the problem with "sexy" halloween costumes.
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- Опубликовано: 22 окт 2022
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You cannot underestimate the mental and physical Olympics we humans will go thru to turn something into a competition of looks, it happens everywhere.
Call it the monkey brain
I agree 100% with everything you said. Thank you for this video
the white accent really matches and pops with the Room, Taylor!
This kinda reminds me of something I’m working through with my therapist. She keeps telling me to focus on the things that I can control and often it’s not the thoughts and perceptions of others.
It’s not to say I won’t ever try, but it’s to say no matter how hard I try the effort is often fruitless. But what I can control is whether I am around those people or not. That said, the situations I’m talking about are a lot less physically threatening. So I don’t know if this fits cleanly within this context.
yes!!! so insightful
Means a lot-thanks so much for your comment
really thoughtful!
Thank you :)
Thot-ful
i watch the video on mute because I'm deaf. 4:42 MY FAV PART. 😍😍😍😍
Thanks for the great contributon brother 👀
We love longer videos. Can you recommend some of your favorite yt channels or content in general?
Elliot Sang is my new favorite RUclipsr, and he got me into the feminist bell hooks (I’ve just started watching her)
Would you ever have a live chat with your viewers on some of these topics?
Side note: I always liked one of your quotes. I think it was , “excuses are for mooses, and silly gooseses.” 🎃 you always look beautiful in your outfits, this one just emphasizes it more. Safe Halloween!
I do live chats actually on my $5 tier on Patreon!!
And I actually love that quote, too (and have said it more times than I care to admit 😅).
And thanks so much for the compliment!! You too, happy Halloween!!
So, what's this year's costume?
Bellissima!
do you want a quality to accentuate the theme or do you want a theme to accentuate the quality. the problem is not just the tendency of being spoken to like that but you have to realize its bcs thats the impression/stimulation they all have on their minds, so of course they would. its just true so thats what youre seeing, its sequential sense to their instance (unfortunately at that very moment its also 'game time' and most of the times these people strike out...) so you have to make the theme more prominent... maybe get bigger wings that can wrap around a thigh or shoulder whatever just to think of one example... if youre just 96% sxy and 4% angel are you really preserving going as an angel/character? the more you find a good balance the more likely you are to engage in conversations that compliment the party social aspect rather than the other end people telling you what they directly see and how that directly makes them feel. this can change depending on attending members/party but general public is going to take a long time to preserve values in approach,, its just too spontaneous and opportunistic for these stimulation driven people...
but I think its fair to think for big outfits like this the percentages dont necessarily have to add up to 100 lol you can be 100% angel and 60% sxy or any variation like that. but if you lean on the attractive side I would at least try 35% angel and up if youre going to go 100% sxy xD
Yay.
Sorry for my previous comment. I had not watched the entire video yet.
snaps for taylor :)
Me as a middle eastern Guy who lives from 2 years in Germany ... i found this videos as a great explanation for why girls dress highly sexual... Respect @YesReneau 😇
This Emoji is just a refernce to your custom 🤣 (Giggleing emoji)
It’s such an interesting conversation. On the one hand, no one should put a woman in an in uncomfortable situation like cat calling. That said, the most natural urge in humans is sexual.
By presenting yourself sexually, our base desires are amplified. That doesn’t necessarily mean objectifying. On some level, all humans “objectify” each other; we select someone based on part by their “objective” features.
Again, I am not saying that someone should be harassed. However, I do think that is a separate conversation. Just to add, I value your channel and have so much wisdom from most of your videos (although some I have disagreed with your premises and conclusions) I do find myself having a harder time focusing purely on what your saying here as, yes, I do find you objectively very attractive here. Now, in real life, would I ever make you, or a female uncomfortable-I certainly hope not! But how do I (or others) express our attraction or our empowerment (pursuing a woman in the face of rejection) without it being classified “objectifying”?
Well, from experience, never break the ice with her looks or anything having to do with her physical appearance. If you let her know early on that you're interested in getting to know her as a person then you're on the right track. Ultimately we want sex and so do they. But it's about building trust and a strong basis for a relationship. However, each girl is different and requires her own level of trust. Some take days, some day months. If the pace is too slow for you, she's not the right one for you.
Can we please have this published? These are straight up facts. Thank you for taking the time to think through these things.
How then can we empower women without being judgy and be supportive? It seems like society is pushing this kind of sexual liberation (Cardi B, Ariana Grande, Megan Thee Stallion… the list goes on). Cause I’m kind of hearing dress modestly? Literally just a question, cause this is a very thought provoking video
As my own little way to fight the good fight, I choose to dress sexy sparingly, and when I do show more skin, I try to be cognizant of the who, why, where, when, what, and how of how it’s all going down (in order to help subvert stereotypes).
However, I do think everyone should be able to dress in whichever way they want, and, even though I’m critical of certain choices, I think the most important thing we could do to help women is to afford them full dignity and respect regardless of what they are (or are not) wearing.
if only i were as great as thou art
Thou art, thou art
I think it's the same issue when people walk out in public wearing expensive designer brands, they want to be seen as "wealthy", and these people may become a target for robbers.
What it comes down to is we want to feel good about ourselves, whether it's through sexual appeal or otherwise, we need to find ways of doing that without eliciting harmful actions and reactions from others.
Yes women are 2 dimensional when I see a woman wearing a skimpy halloween outfit I think, that's a rocket scientist.
Ooh! Not a catch-22, but a prisoner's dilemma, where "dressing provocatively" is the "cheat" action and "dressing modestly" is the "cooperate" action.
Dressing provocatively for the male gaze decreases their sensitivity and imposes requirements of dressing even more provocatively to stand out in the future. If all women chose not to dress provocatively, the male gaze would adapt to the new normal. However, that means any one woman could choose to again dress provocatively and enjoy a large personal benefit at the cost of the rest of the population.
...although the more I think about it, the more I think I'm misapplying the prisoner's dilemma. Please be gentle with me if I am ^-^; I suppose tragedy of the commons miight also fit here, with some metaphorical liberty.
Anyways, I thought I had a snappy epiphany. But now I'm not so sure, haha.
Historically though, woman have been objectified no matter what they are wearing or not wearing. If woman as a collective decide to dress conservatively according to today's standards, I think the threshold of what provocative or conservative is will change.
I've watched all your videos! Enjoyable critical content for sure!
From a male perspective, we're taught that women want our whooping and yelping and attention.
Maybe needs to be given more context like strangers uelling is scary.
Just become a lesbian.
Isn’t it dressing sexy yourself, basically for your ego
It's more about feeling confident.
Men need to stop trying to assault us for wearing a nice outfit,, I don't try and rob them for wearing nice watches...
You should stop leaving men to rot who know attraction isn't a crime. We're not as stupid as we look.
You should stop demonizing men while complaining about the effects of said demonization. (I'm pretending not to know that you're not actually that stupid.)
@@battragon Attraction isn't a crime--and even the visual assault of men ogling at women isn't either. But it is clearly wrong, as listen to women that it happens to--it is not asked for, creepy as hell, violating, and, paired with unequal power dynamics, can reasonably indicate a threat of male violence (which katskye and Yes talked about).
@@matthewk2388 Well, I have this wild theory that it takes a very long time in extremely loveless conditions for a person to end up like that, and that men are actually people.
@@matthewk2388 (I had a feminist upbringing, so I'm a bit weird.)
No shit