THIS Ruins Your Relationship With Your Dog

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  • @tomdavisofficial
    @tomdavisofficial  11 месяцев назад +70

    What did you think of this video?! 👇🏻

    • @bigdog44b4u
      @bigdog44b4u 11 месяцев назад +2

      Great teaching. Very helpful. Only ask is show more of the theory in action. Helps build my confidence to watch.

    • @frances8813
      @frances8813 11 месяцев назад

      Awesome video learning more to train my doggie it's a working progress but your videos really are helping much love 💓 Tommy I will always be proud to be part of no bad dog Army 🪖

    • @LabsandCClov2653
      @LabsandCClov2653 11 месяцев назад

      As usual this was a very informative eye opening video. Keep up the great work your making better dog owners every day, especially me. Thanks 😃

    • @deefee701
      @deefee701 11 месяцев назад +1

      I like how you identify that people need a new skillset, and how people only have love to offer. Actually it's more reassurance than love because people are hardly walking around showing love all day. Discipline really has its roots in punishment by definition. I wonder if it might be better to move on from the words "discipline, order and boundaries”? What do owners want dogs to learn? To socialise well, and follow our instructions. What do people want dog owners to do? Take responsibility for and make dogs safe in society. What do dogs want owners to learn? How to be leaders and show leadership. Is that a circle?

    • @MsShelly539
      @MsShelly539 11 месяцев назад

      Every video you post is so helpful! We are getting our new pup in March, cant wait to see your vids when you get yours. It does make me laugh though how people seem to forget how to just walk :)

  • @rhegafd
    @rhegafd 11 месяцев назад +133

    "you are the problem but you are also the solution" What a powerful statement that describes exactly what most dog owners are. You are one of the few trainers that help people understand they are really the source of the dog issues. You are the GOAT Tom Davis.

  • @RicardoAvella_Loup_Garou
    @RicardoAvella_Loup_Garou 11 месяцев назад +74

    I always say, when people ask how come my dogs are so well behaved, "Disciplina es cariño" -> discipline is love.

    • @Delain81
      @Delain81 11 месяцев назад +2

      no you dont.

  • @psychedforlife7176
    @psychedforlife7176 11 месяцев назад +69

    I had to admit that I was insecure about the world and I kinda liked having a dog out in front of me but it wasn't what was best for her. Training her has helped me become more confident and secure since I realized that's what she needed.

    • @tomdavisofficial
      @tomdavisofficial  11 месяцев назад +3

      Happpy for you!

    • @sarahtenbensel2231
      @sarahtenbensel2231 11 месяцев назад +3

      I prefer my dog out in front out of the way of my stride on a casual walk. I am less likely to trip if I or my dog takes a misstep. I will call her to my left side when I need to with a separate command-she is still learning this at 9 months. She will also learn how to come to my right side. Its important to have CLEAR criteria for your dogs positioning and tension on the leash. I try to keep it as consistent as I can. Leash must be loose for forward movement. Tedious lesson but so important!!!

    • @HunnyBee23
      @HunnyBee23 11 месяцев назад +5

      Yes, loose leash is EVERYTHING. Beckman also has some helpful tips for starting your walks on the right note before you even leave the house.

  • @ActuallyJenna
    @ActuallyJenna 11 месяцев назад +45

    The thing I have learned the most from Tom is your dog has to trust you. Trust comes from structure and that is a form of affection. Not to mention structure is not only for them, It’s for you as well, the leader. As someone with a reactive GSD - his trust in me is my #1 priority especially in public. He needs to know that I will advocate for him and his space or else he will take matters into his own and that’s terrifying.

    • @AlpacaMade
      @AlpacaMade 11 месяцев назад +6

      👏Best comment of the day. Human are not dogs, dogs are not humans. If we as trainers, handlers & owners don't teach the dog in our care to live with humans, the shelters will never be empty.

    • @tomdavisofficial
      @tomdavisofficial  11 месяцев назад +8

      So happy you're taking things away from my videos, thanks for watching!

  • @deebee.14
    @deebee.14 11 месяцев назад +18

    I adopted A rescued 11 month old Boarder Collie 7 month ago who came with quite few issues which was over baring at times. It left me worrying weather I did the right thing by adopting her as I was scared I would let her down and ruin her life even more so. I really thought I was over my head until I started watching videos like yours which helps immensely. Now we have a lovely relationship because she started trusting me which came about with constant play, training and walks. I’ve managed to narrow down her issues too just a few which I am working on all the time. My worries have now lessened thank goodness. She is a beautiful, very intelligent dog and I wouldn’t swop her for anything. Thank you so so much for the help to constantly give out to us all.

  • @ActuallyJenna
    @ActuallyJenna 11 месяцев назад +24

    That girl with the GSD was me early 2021. We got our puppy end of Jan 2020 not realizing the entire world would shut down which at the time I thought killed my ability to socialize him. So instead of starting to socialize him at 12 wks and 25lbs. I had to figure out how to socialize a 85lbs 6 month old dog who was still a puppy then it got worse with him being 2 yrs and 105#. It was rough I had absolutely no idea what I was doing which was so dangerous for not only him but everyone around me. Words can’t express how grateful I am for finding Tom and watching his videos to gain the confidence my pup needed from me. We started working hard on basic obedience because honestly without that you have nothing. Tom helped me not only understand how important foundation was but what a foundation was entirely.

    • @winry2357
      @winry2357 10 месяцев назад +2

      Man, I got my cane corso mix during covid. I’m so glad that I found a local park where a skating rink had been commandeered by local dog owners for a dog park. We met every morning despite the lockdowns. Socialization is so important and many of us had puppies that needed it. I kinda miss them.

    • @M3ANDER
      @M3ANDER 10 месяцев назад

      Actually exactely this is what was outstanding for me in this video and what I really cannot understand. Obviously it's your first dog and instead of taking a female Labrador or Poodle you take a dominante breed and of course a male one ... how can you fuck up of your life that much?

  • @aeonne420
    @aeonne420 11 месяцев назад +23

    This is making me tear up a bit because I am very strict with my dog and everybody says I'm too much and every time someone new is around her, she always gravitates towards them(she's a puppy) cause they let her do whatever and then I come in as a bulldozer and forbid certain behaviours. It's so reassuring to know I'm doing the right thing. ❤

    • @Maeve312
      @Maeve312 10 месяцев назад

      Me too 💜

    • @supersyked1
      @supersyked1 10 месяцев назад +1

      Inform the other people what you allow and don't right away.
      My Exotic Bully just turned 5 months old, no ones allowed to pick him up, feed or give him treats, take him out or clean him up. Least until he's a year old.
      I've had people, try to bring him up on their couches and I've immediately shut it down. My couch, yes, when I allow it. I don't want him thinking it's OK to get on any other persons couch.
      I am very strict, but very loving and spoil him immensely. He will not leave my side, he always follows me everywhere. On walks hes never advancing ahead of me. Between the wife and I, I am without a doubt his person.
      From moment I've gotten him hes been on a strict routine. Unfortunately dogs are heavily reliant on the routine, so whatever changes you make I'd suggest make them but gradually.
      Also don't shy from being strict, just also don't be afraid to show her even more love, cause I know that feeling. My old Pitbull, chose my girlfriend as his person and it always gutted me.
      Anyways hope that gets better, and for you're pups great health and happiness.

    • @winry2357
      @winry2357 10 месяцев назад +3

      Just like with children, firm boundaries are important. I let my dog get away with certain things, but the rules I have are reinforced at all times. She still loves me, even if she’s not allowed in the kitchen. She loves me even though I don’t let her jump on people. She loves me even though she has to stay in the living room while I fetch packages from the front step. These things are good for them and good for you. It drives me nuts when people think basic boundaries are “abusive” or “mean”. That line of thinking is what makes dogs, and kids, dangerous.

    • @happyhollee596
      @happyhollee596 8 месяцев назад

      Yes you are doing right thing

    • @shannalarman6554
      @shannalarman6554 2 месяца назад

      I feel this so much. I’m a drill Sargent with my puppy and my husband and my kids just want to play with him all the time. Then they get annoyed with how wild he is. THATS WHY HE’S CRAZY! He’s confused! I can’t get them to get it! I kill myself to get this dog in check and they unravel it and then say “ your training isn’t working!”🤬

  • @bunker123sugar
    @bunker123sugar 11 месяцев назад +133

    I think that once people understand that when their dog is overreacting and they pet the dog and tell it 'it's OK', they are telling the dog that their behavior is OK. The human thinks they're telling the dog they don't have to react like that, but the dog takes it as reinforcement of the behavior. In my opinion, this is why small dogs are so yappy. They bark, get picked up and bingo, the barking just got rewarded.

    • @lillieberger2883
      @lillieberger2883 11 месяцев назад +11

      Then there’s the loud crowd that says don’t correct the barking. And just don’t correct. It’s silly.

    • @bunker123sugar
      @bunker123sugar 11 месяцев назад +16

      @@lillieberger2883 My dog isn't a big barker. But sometimes when he sees a stranger in our complex he'll bark at them. I let it go for a little bit because he's doing his job, letting me know there's someone new outside. But then he has to stop when I tell him to.

    • @BigBADSTUFF69
      @BigBADSTUFF69 11 месяцев назад +9

      barking itself is rewarding, it's really the lack of correction that allows it to continue.

    • @In_the_life_of_pete
      @In_the_life_of_pete 10 месяцев назад +1

      Depends if it’s a behaviour or an emotion

    • @bunker123sugar
      @bunker123sugar 10 месяцев назад +2

      @@In_the_life_of_pete Hmmm, interesting. Isn't responding emotionally a behavior?

  • @susanmeadows627
    @susanmeadows627 11 месяцев назад +14

    I agree, its parenting. Love, guidance and discipline when needed. ❤🐾

  • @Nanysek
    @Nanysek 11 месяцев назад +14

    This is the Best video for everybody who has problem with their dog(s)! It explains clearly the very basics of healthy relationship with dog and how to solve lot of problems. Thank you so mutch for this Tom!

    • @tomdavisofficial
      @tomdavisofficial  11 месяцев назад +4

      Thank you, I hope it helps people

    • @Nanysek
      @Nanysek 11 месяцев назад +1

      @@tomdavisofficial You already helped to me with your vids becouse your style of training is most efective for me

    • @Nanysek
      @Nanysek 11 месяцев назад +1

      @@tomdavisofficial aaaand This vid I will share with everybody who would like to know how to be happy owner of happy dog. Thank you so mutch again!

  • @psychedforlife7176
    @psychedforlife7176 11 месяцев назад +19

    I relate to the woman being interviewed. It makes me sad that my good intentions of being uber loving wasn't actually what was best for my dog. Thankfully now I can correct it. Recently I started being the leader she needs which included discipline and our relationship is better and her behavior is better. These are healthy boundaries Tom teaches.

  • @Zhahn-Pam
    @Zhahn-Pam 10 месяцев назад +7

    Zhahn-Pam with Team Peaches Dog Training and Education. I have trained dogs since 1969, Honestly, this is your best video. I have 8 dogs and there is no doubt in anyone's mind who is the leader of the family pack. Who is in charge and the disciplinarian, provider, protector, rule maker, and enforcer. I have worked hard to gain their respect, trust, and loyalty. Tom this is excellent advice.

  • @RedErin
    @RedErin 11 месяцев назад +5

    What an excellent video. What I’ve learned is love is structure - if you think love is never giving them boundaries you are removing their safety and knowledge of how things work and much needed social interactions with other dogs and humans.
    My dog is the cutest little fluffball with the sweetest disposition. She failed 3 homes in 5 years because everyone wanted a cute dog and thought love was giving treats and compliments. This dog was terrified of her own shadow, pooped in the house, no trust, an emotional mess. I used trainers like Tom Davis to guide me into seeing what my dog needed and wanted and helped her achieve those things. She’s now 10 and proof that structure and learning moments and repetition and wrapping them all in love works. She has friends, greets strangers, follows commands, lives in a safe world we built together that allows her to live a joyful life (and she even has near perfect recall so she can go off leash when appropriate). Love alone destroys the best of dogs. If any dog could live on people’s adoration alone, mine is a shining example of how stupid humans are in thinking that is even possible. She has taught me more than I’ve ever taught all my dogs.
    Most importantly it is never too late to begin training all over again . Love is always there, sometimes you just need to restructure the framework.

  • @JohnWhitridge
    @JohnWhitridge 10 месяцев назад +4

    So one thing that I get very confused about is - walking a dog next to or behind me and enforcing that - and all the information about how we have to let our dogs sniff on a walk. That it's unreasonable to expect a structured/solid heel on the entire walk. So I'd love some feedback on how others balance this.

    • @Uilani-g4m
      @Uilani-g4m 7 месяцев назад +2

      What I do is heel walking a bit and I'll tell her to go "free," so she'll sniff around and when we're ready to walk, I'll have her heel walk again. It just has to be you dictating when the dog gets to sniff or play. I find that's a good balance. I take her hiking to let her be more a dog, without being on leash.

  • @martinthompson2425
    @martinthompson2425 10 месяцев назад +1

    Great info! So so many people overlook the leadership relationship that they need to have with their dog. And so many people unknowingly reward unwanted behavior by trying to soothe and comfort the dog instead of applying calm, gentle, but assertive correction. Many people wrongly assume that leadership involves being “mean” to the dog. Trust, leadership and love can coexist!
    Thanks for sharing!

    • @elvnmagi9048
      @elvnmagi9048 10 месяцев назад

      I liked this video but I have one concern. I've heard that putting signs around your property saying your dog is dangerous or bites, or like the trainer's hat says "my dog bites" may not be a good idea from a lawsuit perspective if anything ever happened as you are admitting to the crime more or less. I understand why you'd want to from a logic perspective, and for deterrence, but legal issues can be different.
      "Posting a 'Beware of Dog' sign or similar warning could prove to be an admission of the dog's aggressive nature. Dog owners must prove the victim of the attack was illegally on the property to eliminate liability."
      You could probably post "dog on property" signage at home, and figure out something else for his hat like "please don't pet dog" without indicating danger to people rather than to the dog. E.g. you could say dog on property warning so no one is surprised or lets the dog out, etc. rather than signs indicating that the dog would confront them, bite them, attack them. Don't pet the dog because he has sensitive ears, skin, etc. It's silly but the law can be like that.

  • @annylaurie422
    @annylaurie422 11 месяцев назад +1

    I love this video you are one of the few trainers that understands that all reward and no corrections is not good for anyone.

  • @Victory_n_Jesus
    @Victory_n_Jesus 11 месяцев назад +11

    Part of loving your dog is disciplining and setting boundaries especially ones that relate to your dog's breed.

  • @infin8ee
    @infin8ee 11 месяцев назад

    No boundaries, leadership or discipline is just as important for dogs as it is for children. Good behaviour is a wonderful thing. Thanks for your videos Tom, you truly are an amazing educator

  • @kristinschofield5523
    @kristinschofield5523 11 месяцев назад +13

    Never comfortable with dog out in front. He scans, for what? Nonsense. Retraining with him at or behind my hip. I am the leader, I love him dearly, but not having definite boundaries is not good.😮 This video is a great example of setting boundaries out of love.❤

    • @Erin_29
      @Erin_29 11 месяцев назад +2

      I agree, but teaching your dog a nice loose leash walk is critical. My GSD is allowed to walk wherever she wants as long as she maintains a loose leash. She's getting much better about being reactive because of this as well- which has been awesome!😊

    • @tomdavisofficial
      @tomdavisofficial  11 месяцев назад +1

      This would solve so many people problems with their dogs!!

    • @Texas240
      @Texas240 5 месяцев назад

      ​@@Erin_29 I just rescued an 8 month old border collie stray and fortunately, she's not reactive with people and only timid with dogs but no barking or lunging. She taught herself not to pull (I'd just stop if she gave me a taught leash, took 3 times and she figured out we only go when it's slack). Since we're in our first 48 hours together, I'm fine with her being on roam. I can't move as quick as her and we'll be doing walks with her roaming on a 30' lead anyway since I want her to be able to accelerate but without total freedom. She's already starting to understand commands for both left and right heel. So, a dog out in front is fine if it's not pulling and the person isn't trying to work a heel. I think there should be control to get the dog next to the owner if other pedestrians are encountered because it doesn't do any good to mess with someone who's afraid of dogs already or trigger a Karen.

  • @FenrirAldebrand
    @FenrirAldebrand 11 месяцев назад +2

    100%. I love him, and i don't like seeing my pup scared of things, but him running into the house scared isn't helping him. Never have I let him into the house so scared he can't give me a hand target and his paw. Whether that helps, i don't know. But between your videos and other balanced trainers I've worked *hard* on counterconditioning my 7 month old Belgian Malinois. And we can almost get him to the busy street he hates while still taking food. He's even started to take food in and around the college which is HUGE because he would never take food unless we're settled in the class or the library.
    And it all started with understanding, and getting a prong collar for him. Once i had that confidence he wasn't going to pull me over, I could start training him properly without having that constant anxiety passed down the leash to him. So thank you Tom! I can nov actually see him being an absolutely fantastic service dog one day now!

    • @deefee701
      @deefee701 11 месяцев назад +2

      Can you hire a trainer in your area to work with you both? Your dog sounds like he's terrified. I can't see how he can become a support dog when he needs support himself. I have to ask if a Belgian malanois the right breed for you? They need a ton of exercise and intellectual stimulation like proper dog tactical training. They are brilliant police and army dogs. He may be anxious because he has nothing to do and he's over worried. Usually specially bred calm labradors make the best support dogs. You might get some help at your states K9 police unit. Maybe they can assess your dog? And maybe show you the type of training they do, which also balances their dogs energy and brain needs.

    • @FenrirAldebrand
      @FenrirAldebrand 11 месяцев назад

      @@deefee701 to start, I've been to see a trainer, and I'm going to be honest here, the one I found with all those great reviews felt like a huge waste of time and money. I got more value from different dog trainers on RUclips than I did IRL.
      Second, my Mal actually doesn't have a huge drive for physical activity. He's perfectly content to run around the yard, play in the snow with me, or curl up for a nap. As for the mental side, I got that covered.
      Third, I've spent on enormous amount of time counterconditioning his fears. We can now almost get to the busy road and he still takes food, whereas before he wouldn't even take food two houses down. He no longer has fear when cars or people pass in our front yard. In fact now I have to teach him how to please not run up and greet strangers. 😅.
      And lastly, about a month and a half ago, I thought about giving him up when I was at the end of my rope. But the only home I could trust him going to (and could trust myself to find), decided they couldn't handle a puppy at that time. So, I knew I just had to deal. I knew I loved him, and I wanted the best, so now *I* was going to have to provide that instead. And I have been.

    • @lillieberger2883
      @lillieberger2883 10 месяцев назад

      @@deefee701agree, I have a fear reactive GSD . I trained with an ex police officer that still trains police K9s. He did very well, but will forever be reactive. Sometimes it’s just genetics and you figure out how to deal with it. He would make an absolutely horrible service dog. I have also never seen a malinois as a service dog, they are high energy and cannot be expected to chill for hours at a time.

  • @ryanmoll8295
    @ryanmoll8295 10 месяцев назад

    To see you work with people like me that are a work in progress instead of just demonstrating yourself is so helpful. Listening to you correct someone as the dog tries to regain control, I am able to see all the similar situations I go through and how to regain leadership myself. Thank you

  • @SarahCain-yp5br
    @SarahCain-yp5br 6 месяцев назад +1

    I know this sounds crazy, but I just started implementing some of these techniques with my yellow lab and in on one day, he has improved immensely! I found the prong collar is a tool that works for us and it is absolutely my fault he is reactive. My confidence when handling him is so low and I'm always afraid of other dogs and people. Once I changed my demeanor, he changed also. We have a lot of work to do, but I'm hopeful! I see many long walks in our future!

  • @jeno264
    @jeno264 11 месяцев назад +6

    This has helped me so much, Tom has such an amazing ability to assess the issue AND translate what is going on for the hoomans 💖

  • @vbs4257
    @vbs4257 10 месяцев назад

    "I love you, but I won't respect you". Bingo! I say this to so many of my students. Loving leadership - Will Atherton likes to say - is absolutely what every dog needs.

  • @The_Anti_Dog_Trainer
    @The_Anti_Dog_Trainer 10 месяцев назад +1

    I'm a trainer as well and i love what you're teaching Tom. Our Philosophies are very similar

  • @winry2357
    @winry2357 10 месяцев назад +3

    My coworker heard about how much I “let my dog get away with” and said that I must be too soft on her. Wrong. I have rules and boundaries that are firm. She knows what lines she can and cannot cross without discipline. I allow her on the couch to snuggle with me, she has her own rocking chair, I give her some bits of people food that I know is safe, but I don’t let her get away with everything. Rules are consistent and firmly maintained. She’s actually a very happy dog and is fairly obedient. She’s got a few triggers that have been difficult for us to get beyond, but we’re working on it. Poor thing has been attacked by five small dogs, and one was recently, so that trigger is the hardest to overcome at the moment.

    • @Texas240
      @Texas240 5 месяцев назад

      Brings up something I haven't seen any trainer address. What to do when a dog is coming at your dog and you can't avoid the situation (off leash, owner happily getting pulled by the dog instead of just stopping it, sudden unpredictable lunge when they get close).

  • @pysvtfa4
    @pysvtfa4 11 месяцев назад +2

    You’ve put this so nicely. I’m going to make this required watching for my friends who think I’m too strict and love to walk my fabulous dog.

  • @dreamgaits
    @dreamgaits 11 месяцев назад +2

    Yay! You said it. The owner is the problem. And the owner is the solution. Every time.

  • @OutsideAndOffgrid
    @OutsideAndOffgrid 10 месяцев назад

    Thank you Tom, watching your videos it feels like such common sense training. It's really training the dog owners to reprogram their reaction and when and how to correct. To take the leadership role and the dog have confidence in their handler.

  • @Mama-de-Tia
    @Mama-de-Tia 11 месяцев назад +1

    It’s so obvious with our human interactions but Wish I’d understood that boundaries and respect are part of building a healthy relationship with my dog too!!!

  • @metricdeep8856
    @metricdeep8856 10 месяцев назад

    I somehow did a dog right. I have no experience and it's not my dog, but I am now the favorite human for this animal and we have a great relationship. I never treated her like a dog....I treated her like a child that had dog wants ...and that needed guidance as much as freedom. I don't think I have ever said no to her....and I never showered her in treats for behavior. I actually gave treats randomly. I think what she responded to most was my total focus and attention....and because it was %100 genuine...we both fell into a great relationship. I studied her every behavior and verbally fed it back to her constantly....I really believe she knew what I was doing with her.....and she responded in kind. She learned me as I learned her.

  • @Luke_Tahoe
    @Luke_Tahoe 11 месяцев назад +5

    Odd request, PLEASE restock those leashes!
    When I first bought one, I thought I’d never want to spend so much on a leash. But now, I really dislike using anything else I’ve found. I can’t WAIT to buy 5 more so I’m fully stocked for my business.
    Thanks!

    • @tomdavisofficial
      @tomdavisofficial  11 месяцев назад +3

      Working on it! Newer, better and cheaper!

    • @Luke_Tahoe
      @Luke_Tahoe 11 месяцев назад +1

      @@tomdavisofficial 0.o and here I was more than happy with the old ones!

  • @_voyageur8651
    @_voyageur8651 9 месяцев назад

    Thanks a lot for that ; makes sense.
    However, that s hard to keep up on a daily basis. Sometimes you feel like going back on track and gets tired.

  • @mannycalavera2335
    @mannycalavera2335 11 месяцев назад +5

    That first GSD is a very cool looking dog. I agree that a dog like that needs a good leader. That does not mean something macho, or mean, or authoritarian. But just someone who means what (s)he says and sticks to it. I can say that because I have gone through the exact same thing and had to learn as well.

    • @tomdavisofficial
      @tomdavisofficial  11 месяцев назад

      Exactly. Defining these terms is so important. Terms like discipline, structure, and punishment have been so manipulated it's scary. We use these things every single day in our lives.

    • @pattygrant7858
      @pattygrant7858 11 месяцев назад

      And let's not forget "accountability". So very important

  • @maple8859
    @maple8859 11 месяцев назад +1

    Would be really helpful to have examples with dogs in harness. I’m very reluctant to put a leash on the collar of a mini poodle, although he has a tag for ID.

  • @susanabdallah8020
    @susanabdallah8020 11 месяцев назад +1

    Best dog trainer. Thanks

  • @shelby8829
    @shelby8829 11 месяцев назад +1

    Could you please post a video showing some successful leash pressure training with dogs that are highly unmotivated by food? We’ve been attempting to train my pomsky for the two years we’ve had her using play as the reward, but for the life of me, we can’t seem to communicate about leashes and walking. Treats mean almost nothing to her after one or two, even the most high-value hot dogs or marshmallows or sausage, etc. She freely walks away from it all. But she will do almost anything for play time. We just can’t figure out the proper way to motivate her to learn to walk nicely on a leash using play as the reward without completely going against the lessons we’re trying to instill.

  • @rachelp4784
    @rachelp4784 3 месяца назад

    Could you please tell me where I can buy that lime green slip leash Tom is holding(3:38~4:50) online store? or the brand name of it?

  • @anthonyabrew2225
    @anthonyabrew2225 11 месяцев назад +20

    Love does not lack leadership or discipline.

    • @tomdavisofficial
      @tomdavisofficial  11 месяцев назад +6

      That's exactly what this video is about! 80% of dog owners are tipped way over on the love with little to no leadership, which causes all these behavioral issues.

  • @juliafiore120
    @juliafiore120 11 месяцев назад +3

    Another well done session, Tom!

  • @chrisbuchanan1193
    @chrisbuchanan1193 10 месяцев назад +1

    Tom - great video. I take my dogs out a couple times a day for more of a relaxing walk where I let him sniff - I've heard this is important for dogs. How do you differentiate a serious heel walk from a "sniffie walk"

  • @ericmoss8344
    @ericmoss8344 11 месяцев назад

    Love your videos... wish I lived closer so I could attend some training in person. This one is very informative... That white Cano-Corso (?) at the end of your video is very much like my 3 yr old English Mastiff who always wants to be in front of me. When I take him out for walks or socialization, I feel like I'm constantly popping his collar, tugging him back and giving correction. He's 160lbs and wears me out... ha. He's even worse when we walk him together w/his lab sister and then he definitely wants to lead, which leads to more pinch-collar popping, elevated anxiety on my part, etc... the cycle continues until we quit. Thanks again for the video, they're very helpful.

  • @michellesivolob2363
    @michellesivolob2363 11 месяцев назад

    I am binging your videos. Thank you for all the amazing videos you’re sharing with the world!
    My miniature schnauzer is very chaotic on a leash and reactive to other dogs so I am trying to apply your lessons on him. ❤

  • @MaxAngor
    @MaxAngor 11 месяцев назад

    I love and respect my dog and I know he loves and respects me because when he needs to know he is NOT to do a thing, I can tell him and he'll get it. Usually after the second time he does it. His job as a dog is simple. Love life and be there when my fibro flares up.

  • @melodieramsay655
    @melodieramsay655 11 месяцев назад +17

    People don't realize that when they say: "It's okay", they're actually rewarding the bad behaviour because the dog only hears the tone which is soft - there's no direction or consequences for their behaviour, just reward.

    • @tomdavisofficial
      @tomdavisofficial  11 месяцев назад +3

      Yep!

    • @mcmox71
      @mcmox71 11 месяцев назад +5

      It’s the same for family and friends who say “it’s ok” when my dog is 100% not acting ok to them. I struggle with the control aspect in those situations. So it’s on me for sure.

    • @melodieramsay655
      @melodieramsay655 11 месяцев назад +8

      @mattmoxhay750 I know what you're talking about. When I was a dog walker, there was one dog in my pack who would jump on people when off-leash on trail. They would say: "It's okay. I love dogs." I would then say to them: "Yes, but he's 65 lbs - would you love him if he jumped on your 70 year old grandmother or your four-year-old child?!"

  • @rosaliemccoy4204
    @rosaliemccoy4204 10 месяцев назад

    I'm both my dogs know how far he goes we don't go after people that's a NoNo but he can still be protective but in my boundaries been doing this for a long time but I m a dog trainer I think you have to be comfortable and so is your dog in any he also has to know his boundaries with you I think this is one of your best videos I've watched I watch all your videos but I think I like this one

  • @ursulaatkan
    @ursulaatkan 11 месяцев назад

    Thank you very much for sharing this precious insight! 🙂

  • @jagoss45
    @jagoss45 11 месяцев назад +1

    Pretty much sums it all up for a lot of people.

  • @Kristen10-22
    @Kristen10-22 11 месяцев назад +3

    Yep! I was just about to say it’s just like having a kiddo

  • @anitalaydonmiller1433
    @anitalaydonmiller1433 7 месяцев назад

    My dog always wants to get in front of me, and I can't figure out how to stop it. I try to go faster, but then he goes faster. I'll slow this video down and watch it again...hopefully will learn pointers.

  • @89MazzaUK
    @89MazzaUK 10 месяцев назад

    So, I'm taking on a Romanian Rescue, mixed breed mongrel, so not fully sure of his make up, all I know is he's a soft looking lad. Anyway, he's 1.5 years old, has lived in a home, but we don't know when or for how long, he was abandoned in a local park known for 'dog drop offs' and joined with a pack of strays, the shelter he's at right now did say he's very social with dogs and humans - so no fears, but in terms of general training, there's nothing so it's a complete unknown - but I am determined to save him either way.
    What's the first things I should do? Early doors I want to have him trust me and seek guidance from me.

  • @samanthablevins8009
    @samanthablevins8009 11 месяцев назад +5

    I have a bad relationship with my dogs but I am trying to get better. Trying to train my 13 week old aussie....

    • @kimpaton1514
      @kimpaton1514 11 месяцев назад +3

      Same I am totally to blame

    • @samanthablevins8009
      @samanthablevins8009 11 месяцев назад +4

      @kimpaton1514 at least we take responsibility of what we do wrong. Hoping watching videos and learning more I can do right with the puppy.

    • @Mr.Sunshine805
      @Mr.Sunshine805 11 месяцев назад +4

      Exactly! Awareness and accepting your flaws is key to progression, I hope you and your Aussie build an awesome relationship. Best part about training a dog is you get to learn about yourself too, good luck

    • @samanthablevins8009
      @samanthablevins8009 11 месяцев назад +2

      @@Mr.Sunshine805 thank you! 😊

    • @fallbrkgrl
      @fallbrkgrl 11 месяцев назад

      ​@@Mr.Sunshine805
      "Learning about yourself..."
      So true!
      For me, my new dog has forced me to deal with my issues.
      I have depression and anxiety and decided that it may be a good time to get another dog, emotional support.
      Adopted a 5 year old female GSD, who turned out to be very fearful.
      Instead of emotional support, I have been forced to deal with my fears, in order to help Lucy get over her's.
      It's been 4 months, and we still have a long way to go. She still doesn't "play", so her only exercise is walking.
      Will be getting with a trainer to help with her reactivity to people and dogs (it's when we are outside, at home).
      Definitely need professional help with getting her neutral around dogs.
      The shelter said she was dog tested, not sure if that was true, or I did something wrong. Tested her with a friend's very neutral dog, and it was a mixed bag. Reacted to the test dog, but also had her in a down/stay with the other dog 4' away, and behind her.
      She was completely focused and engaged with me.
      Never give up! It's a lot of work building that relationship, and creating the structure they need.
      I was going to say, that if you aren't up to the task, get a Chihuahua, but they need the same structure, just like any other dog.

  • @belladawna5014
    @belladawna5014 5 месяцев назад

    I'm currently struggling in setting a boundary with my younger pup. I don't let my pets on our beds, as she's been sneaking up on ours to cuddle at night. I've moved her back to her own bed several times, and she's been grumbling about it. She keeps sneaking back up when we're asleep. I also feel like maybe I suck, and she's having trouble sleeping after coming from a large litter. She's wearing me down...

  • @WoIffy
    @WoIffy 11 месяцев назад

    I’ve learned a bit from your videos and it’s been quite helpful. I have had big dogs my whole life of different breeds, but this is my first German Shepherd/ Belgian Malinois mix. When strangers walk towards my direction, my dog gets defensive but I’m able to correct it right away.
    When my dad walks towards her direction, my direction or even says my name, my dog reacts much more defensive than with strangers and it is very hard to get her to stop, I can get her to stop but it’s not easy and she has no problem walking towards him. The problem has only increased with time, no matter how many times or ways I try to correct it and I haven’t found a video that goes over this particular issue. I have got to a point where… I need help.

  • @ronjaraubertochter971
    @ronjaraubertochter971 11 месяцев назад +2

    Thank u ❤❤❤❤ this was the right answers what i needed right now 😊

  • @ChildofGod943
    @ChildofGod943 11 месяцев назад +7

    Time to train more owners 😅😅

  • @kimpaton1514
    @kimpaton1514 11 месяцев назад +7

    I have done everything wrong and I have created a monster it's 100% my fault so now I don't know how to fix it 😢

    • @lillieberger2883
      @lillieberger2883 11 месяцев назад +8

      Not too late, start over.

    • @LabsandCClov2653
      @LabsandCClov2653 11 месяцев назад +8

      Start at the beginning with basic obedience and be consistent the rest will follow.

    • @psychedforlife7176
      @psychedforlife7176 11 месяцев назад +2

      I did, too, with good intentions probably like you. You're in good hands with Tom. Watch the videos, then practice the basics. There really is something to the body language he shows. I was very insecure but I practiced being confident for my dog so I could be the leader she desperately needed. Don't be afraid to correct your dog it doesn't hurt them using the techniques he uses. I promise it will get better.

    • @ThomasRooney-i3d
      @ThomasRooney-i3d 2 месяца назад

      Watch his videos and u will learn how to fix it

  • @timmiet47321
    @timmiet47321 9 месяцев назад

    Discipline is a form of love for our dogs. It helps them develop an ever stronger bond than love without discipline.

  • @jimlawton4184
    @jimlawton4184 11 месяцев назад +2

    Excellent video!

  • @rosaliemccoy4204
    @rosaliemccoy4204 10 месяцев назад

    Tom do you have a training of how to train not just recall but also not to take off ... attention boundaries when distracted some dogs get it the recall to come back but they get distracted and they don't come back

  • @pamderrick
    @pamderrick 9 месяцев назад

    What if the dog is reactive to other people in the house, and other dogs in the house? Do you have suggestions on what I can do to stop this behavior? Thanks!

  • @lisaduehr5306
    @lisaduehr5306 11 месяцев назад +2

    So good ❤

  • @AshleynCollins
    @AshleynCollins 11 месяцев назад +1

    My routine is everything with my shepherd.

  • @wutcanbrowndo4u
    @wutcanbrowndo4u 8 месяцев назад

    That Dogo was a beautiful beast.

  • @tishawesseldine
    @tishawesseldine 11 месяцев назад

    I have a question I have a reactive dog he hates anybody except for our immediate family my husband myself our daughter he hates other dogs. I’m trying to work with him but what do you do? Where do you send them or have people take care of them for vacation, we don’t take a vacation unless he can go because of his reactivity

  • @annbellis2902
    @annbellis2902 10 месяцев назад

    I have a two year old toy poodle, when I tell him to come, he runs around barking thinking it’s a game of chase, I need help!

  • @MaineGirlOutdoors
    @MaineGirlOutdoors 11 месяцев назад

    Excellent!!!!❤️

  • @Zephyr.dakota
    @Zephyr.dakota 11 месяцев назад

    Love seeing dogo argentinos! Best breed ❤

  • @Hellbound615Outlaw
    @Hellbound615Outlaw 10 месяцев назад

    I live on 130 acres in Tennessee no one here has dogs on leads. If the dog respects you then you don't need tether it to your arm. I have 4 American Pit Bull Terriers i hunt hogs with. They live outside not chained or fenced in they just stay near my horses most the time if they aren't chasing squirrels up trees or catching raccoons rummaging through my burn pile. I have trackers on my dogs and horses but my dogs never ran away. Only one time did i have to go search for one when i called her name but I found her digging out a fox den.

  • @geostorm9351
    @geostorm9351 9 месяцев назад

    What kinda leash and collar is that on the white dogo?

  • @jamesunger8433
    @jamesunger8433 11 месяцев назад +1

    Great instructional video. Either you train the dog or the dog will train you! You need to be the ALPHA!

  • @michaelfarrell6448
    @michaelfarrell6448 10 месяцев назад

    Something I have learned is to teach people foreign language terms ( don't matter what it is easy to say is all that matters)that way people only use that command when it's actually desired and they tend to keep the same tone pitch and melody which is vital with k9s more than the words themselves

  • @Splifffmane
    @Splifffmane 11 месяцев назад +3

    That Dogo is beautiful

  • @stephfung2768
    @stephfung2768 11 месяцев назад

    Was that black & white dog a Portuguese Water Dog? If so.. I totally understand what the owners are going through.. those little guys are stubborn little mother truckers who think they're the tough guy until something ACTULLY happens and then they turn chicken (our little dude is like this all the time). Strong leadership is a must with ours too!

  • @sebastianbenavente404
    @sebastianbenavente404 11 месяцев назад

    What are your thoughts on bark collars

  • @tylertomlinson3865
    @tylertomlinson3865 11 месяцев назад

    My ride back dante is inpasiont and territorial what is your advice?

  • @estheroladipo1156
    @estheroladipo1156 10 месяцев назад

    What breed is the black and white dog in this video?

  • @gregoryjames7976
    @gregoryjames7976 11 месяцев назад

    When it comes to the dog, “You Are The Boss”. You are in charge. However that does not mean you have to be a dick. Let them be a dog. But when they start to go to far you gotta take charge. That’s what the dog wants needs you will have a much better relationship with your pet.

  • @naomitaylor929
    @naomitaylor929 10 месяцев назад

    It's so much easier to know with a child when to turn it on or off😅 and just like with children it all depends on who you ask for a dog trainer 2

  • @dudditz
    @dudditz 10 месяцев назад

    Its a positive thing people have all that love for doggos but no matter the breed do obedience training, recall, all that.. if you dont train well and thats also a training for the owner obviously
    Somebody gets hurt if its the dog being unstable, stressed eating the couch, you falling in the winter being pulled to neighbors dog or something worse, even your cuddlebug labrador has strong biteforce if it matters..

  • @HannibalXKarma
    @HannibalXKarma 9 месяцев назад

    It’s parenting. Gotta start establishing ground rules since day one show these beautiful beasts who’s boss or they just won’t respect you and run your house. I got a 6 month old cane corso being raised my 4 year old dogo argentino. (Both females) and they love each other.

  • @jrgreiner
    @jrgreiner 3 месяца назад

    The dirty little secret is Tom isn't a dog trainer. He's a human trainer. It absolutely slays me when I see a timid woman with a 110 lb mass of muscle and they wonder why they have a "bad dog".

  • @elvnmagi9048
    @elvnmagi9048 10 месяцев назад

    I liked this video but I have one concern. I've heard that putting signs around your property saying your dog is dangerous or bites, or like the trainer's hat says "my dog bites" may not be a good idea from a lawsuit perspective if anything ever happened as you are admitting to the crime more or less. I understand why you'd want to from a logic perspective, and for deterrence, but legal issues can be different.
    "Posting a 'Beware of Dog' sign or similar warning could prove to be an admission of the dog's aggressive nature. Dog owners must prove the victim of the attack was illegally on the property to eliminate liability."
    You could probably post "dog on property" signage at home, and figure out something else for his hat like "please don't pet dog" without indicating danger to people rather than to the dog. E.g. you could say dog on property warning so no one is surprised or lets the dog out, etc. rather than signs indicating that the dog would confront them, bite them, attack them. Don't pet the dog because he has sensitive ears, skin, etc. It's silly but the law can be like that.
    So i find that hat questionable. Also, at distance or at a glance, it could be confused with a maga hat with the color combination which could have it's own fallout for good or ill at any given time.

  • @EduardoGutierrez-rr4ts
    @EduardoGutierrez-rr4ts 10 месяцев назад

    I hate questions like "Do I have to not be as loving? Do I have to cut anything out?" because they don't realize they're basically asking "can I keep all the behaviors that encourage my dog to act up, and not have it act up?" and the answer to that is obviously NO!!!
    If you truly "love" your dog, train it and make it respect you. Make it obey you, and give it discipline. If you just want a huge oxytocin machine, buy a teddy bear or a hamster or something. A dog is nothing more than a domesticated wolf. If you forget that, people can get hurt or killed, and so can your dog. Again, if you really "love" your dog, dial down the affection and dial up the discipline.

  • @TomZart
    @TomZart 11 месяцев назад +1

    MAN'S BEST FRIEND = 2024$
    A man’s best friend is still his faithful dog
    Who anxiously awaits his return home.
    Where would man be without his canine love
    When his human mates have left him alone.
    If a man was as good as his dog thinks
    He'd be more famous than a football star.
    It's too bad our wives don't feel the same way
    I guess it’s because they know how we are.
    Man has no fear of his dog's love for life
    Though it’s usually man who buries his pet.
    It matters not be they large or small
    What animal has loved man more, as yet?

    By Tom Zart!

  • @DomSWorld6
    @DomSWorld6 11 месяцев назад +1

    My Germans know when daddy is mad, not wife!
    We do need to work on respect.

  • @Greige_Coyer
    @Greige_Coyer 12 дней назад

    sayin it again for the people in the back, "if giving your dog love would train your dog, no dog trainer would have a job"

  • @Amity45
    @Amity45 11 месяцев назад

    What breed is that white dog? He looked sort of like a boxer, sort of like a pit bull.

  • @christinaeidt8417
    @christinaeidt8417 11 месяцев назад +1

    Pretty dog ❤

  • @Gardenabundance
    @Gardenabundance 8 месяцев назад

    Where are you out of? I’ve got 2 great dogs….but “I “ need help. Very aggressive towards others

  • @CHSN-1
    @CHSN-1 Месяц назад

    Lol it baffles me to see people letting their dog pull them around. I have a blind german shepherd, and when my wife walks him he knows she can't stop him so he goes crazy, and drags her around. Then when I walk him he doesn't tug on the leash once, and if he does I put that out immediately... If your a push over they can feel it, so they're gonna take advantage.

  • @PAPERCHASERS309
    @PAPERCHASERS309 10 месяцев назад

    There should be a standard dog psychology test that has to be taken and passed before someone is allowed to purchase a dog. Too many dogs in the wrong hands.

  • @LabsandCClov2653
    @LabsandCClov2653 11 месяцев назад +7

    Getting frustrated with you dog will also ruin your relationship.

  • @rifleman1873
    @rifleman1873 9 месяцев назад +1

    I think this illustrates what is wrong with society these days. Lack of discipline.

  • @davidq.5488
    @davidq.5488 10 месяцев назад

    How long does this take?
    My dog's CAN learn, he's not doing this.
    excuse new to English please.

  • @WaldoG-b9j
    @WaldoG-b9j 11 месяцев назад

    Dog is guarding here

  • @mickrobinson8150
    @mickrobinson8150 6 месяцев назад

    Bad owners not dogs,
    But it's mainly due to ignorance, some people don't see the obvious

  • @redeyedmongoose2963
    @redeyedmongoose2963 11 месяцев назад

    The girl with the German Shepherd is a dangerous combination

    • @tomdavisofficial
      @tomdavisofficial  11 месяцев назад +4

      I don't think so. She showed up for training and wants to learn how to get better and she totally did.

    • @fallbrkgrl
      @fallbrkgrl 11 месяцев назад

      I adopted a 5 year old female GSD. I chose her because she wasn't plastered to the back of the kennel, wasn't excited and jumping at the gate, barking. Came over to me, smelled me and laid down by me. Bio said she was dog tested, and house broken.
      She turned out to be a very fearful girl.
      I've raised one dog (33 lb terrier mix), and have had people in the comments tell me basically the same thing "re-home the dog, you're in over your head", especially since I have depression and fear based anxiety (got another dog for emotional support. Ended up with a dog just like me).
      At first I thought I made a huge mistake bringing this dog home.
      Slowly, I crawled out of my hole, and I realized that it wasn't the end of the world, and because of her, forced me to stop being afraid of everything, and go about our life together (still a work in progress. If I'm feeling off, we just practice obedience so she's not exposed to my fear).
      I too will be reaching out to a trainer, as nothing could have prepared me for such a fearful dog.
      The fact that this woman is getting help with her dog should be applauded.
      Too many people are clueless, lazy, or don't even believe in training their dogs (my friend who owns 2 rotti's. "I don't want my dogs to be robots").

  • @DragonUdo
    @DragonUdo 11 месяцев назад

    Easy Fix without even watching the Video... Dogs Should ONLY Be Service Animals For "True" Disabled People!!! Not Everyday Pets

    • @tomdavisofficial
      @tomdavisofficial  11 месяцев назад

      Probably should watch the video and you’ll delete your comment lol