I can empathise with the egg situation lol 😂 Re dating, apps seem to attract the kind of people who just want to spend their evenings texting. Top tip, Derrick - get a dog and go walking in those woods you've shown us, I guarantee you will meet a genuine person in no time at all! Best wishes from England 💕
Derrick, Aubrey hit on the perfect solution. And if you don’t want the responsibility of owning a dog, just offer to dog walk for someone in your neighborhood. 💖
Maybe I'm old school, but I think your ideas of meeting for coffee in a neutral location are absolutely appropriate. IAs a matter of fact, that is exactly what I have suggested to my single friends and family using a dating site. I still think the best way to meet someone compatible is to get involved with activities you enjoy, and see who turns up that shares the same interest. I'm married to my best friend, who was just a fishing buddy 28 years ago, when neither of us were looking for a relationship. Some days feel like broken eggs, and the great part is recognizing it. Hope tomorrow feels better for you. You do have a lot going on. Take care of yourself.
I’m so sorry you’re feeling so down. Remember, crying is never negative it’s a release. You are a kind intelligent guy with a wonderful smile. It will happen one day, probably not on a dating app, maybe in supermarket. Good luck😡
I would just tell myself..."well, she going to miss out on a wonderful man" and move on. As for the broken egg, I got tried of having a piece of shell in my food, that I started cracking the egg in a cup/bowl or measuring cup. And then gently dropping it into the pan. So much easier fishing out any shell pieces there instead of a hot pan. IMO Hugs to you ! !
I crack my eggs in a cup first because I have trouble. You are not worthless Derrick, get that out of your head. You are an amazing father and you are and amazing son to your mom. Its that lady's loss. A big hug for you. I am 79 so you are an amazing young man.
I met a guy at Starbucks for first meeting. He said “I’ll pay this time”. There was not a second time. If you can’t afford to date (cofffee) don’t start. There are plenty of things to do that are not costly. Don’t expect her to pay unless you have agreed on how to divide things or share things. Your mom raised a good man. Open the door for her and pull out her chair, stand when she enters or leaves. Doesn’t cost anything. Good luck but maybe you will find someone when Skylar is older. Raise her first.
I used dating sites 10 years ago. I found that the less expensive the app, the less serious the intent for seeking a relationship. I finally invested in a paid site and found a couple of good guys and then eventually my husband. Best of luck to you. You will weed through many before you find a good match.
When I was on a dating site way back about 12 years ago I always wanted to meet for coffee asap so I could see who it was I was conversing with. Seems like it's gotten way, way more complicated! I feel for you. You're a very lovely gentleman and I hope you find a good woman.
Yes on the egg-cracking, the only answer for me was to crack them in a bowl first and if the yolks broke, it became scrambled that day. I'm fearful of dating aps, my friends have related so many awful experiences. Good luck with yours, give it time, she's out there somewhere.
Oh, that’s how dating sites work. Hmmm. Don’t worry Derrick, you will have someone in your life. Because you are opened to it and you are a great guy! She wasn’t the one….
My college students sometimes ask me how they can meet someone to date if they don’t party. My suggestion is to get involved in activities you love and be open to meeting someone. At worst you will have done something you love and made new friends. At best, you will meet someone with whom you share genuine common interests, which will be the basis for real connection. I know it sounds like obvious advice but it really works. It is hard out there, and I sympathize. It really ISN’T you. Do your best to remember there is a reason there are dating apps: because it is HARD to meet someone and make the connection.
You did absolutely nothing wrong. Suggesting meeting for coffee is perfect! It’s low key and casual. I think the “bad egg” was the woman who “unmatched” you. LOL That was not a normal reaction on her part. Thank you for sharing👍🏼
Oh the cracked egg -- I can sure relate to that! How can a little irritant become such a major issue? Yes, there is generally a precursor -- sometimes we can even be aware of what that is! You did the healthy thing Derrick -- recognizing that an earlier event was more significant then you wanted to give it credit for. You did a good job of recognizing it and resetting for a better day ahead. Isn't it funny how these things that we don't recognize immediately as an "issue" -- big or small -- can trip us up after all the work we have done to develop a healthy attitude toward life? Well, not funny, but its part of everyone's life. In your case you recognized almost immediately (ie. within the same day) what had happened and have reset your mind -- call it attitude if you wish -- to go forward and not dwell on the unfortunate events that occur in all lives. Cracked eggs, unexpected changes in potential relationship -- they affect us -- at least for a moment. Good for you and your daughter -- you know how to reset for a healthier future.
You’re the man Derrick. BTY,always crack your eggs in a small bowl first. Saves a lot of headaches. Hang in there when the time is right you will meet the right lady.❤️
Hey there Derrick!!!! Good luck with your egg cracking!!! I totally understand about the dating apps.. A lot of them are scammers using other people’s photo as well!!! I know too well from experience!!! That’s why i’m still single… It’s hard now a days to trust people at what they tell you!! Just get out and continue your walking or whatever you may do and the right person will come along!! Hugs from Memphis!!! ❣️❣️❣️
I can totally relate! Wish I lived near you...I'd meet you for coffee! I think you're a great guy!! Keep up the great videos and good luck with your new venture. 👍
I think this is a classic example of ‘co-dependency’. That is, letting the actions of others define or affect our mood, our self esteem, our day. Emotional/therapy work is needed to recognize it, then overcome it. Overcoming it becomes a natural reaction eventually. Ask me how I know this. 🥴 You did a great job explaining it.
I met my husband (of 16 years) on a dating app. We both HATED the experience and recommend against it to anyone who'll listen. We hated it for what you called "left and right swiping." That's so awful! When you're out there in the world doing what you do, you'll find each other.
You had me lmao with your explanation of how you crack your eggs. Trust me, you are not alone on that one. As for the dating app, don’t give up, and try not to be so hard on yourself. Good luck! 😊
As a woman who was recently using a dating site, I advise that you would please do your best to not let the women see self-doubt, a significant lack of self-confidence, or having a poor self-image. These can be felt by the other person and could be expressed in just a few words. Example: confidence - “I would like to meet you at Starbucks for a coffee.” Lack of confidence - “I would like to meet you at Starbucks for a coffee if you want.” Do you see the difference. Though it’s subtle, women can pick up on it and be completely turned-off from you. I know it may not feel like it but, you’re doing great! Don’t give up!
An egg cracking tip. Hit the egg on a flat surface, not the side of the pan or bowl, or you’re just not hitting the egg hard enough on the surface. As for dating, just keep swiping right. Those people who are suddenly un-matching you have their own problems to worry about or could be catfishing for whatever reason people catfish. Perhaps some light hints that you’ll unmatch if there is no possibility of meeting up at Starbucks/Dunkin/or other appropriate coffee shop would help. If I were on a dating app in an honest way, I couldn’t imagine not meeting up with someone I spent getting to know. Another idea might be to progress from texting to speaking through one of the free apps like WhatsApp or facebook messenger before a face to face. You have a reassuring voice and a great sense of humor. Good luck in your pursuit of a partner.
Derrick Good topic today, we've all been there just the slightest little thing sets us off. And then it kind of creeps into our day. But as you said with all the therapy you've had. you can get over it. I agree it's just an egg... But here's some advice as far as eggs go crack your egg into a small dish next to the sink. and then pour it into the pan. And as far as dating goes, I don't envy you there I think it's terrible nowadays. trying to find a good decent,friendly, honest, heartfelt, good listener, which should be at the top of the list. And the list could go on and on. But put your best foot forward and keep plugging along. There's someone out there for everyone. It stinks trying to weed through all the shall we say acceptable people but I mean that in a good sense. Good luck to you and your dating ventures. and I enjoyed your your podcast today.
Always crack the egg on a flat surface. If you crack it on an edge, the shell will go into the yolk and introduce bacteria. As for dating, well there's a cover for every pot. You're smart, good looking, kind, thoughtful, hard-working. You'll find someone. If she unmatched then she wasn't the right one and you missed a bullet! lol
I can relate... I'm also an introvert who attempted computer dating apps...it didn't work for me either. I've decided it's just better to push myself into more social opportunities...I'd rather do dating the old school way. And it's easy to get down on yourself...and take the leap fron a small error to "I just can't do anything right" but you caught yourself! Good for you choosing 🌅 over ⛈️
Dang! Too bad I'm old enough to be your mother! ha ha You did absolutely nothing wrong. Meeting for a coffee is the perfect thing to do for a first meet-up." As for the poorly cracked egg...it was trying to hang a picture straight for me. Love from Australia!
Cracked egg had me laughing. Even worse if there is a pc left and you end up crunching on it! You will find someone special. App or elsewhere. My daughter wasn’t a big dater, never felt like she had to have a boyfriend, like many do. She went on a app (age 32) and found her future hubby pretty fast. Turned out they were at the same wedding two years previously. When she showed her best guy friend his picture, he said “I know that guy.” Lol. Married 2 years later. I couldn’t ask for a better son-in-law.
Hey Derrick! Loved the egg saga! As far as on line dating, hang in there and DO be selective. I am living proof that it can work. After my 30 year marriage ended, I had pretty much told myself I was done with ever finding love again. He was going to have to knock on my door and say “Here I am”!🤣. Encouraged by family & friends, I signed up for an on line dating platform. Yes, there were dates that were 1 and done, but no hard feelings and an acquaintance was established. There were some that endured for a time but ended. The dating story ended with the gentleman I’ve been exclusive with for the past 9 years! Marriage is not in the picture but we are our forever people! In this Senior Citizen time of life, I live in a state of gratitude for the life I live. When you least expect it, Derrick, she will come your way❤️
It seems thats the world today. I did that years ago and found a great deal of ppl just want attention. They want messages every day but arent too interested in getting together to meet (unless it was a hookup). Frustrating that so many are on dating sites but dont want a relationship... too busy, swamped with work or child issues, etc. You just want to ask them, "then why are you here ?!?!" You'll meet someone darlin. I wish you peace, love and happiness.
On the first call I had from my hubby, we agreed to meet and to have coffee to get acquainted. We have been together going on 43 years now. So, hang in there bud. You are being very appropriate. Stick with it. You are a good guy. Please don't change that about yourself. And, you have made a lot of progress in recognizing your frustrations. Good job.
Omg I love hearing you talk, you are insightful, kind, and genuine, continue being you the right person is going to come into your life. Just because you are ready it will happen maybe not through a dating app but put it out there and be patient.😊👍
Thank you for sharing Derrick!! You know what, you are really busy right now! You have a ton of work that you are taking on, you've begun a rigorous fitness routine, and let's face it, the world is CRAZY right now!!!! All of this catches up with us, not to mention, Seasonal Affective disorder with a change in seasons quickly approaching. I've found myself Really emotional lately, embarrassing, but also, valid, much is going on! Be gentle with yourself, you are a Great guy, if you want a relationship with someone, it will happen. Rest up, self care, breathe. First things first, and Easy does it! 🌈☘🧘♂️
Enjoyed the video...as far as the dating thing...their loss because you are a very interesting person. I admire your transparency. You do not need a run of the mill person in your life. Sending positive thoughts your way.
Hi Derrick - I think the meet-up for coffee is a great idea. Is there a way you could put that info into the dating site? Something along the lines of “enjoy chatting, meeting for coffee, with a view to forming a relationship”. If I were looking for a guy, seeing something like that in his bio would peak my interest. I enjoy your videos, and humor. Try the suggestion of breaking an egg into a small dish first, then transfer to pan. I think you are a very smart young man - your mom has done a great job. You will find someone when you least expect it.
I honestly don't know how you singles do it! I don't drink either and I wouldn't want to meet at a bar. Meeting for coffee sounds perfectly reasonable to me. Keep going Derrick, you're a top bloke (as we Aussies say) and there's someone out there for you! And - bloody eggs! 😂
Derrick, Do let it bother you. It a blessing that she didn’t meet you. Don’t feel bad about not drinking. I was on a dating app for a while and it was hard so I got off . I lost my husband in 2011 and sometimes I think I like to meet someone,but my family is so important to me that I could not stand anyone telling me that I couldn’t be with my grandchildren. So I sty single.
Thanks Derrick I enjoyed this posting. Hope you are doing okay. You looked quite stressed. You are right to want to grow a relationship slowly. Meeting in neutral place and not revealing where you live etc is absolutely the right way to go. Greetings from New Zealand.
It takes courage to put yourself out there in the dating world. Too bad not everyone is brave enough to be honest when they are not looking for more connection. Just unmatching with no explanation seems abrupt and rather mean.
I have a suggestion for cracking a egg. Get a small bowl and crack the egg on the edge of the bowl. This way you can pick out any shells before you gently put it in the fry pan. Works for me every time. I enjoyed hearing from you it’s been awhile since you have been on. Your a nice guy and it won’t be long before you meet the right person for you. Stay kind 🙂
Awe, hugs. Shells in the skillet suck & so does spilled coffee or melted chocolates. I loved being single, hated dating. Small group activity was my fave way to get to know others. Euchre parties or volleyball. Now I've been married for a couple decades, there are times those egg shells still get in my skillet. Its usually when im longing for something different, like sunshine, or scenery. Wanting sometimes makes me feel ungrateful. So I totally get where you're coming from. For me, I think its becuz I push myself to be the best I can be, probably too much. Especially if things don't go as I want, its one more wasted moment. Then I breath & count my blessings, the things that are going right. I had a wise sales trainer explain that sometimes progress is 2 steps forward & 1 back.
I go back long before dating apps! this year we celebrated our 41st wedding anniversary, we met through a small local dating agency here in the UK. Did not fancy one of the then fairly new large dating agencies. Good luck with future coffee.
I haven’t been in the dating scene for decades but when I was I was truly rubbish at it. Could it be that these ladies are all ready for the coffee ‘date’ then loose there nerve? Will he find me interesting, pretty, will he mind I’m overweight or have broken out in acne for first time in 20 yrs? Sadly you won’t know if any of these are true as you can’t contact to ask. I have a saying for my girlfriends that don’t have an easy ride to love- you’ve got to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince. By that I don’t necessarily mean actually getting as far as kissing but you get my drift. Ms Right will turn up when you least expect her. By the way I’m so glad for you all that your grandmother was able to enjoy her birthday. It’s so difficult to watch them go into decline. Your mum must know that she’s looked after her so well all these yrs. yes we get frustrated, angry, annoyed with our family but that’s all part of caring about them and living with them 24/7.
They say that a simple thing will cause a trigger! Derrick! Dont use the dating sites as a person such as yourself who has overcome many things, it will set you back!! I know I did the same thing! Too many false people, scammers etc... If you do continue which is entirely your choice, DO NOT give too much personal information until you know that that person is interested in you, truly! I believe you WILL find somebody when you don't expect it!!! stay safe!
LOL, we have good days and bad days. We get to choose which we have. I like to ask myself, will I remember this 10, 20 years from now. Most crappy things, I won't remember in 10 or 20 years!
Derick, You are a prize, please remember this. Dating apps are not the best for introverts. Someday soon you are going to meet that special someone. You could be in the park, at the gym, at the mall with Skylar. It will happen. 🥰
hint.. crack your egg on counter and dump into a bowl.. easier to clean shells out.... egg shells can be gotten out easier with another piece of shell. keep on keeping on
I met a few men online. Always met in a public place. I have dated one off and on for 13 years. LoL. I can't live with him ,he can't live with me. We would kill each other. I am 60 and now actually looking for my first love, he was and still is the man of my dreams. If he's married, I will move on. No that's a lie, I'll be back with man of 13 years off and on. We always end back seeing each other again. I hope you find someone you can fun with, that makes you laugh, and you both can't stop thinking about each other.
Totally understand on both issues. Just enjoy hearing you talk even though I hate these are triggers for you. Your voice is very soothing. So there's a plus to remember about yourself 😎 Ohh on the egg, I never crack an egg on an edge of pan/bowl...always straight on flat counter. Much less chances for shells. Take care
I've tried the dating apps and met some losers and some really great guys. Some stay in touch to this day as friends. I know how you feel about the rejection part. It does sting. I tried to think of it as God (or karma) culling that person before they could hurt me. Keep being you and you will find the right one!
🍳🥚🍳I know you got frustrated over the egg cracking this morning but while you were talking about it I am really laughing…and thank you because I needed to laugh today. May I say that it is DEFINITELY not you who is at fault on this dating app. You are a very handsome, well spoken young man. Their loss. I am 73 so when we dated back in the 60’s there were no dating apps. Usually you were introduced by a friend or you worked with them or met them at church, well you get the idea. Don’t give up but please be careful. The world is an odd place to live anymore. I have a young family member who would love to find someone and she gets down about it too but just know what I tell her, the right person who deserves you will come along. That someone special is out there just waiting for you. Again thanks for the laugh over the egg story😊
Don’t take it personally if someone unmatches you because you have no idea what’s going on in that person’s life. Maybe a family member just got a bad diagnosis or maybe their ex came back or maybe they got a new job that’s time consuming or whatever. I was in a class one time and the person I sat down beside got up and moved to another seat. My first thought was WTF - do I have B O or something? Turns out, the topic of class that day was misreading the actions of other people and that was planned as an example!
Dating is such a difficult prospect these days with lots of questions from length of relationship you’re wanting to where you go on a date. Best of luck. Take Care
I can relate to this. I tried the dating apps. I thought I wanted to meet someone after a harsh divorce, but when anyone showed interest in me, I suddenly felt panicked and insecure and found myself backing away in fear. For me, it's the risk of setting myself up to get hurt. I have terrible trust issues. I also like to toss things in the kitchen trash from about 3 feet away. I have terrible aim so 9 times out of ten, it misses and lands on the floor instead. Every time, I get so mad and curse my inept self that I can't do anything right. Even though I know that's not true and I'm just being ridiculous. LOL
Dating is the worst for sure, I was single for 7 years and started dating and it was awful, now I am college educated teaching at the local college you would think I would have no problem with scoring….. nope nope nope…. Oh they wanted a one night stand, but no relationship. I finally did get the most wonderful man to just walk into my life and tomorrow is our 25 anniversary so be patient….. on the egg, I am no cook… truly I try but I will just go buy the eggs cooked! Ha ha There is someone out there just be patient it will happen I promise…. Hang in there!
This is how dating is nowadays. It is really sad. I have been widowed for almost 20 years, and I am 60 years old. The same stuff happens to me as well. It's very disappointing.
Many people who are in prison go on dating sites to have fun It is good not to develop relationship on line without personal contact People who want to chat and hesitate to meet in person are just screwed up
Great video Derrick, made me smile. You just keep doing what you are doing, you are pretty gorgeous from where i’m standing, the ladies will flock, you’ll have to beat them off shortly, she’s out there, you just haven’t met her yet.
Sad sad when a coffee frightens people off. Don't be so hard on your self, this is a new age and people are weird and don't want to commit to anything. I will say it... it is not you it is them. Their loss not yours. Continue on you will find the right one, she is out there waiting and will find you. Hopefully soon.
If you get unmatched over a simple coffee then you were wasting your time anyway! I realize it can still bring you down but it's better for something like that to happen now as opposed to investing a lot of time and feelings in a more established relationship. Don't give up....the right woman is out there ready, willing, and waiting to find you!!!
I'm sure you will find the right lady. You come across as a charming, sincere and caring man. There is someone out there for you. I do think though, that you will meet her when you least expect it. A simple trip to the shop can open up a whole new world. That's the excitement of life. You never know who's around the corner. x
Don't take it personally, many of those people are not ready to date, they are just dipping their toes in and want to imaginary date. The trouble with eggs is weather conditions cause the shells to be thinner or thicker and just when you get the right whack down...splat you got a thin one haha. I am a firm believer in always cracking on a flat surface, not the side of a bowl or pan. Then you break the shell, but not the lining inside the shell and it doesn't crumble.😊
great video! totally agree with out 100%! ....i would meet you at starbucks!!! gotta love that cold coffee!!! LOL. bad timing. i am taken and probably way to old!!! HAPPY EGG CRACKING!!!
Secret to breaking eggs from someone who learned 50 years ago at counter breakfast diner cooking. Take two eggs and tap together lightly. One breaks and other does not and doesnt detach shell from egg lining. Take thumbs on ether side of crack and pull while less than 3 inches from skillet.The online dating thing I'm too old to understand, but I wish you luck.
Thank you for your videos. It’s tough meeting people where I am, especially when I don’t drink. I’ve met some great women on Bumble, but unfortunately we were just at different points in our life. Most of the matches don’t even get to the first date though, most seem to just be on there for self validation.
Full time single mom of two teenaged boys here and …man oh man, can I relate. The apps are terrible, but how else to meet people when I’d so much prefer to be home??? 🤦🏻♀️
hi i didn't know there was a right or wrong way of cracking an egg? some women like the thrill of chatting but a bit frightened of the meeting part, you sound like a really nice guy hang on in there. take care Jacqui from Scotland xx
Hey! I know this wasn't the point of your video, but if you're cracking your egg on the edge of the pan, try instead to crack the egg on the counter. Though not a sure fire solution, I prefer cracking on the flat surface.
Good luck on the egg cracking. haha. Use the eggshell to take out eggshells in pan. works 100%. Dating sites are horrible......people play with your emotions and don't care about it. Be careful who you let into your personal life. You will find the right person on the right time. Just remember that you are an awesome person. I sincerely hope and pray that you will find your match.
Coffee is a great first meet! Yummy in the tummy, public place, short time commitment in case there is no chemistry… PERFECT! Dating apps are HORRIBLE; however, and about as reliable as the local bar as a vehicle for meeting your future love. And please, please, puh-leeeeez do not let the person on the other end of a dating app be any part of the equation you use to determine your self- worth! You never know, that attractive “lady” may, in fact, be a big, burley, hairy guy named Bruce playing you for sport! Love you first and others will follow! ❤️
That's sounds frustrating, especially since the point of dating apps would be to go on dates, you would think lol. And a coffee date sounds like a perfect first date, I wouldn't second guess that. Hopefully you'll have better matches in the future if you just stick with it 🙂.
Hang in there. It usually happens when you least expect it. You're a fine young man, and she's out there. I do agree with the "get a dog and go walking."
I can empathise with the egg situation lol 😂 Re dating, apps seem to attract the kind of people who just want to spend their evenings texting. Top tip, Derrick - get a dog and go walking in those woods you've shown us, I guarantee you will meet a genuine person in no time at all! Best wishes from England 💕
I love that idea. Mostly because of the dog. Lol
That’s an awesome idea!
Derrick, Aubrey hit on the perfect solution. And if you don’t want the responsibility of owning a dog, just offer to dog walk for someone in your neighborhood. 💖
@@DerrickMichaudChannel dog parks too!! Meet so many dog lovers who tend to be better people!! 😉 (animal lovers)
Maybe I'm old school, but I think your ideas of meeting for coffee in a neutral location are absolutely appropriate. IAs a matter of fact, that is exactly what I have suggested to my single friends and family using a dating site. I still think the best way to meet someone compatible is to get involved with activities you enjoy, and see who turns up that shares the same interest. I'm married to my best friend, who was just a fishing buddy 28 years ago, when neither of us were looking for a relationship.
Some days feel like broken eggs, and the great part is recognizing it. Hope tomorrow feels better for you. You do have a lot going on. Take care of yourself.
I’m so sorry you’re feeling so down. Remember, crying is never negative it’s a release. You are a kind intelligent guy with a wonderful smile. It will happen one day, probably not on a dating app, maybe in supermarket. Good luck😡
I would just tell myself..."well, she going to miss out on a wonderful man" and move on. As for the broken egg, I got tried of having a piece of shell in my food, that I started cracking the egg in a cup/bowl or measuring cup. And then gently dropping it into the pan. So much easier fishing out any shell pieces there instead of a hot pan. IMO Hugs to you ! !
I crack my eggs in a cup first because I have trouble. You are not worthless Derrick, get that out of your head. You are an amazing father and you are and amazing son to your mom. Its that lady's loss. A big hug for you. I am 79 so you are an amazing young man.
Dating apps are horrible. Hang in there. You are authentic and someone will appreciate that.
I met a guy at Starbucks for first meeting. He said “I’ll pay this time”. There was not a second time. If you can’t afford to date (cofffee) don’t start. There are plenty of things to do that are not costly. Don’t expect her to pay unless you have agreed on how to divide things or share things. Your mom raised a good man. Open the door for her and pull out her chair, stand when she enters or leaves. Doesn’t cost anything. Good luck but maybe you will find someone when Skylar is older. Raise her first.
Subtitle: Dating isn't all it's cracked up to be.
Haha, good one!
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I used dating sites 10 years ago. I found that the less expensive the app, the less serious the intent for seeking a relationship. I finally invested in a paid site and found a couple of good guys and then eventually my husband. Best of luck to you. You will weed through many before you find a good match.
When I was on a dating site way back about 12 years ago I always wanted to meet for coffee asap so I could see who it was I was conversing with. Seems like it's gotten way, way more complicated! I feel for you. You're a very lovely gentleman and I hope you find a good woman.
Thank you Shell
Yes on the egg-cracking, the only answer for me was to crack them in a bowl first and if the yolks broke, it became scrambled that day. I'm fearful of dating aps, my friends have related so many awful experiences. Good luck with yours, give it time, she's out there somewhere.
The problem is NOT you Derrick …. Don’t be discouraged. There’s someone out there who will appreciate you and what you have to offer.👍🏻👵🏻
Oh, that’s how dating sites work. Hmmm.
Don’t worry Derrick, you will have someone in your life. Because you are opened to it and you are a great guy! She wasn’t the one….
In answer to your initial question is... YES! Everyone feels this way, well only the intelligent ones.
My college students sometimes ask me how they can meet someone to date if they don’t party. My suggestion is to get involved in activities you love and be open to meeting someone. At worst you will have done something you love and made new friends. At best, you will meet someone with whom you share genuine common interests, which will be the basis for real connection. I know it sounds like obvious advice but it really works. It is hard out there, and I sympathize. It really ISN’T you. Do your best to remember there is a reason there are dating apps: because it is HARD to meet someone and make the connection.
You did absolutely nothing wrong. Suggesting meeting for coffee is perfect! It’s low key and casual. I think the “bad egg” was the woman who “unmatched” you. LOL That was not a normal reaction on her part. Thank you for sharing👍🏼
By a name I was given: I'm a "self induced ball of stress" on a "crappy egg" day.🤭
Oh the cracked egg -- I can sure relate to that! How can a little irritant become such a major issue? Yes, there is generally a precursor -- sometimes we can even be aware of what that is! You did the healthy thing Derrick -- recognizing that an earlier event was more significant then you wanted to give it credit for. You did a good job of recognizing it and resetting for a better day ahead. Isn't it funny how these things that we don't recognize immediately as an "issue" -- big or small -- can trip us up after all the work we have done to develop a healthy attitude toward life? Well, not funny, but its part of everyone's life. In your case you recognized almost immediately (ie. within the same day) what had happened and have reset your mind -- call it attitude if you wish -- to go forward and not dwell on the unfortunate events that occur in all lives. Cracked eggs, unexpected changes in potential relationship -- they affect us -- at least for a moment. Good for you and your daughter -- you know how to reset for a healthier future.
Self awareness is so important
You’re the man Derrick. BTY,always crack your eggs in a small bowl first. Saves a lot of headaches. Hang in there when the time is right you will meet the right lady.❤️
Thank you
Hey there Derrick!!!!
Good luck with your egg cracking!!!
I totally understand about the dating apps.. A lot of them are scammers using other people’s photo as well!!!
I know too well from experience!!!
That’s why i’m still single…
It’s hard now a days to trust people at what they tell you!!
Just get out and continue your walking or whatever you may do and the right person will come along!!
Hugs from Memphis!!! ❣️❣️❣️
You did nothing wrong. Coffee sounds safe for you both. Good luck.
I can totally relate! Wish I lived near you...I'd meet you for coffee! I think you're a great guy!! Keep up the great videos and good luck with your new venture. 👍
I think this is a classic example of ‘co-dependency’. That is, letting the actions of others define or affect our mood, our self esteem, our day. Emotional/therapy work is needed to recognize it, then overcome it. Overcoming it becomes a natural reaction eventually. Ask me how I know this. 🥴
You did a great job explaining it.
I really enjoy listening to what you say! Thank you, Derrick!
I met my husband (of 16 years) on a dating app. We both HATED the experience and recommend against it to anyone who'll listen. We hated it for what you called "left and right swiping." That's so awful! When you're out there in the world doing what you do, you'll find each other.
You had me lmao with your explanation of how you crack your eggs. Trust me, you are not alone on that one. As for the dating app, don’t give up, and try not to be so hard on yourself. Good luck! 😊
As a woman who was recently using a dating site, I advise that you would please do your best to not let the women see self-doubt, a significant lack of self-confidence, or having a poor self-image. These can be felt by the other person and could be expressed in just a few words. Example: confidence - “I would like to meet you at Starbucks for a coffee.” Lack of confidence - “I would like to meet you at Starbucks for a coffee if you want.” Do you see the difference. Though it’s subtle, women can pick up on it and be completely turned-off from you. I know it may not feel like it but, you’re doing great! Don’t give up!
An egg cracking tip. Hit the egg on a flat surface, not the side of the pan or bowl, or you’re just not hitting the egg hard enough on the surface.
As for dating, just keep swiping right. Those people who are suddenly un-matching you have their own problems to worry about or could be catfishing for whatever reason people catfish. Perhaps some light hints that you’ll unmatch if there is no possibility of meeting up at Starbucks/Dunkin/or other appropriate coffee shop would help. If I were on a dating app in an honest way, I couldn’t imagine not meeting up with someone I spent getting to know. Another idea might be to progress from texting to speaking through one of the free apps like WhatsApp or facebook messenger before a face to face. You have a reassuring voice and a great sense of humor. Good luck in your pursuit of a partner.
Derrick Good topic today, we've all been there just the slightest little thing sets us off. And then it kind of creeps into our day. But as you said with all the therapy you've had. you can get over it. I agree it's just an egg... But here's some advice as far as eggs go crack your egg into a small dish next to the sink. and then pour it into the pan. And as far as dating goes, I don't envy you there I think it's terrible nowadays. trying to find a good decent,friendly, honest, heartfelt, good listener, which should be at the top of the list. And the list could go on and on. But put your best foot forward and keep plugging along. There's someone out there for everyone. It stinks trying to weed through all the shall we say acceptable people but I mean that in a good sense. Good luck to you and your dating ventures. and I enjoyed your your podcast today.
Always crack the egg on a flat surface. If you crack it on an edge, the shell will go into the yolk and introduce bacteria. As for dating, well there's a cover for every pot. You're smart, good looking, kind, thoughtful, hard-working. You'll find someone. If she unmatched then she wasn't the right one and you missed a bullet! lol
I can relate... I'm also an introvert who attempted computer dating apps...it didn't work for me either. I've decided it's just better to push myself into more social opportunities...I'd rather do dating the old school way. And it's easy to get down on yourself...and take the leap fron a small error to "I just can't do anything right" but you caught yourself! Good for you choosing 🌅 over ⛈️
Dang! Too bad I'm old enough to be your mother! ha ha
You did absolutely nothing wrong. Meeting for a coffee is the perfect thing to do for a first meet-up."
As for the poorly cracked egg...it was trying to hang a picture straight for me.
Love from Australia!
Cracked egg had me laughing. Even worse if there is a pc left and you end up crunching on it!
You will find someone special. App or elsewhere. My daughter wasn’t a big dater, never felt like she had to have a boyfriend, like many do. She went on a app (age 32) and found her future hubby pretty fast. Turned out they were at the same wedding two years previously. When she showed her best guy friend his picture, he said “I know that guy.” Lol. Married 2 years later. I couldn’t ask for a better son-in-law.
Hey Derrick! Loved the egg saga! As far as on line dating, hang in there and DO be selective. I am living proof that it can work. After my 30 year marriage ended, I had pretty much told myself I was done with ever finding love again. He was going to have to knock on my door and say “Here I am”!🤣. Encouraged by family & friends, I signed up for an on line dating platform. Yes, there were dates that were 1 and done, but no hard feelings and an acquaintance was established. There were some that endured for a time but ended. The dating story ended with the gentleman I’ve been exclusive with for the past 9 years! Marriage is not in the picture but we are our forever people! In this Senior Citizen time of life, I live in a state of gratitude for the life I live. When you least expect it, Derrick, she will come your way❤️
Congratulations Sharon. That’s is great you found forever person
I love the title of forever person in such a relationship! So much better than partner or significant other.
Your ideas seems right to me . Safe and neutral.
It seems thats the world today. I did that years ago and found a great deal of ppl just want attention. They want messages every day but arent too interested in getting together to meet (unless it was a hookup). Frustrating that so many are on dating sites but dont want a relationship... too busy, swamped with work or child issues, etc. You just want to ask them, "then why are you here ?!?!" You'll meet someone darlin. I wish you peace, love and happiness.
On the first call I had from my hubby, we agreed to meet and to have coffee to get acquainted. We have been together going on 43 years now. So, hang in there bud. You are being very appropriate. Stick with it. You are a good guy. Please don't change that about yourself. And, you have made a lot of progress in recognizing your frustrations. Good job.
Absolutely, I just try to apologize to others.
Omg I love hearing you talk, you are insightful, kind, and genuine, continue being you the right person is going to come into your life. Just because you are ready it will happen maybe not through a dating app but put it out there and be patient.😊👍
Thank you for sharing Derrick!! You know what, you are really busy right now! You have a ton of work that you are taking on, you've begun a rigorous fitness routine, and let's face it, the world is CRAZY right now!!!! All of this catches up with us, not to mention, Seasonal Affective disorder with a change in seasons quickly approaching. I've found myself Really emotional lately, embarrassing, but also, valid, much is going on! Be gentle with yourself, you are a Great guy, if you want a relationship with someone, it will happen. Rest up, self care, breathe. First things first, and Easy does it! 🌈☘🧘♂️
Enjoyed the video...as far as the dating thing...their loss because you are a very interesting person. I admire your transparency. You do not need a run of the mill person in your life. Sending positive thoughts your way.
Hi Derrick - I think the meet-up for coffee is a great idea. Is there a way you could put that info into the dating site? Something along the lines of “enjoy chatting, meeting for coffee, with a view to forming a relationship”.
If I were looking for a guy, seeing something like that in his bio would peak my interest.
I enjoy your videos, and humor. Try the suggestion of breaking an egg into a small dish first, then transfer to pan.
I think you are a very smart young man - your mom has done a great job. You will find someone when you least expect it.
Thanks for sharing, best wishes from Ohio.
Good video. Coffee meeting is very appropriate.
I honestly don't know how you singles do it! I don't drink either and I wouldn't want to meet at a bar. Meeting for coffee sounds perfectly reasonable to me. Keep going Derrick, you're a top bloke (as we Aussies say) and there's someone out there for you! And - bloody eggs! 😂
Derrick, Do let it bother you. It a blessing that she didn’t meet you. Don’t feel bad about not drinking. I was on a dating app for a while and it was hard so I got off . I lost my husband in 2011 and sometimes I think I like to meet someone,but my family is so important to me that I could not stand anyone telling me that I couldn’t be with my grandchildren. So I sty single.
Thanks Derrick I enjoyed this posting. Hope you are doing okay. You looked quite stressed. You are right to want to grow a relationship slowly. Meeting in neutral place and not revealing where you live etc is absolutely the right way to go. Greetings from New Zealand.
It takes courage to put yourself out there in the dating world. Too bad not everyone is brave enough to be honest when they are not looking for more connection. Just unmatching with no explanation seems abrupt and rather mean.
I have a suggestion for cracking a egg. Get a small bowl and crack the egg on the edge of the bowl. This way you can pick out any shells before you gently put it in the fry pan. Works for me every time. I enjoyed hearing from you it’s been awhile since you have been on. Your a nice guy and it won’t be long before you meet the right person for you. Stay kind 🙂
Thank you for the pro tip!!
Awe, hugs. Shells in the skillet suck & so does spilled coffee or melted chocolates. I loved being single, hated dating. Small group activity was my fave way to get to know others. Euchre parties or volleyball. Now I've been married for a couple decades, there are times those egg shells still get in my skillet. Its usually when im longing for something different, like sunshine, or scenery. Wanting sometimes makes me feel ungrateful. So I totally get where you're coming from. For me, I think its becuz I push myself to be the best I can be, probably too much. Especially if things don't go as I want, its one more wasted moment. Then I breath & count my blessings, the things that are going right. I had a wise sales trainer explain that sometimes progress is 2 steps forward & 1 back.
Every day can’t be a win. As long as there are more steps forward then there are back
I agree with ya. Too many people on these app are flakes, playing games and wasting peoples time
I read 2 women were murdered going on that Bumble dating site . i wouldn't even consider no dating site .
Yikes!!
I go back long before dating apps! this year we celebrated our 41st wedding anniversary, we met through a small local dating agency here in the UK. Did not fancy one of the then fairly new large dating agencies. Good luck with future coffee.
I haven’t been in the dating scene for decades but when I was I was truly rubbish at it.
Could it be that these ladies are all ready for the coffee ‘date’ then loose there nerve? Will he find me interesting, pretty, will he mind I’m overweight or have broken out in acne for first time in 20 yrs? Sadly you won’t know if any of these are true as you can’t contact to ask.
I have a saying for my girlfriends that don’t have an easy ride to love- you’ve got to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince. By that I don’t necessarily mean actually getting as far as kissing but you get my drift.
Ms Right will turn up when you least expect her.
By the way I’m so glad for you all that your grandmother was able to enjoy her birthday. It’s so difficult to watch them go into decline. Your mum must know that she’s looked after her so well all these yrs. yes we get frustrated, angry, annoyed with our family but that’s all part of caring about them and living with them 24/7.
You are a really nice guy Derrick, you will meet a nice woman just be careful and patient
They say that a simple thing will cause a trigger! Derrick! Dont use the dating sites as a person such as yourself who has overcome many things, it will set you back!! I know I did the same thing! Too many false people, scammers etc... If you do continue which is entirely your choice, DO NOT give too much personal information until you know that that person is interested in you, truly! I believe you WILL find somebody when you don't expect it!!! stay safe!
Thank you for the encouragement
I have so many triggers, I feel like I am an AK47 fully loaded. So my release is to jump on utube to get my Michaud “fix” for the day !
LOL, we have good days and bad days. We get to choose which we have. I like to ask myself, will I remember this 10, 20 years from now. Most crappy things, I won't remember in 10 or 20 years!
Derick,
You are a prize, please remember this. Dating apps are not the best for introverts. Someday soon you are going to meet that special someone. You could be in the park, at the gym, at the mall with Skylar. It will happen. 🥰
hint.. crack your egg on counter and dump into a bowl.. easier to clean shells out.... egg shells can be gotten out easier with another piece of shell. keep on keeping on
I met a few men online. Always met in a public place. I have dated one off and on for 13 years. LoL. I can't live with him ,he can't live with me. We would kill each other. I am 60 and now actually looking for my first love, he was and still is the man of my dreams. If he's married, I will move on. No that's a lie, I'll be back with man of 13 years off and on. We always end back seeing each other again. I hope you find someone you can fun with, that makes you laugh, and you both can't stop thinking about each other.
I get nervous when they ask to meet cause I have social anxiety, hence why I'm using a dating app lmaoooo
Totally understand on both issues. Just enjoy hearing you talk even though I hate these are triggers for you. Your voice is very soothing. So there's a plus to remember about yourself 😎
Ohh on the egg, I never crack an egg on an edge of pan/bowl...always straight on flat counter. Much less chances for shells.
Take care
I've tried the dating apps and met some losers and some really great guys. Some stay in touch to this day as friends. I know how you feel about the rejection part. It does sting. I tried to think of it as God (or karma) culling that person before they could hurt me. Keep being you and you will find the right one!
Good way to look at it
🍳🥚🍳I know you got frustrated over the egg cracking this morning but while you were talking about it I am really laughing…and thank you because I needed to laugh today.
May I say that it is DEFINITELY not you who is at fault on this dating app. You are a very handsome, well spoken young man. Their loss. I am 73 so when we dated back in the 60’s there were no dating apps. Usually you were introduced by a friend or you worked with them or met them at church, well you get the idea.
Don’t give up but please be careful. The world is an odd place to live anymore. I have a young family member who would love to find someone and she gets down about it too but just know what I tell her, the right person who deserves you will come along. That someone special is out there just waiting for you.
Again thanks for the laugh over the egg story😊
Glad I made you laugh. Thank you for the comments
You'll meet the right one when you're not looking! Just your awesome self!
Don’t take it personally if someone unmatches you because you have no idea what’s going on in that person’s life. Maybe a family member just got a bad diagnosis or maybe their ex came back or maybe they got a new job that’s time consuming or whatever. I was in a class one time and the person I sat down beside got up and moved to another seat. My first thought was WTF - do I have B O or something? Turns out, the topic of class that day was misreading the actions of other people and that was planned as an example!
Dating is such a difficult prospect these days with lots of questions from length of relationship you’re wanting to where you go on a date. Best of luck. Take Care
I can relate to this. I tried the dating apps. I thought I wanted to meet someone after a harsh divorce, but when anyone showed interest in me, I suddenly felt panicked and insecure and found myself backing away in fear. For me, it's the risk of setting myself up to get hurt. I have terrible trust issues. I also like to toss things in the kitchen trash from about 3 feet away. I have terrible aim so 9 times out of ten, it misses and lands on the floor instead. Every time, I get so mad and curse my inept self that I can't do anything right. Even though I know that's not true and I'm just being ridiculous. LOL
I love tossing things at my trash can
Lucky you, I do not even have an egg to crack ;-)
Dating is the worst for sure, I was single for 7 years and started dating and it was awful, now I am college educated teaching at the local college you would think I would have no problem with scoring….. nope nope nope…. Oh they wanted a one night stand, but no relationship. I finally did get the most wonderful man to just walk into my life and tomorrow is our 25 anniversary so be patient….. on the egg, I am no cook… truly I try but I will just go buy the eggs cooked! Ha ha There is someone out there just be patient it will happen I promise…. Hang in there!
This is how dating is nowadays. It is really sad. I have been widowed for almost 20 years, and I am 60 years old. The same stuff happens to me as well. It's very disappointing.
The apps are supposed to make it easier right?
Many people who are in prison go on dating sites to have fun
It is good not to develop relationship on line without personal contact
People who want to chat and hesitate to meet in person are just screwed up
I love this!!!😂. So true
Great video Derrick, made me smile. You just keep doing what you are doing, you are pretty gorgeous from where i’m standing, the ladies will flock, you’ll have to beat them off shortly, she’s out there, you just haven’t met her yet.
Sad sad when a coffee frightens people off. Don't be so hard on your self, this is a new age and people are weird and don't want to commit to anything. I will say it... it is not you it is them. Their loss not yours. Continue on you will find the right one, she is out there waiting and will find you. Hopefully soon.
Thank you rose
If you get unmatched over a simple coffee then you were wasting your time anyway! I realize it can still bring you down but it's better for something like that to happen now as opposed to investing a lot of time and feelings in a more established relationship. Don't give up....the right woman is out there ready, willing, and waiting to find you!!!
If I was on a dating app, I would appreciate the suggestion of meeting for coffee over dinner or movie. Yes, can relate to the egg. Take care.
Hi , hun love watching your videos x
Love the egg story🙂
I'm sure you will find the right lady. You come across as a charming, sincere and caring man. There is someone out there for you. I do think though, that you will meet her when you least expect it. A simple trip to the shop can open up a whole new world. That's the excitement of life. You never know who's around the corner. x
This is very true.
Yes, i can relate. I have never been on a dating site
They're so lame
Don't take it personally, many of those people are not ready to date, they are just dipping their toes in and want to imaginary date. The trouble with eggs is weather conditions cause the shells to be thinner or thicker and just when you get the right whack down...splat you got a thin one haha. I am a firm believer in always cracking on a flat surface, not the side of a bowl or pan. Then you break the shell, but not the lining inside the shell and it doesn't crumble.😊
You crack me up.lololol.your ok Derrick .you are fine just the way you.Thank You for your videos❤️
great video! totally agree with out 100%! ....i would meet you at starbucks!!! gotta love that cold coffee!!! LOL. bad timing. i am taken and probably way to old!!! HAPPY EGG CRACKING!!!
Secret to breaking eggs from someone who learned 50 years ago at counter breakfast diner cooking. Take two eggs and tap together lightly. One breaks and other does not and doesnt detach shell from egg lining. Take thumbs on ether side of crack and pull while less than 3 inches from skillet.The online dating thing I'm too old to understand, but I wish you luck.
Nice pro tip for the eggs!! Thank you
Thank you for your videos. It’s tough meeting people where I am, especially when I don’t drink. I’ve met some great women on Bumble, but unfortunately we were just at different points in our life. Most of the matches don’t even get to the first date though, most seem to just be on there for self validation.
Well said!
So get a carton frozen eggs..no more shells.🤷♀️ lol
Full time single mom of two teenaged boys here and …man oh man, can I relate. The apps are terrible, but how else to meet people when I’d so much prefer to be home??? 🤦🏻♀️
Exactly. Can’t win
I found a great guy on the dating site Elite. It's been two years and we are very happy.
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hi i didn't know there was a right or wrong way of cracking an egg? some women like the thrill of chatting but a bit frightened of the meeting part, you sound like a really nice guy hang on in there. take care Jacqui from Scotland xx
Hey! I know this wasn't the point of your video, but if you're cracking your egg on the edge of the pan, try instead to crack the egg on the counter. Though not a sure fire solution, I prefer cracking on the flat surface.
Good luck on the egg cracking. haha. Use the eggshell to take out eggshells in pan. works 100%. Dating sites are horrible......people play with your emotions and don't care about it. Be careful who you let into your personal life. You will find the right person on the right time. Just remember that you are an awesome person. I sincerely hope and pray that you will find your match.
I run into the same thing. I think some people are on those apps just for entertainment.
I agree. It can be very fake
Coffee is a great first meet! Yummy in the tummy, public place, short time commitment in case there is no chemistry… PERFECT! Dating apps are HORRIBLE; however, and about as reliable as the local bar as a vehicle for meeting your future love. And please, please, puh-leeeeez do not let the person on the other end of a dating app be any part of the equation you use to determine your self- worth! You never know, that attractive “lady” may, in fact, be a big, burley, hairy guy named Bruce playing you for sport! Love you first and others will follow! ❤️
Derrick, women are goofy don’t let them bum you they are not worth it🤷♀️ Keep cracking that egg it gets better☺️❤️
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BTW congrats on #70!
Thank you. My need to think of something special for 100
That's sounds frustrating, especially since the point of dating apps would be to go on dates, you would think lol. And a coffee date sounds like a perfect first date, I wouldn't second guess that. Hopefully you'll have better matches in the future if you just stick with it 🙂.
they are guys! That’s why they don’t want to meet in person!
Hang in there. It usually happens when you least expect it. You're a fine young man, and she's out there. I do agree with the "get a dog and go walking."
Thank you