Right, I only take pictures of the food when I go to classy restaurants and keep them as posts. I post the food that I cook if it’s not pretty on my stories that disappears in 24 hours lol 😂
Someone refusing to remove an unflattering photo of you (especially if it's a photo of JUST you) is the quickest way to find out that someone is not your friend. There's a reason why celebrities have entire PR teams to monitor their image--pictures matter and can last forever, especially right now, and as the owner of your body you have a right to say what goes up online or not.
I lost it😂😂. The girls really be out here showing their dry mac and cheese, mushy rice, and burnt cornbread on the gram trying to prove how much of a wifey she is😭. It's embarrassing.
The first step is cleaning out your friend list. I'm at the point where , if you want to know my personal life it is invite only. Detox isn't only for your body, clear your phone & social media out, if you haven't conversed with them in a year, clear them out.
I will never forget in September , spirit woke me up at 4 am. I immediately stared meditating and then I heard “shut it down”. I deleted my personal, twitter, FB, and Instagram. I just have my RUclips page and a corresponding IG account, and I must say, life is sooooo much more peaceful. It also helped that I changed my phone number too in December, and ended relationships that didn’t serve me anymore.
I’ve glowed up beyond recognition lately, and still got more to do. I’m most definitely creating a new Facebook account this year, deactivating my old one and putting lovely new photos off myself on there. I’ll aim to have new photos taken off my every week and upload a new image 1-2x a month. I’ll create a new IG too, with more frequent uploading. I feel a clean well created social media page can boost ones self-esteem as well, plus attract more potential suitors.
I had an old frenemy, I cut off and ghosted over quarantine, who would definitely do something like this. I'm naturally thin but gained weight while I was with my ex. I'm no longer with him now, I have a new boyfriend. But back then she took a picture of me without my knowledge of me in a dress I tried on at Forever 21. It was a VERY ugly image, I looked like a sausage in the dress and was vocal about it to her, venting to my friend about how I didn't like what I let happen to my body. She took the picture right after I opened up to her about this. I didn't know until she sent it to me and I was upset about it. Since I've left my ex and got a new boyfriend, I've lost the extra weight and was loving myself all over again. After I made a post about it and loving being home to relax without worries (my boyfriend takes care of me, the bills and my pets) and actually having the chance to be feminine, she sent that unflattering image to me. I asked her why, and her reply was "lol I don't know". So I said "well I'm glad I no longer look like that anymore, that's the old me. It's motivation to not let that happen again". He response was just "lol" and she never said anything else after that. She always took digs like that. The worst was when my boyfriend and I were already in an exclusive relationship, she was at work while I was off and when asked where I was, she responded to my coworkers and management team etc (people who have the power to advance my career or not) that I was in Kankakee getting my back broken in by some random guy.... Our mutual coworker told me about it, others did too. That really pissed me off because it was no one's business whether he was my man or not, what I was doing in my personal adult life, we are in an exclusive relationship and wtf would you say that to ANYONE (superiors especially) and try to tarnish my reputation at work??? She did other things too to try to ruin my rep, I ghosted her. It was hard because I really cared for her and wanted to see her succeed but you can't have people who are rooting for your downfall and will gladly trio you all the while on your journey.
@Crime Mia River @Carpathianpixie195 It's very real. She even contributed to the downfall of my last relationship, which I take responsibility because I allowed her into my life and excused her many times. She told me she needed to stay away from me and my new relationship because she "didn't want to ruin another one" but kept trying to trick us into going to swingers/sex clubs and etc. She and her ex was going to drive us "somewhere that was a surprise" after our company Christmas party. I kept asking her what it was, she told me she didn't know and for us to leave our car at the hotel, that they would drive us there. Eventually she let it slip it was a sex club (which I didn't know there were any in Chicago at all) and I was so angry with her. That night at the company party she tried to insinuate my boyfriend wanted to fight her boyfriend/ex for her and tried to get a confrontation started at the actual company in the lobby between them. It was apparent she and her ex was trying to pull me into some sort of weird threesome thing with them, when we would have girl talk and etc she would run back and tell him everything. She got mad at me once and let it slip that he compared us sexually and I was shook because I never spoke to this man. She would run and tell him everything we spoke about, which wasn't much at all, and she was upset about it. Like why would you tell business about another woman to your man in the first place and then take it out on the woman??? I couldn't stand him. She kept trying to get me to be friends with him, give me his number and tried to pressure me into communicating with him. I rejected it everytime and told her I'm her friend, not his and didn't want anything to do with him. ON TOP OF THAT when I was at work she shoved her phone in my face to show me videos of them having sex. I lost it and read her, then told her how other women would jump at the opportunity to ruin her relationship because she does nothing but advertise him and that it wasn't wise. She would always try to talk to me about his penis, and bring up subtle hints about them mentioning me in their sex talk. It was disguisting. It's my fault for holding onto the friendship, I felt bad for her because of the things she had been through and it would tug at my heartstrings. Everytime I was going to cut her off, someone died or she was going through something and I never felt it was right to leave her in a position like that. Not to mention her threats of suicide that also made me feel stuck and worried. I had enough after she tried to embarrass me in front of our coworkers/friends in a group chat that she and my ex were talking over Tinder and Facebook messenger. She got caught up in a lie about it saying that he video called her on Facebook, and then switched it to Tinder (Tinder didn't have that feature at all, and to speak to anyone via FB messenger and Tinder you have to agree to it and had been communicating prior to that in the first place). I have stories for days about it, I've never had a close female friend like that before, but it was definitely scarring. My boyfriend wants me to get therapy because I still mourn the friendship a but to this day and I have bad anxiety with even the thought of pursuing friendships with women. Storytimes for days. The same way people fear new romantic relationships, I have that fear for friendships now.
I never have posted things inappropriately on Social media. However, I had a former "friend" (an angry narcissist) that attacked me in a way that did cause damage for a long long time! Be careful who you associate with! People will create lies to smear you in a way you may not be able to control.
These are Narc tactics that will occur at every stage of life because Haters and jealous people are always going to try and attempt to pull down GREAT and AWESOME people with there mouth. They’re aim is to distract you from your destiny. Smile and keep doing you the more. Keep giving them things to speak on and do so, with a smile 😃 on your face. Literally, the story of my life.. 💕
@@m.s.5966 Love, let your pain and hurt be expensive don’t give it away free to pickmeshas and dusties. Ignore those group of time wasters and focus on yourself. One thing I will say in life is, if they ain’t paying your bills 💸 they’re significance and relevance in your life is not important or impressive. Cut them off real quick ad focus on yourself. That’s what’s important, not the false perception of other people.
@@user-of9bx1uk3u Wow!! I wasn’t expecting any kind of sweet advice for free!! Thank you so so so much, S ❤️ Everything you said is spot on! I noticed they do the same thing to other people, trying to convert everyone they knew against them the way they’re doing to me. You’re either with them or against them. It was one of the reasons I broke down mentally and knew I had to leave. I couldn’t really figure out why I was doing so terribly in the group but after leaving I had so much clarity. Men would check me out or compliment me when we went out together, I got dates when they didn’t, I always insisted girls didn’t have to pay on dates while they insisted on 50/50... and now they’ve put me on the same list of people they hate (who all got what they wanted). I know I just need to hold on and let them talk about me like I’m a celebrity. I dove deep into studying NPD after my friendship with them and things made so much sense 🥲 Experiences like this must have been a very difficult, yet rewarding, for you! Thank you so much for your strength, resilience and for even reaching out to me! It’s women like you I look up to who give me the strength and faith in times like this. I’ve gone through things worse than girl drama so I know I GOT IT. Anyways, this was such a long reply! And thank you so much for the lovely words ❤️ I can’t wait to grow from this experience 🥰
So over social media! I’ve stopped posting on IG months ago and deleted my FB. I’m now all of a sudden getting random text messages from someone (they have yet to tell me who they are)asking if I’m pregnant. LOL they’re triggered they can’t stalk me anymore 🤦🏾♀️💀💀
Honestly, I gave up social media this year. At least so far...(minus RUclips Lol). I find myself way more productive just doing what I need to do to elevate as opposed to posting about elevating or anything else for that matter. It also has rid of a hugh pool of distractions that dare I say have become quite boring!
I had a friend post a throwback video of me drunk (on her WhatsApp status) without my consent, luckily I wasn't doing anything embarrassing, but just screening at the top of my lungs singing along to a song. Nonetheless, I have put that life past me and never want to take videos of myself drunk and post them on social media even if it's on my stories people will screenshot/record that and use it against you. I asked her to delete the video which she did (from her status) but refused to delete it from her phone, I don't know why she wants to keep the videos on her phone, but it's something I'll be cautious about in the future. I also had a friend innocently post (on WhatsApp) throw back pictures from 1st year of college. However the photos were unflattering, I was fat back then, and I now have levelled up, she conveniently didn't post a picture of herself where she looked a hot mess. I may be overreacting, but I always side-eye people who post unflattering pictures of others on social media without posting such images of themselves. Luckily both these incidents happened on What'sApp, not Facebook or Instagram, where many people can have access to your posts, including strangers.
I had an old frenemy, I cut off and ghosted over quarantine, who would definitely do something like this. I'm naturally thin but gained weight while I was with my ex. I'm no longer with him now, I have a new boyfriend. But back then she took a picture of me without my knowledge of me in a dress I tried on at Forever 21. It was a VERY ugly image, I looked like a sausage in the dress and was vocal about it to her, venting to my friend about how I didn't like what I let happen to my body. She took the picture right after I opened up to her about this. I didn't know until she sent it to me and I was upset about it. Since I've left my ex and got a new boyfriend, I've lost the extra weight and was loving myself all over again. After I made a post about it and loving being home to relax without worries (my boyfriend takes care of me, the bills and my pets) and actually having the chance to be feminine, she sent that unflattering image to me. I asked her why, and her reply was "lol I don't know". So I said "well I'm glad I no longer look like that anymore, that the old me. It's motivation to not let that happen again". He response was just "lol" and she never said anything else after that. She always took digs like that. The worst was when my boyfriend and I were already in an exclusive relationship, she was at work while I was off and when asked where I was, she responded to my coworkers and management team etc (people who have the power to advance my career or not) that I was in Kankakee getting my back broken in by some random guy.... Our mutual coworker told me about it, others did too. That really pissed me off because it was no one's business whether he was my man or not, what I was doing in my personal adult life, we are in an exclusive relationship and wtf would you say that to ANYONE (superiors especially) and try to tarnish my reputation at work??? She did other things too to try to ruin my rep, I ghosted her. It was hard because I really cared for her and wanted to see her succeed but you can't have people who are rooting for your downfall and will gladly trio you all the while on your journey.
Forever thankful to my parents who restricted me from making social media accounts when I was underage. This helped me to create a very good image in social because I was very mature and aware of the cons of social media when I finally started one.
@@jullierose in that case it works, because word of mouth is very important in your field, Personally, i would say just keep it calm and not outwardly boastful as some may do, or even transform your page into a half personal and half professional account you feel?
Hi Chloe...I deleted my old Facebook page entirely and started over. Also, I have Pinterest, RUclips and LinkedIn. That’s it. I never knew that validation from others was so exhausting. I will never go back to that I am done
I came off of social media for three years and I’ve been back for 3 years. I’ve really cleaned it up. I still have a habit of talking about politics and post silly memes. This reinvigorated my goal to keep it classy not trashy + elevating to a business presentation which is why I went back on.
I am listening to you I am getting chills. This is exactly what I have notice with some of my lady colleges...some have gotten pulled out of their role solely to be copy cats. I have been disappointed with some of my girl friends who fell into the trap. Meanwhile, I have been very strategic in what I post simply because I am aware of who my audience and demographic is. Not sure if it's also a virgo thing...lol
I really needed to see this, I deleted my Twitter because there was nothing but negativity and it was affecting me, I stopped posting so much on ig, and now its time for fb
Agreed. Women were doing the silhouette challenge and then getting mad when men are taking off their filter to see them naked. Why are you getting naked and posting it on the internet? If you make that decision to get naked for the internet, you gotta take whatever comes with it.
I agree, TikTok was intended for little ones around 13+, but even kids younger than that love TikTok. I don’t understand why they felt comfortable to pose something so sexual on there anyway.
Chloe I don’t know you but I Love the way Your Strong Values Align with Who I Am and What I Stand For. I’m Definately humble and Learning to Correct My Own Flaws In Areas of My Life too.
Listening to this advice, i realized that my social media presence is not too badly off. I however have to clean up those unflattering photos and meaningless memes. Thank you Chloe for this advice.
I just did this and decided I would be backing away this year. I also recently put my account on private as well. Also, I find posting very frequently comes off as attention seeking/needing validation if you’re not getting sponsored for your posts.
I’d also like to add that although challenges are mainly done in good fun, be tasteful when it comes to what you’re putting on social media. Also, be mindful of the tools others may have to dig you an early grave. The new silhouette challenge is a very risky one because there’s been men on Twitter saying they can alter the color of the background which will expose one’s entire naked body along with their face front and center. Not all challenges are bad, heck they gave most of us the entertainment we desperately needed during quarantine. But, I tell you one thing about me - I’m not getting naked on Instagram for anybody, and definitely not for free. 😅
I have an auntie that’s always digging up my awkward childhood days photos and posts. I know I was an innocent child so it’s not the same as thot pictures but I’ve told her to stop and she won’t. I cannot stand her!!
If you just send it to your girl friends, it’s probably fine, but posting it for everyone to see is a bad idea. Anyone can screenshot and use it against you
PancakesAnd Wine I agree, I also think it was the mainly the black men criticizing Ayesha because it was their aha moment. They’re still upset she said she would like to get attention from men like Steph gets from women... she is overall a very feminine and classy woman so one twerking in the kitchen fully clothed isn’t a big deal to me
@@kathyalex778 Your jealous friends might leak your twerk videos when they see you winning. Don't trust anyone with anything which can be used to damage your reputation.
CIARA DEFINITELY be bussing it WIDE OPEN and she has a high value man , but she's fit, and feminine despite dusty BM trynna call her a man all the time , her being a dancer/ performer, and fit she can get away with it. So make sure youre leveled up and CAN ACTUALLY PERFORM if you're gonna dance for a man and he's Paying your Bills !!! 💅💅💅
@@illmeeillmee9373 how is Russell not a hvm? 🤣🤣. One, not only is he one of the best in tbe nfl but he's also HV in how he cares for her and her children, which is most important!
@@come_on_barbie_123 ppl just say anything. And he's not my cup of tea physically but he's not ugly either. Lol. Ppl love hating. Like sis are u with bill gates ? Lol
Chloe I actually think I’m addicted to your videos 🙈🙈🙈 you do such a great job 👏🏾 I go back and rewatch things so I can use these lessons in my life. Please keep doing what you do, it’s changed my life and perspective for the better ❤️
1. I loved all of these suggestions! They are a great way to 'quickly' level up and change social perspective about you. 2. I have had someone not only tag me in an unflattering photo, but also someone who tried to embarrass me in the comments under one of my pictures! Both happened on Facebook. I did not allow myself to be tagged. I also called the other person out for being a hater BEFORE I deleted both of our comments. We are no longer friends on social media or real life btw. 3. I would also like to suggest that we monitor who we FOLLOW who may be problematic. For instance abusers, ratchets, etc. Also monitor the groups you join. Other people can see that too and will associate you with those type of people as well. After all, birds of a feather...
Absolutely on point! Some of these unflattering "challenges" are an example of that. All of it memorialized, and when you do glow up, somebody will always remember and throw it back on social media. These days,you have to be very careful.
Omg. I literally just did this a couple of days ago and everything you said I did before I watched this video. It feels good to know I’m backed by Chloe on this move!
Thank you for this video, Chloe 💕✨🙌🏾 The truth is that these days, people will automatically go to your social media to check you out and depending on your profile, the photos and images you post it can be a good or bad impression.
there's a lot of policing and shaming going on in these comments and it's a little disheartening. No one is perfect and people will make mistakes on social media as long as they can learn from it and change it. That's it that's all
I feel accomplished ahhahahahhahaha!!! All of these principles I have been practising! Every single one. I completely deleted FB, twitter in 2019 and I tried to delete some other apps I joined when I was still in undergrad in my teens and very early 20's back in 06' hahahah. I'm only on IG which is private. I decluttered my following list, no drama/gossip pages or people who always have an opinion on the latest trending topics with no valid points! Random weirdos who just add you for numbers etc. I'm also very strategic with my posts(background has always been important), captions are simple and cheerful, clear out old images that I feel don't represent who I am right now and occasionally take breaks from it (deactivate my account and delete the app). It truly gives you a sense of discipline and forces you to really be intentional about what you decide to post and WHY you're posting often if it isn't a business account. With frenemies posting unflattering images, I believe I have not or perhaps don't recall, but I if I did I always found a way to accept that regardless, it's me and kept it pushing. I have posted images from let's say undergrad where it's an obvious old picture and one friend in particular who is a bit extra on the socials lol she would insist that it be taken down. I always scan images to ensure that we're all looking ok and if I'm not sure, I ask if they're ok with me posting it!
My mental health and maturity has gotten so much better since deleting everything except for an art business IG. The amount of lurkers and distraction is it not worth it. Also “friends” will literally use anything you post online against you
Thanks Chloe for giving us more Gems in the New Year! I'm guilty, I know I should clen up my social media. I may have some risk-a pics from my twenties. Now, as a mom and the desire and pursuit of becoming a business owner. I wanna be respected and looked up to.
Yes, when I had social media 4 years ago, I had a relative and a hey- girlship, that posted a pictures of me within the group, where I was out of focus or stance was off. Let's just say that was our Season Finale for the long haul. For the future, I will either take my own photos solo or with one super trusted person to pose/ post with.
Am I the only one cringing 😬 about old #tb pictures etc on IG lbvs?! FB is deactivated and cleaned up, onto IG.. Thank you Chloe for yet again a short, but sweet and truthful video! ♥️
Thanks Chloe for reminder about posting your life moments. Went on date he took me horseback riding. In true divine order your video popped up. Everyone not happy with your leveling up.
Great video. I really need to at the very least keep up appearances online. Not like"keeping up with the Joneses" but just reminding the world that I'm here.
Great topic, as always. Re-entering the professional work force, I decided to review your content as additional inspiration. I'm happy to see many more videos to consume since I last watched.
"Nasty looking home cooked meals." I haven't had social media since 2013, but that took me back to seeing other people post struggle "meals."🤣🤣🤣 I dont have social media,because I do not want anyone in my business. When I did have social media it was just Facebook, and barely changed my pictures or added anything personal up on there.
A lot of the Facebook friend request are nothing more than a fact finding mission. I've got about 300 friends, and I'm regularly evaluating those. If we're not involved in mutually exchanges of information or ideas after a year, I unfriend them. That leaves colleagues, family and friends (usually childhood) who are significant in my life
@PancakesAnd Wine me I love how she changed the narrative of her mess-ups . From baby mama to a serial nonsense baby daddy rapper to someone from a bourgeois family who treats her like an egg. From partying in trap night clubs with useless rappers to State dinner at the White House. Then went to Harvard and is now successful biz woman and a glowing wife and mom. She cleaned up really nice.
Rufina Ndongo that part! And a certain group on RUclips hate her for it! They hate that other women can look at her and be like I want that! I want better than what I’ve been settling for....
@@channelcoconut6830 go ahead. Don't be afraid to go for what you want. And please, keep your level up journey🤐🤫. Not every one who smiles with you is happy for you . Not every conversation is meant for every audience. Apply wisdom .So much toxicity out there. If anyone asks about your sudden change just say something like "it is God's Grace " and that's it . May your efforts be rewarded. Now, go, live intentionally and level up. And THRIVE 😍😍😍😍💝💝💝💝
This information is on time. Definitely something that I need to hear. I have been planning to clean up my page and update it to reflect the person I am today. Yet, I must find the time to complete this task.
The only person that tag me in some uncute posts is my mama🤷🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️😂! Bless her heart, she's getting a little better since I told her which pic is tag approved and she will not see a son in law from me soon if she keep posting those pics😂!! I'm gone make it easier for her and take pretty recent pics ☺️
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Take down photos of your “nasty-looking home-cooked meals” 😯😯😯😯. Chloe went all the way there!!! Truth!
Yesss!!!😭😭😭🤣🤣 & I am here for it!
Right, I only take pictures of the food when I go to classy restaurants and keep them as posts. I post the food that I cook if it’s not pretty on my stories that disappears in 24 hours lol 😂
I was rolling 😂😂😂
Chloe is the best when I need a laugh! 😂😂
Also, if you aren't a caterer trying to strike up business, what's the point? It's also a pick me signal. "Look boys, I can cook". 🙄🙄🙄🙄
I literally deleted 330 people of my Facebook this past week and let me tell you it's a great feeling. 😌💯
I deleted over 200 but ended up made a new page a couple of months ago
Someone refusing to remove an unflattering photo of you (especially if it's a photo of JUST you) is the quickest way to find out that someone is not your friend. There's a reason why celebrities have entire PR teams to monitor their image--pictures matter and can last forever, especially right now, and as the owner of your body you have a right to say what goes up online or not.
"...and that also includes your nasty looking home cooked meals." LAAAAAAAAAWD! Why are you like this Chloe?😂
I lost it😂😂. The girls really be out here showing their dry mac and cheese, mushy rice, and burnt cornbread on the gram trying to prove how much of a wifey she is😭. It's embarrassing.
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She is hilarious 😂 and so non chalant
I don’t even use my personal social media anymore. If I want to stay in touch with friends, I text or call.
"If" I want to stay in touch.(period) Lol
Same!!!
Same here
Thank you!
I haven’t posted on FB for years and literally deleted almost everyone who I don’t speak to in real life:) don’t regret it
That would be almost my whole entire Facebook 🤣
Im also unfriending all dusty men on Facebook. I'm tired of seeing man baby posts and cheap broke men looking for Barbara the builders.
That’s what I should do. I have so many random dusties on my timeline smh
😂😂😂😂 #salute!
Barbara the builder 😭 that was smooth
The first step is cleaning out your friend list. I'm at the point where , if you want to know my personal life it is invite only. Detox isn't only for your body, clear your phone & social media out, if you haven't conversed with them in a year, clear them out.
I will never forget in September , spirit woke me up at 4 am. I immediately stared meditating and then I heard “shut it down”. I deleted my personal, twitter, FB, and Instagram. I just have my RUclips page and a corresponding IG account, and I must say, life is sooooo much more peaceful. It also helped that I changed my phone number too in December, and ended relationships that didn’t serve me anymore.
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I’ve glowed up beyond recognition lately, and still got more to do. I’m most definitely creating a new Facebook account this year, deactivating my old one and putting lovely new photos off myself on there. I’ll aim to have new photos taken off my every week and upload a new image 1-2x a month. I’ll create a new IG too, with more frequent uploading. I feel a clean well created social media page can boost ones self-esteem as well, plus attract more potential suitors.
Congrats!
I had an old frenemy, I cut off and ghosted over quarantine, who would definitely do something like this. I'm naturally thin but gained weight while I was with my ex. I'm no longer with him now, I have a new boyfriend. But back then she took a picture of me without my knowledge of me in a dress I tried on at Forever 21. It was a VERY ugly image, I looked like a sausage in the dress and was vocal about it to her, venting to my friend about how I didn't like what I let happen to my body. She took the picture right after I opened up to her about this. I didn't know until she sent it to me and I was upset about it. Since I've left my ex and got a new boyfriend, I've lost the extra weight and was loving myself all over again. After I made a post about it and loving being home to relax without worries (my boyfriend takes care of me, the bills and my pets) and actually having the chance to be feminine, she sent that unflattering image to me. I asked her why, and her reply was "lol I don't know". So I said "well I'm glad I no longer look like that anymore, that's the old me. It's motivation to not let that happen again". He response was just "lol" and she never said anything else after that. She always took digs like that. The worst was when my boyfriend and I were already in an exclusive relationship, she was at work while I was off and when asked where I was, she responded to my coworkers and management team etc (people who have the power to advance my career or not) that I was in Kankakee getting my back broken in by some random guy.... Our mutual coworker told me about it, others did too. That really pissed me off because it was no one's business whether he was my man or not, what I was doing in my personal adult life, we are in an exclusive relationship and wtf would you say that to ANYONE (superiors especially) and try to tarnish my reputation at work??? She did other things too to try to ruin my rep, I ghosted her. It was hard because I really cared for her and wanted to see her succeed but you can't have people who are rooting for your downfall and will gladly trio you all the while on your journey.
@Crime Mia River @Carpathianpixie195 It's very real. She even contributed to the downfall of my last relationship, which I take responsibility because I allowed her into my life and excused her many times. She told me she needed to stay away from me and my new relationship because she "didn't want to ruin another one" but kept trying to trick us into going to swingers/sex clubs and etc. She and her ex was going to drive us "somewhere that was a surprise" after our company Christmas party. I kept asking her what it was, she told me she didn't know and for us to leave our car at the hotel, that they would drive us there. Eventually she let it slip it was a sex club (which I didn't know there were any in Chicago at all) and I was so angry with her. That night at the company party she tried to insinuate my boyfriend wanted to fight her boyfriend/ex for her and tried to get a confrontation started at the actual company in the lobby between them. It was apparent she and her ex was trying to pull me into some sort of weird threesome thing with them, when we would have girl talk and etc she would run back and tell him everything. She got mad at me once and let it slip that he compared us sexually and I was shook because I never spoke to this man. She would run and tell him everything we spoke about, which wasn't much at all, and she was upset about it. Like why would you tell business about another woman to your man in the first place and then take it out on the woman??? I couldn't stand him. She kept trying to get me to be friends with him, give me his number and tried to pressure me into communicating with him. I rejected it everytime and told her I'm her friend, not his and didn't want anything to do with him. ON TOP OF THAT when I was at work she shoved her phone in my face to show me videos of them having sex. I lost it and read her, then told her how other women would jump at the opportunity to ruin her relationship because she does nothing but advertise him and that it wasn't wise. She would always try to talk to me about his penis, and bring up subtle hints about them mentioning me in their sex talk. It was disguisting. It's my fault for holding onto the friendship, I felt bad for her because of the things she had been through and it would tug at my heartstrings. Everytime I was going to cut her off, someone died or she was going through something and I never felt it was right to leave her in a position like that. Not to mention her threats of suicide that also made me feel stuck and worried. I had enough after she tried to embarrass me in front of our coworkers/friends in a group chat that she and my ex were talking over Tinder and Facebook messenger. She got caught up in a lie about it saying that he video called her on Facebook, and then switched it to Tinder (Tinder didn't have that feature at all, and to speak to anyone via FB messenger and Tinder you have to agree to it and had been communicating prior to that in the first place). I have stories for days about it, I've never had a close female friend like that before, but it was definitely scarring. My boyfriend wants me to get therapy because I still mourn the friendship a but to this day and I have bad anxiety with even the thought of pursuing friendships with women.
Storytimes for days. The same way people fear new romantic relationships, I have that fear for friendships now.
It always amazes me when I hear people like this actually exist.
I never have posted things inappropriately on Social media. However, I had a former "friend" (an angry narcissist) that attacked me in a way that did cause damage for a long long time! Be careful who you associate with! People will create lies to smear you in a way you may not be able to control.
I’m going through this right now after breaking free from a toxic girl group 😭 it hurts so so so much
These are Narc tactics that will occur at every stage of life because Haters and jealous people are always going to try and attempt to pull down GREAT and AWESOME people with there mouth. They’re aim is to distract you from your destiny. Smile and keep doing you the more. Keep giving them things to speak on and do so, with a smile 😃 on your face. Literally, the story of my life.. 💕
@@m.s.5966 Love, let your pain and hurt be expensive don’t give it away free to pickmeshas and dusties. Ignore those group of time wasters and focus on yourself. One thing I will say in life is, if they ain’t paying your bills 💸 they’re significance and relevance in your life is not important or impressive. Cut them off real quick ad focus on yourself. That’s what’s important, not the false perception of other people.
@@user-of9bx1uk3u Wow!! I wasn’t expecting any kind of sweet advice for free!! Thank you so so so much, S ❤️
Everything you said is spot on! I noticed they do the same thing to other people, trying to convert everyone they knew against them the way they’re doing to me. You’re either with them or against them. It was one of the reasons I broke down mentally and knew I had to leave.
I couldn’t really figure out why I was doing so terribly in the group but after leaving I had so much clarity. Men would check me out or compliment me when we went out together, I got dates when they didn’t, I always insisted girls didn’t have to pay on dates while they insisted on 50/50... and now they’ve put me on the same list of people they hate (who all got what they wanted).
I know I just need to hold on and let them talk about me like I’m a celebrity. I dove deep into studying NPD after my friendship with them and things made so much sense 🥲
Experiences like this must have been a very difficult, yet rewarding, for you! Thank you so much for your strength, resilience and for even reaching out to me! It’s women like you I look up to who give me the strength and faith in times like this. I’ve gone through things worse than girl drama so I know I GOT IT.
Anyways, this was such a long reply! And thank you so much for the lovely words ❤️ I can’t wait to grow from this experience 🥰
So over social media! I’ve stopped posting on IG months ago and deleted my FB. I’m now all of a sudden getting random text messages from someone (they have yet to tell me who they are)asking if I’m pregnant. LOL they’re triggered they can’t stalk me anymore 🤦🏾♀️💀💀
"All backgrounds matter!"- I love how Chloe throws that sideways, stealthy, covert shade that you have to be of a quick mind to catch🤣🤣🤣.
We love you Chloe! Here's to another dust-free week ladies ☕🥐
Amen🙏🏽
I love you too.❤️
Honestly, I gave up social media this year. At least so far...(minus RUclips Lol). I find myself way more productive just doing what I need to do to elevate as opposed to posting about elevating or anything else for that matter. It also has rid of a hugh pool of distractions that dare I say have become quite boring!
Same. I may delete it but get so much done without it.
Just don’t have social media. Unless it’s making you $, why do you need that nonsense?
Bingo!
Exactly!👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Right on the money! ✨
Truth
Exactly
I had a friend post a throwback video of me drunk (on her WhatsApp status) without my consent, luckily I wasn't doing anything embarrassing, but just screening at the top of my lungs singing along to a song.
Nonetheless, I have put that life past me and never want to take videos of myself drunk and post them on social media even if it's on my stories people will screenshot/record that and use it against you.
I asked her to delete the video which she did (from her status) but refused to delete it from her phone, I don't know why she wants to keep the videos on her phone, but it's something I'll be cautious about in the future.
I also had a friend innocently post (on WhatsApp) throw back pictures from 1st year of college. However the photos were unflattering, I was fat back then, and I now have levelled up, she conveniently didn't post a picture of herself where she looked a hot mess.
I may be overreacting, but I always side-eye people who post unflattering pictures of others on social media without posting such images of themselves.
Luckily both these incidents happened on What'sApp, not Facebook or Instagram, where many people can have access to your posts, including strangers.
You were right to side eye. They’ve shown you their true colors
Any "friend" that post pics of me at a bad angle or in any less than favorable light, I take note.
I had an old frenemy, I cut off and ghosted over quarantine, who would definitely do something like this. I'm naturally thin but gained weight while I was with my ex. I'm no longer with him now, I have a new boyfriend. But back then she took a picture of me without my knowledge of me in a dress I tried on at Forever 21. It was a VERY ugly image, I looked like a sausage in the dress and was vocal about it to her, venting to my friend about how I didn't like what I let happen to my body. She took the picture right after I opened up to her about this. I didn't know until she sent it to me and I was upset about it. Since I've left my ex and got a new boyfriend, I've lost the extra weight and was loving myself all over again. After I made a post about it and loving being home to relax without worries (my boyfriend takes care of me, the bills and my pets) and actually having the chance to be feminine, she sent that unflattering image to me. I asked her why, and her reply was "lol I don't know". So I said "well I'm glad I no longer look like that anymore, that the old me. It's motivation to not let that happen again". He response was just "lol" and she never said anything else after that. She always took digs like that. The worst was when my boyfriend and I were already in an exclusive relationship, she was at work while I was off and when asked where I was, she responded to my coworkers and management team etc (people who have the power to advance my career or not) that I was in Kankakee getting my back broken in by some random guy.... Our mutual coworker told me about it, others did too. That really pissed me off because it was no one's business whether he was my man or not, what I was doing in my personal adult life, we are in an exclusive relationship and wtf would you say that to ANYONE (superiors especially) and try to tarnish my reputation at work??? She did other things too to try to ruin my rep, I ghosted her. It was hard because I really cared for her and wanted to see her succeed but you can't have people who are rooting for your downfall and will gladly trio you all the while on your journey.
@@pierceblazer omg! I just ghosted mine too. Lol. I'm just like "I'm too old for this fake shit". I bounced! Lol
U also have to be mindful of their sneakiness. They will also post it like they're shouting u out.
Forever thankful to my parents who restricted me from making social media accounts when I was underage. This helped me to create a very good image in social because I was very mature and aware of the cons of social media when I finally started one.
She came for the home cooked meals 😂😂😂
Stop using social media to feed your ego by sharing your work accomplishments, its not cute!!
Really, thanks for the tip but how so? I was thinking of doing this after I get licensed to do real estate to attract potential customers ?
@@jullierose in that case it works, because word of mouth is very important in your field, Personally, i would say just keep it calm and not outwardly boastful as some may do, or even transform your page into a half personal and half professional account you feel?
Yes no one cares
Yes, because at the end they will acknowledge and scroll and forget about it unless they’re haters.
Why is it not cute? How is that different from feeding ones ego by posting beautiful selfies of her beauty every other day?
This video is so perfect for me because for the past couple of weeks I have been decluter and rebrand my social medias and I feel better than ever.
*Declutering and *Rebranding
Hi Chloe...I deleted my old Facebook page entirely and started over. Also, I have Pinterest, RUclips and LinkedIn. That’s it. I never knew that validation from others was so exhausting. I will never go back to that I am done
I came off of social media for three years and I’ve been back for 3 years. I’ve really cleaned it up. I still have a habit of talking about politics and post silly memes. This reinvigorated my goal to keep it classy not trashy + elevating to a business presentation which is why I went back on.
I am listening to you I am getting chills. This is exactly what I have notice with some of my lady colleges...some have gotten pulled out of their role solely to be copy cats. I have been disappointed with some of my girl friends who fell into the trap. Meanwhile, I have been very strategic in what I post simply because I am aware of who my audience and demographic is. Not sure if it's also a virgo thing...lol
I really needed to see this, I deleted my Twitter because there was nothing but negativity and it was affecting me, I stopped posting so much on ig, and now its time for fb
Agreed. Women were doing the silhouette challenge and then getting mad when men are taking off their filter to see them naked. Why are you getting naked and posting it on the internet? If you make that decision to get naked for the internet, you gotta take whatever comes with it.
I agree, TikTok was intended for little ones around 13+, but even kids younger than that love TikTok. I don’t understand why they felt comfortable to pose something so sexual on there anyway.
Star Bright they love the attention/clout that last for two days at the most.
It’s their Karma, they are GROWN they should know better than to do that foolishness.
Chloe I don’t know you but I Love the way Your Strong Values Align with Who I Am and What I Stand For. I’m Definately humble and Learning to Correct My Own Flaws In Areas of My Life too.
Listening to this advice, i realized that my social media presence is not too badly off. I however have to clean up those unflattering photos and meaningless memes.
Thank you Chloe for this advice.
I just did this and decided I would be backing away this year. I also recently put my account on private as well. Also, I find posting very frequently comes off as attention seeking/needing validation if you’re not getting sponsored for your posts.
Clean once every 6 months and no images older than three years...great tips.
I’d also like to add that although challenges are mainly done in good fun, be tasteful when it comes to what you’re putting on social media. Also, be mindful of the tools others may have to dig you an early grave. The new silhouette challenge is a very risky one because there’s been men on Twitter saying they can alter the color of the background which will expose one’s entire naked body along with their face front and center. Not all challenges are bad, heck they gave most of us the entertainment we desperately needed during quarantine. But, I tell you one thing about me - I’m not getting naked on Instagram for anybody, and definitely not for free. 😅
I have an auntie that’s always digging up my awkward childhood days photos and posts. I know I was an innocent child so it’s not the same as thot pictures but I’ve told her to stop and she won’t. I cannot stand her!!
All my “friends” post my most unflattering pictures lol.
What do you think about women posting twerking videos? I think it’s tacky but MANY dismiss it as just “fun”.
If you just send it to your girl friends, it’s probably fine, but posting it for everyone to see is a bad idea. Anyone can screenshot and use it against you
Girl beyond tacky & now they've got "challenges" for twerking. Like really? This is challenging? I *guess* its exercise.
PancakesAnd Wine I agree, I also think it was the mainly the black men criticizing Ayesha because it was their aha moment. They’re still upset she said she would like to get attention from men like Steph gets from women... she is overall a very feminine and classy woman so one twerking in the kitchen fully clothed isn’t a big deal to me
@@kathyalex778 Your jealous friends might leak your twerk videos when they see you winning. Don't trust anyone with anything which can be used to damage your reputation.
Depends on if a woman is sugaring or a s*x worker as well.
CIARA DEFINITELY be bussing it WIDE OPEN and she has a high value man , but she's fit, and feminine despite dusty BM trynna call her a man all the time , her being a dancer/ performer, and fit she can get away with it. So make sure youre leveled up and CAN ACTUALLY PERFORM if you're gonna dance for a man and he's Paying your Bills !!! 💅💅💅
@@illmeeillmee9373 how is Russell not a hvm? 🤣🤣. One, not only is he one of the best in tbe nfl but he's also HV in how he cares for her and her children, which is most important!
@J L free ? That's laughable u think those twerk videos aren't promo for an only fans. Think big beloved lol
@@come_on_barbie_123 ppl just say anything. And he's not my cup of tea physically but he's not ugly either. Lol. Ppl love hating. Like sis are u with bill gates ? Lol
This is an awesome lesson. Thank you 🙏🏾 cleaning my social media now.
I deleted my accounts years ago. I don't wanna be in the social media community at all.
Chloe is our own PR rep 💕 thank you for what you do! 💕
This is so true!💕💕
Chloe just verbalized my thoughts perfectly .
Chloe I actually think I’m addicted to your videos 🙈🙈🙈 you do such a great job 👏🏾 I go back and rewatch things so I can use these lessons in my life. Please keep doing what you do, it’s changed my life and perspective for the better ❤️
This channel literally changed my life. I am so grateful I came across chloes channel ❤️
Me to
Not the nasty food photos 😂
I cackled 😂😂
Yesss
This will be incredibly helpful for me when I recreate my Facebook page this year. Thanks again Chloe ❤️
1. I loved all of these suggestions! They are a great way to 'quickly' level up and change social perspective about you. 2. I have had someone not only tag me in an unflattering photo, but also someone who tried to embarrass me in the comments under one of my pictures! Both happened on Facebook. I did not allow myself to be tagged. I also called the other person out for being a hater BEFORE I deleted both of our comments. We are no longer friends on social media or real life btw. 3. I would also like to suggest that we monitor who we FOLLOW who may be problematic. For instance abusers, ratchets, etc. Also monitor the groups you join. Other people can see that too and will associate you with those type of people as well. After all, birds of a feather...
I delete all my accounts and create new ones every year or so. This is probably the longest I've had a channel.
“Your nasty looking home cooked meals” 🤣🤣🤣
Absolutely on point! Some of these unflattering "challenges" are an example of that. All of it memorialized, and when you do glow up, somebody will always remember and throw it back on social media. These days,you have to be very careful.
Omg. I literally just did this a couple of days ago and everything you said I did before I watched this video. It feels good to know I’m backed by Chloe on this move!
"That also includes your nasty looking home cooked meals." loool I cant with you Chloe ahahahah
Thank you for this video, Chloe 💕✨🙌🏾 The truth is that these days, people will automatically go to your social media to check you out and depending on your profile, the photos and images you post it can be a good or bad impression.
there's a lot of policing and shaming going on in these comments and it's a little disheartening. No one is perfect and people will make mistakes on social media as long as they can learn from it and change it. That's it that's all
I feel accomplished ahhahahahhahaha!!! All of these principles I have been practising! Every single one. I completely deleted FB, twitter in 2019 and I tried to delete some other apps I joined when I was still in undergrad in my teens and very early 20's back in 06' hahahah. I'm only on IG which is private. I decluttered my following list, no drama/gossip pages or people who always have an opinion on the latest trending topics with no valid points! Random weirdos who just add you for numbers etc. I'm also very strategic with my posts(background has always been important), captions are simple and cheerful, clear out old images that I feel don't represent who I am right now and occasionally take breaks from it (deactivate my account and delete the app). It truly gives you a sense of discipline and forces you to really be intentional about what you decide to post and WHY you're posting often if it isn't a business account.
With frenemies posting unflattering images, I believe I have not or perhaps don't recall, but I if I did I always found a way to accept that regardless, it's me and kept it pushing. I have posted images from let's say undergrad where it's an obvious old picture and one friend in particular who is a bit extra on the socials lol she would insist that it be taken down. I always scan images to ensure that we're all looking ok and if I'm not sure, I ask if they're ok with me posting it!
Yes too uninstalling the app!! It makes a difference!!
My mental health and maturity has gotten so much better since deleting everything except for an art business IG. The amount of lurkers and distraction is it not worth it. Also “friends” will literally use anything you post online against you
Aunty Chloe you're the best thing by far that happened to me ... us, by far on YT 💕💕
Wow, thank you
Thank you for always coming through for us Chloe!!
Thanks Chloe for giving us more Gems in the New Year! I'm guilty, I know I should clen up my social media. I may have some risk-a pics from my twenties. Now, as a mom and the desire and pursuit of becoming a business owner. I wanna be respected and looked up to.
I clean up my social media. I just mainly put my art or my volunteering opportunities
Yes, when I had social media 4 years ago, I had a relative and a hey- girlship, that posted a pictures of me within the group, where I was out of focus or stance was off. Let's just say that was our Season Finale for the long haul. For the future, I will either take my own photos solo or with one super trusted person to pose/ post with.
I have no social media account it’s a waste of time and energy
Much Love from Uganda. Thank you for all the lessons.
Yes, ladies and lurkers spirits! Gets me every time hahahaha. That line just draws you in. Been seated ever since!
Chloe is delivering the Feminine Word on this lovely Sunday morning! ( ◜‿◝ )♡
Chloe’s about to have me deleting my kids off of my IG 😅
I’ve definitely cleaned it up over the past few months, but I do want to start anew 😌
We’re spirits now, love it,
Finstagram 😂
I love this message so much.
“VCR Camera phone” why Chloe 😭😂🤣
Am I the only one cringing 😬 about old #tb pictures etc on IG lbvs?! FB is deactivated and cleaned up, onto IG.. Thank you Chloe for yet again a short, but sweet and truthful video! ♥️
Great video and very much needed right to balance out the negative energy in black RUclips right now.
Thanks Chloe for reminder about posting your life moments. Went on date he took me horseback riding. In true divine order your video popped up. Everyone not happy with your leveling up.
Great video. I really need to at the very least keep up appearances online. Not like"keeping up with the Joneses" but just reminding the world that I'm here.
You are right Be mindful there are VERY Nosy People ALWAYS ON THE LOOK OUT TO USE THAT BIG NASTY YELLOW HIGH LIGHTER 🕵 Thanks for class Chloe
Good energy and healthy vibes! Love this channel ✨
Great topic, as always.
Re-entering the professional work force, I decided to review your content as additional inspiration. I'm happy to see many more videos to consume since I last watched.
This video sounds like a lot of work but I've been needing to do this for years! My goal by this summer. #Rebrandyourself
Chloe is so funny and she’s non chalant about it LOL 😂
"Nasty looking home cooked meals." I haven't had social media since 2013, but that took me back to seeing other people post struggle "meals."🤣🤣🤣
I dont have social media,because I do not want anyone in my business. When I did have social media it was just Facebook, and barely changed my pictures or added anything personal up on there.
Congrats on 100k🎊
Thank you so much 😀
Your image definitely matters✨. Great tips Chloe_🙌🏾
Right on time Chloe! I did this back about a year ago but I know it's time to do maintenance
I'm taking notes.. I'm on it!
This was an intriguing real good and different video. Such valuable information, thank you Chloe! ❤️
Chloe went innnn on this one 🥶
This video is perfect. Just when I was thinking of cleaning up my Facebook page and boom! 💕
Your social media is a window to your life even sexual quotes and unflattering pictures.
excellent advice!! thank you!!!
A lot of the Facebook friend request are nothing more than a fact finding mission. I've got about 300 friends, and I'm regularly evaluating those. If we're not involved in mutually exchanges of information or ideas after a year, I unfriend them. That leaves colleagues, family and friends (usually childhood) who are significant in my life
You did it again Chloe 🏁💎
Always refreshing Chloe!! Thank you 🤍
Marjorie Harvey and Ciara come to mind.
@PancakesAnd Wine me I love how she changed the narrative of her mess-ups . From baby mama to a serial nonsense baby daddy rapper to someone from a bourgeois family who treats her like an egg. From partying in trap night clubs with useless rappers to State dinner at the White House. Then went to Harvard and is now successful biz woman and a glowing wife and mom. She cleaned up really nice.
Rufina Ndongo that part! And a certain group on RUclips hate her for it! They hate that other women can look at her and be like I want that! I want better than what I’ve been settling for....
@@channelcoconut6830 go ahead. Don't be afraid to go for what you want. And please, keep your level up journey🤐🤫. Not every one who smiles with you is happy for you . Not every conversation is meant for every audience. Apply wisdom .So much toxicity out there. If anyone asks about your sudden change just say something like "it is God's Grace " and that's it . May your efforts be rewarded. Now, go, live intentionally and level up. And THRIVE 😍😍😍😍💝💝💝💝
Awesome topic to address, great job Chloe_
This information is on time. Definitely something that I need to hear. I have been planning to clean up my page and update it to reflect the person I am today. Yet, I must find the time to complete this task.
Wow 🙏🏽🙌🏼🙌🏼 I need to clean it ASAP
Thank you so much for very timely video
I absolutely loved this video Chloe. Thank you.
The only person that tag me in some uncute posts is my mama🤷🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️😂! Bless her heart, she's getting a little better since I told her which pic is tag approved and she will not see a son in law from me soon if she keep posting those pics😂!! I'm gone make it easier for her and take pretty recent pics ☺️
And that also means your nasty looking home cooked meals
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 omg
Not on SM and happy!🙌🏽 .. a Private life is a happy life!!💕x