Ashlynn's Story: Why I Stayed After He Cheated
HTML-код
- Опубликовано: 13 сен 2024
- We lived in the "weeds" for 14 years of our marriage. We felt alone separately and together. Until one day a friend shared her own story and we realized we weren't alone, that there was specialized help and most importantly there was HOPE! Now we share our stories to help others.
Learn more about Bloom at bloomforwomen.com
Still crying = still hurt ..
Yes. It means she is not healed. BTW This video is an advertisement for whatever counseling they used.
It hurt a lot but l don't want to leave him
Just because you forgive someone doesn’t mean you forget. You will never forget how that betrayal made you feel. However Love covers a multitude of sins and Love conquers all. His behavior can change. ALL things are possible with God. I applaud her for working through it, twice. Staying with them is the harder road to travel. I know from experience. God bless you lovely lady.
You’re just a bitter women
Smartness is important in a relationship and cyberhackinggenius helped cloned my husband’s phone and I got access to all his dealings both on phone and social media without touching his phone. All I did was share my husband’s phone number with Cyberhackinggenius and I was able to read both his new and deleted messages from my phone without having to touch his phone. My husband was a cheating Narcissist and I’m glad to find out all his secrets and infidelity with the help of cyberhackinggenius. I’m here in UK and able to access my husband’s phone messages with a link on my phone even while he was away in Canada cheating on me. I got to discover that my husband who is legally married to me here in UK is also recently married to another woman in Canada and I’m finally going through a divorce with lots of evidence against him. I read all his Whatsapp, Facebook,Skype,Instagram and Snapchat messages Including the deleted text and recent messages. You can contact this great Hacker Gavin via Gmail (cyberhackinggenius) or text and speak to him directly on his phone and WhatsApp : +19256795146 and don’t forget to thank me later.
Emotional affairs the worst. The emotional betrayal, sadness, and anger is indescribable. His behavior was so selfish. Regardless of addiction, he was well aware of his commitment to his wife.
Bright Angel for a guy I could handle that . It’s crazy because it’s the physical I can’t get over .
How is emotional affairs worse? Sleeping & possibly catching an STD or even worse, AIDS is worse!!! Stop getting your feelings involved when it concerns your health 🤦🏻♀️
Da Nhl1 I don’t think all that talk changes the fact that you’re a piece of shit, all cheaters are. If you found happiness with that other person then you could have severed and ended things with the one you had vows with before getting emotionally or physically involved with someone else out of wedlock. Please, stop the BS, nothing, and I repeat, nothing justifies cheating. Going on to get involved with someone else can be done without still being linked to your spouse or significant other.
She's basically rewarding him for cheating. Saying they can move mountains and stuff. He's the one that cheated, not her. Why is she making all this effort. Get a grip, you deserve better. You were not put on this earth to fix that man!
Bernie Stephens no she’s just forgiving and fixing the problem she said she sees a different guy now
The man needs to fix himself
Correct
She gets to decide whats right for her, not you.
R Crane Taken someone back before I guess? Worried about your future maybe? It’s absolutely her decision, a bad one, but I’m not disputing it’s hers.
Why is it the one is cheated on always blames themselves???
My wife cheated on me emotionally I felt like I was shot in the stomach
I finally got fed up and divorced her
Don Dressel we hav best solution fr u if u can touch her thn she will nvr cheat nd nvr see any guys bcoz of magical properties
Smartness is important in a relationship and cyberhackinggenius helped cloned my husband’s phone and I got access to all his dealings both on phone and social media without touching his phone. All I did was share my husband’s phone number with cyberhackinggenius and I was able to read both his new and deleted messages from my phone without having to touch his phone. My husband was a cheating Narcissist and I’m glad to find out all his secrets and infidelity with the help of cyberhackinggenius. I’m here in UK and able to access my husband’s phone messages with a link on my phone even while he was away in Canada cheating on me. I got to discover that my husband who is legally married to me here in UK is also recently married to another woman in Canada and I’m finally going through a divorce with lots of evidence against him. I read all his Whatsapp, Facebook,Skype,Instagram and Snapchat messages Including the deleted text and recent messages. You can contact this great Hacker Gavin via Gmail (cyberhackinggenius) or text and speak to him directly on his phone and WhatsApp : +19256795146 and don’t forget to thank me later.
Jordan Allen fuck off. Stop praying on people’s weaknesses for your gain and money you asshole. I’m reporting you!
Smartness is important in a relationship and cyberhackinggenius helped cloned my husband’s phone and I got access to all his dealings both on phone and social media without touching his phone. All I did was share my husband’s phone number with Cyberhackinggenius and I was able to read both his new and deleted messages from my phone without having to touch his phone. My husband was a cheating Narcissist and I’m glad to find out all his secrets and infidelity with the help of cyberhackinggenius. I’m here in UK and able to access my husband’s phone messages with a link on my phone even while he was away in Canada cheating on me. I got to discover that my husband who is legally married to me here in UK is also recently married to another woman in Canada and I’m finally going through a divorce with lots of evidence against him. I read all his Whatsapp, Facebook,Skype,Instagram and Snapchat messages Including the deleted text and recent messages. You can contact this great Hacker Gavin via Gmail (cyberhackinggenius) or text and speak to him directly on his phone and WhatsApp : +19256795146 and don’t forget to thank me later.
Emokiriemi Abednego 🖕
Video made me cry for her. She loves him so much, but I don’t think his infidelity will ever stop.
The infidelity will stop, but the ability to look her in the eye and pridefully say "I love you" is tainted with so much shame and that is forever. For her to look back at him with pride that this proud and great man only cares for her is gone forever. I cry for her too because staying after infidelity is proof to me that she loves him to death and would've been the most incredible wife and marriage if he stayed faithful.
It made me laugh
The Holy Spirit can take that desire out of him. He will be changed from a notorious adulterer to a saint. Don't discount the power of the Holy Ghost, He's still the same yesterday today and forever.
@leroy Hudson I agree that part will never be the same
Smartness is important in a relationship and cyberhackinggenius helped cloned my husband’s phone and I got access to all his dealings both on phone and social media without touching his phone. All I did was share my husband’s phone number with cyberhackinggenius and I was able to read both his new and deleted messages from my phone without having to touch his phone. My husband was a cheating Narcissist and I’m glad to find out all his secrets and infidelity with the help of cyberhackinggenius. I’m here in UK and able to access my husband’s phone messages with a link on my phone even while he was away in Canada cheating on me. I got to discover that my husband who is legally married to me here in UK is also recently married to another woman in Canada and I’m finally going through a divorce with lots of evidence against him. I read all his Whatsapp, Facebook,Skype,Instagram and Snapchat messages Including the deleted text and recent messages. You can contact this great Hacker Gavin via Gmail (cyberhackinggenius) or text and speak to him directly on his phone and WhatsApp : +19256795146 and don’t forget to thank me later.
It's called toxic love. He's not a real man, I am, with flaws for sure😔 but I'm always pursuing my wife's heart, to win it over and over again, I'm a man because I treat her with love and
respect, and if something I've done or are doing that causes her pain, I work hard to change that. We are our best friends. What I'm saying should not be special, but what a real man should do naturally.
Kind regards,
Joshua H
I'm honestly interested in how your wife treats you when you do something that displeases her. I not talking about cheating, just anything. You make a remark about something, or whatever. What does she do?
This man grew up being punished by his unloving parents for doing anything wrong, which is why he didn't want to tell anyone he found porn at age 7. This woman grew up being told not to question authority, or that certain subject were taboo.
💕
Thank you for your example. I am struggling with a situation, he told me that it is normal for him to look at women, it hurt me a lot. I told him that I wanted to dress myself more beautiful in order for.him.to.stop watching at other women and he said that this does not matter, this will not stop.him....something like this...any advice? Thank you
Thank you Josh
Peace and Blessings
I could get on board at the beginning, but when you learned he cheated a second time, no. This is a terrible message to put out there to other women. Sorry you don't have enough self respect to leave a cheater, but don't try telling other women that it's "an addiction" and they should give chances to someone that cheats repeatedly.
Yes exactly
Chris Facts she could just say that she’s not in a stable situation to safely leave, rather than trying to defend his emotional abuse
I have to assume it is an option only if you are with someone who admits the problem, truly wants to change, and is willing to put in the hard work. That is probably not "average".
this is exactly what i though. It's kind and compassionate woman like this that gets cheated on repeatedly.
The sad thing is her children will fall for cheaters and abusive boyfriends. I hope she can be of a good example to her childeren next time
I read many stories of infidelity online, although I saw mine coming, but I was so stupid to realize and accept the truth, even if the red flags are everywhere.
For months my wife have been suspicious about things, especially when a "NO CALLER ID" calls her.
She has been up all night chatting on her phone. I have tried to find out what is going on but she always has a good excuse or reasons.
I should have been more cautious earlier, but I don't want to be the husband who snoops into his wife’s things, so I had to ignore it and tell myself I was overthinking as usual.
I'm still hurting and currently trying to control myself, but I had to share this with the men out there.
Please never stay in a toxic marriage/relationship just for the sake of love, if your spouse doesn't bring up the same energy as you, that's a warning sign, if you have to doubt their actions, that's a warning sign.
My wife of 13years cheated on me and I realized how lost I am. I tried everything to get proof for a divorce with the help of a private investigator (Xyzcyberpunk@gmail.com) and yes, I got all the details about her cheating on me for months. He was able to get me a screenshot of their conversations, call logs and locations they met each other through their chats.
To be honest, I am free and happier without her.
Do not tolerate cheating, it is better to leave when you have the chance. Talk to people around you, someone close to you, seek advice, there are many platforms that can help you with infidelity.
He turned around and divorces her in 2021; I knew he wasn't changed. No true remorse. I feel bad for her waiting around for him to give her what he could not. His heart was not in the marriage. Mercy! She deserves better. He will do the same thing to another woman if he has not learned his lessons.
He divorced her?
How do you know he divorced her?
All of you will never understand....you are looking from the outside, just as she said, "from the outside it looks terrible". Until you have lived through something like this, or had parents go through it you won't get it. You may have an opinion but that is all that it is. Don't bash someone else for something you don't know.
Olivia Grabill yes... very true
Olivia Grabill All I know is that he is having his cake and eating too
My dad cheated on my mom. I think it was stupid of her to stay. They were never trully happy. So as a kid who grew up knowing my dad cheated i think this is a dumb video and a dumb excuse to staying with a cheater and calling it an addiction. She blamed herslelf for his actions which meant he went along with it and never owned up to his mistakes. Anyone who stays with a cheater is weak.
Olivia Grabill Many people have experienced this. It sets up a wrong image for their children on a lack of self respect, low self esteem, and staying in a manipulative abusive relationship for the sake of “marriage”.
Cheating is a conscious effort to lie, make plans, conceal, and work around one’s partner in order to fuck someone else. That takes a certain type heartlessness, a lack of empathy, and greed. She’s actively choosing to stay with someone whose heartless for the sake of her children, even though they’ll see this infidelity and it will effect their futures negatively on what marriage means and what cheating is.
Oooh hell to the no baby! I know exactly what she is been through, because I've been through the same and I wasn't able to stay in my marriage. I divorced my PORN addict husband 4 months ago. He never cheated on me physically, but emotional with pornography yes..18 years of my life being exchanged over pornography. What a stupid man..he had me. Now he's lost his family and he has nobody..not even the porn actresses are there for him right now.... That's his loss...
What an example of a mother/woman would I be to my daughter? A co-dependent mother? A weak woman? What an image she would have about me? I couldn't stay because I do not accept cheaters in my life and for my daughter. I want to show her that we don't need to hit the bottom for anybody and we can be strong and we can be happy with ourselves.
His addiction destroyed my self-esteem, my confidence...I suffer from PTSD and Severe Depression. Why would I still love someone who destroyed my capability as a woman of being loved again?
Hell no to this video.... No no no 👎
This woman is the definition of a doormat. Marriage is hard enough but throw in cheating. I refuse to settle for this.
Ruth O what a cruel and heartless thing to say. To state it’s not for you is one thing, but to speak about someone else that way simply because you don’t agree with their approach, well that’s horrible. I wonder why you felt the need to tear someone who has already been hurt so badly down even further. 😕
ericka carlson , thank you very much for saying that. I found my wife in bed getting pleasured by someone else. I didn't create a scene and I quietly closed the bedroom door so they could have privacy. My wife and I spoke peacefully that night. She did admit that her male friend was having problems in his marriage, but I wasn't too happy that he was enjoying my wife in the interim. She also admitted it was the forth time she had done it and vowed not to do it again and as far as I know, she hasn't. I am a forgiving person and I don't want our marriage torn apart because of what happened. We kept it to ourselves and obviously, people would have judged me for not leaving.
I'd rather be by myself!
Ericka Carlson-Castro She's right though. You stay with a cheater only if you have no self respect. She deserves someone better.
Ruth O we have all the solution regarding love related problms we make many heart broken couples to happiness for lyf tym
Would he stay if she cheated? 🤔
NO
Nope
He would be happy because he can make excuses to fuck other women
My xwife cheated and had affairs for years .. she always blamed me for cheating - I NEVER did .. worse pain ever , she hooked up with my friends right in front of me while I was suffering from 5 broken necks and 1 broken back .. kicked me out homeless with my cats etc : DRUGS WERE THE REASON for her delusional thoughts 💭.. it’s all good thought .. I Stayed with her every time she came home smelling like another man .. or leaving clothes at his house - etc.. Even now , I have thyroid & liver cancer and .. I still love her even more .. I truly wish she would’ve just ... asked me out right instead of looking at me with sad eyes saying ‘ I’m sorry , babe ‘ .. working her magic leaving me left guessing ‘ why are you sorry ? What did you do ? ... but seeing as I’m an Empath ... I knew every second of every moment she was with someone else or talking to them on the Phone .. over 10years .. I would’ve made every Effort to find a Solution instead of creating more problems .. if she’s reading this .. I MISS YOU , YES I’m accountable for my part but .. I never did what you think I did .. I still love you !! Always !!
No he wouldn't. Men aren't as forgiving.
Omg no offense but I feel so bad for her. She's blaming herself for something that's not even her fault. She's wasting her life with him. It's not an addiction, he's a cheater. If he had an "addiction," he should've known to not marry & have kids so that he doesn't hurt more people. Come on. We as women have to stop accepting things that we are clearly not comfortable with. Just to say that we "changed him" or kept him in the end despite everything. This is so sad.
so addicted to cheating is okay? LOL, but the phrase one a cheater will always be a cheater is CORRECT
Don't make it a women issue now, we men face it equally. We cry, we mourn too.
I couldn't have said it better.
Unconditional love is pure.
And If both parties are willing to make it work, then why scoff at it?
I know one thing for sure, her heart , though trampled on, will be stronger, and her love is selfless beyond belief and that is beautiful to me. And that kind of love can change people. I’m sure it can change her husband. Conviction is strong and when someone humbles themselves for another, conviction can set it.
What if you made a mistake? Would you want to be forgiven? Wouldn’t you want to make things right? The fact that her husband opened up to her means that he was repentant of what he did and he wanted to make things right. Not everyone can be perfect, and if everyone could be written off by their mistakes it would be a harsh world... because we all make mistakes. I don’t condemn her for her forgiveness or her faithfulness to her husband.
Thank God their are some people who have the capacity to love even when it hurts. Thank God that forgiveness exists.
She’s not blaming her self she’s just working on their marriage people make mistakes
He doesn’t even care for her he just looks at her all stoned faced.
One thing have learn,that no one can love as much as GOD love you.
Amen!
This is true
Who else wished a polar bear would run up in the end and drag that cheating pos away?
I'm there with you
Scott me....cause a cheater never changes...only learns to lie better
lolllllllll
Plot twist: a bi-polar bear does the attacking! Let's make this shit interesting!
Scott 😂
This guy will never love her the way she loves him. My heart breaks for her.
i cant say for sure either way. but only God can fix this marriage.
He should've been the one professing his love for her 😔
Encouraging other women to stay with their spouse after he has cheated whether it be emotionally or physically is the same for me as encouraging someone who has experienced physical or emotional abuse to allow their spouse back in. You have to want better for yourself. Do not make excuses for a man/woman that has done you wrong. That just sends the message to your spouse that you'll tolerate that behavior in the future. How can you love yourself if you'll willingly cast aside your dignity and respect? Once trust is broken it will never again be how it once was.
Logan Kirk Nope, not true or even close to it. You have obviously never loved someone or made a mistake. It is a very individual choice that you have no business saying it's right or wrong to the person who wants to stay. If he is willing to do the work necessary and she is willing to also It isn't abuse. Stop trying to compare Apple's to oranges. It can get way better if they are willing to try. Young people just want to give up on their marriages way to quickly these days.
@@zabfly-xj1sj and you obviously don't have any self respect or self love. I'll continue to stand behind my thoughts on this. But thanks for your opinion. 😘
Logan Kirk oh you're so welcome please don't speak on SHIT or lives of people you don't know.
@@zabfly-xj1sj Considering you'll continue to be an advocate for this kind of bullshit I'll still speak on SHIT and people I don't know. 👌
Logan Kirk Of course you will cause you're a sad lonely soul who has no idea what she is talking about!
Could you ever really forgive him? How could you ever forget that when he's touching you, he also touched another woman in the same places? Gross!
Addiction? He’s addicted to himself.
It's good they got back together but I guarantee you that the scar she has from this will never go away. It will always play in the back of her mind. I've been there but I didn't have the same outcome as her. People if you're going to cheat just end the relationship it causes so much damage to the other person and others in your life. Don't fight. Just leave. If the cheater wants to cheat let them. But get your self-respect back and find someone who's going to respect you and love you and be faithful to you.
Ben Walker exactly what i did. I didnt fight. Just ended the relationship. Wish him goodluck.
Right. When they cheat, just let them.they already left you at the moment they cheat. How you ever stop them from cheating?
My question here tho. If they leave you to sleep with someone else...and then try coming back like nothing happened a week later. then what?
This is my situation right now.
At 15 weeks pregnant(planned baby) my partner broke it off...told me to abort our baby...so he could sleep with his friend who is in a relationship...I'm almost 17 weeks now....and he wants us back...I don't know what to do..I am so so hurt..but want to forgive him for his actions, I just have zero trust in him and I don't know if I can get it back.
Kandace Krueger He told you to abort the baby? He doesn’t care about you or your child. That’s emotional abuse, and he obviously just wanted to have his fun regardless of how it would negatively affect you, and your relationship. That type of selfishness is dangerous and is likely also the reason he’s returned. He’s worried about losing the feeling of being romantically significant/someone’s significant other. Stepping out on your partner and planned baby is evidence enough he doesn’t deserve a second chance to hurt you again. I hope you are safe and know you will find a partner that respects you as a person and love.
@@kandacekrueger4616 if you're still with this person today, perhaps you should look up narcissistic personality disorder. This person doesn't sound like someone who loves you or their own child. I'm sorry you have gone through this. I hope you didn't stay! I stayed after his affairs and "addiction" which is really just a bullshit name for being really fucking selfish. Staying is the most painful path to take. In the end I broke up with him, I couldn't heal with him lying to me every day. I deserve better and so do you!
Trust is the most important thing in relationship. Once it's broken things will never be the same again 😭
You had me then u lost me when u said you stayed with him 😂😂
What’s wrong with staying?? You’re just bitter
craig smith Who wouldn’t be bitter if they’re getting cheating on ? Make it make sense .
Women listen carefully... It's ok to be single. At least you're not hurting from a cheating spouse you have peace of mind. That's alot more worthy than a man. Know your damn worth
ill confidently refer you to this pro for SPY/HACK related issues,i can swear on my dads grave he is LEGIT
INSTAGRAM==instagram.com/slowfire7
his services are fast and reliable remember a stitch in time saves nine.
She didn’t want to “give up on him”? He’s a grown ass man with issues. He should be seeing a therapist prior to giving into temptation. 🤦🏻♀️ i feel sorry for her. He knows she’s going to stay that’s why he continues
He already gave up on her
But he changed. Didn't he ?
@@neema_ somebody wrote he asked her for a divorce
Right...and after all this he left her!
You will be sorry in the end. I did the same thing and I am sorry. A cheater is always a cheater. I learned the hard way.
I'm sorry this was true for you. It's not true for all of us. Some men do choose to recover from what causes them to cheat. Again, I'm sorry it happened for you, but please don't be one of those people who want the world to think it happens to everyone, so you don't have to feel so alone or singled out.
Not true at all. So sorry you feel that way
Trevor you are correct and ThePaxtone1, you are wrong. I find that those who have lost their spouses to the addiction (the addict chose the addiction over the betrayed spouse) want to believe that no other option was available. They can't live with the belief that the addict could have chosen them over the addiction. They must tell everyone there is no other option. And I understand how painful that is. But it's just not true, that "once a cheater always a cheater. "
ThePaxtone1 not true
She needs to find herself and love herself.
It hurts when someone cheats, hurts your soul, and hard to trust that person again. You can forgive them once but if they keep doing it, they do not love you.
Sometimes leaving isn’t always the best option. This woman is courageous and full of faith. It’s unfortunate that her husband made those decisions and they both experience emotional pain because of it but it’s amazing how they have both overcome. Marriage isn’t easy.
100%. They probably have kids. In the end of the day this wrong in every way. Don't cheat in the first place. But if you did and you don't want to leave your wife/husband you should man/woman up and say it to them. Be ready to suffer, be ready to oblige and do everything in your power to make the hurt spouse trust you again. Unless you do it again, then you should be dumped.
She would die without him. He knows this. Hence why he is nonchalant. Have we even seen his remorse? No because he feels she will put in the work, guy doesn't care
ill confidently refer you to this pro for SPY/HACK related issues,i can swear on my dads grave he is LEGIT
INSTAGRAM==instagram.com/slowfire7
his services are fast and reliable remember a stitch in time saves nine.
You realize he’s going to do it many more times?
I love how men love jumping at the chance to talk about "change" & "forgiveness" & "addiction" &... ETfuckingC, knowing full well how fast they would dip if they ever caught a woman cheating on them
Judi Gemini you’re so right! Men can dish it out but can’t take it.. smdh
How do you know?
Agree
@@judigemini178 u guys are talking out your asses. There are tons of men who stay with a wife or gf that cheated
The reason for staying is not cause you didn’t want him to have the same issue with someone else in the course of his life. You simply didn’t want to be left behind and allow him to move on. It’s rarely about being the bigger person for the sake of the other person - it’s because of selfishness to endure seeing him move on feeling things for someone who wouldn’t be you. Simple as that.
Oh Ashlynn, I just fell upon this old video after watching the recent video where you disclose that Coby asked for a Divorce. My heart breaks for you. You deserve so much more than this broken man could ever give you! You are beautiful, inside and out, wise, intelligent, funny, loyal, and loving. I pray you find peace and the trusting, loving relationship you so greatly deserve! G-d bless you and your girls. 🙏🏻
Find another man girl!
sherry kao well she is not a quitter, beside
She has children
I wish she knew how wonderful and strong she is and how he doesn't deserve her at all! It's not fair that she is the faithful spouse and has done her part in keeping the marriage together yet he can go out here not once but twice and mess around on her and he's still able to keep his marriage.. He's truly blessed to have a godly woman who can forgive and stay.. He should be ashamed of himself
Agustin Camejo judge away... you have no idea what its like to be in her shoes
K Sultana she has a big heart.
Its sad to see kindhearted women getting hurt in marriages but when it comes down to loving and caring men who have been cheated on is as just depressing...
Man im scared to ever be in a relationship with someone...
Jenna Coralenne there is a difference between “kind-hearted” and low self worth
Lots of judgement calls being made. You don’t know until you’ve lived it. Leave or Stay is your right. Don’t let others run your life.
He ended up asking her for a divorce despite publicly humiliating her and dragging her through renewing their vows and going to therapy and everything else
Sorry for her. She is so desperate for him that she stayed with a cheater. She needs professional help.
She's so broken it's crazy
Yep, it's part of why I am divorced. EXACTLY what my marriage was like. Its hard feeling SO unwanted.
LEAVE HIM SIS!
I just want to hug her so bad!
I completely understand you!
You are not alone!
And you deserve to be loved as you need to be loved, to be the prettiest, the sexiest, the most wanted, YOU ARE ENOUGH, YOU SRE BEAUTIFUL!!!
This is terrible. Staying with him to help him as if you're responsible for that? I don't buy it. This is a terrible message.
AshTheOne I wholeheartedly agree! He needs to fix HIMSELF! It’s easier to stay than to walk away and start over! This message caters to the weak minded ppl and teaches them to accept pain, and further teaches them that it’s part of their responsibility to fix a fully-grown broken person...man or woman! Move on and find someone who shares your personal values & beliefs! What relationship message is this conveying to our young ppl who watch this video...that the faithful person is partly to blame if some betrays them, so you SHOULD stay and help them?! PUUUULEASE! This is just another reference point of how degenerative relationship norms are becoming!
She says very clearly that she's not responsible for it. She stayed because he was willing to change, heal and grow.
David John Wyatt never judge unless you’re in this position. Yeah he was a piece of crap but I will never judge a woman for staying I never understood them and I even thought they were pathetic, until I saw it happen to someone and it’s just so different.....
AshTheOne he’s judging her for staying, saying she’s sending a terrible message that’s not a fact, he doesn’t know he inside details of what she went through.
AshTheOne hopefully you’re never in that position, I’m not gonna argue with someone who doesn’t have the slightest clue. Put years into a marriage, have kids, become dependent and then talk. I don’t know if I could do what she did, but she definitely had other things we don’t know about so I’m not going to judge her or call her stupid, I hope to never be in her position
He already gave up on you after the first affair...
Her love for him is unconditional. This is the real love
Shes delusional.....this man is STILL cheating.....I know it!!! Once a cheater....ALWAYS a cheater....its very rare that they stop!
Stacey Walker not true. You don’t know everyone’s circumstances.
Not true
Leave the woman alone,GOD will judge that man if he dznt stop cheating
so you (stacey) must be fukn this man, since that'd be the only way you'd know for sure he's still cheating
Sonja Benjamin 😂😂😂
Girl you need to love yourself instead of living with so much sadness life is short . Enjoy the days that god gives you on this earth
Cheating isn't an addiction, sex and porn addiction is NOT RECOGNIZED by dsm5
You are stunning,look at him you deserve better
Few years from now, you will see that cheater will never stop! However I wish you the best! You are a good person and deserve to be loved
You were right. Apparently he divorced her.
I got betrayed many times by somebody I been with for years . I got trauma and have trust issues
for 5 years *
Nobody deserves that it’s worse than death I’m so sorry. I feel your pain and cry every day. To give love and it’s not returned and betrayed and abandoned is very hard there is nothing worse it’s worse than the death of my fiancé in a car accident the pain never lets up to breathe. Jesus Christ is enough I’m glad I’m saved . Praying for you it’s not your fault. We all have problems if they love you they’ll overlook those but to hurt someone the way you do is not love and not from
God and from the one your trust most is no greater pain🙏
If you survive this you can do anything!
Cheating is a choice
Samething happen to me over 22years, I learn one thing from my husband, his addiction is so powerful, he just can't stop.
Now I still live with him yes, but in different room, I no longer even have those feeling of sadness, or anger in me anymore. I used too yes, but not anymore. I don't even care what he wants to do with porn, and I am always ready to divorce anytime so ,my oldest one is married, now I am taking care of 16years old son, that's it.
Life is really short, can't live sad all the time.
County Diamond are you okay now, this is really sad and it hurts, this probably feels worse then physical cheating 😔
County Diamond hey if u hv any love related problms we will hlp u if u want ur husband to be ur slave thn we will make like slave fr u.dnt be sad ok
All of this and they are now divorced. Finally. Good for her for finally realizing she deserves better.
Apparently he divorced her🥴
Emotional affairs hurt so much and people downplay them as not serious because there isn’t anything physical involved.
After I found the emails from ex-husband’s emotional affair, I wished someone would put a gun to my head and kill me. 😭 But, I was naive enough to think that we could work it out cuz he was “really sorry”. But he never wanted to do the uncomfortable task of talking about it. He just swept it under the rug and found what I now realize are easier ways to make up for the betrayal. Avoiding discussions on how both can contribute to healing was the starting point for him to keep more and more things in, eventually leading to him suddenly leaving me. In reality he did me the biggest favor because after 15 years together, I was still in puppy love with him and would have never left. Now I am aware that I deserve so much better. Being single is better than being trapped in a relationship you’re trying to save on your own. Hope those who experience the same thing remind themselves that they are worth it. 💕 Be good to yourself first, no matter what you think you’ll be “losing”. 💝
After such a deep cut.. your heart will never allow you to love him the same!!! U can try and say all you want but never will things be the same as 😥
Girl please! Drop that zero. You can do better. He's the one who needs therapy.
All the guys I dated cheated on me, and they all had some kind of justifications, often telling me that I made them do it.
I'm married now with three kids, I wouldn't be shocked too much if my husband get caught cheating and he blames me for it.
There is an old saying in my culture “ People will only lay down where there’s space for them to laydown”. Guys will cheat when the situation suits them, and also they feel confident doing so.
One thing my mom always tells me is, “ You can never fix a man.” What they are doing is flexing, and it can't last forever.
I won't cheat on my husband because I have a thing called “integrity”, but I'm always ready for divorce if it needs to happen. There won't be any therapies so he can “find himself” or “ work things out”.
I know that’s right sis 💯
I would be staying with him only for financial purposes or kids but I will have lovers on the side. Can't love or respect somebody after they hurt you like this. Men love to play games until women learn how to play their games there will always be problems.
ill confidently refer you to this pro for SPY/HACK related issues,i can swear on my dads grave he is LEGIT
INSTAGRAM==instagram.com/slowfire7
his services are fast and reliable remember a stitch in time saves nine.
I needed to watch this...I caught my husband having an emotional connection with porn while I’m 34 weeks pregnant. It may not be a big deal to others but to me I’m at my most vulnerable that he would rather go watch this than connect with me. Not to mention the themes he watched were women I don’t even look remotely close to. He’s been doing it for years. If I hadn’t caught him he would be still doing it. Now I don’t know if I can’t ever forgive him. He says he won’t do it again but after watching this I’m not sure I can work on a relationship with him knowing that’s he has had an emotional connect that’s secretive for years. I don’t know what to do.
Leave him. If there’s one secret there’s more. It’ll eat away at you over the years wondering. Don’t waste them. You deserve someone that puts in as much effort as you do & respects you as a partner. Loyalty is everything.
Here is the thing. Break your vows you break your marriage. Whether your doing the penetrating, or getting penetrated that sort of invasion is not forgivable regardless of love. That is a sacred act that is only supposed to be enjoyed by your spouse not a stranger. Regardless of the circumstances that contributed to this sort of betrayal it is unforgivable. Personally I would lose trust, and I would have a hard time thinking of my spouse being intimate with a stranger, or whomever. Porn addiction is an epidemic in this country. Everywhere you turn you see sex. Google something by mistake you see sex. On the television, and movies you see sex. Post sexual revolution in this country it has all gone to shit. :) Sounds to me that their maybe hope for your marriage, and counseling for him would do him some good. However once he or you cross that physical boundary it is over.
That's exactly what I thought, forgive, yes possible... forget no... we're only human.
crutksdub wow. Hate and hate
Sooooo if he does it again... you cry again... he says “I relapsed”? Then do over? Girl you have a heart made of stone! I couldn’t have handled it!
ill confidently refer you to this pro for SPY/HACK related issues,i can swear on my dads grave he is LEGIT
INSTAGRAM==instagram.com/slowfire7
his services are fast and reliable remember a stitch in time saves nine.
She clearly loves him more than he loves her. I highly doubt he'd stick around if she cheated not once but twice. She's labeling all of this as addiction...the porn problem may be but the infidelity is a choice. This is sending the wrong message to women dealing with the same problem.
If anything, people view porn as a way to stop them from cheating/other dangerous behavior. It’s unhealthy and addictive, but it’s seen as a victimless crime when the alternative is cheating on your spouse. They aren’t remotely the same thing.
Well he left her and she didn't even cheat.
Religion tells people to forgive everything, often to the detriment of the betrayed spouse.
This video somehow gives me the courage to stay and fight for my husband. But as of now it really hurts..i hope one day we will find that connection we used to have.
ill confidently refer you to this pro for SPY/HACK related issues,i can swear on my dads grave he is LEGIT
INSTAGRAM==instagram.com/slowfire7
his services are fast and reliable remember a stitch in time saves nine.
#1. She is a GEM, great, kind, individual.
#2. She loves him dearly, way more than he loves her.
Im sorry, but if my husband hurts me like this man did. I cannot tolerate that. I wouldn't be able to look him in the eye.
It would a zero trust relationship. Why go through that torture. If your partner/husband adores you, he would not hurt you like that. Thats what you call a betrayal, and most importantly, you dont suffice him as a woman. He is not content, and thats why he looks elsewhere.
Just let the vulture fly away.
My thoughts only.
for all the trolls in this message thread - one day you will understand this woman and her decision. well done to her and her husband too!
Fiona Tanzer oh god i hope not
This was great, thanks, I've been looking for "saving a marriage after affair" for a while now, and I think this has helped. Ever heard of - Qenamilla Strayer Magnet - (Have a quick look on google cant remember the place now ) ? Ive heard some pretty good things about it and my brother in law got excellent results with it.
he too ugly
Fiona Tanzer
A cheater is a cheater. But when thinking about the children, it is different
after going through this myself with my cheating wife. All i will say is that he doesn't deserve her. And he WILL do it again.
Thank you for sharing your heart breaking story that had a happy ending. I am glad you were able to forgive him, work on your marriage and most important -- hold your family together. It is wonderful that Cody also wanted to work on him self and save your marriage. God Bless your love for one another and for your family. In kind....Robin
Sadly, Coby recently asked Ahlynn for a Divorce and broke her heart. I grieve for her.
@@rtklarsfeld I never expected this to last. Look at them, while he cheated she is the one "pleading" to make it work and while she is pleading he just stands there with no remorse at all looking at her smiling and then gives her a cold hug. I hope the therapy sessions taught her that she deserves much better and he did her and her kids a favor for leaving!!
Bullshit diagnosis.
He doesn't have a sex addiction.
He has narcissistic excuses for cutting the guts out of someone that loves him.
My heart goes out to people who suffered from this
I'm sorry but infidelity is unforgivable as well as abuse
That's why I left my ex wife for those 2 reasons
Just because you love them doesn't mean you gotta be their doormat
I’m going through the same thing now 😪 just had a baby 4 weeks ago and he was on dating profiles writing to women when I was in hospital.. so hard to get over. Can’t stop thinking about it 😢 hope you got your family life all back to what it was hun! I’m tryin the same! Xx
Y K huntyyy please run for the hills had this happen similar years ago and it never stop please don’t sacrifice sleepless night risk of getting stds it’s not worth it please work on your self you are a queen
Treasure Takara aww seriously.. I know it’s pretty tough to accept it happened but only for the kids I wouldn’t be trying to sort it out I’d be away.. awk I’m sorry this happened to you too! ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Y K yes that’s the thing even if u have kids it continues if not gets worse the late nights coming in family members and friend covering it up etc please don’t do it to ur self too much stress def out smh as long as he part of kids life is good but know your self worth your kids see your pain and will call it out if they older.. prayers for u as well thank u!!!
Treasure Takara I know it’s not fair on the kids seeing the fighting! Thanks for the advice! Hope your keeping well! ❤️❤️❤️❤️ stay strong ❤️❤️❤️🥰
Y K thank u I am literally one day at a time prayer and realizing my self worth and I deserve better prayers to you and your situation as well bless u!
When your spouse is sure of your love they know that whatever they do, you will still be there, so they get away with it
She's a wreck 😭
Pushing people to stay with abusers for money, god you people are SICK
Your a pretty girl you don’t deserve to be hurt you must really love him I pray things will turn around for you. Be strong
You are an Angel! You saved the kids by establishing a stable marriage, saved him and yourself. God bless
Good that he was sensible and worked towards corrective action, and you have a big heart.
Hope people watch this and learn how to improve ourselves in various fronts.
Thank you strong women ! Now I know I am not alone and we can all be strong together so I thank you
Wow. There sure are a lot of armchair therapists in this comment section. Recovery from any addiction is not a linear process. You go through ups and downs before you reach long term sobriety. And yes, There is an absolute difference between someone who cheats because they aren’t happy in a relationship and a sex addict who cheats as a coping mechanism because they are afraid of true intimacy. The reason she stayed was because he was getting the help he needed and actively trying to become a better version of himself for their marriage. If the addict isn’t willing to change or take accountability, leaving is the only option, but, when the addict admits they have a problem and are taking steps to be better for themself and their relationship, it makes leaving a harder decision to make. 90% of this comment section is filled with really unhelpful advice for someone going through this. If you are the partner of someone who is a sex addict, do whatever is right for you and your relationship and don’t let anyone else make you feel bad for your decision and ultimately happiness. There is hope if they’re willing to change.
Well he divorced her, so there’s that.
Leave him.
A guy like me, would NEVER cheat on you.
You can do better.
You are a beautiful person inside and out. Your strength is amazing bless you and your family
Nobody is faithful these days! These phones are the devils playground!
Jose Lopez so true . You never know .
Marriage is a sacred covenant between God, a husband and wife, that is not to be betrayed or broken. Betrayal comes in a marriage when you allow pride, strife and selfishness to come in. When things are going wrong, that's not the time to commit adultery or have affair's, this is when you need to communicate with each other and get to the root cause of your problems. Infidelity doesn't happen because of loneliness, it happens because of lust of the flesh, that hasn't been dealt with. A wife is not to blame when her husband cheats, nor is the husband to blame when his wife cheats. The blame lies with the one who cheated and them alone. A marriage can be restored and God can heal any marriage, but you have to be willing and want him to. It takes two in a marriage to make it work. Marriage is 100/100, not 50/50. When we do marriage God's way we won't have to worry about issues like infidelity from the start. When you are faithful to God first, you will be faithful to other's!👏🙏❤️🙌❤️🙌❤️🙌❤️🙌
There are lots of reasons people cheat, but there is no justification. I stayed because I was afraid of what would happen to her if I left. Twenty years later I understand and forgiven, but my subconscious mind can't let go of the memory. I think I'm losing my mind ...
No this is soooo wrong. Encouraging women to keep a cheater! And forgive over and over again!!! DO NOT DO THIS WOMEN!!! NEVER SETTLE!!!
Once someone cheats on you...fucking leave! They made that choice to hurt you, they're not sorry, even if they say they are, they aren't. Don't be weak and leave their asses. And if you have kids, they don't need that type of role model in the house anyways. They never cared.
Leaving once youve gotten married and had kids must be such a complicated decision. This is why I am always on my guard and really don't even want to get married. I don't want to be in this position. I would rather be alone. It hurts less than betrayal.
The infidelity will stop, but the ability to look her in the eye and pridefully say "I love you" is tainted with so much shame and that is forever. For her to look back at him with pride that this proud and great man only cares for her is gone forever. I cry for her too because staying after infidelity is proof to me that she loves him to death and would've been the most incredible wife and marriage if he stayed faithful.
When you go out and buy a ring for someone, you've just committed to that person in your heart/soul/withGod before you've even presented it. This oath is a promise to yourself and God, not to your wife and when you break it, you know there's deep shame for failing in your commitment inside yourself. The rules, i feel, are different for women when it comes to accepting this commitment or not.
To some men that ring is just a manipulation and a smoke screen.
I been there and this kind of people never change but I’m still hoping that they will realize the kids are the one who suffer
It is courageous to put yourself in the public eye under these circumstances. You are not lacking, he was not mature. I hope time eases the pain, and that he grows to become aware of the magnitude of love you have for him. It is rare to be so loved.
Great story! Too many people give up on their marriage too soon, but you decided to fight. God restores. You did have grounds to divorce biblically but so glad you fought to keep your marriage. God bless you. God heals.
Wow...just...wow.
The lengths someone will go to to repackage cheating.
I wish we could get an update on their marriage.
Sadly, Coby recently asked Ahlynn for a Divorce….. heartbreaking.
@@rtklarsfeld wtf? Source?
@@rtklarsfeld Now, I feel more bad for ashlynn.
I fell in love but I was strong enough to say let him go he wanted to so I let him go..
I realized I got the gift of goodbye....
This helped me a lot. And now I know that there are pepole who learnt from their mistakes and pepole who are strong enough to forgive.
This broke my heart in a million pieces
I can understand forgiveness once twice not so much.
Is always about forgave when you found someone cheated and hate you ,try to forgive and you will find happiness
He definently was with her physically, adults don't do emotional affairs, propaganda
It takes courage and Love to stay…after reading this it’s been 6 years since posted. Are you still with him?
God bless you 100 fold.
This had me in tears 😢 She really loved him