Dude my father passed 8 years ago and even in his absence, from beyond the grave, he is still a better father than some living failures in these stories.
Yup. About the same for me. That man was present for everything important and still worried he wasn't around enough because of working. Not a valid worry really, as the obvious care and attention (and worry) more than made up for a few nights working late somewhere. He came to my plays, was excited about my achievements, and basically gave me the confidence to not be a failure. That record IS the parenting. You can't really claim to be more than a genetic donor without it.
Same here man My Father had a rough life but always had a smile and kindness in his heart, especially for me and my family. It’s the way I try to live my life in his honor
I think the worst part of all this was that his Dad disrespected his dead wife by not supporting the son she had given him. That boy was all she had ever wanted but he couldn’t respect his wife’s wishes and raise that boy with the love and care he deserved.. He chose to ignore his wife’s dream in favour of his brother’s son and treat his wife’s biggest dream like it didn’t matter
yeah i also found it weird when he suddenly said that his mother would be proud of him. I was like, Eh? "Now he is thinking of his dead wife; you better ask yourself what she will think of you".
Fr fr. I was also thinking... why blame your kid? Why not blame yourself? You got your wife pregnant. Ofc, this shouldn't be his mindset, but if he truly wants to blame anyone for his wife's death, shouldn't it befall on himself? It's just so selfish. The kid didn't ask to be born. Instead of cherishing a kid 1/2 him and 1/2 his wife, he chose to hate the kid... the dad is stup!d....
My dad did the exact same thing to my sisters, favoring our cousins and brothers since they were men. Didn't pay for our college tuition and even evicted them out of their apartment since *he* was the one paying (to the point that I abandoned the idea of going to college altogether) Now, he's reaching out to them for financial support and is expecting them to jump in joy 'cause he now acknowledges them. I'm not even surprised.
Haven't spoken with my father in like 11 years. Best years of my life. Started really growing the most when I got sick of his behavior. Started being around healthier people and unlearning a lot of nonsense that had been passed on to me. So I hope OP stays the course.
Haven't spoken with my father in like 11 years. Best years of my life. Started really growing the most when I got sick of his behavior. Started being around healthier people and unlearning a lot of nonsense that had been passed on to me. So I hope OP stays the course.
I haven't spoken to my Dad in 15+ years. It would have been 20 years, but my sister wanted him at her wedding. He fucking introduced himself to me at her wedding. "Hi, I'm Dave." _"I fucking know who you are."_ I told him "Do one thing to ruin my sister's day and I'll fucking end you." He and his wife were well-behaved that night in the corner they secluded themselves into. Haven't seen or spoken to them since. I don't hate him anymore. To hate someone, you have to have feelings for them. He no longer exists as far as I know or care.
"Hmm, no, sorry dad, my job doesn't pay me that well. I could have had a better job if you paid for my college the way you did with Jake, then I would have had the money to help you out but you didn't. Tata."
@toomuchsauce5599 I wish all OPs were as petty as I am. I was absolutely thrilled when I listened to a story about a woman leaving her fiance who was cheating on her with a woman that turned out to be the daughter of a woman his dad cheated with, making it possible they were siblings, so when the woman inevitably began berating her for how he had badmouthed her, they were soulmates blah blah blah, she ended the conversation by sending a link to Sweet Home Alabama on Spotify. I was so proud of her 🥲
If you regularly sacrifice for someone, they will eventually stop seeing it as the sacrifice that it is and will come to see it as something they are entitled to and that you are obligated to do.
Good on the op for not falling for the bait. His former father had plenty of chances, but instead of pursuing any help for his grief, he chose to take it out on someone who was also a victim of the situation. He lost all right to be the op's dad a long time ago and needs to deal with the consequences of his actions Can pretty much guarantee that if op helped absolutely nothing would change at all. It isn't a child's responsibility to parent their parents after all
NTA. “Dad” regretted *some* of the decisions he made. OP was left to sink or swim on his own. Dad should ask golden child for help or figure it out on his own.
I haven’t spoken to my bio dad for over 15 years, he left my mother for our sitter who had 3 kids, a 1yr old, a 3yr old and a 5yr old. I told my dad she was using him and that once they grown she would leave. He missed it all, my graduation, .my marriage , joining the navy, my kids all of it, then one day he calls and said his wife left as soon as the youngest turned 18 so she kicked him out. Everything was under stepkids names so he didn’t have to support for us. Turns out since the house and cars were out under their name he got nothing, was homeless, but, i ignored him. Too much happened. I still don’t know where he is or what he is up to. I never looked back
My grandmother sacrificed her entire family's future to protect one. My uncle murdered someone in cold blood. She sold her spare home and borrowed off the value of her own home to pay for lawyers, he got downgraded to a life sentence without chance of release instead of the death penalty. I don't blame her, she's just that kind of person, but it made life a whole lot harder than it could have been. To protect a murderer. And has been sending money to him for nearly two decades now. If I were in the same place I would not help him.
Op should have begun calling them both out on social media. Jake posted how he got a laptop for college? "Must be nice, having my dad ignore everything i do so he can give you attention, nicer still when he choose to fund your college instead of helping me with college. "
Wow, this video was really eye-opening and well put together. I have to say though, while I understand the bond families share, I can’t help but feel that prioritizing a cousin over your own kid’s future crosses a line. It’s tough to justify sacrificing one family member's opportunities for another, no matter the reason. Would love to hear what others think about this!
I understand that everyone handles grief differently, but you shouldn't take it out on a kid who had barely made it into the world. I bet his mom is rolling in her grave.
what a compelling story! i really appreciate how you shared the complexities of family dynamics. that being said, i wonder if it’s fair to blame the dad entirely. i think sometimes parents have to make tough choices that we can't fully understand until we're older. it might stir some debate, but i believe both sides should be considered here.
I don't think people really get how hard it is to cut off family. Especially a parent or child. I mean people talk about it so casually now that they often forget. It's a constant struggle. You either gotta be all in or all out or your sol. OP going to find out what happened was literally putting themselves back into a bad position, but one good thing did come out of it. And it's not the satisfaction of knowing he was right. It was without a doubt the closure of hearing his dad say why he acted the way he did. People underestimate closure. That alone can help settle a situation and after that then people can work on mending a situation...if that's what they want. But the torture of being half in and half out is not a space people should live in, for both sides. Cutting off family, is like cutting off your own arm. So if you wanna get away, then stay away and let that wound heal, cause doing little things like calling to see if they are ok is just gonna make you bleed more. And if that person hasn't changed since you left, you're gonna bleed a lot. I hate people who use the, "but it's family" card. Because they truly don't understand how true that statement is, and how awful it is for people to abuse it.
I know i would turn into one of these bad kinds of parents if i ever had offspring... no child deserves an issue like this. Truly know yourself before you make life, people, to avoid causing suffering... it is a plea we do not hear often enough.
OP’s dad resented his son for his wife’s death….even though it wasn’t his fault. Given her previous fertility struggles, it’s likely OPs mom had a health issue that made pregnancy a bad idea. The guy disgraced his wife’s memory with the way he treated their son, if I were OP I would tell the guy not to contact me again.
My biological father dipped when I was 6 and only showed up for graduation, weddings, etc. to play the happy dad of the successful kid another man raised. He died a few years ago and none of his kids went to his bedside when he asked for us. Didn't feel a thing when he passed except relief bc he was a stranger to me, just one who tried to claim credit for when convenient
I had an ex who picked a drug dealer over me. If I was OP, I’d call dad once a week, once a month, and just go, “how’s Jake?” And just laugh into the phone. That’s how I handled my ex, her new bf who threatened to kill me for trying to get back some of my own stuff, (her own mother got it back for me.), got arrested and caught a 22 year sentence. Any time I see her, “how’s Jose? Still in prison! Good call girl can’t deny a woman’s intuition! How’s single motherhood?” And then i laugh at her. If we bump into eachother somewhere, it’s an excuse to call her and laugh at her. I want her reminded as often as possible how stupid she is. Not picking me is fine, I’m not everyone’s flavor, but going out of your way to insult, degrade me, and insist I’ll never measure up to Jose, and then have him end up being your in prison baby daddy, is too perfect. I’m measuring how much marijuana I can smoke, and he’s measuring how many inches his prison pocket fits, and I never fail to remind her of that. That’s what people like her, and dad here, deserve. To be reminded of their failings daily.
He still raised you for 18 years. Doesn't need to be remorseful. He had to take care of jake out of obligation. There should have been others to help you and your dad out when your mom passed and it sucks no one stepped up like how your dad stepped up for jake.
Lmao excuses. It's really not that hard to treat your kid like a human being rather than a burden. He has an obligation to his son. Plus the story ain't real, it's literally made to be the worst situation where OP has the most tragic life possible ☠️☠️
@@happinessenjoyeralgorithm is flooded with these AI stories still too much of a sob story makes me doubt the narrative. Too many people are non introspective and whiny
Listening to stories like this makes me want to hug my parents. Only reason I dont is itd be awkward because Ive never been the type to do that out of nowhere... To those of you that also have good parents and siblings, cherish them. I know I will in my own way.
great video, really loved how you presented the story! but honestly, i can't help but feel that the dad's decision was a bit selfish. i mean, putting one child's future on the line for another feels really unfair. what do you all think?
Op: i dont want to help and be apart pf my dads life. Op: *investigates dads problem,texts him opening the door. Then acts like victim because dad wants to talk.* How dare he think i want to see and talk to him. Because you clearly do bro.
this video was really eye-opening and well-presented, I appreciate the effort that went into sharing such a personal story. however, I can’t help but feel that the dad's actions might have been more about favoritism than true sacrifice. I mean, should family loyalty outweigh your own child's future? it really raises some tough questions about priorities in families.
great video - really thought-provoking! but honestly, i can’t help but feel that the sacrifices made for family can sometimes lead to resentment. i mean, should one person’s future really be compromised for another, even if they are family? seems like a slippery slope.
This is a BS story. If he and Jake went to the same school and same grade, why wasn’t dad in the audience to see him graduate? Sounds like this guy writes fiction for a living…
Cuz this is one of those fake story content video farming channels. People are so gullible. All you need to do is google the title of this reddit post to see if the thread actually exists - and it doesn’t.
this video was really well put together, and I appreciate the different perspectives shared. however, I can't help but feel that the dad's choice is pretty selfish. prioritizing a cousin over his own child seems really unfair, and it raises questions about family loyalty vs. personal responsibility. wish we heard more from the cousin too!
great video, really enjoyed the storytelling! but honestly, i can't believe how some family dynamics can lead to such tough choices. it feels a bit unfair that your future was put on the back burner for your cousin. shouldn't family support be more about lifting each other up rather than making sacrifices that affect someone else's life dramatically? just thinking out loud!
this video was really eye-opening, and i appreciate the creator for sharing such a personal story. however, i can't help but wonder if the dad's decisions were truly justifiable. sacrificing one child's future for another feels really unfair, and it raises questions about favoritism in families. what do you all think?
this video was really eye-opening, and i appreciate the insight you shared. however, i can't help but feel that the dad's decision to prioritize his cousin over his own child's future is a bit extreme. wouldn't it have been more beneficial to find a way to support both without sacrificing one for the other? it's tough, but maybe balancing family obligations and personal growth is key.
great video, really appreciate the perspective you brought to the table. it’s interesting how family loyalty can sometimes overshadow individual aspirations. but honestly, i can't help but think that prioritizing a cousin over your own child's future is a bit extreme. shouldn't parents focus more on their kids' potential? just a thought!
Great video, really well put together! I can’t help but feel a bit conflicted about the dad's decision though. While family is important, sacrificing one child's future for another feels really unfair. It makes me wonder if there’s a balance that can be struck between supporting family and ensuring your own child's opportunities. What do you all think?
what a thought-provoking video! i appreciate how you shed light on such a complex family situation. but honestly, i can't help but feel that the dad's choice was a bit selfish. prioritizing one cousin's needs over his own child's future seems really unfair, and it raises questions about loyalty and responsibility in families. what do you all think?
this is such a thought-provoking video, and i appreciate the way you brought these stories to light. however, i can’t help but wonder if the dad's choices were really justified. it seems like he put his cousin's needs above his own child's future, which feels pretty unfair to me. what do you all think?
this video was really thought-provoking and well-made. I appreciate how you tackled such a sensitive topic. however, i can't help but wonder if the dad's decisions were truly in the best interest of everyone involved. sacrificing one child's future for another seems pretty extreme to me. what do you all think?
Heh, the father of this story makes my father a great dad. And I'm talking about someone emotionally absent all my life (I don't remember any hug, or sign of affection at all. In my early teens I grow tired of it and I didn't show any affection to him either), never had an advice for me about work or anything, the last big conversation we had? was about why I'm not getting a girlfriend or marry - I have news for you dad, I'm gay. That's not happening anytime soon. And no, we will NEVER have the bees and flowers talk. I don't F-word need it - and showed a covert favoritism for my younger sister. There was some bad incidents at the house with my mother, but if he touches a hair of my mother in a discussion I can strangle him with my hands. And now, I'm more than able physically. But all in all, he always provided for me without even asking, tried to teach me to drive (failed, though, I can't drive, my anxiety levels when I'm behind the wheel peak badly) and if I ask for advice on how to fix things around the house, he shares it. Right now, even living in the same house, we barely talk unless it's strictly necessary. He dropped his attitude towards my mother and sis, and somehow the house is... I don't know, more peaceful than before? And I would dare to say, he's ten times better than the POS of father of this story.
My life was not nearly as bad as OP, but it both my parents were pretty distant. My mother did try to exploit my brother and i for free labor all the time, even when we had other things to do. My little brother and I got away from them by both joining the military and it worked out pretty well.
I think OP should go to his father and talk and express everything in person.. That's the nicest thing one could do. Because at a time like this only a son can support the father, even if he was not there for the son. For the brokern house one must hardern his heart. Which might make realise his mistakes. Also, keep going OP, you're doing well.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts! OP has been through a lot, and it's heartwarming to see so much support and encouragement here. Let's keep cheering them on.
really great video, thanks for sharing such a personal story. but honestly, i can’t help but think the dad made a huge mistake prioritizing the cousin's needs over his own child's future. like, family is important, but shouldn't your own kid come first?
Really loved the storytelling in this video, it’s always interesting to see different family dynamics. However, I can’t help but feel that the dad’s decision, while seemingly noble, might actually hinder both kids' growth in the long run. Shouldn’t we prioritize our own children’s futures before anyone else’s? It’s a bit of a delicate balance, don’t you think?
Wow, this video was really eye-opening and well-made! I appreciate the honesty and the courage it takes to share these stories. However, I can't help but wonder if the dad's decision was really justified. I mean, while family is important, shouldn't parents prioritize their own children's futures first? It's a tough call, but I feel like it could create a lot of resentment down the line. What do you all think?
i really enjoyed the storytelling in this video, it’s great how you captured the emotions and complexity of family relationships. but i gotta say, i feel like the dad's decision was a bit selfish. sacrificing your own kid's future for someone else doesn’t seem right to me. it makes you wonder about the real priorities in that family. what do you all think?
this video was really well put together, and you tackled a super sensitive topic with grace. however, i can't help but feel that the dad's decision was pretty selfish. sacrificing someone's future for another family member, even if it's a cousin, seems really unfair. what do you guys think?
this video was really engaging and offered a unique perspective on family dynamics. however, i can't help but think that placing so much responsibility on kids for family decisions is a bit unfair. shouldn't parents find a way to balance their children's futures with their own family obligations? just feels like a lot of pressure.
really enjoyed this video, the storytelling is on point and it kept me hooked. but honestly, i can't help but think that putting family above everything can sometimes go too far. like, shouldn't a parent prioritize their own child's future first? just feels a bit unfair to the kid in this situation.
I don't believe in an afterlife, but if there was one could you imagine the mom watching that POS rise the baby she gave her life for like that? I would hate OP's dad. Children are so hard not to love. Imagine treating your own like that? I can't.
this video was really thought-provoking and your storytelling is impressive. but honestly, i can't help but wonder if the dad's actions were truly justified. sacrificing a child's future for someone else's benefit feels a bit unfair to me. what do you all think?
i really enjoyed this video, it brought up some thought-provoking points about family dynamics. that said, i can't help but wonder if the dad's decision was truly selfless or just a way to avoid confronting his own issues. it's a tough call, and i think it opens up a larger discussion about how we sometimes prioritize others at the expense of our own children. what do you all think?
this video was really engaging and brought up some interesting points! however, i can't help but wonder if the focus on the dad's sacrifices might overlook some of the personal responsibility we all have for our choices. it's a tough situation, but maybe the cousin's influence shouldn't overshadow the importance of setting boundaries in family dynamics. what do you think?
this video was really well put together, and I appreciate the storytelling. however, I can't help but think that the dad's choice seems pretty unfair. why should one person's future be sacrificed for someone else's mistakes? it feels like there's more to this story that needs to be addressed. what do you all think?
this was a really interesting video, and I appreciate the insight into such a complex family dynamic. but honestly, I can't help but feel that the dad might have taken it a bit too far. prioritizing a cousin over his own child seems pretty unfair. what do you all think?
this video was really engaging and opened up a lot of thoughts about family dynamics. but honestly, i find it hard to understand how a parent could prioritize a cousin's needs over their own child's future. it feels a bit unfair to put that kind of pressure on the kids involved. what do you all think?
great video, really thought-provoking! it’s interesting how family dynamics can shape our decisions in life. but honestly, i can’t help but feel that the dad’s actions seem a bit unfair to the narrator. shouldn’t a parent prioritize their own child’s future over a cousin's ambition?
this video was really engaging and made me reflect on some tough family dynamics. but honestly, i think the dad's decision, while understandable from a certain perspective, seems really unfair to the original person’s future. it’s hard to justify prioritizing one family member over another in such a huge way. what do you all think?
really appreciate the storytelling in this video, it’s compelling and thought-provoking. but honestly, I can't help but feel that the dad’s choices were incredibly selfish. sacrificing your own child's future for another is a tough pill to swallow. what do you all think?
I call bullshit on the issue with his wifes death. If the death of a loved one was enough to make you reject your own child, then why would the death of your brother cause you to treat his son like your own? The reality is you just didn't like your son and couldn't be bothered to admit it.
This video is really thought-provoking and I appreciate the way you brought this story to light. However, I can't help but feel that the dad's choices were a bit selfish. I mean, prioritizing one child's future over another's seems really unfair and could lead to a lot of resentment in the long run. What do you all think?
this video was really well put together and i appreciate the storytelling. however, i can't help but feel that the dad's choices seem kind of selfish. prioritizing one child over another can create lasting resentment, you know? it's a tough situation for sure, but sometimes you have to look out for your own family first. what do others think?
this video was really thought-provoking and well-made. i appreciate the storytelling. but honestly, i can't help but feel that the dad's decision was a bit selfish. prioritizing one child over another can have lasting effects, and it makes me wonder if anyone considered the long-term impact on both kids involved. it seems wrong to sacrifice someone's dreams for another's benefit, don’t you think?
great video, really enjoyed the story and the way you presented it. however, I can't help but think that the whole situation seems a bit unfair to you. I mean, shouldn't parents prioritize their own children’s futures first? It just feels like a classic case of misplaced loyalties. curious to hear what others think!
Dude my father passed 8 years ago and even in his absence, from beyond the grave, he is still a better father than some living failures in these stories.
Yup. About the same for me. That man was present for everything important and still worried he wasn't around enough because of working. Not a valid worry really, as the obvious care and attention (and worry) more than made up for a few nights working late somewhere. He came to my plays, was excited about my achievements, and basically gave me the confidence to not be a failure. That record IS the parenting. You can't really claim to be more than a genetic donor without it.
Mine also
This is... a rather brutal insult! I love it!
Same here man
My Father had a rough life but always had a smile and kindness in his heart, especially for me and my family. It’s the way I try to live my life in his honor
Just about 1,5 Years but yeah the same.
I think the worst part of all this was that his Dad disrespected his dead wife by not supporting the son she had given him. That boy was all she had ever wanted but he couldn’t respect his wife’s wishes and raise that boy with the love and care he deserved.. He chose to ignore his wife’s dream in favour of his brother’s son and treat his wife’s biggest dream like it didn’t matter
yeah i also found it weird when he suddenly said that his mother would be proud of him. I was like, Eh? "Now he is thinking of his dead wife; you better ask yourself what she will think of you".
@@caldex1557 this why nursing homes are made for
Im sure she’s turning in her grave
That is what I was thinking
Fr fr. I was also thinking... why blame your kid? Why not blame yourself? You got your wife pregnant. Ofc, this shouldn't be his mindset, but if he truly wants to blame anyone for his wife's death, shouldn't it befall on himself? It's just so selfish. The kid didn't ask to be born. Instead of cherishing a kid 1/2 him and 1/2 his wife, he chose to hate the kid... the dad is stup!d....
My dad did the exact same thing to my sisters, favoring our cousins and brothers since they were men. Didn't pay for our college tuition and even evicted them out of their apartment since *he* was the one paying (to the point that I abandoned the idea of going to college altogether)
Now, he's reaching out to them for financial support and is expecting them to jump in joy 'cause he now acknowledges them.
I'm not even surprised.
Now he's wondering why none of his kids talk to him.
These parents never think the tables will turn. They think they'll always have the power.
Theyre banking on you “being the bigger person and letting it go”
Shatter those delusions
My parents made that mistake too
@@fivelittlemonkees so did mine. I'm glad we introduced them to consequences.
@@lv1543 it's our moral duty to introduce these parents to reality and consequences
By the father's own logic he was the one who killed his wife because he got her pregnant.
Should’ve told the dad that you were all your mom ever wanted, and that he failed her by failing to be a good father to you
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That would surey break him in two, but would the author really want his father to end himself though.
Haven't spoken with my father in like 11 years. Best years of my life. Started really growing the most when I got sick of his behavior. Started being around healthier people and unlearning a lot of nonsense that had been passed on to me. So I hope OP stays the course.
Haven't spoken with my father in like 11 years. Best years of my life. Started really growing the most when I got sick of his behavior. Started being around healthier people and unlearning a lot of nonsense that had been passed on to me. So I hope OP stays the course.
@@RedditFamilyTales this channel is run by AI isn't it?
I haven't spoken to my Dad in 15+ years. It would have been 20 years, but my sister wanted him at her wedding.
He fucking introduced himself to me at her wedding. "Hi, I'm Dave." _"I fucking know who you are."_
I told him "Do one thing to ruin my sister's day and I'll fucking end you."
He and his wife were well-behaved that night in the corner they secluded themselves into. Haven't seen or spoken to them since.
I don't hate him anymore. To hate someone, you have to have feelings for them. He no longer exists as far as I know or care.
Bruh this channel is all ai and view boosting time to unsub
You're proud of that huh? Don't be surprised if your child does the same
"Hmm, no, sorry dad, my job doesn't pay me that well. I could have had a better job if you paid for my college the way you did with Jake, then I would have had the money to help you out but you didn't. Tata."
Yeah, that’d only happen if OP had any ⚾️s.
@toomuchsauce5599 I wish all OPs were as petty as I am.
I was absolutely thrilled when I listened to a story about a woman leaving her fiance who was cheating on her with a woman that turned out to be the daughter of a woman his dad cheated with, making it possible they were siblings, so when the woman inevitably began berating her for how he had badmouthed her, they were soulmates blah blah blah, she ended the conversation by sending a link to Sweet Home Alabama on Spotify. I was so proud of her 🥲
If you regularly sacrifice for someone, they will eventually stop seeing it as the sacrifice that it is and will come to see it as something they are entitled to and that you are obligated to do.
Good on the op for not falling for the bait. His former father had plenty of chances, but instead of pursuing any help for his grief, he chose to take it out on someone who was also a victim of the situation. He lost all right to be the op's dad a long time ago and needs to deal with the consequences of his actions
Can pretty much guarantee that if op helped absolutely nothing would change at all. It isn't a child's responsibility to parent their parents after all
If they were good parents it absolutely is the child's responsibility to take good care of their parents
NTA. “Dad” regretted *some* of the decisions he made. OP was left to sink or swim on his own. Dad should ask golden child for help or figure it out on his own.
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I haven’t spoken to my bio dad for over 15 years, he left my mother for our sitter who had 3 kids, a 1yr old, a 3yr old and a 5yr old. I told my dad she was using him and that once they grown she would leave. He missed it all, my graduation, .my marriage , joining the navy, my kids all of it, then one day he calls and said his wife left as soon as the youngest turned 18 so she kicked him out. Everything was under stepkids names so he didn’t have to support for us. Turns out since the house and cars were out under their name he got nothing, was homeless, but, i ignored him. Too much happened. I still don’t know where he is or what he is up to. I never looked back
Everything else was overshadowed how an idiot he was 😬
My grandmother sacrificed her entire family's future to protect one. My uncle murdered someone in cold blood. She sold her spare home and borrowed off the value of her own home to pay for lawyers, he got downgraded to a life sentence without chance of release instead of the death penalty. I don't blame her, she's just that kind of person, but it made life a whole lot harder than it could have been. To protect a murderer. And has been sending money to him for nearly two decades now. If I were in the same place I would not help him.
Mr. Johnson is the GOAT
Op should have begun calling them both out on social media. Jake posted how he got a laptop for college? "Must be nice, having my dad ignore everything i do so he can give you attention, nicer still when he choose to fund your college instead of helping me with college. "
Some parents really do nursing home speedruns (any%, no visitations)
I get Tyrion Lannister fibes on how the father despises his own flesh and blood.
I got get the paternity test vibe. On jake
That's what I was thinking. He despised him for the mom dying.
At the end: I am happy that OP feels bad for the "dad" who is his seed donor but feels no sympathy for the crxxpy person he is as a person.
Thanks for sharing! It’s powerful how OP stood up for himself in the end. Do you think he made the right choice?
Thebdad ultimately should have just abandoned the kid to the system. That's better than being raised in resentment.
I can't believe that things like this happen to people it's sick.
Wow, this video was really eye-opening and well put together. I have to say though, while I understand the bond families share, I can’t help but feel that prioritizing a cousin over your own kid’s future crosses a line. It’s tough to justify sacrificing one family member's opportunities for another, no matter the reason. Would love to hear what others think about this!
Wasn't a great dad? The "dad" treated his own son as more of a roommate than his actual son.
I think you meant ofc he wasn't a great dad? Sorry not be rude.
@naithikjain4263 it was more of a sarcastic question. I do agree with him being a bad father.
This OP is a chump, he’s going to forgive his dad, and his dad will leave everything to his cousin in his will
Before that he's going to take from OP and give it to Jake
I understand that everyone handles grief differently, but you shouldn't take it out on a kid who had barely made it into the world. I bet his mom is rolling in her grave.
what a compelling story! i really appreciate how you shared the complexities of family dynamics. that being said, i wonder if it’s fair to blame the dad entirely. i think sometimes parents have to make tough choices that we can't fully understand until we're older. it might stir some debate, but i believe both sides should be considered here.
I don't think people really get how hard it is to cut off family. Especially a parent or child. I mean people talk about it so casually now that they often forget. It's a constant struggle. You either gotta be all in or all out or your sol. OP going to find out what happened was literally putting themselves back into a bad position, but one good thing did come out of it. And it's not the satisfaction of knowing he was right. It was without a doubt the closure of hearing his dad say why he acted the way he did. People underestimate closure. That alone can help settle a situation and after that then people can work on mending a situation...if that's what they want. But the torture of being half in and half out is not a space people should live in, for both sides. Cutting off family, is like cutting off your own arm. So if you wanna get away, then stay away and let that wound heal, cause doing little things like calling to see if they are ok is just gonna make you bleed more. And if that person hasn't changed since you left, you're gonna bleed a lot. I hate people who use the, "but it's family" card. Because they truly don't understand how true that statement is, and how awful it is for people to abuse it.
These AI stories are crazy
yeah funny how Jake and he were on same grade but he missed his graduation
Word, right? In 2024, abusive parents still exists? Bullshit.
@@qc6057no they dont
@@qc6057 Unfortunately, they still do. You're lucky not to be able to experience it but doesn't mean they don't exist.
@@qc6057 They exist just like fake stories
I wonder if Jake was his actual child or something crazy
It is most likely
Wow, OP's doner made two bad investments in one lifetime.
Man this is a good story but the corona virus cake threw me off lmao.
😂😂 watched the story trying to find what cake was being made
I know i would turn into one of these bad kinds of parents if i ever had offspring... no child deserves an issue like this.
Truly know yourself before you make life, people, to avoid causing suffering... it is a plea we do not hear often enough.
TO THE NURSING HOMES YOU GO!
OP’s dad resented his son for his wife’s death….even though it wasn’t his fault. Given her previous fertility struggles, it’s likely OPs mom had a health issue that made pregnancy a bad idea.
The guy disgraced his wife’s memory with the way he treated their son, if I were OP I would tell the guy not to contact me again.
shouldnt u be holding the child closer due to him being the only link left to the wife
It either goes that way or it goes the other way sadly.
Some people don't share that way of thinking.
My biological father dipped when I was 6 and only showed up for graduation, weddings, etc. to play the happy dad of the successful kid another man raised. He died a few years ago and none of his kids went to his bedside when he asked for us. Didn't feel a thing when he passed except relief bc he was a stranger to me, just one who tried to claim credit for when convenient
My dad died earlier this year, sometimes people have to remind me and I'll be like,"Ohhh... yeah".I don't miss him and I don't want to remember him
This is 100% AI Generated story posted on Reddit.
Sounded like typical man wha/manga revange story.
Definitely, who in the right mind tell a story and stop at the part his father called and continue th story at update 1
I had an ex who picked a drug dealer over me. If I was OP, I’d call dad once a week, once a month, and just go, “how’s Jake?” And just laugh into the phone. That’s how I handled my ex, her new bf who threatened to kill me for trying to get back some of my own stuff, (her own mother got it back for me.), got arrested and caught a 22 year sentence. Any time I see her, “how’s Jose? Still in prison! Good call girl can’t deny a woman’s intuition! How’s single motherhood?” And then i laugh at her. If we bump into eachother somewhere, it’s an excuse to call her and laugh at her. I want her reminded as often as possible how stupid she is. Not picking me is fine, I’m not everyone’s flavor, but going out of your way to insult, degrade me, and insist I’ll never measure up to Jose, and then have him end up being your in prison baby daddy, is too perfect. I’m measuring how much marijuana I can smoke, and he’s measuring how many inches his prison pocket fits, and I never fail to remind her of that. That’s what people like her, and dad here, deserve. To be reminded of their failings daily.
Loving the pettiness!
Jose gonna come out and will look for you asap 😂
@ oh dude I’m 25, he caught a 30 year sentence at 20, I gotta start worrying about that when I’m 40? I’m cool with it then lol.
He still raised you for 18 years. Doesn't need to be remorseful. He had to take care of jake out of obligation. There should have been others to help you and your dad out when your mom passed and it sucks no one stepped up like how your dad stepped up for jake.
Lmao excuses. It's really not that hard to treat your kid like a human being rather than a burden. He has an obligation to his son.
Plus the story ain't real, it's literally made to be the worst situation where OP has the most tragic life possible ☠️☠️
@@happinessenjoyeralgorithm is flooded with these AI stories still too much of a sob story makes me doubt the narrative. Too many people are non introspective and whiny
Yeah. Dad should be left to rot in a retirement home. A really bad one where staff abuses the old people.
Listening to stories like this makes me want to hug my parents. Only reason I dont is itd be awkward because Ive never been the type to do that out of nowhere...
To those of you that also have good parents and siblings, cherish them. I know I will in my own way.
great video, really loved how you presented the story! but honestly, i can't help but feel that the dad's decision was a bit selfish. i mean, putting one child's future on the line for another feels really unfair. what do you all think?
The wife would be so ashamed of the father he became someone should tell him that!
Op: i dont want to help and be apart pf my dads life.
Op: *investigates dads problem,texts him opening the door. Then acts like victim because dad wants to talk.* How dare he think i want to see and talk to him.
Because you clearly do bro.
this video was really eye-opening and well-presented, I appreciate the effort that went into sharing such a personal story. however, I can’t help but feel that the dad's actions might have been more about favoritism than true sacrifice. I mean, should family loyalty outweigh your own child's future? it really raises some tough questions about priorities in families.
great video - really thought-provoking! but honestly, i can’t help but feel that the sacrifices made for family can sometimes lead to resentment. i mean, should one person’s future really be compromised for another, even if they are family? seems like a slippery slope.
I would say that your dad needed help, he never moved on from his wife's death, and the news of his brother's death only made it worse.
"I'm sorry, who is this? My dad's dead"
Most realistic "Le epic reddit own" story
This is a BS story. If he and Jake went to the same school and same grade, why wasn’t dad in the audience to see him graduate?
Sounds like this guy writes fiction for a living…
Cuz this is one of those fake story content video farming channels. People are so gullible. All you need to do is google the title of this reddit post to see if the thread actually exists - and it doesn’t.
this video was really well put together, and I appreciate the different perspectives shared. however, I can't help but feel that the dad's choice is pretty selfish. prioritizing a cousin over his own child seems really unfair, and it raises questions about family loyalty vs. personal responsibility. wish we heard more from the cousin too!
I didn't visit my father for 4 years because if covid and we were to poor yet hes a better dad then like 80% of dads
A bit of a plot hole... Couldn't afford college working and with scholarships. What about student aide/loans?
great video, really enjoyed the storytelling! but honestly, i can't believe how some family dynamics can lead to such tough choices. it feels a bit unfair that your future was put on the back burner for your cousin. shouldn't family support be more about lifting each other up rather than making sacrifices that affect someone else's life dramatically? just thinking out loud!
this video was really eye-opening, and i appreciate the creator for sharing such a personal story. however, i can't help but wonder if the dad's decisions were truly justifiable. sacrificing one child's future for another feels really unfair, and it raises questions about favoritism in families. what do you all think?
this video was really eye-opening, and i appreciate the insight you shared. however, i can't help but feel that the dad's decision to prioritize his cousin over his own child's future is a bit extreme. wouldn't it have been more beneficial to find a way to support both without sacrificing one for the other? it's tough, but maybe balancing family obligations and personal growth is key.
that is the exact storyline to an episode of the king of queens, not saying it’s not true but am saying it’s Reddit
This is giving kite runner
Need both sides of this
great video, really appreciate the perspective you brought to the table. it’s interesting how family loyalty can sometimes overshadow individual aspirations. but honestly, i can't help but think that prioritizing a cousin over your own child's future is a bit extreme. shouldn't parents focus more on their kids' potential? just a thought!
Great video, really well put together! I can’t help but feel a bit conflicted about the dad's decision though. While family is important, sacrificing one child's future for another feels really unfair. It makes me wonder if there’s a balance that can be struck between supporting family and ensuring your own child's opportunities. What do you all think?
what a thought-provoking video! i appreciate how you shed light on such a complex family situation. but honestly, i can't help but feel that the dad's choice was a bit selfish. prioritizing one cousin's needs over his own child's future seems really unfair, and it raises questions about loyalty and responsibility in families. what do you all think?
this is such a thought-provoking video, and i appreciate the way you brought these stories to light. however, i can’t help but wonder if the dad's choices were really justified. it seems like he put his cousin's needs above his own child's future, which feels pretty unfair to me. what do you all think?
I loved the story but your choice of video kept making me hungry
It's ironic how often people care more about the story even though there's usually minecraft park our going on in the background.
I swear bruh 😭😭
this video was really thought-provoking and well-made. I appreciate how you tackled such a sensitive topic. however, i can't help but wonder if the dad's decisions were truly in the best interest of everyone involved. sacrificing one child's future for another seems pretty extreme to me. what do you all think?
Heh, the father of this story makes my father a great dad. And I'm talking about someone emotionally absent all my life (I don't remember any hug, or sign of affection at all. In my early teens I grow tired of it and I didn't show any affection to him either), never had an advice for me about work or anything, the last big conversation we had? was about why I'm not getting a girlfriend or marry - I have news for you dad, I'm gay. That's not happening anytime soon. And no, we will NEVER have the bees and flowers talk. I don't F-word need it - and showed a covert favoritism for my younger sister. There was some bad incidents at the house with my mother, but if he touches a hair of my mother in a discussion I can strangle him with my hands. And now, I'm more than able physically.
But all in all, he always provided for me without even asking, tried to teach me to drive (failed, though, I can't drive, my anxiety levels when I'm behind the wheel peak badly) and if I ask for advice on how to fix things around the house, he shares it. Right now, even living in the same house, we barely talk unless it's strictly necessary. He dropped his attitude towards my mother and sis, and somehow the house is... I don't know, more peaceful than before?
And I would dare to say, he's ten times better than the POS of father of this story.
So OP and Jake were in the same grade yet the dad who adores Jake didn't attend their graduation??
My life was not nearly as bad as OP, but it both my parents were pretty distant. My mother did try to exploit my brother and i for free labor all the time, even when we had other things to do. My little brother and I got away from them by both joining the military and it worked out pretty well.
from the first sentence, are you Tyrion Lannister?
I think OP should go to his father and talk and express everything in person.. That's the nicest thing one could do. Because at a time like this only a son can support the father, even if he was not there for the son. For the brokern house one must hardern his heart. Which might make realise his mistakes. Also, keep going OP, you're doing well.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts! OP has been through a lot, and it's heartwarming to see so much support and encouragement here. Let's keep cheering them on.
really great video, thanks for sharing such a personal story. but honestly, i can’t help but think the dad made a huge mistake prioritizing the cousin's needs over his own child's future. like, family is important, but shouldn't your own kid come first?
Really loved the storytelling in this video, it’s always interesting to see different family dynamics. However, I can’t help but feel that the dad’s decision, while seemingly noble, might actually hinder both kids' growth in the long run. Shouldn’t we prioritize our own children’s futures before anyone else’s? It’s a bit of a delicate balance, don’t you think?
Wow, this video was really eye-opening and well-made! I appreciate the honesty and the courage it takes to share these stories. However, I can't help but wonder if the dad's decision was really justified. I mean, while family is important, shouldn't parents prioritize their own children's futures first? It's a tough call, but I feel like it could create a lot of resentment down the line. What do you all think?
i really enjoyed the storytelling in this video, it’s great how you captured the emotions and complexity of family relationships. but i gotta say, i feel like the dad's decision was a bit selfish. sacrificing your own kid's future for someone else doesn’t seem right to me. it makes you wonder about the real priorities in that family. what do you all think?
9:02 NOT THE PEEL STILL ON 😢
😂😂😂😂😂😂
Where?
Orange peel is perfectly edible. If you make it right anyway, haven't tried it in brownie form before
@@krios7299 i still don't wanna eat it
this video was really well put together, and you tackled a super sensitive topic with grace. however, i can't help but feel that the dad's decision was pretty selfish. sacrificing someone's future for another family member, even if it's a cousin, seems really unfair. what do you guys think?
this video was really engaging and offered a unique perspective on family dynamics. however, i can't help but think that placing so much responsibility on kids for family decisions is a bit unfair. shouldn't parents find a way to balance their children's futures with their own family obligations? just feels like a lot of pressure.
really enjoyed this video, the storytelling is on point and it kept me hooked. but honestly, i can't help but think that putting family above everything can sometimes go too far. like, shouldn't a parent prioritize their own child's future first? just feels a bit unfair to the kid in this situation.
I don't believe in an afterlife, but if there was one could you imagine the mom watching that POS rise the baby she gave her life for like that? I would hate OP's dad. Children are so hard not to love. Imagine treating your own like that? I can't.
Tywin and Tyrion Lannister in a nutshell
It's in my world totally opposite my dad cares and my mom doesn't or just dosent shows it :(
my dad cares too much
toxic levels
mom is practically dead(aside from money i get
this video was really thought-provoking and your storytelling is impressive. but honestly, i can't help but wonder if the dad's actions were truly justified. sacrificing a child's future for someone else's benefit feels a bit unfair to me. what do you all think?
i really enjoyed this video, it brought up some thought-provoking points about family dynamics. that said, i can't help but wonder if the dad's decision was truly selfless or just a way to avoid confronting his own issues. it's a tough call, and i think it opens up a larger discussion about how we sometimes prioritize others at the expense of our own children. what do you all think?
this video was really engaging and brought up some interesting points! however, i can't help but wonder if the focus on the dad's sacrifices might overlook some of the personal responsibility we all have for our choices. it's a tough situation, but maybe the cousin's influence shouldn't overshadow the importance of setting boundaries in family dynamics. what do you think?
this video was really well put together, and I appreciate the storytelling. however, I can't help but think that the dad's choice seems pretty unfair. why should one person's future be sacrificed for someone else's mistakes? it feels like there's more to this story that needs to be addressed. what do you all think?
this was a really interesting video, and I appreciate the insight into such a complex family dynamic. but honestly, I can't help but feel that the dad might have taken it a bit too far. prioritizing a cousin over his own child seems pretty unfair. what do you all think?
great vid!!
this video was really engaging and opened up a lot of thoughts about family dynamics. but honestly, i find it hard to understand how a parent could prioritize a cousin's needs over their own child's future. it feels a bit unfair to put that kind of pressure on the kids involved. what do you all think?
… I was on my own since I was 19. I did not know how much I would relate to this person. I thought I wouldn’t relate to this video at all.
im so hungry with these cakes
great video, really thought-provoking! it’s interesting how family dynamics can shape our decisions in life. but honestly, i can’t help but feel that the dad’s actions seem a bit unfair to the narrator. shouldn’t a parent prioritize their own child’s future over a cousin's ambition?
this video was really engaging and made me reflect on some tough family dynamics. but honestly, i think the dad's decision, while understandable from a certain perspective, seems really unfair to the original person’s future. it’s hard to justify prioritizing one family member over another in such a huge way. what do you all think?
really appreciate the storytelling in this video, it’s compelling and thought-provoking. but honestly, I can't help but feel that the dad’s choices were incredibly selfish. sacrificing your own child's future for another is a tough pill to swallow. what do you all think?
I call bullshit on the issue with his wifes death. If the death of a loved one was enough to make you reject your own child, then why would the death of your brother cause you to treat his son like your own?
The reality is you just didn't like your son and couldn't be bothered to admit it.
This video is really thought-provoking and I appreciate the way you brought this story to light. However, I can't help but feel that the dad's choices were a bit selfish. I mean, prioritizing one child's future over another's seems really unfair and could lead to a lot of resentment in the long run. What do you all think?
this video was really well put together and i appreciate the storytelling. however, i can't help but feel that the dad's choices seem kind of selfish. prioritizing one child over another can create lasting resentment, you know? it's a tough situation for sure, but sometimes you have to look out for your own family first. what do others think?
this video was really thought-provoking and well-made. i appreciate the storytelling. but honestly, i can't help but feel that the dad's decision was a bit selfish. prioritizing one child over another can have lasting effects, and it makes me wonder if anyone considered the long-term impact on both kids involved. it seems wrong to sacrifice someone's dreams for another's benefit, don’t you think?
this dad sounds like some kind of a jerk.
great video, really enjoyed the story and the way you presented it. however, I can't help but think that the whole situation seems a bit unfair to you. I mean, shouldn't parents prioritize their own children’s futures first? It just feels like a classic case of misplaced loyalties. curious to hear what others think!
Are we sure Jake’s (OPs cousin) mom and OPs dad weren’t having an affair and/or is Jake OPs dad’s bio son also?
Is the green cake, peppermint flavoured?
Is this Terrion Lannister?