I had a negative experience recently. I've been training for less than a month. I had an instructor I've never met before, mid thirties (brown belt). He offered to roll with me and submitted every 20-30 seconds. At this point I was winded and just trying to survive and get position. While doing this I grabbed his arm and apparently pinched him twice. He the said to me " if you pinch me again I will choke you out". No humor in his voice and it was not a teaching moment. It was a full on threat and it sucked. Feeling discouraged and not really wanting to go back. This was probably my 7th or 8th class and had great times previously. Was that a weird thing for him to say or am I being soft?
As a coach myself, I know all too well what getting pinched by a white belt feels like! Having said that, threatening you is a joke and the guy must have been having a bad night. Id suck it up unless it happens again but do try to not pinch skin, everyone does it when they start! Keep at bjj! (-: Coach Tom Davey
He should be encouraging you to relax and the more tense and the more stressed you are the more likely it is you'll pinch him by mistake when going for an arm. I'd maybe talk to him and say I'm really sorry my coordination because I was gassed was all over the shop I didn't intend to pinch and maybe he'll slow it down next time.
I got subbed 12 times in 5 min and ended up biting the guy it wasn’t on purpose it was more a desperate reflex, I apologized after and was banned from the gym
I think it's great for helping people tone down their ego's. Because I think Jiu-jitsu is one of those that for long periods you feel like you aren't making progress and getting smashed over and over. The ego gets a pounding then suddenly you'll hit a sweep or a good escape against someone really good and you then feel like there's improvement even if you still get smashed smashed it's those little improvements that keep you going back and I'm lucky the place I train is so chilled and a fun place to be.
Learning how to deal with these egos, will help you grow your heart...Have an untroubled spirit and see things for what they are. BJJ is sooooo much bigger than one ego and that ego will eventually get dealt with by a high belt at some point...BJJ is a team sport, you cannot get better without your training partners...5 year old rules work great for everyone, treat others how you want to be treated.
I like BJJ. Always being a nice guy in the gym and showing respect to the coaches but I don’t see that reciprocating in reality from a few ego ones. Thanks to this video, I will learn to ignore negativity.
In my class, I have 50-year-old recent blue belt who does not like to guide the basics, does not like to discuss on any questions, curses a lot, randomly says to shut up to lower belts or newbies and unfortunately, the instructors at my school are Brazilians and they do not understand English. It just makes me feel sick when I go to class. I do not know If I should I stop going to the class and work at the home gym, because of me being vocal and trying to correct him made things even worst and I keep getting verbal attacked and bullied, I initially thought BJJ is a great sport BUT lately started to realize it is just creating a negative energy, I am a contractor, I work with military and best folks in IT, I also do auditing for instructors on various aspects from technical to non-technical, combat sports is my passion and always has been. I do not want to go back to my old mud dog days of back and forth silly arguments or getting personal/physical. ATM I am completely avoiding him and basically, he is non-existent to keep my focus and positivity, appreciate if anyone has a better way for me to deal with this type of situation. REMEMBER I am 33 years old looking for wise advice.
HI Ash. It sounds like you either need to a: confront the guy, ask him to be polite and if it escalates speak to your coach. or b: leave and try a new academy. or c: Just get better than him and whoop his ass and shut his ass up with your skills. (-: Coach Tom Davey
Coach Tom, appreciate your response and options, I better go with option C and convert the negativity into beneficial aspect for myself. I am sure if I leave this school and go to some other place I will have some other person to deal with :). Thank you.
Keep spreading the message Tom. Not everyone wants to be a world champ. Plenty do it for fun, and because they love it.
Great comment Robert, agree 100%. Have fun on the mats (-: Coach Tom
Ego is, why I gave up. These idiots keep bigging themselves up. Can't be bothered because of them.
I had a negative experience recently. I've been training for less than a month. I had an instructor I've never met before, mid thirties (brown belt). He offered to roll with me and submitted every 20-30 seconds. At this point I was winded and just trying to survive and get position. While doing this I grabbed his arm and apparently pinched him twice. He the said to me " if you pinch me again I will choke you out". No humor in his voice and it was not a teaching moment. It was a full on threat and it sucked. Feeling discouraged and not really wanting to go back. This was probably my 7th or 8th class and had great times previously. Was that a weird thing for him to say or am I being soft?
As a coach myself, I know all too well what getting pinched by a white belt feels like! Having said that, threatening you is a joke and the guy must have been having a bad night. Id suck it up unless it happens again but do try to not pinch skin, everyone does it when they start! Keep at bjj! (-: Coach Tom Davey
It wasn’t right what he did man accidents happen as a brown belt level practitioner he shouldn’t be acting like that .
He should be encouraging you to relax and the more tense and the more stressed you are the more likely it is you'll pinch him by mistake when going for an arm.
I'd maybe talk to him and say I'm really sorry my coordination because I was gassed was all over the shop I didn't intend to pinch and maybe he'll slow it down next time.
I got subbed 12 times in 5 min and ended up biting the guy it wasn’t on purpose it was more a desperate reflex, I apologized after and was banned from the gym
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I think it's great for helping people tone down their ego's.
Because I think Jiu-jitsu is one of those that for long periods you feel like you aren't making progress and getting smashed over and over.
The ego gets a pounding then suddenly you'll hit a sweep or a good escape against someone really good and you then feel like there's improvement even if you still get smashed smashed it's those little improvements that keep you going back and I'm lucky the place I train is so chilled and a fun place to be.
Learning how to deal with these egos, will help you grow your heart...Have an untroubled spirit and see things for what they are. BJJ is sooooo much bigger than one ego and that ego will eventually get dealt with by a high belt at some point...BJJ is a team sport, you cannot get better without your training partners...5 year old rules work great for everyone, treat others how you want to be treated.
Word. (-: Coach Tom Davey
Thank you for this very positive video
Thanks for the uplift.
My pleasure! Happy rolling (-: Coach Tom
Very good advice.
Sharing.
great channel, thank you for the uploads
MY pleasure illmind, have fun on the mats (-: Coach Tom
I like BJJ. Always being a nice guy in the gym and showing respect to the coaches but I don’t see that reciprocating in reality from a few ego ones. Thanks to this video, I will learn to ignore negativity.
Thanks!
In my class, I have 50-year-old recent blue belt who does not like to guide the basics, does not like to discuss on any questions, curses a lot, randomly says to shut up to lower belts or newbies and unfortunately, the instructors at my school are Brazilians and they do not understand English. It just makes me feel sick when I go to class. I do not know If I should I stop going to the class and work at the home gym, because of me being vocal and trying to correct him made things even worst and I keep getting verbal attacked and bullied, I initially thought BJJ is a great sport BUT lately started to realize it is just creating a negative energy, I am a contractor, I work with military and best folks in IT, I also do auditing for instructors on various aspects from technical to non-technical, combat sports is my passion and always has been. I do not want to go back to my old mud dog days of back and forth silly arguments or getting personal/physical. ATM I am completely avoiding him and basically, he is non-existent to keep my focus and positivity, appreciate if anyone has a better way for me to deal with this type of situation. REMEMBER I am 33 years old looking for wise advice.
HI Ash. It sounds like you either need to a: confront the guy, ask him to be polite and if it escalates speak to your coach. or b: leave and try a new academy. or c: Just get better than him and whoop his ass and shut his ass up with your skills. (-: Coach Tom Davey
Coach Tom, appreciate your response and options, I better go with option C and convert the negativity into beneficial aspect for myself. I am sure if I leave this school and go to some other place I will have some other person to deal with :). Thank you.
There are some uncover sadistic narcissist in the bjj game especially higher belts
just beat them and their ego will go down
god daym you are awesome
I try to be nice as possible and try to respect my partners while rolling and bow to them if I choke them out.