A hard truth for many young men
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When I was young, Hollywood screwed me over too. I thought the nice romantic gestures were what girls actually wanted. Boy, was I wrong. I learned my lesson. Lost my innocence when the high school sweetheart I thought I was going to marry cheated on me. After that, I studied and learned the game well.
Chick flicks messed us up 😂 The pathetic nice guy ending up with the hottest chick.
Not really. If you pay attention you realize those dudes might be "average" or below average and were nice but they had to take a risk of some kind. I think we more blinded sided by the fact that the conventionally attractive women in these movies were much more tolerant and accepting their real or perceived flaws and mistakes (accept me for who I am) and how they make things much easier for people their attracted to when given an opportunity.
It's funny because it's true. Except the nice guy doesn't get the woman. So everyone was duped that's how you get one.
@@goofywill90sure, but those films and stupid TV shows like Friends got millions of otherwise intelligent adults and teenagers into honestly thinking it's possible to be appeasing and milquetoast and tame our way into a Woman's vagina and Heart. That isn't how it works and never has
What Pop culture, Hollywood, and milquetoast Christianity have done to men of the West is unforgivable and should never be forgotten.
I rarely see the word 'milquetoast' in the wild. Touché.
Paul Coughlin, author of "No More Christian Nice Guy," wrote in one of his books a quote from a woman I'll never forget: "The best guys to date are the ones who've only been in the church a couple years because they still have some masculinity left."
@@sweydert Makes sense. Christianity promotes what Neitzche called "Slave morality". The problem with Christians and Christianity is that the entire religion is founded on A) Only cultivating that which is good and ignoring one's dark side, and B) The belief that their ethics are shared by all and if they are not then it is their duty mandated by God to convert them.
The problem with ignoring the dark side of one's self is talked about extensively by Jung as well as Neitzche. We are not designed by nature to behave in the ways we behave which is suppressing most of who we are so not to upset the community; a community that doesn't give back to us emotionally, spiritually, and materially what we sacrifice for it. Christianity tells you that you are flawed from birth and need to be sorry to God and live humble or else you will eternally burn. The philosophy behind Christianity is one of subservience to a higher power that is ultimately disgusted by your existence in a human body. The greatest of "sins" (besides denial of the Holy Spirit and Pride) is sexual desire. This alone should make someone who is sane and intelligent give pause realizing the contradiction of needing sexual desire to procreate and then being told you are "unclean" and a "sinner" if you have desire or perform the physical act outside of marriage. It's clear and obvious that it is a man made construct to create social order and cohesion within a civilization, however, we can logically and logistically see how 1 man for 1 woman is impossible given the population distribution of males and females.
The last one is in my opinion the cause for collapse in our society and that is the belief that all share a universal code of ethics. Post Pagan Westerners for about the past 1600 years believe that their way is the only way and that so long as we "spread the word" other cultures will just throw away their history and traditions. In the 1960s a Christian missionary tried to convert tribes in Papua New Guinea and when told the story of Jesus they found Judas to be the hero of the story. Why? Because in their culture the trickster archetypes were the heroes. Christians cannot fathom this reality that not everyone sees the world like them and so it makes them even more radical and fanatical in trying to force their cult on everyone else.
By nature, women despise weak men, and what is more weak than a man who believes he is a servant? It is not holy and pious to make yourself as low as possible, it is essentially putting on the shackles of slavery on a plantation with a master that doesn't exist. That's not to say there is no "God" however one defines God, but imagine a field with men in handcuffs that they put on themselves tilling soil while talking to themselves while apologizing, giving thanks, and begging for help. It's pretty silly, and yet that is what Christian men do, only they do it in their day to day lives and not in the middle of a metaphorical field.
@@sweydert Makes sense. Christianity promotes what Neitzche called "Slave morality". The problem with Christians and Christianity is that the entire religion is founded on A) Only cultivating that which is good and ignoring one's dark side, and B) The belief that their ethics are shared by all and if they are not then it is their duty mandated by God to convert them.
The problem with ignoring the dark side of one's self is talked about extensively by Jung as well as Neitzche. We are not designed by nature to behave in the ways we behave which is suppressing most of who we are so not to upset the community; a community that doesn't give back to us emotionally, spiritually, and materially what we sacrifice for it. Christianity tells you that you are flawed from birth and need to be sorry to God and live humble or else you will eternally burn. The philosophy behind Christianity is one of subservience to a higher power that is ultimately disgusted by your existence in a human body. The greatest of "sins" (besides denial of the Holy Spirit and Pride) is sexual desire. This alone should make someone who is sane and intelligent give pause realizing the contradiction of needing sexual desire to procreate and then being told you are "unclean" and a "sinner" if you have desire or perform the physical act outside of marriage. It's clear and obvious that it is a man made construct to create social order and cohesion within a civilization, however, we can logically and logistically see how 1 man for 1 woman is impossible given the population distribution of males and females.
The last one is in my opinion the cause for collapse in our society and that is the belief that all share a universal code of ethics. Post Pagan Westerners for about the past 1600 years believe that their way is the only way and that so long as we "spread the word" other cultures will just throw away their history and traditions. In the 1960s a Christian missionary tried to convert tribes in Papua New Guinea and when told the story of Jesus they found Judas to be the hero of the story. Why? Because in their culture the trickster archetypes were the heroes. Christians cannot fathom this reality that not everyone sees the world like them and so it makes them even more radical and fanatical in trying to force their cult on everyone else.
By nature, women despise weak men, and what is more weak than a man who believes he is a servant? It is not holy and pious to make yourself as low as possible, it is essentially putting on the shackles of slavery on a plantation with a master that doesn't exist. That's not to say there is no "God" however one defines God, but imagine a field with men in handcuffs that they put on themselves tilling soil while talking to themselves apologizing, giving thanks, and begging for help. It's pretty silly, and yet that is what Christian men do, only they do it in their day to day lives and not in the middle of a metaphorical field.
@@sweydertAs a Muslim myself,history teaches us that during the crusades,the most manly were the staunch Christian warriors- the knight templars and knight hospitllars.
The more I learn about women, the less I want to spend time, energy, money and effort on them.
The juice simply isn't worth the squeeze.
Seen too many men get destroyed by divorce.
Go to Asia, they’re still traditional and respectful. Plus they love foreigners. Dr Orion said it himself that he really enjoyed his time in Japan. But hey, Philippines, Vietnam, etc.
@@TinRapper bro traditional shit is go in to drain bro i live in Vietnam my self
Export yourself.
Vietnam is best @@TinRapper
@@arandomvietnamese5787 don’t go to bars 😂
Only gets the police called if you're not attractive.
Yup so choose a woman who wants you too not just a woman you want
@@tspice11the problem is these women are delusional, they think that they are better and therefore deserve better than what they do deserve.
and short
Well women do like bad boy felons 🤣🤣
Or by the woman's parents..
: ) I had that happen 2 times with guys showing up outside windows like that when i was really young, & another 1 as an adult, ha, ha... I appreciated the sentiment, only 'cause i knew them enough to not be scared by it, but don't advise it. Felt like an invasion of privacy & they did not get to come inside. Showing up unannounced is never a good idea, especially past normal visiting hours.
when you get old, you're going to miss guys doing that. over age 40 no men will do that for you.
Relationships are a triad now. He, her, and the law. 🥶
*and the law _written by her._
I love that these two creators are filming together. They are definitely two of my favorite.
Hi what's his youtube name??
Truth!
Untrue.....there is no point trying to herd cats.
why.the thumbnail looks like you're equipped with a bow lmao
the end XD ahahah yeah...
my mother is returning from vacation this weekend. I'm already pissed off. a common quality of women , even one's own mother is that they can't sit peacefully, and don't let other's sit peacefully.
I see mine once a year or twice and it's hell. I'm just doing my duty, since at least a decade and she still doesn't get it and I explain it to her every time. Never let yourself belittle, not even from your mother
Yeah, she shouldn't have birthed you
Right she shouldn’t had carried you for 9 months all that pain n suffering of carrying a child n birthing it n raising it for that ungrateful prick to complain about you to the world via youtube.
@@bodhisattva2348 you are weak , work on your ego, I'm sure Buddha wouldn't approve your behavior, mother's boy.
True. Women are either asleep or are telling a man what to do.
Treat her like you would YOURSELF...or better...if ya "self hate"😊
This doesn't mean "simp" or let someone walk all over you. Stand your ground when necessary. Don't let people "play" with you.
"Trust is gained in drops and lost in buckets..."
After a time you don't see her "bucket fill", she's not the one. Choose someone else.
How do you know that you are done with the RP rage phase? When you are more irritated with Hollywood, education and the legal system than you are with women.
I'd say you are still in the later stages of rage. Accepting things as they are and knowing you cannot do anything about them is when you have moved on. Also being able to se woman for what they are and choosing whether or not you want to deal with them.
I view the Red pill the same way as I view grief. Here are the 7 stages of grief and a possible interpretation for each stage. Everyone will interpret the stages slightly differently but as a roadmap for dealing with the redpill and moving on, it's helped me process it.
1. Shock - But women are sugar and spice and all things nice, this message is just toxic masculinity and the messenger is a misogynist.
2. Denial. - Most men can't accept being red pilled.
3. Anger. - The rage.
4 .Bargaining. - Passport Bros and seeking the unicorns.
5. Depression - Sadness that you cannot view Women the same anymore. You can either love a women or understand her, but not both.
6. Testing - Rejoining the dating market to see what happens.
7. Acceptance. - Being comfortable with your view on the world and having the tools to deal with the situation.
Hollywood, education and the legal system are still in phase 1 +2. Your irritation of them is a different issue to your rp rage.
“Passport bros” is not a phase. Although women at their core are the same everywhere, the difference between the typical western woman and typical Muslim women, for example, is that Muslim women are typically virgins, know how to cook, clean, have helped raise children, be a help to their husbands, and have family values, whilst typical western women are highly narcissistic and largely useless and without skill. For me, the choice is clear. I love all women, but I do not want a relationship with a typical western woman. I’m very happy with my Muslim wife, after exhausting years wasted on the western dating meat grinder. That being said, the dating years certainly taught me a lot about women, and I benefit from that knowledge to this day.
@@Aoi_Fansother option. Treat them as they treat you. Pretty sure thats a famous quote somewhere and pretty applicable. Maybe then they will change, probably not but hey its worth a shot
@@Aoi_Fanspassport bros are such an L because they think they have completed the journey when they are really stuck on the journey. If you get to the stage of acceptance you definitely don't need a passport. Good list
When I was in high school I took my romantic advice from Snoop Dogg!
The importance of having a father or mother that are truthful. Most parents are blinded from the truth.
Orion Taraban is doing the world a great service to both men and women. Thank you for your work!
Since a very early age, I figured out something is not right with whoomen. First time exposed to RP was at 22. It made sense back then. I Didn't take it too seriously though as I was entirely focused on studies. Got into a relationship at 24, broke up at 26. I was looking for answer for the remaining questions, and found them thankfully.
One thing I can tell you about the entire process/journey: The RP is 100% right and accurate. As bitter as it tastes, one has to swallow it.
I met a traditional foreign woman. But then my BS detector kicked in. Especially when she said "look, these tennis shoes are only $300 (when compared to the $900, $2,400, $1,400 ones at Neiman Marcus). Then turned a she was going to cook for me, to what I am gong to cook for her.
Would you please elaborate on the shoe part? Did she guilt you into buying a lot of clothes for her?
You didn't think a traditional woman would want to be treated with gifts?
You should have replied "Well I was thinking of cooking up some shoes but if you'd rather me cook dinner that is fine too."
@@kavoshkhoshbin1432 No, I did not buy any shoes. I understand how women like gifts, but they need to be reasonable. I don't consider $300, $900, $1,400, $2,400 reasonable for gifts.
Yes, no need to rub it in.
You should get 10% of every bad marriage you prevent. Lol. Where were you when I was 20? Jk. Keep on keeping on. You’re helping the pendulum return to rest.
Women of past generations partnered up with a men and focused on protecting her man's time and money so the family could thrive. Now they just want to take as much as they can before the next woman takes it. Men are being looted. Marrirage is dead. Relationships are all short term. Men and women try to take what they can before each relationship inevitability fails. Men try and take sex. Women take money and time.
Does any one have the full podcast guys ??? I know the other guy is the owner of what have learned channel
It's under the "Community" tab
Add the link
This guy looks too good doesn't need any advice
Damn if this isn't the truest thing ever. 😂😂
Clearly you've never seen Oceans 11.
Men have to realize that most of the rom/com teen bop movies were written and made by incels.
Fyi the police only gets called if you're not her type or you're abusive.... making an effort especially after u messed up is actually the only way..
You forgot when she's crazy.
It's true they won't often call the cops unless you're an asshole. But it's also not going to go over well unless she actually likes you. Just ask her iut😂on a date rather than some grand gesture that could look creepy
@@scottverge938 Yeah that's what I'm saying. If she doesn't like you like that, it's creepy. If she likes you and you messed up, it's a nice gesture.
😂
It doesn't bother me that I have to become something. What bothers me is what value the female offers in return ?
Taraban doesn’t really know about female psychology the way he portrays. How could he? He’s not a woman
Lots of hard truths about sociopaths