How I found out I have ADHD (in my 20's)
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- Опубликовано: 9 июн 2024
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This is how I found out I have ADHD at 25 years old after a lifetime of masking, struggling, pretending, and being mistaken for a hyperactive and distracted neurotypical person.
I was finally diagnosed with adult ADHD after struggling my way through university and work, and now I'm working to turn my life around with therapy and medication. Things are looking up.
🔖 CHAPTERS 🔖
00:00 Before I knew
00:45 Getting diagnosed
01:25 Childhood experience
01:45 High school experience
03:11 University experience
05:32 My symptoms
07:10 How I found out
08:50 Diagnosis process
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ADHD is the title given to a person whose best is not good enough.
Well Said! 👍
I have inattentive ADHD and when I was younger, inattentive ADHD wasn’t a thing yet, therefore, I didn’t get diagnosed until I was 30-something.
Hey, that's so relatable! I'm so sorry it wasn't even a thing yet. There's always this giant period of grieving, I feel like, for all of the time that went by... I feel you ❤️
Hey same here. I always felt like something was off my whole life. Got diagnosed ADHD just this year at 53 years old! Looking back it all makes sense now.
@@AntoniasUniverse true... I think now though the excitement of tmrw defeats most regrets of past.
@@RCorDIEI also had an idea something was off my entire life.. “why is this so hard, how does everyone else seem like it doesn’t take effort to do?” After my brother and friend of mine brought up that I have symptoms of having ADHD. I looked into it (videos and searching the web) and decided to get it checked out and received a “combined” ADHD diagnosis at the age of 39..
I feel so seen! I am 28 now and just got my diagnosis and I can't believe I drove through life with the handbrake on for so long while others could DECIDE whether they want to brake or go full speed. Everything is a struggle and no one understands it. I was okayish in school but it went downhill the longer it lasted. Then I studied biology which went okay grade-wise but I put so much more effort into it than anyone else I knew. It took me much longer to finish both the Bachelors and the Masters degree but here we are, I did it.
I will hopefully get my first dose of medication next week and I hope so much that It'll help, I am struggling a lot right now
What a great expression! Indeed, drove through life with the handbrake on! You've really summed it up!
Oh my god. The all you had to do is listen. That is me. I actually still recall a lot of school. I could regurgitate most of what a teacher said on the tests. I could not do homework or assignments.
It is frightening just how consistent people with ADHD seem to be. There are definitely degrees. There are variables. The outcomes can also vary. From dead at a young age to an international celebrity millionaire. But inside, people seem to tell the same stories. It is hard to be inside an ADHD brain.
Absolutely! It's a huge hit or miss and we really need the guidance at a young age to protect us from the worst of it :(
The Sims was one of my 1st clues that something was up. I couldn't manage my Sims' lives either. My sister and I both play, even in simulation you can tell I have ADHD and she doesn't. I've just started the process of getting a proper diagnosis so I can receive treatment.
I really hope you are getting the help you deserve! It's so strange how if you look closely you can see more and more things that you consider "normal" that are absolutely strange and unrelatable to others. Games can be a HUGE struggle sometimes, especially after a long day :( I wish you all the best!
You literally described me 😥, especially when I had to literally copy out the the whole textbook just to get the smallest concepts. I'm a masters student in bremen and I'm just finally coming to terms with this. I've postponed so many exams because I've not been able to properly study the materials. In fact as I type this comment, I'm supposed to be in an exam hall but I just couldn't bring myself to finish the study material and I don't want to get a mediocre grade in a course that I know I can get a 1,0 ( thankfully I have 2 more attempts).
Hello me from the past! This is 1000% how I felt, to the T!! Please know that nobody cares about my grades now, 3 years after graduating, and allow yourself a little margin of error! Your youth, your time, your mental health, are priceless and it's not worth sacrificing them for this! I know perfectionism can be a huge plague for us, but you can start offering yourself some understanding right now and hopefully getting some help in the future too! You deserve to take things at your own pace and not measure yourself by others' imaginary standards. You are already a master student in Germany and that's an amazing feat!
I did the whole diagnosis thing but they told me there was enough evidence in my adult life to have ADHD, but not in my childhood. So now I'm working on a time travel machine ....
Ah, it's so hard to recall things from the past BUT I think learning some more about ADHD on your own might help. Why? Because things might click about your past as you read about them in the books. I recommend "Taking charge of adult ADHD" By Russel Barkley. Maybe something pops up in your mind that you considered normal, but is actually ADHD behavior. Take notes on these things and definitely get a second opinion! Good luck!
HOW did i not see this video when it came out ??!?
i'm always impatiently awaiting your videos because, oh the irony, you are sooo structured and it's very soothing to my inner (and outer) chaos... (i do acknowledge you are indeed very structured, and now i admire you even more because i realize at what inhuman price it had come to you.)
long story short, i'm in my late 40's, realized like many of us through internet that adhd might explain soooo many things doctors and shrinks weren't able to so far, and i've been BATTLING for the past few months to start the diagnostic journey here in france. that is after several years of hesitating, because i knew it was really hard to find someone who knows about adhd in adult women, to get an appointment, etc. it is so fucking, incredibly difficult here, but i know it' s unfortunately probably the same in most countries.
i've finally got one foot in the door, but i really feel for all the undiagnosed neurodivergents who have even more social anxiety, etc, because i was real close to just giving up.
i can only imagine that many people who are even less able to cope, and need help even more, are so much further from being able to get any help, because it takes soooo much courage and PERSEVERANCE (how fucked up is that ?! i don't know if i should have a laughing fit or cry at the absurdity... anyway.)
RAISING AWARENESS IS SO DAMN IMPORTANT !
you really got me with the copying entire books part, since i'm also trying to learn new stuff in I.T., although more on the techie side, and i try to do that (but i usually give up 1/3 of the way into the book, or more often, start 5 other books on related topics)... oh, man ! i'm so glad and grateful you're talking about this ! thank you thank you thank you !
i'm also very happy for you that you were able to get your answers, and early enough in your life. i'm gonna try and save whatever few years i still have ahead of me.
sending you much love and appreciation
never mind, i got it, this is a different channel, that's how i hadn't seen it ! :D
It's so incredible to hear from a longer-time viewer, wow! Hey! Thank you for watching and sharing your story, and I'm so, so sorry for taking this long to respond.
I think it's no coincidence that you found me and that I do really obsess with structure, routine, and organization. It might be because it comes so hard to us that we become the biggest experts on it. For others, it might just be second nature, right? But for us it's a bit of an uphill battle.
I was also really close to giving up, and I struggled for many years to push through the process, so I really feel your pain when you write it about it. It's so good to know that you are on the other side of it now, but as you say, there are TONS of neurodivergents out there, struggling with all kinds of issues that really can't push through the way this system is set up. It's infuriating.
Then there's the added pressure of nobody believing you, your family and friends "counseling" you, and just good old imposter syndrome. It takes a lot of perseverance, as you say.
I've taken it upon myself to talk about this and work on this channel as much as possible, and just having your support and kind words are all the motivation I need. Thank you! Please do keep in touch, feel free to e-mail me, Instagram me, whatever, with ideas, stories, or experiences, I'd love to hear them!
I believe our lives will become so different now that we're at this crossroads and I'm just so happy that you've got this far too. It's definitely not too late! Imagine living to a 100! You wouldn't want to be panicking at 40 looking back.
Also... vive le France! I hope to visit again someday soon!
I relate to this so much, I started medication which was my informal diagnosis with my psychiatrist of over 10 years, who had been suggesting it for so long. I didn't want to accept it, but it made so many of my struggles make sense
Hey
It's great to see that the topic finally gets some well deserves attention on RUclips as well. Thank you fof sharing your story and hopefully giving some advise and hope to the people that struggle the way you have.
Hey! I’ve been giving it some attention! :)
Wow, thank you for the incredible words of support ❤️
You do such an amazing job informing people about ADHD. I can’t describe how grateful I am to find you! Everything you’re saying in your videos 100% describes my situation. Thank you so much ❤
It is the first time I have heard of someone who writes down a whole book like me. Actually, that's the trigger that makes me look for a GP. I'm 33 years old, and I was diagnosed last year. Thanks for the content.
I'm 38, happily married to an amazing woman and mother of our two amazing kids, 10 and 14 years old. But...... I am a mess inside... And your first meeting with a psychologist last week. I'm pretty darn sure I have undiagnosed ADHD. I grew up kicked out of two different daycares at 3 years old, went to school never got that good of grades dropped out did psychedelic drugs in school among many other drugs ended up getting myself a six-page criminal record by the time I was in my mid 20s. I come from a family of divorced parents and I would go months sometimes half a year before I'd see my father. I do believe I have some major mental childhood trauma deeply rooted in my brain my mother put me in and out of psychologists since I was a little kid. I was on antidepressants for a little while in high school. Now I am 38 and everything's resurfacing and my family is having to deal with my roller coaster of emotions and I feel terrible. Much of this life doesn't even interest me anymore. I only want to watch my children grow and love my family but my mental issues are scaring me lately. The only thing that keeps me from leaving this place is the thought that I would inflict some sort of trauma on my family when I leave. I don't ever want anyone to hurt or have to deal with these issues that I deal with, so I will stick around and I will fight and I'm hoping to get on some meds for ADHD names of such a pace thought to thought it's almost impossible to do anything. I also hyper focus big time I will pick up a new hobby get really really good at it and be tired of it within a few months. Anyway that's a little bit of my story and I could use prayers please I love you guys and it's good to know I'm not the only one dealing with this
My story so far (don’t take example): self diagnosed adhd 4 years ago. Don’t start therapy and try to heal myself without meds. Let adhd destroy my life. Now I'm making the route to take the medicines. From what I understand it will take a lot of time to get them. In the meantime, I'm about to lose my job to ADHD. So I started buying Ritalin from a drug dealer. On Monday we will find out if it works (the doctor pointed me to that but he can't prescribe it to me). So at best I will spend 500 (50% of my salary) euros a month just to be able to keep my job and not go crazy and feel good. Stay tuned to this channel shit otherwise known as: My Life
Oh no! That's so sad! And self-medication can be risky, so make sure you get as much support as you can and be careful! I understand that the process can be frustrating and slow, but your health and safety are paramount. Please take care!
I had the exact same problems. Except I had a full blown melt down
I'm so sorry you had to go through that ❤️ I hope you are doing better now!
I was diagnosed half a year ago but never found relief from it, it boggles my mind how people can remember what they struggle with in the past, I cant do that. and they have those "aha" moments and clarity. and I know you said don't be afraid of finding out, but Ive been researching for a year now, and no, nothing clicks except for this symptom: inability to focus unless the task is interesting/stressful. I told my doctors but they said "im overthinking".. Ive ruled out all options and none is the answer, I only relate to half of this video. and I did find the answer as to why adrenaline helps me focus but not the 'why' I need it. Im denying it mainly because I dont want to be disabled and I truly dont resonate with most adhd people. It breaks my heart to see comments like "oh my god I cried, you just summarized my entire life" I really wish I'm like this but no, I Cant do anything in my life because I cant persist I want to drop out of college. but thank you for motivating me to still find the answer.
I'm really sorry about your struggles... Remember, everyone's experience with ADHD is unique, and it's okay if you don't resonate with every symptom or experience. It sounds like you're going through a tough time, and I encourage you to keep communicating with your doctor about your concerns. Don't lose hope, it's okay to seek a second opinion if you feel it's necessary!
@@AntoniasUniverse tysm! idk i'm getting a new doctor bc the one i have is incompetent, im also off meds now bc im trying to understand myself. its so hard bc im skeptical; i find it hard to believe anything unless someone gives me a brain scan. I think im also predominantly hyper for an adult and Russell Barkley dismissed that subtype entirely :(
@@ThiCC_Yoshupdate?
tears in my eyes as I watch this :(:(:(:(
I can't believe that there are psychologists in Germany who don't believe that ADHD exists. What in the world?
Yeah, me too. Germany looks very modern, but it struggles hard to move on from the past fast enough. Lots of bureaucracy :(
There's so much pseudoscience promoted here in the health sector. That's very unfortunate.
literally playing the sims whilst watching this video and eating dinner, jeeesus
OMG :D This was me SO OFTEN!! I see you!
my doctor doesnt believe i have adhd. im feeling very helpless atm. stressed and brain hurts
holy shit are you a programmer?