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  • Опубликовано: 28 сен 2024
  • Katlynn, Zach and Amber say dad Todd prioritizes everything over them: job, wife & new family. They say their dad missed weekend visits, failed to pay child support, and even wrote a letter denouncing his parental rights. But Todd insists he isn’t a deadbeat dad. Could Todd do more or does he just get a bad rap? (From Dr. Phil Season 10)
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  • @jilljohnson251
    @jilljohnson251 3 месяца назад +367

    Those girls don't have a very good father, but they have a darned good big brother. Their brother is a mature, insightful, responsible young man. He seems very willing to step up as a male figure in their lives. I'm sure they are all grown up, but God Bless these kids❤

    • @red_mcapples
      @red_mcapples 2 месяца назад +10

      When he leaned over and kissed his sister on the head, I teared up.

    • @riethacrafford7730
      @riethacrafford7730 2 месяца назад +3

      Useless father..... BEYOND USELESS

    • @TangiCook-co7vf
      @TangiCook-co7vf Месяц назад

      All 3 chn look like him very attractive chn

    • @brianchandler1966
      @brianchandler1966 Месяц назад +3

      This is classic parental alienation syndrome on Mom's part.

    • @biancaenera2500
      @biancaenera2500 20 дней назад

      So you learn nothing at all from this video.

  • @kjl6039
    @kjl6039 3 месяца назад +201

    He says his kids are so dramatic. No, they are hurt! They are hurt because their father is selfish. He cares more about himself than his children. He is the definition of a deadbeat father.

    • @mojorising27
      @mojorising27 3 месяца назад +14

      Classic minimisation by a narcissist.

    • @EileenThompson-cq8nd
      @EileenThompson-cq8nd 3 месяца назад +10

      He is as dramatic!! Listen to his tone and volume of his voice!

    • @dedragalyon6879
      @dedragalyon6879 Месяц назад +2

      @@mojorising27 Yes, he is narcissistic.

    • @Mary-1000
      @Mary-1000 Месяц назад

      No he's not actually. I know I have one. This guy is just a late bloomer and a bit irresponsible and immature. Not a bad person.

  • @jerrystauffer2351
    @jerrystauffer2351 3 месяца назад +139

    He's a very self righteous person. He ignores his children and brags of his charity work. Charity begins at home.

    • @samthecat4865
      @samthecat4865 2 месяца назад

      He doesn’t know where his home is.

    • @NobodyLikesMillhouse99
      @NobodyLikesMillhouse99 2 месяца назад

      He's a narcissist master manipulator. He's virtue signaling like crazy and projecting into everyone else.

    • @annecraig4651
      @annecraig4651 2 месяца назад +1

      I thought he worked so much that he had no time to see the kids but he has time for lots of charity work as he is such a good person! Really dude!

    • @Mary-1000
      @Mary-1000 Месяц назад

      He said he wanted to include them in the charity work but they didn't want any part of it.

    • @Glitterslug
      @Glitterslug 18 дней назад

      the charity work comments were so cringe

  • @aliciaw3347
    @aliciaw3347 3 месяца назад +160

    Teenagers are difficult enough to deal with while they're figuring out themselves; sprinkle on it a nasty divorce, adjusting to new step parents and step siblings, inappropriate conversations about finances, and the stress of having to "choose sides" from toxic parents. These kids look stressed TF out!🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️

    • @keeper6458
      @keeper6458 3 месяца назад +5

      Absolutely agree! Well said

    • @MamaTach925
      @MamaTach925 3 месяца назад +5

      They know waaaaaay too much

    • @cindymccomb4531
      @cindymccomb4531 3 месяца назад +5

      Agreed, the mom isn’t even trying

    • @maryl5567
      @maryl5567 2 месяца назад +2

      I agree!!

  • @lily.d13
    @lily.d13 3 месяца назад +147

    Wonderful brother. Need to acknowledge that. Props to him for stepping up.

    • @dancingfirefly7761
      @dancingfirefly7761 2 месяца назад +2

      I agree. He has stepped up as the man of the house and protector of his family, despite his young age. The way he comforted his sister and gently kissed her head spoke volumes about this young man.

    • @dedragalyon6879
      @dedragalyon6879 Месяц назад +1

      He is a wonderful young man who will make a fantastic husband to some lucky young lady.

  • @bellaann4942
    @bellaann4942 3 месяца назад +480

    He blamed a recession, his ex, and all of his kids for everything. He is a deadbeat liar.

    • @TheKim369
      @TheKim369 3 месяца назад

      @@andie3209 Mine left when I was 6, called me out of the blue when I was 24, hadn't seen or talked to him in between. About a misplaced check for $25, I assured him I wouldn't spend it if I came upon it, and said I had plans and had to go. (Called me "Darling", told him I wasn't, nicely, professionally).

    • @jennifersuzannebk5149
      @jennifersuzannebk5149 3 месяца назад +1

      He has a family

    • @jennifersuzannebk5149
      @jennifersuzannebk5149 3 месяца назад +5

      He just gave up on playing the first wife's game.

    • @jennifersuzannebk5149
      @jennifersuzannebk5149 3 месяца назад +3

      Obvious an clear example of parental alienation. Theirs no reason he only has visitors rights. He isn't abusive he isn't a drug addict an he isn't a alcoholic. Chances are his case was judged by a female judge who are often sexist an give women all the power in divorces. That or the judge was high on crack or something. Honestly think about what he has truly done wrong by not playing into his ex wife's hand. He wouldn't have been able to father those kids under her guidelines regardless. This just stops the turmoil for the children who would have been constantly caught in their fights. He had no choice but to leave it you look at it from a child care perspective.

    • @Ash-83
      @Ash-83 3 месяца назад

      ​​@@jennifersuzannebk5149 you are so far off base here. I lived with a man thar was just like this sorry excuse of a father. When we divorced, our divorce was presided over by a male judge and ge awarded me sole custody and only gave my ex-husband visitation, at my discretion. Why? Because he was abusive, he would throw things at me and the kids, he would demean us, he would play mind games, so on an so forth. Abuse is not just physical and I have news for you, this pathetic waste of testosterone is abusive. Judges don't just hand out sole custody with visitation for no reason, and the judges aren't all women and they aren't drugged up either. The fact that his new wife is only getting his version and doesn't know the entire dynamic and thinks she should be respected just because she's an adult shows that she truly knows nothing. My ex-husband told his current boo Thang that ge left me, he didn't, I kicked him out and u filed for divorce because I was done being abused and he was cheating on me with a 20 year old that he knocked up with triplets. My daughter told her the truth and then she found out he was a liar and a manipulating narcissist, just like this abusive, narcissistic liar is. If you think it's OK for a parent to verbally abuse their children I have pity on EVERYONE in your world. This isn't parental alienation, this is a narcissist getting mad and trying to blame everyone else for his own self made issues.

  • @kathconserv
    @kathconserv 3 месяца назад +394

    Stepmom “don’t talk to me like that young lady”. Respect is earned madam and you need to mind your own business.

    • @smoly37
      @smoly37 3 месяца назад +44

      I thought the stephmom was very gentle and polite and came across as really wanting the best for her husband and his children.
      The more I listened, the more I began to resent the respectless yelling, crying, talking loud at the same time of the children and their mom joined in cheerfully. I don't know who's lying or who is telling the truth.
      But I find mom very agressive and I would not be at all surprised to hear that she DID block the phone, closed down Facebook and made it even more difficult then the situation already was.

    • @HeleneBitschClemmensen
      @HeleneBitschClemmensen 2 месяца назад +25

      NO! You never talk to another person like that.
      And see how the mother doesn’t want to fix anything. She wants the father to be the bad guy.

    • @kristinholcomb5817
      @kristinholcomb5817 2 месяца назад +12

      ​​@@smoly37yeah, I found the actions of kids in the mom terribly despicable. I don't think they really want to fix anything I think they just want to prove him in the bad guy so bad they don't care.

    • @kathconserv
      @kathconserv 2 месяца назад +5

      @@smoly37 good point. We don’t know the whole story.

    • @kathconserv
      @kathconserv 2 месяца назад +2

      @@HeleneBitschClemmensen that’s a good point as well.

  • @sharlawilliamson9609
    @sharlawilliamson9609 3 месяца назад +91

    He never acknowledges their feelings at all.

    • @Unncle_Ruckus
      @Unncle_Ruckus 2 месяца назад +1

      Because their feelings are based on lies he isn't feeding into

    • @fipfpqueen9726
      @fipfpqueen9726 2 месяца назад

      @@Unncle_Ruckusidiot

    • @fipfpqueen9726
      @fipfpqueen9726 2 месяца назад +2

      @@Unncle_Ruckusyou sound like a great father yourself! 😂

    • @besaqneber
      @besaqneber Месяц назад +1

      ​@@Unncle_RuckusI think you are him😂

  • @maxinecameron8228
    @maxinecameron8228 3 месяца назад +125

    That is not a father!! That is another child. And a selfcentered immature thing !!! All about his feelings. Poor kids! No comfort in this meeting.

    • @lanalou77
      @lanalou77 Месяц назад +1

      He is such a big baby! Definitely not a man

  • @jamijenkins3507
    @jamijenkins3507 3 месяца назад +609

    "Why are you so mad at your children?" "Because they're on her side!" Dude, they are on their own side. They see and hear everything, and can make up their own decisions about you. I'm honestly amazed that they still want a relationship with you considering how you treat them. That should honestly be a red flag for his new wife.

    • @dianeodell2909
      @dianeodell2909 3 месяца назад +23

      Emotional incest. Both adults are wrong. Kids should be with aunts and uncles; somewhere mature.

    • @chestertonlewis2867
      @chestertonlewis2867 3 месяца назад +5

      Precisely!

    • @Ken-s6v
      @Ken-s6v 3 месяца назад +35

      The new wife needs to step back and give them room to be with their father. But I have a feeling that the new wife is enforcing his bad behavior towards his kids.

    • @TheKim369
      @TheKim369 3 месяца назад +19

      @@Ken-s6v I had a co worker who "lured" a man away from his 2 kids and pregnant wife. He had a little prestige, and she seemed to think that it reflected some kind of something special on her part. They go on to have two kids and when she's pregnant with the third, guess what? If they'll cheat with you they'll cheat on you and who wants a cheater?

    • @jennypham3998
      @jennypham3998 3 месяца назад +10

      ​@@Ken-s6vhe s not going to be married for long. Too many problems

  • @StealthMode3924
    @StealthMode3924 3 месяца назад +436

    If your children don’t want a relationship with their stepparent, then they don’t have to.

    • @GirlsNDragons
      @GirlsNDragons 3 месяца назад +40

      True. But your kids don’t have the right to disrespect your ex’s spouse. That girl in the pink was a straight up brat to his wife. It’s gross and reflects on her mother who raised her poorly.

    • @StealthMode3924
      @StealthMode3924 3 месяца назад +22

      @@GirlsNDragons I agree. However, I think the wife should have corrected him when he’d said she was his “number one priority.” Your children ALWAYS come first, not your spouse. Dr Phil was right about the love you have for your spouse and children being different, but you should never put your spouse before your children.

    • @Ninnjette-
      @Ninnjette- 3 месяца назад +20

      ​@@StealthMode3924No, your relationship with your spouse is just as important. Your kids will move away, they move on
      with their lives. Who are you stuck with, after your kids have their own lives? If the kids are going to visit, they need to respect their stepmother.

    • @mistyoskacharli
      @mistyoskacharli 3 месяца назад

      exactly

    • @patriciaalt9737
      @patriciaalt9737 3 месяца назад

      You are one just like him or sounds like. That brat daughter wants her father to pay attention She's a bratt as you say bcause of him not Mom e​@GirlsNDragons

  • @Snoops510
    @Snoops510 3 месяца назад +148

    I cannot believe this man-child. His children certainly don't take after him. He pretty much told them that they are drama queens...with a big laugh. They're heartbroken and he laughs. They deserve a better father. A father that NEEDS to see his children. Very sad.

    • @Bodaduchee
      @Bodaduchee 3 месяца назад +5

      Momma needs to quit being a drama queen and interferring with their relationship. She should be able to relay medical messages to the father

    • @MamaTach925
      @MamaTach925 3 месяца назад

      That ripped out their heart and will continue to do so

    • @swimfast724
      @swimfast724 2 месяца назад +1

      ​@Bodaduchee not true, at all. The mom has nothing to do with this. It's all about how this man did NOTHING for them

  • @Sl33pysk1nz
    @Sl33pysk1nz 3 месяца назад +71

    This man reminds me so much of my biological father. Always shifting blame on someone else,never making an effort,supporting another family than his own. Absolutely disgraceful…this hurts me to my very core…I understand the stance of these children…

  • @lisagubbins6772
    @lisagubbins6772 3 месяца назад +260

    Has anyone else noticed how the 2nd wife looks a lot like the 1st wife 🧐🤔

    • @dolanddrumpf6344
      @dolanddrumpf6344 3 месяца назад +17

      My ex is currently with someone who has the same first name as me 😂

    • @Rosanesh12538
      @Rosanesh12538 3 месяца назад +11

      Looked for this comement!!😂

    • @dianagilles7204
      @dianagilles7204 3 месяца назад +13

      I was thinking the same thing!! They could be sisters!

    • @sarasillyful
      @sarasillyful 3 месяца назад +4

      Thought they were the same 😂

    • @mikekenask6975
      @mikekenask6975 3 месяца назад +11

      Dude has a type for sure

  • @seanthomas7441
    @seanthomas7441 3 месяца назад +192

    Why is the new wife even there and actually speaking...shes proud of herself big time...

  • @erin6083
    @erin6083 3 месяца назад +117

    Listening to this guy for two minutes and you know he’s the problem. His children deserve so much better. I hope they find the healing they need one day- let God be your Father, kids. I’m sorry this man is who you got.

    • @JeffPhilosopher
      @JeffPhilosopher 3 месяца назад +6

      He should be more humble. His kids believe he is rejecting them. Even if he believes that is a false narrative being enforced by his ex-wife, he should be seeking a way to show his love for the children in such a way that his ex-wife cannot “block” him. However, I don’t think their frustration and pain is actually because of their mother. I would be interested to know how things turned out, but doubt there has been much, if any, improvement.

    • @JeffPhilosopher
      @JeffPhilosopher 3 месяца назад +2

      Also, I want to say I agree with Erin’s reply above.

    • @LordBattleSmurf
      @LordBattleSmurf 3 месяца назад +3

      The mother is at least half the problem

    • @erin6083
      @erin6083 3 месяца назад +5

      @@LordBattleSmurf I agree she’s a big part of it I was referring to the dynamic between him and the kids. I don’t know that if go as far as to say half though - he’s a piece of work with every excuse in the book. I’d say she’s at least a third though. She said she hated him to his face in front of her kids- you don’t do that. She clearly has a lot of bitterness and resentment which I get but the only way to deal with someone like that is radical forgiveness for the sake of your children.

  • @rleonekc07
    @rleonekc07 3 месяца назад +81

    pay child support. Zero excuses. No discussion needed.

    • @susanneedilcher789
      @susanneedilcher789 3 месяца назад +1

      Seems this is what happens 99% of the time. ….already have one family, but, HEY….look at her…she’s at least ten years younger than the one at home with the kids. …and so it goes. Then ten years after wife number two….and MORE kids. Now can’t support SEVEN kids… where does it end?….who knows? I’ve seen this happen to ppl a lot. More than I care to count. And so it goes…..

  • @motherofthree4126
    @motherofthree4126 3 месяца назад +42

    37:25 Never once has he taken any responsibility for his actions or behaviour, just a ton of excuses. I’m actually really disappointed that Dr Phil never called him out on it. He only corrected the kids whenever they asked him to take accountability. Very disappointing.

    • @MaryCaroline-qt2fz
      @MaryCaroline-qt2fz 3 месяца назад +5

      I agree. And, at the end, Dr Phil told the kids that they were not perfect kids either.
      They all looked so heartbroken.

    • @motherofthree4126
      @motherofthree4126 3 месяца назад +7

      I’m really not impressed with Dr Phil on this episode. He did not need to tell them that either. They seem to be pretty good kids. I don’t think they needed to hear that.

  • @Rick-N-Something
    @Rick-N-Something 3 месяца назад +46

    I'm divorced and couldn't imagine doing anything like this to my daughter, what a horrible father

    • @keeper6458
      @keeper6458 3 месяца назад +1

      I wish my father thought the same like you. Im 46 now and I was broken for so long

    • @kathconserv
      @kathconserv 3 месяца назад

      @@keeper6458we are the same age. My father left when I was 7 and my sisters were 5 and 9.

  • @pdig2963
    @pdig2963 3 месяца назад +75

    Are they really fighting in front of the kids like that 😡

    • @roflpill
      @roflpill 3 месяца назад +4

      I imagine it's why they divorced

    • @LoveTeeC3
      @LoveTeeC3 3 месяца назад +2

      I can't believe those two humans stopped fighting long enough to make a child not once, but three times. Wow.

    • @dannigro8794
      @dannigro8794 Месяц назад

      Probably not the first time they fought in front of them

  • @theresasheak3365
    @theresasheak3365 3 месяца назад +83

    there is a time in life that you need to let go of unhealthy relationships. It just isn't worth the fight. It is healthier to let it go. do not fight to be in some ones life that does not make the same effort.

    • @bospin
      @bospin 3 месяца назад +4

      That's quite true, but as a child it's very difficult to just let go : children forgive their parents a lot, sometimes even the harshest abuse. That's why they hardly give up trying to connect to immature parent.

    • @TheKim369
      @TheKim369 3 месяца назад +3

      @@bospin It's not easy to "grow up" when you're still a kid. It takes some adults a whole life to just let go.

  • @hunnybSue
    @hunnybSue 3 месяца назад +66

    That father is so manipulative. It's irritating how he plays the victim.

    • @JohannaBarnard-sl4jb
      @JohannaBarnard-sl4jb 3 месяца назад +2

      Ya, and he says " let's close the hatchet and move on from here "... to me that means he's not willing to see or deal with his own fault in this whole mess...

    • @auzy2u845
      @auzy2u845 3 месяца назад +3

      The mom is nowhere near innocent

    • @janicester
      @janicester 2 месяца назад

      The mom is manipulative. She needs to own her part in all of this.

  • @hilberryable
    @hilberryable 3 месяца назад +63

    He is unreliable and I fear he might let them down in the future.

    • @INFJ-Advocate
      @INFJ-Advocate 3 месяца назад

      Can Ii ask a civil question,
      if they know that, and they're saying that in front of millions, why do they want a relationship with him?

    • @roflpill
      @roflpill 3 месяца назад +5

      ​@@INFJ-Advocate because they're children. Children are very adaptable and forgiving and tend to long for parental love.
      Both of my parents were very distant emotionally, and each was abusive in different ways. I've mended my relationship with my father (in my thirties) and I still long for my mother's love, but she has none for me. It's a very difficult thing for children to accept. It's worse than the death of a family member, it's outright rejection from them. It's a different kind of wound that doesn't heal, and affects personal relationships for life. It's natural to want to resolve that.
      Eventually their anger and self respect will help them separate from him, but it'll always hurt.

    • @keeper6458
      @keeper6458 3 месяца назад +2

      ​@roflpill Absolutely.. I experienced the same thing with my father. I'm 46 and finally accepted 3 years ago 28:25 that he can only love to his fullest which was not much.

  • @flowerlace
    @flowerlace 3 месяца назад +53

    This is terrible! These children shouldn't be in the middle of hearing these adults arguing! Omg how painful this must be!

    • @Ace-ke7fq
      @Ace-ke7fq 3 месяца назад +1

      they're almost adult age..

    • @rachelcampbell9733
      @rachelcampbell9733 3 месяца назад +5

      ​@@Ace-ke7fqthey are damaged from the mom putting her pain on them.

    • @Leisa-pq3ye
      @Leisa-pq3ye 3 месяца назад

      But, it's all good ratings for the con that is Dr Phil!

    • @lilalicata616
      @lilalicata616 2 месяца назад +4

      @@Ace-ke7fqthey still don’t belong in the middle of the parent’s issues!

  • @HRPFayetteville
    @HRPFayetteville 3 месяца назад +62

    The kids shouldn't even be involved in any of this.

    • @gigi9301
      @gigi9301 3 месяца назад +1

      Yes, the young lady/daughter is actually an adult

    • @Fruitdrink2000
      @Fruitdrink2000 3 месяца назад +2

      The mother must vent to them. That’s plain to see. He is right about their being drama queens though, they really are tbh

    • @kathconserv
      @kathconserv 3 месяца назад +1

      You’re right.

  • @isismama81
    @isismama81 3 месяца назад +45

    He's a deadbeat narcissist. It's everyone else's fault but his. And why does he think his ex wife has to do anything for him?? They are no longer married! His new plug should be his secretary!

  • @bailatwerski2951
    @bailatwerski2951 3 месяца назад +166

    He's not a bad guy, he's a horrible father!!!! He's selfish and had no right to start another family if you couldn't support the first three children that he had!!! You work your butt off even at Burger King if you need to flip burgers and give the money to your children for their support you are responsible 50% of their support and their mother is the other 50%

    • @LAStars-sratS
      @LAStars-sratS 3 месяца назад +6

      I believe he has only been with new wife for 2yrs.

    • @stephaniepiazzese2602
      @stephaniepiazzese2602 3 месяца назад +7

      Well that is the new wife’s problem now. Her loss. Her problem. We live. We are discarded. We learn. 😢

    • @StealthMode3924
      @StealthMode3924 3 месяца назад +5

      @@LAStars-sratS and I think they’d said he prioritizes his new wife’s children from her previous marriage over his own.

    • @janasali821
      @janasali821 3 месяца назад +5

      He’s a bad guy!! He puts on an act on front of people so he looks good

    • @LAStars-sratS
      @LAStars-sratS 3 месяца назад +2

      @@janasali821 he’s a bad actor too.

  • @JadeRuri-ko1cj
    @JadeRuri-ko1cj 3 месяца назад +78

    Father is selfish person

  • @millenials_best
    @millenials_best 3 месяца назад +21

    This is what happens when you try to force a narcissist to human

  • @sharondykes4338
    @sharondykes4338 3 месяца назад +88

    his new wife needs to know her place. she should support and be sympathetic to him but not interfere in his relationship with, or even speak to, his first wife and their children. he needs to stop making excuses, step up and fulfill his emotional and financial responsibilities.

    • @lindaedwards9504
      @lindaedwards9504 3 месяца назад +4

      Should the husband of his ex wife the children's mother not speak to the children or him ??? What was said about not speaking to the x wife or children is crazy ! If people have respect for each other there is no issue they don't have to be best friends or even like each other but to say the new wife should have nothing to say is off the planet that is the father's other family there so everyone has to make it work .

    • @bingobongo339
      @bingobongo339 3 месяца назад +3

      @@lindaedwards9504I def could be wrong but I feel as though OP meant in this situation the new wife shouldn’t be interjecting herself into the conversations between the family about his relationship with his ex-wife and children, not that she should never even speak to the children or their mother.

    • @PrincessKarrah
      @PrincessKarrah 3 месяца назад +2

      Exactly and the father needs to realize that you can’t make your kids like your partner you can’t tell them if you want a relationship with me you have to accept and her and if you want to spend time with her when they made it clear they don’t like her and don’t want to be around her not only inappropriate it also not gonna work it’s gonna drive them further away from him,

    • @ofirarg
      @ofirarg 3 месяца назад +1

      ​@@lindaedwards9504 a step parent can have a relationship with his step kids but he can't intervene in family issues such as this one. It can only do harm

  • @debo398
    @debo398 3 месяца назад +79

    As their father, it is Todd's responsibility to make himself available for his children. But, he is so resentful of the children's mother and the financial success that sge and her husband have achieved. Todd keeps saying that he loves his kids, but he does not put feet to the words. He gas a history of not being there financially or physically for his kids.

    • @TiaNichole17
      @TiaNichole17 3 месяца назад +5

      OMG I WAS SCREAMING THIS! It’s YOUR responsibility as father to foster a relationship, your kids shouldn’t be hunting you down to talk. And his wife is fine because her kids are taken care of.

    • @skrallanmo2594
      @skrallanmo2594 3 месяца назад +2

      @@TiaNichole17 I am not impressed with her behaviour either , but I can understand her....

  • @Pcsadams
    @Pcsadams 3 месяца назад +97

    The father knew he had financial obligations to his children yet he remarried. Apparently he doesn't have a steady job. Those kids are old enough now to understand finances and why their mom can't afford certain things. It's his responsibility to work and pay his obligations. On the other hand, he should exercise his parental visitation without excuses. Step mom should step back on her opinions with the children.

    • @shariwitt1977
      @shariwitt1977 3 месяца назад +10

      This episode has made me extremely disappointed in Dr. Phil. Way off base.

    • @caroljohnson9230
      @caroljohnson9230 3 месяца назад +7

      YOU DO REALIZE THAT 40 MILLION PEOPLE IN 2020 ALONE, LOST THEIR JOBS, LOST THEIR HOMES THAT THEY HAD WORKED FOR FOR YEARS, IN TURN THEY LOST EVERYTHING.
      PEOPLE NEED TO REALIZE THAT THERE IS HER SIDE, HIS SIDE AND THEN THERES THE TRUTH..
      I MAYBE INCORRECT, BUT I BELIEVE THAT THIS MOTHER OF THE 3 KIDS CLEARLY HAS A CHIP ON HER SHOULDER AND I BELIEVE HER 3 CHILDREN HAVE THEIR MOTHERS CHIP RIGHT OFF THEIR MOTHERS BLOCK..

    • @rover5788
      @rover5788 3 месяца назад +3

      @@caroljohnson9230 Agreed 100% !

    • @nancystead6770
      @nancystead6770 3 месяца назад +2

      @@caroljohnson9230, the recession has not been going on for 9 years and mother took him to court several times over those 9 years.

    • @Spirit__Warrior
      @Spirit__Warrior 3 месяца назад +1

      @@caroljohnson9230Well lucky the Mother and 2 kids have jobs right??? He can get a godamn job if he wanted.

  • @levans3447
    @levans3447 3 месяца назад +52

    That mother has contributed GREATLY to her children's pain . Both parents need to get a grip.

  • @SupaCandMe
    @SupaCandMe 3 месяца назад +15

    you know, both these parents should love their kids more than what they hate each other. It is as simple as that...

  • @lauragriffin6512
    @lauragriffin6512 3 месяца назад +52

    The kids should have been on stage without the mother.

  • @taramay8174
    @taramay8174 3 месяца назад +70

    That mother is just as bad

    • @feemon1931
      @feemon1931 3 месяца назад +8

      Agreed

    • @TheHare-rv3hj
      @TheHare-rv3hj 3 месяца назад +16

      She is even worse in my opinion. That woman wants to fight. She wants to be 100% right. She wants to create division and she has toxified those kids to their father and has taught them how to fight sarcastically, be victims, and have unrealistic demands. When the demands aren't met, she has taught them how to stone wall and exact revenge.

    • @sunnyday4055
      @sunnyday4055 3 месяца назад +2

      @@TheHare-rv3hj
      Men will jump through hoops to run away from accountability

    • @sah-nae
      @sah-nae 3 месяца назад +4

      Absolutely

    • @kirstenjohnston7100
      @kirstenjohnston7100 3 месяца назад +8

      I agree!! It reeks of parental alienation.

  • @HelenaBohm
    @HelenaBohm 3 месяца назад +18

    Wow...he talks and talks and doesn't say a thing!

  • @redraven1410
    @redraven1410 3 месяца назад +45

    He doesn't care about his kids. as a Contactor he must be lousy even mediocre laborers make 50-70 K a year.
    The dude is a Class A Narcissist.

    • @linpalumbo2099
      @linpalumbo2099 2 месяца назад +2

      you are so right. And past behaviour for narcissists absolutely predicts future behaviour. They never change, but always talk a good game, and project sincerity ( which is false)

    • @beverlyarnold7022
      @beverlyarnold7022 2 месяца назад

      Absolutely a narcissist

    • @beverlyarnold7022
      @beverlyarnold7022 2 месяца назад

      He keeps saying he would do anything but does nothing!

    • @dancingfirefly7761
      @dancingfirefly7761 2 месяца назад

      I would add to this that he's also a sociopath.

  • @bekahdoug5572
    @bekahdoug5572 3 месяца назад +54

    WHYYY ARE THESE KIDS OUT HERE WHILE THESE PARENTS ARE DEALING WITH THIS???!!!!!!! IT'S NONE OF THEIR BUSINESS!!!

    • @rebeccaashleyvanwyk9029
      @rebeccaashleyvanwyk9029 3 месяца назад +6

      I was asking the same question

    • @specialkay4329
      @specialkay4329 3 месяца назад +1

      They need to see their real Father. This is what they need to let him go.

    • @specialkay4329
      @specialkay4329 3 месяца назад +5

      WHY IS THE NEW WIFE THERE?

    • @specialkay4329
      @specialkay4329 3 месяца назад +6

      WHY HASNT HE SEEN HIS OWN CHILDREN IN A YEAR.

    • @rachelcampbell9733
      @rachelcampbell9733 3 месяца назад +1

      So it is unfair to force kids to "see" who their father is.

  • @vdeniceeckert3494
    @vdeniceeckert3494 3 месяца назад +52

    Charity work......but makes 12000 a year lol

  • @Dixie8642
    @Dixie8642 3 месяца назад +44

    Calling the kids’ reasonable emotional response to this egocentric absentee father “dramatic” is disgusting.

  • @julieford148
    @julieford148 3 месяца назад +7

    My ex hasn’t seen his kids for years he isn’t interested. He divorced me with no agreements in place kids money etc. he divorced me on grounds of no marital contact for two years. He is a disgrace. His behaviour should be a huge red flag for his new wife who cheated on her first husband with my husband. I could never be with a man who treat his kids like that !!

  • @rachel4339
    @rachel4339 3 месяца назад +5

    That sweet boy, he’s got the skills to be such a great man one day, I hope he escapes these family dynamics…

  • @mariapanagiotidis708
    @mariapanagiotidis708 3 месяца назад +8

    At the end of the day, these poor children just wanted to hear, "I'm sorry " from their father. Something he didn't even say once. It's such a shame as a parent to keep continuing to make excuses, along with being in constant defense mode instead of just truly apologizing and then asking to move forward. I hope everything goes well for the family.

  • @marceejohnson4113
    @marceejohnson4113 3 месяца назад +12

    It's cracking me up that the ex n his new wife want everybody to feel bad because he's crying at his own mess

  • @ronronniemeyers
    @ronronniemeyers 3 месяца назад +30

    The Stepmom needs to shut her mouth

    • @eathomelive
      @eathomelive Месяц назад +1

      Why is she even there?

  • @1927su
    @1927su 3 месяца назад +32

    I knew a woman who bad mouthed her kid’s father so much , it completely made the kid hate the father. Everytime he tried to reach out , the mother undermined him . That poor kid missed out on what a nice person he was & now he’s dead.

    • @lorrainebeightler8265
      @lorrainebeightler8265 3 месяца назад +2

      Well my daughter step mother used bad mouth me all the time. So it works both ways. In the end my daughter learned all the lies this woman said about and now can stand the step mother.

    • @jennifersuzannebk5149
      @jennifersuzannebk5149 3 месяца назад +3

      ​@@lorrainebeightler8265it dosent go both ways women victimize men more.

    • @jennifersuzannebk5149
      @jennifersuzannebk5149 3 месяца назад

      ​@@lorrainebeightler8265furthermore men have higher suicide rates. They really don't need the bs.

    • @lorrainebeightler8265
      @lorrainebeightler8265 3 месяца назад +2

      @@jennifersuzannebk5149 my point is both genders do it also. So no one gets a pass.

    • @Girlgonewise
      @Girlgonewise 3 месяца назад +7

      This woman here has alienated these kids from their father. They will wake up one day.

  • @TheKim369
    @TheKim369 3 месяца назад +6

    Let's bury the hatchet and forget the past is sometimes a way to say, "you kids be the bigger people and forgive me without me ever having to apologize and accept responsibility for my own actions". He doesn't want to resolve, he wants a pass. He's a weasel.

    • @skyp9359
      @skyp9359 3 месяца назад +1

      Agreed.

  • @Br010B
    @Br010B 3 месяца назад +37

    I can't stand people who have excuses for everything. Especially for not being able to keep a job and be there for their children. Absolutely absurd.

  • @PavlinaSarafoglou
    @PavlinaSarafoglou 3 месяца назад +39

    This situation has not been created solely by the father, the mother has been nasty without a doubt and has used the children as a weapon to get to him

  • @lindariedyk
    @lindariedyk 3 месяца назад +8

    He is full of it
    Those children should be his first priority
    No excuses
    I feel so sorry for those children he should be ashamed

  • @amberadkins9005
    @amberadkins9005 3 месяца назад +5

    Growing up it would be years before I saw my mother. I was raised by a single father. You grow up and realize people make time for who they want!

  • @1vtmom966
    @1vtmom966 3 месяца назад +10

    Dude's a legend! (in his own mind)!

  • @LauraleyB
    @LauraleyB 3 месяца назад +7

    He came because he Wanted to be on TV he came because somebody else foot the bill for him. This is the only reasons he came.

  • @sybilsadie620
    @sybilsadie620 3 месяца назад +11

    I wish I had a dr Phil to speak to my ex.
    The last time he saw his girls was 2001.
    He did not want to pay child support had the same accuses but his income was 4 times more than mine.
    I took his children to his parents for holidays and he still refuse to see them there😢😢😢
    I pretend to give them gifts on his behalf when the were 6 to 14 years but then they catched on that he did not love them 😢
    The Bible talk about a fathers love so there must be something terribly wrong when a man do not have love for his children

  • @christiekitchens
    @christiekitchens 3 месяца назад +22

    I hate it when families air their dirty laundry in public. It is very sad that it has come to this.

    • @karahupp4589
      @karahupp4589 3 месяца назад

      I doubt that. If you really hated it you would have scrolled on by. You seem quite invested.

  • @melodygreen5029
    @melodygreen5029 3 месяца назад +58

    The mother is making this so much worse.

  • @christinewhitrick5669
    @christinewhitrick5669 3 месяца назад +5

    I think the fact that the kids openly say they don’t want his new wife in his life is a problem. That’s their mother talking.

  • @DotNetRussell
    @DotNetRussell 3 месяца назад +53

    That mom absolutely is part of the problem.

    • @kathconserv
      @kathconserv 3 месяца назад +6

      He isn’t showing up at all either.

    • @boobie595
      @boobie595 3 месяца назад

      Disagree I think she is sick of him and he should sign his rights over or play in traffic

    • @MaryaneCry
      @MaryaneCry 2 месяца назад +3

      YES mum is the problem

    • @Fayrwa06
      @Fayrwa06 2 месяца назад +5

      Mom is a big master manipulator- she is big trouble

    • @saucyfaces
      @saucyfaces 2 месяца назад +1

      Meanwhile, he's clowning his own kids and laughing about it...but yeah, she's the problem. 😂🤦🏽‍♀

  • @nanealdiamond28
    @nanealdiamond28 3 месяца назад +12

    This is the cause and affect of a bad divorce

  • @lyndeebrider2340
    @lyndeebrider2340 3 месяца назад +4

    They don’t like the stepmother and display jealousy that he is happy with her. They don’t seem to worry about the step father. Been in the same situation with my own father and his wife.

  • @dnfinch
    @dnfinch 3 месяца назад +30

    I think these kids have heard a lot of one-sided information from their mom, over and over again. And if he was going to be 5 minutes late, wouldn't it be better for the kids, to let him pick them up, and work on fixing the timing issue with him moving forward. And she seems to enjoy her kids yelling and screaming at him. She has not taught them how to have a productive conversation. So her actions show, she just wants to make his life miserable, and she is willing to sacrifice the kids in the process.

    • @feemon1931
      @feemon1931 3 месяца назад +4

      That’s how I see it as well

  • @lulajoemom98
    @lulajoemom98 3 месяца назад +4

    Who likes all those people yelling at them sounding like thier Ex. Kids should not know about the money. This often happens, father feels they chose thier mother. He feels alienated.

  • @diannerowley9358
    @diannerowley9358 3 месяца назад +9

    Bet he doesn't man up

  • @dylankrank
    @dylankrank 3 месяца назад +18

    With such hatred against his children, he doesn't deserve them. The new wife is pouring poison on the situation. Why is she being allowed to even be there. That is so wrong.

  • @Fruitdrink2000
    @Fruitdrink2000 3 месяца назад +6

    Those kids have been jaded by their mother it’s so obvious they know things that’s not their business

  • @calgal5752
    @calgal5752 3 месяца назад +9

    The IRS might be interested in this…….

  • @tammypierce3250
    @tammypierce3250 3 месяца назад +4

    It happens all the time in divorces. When they remarry, the new spouse becomes more important than the children. Many times the new spouse is jealous of the children.

  • @keeper6458
    @keeper6458 3 месяца назад +4

    What a blessing to have such healthy beautiful children

  • @saratekle7627
    @saratekle7627 3 месяца назад +5

    The new wife need to stop involved between his children

  • @dixoncider5046
    @dixoncider5046 3 месяца назад +7

    22:32 a grown woman trying to fight an actual child

  • @pammulholland8687
    @pammulholland8687 3 месяца назад +2

    Here's a tip to you men - Like women, you get one "set" of children. You emotionally, psychologically, and financially support your children. You don't get to run away, abandon them, and have children with another woman. And, your ex-wife is not your administrative assistant. Figure out when teacher-parent night is, when to pick up and drop off your children, etc., etc.

  • @MericaKennedy-p8g
    @MericaKennedy-p8g 3 месяца назад +9

    I think mother totally turned the kids against their father. Why women do this to their children is beyond my imagination.

    • @Chings001
      @Chings001 3 месяца назад

      Note the son mentioned physical abuse.

  • @Time-is-short-get-ready
    @Time-is-short-get-ready 3 месяца назад +14

    Those kids have been poisoned by the bitterness of Momma. it's sad but the family is broken. Father is in a tough spot. he needs to keep trying. he needs to try more.

  • @preythefox
    @preythefox 3 месяца назад +3

    The mother is pulling more strings than people think.

  • @susanb6289
    @susanb6289 3 месяца назад +23

    The mother is fueling the kids anger.

  • @Honestlytho-i8t
    @Honestlytho-i8t 3 месяца назад +7

    Horrible father. It’s a dang shame

  • @TorieHopeRocks
    @TorieHopeRocks 3 месяца назад +2

    Ouch does this episode hit home for me. I’ve not seen or spoken to my father in over 4 years. I pray they find comfort in his absence.

  • @chrisleach4245
    @chrisleach4245 3 месяца назад +11

    Nobody is blameless in this family. Everyone seems to want to be the biggest victim but no compromise at all from anyone. The kids need to get over that their father and mother are not together and too hate anyone he’s with helps nobody. Life is tough and I believe that the ex wife has poisoned the kids against their father. She should have never said anything about child support to their children. And she admitted that she has done everything to keep him from the kids.

  • @colleenw8756
    @colleenw8756 3 месяца назад +7

    Look at the so called mother.

  • @GirlsNDragons
    @GirlsNDragons 3 месяца назад +26

    Daughter in pink is a massive brat. Her mom raised her poorly. You don’t speak to someone that way. Control yourself.
    As for the mother, in the end he tells her WE need to communicate better and immediately she flips and says no. She really truly IS THE PROBLEM. When these kids grow up, they’ll see through their mom.

  • @melodygreen5029
    @melodygreen5029 3 месяца назад +31

    See the ex just interrupts constantly

  • @nbbim2012
    @nbbim2012 3 месяца назад +6

    Each parent is only concerned about their own perspective- these children know adult things that they shouldn't because their mother & father have involved them in. I do agree that it is ridiculous & selfish of him to remarry & be responsible for other children when your first set of children are clearly struggling emotionally. They do not have to accept any step-parent period. If these parents aren't careful their children won't be in either of their lives as soon as they're adults.

  • @joleenspelbrink3265
    @joleenspelbrink3265 Месяц назад +2

    When I hear the kids...I picture their mom being in the ear, constantly put down their father and to make sure she looks good!!She has poisoned their kids minds!!

  • @marcycamacho9722
    @marcycamacho9722 3 месяца назад +3

    This mother not telling the kids the truth, she's hiding the money behind them , very sad.

  • @SabyMon
    @SabyMon 2 месяца назад +3

    When someone says "I'm a nice guy." They are not.

  • @DrueyStanley
    @DrueyStanley 3 месяца назад +2

    That ex is causing a problem! Its happened to all of us! She needs to do more for those kids with him.

  • @Idkaboutthisone
    @Idkaboutthisone 3 месяца назад +19

    Omg this mom is insufferable...I would bet money that she kept him from the kids and did not make it easy for him to see them.

    • @autumn7031
      @autumn7031 3 месяца назад +1

      Both of them are pathetic tho

  • @stephenhenry4596
    @stephenhenry4596 2 месяца назад +1

    “Dead beat dads”is a derogatory term that should not have been created. How do you feel when you are on verge of being homeless, with a mountain of debt, not seeing your kids! This impact can force some hard decisions!

  • @janicewebber5584
    @janicewebber5584 3 месяца назад +2

    This is just a pile on. The mom's toxicity has poisoned the kids. Even when he offers a solution, they all pile on. Dr. Phil has had shows about parental alienation & this is exactly how it affects everyone. 😢

  • @anstead9830
    @anstead9830 3 месяца назад +9

    He's full of it! He says anything he thinks people want to hear.

  • @sharonpiontek9819
    @sharonpiontek9819 3 месяца назад +3

    ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS

  • @ShanMarie513
    @ShanMarie513 3 месяца назад +2

    Excuse after excuse after excuse. Nothing would stop me from seeing my son for a year. That is absurd. And his wife making excuses for him is the reason his kids don’t like her nor respect her.

  • @davidmcdonald5498
    @davidmcdonald5498 2 месяца назад +1

    Mom has definitely been in their ear growing up, painting a bad picture of their father. She knows he's broke and can barely afford anything. Why would she not put those kids in her car, take them to dad's house, and drop them off on a weekend. She doesn't have to do it all the time, but maybe once a month she could help a poor man spend time with his kids.

  • @Girlgonewise
    @Girlgonewise 3 месяца назад +24

    I’m surprised no one is picking up on how manipulative the mother is. She set up roadblocks and expected him to jump through hoops. This woman is evil.

    • @beckygraham5041
      @beckygraham5041 2 месяца назад +3

      Agree, x wife is where all this began.

    • @kathyhayevsky4703
      @kathyhayevsky4703 2 месяца назад +3

      Totally agree!

    • @MP-cq2yc
      @MP-cq2yc 2 месяца назад +3

      I agree she manipulates those kids and you can tell by the things the kids say, he has issues too but the mother is a huge problem

  • @LuismedinaDJ
    @LuismedinaDJ Месяц назад +1

    I can’t imagine these kids pain, just awful. I hope he’s been better after this.

  • @willyoujustrelax8236
    @willyoujustrelax8236 3 месяца назад +15

    Something doesn't add up. The father is being skewered and no one is hearing that the mother is alienating him.

    • @Awanderer80
      @Awanderer80 3 месяца назад

      The children all have their own phones and vehicles in which the mom provides. She can't alienate the Father. Wtf

  • @cynthiasiddall1285
    @cynthiasiddall1285 2 месяца назад +2

    Coming from both sides in my life, the mother made it really rough, the husband deserves to have a life he isnt married to their mom. And he made mistakes too. But it gets harder and harder the longer you go without. They expect him to be perfect.. snd only there for them.

  • @reapersgirl6407
    @reapersgirl6407 3 месяца назад +2

    My daughter is going through a similar situation and has gone 100% no contact with her father. That is his future.

  • @quintinnunn1392
    @quintinnunn1392 2 месяца назад +4

    The mom taught the kids to hate him. A 14 year old "knows" too much about the financial situation of her parents. Its wild to see kids pretend to know things they don't understand.