This was such a touching episode. I definitely cried with you, Mel! That story about Helen's parents' dynamic changing after her dad retired got me 😭😭🥺🥺
Although death is still a taboo subject, I've gotten positive responses from conversations about the ways my parents could make the most of their golden years. One of the things we've discovered together is that in old age, mobility is key to quality of life. The older you get, the more you have to work to maintain an acceptable activity level in your daily life. I got my parents into daily balance and stability exercises for seniors. It has really helped their overall fitness and mental health also. Makes a real difference in what they can and want to do.
My husband's mum recently passed away very unexpectedly, she was only in her early 60's - so this topic is still very raw for me. It was a first experience of a close family member passing away for both of us, it was definitely a huge learning curve for us, and there are matters that we're still dealing with in the aftermath. The most important thing that we learned through out the whole experience was that it's so important to have a Will, because my MIL did not have one. Having a Will takes out so much of the uncertainty and time spent by your loved ones in managing everything during such a difficult time - because like we all know, Asian parents can be reluctant to talk seriously about these sorts of things. My siblings and I have also never really talked to my parents or each other about this topic in depth, but like what you've all said, we can get a really good example from the way they treat and interact with their parents. Thank you so much for talking about this topic of aging and death. It's definitely not something that is talked about enough - so thank you for this episode ❤
Having gone through this unexpectedly with my father, having a plan is better. It makes it easier for the children, especially if there isn’t a spouse.
I can relate to this topic in several ways. I’m 42 and my mother is 74. Since we live in the same household, I can see my mom’s health gradually declining. As the eldest child, I feel more responsibility to look after her. Though my mother has told me and my younger sister what to do when she passes away, I still feel emotionally not prepared. Also, it makes me think about my own mortality as well, especially when I see numerous white hairs on my scalp. I realize that no one can stop aging, but I’m trying to take steps to slow it down (inside and out).
Thanks for the thoughtful episode. I’m helping my mom to plan out her medical needs & care. It’s not easy but I prefer to plan ahead for her, as well as for my husband & me. It’s not easy to see my mom being frail, but I’m doing my best to bring her joy & maintain quality of life for her.
This is a very touching episode and so heartfelt. Everyone handles aging differently either by culture or just personal preference. Assisted living/senior care may be needed because of declining health. It is a very expensive option and if it is doable , elderly parents would go that route to avoid burdening loved ones. .Caretaking the elderly is a very intensive responsibility to who ever take on that role. Facing loss is a devastating feeling. Growing old is part of the circle of life. Enjoy and appreciate each day.
This was such a touching episode. I definitely cried with you, Mel! That story about Helen's parents' dynamic changing after her dad retired got me 😭😭🥺🥺
Although death is still a taboo subject, I've gotten positive responses from conversations about the ways my parents could make the most of their golden years. One of the things we've discovered together is that in old age, mobility is key to quality of life. The older you get, the more you have to work to maintain an acceptable activity level in your daily life.
I got my parents into daily balance and stability exercises for seniors. It has really helped their overall fitness and mental health also. Makes a real difference in what they can and want to do.
My husband's mum recently passed away very unexpectedly, she was only in her early 60's - so this topic is still very raw for me. It was a first experience of a close family member passing away for both of us, it was definitely a huge learning curve for us, and there are matters that we're still dealing with in the aftermath. The most important thing that we learned through out the whole experience was that it's so important to have a Will, because my MIL did not have one. Having a Will takes out so much of the uncertainty and time spent by your loved ones in managing everything during such a difficult time - because like we all know, Asian parents can be reluctant to talk seriously about these sorts of things. My siblings and I have also never really talked to my parents or each other about this topic in depth, but like what you've all said, we can get a really good example from the way they treat and interact with their parents. Thank you so much for talking about this topic of aging and death. It's definitely not something that is talked about enough - so thank you for this episode ❤
Having gone through this unexpectedly with my father, having a plan is better. It makes it easier for the children, especially if there isn’t a spouse.
I can relate to this topic in several ways. I’m 42 and my mother is 74. Since we live in the same household, I can see my mom’s health gradually declining. As the eldest child, I feel more responsibility to look after her. Though my mother has told me and my younger sister what to do when she passes away, I still feel emotionally not prepared. Also, it makes me think about my own mortality as well, especially when I see numerous white hairs on my scalp. I realize that no one can stop aging, but I’m trying to take steps to slow it down (inside and out).
Thanks for the thoughtful episode. I’m helping my mom to plan out her medical needs & care. It’s not easy but I prefer to plan ahead for her, as well as for my husband & me.
It’s not easy to see my mom being frail, but I’m doing my best to bring her joy & maintain quality of life for her.
This is a very touching episode and so heartfelt. Everyone handles aging differently either by culture or just personal preference. Assisted living/senior care may be needed because of declining health. It is a very expensive option and if it is doable , elderly parents would go that route to avoid burdening loved ones. .Caretaking the elderly is a very intensive responsibility to who ever take on that role. Facing loss is a devastating feeling. Growing old is part of the circle of life. Enjoy and appreciate each day.
@49:04 just started crying 😭😭😭
Grow old gracefully? Not a chance! Fight it every step of the way!! 😄
are you ladies all Taiwanese?
Your parents can live over 100 without any degenerative diseases.