she knows how badly she messed me up.
I have a stutter personally. It's not severe or anything, I'll trip over words a few times a day, but it gets worse when I'm stressed and on a bad day I'm pretty much nonverbal. Thankfully I was never bullied over my speech pattern, but I can honestly and earnestly say that nobody worth your time cares about your lisp. Nobody cares about how you speak, they care about what you have to say. I've found the people who care about me the most sit and wait patiently for me to get the words out despite the stutter, and while you don't have to wait for a lisp, the people worth your time will listen to what you say instead of how
My thing with the high school bully story is exactly like Shayne pointed out….they’re not apologizing bc they’re genuinely remorseful, they just want to apologize so they can get the job. OP didn’t care or think about this person until their interview was on the line. If they still think about this years later, the harassment had to be more than just “omg she’s wearing a ponytail and glasses, gross”
@@TawnyRoyal to be fair, remorse is subjective (honestly i think it's one of those made up emotions like guilt and shame that society uses to control us)
i found some comments OP made buried in replies on the reddit post- they were neighbors, they liked the same guy and he chose OP and so did the entire friend group and she purposefully made sure rockstar was never invited to anyone and had no friends throughout their whole childhood, she then purposefully held a graduation party same day as rockstar to make sure no one came to rockstar's party
@@tori6943 I knew from the second OP said "I _probably_ did something" that OP was full of it. The way she wrote the rest of that post and handled things tells us how much growing up she didn't do. Her life will only change once she really takes full accountability for herself.
I don't fully agree with this. Sometimes people do a lot wrong in their life and the work to grow happens slow. And after a while you lose touch, ESPECIALLY with someone you bullied? It is extremely possible that the only chance they would have had to reconnect and apologize was upon realizing who they were during the course of this story.
Hearing Arasha talk about the "gap" between expressing your own feelings and respecting the feelings of the person you're talking to during that expression was amazing. Arasha is consistently such a level head in these stories, and always has such healthy perspectives on things. Love when she's on these episodes!
For someone to be willing to *QUIT* their dream career just bc of the potential of a person being hired…a job where they’re considered MVP in that position?? that person HAD to have done more than “just say a few mean words”. OP is definitely minimizing whatever she did to that person back in high school. Nobody would be willing to uproot their whole lives just bc of a person working at the same place they do.
not sure if you saw the comments explaining it so ill tldr it really fast. they were inthe same friendgroup, op and rockstar liked the same guy but the guy chose op. op then turn all their friends against rockstar and hosted their graduation party on the same day. i imagine rockstar was afraid of loosing on all the relationships she had gained at her workplace to op
and the fact that rockstar was able to report things AFTER the restaurant stuff and get OP blacklisted from the NETWORK? If it wasnt something major and longlasting, rockstar wouldve looked incredibly stupid
That instructor is so slimy. He didnt even hear her out first and if he did he would have known she wasnt trying to do anything bad to him she just wanted to make sure her grades would be fair he is cowardly af . I feel so bad that her life has to change bc of him What a dirtbag
@@kaleidoscopekayley I hope the dbag professor gets exposed for what he did, it's such a shitty situation for OP that even if she tried to clear her name, it would be too expensive and they'd have to deal with all the other baggage
The fact that the bully, drunk, didn't apologise and instead YELLED at the girl she bullied is a clear sign why she was and will continue to be one, job not deserved.😭💀
@@fawamaco1848 The universe is a cruel mistress. While dealing with PTSD from my first two jobs going bad years ago right before the pandemic hit and needing years to process it in counselling (my first job terminated my contract cause I inquired about a department change, and my second job hired me to replace 3 employees and proceeded to berate me daily when I couldn't juggle 3 portfolios until I landed a job during lockdown) - I was asked to partake in a charity soccer tournament. Sounds great and all until our training partner ended up being people from my first job (thankfully at that point, all my ex-colleagues had left so no one there knew who I was), and of 48 teams we were matched up against for the opening rounds... it was my second company. I had to play against the boss that made my life hell. Of course I didn't get drunk and scream at him thankfully, but this kind of shit has to be scripted at some point.
@@fawamaco1848 its called staying home after establishing yourself. They both stayed in their hometown, of course they are gonna come to a head at some point.
Y'all didn't mention it, but Tia didn't just steal the essay. She also stole a spot at the school from some other person that applied in earnest. Definitely a jerk move and she deserved to be exposed.
And it seems like she knew what she was doing was wrong because she didn’t show OP the final draft of her essay because she knew she was taking OP’s super personal essay
@@jayneirajames792Tia absolutely knew it was wrong or she wouldn’t have hidden it from OP who was helping her in the whole application process. I shudder to think what Tia would do to an enemy if this is how she treats her best friend. Tia is a fraud, a thief, a liar and a traitor.
That doesn't completely make sense, since she most definitely wasn't selected based on the essay alone. To be approved she probably had sufficient credentials too, and as the cast stated, it's highly unlikely the board payed special attention to the essay in the first place. It's completely possible she would have been chosen even if the essay part was her own writing, and it's likely not a make or break issue for the school, even though plagiarizing obviously was. I still agree it's a childish and irresponsible thing to do and she probabaly knew it was wrong, but not everybody realizes how seriously things like that are taken by educational faculties. It's not like this was a competing applicant who's essay she stole, just someone's drafts for a different essay, as far as I understood. While yes, some mistakes have consequences larger than the intended offense, I too hope she learned her lesson and that this doesn't break her chances of applying again.
Eh who’s to say the person who would have got in also wouldn’t have deserved it? You don’t get into to school because you “deserve it” you get in because they decide they want you based on a bunch of arbitrary reason. What she did was wrong but reporting her for any reason other than revenge or self preservation is just taking sone moral high ground over something that doesn’t exist
Bully: I just insulted you 10 years ago, why you make my life hard now! Victim: Your "insult" became my personal trauma and I have to go to therapist for years. Be glad I didn't ask you to pay for my bill.
Props to Bailey for picking a cute story to end things off. The ones before it were so intense and upsetting so thanks for leaving space to wrap things up nicely!
Former preschool teacher - when winter hit in Arizona and all 16 kids came in with new jackets, no names written. I would do temp labels with masking tape and a sharpie, no writing on the actual clothes. I was screamed at for daring to put on a tape on a jacket and defacing property, so the jackets wouldn't get mixed up. Same thing happened, different parent, with water bottles at summer. When we all shop at the same big box retailers, there are LOTs of multiples, at least a last name :( Same with Tommy's friend, I left teaching because of the verbal abuse from parents and lack of support from management when parent did the above. Please put names on yours kids things and leave toys at home. We can look, but we cannot guarantee finding an object again.
Yeah as someone who just WENT through school, i understood the teacher here. It truly did not sound snarky, just a direct plea from the parents to have some understanding of how difficult it is. Parents expect teachers to basically coparent and its rediculous.
The preschool my boy goes to has a "if it's not labelled it's not staying" rule, they also don't let outside items (toys) into the school... My son loses his hair clips all the time, they're just keeping his hair out of his face since he doesn't want it cut, he gets sad when he loses them but I tell him to either put them in his pocket when they fall out or he can just be sad for a little bit.
Was looking for this kind of comment, because keeping track of that many personal items is impossible! I did my best, but my class rule from day one was to leave any valuable or important items at home. I left teaching too, largely due to ineffective and poor leadership. Hope you’re enjoying whatever you’re doing now!
On the story about having bullied somebody in high school, y'all are 100% correct that apologizing years later makes a difference if and ONLY if you don't do it expecting ANYTHING in return. Somebody reached out once to apologize to me for something they did to me in High School and I forgave them UNTIL she revealed what she wanted and threw a public tantrum when I told her no, the end result is that I think even less of her than if she's never apologized at all.
Exactly, the only reason she would have even apologized is so she could have a chance at that job, which is totally ridiculous because an apology only matters if you genuinely want to apologize. She probably didn't even remember that she had made that girl's life hell until it was mentioned.
I would've respected the bully SO MUCH more if she send an apology e-mail to 'Rockstar' right after she figured out who she was. She could've admitted that she only contacted her right after the rejection because she just got reminded of who 'Rockstar' was. She could've told her, that the only intention with the e-mail was to show remorse and not trying to gain forgiveness or anything else. She could then tell 'Rockstar' that she would search elsewhere to find work and wish her well, or something like that... It shows growth...
shayne talking about the price of colleges and being about keeping people out is so true. i'm from a country where we have free colleges, it's literally 100% free, but to get in you have to pass a test that is super dificult and people that come from private schools that payed for their education have better chances to pass it than people that studied in public schools. so even when the education is free they make ways to keep people out.
If everybody were allowed at college, you’d see many people failing because they can’t keep up with the courses. It’s always possible to get in with enough effort and using online resources.
@DDRFaQ okay, but at least they would have the opportunity to be at a college to see if is that what they wanna do. i just think it's too hard and a lot of people that get in don't wanna be there, they are there because their parents want them to be and people that would love to be at college can't get in.
27:54 as an ex daycare worker and practicing primary school teacher, when you have 30 parents at pick up asking the same damn question when you’re trying to wrangle other kids, clean up, sort out paper work, accident forms, work going home and countless other things you need to keep on top of.. parents can read the damn sign and label their clothing. it keeps your teachers sane
I love that HS Bully was essentially like "I can't believe I'm getting consequences for my own actions! I was a teeanger! I know what I'll do! Make even MORE bad decisions as an adult!!! And blame others!!" Ugh, this is for sure a Karen in progress.
@@Steve-Fiction Mental illness is not a valid excuse to harm or lash out at others. If HS Bully is suffering from depression, she is responsible for her own physical and mental health to seek treatment.
I can confirm, as someone who worked in daycare/preschool, it is always the parents. The kids even if they’re frustrating would never drive me to leave. The parents for sure would 🥲
yeah their initial reaction to the story was so weird and judgey of the teacher for very normal behavior/requests. like "she's not being helpful" even though the OP is acting insanely entitled and self-absorbed.
And so many parents aren't willing to do the bare minimum of labeling their kids clothes. How is 1 person suspossed to keep track of what kid is wearing what coat. Especially in a classroom of 30+ kids with multiple coats each. If every parent took responsibility and labeled, no clothes would be sent home wrong.
Yeah, that's not the first time I thought they were immature but I felt like I was listening to a bunch of self important 16yo who had never interacted with a small child@@kaileyahearn6530
I dropped out of student teaching halfway through and the students were in no way the problem. The administration and their expectations are what overworked me to the point of severe burnout
16:38 As a housekeeper, I can confirm that occasionally I get clients that want to run over their work stuff to me while I'm working. Just read out a lesson plan or speech or something to see if it scans. It's really cool actually, I learn all kinds of stuff
That's pretty cool, I keep a chalkboard and I can see myself doing something like this in the future if I get to a point where housework isn't something I can do myself.
The prechool story- I've worked in preschools. Teachers have A LOT of responsibilities without parents adding extra tasks. They simply cannot keep track of all the toys brought from home and it's unrealistic to expect that of them. A lot of centers do not allow toys from home for this reason. Parents get angry if the toys get lost or broken but fail to realize how busy teachers are already.
"Should I beg for forgiveness?" Not "apologize for what I said and did and how I harmed this person" but "should I do the thing that serves me". The second, *the second*, OP found out about the likely blacklist, they had the opportunity to reach out and properly apologize and try to make amends, but they chose to wait till it was apparent that they wouldn't get what they want without some effort to consider doing something about the situation.
Went into the comments of the fifth one to see if anyone knew what exactly op did, and apparently she and the other girl were friends and had feelings for the same guy. Op ended up dating him and decided to completely destroy the other girl's social life, turned all their friends against her, and even held a graduation party the same day she did so nobody would go to hers, and I'm sure many more things I couldn't find. So yeah, definitely a little more than just "something I said at 17"
Jesus, no wonder Rockstar was scared as hell. I imagine Rockstar really loves her workplace and her coworkers and the idea that OP could come and destroy all of that for her *AGAIN* really terrified her.
@@GubbiGapNo. Rock Star is the name OP gave the other girl in her story. Ngl when they first said “RockStar” my mind immediately went to the video game company that made GTA and Bully Scholarship. I guess there’s 2 different types of people though. The ones who think of the energy drinks and the ones who thinks of the video game company.
Med student’s gf needs therapy. She applied for med school because he did, although she didn’t want to go. She needs a therapist to help her get her head straight & figure out what she wants.
25:13 yeah as the parent to two young children, I feel that I can say: you MUST label your child's stuff, you SHOULDN'T take toys to school or anything extra outside of clothes, water bottle, jacket, and such, and if your child has symptoms of something and you take them to school you ARE THE DEVIL. This mother is delulu. All these things are specified as school rules at the beginning of every school year, they are common sense, and if the mother feels attacked by the notes MAYBE she's doing something wrong and it stings 👀🤷🏻♀️
100% this, as a parent of 3 young kids, the teachers at the school make it VERY CLEAR that your child should not bring their own toys to school, nor should anything not labelled be expected to be searched for....Also, a fucking sticker?! this mom is complaining about the teacher not searching for a sticker?? that mom is far past the label of DELULU 🤣
I wrote my name on everything, or would draw a little star on the tags of stuffies in purple… the tags didn’t have room for my full on name. Sarah is just the first part of my first name. I have a hyphenated first name (really common in French Canada, and in French culture in general I believe) and a long ass French last name that I just don’t use online because i was bullied for it immensely. I would also write my grandma’s native name since I didn’t have one yet at the time (traditionally elders give a child a name that fits their personality once they reach “adulthood” so as a kid I didn’t have one.) no one could pronounce it and I was the only native kid in school, even if I was white passing I was bullied a lot for being native so everyone knew.
my mom runs a daycare with just 6 kids and they ALWAYS lose toys when they bring them. she has made it clear that she can’t keep track of a small toy when she has to keep track of the kids themselves. and bringing sick kids is insane. the amount of times my family has gotten so sick because a parent has brought a sick child and just didn’t tell anyone is insane. unfortunately, sometimes you have to be “snarky” in order to get parents to understand that its still THEIR CHILD. she always starts off kind asking but sometimes they don’t listen.
Tommy needs to realize he is a comedy masterclass and enter his confident era because there's no WAY this man apologized for making a Tamara joke. Everyone was thinking it!!!! He has been my favorite cast member for years because his humor is sooooo good! WAKE UP TOMMY 2024
For the teen who wants a 70k car: Talk to him about the insurance. I bet he has no idea a 70k-dollar car needs over 2k in insurance every year. Also, parts replacement and maintenance could be $$$. He most likely only wants a car that expensive because he's 16 and has no idea what a car like that actually entails. Plus, he's old enough to be given insight on never using all your savings on one purchase. I think a convo about doing things just to impress other people would also be appropriate. Edited to add: Annie in the med school story is approaching some sort of breakdown. Her friends should be very concerned that she would react this way to her long-time boyfriend. OP obviously can't give up med school for Annie. It's insane to even suggest it.
My thinking with the 18yo car story too is that it sounds like they had a deal that insinuated whatever he worked for and earned they would match so there is maybe an argument to be made of whatever money he made from a paycheck gets matched but not from stock options (good for the kid like wow!) and they could be honest like said that they didn't expect to pay more than $10k or so but the fact they can easily afford it makes it hit a lil different. So I think they could talk to their son and lay out the options--hey son you *could* get this expensive car, but then this is what YOU will pay in insurance, this is what YOU will pay to maintain it and keep it in working shape and if it gets damaged or totaled in an accident then that's for YOU to take care of bc you're now a young adult and this will be YOUR car. OR we give you X amount of money for a reasonably priced car and then put X amount of money into a savings account to be used upon college graduation or to be used as spending money etc. Hardly any scholarships cover actually all costs so that could go toward student housing or books or spending money for food etc. There's so many options.
@AdonAKingALegend I personally pay 900 every 6 months on my car. It's a foreign import. Brand new msrp is like 46000. So a 70k car is most likely wayyy more in insurance.
@@TrueImmortality my rate is on a used car. Practically 400 dollars a month. I’m under 25 . Edit: I do have one red light ticket on my record. Within 2 years, I will have paid more to insure the car than its current resale value. (About $4100)
The thing about the first story (I'm not even fully through the video) is that if OP didn't report Tia for what she did, then when it came out that it wasn't Tia's essay and Tia undoubtedly admitted it was OP's, OP could be in a world of academic trouble for knowing and letting Tia get away with it. Assisting Tia in plagiarism (which is what letting her get away with it is) could ruin OP's reputation and be a black mark on their record. Tia ruined her own dreams when she plagiarized. Period. OP did the right thing by letting the college know. "If telling the truth makes you look bad, it's not the fault of a truth-teller."
yeah that's what I'd do as well, not so much being an ass to Tia, but I'm covering my own ass because plagiarism strike goes both ways. OP's excuse of "oh I only gave it to her as an example of this and that" would never fly in front of any respectable academics because there are cases of intentional/consented plagiarism.
I thought it was a bit unbelievable that OP didn't know what would happen. At my college getting caught plagiarizing was grounds for immediate expulsion.
I will say I think it's a bit rich for OP to say she thought Tia's punishment wouldn't be that bad. As a student, OP would absolutely know the consequences of plagiarism.
There's also the issue that every scholarship and spot at a highly seeked after college comes at the expense of someone else not getting those things. Someone who might have actually deserved that scholarship could have barely not made a cut and in their place a plagiarizer gets in. There is only one form of justice there and yes, American education system is ruthless and cruel and unforgiving. But it is that for millions of people.
When I was 22 I got an apology from someone who didn’t treat me very well when I was 15. There was no “need” for him to do it but we met again at a mutual friend’s birthday celebration when I was 22. I really appreciate it, even two years later.
Exactly. Mother is acting entitled. Plus, kids forget their stuff (especially Kindergarten age) all the time or accidentally take another kids' stuff home. I remember having to label water bottles, thermoses, crayon boxes/pencil boxes, jacket labels, etc Edit: she's in preschool. Even worse for the mom. LABEL YOUR KIDS STUFF!!!
I don't get it. Was this person never a three-year old with parents? Surely I'm not the only one who remembers getting screamed at for losing ANOTHER pair of gloves this year?
I don't agree about the Lego part. They legit paid for those Legos so I think they should have been returned. The sign was super passive aggressive which wasn't great. But the story is a total ESH.
The commenter saying the STUDENT hired as a SEX WORKER (adjacent) has “a tremendous deal of power” over her LECTURER is insane. Real Reddit take there.
@@Matt-xc6sp ...huh? she clearly wasn't though, she made it clear as day she would remain professional and the TEACHER WASN'T. HE with the decision HE made could have risked HER entire career. SHE had given him no reason to be so entitled and paranoid. Just listen to yourself. That's NOT an equal dynamic there. She was the one who's studies were being risked with HIS pisspoor behavior with avoiding her and AVOIDING HIS DUTIES AS HER TEACHER! You literally think she had any reason to hurt his work for no reason whatsoever?
also, like. NOTHING happened! Like, sure, if OP had been naked/in underwear and KNEW that it was her lecturer and forced him to go along with it, then yeah she holds a lot of power. But OP didn't let it get that far! She tried being professional!
That was kinda giving armchair psychology though, and I think Shayne would say so himself. There is NO way to actually draw that conclusion with what little information we have about OP or the situation.
@@digitalgloop12 ehhh you'd be surprised. What I've found is people who major/get psych degrees are either (weirdly) the most delusional or the most self aware people ever. Shayne is definitely in the second category and the observations he has... he may not directly be using his degree but hes verbalizing things in a way a LOT of other people CANT which is significant to me at least
Love the line up for this episode Tommy: *hasn't been in school for a century* Shayne: *was in school for a century* Arasha: *started school this century* Edit: for those who don't get it. Yes I know that a century means 100 years. No I did not mean decade. Figured it was an exaggerated obvious low hanging joke. Making fun of the other low hanging jokes. such as the fact Tommy is called old mostly from himself, despite the fact he's only in his very early 30's but that can be considered as ancient in internet years. Arasha is often referred to as the child or baby of the group because she is the youngest of the cast being mid 20's which adds more jokes to Tommy feeling old compared to her. And with Shayne, cmon guys it was an ongoing joke for years within the Fandom and among the cast and crew that he was still trying to get his college degree.
Tommy saying “her mental heather is not your responsibility” was something I REALLY needed to hear right now in regard to my own marriage. Thank you Tommy.
Saying solved is ridiculous. Conversation could have helped some but don't act like talking is a guarantee things will go your way. In the case of the maid it certainly didn't. Nor would the bullied have accepted the apology
One time a grad student I knew caught two students using chatgpt to make their final essay, they got reported and the heads of the department plus the professor got involved, that's just for using AI using someone's paper is unacceptable
@rebecky5ever A student at my high school use chatpt and submitted it to the English Teacher while I was in the room. The submitted paper stated at the top that it was from Chatgpt..... 😅 The teacher called the sleeping 😴 student forward and showed him his submission..... I said please rewrite the assignment by yourself and then you can go back to sleep
Unless you’re from my country i guess… someone (A) from X uni plagiarized someone else’s (B) from Z uni undergrad thesis… B reported it, but A lawyered up and sue B for defamation, B decided to just make public apology and pulled her ALREADY PUBLISHED undergrad thesis
"didn't get a job because I was a bully in highschool" I said good so fast and was shocked when Arasha said it at the same exact time I did, I almost choked on my noodles 😂😅😅
My wee granny used to say, "Be careful not to step on people on the way up, because you might need their support on the way back doon." This came to my mind when hearing the story about the high school bully who failed to get hired.
With the bully story: it absolutely makes a difference if the bully apologizes. I had a middle school/high school bully who ended up at the same college as me to take a couple classes, a couple of which were small and I was in so I wouldn't be able to avoid him. I requested a meeting with a mediator where I laid out why I had issues with him being near me. My bully owned up to everything, not just the instances I brought up, but even mentioned a few others I hadn't. He apologized for everything and said he understood if I would still struggle to be around him, but he wanted to do what he could to make it right. I have so much respect for this man now because he not only came to the table and agreed about what had happened, but he didn't try to downplay or make excuses and instead brought up even more things he had done. Now, years later I have nothing but respect for him and I hope he's doing well. I wish my other bullies had an ounce of the courage and character he does.
My little sister had a really awful bully in middle and high school who had once been a friend and then suddenly turned on her. Years later (they both just graduated college), that bully reached out to her out of the blue one day to apologize for everything she did, took responsibility for her actions, and promised to try and make things right. They're back to being casual acquaintances now, at the least, and I think having that apology helped my sister move on a bit from what happened. It definitely makes a difference!
@@abigailstraka7162 a bully that owned everything what he did is a huge part no doubt for recovering, or even leaving it in the past. The OP in this case didn't feel apologetic and still blame others, and the karma just keep increasing for her, serves her right. I wish my bullies had their karma too. But they are seeing success and better than me in some way 🫠 at least one of my biggest bullies "apologize" to me because we both are slightly drunk when I laid out what trauma he had inflicted me with.
I'm in my 40s and still remember something that happened to me in junior high. In my 30s, I was diagnosed with anxiety, and it's taken years, but I can trace it back to that time.
I'm 33, and my junior high school bully reached out and apologized to me a couple years back about how he treated me. We shot the shit and caught up. It turns out he was having issues of his own way back when. I kind of figured, but having the courage to apologize and open up all these years was so touching to me. I fully forgave him
Story 3: Speaking as a former preschool teacher, kids that age have the same items a lot of times. Emily and Penny will come to school with a pink jacket that is 4T because both moms went to Costco. Penny wore the jacket to school, but Emily didn't. Items fell out of cubbies and at nap time the Teacher or Assisstant went to put the items back in. They know both girls had the jacket but forgot or weren't there at drop off to know who wore so put it in Emily's cubby after looking for a name but not seeing one. Penny gets picked up by Dad, and dad doesn't know that she wore the jacket because mom did drop off, so the jacket goes home with Emily. After a complaint and the teacher puts a note asking to label. The teacher probably has asked to label things a lot throughout the year so a note goes up. We try our best to keep track of everything but it's impossible to keep track of all the items. Also keep your kids home if they're sick
exactly. shes already being underpaid to deal with a bunch of little kids, she cant also magically keep track of all their belongings that are being sneakily passed around. the fact that the mom had the audacity to ask where the daughters sticker was tells me that shes not being reasonable
See I was gonna say this too! I work at a preschool and for some reason parents a lot of the time don’t like to put their kids names on specifically jackets and water bottles and when you’re dealing with small children, depending on their age, they can’t exactly tell you what is theirs and what is not and if you weren’t in class all day, you wouldn’t know what they came in with. Also, I can say for certain that if I find a jacket on the floor, the first thing I do is I look for a name on the jacket anywhere and if I can’t find a name, I put it in the lost and found because at that point it’s not my problem anymore.
The bully wanting a job didn't express any remorse for the bullying at all. She was just whining about how unfair it is that she has to face consequences. Bullies always jump to "I was x years old" or "it was x years ago" as if that somehow means that what they did doesn't matter. She then goes on to make more bad decisions (she couldn't at least call work and say she's sick?), finds out her boyfriend also makes shitty decisions, and somehow this is all her victim's fault!? Sounds like the character reference she got is still completely accurate. We got this for HER POV and it looks this bad! Hell no, I wouldn't want to hire someone like that.
As a teacher, thanks for being so understanding of the teacher's situation in the third story. Kindergarten is a lot of fun, but parents often have unrealistic expectations and they often are very verbally abusive while teachers just have to deal with it
Gotta say the combo of Arasha, Tommy, and Shayne is one of my favorite combos. As a young 20-something (with a bit of a stunted social life bc ✨trauma✨) I've learned so much about life from learning from yall and I appreciate everyone who works on this show.
As a preschool teacher, it’s incredibly difficult to know what your four year old brought to school let alone what all 20 of my students brought in. We’ve started not allowing personal toys in the class because of situations just like this. Also, totally agreed that parents tend to be the bigger problem.
1:01:01 That’s such a great point Arasha made that I didn’t even think about. Of course OP is going to want to fix things even though they’re irreparable, it’s all he’s ever known regarding relationships. She’s so insightful
53:22 for the bully..it was life giving karma. people can change. she did not,because she never expected consequences. she should reach out to the girl, apologize,but then leave it. she has plenty of life ahead, she can learn to work in a new field,and reflect and learn from her mistakes
Former teacher here to weigh in on story 3: many parents like to think their child really is the only one you, as a teacher, should care about. We try our best to help keep track of every student’s belonging, but it’s true-all the parents shop at the same place so all the kids have the same jacket and water bottle and lunch bag. It’s not that hard to write your kid’s name on something. Teachers have way more important things to do than to waste time and energy on also taking inventory on every belonging from home. After being asked so many times about their child’s jacket and after explaining so many times that it’s impossible to tell one jacket from another to someone else, you’re going to have to be blunt and spell it out for them. The sign is clear, and they’re just taking it as rude and sassy. Might be a controversial opinion here, even to other teachers, but none of these guys have taught a classroom of 20-30 children and I don’t think they can truly get it. I appreciate all three of them being empathetic to all sides, though. Not trying to “call them out” at all. These are all opinions, and I’ll accept if mine isn’t the right take either-I did say “former” teacher. We all have our own perspectives.
This is why I'm absolutely fine homeschooling my son. One less crazy kid in the classroom that struggles with his attention span. And I already know what he responds to and what he needs. Why would I expect a teacher who has 29 other kids to look after to understand each fine detail of how my kid needs to learn? Parents really need to think about the fact that teachers are human just like them.
Completely agree with you!! I’m a teacher and after listening to the story, I thought it was totally clear that the parent was the asshole. But after listening to their opinions, I wasn’t sure if I was being biased. I just don’t have the time or energy to keep track of every student’s belongings. The notes didn’t even come off as snarky to me, moreso matter-of-fact about the situation.
In the first story, the OP wasn't materially harmed. You know who WAS harmed? The person who SHOULD have been given the scholarship Tia applied for dishonestly. College admission and especially scholarships are a zero-sum game. Thank goodness she got a wake-up call at 18, rather than pulling a similar stunt later down the line (say, at work) when consequences could be a lot worse.
OP also theoretically could have been implicated if it had come out naturally that Tia had plagiarized, especially if OP had known about the plagiarism and not reported it. I wouldn't risk having that on my record
I think you'll find that the admission part of that will become a lot less of a zero-sum game soon. At every conference I've gone two for the last two years they've warned us about the enrollment cliff that's coming due to the drop in birth rates 18 years ago. We're right on that cliff. I've seen so many schools try to come up with a game plan. So far it seems like the best one is to just hope enough people apply in the first place. This isn't the case for the highly competitive universities, of course. Just us normal ones
"You don't have to have kids." Thank you, Tommy! It's not a fucking competition. You're creating A PERSON. Maybe the most complex thing in the universe. Just don't if you can't handle the responsibility.
That last story made me literally smile and giggle like a schoolgirl the entire time oh my gosh. It’s something straight out of a romcom/fanfic and it’s so fucking cute and wholesome. OP sounds like a hilarious person and her BF is literally so perfect like wow (the WINK??? The SECONDS REFERENCE??? I’m fainting bro😩). I wish them nothing but the best honestly. My heart is so full♥️ (Also I felt it in my SOUL when she said “he’s a total nerd that’s very attractive and I’m so into that??” SO FUCKING REEAAAL😭)
Rockstar more context from a reddit reply: I remember the last time this was posted and people went through her comments to find out. The girls were part of the same friend group and I think had a crush on the same guy. OOP got the guy and decided to destroy Rock Star socially for whatever reason. Turned all their friends against her, made sure to hold a graduation party the same day as Rock Stars so no one would show up. Also, Rock Star lived on the same street as her so saw everyone go to OOPs party, not hers.
It's so weird like, why? Op you already won, you got the guy, you are the winner. Why destroy the loser's life? I'd get it if the girl who did NOT get the guy destroyed the other girl's life out of jealousy, but this???
third story: i worked in childcare for 4+ years, including the entirety of covid. if you want your child to have a teacher who is able to track your kids sticker, you should look for one on one care or smaller groups. sometimes the problem is that you’re looking for a form of care rhat the service you’re paying for doesn’t provide. that is not the staff members fault, that’s on you to find the type of specific care that you want for your child. the amount of times parents got pissed at me for their kids struggling in our program because we didn’t provide one on one care was ridiculous and was a latge contributing factor to me leaving that job.
What irks me the most about the med school story, “live like refugees” lady he’s studying to become a DOCTOR just play the long game man and you’ll live comfortably enough to
Story 5: That's the thing with consequences...you can't outrun it. In how it was said, OP planning the begging or apologising is not even because OP felt sorry but only due to OP seeing it as a step to get what they want, the niche job. Agreeing that not detailing the bullying was telling.
Its also really telling that she went into blaming her for ruining her life. Like, she didnt make your boyfriend cheat. She didnt make you not go into work. She also isnt responsible for not getting your old job back.
Sooooo, im pretty positive that mom complaining about the teachers notes is actually about my partner. If not, its somehow the same story. The jacket, the sticker, the lego toy all line up. However this kid was in 2nd grade. Old enough to be responsible for their belongings. She also was alone with three children with needs, including a runner. She could barely keep the kids learning, let alone keep track of their belongings. The notes were not quite worded like that but i would need to double check with her when she gets back from her trip. The sick thing was school wide policy. Its a private school and we had a wave of covid come through. They were about to shut down the school because so many teachers were out and they were shortstaffed. Mom would send the kid multiple times without lunch or a coat in the winter. This is a private school with no cafeteria. Bring lunch or you dont eat. My partner literally messaged mom and got no message back. So my partner would often give this kid a part of her lunch. These are all rich ass parents driving teslas and fancy cars, this girl wasnt poor. Her mom is just an idiot The coat one was also insane because this lady was asking my partner to find a coat at dismissal. She told the mom that she couldnt leave the kids unattended in the quad to wait for their parents while she searched the classroom and playground. It took a week because the other family that took it just didnt know. What is the school supposed to do? Search peoples homes?
Found in the comments on reddit re: bullying story: “What OP did was pretty awful, and she tried to minimise it in the comments, but gave more details that makes it clear she wasn't as innocent as she made herself out to be. Classic mean girl stuff. TL;DR: She ostracised RockStar from their friend group and trash talked her behind her back so none of their mutual friends would talk to her. Because RS had a crush on a guy, who then asked OP out, and OP thought it was awkward that RS had a crush on her BF. RS was isolated for the rest of high school. To top it off, they were neighbours. The comment where OP explains what happened: Here’s what happened (at least, as I remember it): I had known this girl since elementary school. My family moved across the street from hers the summer after sophomore year. We started to hang out a lot, and soon she was referring to me as her best friend, even though I didn’t consider her mind. She was a little needy and a little socially awkward, and an overachiever, even back then. She was kind of exhausting to be around. I decided I didn’t want to hang out with her as much, and then a guy she liked asked me out. He and I started dating, and I stopped hanging out with Rock Star. Most of our mutual friends stopped hanging out with her as well. I found out years later that she spent the last two years in high school feeling very bitter and alone and blamed me for it. I don’t know if what I did was bullying, but I know she used the term “bully” to describe me, so I’m at least trying to be respectful of that. I will be the first to admit what I did at 17 wasn’t kind, but I didn’t find out she felt the way she did until we were all about to graduate from college. We ran into each other awkwardly in the Target parking lot. She got so flustered she left one of her bags behind, and I reached out to someone we’d both been friendly with to figure out what the deal was. Further comments on there explaining in more detail: I know I probably said things behind her back that set the tone for how other people treated her. I mostly cared about getting what I wanted, which was for people to hang out at my house on the weekend and not hers - and that I got. I know it got back to her that I’d told people I didn’t want to be friends with her anymore. (I know I didn’t say it that nicely. I’m sure it was, “Ugh, Rock Star is SO annoying! Why does she follow us around everywhere?”) I’m really, really trying to be self-reflective here. I’m sure I did make comments like, “Ugh, Rock Star. She’s SO annoying. Let’s not invite her.” I know my mom asked her mom (we were neighbors) if she was having a graduation party our senior year, and Rock Star’s mom said, “Rock Star doesn’t want one because she doesn’t think anyone will come.” I cringe when I hear that now because, well, they probably wouldn’t have.”
OP saying "I mostly cared about getting what I wanted" in conjunction with her original post and updates REALLY shows how she has not changed at all since high school. As Shayne and the other cast members said in the video, OP didn't care about righting her wrongs, she only cared about her own selfish interests (the job)!
The last story had me clenching my pillow like a high school girl. That so embarrassing but the dude was so smooth! I hope they r happy for a long time 😊
The note that the teacher wrote was directed to all the parents with that jacket/water bottle. parents do not listen to updates or notes unless they think it is specifically targeted to them so using language like “you” or “your child”gets them to listen
With regards to the bully story, the woman who was bullied in high school would 100% not want her former bully working at the same company as her no matter how much time has passed she would never have forgotten about it. Take it from me as someone who is now 39 and because I was so verbally bullied/harassed by one guy in senior school(which would be high school in US, but I’m UK based) about the way that I spoke daily for about a year and a half that I have hang ups at this age about the way that I speak even now, like a customer corrected me on one word and I broke down in tears. If you were bullied, you NEVER get past that!!!! OP deserved everything that she had coming to her IMO x
The med school story: Just another reminder that people (especially in relationships together) need to communicate with each other. I know from personal experience that letting things build up is unhealthy and does not end well. So much time and heartache can be saved by just communicating. Even if you don't know what exactly you're feeling (which is valid), you can at least say "hey, something about this is bothering me and I'm not sure what it is yet, so give me some time to process and then let's revisit later."
We threatened to sue, but in our case, it was an older child (who was a known bully) following ours into the bathroom & when one of the yard staff realized they’d seen her follow ours in, went to check and found the older kid had ours pinned to a wall BY THEIR THROAT and our kid’s lips were turning blue. DIFFERENT STAFF left a short note in our kid’s backpack that “there was an incident” during recess and there MIGHT be a bruise. Super vague, no mention of where there may be bruising, and generally written like they’d tripped while playing. Very NBD vibe. When we asked kiddo, they burst into tears, told us what happened, and we went straight back to the school. Principal brushed it off with statements about our kid “starting” it, there being no damage, the other kid apologized, and generally framed it as our kid was a trouble maker. Except we also talked to the yard duty who found them and she was crystal clear that she had told the office someone needed to come get our kid RIGHT NOW or the office needed to call for medical care. Turned out, bully’s parents were the pricncipal’s BFFs, bully was her godchild, there had been MULTIPLE reports made about this child. We went to the school board, got our kid pulled for home study till they could find a new school to transfer our kids to, and got a ding put on the principal & the kid suspended. Why did we have to pull our kid? Because they were suddenly having accidents at school out of fear of going into the bathrooms, seeing the other student staring at them, etc. All while getting chastised when going to the office to tell them about the accidents.
I'm so in agreement about the bully story. High school is such a formative time, and bullying does so much damage. At 17, you know not to be mean, especially if that's not typical behavior for you. If you are a nice person, you're not suddenly mean to someone for no reason.
For the bullying story, there is an explanation! “Posting some of OP’s comments from the other thread for context: Here’s what happened (at least, as I remember it): I had known this girl since elementary school. My family moved across the street from hers the summer after sophomore year. We started to hang out a lot, and soon she was referring to me as her best friend, even though I didn’t consider her mind. She was a little needy and a little socially awkward, and an overachiever, even back then. She was kind of exhausting to be around. I decided I didn’t want to hang out with her as much, and then a guy she liked asked me out. He and I started dating, and I stopped hanging out with Rock Star. Most of our mutual friends stopped hanging out with her as well. I found out years later that she spent the last two years in high school feeling very bitter and alone and blamed me for it. I don’t know if what I did was bullying, but I know she used the term “bully” to describe me, so I’m at least trying to be respectful of that. I will be the first to admit what I did at 17 wasn’t kind, but I didn’t find out she felt the way she did until we were all about to graduate from college. We ran into each other awkwardly in the Target parking lot. She got so flustered she left one of her bags behind, and I reached out to someone we’d both been friendly with to figure out what the deal was. - I know I probably said things behind her back that set the tone for how other people treated her. I mostly cared about getting what I wanted, which was for people to hang out at my house on the weekend and not hers - and that I got. I know it got back to her that I’d told people I didn’t want to be friends with her anymore. (I know I didn’t say it that nicely. I’m sure it was, “Ugh, Rock Star is SO annoying! Why does she follow us around everywhere?”) - I’m really, really trying to be self-reflective here. I’m sure I did make comments like, “Ugh, Rock Star. She’s SO annoying. Let’s not invite her.” I know my mom asked her mom (we were neighbors) if she was having a graduation party our senior year, and Rock Star’s mom said, “Rock Star doesn’t want one because she doesn’t think anyone will come.” “
The first story is so weird to me! College entrance essays aren’t like…heavily researched data papers. They’re usually personal stories about yourself and I genuinely don’t understand why OP’s former friend didn’t simply write about being the first person in her family to go to college. The culmination of generations of hopes and dreams is a GREAT entrance essay.
Yeah, perhaps that person should have gone a technical route. If you can't manage to even write your own entrance essay, you probably don't need to pursue college, either ever, or until you are ready to do those kinds of things.
This is why I'm glad I went into the music school part of our uni, cuz instead of an essay, we audition and you can't exactly fake an in person audition
Edit: spelling
To that same point though so many people will lie in those stories to sound more interesting. And at the same time given that, I feel like it wasn’t even that big a deal that she plagiarized it. Because it wasn’t even for some exam or contest. It’s just using someone else’s story to make yourself sound more interesting. She should’ve asked but to blow up her academic career over it just feels like overkill
Also, even though that essay isn’t a heavily researched pieced of academic writing, committing the act of plagiarism is a huge issue in academia as it shows the person’s practices/integrity cannot be trusted. It could have OP in trouble too. OP could easily have submitted her own writing at some point down the line and got unknowingly flagged for plagiarism since Tia submitted it first.
@@alphawollf5589 It's literally theft. Get over it
About the Bully story: "People went through her comments to find out. The girls were part of the same friend group and I think had a crush on the same guy. OP got the guy and decided to destroy Rock Star socially for whatever reason. Turned all their friends against her, made sure to hold a graduation party the same day as Rock Stars so no one would show up. Also, Rock Star lived on the same street as her so saw everyone go to OPs party, not hers."
And that's only what she confessed online. Imagine how much worse she was irl.
Is this not the plot to Mean Girls?
Okay this adds a lot of context into her character and why rockstar was so afraid of her being in the same company. That shit is traumatizing to go through having all of your friends taken away from you like that and then to have your bully ruin a celebration of an important day in your life by purposely holding a grad party the same day is awful. In rockstar's mind, I assume she thinks she could do the same thing and ruin her work life as well. For how much work rockstar put in to get to the place she is now, she probably doesn't want to lose that potentially to a manipulative person like OP
@@queenautumnween2796I agree that OP is not entitled to work in that place. But for rockstar to rub salt in the wound is cruel. Being a teenager you make a lot of mistakes. I think it’s not fair for something you did in your teen years to define you for life. No OP doesn’t deserve that job, but she also doesn’t deserve to be tormented for something she did 10+ years ago.
@@doid4354she does. she probably scarred that person for life and deserves punishment for it. she was not regretful for any of her actions and did not apologise beforehand.
thank you for this comment i was hoping someone looked into it! TBH i think the series of unfortunate events for OP was her karma
The fact that the rockstar tweeted suicide hotline shows a lot about the bully. She doesnt deserve a redemption arc
I thought the same thing!!! Like that speaks loudly as to what was going on in HS
I think what's really telling is that OP described those tweets as 'rubbing salt in the wound'. Not only does she mentally gloss over the fact that her past actions caused Rockstar severe mental anguish, but she continues to make it all about herself. Yeah, girl, the reason she wrote about what you did (without naming you, btw) couldn't possibly be about the fact that her teenage demon screamed at her on her anniversary and she decided to process the resulting feelings in a way that could help others; it was definitely just about making YOU feel bad.
Exactly. This isn't a thing in the past, it's a very real thing that would be re-entering her professional and personal life in the present. OP's first drunken reaction upon seeing rockstar is to blow up in her face. I think rockstar called it right. The fact that OP had to tell a whole "woe is me" story about how hard her life was, how her boyfriend cheated on her, how she lost her job etc. to try and get the readers on her side before she detailed how she blew up is a massive tell on how she wants to be seen as the victim here. None of that stuff anything to do with rockstar. That's 100% on OP, and she refused to take responsibility for any of that either.
yuuup. my first thought too. And the fact that it seemed to BUG bully in PRESENT day. Imagine getting personally offended by someone putting out MH resources? Its pretty easy to imagine what actually happened that shes not admitting too, because I've been through that. 100% on rockstars side, if thats what happened
@@rainestar82 From what I've seen in other comments, OP and Rockkstar were friends/friendly until they liked the same guy, at which point OP set out to ruin RS's social life. This is what OP ADMITTED to, which A) further displays her mental disconnect, as she earlier dimissed her mistakes as 'something I said when I was 17', and B) really makes you wonder what else she left out, or honestly doesn't even remember.
Shayne: I don’t use my psychology degree
Also Shayne: I think they didn’t want kids they wanted extensions of themselves 🧐
Exactly what I was thinking. He really doesn't give himself enough credit
The person saying that the *student* had power over their professor without acknowledging that the professor is the one with actual institutional power over his student is WILD
Not to mention that doing that kind of work is still deeply stigmatized, so anyone at all has social power over her if they know this.
I was actively rolling my eyes during that whole comment on reddit.
thank you omg
Before we read the update I do think she actually did have power over him because she didn’t do anything wrong, but if she even told some friends about it and a rumor started going around that a professor hired one of his students as a naked maid it could totally fuck up the guys career, even if nothing illegal or even inappropriate happened, that’s just how colleges work, especially if he wasn’t tenured. BUT after the update the lecturer was clearly a lying piece of shit
yeah the reddit comments were EXTRA DOG WATER on that one 🙄
look at Shayne using his psychology degree
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I love these comments. I hope they never stop 👯♀️
look at Shayne using his straight decade of higher education to read us bedtime stories
Another banger
Tommy's "YES!" And slamming the pillow down when Shayne said "update" on the last story is such a great embodiment of the collective audience during reddit stories.
1:09:29 for anyone who’s looking to relive this incredibly relatable moment :)
His "not yet" comment 😂
"Her mental health is not your responsibility". Thank you for saying that, Tommy. I've seen so many people living with so much sh*t because of similar situations. It's another thing to offer support, but to an extent. Thank you Tommy
F that lecturer in the second story. That man needs to be fired, tried to ruin that young womans life
Unfortunately men in positions of power tend to get away with this. He'll almost definitely harass another female student of his and likely has to many before. But like, what do you even do as the victim in that scenario?
Because of his kinks and choices he made and she was nothing but professional.
I had a lecture who gave me a bad score on my dissertation (a historical fiction novel) because he thought it was “historically inaccurate”. I provided him resources in my introduction proving that it was all based in reality, but I don’t even think he read it. The uni sided with him, even though I had a dozen historians who would back me up. Academia is so messed up
I'm so sorry you had to go through that.@@KindredKaye
@@KindredKaye damn right, look at Berkly or barkley or whatever college has the people protesting due to people whispering or whatever. What in the name of heck are they teaching over there
Bullies always think that the bullied must have moved on because it was so long ago(I was a different person then), but often, the person who was bullied often still carries scars and/or will never forget the person who bullied them.
Cause it’s the bully who moved on, not the victim. What a clown.
As if them putting a concerted effort towards not giving a s*** about what happens when they leave the room actually makes thing less important in reality.
yep. it also definitely depends on the degree of bullying in my experience! like i had some bullies who were downright VIIIIILE and i don't think i could ever forgive them unless they gave me a TED Talk presentation type apology (and even then, there are some i'd never forgive) but there are some that were just baseline "shitty teenager" that if they apologized i'd be like "listen man, we were kids and we all had our own shit, let's move forward and start fresh." clearly OP did something extreme, and Rockstar definitely had to go through *years* of therapy to get to the point she's at now. OP just wants 1. a job and 2. for Rockstar to validate her supposed "growth" to make herself feel better ab her own past
absolutely. there is still trauma responses and things that hurt me as a direct result of my bullies. I would NEVER want to work with them.
Fr. I still hold a lot of trauma from being bullied in school. With some of my bullies I'm totally fine with bc they did change by the time we graduated. Others not so much even if they did change bc of things they did or said.
The professor is so unprofessional the slightest indication of his student just trying to be his student after their awkward interaction he lies??? He lies about her?? To what save his ass ? he should be fired bc WTH is wrong with him.
He was a paranoid and vindictive ass for sure. The kind of unfair abuse of dynamic that will never be payed for. It's so incredibly wrong for him to have done, no matter if he was being paranoid about her intending to use it against him, since she had given no reason for him to beleive so. Hi was just an entitled brick who had no regard to her humanity and future, ready to use a service but equally as ready to use it against her after. The kind of person who makes jobs like that dangerous for the workers. They're not allies.
She should leak his name out to the public
I'm wondering what else he may have done with other students considering how fast he was to pull this move
Part of me really hopes that a faculty member from the college watches this video and realizes who it is about. The Reddit post is technically evidence in OP's favour, since OP wrote about the incident at least a week before the hypocritical a-hole professor reported her.
I saw it coming and was saying "you nerd to tall to the school about it" over sndnover while she described how he was acting weird
As a teacher, I can tell you parents should be labeling their children's belongings-especially clothing. Thirty parents asking where a jacket is can be a lot!
Also, Shayne--you are 💯 % correct about one reason teachers are leaving.
I label everything, because why not, my kids still lose stuff but eventually end up finding it because it's labeled, the one time my kid lost a water bottle at a field trip and we used it as a lesson, things get lost and that's life, he cried for like 2 days and eventually got over it. I don't understand how parents are this entitled and delulu
100% she was right to post that. To me it wasn't a refusal of help, but an important step to prevent further issues
I agree! NTA
@@magda1448 The child is 3; Many 3 year olds don’t put everything back where they are supposed to go. I used to work in a daycare and things getting misplaced is normal. 12 kids, 12 jackets, 24 shoes and socks, random toys, etc aren’t easy to keep track of at all times.
Yes, the power of labeling… the one jacket we never got back was the one I failed to label 🤷🏼♀️ Also, I don’t let toys go to school unless it’s special show and tell where the teacher is more aware of the toy needing to go back with the kid.
As someone who has been apologized to from a former bully AND also has reached out to a girl from middle school I was really mean to to say sorry… it is 100000% worth it to reach out and apologize. Even if the person doesn’t forgive you, it means something and changes the narrative for both people. It’s healing to hear an apology - always!
I'd hope so! But there are always instances or other ways (ie not a bully, but a different type of person who causes harm in other ways) where apologies could not mean much.
Not that I don’t appreciate the sentiment but if my high school bully reached out to me now I’d get a fucking restraining order
@@Lucifersfursona and that’d be totally fair! but hey, at the very, very least you got an apology lol
@@AJ-ht3kf I can agree to that, it’s more so just about the principle of it. You don’t have to accept the apology but to hear it is at least *something*
IF it is genuine
For anyone wondering, "rockstar" was a tattoo artist and OP (the bully) was trying to get a spot at a tattoo shop!
but op said they got a degree for it, i kinda thought tattoo artist also but how they explain the job and company and industry doesnt all fit. and im just super stumped and i wanna know what it really is 😭😭
Any word on what OP did? I’m assuming some extremely f**d up shit
@@haileyedwards6907it is definitely a fake story
@@Elizondobass Rockstar and OP were in the same friend group and had a crush on the same guy, OP got the guy and then turned the entire group against Rockstar, and later when Rockstar organized a graduation party, OP hosted one at the same time and everyone went to hers instead. they also lived on the same street so Rockstar would've seen people going past her house to OP's
@@haileyedwards6907she couldve been lying about the degree? or gotten one where she was trained? like not an actual degree but like a diploma of completion or smth
As someone who was bullied daily for several years in school, I can put it this way.
The bully forgets, but the bullied always remember.
Bullies very often are like "oh yeah, but what I did wasn't *that* bad".
But they aren't the ones who are left with trauma, pain, and sometimes scars that are daily reminders of what they did.
Bullies will always minimize what they've done and rarely take accountability for their actions.
Oh, also. The OP said she was prepared to move in order to work.
So far she's been to 2 places trying for that career. There's a whole country, where she can try. I doubt the "rockstar" has gotten her blacklisted nationwide.
The axe forgets, the tree remembers.
Lol get over it;) jk obv lol. fr though bullies usually have problems at home and take it out on others, people aren't 15 their whole lives but also karma is funny sometimes
For the victim, it was a traumatizing core memory.
For the bully, it was Tuesday.
A+ Street Fighter reference@@thesalteatingsloth
10000000000000000000000000% fr fr
As a parent of a baby and toddler... that mom hasn't taught her kid things. My 2 year old understands "oh it went bye bye" toys get lost and stickers usually can get replaced. Kids need to learn consequences good and bad.
Seriously op was ridiculous. Lol thinking a teacher is going to pay attention to everything a kid brings to school. If someone asked me to find a sticker that probably disappeared hours ago I would have laughed in their faces
Side note: oh it went bye bye is so adorable 😭
@@beabeabea3i came here just to say this. It's really freaking adorable
That instructor is disgusting. I feel so bad for the student. I'm a professor and they should have had a meeting with a provost or Dean to figure out best steps. There was no need to lie and make her life so difficult now. I hope he gets penalized.
Remember when there was that Reddit story of a student accidentally sleeping with his professor's wife? The way they handled that one was a lesson in professionalism. This is the opposite.
@@meganchambers8108I remember that one. It was handled responsibly and with the care it deserved. This on the other hand, wasn't.
Yeah, that is probably the best she can do and being straight up what the job is like how she stated in the post would likely clear that from being used against her. If she doesn't or it didn't work, I hope the best for her
@@meganchambers8108 Oh, I forgot about that one. That was a wild ride with a shockingly civil handling!
Right like I don't understand why he thought she was going to report him. If she did or was going to then she likely would not try to schedule a meeting with him. If she was going to report him she likely would have at that point and he likely would have heard from the administration
As a preschool teacher- we have it in our parent handbook that every thing they need for “routine care” like jackets, water bottles, etc. are required to be labeled- if the parents don’t we take a sharpie to an inconspicuous but easily found place and do it ourselves. We also have it noted that we’ve got enough materials for kids to play and learn with, so no outside toys aside from a “nap time stuffy” are brought in. It makes things clear from the beginning on what the expectations are.
As a parent of a preschooler, my toddler tends to just forget and lose everything, so yeah, everything has to be labelled. one day, my daughter came back with the wrong socks 😂 and lost her plushie... well, it's on us ! we know teachers deal with a bunch of kids, just one is tiring, but 12 or more of them omgoshhh, I salute teacher mental and physical health !
I feel like you about have to have a clause about it so you don't have to rely on the parents to label it and then they can't come back at you when you do it.
This honestly, aside from maybe being a bit snarky the teacher isn't in the wrong, all of these are common things that happen when you don't teach your children to mind their things.
Yeah like okay not all parents can afford labels but every parent should have AT LEAST one sharpie to write their name (or initials) on every inside tag. We did that all the way through to college because I never wanted to accidentally grab someone else's coat either 😂😂
So many people treat us like babysitters. We’re here to educate your kids, not mother them
Okay the professor reporting on OP was such an unprofessional move smh. The Bully not getting a job should be shared to all schools worldwide.
No it isn't. At work you report conflict of interests. Take that lesson, as you must be really young if you haven't encountered this yet.
@@dudeorduuude5211 the lecturer did NOT report "conflicts of interests". He discriminated against her without communicating with her, putting her education under some strain, and then he LIED about the encounter and accused her of trying to bribe the lecturer with sex.
YOU must be really young if your narrative comprehension is that confused.
@@dudeorduuude5211If anything, the STUDENT should’ve been the one reporting the TEACHER for a supposed “conflict of interests” since clearly the student was professional enough to move on from the situation while the teacher was too childish to just get over it and avoided his OWN STUDENT.
Now she has to get punished for it since he LIED about the situation to not embarrass himself like (again) a CHILD. This teacher is insanely unprofessional and immature it’s insane to me.
@@dudeorduuude5211he also fully lied in his report, there WAS no conflict of interest because there wasn’t a conflict. He made this problem much bigger than it needed to, and has so faced no consequences for his actions
@@javanzi2183 what the hell are you talking about. You clearly weren't listening to the story at all. The LECTURER brought it up. Stop accusing OP for the things the LECTURER did. Seriously are you doing this on purpose???
I was severely bullied from 4th to 8th grade for having a lisp. With a few exceptions, everything came from one girl. While I don't recall everything she ever said to me, I remember exactly how she made me feel. I still feel self-conscious about my voice. I don't think she knows how badly she messed me up.
They never really do, not until it happens to them in some way.
Your voice has and always will be more memorable, unique, powerful and loving than hers. Remember that.
@@rocacoshi Thank you for your very kind comment! I've gotten much more confident over the years, but it's still hard sometimes.
🫶🏽 I hope you can recover fully from that trauma and step into your wonderful individuality.
I have a stutter personally. It's not severe or anything, I'll trip over words a few times a day, but it gets worse when I'm stressed and on a bad day I'm pretty much nonverbal. Thankfully I was never bullied over my speech pattern, but I can honestly and earnestly say that nobody worth your time cares about your lisp. Nobody cares about how you speak, they care about what you have to say. I've found the people who care about me the most sit and wait patiently for me to get the words out despite the stutter, and while you don't have to wait for a lisp, the people worth your time will listen to what you say instead of how
My thing with the high school bully story is exactly like Shayne pointed out….they’re not apologizing bc they’re genuinely remorseful, they just want to apologize so they can get the job. OP didn’t care or think about this person until their interview was on the line. If they still think about this years later, the harassment had to be more than just “omg she’s wearing a ponytail and glasses, gross”
@@TawnyRoyal to be fair, remorse is subjective (honestly i think it's one of those made up emotions like guilt and shame that society uses to control us)
@@mosquitopyjamas9048 satire?
i found some comments OP made buried in replies on the reddit post- they were neighbors, they liked the same guy and he chose OP and so did the entire friend group and she purposefully made sure rockstar was never invited to anyone and had no friends throughout their whole childhood, she then purposefully held a graduation party same day as rockstar to make sure no one came to rockstar's party
@@tori6943 I knew from the second OP said "I _probably_ did something" that OP was full of it. The way she wrote the rest of that post and handled things tells us how much growing up she didn't do. Her life will only change once she really takes full accountability for herself.
I don't fully agree with this. Sometimes people do a lot wrong in their life and the work to grow happens slow. And after a while you lose touch, ESPECIALLY with someone you bullied? It is extremely possible that the only chance they would have had to reconnect and apologize was upon realizing who they were during the course of this story.
Hearing Arasha talk about the "gap" between expressing your own feelings and respecting the feelings of the person you're talking to during that expression was amazing. Arasha is consistently such a level head in these stories, and always has such healthy perspectives on things. Love when she's on these episodes!
Yeah, I feel like Arasha is the person I trust the most out of everyone at Smosh insofar as handling serious topics, even more so than Shayne
For someone to be willing to *QUIT* their dream career just bc of the potential of a person being hired…a job where they’re considered MVP in that position?? that person HAD to have done more than “just say a few mean words”. OP is definitely minimizing whatever she did to that person back in high school. Nobody would be willing to uproot their whole lives just bc of a person working at the same place they do.
This!
Exactly, that's an extreme reaction and that usually stems from extreme trauma
not sure if you saw the comments explaining it so ill tldr it really fast. they were inthe same friendgroup, op and rockstar liked the same guy but the guy chose op. op then turn all their friends against rockstar and hosted their graduation party on the same day. i imagine rockstar was afraid of loosing on all the relationships she had gained at her workplace to op
Looking everything up, OP ruined this woman’s life but she’s the victim somehow
and the fact that rockstar was able to report things AFTER the restaurant stuff and get OP blacklisted from the NETWORK? If it wasnt something major and longlasting, rockstar wouldve looked incredibly stupid
Idk if you guys are purposefully putting one wholesome story in every episode but I appreciate it so much
That instructor is so slimy. He didnt even hear her out first and if he did he would have known she wasnt trying to do anything bad to him she just wanted to make sure her grades would be fair he is cowardly af . I feel so bad that her life has to change bc of him
What a dirtbag
I screamed WHAT!?
Cowardly is exactly it.
It was such an honest mistake that could have just been a funny story. But instead, now her life is partly ruined.
@@kaleidoscopekayley I hope the dbag professor gets exposed for what he did, it's such a shitty situation for OP that even if she tried to clear her name, it would be too expensive and they'd have to deal with all the other baggage
The fact that the bully, drunk, didn't apologise and instead YELLED at the girl she bullied is a clear sign why she was and will continue to be one, job not deserved.😭💀
Yeah, that person has sadly not grown...
Yeah but wtf kind of drama is this where the person she literally bullies comes into the restaurant when she is drunk and crying.
Her not apologizing - not even for the job, just because of what she did - really was telling.
@@fawamaco1848 The universe is a cruel mistress. While dealing with PTSD from my first two jobs going bad years ago right before the pandemic hit and needing years to process it in counselling (my first job terminated my contract cause I inquired about a department change, and my second job hired me to replace 3 employees and proceeded to berate me daily when I couldn't juggle 3 portfolios until I landed a job during lockdown) - I was asked to partake in a charity soccer tournament. Sounds great and all until our training partner ended up being people from my first job (thankfully at that point, all my ex-colleagues had left so no one there knew who I was), and of 48 teams we were matched up against for the opening rounds... it was my second company. I had to play against the boss that made my life hell.
Of course I didn't get drunk and scream at him thankfully, but this kind of shit has to be scripted at some point.
@@fawamaco1848 its called staying home after establishing yourself. They both stayed in their hometown, of course they are gonna come to a head at some point.
Y'all didn't mention it, but Tia didn't just steal the essay. She also stole a spot at the school from some other person that applied in earnest. Definitely a jerk move and she deserved to be exposed.
And it seems like she knew what she was doing was wrong because she didn’t show OP the final draft of her essay because she knew she was taking OP’s super personal essay
@@jayneirajames792Tia absolutely knew it was wrong or she wouldn’t have hidden it from OP who was helping her in the whole application process. I shudder to think what Tia would do to an enemy if this is how she treats her best friend. Tia is a fraud, a thief, a liar and a traitor.
That doesn't completely make sense, since she most definitely wasn't selected based on the essay alone. To be approved she probably had sufficient credentials too, and as the cast stated, it's highly unlikely the board payed special attention to the essay in the first place. It's completely possible she would have been chosen even if the essay part was her own writing, and it's likely not a make or break issue for the school, even though plagiarizing obviously was. I still agree it's a childish and irresponsible thing to do and she probabaly knew it was wrong, but not everybody realizes how seriously things like that are taken by educational faculties. It's not like this was a competing applicant who's essay she stole, just someone's drafts for a different essay, as far as I understood. While yes, some mistakes have consequences larger than the intended offense, I too hope she learned her lesson and that this doesn't break her chances of applying again.
Yep. Everyone always forgets about the invisible victim
Eh who’s to say the person who would have got in also wouldn’t have deserved it? You don’t get into to school because you “deserve it” you get in because they decide they want you based on a bunch of arbitrary reason. What she did was wrong but reporting her for any reason other than revenge or self preservation is just taking sone moral high ground over something that doesn’t exist
Bully: I just insulted you 10 years ago, why you make my life hard now!
Victim: Your "insult" became my personal trauma and I have to go to therapist for years. Be glad I didn't ask you to pay for my bill.
A sentence that's never been spoken before - "My 18 year old son, Bruce Wayne" 😂😅
I feel like Alfred could have said tha
@@Justaguythatcameby alfred superiority
CHRISS
Lmao! This was exactly what I thought and was praying someone caught it 😂
Props to Bailey for picking a cute story to end things off. The ones before it were so intense and upsetting so thanks for leaving space to wrap things up nicely!
Former preschool teacher - when winter hit in Arizona and all 16 kids came in with new jackets, no names written. I would do temp labels with masking tape and a sharpie, no writing on the actual clothes.
I was screamed at for daring to put on a tape on a jacket and defacing property, so the jackets wouldn't get mixed up. Same thing happened, different parent, with water bottles at summer. When we all shop at the same big box retailers, there are LOTs of multiples, at least a last name :(
Same with Tommy's friend, I left teaching because of the verbal abuse from parents and lack of support from management when parent did the above.
Please put names on yours kids things and leave toys at home. We can look, but we cannot guarantee finding an object again.
yup!!! and like in teaching: is it snarky? or is it direct? parents misconstrue/misunderstand/ignore things all the time.
Yeah as someone who just WENT through school, i understood the teacher here. It truly did not sound snarky, just a direct plea from the parents to have some understanding of how difficult it is. Parents expect teachers to basically coparent and its rediculous.
The preschool my boy goes to has a "if it's not labelled it's not staying" rule, they also don't let outside items (toys) into the school...
My son loses his hair clips all the time, they're just keeping his hair out of his face since he doesn't want it cut, he gets sad when he loses them but I tell him to either put them in his pocket when they fall out or he can just be sad for a little bit.
Was looking for this kind of comment, because keeping track of that many personal items is impossible! I did my best, but my class rule from day one was to leave any valuable or important items at home. I left teaching too, largely due to ineffective and poor leadership. Hope you’re enjoying whatever you’re doing now!
I'm still teaching, parents tend to think direct language is aggressive or snarky or rude.
I just love the way Arasha analyzes the stories and try to see both sides or comprehend everything that is being said, such a queen!!
Unless she's part of a royal family she's not a "Queen"
Yeah, I always love her take on things. It seems really balanced in making sure all parties find their responsibility in the issue.
Agree!!
On the story about having bullied somebody in high school, y'all are 100% correct that apologizing years later makes a difference if and ONLY if you don't do it expecting ANYTHING in return. Somebody reached out once to apologize to me for something they did to me in High School and I forgave them UNTIL she revealed what she wanted and threw a public tantrum when I told her no, the end result is that I think even less of her than if she's never apologized at all.
Exactly, the only reason she would have even apologized is so she could have a chance at that job, which is totally ridiculous because an apology only matters if you genuinely want to apologize. She probably didn't even remember that she had made that girl's life hell until it was mentioned.
I would've respected the bully SO MUCH more if she send an apology e-mail to 'Rockstar' right after she figured out who she was. She could've admitted that she only contacted her right after the rejection because she just got reminded of who 'Rockstar' was. She could've told her, that the only intention with the e-mail was to show remorse and not trying to gain forgiveness or anything else. She could then tell 'Rockstar' that she would search elsewhere to find work and wish her well, or something like that... It shows growth...
@IHNIFAN Sure, that works, what I'm saying is you can't apologize thinking:
"Now that I said sorry you have to give me the job"
@@ReDuVernay Oh, I'm agreeing with you and then addinh my own thoughts :)!
@@IHNIFAN 😁
Not me refreshing my home page in the parking lot of my workplace so I have something to listen too as I drive home 😂😂
I too was refreshing in a parking lot 😂
Lol I'm not in the parking lot, but I was definitely refreshing for the past hour or so
I said 😮 I literally checked 10 minutes agoooo. Lol
Exactly
REAL
shayne talking about the price of colleges and being about keeping people out is so true. i'm from a country where we have free colleges, it's literally 100% free, but to get in you have to pass a test that is super dificult and people that come from private schools that payed for their education have better chances to pass it than people that studied in public schools. so even when the education is free they make ways to keep people out.
If everybody were allowed at college, you’d see many people failing because they can’t keep up with the courses. It’s always possible to get in with enough effort and using online resources.
@DDRFaQ okay, but at least they would have the opportunity to be at a college to see if is that what they wanna do. i just think it's too hard and a lot of people that get in don't wanna be there, they are there because their parents want them to be and people that would love to be at college can't get in.
@@DDRFaQah… the hard work = guaranteed success fallacy again…
Free is still better than Not Free tho lmao, in most countries it would be a debt for life...
*Paid. This is why you didn't get in! 😅😅😅
27:54 as an ex daycare worker and practicing primary school teacher, when you have 30 parents at pick up asking the same damn question when you’re trying to wrangle other kids, clean up, sort out paper work, accident forms, work going home and countless other things you need to keep on top of.. parents can read the damn sign and label their clothing. it keeps your teachers sane
I love that HS Bully was essentially like "I can't believe I'm getting consequences for my own actions! I was a teeanger! I know what I'll do! Make even MORE bad decisions as an adult!!! And blame others!!" Ugh, this is for sure a Karen in progress.
She was suffering from depression at that point.
@@Steve-Fiction Mental illness is not a valid excuse to harm or lash out at others. If HS Bully is suffering from depression, she is responsible for her own physical and mental health to seek treatment.
@Steve-Fiction ive had chronic major depression for over a decade and have never drunkenly trauma dumped to a near-stranger in a public place
@@Steve-Fiction Yeah, I had depression too! I didn't take it out on others because I have more maturity than the average 13 year old! :D But nice try.
@@Steve-Fiction She took it out on others and still blames them for everything, That's not being depressed, that's a being an asshole with depression.
I can confirm, as someone who worked in daycare/preschool, it is always the parents. The kids even if they’re frustrating would never drive me to leave. The parents for sure would 🥲
yeah their initial reaction to the story was so weird and judgey of the teacher for very normal behavior/requests. like "she's not being helpful" even though the OP is acting insanely entitled and self-absorbed.
And so many parents aren't willing to do the bare minimum of labeling their kids clothes. How is 1 person suspossed to keep track of what kid is wearing what coat. Especially in a classroom of 30+ kids with multiple coats each. If every parent took responsibility and labeled, no clothes would be sent home wrong.
Yeah, that's not the first time I thought they were immature but I felt like I was listening to a bunch of self important 16yo who had never interacted with a small child@@kaileyahearn6530
I dropped out of student teaching halfway through and the students were in no way the problem. The administration and their expectations are what overworked me to the point of severe burnout
16:38 As a housekeeper, I can confirm that occasionally I get clients that want to run over their work stuff to me while I'm working. Just read out a lesson plan or speech or something to see if it scans. It's really cool actually, I learn all kinds of stuff
That's pretty cool, I keep a chalkboard and I can see myself doing something like this in the future if I get to a point where housework isn't something I can do myself.
The prechool story- I've worked in preschools. Teachers have A LOT of responsibilities without parents adding extra tasks. They simply cannot keep track of all the toys brought from home and it's unrealistic to expect that of them. A lot of centers do not allow toys from home for this reason. Parents get angry if the toys get lost or broken but fail to realize how busy teachers are already.
"Should I beg for forgiveness?"
Not "apologize for what I said and did and how I harmed this person" but "should I do the thing that serves me". The second, *the second*, OP found out about the likely blacklist, they had the opportunity to reach out and properly apologize and try to make amends, but they chose to wait till it was apparent that they wouldn't get what they want without some effort to consider doing something about the situation.
That whole story and how op reacted to everything really spoke to who they were
This has literally become my saturday routine lol. And arasha and tommy is a DREAM combo for me lol
I'm sayin'!
Yeah I look forward to it every Saturday afternoon. :)
The first cut to Tommy and Arasha had me giggling and kicking my feet I was so excited
Went into the comments of the fifth one to see if anyone knew what exactly op did, and apparently she and the other girl were friends and had feelings for the same guy. Op ended up dating him and decided to completely destroy the other girl's social life, turned all their friends against her, and even held a graduation party the same day she did so nobody would go to hers, and I'm sure many more things I couldn't find.
So yeah, definitely a little more than just "something I said at 17"
Jesus, no wonder Rockstar was scared as hell. I imagine Rockstar really loves her workplace and her coworkers and the idea that OP could come and destroy all of that for her *AGAIN* really terrified her.
This screams volumes when she was drunk and crying, “you ruined my life” girly you are yelling at yourself. You ruined that girls life before
@@CharliePetricor Okay I really need this clarified: When it says Rockstar is that like the energy drink? I'm so confused.
@@GubbiGapNo. Rock Star is the name OP gave the other girl in her story. Ngl when they first said “RockStar” my mind immediately went to the video game company that made GTA and Bully Scholarship. I guess there’s 2 different types of people though. The ones who think of the energy drinks and the ones who thinks of the video game company.
@@Heyheyhaleyd Oh see that makes a lot more sense now xD I though Rockstar was the company/place she applied to
Med student’s gf needs therapy. She applied for med school because he did, although she didn’t want to go. She needs a therapist to help her get her head straight & figure out what she wants.
25:13 yeah as the parent to two young children, I feel that I can say: you MUST label your child's stuff, you SHOULDN'T take toys to school or anything extra outside of clothes, water bottle, jacket, and such, and if your child has symptoms of something and you take them to school you ARE THE DEVIL. This mother is delulu. All these things are specified as school rules at the beginning of every school year, they are common sense, and if the mother feels attacked by the notes MAYBE she's doing something wrong and it stings 👀🤷🏻♀️
100% this, as a parent of 3 young kids, the teachers at the school make it VERY CLEAR that your child should not bring their own toys to school, nor should anything not labelled be expected to be searched for....Also, a fucking sticker?! this mom is complaining about the teacher not searching for a sticker?? that mom is far past the label of DELULU 🤣
As someone with no kids, I feel I deserve more from our society and governments
I wrote my name on everything, or would draw a little star on the tags of stuffies in purple… the tags didn’t have room for my full on name. Sarah is just the first part of my first name. I have a hyphenated first name (really common in French Canada, and in French culture in general I believe) and a long ass French last name that I just don’t use online because i was bullied for it immensely. I would also write my grandma’s native name since I didn’t have one yet at the time (traditionally elders give a child a name that fits their personality once they reach “adulthood” so as a kid I didn’t have one.) no one could pronounce it and I was the only native kid in school, even if I was white passing I was bullied a lot for being native so everyone knew.
@@sarahwatson3192 that actually sounds super interesting and cool. Sorry people were jerks to you
my mom runs a daycare with just 6 kids and they ALWAYS lose toys when they bring them. she has made it clear that she can’t keep track of a small toy when she has to keep track of the kids themselves. and bringing sick kids is insane. the amount of times my family has gotten so sick because a parent has brought a sick child and just didn’t tell anyone is insane. unfortunately, sometimes you have to be “snarky” in order to get parents to understand that its still THEIR CHILD. she always starts off kind asking but sometimes they don’t listen.
Tommy needs to realize he is a comedy masterclass and enter his confident era because there's no WAY this man apologized for making a Tamara joke. Everyone was thinking it!!!! He has been my favorite cast member for years because his humor is sooooo good! WAKE UP TOMMY 2024
At this point, Tommy is my inner monologue 😂❤ he’s the best!
It was soo good!!😅
I KNOW RIGHT I FREAKING LOVE TOMMY he's hilarious and I would have loved hearing his thoughts more
Ian would loooooove that joke
Fully support this comment, and that's even as a Tia who's already heard Tamara jokes a thousand and one times in my life 😆 Tommy is the GOAT
Reading Reddit Stories is the reason Saturdays are good
Also, no work for me : )
@@IceArceus_exactly
No work, sleeping in and reddit stories. Perfect day 😌
It’s my favorite part of Saturday.
Yes.
For the teen who wants a 70k car: Talk to him about the insurance. I bet he has no idea a 70k-dollar car needs over 2k in insurance every year. Also, parts replacement and maintenance could be $$$. He most likely only wants a car that expensive because he's 16 and has no idea what a car like that actually entails. Plus, he's old enough to be given insight on never using all your savings on one purchase. I think a convo about doing things just to impress other people would also be appropriate.
Edited to add: Annie in the med school story is approaching some sort of breakdown. Her friends should be very concerned that she would react this way to her long-time boyfriend. OP obviously can't give up med school for Annie. It's insane to even suggest it.
My thinking with the 18yo car story too is that it sounds like they had a deal that insinuated whatever he worked for and earned they would match so there is maybe an argument to be made of whatever money he made from a paycheck gets matched but not from stock options (good for the kid like wow!) and they could be honest like said that they didn't expect to pay more than $10k or so but the fact they can easily afford it makes it hit a lil different. So I think they could talk to their son and lay out the options--hey son you *could* get this expensive car, but then this is what YOU will pay in insurance, this is what YOU will pay to maintain it and keep it in working shape and if it gets damaged or totaled in an accident then that's for YOU to take care of bc you're now a young adult and this will be YOUR car. OR we give you X amount of money for a reasonably priced car and then put X amount of money into a savings account to be used upon college graduation or to be used as spending money etc. Hardly any scholarships cover actually all costs so that could go toward student housing or books or spending money for food etc. There's so many options.
@@owatagusiam44 Good point!
2k a year? Damn that’s not as bad as I thought. I’m dramatically over paying on my shit-mobile. 😬
@AdonAKingALegend I personally pay 900 every 6 months on my car. It's a foreign import. Brand new msrp is like 46000. So a 70k car is most likely wayyy more in insurance.
@@TrueImmortality my rate is on a used car. Practically 400 dollars a month. I’m under 25 . Edit: I do have one red light ticket on my record. Within 2 years, I will have paid more to insure the car than its current resale value. (About $4100)
The thing about the first story (I'm not even fully through the video) is that if OP didn't report Tia for what she did, then when it came out that it wasn't Tia's essay and Tia undoubtedly admitted it was OP's, OP could be in a world of academic trouble for knowing and letting Tia get away with it. Assisting Tia in plagiarism (which is what letting her get away with it is) could ruin OP's reputation and be a black mark on their record.
Tia ruined her own dreams when she plagiarized. Period. OP did the right thing by letting the college know. "If telling the truth makes you look bad, it's not the fault of a truth-teller."
yeah that's what I'd do as well, not so much being an ass to Tia, but I'm covering my own ass because plagiarism strike goes both ways. OP's excuse of "oh I only gave it to her as an example of this and that" would never fly in front of any respectable academics because there are cases of intentional/consented plagiarism.
@@jamesaditya5254 I agree 100%.
I thought it was a bit unbelievable that OP didn't know what would happen. At my college getting caught plagiarizing was grounds for immediate expulsion.
I will say I think it's a bit rich for OP to say she thought Tia's punishment wouldn't be that bad. As a student, OP would absolutely know the consequences of plagiarism.
There's also the issue that every scholarship and spot at a highly seeked after college comes at the expense of someone else not getting those things. Someone who might have actually deserved that scholarship could have barely not made a cut and in their place a plagiarizer gets in. There is only one form of justice there and yes, American education system is ruthless and cruel and unforgiving. But it is that for millions of people.
When I was 22 I got an apology from someone who didn’t treat me very well when I was 15. There was no “need” for him to do it but we met again at a mutual friend’s birthday celebration when I was 22. I really appreciate it, even two years later.
The preschool situation: You aren’t getting the sticker back. Next time your kid makes a Lego creation they want to share, take a pic.
Exactly. Mother is acting entitled. Plus, kids forget their stuff (especially Kindergarten age) all the time or accidentally take another kids' stuff home. I remember having to label water bottles, thermoses, crayon boxes/pencil boxes, jacket labels, etc
Edit: she's in preschool. Even worse for the mom. LABEL YOUR KIDS STUFF!!!
Yep, also don't order around people like that, she demanded the teacher went and looked for her things? Ew.
Yes! This story reminded me of why i quit being a preschool teacher. The parents were the worst. Kids lose things
I don't get it. Was this person never a three-year old with parents? Surely I'm not the only one who remembers getting screamed at for losing ANOTHER pair of gloves this year?
I don't agree about the Lego part. They legit paid for those Legos so I think they should have been returned. The sign was super passive aggressive which wasn't great. But the story is a total ESH.
That lecturer story was the first story to fill me with rage
I don’t even know where to direct this rage. Im so mad.
The commenter saying the STUDENT hired as a SEX WORKER (adjacent) has “a tremendous deal of power” over her LECTURER is insane. Real Reddit take there.
Powerful men are always protected by institutions like that.
YES that comment bothered me but I couldn't pin down why before getting distracted by the rest of the story 😅
You don’t see how she could have done the same exact thing he wound up doing , except wayyyy worse?
@@Matt-xc6sp ...huh? she clearly wasn't though, she made it clear as day she would remain professional and the TEACHER WASN'T. HE with the decision HE made could have risked HER entire career. SHE had given him no reason to be so entitled and paranoid. Just listen to yourself. That's NOT an equal dynamic there. She was the one who's studies were being risked with HIS pisspoor behavior with avoiding her and AVOIDING HIS DUTIES AS HER TEACHER! You literally think she had any reason to hurt his work for no reason whatsoever?
also, like. NOTHING happened! Like, sure, if OP had been naked/in underwear and KNEW that it was her lecturer and forced him to go along with it, then yeah she holds a lot of power.
But OP didn't let it get that far! She tried being professional!
Shayne: "I never use my degree on Smosh."
Also Shayne: "I don't think they wanted a kid, they wanted an extension of themselves."
Tbf, you don't really need a degree to come to that conclusion lol
@@digitalgloop12you don’t, but his degree definitely helps him explain why he views it that way
That was kinda giving armchair psychology though, and I think Shayne would say so himself. There is NO way to actually draw that conclusion with what little information we have about OP or the situation.
@@digitalgloop12 ehhh you'd be surprised. What I've found is people who major/get psych degrees are either (weirdly) the most delusional or the most self aware people ever. Shayne is definitely in the second category and the observations he has... he may not directly be using his degree but hes verbalizing things in a way a LOT of other people CANT which is significant to me at least
The original comment with more likes is better than this mess
Love the line up for this episode
Tommy: *hasn't been in school for a century*
Shayne: *was in school for a century*
Arasha: *started school this century*
Edit: for those who don't get it.
Yes I know that a century means 100 years. No I did not mean decade.
Figured it was an exaggerated obvious low hanging joke.
Making fun of the other low hanging jokes.
such as the fact Tommy is called old mostly from himself, despite the fact he's only in his very early 30's but that can be considered as ancient in internet years.
Arasha is often referred to as the child or baby of the group because she is the youngest of the cast being mid 20's which adds more jokes to Tommy feeling old compared to her.
And with Shayne, cmon guys it was an ongoing joke for years within the Fandom and among the cast and crew that he was still trying to get his college degree.
oh this is a beautiful comment
I’m pretty sure it’s only a decade, not a century 😂😂
Unless it’s an ongoing joke or smth, correct me if I’m wrong
good comment op, just a heads up *decade
@@AlliBear2010 yeah I'm not sure this person knows what a century is 😂
Century lol
Tommy saying “her mental heather is not your responsibility” was something I REALLY needed to hear right now in regard to my own marriage. Thank you Tommy.
its absolutely insane to me how 90% of all these problems of every story in every episode could have been solved by ONE conversation
"COMMUNICATION EXISTS" is practically the tagline of AITH
Saying solved is ridiculous. Conversation could have helped some but don't act like talking is a guarantee things will go your way.
In the case of the maid it certainly didn't. Nor would the bullied have accepted the apology
@@piusdoe8984 thats why i said 90% also the bully story would have went very differently if she apologised beforehand
0:15 “I think they went to school”
*Arasha & Tommy* : 😀😃
we needed angela there 😂
i love that it just cuts to them as soon as Shayne finished saying their names
@@halphrynn goated intro!
Story 1: NTA, colleges do not eff around with plagiarism and take it very seriously. Hopefully this will teach Tia in the future to not do that
One time a grad student I knew caught two students using chatgpt to make their final essay, they got reported and the heads of the department plus the professor got involved, that's just for using AI using someone's paper is unacceptable
She literally lied about her life on the SA like what?? She could have took inspiration for HOW it was written but she literally stole the whole thing
@rebecky5ever A student at my high school use chatpt and submitted it to the English Teacher while I was in the room. The submitted paper stated at the top that it was from Chatgpt..... 😅 The teacher called the sleeping 😴 student forward and showed him his submission..... I said please rewrite the assignment by yourself and then you can go back to sleep
Unless you’re from my country i guess… someone (A) from X uni plagiarized someone else’s (B) from Z uni undergrad thesis… B reported it, but A lawyered up and sue B for defamation, B decided to just make public apology and pulled her ALREADY PUBLISHED undergrad thesis
The American college system is fcked tho.
Writing a personal essay about your life in order to get into a college is wild.
"didn't get a job because I was a bully in highschool" I said good so fast and was shocked when Arasha said it at the same exact time I did, I almost choked on my noodles 😂😅😅
My wee granny used to say, "Be careful not to step on people on the way up, because you might need their support on the way back doon."
This came to my mind when hearing the story about the high school bully who failed to get hired.
With the bully story: it absolutely makes a difference if the bully apologizes.
I had a middle school/high school bully who ended up at the same college as me to take a couple classes, a couple of which were small and I was in so I wouldn't be able to avoid him. I requested a meeting with a mediator where I laid out why I had issues with him being near me. My bully owned up to everything, not just the instances I brought up, but even mentioned a few others I hadn't. He apologized for everything and said he understood if I would still struggle to be around him, but he wanted to do what he could to make it right. I have so much respect for this man now because he not only came to the table and agreed about what had happened, but he didn't try to downplay or make excuses and instead brought up even more things he had done. Now, years later I have nothing but respect for him and I hope he's doing well. I wish my other bullies had an ounce of the courage and character he does.
My little sister had a really awful bully in middle and high school who had once been a friend and then suddenly turned on her. Years later (they both just graduated college), that bully reached out to her out of the blue one day to apologize for everything she did, took responsibility for her actions, and promised to try and make things right. They're back to being casual acquaintances now, at the least, and I think having that apology helped my sister move on a bit from what happened. It definitely makes a difference!
@@abigailstraka7162 a bully that owned everything what he did is a huge part no doubt for recovering, or even leaving it in the past. The OP in this case didn't feel apologetic and still blame others, and the karma just keep increasing for her, serves her right.
I wish my bullies had their karma too. But they are seeing success and better than me in some way 🫠 at least one of my biggest bullies "apologize" to me because we both are slightly drunk when I laid out what trauma he had inflicted me with.
arasha and tommy are such a fun duo to watch, adding shane's energy on top of that makes this dynamic hilarious
I'm in my 40s and still remember something that happened to me in junior high. In my 30s, I was diagnosed with anxiety, and it's taken years, but I can trace it back to that time.
The car story has such an easy solution: Just tell the kid to keep his savings and they'll buy him a car of equal value.
Or even give him extra 5k if he gets a more reasonable car
I said this out loud at my phone. So glad someone said it!!!
I'm 33, and my junior high school bully reached out and apologized to me a couple years back about how he treated me. We shot the shit and caught up. It turns out he was having issues of his own way back when. I kind of figured, but having the courage to apologize and open up all these years was so touching to me. I fully forgave him
Story 3: Speaking as a former preschool teacher, kids that age have the same items a lot of times. Emily and Penny will come to school with a pink jacket that is 4T because both moms went to Costco. Penny wore the jacket to school, but Emily didn't.
Items fell out of cubbies and at nap time the Teacher or Assisstant went to put the items back in. They know both girls had the jacket but forgot or weren't there at drop off to know who wore so put it in Emily's cubby after looking for a name but not seeing one. Penny gets picked up by Dad, and dad doesn't know that she wore the jacket because mom did drop off, so the jacket goes home with Emily.
After a complaint and the teacher puts a note asking to label. The teacher probably has asked to label things a lot throughout the year so a note goes up. We try our best to keep track of everything but it's impossible to keep track of all the items.
Also keep your kids home if they're sick
exactly. shes already being underpaid to deal with a bunch of little kids, she cant also magically keep track of all their belongings that are being sneakily passed around. the fact that the mom had the audacity to ask where the daughters sticker was tells me that shes not being reasonable
Everything here!
See I was gonna say this too! I work at a preschool and for some reason parents a lot of the time don’t like to put their kids names on specifically jackets and water bottles and when you’re dealing with small children, depending on their age, they can’t exactly tell you what is theirs and what is not and if you weren’t in class all day, you wouldn’t know what they came in with. Also, I can say for certain that if I find a jacket on the floor, the first thing I do is I look for a name on the jacket anywhere and if I can’t find a name, I put it in the lost and found because at that point it’s not my problem anymore.
This is very true
Yeah. Tommy and Arasha had a bad take with this story. When she started to kinda defend the mom I was thrown aback.
The bully wanting a job didn't express any remorse for the bullying at all. She was just whining about how unfair it is that she has to face consequences. Bullies always jump to "I was x years old" or "it was x years ago" as if that somehow means that what they did doesn't matter. She then goes on to make more bad decisions (she couldn't at least call work and say she's sick?), finds out her boyfriend also makes shitty decisions, and somehow this is all her victim's fault!?
Sounds like the character reference she got is still completely accurate. We got this for HER POV and it looks this bad! Hell no, I wouldn't want to hire someone like that.
As a teacher, thanks for being so understanding of the teacher's situation in the third story. Kindergarten is a lot of fun, but parents often have unrealistic expectations and they often are very verbally abusive while teachers just have to deal with it
Gotta say the combo of Arasha, Tommy, and Shayne is one of my favorite combos. As a young 20-something (with a bit of a stunted social life bc ✨trauma✨) I've learned so much about life from learning from yall and I appreciate everyone who works on this show.
Saaaame!!
omg i'm just like you
the second story made me want to cry, . That poor girl :(
The last one straight-up sounds like a romcom and I love it!
As a preschool teacher, it’s incredibly difficult to know what your four year old brought to school let alone what all 20 of my students brought in. We’ve started not allowing personal toys in the class because of situations just like this. Also, totally agreed that parents tend to be the bigger problem.
Former LSA, I totally agree
1:01:01 That’s such a great point Arasha made that I didn’t even think about. Of course OP is going to want to fix things even though they’re irreparable, it’s all he’s ever known regarding relationships. She’s so insightful
53:22 for the bully..it was life giving karma. people can change. she did not,because she never expected consequences. she should reach out to the girl, apologize,but then leave it. she has plenty of life ahead, she can learn to work in a new field,and reflect and learn from her mistakes
I really want to hear you guys read something like happily ever after or happy ending stories. We need it in these dark times.
Former teacher here to weigh in on story 3: many parents like to think their child really is the only one you, as a teacher, should care about. We try our best to help keep track of every student’s belonging, but it’s true-all the parents shop at the same place so all the kids have the same jacket and water bottle and lunch bag. It’s not that hard to write your kid’s name on something. Teachers have way more important things to do than to waste time and energy on also taking inventory on every belonging from home. After being asked so many times about their child’s jacket and after explaining so many times that it’s impossible to tell one jacket from another to someone else, you’re going to have to be blunt and spell it out for them. The sign is clear, and they’re just taking it as rude and sassy. Might be a controversial opinion here, even to other teachers, but none of these guys have taught a classroom of 20-30 children and I don’t think they can truly get it. I appreciate all three of them being empathetic to all sides, though. Not trying to “call them out” at all. These are all opinions, and I’ll accept if mine isn’t the right take either-I did say “former” teacher. We all have our own perspectives.
1000% agree
1000% agree
This is why I'm absolutely fine homeschooling my son. One less crazy kid in the classroom that struggles with his attention span. And I already know what he responds to and what he needs. Why would I expect a teacher who has 29 other kids to look after to understand each fine detail of how my kid needs to learn? Parents really need to think about the fact that teachers are human just like them.
Completely agree with you!! I’m a teacher and after listening to the story, I thought it was totally clear that the parent was the asshole. But after listening to their opinions, I wasn’t sure if I was being biased. I just don’t have the time or energy to keep track of every student’s belongings. The notes didn’t even come off as snarky to me, moreso matter-of-fact about the situation.
I read this forever ago and she was labeled such a Karen. I agreed lol. I wonder how many Moana jackets were in the class?
In the first story, the OP wasn't materially harmed. You know who WAS harmed? The person who SHOULD have been given the scholarship Tia applied for dishonestly. College admission and especially scholarships are a zero-sum game. Thank goodness she got a wake-up call at 18, rather than pulling a similar stunt later down the line (say, at work) when consequences could be a lot worse.
OP also theoretically could have been implicated if it had come out naturally that Tia had plagiarized, especially if OP had known about the plagiarism and not reported it. I wouldn't risk having that on my record
I think you'll find that the admission part of that will become a lot less of a zero-sum game soon. At every conference I've gone two for the last two years they've warned us about the enrollment cliff that's coming due to the drop in birth rates 18 years ago. We're right on that cliff. I've seen so many schools try to come up with a game plan. So far it seems like the best one is to just hope enough people apply in the first place.
This isn't the case for the highly competitive universities, of course. Just us normal ones
"You don't have to have kids." Thank you, Tommy!
It's not a fucking competition. You're creating A PERSON. Maybe the most complex thing in the universe.
Just don't if you can't handle the responsibility.
That last story made me literally smile and giggle like a schoolgirl the entire time oh my gosh. It’s something straight out of a romcom/fanfic and it’s so fucking cute and wholesome. OP sounds like a hilarious person and her BF is literally so perfect like wow (the WINK??? The SECONDS REFERENCE??? I’m fainting bro😩). I wish them nothing but the best honestly. My heart is so full♥️
(Also I felt it in my SOUL when she said “he’s a total nerd that’s very attractive and I’m so into that??” SO FUCKING REEAAAL😭)
Rockstar more context from a reddit reply: I remember the last time this was posted and people went through her comments to find out. The girls were part of the same friend group and I think had a crush on the same guy. OOP got the guy and decided to destroy Rock Star socially for whatever reason. Turned all their friends against her, made sure to hold a graduation party the same day as Rock Stars so no one would show up. Also, Rock Star lived on the same street as her so saw everyone go to OOPs party, not hers.
It's so weird like, why? Op you already won, you got the guy, you are the winner. Why destroy the loser's life? I'd get it if the girl who did NOT get the guy destroyed the other girl's life out of jealousy, but this???
@@hashtagmatesome people want to watch their “enemies” suffer
third story: i worked in childcare for 4+ years, including the entirety of covid. if you want your child to have a teacher who is able to track your kids sticker, you should look for one on one care or smaller groups. sometimes the problem is that you’re looking for a form of care rhat the service you’re paying for doesn’t provide. that is not the staff members fault, that’s on you to find the type of specific care that you want for your child. the amount of times parents got pissed at me for their kids struggling in our program because we didn’t provide one on one care was ridiculous and was a latge contributing factor to me leaving that job.
44:13 that glance to camera is so badass from Tommy because it implies his haters/bullies from highschool are watching him on youtube
💯!
What irks me the most about the med school story, “live like refugees” lady he’s studying to become a DOCTOR just play the long game man and you’ll live comfortably enough to
Story 5: That's the thing with consequences...you can't outrun it.
In how it was said, OP planning the begging or apologising is not even because OP felt sorry but only due to OP seeing it as a step to get what they want, the niche job.
Agreeing that not detailing the bullying was telling.
I also think that putting the stuff about her boyfriend was her trying to get some extra sympathy
Its also really telling that she went into blaming her for ruining her life. Like, she didnt make your boyfriend cheat. She didnt make you not go into work. She also isnt responsible for not getting your old job back.
Sooooo, im pretty positive that mom complaining about the teachers notes is actually about my partner. If not, its somehow the same story.
The jacket, the sticker, the lego toy all line up. However this kid was in 2nd grade. Old enough to be responsible for their belongings. She also was alone with three children with needs, including a runner. She could barely keep the kids learning, let alone keep track of their belongings.
The notes were not quite worded like that but i would need to double check with her when she gets back from her trip.
The sick thing was school wide policy. Its a private school and we had a wave of covid come through. They were about to shut down the school because so many teachers were out and they were shortstaffed.
Mom would send the kid multiple times without lunch or a coat in the winter. This is a private school with no cafeteria. Bring lunch or you dont eat. My partner literally messaged mom and got no message back. So my partner would often give this kid a part of her lunch. These are all rich ass parents driving teslas and fancy cars, this girl wasnt poor. Her mom is just an idiot
The coat one was also insane because this lady was asking my partner to find a coat at dismissal. She told the mom that she couldnt leave the kids unattended in the quad to wait for their parents while she searched the classroom and playground.
It took a week because the other family that took it just didnt know. What is the school supposed to do? Search peoples homes?
Huh interesting
Wow that's nuts
Crazy...
Hope that @smoshpit sees this comment
@Smosh Pit!!!
Found in the comments on reddit re: bullying story:
“What OP did was pretty awful, and she tried to minimise it in the comments, but gave more details that makes it clear she wasn't as innocent as she made herself out to be. Classic mean girl stuff.
TL;DR: She ostracised RockStar from their friend group and trash talked her behind her back so none of their mutual friends would talk to her. Because RS had a crush on a guy, who then asked OP out, and OP thought it was awkward that RS had a crush on her BF. RS was isolated for the rest of high school. To top it off, they were neighbours.
The comment where OP explains what happened:
Here’s what happened (at least, as I remember it): I had known this girl since elementary school. My family moved across the street from hers the summer after sophomore year. We started to hang out a lot, and soon she was referring to me as her best friend, even though I didn’t consider her mind. She was a little needy and a little socially awkward, and an overachiever, even back then. She was kind of exhausting to be around. I decided I didn’t want to hang out with her as much, and then a guy she liked asked me out. He and I started dating, and I stopped hanging out with Rock Star. Most of our mutual friends stopped hanging out with her as well. I found out years later that she spent the last two years in high school feeling very bitter and alone and blamed me for it.
I don’t know if what I did was bullying, but I know she used the term “bully” to describe me, so I’m at least trying to be respectful of that. I will be the first to admit what I did at 17 wasn’t kind, but I didn’t find out she felt the way she did until we were all about to graduate from college. We ran into each other awkwardly in the Target parking lot. She got so flustered she left one of her bags behind, and I reached out to someone we’d both been friendly with to figure out what the deal was.
Further comments on there explaining in more detail:
I know I probably said things behind her back that set the tone for how other people treated her. I mostly cared about getting what I wanted, which was for people to hang out at my house on the weekend and not hers - and that I got. I know it got back to her that I’d told people I didn’t want to be friends with her anymore. (I know I didn’t say it that nicely. I’m sure it was, “Ugh, Rock Star is SO annoying! Why does she follow us around everywhere?”)
I’m really, really trying to be self-reflective here. I’m sure I did make comments like, “Ugh, Rock Star. She’s SO annoying. Let’s not invite her.” I know my mom asked her mom (we were neighbors) if she was having a graduation party our senior year, and Rock Star’s mom said, “Rock Star doesn’t want one because she doesn’t think anyone will come.”
I cringe when I hear that now because, well, they probably wouldn’t have.”
And that’s just what she admitted to and what she “remembered from my perspective”, there’s 100% more that she’s not saying
OP saying "I mostly cared about getting what I wanted" in conjunction with her original post and updates REALLY shows how she has not changed at all since high school. As Shayne and the other cast members said in the video, OP didn't care about righting her wrongs, she only cared about her own selfish interests (the job)!
The last story had me clenching my pillow like a high school girl. That so embarrassing but the dude was so smooth! I hope they r happy for a long time 😊
The note that the teacher wrote was directed to all the parents with that jacket/water bottle. parents do not listen to updates or notes unless they think it is specifically targeted to them so using language like “you” or “your child”gets them to listen
For the maid one, no one should be demonized for how they pay for college, especially in this day and age for how expensive it is. Get that bag, girl.
Right?? I hope she gets paid really well for it, that professor is a coward
I keep thinking I'm so glad Tommy is finally a cast member now, it felt so good seeing him more in videos
With regards to the bully story, the woman who was bullied in high school would 100% not want her former bully working at the same company as her no matter how much time has passed she would never have forgotten about it. Take it from me as someone who is now 39 and because I was so verbally bullied/harassed by one guy in senior school(which would be high school in US, but I’m UK based) about the way that I spoke daily for about a year and a half that I have hang ups at this age about the way that I speak even now, like a customer corrected me on one word and I broke down in tears. If you were bullied, you NEVER get past that!!!! OP deserved everything that she had coming to her IMO x
The last story was so great. Love that two science nerds are dating!! Super cute
The fact that the bully yelled at the person she bullied that SHE ruined her life. Bish, you ruined your own life.
I love when Arasha is on these episodes. Her takes are so solid and understanding.
The med school story: Just another reminder that people (especially in relationships together) need to communicate with each other. I know from personal experience that letting things build up is unhealthy and does not end well. So much time and heartache can be saved by just communicating. Even if you don't know what exactly you're feeling (which is valid), you can at least say "hey, something about this is bothering me and I'm not sure what it is yet, so give me some time to process and then let's revisit later."
We threatened to sue, but in our case, it was an older child (who was a known bully) following ours into the bathroom & when one of the yard staff realized they’d seen her follow ours in, went to check and found the older kid had ours pinned to a wall BY THEIR THROAT and our kid’s lips were turning blue.
DIFFERENT STAFF left a short note in our kid’s backpack that “there was an incident” during recess and there MIGHT be a bruise. Super vague, no mention of where there may be bruising, and generally written like they’d tripped while playing. Very NBD vibe.
When we asked kiddo, they burst into tears, told us what happened, and we went straight back to the school. Principal brushed it off with statements about our kid “starting” it, there being no damage, the other kid apologized, and generally framed it as our kid was a trouble maker. Except we also talked to the yard duty who found them and she was crystal clear that she had told the office someone needed to come get our kid RIGHT NOW or the office needed to call for medical care.
Turned out, bully’s parents were the pricncipal’s BFFs, bully was her godchild, there had been MULTIPLE reports made about this child.
We went to the school board, got our kid pulled for home study till they could find a new school to transfer our kids to, and got a ding put on the principal & the kid suspended.
Why did we have to pull our kid? Because they were suddenly having accidents at school out of fear of going into the bathrooms, seeing the other student staring at them, etc. All while getting chastised when going to the office to tell them about the accidents.
So sorry that happened to your kid 😔
I hope your kid is healing now! I can't imagine how hard it is for all of you.
They’re doing a lot better these days, but it left them with a serious case of PTSD, fear of attending any school, etc.
Tommy and Arasha are such a great duo. Love their chemistry
I'm so in agreement about the bully story. High school is such a formative time, and bullying does so much damage. At 17, you know not to be mean, especially if that's not typical behavior for you. If you are a nice person, you're not suddenly mean to someone for no reason.
For the bullying story, there is an explanation!
“Posting some of OP’s comments from the other thread for context:
Here’s what happened (at least, as I remember it): I had known this girl since elementary school. My family moved across the street from hers the summer after sophomore year. We started to hang out a lot, and soon she was referring to me as her best friend, even though I didn’t consider her mind. She was a little needy and a little socially awkward, and an overachiever, even back then. She was kind of exhausting to be around. I decided I didn’t want to hang out with her as much, and then a guy she liked asked me out. He and I started dating, and I stopped hanging out with Rock Star. Most of our mutual friends stopped hanging out with her as well. I found out years later that she spent the last two years in high school feeling very bitter and alone and blamed me for it.
I don’t know if what I did was bullying, but I know she used the term “bully” to describe me, so I’m at least trying to be respectful of that. I will be the first to admit what I did at 17 wasn’t kind, but I didn’t find out she felt the way she did until we were all about to graduate from college. We ran into each other awkwardly in the Target parking lot. She got so flustered she left one of her bags behind, and I reached out to someone we’d both been friendly with to figure out what the deal was.
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I know I probably said things behind her back that set the tone for how other people treated her. I mostly cared about getting what I wanted, which was for people to hang out at my house on the weekend and not hers - and that I got. I know it got back to her that I’d told people I didn’t want to be friends with her anymore. (I know I didn’t say it that nicely. I’m sure it was, “Ugh, Rock Star is SO annoying! Why does she follow us around everywhere?”)
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I’m really, really trying to be self-reflective here. I’m sure I did make comments like, “Ugh, Rock Star. She’s SO annoying. Let’s not invite her.” I know my mom asked her mom (we were neighbors) if she was having a graduation party our senior year, and Rock Star’s mom said, “Rock Star doesn’t want one because she doesn’t think anyone will come.” “