you uh, You do realize that its their mothers house, and they actually had an open heart to heart conversation and made some progress towards mending what was very clearly a very fucked up relationship, and your entire focus isnt on a family mending its scars for the better but because of the party?
I think it was a miscommunication in the story telling. OP said that he and his sister were asked to be a part of the celebration. I think it was supposed to mean "make our reconciliation part of the party" aka he offered to make a public appology. At this point, if OP refused his extended family would take it as a confirmation that they are the jerks. And if their brother backed out, it would be a total end to the family. So it was a long-shot, but with no good way out.
2S - NTA if they lied and were exposed. Allergies are no joke to lie about. And roommates should feel ashamed of blaming the op. They obvs knew he was lying and op should consider moving
@@kerrivandenberg7469yeah, this post reminded me of those moms whose kids don't like certain food and they put a small amount in something to "prove" the kid's lying about not liking it.
I'm sorry, but sir, wheres your punishment for lying you said your friends are going to get a lesson about honesty and respect. Well, you lied and disrespected them, and I feel you need to make things fair. Both you lied about onions just in different ways.
Private schools story: I like that he asked the stepdaughter what she wanted. It was her choice to stay in public school and get tutoring. Glad things worked out for dude and his family
Yes it is good that it worked out but he was out of line instead of his wife get an extra part time job for the daugther's education he said THE DAUGHTER HAS TO WORK TO HELP PAY FOR IT? I didn't bother to listen to anything else at that point and was YTA regardless of how it turned out.
The story about private school I think isn’t as clear cut as treat them both equally. Emotionally, yes and try not to pick favorites. But with blended families there are many other factors like how/if the other parent is contributing, if the step parent is allowed to parent, and how the mixed finances are being handled. These should be discussed before marriage. If someone is not able to parent one child it is hard to tell them that they should have the same sorta relationship and financial contributions as a child they are allowed to parent. Not being allowed to parent basically sets the line that the step parent is not a parent.
right? for him to suggest the KID PAY FOR HER EDUCATION JUST WOW? AND COMPLAINING BOUT OH WE HAVE TOS CALE BACK TRIPS like I hope she bein treated ok at home and if not those 5 yr til 18 and no contact i pray speed up for her.
My mom told me why her food tasted better then normal and didn't tell me because i didn't like said item which i thing was garlic powder or onion powder i already forgot
That's why I said she should get a job. He's not solely financially responsible for her child from another relationship and his only bio child shouldn't have a suffer because both parents of the step child are lazy.
No, and this is due to one thing. He isn't being allowed to be a step-parent, heck the step-daughter doesn't even want to leave her current school. The OP isn't allowed to make any unilateral decisions because the mother blocks him. To me the issue goes both ways. If you aren't willing to let your new spouse act like an authority figure(so long as they don't show bad judgement), then you shouldn't get married to them. Mom wants them to get equal treatment in the monetary sense, but isn't treating her children equally when it comes to the relationships. Income and education are both their responsibilities. So unless she's contributing significantly to the household with 'unpaid labor' like homecare/cooking/cleaning, she needs to find work.
it remind me of story where OP didnt like peanuts, so wherever people ask her as for why she aint eating peanuts and she tell em that she doesnt like the taste of it, they would practically jump on her like "They are so tasty!!!, how can you not like it!!! and you are missing on sooo much!!!!!" So she just started to lie about it and saying that She's allergic to peanuts, noone knew the truth other than OP's husband and family, however i do not remember any negetive comments for her on the post like this one
As someone with severe food allergies, I do get upset when people claim that a dislike is an allergy because it is too often used for attention, which is obvious and make my actual allergies seem like an AHry. With this roommate, he said he was allergic to onions, then proceeded to eat onions giving allergies a bad name. However, by what it sounds like in your story, she dedicated herself to a life without peanuts and her lie actually wouldn't have trickle effects onto others with allergies, so I have no qualms about that.
@@Maninawig Honestly it seems like there are 2 reasons to lie about having an allergy. "You want attention" which I absolutely hate as I also have real allergies, not something simple like just lactose intolerance. And "You've gotten tired of justifying your food choices" which I can understand, given some of the posts where people will do literally everything to 'force' a person to eat a food they don't want.
Last story, my guy you've got a bigger problem than your daughters education. Your wife is letting you shoulder 100% of the responsibility for her kid with 0% of the authority. You're being taken advantage of. If you're her dad now, you have a say in how she is raised, if you're not you have no obligation to pay for anything for her. Your wife doesn't get to demand dad obligations from you without respecting your position as a dad in return. There is an imbalance in your relationship that needs to be dealt with.
As someone with a tomato allergy that causes itchy hives, my throat closing, my lips to swell and my breathing to become hindered, I HATE and I really think its rude when people say they are allergic to something and they arent. Its like turning my life-threatening condition into a joke. If faking cancer is wrong why isnt faking life-threatening allergies wrong?
![[Full Story] I Refused to Care for My Manipulative Stepmother After Years of Neglect, Then...](http://i.ytimg.com/vi/gZLT3F-IL0g/mqdefault.jpg)
![[Full Story] I Refused to Care for My Manipulative Stepmother After Years of Neglect, Then...](/img/tr.png)
![[Full Story] I Exposed My Stepsister's Lies To Our Entire Family, Now She's Facing Fraud Charges...](http://i.ytimg.com/vi/I0L2UwPLtIA/mqdefault.jpg)
![Tee Grizzley - Blow for Blow (feat. J. Cole) [Official Video]](http://i.ytimg.com/vi/wNLN5xsx5dc/mqdefault.jpg)
![Yailin La Mas Viral, @kreizyk.official - Dale 2 (Remix) [Video Oficial]](http://i.ytimg.com/vi/JaYHBzgqz94/mqdefault.jpg)
so wait. after all that bs. the party was still at your house, but its ok because you get to actually attend. the fuck!
Yep that's what we call a doormat
It's called ai driven content
@@chrismccloskey2502 k and....
you uh, You do realize that its their mothers house, and they actually had an open heart to heart conversation and made some progress towards mending what was very clearly a very fucked up relationship, and your entire focus isnt on a family mending its scars for the better but because of the party?
I think it was a miscommunication in the story telling. OP said that he and his sister were asked to be a part of the celebration. I think it was supposed to mean "make our reconciliation part of the party" aka he offered to make a public appology.
At this point, if OP refused his extended family would take it as a confirmation that they are the jerks. And if their brother backed out, it would be a total end to the family.
So it was a long-shot, but with no good way out.
2S - NTA if they lied and were exposed. Allergies are no joke to lie about. And roommates should feel ashamed of blaming the op. They obvs knew he was lying and op should consider moving
Are you kidding? Are you more worried about being fooled than a guy who is willing to put your life in danger for the sake of taste?
@@kerrivandenberg7469yeah, this post reminded me of those moms whose kids don't like certain food and they put a small amount in something to "prove" the kid's lying about not liking it.
Story 1: That did not end as I expected it to.
I'm sorry, but sir, wheres your punishment for lying you said your friends are going to get a lesson about honesty and respect. Well, you lied and disrespected them, and I feel you need to make things fair. Both you lied about onions just in different ways.
Private schools story: I like that he asked the stepdaughter what she wanted. It was her choice to stay in public school and get tutoring. Glad things worked out for dude and his family
Yes it is good that it worked out but he was out of line instead of his wife get an extra part time job for the daugther's education he said THE DAUGHTER HAS TO WORK TO HELP PAY FOR IT? I didn't bother to listen to anything else at that point and was YTA regardless of how it turned out.
The one with the guy and his step daughter he is kind of picking favourites a lot at the start but it’s best to do what makes the girls happy
The story about private school I think isn’t as clear cut as treat them both equally. Emotionally, yes and try not to pick favorites. But with blended families there are many other factors like how/if the other parent is contributing, if the step parent is allowed to parent, and how the mixed finances are being handled. These should be discussed before marriage. If someone is not able to parent one child it is hard to tell them that they should have the same sorta relationship and financial contributions as a child they are allowed to parent. Not being allowed to parent basically sets the line that the step parent is not a parent.
Last story she can get a job at the kids school during school hours. It’s what I did
right? for him to suggest the KID PAY FOR HER EDUCATION JUST WOW? AND COMPLAINING BOUT OH WE HAVE TOS CALE BACK TRIPS like I hope she bein treated ok at home and if not those 5 yr til 18 and no contact i pray speed up for her.
S2- is the OP Davos Seaworth?
My mom told me why her food tasted better then normal and didn't tell me because i didn't like said item which i thing was garlic powder or onion powder i already forgot
Private school....you treat them equal or you don't marry a person with kids.
You are a jerk if you treat 1 better than the other.
Wife should get a job and pay for her own daughter.
@@Acfrancis2005 they are in it together.
Income and education are both their responsibilities
That's why I said she should get a job. He's not solely financially responsible for her child from another relationship and his only bio child shouldn't have a suffer because both parents of the step child are lazy.
No, and this is due to one thing. He isn't being allowed to be a step-parent, heck the step-daughter doesn't even want to leave her current school. The OP isn't allowed to make any unilateral decisions because the mother blocks him.
To me the issue goes both ways. If you aren't willing to let your new spouse act like an authority figure(so long as they don't show bad judgement), then you shouldn't get married to them. Mom wants them to get equal treatment in the monetary sense, but isn't treating her children equally when it comes to the relationships.
Income and education are both their responsibilities. So unless she's contributing significantly to the household with 'unpaid labor' like homecare/cooking/cleaning, she needs to find work.
@@SkyEcho751 you treat both children equally. If you can't handle that simple truth then don't be a parent
Sorry but EAH in story 2 like jesus christ I'm greatful I don't have petty roommates
it remind me of story where OP didnt like peanuts, so wherever people ask her as for why she aint eating peanuts and she tell em that she doesnt like the taste of it, they would practically jump on her like "They are so tasty!!!, how can you not like it!!! and you are missing on sooo much!!!!!"
So she just started to lie about it and saying that She's allergic to peanuts, noone knew the truth other than OP's husband and family, however i do not remember any negetive comments for her on the post like this one
As someone with severe food allergies, I do get upset when people claim that a dislike is an allergy because it is too often used for attention, which is obvious and make my actual allergies seem like an AHry.
With this roommate, he said he was allergic to onions, then proceeded to eat onions giving allergies a bad name. However, by what it sounds like in your story, she dedicated herself to a life without peanuts and her lie actually wouldn't have trickle effects onto others with allergies, so I have no qualms about that.
@@Maninawig Honestly it seems like there are 2 reasons to lie about having an allergy. "You want attention" which I absolutely hate as I also have real allergies, not something simple like just lactose intolerance. And "You've gotten tired of justifying your food choices" which I can understand, given some of the posts where people will do literally everything to 'force' a person to eat a food they don't want.
Man parents picking favourites is the worst .
Last story, my guy you've got a bigger problem than your daughters education. Your wife is letting you shoulder 100% of the responsibility for her kid with 0% of the authority. You're being taken advantage of. If you're her dad now, you have a say in how she is raised, if you're not you have no obligation to pay for anything for her. Your wife doesn't get to demand dad obligations from you without respecting your position as a dad in return. There is an imbalance in your relationship that needs to be dealt with.
As someone with a tomato allergy that causes itchy hives, my throat closing, my lips to swell and my breathing to become hindered, I HATE and I really think its rude when people say they are allergic to something and they arent. Its like turning my life-threatening condition into a joke. If faking cancer is wrong why isnt faking life-threatening allergies wrong?
At my house? Not her house. What an entitled brat