This talk always reminds me of a friend I had in college, not a close friend, we were only alone together once, in a cafe. We both were waiting for our food at the same time and decided to eat together. That one hour I talked more about myself than I ever had, and the strangest part was that I didn't feel the stabbing, socially anxious, neurodivergent guilt spiral about it. She asked me so many questions and was so genuinely interested and engaged, for no reason. She wasn't trying to impress me or mentor me or become closer friends. It stood out to me because it seemed purposeful but not forced. I think she was doing this, actively holding space for me and bringing us both into the present moment. No agenda whatsoever, just passing the time. It was one of the kindest things anyone has ever done for me, in retrospect.
Wow, this is very touching actually. Thank you for sharing. I was that woman…no I’m just kidding, but it does confirm a suspicion that loving people exactly as they are is perhaps the kindest thing we can do. 🪞💙
So let's break this down. How much of your need to be in a relationship is based on ego? Also understand that when you are in any relationship, you are sacrificing yourself to do so. That is very reminiscent of servitude. I am the master of my own domain, and I prefer to keep it that way.
@@chrism8180 “when you are in any relationship, you are sacrificing yourself to do so.” Would you extend this to a relationship between coworkers, where the two parties work together to accomplish something? Think about that for a minute. I want to know how far the limitations of that statement go for you, if you don’t mind me picking your brain.
@@ryangarrod4191 The limitation comes when it feels disproportionate, or like I am being taken advantage of. Instead of fueling a common goal, I am being treated as a means to an end, and not as a human being. That's where my limitations lie
What I have found is that until you deal with your "stuff" and embrace solitude, you're no good in a relationship. Of course, the irony is that once you've achieved this, the "need" for a relationship leaves entirely. All relationships become optional--extra--under these circumstances.
and that's the beauty. You choose a partner not because you're in need of one, but because your sould desires one. But in a way that doen't implies neediness. Your soul searches another person, because without, you can't reach the next step. For me relationships are mirrors for current problems, traumas or tasks you have to solve. Through and with the other soul you are capable of growing to an extend you wouldn't be able to do all alone.
I'm so in tune with the destructive nature of my ego, I wouldn't subject another human being to my shit. Romantically speaking. My job on this earth now is to be the best father I can possibly be, and a decent human being to those I come into contact with.
I love this, instead of playing the personality game with others, practice emptiness with others... letting freedom be the reflection they see from you
I feel so alive and spiritual outside of relationships but once I’m in them I lose all maturity. I feel like a little kid! I haven’t yet learned what a relationship is supposed to mean and I always want to change them. I have been looking for awakened info on this, glad this video popped up as a start
Same with me. I am a light to others outside of relationships but I am destructive to that light within relationships. It's a tough lesson for me on control, trust, letting go completely. So challenging
When i get into relationships, they start like "meh I'll bite. What's the worst that can happen" But i attract very specific kinds of people, and my spirit just gets destroyed in relationships. I don't get any genuine attention, love, affection, or even touch. I'm only like a therapist or a trash can for everyone to puke their worries into, but no one ever empties it. Who tf cares about a trash can anyway, no matter what kind of personality it has, or what it looks like No connection. It's like two soulless business people shaking hands and making some business agreement where both people end up losing a part of their soul. My normal state is being a wild animal. Free spirit flowing through the world, unbiased, full on warmness and appreciation for all beauty in the world. And you can't cage a wild animal. I know that might be a bit cheesy, but ugh..
I came to the realization one day that everything in my life was just a big, interconnected web of egos. Starting to see it that way let me see all the problems that my own ego was causing in the whole system.
"...that kind of symbiosis is fine if you don't get trapped in it, but if you get trapped in it, it's a nightmare rooted in your sense of separateness..."
💊 Relationships become a vehicle for freedom when we let go of expectations and agendas. 💊 Being a safe space for others means not having a fixed model or agenda for them. 💊 Balancing intuitive heart and thinking mind is crucial; denigrating intellect is not the solution. 💊 Problems require wisdom, not just knowledge or intellect. 💊 Shift from seeing relationships as fulfilling needs to using them for personal growth and freedom. 💊 The trap of personality and separateness leads to suffering. 💊 Fulfilling needs doesn't bring lasting happiness; desires create an endless cycle. 💊 Many people are trapped in their personalities, reinforcing the illusion of who they think they are. 💊 Interacting based on personalities can blind us to the deeper planes of consciousness. 💊 Recognize the illusion of separateness and use relationships to free ourselves from this trap.
I’ve noticed most people don’t really want to see beyond who think you are, or how you present yourself…the majority of us are just projecting what we think is being presented onto others anyway. Most people also find it completely inappropriate to talk about anything of real consequence. That’s why we pay people to hear it and then be sure it’s completely confidential. Even our own partners don’t really want to know what has happened to us before or very much about us. We really are alone unless we find someone who can be ok with all our imperfections. But it’s really so rare, and even if you are willing to hold that space for a person it doesn’t mean they’ll have the capacity to give it back to you. Nearly all my relationships are totally meaningless.
I really FW what youre saying. When I stopped caring about what others thought I simultaneously stopped trying to keep the metaphorical bowling lane bumpers up to guide their opinion toward what I consider accurate. It gives people the impression I'm a beta or a poor anxious baby bird but really I just dont see the need to correct anyone's opinion of me anymore. I like watching people realize how wrong they were but I am working to not care about that either because that is pleasure of the ego. It's all coming together very quickly and very well.
@@bignose16I feel more sappy. More loving. More forgiving. When you toss out the ego you're just left with love.(assuming you were replying to me, if not MB)
2:59 is an incredible part of his speech. I love the part where he says “I have a right to be angry” “well wait, there’s no rush, when you’ve finished that trip, we’ll still be here” oh boy, oh boy! Really pulls me out of my own crap 😂❤
Yeah, that reminds me of the angry righteousness of looking down on those who got the vaccine during the scamdemic. Or looking down on those who prefer drinking and smoking to simply being in the moment without uselessly intoxicating the body.
Yeah, that reminds me of the angry righteousness of looking down on those who got the vaccine during the scamdemic. Or looking down on those who prefer drinking and smoking to simply being in the moment without uselessly intoxicating the body.
Yeah, that reminds me of the angry righteousness of looking down on those who got the vaccine during the scamdemic. Or looking down on those who prefer drinking and smoking to simply being in the moment without uselessly intoxicating the body.
You know what? When I focus simply on just the ‘best’ friendship with my girl, what happens? I get so caught up in just enjoying her and the freedom to be dumb and childish and funny af without the pressure of HAVING to BE a super husband/boyfriend all the time. What else happens? When you finally do get around to lovin’ on each other it naturally is more profound. So…. Clown on your girl every chance you get, is what I’m getting at lmfao
Pressure of having to be super husband/boyfriend? What is that mean? What about jealousy, cheating, and having different values? I think those are my struggles in a relationship. As far as having fun with her, that’s the easy part for me. I feel like each relationship has her own sets of struggles, depending on both of your personality and how you were brought up.
@@chansermish2406 You make a good point. It’s not so easy to be childish if your partner fundamental differences in where you should live or how the money should be spent. However, if there are fundamental differences that are keeping you from being playful, that is a good sign that the relationship should be ended.
This is one of the most important things I have ever heard as a human animal who struggles daily to maneuver through the constant conflicts of our imperfect society filled with unconscious people and superficial culture.
I am def learning to let go of control and jealousy, being a different human. I needed this material so long ago, before I hurt my wife, myself, and our relationship so much. It’s crazy how much we were never taught about how to be proper humans.
I'm jealous of you, I wish I didn't have to hear people and their self righteous opinions spouted out without me asking for it. I have bad tinnitus too, and the incessant buzzing is a pain to deal with, deafness would be a welcome remedy.
So many people go to their graves without ever realising they've lived an entire life asleep in their ego/false self/ shadow self, call it what you will. Cheddar, sir/madam/cheese, are on the right path now, and that's all that matters.
I don’t have anyone to reach out to and I’ve been dealing with mental illness pretty much all of my life that I can remember the only reason I’m still alive is Bc I don’t wanna make my mum sad
@@Gutswitdaboof710 Same here fam. I can only say keep shining you are beautiful. I mean it you are. I recommend trying therapy, but it's so so hard being in this state. You are so brave for sticking through it. Please treat this condition like a broken arm and do not ignore getting help. You deserve to be happy. I am wishing you well, for whatever that is worth my friend. 💕💕If you are younger than 18 (Not that it matters simply more chemicals are unregulated and running through your body and mind) then I can say it gets easier, it stays the same, and it changes completely. I know you are a stranger but I love you. Simply for just your being you.
@@Moon-ep2bb they would put me in a cage I just need my kitty lol and I’m almost 20 just mentally a child but I don’t really even want to talk to anyone about my life I don’t trust people everyone fucks me over eventually
There is profound wisdom in this pointer. We are all playing make believe pretending we are real. Seriousness is our only crime. To be playful and break character every now and then is not required, it is necessary . ❤
Today, for me, it is January 20th, 2022. This talk inspired me to treat everyone I meet as GOD. I’ll report back. Edit: February 20th, 2022. As it turns out, it is incredibly difficult.
SEE everyone as God... not TREAT everyone as God. big difference. Your being has decades of time being built... have patience in shifting your being, your essence to who you TRULY are. Radical self compassion is called for... *SPOILER ALERT* see YOURSELF as God :-)
Well, it is difficult but try to see the best in things and you may turn that being that bad person of God (a scammer or fustrated person) into a better one (a happier and understood person). If someone gives you rude attitude, respond with patience and politeness to calm them down. This won’t work fire everyone but it will give the situation a peace of mind.
Yes, I’m starting to learn the more you let go, anxiety and expectations and such, life becomes more effortless and beautiful. Yes there are still struggles, but we just don’t create unnecessary problems
Tremendous talk, dear Ramm Dass. I shall go on rehearsing every Day. I am 70' now, and I had to live Till I was 63" to find out, that I had to move out of suffering for my whole life. Thank You. Namaste🙏
@@curtiscollins-healthdept.5474 I'm about halfway through it, and it's a remarkable book. It's highlighted specific aspects of myself that I didn't notice previously. I notice little ego trips that I go down in my most subtle interactions with people. I can see myself re-reading it many more times, too. I feel like I'll be able to get different information out of it when looking at it from a different angle. Though, I suppose that's probably true about any book :)
@@tonyrigatoni766 That pesky ego is soooo easy to trip over :) It too helped open my mind more when i first read it. Enjoy getting furthere into you fellow human!
@@obicube I trip over my ego much of the time, but I also have moments where I can see that I am not my ego, and I'm able to appreciate it for what it is from that perspective.
My fiance just left me after 5 years together and two kids. I felt like I needed her to be a better mother and partner and she needed me to be more emotionally available. It still hurts but I am trying to embrace the pain and improve myself as a person. Thanks for posting this, I really needed to hear it!
In 1978 i traveled in my car from Maryland to California Not knowing exactly where u would land. I had a copy of Ram Dass book, Be Here Now. I read it and didnr understand it all. Now it's 2023, Watching this video, I am Older & Much Wiser .. ✌️💗
As a student of Kripalu, I have focused on my inner Guru. My son passed a few months ago & I can not get enough of Ram Dass on you tube. Prior to my sons transition, I enjoyed the solitude of my inner being but this has all been shaken. Thank you for posting His talks. I feel as if Ram Dass is my guru & Guide in Spirit .
No I think He is afraid …and a a fraud Ideology of ideas that are not based in reality All humans have needs . A human without needs is not a human ….but a robot
It pains my heart so badly that I destroyed my marriage, to an absolutely amazing human, because I wasn’t awake. Over many years of the awakening process I see now that it was grace. It’s what had to happen because it’s what happened. I hope to rebuilt this relationship, but if it’s too much for my spouse I accept that decision. And will always love them unconditionally.
LOL "God in drag." Takeaways: You see who they think they are and you react to it, going into the personality realm and interacting with other people. You don't see other planes of consciousness. There is just awareness. When we come together through roles and personalities, these are vehicles through which we meet, the identification of the vehicle becomes a trap. Meet through the vehicle of all that stuff, but through the process let us find a way out of being trapped in this." Free from egoic separateness notions. That we are all walking each other home.
Yes, I realised I've been doing that. Speaking to people from their perspective rather than the gods they are. Thereby dropping the attachments, titles and rules. Great advice. Thank you
In my best moments, if I see a puppy or child, I'll say to myself " my my look how God has come to me today" ... You can do it with everything but puppies and kids are especially fun. It creates a shift.
To suggest that we should "provide a safe space to others by not having an agenda" is a great idea. But don't forget that to approach someone for the purpose of being open to them is an agenda. I could elaborate but I think you guys see the contradiction. I think some agendas are worth having and sharing. Ram Dass at all stages of his life made a living selling various agendas. The ones toward the end of his life were awesome and I am very glad he did put out all of this content for us!
I woke up talking shit to my husband and then I saw this suggested in my TV, thank you Ram Das this message I needed today and Im sure my inner Guru showed up like this today. I sometimes feel more free and then there are days like today where I'm so lost in my ego I'm spreading negativity all over feeling justified, pushing others to change first. Relationships, marriage can be hard, just living with others is hard sometimes, but without this challenges I wouldn't even be a little awake so I am thankful at the end for all the challenges Relationships bring
@@mord0 yea, I admit it. It's not every day and theres nothing personal about it, if I were to share more details maybe it'll make more sense but thats not my point, WORSE is judging others, I got that from the video ✌
as I watch this video, I am filled with 999-trillion layers of: rage and stress and grief and fear and panic and terror and worry and anxiety and depression and despair. however, I am praying and intending from this moment forward... to have my life be changed around for the better. beyond recognition. for the best. for surrender! for healing, on every level, in every way. permanently. for bliss, for joy, for magic, for miracles... I accept and receive: perfect health, abundant wealth, and sacred love. NOW and forevermore. so be it, so it is, it is done.
pure intellect matching directly as the baby in the car seat able to describe the ride writing code in support of the operating system achieving silent patience is truly actually sublime
I feel closer to the person i love when we’re apart. It’s as if having someone right there just reminds you that they won’t be there one day. And the anguish is so great I’d rather them not be there and be used to them not being there and loving them from afar.
When you give in and finally let go, it's like that bit where Ram talks about the fog clearing. I feel if you try and live objectively and watch yourself and your thoughts, it helps free up space to help yourself/ others. Act like a mirror 💞
We think we have needs that must be met and personalities that must be honored ("I have a right to be angry!"). Engaging in these kinds of thoughts keep us trapped, separated from others. Metaphor ~ A man in a boat rowing through the fog and he hits another boat and he screams "WHY DON'T YOU LOOK WHERE YOU ARE GOING?!" Then the fog clears up and there's nobody in the other boat... We see ourselves and others as personalities. Instead we should view all as consciousness. Our body and mind are the vehicles that unite the consciousness of the world. Our relationship potentially save us from entrapment in personality, so that we can be in a more playful, celebratory way.
Seeing this image, and hearing him talk like this.... it's such a contrast to after he had a stroke. It took his health and vitality, but his essential core never changed. Thank you baba. See you again soon!
The people who are watching are the ones who dont expect anything in relationship. They need some mental peace but their freedom and mental peace is been taken away and they end up watching these videos.
such a great message. Use everything! Pure Tantra. Whether you think your relationship is 'spiritual' or not, it's all about how you orient yourself to it which determines whether we grow or close off from things.
It has taken me 60 years to find Ram Dass. I love him!!!!! Finally reading Be here Now. I even lived next door to one of his devotees when I lived in Sedona 20 years ago and she raved about him. Sigh, I guess it wasn't the right time. Beautiful, helpful teachings. Thank you Ram Dass (and Uma from Sedona)
I'm very much in awe of people enjoying their lives in all that they create. Right now though I am feeling the feels of jealousy as my man jumps around social platforms gathering a pose of only fans and the like. I find the true essence of myself really doesn't care, and I like to think that I allow this relationship to be truly authentic as two humans ride the waves of all life has to offer....however it has knocked me sideways and I can feel the density of jealousy. I hate it, it feels like I am in agony, super insecure even in all my love and beauty. It would have to be the hardest feeling personally to get through, gulping down, being brave, trying to expand and break belief systems down but it's SO hard. Do not want to sabotage my relationship but feels so painful. Any tips on how so move through this would be so helpful. Otherwise have a fantastic experience 😘😘
Personally, I haven’t been through this exact problem with my boyfriend with spending money on that stuff but similar with another platform if you know what I mean. Nonetheless, I can say it does mess with you no matter how much you tell yourself you are confident and good enough and also no matter how hard you try to be okay with it it just lingers in your mind if you really are what he wants and likes. So what I’m saying I guess is to make boundaries because that will be the only way to be at peace with that trust me it causes so much damage if it goes on forever especially years on years. My therapist today told me that setting boundaries and talking about them is the only way to protect yourself really and also maintaining your self respect because it’s something that you don’t have to accept you know. It’s a really hard topic to conquer but I really wish you luck because it’s possible to have a good outcome if you communicate❤️❤️
@@johnkorr9356 In the early 90's I was working for a company that distributed some of his videos. My boss was apparently not paying him on time or not at all. I really couldn't decipher what was going on as Ron was 100% hell bent on taking it out on the first person he talked to. Now, I understand someone being frustrating ( if you knew my old boss, you would agree) but this man took it to an entirely different level with his aggression toward me. I could also tell that he was a "yeller" I've spend 30+ years in the entertainment business and I know a fucking yeller when I hear one. Be careful of who you chose to follow. At the end of the day, we are all flawed people looking for that which makes us whole.
We are all works in progress and must understand we are all flawed. I have also never met a perfect person. I heard stories of Deepak Chopra and his anger as well. Sri Chinmoy was found to have taken sexual advantage of many of his femle followers. I simply absorb wisdom from these humans, but do not worship them at all. Thank you.
Such an amazing talk. Funny RUclips recommended this to me as my wife and I were talking about this just the other night. Thank you for posting this. Ram Dass has such a way of making things clear. Loved it!
@@tonyrobinson1022 your eyes and heart are so dark. Even hearing about light brings out your arrogant dark side. Your reply says more about your EQ and spiritual insight then any opinion you have for a mahatma like Baba Ram Das Or me as you don’t know either of us obviously. Jealousy is not a good look . If you have a retort about someone loving a spiritual leader. Try to find one that helps you. You need a hand
I hadn't really listened to Ram Dass' work until this talk. The content he talks about (5:30) of people living out of their 'needs and desires', and playing who they 'think' they are in their daily life, is playing out so clearly over the last few years. It's especially playing out since the Covid pandemic and the Trump phenomena, where people 'think' they are revolutionaries, and think they are making something 'great again', and 'think' they have found the answers to all their grievances, etc. But they haven't. They are still going around and around in the same old reactive response cycle that has controlled people for several thousand years. But now, now, the greater forces in the universe are at work to open humanity to more and greater energies that truly will 'enlighten' and 'awaken' the world.
I am really glad to hear this topic discussed. I’ve always been way too expectant and hoping that people around me will change. This talk is much more transcendent than that topic but this really helped me
How does one form any kind of relationship, when there are expectations? Pls, most people nowadays are so selfish, that they can't be trusted. We need to focus on building communities, not just focus on filling our own personal needs.
This talk always reminds me of a friend I had in college, not a close friend, we were only alone together once, in a cafe. We both were waiting for our food at the same time and decided to eat together. That one hour I talked more about myself than I ever had, and the strangest part was that I didn't feel the stabbing, socially anxious, neurodivergent guilt spiral about it. She asked me so many questions and was so genuinely interested and engaged, for no reason. She wasn't trying to impress me or mentor me or become closer friends. It stood out to me because it seemed purposeful but not forced. I think she was doing this, actively holding space for me and bringing us both into the present moment. No agenda whatsoever, just passing the time. It was one of the kindest things anyone has ever done for me, in retrospect.
Thanks for sharing!
Wow that's beautiful
Wow, this is very touching actually. Thank you for sharing. I was that woman…no I’m just kidding, but it does confirm a suspicion that loving people exactly as they are is perhaps the kindest thing we can do. 🪞💙
This post made me teary eyed. So glad you shared this. That last reply to it made me giggle. 😊🙏🏼
@@cupswaves3489gahaha lmao
I regret that I wasn't awake enough to maintain my last romantic relationship. I want to try again with all the work I have done on my spirit.
♥️
Me too... We have been getting ready to be ready
Wow
Whoever you are… this is a beautiful and generous sentiment.
Same here ❤️
“The ego/the intellect is a beautiful servant and a lousy master.” Thank you.
Yup
So let's break this down. How much of your need to be in a relationship is based on ego? Also understand that when you are in any relationship, you are sacrificing yourself to do so. That is very reminiscent of servitude. I am the master of my own domain, and I prefer to keep it that way.
Timestamp @1:35
@@chrism8180 “when you are in any relationship, you are sacrificing yourself to do so.” Would you extend this to a relationship between coworkers, where the two parties work together to accomplish something? Think about that for a minute. I want to know how far the limitations of that statement go for you, if you don’t mind me picking your brain.
@@ryangarrod4191 The limitation comes when it feels disproportionate, or like I am being taken advantage of. Instead of fueling a common goal, I am being treated as a means to an end, and not as a human being. That's where my limitations lie
What I have found is that until you deal with your "stuff" and embrace solitude, you're no good in a relationship. Of course, the irony is that once you've achieved this, the "need" for a relationship leaves entirely. All relationships become optional--extra--under these circumstances.
Very true !
and that's the beauty. You choose a partner not because you're in need of one, but because your sould desires one. But in a way that doen't implies neediness. Your soul searches another person, because without, you can't reach the next step. For me relationships are mirrors for current problems, traumas or tasks you have to solve. Through and with the other soul you are capable of growing to an extend you wouldn't be able to do all alone.
@@MOESEWICHt1 Well said, both of you! ❤️☮️
I'm so in tune with the destructive nature of my ego, I wouldn't subject another human being to my shit. Romantically speaking. My job on this earth now is to be the best father I can possibly be, and a decent human being to those I come into contact with.
Incredible response
I love this, instead of playing the personality game with others, practice emptiness with others... letting freedom be the reflection they see from you
Easier said than practiced.
Wtf are you talking about?
"A Very Calming Video on, How your Reality is Controlled by your thoughts and you dont even know it ruclips.net/video/RAw8OxEj-Rg/видео.html"
@@karlhungus5436 calm down
Literally have no idea what you mean lol. Are you saying we should have more awkward silences and less... personality?
I feel so alive and spiritual outside of relationships but once I’m in them I lose all maturity. I feel like a little kid! I haven’t yet learned what a relationship is supposed to mean and I always want to change them. I have been looking for awakened info on this, glad this video popped up as a start
Same with me. I am a light to others outside of relationships but I am destructive to that light within relationships. It's a tough lesson for me on control, trust, letting go completely. So challenging
@@awaremel wow this wonderfully articulates how I feel as well
When i get into relationships, they start like "meh I'll bite. What's the worst that can happen"
But i attract very specific kinds of people, and my spirit just gets destroyed in relationships.
I don't get any genuine attention, love, affection, or even touch. I'm only like a therapist or a trash can for everyone to puke their worries into, but no one ever empties it. Who tf cares about a trash can anyway, no matter what kind of personality it has, or what it looks like
No connection.
It's like two soulless business people shaking hands and making some business agreement where both people end up losing a part of their soul.
My normal state is being a wild animal. Free spirit flowing through the world, unbiased, full on warmness and appreciation for all beauty in the world.
And you can't cage a wild animal. I know that might be a bit cheesy, but ugh..
I'm currently drinking beer alone in my bed at 1pm x.x
bro literally same
I came to the realization one day that everything in my life was just a big, interconnected web of egos. Starting to see it that way let me see all the problems that my own ego was causing in the whole system.
FYI, he's not just talking about romantic relationships.
"I'll be who you need me to be, if you'll be who I need you to be."
Strong statement
"...that kind of symbiosis is fine if you don't get trapped in it, but if you get trapped in it, it's a nightmare rooted in your sense of separateness..."
-Codependency
That's a mask.
Why can’t you both not need anything at all and just enjoy each other’s company and watch it unfold
Eckhart Tolle speaks beautifully on relationships as well...
💊 Relationships become a vehicle for freedom when we let go of expectations and agendas.
💊 Being a safe space for others means not having a fixed model or agenda for them.
💊 Balancing intuitive heart and thinking mind is crucial; denigrating intellect is not the solution.
💊 Problems require wisdom, not just knowledge or intellect.
💊 Shift from seeing relationships as fulfilling needs to using them for personal growth and freedom.
💊 The trap of personality and separateness leads to suffering.
💊 Fulfilling needs doesn't bring lasting happiness; desires create an endless cycle.
💊 Many people are trapped in their personalities, reinforcing the illusion of who they think they are.
💊 Interacting based on personalities can blind us to the deeper planes of consciousness.
💊 Recognize the illusion of separateness and use relationships to free ourselves from this trap.
I’ve noticed most people don’t really want to see beyond who think you are, or how you present yourself…the majority of us are just projecting what we think is being presented onto others anyway. Most people also find it completely inappropriate to talk about anything of real consequence. That’s why we pay people to hear it and then be sure it’s completely confidential. Even our own partners don’t really want to know what has happened to us before or very much about us. We really are alone unless we find someone who can be ok with all our imperfections. But it’s really so rare, and even if you are willing to hold that space for a person it doesn’t mean they’ll have the capacity to give it back to you. Nearly all my relationships are totally meaningless.
I really FW what youre saying. When I stopped caring about what others thought I simultaneously stopped trying to keep the metaphorical bowling lane bumpers up to guide their opinion toward what I consider accurate. It gives people the impression I'm a beta or a poor anxious baby bird but really I just dont see the need to correct anyone's opinion of me anymore. I like watching people realize how wrong they were but I am working to not care about that either because that is pleasure of the ego. It's all coming together very quickly and very well.
@@bignose16I feel more sappy. More loving. More forgiving. When you toss out the ego you're just left with love.(assuming you were replying to me, if not MB)
God this is a nice comment. I completely agree. Thanks.
Ill hold space for you Alice.
"A Very Calming Video on, How your Reality is Controlled by your thoughts and you dont even know it ruclips.net/video/RAw8OxEj-Rg/видео.html"
“I’ll be who you need me to be,
if you’ll be who I need you to be.”
“Meet the one behind the mirror,
and you meet the universe.”
🙏
2:59 is an incredible part of his speech. I love the part where he says “I have a right to be angry” “well wait, there’s no rush, when you’ve finished that trip, we’ll still be here” oh boy, oh boy! Really pulls me out of my own crap 😂❤
Yeah, that reminds me of the angry righteousness of looking down on those who got the vaccine during the scamdemic. Or looking down on those who prefer drinking and smoking to simply being in the moment without uselessly intoxicating the body.
Yeah, that reminds me of the angry righteousness of looking down on those who got the vaccine during the scamdemic. Or looking down on those who prefer drinking and smoking to simply being in the moment without uselessly intoxicating the body.
Yeah, that reminds me of the angry righteousness of looking down on those who got the vaccine during the scamdemic. Or looking down on those who prefer drinking and smoking to simply being in the moment without uselessly intoxicating the body.
You know what? When I focus simply on just the ‘best’ friendship with my girl, what happens? I get so caught up in just enjoying her and the freedom to be dumb and childish and funny af without the pressure of HAVING to BE a super husband/boyfriend all the time. What else happens? When you finally do get around to lovin’ on each other it naturally is more profound. So…. Clown on your girl every chance you get, is what I’m getting at lmfao
Period
You are SO right!!👏👏👏👏
That is truly what women (and men, and people of any gender) want. To feel safe and free and fun with the one they love. Thank you for saying this
Pressure of having to be super husband/boyfriend? What is that mean? What about jealousy, cheating, and having different values? I think those are my struggles in a relationship. As far as having fun with her, that’s the easy part for me. I feel like each relationship has her own sets of struggles, depending on both of your personality and how you were brought up.
@@chansermish2406 You make a good point. It’s not so easy to be childish if your partner fundamental differences in where you should live or how the money should be spent. However, if there are fundamental differences that are keeping you from being playful, that is a good sign that the relationship should be ended.
This is one of the most important things I have ever heard as a human animal who struggles daily to maneuver through the constant conflicts of our imperfect society filled with unconscious people and superficial culture.
Bingo Human animal...so many humans disconnect themselves from nature and say we arent animals...i think thats a mistake
I am def learning to let go of control and jealousy, being a different human. I needed this material so long ago, before I hurt my wife, myself, and our relationship so much. It’s crazy how much we were never taught about how to be proper humans.
Our parents believed what they taught us and their parents before them and their parents before them, etc etc.
I'm jealous of you, I wish I didn't have to hear people and their self righteous opinions spouted out without me asking for it. I have bad tinnitus too, and the incessant buzzing is a pain to deal with, deafness would be a welcome remedy.
So many people go to their graves without ever realising they've lived an entire life asleep in their ego/false self/ shadow self, call it what you will. Cheddar, sir/madam/cheese, are on the right path now, and that's all that matters.
@@forposterity4031 I don’t know why I have tinnitus, but it is part of my life experience, and I embrace it. ❤️
i've replayed this over and over months apart because it's easy for me to lose myself
Really really reach out to others when you are depressed. And let go when you are anxious. Damn these are really the laws that save me from myself. ❤️
I don’t have anyone to reach out to and I’ve been dealing with mental illness pretty much all of my life that I can remember the only reason I’m still alive is Bc I don’t wanna make my mum sad
@@Gutswitdaboof710 Same here fam. I can only say keep shining you are beautiful. I mean it you are. I recommend trying therapy, but it's so so hard being in this state. You are so brave for sticking through it. Please treat this condition like a broken arm and do not ignore getting help. You deserve to be happy. I am wishing you well, for whatever that is worth my friend. 💕💕If you are younger than 18 (Not that it matters simply more chemicals are unregulated and running through your body and mind) then I can say it gets easier, it stays the same, and it changes completely. I know you are a stranger but I love you. Simply for just your being you.
@@Moon-ep2bb they would put me in a cage I just need my kitty lol and I’m almost 20 just mentally a child but I don’t really even want to talk to anyone about my life I don’t trust people everyone fucks me over eventually
Moon Hi! I'm Sun nice to meet you.
Dunkle_colton420 hope all.be well with yee. Have you tried fungi?
"wisdom has in it a very deep compassion." Thank you Ram Dass!
There is profound wisdom in this pointer. We are all playing make believe pretending we are real. Seriousness is our only crime. To be playful and break character every now and then is not required, it is necessary . ❤
Today, for me, it is January 20th, 2022. This talk inspired me to treat everyone I meet as GOD. I’ll report back.
Edit: February 20th, 2022. As it turns out, it is incredibly difficult.
Love that you tried.
Give it a little longer....
SEE everyone as God... not TREAT everyone as God. big difference. Your being has decades of time being built... have patience in shifting your being, your essence to who you TRULY are. Radical self compassion is called for... *SPOILER ALERT* see YOURSELF as God :-)
Well, it is difficult but try to see the best in things and you may turn that being that bad person of God (a scammer or fustrated person) into a better one (a happier and understood person). If someone gives you rude attitude, respond with patience and politeness to calm them down. This won’t work fire everyone but it will give the situation a peace of mind.
That’s why it’s called “ a practice “😊🙏
Yes, I’m starting to learn the more you let go, anxiety and expectations and such, life becomes more effortless and beautiful. Yes there are still struggles, but we just don’t create unnecessary problems
Tremendous talk, dear Ramm Dass. I shall go on rehearsing every Day. I am 70' now, and I had to live Till I was 63" to find out, that I had to move out of suffering for my whole life. Thank You. Namaste🙏
Blessing❤️🙏💪
Everyone’s journey is different. ❤️
Never heard if this amazing guy before but boy did he just blow some of the bars off my cage of logic. Thank you Ram Dass and rest in peace brotha.
If you have not discovered his first book Be Here Now i will say that it changed my life
Do yourself a favor and check out Baba Ram Dass-1976, Aspen CO
@@curtiscollins-healthdept.5474 I'm about halfway through it, and it's a remarkable book. It's highlighted specific aspects of myself that I didn't notice previously. I notice little ego trips that I go down in my most subtle interactions with people.
I can see myself re-reading it many more times, too. I feel like I'll be able to get different information out of it when looking at it from a different angle. Though, I suppose that's probably true about any book :)
@@tonyrigatoni766 That pesky ego is soooo easy to trip over :) It too helped open my mind more when i first read it. Enjoy getting furthere into you fellow human!
@@obicube I trip over my ego much of the time, but I also have moments where I can see that I am not my ego, and I'm able to appreciate it for what it is from that perspective.
We aren’t who we think we are. We are
We *just* are. Ego is an illusion, really.
I had an insight a while back,
As soon as we make a judgement towards another, we don't give them the opportunity to be who they really are.
That’s why I always walk! No strings attached!!!
Gosh as a parent I really need to hear this
"when you live in the realm of needs, the minute one is done.. another one appears"
My fiance just left me after 5 years together and two kids. I felt like I needed her to be a better mother and partner and she needed me to be more emotionally available. It still hurts but I am trying to embrace the pain and improve myself as a person. Thanks for posting this, I really needed to hear it!
Turning your relationships into a yoga and not into the “my rights of neurosis over this relationship”
ram dass is cool. I don't think anyone is quite as cool as ram dass....
In 1978 i traveled in my car from Maryland to California Not knowing exactly where u would land. I had a copy of Ram Dass book, Be Here Now. I read it and didnr understand it all. Now it's 2023, Watching this video, I am Older & Much Wiser .. ✌️💗
As a student of Kripalu, I have focused on my inner Guru. My son passed a few months ago & I can not get enough of Ram Dass on you tube. Prior to my sons transition, I enjoyed the solitude of my inner being but this has all been shaken. Thank you for posting His talks. I feel as if Ram Dass is my guru & Guide in Spirit .
much love & healing to you
This man is so full of love and light. Rest in peace
He fills me with love and light when I listen to him. Ram Ram Ram
No
I think He is afraid …and a a fraud
Ideology of ideas that are not based in reality
All humans have needs . A human without needs is not a human ….but a robot
It pains my heart so badly that I destroyed my marriage, to an absolutely amazing human, because I wasn’t awake. Over many years of the awakening process I see now that it was grace. It’s what had to happen because it’s what happened. I hope to rebuilt this relationship, but if it’s too much for my spouse I accept that decision. And will always love them unconditionally.
LOL "God in drag."
Takeaways: You see who they think they are and you react to it, going into the personality realm and interacting with other people. You don't see other planes of consciousness. There is just awareness. When we come together through roles and personalities, these are vehicles through which we meet, the identification of the vehicle becomes a trap. Meet through the vehicle of all that stuff, but through the process let us find a way out of being trapped in this."
Free from egoic separateness notions. That we are all walking each other home.
We are all walking each other home. I LOVE that.
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@@Clarevoyant_Witch This is the way of life, and few realize it, and thus suffer, and cause suffering onto "others".
Yes, I realised I've been doing that. Speaking to people from their perspective rather than the gods they are. Thereby dropping the attachments, titles and rules.
Great advice. Thank you
In my best moments, if I see a puppy or child, I'll say to myself " my my look how God has come to me today" ... You can do it with everything but puppies and kids are especially fun. It creates a shift.
Contemplating...
It is the value of empty space in our hearts and mind that makes room for God
To suggest that we should "provide a safe space to others by not having an agenda" is a great idea. But don't forget that to approach someone for the purpose of being open to them is an agenda. I could elaborate but I think you guys see the contradiction. I think some agendas are worth having and sharing. Ram Dass at all stages of his life made a living selling various agendas. The ones toward the end of his life were awesome and I am very glad he did put out all of this content for us!
Jay Mata Di Jay jay siyaram gurudev Prabhu ji Shree Ram ram ram ram ram ram ram ram ram ram ram
I woke up talking shit to my husband and then I saw this suggested in my TV, thank you Ram Das this message I needed today and Im sure my inner Guru showed up like this today. I sometimes feel more free and then there are days like today where I'm so lost in my ego I'm spreading negativity all over feeling justified, pushing others to change first. Relationships, marriage can be hard, just living with others is hard sometimes, but without this challenges I wouldn't even be a little awake so I am thankful at the end for all the challenges Relationships bring
(My) Marriage is hard : ) I chose this incarnation for a reason. When am I going to get with the program instead of planning my departure?
Who just wakes up and immediately starts shitting on their partner? I understand relationships are hard but that sounds incredibly unhealthy
@@mord0 yea, I admit it. It's not every day and theres nothing personal about it, if I were to share more details maybe it'll make more sense but thats not my point, WORSE is judging others, I got that from the video ✌
go to therapy and stop shitting on people
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Why would anyone want to be a safe space for someone else. Everyone must change for the better. We must grow. Such is the nature of the universe
as I watch this video,
I am filled with
999-trillion layers of:
rage and stress and grief
and fear and panic and terror
and worry and anxiety
and depression and despair.
however,
I am praying
and intending
from this moment forward...
to have my life be changed around for the better.
beyond recognition.
for the best. for surrender!
for healing, on every level, in every way.
permanently.
for bliss, for joy, for magic, for miracles...
I accept and receive: perfect health,
abundant wealth,
and sacred love.
NOW and forevermore.
so be it, so it is, it is done.
pure intellect
matching
directly
as the
baby in the
car seat able
to describe the
ride writing code
in support of the
operating system
achieving silent
patience is truly
actually sublime
Pace tat ohm
yeah it's more profound when you type it out like that.... When it makes no sense at all, it's the readers fault for not being clever enough to get it
I feel closer to the person i love when we’re apart. It’s as if having someone right there just reminds you that they won’t be there one day. And the anguish is so great I’d rather them not be there and be used to them not being there and loving them from afar.
This is exactly what I needed to hear.
"A Very Calming Video on, How your Reality is Controlled by your thoughts and you dont even know it ruclips.net/video/RAw8OxEj-Rg/видео.html"
Listening everyday, for the next twenty one days… love him so much - so grateful for his blessings while here & beyond…
Much love to all satelliting into this.
When you give in and finally let go, it's like that bit where Ram talks about the fog clearing.
I feel if you try and live objectively and watch yourself and your thoughts, it helps free up space to help yourself/ others. Act like a mirror 💞
We think we have needs that must be met and personalities that must be honored ("I have a right to be angry!"). Engaging in these kinds of thoughts keep us trapped, separated from others.
Metaphor ~ A man in a boat rowing through the fog and he hits another boat and he screams "WHY DON'T YOU LOOK WHERE YOU ARE GOING?!" Then the fog clears up and there's nobody in the other boat...
We see ourselves and others as personalities. Instead we should view all as consciousness. Our body and mind are the vehicles that unite the consciousness of the world. Our relationship potentially save us from entrapment in personality, so that we can be in a more playful, celebratory way.
Seeing this image, and hearing him talk like this.... it's such a contrast to after he had a stroke. It took his health and vitality, but his essential core never changed. Thank you baba. See you again soon!
I come back here sometimes to make sure I am still sane.
Amazing wisdom love Ram Dass 💗
My body's mind has just been blown.
Wisdom is knowledge in action; you have not defined it. The two can never be separated as you seem to be trying to do.
I miss having him on this plane.
Words words words.... an obstacle to true spirituality. For words mean 0/nothingness.... words words words.🧘♂️Namaste🧘♂️
"There is only one of us: Awareness"
This is so accurate, I hope more people come across it!!
That is a cool, hippy photo
being Awake is the greatest Gift.
I love you Ram Dass❤
Ram Ram Ram Ram Ram Ram Ram Ram Ram Ram Ram Ram Ram Ram Ram Ram Ram Ram
Das. Made this world a much better place
We love you forever
RAM Dass...the art of SOMENOTHING.
This is very much the message of Iain McGilchrist.
The people who are watching are the ones who dont expect anything in relationship. They need some mental peace but their freedom and mental peace is been taken away and they end up watching these videos.
such a great message. Use everything! Pure Tantra. Whether you think your relationship is 'spiritual' or not, it's all about how you orient yourself to it which determines whether we grow or close off from things.
1:55 -- Now we worship beauty instead of knowledge
My consciousness is clear and I am aware and I allow
I never knew how funny he is. Very heart opening! :) Thanks for uploading.
And what a speech, right to the point! Great!
Pure gold! Nothing new but so empowering! Thank you so much🙏
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It has taken me 60 years to find Ram Dass. I love him!!!!! Finally reading Be here Now. I even lived next door to one of his devotees when I lived in Sedona 20 years ago and she raved about him. Sigh, I guess it wasn't the right time. Beautiful, helpful teachings. Thank you Ram Dass (and Uma from Sedona)
Brilliantly expressed 🙏
This was very useful indeed, thanks for sharing!
I'm very much in awe of people enjoying their lives in all that they create. Right now though I am feeling the feels of jealousy as my man jumps around social platforms gathering a pose of only fans and the like. I find the true essence of myself really doesn't care, and I like to think that I allow this relationship to be truly authentic as two humans ride the waves of all life has to offer....however it has knocked me sideways and I can feel the density of jealousy. I hate it, it feels like I am in agony, super insecure even in all my love and beauty. It would have to be the hardest feeling personally to get through, gulping down, being brave, trying to expand and break belief systems down but it's SO hard. Do not want to sabotage my relationship but feels so painful. Any tips on how so move through this would be so helpful. Otherwise have a fantastic experience 😘😘
Personally, I haven’t been through this exact problem with my boyfriend with spending money on that stuff but similar with another platform if you know what I mean. Nonetheless, I can say it does mess with you no matter how much you tell yourself you are confident and good enough and also no matter how hard you try to be okay with it it just lingers in your mind if you really are what he wants and likes. So what I’m saying I guess is to make boundaries because that will be the only way to be at peace with that trust me it causes so much damage if it goes on forever especially years on years. My therapist today told me that setting boundaries and talking about them is the only way to protect yourself really and also maintaining your self respect because it’s something that you don’t have to accept you know. It’s a really hard topic to conquer but I really wish you luck because it’s possible to have a good outcome if you communicate❤️❤️
All things being equal///It always works in a Ram Dass talk/////
Ram Dass once screamed at me on the phone for 7 minutes straight. Careful with your leaders.
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@@johnkorr9356 In the early 90's I was working for a company that distributed some of his videos. My boss was apparently not paying him on time or not at all. I really couldn't decipher what was going on as Ron was 100% hell bent on taking it out on the first person he talked to. Now, I understand someone being frustrating ( if you knew my old boss, you would agree) but this man took it to an entirely different level with his aggression toward me. I could also tell that he was a "yeller" I've spend 30+ years in the entertainment business and I know a fucking yeller when I hear one. Be careful of who you chose to follow. At the end of the day, we are all flawed people looking for that which makes us whole.
Agree
We are all works in progress and must understand we are all flawed. I have also
never met a perfect person. I heard stories of Deepak Chopra and his anger as well.
Sri Chinmoy was found to have taken sexual advantage of many of his femle followers.
I simply absorb wisdom from these humans, but do not worship them at all. Thank you.
Such an amazing talk. Funny RUclips recommended this to me as my wife and I were talking about this just the other night. Thank you for posting this. Ram Dass has such a way of making things clear. Loved it!
My words earlier today: "But I feel like it's wrong to want to change him for my own benefit or preference."
Clicks a random Ram Dass video: "🤦🏽♀️"
Same
What a beautiful mind, painting a worlds image of blank on a sheet on of scribbling
A lot of revolutionary statements
By far the most powerful and beautiful spiritual lesson I've ever learned is in the first 3 minutes of this video
An angel
A true warrior
Destroyer of darkness revealer of light
Servant of the master
True service
Ram Ram Ram Ram Ram Ram Ram
blah blah blah blah
@@tonyrobinson1022 your eyes and heart are so dark. Even hearing about light brings out your arrogant dark side.
Your reply says more about your EQ and spiritual insight then any opinion you have for a mahatma like Baba Ram Das
Or me as you don’t know either of us obviously. Jealousy is not a good look . If you have a retort about someone loving a spiritual leader. Try to find one that helps you. You need a hand
Wow. First sentence in. Thank you.
God bless you brother
I hadn't really listened to Ram Dass' work until this talk. The content he talks about (5:30) of people living out of their 'needs and desires', and playing who they 'think' they are in their daily life, is playing out so clearly over the last few years.
It's especially playing out since the Covid pandemic and the Trump phenomena, where people 'think' they are revolutionaries, and think they are making something 'great again', and 'think' they have found the answers to all their grievances, etc. But they haven't.
They are still going around and around in the same old reactive response cycle that has controlled people for several thousand years.
But now, now, the greater forces in the universe are at work to open humanity to more and greater energies that truly will 'enlighten' and 'awaken' the world.
Wow… this is exactly what I needed to hear.
I love Ram Dass
Ram Dass loves us .
This is so on point I can not articulate it but yeah bam I am currently on a spiritual blessing god be with us all
"Can you and I enter into a dialogue knowing neither of us are real?"
I am really glad to hear this topic discussed. I’ve always been way too expectant and hoping that people around me will change. This talk is much more transcendent than that topic but this really helped me
I need to listen to this every day. 🙂 If you are a Christian, you may get angry, but you know that it's one of the sins.
How does one form any kind of relationship, when there are expectations? Pls, most people nowadays are so selfish, that they can't be trusted. We need to focus on building communities, not just focus on filling our own personal needs.
thank you for sharing this great lesson with all of us!
Thank you for sharing.
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Thank you 🙏 true but difficult to practice ! Awareness, acceptance then action! 🙏🤗💜
His voice is very much like Andre Gregory's in My Dinner with Andre.
wow, that is an increidbly beautiful bpeacture