When Being Nice is Not Nice | When You Need To Be Ruthless

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  • Опубликовано: 25 дек 2024

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  • @tracythompson1692
    @tracythompson1692 8 месяцев назад +88

    Yes dont outshine your boss! That is one of the laws in the book “48 Laws”

    • @DubG9
      @DubG9 8 месяцев назад +10

      It's the first law. Never outshine the master.

    • @GloriaAdamah
      @GloriaAdamah 7 месяцев назад +3

      Still reading

    • @adebayoolufemi2074
      @adebayoolufemi2074 5 месяцев назад +4

      In 2008, my mentor, a brilliant scholar, won a visa lottery and left Nigeria to join a university in New York as a post-doctoral fellow. He had earned his PhD from Reading University, showcasing his academic excellence.
      Despite his qualifications and potential, he faced a significant challenge at the university in New York. His supervisor, feeling threatened by my mentor's capabilities, warned him that any attempt to outshine him would result in being ousted from the university.

    • @DubG9
      @DubG9 5 месяцев назад +2

      @@adebayoolufemi2074 at least he told him.

    • @galhits
      @galhits 3 месяца назад

      So some people are meant to dim other people's light so theirs can shine brighter? Are you serious right now? Boss bosses.

  • @rosvaz6795
    @rosvaz6795 8 месяцев назад +35

    I can't stop laughing listening to you sir.😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

    • @jusdoingme
      @jusdoingme 8 месяцев назад +3

      I agree! Especially 'I expelled them', I thank God I found uncle's channel 😂😂😂

    • @dudleyviban2764
      @dudleyviban2764 7 месяцев назад +1

      @@jusdoingmethat line makes me spleen hurt 😂.

    • @Thebest-wz7uf
      @Thebest-wz7uf 7 месяцев назад +1

      😂😂😂

    • @josephukpabi1753
      @josephukpabi1753 Месяц назад

      I love "Burst you"😂😂😂❤

    • @MUART_X
      @MUART_X 11 дней назад

      Same😂😂

  • @simplydivine77
    @simplydivine77 10 месяцев назад +91

    I’m polite and respectful but I’m not as nice as I used to be. I set boundaries and I’m not afraid to call people out on their bull--. Folks are banking on you to let things slide …that only encourages them to keep being disrespectful.

  • @TheLegend-uq1gz
    @TheLegend-uq1gz Год назад +176

    Being nice has a limit. If you go beyond that limit, people will definitely take advantage of you. Very true. Thank you sir.

  • @doctorkennedy811
    @doctorkennedy811 8 месяцев назад +82

    This man is now my internet father 😊😊. I listen to him before I go to work.

  • @metabolism4738
    @metabolism4738 10 месяцев назад +38

    Sir, in you I see my father and my secondary school principal. I than God I found you. May you remain in good health.

  • @suanuagabus3527
    @suanuagabus3527 10 месяцев назад +44

    The riches of this content can't be measured. Thank you Dr Apoki

  • @bolaogunbowale696
    @bolaogunbowale696 Год назад +21

    The day is not completed if l didn't listen to Dr Charles

  • @ernestphiri9772
    @ernestphiri9772 11 месяцев назад +49

    This man is wise, may God give him more years to live.

  • @nkonghoryan6493
    @nkonghoryan6493 7 месяцев назад +27

    "Let profits fuel philanthropy and not capital."
    Well understood sir.

  • @KyunKennedy
    @KyunKennedy Год назад +51

    Everytime I listen to you I see exactly the way I am and I am glad that nothing is actually wrong with me because people always complain that I am not like everyone else but I don't care and that has helped me to build solid structure in my business, family and life in general.
    Today I have been able to constantly grow and acquire more education, build more businesses, implement the Echo income, bought a property, built my own house using the principle of the Ant and so much more even without haven started listening to you yet.
    I am so thankful for the wisdom which you dispense. It validates my personal principles and wisdom.
    Thank you Sir!

    • @lolokey6804
      @lolokey6804 10 месяцев назад +4

      Yh ur write up was indeed encouraging

  • @gordoncage136
    @gordoncage136 4 месяца назад +8

    If you comment here wrongly daddy will expel you… I love your message so much. You have a new follower from Ghana

  • @ionawashington2441
    @ionawashington2441 8 месяцев назад +2

    Truly a “ Solid Word”! Sometimes and some people have to be taught how to respect your compassion! Otherwise, you’re casting your pearls to “ swine”! God bless you richly brother for the words you sow!

  • @lilliannakato1016
    @lilliannakato1016 10 месяцев назад +10

    Glad to come to this platform. So true I wish I met you earlier. Now I am 62 having made so many mistakes. However, there is a lot to do now with my life. God bless you more to reach many people in younger age

  • @TheLegend-uq1gz
    @TheLegend-uq1gz Год назад +30

    Your message here is so true. I live in the USA, many family members back home are “strangulating” their American people here. It’s so weird they (family members back home) will make you feel they will die if you don’t send them money right away.

    • @drcharlesapoki
      @drcharlesapoki  Год назад +27

      And they don't know how hard you work for your money and the sacrifices you make.

    • @josesegura5227
      @josesegura5227 10 месяцев назад

      Once anybody knows you are in the USA they believe that you are rich. You just came in and started sweep dollars from the ground. Same assumption in latinamerica. The true or reality is very different but people don't believe it.

    • @chimeremezeanointed8964
      @chimeremezeanointed8964 4 месяца назад

      I have been sending for various reasons, school fees, health feeding b7t 8t is getting worse by day, so after 30yrs and no results, even kids that are now adults graduated stil begging someone who is almost 60yrs old for support?....I stopped listening to you confirms my decision. There is no point to waste my hatd earned widows might on useless course​@DrCharlesApoki

  • @OmeizaADavid
    @OmeizaADavid 17 дней назад +2

    Well done Sir. I love you. May God give you more grace to build a better stronger society.

  • @reggzofficial
    @reggzofficial 6 месяцев назад +9

    Dr Charles Apoki is
    Literally the Myles Munroe of our Time

    • @bdonaire8992
      @bdonaire8992 5 месяцев назад +2

      The only thing is that is pulpit is the media and like honestly, i love it. Not someone who has not being called but called themself and there is no true power to see the proof of being called by God. Dr. You truly are indeed.

  • @Thehonored0ne-r3z
    @Thehonored0ne-r3z 8 месяцев назад +10

    I’m not a Christian but I really appreciate your message sir, I hope you live long to continue impacting your wisdom

  • @joethekinghawk7514
    @joethekinghawk7514 7 месяцев назад +19

    I’m nice until I’m not nice, something I live by.

  • @margaretchukwuma2448
    @margaretchukwuma2448 10 дней назад

    Thanks Dr. Apoki, as always. Too much tolerance produces family and social problems. In the US public school system, kids who perform poorly don't repeat grades, rather they attend some weeks of summer school for extra work, and promoted to the next class. If you are a parent overworking and not paying attention to your children's school work, you are doomed because some of those students carried over to the next class will be in 5th grade and reading at kindergarten level. Chinese and Japanese are more strict and produce smart graduates. That's why Nigerians are tolerating bad governance, and things has really fallen apart, and the center can no longer hold according to our Chunua Achebe. I learn a lot from your speeches and videos. May God continue to increase your anointing 🙏

  • @cynthiawilkerson574
    @cynthiawilkerson574 10 месяцев назад +5

    Thank you fo this message because I I am to nice but I am about to get ruthless. Because when nice you get no respect. I am 64. And Iam tired . thats me , they treat me like trush. From this day forward. . thank you ! God Bless you. 2/2024 from Pa.

    • @no_guarantees
      @no_guarantees 8 месяцев назад +2

      You don't necessarily have to be ruthless, just have limits and draw that line.

  • @UchennaIgwe-is3bb
    @UchennaIgwe-is3bb 5 месяцев назад +8

    Chai people are on ticktok to see mess,
    But see us. We are here Embracing the unimaginable
    Greatness always comes with a price

    • @J0yov3rflow
      @J0yov3rflow 10 дней назад

      Tiktok can be a waste of time

  • @ifeanyinwuku
    @ifeanyinwuku Год назад +27

    Chai thank you pastor, this is one of my weak point, too nice to people, I need more of this message

    • @georgets6324
      @georgets6324 10 месяцев назад +3

      Having similar problem too nice to family and friends , time to change

    • @philippaokumbor6042
      @philippaokumbor6042 10 месяцев назад +2

      Is he a Pastor?

    • @estheruzoamakaokorie1369
      @estheruzoamakaokorie1369 10 месяцев назад

      Exactly 💯😂. I am over good to people. Infact I am learning a lot here. Thank you Dr. Apoki

    • @gabriel-sunshine
      @gabriel-sunshine 7 месяцев назад

      I am not sure, he his, but baba has scriptural knowledge

  • @WilliamShorter-x3y
    @WilliamShorter-x3y 10 месяцев назад +5

    it is not often that you see or meet people who say what they mean and mean exactly what they say,you dr.apoki are from that rare lot who will not compromise under no circumstance.

  • @CastleHassall
    @CastleHassall 8 месяцев назад +3

    i got ripped off so many times and treated really bad by ex's.. then one day a really tough guy who liked me because i was not after his set told me that i kept getting ripped off and treated really bad/cheated on etc because people did not fear any consequences of treating me bad
    i still try to be as good hearted as i can but I'm getting better at being assertive and making there be consequences for people if they treat me very badly (not necessarily violence but just things like that's the end of the relationship/friendship/business if people are even slightly disrespectful or abusive to me and i these days will stand firm in my higher and not tolerate abuse or bad treatment from people at all, where before i would forgive them and let them be in my life still, but they always hurt me more later if i let them be in my life after they proved they hurt me (i think it's like, "don't cast our pearls before swine lest they turn and rend us" .. we are best to keep our good safe from those who would deliberately hurt us.. if we let them keep on being near us they will hurt us again and maybe much more badly if we let them be near us so it is best to keep them away.. it is their choice not us to be bad.. Jesus didn't stay with people or let people be near him if he knew they were bad for him so we are not bad to keep bad for us people out of our life
    best wishes to you all
    from Rolland in Scotland
    if "Kevvy" who lived in Fallowfield in Manchester is known by any of you please ask him to get in touch with me as he had to leave quickly and i always hope he is ok

  • @kellyosaze2915
    @kellyosaze2915 10 месяцев назад +14

    He speaks like a Capricorn ♑️ truthful and straight

    • @markgeorge7426
      @markgeorge7426 10 месяцев назад +2

      He is a Taurus

    • @simplydivine77
      @simplydivine77 10 месяцев назад +2

      @@markgeorge7426Taurus and Cap are both Earth signs.

    • @jackjack4412
      @jackjack4412 8 месяцев назад

      Are scorpios straightforward?

    • @no_guarantees
      @no_guarantees 8 месяцев назад +8

      The truth knows no signs

    • @markgeorge7426
      @markgeorge7426 8 месяцев назад +2

      @@no_guarantees True

  • @chrisofficial715
    @chrisofficial715 10 месяцев назад +20

    I thank God we still have Elders like this who choose to educate us With their WISDOM.
    God bless you Sir 🙏🙏

  • @chidieberenwachukwu7093
    @chidieberenwachukwu7093 7 месяцев назад +9

    each time i watch a new video, i say "this is the best one yet".

  • @egwuatuomezievictor7546
    @egwuatuomezievictor7546 Год назад +12

    That’s very good that u re standing against gay acts.that’s another deadly thing that is working against our society now

  • @glorynwosuagwu6660
    @glorynwosuagwu6660 Месяц назад +1

    GOD BLESS YOU DR APOKI.THOSE WHO HAVE EARS WILL HEAR. PEOPLE ARE GETTING TIRED OF LEVIES ETC IN SOME DENOMINATIONS WHERE THE CHURCH RELiES HEAVILY ON THE LAITY.

  • @efesologe1462
    @efesologe1462 10 месяцев назад +7

    This is my best program in quest FM Ughelli delta state with respect sir listen from Ibadan👍👍

  • @familyaffairscorner3860
    @familyaffairscorner3860 Месяц назад

    This man is full of wisdom.

  • @bionicsein3182
    @bionicsein3182 7 месяцев назад +5

    You teach what our fathers arr quiet to say

  • @freespirit-111
    @freespirit-111 7 месяцев назад +8

    Just like water, it will quench your thirst, but it can also drown you and cause destruction.

  • @Wuraholar
    @Wuraholar 9 месяцев назад +10

    Thank you for your words of wisdom sir. These are the values i wish i was taught at sunday school decades ago, not all those shallow lessons about "loving your neighbors & enemies".

  • @michaelsegun6744
    @michaelsegun6744 10 месяцев назад +8

    I'm enlighten by this video, and I'm glad to hear this message now because I'm a business man and it will help me immensely. Thank you sir

    • @drcharlesapoki
      @drcharlesapoki  10 месяцев назад

      Glad it was helpful! Please share with others.

  • @nnennaofoegbu5906
    @nnennaofoegbu5906 23 дня назад

    A taker does not have a limit, therefore a a giver must know their limit and draw the limit.

  • @subhronilsen
    @subhronilsen 7 месяцев назад +17

    Dr. Apoki needs to be elected president.

  • @fridaewo1233
    @fridaewo1233 11 месяцев назад +11

    Thank you so much Dr,you are a gift to mankind, watching from Cameroon

  • @juliusakanihu8264
    @juliusakanihu8264 Месяц назад

    Truth most be said and stand with, then wisdom and prosperity follows.

  • @mojisolaogunjimiomoniyi8875
    @mojisolaogunjimiomoniyi8875 День назад

    These are powerful words.More grace sir

  • @DivineChe
    @DivineChe 29 дней назад +1

    Indeed am happy i stumbled on this message.You are endowed sir with wisdom. God bless you

  • @jefftone
    @jefftone 7 месяцев назад +4

    @46:54 Kenyans Kikuyus are acknowledge here thumps up for Dr Apoki for that👏👏👏

    • @Allanwere
      @Allanwere 6 месяцев назад

      kabisa.. but mimi ni mluhya

  • @Shadrackfunsoolaoluwa
    @Shadrackfunsoolaoluwa 29 дней назад

    Very truthful am a victim of this very dangerous

  • @NO-he4de
    @NO-he4de 9 месяцев назад +1

    Fountain of Wisdom!!!!!! This is REALLY DEEP!!! Dr Charles well said and I admire your WISDOM!!!!! God bless you and age gracefully and graciously. God bless you SIR!!!!

  • @kennethataro9422
    @kennethataro9422 10 месяцев назад +4

    Very sincere, truthful, and practical.
    God bless you, sir

  • @africansliberationmovement5093
    @africansliberationmovement5093 3 месяца назад +1

    You’re filled with wisdom.
    You’re a very intelligent man. May the good Lord continue to preserve and strengthen you.

  • @Victorochad
    @Victorochad 5 месяцев назад +2

    Seriously you earned my subscription..your are truely a wise man Nigerians needs you sir God bless you sir

  • @jabulanisena6288
    @jabulanisena6288 Год назад +11

    Apoki the president of common sense

    • @drcharlesapoki
      @drcharlesapoki  Год назад

      Thanks so much. Please where are you watching from.

    • @jabulanisena6288
      @jabulanisena6288 Год назад

      @@drcharlesapoki please right here in Ghana I started watching only two weeks ago but I have learnt so much from your videos

  • @farmGits
    @farmGits 2 месяца назад +1

    Raw and powerful teaching... i drew inspiration from this cuz i find myself helping people with the little resources I have but not recording any significance achievement for myself year in year out.

  • @lucienasone5751
    @lucienasone5751 10 месяцев назад +6

    Yes Sir, I concur. Where there is no discipline, there is disorder. Disorder must be handled ruthlessly.

  • @josephukpabi1753
    @josephukpabi1753 Месяц назад

    ❤ Burst you!!!! 😂 I love the way you say it

  • @itsewilkie-yd7ge
    @itsewilkie-yd7ge 7 месяцев назад +1

    No "Daddy"....u will deaden me.🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😆...that line was funny.Ose...wan kill me with laff.

  • @michaeledeh7745
    @michaeledeh7745 7 месяцев назад +1

    Sir, we need people like you in Nigerian politics/government.

  • @deeteespiritsoul5890
    @deeteespiritsoul5890 2 месяца назад

    You are clearly very disciplined. This is what Nigeria needs. Well done sir

  • @A.B.creativekingdom
    @A.B.creativekingdom 9 месяцев назад +2

    This is interesting, this message is a matiral anyone can use to rebrand himself thank you sir I'm seriously learning from your message and I will not take them for granted thanks

  • @aimspecial5893
    @aimspecial5893 27 дней назад

    You are doing so well in truth Sir. Kerp it ip. Truth.is very much needed in the life of today snd it's a very scars comodity

  • @TheModelingKing
    @TheModelingKing 7 месяцев назад +4

    I just love this my papa, I'm not Jesus Christ, only God can give his life 😂😂😂 not me, i was just being carried away by religion, and sometimes i over nice, my over niceness and philanthropy life once leads me to depression, because i was so broke, after i get back to my senses omo, i changed plans, i need to help my seld first before helping others, if you like cry a River.

  • @Fridaymktg4value
    @Fridaymktg4value 23 дня назад

    I'm blessed to hear from you sir, thank you and God bless you.

  • @_m_K_.
    @_m_K_. 7 месяцев назад +4

    "Sometimes I am not nice." 😂

  • @deanwilson6129
    @deanwilson6129 3 месяца назад +2

    I love and respect your person especially your sound , constructive and educated mind. 💌.

  • @tessybepeh3106
    @tessybepeh3106 25 дней назад

    I am happy I found u online sir. Ur teaching gives me insight

  • @Beautifulhighpriestess
    @Beautifulhighpriestess 7 месяцев назад +1

    I like the way u give us advice from a biblical perspective..thank God Christianity isn't dead.

  • @kgabochokoe7127
    @kgabochokoe7127 8 месяцев назад +5

    Full of wisdom. Thank you so much. Indeed we tolerated stupidity a lot. Powerful teaching

  • @FlorenceO-kn5in
    @FlorenceO-kn5in 26 дней назад

    This is quite educative, informative, and insightful. Doctor keep the ball rolling. May ur days be long in sound health

  • @olusolaadegboyega7152
    @olusolaadegboyega7152 7 дней назад

    Thanks

  • @Othniel067
    @Othniel067 Месяц назад

    What is learnt here so priceless.. May God keep blessing you Dr. Apoki🙏

  • @owm4982
    @owm4982 6 месяцев назад +1

    All I can say is well done, Dr. The Lord keeps you .

  • @essienessien5032
    @essienessien5032 8 месяцев назад +5

    Dr your teaching is always reinforcing my beliefs and values. Thanks

  • @emmanueleruotor4778
    @emmanueleruotor4778 7 дней назад

    Great lessons. Thank you Oniovo.

  • @poduguwa
    @poduguwa 9 месяцев назад +2

    May God continue to bless you as you instruct and enlighten us. Thank you sir.

  • @nosatheorator
    @nosatheorator 2 месяца назад

    This was long but way better than watching some movies

  • @tambemarcelnjang3095
    @tambemarcelnjang3095 25 дней назад

    You are a great man sir.

  • @kingsleyafangide9044
    @kingsleyafangide9044 Месяц назад

    One thing i don't play with is my free time. I relax when it's time to relax

  • @audryangus4795
    @audryangus4795 9 месяцев назад +1

    Hi Dr Apoki. I enjoy listening to your teaching. Thanks sir🍎🍎

  • @samuelateji9299
    @samuelateji9299 19 дней назад

    Hello Dr, nice to hear you.

  • @Joseph-ek3oe
    @Joseph-ek3oe Месяц назад

    That is the truth

  • @Blue_aerow
    @Blue_aerow Месяц назад

    You are valued and appreciated sir, may God bless you.

  • @TrueTalkeTV
    @TrueTalkeTV 10 месяцев назад +3

    A message at the nick of time!

    • @bdonaire8992
      @bdonaire8992 5 месяцев назад

      I swear. A right word at the right time, how pleasant is it. Many of us out of sentiments and spirituality are being ripped by people with ulterior motive. May the Lord keep us wiser.

  • @awitness9020
    @awitness9020 7 месяцев назад +1

    That's what I need and many pastors. That's what kills our sweet. Thank you daddy I love you from Kenya
    Pst Chris I want to join you classes

  • @HycenthOnyebuchi-fg8kb
    @HycenthOnyebuchi-fg8kb Месяц назад

    Agreed 💯 i have experience such your making sense sir

  • @TRUTH240
    @TRUTH240 10 месяцев назад +2

    I am amazed, I thoroughly enjoyed this message. I am energized..

  • @adeniyijohn3077
    @adeniyijohn3077 Год назад +4

    Thank you sir. This is seriously serious. God helping me.

  • @GraceObekpa-nn5hj
    @GraceObekpa-nn5hj 10 месяцев назад +4

    Wisdom speaks.

  • @lady_Atekpilubanga
    @lady_Atekpilubanga 3 месяца назад

    I loved the message. I am new here just found your content today Dr Charles, and I thank God for your life that I get to hear your educative content today. You are right, self-preservation is a must and you have done well to do it for yourself that's why you live to this day and I am privileged to hear your voice. I learnt that being nice without wisdom is dangerous because, in this generation with Satan leading the world, people do not have pure intentions as you are so if you are nice and naive, they will crush you!
    Once again, Thank you for the insights.

  • @derickasane8499
    @derickasane8499 Год назад +3

    Thanks daddy, i believe your messages will help me, to achieve great success in life. Watching from cameroon.👍

  • @franciszoechituwi3369
    @franciszoechituwi3369 3 месяца назад +1

    You are a Blessing Sir!

  • @FlorenceElu
    @FlorenceElu 10 месяцев назад +6

    It was the HUSBAND who told the first lie. His wife followed him. That's why women should not say yes to everything their husbands suggest. It will cost your life. Be like Abigail with David. Use wisdom.

  • @payparallel
    @payparallel 10 месяцев назад +2

    I haven't watched the video, but based on his previous videos I've watched, l know there'll be a lot of wisdom in this video

  • @successjesus9257
    @successjesus9257 10 месяцев назад +1

    May God bless you Sir. How wish I was opportuned to sit under your tutelage some 30 years ago.

  • @peterchelnor3247
    @peterchelnor3247 Месяц назад

    Fantastic Dr.

  • @ubongobot947
    @ubongobot947 Месяц назад

    Great teaching. Thanks for sharing, God bless you Sir.

  • @omukubi
    @omukubi 6 месяцев назад

    Wonderful speech. Now I know why I am poor

  • @Olamola01
    @Olamola01 6 месяцев назад +1

    I love this man❤ God bless you, grandpa!

  • @ChinweNwigwe
    @ChinweNwigwe 5 месяцев назад

    Lmao😂😂 Dr said if he cast out all the demons finish ,which ones will the next generation cast out😂😂. Wisdom is really profitable to direct. Dr is a balanced Christian

  • @barontettey8485
    @barontettey8485 Месяц назад

    Go to the point.

  • @funmiadenekan9223
    @funmiadenekan9223 10 месяцев назад +2

    May God continue to give you wisdom 🙏

  • @ChinweNwigwe
    @ChinweNwigwe 5 месяцев назад

    Lmao😂😂 Dr said if he cast out alk the demons finish which ones will the next generation cast out😂😂. Wisdom is really profitable to direct. Dr is a balanced Christian

  • @whoosmind
    @whoosmind Месяц назад

    Nice talk senor brother

  • @chimaobiuwadiegwu8201
    @chimaobiuwadiegwu8201 Месяц назад

    Thanks prof 🎉