Deady, I run a facebook support group for men suffering with depression, anxiety, panic attacks, all mental health setbacks, I've ran this group for 2.5 years, it's called 'The Stable Man' join if you like mate, promote this page as much as possible, I run this page alone and I support men in any way I can (within reason) 👍💪
I do over analyse thing which makes my anxiety even worse, finding it very difficult to get back into driving, I have a class 1 but finding someone to help me just one day a week to help to build my confidence, I’ve even offered to work for free in exchange for the help, but can’t find anyone willing to help which makes me feel even worse because you feel useless not wanted, I never thought this would happen to me I’ve always been a happy go lucky person and now my life has changed. Deady thanks for doing this video cheers
Depression is very much misunderstood by those that don’t suffer or have had first hand experience with loved ones that have it . It’s a much bigger problem that is not recognised or acknowledged. Big respect to you sir for covering this subject.
Big thanks for sharing this with us. It takes a lot of courage to speak publicly about personal cases of mental health issues. Also, great work on rewiring your thoughts and working your way through it. I feel inspired!
deady full respect m8 full respect 4 being honest with everyone m8 the first thing to solve the problem is admitting you got the problem . i carnt type any more cus my eyes have gone blurry for some reason , again full respect m8
A very brave vid thanks for posting it. Over a period of time agency work can take it's toll. Starting a new job is a stressful experience for many, starting a new job 2 or 3 times a week with agencies can be more stressful than we realize. Keep the vid coming as they are a breath of fresh air. Get your class 1 sorted as it will open lots of new doors also an ADR ticket will more than pay for itself if you continue with the self employed route . All the best from the other side of the hill (Yorkshire)
👏👏👏👏 love it mate spot on wearing a smile to hide the pain and so people don’t judge you wrong. I buried my son when I was in my 20s hardest thing I’ve had to do and I carry it with me everyday I’d never even seen a dead body until I say my son. I did it all carried him and placed him in his grave so you could say I’ve tested my own grave. Mum was found dead in her flat from an overdose and dad died of cancer and I’m 34. I was on citalopram50mg and quetiapine 200mg turned me into a dribbling mess. I did the same as you accepted it and stopped the meds. Overthinking is spot on I always do it. We keep striving and keep pushing but the stigma is as men were not aloud to crumble not aloud to cry we have to be strong. I say we’re not robots we need to think of ourselves now and again. I’ve been there I used to think weed helped and the drink helped but your spot on again deady it doesn’t help. I no longer smoke weed I no longer drink i don’t even smoke a cigarette anymore and feel much better for it. If you accept that things aren’t fair and things will go wrong you’ll feel better. The more you battle depression the more it will hit you the more tired you become. Now I’m a fully qualified artic driver loving life 😊 yo-yo yeah I thought of walking the dog trick lol windmilling 😂😂 Thanks deady your the man bro fantastic video 👊 Big respect 👊👊 Much love bro ❤️
Thanks Deady, just found your channel, can’t stop watching! Im not in the industry but i find it so interesting. i needed this. Suffering all my life with depression, i can relate to all you said, it’s a case of acceptance and learn to live with it the best you can. Not in a good place right now, all my support has been suspended due to Covid so struggling a bit. Would love to see more of these, they help a lot. You’re a good dude, best wishes bro
I hate overthinking, always thinking of all the outcomes and the worst outcome, and what others think of your decisions and actions, a top video that will definatly help a few people out there!
Same. For example, whenever I browse job vacancies my mind always plays scenarios of the worst possible thing that could happen in that role. Like an arborist falling out of a really tall tree and landing on his or her running chainsaw, or a trucker driving over cyclists and killing them. My thoughts are my very own horror movie.
Amazing Vlog mate,such an honest and heartfelt analysis of what is a very difficult subject.I lost my wife almost 4 years ago,I was told to move on and get back to normal!!! what the hell is normal.I struggle like you everyday just trying to get through,one day at a time.Good luck with everything,stay safe & keep on truckin'.
I quit alcohol over eighteen months ago. It's the best decision I have ever made. Also took up therapy walking it really helps. Please get exercise it does help some people
Hello deady My names tony i lost my job in 2013 i turned 50 last may friends dropped off the radar bike had to go Passed my artic 5 years ago still nothing i worry about everything and everyone even down to digi card print outs:( now my cpc is out and iv got 150 pound a month i cant even afford trainers :( lots of friends passed on and im here gggrrrr anyway wish you al the best and happy miles in th truck :)
Hit the nail right on the head mate I can relate to everything you've said it's a struggle but you do learn slowly how to live with this horrible illness just never give up 😊 thanks for taking time out to make this great video 👍
Ayup pal. Watched all the way through and just wanted to thank you for being so open about your own struggles. My wife keeps asking why I started vlogging and I just shrug her off. The truth is, a truck is a lonely place so when I'm filming and talking to the camera, I dont feel alone. When I'm home and the family is out, I lock myself away in my workshop and film for my other channel. You mentioned about drink and drugs. My comfort is food. When I'm feeling down I'll binge eat and then feel even worse as I'm ebarassed at the size of me already. Its just one big vicious circle but we put the smile on and go about our day!!!!
I'm the same mate, i eat now. I am trying my best to knock drink on the head this year as it gets me in situations i don't like. But you are right. I vlog because it keeps my mind occupied, i have a very active mind & most of the time the activity in my brain is Anxiety or Paranoia. When i vlog i think about what to say, what to record, how i could make people laugh etc etc. It takes my mind off other things. It is deffo one big vicious circle & it's a hard one to break! Thanks for taking time out your day to comment mate. I appreciate it.
Your welcome bud. I rarely drink as I can be VERY violent at incredibly short notice. I have to be around people I trust to enjoy a social drink. Sad but true. On a side note, did you see Trucker Hayleys latest vlog?
Gareth, I'm so glad I found your channel. Your honesty and openness is so refreshing and very much appreciated. As a 35 yr old with Aspergers and anxiety/depression combined with self confidence that's been repeatedly shattered, has made it nigh on impossible to hold down a job for the last 13-15 years. Acceptance is the strategy that has helped me so far, having found curing it to be painfully futile. Also, I've had the itch to train for HGV driving for several years, and have had nothing but discouragement from friends and some family. A mate who'd drove Class 1 for most of his life, actually once threatened to break my legs if I pursued my license saying "these days it's just stressful, underpaid. too much pressure, too competitive, abusive employers etc". Your positivity about the experience, the training, and having found a good employer has given me hope, and I'm very tempted to make the investment and take the leap. Thanks, Chris ;-)
I hope you are well mate! I would go for it mate I honestly would! I don't think we are underpaid, the hours are long but they are enjoyable hours. I haven't met any wankers in the job yet. If you have a good positive attitude it seems to reflect off who you meet. I'd go for it mate! Good luck!
I have issues with being in big groups of people... its weird but i feel isolated as i have no voice with others being so brash in wanting in what they have to say!!
I know that feeling. Don't like groups, don't like leading meetings and having to present to a room either. Don't like being the focal point. Boils down to fear I think. But I like DJing and letting the music do the talking
Just accept the fact that, like myself, you are a 'Lone Wolf'. Learn to love and embrace your own company, Don't put yourself into situations where you feel uncomfortable. After all, we seem to gravitate towards jobs like trucking, because of that very reason. I've tried the office and the factory jobs and believe me, there's nothing worse than being stuck in a room with a bunch of people, who you don't particularly like and not being able to escape from that scenario.
ive watched this vid twice now and Deady i have depression and have for the pass 10 years. and you so have hit the nail on the head thanks for doing this. i dont know what to say but thanks
Very well done with this video mate, like yourself I have suffered with depression and anxiety most of my life and have parents and other family members who have mental health problems. After coming out of a dark spell recently a change in my life circumstances and cutting back on my alcohol intake has lead me to a place where I am the happiest that I have been since my early teens. All too often men suffer in silence with these issues often afraid to speak out as they perceive this as a weakness, we are thankfully in an age now where these issues are being addressed more at a surface level and hopefully it can result in people being able to cope with these problems and not to indulge further in self destruction or even to take their own lives.
I was diagnosed with depression back in October, I was a lorry driver working some bad hours, never saw my kids. Doctor told me to stop driving and find a different job. I now work in a factory 8-5 and feel so much better. My kids drive me crazy now, but I love it and would never go back to driving now. I still love watching hgv vids on Yt though, so keep them coming deady mate
Hi mate , well done opening up to us and thank you for take your time , as you know I have had mental health issues since 1992 , I still have my bad days but I have learned to deal with it , if you want to chat to me I'm here for you mate , once again thank you mate , stay safe and keep your chin up
Great video! I’ve struggle with Anxiety. Speaking to people is my biggest issue even if I’ve known them a while then I see people talking to other and makes me wanna be like that, speak with ease and meet new people but I just can’t do it. I’d love to be able to
Life is short, where we can, be happy, if we can change something negative in our life, change it. Change job, move to the seaside. Don’t follow what you think you have too, chase being happy. Thought with you Deady and anyone else in the same situation ❤️
Problem is that many people genuinely don't care about other people but themselves, some are out there purposely to make your day hell. I was in the Stobart office the other day and heard one of the guys in the office mention a driver and how his not gonna pay the driver his night out, £25, because he took a detour. Do you seriously think that guy would rather spend a night in the lorry for a misery £25 than be home with his family, that is depressing enough as it is and that guy wants to be spiteful and not even pay the guy. Behaviours like that I can not stand. Its understanding yourself, which can take a long time, and understand what triggers you off and then try avoiding it. People trigger me off and many times I refuse to talk or deal with certain people if they trigger me off. And when it comes to talking to people about it some just laugh or say "what you got to be depressed about". Some say "it's all in your head bruv". Where else would it, it is called mental health.
Hi deady, I like the video. I guess I too get some down days, negative thoughts , even alittle depression now and then but I like to think I have a hold of it. You seem like a cool dude and possibly my best hgv vlogger (no possibly) I never liked that comment when a vlogger told you to do less talking and more music with scenes. I like all your talking and I don’t want you to change you’re style plus I don’t relish the chitty dance music either :) . Just do what you do and not what trucker so and so does x. Peace brother x
Hi Gareth my Friend. You are an inspiration. My Son is 28 and has ADHD and I can perhaps have some appreciation as to what that has brought both to him and us as a family. EXTREMES EXTREMES. He focus on taking weed to what he says help him to control his anger and concentration. From that comes him selling it to help fund his habit. He has a great heart and lots of potential and the challenge is making him believe. Hes a strapping good looking young man and on the outside there seems nothing wrong. Within his relationships suffer and all aspects of his life. As his Dad I sleep badly waiting for the phone to ring expecting the next EXTREME whether the Police or anything that is created with his ADHD. Gareth you should be very proud of yourself and Im sure your Family is extremely proud. Im a 5 year old Father who admires your openness and honesty to give other the confidence to perhaps start to open up to others who see your positivity. Thanks Gareth for giving me hope that one day my Son can confront his demons and come through the other side. Love and best wishes to you and your Family. Drive safe my Friend.
Well done Deady for having the courage to talk about this, you're a top bloke, I suffer from sensorimotor OCD which I deal with most days, some good, some bad, but I persevere and battle on and nobody knows about it.
Well done for speaking out about such a difficult and personal subject, it's something that too many people feel like they have to hide from those around them. I did find this a difficult video to watch, but that's because I could relate to so much you were saying - depression, anxiety, self harm and it really made me stop and think about how I deal with things. You have definitely given me food for thought on how to cope when the depression comes at it's worst and a lot to think about in terms of answering it back, etc. Wishing you a happy future, and hope you continue to be in control of your mind xx
Good vid bud my way of dealing with my head is keep busy if I let my head "do it's own thing" I end up in a very dark place, it tells me I'm a failure and convinces me that everyone is against me. I don't tend to talk at all about how I feel to anyone it's easier to wear a "fake smile" than it is to explain my mood.bkeep up the good Vids they always cheer me up.👍
I'm a Newly Qualified Social Worker (Adults/Mental Health), and have never heard anxiety and depression captured so simply, yet so thought-provokingly candidly and intelligently, within the masses of training I've undertaken over the years. Thanks for sharing and educating us with your experiences so honestly and openly, Sir 💜 PS I think you'd make an amazing Life Coach, Recovery Worker or Social Worker 😀
Well done Deady for this video. Unfortunately for me I've learned I need to live on my mediation as it stops the physcotic episodes but I do understand where your coming from it may help people but wont for others. Great video mate. 👍
Watched this video many many times, and commented before, some fucking bloke for making this video man, gives me shivers hold your head high and have a great day deady, this video is POWERFUL
@@Deady2012 Half the battle is working it out mate, there's alot people who are so caught up in traumas that it masks the root cause and just end up living there whole life confused, I know this because I was one of them, for many years and see it in others, but the reason I'm so hyped about this video is because this was a big turning point for me. I've realised how much of a people pleaser I am and can't wait to get in a hgv and be freee.
Fantastic video Gareth. So open, and caring. Very well put together. People need to be aware of mental health. If you break your leg, people want to sign your cast and be with you, if you're broken inside your mind, nobody wants to help, and people run away. It should not be like that. Mental health is as important as any other health, if not more important. Anyway, thank you for doing this vlog. I can see it took a lot the do. You know where I am if you want a chat, a bit of banter, or to just take the piss out of me. I may not be able to solve any problems, but I'll certainly try and help take them off your mind for a bit. Take care bud.
Agreed, but it's not always possible to assess the state of someone's mental health by looking at them. Maybe if we all wore an identifier people might want to sign our casts too? It's not like people who are depressed make it the first topic of conversation in social situations ... pfft we/us/they might not even get out of the house
Gareth I really don't leave that many RUclips comments, the point you sat down I felt as though you opened up a bit more, your a great man very inspirational too as I suffer from it but I want to become a trucker like you, I've let it beat me for 20 odd years but am sick and tired of it
Oh mate, i don't think i've ever heard or read anyone describe it better, you've pretty much described myself! As others have said, that took a lot of guts doing that video, could see how hard it was for you. I have never been strong enough to talk to anyone about it myself, apart from once to to my GP who pretty much laughed at me, and i think i blurted something out to my parents during an argument after my sister and brother in law became exasperated with me and ended up not talking to them for over 6 months! I still get regular jabs from him, because i doesn't understand me, because i won't talk. Maybe because they are family and don't want them to worry, although Dad seems to be able to tell when something's wrong as he's always asking if i'm alright when i'm not, and i reply with i'm fine, and it irritates me because i can't talk about it. A friend has recently told me that he suffers from depression too and said he needs someone to talk to, after doing exactly what dad does to me when he posted a cry for help status on Facebook, so sounds like a good excuse for a drink in the pub soon. Think it all started with being bullied at school with me, pretty much every day of primary and secondary, which made me comfort eat and get really fat and then i hated myself even more. If any of you reading this are in school, or collage or uni, please don't bully, it is the most c*untish thing you can do to a human being! Kids aren't always strong enough to just brush it of, it can stay with you for the rest of your life! I decided at 29 that i would get a mountain bike for the sole reason of loosing weight, but discovered that while i was out, wizzing through the trees as fast as i could concentrating on not crashing, i was happy and wasn't thinking about anything else, and rode at least 5 days a week losing 4 stone. Exercise is definately my therapy, and 6 years ago took up kayaking too so that i have no excuses not to get out and do something, but anxiety has kept me in bed many times and over the last few years have put some of it back on again🙄 Plus breaking up with my ex, who in my head was probably my only chance of a relationship totally messed my head up. Your advice sounds like a good plan, but "windmilling" may stay in my head for a long time🤣 And that Linkin Park track, oh my god, it couldn't have been clearer what he was trying to tell everybody! I've never properly listened to the lyrics before! Oops sorry, i seem to have waffled on a bit too lol!
Massive respect to you deady for opening up to all who follow you on RUclips . Been watching you on here since you began your vlogs. You are are a top bloke mate with a massive pair of balls to discuss anything so personal on here.. Hopefully it will help yourself & others like you to have done so. All the best & keep on doing what you are doing bud. Respect 👍👍👍👍👍👍
Excellent video. I know what guts it took for you to be able to talk about this. Like you said, it's the bastard of depression that it fills you with doubt and fear, so a huge salute to you for doing it. The medication can be a big problem because pretty much every anti-depressant is a beta blocker. They doesn't cut out bad emotions, they cut out every emotion. They don't make you feel better, they make you feel nothing, which might work for some people, but for the majority it just masks the issues. I am sure that someone is sat watching the video and saying to themselves, "That sounds just like me". If it helps someone even just take one step to feeling better, then it's been well worth it.
So glad I quid dope and hardly drink any more. It has allowed me to come to terms with my depression instead of trying to paint over it. Drugs, any drugs, are not the answer. I'm a firm believer everyone could use a therapist every now and then, like a vehicle needs a service. Preventative action as apposed to reactive.
Absolutely brilliant vlog. Really resonated with me, as I've suffered with depression, all of my adult life. You're honesty is so refreshing and especially about coming off the anti depressants. They just keep you numb and stop the highs as well as the lows. I'm going to try tapering off them gradually. Going to escape from that 'cage'.. You've got an insight and maturity, well beyond your years, Deady.. Keep on trucking!..😀
Thanks a lot mate. Consult your GP before you start coming off them mate, but i would attempt to come off them. If you need anyone to chat to buddy, i'm here :)
My crappy job as a welder is why I am depressed, GOOD JOB I passed my class 2 and within a few weeks I am outta there mate ,keep up the great vids mate and see you out there pal👍👍🚚🚚
Hi. Oneday I drove my own truck over a huge cliff face. :-( I did not even know I was going to do it. I just turned into a car park. And just put my foot to the floor. Please all never do what I did. 💔 Pull over and phone A friend or anyone Or even phone a talk helpline Please take forever care all 🌟🙏🌟
Hello deadly well mate I watched your video today on depression and thought you come across very caring person having been in transport one way or another all my working life lm 69 now still driving a little van for 2 days a week and I do watch all your videos and give them a thumbs up keep doing what your doing buddy and best wishes to you and your family Mick
Just watch this in a costa spooky was looking for someone in the corner. When you was talking like you was describing me to a tee thats me so glad you talked about this powerful video if I had a hat I take it off to you. Keithayriss.
Wow man! Where to start... That was brilliant mate - fair play to you for sharing that 👍🏼 Everyone is different and I’m sure how each person who lives with depression handles it differently but it’s great to hear how individuals deal with it. You certainly were not babbling on - it was all good information. You struck a real chord when you mentioned Chester - I agree totally, if you listen to his records you can hear him crying out for help - but as you rightly pointed out, some people only laughed while others thought it was only entertaining. Depression affects everyone, those who have everything in life and those who have nothing. It’s not caused by materialistic things, it’s something in our DNA that somethings gets triggered in our everyday life - learning to handle it is the key to a happy future. Anyway, that’s a nice idea about Instagram - I’m on there @peteroreilly with a few photos from my hobbies, cars, trucks and buses - they don’t judge 😉 I hope this video gets lots of views - it’s a subject that if we talk about it more that people may begin to realise that it’s not just themselves, thousands of people are going though the exact same thing and so may feel less. Top work 👍🏼
Hi Deady....great video...im a fairly recent subscriber...i live with chronic depression and anxiety(think im mentioned in in a comment on another of your videos)...i too came off the same med suddenly...a few weeks ago...after a short time on it....made me numb...ì prefer to feel...even if the feelings are the blackest..something has kept me alive. My diet is crap...i guess that doesnt help...but ive been to Psychologist and outreach services. Covid saw them stopped though..Gp was only into givingg me a med. Past trauma has meant i struggle with conflict..and criticism..so i find it hard to be smiley. Thanks again for making a direct open unedited vlog .
100% right Great video deady watch every video since day 1 and as someone who has suffered with situational anxiety and anxiety for 20 odd year now have depression the last 4 months it’s bad video was well worth watching passed all my class 2 just waiting for the taco card the only thing stopping my form getting a job is the situational anxiety I’ve a terrible fear off driving wise and not driving near cliffs , up high hills , mountain roads ,heights terrible, being stuck on bridges in traffic , I try avoid at all costs everyday 😬even if I think about them the anxiety goes through the roof and when in the situation body just totally freezes up often left a car on a bridge just to get off it over the fear , going to try what you said about the yo-yo any try turn the negative thoughts into positive please god it might help I’m at my wits end at this stage anxiety is a nightmare 👍
I do not fight my depression but I took up karate and I have represented Great Britain twice and I am a very large lady and I have had depression most of my life ..... I have not had medication for years but I have learnt to relax using music riding a bike and sitting in a field I have good days and bad days
Everything you said is true mate scared of pissing people of etc etc.I think some of the main problems is that you cannot control certain situation ie worry about bills or wether a certain person likes you or not over thinking situations.look to people in life friends and family support
Worst thing I ever did was take advice from a cousin the very first time I admitted that I might been depressed. It was another ten years before I had the courage to actually address it. Point being, not everyone is a qualified ear and they could possibly make matters worse. A stranger is sometimes better as they have fewer preconceived ideas about the individual. Then, poor mental health should be dealt with on a case by case basis.
Deady, watched few of your videos, Depression,Dyslexia,dyspraxia all the d's ive the biggest part of my life, The laugh is have my class 2/1 and bus licenses, Cant read very well at all had all my theory test read to me this is the questions i get, Not comfrend in reading and Driving you need this, I would love you hear what your thoughts on this, Ive been offered jobs driving had to turn them down, Im scared i will make another mistake, like i have done in my pass in a class 1 lorry with 28 behind steel behind me pulling on the grass and getting stuck, taking the wrong turn in something that 60 foot in length, I know i can drive, here is where my depression kicks in! i look normal i can get out of bed! Reading is every day thing! find it so hard, I know most get alot of messages, I REALLY LOVE TO HERE WHAT YOUR THOUGHTS ARE ON THIS!! Kind regards kieren
Sorry mate, i don't fully understand your question. I'd be happy to help but i'm not sure. Sorry bud. Don't be scared of jobs though mate, your anxiety is excitement. Don't let it hold you back. Jump in a wagon and enjoy yourself mate. Take your time, check your route BEFORE you set off.... And if you get stuck, so what you get stuck. Apologise for it and move on and learn from it. You only learn from mistakes & failures. No one learns anything by doing everything right all the time.
Physical reality depends on what vibration your on if you are on a low vibe you experience that which is depression. If your on a high vibe you experience happiness. Is not that difficult you just have to change your perceptions on what makes you unhappy.
You make it sound so easy. "you just have to change your perceptions on what makes you unhappy" A lot of people are depressed and don't even know it, especially those that have dependencies or need a drug fix to get through the day.
Well then your in a rut you need to break the cycle.a habit is something you don't know your doing but when you do it again it becomes a choice. If you always do what you've always done youl always get what you've always got. Depression any kind of pain is resistance to the natural self. But labelling yourself as this or that becomes who you are.chose not to.but I agree any drug or drink to cope needs taking care off first coz you can't raise your vibration when the body is stressed.
Life is tough for some mate life can be crappie. Always somebody worse off. Where all in the same boat. How I sometimes look at the hard times is kids out there starving and no matter how bad and hard my life gets I think of the ones worse off and my problems don't seem as bad.
Hi deady great video, just found your video, I'm on the road to getting my class 2 license, I'm a support worker now, but really struggle with depression & anxiety, I really want to start working on my own. Do you find hgv driving, better for your your mental health, because your alone, most of the day. Not around negative people. I'm a lone wolf like you, & love driving, so won't be long until I'm on the road. All the best bud, you still enjoy your job? X
Yes mate, i find being on my own massively beneficial to me. It gives me time in my own world doing my own thing and loving every minute of it. I can listen to music, listen to podcasts, sing, shout, stop when i want, start when i want, eat what i want when i want. I love it. I am only a day driver though, i don't do tramping yet, so i couldn't say what that would be like. I don't think i'd enjoy it long term i must be honest.
Very strong mate, I leave the house on a morning - then it all becomes 1 big act, go in, do the job, then rush home to the safe haven for a drink and a spliff.
Yep same here, minus the spliff😉 Deady is right, drinking doesn't help. I got into the habit of having a couple of beers whenever i park up in the services too, but it really doesn't help and has to stop. What has helped is doing a job i really enjoy, but on the other hand i'm pissed off with myself for letting depression and anxiety stop me from doung it 20 years ago, then my life might have turned out differently, i wouldn't still be living with my parents because i'm to scared of being alone, not trusting myself to be on my own. But then, being on my own is one of the things i like about driving HGV, i'm mostly still confused lol.
I did that for years Glynne. Was a chronic pothead for over 20 years and a drunkard for at least 3 of those years during the peak of my depression. Quit spliff almost 3 years ago and hardly ever drink these days. Really helps having a clear head on to deal with life in general. Being sober also helped me face up to the root of my condition and accept it. Since then, I just been rebuilding around stuff that my escapisms helped me avoid.
Deady Hi, Here is a good question for you I would like you to answer if possible.? as you are a relatively new driver how many Close calls do you have a day or a week would you say. (ie) Have to do an emergency stop or take emergency action to avoid an accident. lol you know what i am Trying to say. :)
I would say at least one per day. On average. The worst time for it is between 8-9am. Drivers will do ANYTHING to get in front of you. Even if that means risking their own life! Feckin nutters!
Excellent vid... Christ it's mentally exhausting having to pretend you're happy all the time.. If my colleauges and friends knew how i feel on the inside they'd be shocked.. i always get described as happy and bubbly.. This christmas was the closest i ever came to really killing myself
deady you know what i've got it , to cut a long long story short , my relationship went down the pan last may , previous to that i had been my ex partners carer for over 12 years, i gave up driving class1 over 12 year ago , but decided to get my class 1 back complete the cpc and sort a digicard card out .............. but i do not have the drive or confidence to start working again , i feel totally trapped , stuck in a maze with no way out , my self esteem , self worth and self confidence is non existant , and i feel like i'm slowly drowning amid this Universal Credit Benefits system , i really don't know what to do , and i also feel too old to anything now as i'm 59. Feel like chucking my cards in at times
Sorry to hear mate, take small steps pal to get back into it. You can beat your demons mate. We all can. You are in control, not the illness! Think about 5-10 years time, you don't want to look back and think you've wasted years succumb to an illness.
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Deady, I run a facebook support group for men suffering with depression, anxiety, panic attacks, all mental health setbacks, I've ran this group for 2.5 years, it's called 'The Stable Man' join if you like mate, promote this page as much as possible, I run this page alone and I support men in any way I can (within reason) 👍💪
Mike Klimek Legend mate! I’m not on FB but i have pinned this post.
You are a top guy. Len
It takes a strong man to open up like this respect.
There is a lot of us that suffer in the quiet. A lot more then people think
I do over analyse thing which makes my anxiety even worse, finding it very difficult to get back into driving, I have a class 1 but finding someone to help me just one day a week to help to build my confidence, I’ve even offered to work for free in exchange for the help, but can’t find anyone willing to help which makes me feel even worse because you feel useless not wanted, I never thought this would happen to me I’ve always been a happy go lucky person and now my life has changed.
Deady thanks for doing this video cheers
Depression is very much misunderstood by those that don’t suffer or have had first hand experience with loved ones that have it . It’s a much bigger problem that is not recognised or acknowledged. Big respect to you sir for covering this subject.
Big thanks for sharing this with us. It takes a lot of courage to speak publicly about personal cases of mental health issues. Also, great work on rewiring your thoughts and working your way through it. I feel inspired!
Cheers mate :)
I struggle with anxiety but I never let it win your spot on with this video top one for making people aware of this illness
deady full respect m8 full respect 4 being honest with everyone m8 the first thing to solve the problem is admitting you got the problem . i carnt type any more cus my eyes have gone blurry for some reason , again full respect m8
Thank you for making this brilliant video have suffered for many a year, with depression and anxiety.
A very brave vid thanks for posting it. Over a period of time agency work can take it's toll. Starting a new job is a stressful experience for many, starting a new job 2 or 3 times a week with agencies can be more stressful than we realize. Keep the vid coming as they are a breath of fresh air. Get your class 1 sorted as it will open lots of new doors also an ADR ticket will more than pay for itself if you continue with the self employed route . All the best from the other side of the hill (Yorkshire)
👏👏👏👏 love it mate spot on wearing a smile to hide the pain and so people don’t judge you wrong. I buried my son when I was in my 20s hardest thing I’ve had to do and I carry it with me everyday I’d never even seen a dead body until I say my son. I did it all carried him and placed him in his grave so you could say I’ve tested my own grave. Mum was found dead in her flat from an overdose and dad died of cancer and I’m 34. I was on citalopram50mg and quetiapine 200mg turned me into a dribbling mess. I did the same as you accepted it and stopped the meds. Overthinking is spot on I always do it. We keep striving and keep pushing but the stigma is as men were not aloud to crumble not aloud to cry we have to be strong. I say we’re not robots we need to think of ourselves now and again. I’ve been there I used to think weed helped and the drink helped but your spot on again deady it doesn’t help. I no longer smoke weed I no longer drink i don’t even smoke a cigarette anymore and feel much better for it. If you accept that things aren’t fair and things will go wrong you’ll feel better. The more you battle depression the more it will hit you the more tired you become. Now I’m a fully qualified artic driver loving life 😊 yo-yo yeah I thought of walking the dog trick lol windmilling 😂😂
Thanks deady your the man bro fantastic video 👊
Big respect 👊👊
Much love bro ❤️
Thanks Deady, just found your channel, can’t stop watching! Im not in the industry but i find it so interesting. i needed this. Suffering all my life with depression, i can relate to all you said, it’s a case of acceptance and learn to live with it the best you can. Not in a good place right now, all my support has been suspended due to Covid so struggling a bit. Would love to see more of these, they help a lot. You’re a good dude, best wishes bro
You ain’t the only one mate. Stay electrifying
wow...absolutely fantastic deady thank you so much...wont go in to deatails....breath of fresh air...stay strong .
I have total respect for you mate,
You are such an amazing individual.
I hate overthinking, always thinking of all the outcomes and the worst outcome, and what others think of your decisions and actions, a top video that will definatly help a few people out there!
Same. For example, whenever I browse job vacancies my mind always plays scenarios of the worst possible thing that could happen in that role. Like an arborist falling out of a really tall tree and landing on his or her running chainsaw, or a trucker driving over cyclists and killing them. My thoughts are my very own horror movie.
Amazing Vlog mate,such an honest and heartfelt analysis of what is a very difficult subject.I lost my wife almost 4 years ago,I was told to move on and get back to normal!!! what the hell is normal.I struggle like you everyday just trying to get through,one day at a time.Good luck with everything,stay safe & keep on truckin'.
What a very nice honest brave man you are thanks deady this has done a lot for me and others, what a legend
Thanks mate.
Well done Mate very inspirational, I too suffer and have learned how to cope and deal with it. A positive mind is a very powerful thing.
I quit alcohol over eighteen months ago. It's the best decision I have ever made. Also took up therapy walking it really helps. Please get exercise it does help some people
Hello deady
My names tony i lost my job in 2013 i turned 50 last may friends dropped off the radar bike had to go
Passed my artic 5 years ago still nothing i worry about everything and everyone even down to digi card print outs:( now my cpc is out
and iv got 150 pound a month i cant even afford trainers :( lots of friends passed on and im here gggrrrr anyway wish you al the best and happy miles in th truck :)
So glad you posted this video, any time you want to chat just call. The more this topic is talked about the better.
Hit the nail right on the head mate I can relate to everything you've said it's a struggle but you do learn slowly how to live with this horrible illness just never give up 😊 thanks for taking time out to make this great video 👍
Ayup pal. Watched all the way through and just wanted to thank you for being so open about your own struggles.
My wife keeps asking why I started vlogging and I just shrug her off. The truth is, a truck is a lonely place so when I'm filming and talking to the camera, I dont feel alone. When I'm home and the family is out, I lock myself away in my workshop and film for my other channel.
You mentioned about drink and drugs. My comfort is food. When I'm feeling down I'll binge eat and then feel even worse as I'm ebarassed at the size of me already. Its just one big vicious circle but we put the smile on and go about our day!!!!
I'm the same mate, i eat now. I am trying my best to knock drink on the head this year as it gets me in situations i don't like. But you are right. I vlog because it keeps my mind occupied, i have a very active mind & most of the time the activity in my brain is Anxiety or Paranoia. When i vlog i think about what to say, what to record, how i could make people laugh etc etc. It takes my mind off other things. It is deffo one big vicious circle & it's a hard one to break!
Thanks for taking time out your day to comment mate. I appreciate it.
Your welcome bud. I rarely drink as I can be VERY violent at incredibly short notice. I have to be around people I trust to enjoy a social drink. Sad but true.
On a side note, did you see Trucker Hayleys latest vlog?
Wittering Trucker I did mate. I was recording today when i watched the vid. The next time in out i’ll be answering the questions 😁
Thank you!
Well done mate. massive respect to you.
Gareth, I'm so glad I found your channel. Your honesty and openness is so refreshing and very much appreciated. As a 35 yr old with Aspergers and anxiety/depression combined with self confidence that's been repeatedly shattered, has made it nigh on impossible to hold down a job for the last 13-15 years. Acceptance is the strategy that has helped me so far, having found curing it to be painfully futile.
Also, I've had the itch to train for HGV driving for several years, and have had nothing but discouragement from friends and some family. A mate who'd drove Class 1 for most of his life, actually once threatened to break my legs if I pursued my license saying "these days it's just stressful, underpaid. too much pressure, too competitive, abusive employers etc".
Your positivity about the experience, the training, and having found a good employer has given me hope, and I'm very tempted to make the investment and take the leap. Thanks, Chris ;-)
I hope you are well mate! I would go for it mate I honestly would!
I don't think we are underpaid, the hours are long but they are enjoyable hours. I haven't met any wankers in the job yet. If you have a good positive attitude it seems to reflect off who you meet. I'd go for it mate! Good luck!
I have issues with being in big groups of people... its weird but i feel isolated as i have no voice with others being so brash in wanting in what they have to say!!
I know that feeling. Don't like groups, don't like leading meetings and having to present to a room either. Don't like being the focal point. Boils down to fear I think. But I like DJing and letting the music do the talking
Just accept the fact that, like myself, you are a 'Lone Wolf'. Learn to love and embrace your own company, Don't put yourself into situations where you feel uncomfortable. After all, we seem to gravitate towards jobs like trucking, because of that very reason. I've tried the office and the factory jobs and believe me, there's nothing worse than being stuck in a room with a bunch of people, who you don't particularly like and not being able to escape from that scenario.
ive watched this vid twice now and Deady i have depression and have for the pass 10 years. and you so have hit the nail on the head thanks for doing this. i dont know what to say but thanks
I hope it has helped a bit!
Very well done with this video mate, like yourself I have suffered with depression and anxiety most of my life and have parents and other family members who have mental health problems. After coming out of a dark spell recently a change in my life circumstances and cutting back on my alcohol intake has lead me to a place where I am the happiest that I have been since my early teens. All too often men suffer in silence with these issues often afraid to speak out as they perceive this as a weakness, we are thankfully in an age now where these issues are being addressed more at a surface level and hopefully it can result in people being able to cope with these problems and not to indulge further in self destruction or even to take their own lives.
Couldn't agree more mate. Thanks for leaving a comment.
Bloody good video,I hope this helps a lot of people out there! You talk a lot good sense!
I was diagnosed with depression back in October, I was a lorry driver working some bad hours, never saw my kids.
Doctor told me to stop driving and find a different job.
I now work in a factory 8-5 and feel so much better.
My kids drive me crazy now, but I love it and would never go back to driving now.
I still love watching hgv vids on Yt though, so keep them coming deady mate
I'm drive busses this what I want todo
Gotta do the things in life that bring ya joy.
Got loads out of this video. It’s helpful listening to how you manage. Thank you.
Hi mate , well done opening up to us and thank you for take your time , as you know I have had mental health issues since 1992 , I still have my bad days but I have learned to deal with it , if you want to chat to me I'm here for you mate , once again thank you mate , stay safe and keep your chin up
Absolutely brilliant this Deady thank you buddy
No problem 👍
Please keep doing what your doing buddy I find them encouraging and fully informative Deady you are a star
Very strong to be open like this! You are doing great!
Greatings from the Netherlands
Thanks for that blog, i know and have lived with my wife for 27 years, sadly we parted 10 years ago, you keep strong
thanks mate we all need help at times...
Thank you, I really appreciate this video
Great video! I’ve struggle with Anxiety. Speaking to people is my biggest issue even if I’ve known them a while then I see people talking to other and makes me wanna be like that, speak with ease and meet new people but I just can’t do it. I’d love to be able to
I fully understand that. The reality is, you can create a new persona with every new encounter you have.
Life is short, where we can, be happy, if we can change something negative in our life, change it. Change job, move to the seaside. Don’t follow what you think you have too, chase being happy.
Thought with you Deady and anyone else in the same situation ❤️
Problem is that many people genuinely don't care about other people but themselves, some are out there purposely to make your day hell. I was in the Stobart office the other day and heard one of the guys in the office mention a driver and how his not gonna pay the driver his night out, £25, because he took a detour. Do you seriously think that guy would rather spend a night in the lorry for a misery £25 than be home with his family, that is depressing enough as it is and that guy wants to be spiteful and not even pay the guy. Behaviours like that I can not stand. Its understanding yourself, which can take a long time, and understand what triggers you off and then try avoiding it. People trigger me off and many times I refuse to talk or deal with certain people if they trigger me off. And when it comes to talking to people about it some just laugh or say "what you got to be depressed about". Some say "it's all in your head bruv". Where else would it, it is called mental health.
Hi deady, I like the video. I guess I too get some down days, negative thoughts , even alittle depression now and then but I like to think I have a hold of it. You seem like a cool dude and possibly my best hgv vlogger
(no possibly)
I never liked that comment when a vlogger told you to do less talking and more music with scenes. I like all your talking and I don’t want you to change you’re style plus I don’t relish the chitty dance music either :) . Just do what you do and not what trucker so and so does x. Peace brother x
Hi Gareth my Friend. You are an inspiration. My Son is 28 and has ADHD and I can perhaps have some appreciation as to what that has brought both to him and us as a family. EXTREMES EXTREMES. He focus on taking weed to what he says help him to control his anger and concentration. From that comes him selling it to help fund his habit. He has a great heart and lots of potential and the challenge is making him believe. Hes a strapping good looking young man and on the outside there seems nothing wrong. Within his relationships suffer and all aspects of his life. As his Dad I sleep badly waiting for the phone to ring expecting the next EXTREME whether the Police or anything that is created with his ADHD. Gareth you should be very proud of yourself and Im sure your Family is extremely proud. Im a 5 year old Father who admires your openness and honesty to give other the confidence to perhaps start to open up to others who see your positivity. Thanks Gareth for giving me hope that one day my Son can confront his demons and come through the other side. Love and best wishes to you and your Family. Drive safe my Friend.
Weed is a thick and heavy damp blanket over the senses and emotions.
Thanks for the video, Deady
You are such a good person! Well done ! Every single vlog just massive respect for you ! 🤛🇭🇺
Thanks a lot mate.
Well done Deady for having the courage to talk about this, you're a top bloke, I suffer from sensorimotor OCD which I deal with most days, some good, some bad, but I persevere and battle on and nobody knows about it.
Well done for speaking out about such a difficult and personal subject, it's something that too many people feel like they have to hide from those around them. I did find this a difficult video to watch, but that's because I could relate to so much you were saying - depression, anxiety, self harm and it really made me stop and think about how I deal with things. You have definitely given me food for thought on how to cope when the depression comes at it's worst and a lot to think about in terms of answering it back, etc. Wishing you a happy future, and hope you continue to be in control of your mind xx
Thank you for watching & taking time to comment. I hope this video helps you in some way shape or form. We have to all stick together!
@@Deady2012 Thank you, we most definitely have to stick together and help each other in whatever way we can :)
Thankyou :-)
Good vid bud my way of dealing with my head is keep busy if I let my head "do it's own thing" I end up in a very dark place, it tells me I'm a failure and convinces me that everyone is against me.
I don't tend to talk at all about how I feel to anyone it's easier to wear a "fake smile" than it is to explain my mood.bkeep up the good Vids they always cheer me up.👍
I know that feeling mate, that's exactly how i feel. Always need to keep busy or my mind is off on it's own....
Well done mate! sorry to hear about your past
We all have our demons i guess haha. I'm happy it's all come good.
Love this mate awesome man
I'm a Newly Qualified Social Worker (Adults/Mental Health), and have never heard anxiety and depression captured so simply, yet so thought-provokingly candidly and intelligently, within the masses of training I've undertaken over the years. Thanks for sharing and educating us with your experiences so honestly and openly, Sir 💜 PS I think you'd make an amazing Life Coach, Recovery Worker or Social Worker 😀
Thank you for the video. Means such a lot
Well done Deady for this video. Unfortunately for me I've learned I need to live on my mediation as it stops the physcotic episodes but I do understand where your coming from it may help people but wont for others. Great video mate. 👍
👏🏻👏🏻. very well done mate. i'm sure this has and will help a lot of people. you are very brave
Watched this video many many times, and commented before, some fucking bloke for making this video man, gives me shivers hold your head high and have a great day deady, this video is POWERFUL
Thanks mate. Was just a chat like lol
@@Deady2012 Half the battle is working it out mate, there's alot people who are so caught up in traumas that it masks the root cause and just end up living there whole life confused, I know this because I was one of them, for many years and see it in others, but the reason I'm so hyped about this video is because this was a big turning point for me. I've realised how much of a people pleaser I am and can't wait to get in a hgv and be freee.
Really good and informative video mate... 💪👊
Fantastic video Gareth. So open, and caring. Very well put together. People need to be aware of mental health. If you break your leg, people want to sign your cast and be with you, if you're broken inside your mind, nobody wants to help, and people run away. It should not be like that. Mental health is as important as any other health, if not more important. Anyway, thank you for doing this vlog. I can see it took a lot the do. You know where I am if you want a chat, a bit of banter, or to just take the piss out of me. I may not be able to solve any problems, but I'll certainly try and help take them off your mind for a bit. Take care bud.
Agreed, but it's not always possible to assess the state of someone's mental health by looking at them. Maybe if we all wore an identifier people might want to sign our casts too? It's not like people who are depressed make it the first topic of conversation in social situations ... pfft we/us/they might not even get out of the house
Gareth I really don't leave that many RUclips comments, the point you sat down I felt as though you opened up a bit more, your a great man very inspirational too as I suffer from it but I want to become a trucker like you, I've let it beat me for 20 odd years but am sick and tired of it
I'm class 2 training at the minute.
I've love to be doing that
Oh mate, i don't think i've ever heard or read anyone describe it better, you've pretty much described myself! As others have said, that took a lot of guts doing that video, could see how hard it was for you. I have never been strong enough to talk to anyone about it myself, apart from once to to my GP who pretty much laughed at me, and i think i blurted something out to my parents during an argument after my sister and brother in law became exasperated with me and ended up not talking to them for over 6 months! I still get regular jabs from him, because i doesn't understand me, because i won't talk. Maybe because they are family and don't want them to worry, although Dad seems to be able to tell when something's wrong as he's always asking if i'm alright when i'm not, and i reply with i'm fine, and it irritates me because i can't talk about it. A friend has recently told me that he suffers from depression too and said he needs someone to talk to, after doing exactly what dad does to me when he posted a cry for help status on Facebook, so sounds like a good excuse for a drink in the pub soon.
Think it all started with being bullied at school with me, pretty much every day of primary and secondary, which made me comfort eat and get really fat and then i hated myself even more. If any of you reading this are in school, or collage or uni, please don't bully, it is the most c*untish thing you can do to a human being! Kids aren't always strong enough to just brush it of, it can stay with you for the rest of your life! I decided at 29 that i would get a mountain bike for the sole reason of loosing weight, but discovered that while i was out, wizzing through the trees as fast as i could concentrating on not crashing, i was happy and wasn't thinking about anything else, and rode at least 5 days a week losing 4 stone. Exercise is definately my therapy, and 6 years ago took up kayaking too so that i have no excuses not to get out and do something, but anxiety has kept me in bed many times and over the last few years have put some of it back on again🙄 Plus breaking up with my ex, who in my head was probably my only chance of a relationship totally messed my head up. Your advice sounds like a good plan, but "windmilling" may stay in my head for a long time🤣
And that Linkin Park track, oh my god, it couldn't have been clearer what he was trying to tell everybody! I've never properly listened to the lyrics before!
Oops sorry, i seem to have waffled on a bit too lol!
waffle away. it's a good time to get stuff off your chest
Massive respect to you deady for opening up to all who follow you on RUclips .
Been watching you on here since you began your vlogs.
You are are a top bloke mate with a massive pair of balls to discuss anything so personal on here..
Hopefully it will help yourself & others like you to have done so.
All the best & keep on doing what you are doing bud.
Respect 👍👍👍👍👍👍
Thanks a lot mate! Really appreciate it.
Excellent video. I know what guts it took for you to be able to talk about this. Like you said, it's the bastard of depression that it fills you with doubt and fear, so a huge salute to you for doing it. The medication can be a big problem because pretty much every anti-depressant is a beta blocker. They doesn't cut out bad emotions, they cut out every emotion. They don't make you feel better, they make you feel nothing, which might work for some people, but for the majority it just masks the issues. I am sure that someone is sat watching the video and saying to themselves, "That sounds just like me". If it helps someone even just take one step to feeling better, then it's been well worth it.
So glad I quid dope and hardly drink any more. It has allowed me to come to terms with my depression instead of trying to paint over it. Drugs, any drugs, are not the answer. I'm a firm believer everyone could use a therapist every now and then, like a vehicle needs a service. Preventative action as apposed to reactive.
Absolutely brilliant vlog. Really resonated with me, as I've suffered with depression, all of my adult life. You're honesty is so refreshing and especially about coming off the anti depressants. They just keep you numb and stop the highs as well as the lows. I'm going to try tapering off them gradually. Going to escape from that 'cage'.. You've got an insight and maturity, well beyond your years, Deady.. Keep on trucking!..😀
Thanks a lot mate. Consult your GP before you start coming off them mate, but i would attempt to come off them. If you need anyone to chat to buddy, i'm here :)
Love the video pal somebody #yoyo if you gunna take control of you're ups and downs good work lad
Thanks deady
My crappy job as a welder is why I am depressed, GOOD JOB I passed my class 2 and within a few weeks I am outta there mate ,keep up the great vids mate and see you out there pal👍👍🚚🚚
You take care my friend , I know you don’t know me in person, but if you ever need to talk ? I am always here 👌👌
Congratulations on passing your class 2 mate 👍
Mad Mike Productions thank you Mike , all the best to you too sir 👍
stephen whittle your welcome & thank you 😊
Hi. Oneday I drove my own truck over a huge cliff face. :-(
I did not even know I was going to do it.
I just turned into a car park. And just put my foot to the floor.
Please all
never do what I did. 💔
Pull over and phone
A friend or anyone
Or even phone a talk helpline
Please take forever care all
🌟🙏🌟
Hello deadly well mate I watched your video today on depression and thought you come across very caring person having been in transport one way or another all my working life lm 69 now still driving a little van for 2 days a week and I do watch all your videos and give them a thumbs up keep doing what your doing buddy and best wishes to you and your family Mick
Thanks a lot mate! Take care buddy,
Just watch this in a costa spooky was looking for someone in the corner.
When you was talking like you was describing me to a tee thats me so glad you talked about this powerful video if I had a hat I take it off to you.
Keithayriss.
Wow man! Where to start... That was brilliant mate - fair play to you for sharing that 👍🏼
Everyone is different and I’m sure how each person who lives with depression handles it differently but it’s great to hear how individuals deal with it. You certainly were not babbling on - it was all good information.
You struck a real chord when you mentioned Chester - I agree totally, if you listen to his records you can hear him crying out for help - but as you rightly pointed out, some people only laughed while others thought it was only entertaining. Depression affects everyone, those who have everything in life and those who have nothing. It’s not caused by materialistic things, it’s something in our DNA that somethings gets triggered in our everyday life - learning to handle it is the key to a happy future.
Anyway, that’s a nice idea about Instagram - I’m on there @peteroreilly with a few photos from my hobbies, cars, trucks and buses - they don’t judge 😉
I hope this video gets lots of views - it’s a subject that if we talk about it more that people may begin to realise that it’s not just themselves, thousands of people are going though the exact same thing and so may feel less.
Top work 👍🏼
Hi Deady....great video...im a fairly recent subscriber...i live with chronic depression and anxiety(think im mentioned in in a comment on another of your videos)...i too came off the same med suddenly...a few weeks ago...after a short time on it....made me numb...ì prefer to feel...even if the feelings are the blackest..something has kept me alive.
My diet is crap...i guess that doesnt help...but ive been to Psychologist and outreach services. Covid saw them stopped though..Gp was only into givingg me a med.
Past trauma has meant i struggle with conflict..and criticism..so i find it hard to be smiley. Thanks again for making a direct open unedited vlog .
100% right Great video deady watch every video since day 1 and as someone who has suffered with situational anxiety and anxiety for 20 odd year now have depression the last 4 months it’s bad video was well worth watching passed all my class 2 just waiting for the taco card the only thing stopping my form getting a job is the situational anxiety I’ve a terrible fear off driving wise and not driving near cliffs , up high hills , mountain roads ,heights terrible, being stuck on bridges in traffic , I try avoid at all costs everyday 😬even if I think about them the anxiety goes through the roof and when in the situation body just totally freezes up often left a car on a bridge just to get off it over the fear , going to try what you said about the yo-yo any try turn the negative thoughts into positive please god it might help I’m at my wits end at this stage anxiety is a nightmare 👍
Top man deady great video 🙏🙏
Legend Man.
Great video, was a big linkin park fan in my teens. Love from Liverpool mate. Hope you're well, thanks for the advice.
I remember when I was first married and going through depression, I quit my job and the only thing my ex was concerned about was getting another job .
Been in that situation pal
Please listen to some happy, upbeat music, something that makes you want to get up & dance. Music you wanna move your feet to ... just a thought
I do mate. All the time. I LOVEEEEE Music.
respect.
Your videos are awesome! Now doing my LGV training and watch your vids.. keep up the good work, keep smiling 😁🦾
Nice one buddy! Good luck with the training!!
I do not fight my depression but I took up karate and I have represented Great Britain twice and I am a very large lady and I have had depression most of my life ..... I have not had medication for years but I have learnt to relax using music riding a bike and sitting in a field I have good days and bad days
Thanks deady 👍🏻
Thanks so much great video xx
Glad it was helpful!
Everything you said is true mate scared of pissing people of etc etc.I think some of the main problems is that you cannot control certain situation ie worry about bills or wether a certain person likes you or not over thinking situations.look to people in life friends and family support
Worst thing I ever did was take advice from a cousin the very first time I admitted that I might been depressed. It was another ten years before I had the courage to actually address it. Point being, not everyone is a qualified ear and they could possibly make matters worse. A stranger is sometimes better as they have fewer preconceived ideas about the individual. Then, poor mental health should be dealt with on a case by case basis.
Respect deady I’ve been in the same situation lost lot of family when I was young and my dad when I was 16
Deady, watched few of your videos, Depression,Dyslexia,dyspraxia all the d's ive the biggest part of my life, The laugh is have my class 2/1 and bus licenses, Cant read very well at all had all my theory test read to me this is the questions i get, Not comfrend in reading and Driving you need this, I would love you hear what your thoughts on this, Ive been offered jobs driving had to turn them down, Im scared i will make another mistake, like i have done in my pass in a class 1 lorry with 28 behind steel behind me pulling on the grass and getting stuck, taking the wrong turn in something that 60 foot in length, I know i can drive, here is where my depression kicks in! i look normal i can get out of bed! Reading is every day thing! find it so hard, I know most get alot of messages, I REALLY LOVE TO HERE WHAT YOUR THOUGHTS ARE ON THIS!! Kind regards kieren
Sorry mate, i don't fully understand your question. I'd be happy to help but i'm not sure. Sorry bud.
Don't be scared of jobs though mate, your anxiety is excitement. Don't let it hold you back. Jump in a wagon and enjoy yourself mate. Take your time, check your route BEFORE you set off.... And if you get stuck, so what you get stuck. Apologise for it and move on and learn from it. You only learn from mistakes & failures. No one learns anything by doing everything right all the time.
Physical reality depends on what vibration your on if you are on a low vibe you experience that which is depression. If your on a high vibe you experience happiness. Is not that difficult you just have to change your perceptions on what makes you unhappy.
You make it sound so easy. "you just have to change your perceptions on what makes you unhappy"
A lot of people are depressed and don't even know it, especially those that have dependencies or need a drug fix to get through the day.
Well then your in a rut you need to break the cycle.a habit is something you don't know your doing but when you do it again it becomes a choice. If you always do what you've always done youl always get what you've always got. Depression any kind of pain is resistance to the natural self. But labelling yourself as this or that becomes who you are.chose not to.but I agree any drug or drink to cope needs taking care off first coz you can't raise your vibration when the body is stressed.
down to earth like me well said
Life is tough for some mate life can be crappie. Always somebody worse off. Where all in the same boat. How I sometimes look at the hard times is kids out there starving and no matter how bad and hard my life gets I think of the ones worse off and my problems don't seem as bad.
Hi deady great video, just found your video, I'm on the road to getting my class 2 license, I'm a support worker now, but really struggle with depression & anxiety, I really want to start working on my own. Do you find hgv driving, better for your your mental health, because your alone, most of the day. Not around negative people. I'm a lone wolf like you, & love driving, so won't be long until I'm on the road. All the best bud, you still enjoy your job? X
Yes mate, i find being on my own massively beneficial to me. It gives me time in my own world doing my own thing and loving every minute of it. I can listen to music, listen to podcasts, sing, shout, stop when i want, start when i want, eat what i want when i want. I love it. I am only a day driver though, i don't do tramping yet, so i couldn't say what that would be like. I don't think i'd enjoy it long term i must be honest.
great vid m8 i av suffered for nearly 30 years there is no help out there
my anti depressents are my rock can't live without them
Very strong mate, I leave the house on a morning - then it all becomes 1 big act, go in, do the job, then rush home to the safe haven for a drink and a spliff.
Yep same here, minus the spliff😉 Deady is right, drinking doesn't help. I got into the habit of having a couple of beers whenever i park up in the services too, but it really doesn't help and has to stop. What has helped is doing a job i really enjoy, but on the other hand i'm pissed off with myself for letting depression and anxiety stop me from doung it 20 years ago, then my life might have turned out differently, i wouldn't still be living with my parents because i'm to scared of being alone, not trusting myself to be on my own. But then, being on my own is one of the things i like about driving HGV, i'm mostly still confused lol.
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Keep strong and stay focused on what your doing now, my anxiety has stopped me from doing things for years which doesn’t help
I did that for years Glynne. Was a chronic pothead for over 20 years and a drunkard for at least 3 of those years during the peak of my depression. Quit spliff almost 3 years ago and hardly ever drink these days. Really helps having a clear head on to deal with life in general. Being sober also helped me face up to the root of my condition and accept it. Since then, I just been rebuilding around stuff that my escapisms helped me avoid.
Deady Hi, Here is a good question for you I would like you to answer if possible.? as you are a relatively new driver how many Close calls do you have a day or a week would you say. (ie) Have to do an emergency stop or take emergency action to avoid an accident. lol you know what i am Trying to say. :)
I would say at least one per day. On average. The worst time for it is between 8-9am. Drivers will do ANYTHING to get in front of you. Even if that means risking their own life! Feckin nutters!
Cuppa mate ...... me 40 plus years ..... just take your time
When your not being who you truly are .that wares you out. Enjoy the bad times.coz the rest takes care of itself.
I must say mate that was a brilliant vlog and such great advice you are a sound person
Excellent vid... Christ it's mentally exhausting having to pretend you're happy all the time.. If my colleauges and friends knew how i feel on the inside they'd be shocked.. i always get described as happy and bubbly.. This christmas was the closest i ever came to really killing myself
Deady I'm a service leaver after 14 years and struggled massively
deady you know what i've got it , to cut a long long story short , my relationship went down the pan last may , previous to that i had been my ex partners carer for over 12 years, i gave up driving class1 over 12 year ago , but decided to get my class 1 back complete the cpc and sort a digicard card out .............. but i do not have the drive or confidence to start working again , i feel totally trapped , stuck in a maze with no way out , my self esteem , self worth and self confidence is non existant , and i feel like i'm slowly drowning amid this Universal Credit Benefits system , i really don't know what to do , and i also feel too old to anything now as i'm 59. Feel like chucking my cards in at times
Sorry to hear mate, take small steps pal to get back into it. You can beat your demons mate. We all can. You are in control, not the illness! Think about 5-10 years time, you don't want to look back and think you've wasted years succumb to an illness.
Nice one Deady 👍