Becoming mentally tough
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The discomfort thing. Like I’m a freshman at college this year and I know NO ONE at my school as I’m 12 hours away from home. But you know what? By pushing myself out of my comfort zone, I have friends. I worked hard during finals and finished with all As. I joined a club. Like you just gotta do it. It know it’s terrifying. I know you’re scared as fuck. But once you take the leap of faith and trust yourself, you will see amazing growth. Like I still get super anxious all the time, but o also have more confidence saying “maybe I actually am good enough” and I think that’s enough for me. I know the process of changing a mindset is so hard because it’s comfortable staying in a destructive mindset. You know what to expect. With change, comes uncertainty. But to live free, you must embrace uncertainty.
💜💜💜 btw love the Jin pic
oof I don't have friends at college either, and I know I should get out of my comfort zone to get some but I feel too scared :(
Thank you for sharing your growth! I need to follow suit, I moved to a new city and have yet to make any friends or try to. Scared of the awkwardness aka discomfort that comes with meeting people -- but like you said, we just gotta do it. Thank you for inspiring me!
This is really good to hear.
I love this comment!! pushing yourself to put yourself out there and out of your comfort zone is a really hard thing to do, thank you for sharing this!!
"If you don't have any place to run, run in place."
Underrated quote
Yea... that was something else... amazing really 😂
bowflex videos
Ok
I was truly taken aback when she said like. I was like, “Damn. You got me there.” 😂
Deadass
Not sure why, but seeing someone else, especially just an average person rather than a fitness guru, exercise makes me motivated to exercise. I think it's the mentality of "if they can do it, I can do too"
She is a rich and famous person. That's hardly average.
and you have a huge problem dude
@@reneemore5222 not on her journey here. She wasn't loaded with cash, and she didn't really do anything majorly out of budget except for Steve, but she even gave that up. Fact check before posting.
@@lyramorales2020 lmao. You should look up how Alivia makes and how much atumobile costs. She did use that subscription on top of all the knowledge she gained while working out with him in person. You still wanna believe she is just like us average people? Go right ahead.
@@reneemore5222 Everyone's journey is different, don't compare ypur situation with others, do the best you can to be a better person without relying on others person's life
Anyone else revisiting after her recent video? Glad she found her self love
I actually came back to find her hate commenters...nd they were here 😢...m glad she's ok
I am revising as well, I keep telling my self that facing my fears, struggles makes me a tough person.
“You don’t stop when you’re tired, u stop when you’re done.” Someone get that through my thick skull.
You stop when you’re tired so that you can stay healthy, not fall into an obsessive negative relationship when working out, and build strength through recovery. Stop when you can’t do it anymore, don’t push against a certain limit just so that you can “finish” something.
@@Jojo-hy8dm oh this is true, I agree 100%. Rest is important. My problem is I’m the queen of procrastination LOL. I need to force my brain to do work even when I don’t feel like it. But again yessss
@@cherrygadamandla8594 yes rest is important, but you need to discover when you need to rest. If you use rest as an excuse to not push past your limits, changing is going to be something way down the road for you. The whole point of this journey is to really find out how much more you can do. how much more you can achieve. You don't stop when "you can't do it anymore". if that's how somebody's going to think, they need to change their mindset before they change themselves. Is tiredness really how far you can push? Become stronger through every ounce of pain and exhaustion. This is the only way to change💞🖤
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did that work? ;>
"Because if I'm not a good dancer, I can change and be a good dancer" that is something I really need to work on. I always stop doing things since I'm not good at it right away
i can’t explain how much i love this girl. she shows her downfalls and everything that goes on behind the camera.
I love her!!
Suddenly we all remembered her and got surprised that she hasn't uploaded in two years. Her birthday was a few days ago and she said on her instragram that she has been documenting the last year and is going to post it to finish her glow up diaries:)
Yay!!
Ohh I hope she posts the update!!
She then deleted it and deleted it from her bio too.
@@sofiabruiz17im not even surprised
@@MIMINOSECIt’s not easy. Hope she’s alright. What’s her @
Alivia seriously Thank you for making this.
พี่พิมวา🥺
For real
drive.google.com/file/d/1z4AhXMsfRhR-CfaHrJOjXOcU5e4QXXLl/view?usp=sharing
0:36 Yes! There's so much to appreciate about Alivia's work, including this: "If you don't have a place to run, run in place." I laughed out loud hearing it but it makes so much sense! 😂
this series is no joke the best thing that has ever happened to me
I couldn't agree more. I haven't felt this motivated to take care of me in a while. Gen/ I look forward to new videos.
I’m glad she found something that works for her. Personally, every time I go full out and work out like crazy like that, I spiral as soon as I get discouraged. For me, starting slow has saved me. Doing little things and being proud of those things makes me want to do more. I’m happy and getting stronger every day
Its the exact same for me, our way of improving is also valid :)
Me too. I started off with smaller/shorter workouts and have been slowly working my way up 😊
@@sydneym-y thats amazing, good Job:)
Cos my mental health was all over the f*cking place, I started real small. I found something somewhere on the internet that said "Doing something half-assed is better than not doing it at all". So I started with making a list of each exercise I wanted to do, then I did one of each of these everyday. Then I increased it to two. Then three.
This approach also helped me in many other areas, and if I fall into a slump again, I start from the beginning, and then I gain control over my life again, slowly. Works really well. Hehe.
Same! Its easier for me to stick with it if i do it every day which means i cant go all out or else i'll be too sore the next day to do anything
In case you’re still reading here, I don’t care about a Glow Up Dairies movie, but desperately miss your creative film-making. You are so talented. Hope you are healing and able to rejoin us again in the future. ❤
Agree
She’s done with the editing! The movie will be up soon and then the dating diaries and the rest! I’m very excited
@@yerushalisanne I saw her IG Live! Very exciting. Just hope she’s ok. ❤️
@@misse7095 yes, same here! I hope she can develop / has developed a healthy relationship with editing video’s again :)
People as sweet as you deserve the world, you dropped that comment to show you genuinely cared even before she posted the video talking about everything
I don’t care what anyone says, the amount of effort she has put in this season is incredible. You are amazing and YOU ARE HELPING SO. MANY. PEOPLE.
LITERALLY
Agree!
everyone agrees that the amount of effort she has put in this season is incredible
Doesn't change the fact that a lot of the things Steve said in ep2 were harmful
@@ThelouwseFD Mhm, and very false. Other than that, amazing season.
@@ThelouwseFD how was It harmful?
the amount of confidence and dedication this girl has is truly inspiring.
This makes me wanna record my own glow up diaries. Not to post anywhere but for my own self to watch my growth. Just me? Ok
I'm literally maintaining a diary for a mental and physical glow up. Go for it!!! The best part is that you won't have to think about other's opinions in your space, it's just YOU.
Omg me too
Me too
Record it. It really helps..
I’m doing this too!😀😄 only for myself but its helping
bullshit, that will only fuck you up. you can considerate yourself tough, stronger, whatever today but when you have a relapse, it’ll be the worst day of your life. please guys, build a health relationship with your body and mind 🥰❤️🕊
You were kind of on to something, look at her most recent video. Im very proud of her.
@@xxSimpleCxx my english was so bad at that time lmao. anyways, what i meant to say was that in the moment the video was released she felt tougher and mentally stronger but in the moment she relapsed, gain weight or whatever, she would feel like the worst person ever, because she was pushing herself too hard and beating herself up to achieve a goal, her mindset was the least healthy ever to the point it was scary to me. the whole time in the video i was thinking “what the hell does this girl is talking about, things aren’t done that way, she’ll eventually burnout, i can see it coming, nobody should treat themselves like this, that’s such a nonsense”
@@emillyazevedo1669 Yup, ese mindset puede funcionar de vez en cuando para ciertos acontecimientos, como prepararse para un examen importante, pero a la larga es imposible mantenerlo. Y justo la pérdida de peso y un cuerpo sano son una carrera larga, basicamente, todo lo que vas a vivir. Así que conviene tomarselo con calma y no irse a los extremos.
She doesn't even know how many people she is helping... It's crazy and I adore her.
it’s crazy how much she’s changed my life
@The Beast Can I know in what way she is harming people so I can be aware of it too?
@@pikymyy4567 Didn't she say she didn't have an ed? But basically shows the signs of having an ed
@The Beast but you dont have too watch it its her diary
@The Beast you’re stupid
I love when sometimes screen is black when she is talking. That way we can see ourselves on the screen and think about ourselves and motivate ourselves. 💕
Yep
Then I just cringe at my double chin from looking down.
@@tinytuzi8167 SAME😭
@@tinytuzi8167 yeah ...it happens with me too
Mental Health: Striving to be happy, self-confident, self- awake, and resilient. People who are emotionally healthy are able to cope with life’s challenges and recover from setbacks.
So true!
I agree! Though also I wouldn't say the goal is to be happy - rather accepting your emotions as they are and accepting that sometimes things don't go your way (which leads to more happiness in the end since you're not dwelling on negative emotions)
@Yana R yeaa
@@yana.rya_____ that’s what she said
Hey God loves u all don't forget that
i genuinely wonder how she's doing now, hope she's well
UPDATE 15TH APRIL
A message to the viewers so you can better understand me and the delays of this film:
1. I am a creator who just about a month ago healed my toxic patterns with content creation that began in 2018 when I started the glow up diaries.
Last year I announced that I would release a film as the final piece for the glow up diaries. I loved the idea of a final video telling my full story from start to finish. But I had two battles at that time that I was unaware of.
The first battle was that I could not figure out what the message of this film was. I wrote hundreds of pages and it was just a giant mess. I was so frustrated and didn't know why I struggled to see what the message of my film was. I now see that I was not ready to tell my story at that time because I had not discovered many of the solutions to my problems yet. It was like I had only lived through 70% of my story. In order for my story to make sense - I had to have answers and those answers were in the last 25% of my story.
The second battle was my toxic relationship with content creation. I was feeling pressure from viewers and others to release this so I'd give a date. And I'd tell myself that I would somehow make it work and release the film. I thought somehow external pressure would help but it did not. It backfired and only made activated my old toxic pattern of avoidance.
I'm not going to get into the details of this
toxic relationship and why it held me back so much. But what you should know is that I have experienced massive healing with being a RUclipsr. Making videos became trauma of it's own for me and it's something I had to overcome. I am deeply sorry for everyone that I have let down. I am sorry that my toxic patterns affected you guys in negative way. Remember the glow up diaries isn't a tv show.
It's my real life and it's a amateur 22 year old girl producing this whole thing. I had no idea going into this how I'd end up on a toxic glow up journey and then having to become aware of my toxic ways, heal from that and then understand my healing so clearly that i can make a film that connects all the broken pieces scattered throughout these last 5 years
I will end with this
1. I am excited to discover my potential as a content creator and what more I can create
and upload in a timely manner now that I have healed
2. Current status update: I am almost halfway through with the film
3. The film won't be 20minutes long. The reason why I considered 20min was because someone whose option I value pointed out a short attention span of people however then I decided that 20min was too short.
It will be 25-30min
Lastly thanks for those who have left comments this past year. It has played a big role in my healing process.
Thank u for the few people who still care about Glow up diares. I've been told by many people online and in my life how I'm irrelevant at this point cuz I haven't posted in 2 years
Ik that but relevancy was never my goal.
My goal was always impact and it comes through high quality content.
I'm glad I waited cuz now I can release a film with answers i believe can change some lives.
@@sonakollarova86662-3 years to make a 30 minute film featuring only her. She needs to reconsider her career choices. She's talented but lacks focus and is unwilling to accept her deep seated issues with food. Always looking for a quick fix. Diet. Hollywood trainer. This is where she ends up every time. Back to square one. Healing isn't glamorous. Healing is slow and painstaking. Healing may not make for good content but she needs it. Until she gets better, this will always be her pattern.
@@aoutsky she keeps yoyoing with her weight and mental health, she needs a good psycologist
@@aoutsky Dang you're so negative
@@GabrielaSanchez-qn9my it's not negative so much as realistic (negative would be saying something she's a failed artist etc.). She has many deep-seated issues surrounding food that have never healed. She found a method to achieve her goals to lose weight, but never truly dealt with what led her to this place. Most eating disorders and mental issues revolving around food take up to 10 years to full recover from (and that's WITH therapy)
I hope this last part involves her speaking to someone, because she would benefit immensely from it.
"You don't stop when you're tired, you stop when you're done." - that hit me haha
Just be careful not to push yourself towards burnout. Take a break if you really need it. :)
Stop only if you think your actual going to hurt yourself. But I'd honestly love that quote on a workout top or something.
That sentence is pretty toxic if not used correctly. Working too much is not what humans were designed to do especially in terms of work
“That really hurts, that means I’m growing.”
-Alivia D’Andrea, 2021.
We are all here because we are going through this together. Best of luck to everyone :3
I'm just going to start my glow up and your comment makes me a little bit more confident about this journey!
Thank you
@@annasergeeva6790 ME TOO
You too
Thanks bro
Just watched her documentary video,so happy that she could make it
“You only think you’re a certain way because you have evidence of it. When you step outside of your comfort zone, you are creating a new story about yourself to believe in.” I love this Alivia!!
Thank u :’ )
@@aliviadandrea same!!
Can we note that in her low moment the camera's battery started filling up when she started to speak kinder to herself :')
yesss I knowww
Apparently during the whole series the battery represented her mental state. It went all the way back to the beginning.
Jesus cares for you
@@JesusChristWon nah please shut up.
"I dont care if you don't have a home gym"
Damn she called me out on my excuses in less than 1 minute.
lol, ive been running outside for the past 2 months, and now we have a snow storm and Im trapped at home... been running in place 5-8 minutes every hour. Can still push my heart rate up just as high!
we have a home gym, using it is the issue. Our treadmill is a clothes hanger.
damn you woman. got me invested in a channel that hasnt been updated in years!!!
she posted again
POV: ur an absolute badass who is going to achieve their dream self this year physically AND mentally ✨
Hopefully ✨✨✨
@@1208-w2u no its not hopefully its DEFINITELY periodt. 🌝
Thank you! This is so motivating ✨
Thank you! This is making me feel so much better 🥺
🥺❤️
“If it doesn’t work, make it work”
I need this on my wall.
The thing is we do have excuses, not enough time or money is usually the problem. We gotta make time and eat wisely and plan for the day.
I've always been scared of what other people think of me, my image: socially, physically and mentally. But I'm sick of being stuck in this miserable cycle of 'I shouldn't do this thing because what will others think of me' or worse 'I'm expected to do this thing because society tells me I should'. I'm done with pleasing others. The only path to true happiness is if I feel happy with my own actions, my own thoughts and I STOP pandering to others. And these are all within my control!
This is what I needed going into February Alivia, I'm so grateful for you and your videos, they resonate with me so much!
Just remember, whenever you feel like worrying about what others think of you, that you are in control of your reaction to what they think of you. So if they think negative thoughts towards you, or talk down to you, you can’t control what they think or say. But you can control how you react to what they are thinking/saying about you.
I love to look at them with compassion, give them a big smile, and remember that they are human too. Even the ones who judge others make mistakes of their own, and feel self conscious sometimes.
I'm almost in tears, seriously. No one really tells you that you can actually change your set point weight, no one tells you you the friggin' importance of a healthy mindset. Thank you, Alivia, for showing me that there is hope when you believe in yourself.
2021 IS OUR YEAR EVERYONE KEEP GOING THIS TIME WE ARE NOT GIVING UP!!
@thank u em very cool let’s get it queen 👑
Yesss
Lemme give you a virtual hug! Thank you, a stanger on the internet, for believing in me
Yes queen!
Thanks! This is such a mace reminder!
“You don’t stop when you’re tired,you stop when you’re done”
- David Goggins
True!
This is a nice platitude but sometimes you need to listen to your body. Especially when exercising. Sometimes if you don't listen to your body and push yourself too hard, that's when you get injuries. It's a balancing act.
You need to listen to your body first. Stop when you're tired, rest' then continue. Pushing your body more than it can take isn't healthy.
@@jarjardaze2485 Exactly! Your body will have no energy for building muscle if it's busy repairing injuries all the time. Or just exhausted and conserving energy because you've pushed it too far. If you don't respect your body first and foremost, you won't get positive results.
@@jarjardaze2485 good point!
I really wish people could understand that this isn't a step by step guide, it's literally a diary. What worked and didn't work for her, on a delay of over a year! She isn't telling people to go out and train with a celebrity trainer, she is sharing an experience she was lucky to receive. Was she just supposed to leave that part out and let everyone believe that her results came from false sources? Why is her journey suddenly invalid because she is in a place of privilege, which she has never kept secret?
You all were complaining last episode about how the glow up diaries has become just about food but this episode hardly mentioned food or really weight loss at all, and now everyone is mad that she's not addressing all the upset last week, even though it's very likely that these are edited and scheduled in a way that doesn't allow for last minute changes or additions. Not to mention that, whether you like or agree with what she said, she did post a separate video addressing last week so what else was she supposed to do?
I'm not saying that her relationship with food isn't concerning, but while she gives tips and advice based on what does and doesn't work for her never does she say that this is a step by step guide for people to follow and duplicate. She's still very young and when you have such a rough relationship with food like alivia (and I personally do think she struggles with an ed, but I'm not her or her doctor so it's not my place to say with any certainty) you tend to latch on to any kind of program or lifestyle that makes you feel less out of control. She mentioned talking to a specialist in her apology (I think in the video but it may have been the community post?) So I'm hoping that she is getting help from a professional.
Really I just want to know why her struggle is only inspiring when it fits the soft and fluffy narrative of learning to love yourself, but when she shows the very real process, which is not fluffy or soft, and includes a lot of self hatred, misinformation that we've all been fed at one point, and slipping up, suddenly she's a dangerous threat to any children and ed sufferers who may watch her content to trigger themselves (Noah fence but if im gonna trigger myself I'm gonna watch a mukbang compilation or anything from TLC).
You can't praise her for being real and raw with showing her full journey but then get upset and angry when her life doesn't go the way you want it to, as quickly as you want it to. If you want a cut and dry, clearly faked glow up, go watch any of the hundreds that are out there acting like lemon water and waking up at 5am was all it took to completely change their lives and it was the easiest thing in the world. Because clearly the novelty of her realism has worn off for a lot of you.
People are never happy. They have to find something to bitch about. I watched Episode 1 and ordered the book. She is an inspiration and people might just learn something from her.
I totally agree with all you said. I’m GLAD she shows all the hardships and everything that comes with it. Because it reminds me, how deep you may fall just get up and tell yourself you CAN and it WILL get better. I relate to this series so much, and it inspires me so deeply to persevere and find the healthy ways that keep me alive and thriving and make me feel better about myself. So yes exactly, we do met get to pick and choose what parts of her to love. She is out here doing stuff most people would not have the guts for, and she is a queen for being so honest and insightful.
THIS!!!! LOUDER!!!!!!
PREACH!!!!!!!!!!! Thank you!
Thank you! I totally agree and couldn't have said it better myself!
If you’re uncomfortable to the point where your body is telling you to stop and take it easy, that’s your turn to listen.
THANK YOU, someone finally said this. Yes it's good to step out of your comfort zone and grow, and most people really need to do that more, BUT if your body is saying no, then no. If you need an occasional break then take it. It is toxic to call that a weakness and beat yourself up for it. Constantly being in pain and in discomfort is not healthy, and not sustainable for most out there, especially long term (which is what we should be striving for, long term healthy lifestyle). The part you should work on is not being outside of your comfort zone purely, it's finding a good balance between being in and out of it.
@@anonymous4244Wheres your vid or book about it? She’s sharing a solution that worked for her. That snapped her out of a cyclic mentality. It has to be drastic to work. Lots of critique and no solutions.
the "because if I'm not a good dancer, i can change and be a good dancer" felt so motivating! I've always loved dancing but i wasn't that good at it. i have been dancing almost every day for the past three years and i have definitely improved A LOT, so for those who think they can't be good at something because at the beginning they weren't, you can do it!!!
Thanks so much for this!
@J W i believe in you! good luck 💖
@@myrandomlife101 there's no need to thank me 🥺 i know sometimes we tend to think that way but that's because we don't trust ourselves enough
"coronavirus... so i'm not touching"
omg this is me the whole time whenever i'm going outside
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
hi moomoo ✨🥺
@@apolline9910 omg u a moomoo too? omg hiii c:
@@wtfoji yesss!!! it's the first time i saw one under a video like this lol😭
"find a way to make it work"
"there is always a way"
"confidence shouldnt be when you look a certain way"
"you are not bound to an identity"
"the past does not equal the future"
the fact that this was only the INTRO
If this never gets to be a Netflix documentary, I’m raging. ✌️😩
This would be the #1 spot.
It didn't. I'M RAGING
Netflix doesn't deserve her tho!!!
She can also do the scripts by herself. This kid must have read a lot, I can feel that.
The Glow Up Diaries was SCRIPTED.
She planned the whole thing. It's just like acting in a series. She was skinny before, got fat, ugly or whatever. Filmed it, edited it and made it somewhat emotional for young girls. There was no glow up. The purpose of this series was not help or inspire people. She did all these just to EARN MONEY. JUST that. Yes it should be on Netflix because it's all acting 🥱. Relatable queen my f o o t. It was just a sad soap opera. Every episode was negative and destructive. It didn't teach anything. It was just "The Struggle Diaries" NOT the "Glow the f up" diaries. The title is misleading. The series is COMPLETELY misleading.
i really like this video's message much more than the last one! Like many others, I was really worried where the series was heading but I somehow knew that this episode was going to go more into the mental side of things rather than just the aesthetics. Even though I know she put so much more cinematographically speaking into the previous video, I much prefer this style - it's just so much more "unapologetically Alivia"
“Don’t focus on the problem focus on the solution”
- some doctor
Some dorctor 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
There are no problems in life, it’s just a situation waiting for it’s time to fall into place. It’s our mind that makes a problem out of it, because we are resisting and want that situation to fall into place right now. So the key to overcome this is to live in the now, the present. And this is something you have to train, because your mind will always try avoid the now.
"We are not the problem, we are the solution"
-my therapist
Can we please talk about it that even though she is "falling" multiple times, she stands up over and over again and she is so real in front of the camera (like honestly I wouldn't be able to do that) Alivia please let no one take that from anyone!!!
yessss
Even though I am overweight and wanna glow up and I tried so hard, but didn’t succeed you were the reason I tried harder. Thank you.❤
Have you succeeded?
I can‘t believe that the girl who taught me how to do the splits back in the day is now teaching me how to love my body and work on my mindset
We love seeing the growth !!!
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Alivia makes me feel a thing she makes me feel proud of myself and she makes me feel empowered .
She's the source of my confidence .
she's such a role model .
she shows how even the toughest person can sometimes break down , it might take a break , or a cry but a tough person always gets back up and starts their journey again . so hey if anyone is reading this just remember you're tougher than your problems.
same feeling here!
❤️❤️
Okay I'm shocked ? I didn't expect it to come out this quickly
Yeah same!
Think it’s prob due to too many hate comments and ppl criticising when it hasn’t even fully been released
I’m so happyn
@@LivingAsTasha yeah I was thinking the same thing too.
@@LivingAsTasha yup
*F.E.A.R. has two meaning....Forget everything and run or Face everything and rise. The choice is yours* -unknown
You were born to be real not perfect and remind yourself it’s okay not to be perfect- Min Yoongi
They will judge me in the end anyway, so whatever- Min Yoongi
No one is born ugly, we were just born in a judge-mental society - Kim Namjoon
Fear also means: F.alse E.vidence A.ppearing as R.eal !!!
Here are quotes I came up with too:
1. *I'm not born to be a mini version of other people; I'm born to be a better version of myself*
2. *Failure happens when we ignore and don't acknowledge our achievements and instead we compare ourselves to others*
3. *It's not my job to be everything to everyone, because no matter how I look like people will never be satisfied of my success*
For Everything A Reason
a masterpiece 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
👏
Omggggg!
oh my hi!
Helloooo! Love your videos ♥
Omg it’s official she has made it I thought she was amazing before this but now no one can change my mind the queen 👸 has spoken.
This girl doesn't realise how many lives she is changing
And I am one of them
Same here :))
True
@@alexeliz75 true
@@alexeliz75 so damn bitter lol you took her words quite literally
“ordinary human beings can chose to be extraordinary in their own way”
this is insane how you're helping so many people. i don't know how to thank you
GLOW UP DAIRES SHOULD BE A NETFLIX MOVIE OR SERIES PERIOD.
No
Yesssss
Why?
Can people stop saying this its so annoying
Yesssss
“Coronavirus, so i’m not touching” Lol
As she should 😌
LMAOO
@teesta edited 😅
I think the mental glow up is what a lot of us have followed the Glow Up Series for, a body “glow up” is just a wonderful side effect of building a healthy relationship with food, exercise, yourself, your body, etc ❤️❤️❤️
Agree! Glowing up needs to start from within.
I came for the desire to change my body, even though it does not need to change.
I stayed for the mental glow up, as I find that more important than the physical one.
I agree with this comment!
"I'm on this earth to have a good time, not to be seen as cool."
i want both >:)
Honestly, she's one of the realest person I follow. She's transparent. Unlike other youtubers who shows us the image they want to portray. She's so inspiring and I'm loving her!
YES completely agree! love seeing other youtubers who make their videos v raw & genuine
@@sophiayuna yas girl! We stan genuine! ❤
As someone who worked their ass of working 2 part-time jobs and going to university I can say that pushing yourself is nice and all but listen to your body or else you might spend a year in the hospital recovering from stress related issues.
No fun, trust me.
facts
Absolutely- that is how burnout and chronic fatigue happens and it is not fun!! Definitely important to keep fit and healthy, but equally important to listen to your body
U have to listen to your body, but not keeping in a comfort zone forever. u know what I mean? Always be careful with what you're doing but push to the limit.
Sorry if I say something wrong english is not my birth language 👉🏽👈🏽
Yeah I‘m gonna be discussing this in therapy 😂🙈
Thanks for this comment! Need it for before I make the decision to do the same
I'm an only child, sensitive, anxiety since kindergarten - I've lived my life to avoid everything that could be uncomfortable for me. The gym changed me and together with a therapist I could realize how much I was setting myself back in life. I want so many things, and for the first time, I can actually go out there to do them. Recognize the patterns that are setting yourself back.
That's so great ! Proud of you 💙
YES! Same
I was a super sensitive kid growing up as well and didn’t participate in sports or anything physical. Always weak and meek. When I got to college I started running and lifting and those made me more confident in other aspects of my life as well. Exercise does wonders for the mind. :)
@@shamanlilac260 absolutely! I started working out my last year of high school so I went into university with a new mindset and newly gained confidence. We owe it to ourself to live life to the fullest. Okay, a pandemic is making that a bit harder, but taking down all the mental barriers is so freeing!
I'm an only child too and relate, well done for your growth!💜
10:40 her smile here, is EVERYTHING.
For those who need this: Discomfort isn't ALWAYS a method of growth. If your friends, SO, or anything close to you make you feel uncomfortable that is not okay. That isn't a method of growth. That is a crappy support circle. If you're in constant pain after working out or eating stuff, remember to check if it's your form causing the pain (or maybe an allergy if it's food based).
Doing thinks you find hard can help you grow as a person, but there is absolutely nothing wrong with having a comfort zone and making people respect it. Maybe the hard thing is to stop saying it's 'okay' when it isn't.
(I know that's not what Alivia is saying in the video, but I just wanted to put that out here bc I know me 5 years ago probably needed to hear it)
Thank you for this
Yes. Context is everything
I found this comment
Here’s my list of 7 tasks that make me uncomfortable:
1- running- I was a runner and did a half marathon in first lock down and i find it so hard to get out in the winter now
2- cold shower - I don’t want to do this one but it’s something I find SO HARD
3- stretching splits- I always pussy out cos it hurts
4- practising violin - I stopped playing a couple years ago and I’ve been telling myself I want to carry on and never have
5- not checking my phone until at least after I’m up and had breakfast
6- not smoking- something I need to change!
7- being kind to myself and my body :)
All the best!! You can and you will. I believe in you.
Good luck with it dear 🎉
Take it easy one thing at Time
You know u got it
I play violin too, and I also keep telling myself I'm gonna practice but never do...
@@shreyaredkar9983 thank you!!
@@mitalishinde6843 thank youu !!
“Tough people are not built in easy situations.” 🥺 🙌
I love how she documented how she trained her mind as well. I was just having a hard week feeling disappointed over my progress.
While it’s important to push yourself to build discipline, you have to listen to your body during fitness otherwise you will end up with an injury. I started running and with this same mindset ended up messing my foot up so bad I now can’t run for 3 months and have $400 of physio bills. It’s not so bad because I’m in Canada, but I can only imagine how expensive X-rays, physio, and medication would be if I lived in the US. Just be careful and if something hurts it’s better to stop and continue another day.
Same, except knee pain. And since I live in the U.S., my ten-minute chat with the orthopedist cost ~$350 (before insurance, $200+ deductible).
yes very important! push your body but always exercise intuitively- especially as a beginner! xx
same. i ran for like an hour off the bat on like 10 speed for 3 weeks and then couldn’t run for months cause of injury and i’m literally scared now🥲
Yeah, I feel like she’s really encouraging people to ignore their body. It’s not bad to stop, if that is what your body is telling you, because it’s on your side most of the time. When she ran up the hill and was so tired and then did it again, I was so worried.
@@gcool6707 Exactly. Pushing your limits is good, and I like the "push past your 40%" mentality. But pushing yourself until you puke or are in pain (and not just sore) can be harmful. "Pain is just weakness leaving your body" ... no, that's discomfort. Pain, actual pain, is a warning. To quote an article:
"'Nausea is a warning sign,' says Anthony Wall, director of professional education at the American Council on Exercise. 'There are a few things that can cause nausea during a workout. One is a full stomach, which isn’t much of a cause for worry. Another is dehydration, when an imbalance of the body’s electrolytes can cause vomiting. [...] The risk for vomiting from extreme exercise, specifically, comes from working so intensely that the body can’t get enough oxygen to fuel its muscles, leading to a build-up of the waste product lactate. [...] Nausea can also, in rarer cases, be a symptom of rhabdomyolysis-in which damaged muscles break down, and their protein enters the bloodstream."
So if the goal is to be healthy, then doing something that potentially damages your body isn't something to wear like a badge of pride. And to quote a different article, "No one wants to walk through (or smell) your rancid vomit." That being said, I'm all for healthy ways of pushing our limits.
When you started talking about how what others think doesn´t matter, girl, that empowered me so much.
Swear to God, my whole life I've been complaining about not having a friend to motivate me for doing my best and now I realised. You've been here always for me.
Don't depend on others to motivate you. Motivate yourself, cause at the end of the day you are the only one who is really there for yourself
Friends can come and go, as can anyone in life. You need to learn to rely on and motivate yourself, to build yourself up, because even when there are others around you to do that, it doesn’t mean they’ll always be there. You are the only constant in your own life, so be your own best friend. 💛
I always come back to this video when I am feeling low. This video gives me strength and hope. It motivates me. It makes me want to continue. I can’t thank you enough for this. When I need a push in the right direction and a mindset change, then I watch this.
YAAAAASSSSS I CAN'T WAIT FOR THE NOTES IMA TAKE FROM THIS ONE
📝📝📝📝😌✨
@@ibeingmonalisa 📝🥺🥺❤️❤️❤️
Hi sisterrrr
@@ibeingmonalisa I have my pen and paper ready!
For real🥺❤
Well... honestly: this was my FAVORITE episode of glow up diaries season 2 since! :) I love all of Alivia's content, but somehow this video was super super motivating and uplifting, thank you!!
“You can’t hurt me.”
Just started reading can’t hurt me.
how is it so far
How is it
Same girl✌
@Caro Falsett thank you!
It’s the fact that even on her saddest moments .. she tried even harder than her last action it’s amazing how she might be inspiring people! I love you and your channel x
I learned the exact opposite the last years: if you go too hard on yourself, especially the first day you will not do it again or even hurt you.
yes , your mind connects bad emotions
It is, people has been saying I am too harsh on myself and overthink stuff a lot. I learned to take it easy and it's okay to take a break
@@kumarules118 yeah if you're harsh and have unrealistic expectations. You can't make yourself to get straight As, or study 10hours a day. But what you can do is make yourself do your best.
I think a lot of her tips are super helpful and her mindset is a goal mindset, but she went 100% from day 1 and unfortunately a lot of us can do day 1 but be too sore on day 2 and end up giving up super early. The key is to take her tips and mindset and apply it in small amounts at first and develop some habits slowly. Consistency is WAY more important than amount of effort. As long as you keep going, you can expect things to get easier as time goes on
But its not like its stopping you from doing it again? Yes maybe because its discomfort then your MIND tells you to not go there again BUT ITS ALL ABOUT MINDSETTTTT
You know how I know that even in her lowest moments she still had hope she was gonna achieve her body/mind goals? Because she kept filming, If she lost hope she would have stoped, but she knew that one day she WILL use all of this footage because she WILL achieve her goals and be able to make this series. It's awesome to see how much hope and will she had even in her darkest moments when it seemed like it was gone. proud of her :)
Luv and luve :)
The world needs this series, Alivia. You are truly inspiring. I see you’ve received mixed reviews on these videos but I truly applaud you for your vulnerability. It’s amazing to see the internal transformation.
You’re capacity for honesty and vulnerability is amazing and inspiring
*Your
I just had a good crying session over my body and went on youtube to find this video uploaded a minute ago
I think it's a sign
i hope you are feeling much better, i definitely have had days like this but i feel as if in the past month i've been trying to get into jogging on a clear field and reading more which has helped a lot with my mind, i also got into crochet recently and started listening to school literature videos whilst doing that so i can multitask it, whatever you are going through you will get out of it much better, i believe in you
I just came from an All You Can Eat Buffet and I’ve been thinking about how I hate how my body looks. One day at a time!
Watch the part in this episode where I talk about OWNING my body! :)
Yeah things like those happen to me too.I was also feeling a little low today.
same
And Alivia had the AUDACITY to say this episode won’t be as good as the other two??? Girl I’m motivated af right now 😭
You said that this episode wasn’t as cinematic and well-edited as the last but actually you put so much effort into this and it’s really interesting to watch! Like I don’t mind either style of editing both are awesome
I’m glad to run into her channel as I am going through a depression/ getting back in shape after 2 long years of letting myself go. I’m waiting for her update… I hope she’s doing well ❤
I used to be a gymnast... never Olympic level, but I was 11 years old (in level 7) and crying basically every night because the sport hurt me, my coaches' words hurt me, my teammates' words hurt me, and my parents' words hurt me. I found you about a year ago and you've really inspired me to get up after falling off the uneven bars :)
...and I ended up winning the last meet of my competition season. 💪
Congratulations 🎉
Congrats💙🎉
so happy for you! by commenting this you are inspiring others (including me)!
'Corornavirus'
'So I'm not touching'
this really got me
To me too
i can’t imagine how annoying it was to put all those cameras up for the running montage
no literally i’ve been thinking this since the first season🧍🏽♀️
OMG I was literally thinking the same thing LOLL
ikr lol
I feel like she isn’t saying that being skinny is the most important thing like everyone keeps commenting. I think she’s just trying to say getting better mentally as well as physically is the most important no matter if you’re skinny or not
tHIIIISSS. the feeling of being happy and healthy with your life, nourishing your body and be happy and calm with that
@@Shrinedgrimp exactly dude. Like she is not just doing this to change her weight she’s doing this to help her life entirely
people hate skinny women so they will twist any situation into something problematic to throw hate
This. The skinny tends to come naturally with improved fitness and mental health.
You just don’t understand the power of mental toughness because you’re to scared to give up your weak mentality. Alivia is conquering herself more than 99% of people end up doing in their lifetime
“Succeeding is not about getting it right the first time but, trying after the fist time until you think you have succeeded”-everything we do is baced off our thoughts you think what you do so before u try something think...do I rlly believe in my self?
Edit: I’m so confused it’s been a day and I have this many likes? Ty
This episode has been such an eye-opener for me, as someone who’s constantly avoiding things that scare me/cause me pain, I realized that the only way for me to grow and become a better version of myself is to face them. 💪😤
Glow up diaries OG and revisit have been the most inspiring and encouraging series I've watched. Seeing you overcome your struggles and fight your sugar demons is empowering.
I still go back and watch them when I need to motivate myself.
Thank you for sharing this part of yourself ❤
this girl has to start a podcast! I would listen to it every single day!!!
I heard she's starting one after the Glow Up series ends.
@@mercurialthrills9011 oh my god yay! thanks for letting me know!!
i think she also said she wanted to write a book
@@prathika2945 that’s so cool!! do you know what it would be about?
@@amiramiller-muro8579 i wish i did, but i don't think she's gotten to the specifics yet. but i'll quote what she said on her twitter post so you know
"I want to release a book after Glow up Diaires season 2 is over. Kind of backwards since movies are usually made after a book has been released haha
Btw I am releasing a podcast after glow up diaries season 2 :)"
she hasn't said anything else on her twitter about this, but maybe she did on her Instagram?
Some of my favourites:
"Tough people are not built in easy situations"
"You don't stop when you're tired, you stop when you're done"
"It's easier doing it when you want to do it (when you start) but when it really counts is when you want to give up."
In my opinion the most inspirational video 🌆🪐
The amount of people that alivia helped ❤️
These video's are honestly changing my life and helping me overcome my sugar addiction. I never admitted that I had a problem with sugar, but after seeing your vulnerability and your struggle....I admitted it out loud to my husband and it felt so freeing.
Aw 💜💜 doing well now?
First thing I'm doing that makes me uncomfortable: commenting on RUclips. I never do it, but here I go!Your nephew has grown so much since season 1! So cute! Thank you for your videos Alivia they have helped me so much! I'm also so grateful that you keep posting and aren't letting all the negativity stop you!! I actually bought Can't Hurt Me today and I had a stranger stop me while I was contemplating getting it and they told me how great it was and to not hesitate to get it. I took it as a sign and got it 😊 Also! Could you please do a video of what you eat in a day?
👏👏👏 I admire you for pushing out of your comfort zone by commenting on this video. It can be so tough sometimes, but worth it to put yourself out there.
OMG I THOUGHT I WAS STUPID FOR HAVING THAT INSECURITY!!! Like I comment on videos now but even now I re read it and ask myself if I should or not multiple times,and often times I just don't but I'm going to be more confident with what I have to say even if it sounds stupid in my head; also I'm so proud of you for pushing yourself out of your comfort zone( ◜‿◝ )♡
Heyyy same here, but after reading your comment, i thought of doing the same so here I am:)
GIRRLLL when she said "I'm proud" after that run I had the biggest smile on my face!
i really admire all the effort in this series and in your growth, but just adding that hurt and discomfort isn't always good and doesn't always mean growth - listen to your body and mind aswell, sometimes it just means that something isn't right for you or that you're overpushing it(:
I think she’s referring to hitting the ground running with running and intensive workouts which for anyone overweight or out of shape getting into would find it highly uncomfortable at the start and you get stronger from it.
Well obviously if you get injured it’s not good lmao
You are totally right, but for her I think it was the key because what made her not confident was the fact that she wasn’t even trying and she had a low pain tolerance. I also think that it is much more positive to tell yourself: “wow you’re doing great keep doing it” than “I am in pain I don’t want to do this anymore, this is bad and I’m never going to make it”.
However, I do believe in what you say that if you’re a perfectionist and get everything done and you overpush your boundaries everyday, maybe your problem is that you’re not taking care of yourself and thinking about your happiness, aka not finding balance and compensating the tough things with nice and happy things.
@@oepcjshe8eiofuh42h85 I absolutely agree with all of that! I think my point partly comes from my own experience that sometimes when you start from a low confidence point there's just this danger of ending up on the other side of the coin - where you end up being too hard on yourself, pushing yourself too far in an effort to achieve more or even in fear of giving in to your previous 'lazy' self. When I saw this video I got a bit of the impression (but that may just be because of my own experiences) that it was also going that way in the video, so that's mostly why i felt the need to post the comment for anyone who might need to hear it. Because as you said, to find happiness and confidence it is also just really important to find a good balance with these things :)
"When we hit our lowest point, we are open to the greatest change."
Omg YES SLAY
It's that an atla reference I sense
@@cuzwhynot253 YEAA
i’m so early but i just wanted to say we’re all so proud of you and i’m really glad i get to join the journey with you!!
Is it just me that likes working out because of the pain or discomfort and feeling like you are not lazy
nop
Same!!
Laziness doesn’t exist
@@futuristiccat5636 it does lol
@@calliakim2042 No it doesn’t.
Doing hard things can make you tough. Also: being gentle with yourself also makes you tough. Pushing through EVERYTHING in life is equally as damaging and traumatising
yup, there has to be a balance
yup
Yeah I cant push myself too hard at the start of getting in shape bc of asthma. Also I overworked my legs too hard one time and got shin splints.. ouch
@@cuterobots1733 i hope you're better now
That's right .. always pushing urself for doing up hard things ..can shatter your and make you think negative and demotivated ..u should not always harsh on urself.Understand ur self just like u understand someone who u love 💕
Since I was in 7th grade I been struggling with body dysmorphia and unhealthy eating habits I’m now 18 still struggling with the same problems but now I can’t even look in the mirror it’s like a fear . Don’t go out because I don’t think I deserve it etc . I hope these videos help me learn how to better myself physically and mentally :)
Go watch her last video first...listen to what she said
“You decide who you want to be”...damn that hit hard