Girl, those are not red flags. Wanting regular communication and connecting with them is not being needy and too attached. You are allowed to speak your mind without being silenced. It sounds to me like the problem here are the type of guys youre dating rather than you. They sound emotionally unavailable and with avoidant attachment styles. RUN!
Sounds like how you behave just makes it harder for them to keep their mask on. That's a very good thing. All of their complaints are indicative of guys who want to date, but not find a long term partner.
I'm a Black man, 31, and all my relationships have more or less ended due to communication issues. One of the reasons you mentioned, like being too emotional (granted its not gone into very deeply, so I'd still question if that'd be an issue) is something that would normally give me a little pause. Only because I have had past partners where emotion controlled *everything* so there was no forethought, no communication, just 100% emotional reaction. You mentioning your value of therapy, and communication would totally get rid of that worry for me. Even though I react more on logic over emotion, good communication and therapy is something I constantly strive for too. Also, don't let anybody tell you you're average! Your darkness is gorgeous, you've got a mindset always focused on growth. You're exactly the kind of woman I can only hope to meet someday.
@@xoxoakouto Thanks for replying! It’s literally a must for me that my prospective partner either currently be in therapy, or have been in it recently. Also in future videos you should do a video on the ways you’ve met past partners! It’s always interesting to see how many people still meet in different ways like online dating vs meeting people at events and activities.
It sounds like the guys you’ve dated wanted a woman who asks for little, doesn’t express herself, and doesn’t challenge them. Don’t say “you’re too …” unless it’s actually true. Being emotional isn’t a bad thing; guys tell us it’s bad and they’re “logical” because they don’t want us to expect change and effort from them. Every human uses logic. No one would survive long enough to make it to adulthood who doesn’t have logic and reasoning skills.
Be yourself... Continue to be DIRECT because some of us Men appreciate directness, rather for one to beat around the bush etc... Lastly, I appreciate that you actually focused on what was said by your ex's, rather than to deflect/project as if "it is always men's fault" as you will notice a lot of response posts from women seem to suggest as if to state that women are faultless, can do no wrong, and are victim$ - $mdh.
There's guys that are perfect for her. I personally can't deal with someone that needs my attention 24/7. I already have an exhausting job, I don't want to come home and start my second shift.
You’re so bold. My pride would never ever let me admit that I was dumped even if I know it, I’d find it so hard to say it out loud esp to a bunch of strangers on the internet but that is what I find so cool about you! You say out loud the things I kept quiet for fear I’d die from humiliation. Thank you for being so courageous and secure in yourself to speak your truth out loud.
There is someone out there who doesnt think youre too much. Ive been through the same thing and i found my person who validates my feelings and gives me the affection and attention i need to feel loved. You will too ❤️
As a woman who has dated a bunch of men, I can attest to the "too emotional" and "too needy" parts of this video, but from a woman's persepctive. I've dated A LOT of men who are too needy and emotional. I'm in a line of work where my attention throughout the day has to be work related. I've dated men that don't understand this and expect me to be able to respond the second they message me. The emotional part is just draining when men are way too attatched and don't understand that I just need my own space sometimes. This is not to say that being emotional is bad! Being direct and in tuned with your emotions in very much important. But I think there's just a balance that needs to be put in place. I need a man who has his own life as do I :)
Your very pretty and as soon as a black woman says she wants a little more of this or that we are told we need to lower our standards but I hope you find your person
I really hope you find someone who LOVES these things about you! Keep being yourself, I think you’re just weeding the wrong ones out! Eventually, you’d find someone who wants to communicate too, who loves to baby you, and just wants to be your person!!!
they do not know your value. let's not use the word dumped. they walked away because they are the ones who were confused about the kind of woman they want in their life. being needy i think that you were just communicating, the emotional thing as women we are emotional so there are times (especially that time of the month) we can be very emotional, and the too direct part.. like what! you have gotta be direct about what you want you aren't here to be in someone's shadow. girl i see nothing wrong here. keep being you. YOU ARE A DIAMOND! to be loved and cherished. ❤
The first reason is just because they dont want to actually commit. There is nothing wrong communicating with someone you are dating or in a relationship everyday. The third reason is because they'd rather keep the relationship ambiguous so they dont have to commit. The second reason seems as if it makes sense when it doesn't. Relationships involve emotions so to ignore them for the sake of lOgIc is disingenuous.
I had this problems then i realise i didn't like men at all. They are from another slow and boring planet. I'm with a clingy lesbian now, she's wondeful, it's perfect. Emotions are talk through, there's place for it. Communication is so much faster, attention is given whitout asking, we always calling and texting lovely thoughts to each other. I'm loved exactly for who i am and i can finally be myself.
This so refreshing to hear someone admit our "shortcomings" or why we weren't a fit for someone. I've been told in the workplace that I was too emotional for a particular promotion but the male supervisor said, "look, that's not even a bad thing as a person just not right for this role."
I like needy and clingy woman. You just have to find the right one. I appreciate you analyzing your own characteristics to see if there are any flaws. It’s refreshing
I wasn’t necessarily dumped…but my ex said he was unhappy in our relationship because I wanted to travel too much and he didn’t “like to travel.” Lol. So we broke up after that and I went on a solo trip to Spain 🥲
It's alright, things happen. I've gone through a similar process in the past as well. Live and learn and keep on moving is all we can do. Sometimes it's not you, sometimes it's the other person. I once had someone say it wasnt me, and it was them. They had some work to do with their own self. Inner growth and probably some incompatibility in the relationship at the time. Sometimes it's really not personal and its the other person. Being direct and knowing what you want and dont want, is a very attractive things. This is because life is short, it can go south or end quickly. Nobody should be beating around the bush all the time, nobody wants to be waiting forever
Those guys just seems like they didn’t want anything serious , bullet dodged. Rejection is Gods protection! Amen ! Guys have said the same to me besides my daughter dad. He clinged to me by the hip but it’s like we were too much alike idk but it’s hard to get along with him, but honestly haven’t found or had anyone like him since.
Being direct is really good trait. If a person doesnt like it that means that they cant manipulate you because you communicate too clearly for them so they cant change, manipulate the words.
Yeah... I've been dumped mostly because I didn't make enough money to support an extravagant social life... But I never cared for that type of life anyway, so I didn't mind being dumped... It's always best sooner than later.
Girl, it’s not needy to want to talk every day…. You’re a woman. It’s ok and the right man will be on your wavelength. I definitely felt needy in past relationships or with other guys I’ve seen but that’s because *they didn’t like me*. You can get away with a lot if the guy likes you, just keep that in mind. All the best. I was often overlooked by guys in my city, I ended up being pursued by a guy in a different country. Maybe dating in another part of the world could help?
So basically you’re a human? Unfortunately, humans have desensitized themselves from feeling. Stay who you are. We need more emotional people in this world. ❤️
1:21 I think that some a lot of people mistake emotion for impulse. Being emotional doesn't always equate to being impulsive and vice versa, so it really depends on what emotions are being displayed at any given time. I don't even really know what I would consider emotions, TBH. The water gets muddied when jealousy and things like that get included.
At my big age, I definitely can saying being dumped is not fun. I can say my slick tongue and my ability to be head strong. Meaning I usually call guys out on yheir B.S.😊 So they take off running. Now I need to go and do a little more reflection work. TY😅💜💜
1:22 There's a balance, though. Emotions can be tempered with logic and vice versa. IMO, balance is always key to a healthy relationship and a healthy life... Balance in all things.
My first ex-boyfriend dumped me because he said I was not mature enough to be in a relationship. The truth, he was cheating on me and had a baby on the way. 😅😅😅
If I had been dating, I would love for the woman to want to communicate with me often. I would take the lack of communication as a red flag. Like a sign of disinterest. And so, I would just stop talking to her, if there is little to no communication. Maybe the guys you were with felt overwhelmed? That was just the way THEY felt. Other guys might not feel the way the guys you were with felt. With the "be subtle" part, I would say it's okay to be straightforward, so long as it's not overly blunt and too direct. Usually guys like to get to the point and move on, but I guess sometimes it can be taken as "sharp" when one is on the receiving end of bluntness and directness. With the emotion part, that's because men think differently than women do. Men are typically not emotional, or at least, society tells us guys to not be emotional. In fact, guys like Mr. T and the Undertaker and Brock Lesnar would tell emotional guys that they're a "chump," cause guys usually aren't emotional. I don't think being emotional, in itself, is a reason to go so far as to completely dump someone. But it's likely that the reason they said that one is because men are typically not emotional. We think more logically, not emotionally. So, that one might have been the biggest issue of the three reasons, for all the guys you were with. I see what they mean by not wanting to be emotional, cause we shouldn't live or make decisions based on emotion, but still. But none of those three reasons sounded like anything serious, at all. That was more "preference" rather than "red flags." THEY took it as "red flag." Those three reasons were fine. THEY just didn't want to deal with it anymore. So maybe YOU lucked out that they left. It could be that you are better off without them, since they took THAT as a red flag. You never cheated. You were never abusive. You didn't do anything wrong. Nothing they said was serious enough to dump you over. That should have been just a discussion, at most. THEY couldn't handle it. You're cool. You're interesting. You seem like a fun person. And I send virtual hugs. (Real hugs, if we ever wind up meeting in person). Anyone you wind up with in the future would be lucky.
May you do a video and discuss why your marriage did not work out? Just to help people struggling in a marriage or young girls to avoid the same pitfalls.
Those sound like generic break up reasons, like the "it's not you, it's me". I don't know how serious these relationships were but it sounds like maybe they just wanted to give you a reason and pulled that out. Men want to feel and be needed. If I didn't need anything from my husband he would feel helpless and useless.
These are just the wrong guys for you, some men are willing to hear you out and help you in all aspects. There’s nothing wrong with you they just have their own expectations elsewhere .. 🤷🏾♀️
A guy I liked a lot told me the exact things you mentioned , I mean the second n third , being straightforward and overly emotional/passionate . I was confused coz am I supposed to be cold towards someone I love ?😅😂
0:51 I wouldn't consider that needy. I would consider needy someone who is trying to monopolize their partners time.... But, I'm also the type of person that doesn't put very much weight into words. I've always felt that actions speak louder than words.
1:42 More people in the world need to be direct and upfront with their thought. Honesty is the best policy, really. Anything else is just beating around the bush playing a guessing game.... Plus, I don't think there are any true psychics in the world. The closest is an empath, but that is just emotion detecting, not ESP.
Those guys sound like total jerks if you ask me. They could’ve at least been tactful about ending things with you. Also, if someone has a problem with you being direct, they’re the red flag.
2:17 This reminds me of an episode of Chewing Gum, starring Michaela Coel. They went to this "club" and she was wondering why no men were approaching her... Turns out club rule was only women are allowed to do the approaching.
it’s good sometimes to let the guy’s show their masculine energy, even me as a female i find those points you mentioned irritating sometimes in any person regardless dating or not( no offense )😊
That’s not needy they just really don’t like you like that. They’re just not the right people because when a guy likes you he wants to spend his time and money with you.
Are you sure it was because of all that? men don’t really mind all that stuff if they are attracted to or love a woman. They only say those things to women they don’t love.
They just were not in love with u., not your person. I am ugly, no butt, broad shoulders, boring personality, scary of human interaction. But I married a guy 10 years ago at 20. Because we feel good together. Still all men don't notice me or ignore me because of my ugliness. But I am in love with my husband and that's enough for me.
They dumbed me cause I didn't wanna cheat are beat women are lie are come in all hours of the night I was a homebody they wanted me to be more street they wanted me to be a bad person pretending to be good the wanted me to be more worldly than holy😢 I'm 36 no mother no father no grandparents my siblings don't think that well of me neither. I spend most of my time alone looking for work but I know nobody will give me a chance. Life sucks 😞 if only my death comes soon then I can smile again
Alot of us men instinctively don't like women who are that direct and we are naturally created like that.we feel funny and disgusted naturally when women are direct with us.alot of us want women to stay hidden in their love or concern thoughts about us but alot of us wish women were more direct and open to us but when it happens again we feel naturally disgusted.its like a fight within us that is hard to win.i in particular I like women who are open like you but often than not I'll feel a disgusting feeling coming over me when a woman is open like that and which I have to actively controll because I like open and straight forward women but I have to fight this natural disgust.so men who can't fight this end up on that end of dumping you.since naturally you are an open woman to your men,you will find it hard to be subtle.the problem is with your men not you because all of us men like open women but when it happens alot of us feel disgusted also which is something we need to controll to accomodate the feelings of our women.the problem is,alot of us are not able to do that and when some like me know this secret and I try really hard to fight that feeling,sometimes it's sooo overwhelming and I need to keep reminding myself that my woman is that way.hope you understand but continue enjoying what you like doing.
I feel sorry for you. 😢 I cant tell you the real Reason you went through such hardship. It will be political Incorrect in this day and age and I will get banned.
I DON'T LIKE THAT TERM "DUMPED" YOU ARE NOT TRASH, YOU ARE A BEAUTIFUL SOUL🙌🙌
I dumped my ex cause he was abusive trash!
For sure
Girl, those are not red flags. Wanting regular communication and connecting with them is not being needy and too attached. You are allowed to speak your mind without being silenced. It sounds to me like the problem here are the type of guys youre dating rather than you. They sound emotionally unavailable and with avoidant attachment styles. RUN!
Sounds like how you behave just makes it harder for them to keep their mask on. That's a very good thing. All of their complaints are indicative of guys who want to date, but not find a long term partner.
Girl you are such a beautiful soul. Guys who dumped you didn't see your value. That's because you were meant to be with someone better.
I'm a Black man, 31, and all my relationships have more or less ended due to communication issues. One of the reasons you mentioned, like being too emotional (granted its not gone into very deeply, so I'd still question if that'd be an issue) is something that would normally give me a little pause. Only because I have had past partners where emotion controlled *everything* so there was no forethought, no communication, just 100% emotional reaction. You mentioning your value of therapy, and communication would totally get rid of that worry for me. Even though I react more on logic over emotion, good communication and therapy is something I constantly strive for too. Also, don't let anybody tell you you're average! Your darkness is gorgeous, you've got a mindset always focused on growth. You're exactly the kind of woman I can only hope to meet someday.
love this!! yes therapy helps you communicate people with people, including loved ones.
@@xoxoakouto Thanks for replying! It’s literally a must for me that my prospective partner either currently be in therapy, or have been in it recently. Also in future videos you should do a video on the ways you’ve met past partners! It’s always interesting to see how many people still meet in different ways like online dating vs meeting people at events and activities.
It sounds like the guys you’ve dated wanted a woman who asks for little, doesn’t express herself, and doesn’t challenge them. Don’t say “you’re too …” unless it’s actually true. Being emotional isn’t a bad thing; guys tell us it’s bad and they’re “logical” because they don’t want us to expect change and effort from them. Every human uses logic. No one would survive long enough to make it to adulthood who doesn’t have logic and reasoning skills.
2:13 You are so real for this, I think all you're doing is moving on quickly from people who like to play games and that's a good thing
Be yourself... Continue to be DIRECT because some of us Men appreciate directness, rather for one to beat around the bush etc...
Lastly, I appreciate that you actually focused on what was said by your ex's, rather than to deflect/project as if "it is always men's fault" as you will notice a lot of response posts from women seem to suggest as if to state that women are faultless, can do no wrong, and are victim$ - $mdh.
"I'm a frickin' RUclipsr, _of course_ I want attention!" I respect you for saying that 😅
always gotta be honest lmaaooo
those guys wanted someone to leave them alone but at the same time control... insane... you're so better off, i give you love from Texas!!!
There's guys that are perfect for her. I personally can't deal with someone that needs my attention 24/7. I already have an exhausting job, I don't want to come home and start my second shift.
@@Chi-cd3ke She didn't say 24/7...
You have such a beautiful smile; your eyes "smile" as well as your mouth. I always feel really happy when you smile. 💗
You’re so bold. My pride would never ever let me admit that I was dumped even if I know it, I’d find it so hard to say it out loud esp to a bunch of strangers on the internet but that is what I find so cool about you! You say out loud the things I kept quiet for fear I’d die from humiliation. Thank you for being so courageous and secure in yourself to speak your truth out loud.
this is so backhanded lol
LOL!, glob
@@xoxoakouto love u you're killing it💞
This was extremely backhanded oh dear
@@globisdead only if you’re insecure enuf to take it that way. No slight was intended so if something in you received it that way that’s on you.
There is someone out there who doesnt think youre too much. Ive been through the same thing and i found my person who validates my feelings and gives me the affection and attention i need to feel loved. You will too ❤️
As a woman who has dated a bunch of men, I can attest to the "too emotional" and "too needy" parts of this video, but from a woman's persepctive. I've dated A LOT of men who are too needy and emotional. I'm in a line of work where my attention throughout the day has to be work related. I've dated men that don't understand this and expect me to be able to respond the second they message me. The emotional part is just draining when men are way too attatched and don't understand that I just need my own space sometimes. This is not to say that being emotional is bad! Being direct and in tuned with your emotions in very much important. But I think there's just a balance that needs to be put in place. I need a man who has his own life as do I :)
Your very pretty and as soon as a black woman says she wants a little more of this or that we are told we need to lower our standards but I hope you find your person
PERIOD!!! you got it
I really hope you find someone who LOVES these things about you! Keep being yourself, I think you’re just weeding the wrong ones out! Eventually, you’d find someone who wants to communicate too, who loves to baby you, and just wants to be your person!!!
they do not know your value. let's not use the word dumped. they walked away because they are the ones who were confused about the kind of woman they want in their life. being needy i think that you were just communicating, the emotional thing as women we are emotional so there are times (especially that time of the month) we can be very emotional, and the too direct part.. like what! you have gotta be direct about what you want you aren't here to be in someone's shadow. girl i see nothing wrong here. keep being you. YOU ARE A DIAMOND! to be loved and cherished. ❤
The first reason is just because they dont want to actually commit. There is nothing wrong communicating with someone you are dating or in a relationship everyday. The third reason is because they'd rather keep the relationship ambiguous so they dont have to commit. The second reason seems as if it makes sense when it doesn't. Relationships involve emotions so to ignore them for the sake of lOgIc is disingenuous.
I had this problems then i realise i didn't like men at all. They are from another slow and boring planet. I'm with a clingy lesbian now, she's wondeful, it's perfect. Emotions are talk through, there's place for it. Communication is so much faster, attention is given whitout asking, we always calling and texting lovely thoughts to each other. I'm loved exactly for who i am and i can finally be myself.
What you described is not needy.
The other things you discussed don't sound unusual.
You're going to be right for the right person.
Thanks for sharing this. It's really interesting. I think it's cool that you know yourself
This so refreshing to hear someone admit our "shortcomings" or why we weren't a fit for someone. I've been told in the workplace that I was too emotional for a particular promotion but the male supervisor said, "look, that's not even a bad thing as a person just not right for this role."
I like needy and clingy woman. You just have to find the right one. I appreciate you analyzing your own characteristics to see if there are any flaws. It’s refreshing
I wasn’t necessarily dumped…but my ex said he was unhappy in our relationship because I wanted to travel too much and he didn’t “like to travel.” Lol. So we broke up after that and I went on a solo trip to Spain 🥲
I stayed in spain for over a year just because. lol i would not have given that up for a dude unless he was husband material.
It's alright, things happen. I've gone through a similar process in the past as well. Live and learn and keep on moving is all we can do. Sometimes it's not you, sometimes it's the other person. I once had someone say it wasnt me, and it was them. They had some work to do with their own self. Inner growth and probably some incompatibility in the relationship at the time. Sometimes it's really not personal and its the other person.
Being direct and knowing what you want and dont want, is a very attractive things. This is because life is short, it can go south or end quickly. Nobody should be beating around the bush all the time, nobody wants to be waiting forever
Those guys just seems like they didn’t want anything serious , bullet dodged. Rejection is Gods protection! Amen ! Guys have said the same to me besides my daughter dad. He clinged to me by the hip but it’s like we were too much alike idk but it’s hard to get along with him, but honestly haven’t found or had anyone like him since.
Why is it hard to get along with him? Isn’t that, y’know, a bad thing?
Being direct is really good trait. If a person doesnt like it that means that they cant manipulate you because you communicate too clearly for them so they cant change, manipulate the words.
You need balance in a relationship. You can't be annoying. That's a big turn off.
Yeah... I've been dumped mostly because I didn't make enough money to support an extravagant social life... But I never cared for that type of life anyway, so I didn't mind being dumped... It's always best sooner than later.
You seem so sweet ❤ Their loss.
Girl, it’s not needy to want to talk every day…. You’re a woman. It’s ok and the right man will be on your wavelength. I definitely felt needy in past relationships or with other guys I’ve seen but that’s because *they didn’t like me*. You can get away with a lot if the guy likes you, just keep that in mind. All the best. I was often overlooked by guys in my city, I ended up being pursued by a guy in a different country. Maybe dating in another part of the world could help?
So basically you’re a human? Unfortunately, humans have desensitized themselves from feeling. Stay who you are. We need more emotional people in this world. ❤️
1:21 I think that some a lot of people mistake emotion for impulse. Being emotional doesn't always equate to being impulsive and vice versa, so it really depends on what emotions are being displayed at any given time. I don't even really know what I would consider emotions, TBH. The water gets muddied when jealousy and things like that get included.
At my big age, I definitely can saying being dumped is not fun. I can say my slick tongue and my ability to be head strong. Meaning I usually call guys out on yheir B.S.😊
So they take off running. Now I need to go and do a little more reflection work.
TY😅💜💜
1:22 There's a balance, though. Emotions can be tempered with logic and vice versa. IMO, balance is always key to a healthy relationship and a healthy life... Balance in all things.
Who are these men that prefer subtlety? Don't the VAST majority of men wish women were more strait forward about what they want?
very good
My first ex-boyfriend dumped me because he said I was not mature enough to be in a relationship. The truth, he was cheating on me and had a baby on the way. 😅😅😅
same ! LOL
@@ashleysimmons31 LOL!!!
That I don’t get him and he doesn’t feel loved by me. Truth is I do love him but it just doesn’t translate to him feeling loved.
in situations like this, you gotta ask him HOW he wants to be shown love. that normally helps.
If I had been dating, I would love for the woman to want to communicate with me often. I would take the lack of communication as a red flag. Like a sign of disinterest. And so, I would just stop talking to her, if there is little to no communication. Maybe the guys you were with felt overwhelmed? That was just the way THEY felt. Other guys might not feel the way the guys you were with felt.
With the "be subtle" part, I would say it's okay to be straightforward, so long as it's not overly blunt and too direct. Usually guys like to get to the point and move on, but I guess sometimes it can be taken as "sharp" when one is on the receiving end of bluntness and directness.
With the emotion part, that's because men think differently than women do. Men are typically not emotional, or at least, society tells us guys to not be emotional. In fact, guys like Mr. T and the Undertaker and Brock Lesnar would tell emotional guys that they're a "chump," cause guys usually aren't emotional. I don't think being emotional, in itself, is a reason to go so far as to completely dump someone. But it's likely that the reason they said that one is because men are typically not emotional. We think more logically, not emotionally. So, that one might have been the biggest issue of the three reasons, for all the guys you were with. I see what they mean by not wanting to be emotional, cause we shouldn't live or make decisions based on emotion, but still.
But none of those three reasons sounded like anything serious, at all. That was more "preference" rather than "red flags." THEY took it as "red flag." Those three reasons were fine. THEY just didn't want to deal with it anymore. So maybe YOU lucked out that they left. It could be that you are better off without them, since they took THAT as a red flag. You never cheated. You were never abusive. You didn't do anything wrong. Nothing they said was serious enough to dump you over. That should have been just a discussion, at most. THEY couldn't handle it. You're cool. You're interesting. You seem like a fun person. And I send virtual hugs. (Real hugs, if we ever wind up meeting in person). Anyone you wind up with in the future would be lucky.
You are not needy, and you're not emotional. You're are what the world needs.
May you do a video and discuss why your marriage did not work out? Just to help people struggling in a marriage or young girls to avoid the same pitfalls.
Those sound like generic break up reasons, like the "it's not you, it's me". I don't know how serious these relationships were but it sounds like maybe they just wanted to give you a reason and pulled that out. Men want to feel and be needed. If I didn't need anything from my husband he would feel helpless and useless.
This is so me
You just gave same reason i have always been dumped by guys
These are just the wrong guys for you, some men are willing to hear you out and help you in all aspects. There’s nothing wrong with you they just have their own expectations elsewhere .. 🤷🏾♀️
A guy I liked a lot told me the exact things you mentioned , I mean the second n third , being straightforward and overly emotional/passionate . I was confused coz am I supposed to be cold towards someone I love ?😅😂
0:51 I wouldn't consider that needy. I would consider needy someone who is trying to monopolize their partners time.... But, I'm also the type of person that doesn't put very much weight into words. I've always felt that actions speak louder than words.
1:42 More people in the world need to be direct and upfront with their thought. Honesty is the best policy, really. Anything else is just beating around the bush playing a guessing game.... Plus, I don't think there are any true psychics in the world. The closest is an empath, but that is just emotion detecting, not ESP.
Those guys sound like total jerks if you ask me. They could’ve at least been tactful about ending things with you. Also, if someone has a problem with you being direct, they’re the red flag.
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sad to say but those are all good reasons to dump someone .
2:17 This reminds me of an episode of Chewing Gum, starring Michaela Coel. They went to this "club" and she was wondering why no men were approaching her... Turns out club rule was only women are allowed to do the approaching.
I've seen this show, and Akouto reminds me of a toned down version of the main character.
@@shanishine38 It's a damn good show. Michaela Coel is an amazing writer.
I LOVE CHEWING GUM! it was sooo funny and the main character was so quirky...so me. hahah!
Until I watched your video, I thought I was the only one! 😵💫
Thats why i have my channel! You are never alone!!! :)
Love you 😘😘😘❤❤❤
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it’s good sometimes to let the guy’s show their masculine energy, even me as a female i find those points you mentioned irritating sometimes in any person regardless dating or not( no offense )😊
A man that actually likes you will not have a problem with the things that you mentioned. Sounds like they were just making excuses.
Which of her videos has gotten 2M views? I tried to find it but wasn't successful. (I'm a relatively new subscriber.) Thanks!
its the "I feel like a lose"r one! its also called
"33 year old woman with no life."
@@xoxoakouto Hi Akouto, how about a bonding time (meet & greet) with your cat??
love that idea!
Again, I think it also depends on the race of male as well
I thought calling and texting everyday was normal. I see married couples do it 😅
LOL! it is! some people don't like it though!
You're beautiful ❤
That’s not needy they just really don’t like you like that. They’re just not the right people because when a guy likes you he wants to spend his time and money with you.
are virgo zodiac signs
IM a virgo... lmaaaooo
Are you sure it was because of all that? men don’t really mind all that stuff if they are attracted to or love a woman. They only say those things to women they don’t love.
They just were not in love with u., not your person. I am ugly, no butt, broad shoulders, boring personality, scary of human interaction. But I married a guy 10 years ago at 20. Because we feel good together. Still all men don't notice me or ignore me because of my ugliness. But I am in love with my husband and that's enough for me.
how did you meet?
Wow those arent realitic crazy about the guys...
Your video title is spelt wrong. You need to change seasons to REASONS!!!
Lmaaaoooo thanks
get yourself together establish some emotions control
my emotions are in control!
They dumbed me cause I didn't wanna cheat are beat women are lie are come in all hours of the night I was a homebody they wanted me to be more street they wanted me to be a bad person pretending to be good the wanted me to be more worldly than holy😢 I'm 36 no mother no father no grandparents my siblings don't think that well of me neither. I spend most of my time alone looking for work but I know nobody will give me a chance. Life sucks 😞 if only my death comes soon then I can smile again
do you prefer white or black?
Alot of us men instinctively don't like women who are that direct and we are naturally created like that.we feel funny and disgusted naturally when women are direct with us.alot of us want women to stay hidden in their love or concern thoughts about us but alot of us wish women were more direct and open to us but when it happens again we feel naturally disgusted.its like a fight within us that is hard to win.i in particular I like women who are open like you but often than not I'll feel a disgusting feeling coming over me when a woman is open like that and which I have to actively controll because I like open and straight forward women but I have to fight this natural disgust.so men who can't fight this end up on that end of dumping you.since naturally you are an open woman to your men,you will find it hard to be subtle.the problem is with your men not you because all of us men like open women but when it happens alot of us feel disgusted also which is something we need to controll to accomodate the feelings of our women.the problem is,alot of us are not able to do that and when some like me know this secret and I try really hard to fight that feeling,sometimes it's sooo overwhelming and I need to keep reminding myself that my woman is that way.hope you understand but continue enjoying what you like doing.
Wow u r soo beautiful
You are not for them
Those are not reasons to end a relationship with you. Please those men are not worth you so don't even comsider them😀
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Well make content! The subscribers will come!
@@xoxoakouto Thanks
Grow up
I feel sorry for you. 😢 I cant tell you the real
Reason you went through such hardship. It will be political
Incorrect in this day and age and I will get banned.
White guy from Rhode Island-The top of the list of-REASONS-(not-SEASONS)-that guys-dump you-IS THAT YOU CAN'T SPELLL!! 😳
Yes you got me.
give her a break it was a small mistake