Put Down The Masculinity Stick: 13 Feminine Ways to Stop Being The Face of Strength!
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Thank you Chloe_ I’m learning at 14 years old
Lucky you!!! The best time to start 💕
Way to go sweetness!
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And you continue sweetheart. Please continue to listen to Chloe.
Some black women get offended when you are on a feminine journey. I left alot of people behind.
How true!
Yes
Me too, this channel showed me I was never alone ♥️🙏🏽
It’s sad that a woman has to go on a feminine journey. You are female, you should already be feminine. It’s sad.
@@starrjohnson1327 here we go with the lies. I bet you can’t count black male providers on 2 hands
I use to revel being the face of strength. Being independent and strong was something I took pride in. My mother was a single parent and did everything herself. She had a stroke at 43. I'm her carer I look after my brother , house and I also had to help many other people. Lets just say I'm burned out and overweight. I cannot tell you the last time I washed my hair or bought clothes . My mum suffered due to this black strong woman. Everyone relied on her. And she had no one. Please ladies look after yourself.
@@sentientfetus3894 Which is why I'm going to level up. I'm not ashamed . Not everyone could cope with what I and my mother has been through. Your words cannot hurt me I'm too tough for that. I'm doing my healing and have made changes. I suggest you do the same. Clearly you are unhappy that's why you troll.😊
@@sm_sf it's ok Chloe warned us about people like that. Thank you 💗
@nurse Majola Thank you very much for your advice . And I'm so happy to hear about your journey. I'm always happy to hear people especially black women making positive changes and doing better. Thank you wish you all the best 💗
I can relate to this somewhat. My mother is the I-don’t-need-your-help type of woman who lost her husband at the age of 35 and I still struggle with vulnerability.
@@sentientfetus3894 Is a girl not Man
Learning how to put down my "masculinity stick" was a life changing decision for me to make. I feel so much less stressed, sick, and TIRED every day living in my feminine because it is UNNATURAL for most women to be moving in masculine energy all the time. Our bodies were not made to be high in testosterone to protect, provide, and be on guard constantly. First femininity starts in the mind, then you have to change your environment.
It definitely is a process. Life pushes many women towards that and many of us have some unlearning to do.
Would you care to share some tips( the inner work, not looks). I appreciate it
We as women energetically, mentally, spiritually and physically feel lighter when we know how and when to use our feminine and masculine energy.
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I couldn't have said it better.
@@zinab2blessa I actually just made a video about this on my channel!
This narrative Strong Black Woman is the silent killer of black woman. Growing up around black woman from church to school all I saw was woman overwork overstress and overweight I made a vow to myself in my preteen that I wouldn't pick up that title. I've been walking and celebrating in my femininity since I was a teenager and never look back. 👸🏽💅🏾❤👑
Cudos to you 💕😊
You are so lucky to have known this on time. Proud of you. Keep going, a stranger is rooting for you.
@@allbymyself4927 Thank You 😘 Hopefully one day I can inspire and teach others about my journey.
Good for you on clocking this earlier on in life..👏🏽
I love this, Same for me
"The engineered face of strength" Sooo true! No. I don't want to be that person anymore. This channel is honestly life changing.
Kim Jones Extremely!
Literally!
Who knew? Being masculine for what????? 👀
Same here.
Because being a strong black woman used to be a compliment when it was just a set up for the man to use you. Facts. This is my story.
This video came right on time 🤣 yesterday at work my male Co-worker was joking around with me and suggested I come in earlier than my scheduled shift and pretty much work the entire day and I told him that sounded like a terrible day. He then said, “come on, you can do it, you’re superwoman!” And I immediately replied “no, I’m not.” And walked away
Every Sunday my supervisor asked me do want to do overtime I did for April until September. I was asked why I don't sign for overtime. I don't want to do overtime is voluntary not mandatory.
Wow
How rude of your coworker. He’s the man, he should be working overtime and hustling.
Congrats!
Glad you did!!! The audacity
After 10 years of marriage, I've finally started accepting help from my husband and oh my, is it freeing or what! He is loving taking care of his family and I am less tired and angry! Thanks Chloe ❤
Honestly you are quite lucky that your man stepped up .. Otherwise many men just lay back and let the woman slog..I appreciate your man for taking charge
LITERALLY life changing
I bet you're like, "why didn't I do this sooner"? ;D
I love seeing this! ❤🌺
Beautiful 💜 any updates viola?
‼️The term of being "A STRONG BLACK WOMAN" is NOT a CoMpLiMeNt"‼️🙌🏾 💯 #FemininityMatters💕
Say it louder for the ones in the Back 🔊
PROV31 WMN at all 😒
@PROV31 WMN Thank you for posting this comment. I _detest_ hearing this said to black women. It's code for: You are going to do everything, carry the world on your back, with no help from a partner. I throw this whole narrative in the garbage.
YES not a compliment at all!! "Strong Black Woman" throw the whole trope away 😩😩😩
Im tired. Of protesting & of being asked to boycott.
There are so many ways a woman can contribute to the cause without being out on the streets, aggressive..etc.
Don’t do it not your job to protest for people that want do the same in return....Ask Sandra Bland
I never even started...lol..wars are for men girl...even battling with being feminine and regaining that which was lost i was not doing that. Put your cape down sis, its not for us at all...like sis said abo e..there are other ways to contribute and the Frontline isn't it.
I noticed even my body protests when I'm taking on too much, breaking out with painful pimples, dry skin, daytime tiredness, and moodiness, restlessness, waking up tired and a constant bad feeling in my gut. Then I start craving fatty and sweet foods because they nub the feeling for a while.
I've learned the cycle now so I know that once I start feeling this way, I'm doing wayyyy too much and I cut back on activities and commitments. At first I would feel guilty for being lazy but not anymore. I prefer the way I feel when I'm not doing it all.
That's awesome! You are intuitive and this is very helpful on your feminine journey plus inspiring for others! ❤️
Same! Great insight ❤️
👏👏 I'm enjoy relaxing and not having a "To Do List"!!!🤷🏽♀️🍹😎
Yesssssss!
I struggle with this because I operate from a routine mind and I always try to fit everything in and I start to feel guilty when I don’t do everything on my list. But I agree, my body sends me signs when I’m doing too much.
Wow...I have to rewatch this and digest.
Two years ago I lost my mom and brother. I was chief resident. From that, I gained 60 lbs and I didnt quit because I was so afraid of letting down the ideals of black woman strength. I contemplated suicide many times. In the end, my reward was depression. People even commented on how "strong' i was during that time. They never asked me how I was doing, or even suggest that I take care of myself and stop. I've learned, since then that it was my job to say no. I could have died and they all would have gone about their day as if it was nothing. Never again.
Gigi F I’m sorry to hear about your experience. That industry doesn’t lend itself to self care either. I’m glad you know and do better now.
Soo, glad you are well, now. And living yourself, strength sister.
Lol most men are not worthy of being called men
Praying for you. Please continue to take care of yourself
God bless you, sorry for your loss.
I believe that black women are becoming tired of being the face of strength but because this is what’s constantly modeled to us we don’t know how to be feminine . That’s why channels like yours are essential. Thanks Chloe . Happy holidays ! 💕
Great point!
I’m learning how to soften up. I feel more deserving to be provided for. I deserve the best regardless what I’ve been told growing up. I don’t want to be a “strong black woman” like most of the women in my family. I want to sit pretty and not do any dirty work because I just got a manicure 💅🏾lol
And as for my experience .. it’s sad to see my mom be a “slave” for others. She taken care of 4 kid’s and currently my grandmother (even tho she haves a man but he’s a SUPER dusty) . She doesn’t know how to say “no” .. which motivates me to say NO because I don’t want to be in her shoes. She does everything and gets NOTHING in return.. and the people she does for DON’T even care how stressed out she is.. so I guess that’s why she’s so bitter and broken.
Don’t be a hero because like in the movies, you see the heroes are never appreciated and never rewarded ..
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@WearYourNatural Exactly! I say ‘No’ with such ease.. 💅🏾
@Nate L Good for the both of you. Hopefully, your GF can now rest in her femininity and soften up from all the horrors she’s had to endure in her past.
Sounds a little like my mom..she has this sacrificial lamb complex that she refuses to break out of despite being used dragged and neglected several times by many..I love her but she refuses to listen and it leaves her tired
😍😍yes
As a sixty year old white woman, I must say that I just love Chloe’s message. I’m cheering for each and everyone that listens. I’m also cheering for women everywhere, but listening to Chloe will give you a definite advantage. 28 years married to my late husband, a wonderful mam.
So glad you got to have that wonderful romance!! White 19 year old girl here, these youtube channels on femininity are super informative and awesome
@@isabellasophiarose1100 hi Isabella, I would say that when you feel completely safe about every aspect of yourself with someone, they are the one. They will be the person who only wants to build you up and be built up by you. Together you make each other better.
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Thank you!!
As Black Women, we are taught early on to "Be the face of strength", for our families and communities. It's almost seen as socially unacceptable for a Black Woman to be feminine and taken care of by a man. We are accepted & seen as the face of empowerment and self-sacrificing at very own detriment!! Thanks Chloe for teaching us women, black women in particular of our own worth, and that we deserve to be cared for, and cherished as rare jewels just as any other race of women. 💎👑🥰
I've gotten to the point where I don't accept "strong" as a compliment from anyone anymore. They have good intentions but I'm tired of it. People will keep on gaslighting black women and calling us strong to dismiss our pain, so you must learn carry yourself in a way that will evoke protection and show that you are soft, *which is why you need to subscribe to this channel*😌. Great commentary, Chloe.
I don't accept it either
@@ACleverFinesse And me. I smile sweetly and say "no I am not", then walk away to avoid the incoming lecture on why I shouldn't say I am not strong
I used to work two jobs while going to school and a coworker of mine said to me that when i have kids i will work 7 jobs. Of course he said it as a joke but looking back he was right I was doing everything. while my brother did nothing paid bills paid rent , groceries and i did it for almost two yrs and it drained my energy. The people in my circle praised me for doing it all and I felt like a superwoman. Now thank you to this wonderful woman “Chole” I’m starting to prioritize myself and yeah it feels so good. As Chloe says dont give money to men they wont even remember u have given it to them.
Happy holidays Ladies💄💋
Smart women don’t take that strong black women rhetoric as a compliment . They know it’s some nonsense that is about to ensue and it means that someone wants to use you for emotional financial and physical labor without any reciprocity. Beware and look sideways when hear this especially when you are dating
I hate it. Not long ago I needed help. I was struggling mentally, in college I wasn't doing great while taking care of my grandmother. The first thing people said to me when I needed help was: Ooh you are a strong black woman. You will get through this while breaking down 🙃
Shanice Fernandes Ribeiro same thing Chole is talking about. Hope you're doing well and getting the help and support you need. 💖
You deserve all that your heart desires, including the help you need. Big hugs to you and Happy Holidays!
I can't believe it, how can anyone just ignore a young girl in difficult situation and reply like that, like "whatever, you'll be fine". It sounds exactly the same to me. The kind, human response would have been and should have been "can I help you with anything? What do you need? Do you want to talk? Maybe we'll fine a solution to one of these things".
@@AMoore-jm3md I agree! People do this all the time. “You’ll be ok.” “Pray about it”. “It could be worse” “ You’re strong, you can handle it”. All silences a person, which causes them to stuff their feelings due to feeling dismissed. A lot of times I believe it’s unintentional but it’s still insensitive. We have to learn how to show more compassion for people and stop thinking people should push through. Happy Holidays!!!
@@user-of9bx1uk3u Yes I am doing much better! I just finished my therapy sessions. For now there is no treatment left and I take much better care if myself.
Leave all of the masculine roles and energy in 2020. Keep distance from men and women who attempt to shame/force you into masculine roles. 👏🏽Yes. Great premiere🎀We as black female content creators must push this message 🌸Happy holidays Chloe🎄🎀🎄
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Omg yes!
I used to watch the show how to get away with murder, the storyline just started getting annoying so I stopped. But i remember this character at the law firm Michaela was interning at, she was the only black partner there and she always called herself a boss B. She was super masculine and I couldn't help but think she probably goes home alone to an empty behind house with all that boss B crap. Lol. Ladies, let's prioritize. Learn how to take the professional attire off and put on a sun dress. Win in every area of life, work, body, romantic, education, everything. The world is still male dominated, but u can still have ur slice while remaining feminine and soft.
Perspective is funny. If you’re talking about Teagan Price, she didn’t come across masculine to me. She did come across as a powerful woman though, and still feminine in her power in the workplace. She was also a lesbian, and since she had separated from her wife, she did go home alone most nights lol!
@@wordeeone4996 Yes I agree, Tegan didn’t come over as masculine at all. The way she did her hair, makeup and outfits were very feminine as well
@@wordeeone4996 I don't think it's the one I'm talking about. The character didn't have that much of a role And I don't remember anything about her being a lesbian. It wasn't viola Davis Character if that's who u mean. She's the only black lesbian I remember on the show. It was another character But I don't really remember anymore I stopped watching that a long time ago.
Michaela actually ended up old and alone. Yikes!
I know for me, I am tired. I remember a few years back, I was in a down mood and was thinking, I am always there for everyone but who is there for me? My mom would often say I need to stop trying to save the world. I was basically a mother figure to my friends and would often be drained because they need me to be there to listen and I would do it because I wanted to be supportive and understanding. This year definitely changed that. I just stopped allowing myself to be used as an emotional dumpster and started focusing more on myself and I want to feel feminine. I never really cared about my looks or anything like that and that is changing too. I want to be taken care of. I want to get my bag too but I also want to know that someone else can care for me too.
I'm the same way sometimes.
I'm empathetic and caring.
But at the end of the day?
It's about me 👈
No apologies. 🖕
No we don’t want to be the face of strength all the time. Unfortunately, many of us don’t even realize that we’ve been conditioned this way until we get into the work force and see how other races of women get ahead by acting like the damsel in distress. Being strong has got me NOWHERE except tired and burnt out. I realized a lot once I started getting older. I even avoid my best friend now ( who is a white hispanic) because every time she sees me she cries and dumps all of her issues on me. As I good friend, I listen and offer her encouragement and advise. When I confided in her that I was afraid of never becoming a mother (I’m 41), I was met with dead silence! No comfort, no words of encouragement, NOTHING! I avoid her like the plague now because I’ve finally realized that this “friendship” is very one sided and I’m always completely drained after hanging out with her. I’m so tired of pretending to be ok all of the time because I’m not.
@@honeybadgernasty lol! Thank you! 🙏🏽
Same I have a Hispanic unattractive friend who is always complaining about her bf who keeps asking her for an open relationship... like girl you deserve it lmao
@@phugh3878 Right! Like wtf?! They keep doing the same stupid things the coming to us to cry about it. Everyone needs a shoulder to cry on sometimes but in my case, my friend has been crying every time I see her for the past two years. I brought it to her attention, like did you know that for two years I haven’t seen you without you crying?! It’s time for a therapist girl!
@@kayp9318 God I hate that. I have a friend who I fell out with because she's kind of a weirdo. Every 6 months she text messages me saying "OMG I've MISSED you, how's the family doing?? I have SO much I want to tell you!!" She sees me as a chance to dump her trifling sh*t on me. Its always been that I'm her therapist, she's the client. Once she told me about how she lost her virginity to her boyfriend- via text. It was extremely weird. She's lied to me before as a joke and I didn't even know if she was telling the truth. The most recent time she messaged me was like a month ago. I responded that I'm very sorry but I am very busy and don't really have the time. She never responded. My suspicions that she was using me were correct. Depressing af
My dear,you are so correct, pouring into others without reciprocity is draining.
These images of women at the front line of protests if very cringey! Where are the men and why are they not at the front line? What's going on in this world?
Lol men these days are difficult to look at...I can't feel sexually attracted to most.Many times I have refused to get intimate with a man way out of my league because looks are not what I want...They need to be masculine.
EXPECT MEN TO PROVIDE!....
Once I realized how we were being told to be masculine and feminine all at the same time, I tuned out the negativity and focused on resting in my femininity first and foremost. Expecting us to be “social justice warriors” and feminine, delicate flowers is an unrealistic expectation. Great video as always, Chloe! 💕✨🌺
My sister and I were just speaking about this today and here comes this video! Much needed! In my last marriage I was definitely a masculine woman. I have learned so much from Chloe in the past year. I am so grateful for you! I will continue to work on myself and speak only great things into my life! Right now I have 2 jobs and one of them is at a hardware store just for some extra money, I make sure to always dress cute and my makeup is always done even with a mask. The amount of men that hit on me there is phenomenal lol people always ask why do you dress so nice for here? I say because you should always look good! No matter where you go! The energy that I give off is alluring and enticing and I cannot thank you enough for your teachings! Love ❤️
@@catmouse2882 sis. If you’re thinking it, and especially for that reason. You’ve gotta do what you need to do. For years I worried about the finances and he just did whatever he wanted. Never took me out on dates, never worried about what he did with his money. And I had to make sure all our bills were paid and even his cards and his car! I swear my face broke out terribly, I was sooo skinny. and I kept telling myself “I’m not stressed” when it showed up all over my body. Smh. I emotionally checked out years before but I stayed because I was “married” and thought we could make it work. But the ambition from him was never there. And it would never come even if I stayed longer. Then he became physical the last year we were together. It happened 3 times. Small things but happened nonetheless. I didn’t want to stay to find out if it would get worse. If you feel exhausted and have no more to give then you have to leave for yourself! Sending love and light your way ❤️
@@catmouse2882 oh wow. This sounds like how my life was. It was 50/50 and I am never doing that again. Remember as Chloe says, you ARE the prize! No man who loves you and is a natural provider would allow you to work to the bone and be okay with the bare minimum job while his wife is slaving away. I can’t tell you what to do but if you’re thinking about it then clearly you want to leave. So figure out a plan and make it happen. I wish you the best! You deserve much more than what you have been given! ❤️
I'm not even from black generation but you have no idea how you've helped me chloe, it's not just black women girls all around the world is now dealing with these difficulties we're so buried in societies expectations we cannot show our femininity freely otherwise we'll be labeled as slut or a gold digger! 💔
Love this Chloe. I was just lamenting this last night. My childhood has made me into a “strong woman” in a masculine way. I find men even see me as a leader to teach them strength 🤦🏾♀️ I am so done with it. At least I never became a SJW lol. Grateful for your content, thank you for what you’re doing in the world and Merry Christmas!! ✨🤍🌲🌟❤️
It’s a Christmas Gift from Chloe!!
Putting mine masculine stick down. Better late than never. 🎉❤🎉 It is exhausting and unfulfilling.
My masculina has been a means of survival for myself and my children. The men in my life simply weren’t protectors and providers so I had to develop that on my own and have most definitely ignored my femininity. Not in the ways of my personality and cadence but more so in my physicality and appearance. My desire to work 80 hours a week to pay all my own bills out of fear of trusting the wrong man and being blamed for it. Versus enjoying spending time with my children in the comfort of our home... I’m still conflicted in this. My pride is too big to accept child support and i despise asking for help even when desperately in need of it due to feeling inadequate or fear of being labeled a gold digger/ shiftless individual
I was raised by my mom and sister who I always viewed as strong and independent. And grew up thinking and being the same. It’s only now in my late twenties after some therapy that I learned that a lot of things that make me masculine is because I always hated being vulnerable.
"The Masculine Helpers of the World." Wow WOW WOW WOW WOW. That says it all right there. Being women, while still not really being viewed as women at all. Being a woman is to be a helper, but to be a masculine helper? Is not to be a woman at all. Reminds me of that Sojourner Truth speech, "AINT I A WOMAN?" Come on somebody!
I am not a strong black woman. I have feelings. I have a breaking point and I do need help sometimes. I can’t do things on my own and that is okay. I am a woman not a rock. My purpose on this earth is not to be a man or compete with one.
My boss wrote a recommendation today calling me an strong activist , I'm bought to take that sentence out and keep it movin.I ain't been to 1 protest and my job is highly technical.I want to be even more feminine at my next job. I was attacked verbally and physical at this job thats why I dipped its unfortunate that they see me as strong even though I cried and avoided all verbal sparing.Don't be fooled not everyone is going to like a feminine black woman,they are going to call you fake for being yourself and when you say no to late hour work and overtime they will try you. Also stop telling people everything you know the exploitation will most definitely follow,many black women do that to gain validation ,change the narrative. Black women are beautiful and deserve to be happy(:
I was married for 24 yr before the passing of my husband. This channel has awaken my femininity. I feel I was always feminine but I definitely lacked and looking back I wasn’t as feminine as I should have been in my marriage which put a lot of pressure on me. This channel has taught me that when I enter into a new relationship things will be different.
Now I have a lot more balance. I understand what I can and cannot do and I can’t do everything. Sunday’s are set aside for ME no matter what. I am ALWAYS busy on Sundays. Sunday’s are for pampering it’s for me to do my “in between services” of nails, hair, skin, having a glass of wine, reading, watching movies, listen to music I love, staring out the window or whatever I want to do. It’s to re-energize from the week. I appreciate this channel so much!
High level masculine damages women and it will show on body physically!
It’s so unfortunate that so many black women are taught that they are undeserving of being provided for. I don’t explain how I am to ANYONE. It irks me to hear that I’m “lucky” to have married a provider. There was no luck involved. I chose intentionally and never attracted men that expected me to provide. Don’t entertain those types and know your worth. I didn’t have children before marriage either. A man that is worthy will not want you to be merely a baby mama. He will want to provide his last name, a home, and a life for his wife and children. And I’ve only dated black men. They’re out there and will provide.
I’m becoming very conscious of not having the “strong black woman” mindset. Im so used to seeing it & I think it’s hurt black woman so much. I’m sensitive, I cry, I want a man to provide in a relationship. I make my own money but him taking care of me doesn’t make me less than. I can’t do everything alone & I actually love having a man around to do the labor because I spend too much money on my nails to chip/break them. I’m young so I’m a work in progress but I want to get it together sooner than later
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 GREAT VIDEO!!
Oh I personally hate the whole ‘strong black woman’ trope!! It forces you to constantly neglect your womanhood and to find shame in celebrating your femininity!
Since I could remember I always felt God blessed me by making me a woman and I’ve made a point to openly celebrate that in some way in everyday of my life. Even when it was unpopular 🤍
I'm going to be 24 in February and I'm already exhausted. Thanks to discovering Chloe and other content committing to femininity this summer, I'm on an amazing journey to learning and unpacking, embracing my natural feminine self and changing the narrative. The results have shown beautifully! I am so grateful because to live in your masculine and to follow these unwritten set of expected rules for black women is extremely exhausting and pretty soon, makes absolutely no sense.
💖💖💖 too young to be exhausted . Let’s toss this conditioning
Why are you exhausted already at 23?
Thank you I am so exhausted
I helped my mother-in-law move recently and she had a heavy bag of salt in my vehicle. I removed it and placed on the ground and told her to have her (grown) son move it and thought nothing of it... When I turned around SHE (67) was carrying it! I yelled for her to drop it and she replied "I don't need a man to carry this". It's bred into some of us.
I watch and listen to your videos like affirmations. They have helped me to know my worth and I’ve built it up higher than ever before!
Thank you Chloe, last year i was burned out, filled with anxiety. Ever since applying my feminine energy I have attracted a supportive bf, went to therapy healing my family relations filled with narcs. Save your energy for yourself and those who are worthy! xx
2021: let a Man be a Man!!
Thanks Chloe_ for your videos, I’ve learned so much about be my femininity and how it’s okay to not do it all and how to spot a dusty lol. Seriously your videos are amazing and again thank you and have a Happy Holiday♥️♥️!!!
Preach....Men need to be men and not fight for a woman's position
Black women hate being the face of strength. Because we can be the most defensive, reactive, and attitude catching (quickly) women out here. Women who are happy are soft, kind, responsive and relatable. I know, though, we are changing the narrative and hopefully generations to come will benefit.
“Pez dispenser of anger” 😂
Your channel has really helped me I no longer emit strong masculine energy .People see me as a princess I’m always getting offered free things and special treatment.I don’t want to be a superwoman I want to be a princess.Took my time did the inner work .I no longer attract leeches .Men know they have to give me things even the young ones.💝
I am new to your channel but I've already learned so much. I had a mother who lived by the Montra of "I dont need a man" and we as her children used to have to do things as well as watch my mom trying to physically do things that I as a young girl knew these things were things that a man should be doing for a woman... like moving a heavy couch and other pieces of furniture up a flight of stairs. Dont misunderstand me I admire my mother for being such a strong women BUT we have to know when its okay to need, and want, and let a man be a man. THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THE WORK YOU DO FOR US! ❤❤
This is so sad. My family and everybody around me has always known me as a strong powerful person and i didn't realize how unhealthy this was for me untill i dicivered your channel. Im 25 years old and my mother who has never shown me a single ounce of love my entire life has always depended on me for emotional support, financial support and conditioned me to work hard so that i can help her raise my younger sister. My dad died when i was 13 and my younger sister was 2 and I've been a surrogate husband to a mother who verbally and financially abuses. She calls me everyday atleast 2 times a day to complain and cry. Im a final year student in university (thank God) and i can't wait to graduate and get rid of her for good.im am mentally tired and i am done!!!
Chloe, discovering you has been the best thing that has happened to me this year !! PERIOD !! You always come through with such insightful, informative and inspiring videos. I have looked forward to listening and learning from you more than any one on Femininity and Hypergamy !! Keep educating us to do better because we definitely need someone like you who is wise, articulate and intelligent to lead the way. Looking forward to a New Year of listening and continuing to learn from you !! Happy Holidays and Much, Much Love and APPRECIATION !!! ♥️♥️♥️😊😊😊
I appreciate you Chloe_ for the content you've produced. I've enjoyed many years of being independently strong. I am ready to put down my sword, shield, battle tactics and slide into my femininity.
I loveeee this channel so damn much 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾😭
I'm so tired of people labeling me as being strong. Actually I'm far from it! I've just been through alot, and I'm still standing. Not only that I don't take alot from anyone. However, this was very informative. Thanks for the info Sis!💞
On a Chloe binge right now! I love this woman!
I can't be the "strong" work horse any longer. I'll die if I don't put down the super hero cape. I refuse to entertain anyone, that places me in a masculine role.
I grew up watching women do this and thought it was the norm. That is until I saw lots of women die early in life, men in their lives move on to women who exhibited feminine qualities, they became bitter, resentful and nasty and their health went to pot looking older than they are. I am on a different level and narrative now. I believe lots of women like being the face of strength because they love the attention and the illusion of men admiring them and putting them on pedestals (which turns out to be low value men wanting a build a Betty and a Ms Mom). Thank you for this video to speak to those women who were in the dark and desire change. Have a blessed and safe holiday!😙😚🙏😘😍👏👏
This channel really high key 🔐, express how had men, especially black men are. This channel is a healing channel that corrects through emotions healing, domestic abuse.
Talk it, talk it, Ms. Lady. 💅🏾👩🏾⚕️👏🏾🙏🏾💪🏾
God put it in my heart, sometimes you don't get what you want but you will always get your standards
Well said Chole!👏🏽 You are saving lives... please, never stop the work you're doing for humanity.
Almost 100K followers. Come be a part of a channel that will uplift you and never put you down. Happy Holidays Chloe.
Seeing yourself as sacred and precious. Best tip ever.
Ladies, listen up.. Chloe knows.
Invest in YOURSELF
bless all on this journey
Speaking for myself - I'm a strong independent Woman because I have to be. I only have God and me to rely on. Patiently waiting on a helpmate⌛💅
Thx u so kindly for that Blessing of Knowledge and Self Love✨✨💫💫
The matriarch role to me is an example of muling. Basically everyone relies on you to do , think and provide for everyone else & to place yourself last. I've seen it where the matriarch of the family never has time to herself because, she doesn't say no to anything.
Yes. We are done feeling exhausted all the time. I know I am.. That’s why I would rather do the least for the most reward. And unfortunately we have to realize later in life it’s ok. But we are getting there!! One black woman at a time!!
Chloe, I’m glad you create these videos with facts to support your explanations and advice. No one can argue with that! And these videos apply to me too. Thank you for the reminders! 🙂❤️
This is a great video! Wonderful reinforcement for stepping into 2021 & beyond. 💕
Merry Christmas Chloe! Thank you for your content. All women can grow from what you present.
So true. Especially the accomplished woman syndrome.
The video on how to see ourselves as sacred & precious💕💕 This is still needed today.
"Today is a NEW Day" Amen.
This post was so timely and accurate. It is helping me on my process of healing because I was by a single mother and in an unsupportive family. I have always had to be extremely self-sufficienct and independent because I could never depend on anyone else due to always being let down. I still have some more ways to go.
Happy Holidays to you ALL! Cheers to 2021 and embracing all of the opportunities and blessings ahead. 👠 🥂💋
Accomplished vs face of strength . Wow that was a nugget right there. Thank you !
"PEZ dispenser of anger"...I am done. Lol!
Compassion. Try not to judge. From that alone, it's clear that Chloe_ is FOR, and not against, black women, and really, all women. No one with a malignant spirit can hold such an opinion.
No matter how much pretzel-twisting, truth will always emerge. Thank you for this channel.
My sistahs, we are the song of the ages. For the last little while, that song HAD to be a battle cry but it’s time to switch it back to a serenade. 😌💛 #omooshun
So glad this is your JAM, because you have truly been a blessing. Thank you!
15 January 2021
Just came across your channel
SUPER!! Healing! Thank you
Your very knowledgeable and articulate
Thank you for addressing the very cruel reality that black women face daily
This channel is a thing of BEAUTY. Wow. All I can say is thank you Chloe. 💕
How can I give a thousand thumbs up to this?thank you chloe for your ever growing and impactful wisdom!And happy 2021
This channel is teaching me sooooo much! I've been single for over 6 months (by choice) I don't know when I will want to jump back in the relationship arena again but when I do I will no have to go in dumb blind and bewildered and attract the same dusties I've been entertaining... Thank you 😊
I'm so grateful for you and your work, Chloe. I've always been girly and feminine, but you've elevated my game totally. I love you. Happy holidays, sweetie! Happy holidays, my feminine ladies!
I m an Indian and i absolutely love u chloe though india is a Patriarchal society where women are considered weaker but those women were respected in their house now bcz of growing feminism especially in urban india women are working like horses they work cook all the meals take care of the inlaws(it's a culture to stay with inlaws) take care of the house and kids as well while the man just works outside though some men like to help but either they don't understand as they haven't been taught anything absolute golden kids but even if they do it is looked down upon by inlaws and society and the marriage market is filled with guys looking for 50/50 but only when it comes to finances !!!!
Oh how I love a Chloe video 🥰🥰🥰🥰🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 Thanks for all you do.
Yasss stop being a work mule for Men period
The masculine stick is heavy indeed. Dropped it a loooooonnnggg time ago
Started my feminine journey over a year ago and I can’t believe how much it has changed not only my mindset but my life for the better. Thank you Chloe you are much to do with this 🌹 ❤️
YES, 💅👄FIND & RELEASE YOUR FEMININE !!!
You are a Jewel ! I love you Chloe ! Thank you for all you do ! Happy Holidays ! 💕 #lifechanging
I love you too. Happy Holidays!
Another fantastic video! You get it and paying it forward. I know and agree with everything listed and I'm hoping that other BW get it too in 2021 and beyond. Best wishes to all!
You’re doing a wonderful job my dear Chloe_
Chloe- thank you for your commitment
God bless you❤
I've been doing it all wrong.
Congratulations CHlOE on 100,000 subscribers! Been a subbie since you were at 10,000. I love your content. You continue to teach me sooooo much! Many Blessings 💕💕💕
So tired of being strong! My goodness.