I found it easy to go no contact with my x narc friend of 35 years,I just couldn't do it any more..years of putdowns no interest in me or my family,even my daughters were an issue for her,she's tried calling 6,7 times, finally blocked her,actually the last time I was angry to see the call coming in,then blocked. Now I am grayrocking another. That one was so,so so. covert,I think she managed to destroy a key work,friendship I had,she became friends with her,now I'm not speaking to her, then the culprit I'm grayrocking.She knows what's up.
I studied about Narcissistic abuse for about 5 yrs and I didn't even realized that I was in NARC ABUSE myself. For me No Contact is a must because I would of not make it alive. My trauma bond was crazy I was all over the map and believed I would never come out of it alive. So I put a restraining order on him I changed my phone number and moved three hours away and no social media absolutely no contact is the only way back to reality if not I would of killed myself because trauma bond is no laughing matter and I never knew the amount of Evil parasites that they are and I'm glad I did.My life is coming back to reality and I'm armed with knowledge about NARC's its been about one year coming to life so if your serious about your life then no contact is mandatory stay strong
When You Cut the power cord 🔌 You interrupt the narcissistic abuse cycle. They become “stuck” not knowing what to do next because they don’t know if you are happy or sad. So they don’t know whether to love bomb or devalue? You basically break their GPS on their narcissistic playbook-lol 😂. Another Great Vid Andrew ! ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ 5/5
For a newbie I can only say, once you have made a decision to leave, leave! Don’t second guess yourself. My best friend advised me to make a pro and con list. I didn’t. There were no pros. It was a long road to get to that decision. What I did was take my five year old daughter (this was 25 years ago) and went to my sister’s to stiffen my resolve, to fortify myself. I stayed over a week. I returned and had to live with my husband a couple of months until I moved out. It wasn’t easy but I was determined because I had had enough. I remember saying out loud, “Free at last, free at last. Thank god almighty! I’m free at last.” It takes courage.🙌🏽😻
There’s power in accepting the fact that they never loved or cared for you. Replay the abuse back to yourself as many times as it takes. Above all, self build and find ways to love & respect yourself, while staying faithful to divine intelligence, which has the perfect plan for not just you, but them as well🙏🏼
No contact for one and half year, after suffering for 10 years. I will never speak to that toxic person ever again. Everything you've said is 100% correct.
I got on a plane from Australia to Los Angeles and made my way back to Sweet Home Alabama! That ended a 22 year marriage and has been another 22 years NC. 🎉
Four months after the discard out of nowhere , I was in the city of my soon to be ex wife 4,000 miles away in another country two weeks ago. A month ago I thought I would confront her on everything, but decided in the end to not even contact her or even let her know I was there. Closure would have been nice, but after hearing the smear job on me through a mutual friend, closure was never going to happen.
Divorced her 5 years ago, but went 100% no contact only 1 year ago (there are children) What a difference! She can’t “touch” me anymore. She is going beserk with jealousy 😂 bless this channel! 😘
Andrew is a star! To all of you who have endured pain in a relationship or suffered at the hands of a Narcissist, I want you to know that you are not alone. It takes immense strength to navigate through the darkness that such experiences can bring. Remember, healing is a journey, and it's okay to take your time. At times, the scars left by these toxic connections may feel insurmountable, but you are resilient. Embrace your emotions, for they are valid, and allow yourself to process the hurt. It's essential to lean on your support system, whether it be friends, family, or professionals who can lend a compassionate ear. Don't blame yourself for what happened; narcissists have a way of manipulating and deceiving others. Instead, channel that energy into rebuilding your self-esteem and reclaiming your sense of worth. You are deserving of love, respect, and happiness. Andrew your a star
They hate grey rock but when you find a narc at your new workplace that’s all you can do. Conversations for the day… good morning … good night . That’s it 👍.
Newbies, don’t give them a second chance. Yes it’s hard to move on from what you thought you were building, and from who you thought loved you. But they can’t love anyone but themselves. And it just hurts worse letting them back in. With each time you try, they respect you less and less. I could guess the amount of time the change would last each time. The sad but funny one was one day and boom back to status quo. Don’t waste your life away on these people! There’s so much more to life than being mistreated!
"What did narcissist do before the internet?" Well they used to be those toxic bosses that made you quit your job. Or that asshole that used sarcastic remarks to bully you into submission. (My personal experiences with narcs.)
The worst thing about a narcissistic relationship is the white noise you just cannot switch off..during the relationship and for the time after it ends. The only way to escape this is no contact. Alcohol, drugs, over/under eating, exercise, whatever block you use will not work. It can only be no contact. It does take work, disapline and time. You have to reprogram your brain...do not let them in. Any promises are false and have a shorter shelf life each time you allow it to happen. Get out of it, stay out of it...Once you do, you can reclaim yourself back and live your best life 😊
"White noise" I used to carry a hand radio in my pocket with headphones set to the loudest static I could find. My dad would attack me with music. I'd go outside to escape also could still hear it. I still have the radio sitting next to me on "my" couch, helps me sleep.
@@CharlotteBarden I had to learn the hard way like most people us on here 😄 It took many, many attempts!! When I realised nothing was ever going to change, that is when I said, no more...much love )
You become addicted to the narc with the Trauma Bond, Andrew mentioned. Commit yourself to live in the truth. Addictive relationships are fantasies, you become in love with what you wish the other person was. There is a brain chemistry involved in a trauma bond. Because the relationship is so unfulfilling you are left with a constant state of emptiness. The brain chemicals released when trying to detach are different from the neurotransmitters and hormones released when you are with your narc. Chemicals released during times of stress are Cortisol, norepinephrine and Dopamine. You need to realize is that you are fighting the cravings from these chemical responses. Go online for information or get help to overcome the Trauma Bond. This is yet another additional thing you didn’t sign up for from the narc. Working, along with you to overcome this hurt and move on to better days. God bless you all.
No contact is not a “ game that we play” it’s a sign that we have freed ourselves from our abuser. He or she no longer has access to our most valuable resource- our mind , our spirit, our kindness, our light. At first I felt bad to block a husband of 25 years. But each time I felt bad I looked at my list of terrible things he had done to me and the feeling of bad disappeared. When people ask me how is he doing I honestly say “ I don’t have a clue “. Thank you Andrew. It was because of you I was able to do this.
They can't handle not having sway over you when you go no contact. 💯🙏😇. They try fake profiles, old high school friends, people they know through others, new opportunities, and romantic possibilities. Using common sense will get you through most of it. Yet, you still have to be vigilant.
I was with my husband 28yrs, and it's been 5mons NO CONTACT. Best 5mons of my life. Hard at first getting back my health and sanity. Now that I know what this man is I can never unknown. I thank God for this channel. Be safe God bless 😊
Yes! He decided he would try and use my Dark Night of the Soul against me, and try to make it cost me my life and career. I was stoic and acted as though it did not matter. I have been no contact as much as possible with him still living here.
No contact is the only way if you can. It gives us space to heal. With no contact i came to realize my ex situationship (love this) was not capable of love. It has nothing to do with me and my value. Not capable is not capable. I will never settle again.
I went no contact .....he did TRY to hoover me when we bumped into each other while out in the street ( He lives close by) , but I stayed strong and walked away saying NO. Thank you Andrew, you're helping me every day, more than you could know. xx
Yes! Go NO CONTACT! Free yourself from the most diabolical human being that invaded your life. Sadly, I was born to a narcissistic mother, an older brother who was the lazy, do-nothing “golden child”, and extremely abusive father. After my parents were both dead and forced family gatherings gone I cut that cancer right out of my life and it’s been wonderful! Get that dark plague out of your life asap, it makes a huge difference in releasing your true inner happiness 💜🌞✨
Actually, I just declined the narc's try to get me back a few days ago. To be honest, I wasn't sure what should I do for a good week. They didn't even message me, they just read and liked my story on an account which I forgot to secure from them. That's all they had to do, because they know how much writing means to me and that's how we met in the first place. They got in my head again, they read it all incripted in the text. They can decode those very well and find out when I'm vulnerable. And use it against me, of course. They would message me eventually, it was just a matter of time. Fortunately, I have great and truly caring people by my side and they encouraged me to block the person again. There was nothing good coming from their attention. Just anxiety and nightmares. For everyone, don't doubt yourself and don't let the narc get to you again! Sending strength to all! 💪✨💕
Hello Andrew and everyone! I immediately went NO CONTACT after I left him. New phone #, no more Facebook for me, plus, I moved! He had no friends so no flying monkeys. It's a NEW LIFE without them. GREAT TOPIC, ANDREW..❤❤
Going no contact with the narcissists and flying monkeys in my life, was liberating. I felt at peace. I experienced a calmness and decrease in my anxiety levels, which I had not experienced in at least 10 years. I was less depressed and had renewed interest in life. I started exercising and taking care of my self, as I had prior to the narcissistic relationships (I had multiple). I would encourage you to do the same and become liberated. It opens up your mind to new possibilities. ❤😊
Another way to think about it is-the person came to you in a lower dimension than you-they went lower and tried to force you to go with them-you began to make them very uncomfortable due to their sneakie shit-furthermore I realized they like it
Power outage! I love it! I've been on power outage for several years now and my mental health has improved a lot because of it. Sadly I've also had to go low/no contact with almost everyone else in my previous life because they either turned out to be narcissists too or they are flying monkeys/enablers to the narcissist. It's tough but the peace you get compensates for all the loss. It can get lonely at times but the anguish and craziness these relationships put you through makes the silence that follows precious.
@anta3612. I relate a lot to your comment. You are so right about the peace. It’s an amazing gift. Even though I get lonely sometimes, I don’t miss the drama, the chaos, the dysfunction etc. Freedom is a wonderful thing.
Thanks again, Mister Andrew. Your channel has helped saved my life literally. I was suicidal after the discard. Unfortunately I have NOTHING and must continue living in the house… but I kicked him out since he can live at his folks house. I FINALLY have a job, am saving some money, and was even invited to join my old band again after being SCREAMED at for playing my guitar for years now. Keep up the good work.💔🙏🏻
I finally went no contact for real. No games. Just the other day when i deleted all social media and put down i felt a literal weight come off my chest i became happy and FREE 🎉
My “Narcissist” unfortunately is my mom. Using all these tactics to keep her from causing more destruction in my life is tough. I recently responded to an email briefly letting her know that we’re not good and we’ll never be good but I would like to have some level or cordiality so that we could both be around family members some day. As predicted, I received a word salad apology without acknowledging anything she did, a second email a week later asking me to respond, offering to buy me a phone (she believes my life is in shambles without her and that the only reason I don’t speak with her is because I’m too poor to have a phone) and a third email telling me that I’m depressed and that she’s hiring a private investigator to track me down. I hope you newbies are listening to his advice, they won’t change and don’t see things the same way healthy people do. It’s never ending and the honey moon phase is brief before they go back to who they truly are
The utter relief of no contact, no phone calls, no emails, no messages, no nastiness. I gave him, my son, a few chances, but each time the niceness was short lived and then the nastiness came back. Definitely a weight has lifted.
I go no contact with mutual friends …they are casualties of the relationship ..they are a conduit to the narc ….i am healing and listening and watching videos about narcs …me@ntime they wont have watched anything of the sort …they are dust and moved on…but We have the discernment to realise We have been badly wounded and reach out for help and eventually be our normal selves again…they Think they are so perfect ..but pride goes before a Fall ….i am happy my life is no longer ruled by a despicable thieving individual .
Andrew, your advice is absolutely spot on. I was accused by the narcissistic of closing down, simply because I chose to stop oversharing and letting this individual control and manipulate me, and attempt to blow up every important relationship. The ‘grey rock’ approach definitely works as I was soon discarded once I stopped sharing personal details. Your knowledge and wisdom are a beacon of light during a very dark time. 🥰
Advice I was given when I was new to No Contact was to fully commit to it no matter how tough that can feel. Giving yourself the time to grieve, heal, and unpack a lot of feelings can feel extremely difficult at times, but stick with yourself. This is exactly the hard work it takes to get through to other side, and the other side is glorious beyond comprehension. You won’t regret it. Trust the process and believe in yourself because you can do it. It gets easier every day, and before you know it you’re on the other side. Big thank you to Andrew for helping all of us with his wisdom though our personal journeys.
As a human, you will be devalued from the moment they lay eyes on you! If you can't see it a mile away after having been with these people...adjust your sunglasses! They Live!
He is guilty of everything you said from childhood to present day. He’s newly 55. He never dated me officially, or would call me a girlfriend…. Oh how the might start to fall…he’s chasing age now he’s “dating “ someone online in another country 😂😂😂
Only way to get out of narcissistic abuse and stop being supply is to leave it completely. My sister STILL after almost 3 full years of not seeing or talking to her has her neighbors COME OVER TO MY HOUSE UNANNOUNCED. "we know you don't have any friends and you're all alone." The neighbors/flying monkeys are just as sick as my so-called sister. You have to stay out of it completely to be able to heal and get your thinking abilities back, you're going to be astounded at what you were willing to endure once you have it behind you.
Truth the blocking - unblocking game. I don't think they ever sit there going through any emotions about us while we are doing what we can to get off that crazy hamster wheel. Instead they're talking about us, no reasoning with them. I'm talking about a family member.
They love only one person. Themself Good News They teach us about our self. How far will we go in a worthless relationship. God gave a lesson learn to like and treat ourselves better. We need to take better care of ourselves. We enabled them. Not any more
I can attest that they are always on dating sites, even if you think they aren’t at the time. My ex literally told me after I ended it that she has “backups, and backups for the backups.” I had no idea what that meant then. After figuring out she is a narcissist, I now know that meant “backup SUPPLY.” Now where did that come from? Dating apps and social media. It’s the only explanation because I never saw these “backups” anywhere.
For sure no contact and blocking has been the key to getting out of the narcissistic fog, breaking the trauma bond, getting my life back and HEALING. No way do I want to leave the door open even a crack for him to slither back into my life. Yes, I did the blocking/unblocking thing and NO it DID NOT serve me. Any time my phone sounded I would feel sick thinking maybe it was him. I couldn't relax on my days off for fear he would call or text me wanting something even though we are no longer married. With the block in place, I can relax again.
Life is challenging enough without mucking around with that kinda evil! Love Andrew's serious advice on living life with more focus. We only have so much energy and years fly by.
I agree, life is challenging enough without realizing I was "sleeping with the enemy" my soon ex husband was always against me,I just never understood it until the discard and I started researching
Glad you quit hating him! At that point he was still winning. 😉 That was his last gasps of controlling you. Its WORK but WORTH every second of becoming INDIFFERENT. A fleeting thought if a "trigger" is presented to you. ( Then you might know its time to RUN! )
@@suesanders1169 This site has taught me a lot. Your comment helped me. If I still hate him, I still think about his deceit. The anger never goes away.. 💖👍
6 years ago I let mine go. Prey's on everyone. He is nothing but a lying predator. He Used me, and I allowed it. That's the hard part. I had a big part in the relationship too. I gave my power away. Block, Don't open the door, get far away until the heart heals. I began painting to take up my spare time, and walking in nature for my mind. Dolores Cannon Watch her she helped me let go. Forgiveness I knew nothing about narcissists. I do now 🤣
True...I accepted hoover after five yrs and at that point I didn't know that he distroyed another relationship with woman who got a son with him. He left me in fog, lies and actually he came back only to destroy me. Nobody will change a lot so who was once bad won't be good just because we want that so badly. Always listen your intuition. I killed mine but from beginning a lot of aspects of behaviour were strange. For example, at one evening he had a couple of appointments. I always tried to explain myself that behaviour in better light finding excuses but busy was too often one of them.
All aboard! The healing train. Funny and perfect timing with the train right at the end. God bless you Andrew for leaving no stone unturned when dealing with these demonic creatures. Most people can't wrap their brains around the FACT that there are narcs all over the place. It's a painful realization, but all the solutions you offer lead to peace, joy, flow, wholeness, creativity. Speaking of timing, has anybody else noticed the uncanny timing of narcs hoover tactics? They have radar for when you're thriving and reach out to try and suck the life out of you. Well, we now have radar for the beautiful and goodness.
Absolutely show up if they start sniffing ONE'S success in the air. 🙄 Want to "glom" on to one when times are good/ great but 🦗🦗🦗 ( crickets ) chirping ( sometimes for YEARS ) before one is successful. 🙄 All I have to say is SERIOUSLY? 🤨
The one narcissist I dealt with is old school and knows absolutely nothing about tech, including internet, SM or smart phones...probably because of his age. He got plenty of supply from friends and family, and daily verbal abuse to me. The other narcissist friend is exactly what you describe daily on your videos. Just goes to show how different lifestyles they made lead, but the underlying mask always remains the same.
Andrew, I found your Channel a couple of weeks ago. I felt convinced you were talking directly to me because you knew exactly what I was going through. I had no idea of the predictability of the narcissist, and the typical treatment of the empath. You'll be happy to hear that my divorce was Final last week. Thank you so much and I will continue to watch
Great video Andrew. I went no contact after the discard. It definitely wasn't easy, I was with him for 7 years and I really did love him. I know he didn't deserve my love or anything I gave him. After the discard I just went away and disappeared from him. I moved blocked him and I haven't had any contact with him since. He has tried to contact me but I ignore everything. I definitely stayed away from his social media especially, didn't need to put myself through that. I'm much better now. Thank you Andrew for the video and thank you everyone for your kind words.
Yes yes yes. Stay away from that you don’t need to put yourself through that at all. I had to cut off people that reported back to me about that social media. WHY do they stay connected KNOWING what they’ve done 🤔 these are drama queens and kings and I have no place for that kind of sickness no no no. Good for you!!!
The way I see it, going no contact is step NUMERO UNO. If you can do that, you can really get the narc out of your head and be on the FAST track to healing! ❤️☝️❤️☝️ I’m SO glad you’re safe Andrew!!!!!!! ❤️💋❤️💋❤️😇😇😇
I know what you mean. I’m an extreme empath and when I have been stung, I turn my back forever. Freeze 🥶 people out. I become very narcissistic that way.😼🙀👻😺
IMO that sounds more like SELF PRESERVATION which is different than narciccism. AFTER you get STUNG you freeze 🥶 out. Which means you give people a chance BEFORE YOU DISCARD. 🙂
I dumped them because I didnt want to turn 40 and still be with a parasite. I also had become tired of policing the parasite. But I couldnt be awake 24/7 to keep checking if theyre cheating on me.
Yes, it takes a lot of courage. Yet when you are tired of the narc's abuse, you'll leave. Tomorrow, August 31st will be seven years since I left the narc. I live in IL. and I moved to FLA. I think you were my first teacher about narcissism. I'll NEVER let ANYONE abuse me anymore!! I seek the truth now.
Went no contact and it's been great!!!😂 Such a relief you have no idea! So grateful for these videos. Thank you thank you and keep making them Andrew. It's pure gold. 😊
I thought you were nuts when I watched your first few videos and you kept hammering you much go no contact it is the only way to begin the path to healing. At nearly 9 months I still wake up to ruminations but it's more compartmentalized now, I can recognized it right away and file it away as something I have already dealt with. I was triggered when you colleagues were going on about how special it was to be close to their folks and be able to step in and take care of them when they get old. I felt like I was a failure, or less than, because I will most likely never even talk to or see them ever again. My life has gotten so much better in the past nine months so that I value myself too much to risk my peace by going back for another......I know what is coming, I accept what they think of me and choose to live the best life I can without a parents to support me or share in the joys of my life. They really don't care, so why should I continue to put myself in a position to be hurt?
Totally agree with everything you’ve said..SCARY!! We need psychological and spiritual protection from these predators! Awareness is key! Thank you for sharing your experience and wisdom! Nameste 🙏🏻
You are a total expert on this topic! I am on the verge of getting a new phone and new number. The blocking game is horrible. Thanks for your advice and love❤
Loved this video, Andrew. That's what I needed at this very moment. Dear Newbies, I've just got a text from "my Narc" from an unknown number this evening - I blocked him a few weeks ago, went no contact completely - , saying that he is at the airport, about to board and he loves me very much. First I got freaked out, cause I wasn't expecting such a hoover, the whole text was full of lies and inauthenticity. Then after a few mins I calmed down and I realised that he would never fly to another country to see me - he is lazy and a coward - , so he is trying to get my attention and energy. Fortunately had the strength to block this new number too, that he was trying to reach out from. Real love is sensible. Just like the weird energy of a sick mind. Wanted to share this with you, I hope it made sense and wasn't all a waffle in writing. P. S.: Don't set yourself on fire to make others warm. Much love, Bernie
The problem is people don’t stay angry forever!! No contact with Narc is made not of angers !! When after all attempts have been made to try improve and to change the impossible and you mature up you came to realize the best exit is now!! No more contact and I don’t miss him one bit when I finally realized it was never me I decided to focus more on myself than him or others!! Enough and free at last the narcissistic doesn’t understand love what it means he only knows what he can get and want and I was obliged to meet his needs I don’t need validation and approval from anyone anymore!
It's so hard trust me. We don't want to believe that someone who pretended to love you could behave this way but sadly it's true. We've been fed a lie of redemption and there is none.
So much here. Another very strong message. Well, a few things. Appreciate what you shared about making communication “business like” - when a known empath does this, they know something’s up. Had to do that with a boss who got too friendly and when you set boundaries and make it clear, they still try to Hoover. They will do anything to protect their fragile egos so nothing is off the table with them. They will lie, steal, cheat and they will use every form of manipulation- and if they know spirituality is an important part of you, they will stoop to the lowest there too. Go no contact when possible. Let someone else be a middle person for needed communication. Social media is crawling with predators and please consider a very long break for healing purposes for yourselves. The time saved from those platforms is amazing for our lives. Andrew’s direction is for YOUR good. Not for supplying these toxic people and narcissists. ❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏
I know a narssist that just broke another narssist wrist, upon table was a medical report stating broken wrist, but narssist told me i did not , she lying. Did not revile i seen peper. He is a liar on so many levels. And she mentioned term gaslighting. Silence will teach you alot.😊
No comtact = your peace + freedom from the silent treatment, walking on eggshells, rage fits etc. It also gives you an opportunity to put the focus back onto yourself...I find keeping a journal very helpful. It forces you to look within and to take stock and reevaluate your life. Time goes by diffently now. Your silence speaks volumes and in no uncertains terms, sends out a clear message, that you are nobody's emotional punch bag. You claim back yourself. I get to thank God everyday for my life and staying close to Him, has helped me to maintain my no contact rule. There is no magic wand, you just need to take it one day at a time. Thank you Andrew! Your words of wisdom are helping millions of people around the globe....your pain has purpose. I for one am indeed blessed to have discovered your channel a year and a half ago. It is a life line. I still have challenges to overcome but i have clarity now to pursue the different avenues in solving my problem. For anyone new, keep coming back and gain the wisdom....it will help you to move through the pain and confision. You will get the understanding 🙏🌸🌸🌸
I have a friend who does not get this way of life. They are constantly going over the same stuff again an again. I have found it better to grey rock them for my wellbeing. This shows me that I am slowly putting into practice what I get from this channel. When I think that it was only a year ago this seemed so very hard to even think of doing. For those of you who are newer here know that it is possible to get to this point. You really can do this and when you do there is a brand new freedom that will come to you. Thanks again Andrew!!
I feel exactly the same way, Richard. 10 months ago, it started with "What in the world is this weird game, being played, that I sensed seeing the pattern before??" Now I know and it's a mind blow!
3 mths ago I removed myself from my covert narcissistic boyfriend of 3 years... dealing with the narcissistic abuse of 3 years it was time to leave I was an emotional wreck & completely depleted... it was a transatlantic relationship if we were in the same country I'd have left sooner! Returning back to the real world was serene... newbies leave ASAP I feared the fall of being alone but learnt in fact I love it & in control of my new life story... I've had flirtations & a kiss whilst out with friends here in England recently & that's all I want.... lighthearted fun & new happy memories! Newbies empower yourself & create your new life story.....❤
Hello, everyone. I can share that I befriended someone while I was sinning , but I had good intentions. Well..I had lied about something and I admitted it at about the time I rejected a threesome. Anyway, they broke off with me to get with the other one and then tried to continue with me after they supposedly broke the other off. I was being used for my car they probably lost their driving rights for alcoholism. I have boundaries but found my morals falling after associating for a while and I got bad luck and destruction was out to ruin every area of my life! If I didn’t have relations with Jesus I would be completely destroyed and unable to fulfill my life’s purposes. There were many back and forths but the longer I stayed away and repented of my own wrongs I went no contact for good and I’m healed. Good video.. thank you:)
Another one ☝🏾 Andrew …✌🏾 newbies… one day you’ll block for good no going back and you deal with anyone who plays that game… taking you thru the blocking unblocking roller coaster… mature people don’t do that… we just won’t speak until we’re ready.
Almost 3 years of “No Contact “ ! It backfired on the covert delusional liar and her flying monkeys! Now they are all alone! No family on either side talk to them!
Finally sorting out my car repairs, clothing, personal things to split in three weeks. I am done. Foot fracture taking a very long time to heal due to living in fear. Thank you so much for your videos help me get through this sick behaviour and the vicious cycles. I really thought someone was gonna get hurt on Friday night, adult tantrum two nights in a row and I am still affected. Now said adults are back to their nice love bombing tactics so i forget what happened, the cycle continues so sad for them. Its hard to keep up the act but business like is a good way, just keep focussed and clear. Thats a great train 🚂 haha Love to you 🙏🏼 ❤❤❤
After I went no contact with my ex boyfriend, he used his minions, he called from other people's phones, from business phones...I NEVER responded, still don't, and never will, and let's just say...my block list is longer than my contact list...I have absolutely no regret in going no contact! There's so much peace in my life and I'm so much happier! Thanks Andrew for sharing a video every single day! 🥰
Me neither. No regrets! Going no contact super charges your healing process! It rids you of much of the sifting process. Cut out ANYONE who is attached to the narc. It knocks down much of the flying monkeys action. Stay vigilant to folks who are “on the fence” and likely to turn into flying monkeys. Be aware of folks who come under one guise when what they actually want is information concerning the break up. Do NOT answer any questions. Focus on YOUR healing and nothing else. Go no contact. It is the most powerful move you can make on your own behalf.
You just can’t recover from the sewage when you’re drowning from them r rejection. I went back several times plus a hundred but now fully NC. Healing is progressing well and the further away you get time wise - the more clear headed I get and it’s fab! Persevere people - they just not worth it and nothing changes - ever! 💕
Sorry you have to live with that fear constantly in the back of your mind. 😔 It might take years and many moves before that fear completely dissipates and disappears.
😂😂😂 that train in the end, was that the narc trying to destroy your video ? 😂😂 Thank you mr. Andrew, I am following a long time now, You are certainly one of the best with a big heart. You keep on going giving so much info again and again, but you also shine and give us hope and love. You are great. A big
Andrew, thank you. This video is a masterpiece. You are helping people proctect themselves from those evil demons. I don't like to call people demons but some I've witnessed have certainly acted demonicly.
Have seen 2 of them where faces WERE actually RED. ( 1 vibrant red, the other sunburn shade of red.) I believe sunburn may be diminishing but maybe just conserving energy until new supply. 🤷♀️
It’s NEVER “just you,” right? Not even during the courting “love bomb” phase. Roll the roulette wheel EACH AND EVERY DAY which of the multiple supplies will they suck dry today??
🎯!Im a blissful rock!Im a blissful rock! I am dealing with the aftermath of secret flying monkeys i never knew existed, heck they didnt even realize they were being a monkey and info giver. They all just need to go if they can't be strong about this. Sadly, not speaking to any fam is better then speaking to what i got. Socials/phones and narcissists...everything you said it 100% spot on
Stay strong everyone! No contact means just that. You are about to rediscover yourself and find peace.
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PEACE and Groovy!!
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I found it easy to go no contact with my x narc friend of 35 years,I just couldn't do it any more..years of putdowns no interest in me or my family,even my daughters were an issue for her,she's tried calling 6,7 times, finally blocked her,actually the last time I was angry to see the call coming in,then blocked. Now I am grayrocking another. That one was so,so so. covert,I think she managed to destroy a key work,friendship I had,she became friends with her,now I'm not speaking to her, then the culprit I'm grayrocking.She knows what's up.
I studied about Narcissistic abuse for about 5 yrs and I didn't even realized that I was in NARC ABUSE myself. For me No Contact is a must because I would of not make it alive. My trauma bond was crazy I was all over the map and believed I would never come out of it alive. So I put a restraining order on him I changed my phone number and moved three hours away and no social media absolutely no contact is the only way back to reality if not I would of killed myself because trauma bond is no laughing matter and I never knew the amount of Evil parasites that they are and I'm glad I did.My life is coming back to reality and I'm armed with knowledge about NARC's its been about one year coming to life so if your serious about your life then no contact is mandatory stay strong
31 months post narc, no contact, moved away. For anyone thinking about going no contact, DO IT!!!! U can do it!! Freedom taste so awesome!!
When You Cut the power cord 🔌 You interrupt the narcissistic abuse cycle. They become “stuck” not knowing what to do next because they don’t know if you are happy or sad. So they don’t know whether to love bomb or devalue? You basically break their GPS on their narcissistic playbook-lol 😂. Another Great Vid Andrew ! ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ 5/5
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I really like this viewpoint. Thanks.
True. No more data to use against me. I made my social media profile private and don't post my feelings on it now.
Going no contact with them gives you back part of your soul that they took from you. Leave them in the past. Move on gracefully without them.
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Release them with forgiveness, 💘, and 💡. 🙂
For a newbie I can only say, once you have made a decision to leave, leave! Don’t second guess yourself. My best friend advised me to make a pro and con list. I didn’t. There were no pros. It was a long road to get to that decision. What I did was take my five year old daughter (this was 25 years ago) and went to my sister’s to stiffen my resolve, to fortify myself. I stayed over a week. I returned and had to live with my husband a couple of months until I moved out. It wasn’t easy but I was determined because I had had enough. I remember saying out loud, “Free at last, free at last. Thank god almighty! I’m free at last.” It takes courage.🙌🏽😻
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That was a very brave thing to do!💪🏻🌈💗
I understand, and I left a 26-year sad marriage(13 years ago,) and freedom and peace was wonderful way to live!!!
@@janetroberts5140 Indeed. Glad you took the plunge. 🫶🏽
No contact is the only way to heal
Abandoned one narc, silence and no contact with another and ignored the rest. I have the power. Screw all narcs.
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There’s power in accepting the fact that they never loved or cared for you. Replay the abuse back to yourself as many times as it takes. Above all, self build and find ways to love & respect yourself, while staying faithful to divine intelligence, which has the perfect plan for not just you, but them as well🙏🏼
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No contact for one and half year, after suffering for 10 years. I will never speak to that toxic person ever again. Everything you've said is 100% correct.
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Newbies this is the man to listen to he knows what he is talking about. I promise you!! ❤🙏🏻💯
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I got on a plane from Australia to Los Angeles and made my way back to Sweet Home Alabama! That ended a 22 year marriage and has been another 22 years NC. 🎉
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Good to hear it. I'm free 12.5 years.👍💕🖐
Four months after the discard out of nowhere , I was in the city of my soon to be ex wife 4,000 miles away in another country two weeks ago. A month ago I thought I would confront her on everything, but decided in the end to not even contact her or even let her know I was there. Closure would have been nice, but after hearing the smear job on me through a mutual friend, closure was never going to happen.
When you block a narcissist and they tried to call you they know what happen because you sent him a message
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Divorced her 5 years ago, but went 100% no contact only 1 year ago (there are children) What a difference! She can’t “touch” me anymore. She is going beserk with jealousy 😂 bless this channel! 😘
Andrew is a star!
To all of you who have endured pain in a relationship or suffered at the hands of a Narcissist, I want you to know that you are not alone. It takes immense strength to navigate through the darkness that such experiences can bring. Remember, healing is a journey, and it's okay to take your time. At times, the scars left by these toxic connections may feel insurmountable, but you are resilient. Embrace your emotions, for they are valid, and allow yourself to process the hurt. It's essential to lean on your support system, whether it be friends, family, or professionals who can lend a compassionate ear. Don't blame yourself for what happened; narcissists have a way of manipulating and deceiving others. Instead, channel that energy into rebuilding your self-esteem and reclaiming your sense of worth. You are deserving of love, respect, and happiness. Andrew your a star
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They hate grey rock but when you find a narc at your new workplace that’s all you can do. Conversations for the day… good morning … good night . That’s it 👍.
Newbies, don’t give them a second chance. Yes it’s hard to move on from what you thought you were building, and from who you thought loved you. But they can’t love anyone but themselves. And it just hurts worse letting them back in. With each time you try, they respect you less and less. I could guess the amount of time the change would last each time. The sad but funny one was one day and boom back to status quo. Don’t waste your life away on these people! There’s so much more to life than being mistreated!
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"What did narcissist do before the internet?" Well they used to be those toxic bosses that made you quit your job. Or that asshole that used sarcastic remarks to bully you into submission. (My personal experiences with narcs.)
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The worst thing about a narcissistic relationship is the white noise you just cannot switch off..during the relationship and for the time after it ends.
The only way to escape this is no contact.
Alcohol, drugs, over/under eating, exercise, whatever block you use will not work.
It can only be no contact. It does take work, disapline and time. You have to reprogram your brain...do not let them in.
Any promises are false and have a shorter shelf life each time you allow it to happen. Get out of it, stay out of it...Once you do, you can reclaim yourself back and live your best life 😊
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Now that's knowing how to control yourself, Pink. You are a lucky lady to know how.
"White noise" I used to carry a hand radio in my pocket with headphones set to the loudest static I could find. My dad would attack me with music. I'd go outside to escape also could still hear it. I still have the radio sitting next to me on "my" couch, helps me sleep.
@@CharlotteBarden I had to learn the hard way like most people us on here 😄 It took many, many attempts!! When I realised nothing was ever going to change, that is when I said, no more...much love )
I absolutely live for the face Andrew makes after stating the topic of the video
Thank you for this comment I thought I was the only one hahaha
You become addicted to the narc with the Trauma Bond, Andrew mentioned. Commit yourself to live in the truth. Addictive relationships are fantasies, you become in love with what you wish the other person was.
There is a brain chemistry involved in a trauma bond. Because the relationship is so unfulfilling you are left with a constant state of emptiness. The brain chemicals released when trying to detach are different from the neurotransmitters and hormones released when you are with your narc. Chemicals released during times of stress are Cortisol, norepinephrine and Dopamine. You need to realize is that you are fighting the cravings from these chemical responses. Go online for information or get help to overcome the Trauma Bond. This is yet another additional thing you didn’t sign up for from the narc. Working, along with you to overcome this hurt and move on to better days. God bless you all.
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No contact is not a “ game that we play” it’s a sign that we have freed ourselves from our abuser. He or she no longer has access to our most valuable resource- our mind , our spirit, our kindness, our light.
At first I felt bad to block a husband of 25 years. But each time I felt bad I looked at my list of terrible things he had done to me and the feeling of bad disappeared.
When people ask me how is he doing I honestly say “ I don’t have a clue “.
Thank you Andrew. It was because of you I was able to do this.
Welcome always 💯🙏💪😌🙌😇
That’s right. This isn’t a game to us. This our life. Much love. And respect ✊ ❤️🙏
That is amazing! Same thing here. When people mention the name, I say nothing. I have nothing to say.
That's powerful
Your comment inspired me as I go through the divorce after 12 years
I think the train 🚂 at the end was saying wake up people! Lol 😂
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They can't handle not having sway over you when you go no contact. 💯🙏😇. They try fake profiles, old high school friends, people they know through others, new opportunities, and romantic possibilities. Using common sense will get you through most of it. Yet, you still have to be vigilant.
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Mr. Andrew, it takes courage to share what you share everyday. Thank you 🙏🏽
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Right?! Amazing
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I was with my husband 28yrs, and it's been 5mons NO CONTACT. Best 5mons of my life. Hard at first getting back my health and sanity. Now that I know what this man is I can never unknown. I thank God for this channel. Be safe God bless 😊
So hard for me. Twenty two years. I don't know the person who walked out, a unilateral decision. 😢
Yes! He decided he would try and use my Dark Night of the Soul against me, and try to make it cost me my life and career. I was stoic and acted as though it did not matter. I have been no contact as much as possible with him still living here.
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No contact is the only way if you can. It gives us space to heal. With no contact i came to realize my ex situationship (love this) was not capable of love. It has nothing to do with me and my value. Not capable is not capable. I will never settle again.
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I went no contact .....he did TRY to hoover me when we bumped into each other while out in the street ( He lives close by) , but I stayed strong and walked away saying NO.
Thank you Andrew, you're helping me every day, more than you could know. xx
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cloudy, thank God mine can't find me. 12.5 years ago I left him. 👍👍💪🌞
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I will just ignore him if I see him in the store, and let him see that I am ignoring him(narc dad). Just thinking about it makes me feel strong!
Yes! Go NO CONTACT! Free yourself from the most diabolical human being that invaded your life. Sadly, I was born to a narcissistic mother, an older brother who was the lazy, do-nothing “golden child”, and extremely abusive father. After my parents were both dead and forced family gatherings gone I cut that cancer right out of my life and it’s been wonderful! Get that dark plague out of your life asap, it makes a huge difference in releasing your true inner happiness 💜🌞✨
Wear sunglasses. Ear buds. The narcissist is trying anything to read you. Don't give them your beautiful essence. Love yourself.
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Actually, I just declined the narc's try to get me back a few days ago. To be honest, I wasn't sure what should I do for a good week. They didn't even message me, they just read and liked my story on an account which I forgot to secure from them. That's all they had to do, because they know how much writing means to me and that's how we met in the first place.
They got in my head again, they read it all incripted in the text. They can decode those very well and find out when I'm vulnerable. And use it against me, of course. They would message me eventually, it was just a matter of time.
Fortunately, I have great and truly caring people by my side and they encouraged me to block the person again. There was nothing good coming from their attention. Just anxiety and nightmares.
For everyone, don't doubt yourself and don't let the narc get to you again! Sending strength to all! 💪✨💕
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The very best feeling was when I went "no contact". No more manipulation and word salad. Stay strong, and remove the narc from your world.
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Wats word salad ?
Never be needy, and don't let anyone else shred your energy
Hello Andrew and everyone! I immediately went NO CONTACT after I left him. New phone #, no more Facebook for me, plus, I moved! He had no friends so no flying monkeys.
It's a NEW LIFE without them.
GREAT TOPIC, ANDREW..❤❤
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@@gratefultobehere Heeyy Chelsea! Good to see ya! 🖐❤️👍
@@jannlewandowski5540 😊❤️🙏 you too
This is the way!
Going no contact with the narcissists and flying monkeys in my life, was liberating. I felt at peace. I experienced a calmness and decrease in my anxiety levels, which I had not experienced in at least 10 years. I was less depressed and had renewed interest in life. I started exercising and taking care of my self, as I had prior to the narcissistic relationships (I had multiple). I would encourage you to do the same and become liberated. It opens up your mind to new possibilities. ❤😊
I had no flying monkeys bcse he had no friends! 👍👍💪
Love this. Yes yes yes.
@@jannlewandowski5540Same here. Should have been the FIRST 🚩
Another way to think about it is-the person came to you in a lower dimension than you-they went lower and tried to force you to go with them-you began to make them very uncomfortable due to their sneakie shit-furthermore I realized they like it
Power outage! I love it! I've been on power outage for several years now and my mental health has improved a lot because of it. Sadly I've also had to go low/no contact with almost everyone else in my previous life because they either turned out to be narcissists too or they are flying monkeys/enablers to the narcissist. It's tough but the peace you get compensates for all the loss. It can get lonely at times but the anguish and craziness these relationships put you through makes the silence that follows precious.
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So true.
“It’s tough, but the peace you get compensates for all the loss.” (Quoting you). Wow, is really speaking to me about a situation. Thank you.
@@gratefultobehere Sending you hugs.♥
@anta3612. I relate a lot to your comment. You are so right about the peace. It’s an amazing gift.
Even though I get lonely sometimes, I don’t miss the drama, the chaos, the dysfunction etc.
Freedom is a wonderful thing.
I love that look right before you say, “think about it.”
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I also like that head tilt. 🙂
I like knowing that I’m handling situations better than my old self would have ❤ xx
Spinning 😵💫 in washing machine-good one ☝🏽
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Thanks again, Mister Andrew. Your channel has helped saved my life literally. I was suicidal after the discard. Unfortunately I have NOTHING and must continue living in the house… but I kicked him out since he can live at his folks house. I FINALLY have a job, am saving some money, and was even invited to join my old band again after being SCREAMED at for playing my guitar for years now. Keep up the good work.💔🙏🏻
I finally went no contact for real. No games. Just the other day when i deleted all social media and put down i felt a literal weight come off my chest i became happy and FREE 🎉
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Stay away from all toxics. Then, you'll never have to wean yourself off abuse and disrespect.❣️
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If I had trusted my gut and not given him the benefit of the doubt... a 1 year situationshup would have been avoided.
My “Narcissist” unfortunately is my mom. Using all these tactics to keep her from causing more destruction in my life is tough. I recently responded to an email briefly letting her know that we’re not good and we’ll never be good but I would like to have some level or cordiality so that we could both be around family members some day. As predicted, I received a word salad apology without acknowledging anything she did, a second email a week later asking me to respond, offering to buy me a phone (she believes my life is in shambles without her and that the only reason I don’t speak with her is because I’m too poor to have a phone) and a third email telling me that I’m depressed and that she’s hiring a private investigator to track me down. I hope you newbies are listening to his advice, they won’t change and don’t see things the same way healthy people do. It’s never ending and the honey moon phase is brief before they go back to who they truly are
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The utter relief of no contact, no phone calls, no emails, no messages, no nastiness. I gave him, my son, a few chances, but each time the niceness was short lived and then the nastiness came back. Definitely a weight has lifted.
I go no contact with mutual friends …they are casualties of the relationship ..they are a conduit to the narc ….i am healing and listening and watching videos about narcs …me@ntime they wont have watched anything of the sort …they are dust and moved on…but We have the discernment to realise We have been badly wounded and reach out for help and eventually be our normal selves again…they Think they are so perfect ..but pride goes before a Fall ….i am happy my life is no longer ruled by a despicable thieving individual .
Andrew, your advice is absolutely spot on. I was accused by the narcissistic of closing down, simply because I chose to stop oversharing and letting this individual control and manipulate me, and attempt to blow up every important relationship.
The ‘grey rock’ approach definitely works as I was soon discarded once I stopped sharing personal details.
Your knowledge and wisdom are a beacon of light during a very dark time. 🥰
Advice I was given when I was new to No Contact was to fully commit to it no matter how tough that can feel. Giving yourself the time to grieve, heal, and unpack a lot of feelings can feel extremely difficult at times, but stick with yourself. This is exactly the hard work it takes to get through to other side, and the other side is glorious beyond comprehension. You won’t regret it. Trust the process and believe in yourself because you can do it. It gets easier every day, and before you know it you’re on the other side.
Big thank you to Andrew for helping all of us with his wisdom though our personal journeys.
As a human, you will be devalued from the moment they lay eyes on you! If you can't see it a mile away after having been with these people...adjust your sunglasses! They Live!
He is guilty of everything you said from childhood to present day. He’s newly 55. He never dated me officially, or would call me a girlfriend….
Oh how the might start to fall…he’s chasing age now he’s “dating “ someone online in another country 😂😂😂
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Only way to get out of narcissistic abuse and stop being supply is to leave it completely. My sister STILL after almost 3 full years of not seeing or talking to her has her neighbors COME OVER TO MY HOUSE UNANNOUNCED. "we know you don't have any friends and you're all alone." The neighbors/flying monkeys are just as sick as my so-called sister. You have to stay out of it completely to be able to heal and get your thinking abilities back, you're going to be astounded at what you were willing to endure once you have it behind you.
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💯 That's why the narcissist is never without their phone....they empty 🕳 holes, are always looking for new supply ...
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Truth the blocking - unblocking game. I don't think they ever sit there going through any emotions about us while we are doing what we can to get off that crazy hamster wheel. Instead they're talking about us, no reasoning with them. I'm talking about a family member.
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They love only one person. Themself
Good News They teach us about our self.
How far will we go in a worthless relationship. God gave a lesson
learn to like and treat ourselves better. We need to take better care of ourselves.
We enabled them. Not any more
@@arbaknumbskull Thank you. 💜
Allow your life to unfold with grace
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I can attest that they are always on dating sites, even if you think they aren’t at the time. My ex literally told me after I ended it that she has “backups, and backups for the backups.” I had no idea what that meant then. After figuring out she is a narcissist, I now know that meant “backup SUPPLY.” Now where did that come from? Dating apps and social media. It’s the only explanation because I never saw these “backups” anywhere.
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For sure no contact and blocking has been the key to getting out of the narcissistic fog, breaking the trauma bond, getting my life back and HEALING. No way do I want to leave the door open even a crack for him to slither back into my life. Yes, I did the blocking/unblocking thing and NO it DID NOT serve me. Any time my phone sounded I would feel sick thinking maybe it was him. I couldn't relax on my days off for fear he would call or text me wanting something even though we are no longer married. With the block in place, I can relax again.
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Life is challenging enough without mucking around with that kinda evil! Love Andrew's serious advice on living life with more focus. We only have so much energy and years fly by.
I agree, life is challenging enough without realizing I was "sleeping with the enemy" my soon ex husband was always against me,I just never understood it until the discard and I started researching
When I quit hating him.
I know I am fee of his control.
I am working on it.
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Glad you quit hating him! At that point he was still winning. 😉
That was his last gasps of controlling you.
Its WORK but WORTH every second of becoming INDIFFERENT. A fleeting thought if a "trigger" is presented to you. ( Then you might know its time to RUN! )
@@suesanders1169 This site has taught me a lot. Your comment helped me.
If I still hate him, I still think about his deceit.
The anger never goes away..
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6 years ago I let mine go. Prey's on everyone.
He is nothing but a lying predator.
He Used me, and I allowed it.
That's the hard part. I had a big part in the relationship too.
I gave my power away.
Block, Don't open the door, get far away until the heart heals.
I began painting to take up my spare time, and walking in nature for my mind.
Dolores Cannon Watch her she helped me let go. Forgiveness
I knew nothing about narcissists. I do now 🤣
True...I accepted hoover after five yrs and at that point I didn't know that he distroyed another relationship with woman who got a son with him. He left me in fog, lies and actually he came back only to destroy me. Nobody will change a lot so who was once bad won't be good just because we want that so badly. Always listen your intuition. I killed mine but from beginning a lot of aspects of behaviour were strange. For example, at one evening he had a couple of appointments. I always tried to explain myself that behaviour in better light finding excuses but busy was too often one of them.
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All aboard! The healing train. Funny and perfect timing with the train right at the end. God bless you Andrew for leaving no stone unturned when dealing with these demonic creatures. Most people can't wrap their brains around the FACT that there are narcs all over the place. It's a painful realization, but all the solutions you offer lead to peace, joy, flow, wholeness, creativity. Speaking of timing, has anybody else noticed the uncanny timing of narcs hoover tactics? They have radar for when you're thriving and reach out to try and suck the life out of you. Well, we now have radar for the beautiful and goodness.
You get it.!!!😊 That's the phrases I've using. I am sorry I didn't realize it sooner. Scary people out there. Be well. ✌
Thank you for sharing this 💯🙏😌🙌
Absolutely show up if they start sniffing ONE'S success in the air. 🙄
Want to "glom" on to one when times are good/ great but 🦗🦗🦗 ( crickets ) chirping ( sometimes for YEARS ) before one is successful. 🙄
All I have to say is SERIOUSLY? 🤨
The one narcissist I dealt with is old school and knows absolutely nothing about tech, including internet, SM or smart phones...probably because of his age. He got plenty of supply from friends and family, and daily verbal abuse to me. The other narcissist friend is exactly what you describe daily on your videos. Just goes to show how different lifestyles they made lead, but the underlying mask always remains the same.
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sherwayne, it's good to be free of them..🖐👍🌞💕
Yes. Underneath is always the same.
@@gratefultobehere Hi Chelsea, haven't chatted for awhile. Hope you are well and having a great day! ❤️✨️
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Andrew, I found your Channel a couple of weeks ago. I felt convinced you were talking directly to me because you knew exactly what I was going through. I had no idea of the predictability of the narcissist, and the typical treatment of the empath. You'll be happy to hear that my divorce was Final last week. Thank you so much and I will continue to watch
Great video Andrew. I went no contact after the discard. It definitely wasn't easy, I was with him for 7 years and I really did love him. I know he didn't deserve my love or anything I gave him.
After the discard I just went away and disappeared from him. I moved blocked him and I haven't had any contact with him since. He has tried to contact me but I ignore everything. I definitely stayed away from his social media especially, didn't need to put myself through that. I'm much better now. Thank you Andrew for the video and thank you everyone for your kind words.
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Yes yes yes. Stay away from that you don’t need to put yourself through that at all. I had to cut off people that reported back to me about that social media. WHY do they stay connected KNOWING what they’ve done 🤔 these are drama queens and kings and I have no place for that kind of sickness no no no. Good for you!!!
Don’t look back. Eyes and feet forward!
Narc Wisdom. Watching you from one of your first videos two years ago to where you are now Andrew, is amazing.
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The way I see it, going no contact is step NUMERO UNO. If you can do that, you can really get the narc out of your head and be on the FAST track to healing! ❤️☝️❤️☝️
I’m SO glad you’re safe Andrew!!!!!!! ❤️💋❤️💋❤️😇😇😇
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Amen 🙏 ❤️ to all you shared.
For all the newbies, your life will expand in amazing, beautiful ways once you get away from these horrible people. You won't regret the changes!
I know what you mean. I’m an extreme empath and when I have been stung, I turn my back forever. Freeze 🥶 people out. I become very narcissistic that way.😼🙀👻😺
Me too. It's vital for protecting myself.
fairyprincess, it's so good to be free..🫠🖐👍
IMO that sounds more like SELF PRESERVATION which is different than narciccism.
AFTER you get STUNG you freeze 🥶 out. Which means you give people a chance BEFORE YOU DISCARD. 🙂
I dumped them because I didnt want to turn 40 and still be with a parasite. I also had become tired of policing the parasite. But I couldnt be awake 24/7 to keep checking if theyre cheating on me.
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Once your intuition tells you something is "off," RUN!!!
Yes, it takes a lot of courage. Yet when you are tired of the narc's abuse, you'll leave. Tomorrow, August 31st will be seven years since I left the narc. I live in IL. and I moved to FLA. I think you were my first teacher about narcissism. I'll NEVER let ANYONE abuse me anymore!! I seek the truth now.
Went no contact and it's been great!!!😂 Such a relief you have no idea! So grateful for these videos. Thank you thank you and keep making them Andrew. It's pure gold. 😊
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No contact is AMAZING
Yes, i even have a ACP and the ex still tries to contact me. I just ignore it and move forward.
Not sure which state you are from but I' m presuming its some form of order of protection/restraining order.
I thought you were nuts when I watched your first few videos and you kept hammering you much go no contact it is the only way to begin the path to healing. At nearly 9 months I still wake up to ruminations but it's more compartmentalized now, I can recognized it right away and file it away as something I have already dealt with. I was triggered when you colleagues were going on about how special it was to be close to their folks and be able to step in and take care of them when they get old. I felt like I was a failure, or less than, because I will most likely never even talk to or see them ever again. My life has gotten so much better in the past nine months so that I value myself too much to risk my peace by going back for another......I know what is coming, I accept what they think of me and choose to live the best life I can without a parents to support me or share in the joys of my life. They really don't care, so why should I continue to put myself in a position to be hurt?
I’m climbing that mountain and determined to get to the top
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Temp97. You will get there! 👍👍🖐🌞💕
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Totally agree with everything you’ve said..SCARY!! We need psychological and spiritual protection from these predators! Awareness is key! Thank you for sharing your experience and wisdom! Nameste 🙏🏻
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You are a total expert on this topic! I am on the verge of getting a new phone and new number. The blocking game is horrible. Thanks for your advice and love❤
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Loved this video, Andrew. That's what I needed at this very moment.
Dear Newbies,
I've just got a text from "my Narc" from an unknown number this evening - I blocked him a few weeks ago, went no contact completely - , saying that he is at the airport, about to board and he loves me very much.
First I got freaked out, cause I wasn't expecting such a hoover, the whole text was full of lies and inauthenticity.
Then after a few mins I calmed down and I realised that he would never fly to another country to see me - he is lazy and a coward - , so he is trying to get my attention and energy.
Fortunately had the strength to block this new number too, that he was trying to reach out from.
Real love is sensible. Just like the weird energy of a sick mind.
Wanted to share this with you, I hope it made sense and wasn't all a waffle in writing.
P. S.: Don't set yourself on fire to make others warm.
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Narcs are looking for minions at moment, watch out!
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The problem is people don’t stay angry forever!! No contact with Narc is made not of angers !! When after all attempts have been made to try improve and to change the impossible and you mature up you came to realize the best exit is now!! No more contact and I don’t miss him one bit when I finally realized it was never me I decided to focus more on myself than him or others!! Enough and free at last the narcissistic doesn’t understand love what it means he only knows what he can get and want and I was obliged to meet his needs I don’t need validation and approval from anyone anymore!
Andrew, must have been the LAST TRAIN TO NARC'SVILLE passing you by!
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This guy changed my life. I was lost Thanks for your knowledge.
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It's so hard trust me. We don't want to believe that someone who pretended to love you could behave this way but sadly it's true. We've been fed a lie of redemption and there is none.
So much here. Another very strong message. Well, a few things. Appreciate what you shared about making communication “business like” - when a known empath does this, they know something’s up. Had to do that with a boss who got too friendly and when you set boundaries and make it clear, they still try to Hoover. They will do anything to protect their fragile egos so nothing is off the table with them. They will lie, steal, cheat and they will use every form of manipulation- and if they know spirituality is an important part of you, they will stoop to the lowest there too.
Go no contact when possible. Let someone else be a middle person for needed communication. Social media is crawling with predators and please consider a very long break for healing purposes for yourselves. The time saved from those platforms is amazing for our lives.
Andrew’s direction is for YOUR good. Not for supplying these toxic people and narcissists.
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Thank you Chelsea!!! 🙏❤️🙏❤️🙏❤️🙏 I think some people here HAVE used Andrew as supply for themselves 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️
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@@jennifernewton4637 probably true as he’s center stage and facing darkness with light.
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I know a narssist that just broke another narssist wrist, upon table was a medical report stating broken wrist, but narssist told me i did not , she lying. Did not revile i seen peper.
He is a liar on so many levels.
And she mentioned term gaslighting.
Silence will teach you alot.😊
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Spot on Andrew . Dating sites is a playground for a narcissist Namaste 🙏
No comtact = your peace + freedom from the silent treatment, walking on eggshells, rage fits etc. It also gives you an opportunity to put the focus back onto yourself...I find keeping a journal very helpful. It forces you to look within and to take stock and reevaluate your life. Time goes by diffently now. Your silence speaks volumes and in no uncertains terms, sends out a clear message, that you are nobody's emotional punch bag. You claim back yourself. I get to thank God everyday for my life and staying close to Him, has helped me to maintain my no contact rule. There is no magic wand, you just need to take it one day at a time. Thank you Andrew! Your words of wisdom are helping millions of people around the globe....your pain has purpose. I for one am indeed blessed to have discovered your channel a year and a half ago. It is a life line. I still have challenges to overcome but i have clarity now to pursue the different avenues in solving my problem. For anyone new, keep coming back and gain the wisdom....it will help you to move through the pain and confision. You will get the understanding 🙏🌸🌸🌸
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@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAloneThank you for being there for us all. You are very much appreciated!
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Minimal contact until TOTAL no contact ( if possible ) is also helpful.
Plus, as Andrew says: GREY ROCK = BORING. 😉
I have a friend who does not get this way of life. They are constantly going over the same stuff again an again. I have found it better to grey rock them for my wellbeing. This shows me that I am slowly putting into practice what I get from this channel. When I think that it was only a year ago this seemed so very hard to even think of doing. For those of you who are newer here know that it is possible to get to this point. You really can do this and when you do there is a brand new freedom that will come to you. Thanks again Andrew!!
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I feel exactly the same way, Richard. 10 months ago, it started with "What in the world is this weird game, being played, that I sensed seeing the pattern before??"
Now I know and it's a mind blow!
3 mths ago I removed myself from my covert narcissistic boyfriend of 3 years... dealing with the narcissistic abuse of 3 years it was time to leave I was an emotional wreck & completely depleted... it was a transatlantic relationship if we were in the same country I'd have left sooner! Returning back to the real world was serene... newbies leave ASAP I feared the fall of being alone but learnt in fact I love it & in control of my new life story... I've had flirtations & a kiss whilst out with friends here in England recently & that's all I want.... lighthearted fun & new happy memories! Newbies empower yourself & create your new life story.....❤
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Hello, everyone. I can share that I befriended someone while I was sinning , but I had good intentions. Well..I had lied about something and I admitted it at about the time I rejected a threesome. Anyway, they broke off with me to get with the other one and then tried to continue with me after they supposedly broke the other off. I was being used for my car they probably lost their driving rights for alcoholism. I have boundaries but found my morals falling after associating for a while and I got bad luck and destruction was out to ruin every area of my life! If I didn’t have relations with Jesus I would be completely destroyed and unable to fulfill my life’s purposes. There were many back and forths but the longer I stayed away and repented of my own wrongs I went no contact for good and I’m healed. Good video.. thank you:)
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Another one ☝🏾 Andrew …✌🏾 newbies… one day you’ll block for good no going back and you deal with anyone who plays that game… taking you thru the blocking unblocking roller coaster… mature people don’t do that… we just won’t speak until we’re ready.
Almost 3 years of “No Contact “ ! It backfired on the covert delusional liar and her flying monkeys! Now they are all alone! No family on either side talk to them!
I love the no contact it works great 👍
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Finally sorting out my car repairs, clothing, personal things to split in three weeks. I am done. Foot fracture taking a very long time to heal due to living in fear. Thank you so much for your videos help me get through this sick behaviour and the vicious cycles. I really thought someone was gonna get hurt on Friday night, adult tantrum two nights in a row and I am still affected. Now said adults are back to their nice love bombing tactics so i forget what happened, the cycle continues so sad for them. Its hard to keep up the act but business like is a good way, just keep focussed and clear. Thats a great train 🚂 haha Love to you 🙏🏼 ❤❤❤
Omg, that train gave such a great emphasis to what you were saying in the final conclusion!!! 😂
After I went no contact with my ex boyfriend, he used his minions, he called from other people's phones, from business phones...I NEVER responded, still don't, and never will, and let's just say...my block list is longer than my contact list...I have absolutely no regret in going no contact! There's so much peace in my life and I'm so much happier! Thanks Andrew for sharing a video every single day! 🥰
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Me neither. No regrets! Going no contact super charges your healing process! It rids you of much of the sifting process.
Cut out ANYONE who is attached to the narc. It knocks down much of the flying monkeys action. Stay vigilant to folks who are “on the fence” and likely to turn into flying monkeys.
Be aware of folks who come under one guise when what they actually want is information concerning the break up. Do NOT answer any questions. Focus on YOUR healing and nothing else.
Go no contact. It is the most powerful move you can make on your own behalf.
You just can’t recover from the sewage when you’re drowning from them r rejection. I went back several times plus a hundred but now fully NC. Healing is progressing well and the further away you get time wise - the more clear headed I get and it’s fab! Persevere people - they just not worth it and nothing changes - ever! 💕
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STAY AWAY FROM ME. Anyone that knows me knows that if anything ever happens to me, my possessions or someone close to me, it was him.
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Sorry you have to live with that fear constantly in the back of your mind. 😔
It might take years and many moves before that fear completely dissipates and disappears.
😂😂😂 that train in the end, was that the narc trying to destroy your video ? 😂😂
Thank you mr. Andrew, I am following a long time now, You are certainly one of the best with a big heart. You keep on going giving so much info again and again, but you also shine and give us hope and love. You are great. A big
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Andrew, thank you. This video is a masterpiece. You are helping people proctect themselves from those evil demons. I don't like to call people demons but some I've witnessed have certainly acted demonicly.
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Have seen 2 of them where faces WERE actually RED. ( 1 vibrant red, the other sunburn shade of red.)
I believe sunburn may be diminishing but maybe just conserving energy until new supply. 🤷♀️
It’s NEVER “just you,” right? Not even during the courting “love bomb” phase. Roll the roulette wheel EACH AND EVERY DAY which of the multiple supplies will they suck dry today??
🎯!Im a blissful rock!Im a blissful rock!
I am dealing with the aftermath of secret flying monkeys i never knew existed, heck they didnt even realize they were being a monkey and info giver. They all just need to go if they can't be strong about this. Sadly, not speaking to any fam is better then speaking to what i got. Socials/phones and narcissists...everything you said it 100% spot on
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