Ram Dass - Let Your Relationships Become A Vehicle For Freedom

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  • Опубликовано: 28 авг 2024
  • Ram Dass (1931-2019) was an American spiritual teacher. In this powerful segment he talks about how when you view relationships based on your need, that relationship ends up further imprisoning you in the cycle of need and fulfillment. Rather, if you can somehow relate to the other person other than through that need, then your relationships can become a vehicle for freedom. This is what he calls the "Yoga of Relationship".
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    For more info on Ram Dass, pls visit: ramdass.org

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  • @spicypotatosofttaco3227
    @spicypotatosofttaco3227 2 года назад +712

    This talk always reminds me of a friend I had in college, not a close friend, we were only alone together once, in a cafe. We both were waiting for our food at the same time and decided to eat together. That one hour I talked more about myself than I ever had, and the strangest part was that I didn't feel the stabbing, socially anxious, neurodivergent guilt spiral about it. She asked me so many questions and was so genuinely interested and engaged, for no reason. She wasn't trying to impress me or mentor me or become closer friends. It stood out to me because it seemed purposeful but not forced. I think she was doing this, actively holding space for me and bringing us both into the present moment. No agenda whatsoever, just passing the time. It was one of the kindest things anyone has ever done for me, in retrospect.

    • @suumcuique4530
      @suumcuique4530 Год назад +13

      Thanks for sharing!

    • @GirlKeepItReal
      @GirlKeepItReal 11 месяцев назад +13

      Wow that's beautiful

    • @cupswaves3489
      @cupswaves3489 11 месяцев назад +17

      Wow, this is very touching actually. Thank you for sharing. I was that woman…no I’m just kidding, but it does confirm a suspicion that loving people exactly as they are is perhaps the kindest thing we can do. 🪞💙

    • @rushiaskinnerwallace6175
      @rushiaskinnerwallace6175 11 месяцев назад +5

      This post made me teary eyed. So glad you shared this. That last reply to it made me giggle. 😊🙏🏼

    • @WachoASMR
      @WachoASMR 11 месяцев назад +4

      ​@@cupswaves3489gahaha lmao

  • @halleybruno4653
    @halleybruno4653 3 года назад +2375

    I regret that I wasn't awake enough to maintain my last romantic relationship. I want to try again with all the work I have done on my spirit.

  • @directionofease
    @directionofease 2 года назад +637

    “The ego/the intellect is a beautiful servant and a lousy master.” Thank you.

    • @kevingalvan5805
      @kevingalvan5805 2 года назад +1

      Yup

    • @chrism8180
      @chrism8180 2 года назад +5

      So let's break this down. How much of your need to be in a relationship is based on ego? Also understand that when you are in any relationship, you are sacrificing yourself to do so. That is very reminiscent of servitude. I am the master of my own domain, and I prefer to keep it that way.

    • @ChiquitaSpeaks
      @ChiquitaSpeaks 2 года назад +2

      Timestamp @1:35

    • @ryangarrod4191
      @ryangarrod4191 2 года назад +3

      @@chrism8180 “when you are in any relationship, you are sacrificing yourself to do so.” Would you extend this to a relationship between coworkers, where the two parties work together to accomplish something? Think about that for a minute. I want to know how far the limitations of that statement go for you, if you don’t mind me picking your brain.

    • @chrism8180
      @chrism8180 2 года назад +3

      @@ryangarrod4191 The limitation comes when it feels disproportionate, or like I am being taken advantage of. Instead of fueling a common goal, I am being treated as a means to an end, and not as a human being. That's where my limitations lie

  • @SophiaJosephine
    @SophiaJosephine 2 года назад +1127

    I feel so alive and spiritual outside of relationships but once I’m in them I lose all maturity. I feel like a little kid! I haven’t yet learned what a relationship is supposed to mean and I always want to change them. I have been looking for awakened info on this, glad this video popped up as a start

    • @naturemessages
      @naturemessages 2 года назад +156

      Same with me. I am a light to others outside of relationships but I am destructive to that light within relationships. It's a tough lesson for me on control, trust, letting go completely. So challenging

    • @christieconnolly4581
      @christieconnolly4581 2 года назад +30

      @@naturemessages wow this wonderfully articulates how I feel as well

    • @Litepaw
      @Litepaw 2 года назад +74

      When i get into relationships, they start like "meh I'll bite. What's the worst that can happen"
      But i attract very specific kinds of people, and my spirit just gets destroyed in relationships.
      I don't get any genuine attention, love, affection, or even touch. I'm only like a therapist or a trash can for everyone to puke their worries into, but no one ever empties it. Who tf cares about a trash can anyway, no matter what kind of personality it has, or what it looks like
      No connection.
      It's like two soulless business people shaking hands and making some business agreement where both people end up losing a part of their soul.
      My normal state is being a wild animal. Free spirit flowing through the world, unbiased, full on warmness and appreciation for all beauty in the world.
      And you can't cage a wild animal. I know that might be a bit cheesy, but ugh..

    • @Litepaw
      @Litepaw 2 года назад +20

      I'm currently drinking beer alone in my bed at 1pm x.x

    • @uknonothinzx9784
      @uknonothinzx9784 2 года назад +5

      bro literally same

  • @laurischoolmarm
    @laurischoolmarm 2 года назад +294

    What I have found is that until you deal with your "stuff" and embrace solitude, you're no good in a relationship. Of course, the irony is that once you've achieved this, the "need" for a relationship leaves entirely. All relationships become optional--extra--under these circumstances.

    • @etoilesoleil8643
      @etoilesoleil8643 2 года назад +3

      Very true !

    • @MOESEWICHt1
      @MOESEWICHt1 2 года назад +62

      and that's the beauty. You choose a partner not because you're in need of one, but because your sould desires one. But in a way that doen't implies neediness. Your soul searches another person, because without, you can't reach the next step. For me relationships are mirrors for current problems, traumas or tasks you have to solve. Through and with the other soul you are capable of growing to an extend you wouldn't be able to do all alone.

    • @kensurrency2564
      @kensurrency2564 2 года назад +3

      @@MOESEWICHt1 Well said, both of you! ❤️☮️

    • @JT-2000
      @JT-2000 2 года назад +12

      I'm so in tune with the destructive nature of my ego, I wouldn't subject another human being to my shit. Romantically speaking. My job on this earth now is to be the best father I can possibly be, and a decent human being to those I come into contact with.

    • @nicholasrichardson3778
      @nicholasrichardson3778 2 года назад

      Incredible response

  • @dreamsaresharedhere_
    @dreamsaresharedhere_ 2 года назад +806

    I love this, instead of playing the personality game with others, practice emptiness with others... letting freedom be the reflection they see from you

    • @OhHapppyDaay
      @OhHapppyDaay 2 года назад +11

      Easier said than practiced.

    • @karlhungus5436
      @karlhungus5436 2 года назад +18

      Wtf are you talking about?

    • @sriku1000
      @sriku1000 2 года назад +2

      "A Very Calming Video on, How your Reality is Controlled by your thoughts and you dont even know it ruclips.net/video/RAw8OxEj-Rg/видео.html"

    • @versoturner5777
      @versoturner5777 2 года назад +17

      @@karlhungus5436 calm down

    • @Purple9721.
      @Purple9721. 2 года назад +7

      Literally have no idea what you mean lol. Are you saying we should have more awkward silences and less... personality?

  • @jboogey9301
    @jboogey9301 3 года назад +328

    "I'll be who you need me to be, if you'll be who I need you to be."

    • @withlovemora
      @withlovemora 2 года назад +8

      Strong statement

    • @elaerevelucide
      @elaerevelucide 2 года назад +46

      "...that kind of symbiosis is fine if you don't get trapped in it, but if you get trapped in it, it's a nightmare rooted in your sense of separateness..."

    • @LightnessOfTheLife
      @LightnessOfTheLife 2 года назад +51

      -Codependency

    • @adrianlee3497
      @adrianlee3497 2 года назад +7

      That's a mask.

    • @mariafitts
      @mariafitts 2 года назад +51

      Why can’t you both not need anything at all and just enjoy each other’s company and watch it unfold

  • @terminaldeity
    @terminaldeity 2 года назад +146

    FYI, he's not just talking about romantic relationships.

  • @Moon-ep2bb
    @Moon-ep2bb 2 года назад +154

    Really really reach out to others when you are depressed. And let go when you are anxious. Damn these are really the laws that save me from myself. ❤️

    • @Gutswitdaboof710
      @Gutswitdaboof710 2 года назад +10

      I don’t have anyone to reach out to and I’ve been dealing with mental illness pretty much all of my life that I can remember the only reason I’m still alive is Bc I don’t wanna make my mum sad

    • @Moon-ep2bb
      @Moon-ep2bb 2 года назад +12

      @@Gutswitdaboof710 Same here fam. I can only say keep shining you are beautiful. I mean it you are. I recommend trying therapy, but it's so so hard being in this state. You are so brave for sticking through it. Please treat this condition like a broken arm and do not ignore getting help. You deserve to be happy. I am wishing you well, for whatever that is worth my friend. 💕💕If you are younger than 18 (Not that it matters simply more chemicals are unregulated and running through your body and mind) then I can say it gets easier, it stays the same, and it changes completely. I know you are a stranger but I love you. Simply for just your being you.

    • @Gutswitdaboof710
      @Gutswitdaboof710 2 года назад +1

      @@Moon-ep2bb they would put me in a cage I just need my kitty lol and I’m almost 20 just mentally a child but I don’t really even want to talk to anyone about my life I don’t trust people everyone fucks me over eventually

    • @dr.greenthumbs6524
      @dr.greenthumbs6524 2 года назад

      Moon Hi! I'm Sun nice to meet you.

    • @dr.greenthumbs6524
      @dr.greenthumbs6524 2 года назад +3

      Dunkle_colton420 hope all.be well with yee. Have you tried fungi?

  • @callforhealing9842
    @callforhealing9842 2 года назад +32

    Eckhart Tolle speaks beautifully on relationships as well...

  • @Dumbpuppet101
    @Dumbpuppet101 Год назад +42

    2:59 is an incredible part of his speech. I love the part where he says “I have a right to be angry” “well wait, there’s no rush, when you’ve finished that trip, we’ll still be here” oh boy, oh boy! Really pulls me out of my own crap 😂❤

    • @19Marc79
      @19Marc79 7 месяцев назад

      Yeah, that reminds me of the angry righteousness of looking down on those who got the vaccine during the scamdemic. Or looking down on those who prefer drinking and smoking to simply being in the moment without uselessly intoxicating the body.

    • @19Marc79
      @19Marc79 7 месяцев назад

      Yeah, that reminds me of the angry righteousness of looking down on those who got the vaccine during the scamdemic. Or looking down on those who prefer drinking and smoking to simply being in the moment without uselessly intoxicating the body.

    • @19Marc79
      @19Marc79 7 месяцев назад

      Yeah, that reminds me of the angry righteousness of looking down on those who got the vaccine during the scamdemic. Or looking down on those who prefer drinking and smoking to simply being in the moment without uselessly intoxicating the body.

  • @alicerose8057
    @alicerose8057 2 года назад +243

    I’ve noticed most people don’t really want to see beyond who think you are, or how you present yourself…the majority of us are just projecting what we think is being presented onto others anyway. Most people also find it completely inappropriate to talk about anything of real consequence. That’s why we pay people to hear it and then be sure it’s completely confidential. Even our own partners don’t really want to know what has happened to us before or very much about us. We really are alone unless we find someone who can be ok with all our imperfections. But it’s really so rare, and even if you are willing to hold that space for a person it doesn’t mean they’ll have the capacity to give it back to you. Nearly all my relationships are totally meaningless.

    • @yomamasaccount
      @yomamasaccount 2 года назад +59

      I really FW what youre saying. When I stopped caring about what others thought I simultaneously stopped trying to keep the metaphorical bowling lane bumpers up to guide their opinion toward what I consider accurate. It gives people the impression I'm a beta or a poor anxious baby bird but really I just dont see the need to correct anyone's opinion of me anymore. I like watching people realize how wrong they were but I am working to not care about that either because that is pleasure of the ego. It's all coming together very quickly and very well.

    • @yomamasaccount
      @yomamasaccount 2 года назад +15

      @@bignose16I feel more sappy. More loving. More forgiving. When you toss out the ego you're just left with love.(assuming you were replying to me, if not MB)

    • @mr.visitor2947
      @mr.visitor2947 2 года назад +3

      God this is a nice comment. I completely agree. Thanks.

    • @BigTonyAD
      @BigTonyAD 2 года назад +5

      Ill hold space for you Alice.

    • @sriku1000
      @sriku1000 2 года назад +1

      "A Very Calming Video on, How your Reality is Controlled by your thoughts and you dont even know it ruclips.net/video/RAw8OxEj-Rg/видео.html"

  • @eeayquetting5963
    @eeayquetting5963 Год назад +14

    "wisdom has in it a very deep compassion." Thank you Ram Dass!

  • @cheddar2893
    @cheddar2893 2 года назад +115

    I am def learning to let go of control and jealousy, being a different human. I needed this material so long ago, before I hurt my wife, myself, and our relationship so much. It’s crazy how much we were never taught about how to be proper humans.

    • @juliekolodziej1713
      @juliekolodziej1713 2 года назад +7

      Our parents believed what they taught us and their parents before them and their parents before them, etc etc.

    • @forposterity4031
      @forposterity4031 2 года назад +1

      I'm jealous of you, I wish I didn't have to hear people and their self righteous opinions spouted out without me asking for it. I have bad tinnitus too, and the incessant buzzing is a pain to deal with, deafness would be a welcome remedy.

    • @JT-2000
      @JT-2000 2 года назад +3

      So many people go to their graves without ever realising they've lived an entire life asleep in their ego/false self/ shadow self, call it what you will. Cheddar, sir/madam/cheese, are on the right path now, and that's all that matters.

    • @kensurrency2564
      @kensurrency2564 2 года назад +1

      @@forposterity4031 I don’t know why I have tinnitus, but it is part of my life experience, and I embrace it. ❤️

  • @beach182
    @beach182 Год назад +14

    There is profound wisdom in this pointer. We are all playing make believe pretending we are real. Seriousness is our only crime. To be playful and break character every now and then is not required, it is necessary . ❤

  • @johnterry6541
    @johnterry6541 2 года назад +99

    This is one of the most important things I have ever heard as a human animal who struggles daily to maneuver through the constant conflicts of our imperfect society filled with unconscious people and superficial culture.

    • @anatorres-ym8ke
      @anatorres-ym8ke Год назад

      Bingo Human animal...so many humans disconnect themselves from nature and say we arent animals...i think thats a mistake

  • @yvngsand5579
    @yvngsand5579 2 года назад +41

    We aren’t who we think we are. We are

    • @kingwinter2024
      @kingwinter2024 2 года назад

      We *just* are. Ego is an illusion, really.

  • @alianna3013
    @alianna3013 11 месяцев назад +13

    Yes, I’m starting to learn the more you let go, anxiety and expectations and such, life becomes more effortless and beautiful. Yes there are still struggles, but we just don’t create unnecessary problems

  • @tomasdelatoba7880
    @tomasdelatoba7880 2 года назад +94

    Never heard if this amazing guy before but boy did he just blow some of the bars off my cage of logic. Thank you Ram Dass and rest in peace brotha.

    • @curtiscollins-healthdept.5474
      @curtiscollins-healthdept.5474 2 года назад +4

      If you have not discovered his first book Be Here Now i will say that it changed my life

    • @stevengray8663
      @stevengray8663 2 года назад +1

      Do yourself a favor and check out Baba Ram Dass-1976, Aspen CO

    • @tonyrigatoni766
      @tonyrigatoni766 Год назад +4

      @@curtiscollins-healthdept.5474 I'm about halfway through it, and it's a remarkable book. It's highlighted specific aspects of myself that I didn't notice previously. I notice little ego trips that I go down in my most subtle interactions with people.
      I can see myself re-reading it many more times, too. I feel like I'll be able to get different information out of it when looking at it from a different angle. Though, I suppose that's probably true about any book :)

    • @obicube
      @obicube Год назад +1

      @@tonyrigatoni766 That pesky ego is soooo easy to trip over :) It too helped open my mind more when i first read it. Enjoy getting furthere into you fellow human!

    • @tonyrigatoni766
      @tonyrigatoni766 Год назад

      @@obicube I trip over my ego much of the time, but I also have moments where I can see that I am not my ego, and I'm able to appreciate it for what it is from that perspective.

  • @SubparFiddle
    @SubparFiddle 11 месяцев назад +6

    I came to the realization one day that everything in my life was just a big, interconnected web of egos. Starting to see it that way let me see all the problems that my own ego was causing in the whole system.

  • @annabellacrewe8858
    @annabellacrewe8858 2 года назад +144

    Tremendous talk, dear Ramm Dass. I shall go on rehearsing every Day. I am 70' now, and I had to live Till I was 63" to find out, that I had to move out of suffering for my whole life. Thank You. Namaste🙏

  • @daphnesawyer8555
    @daphnesawyer8555 2 года назад +10

    This man is so full of love and light. Rest in peace

    • @thesunris
      @thesunris Год назад

      He fills me with love and light when I listen to him. Ram Ram Ram

    • @GreatMij
      @GreatMij 11 месяцев назад

      No
      I think He is afraid …and a a fraud
      Ideology of ideas that are not based in reality
      All humans have needs . A human without needs is not a human ….but a robot

  • @kaijulauren
    @kaijulauren 2 года назад +11

    i've replayed this over and over months apart because it's easy for me to lose myself

  • @sarahe6549
    @sarahe6549 2 года назад +69

    “I’ll be who you need me to be,
    if you’ll be who I need you to be.”
    “Meet the one behind the mirror,
    and you meet the universe.”
    🙏

  • @Ebvardh
    @Ebvardh 2 года назад +97

    Today, for me, it is January 20th, 2022. This talk inspired me to treat everyone I meet as GOD. I’ll report back.
    Edit: February 20th, 2022. As it turns out, it is incredibly difficult.

    • @alsoemmanueltaye
      @alsoemmanueltaye 2 года назад +10

      Love that you tried.

    • @its_me_dave
      @its_me_dave 2 года назад +2

      Give it a little longer....

    • @ianedwards9390
      @ianedwards9390 2 года назад +9

      SEE everyone as God... not TREAT everyone as God. big difference. Your being has decades of time being built... have patience in shifting your being, your essence to who you TRULY are. Radical self compassion is called for... *SPOILER ALERT* see YOURSELF as God :-)

    • @vshmo5860
      @vshmo5860 2 года назад

      Well, it is difficult but try to see the best in things and you may turn that being that bad person of God (a scammer or fustrated person) into a better one (a happier and understood person). If someone gives you rude attitude, respond with patience and politeness to calm them down. This won’t work fire everyone but it will give the situation a peace of mind.

    • @allisonblaustein7898
      @allisonblaustein7898 2 года назад +2

      That’s why it’s called “ a practice “😊🙏

  • @thewanderingalien5653
    @thewanderingalien5653 11 месяцев назад +12

    My fiance just left me after 5 years together and two kids. I felt like I needed her to be a better mother and partner and she needed me to be more emotionally available. It still hurts but I am trying to embrace the pain and improve myself as a person. Thanks for posting this, I really needed to hear it!

  • @haizzzz7486
    @haizzzz7486 2 года назад +7

    I had an insight a while back,
    As soon as we make a judgement towards another, we don't give them the opportunity to be who they really are.

  • @Alpha-Andromeda
    @Alpha-Andromeda 2 года назад +12

    Turning your relationships into a yoga and not into the “my rights of neurosis over this relationship”

  • @DrBrownish
    @DrBrownish 2 года назад +230

    You know what? When I focus simply on just the ‘best’ friendship with my girl, what happens? I get so caught up in just enjoying her and the freedom to be dumb and childish and funny af without the pressure of HAVING to BE a super husband/boyfriend all the time. What else happens? When you finally do get around to lovin’ on each other it naturally is more profound. So…. Clown on your girl every chance you get, is what I’m getting at lmfao

    • @Mr21bennett21
      @Mr21bennett21 2 года назад +3

      Period

    • @Moninature
      @Moninature 2 года назад +3

      You are SO right!!👏👏👏👏

    • @angelamorris7336
      @angelamorris7336 2 года назад +16

      That is truly what women (and men, and people of any gender) want. To feel safe and free and fun with the one they love. Thank you for saying this

    • @chansermish2406
      @chansermish2406 2 года назад +3

      Pressure of having to be super husband/boyfriend? What is that mean? What about jealousy, cheating, and having different values? I think those are my struggles in a relationship. As far as having fun with her, that’s the easy part for me. I feel like each relationship has her own sets of struggles, depending on both of your personality and how you were brought up.

    • @freepat101
      @freepat101 2 года назад +2

      @@chansermish2406 You make a good point. It’s not so easy to be childish if your partner fundamental differences in where you should live or how the money should be spent. However, if there are fundamental differences that are keeping you from being playful, that is a good sign that the relationship should be ended.

  • @DSmith-ph8hk
    @DSmith-ph8hk 2 года назад +6

    Listening everyday, for the next twenty one days… love him so much - so grateful for his blessings while here & beyond…

  • @allisonblaustein7898
    @allisonblaustein7898 2 года назад +4

    As a student of Kripalu, I have focused on my inner Guru. My son passed a few months ago & I can not get enough of Ram Dass on you tube. Prior to my sons transition, I enjoyed the solitude of my inner being but this has all been shaken. Thank you for posting His talks. I feel as if Ram Dass is my guru & Guide in Spirit .

  • @RellekPalwal
    @RellekPalwal Месяц назад

    Jay Mata Di Jay jay siyaram gurudev Prabhu ji Shree Ram ram ram ram ram ram ram ram ram ram ram

  • @moanarangi8149
    @moanarangi8149 2 года назад +30

    Yes, I realised I've been doing that. Speaking to people from their perspective rather than the gods they are. Thereby dropping the attachments, titles and rules.
    Great advice. Thank you

    • @mccamman
      @mccamman 2 года назад

      In my best moments, if I see a puppy or child, I'll say to myself " my my look how God has come to me today" ... You can do it with everything but puppies and kids are especially fun. It creates a shift.

  • @isabellek1171
    @isabellek1171 2 года назад +105

    LOL "God in drag."
    Takeaways: You see who they think they are and you react to it, going into the personality realm and interacting with other people. You don't see other planes of consciousness. There is just awareness. When we come together through roles and personalities, these are vehicles through which we meet, the identification of the vehicle becomes a trap. Meet through the vehicle of all that stuff, but through the process let us find a way out of being trapped in this."
    Free from egoic separateness notions. That we are all walking each other home.

    • @Clarevoyant_Witch
      @Clarevoyant_Witch 2 года назад +7

      We are all walking each other home. I LOVE that.

    • @sriku1000
      @sriku1000 2 года назад

      "A Very Calming Video on, How your Reality is Controlled by your thoughts and you dont even know it ruclips.net/video/RAw8OxEj-Rg/видео.html"

    • @JonasAnandaKristiansson
      @JonasAnandaKristiansson 2 года назад

      @@Clarevoyant_Witch This is the way of life, and few realize it, and thus suffer, and cause suffering onto "others".

  • @Rosie-kz4gx
    @Rosie-kz4gx 2 года назад +26

    I woke up talking shit to my husband and then I saw this suggested in my TV, thank you Ram Das this message I needed today and Im sure my inner Guru showed up like this today. I sometimes feel more free and then there are days like today where I'm so lost in my ego I'm spreading negativity all over feeling justified, pushing others to change first. Relationships, marriage can be hard, just living with others is hard sometimes, but without this challenges I wouldn't even be a little awake so I am thankful at the end for all the challenges Relationships bring

    • @CaptainPhilosophical
      @CaptainPhilosophical 2 года назад +4

      (My) Marriage is hard : ) I chose this incarnation for a reason. When am I going to get with the program instead of planning my departure?

    • @mord0
      @mord0 2 года назад +6

      Who just wakes up and immediately starts shitting on their partner? I understand relationships are hard but that sounds incredibly unhealthy

    • @Rosie-kz4gx
      @Rosie-kz4gx 2 года назад +7

      @@mord0 yea, I admit it. It's not every day and theres nothing personal about it, if I were to share more details maybe it'll make more sense but thats not my point, WORSE is judging others, I got that from the video ✌

    • @melloyello6464
      @melloyello6464 2 года назад +4

      go to therapy and stop shitting on people

    • @sriku1000
      @sriku1000 2 года назад

      "A Very Calming Video on, How your Reality is Controlled by your thoughts and you dont even know it ruclips.net/video/RAw8OxEj-Rg/видео.html"

  • @oliveblanco
    @oliveblanco 2 года назад +18

    This is exactly what I needed to hear.

    • @sriku1000
      @sriku1000 2 года назад +1

      "A Very Calming Video on, How your Reality is Controlled by your thoughts and you dont even know it ruclips.net/video/RAw8OxEj-Rg/видео.html"

  • @solomit1
    @solomit1 2 месяца назад

    Amazing wisdom love Ram Dass 💗

  • @ActionPills
    @ActionPills Год назад +7

    💊 Relationships become a vehicle for freedom when we let go of expectations and agendas.
    💊 Being a safe space for others means not having a fixed model or agenda for them.
    💊 Balancing intuitive heart and thinking mind is crucial; denigrating intellect is not the solution.
    💊 Problems require wisdom, not just knowledge or intellect.
    💊 Shift from seeing relationships as fulfilling needs to using them for personal growth and freedom.
    💊 The trap of personality and separateness leads to suffering.
    💊 Fulfilling needs doesn't bring lasting happiness; desires create an endless cycle.
    💊 Many people are trapped in their personalities, reinforcing the illusion of who they think they are.
    💊 Interacting based on personalities can blind us to the deeper planes of consciousness.
    💊 Recognize the illusion of separateness and use relationships to free ourselves from this trap.

  • @gtiszavari8429
    @gtiszavari8429 2 года назад +3

    When you give in and finally let go, it's like that bit where Ram talks about the fog clearing.
    I feel if you try and live objectively and watch yourself and your thoughts, it helps free up space to help yourself/ others. Act like a mirror 💞

  • @allentolman7297
    @allentolman7297 3 года назад +36

    pure intellect
    matching
    directly
    as the
    baby in the
    car seat able
    to describe the
    ride writing code
    in support of the
    operating system
    achieving silent
    patience is truly
    actually sublime

    • @eugeneliang4470
      @eugeneliang4470 2 года назад

      Pace tat ohm

    • @tonyrobinson1022
      @tonyrobinson1022 2 года назад

      yeah it's more profound when you type it out like that.... When it makes no sense at all, it's the readers fault for not being clever enough to get it

  • @ikvangalen6101
    @ikvangalen6101 2 года назад +2

    That’s why I always walk! No strings attached!!!

  • @BetterYouBetterWorld
    @BetterYouBetterWorld 2 года назад +1

    To suggest that we should "provide a safe space to others by not having an agenda" is a great idea. But don't forget that to approach someone for the purpose of being open to them is an agenda. I could elaborate but I think you guys see the contradiction. I think some agendas are worth having and sharing. Ram Dass at all stages of his life made a living selling various agendas. The ones toward the end of his life were awesome and I am very glad he did put out all of this content for us!

  • @popartistsnyc308
    @popartistsnyc308 2 года назад +13

    Ram Dass once screamed at me on the phone for 7 minutes straight. Careful with your leaders.

    • @johnkorr9356
      @johnkorr9356 2 года назад

      Tell us more

    • @popartistsnyc308
      @popartistsnyc308 2 года назад +7

      @@johnkorr9356 In the early 90's I was working for a company that distributed some of his videos. My boss was apparently not paying him on time or not at all. I really couldn't decipher what was going on as Ron was 100% hell bent on taking it out on the first person he talked to. Now, I understand someone being frustrating ( if you knew my old boss, you would agree) but this man took it to an entirely different level with his aggression toward me. I could also tell that he was a "yeller" I've spend 30+ years in the entertainment business and I know a fucking yeller when I hear one. Be careful of who you chose to follow. At the end of the day, we are all flawed people looking for that which makes us whole.

    • @g121176
      @g121176 2 года назад +1

      Agree

    • @rachelgoodkind6545
      @rachelgoodkind6545 2 месяца назад +1

      We are all works in progress and must understand we are all flawed. I have also
      never met a perfect person. I heard stories of Deepak Chopra and his anger as well.
      Sri Chinmoy was found to have taken sexual advantage of many of his femle followers.
      I simply absorb wisdom from these humans, but do not worship them at all. Thank you.

  • @voidmoon.
    @voidmoon. 3 года назад +8

    Missing you Ram Dass.. so much.. Thank you.. Ram Ram

    • @sriku1000
      @sriku1000 2 года назад

      "A Very Calming Video on, How your Reality is Controlled by your thoughts and you dont even know it ruclips.net/video/RAw8OxEj-Rg/видео.html"

  • @johndee3301
    @johndee3301 2 года назад +6

    Seeing this image, and hearing him talk like this.... it's such a contrast to after he had a stroke. It took his health and vitality, but his essential core never changed. Thank you baba. See you again soon!

  • @biffjohnson7891
    @biffjohnson7891 2 года назад +5

    Ram Ram Ram Ram Ram Ram Ram Ram Ram Ram Ram Ram Ram Ram Ram Ram Ram Ram
    Das. Made this world a much better place
    We love you forever

  • @radicalhonesty3628
    @radicalhonesty3628 2 года назад +1

    as I watch this video,
    I am filled with
    999-trillion layers of:
    rage and stress and grief
    and fear and panic and terror
    and worry and anxiety
    and depression and despair.
    however,
    I am praying
    and intending
    from this moment forward...
    to have my life be changed around for the better.
    beyond recognition.
    for the best. for surrender!
    for healing, on every level, in every way.
    permanently.
    for bliss, for joy, for magic, for miracles...
    I accept and receive: perfect health,
    abundant wealth,
    and sacred love.
    NOW and forevermore.
    so be it, so it is, it is done.

  • @Bwahzehdezooner
    @Bwahzehdezooner 6 месяцев назад

    This is very much the message of Iain McGilchrist.

  • @HomewithAurora
    @HomewithAurora 2 года назад +4

    Much love to all satelliting into this.

  • @vlogs6326
    @vlogs6326 2 года назад +1

    The people who are watching are the ones who dont expect anything in relationship. They need some mental peace but their freedom and mental peace is been taken away and they end up watching these videos.

  • @shelll9254
    @shelll9254 8 месяцев назад

    In 1978 i traveled in my car from Maryland to California Not knowing exactly where u would land. I had a copy of Ram Dass book, Be Here Now. I read it and didnr understand it all. Now it's 2023, Watching this video, I am Older & Much Wiser .. ✌️💗

  • @harmoniabalanza
    @harmoniabalanza 7 месяцев назад

    I need to listen to this every day. 🙂 If you are a Christian, you may get angry, but you know that it's one of the sins.

  • @kaynickerson6138
    @kaynickerson6138 2 года назад +3

    Contemplating...
    It is the value of empty space in our hearts and mind that makes room for God

  • @tonyrobinson1022
    @tonyrobinson1022 2 года назад +1

    ram dass is cool. I don't think anyone is quite as cool as ram dass....

  • @ninipanini.p2401
    @ninipanini.p2401 2 года назад +16

    My words earlier today: "But I feel like it's wrong to want to change him for my own benefit or preference."
    Clicks a random Ram Dass video: "🤦🏽‍♀️"

  • @rosshoward5866
    @rosshoward5866 2 года назад +3

    such a great message. Use everything! Pure Tantra. Whether you think your relationship is 'spiritual' or not, it's all about how you orient yourself to it which determines whether we grow or close off from things.

  • @eaburl
    @eaburl Год назад

    It has taken me 60 years to find Ram Dass. I love him!!!!! Finally reading Be here Now. I even lived next door to one of his devotees when I lived in Sedona 20 years ago and she raved about him. Sigh, I guess it wasn't the right time. Beautiful, helpful teachings. Thank you Ram Dass (and Uma from Sedona)

  • @bell_eau
    @bell_eau 2 года назад +5

    We think we have needs that must be met and personalities that must be honored ("I have a right to be angry!"). Engaging in these kinds of thoughts keep us trapped, separated from others.
    Metaphor ~ A man in a boat rowing through the fog and he hits another boat and he screams "WHY DON'T YOU LOOK WHERE YOU ARE GOING?!" Then the fog clears up and there's nobody in the other boat...
    We see ourselves and others as personalities. Instead we should view all as consciousness. Our body and mind are the vehicles that unite the consciousness of the world. Our relationship potentially save us from entrapment in personality, so that we can be in a more playful, celebratory way.

  • @ManifestingWithStyle
    @ManifestingWithStyle Год назад +1

    Such an amazing talk. Funny RUclips recommended this to me as my wife and I were talking about this just the other night. Thank you for posting this. Ram Dass has such a way of making things clear. Loved it!

  • @nikhilkhatri3757
    @nikhilkhatri3757 2 года назад +8

    This is so accurate, I hope more people come across it!!

  • @RolfReiner
    @RolfReiner 2 года назад +10

    "There is only one of us: Awareness"

  • @lunayoureright
    @lunayoureright 2 года назад +17

    Why would anyone want to be a safe space for someone else. Everyone must change for the better. We must grow. Such is the nature of the universe

  • @solomonherskowitz
    @solomonherskowitz 11 месяцев назад

    By far the most powerful and beautiful spiritual lesson I've ever learned is in the first 3 minutes of this video

  • @quantessenz
    @quantessenz 2 года назад +1

    I never knew how funny he is. Very heart opening! :) Thanks for uploading.
    And what a speech, right to the point! Great!

  • @NicholasOsella
    @NicholasOsella 2 года назад

    being Awake is the greatest Gift.

  • @redbear4027
    @redbear4027 2 года назад

    Wisdom is knowledge in action; you have not defined it. The two can never be separated as you seem to be trying to do.

  • @KateAtNight
    @KateAtNight 2 года назад +23

    "Can you and I enter into a dialogue knowing neither of us are real?"

  • @gavinduggan1147
    @gavinduggan1147 3 года назад +6

    I love Ram Dass

  • @lingy74
    @lingy74 9 месяцев назад

    I feel closer to the person i love when we’re apart. It’s as if having someone right there just reminds you that they won’t be there one day. And the anguish is so great I’d rather them not be there and be used to them not being there and loving them from afar.

  • @biffjohnson7891
    @biffjohnson7891 2 года назад +8

    An angel
    A true warrior
    Destroyer of darkness revealer of light
    Servant of the master
    True service
    Ram Ram Ram Ram Ram Ram Ram

    • @tonyrobinson1022
      @tonyrobinson1022 2 года назад

      blah blah blah blah

    • @biffjohnson7891
      @biffjohnson7891 2 года назад

      @@tonyrobinson1022 your eyes and heart are so dark. Even hearing about light brings out your arrogant dark side.
      Your reply says more about your EQ and spiritual insight then any opinion you have for a mahatma like Baba Ram Das
      Or me as you don’t know either of us obviously. Jealousy is not a good look . If you have a retort about someone loving a spiritual leader. Try to find one that helps you. You need a hand

  • @elijahk117
    @elijahk117 2 года назад +1

    I am really glad to hear this topic discussed. I’ve always been way too expectant and hoping that people around me will change. This talk is much more transcendent than that topic but this really helped me

  • @anonymoushuman8344
    @anonymoushuman8344 3 года назад +14

    Thanks for putting this out there. You bring us wonderfully wise, helpful stuff.

  • @cameronalexander359
    @cameronalexander359 2 года назад +1

    My body's mind has just been blown.

  • @nardtaye2549
    @nardtaye2549 10 месяцев назад

    I love you Ram Dass❤

  • @stephss
    @stephss 2 года назад +11

    How does one form any kind of relationship, when there are expectations? Pls, most people nowadays are so selfish, that they can't be trusted. We need to focus on building communities, not just focus on filling our own personal needs.

  • @nctunes
    @nctunes 2 года назад +6

    We can treat everyone we meets as god but what one does when they run into the devil disguised as god is something else. If I were you you'd be me. Wishing nothing but good for you.

  • @jennylumbrera5277
    @jennylumbrera5277 2 года назад +2

    My consciousness is clear and I am aware and I allow

  • @nathaliehutt6
    @nathaliehutt6 2 года назад +15

    Pure gold! Nothing new but so empowering! Thank you so much🙏

    • @sriku1000
      @sriku1000 2 года назад

      "A Very Calming Video on, How your Reality is Controlled by your thoughts and you dont even know it ruclips.net/video/RAw8OxEj-Rg/видео.html"

  • @heennaa3616
    @heennaa3616 2 года назад +5

    I'm very much in awe of people enjoying their lives in all that they create. Right now though I am feeling the feels of jealousy as my man jumps around social platforms gathering a pose of only fans and the like. I find the true essence of myself really doesn't care, and I like to think that I allow this relationship to be truly authentic as two humans ride the waves of all life has to offer....however it has knocked me sideways and I can feel the density of jealousy. I hate it, it feels like I am in agony, super insecure even in all my love and beauty. It would have to be the hardest feeling personally to get through, gulping down, being brave, trying to expand and break belief systems down but it's SO hard. Do not want to sabotage my relationship but feels so painful. Any tips on how so move through this would be so helpful. Otherwise have a fantastic experience 😘😘

    • @evelynsanchez3485
      @evelynsanchez3485 Год назад +2

      Personally, I haven’t been through this exact problem with my boyfriend with spending money on that stuff but similar with another platform if you know what I mean. Nonetheless, I can say it does mess with you no matter how much you tell yourself you are confident and good enough and also no matter how hard you try to be okay with it it just lingers in your mind if you really are what he wants and likes. So what I’m saying I guess is to make boundaries because that will be the only way to be at peace with that trust me it causes so much damage if it goes on forever especially years on years. My therapist today told me that setting boundaries and talking about them is the only way to protect yourself really and also maintaining your self respect because it’s something that you don’t have to accept you know. It’s a really hard topic to conquer but I really wish you luck because it’s possible to have a good outcome if you communicate❤️❤️

  • @nrrbull
    @nrrbull 2 года назад +3

    A lot of revolutionary statements

  • @TheMLMGold
    @TheMLMGold 2 года назад +5

    That is a cool, hippy photo

  • @BikingVikingHH
    @BikingVikingHH 2 года назад +4

    Wow… this is exactly what I needed to hear.

  • @fortissimoX
    @fortissimoX 8 месяцев назад

    This was very useful indeed, thanks for sharing!

  • @laxmipradhan7792
    @laxmipradhan7792 2 года назад +1

    thank you for sharing this great lesson with all of us!

  • @prettytse7762
    @prettytse7762 2 года назад

    All things being equal///It always works in a Ram Dass talk/////

  • @OperationEden
    @OperationEden 2 года назад +1

    I come back here sometimes to make sure I am still sane.

  • @theproandonly9581
    @theproandonly9581 2 года назад

    What a beautiful mind, painting a worlds image of blank on a sheet on of scribbling

  • @margaretek5350
    @margaretek5350 2 года назад +4

    Thank you 🙏 true but difficult to practice ! Awareness, acceptance then action! 🙏🤗💜

  • @harmoniabalanza
    @harmoniabalanza 7 месяцев назад

    very Eckhart Tolle. Truth is truth.

  • @oOassassinOFyouthOo
    @oOassassinOFyouthOo 9 месяцев назад

    I miss having him on this plane.

  • @gdstef1
    @gdstef1 2 года назад +28

    Sometimes it really is better to be single....like abusive relationships. Some things are just FUBAR. If you have children they have a right to have a peaceful life with good role models. If your SO won't drop their addictions or admit they need massive work...it's just a lost cause. Much better to leave. Stress kills. Don't let religion poison your happiness. There is way too much emphasis on finding the "one". You are the one. If the person you are in a relationship is hindering your growth...leave.

    • @holliisixx
      @holliisixx 2 года назад +2

      AMEN sister.

    • @GettinJiggyWithGenghis
      @GettinJiggyWithGenghis 2 года назад

      It's better that a man be alone...

    • @maritzaozepy1903
      @maritzaozepy1903 2 года назад +1

      It is sometimes. But if you are codependent, leaving your SO doesn’t fix the damage in yourself. You need to find yourself and be with yourself anyway, so why don’t start now. This is where I am in my journey.

    • @yolobro983
      @yolobro983 2 года назад

      😘

  • @Peace1dy
    @Peace1dy 2 года назад +3

    This is so powerful!

  • @chelseacollins3782
    @chelseacollins3782 2 года назад +3

    Thank you for sharing.

    • @sriku1000
      @sriku1000 2 года назад

      "A Very Calming Video on, How your Reality is Controlled by your thoughts and you dont even know it ruclips.net/video/RAw8OxEj-Rg/видео.html"

  • @theanimetrapstar
    @theanimetrapstar 2 года назад

    Words words words.... an obstacle to true spirituality. For words mean 0/nothingness.... words words words.🧘‍♂️Namaste🧘‍♂️

  • @starrychloe
    @starrychloe 2 года назад +6

    It’s about balance.

  • @robertjmillerma1059
    @robertjmillerma1059 8 месяцев назад

    Brilliantly expressed 🙏

  • @harmoniabalanza
    @harmoniabalanza 7 месяцев назад

    His voice is very much like Andre Gregory's in My Dinner with Andre.

  • @devika_25
    @devika_25 10 месяцев назад

    Very Timely wisdom 💟💜🧡

  • @jaikai4989
    @jaikai4989 2 года назад

    God bless you brother

  • @peacenluv4rmd801
    @peacenluv4rmd801 2 года назад +1

    Wow. First sentence in. Thank you.