Thanks PaPaDuck for touching on this topic🙏🏻. Tears run down my eyes 😢 I suffer in silence for years until I realize what a narcissist was. They should be locked up for ruining ppls life💯👌🏻
@SharonLewis-yy4ok they have a perfect complex,I know family members in their 80's and 90's and still don't see that there's nothing wrong with them in 😪
I was married to one for 4 years, I prayed a lot to understand him, when I got my answer, he was a narcissist. Look for those dark black eyes when they get mad, loved arguments over anything. They are great gas lighters!
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They never changed. I left home from Arkansas and went to new York to deal with a narcissistic man. I had enough and started my exit plan. That was ten months ago. I’m healing cause that trauma is a new level of being depleted almost literally of everything. I’m single now and will be for long time. I’m thinking to start a podcast this year on my story.
I dealt with an narcissist for about 5 years. Here are some of my experiences. 1. Love bombed for about 6 months to a year. 2. Controlling tactics was introduced. 3. Verbal insults on everything from hairstyles, clothing, cooking etc. 4. Manipulation to get what he wanted in the way he wanted it, my way, was irrelevant. 5. Lied on me to others to turn them against me. Only to gain favor to himself. 6. Projecting his insecurities onto me, to start an argument. Only to have more sex.(energy vamp and/or incubus spirit) 7. Competition he would consistently brag on how women want him so much and he used them to go against me, to fill his inflated ego. Only to treat them like he did me. 8. Plotting on how to steal and set me up to advance his life(sacrifice, destiny swapping). 9. Accountability is only a word for him. His favorite line is "I'm a grown man, I do what, I want to do. 10. Codependent he knows everything. And can so call do these things himself but will act like a infant, for me to do it. 11. No reciprocation when it comes to communicating emotions or showing true affection. I was the one had to keep him validated. 12. Spellwork not all do this but he did. The longer you stay in this type of situationship. Your health will decline. Right along with your finances and your spiritual purpose. You are dealing with a unhealed person that won't do the inner work to change because of their ego. Just like they strategically plan on coming into your life to steal, kill and destroy. You must strategically plan your exit. If you can, get some counseling. You do not want to bring that trauma into a partnership. I know GOD put him in my life to learn a valuable lesson, about my own journey in healing, setting firm boundaries and I did. I don't hate him, I just want him to get help. Hope this helps someone.❤️✌🏽 Thank you, Papa Duck for talking about this, it was needed.
Woooow thank you soooooo much for sharing this with us all…..I didn’t realize so many people had been through this …and again thank you for sharing this 👉🏾💯💯❤️🦆
@@j.r.8153 Been there and done that myself. I know exactly what you're talking about. I went through it with so-called "family" since I can remember. Only thing that saved me was the Lord and the last conversation with my grandmother almost 20 years ago. She told me "when I go, you need to go." I was in the military when she passed and all hell broke loose after that. The frequency weapons, the poisonings, the stalking, the stealing, the snitches posing as "friends" and "lovers," and the state filing fake charges. I had to start my life over several times across 10 states. Now, I am doing well alone and I stop the nonsense before it even starts. I don't even want to be in a relationship anymore because I will never go through that again. Too many codependent people out here that need someone else's demise to "build themselves up."
@Refining_Visionary I hate that you went through that but I'm elated you made it through. I was at a point on giving up on love but we deserve it. That will be our reward for doing the work. So please don't close your heart off. Have a wonderful and safe day.❤️✌🏽
@j.r.8153 I'm excited about your survival story as well. A lot of people don't make it out. Our reward is loving ourselves until that person that loves themselves come along. A house divided cannot stand.
Thank you for talking about this! I just left my husband of 6 years. I thought I wanted a separation, but he gave me hell so I will be filing a divorce. As a person who’s currently dealing with a narc, I would say LEAVE NOW. I take marriage seriously but my husband would always accuse me, always jealous whenever I dress up. Can’t go to the store in peace ,he basically had all my people fall back on me and had me all to himself. Almost lost my car, my apartment, my credit score has dropped tremendously. I can go on and on. Yall please be careful you will lose everything including yourself.
I tried to tell a young lady about this but married him anyway and regretted it deeply. She did have the courage to walk, but not b4 he brainwashed her. She is spending money now to undo it all.
@@ladilondon1213I’m so sorry to hear this. I’m glad she walked away. I hate the fact that we try to give people the benefit of doubt and backfire on us.
They copy mimic and try to steal your personality traits and character while telling others that you are them...they are super nice to strangers but treat the people close to them like s***
Exactly ..mine was all sweet at first then became more male and horrible to me yet around strangers especially men she was all sweet and so nice Much respect
These are facts I was in bondage with a narcissist for total of 16 years on and off.. we call our kind Survivors of Narcissistic Abuse And the shit is real, and horrible! Yes please get out cause it won’t get better, it will only appear like it will.. but it won’t! Speaking healing for both the victims and the survivors of narcissism 🙏🏽
@@AnonymousNic79 sad part the longer you stay you just causing yourself more pain cause unless that demon wants help it will never stop plus they never really see that they have a problem
27 years with him and 12 years of marriage it took me a minute because of the love and who I am, but I think my father in heaven for the lesson because he allow me to come out with them devils meant for my harm, but my God he don’t play about me hallelujah that lesson has became my blessing moving forward, trusting in my daddy, knowing that he has got something way better for me, and for that narcissist, I forgive him no hate, no anger no bitterness no jealousy I was at one time but now I am in my healing process file for my divorce that Negro just got his papers and he is upset because he didn’t think I will walk away, but God. I’m stepping into 2025 on fire for MY KING YAH. Forgive them people move forward and let them see you rise and shine baby.
They know how much they are hurting you and your children. They just don't care, or they love themselves more than they care about your destruction, hurt and damage.
You were spot on!!! My EX-husband is a narcissist. All of the signs that you discussed was exactly what I dealt with in that marriage. Thank GOD I was delivered from that situation and I will never go through that ever again. Praying for all who is dealing with one!
@ I tried to hang in there for YEARS because he was “husband” but it got worse and worse. Until the point of no return and I gave up and never looked back. After that nightmare was over I felt as if chains were lifted off of me and that I was finally free. That’s a great feeling to have if you just can’t deal with it anymore. Life is too short to live unhappy and in bondage. You will know when you get tired. Praying for you!!!
Bro I thought I was going outta my mind, now I know it’s a thing and I’m so glad it’s becoming more mainstream, had to stay for the kids…now that they’re grown they see the truth about their mom and it’s sad
My sons' father was the first that I know of..he took me for on an emotional roller-coaster for about 3 years and I learned what it was so later I learned that my mom and dad are narcissists,sister too now I think I'm so damaged by the stuff I went through with them bc it was so much that I just want to be alone!!😢
You are spot on with everything I went through with my narc husband of 2 years. I didn't see it for what it was until our honeymoon and he felt like I would always be there because we got married. It's a lot to deal with and it ain't worth it to go through, so get out as the sooner, the better for your own health and sanity.
When I tell you the hard part is getting them out your system. But when that day came for me and I stopped giving two fucks was one of the best days in my life true story
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This is mental illness an arrested development that starts around 5 yrs old. Im currently married to a 50 yr old (5 yr old). Its draining; my heart goes out to anyone that has experienced this. Everything is a argument its like being with jekyll and Hyde. A very very double-minded individual!!!
Yes, I have lived this sick shit for the last almost 11 years!!! Right emotional intelligence is very rare!!! A narcissist will mess you up and have you thinking you crazy!!! Right unspoken expectations!!! With narcissist, you can tell them and then ask them…what does this look like??? They get mad at you because they can’t communicate what it supposed to look like!!! Some ppl didn’t get enough hugs when they was younger!!! You’re right, control is a huge part of it!!!
Brother! I need it this! They will play on any issue! They don't like or respect anybody that thinks for themselves. They turn everything into competition! The minute you start to see through them! You will be labeled as outcast, weak, or the problem!
@@501Caution It's called projection. All narcs do that because they're losers. They don't like or respect themselves. They're the outcast. They're the problem and they are weak.
I married a narcissist years ago, meet the narcissist at work.,Moved together moved away from family and was pregnant. Thought I could love him to change him. He cheated, he gave me all kinds of abuse and blues. The signs were all that you mentioned. -I didn’t walk away when anger became him trying to take me out a week before a holiday. The silence and the control is true. Took me years with depression, a miscarriage, scars that are seen and unseen by the human eye. After the divorce to realize I lost myself and almost cost me my soul, friends and family. My advice is Runnnnnnnnnnn please. Not the reality that I would everrrr want to experience. Listen to this King. 2 years felt like 10… All that I went through in just 2 years was like being in a beautiful mess with a high rank narcissist… I’m saying beautiful because they are very charming in front of all people. But behind close doors 😢 it was a different story. Have a plan, leave, move safely and according. Plenty of safe houses for support…. ❤ Your life is a gift and love is beautiful not abuse.
Married to one. I didn't even know what a narcissist was until after we moved in together and I started describing his behavior to others. That's how I found out. Clueless about the mental hell that I was about to go through.
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The narcissist knows right from wrong and once challenged or called out on their sh*t , they will either ship up or ship out. They will always, try to secure a supply, (someone) bcuz they don't like being alone. Don't allow anybody validate you, don't need nobody's permission. Know thy self and stand your ground on ALL things that matter to ALMIGHTY GOD and you ♥️💯🙏🏼
Worst situation of my entire life. Have two young children with her! Had no idea someone could be so deceitful, & down right rotten; completely lacking integrity, to the extent of fabricating stories & lying to POLICE! I feel for my sons 🙏🏿
Wow this one is my life. I just divorced him after 30 years of back and forth to much cheating and lies. 8 years of marriage. Over 17 different women. He went to prison for embezzlement got out and got married. So happy it’s over. Thank you for all you do. ❤🎉❤🎉
I was married to a narcissist for 22 years! He made a baby on me and I found out about 5 other women he mistreated me and our children. Finally free and I'm in therapy he's been hovering constantly and we've been divorced for over 5 years! Stay away from these people at all costs pay attention to the red flags you see!
@@PapaDuckI have been with you for years, I’m really glad that you are speaking on this topic. Please note I’m a male. I was married to this woman for only about four years. I need people out here to understand that this works both ways. Men are victims of these demons also. Everything you said in here is correct. What amazes me about these people is that they are somehow able to recruit a whole army of people to come against you. Go no contact if you can, if you can’t go no contact, gray rock them. Get out before it starts to impact your health. Yep seek help. Focus on you!
He is correct. It turns demonic. They don't even know they are like this. That's the scariest part. It's just who they are. I can spot them quick now. It's alot of em out there too. Protect your energy and never stop learning. Thanks fam. We need to hear this. Each one teach one.
I have been with this man for 15 years and married for 10 years. Once I had our first child no conversation was had he just moved in. I took care of everything, but he did stay home with the children and I thought at that time it was good enough. Meanwhile he was very very emotionally abusive and at times physical. This past year I started to stand up against him. So in return he spoke so bad against me and even involved his family and friends to come against me. So I finally put that man out and went no contact. So he can live off his family and friends now.
All I can say is run 🏃🏾♀️ I’m trying to get away now!!! Stress have took over my body! I rebuke that and trying to get away ASAP!!!! They are intermediated by you!! 🏃🏾♀️🏃🏾♀️🏃🏾♀️🏃🏾♀️💨
Facts! My ex is a true narcissist. He needs help, he's a hurt little boy. He's in his mid forties and still acting and doing immature things. So true about validation, controlling, fake, minulipative, never in the wrong, selfish, and the list goes on. Definitely cut them off! 9:299:30
You have described some of my family members to the T, thanks for making me feel seen and understand because living amongst those demons will have you questioning yourself
Self centered,passive aggressive,combative,lack empathy,gotta be the victim or hero,silent treatment,always want to be chased down,know accountability,always need control,never give and take mindset just about themselves
Real talk bruh. I’m dealing with one know. I’ve been with her for 8 years of pure hell. I’ve never dealt with anything like this. They have no soul and it drains you.
I was in a relationship with a narcissist for 2 years. For one year he kind of hid his narcissism and by the second year that's when I started noticing like this guy is a narcissist everything was about him I did everything that he asked me to do even more and was never good enough there's like no satisfying or pleasing a narcissist and everything revolves around them and they try to make you be the blame of everything then that's a narcissist. Please pay attention to the signs because if not you'll get so sucked in and you will be a codependent of the narcissist
I have a narcissistic mother and have been in a long-term relationship with one. It's definitely draining and if you do not set boundaries, they will suck the life out of you. The best thing to do is leave and never look back. I am currently living with my mother and need the financial assistance to leave.
Dealing with the trauma of this abuse from my "mother" over decades... narcissists DO NOT change, & DO NOT ever accept accountability💯 My whole "family"... & now my son is being traumatized & brainwashed simultaneously
These basic things about narcisim can save a lot of lives. I’m seeing it’s starting to get more attention now in 2025. These individuals are the threat to our society 😢
High school sweethearts ---3 children still trying to complete the divorce. It's a roller coaster I wouldn't wish on anyone‼️ when you see it don't keep questioning it, start preparing an Exit strategy ❤
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Congratulations, you are destined for greatness when you encounter these people. They are designed to break you. Please remain calm as humanly possible and focus on your goals because they try to force failure on you. Walk away and get somewhere safe.
Man i was with one for 2 years. I seen it out the gate but didn't know what it was called i just knew something was off. LEAVE THEM ALONE! LOVE YOURSELF MORE! THEY DONT CHANGE AND ITS ALL AT YOUR COST OR DESTRUCTION!
They don't cheat like regular people They love to cheat with family members and friends of yours because the closer the person is to you the more they know it will hurt you when you find out.
You are 1000 percent accurate i married one it’s been 4 years of the worst experience over my life and is teaching me greatly to stick to my boundaries he know when to put his mask on and can play a role like a professional actor he act delusional about reality he is a master manipulator he have no desire to grow or change yet he sometimes pretend he wants to and is stuck in the mind and character of a 7 year old Iam trying to find a safe exit from this toxic fake user and his family are just as fake and manipulative as him it’s sad this personality disorder is nothing to play with and people that don’t know what’s really going on thinks he is a great guy that helps and supports me which is the total opposite he is envious and jealous of me and lets me do everything without his help in fact he is a burden and gets mad when other people help me he tries to make me feel bad for it he doesn’t respect any boundaries constantly getting fired from every job he gets and it’s always someone else’s fault he is very irresponsible and does not pay bills yet he tells everyone he pays all the bills his bank account is always overdrawn he like to dress nice and smell good but will not work on his character at all he is a dressed up bum that only care about his image not his character at all he lies to everyone and is always playing the victim he haven’t maintained 1 good friendship for longer than 6 months I have given him grace time and time and felt sorry for him he cries that he wanna change but shortly after he is back to being evil selfish manipulative and irresponsible I am constantly working on myself to be clear of anything I can do to be better and it all comes back to me keep giving him grace is me being a enabler to him just like his family is I’m done I’m just trying to find a safe way out of this marriage to get him out of my home where nobody gets physically hurt Ive been over the marriage but me keep wanting the best for him is exhausting me Iam working on the divorce but I don’t think even that will make him leave everyone says narcissist will dis guard you well I sure wish he hurry and dis guard from me fr if it had not been for LORD GOD I wouldn’t even be abled to share this dealing with this man after we got married has been continuously mentally spiritually physically and financially draining since the first year and we did multiple marriage counseling sessions before we got married he played a role well this is my first time experiencing a person like him I just Pray for his change and salvation with THE LORD
26 years and 2 kids I’ve delt with a narcissist. That relationship took me and my kids to hell and sometimes I feel Like I’m still on the journey back…. SMH…. When I say this man was a peace of work. You literally would have to live my life to understand the magnitude of pain this man inflicted on me and my kids. Papa Duck I can relate to everything you are saying. I can write a book on this shit and probably get rich
Wow! I am so grateful for hearing this message today. I needed to hear this word as it confirms what I recently just experienced. I removed myself quickly! THANK YOU, KING! GOD BLESS YOU.!!!!!.
💯💯💯 sounds just like my wife ..we been separated and whenever I do speak to her, it's almost like I'm talking to someone on drugs or like speaking to a five year old in a grown ups body....I feel so bad and I just pray for her at this point 🙏🏾🙏🏾
That's exactly how it is with my husband. I thought it could be worked out but No contact has been the best decision and next divorce. I just pray for him because I definitely can't have a rational conversation.
14 years if loyalty to a Narcissist. I was cheated on every year. I’m DONE. 2 children 1 baby on the way. I canceled my wedding 4weeks away . He went missing for 5 hrs no contact and call me blaming me for calling the hospitals ,police stations not knowing what happened all of a sudden come to find out you was Cheating.. 🙄 duh…, I had to cut it off!!! It was messing with my mental health. Loyalty got me nothing, but stuck with 3 kids I gotta go hard for..
God got you and now the blessings will come. It's better you left than have your kids subjected to the shenanigans. I wish I would've realized things earlier because my adult children are suffering now.
Please don’t beat yo self up. Please just let go, So you can be free again. 😭💯💯💯🙏🏾. I was married to one I been with her since I was 16. Actually believed to know Her a few weeks before I turned 16. I divorced her at 23 last yr in 2023. I just wanted to expand and grow to the mountain tops, build a legacy but that wasn’t gonna happen because of the lack of emotional intelligence and she’s older than me by two years you would’ve swore I was older than her by at least 5 years. She could never take constructive criticism like never, and I love her so much. I loved her more than, myself and all I wanted was to see was her be her best self to the point I was losing myself. Lot of spiritual depletion happened & she started to hate me but I was tired of being hushed & all the avoiding. story is too long to explain it all, but in the end, all that trauma caused me to have a spiritual awakening. So I’m grateful 💯
Hey! Give Thanks 🙏🏾 for sharing this message. Growing up with Narcissistic parents affects your decisions as an adult. In relationships, with finances and even how you love yourself. Even when you do your best to have more and do better one faces challenges and usually has no help because the people around us are often on a different page.
35 years in a relationship with the Ex Narcopath. I felt like I was going crazy. But for God I am Narcissist free for 6 years. Stay woke people they don’t change ever.
Sometimes we attract who we are Sometimes we attract the opposite of who we are. Something attracts us to ppl. Sometimes its karma lesson. We have to get to know ppl. All stages of life. 1 thing i learned ppl treat u how they feel about u. Sometimes its something that can be fixed both parties have to work at it. And b willing to do so. U cant change ppl. Can u b with them if they dont. Nobody's perfect neither are u. Ppl can and will change for those they want to. Either stay and fight or leave. Staying is hard leaving is easy. Depends on what u want how u feel. Is it worth fighting for or not.
Hey papa duck thank you for making this video! Needs to have some light shine on this topic I am currently going through this while living at my mom in laws house everyday is another battle I’m trying to evolve and it’s only making things worse I need to become financially independent so I can leave people with this type of energy in the past I don’t have space or patience for anyone like that in my life idc who it is those people effect others more than they know I had to leave my moms place because she is also stuck on narcissistic it’s like I can’t get away from it
Oh Papa I can really go in on these demons. I would come on and share my story. They will break your soul, and you have to plan your escape in silence. You don't breakup with a narc you escape for your life.
As a licensed social worker.....he ain't lied nowhere! I agree with everything he said.
You can't love them enough,you got to leave,don't wait your time and years PLEASE
Thanks PaPaDuck for touching on this topic🙏🏻. Tears run down my eyes 😢 I suffer in silence for years until I realize what a narcissist was. They should be locked up for ruining ppls life💯👌🏻
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Married one got really depressed and was in a mental hospital. Finally got a divorce
It's hard for a narcissitic person to rationalize because they see nothing wrong with them at all. They normally will not get help. Leave them.
@SharonLewis-yy4ok they have a perfect complex,I know family members in their 80's and 90's and still don't see that there's nothing wrong with them in 😪
I was married to one for 4 years, I prayed a lot to understand him, when I got my answer, he was a narcissist. Look for those dark black eyes when they get mad, loved arguments over anything. They are great gas lighters!
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They never changed. I left home from Arkansas and went to new York to deal with a narcissistic man. I had enough and started my exit plan. That was ten months ago. I’m healing cause that trauma is a new level of being depleted almost literally of everything. I’m single now and will be for long time. I’m thinking to start a podcast this year on my story.
Come back to Arkansas
I dealt with an narcissist for about 5 years. Here are some of my experiences.
1. Love bombed for about 6 months to a year.
2. Controlling tactics was introduced.
3. Verbal insults on everything from hairstyles, clothing, cooking etc.
4. Manipulation to get what he wanted in the way he wanted it, my way, was irrelevant.
5. Lied on me to others to turn them against me. Only to gain favor to himself.
6. Projecting his insecurities onto me, to start an argument. Only to have more sex.(energy vamp and/or incubus spirit)
7. Competition he would consistently brag on how women want him so much and he used them to go against me, to fill his inflated ego. Only to treat them like he did me.
8. Plotting on how to steal and set me up to advance his life(sacrifice, destiny swapping).
9. Accountability is only a word for him. His favorite line is "I'm a grown man, I do what, I want to do.
10. Codependent he knows everything. And can so call do these things himself but will act like a infant, for me to do it.
11. No reciprocation when it comes to communicating emotions or showing true affection. I was the one had to keep him validated.
12. Spellwork not all do this but he did.
The longer you stay in this type of situationship. Your health will decline. Right along with your finances and your spiritual purpose. You are dealing with a unhealed person that won't do the inner work to change because of their ego. Just like they strategically plan on coming into your life to steal, kill and destroy. You must strategically plan your exit. If you can, get some counseling. You do not want to bring that trauma into a partnership. I know GOD put him in my life to learn a valuable lesson, about my own journey in healing, setting firm boundaries and I did. I don't hate him, I just want him to get help. Hope this helps someone.❤️✌🏽
Thank you, Papa Duck for talking about this, it was needed.
Woooow thank you soooooo much for sharing this with us all…..I didn’t realize so many people had been through this …and again thank you for sharing this 👉🏾💯💯❤️🦆
@PapaDuck No problem! You're welcome.
@@j.r.8153 Been there and done that myself. I know exactly what you're talking about. I went through it with so-called "family" since I can remember. Only thing that saved me was the Lord and the last conversation with my grandmother almost 20 years ago. She told me "when I go, you need to go." I was in the military when she passed and all hell broke loose after that. The frequency weapons, the poisonings, the stalking, the stealing, the snitches posing as "friends" and "lovers," and the state filing fake charges. I had to start my life over several times across 10 states. Now, I am doing well alone and I stop the nonsense before it even starts. I don't even want to be in a relationship anymore because I will never go through that again. Too many codependent people out here that need someone else's demise to "build themselves up."
@Refining_Visionary I hate that you went through that but I'm elated you made it through. I was at a point on giving up on love but we deserve it. That will be our reward for doing the work. So please don't close your heart off. Have a wonderful and safe day.❤️✌🏽
@j.r.8153 I'm excited about your survival story as well. A lot of people don't make it out. Our reward is loving ourselves until that person that loves themselves come along. A house divided cannot stand.
Thank you for talking about this! I just left my husband of 6 years. I thought I wanted a separation, but he gave me hell so I will be filing a divorce. As a person who’s currently dealing with a narc, I would say LEAVE NOW. I take marriage seriously but my husband would always accuse me, always jealous whenever I dress up. Can’t go to the store in peace ,he basically had all my people fall back on me and had me all to himself. Almost lost my car, my apartment, my credit score has dropped tremendously. I can go on and on. Yall please be careful you will lose everything including yourself.
I tried to tell a young lady about this but married him anyway and regretted it deeply. She did have the courage to walk, but not b4 he brainwashed her. She is spending money now to undo it all.
@@ladilondon1213I’m so sorry to hear this. I’m glad she walked away. I hate the fact that we try to give people the benefit of doubt and backfire on us.
It pissess u off worse when they have people cheering them on giving them praise on how they hurt someone
There's nothing you can do but detach and never ever look back and revenge does not work!!
They copy mimic and try to steal your personality traits and character while telling others that you are them...they are super nice to strangers but treat the people close to them like s***
Exactly ..mine was all sweet at first then became more male and horrible to me yet around strangers especially men she was all sweet and so nice
Much respect
These are facts I was in bondage with a narcissist for total of 16 years on and off.. we call our kind Survivors of Narcissistic Abuse
And the shit is real, and horrible! Yes please get out cause it won’t get better, it will only appear like it will.. but it won’t! Speaking healing for both the victims and the survivors of narcissism 🙏🏽
Mannnnn goin through this now it's INSANE FOREAL💯I'm tired of defending myself from this demon‼️This stuff is SPIRITUAL WARFARE REAL TALK.🫡
@@AnonymousNic79 sad part the longer you stay you just causing yourself more pain cause unless that demon wants help it will never stop plus they never really see that they have a problem
@@AnonymousNic79 WHAT DOES LIGHT HAVE TO DO WITH DARKNESS THEY CANT STAND SO LET YOUR LIGHT SHINE IT IRRITATE THE HELL OUTTA OF EM
27 years with him and 12 years of marriage it took me a minute because of the love and who I am, but I think my father in heaven for the lesson because he allow me to come out with them devils meant for my harm, but my God he don’t play about me hallelujah that lesson has became my blessing moving forward, trusting in my daddy, knowing that he has got something way better for me, and for that narcissist, I forgive him no hate, no anger no bitterness no jealousy I was at one time but now I am in my healing process file for my divorce that Negro just got his papers and he is upset because he didn’t think I will walk away, but God. I’m stepping into 2025 on fire for MY KING YAH. Forgive them people move forward and let them see you rise and shine baby.
PLEASEEE DO ANOTHER VIDEO...THIS JUST SCRATCHED THE SURFACE...I WAS SUICIDAL AFTER MY NARC...BUT GOD DELIVERED ME!!!
Narcissism can be a generational curse.
Usually is
For sure.
They know how much they are hurting you and your children. They just don't care, or they love themselves more than they care about your destruction, hurt and damage.
Been with this woman for 28 years, you are describing her just like you actually met her in real time.
My wife of 17yrs bro..😒
@strictlybusiness450 my wife and her family 😢
Narcissist do not love their children either but they use them as pawns
You were spot on!!! My EX-husband is a narcissist. All of the signs that you discussed was exactly what I dealt with in that marriage. Thank GOD I was delivered from that situation and I will never go through that ever again. Praying for all who is dealing with one!
@chanikalane5898 gotta get outta of mines 😒
@ I tried to hang in there for YEARS because he was “husband” but it got worse and worse. Until the point of no return and I gave up and never looked back. After that nightmare was over I felt as if chains were lifted off of me and that I was finally free. That’s a great feeling to have if you just can’t deal with it anymore. Life is too short to live unhappy and in bondage. You will know when you get tired. Praying for you!!!
Bro I thought I was going outta my mind, now I know it’s a thing and I’m so glad it’s becoming more mainstream, had to stay for the kids…now that they’re grown they see the truth about their mom and it’s sad
Even if you aint did nothing its all your fault😂
My sons' father was the first that I know of..he took me for on an emotional roller-coaster for about 3 years and I learned what it was so later I learned that my mom and dad are narcissists,sister too now I think I'm so damaged by the stuff I went through with them bc it was so much that I just want to be alone!!😢
You are spot on with everything I went through with my narc husband of 2 years. I didn't see it for what it was until our honeymoon and he felt like I would always be there because we got married. It's a lot to deal with and it ain't worth it to go through, so get out as the sooner, the better for your own health and sanity.
But one thing about God...he is destroying those narraccist ppl....especially wen they cross the wrong ppl
When they Show You who they are, It's Devastating! Healing Yourself is the ONLY CURE! REMEMBER THEY ARE YOU THEY ARE! THEY DON'T CHANGE!
It only took me 90 days to realize something aint right!! Got up otta there!! Thank you Jesus my spirit wasn't having it!!
When I tell you the hard part is getting them out your system. But when that day came for me and I stopped giving two fucks was one of the best days in my life true story
@Queenofsword737 SPEAK LIFE!!! THANKYOU FOR THOSE WORDS IF THAT AINT THE DAMN TRUTH...BLESS YOU...BLESSUP YOUR LIFE🤗😇🥰 GOD IS GOOD
Never ending Circle. ⭕ All Narc Cycles are the same playbook!
Happy new year 🎉
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My wife is a narcissist currently on my way out the door.
This is mental illness an arrested development that starts around 5 yrs old. Im currently married to a 50 yr old (5 yr old). Its draining; my heart goes out to anyone that has experienced this. Everything is a argument its like being with jekyll and Hyde. A very very double-minded individual!!!
All they do is rinse, recycle, and repeat. Don't beat yourself up. They do this with everyone they meet. Move forward and heal!
Keep working on you! You're stronger than you know and made it through your storm.
I just went no contact this morning… I wouldn’t wish this mental anguish on anyone!!!! My heart goes out to anyone dealing with this❤️❤️
Yes, I have lived this sick shit for the last almost 11 years!!! Right emotional intelligence is very rare!!! A narcissist will mess you up and have you thinking you crazy!!! Right unspoken expectations!!! With narcissist, you can tell them and then ask them…what does this look like??? They get mad at you because they can’t communicate what it supposed to look like!!! Some ppl didn’t get enough hugs when they was younger!!! You’re right, control is a huge part of it!!!
Brother! I need it this! They will play on any issue! They don't like or respect anybody that thinks for themselves. They turn everything into competition! The minute you start to see through them! You will be labeled as outcast, weak, or the problem!
@@501Caution yesss 💯💯💯💯
@@501Caution It's called projection. All narcs do that because they're losers. They don't like or respect themselves. They're the outcast. They're the problem and they are weak.
Bingo 💯 insecurities ...vain imaginations...
Lord have mercy I am
Not taking no narc with me this year I decree and I declare!
Thanks brother were now bringing awareness to NARCISSISM. WE ARE SURVIVORS NOW ITS TIME TO THRIVE.
I married a narcissist years ago, meet the narcissist at work.,Moved together moved away from family and was pregnant. Thought I could love him to change him. He cheated, he gave me all kinds of abuse and blues. The signs were all that you mentioned. -I didn’t walk away when anger became him trying to take me out a week before a holiday. The silence and the control is true. Took me years with depression, a miscarriage, scars that are seen and unseen by the human eye. After the divorce to realize I lost myself and almost cost me my soul, friends and family. My advice is Runnnnnnnnnnn please. Not the reality that I would everrrr want to experience. Listen to this King. 2 years felt like 10… All that I went through in just 2 years was like being in a beautiful mess with a high rank narcissist… I’m saying beautiful because they are very charming in front of all people. But behind close doors 😢 it was a different story. Have a plan, leave, move safely and according.
Plenty of safe houses for support…. ❤ Your life is a gift and love is beautiful not abuse.
Married to one. I didn't even know what a narcissist was until after we moved in together and I started describing his behavior to others. That's how I found out. Clueless about the mental hell that I was about to go through.
The narcissist knows right from wrong and once challenged or called out on their sh*t , they will either ship up or ship out. They will always, try to secure a supply, (someone) bcuz they don't like being alone. Don't allow anybody validate you, don't need nobody's permission. Know thy self and stand your ground on ALL things that matter to ALMIGHTY GOD and you ♥️💯🙏🏼
Dame u just called out the situation that I went through
I been gaming people about Narcissistic people for the pass 6 years…A unstable minded person is evil in all their ways, let that sink in…
So true‼️‼️
I don’t have time for it. And especially when someone say they are never wrong. That’s deep
Worst situation of my entire life. Have two young children with her! Had no idea someone could be so deceitful, & down right rotten; completely lacking integrity, to the extent of fabricating stories & lying to POLICE! I feel for my sons 🙏🏿
Shocking isn't it. 😮💔
devastating 😔💔
Wow this one is my life. I just divorced him after 30 years of back and forth to much cheating and lies. 8 years of marriage. Over 17 different women. He went to prison for embezzlement got out and got married. So happy it’s over. Thank you for all you do. ❤🎉❤🎉
I’m sorry you had to go through that
@ Thank you. I gave me time to relearn myself. I’m in such a better place in life. It will make a good book .
35 years here 2019 divorced . TRAUMATIZING
I was married to a narcissist for 22 years! He made a baby on me and I found out about 5 other women he mistreated me and our children. Finally free and I'm in therapy he's been hovering constantly and we've been divorced for over 5 years! Stay away from these people at all costs pay attention to the red flags you see!
@@PapaDuckI have been with you for years, I’m really glad that you are speaking on this topic. Please note I’m a male. I was married to this woman for only about four years. I need people out here to understand that this works both ways. Men are victims of these demons also.
Everything you said in here is correct. What amazes me about these people is that they are somehow able to recruit a whole army of people to come against you.
Go no contact if you can, if you can’t go no contact, gray rock them. Get out before it starts to impact your health. Yep seek help. Focus on you!
He is correct. It turns demonic. They don't even know they are like this. That's the scariest part. It's just who they are. I can spot them quick now. It's alot of em out there too. Protect your energy and never stop learning. Thanks fam. We need to hear this. Each one teach one.
I think It's worse when the narcissist is you're mother
Or dad
I have been with this man for 15 years and married for 10 years. Once I had our first child no conversation was had he just moved in. I took care of everything, but he did stay home with the children and I thought at that time it was good enough. Meanwhile he was very very emotionally abusive and at times physical. This past year I started to stand up against him. So in return he spoke so bad against me and even involved his family and friends to come against me. So I finally put that man out and went no contact. So he can live off his family and friends now.
They won’t ever go away.. if you allow it ..I’ve been through this and goin through this I can’t wait till I’m free of this it’s absolutely insanity
That’s why it’s hard for some family members to come together I been through that situation and I’ll never deal with that again
“Don’t beat yourself up” words that heal thank you brother ❤❤
Shalom
I am with a narcissist, and idc anymore. I detached from the insanity. One more breakup and I am closing the chapter, because the game is over.
I had to start pulling away and grieving the loss while I was still in it. I'm in therapy and stay watching videos.
All I can say is run 🏃🏾♀️
I’m trying to get away now!!! Stress have took over my body! I rebuke that and trying to get away ASAP!!!! They are intermediated by you!! 🏃🏾♀️🏃🏾♀️🏃🏾♀️🏃🏾♀️💨
I’m so happy to hear it from You… finally a Man telling it, because people think only women complain about it. It’s all around evil 👿 ❤
Facts! My ex is a true narcissist. He needs help, he's a hurt little boy. He's in his mid forties and still acting and doing immature things. So true about validation, controlling, fake, minulipative, never in the wrong, selfish, and the list goes on. Definitely cut them off! 9:29 9:30
You have described some of my family members to the T, thanks for making me feel seen and understand because living amongst those demons will have you questioning yourself
Self centered,passive aggressive,combative,lack empathy,gotta be the victim or hero,silent treatment,always want to be chased down,know accountability,always need control,never give and take mindset just about themselves
See ya. They are mentally draining. And don’t let em have a drinking problem. It’s worse
Facts!!
Real talk bruh. I’m dealing with one know. I’ve been with her for 8 years of pure hell. I’ve never dealt with anything like this. They have no soul and it drains you.
Run don't stay, cause they don't change! They have no Soul
@ crazy thing is that we have a 6yr old together and they stay with me. I have a heart but the arguing and the anxiety is going to drive me crazy
I was in a relationship with a narcissist for 2 years. For one year he kind of hid his narcissism and by the second year that's when I started noticing like this guy is a narcissist everything was about him I did everything that he asked me to do even more and was never good enough there's like no satisfying or pleasing a narcissist and everything revolves around them and they try to make you be the blame of everything then that's a narcissist. Please pay attention to the signs because if not you'll get so sucked in and you will be a codependent of the narcissist
I have a narcissistic mother and have been in a long-term relationship with one. It's definitely draining and if you do not set boundaries, they will suck the life out of you. The best thing to do is leave and never look back. I am currently living with my mother and need the financial assistance to leave.
These daemons will triangulate you for their own amusement and don't care who they hurt in the process. They actually believe their own lies.
My baby mother...
True...and they are EVERYWHERE!
Just got out of narcissistic relationship, worse shit ever, so stressful on the brain
This isn't talked about enough. My folks are like this which is why i went no contact with them.
Thanks for bringing light to this topic. It's important that we know what the signs are, and recognize when to walk away for your protection.
All I can say is, I had to learn this by experience, not even knowing that this was what I was experiencing
You hit the nail right on the head about these narcissists Papa 🎯
They know they are hurting people. However they just don’t care.
@@EarthAngel272 BLACK HEARTS MADE OF STONE...
@ EXACTLY
Yes, their monsters.
Going through this now. It’s not a joyful ride. Makes you second guess everything.
Goin thru it too! .... I'm tryna get sleep at night cause this shit got my mind goin
Dealing with the trauma of this abuse from my "mother" over decades... narcissists DO NOT change, & DO NOT ever accept accountability💯
My whole "family"... & now my son is being traumatized & brainwashed simultaneously
These basic things about narcisim can save a lot of lives. I’m seeing it’s starting to get more attention now in 2025.
These individuals are the threat to our society 😢
High school sweethearts ---3 children still trying to complete the divorce. It's a roller coaster I wouldn't wish on anyone‼️ when you see it don't keep questioning it, start preparing an Exit strategy ❤
Happy new year 🎉
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My mother was a narcissist very emotional abusive she really has that disorder been gone no contact for almost 6 years
Dang I’m sorry to hear that ….
@@PapaDuck thanks 🙏
Congratulations, you are destined for greatness when you encounter these people. They are designed to break you. Please remain calm as humanly possible and focus on your goals because they try to force failure on you. Walk away and get somewhere safe.
This is the TRUTH!!! Best revenge is to get far away from these people, heal, and prosper. They hate that! LOL!
You said it!!!! you can't change these people Yup!!!!! You can only change yourself and move on.
Man i was with one for 2 years. I seen it out the gate but didn't know what it was called i just knew something was off. LEAVE THEM ALONE! LOVE YOURSELF MORE! THEY DONT CHANGE AND ITS ALL AT YOUR COST OR DESTRUCTION!
They don't cheat like regular people They love to cheat with family members and friends of yours because the closer the person is to you the more they know it will hurt you when you find out.
What's up Brother I been thru it they are devils want your soul .get away from them quick. Thank you for dropping this important topic. Peace
You are 1000 percent accurate i married one it’s been 4 years of the worst experience over my life and is teaching me greatly to stick to my boundaries he know when to put his mask on and can play a role like a professional actor he act delusional about reality he is a master manipulator he have no desire to grow or change yet he sometimes pretend he wants to and is stuck in the mind and character of a 7 year old Iam trying to find a safe exit from this toxic fake user and his family are just as fake and manipulative as him it’s sad this personality disorder is nothing to play with and people that don’t know what’s really going on thinks he is a great guy that helps and supports me which is the total opposite he is envious and jealous of me and lets me do everything without his help in fact he is a burden and gets mad when other people help me he tries to make me feel bad for it he doesn’t respect any boundaries constantly getting fired from every job he gets and it’s always someone else’s fault he is very irresponsible and does not pay bills yet he tells everyone he pays all the bills his bank account is always overdrawn he like to dress nice and smell good but will not work on his character at all he is a dressed up bum that only care about his image not his character at all he lies to everyone and is always playing the victim he haven’t maintained 1 good friendship for longer than 6 months I have given him grace time and time and felt sorry for him he cries that he wanna change but shortly after he is back to being evil selfish manipulative and irresponsible I am constantly working on myself to be clear of anything I can do to be better and it all comes back to me keep giving him grace is me being a enabler to him just like his family is I’m done I’m just trying to find a safe way out of this marriage to get him out of my home where nobody gets physically hurt Ive been over the marriage but me keep wanting the best for him is exhausting me Iam working on the divorce but I don’t think even that will make him leave everyone says narcissist will dis guard you well I sure wish he hurry and dis guard from me fr if it had not been for LORD GOD I wouldn’t even be abled to share this dealing with this man after we got married has been continuously mentally spiritually physically and financially draining since the first year and we did multiple marriage counseling sessions before we got married he played a role well this is my first time experiencing a person like him I just Pray for his change and salvation with THE LORD
Gotta grey rock the narcissist. They hate that lol. Once you master that, they are internally pissed because they see they cant get to you.
26 years and 2 kids I’ve delt with a narcissist. That relationship took me and my kids to hell and sometimes I feel
Like I’m still on the journey back…. SMH…. When I say this man was a peace of work. You literally would have to live my life to understand the magnitude of pain this man inflicted on me and my kids. Papa Duck I can relate to everything you are saying. I can write a book on this shit and probably get rich
This one hit …. Every word you just said is all hella FACTS FRFR
Wow! I am so grateful for hearing this message today. I needed to hear this word as it confirms what I recently just experienced. I removed myself quickly!
THANK YOU, KING! GOD BLESS YOU.!!!!!.
💯💯💯 sounds just like my wife ..we been separated and whenever I do speak to her, it's almost like I'm talking to someone on drugs or like speaking to a five year old in a grown ups body....I feel so bad and I just pray for her at this point 🙏🏾🙏🏾
That's exactly how it is with my husband. I thought it could be worked out but No contact has been the best decision and next divorce. I just pray for him because I definitely can't have a rational conversation.
14 years if loyalty to a Narcissist. I was cheated on every year. I’m DONE. 2 children 1 baby on the way. I canceled my wedding 4weeks away . He went missing for 5 hrs no contact and call me blaming me for calling the hospitals ,police stations not knowing what happened all of a sudden come to find out you was Cheating.. 🙄 duh…, I had to cut it off!!! It was messing with my mental health. Loyalty got me nothing, but stuck with 3 kids I gotta go hard for..
God got you and now the blessings will come. It's better you left than have your kids subjected to the shenanigans. I wish I would've realized things earlier because my adult children are suffering now.
@@ericabrawner9111 Thank you! It’s hard . I’m learning to relove me everyday
Please don’t beat yo self up. Please just let go, So you can be free again. 😭💯💯💯🙏🏾. I was married to one I been with her since I was 16. Actually believed to know Her a few weeks before I turned 16. I divorced her at 23 last yr in 2023. I just wanted to expand and grow to the mountain tops, build a legacy but that wasn’t gonna happen because of the lack of emotional intelligence and she’s older than me by two years you would’ve swore I was older than her by at least 5 years. She could never take constructive criticism like never, and I love her so much. I loved her more than, myself and all I wanted was to see was her be her best self to the point I was losing myself. Lot of spiritual depletion happened & she started to hate me but I was tired of being hushed & all the avoiding. story is too long to explain it all, but in the end, all that trauma caused me to have a spiritual awakening. So I’m grateful 💯
Hey! Give Thanks 🙏🏾 for sharing this message. Growing up with Narcissistic parents affects your decisions as an adult. In relationships, with finances and even how you love yourself. Even when you do your best to have more and do better one faces challenges and usually has no help because the people around us are often on a different page.
Yooooo, you know what’s funny? I been through this , my strength in knowing my self worth is my golden power!
Narcissism is the jazzbelle spirit !!
35 years in a relationship with the Ex Narcopath. I felt like I was going crazy. But for God I am Narcissist free for 6 years. Stay woke people they don’t change ever.
@donnagreen5186 No they DO NOT!!!
Sometimes we attract who we are Sometimes we attract the opposite of who we are. Something attracts us to ppl. Sometimes its karma lesson. We have to get to know ppl. All stages of life. 1 thing i learned ppl treat u how they feel about u. Sometimes its something that can be fixed both parties have to work at it. And b willing to do so. U cant change ppl. Can u b with them if they dont. Nobody's perfect neither are u. Ppl can and will change for those they want to. Either stay and fight or leave. Staying is hard leaving is easy. Depends on what u want how u feel. Is it worth fighting for or not.
Hey papa duck thank you for making this video! Needs to have some light shine on this topic I am currently going through this while living at my mom in laws house everyday is another battle I’m trying to evolve and it’s only making things worse I need to become financially independent so I can leave people with this type of energy in the past I don’t have space or patience for anyone like that in my life idc who it is those people effect others more than they know I had to leave my moms place because she is also stuck on narcissistic it’s like I can’t get away from it
I’m sick of it it’s a pandemic cause it seems like everybody like this 😢
They will try to steal your friends,family and life and turn everyone against you it’s sick
@@toshab-i2y🎯💯
Love bombing can be a powerful thing to an unsuspecting person.
This is so REAL!!! BUT YOU CAN HEAL!!! Just EDUCATE yourself ❤
Oh Papa I can really go in on these demons. I would come on and share my story. They will break your soul, and you have to plan your escape in silence. You don't breakup with a narc you escape for your life.