Listening to the two of you, Whoppi especially, has allowed me to release grief i hadn't been able to feel since my husband died a yr ½ ago. He'd had alzheimer's & i had been his 24/7 caregiver for 5½ yrs. At the end there was nothing left to grieve. We had been together 56 yrs so thank you for your words. Now I need to make myself start living again instead of just existing.
I wish you the best, and “living” is exactly what your husband would’ve wanted for you. You were there for him; take that into your heart. Now, he no longer needs you, he released you the day he passed. Be blessed, and live.
Same. I’m out here trying to put together a widow life, and as Whoopie said “some days you’re just moving through”. Her words of going on, still living, building a life, seemed to feel like a permission I needed to hear. Anderson & Whoopie are two people I respect and admire. 🙏🌹Their candor about pain and vulnerability is courageous. What wise souls they are. ❤️
I cried with them too. May God Almighty give comfort, healing, joy and peace to both Whoopi and Anderson..... in the mighty name of King Jesus Christ 🙌🏾 🙏🏽
@@danielsteel3838yes. This is me. My mom had me late and I only got to know her as a young woman only a short time before she began to age and I looked upon her as her caregiver and all the complexities that entails. But I thank God for the childhood full of her love that she gave me. At her last days, when I was exasperated and inpatient with her, she stopped me my tracks and through the haze of her dementia looked me dead in the eye and told me, “you’re going to miss me when I’m gone.” Mommy, you were so right. I am lost all alone in this world without you and your unconditional love. I just pray you are happy and at peace.
Our mother is 86. She often says, “I’m the only one left.” When she says this, I’d say, “But Mom, you have us.” Until I listened today, I didn’t understand. She was the child in that relationship and the adult in ours. When she goes, we will be the children in the relationship. I don’t know which of us will be the last one left. Until then we cherish our mother for all she is to us. Thank you for helping me understand.
I think our mom felt that way when my grandmother and all of her siblings passed. She knew she had us (her children, grands and great grands) but she missed the people she knew first. I was sad for her knowing she felt that way, but when she passed away we knew that she would be reunited with our family in heaven. We miss her dearly. Things feel different when the person that brought you into this world is no longer here
I agree. Even though I know the day is coming, I won’t be ready for it. Many of my friends have gone through this. I realize because I have not, I could not fully understand. But, one day, I will.
I always looked at it as their contemporaries. When my Dad died, my Mom attempted suicide. None of us three kids could give her the comfort she needed. I called her baby Brothers & told them, "Mom needs a contemporary to talk to for her to get through her loss of Dad." I strongly asked her favorite of her two Brothers to fly down from NYC to South Florida & help his big Sister. He did. When he arrived at her house, she fell into his arms. That was a bond my Sisters & I didn't have with our Mom. I immediately told my middle Sister, who was staying with our Mom, "Let's go", & we left the siblings to talk in private.
I have a very dear old Auntie, originally from Scotland who was a nanny to Cooper when he was a baby. Auntie Susan always tells the story that he was such a good baby. She’s still around, living in Boston, she’s about 98 and an absolute sweetheart ❤
I'm 65, lost my mom 12 years ago and my dad almost 7 years ago. not a day that goes by that they are not in my thoughts and I miss them so. "What is grief but love with nowhere to go" ... thank you both for opening up and sharing ...
“I have a grief story”.!!! I’m in the process of writing ✍️ my true “memoir” right now. It has taken me years to write ✍️ my book 📖, because it’s so deviating, having to relive off that tremor that i went through. It’s going to be a “bestseller”, “TMHYAH” told me so, he told me that my book 📖 was a very “good book 📖 “ & that it was going to sell over a million copies. I “receive” that in “YAHUSHUA’s” name, because he can’t & will not lie. Hallelujah” in TMHYAH HOLY NAME”. I’m so sorry 😢 that “Whoopie” had to go through so much pain. If anyone knows how “pain” feels, it’s me & a whole lot of other people, that had to go through “pain”.💔💔💔💔🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹😭😭
Thank you for this, I too lost my family when I was 10. My world fell apart, my parents disappeared and no one told me anything. I hope children are more respected now. Again, thank you
I pray that all you've been through you're living a happy life. People are so quick to judge. Even if you've experienced or not. I pray people are understanding and loving to those who they cross in the path of their lives as you never know the impact you can have. Status in one's life doesn't matter. Be thankful Whomever comes into your life for hood and consider it a blessing. All family ain't blood and all blood ain't family.
This interview helps me to understand why I still struggle with my Mother’s passing.Still learning how to live without her 13 years later at 61. I lost my father at the age of 6.My mother was my world. Thank you both ❤
Hello Mary Jane Christie... I truly UNDERSTAND your emptiness... It has been 12yrs for me that I lost my heart, my hero - My Precious Mother ... and I will NEVER be the same
This is a terrific exchange. Whoopi is a WOW. I love her to bits. And I miss Gloria Vanderbilt too. Anderson Cooper demonstrated a wonderful relationship with his mother. They were very blessed to have each other. And I’m so happy he’s a daddy!
My Dad died last year and I will miss his presence, his voice, even his scent until the day I die. I dream about him and my grandma almost every single night now. I have a wonderful husband, children, and a grandson but I have felt so alone in this great big old world ever since Dad left us. It's so hard to continue to live now and I have struggled so much to stay anchored to my family because it would be so very easy to to let go of this life. I never realized I would want to die when I became the only one left of the family I was born into. This sorrow has wrapped right around me like a quilt but it is a comfort to know that I am not alone in my sorrow and grief. 😢
You are not alone. Your father and grandmother are with you still. They will always be with you. Please also remember to cherish your physical family, who remain with you. For them you are everything 😊❤
I empathize with all of you as well as Whoopi and Anderson. I buried my adult son with my Mom in 2019 and I watched my Dad die this year. Watching my parents become ill and suffer for 8 years was really, really tough. It was harder than watching my adult son pass away…grief is a beast
Don't lnow the two of you but cant help sheding tears. Funny enough am a 60 yr old man in far away Ghana and lost my mum 6 months ago. I also find myself asking why? I guess humanity does not depend on geography and color. Thank you both for this heart warming epic interview.
i'm soryr you lost your mum. i lost mine a year ago. my friend is about to lose hers. it's sad but like the queen said 'grief is the price we pay for love'. i hope you find peace.
I am an only child with no children of my own, no real family to share grief with. It can be a lonely place … glad I can share here. had a complicated, dysfunctional relationship w/ my Mom.. like Whoopi. I did all the big growth work of learning & healing. I’m much better for it but MAN it was 2 decades of ongoing work. Now, she is close to me in. long term care home, 93 yrs. old, w/ dementia. There’s some inner drive in her that is a SURVIVOR. She falls (literally, often 🫣) and just keeps getting up & going. She’s lost so much weight .. she’s 5’1” & 60lbs. - like a concentration camp survivor. It hurts my heart, but I’m there to support this part of her journey … she has fallen about 10 times in the last 6 mos. & 3 times in a wk… they monitor her, but she won’t stay still. The anticipatory grief is so hard.. I wish she’d let go but it’s nit up to me, it’s her soul journey & I need to allow, with Grace, the pro I am an only child with no children of my own, no real family to share grief with. It can be a lonely place … glad I can share here. had a complicated, dysfunctional relationship w/ my Mom.. like Whoopi. I did all the big growth work of learning & healing. I’m much better for it but MAN it was 2 decades of ongoing work. Now, she is close to me in. long term care home, 93 yrs. old, w/ dementia. There’s some inner drive in her that is a SURVIVOR. She falls (literally, often 🫣) and just keeps getting up & going. She’s lost so much weight .. she’s 5’1” & 60lbs. - like a concentration camp survivor. It hurts my heart, but I’m there to support this part of her journey … she has fallen about 10 times in the last 6 mos. & 3 times in a wk… they monitor her, but she won’t stay still. The anticipatory grief is so hard.. I wish she’d let go but it’s nit up to me, it’s her soul journey & I need to allow, with Grace, the process to flow .. not resist. This is the lesson I must learn as she lives out her final days, wks, months .. who knows 🤔 The best thing I ever did was to heal myself (little Stephanie & adult) so I could set healthy boundaries. It’s a beautiful thing. I’m so proud of myself. Grief is a heavy topic, but I don’t think anyone escapes it in their lifetime. Sharing how it helped shape us & how we dealt with it is therapeutic for all ❣️ As Brene Brown says ..”vulnerability is courage.”
Not true for everyone. Some things are better left unsaid. No regrets. If anything needs to be said someday, I'll whisper it to the universe, and that will have to be enough. I'll hug my horse, or my cat. Those who return my love. I can't change, nor need to, what was when I was a child. I'm fine with it all.
Thank you, Dear Anderson and Dear Dear Whoopi, for sharing this Grief and Loss conversation! I cried along with both of you. I, too, am in that 'I'm the last one left, I am now the memory keeper for four generations of my family'. I only have one little grandson left, in another city. He has already been touched by extreme loss and grief at his young age. Thankfully, I am still here to help talk to him and speak with him about his feelings. This is soooo hard! Waves of grief and loneliness come in and out and occur at the most unexpected moments... a smell, a touched object, a sound, a taste, a song, or a scene from a movie and the tears start flowing. Thank you Anderson and Whoopi!!!!❤❤ I recently lost my beloved dog of 15-1/2 yrs. She is/was like loosing another child to me... and the grief rollercoaster continues... Again, thank you to Anderson and Whoopi for this podcast. Love to both of you ❤ and your extended families.
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Thanks for sharing.This is so relatable. I lost my mom two years ago. I keep asking till today why do you have to go ? I love and miss my mother DEARLY. I had so many lovely memories with her. She is the best gift from God to me and my siblings
As I watched this interview, it brought back all the memories of my dad’s sudden passing decades ago. I still ask these questions today. This interview helped to realize that it’s ok. Grief comes in waves and comes when it comes. Thank you both for being raw, vulnerable and just real about both your loss. The journey continues.
As I walked through the graveyard one day, I saw a grave that was crumbling. The headstone was almost falling in. It was very old with dates into the 1800’s. That day, is when I realized that you are only around for your life, and then in the hearts of your kids, grandkids and maybe some great grandkids. And in the lifetime of them. And then you are forgotten. Just like that person in that grave.
Except people keep paying forward the effect you had on their lives; even if you don't have kids but you just focus on being a good friend, coworker, or mentor, you will probably make people's lives better, and that benefit to others will continue to travel in a wave forward, long after people have forgotten your name, like a ripple from a raindrop moving outward on a pond.
Dear Whoopi, you are an artist I have always admired. My husband and I saw you when you were starting out in a theatre in San Francisco so many years ago. I went to a club with a dear friend several years later, where we saw you in a more intimate setting and you brought us to tears with laughter. I'm so very sorry for your pain. Of course, I had no idea of your hard young life...but because of your innate strength, you were able to rise above and conquer with the brilliance of your very brainy wit. Many Blessings, Always, Whoopi. ❤️😍🙏👍👏🤗
Lost Dad, Mom & then my brother & I felt like an orphan. I will always miss them in this life & focus on the future when I will see them again. Right now it is my duty to keep moving forward after losing my husband. 😢 I believe they are still with me in spirt & remind them I love & miss them. ☺️
I lost my mom last Tuesday. I’m in awe of the depth of the pain I feel; I did not know I was going to suffer this much before she left us. But I would absolutely sign up for this if it meant that I could experience the joy of spending time with my mom in this life. The pain is just something that comes with the package but I’ll do it again if had to.
I can definitely relate.....Lost my mother May 16, 2024 to breast cancer.....Im 27 and she was 47.....Nothing in life could ever prepare me for that and I continue to struggle with it because just realizing she's not coming back feels wrong because the person who gave me life is gone......Thank you Anderson and Whoopi for this it truly helps and gives people experiencing this kind of grief a voice because if you never lost someone you dont know how it feels.
When I was in my early 30s and my mom was in her early 50s, she died of a sudden onset brain disease. I was absolutely devastated. I felt like a motherless child.
I have watched Anderson’s documentary with his mother and every now and then I rewatch it again. His mother was such an amazing woman and had so many aspects to who she was. It was so worth the watch.
@Jenger69 It's so hard, isn't it? I lost both parents and my older sister, but that hasn't been as hard for me as losing, one by one, my best friend from high school, my best friend from college, then my best friend from my motherhood years. I'm 68 now. I don't know how to make new friends, and I don't really want friends that haven't known me for years; there's just too much to explain. 💔💔💔
WOW, I just happened to click on this video because I love both Whoopi and Anderson and I didn't plan on hearing what I did I just lost my brother. I had already lost both parents and NOW, I'm the only one left. Whoopi talking about her brother but a chord with me. We never got the chance to repair our relationship and be as close as I always dreamed and pretended to be.. Thank you!! I didn't and still having hard time understanding why his death hurts so much. I think it's because he was the only person who truly understood my childhood. No one else has any idea what it was like for us growing up. Again, thank you.
I love this. As a parent who lost her son. I ask everyday why did you leave me. I’m honored to keep his memory alive and feel him beside me all the time. Grief is very powerful and very sneaky. Im honored to stand tall next to my granddaughters. I’m also scared on every other emotional level
'Grief comes and it comes in strange ways', is so true. My mother died suddenly without warning and it was the worst possible feeling. She had some slight trimmers in her hands so my dad and I took her to the ER. They took a few routine scans and found two brain tumors. She was a pancreatic cancer survivor and unfortunately things took a turn for the worse spreading to her lungs and eventually her brain. We had NO idea. She didn't have any other symptoms, she wasn't in any pain, it was truly shocking. And in exactly 19 fking days she was gone!!! I am grateful that she did not suffer, but we will never get over the shock.
That must have been a shock. You did at least have those 19 days… My father-in-law suddenly, unexpectedly, died while sitting next to me on the couch, watching television. My husband was 23, I was 19. We were both students, and I was so grateful we were both at his parents’ house when it happened. Otherwise, his mom would have been all alone.
Whoopi, Anderson, thank you so much for sharing this very personal conversation. There were full of useful tips coping with deep lasting grief and choking despair coming by the loss of the loved one. I have been telling myself that I was super lucky that I was raised by my mom and the heartache and the grief I keep feeling by the loss of her life are the price I pay for the shared heartwarming time with her, which only was possible by her devotion. I feel not left alone when I listened your conversations and when I listened Anderson ＆Colbert conversation regarding the family loss. It gave me a power to live a day. Thank you.
@liberyvaley3119 Same thing goes for me. I’ve lost 😠 “6 family member’s. My dad, mom, & 2 brother’s & 2 sister’s. There’s 4 off us living now, one ☝🏿 brother & 2 sisters, plus myself. I asked that question 🙋♀️ all the time, why am I still here, I say that because I have one ☝🏿 sister that has never 👎🏿 cared anything about me,& she is trying to turn my other sister against me. My older sister that never 👎🏿 cared anything about me, unless I was giving her things, then she pretended to care, but I knew it was all & act. I gave her and her family a building to keep them from living on the street, you would thank that she would’ve been grateful 😇, but she still has a lot off “hate” for me. But I know “TMHYAH”, is still by my side & he will never 👎🏿 leave me, nor Forsake” me. She is going through a lot right now, I’ve tried to “reach out to her”, but she will not take my phone 📱 calls. I’ve never 👎🏿 done ✅ anything to hurt 😔 her, I tried to buy her love ❤️ by giving her that building. My “Uncle” that I was living with, died & left me everything, 2 buildings & a house 🏠. I gave my 3 sisters a lot off money 💰, when I didn’t have anything, I couldn’t get nothing from them. But when my “Uncle & Aunt left everything to me, the ones that never 👎🏿 gave me a dime, had their hands 🙌🏿 out, & I “Gladly” gave them what they asked for. I have a “good & loving 🥰 heart ♥️, but I’m hated by most off my family, & that hurts sooooo bad. I still love ❤️ & forgive them, for all the hurt 😢 that they has caused me. “Because I know my Heavenly Father”.💔💔💔💔💔💔💔😭😭😭🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿⁉️‼️‼️‼️‼️
Boy, can I relate to this interview. Both of my Parents & my oldest Sister have passed away, & I don't speak with my middle Sister. I feel alone but I carry memories that always put a smile on my face. I am a richer person for having them in my life. I talk to them on occasion & on their birthdays & the anniversaries of their death, I celebrate their lives by doing things that I know they loved. Maya Angelou once said, "Remember, your Parents are just people too, & they are doing the best they know how to do." That one quote changed my whole relationship with my Parents.
I send/say just the words "I love you" and for a little while I'll send simply a heart in a text or I love you again. I don’t want them to feel like they need to answer me, I want them to know that I'm there if they need me. It's amazed me how many people have told me how much that meant to them, many said more than anything else through that time. Loved hearing both of you, it's a privilege to have you both be so open for all of us. Thank you!!! Beautiful, both of you!!!
Anderson--thanks for sharing this conversation for so many reasons. I remember, "there was nothing left unsaid" with both my parents when they transitioned within 40 days of each other, and suddenly I was an orphan. However, all the things had been said. I have struggled. I have adult children and a granddaughter, and I am so very complete. Thank you for this interview.
While my opinions on many things are different than these 2 people, what a beautiful moment to find our shared humanity. This was so deep and touching and raw and honest. If only we could look beyond our differences, and connect through our human experience, a lot of the walls would fall and we could find common ground. We all feel pain and grief. We all feel alone at times. We all need a hug now and then. No man is an island. Thank you both for your transparency and vulnerability. ❤
I lost my mom at 10, the pillar of our family my brother mid twenties and my dad in my late twenties. I am 58 now, and still grieved my lost. I cried watching Anderson and Whoopi in this heartfelt conversation and has giving me hope. My mom used to tell me there is a lot of people worse out there when we felt sad, sick or troubled. It made my feel better. I passed it on to my children. Watching this interview is important and know we are not alone and build our strengths from others. Thank you Anderson and Whoopi for being you. It's very healing watching this clip.❤❤❤❤❤
I have followed All There Is from the beginning. It has helped me to see my grief differently and to respect another’s grief better. This interview in particular answers the question of why we go on - to finish what we are meant to do.
This was an amazing Podcast! I lost my youngest sister 3 1/2 years just before her 63rd birthday and just three weeks ago lost my youngest brother just before he turned 64. It has hit not only myself, but my remaining 2 older siblings hard. My oldest brother passed over 25 years ago, so now it just the three of us. Yes, I shed many tears listening to this, but it is also inspiring at the same time. I will honor both of them by living the best life possible. Thank you.
I have lost both parents and close friends and what I can share is that, once the sadness and pain disappear, tha's when you truly appreciate their being. Take as much time as you need to grief, but trust me, it will get better. Hugs
One must remember that we are not on this earth forever, and when he calls, it is go. Yes, it is hard, but one must go on. We are 12 siblings, I lost a sister at age 54 in 2020 due to Covid. The hardest part was not being able to see her or sit next to her. I wasn't able to go to the funeral. I mourned her for 1 year. She left behind 4 children. Since then, I have come to accept that when THE Man up above says it's your time, you have to learn to let go, and they are in a better place!!😢😢😢
I have lost my Mother and 2 brothers. After I pray each night, I imagine they are on a beautiful beach. I am sure that my Mother is drinking a small glass of white wine. One of my brothers is drinking a frozen margarita. My other brother is drinking a sweet glass of ice tea.🙏
I lost my dad in 2021, mom in 2022 and granny in 2023. Usually, I try to find these videos that help me out to surf this wave of grief. Thank you so much for something so human. I needed this. thank you
Oh my goodness. Lost my mom August 8, 2008. The time leading to her death, oddly, were our best time as mother and daughter. And we left nothing unsaid.but I still miss her every single day. My dad is still with us and is 85. He has 3 wishes- 1. to see the white sand beaches of Florida. To visit Disney word. But his mobility will probably prevent that from happening. 3. Getting to see the Changing of the guards at the tomb of the unknown soldier. My dad is a Marine! No commission…but one hell of a private!! I did get the opportunity to ask both my mom and dad what they were most proud of accomplishing through their lives. My mom told me she is most proud of making sure that all five of Kids 2 girls and 3 boys…are ALL WONDERFUL COOKS!! My dads proudest moment was ..being a Marine!!! They were wonderful parents and forged a lot of strength into us and taught us the love of family! Daddy is still with us but seems to disappear a little day by day.I know when he goes I will have lost a part of my heart that will never be replaced.but I try to enjoy and appreciate him every day ❤❤ great interview y’all!! ❤️❤️ to you both!❤❤ 1:30
Thanks for the lovely story about your parents. They would smile at both your memories of them and the fact that you took the loving time to write the memories down for strangers.
Thank you for sharing them. I understand how you feel about your dad - my mom is in her 90s and also seems to be disappearing too. I'm trying to spend as much time as I can with her.
This is the first in this series I’ve caught and I have to say, bravo! Excellent conversation by Anderson and Whoopi. The topic was handled with heartfelt care. Thanks for sharing your journeys with us. I lost my Mom 3 years ago and I identify with everything said here. Thank you for letting us know we are not alone.
I am so happy to have come across this conversation … it resonates so deeply with my experience of loss. Especially Whoopie’s explanation of how she and her mom (in not so many words) left no stone unturned. My mother and I did the same. As much as I miss her daily, I don’t feel like she left me on this earth with questions … I realized I am blessed to have had this with her. ❤
Oh, Whoopi! My mama told me she would be everywhere, too! Anderson, my father died when I was ten and my sister 21 years ago. I often hear myself saying I am envious of them all being together! My mother died ten years ago this month and I realize, I have not known how to find joy! Thank you both!
My mother has a nervous breakdown. This was in the fifties and that’s what they did is put them in an asylum. My father did not put her in one and she recovered at home. We were all farmed out to family members while she recovered. My parents are both long gone and I am glad my father decided to keep my mother at home and got her help. Different times…
I call it being a family of one. There is a real emptiness and level of separation that is always there. It has taken me years to adjust to it, and I’m still working on it.
THIS IS EXACTLY HOW I FEEL ABOUT LOSING MY IDENTICAL TWIN SISTER. 😭 I Lost her in 2016 and losing her, i lost my job, lost my identity and lost my reason to care about being here.
I’m so sorry. A horrible loss. When I lost my adult son and my Mom and a grandchild 47 days apart…I nearly gave up too. Life just didn’t work anymore. But I decided I needed to be there for my other son and my grandkids. I hope you are doing a little better today. I know that it will never, ever be the same
I buried both my parents in four years (2003/2007) and will never get over it. My dad was 98, and my mom was only 80. She was super strong and would have lived another 10 years but she was a diabetic. The Diabetes did it and destroyed her heart. She went to the ER on a Friday and had an EKG. The doctor said it was fine and she died the following Friday. You learn to live with it and don't get over it. I was their caregiver and was lost after their deaths. I also lost my daughter and never recovered. GOD is holding me up and I am grateful to my parents for my faith. They really love GOD and used to pray non-stop. Whoopi is genuine and sincere. Love her for it.
Anderson and Whoopi, your spoken words, fueled by your unspoken words and facial and bodily expressions, allowed me to tap into aspects of my parental loss journey that I did not know existed. Thank you both for allowing yourself to be vulnerable, transparent, and open. This collaboration will stay with me for a lifetime because it offered healing in areas I had not yet concluded needed healing. I pledge to share this healing with others on the same journey.
I lost my mum 101 with cancer, in Feb and my husband 78, 9 weeks ago unexpectedly . It has been a very difficult year. I am the oldest now and I really appreciate this interview….thank you.
Thank you, Anderson, for being brave and compassionate enough to welcome people to talk about grief. Loss happens to all of us. How we deal with it, survive it, has a lot to do with how much we can express our feelings about the people we've lost and about our relationship with impermanence. So grateful for this series. Your conversation with Stephen Colbert was very moving, too.
This speaks to me so deeply right now. This is what’s happening me in my 50’s. I appreciate these two amazing minds and voices helping me through this.
Whoopi my respect grows more after this conversation with Anderson I lost my mom when I was to young, I watch the view because you been grounding me for years, I I’m what I learned from you and other people, thank you beautiful lady you mom is in you and you brother always with both of you
This really meant a lot to me... 'Finding the Joy' Greif isn't an easy journey it's often bitter sweet. Thank You ALL for sharing such a beautiful exchange among one human being to another. Ase🙏🏼
I think of my family members everyday because most of them are gone now....I feel abandoned because I feel so alone without them....I don't know why I'm still here and they aren't....loneliness is a terrible thing....and my cats died too....Whoopi is my bright spot everyday watching her and the other women on the View.... and I saw Anderson's documentary about his Mom and it really touched me....thank you to Anderson and Whoopi for sharing this. : (
I never experienced 'movie grief' when my Father died in 2011, despite him being the single greatest influence on my life and my hero. We dealt with everything while he was dying. Even towards the end when we discussed where his funeral Mass would be held, he said, 'I can never find the entrance,' to which I replied, 'Don't worry, you won't be driving!' That's how we dealt with what is inevitable without fear or regret. Thank you both for your stories!
Grief is part of our existence, unfortunately! Thank God for time because time helps us to heal! I was so miserable when I lost my mum, five years ago. Dealing with her death was the toughest; the pain of losing my dad and sister was nothing close to what I felt when I lost my mother! I was so angry with God and life generally! It's still a miracle how God helped me pull through that pain. If we let God into our broken hearts, we will find the strength to heal!
Thanks for sharing. I am the youngest of three. I lost my mom in 2009 and my dad and sisters within a year apart. I think about them often and remember all the memories shared when I was a child. I know they are still with me. I hope that I make them proud. ❤❤️❤️❤️
Yes, back then the adults never talked to children about important things. Even if we knew or figured things out on our own. We still needed adults to just explain things and let us ask questions.
Boy. Whoopie is spot on in so many statements. Grief comes at different times. The death of my 14 month old son years ago, is still causing me grief at unexpected times. In a grocery store, driving anywhere. Something triggers you and you go thru minutes or several hours of raw grief. Losing so many family members and best friends. You are alone now, or so many you can’t share life with anymore. Anderson is so sweet and vulnerable. Whoopie is a very wise woman. Loved this conversation❤
Thank you Anderson and Whoopie for opening up about your grief like this ❤️ I totally understand, losing my mother and then losing my husband four years later, I feel I’m “one” by myself, even though I have children and grandchildren…… I still feel alone at times ☹️ but like Whoopie said “it’s not our time”
LOVE WHOOPI!! Always have. She is real, and that’s so rare, especially among celebrities. She’s got some sage wisdom for sure. Her mix of intuition, intelligence and empathy are attributes I admire so much. Her honesty and integrity are what we can all aspire to. I’d Love to be able to hear all the stories she could tell. Hilarious and full of heart. 😊✌️💙
A lot of what was said really hit home for me. My mom also suffered from depression and mental health issues and spent a week or two institutionalized, getting electroshock therapy. At the time I didn't know what was going on, because back then my parents didn't talk to us, they only talked AT us. Mom told me decades later.
Oh my Goodness. I so relate to everything you both have shared. I could never verbalize it. But, you two did gracefully for me. GRIEF is not a NOTABLE thing. Loosing your Love ones, each one has its own different TRAUMA. Thank you
This was a great interview... I wish it was longer. In Whoopi Goldberg I see the power of a great storyteller. She has such a profound ability to be relatable, relevant, & real. Thank you for sharing transparently a portion of your life story. Many Blessings to all that need peace, closure, strength, and healing in the time of need.❤
I recently lost an Uncle very special to me. My thoughts are always feel the loss, let it go through you when it needs to. At the same time I smile and laugh at all the good things I shared with that person. The night I found out, I got up and wrote down all the funny things he used to say. It is on my fridge, and makes me smile. ❤
I'm so glad I listened to this. I just fell better knowing that I'm not alone in some ways. I'm now 69 and my mom died in a car accident when I was 6. To this day I was never told exactly what happened. I was sent to relatives for a while and then to neighbors after school in 1st grade then my dad remarried (for convenience, she had a daughter) and I was forced to call her mom. Most of my young life I have blocked out of my brain. I married at 20 to a wonderful man, 49 years now, and have 2 children. Life may have been so different if I had my mom who loved me with me growing up. ❤
Thank you for this opportunity to hear how you all were and are able to live with such a thing as grief especially from the loss of your mom. I lost my mom 11 years ago and it’s still very difficult but hearing this gives me a small amount more of closure ❤
I am so glad I found this. I listened to your podcast. My brother had a terrible accident in July 2022. He is not with us physically anymore. My family is still devastated. Your podcast has been a blessing for me. I cry a lot while listening to it but it helps me to cry. Thank you Anderson and I am sorry for your loss, and everybody’s loss. I try to get used to death but it’s difficult and complicated. I love your work Anderson. Thank you for this.
I am 70 years old. The middle child with an older brother and a younger brother, who both passed away this year within 5 months of each other...leaving me the last one standing. To hear this morning, that others grieve being the last was so comforting to me. Thank you so much!
This interview is one of the most genuine collaborations that has given a lot of insight..
Whoopi and Anderson, thank you for your vulnerability.
Listening to the two of you, Whoppi especially, has allowed me to release grief i hadn't been able to feel since my husband died a yr ½ ago. He'd had alzheimer's & i had been his 24/7 caregiver for 5½ yrs. At the end there was nothing left to grieve. We had been together 56 yrs so thank you for your words. Now I need to make myself start living again instead of just existing.
I understand as my husband died August 2022 from Alzheimer’s after what I could see was only 2 years. After 34 years it was so quick.
I wish you the best, and “living” is exactly what your husband would’ve wanted for you.
You were there for him; take that into your heart.
Now, he no longer needs you, he released you the day he passed.
Be blessed, and live.
Same i lost my first husband at 33, my mom and dad, and younger sister. Miss them
Same. I’m out here trying to put together a widow life, and as Whoopie said “some days you’re just moving through”. Her words of going on, still living, building a life, seemed to feel like a permission I needed to hear.
Anderson & Whoopie are two people I respect and admire. 🙏🌹Their candor about pain and vulnerability is courageous. What wise souls they are. ❤️
Bless you so much. I hope your well and you thrive! God bless you.
One of the most beautiful interviews I have ever witnessed. I cried with both of you. Grief just happens.
I cried and canrelate totally - with marriage failure, needing to be alone and grieving the loss of my mom
I cried with them too. May God Almighty give comfort, healing, joy and peace to both Whoopi and Anderson..... in the mighty name of King Jesus Christ 🙌🏾 🙏🏽
Same reaction here.❤
I was an only child . I still miss my momma 😢 😊 she was 45 when I was born ❤ she lived to be 89. I talk to her still..after after I pray
@@danielsteel3838yes. This is me. My mom had me late and I only got to know her as a young woman only a short time before she began to age and I looked upon her as her caregiver and all the complexities that entails. But I thank God for the childhood full of her love that she gave me. At her last days, when I was exasperated and inpatient with her, she stopped me my tracks and through the haze of her dementia looked me dead in the eye and told me, “you’re going to miss me when I’m gone.” Mommy, you were so right. I am lost all alone in this world without you and your unconditional love. I just pray you are happy and at peace.
Our mother is 86. She often says, “I’m the only one left.” When she says this, I’d say, “But Mom, you have us.” Until I listened today, I didn’t understand. She was the child in that relationship and the adult in ours. When she goes, we will be the children in the relationship. I don’t know which of us will be the last one left. Until then we cherish our mother for all she is to us. Thank you for helping me understand.
I think our mom felt that way when my grandmother and all of her siblings passed. She knew she had us (her children, grands and great grands) but she missed the people she knew first. I was sad for her knowing she felt that way, but when she passed away we knew that she would be reunited with our family in heaven. We miss her dearly. Things feel different when the person that brought you into this world is no longer here
I agree. Even though I know the day is coming, I won’t be ready for it. Many of my friends have gone through this. I realize because I have not, I could not fully understand. But, one day, I will.
I always looked at it as their contemporaries. When my Dad died, my Mom attempted suicide. None of us three kids could give her the comfort she needed. I called her baby Brothers & told them, "Mom needs a contemporary to talk to for her to get through her loss of Dad." I strongly asked her favorite of her two Brothers to fly down from NYC to South Florida & help his big Sister. He did. When he arrived at her house, she fell into his arms. That was a bond my Sisters & I didn't have with our Mom. I immediately told my middle Sister, who was staying with our Mom, "Let's go", & we left the siblings to talk in private.
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I have a very dear old Auntie, originally from Scotland who was a nanny to Cooper when he was a baby. Auntie Susan always tells the story that he was such a good baby. She’s still around, living in Boston, she’s about 98 and an absolute sweetheart ❤
Wowie-Zowie. Is still living on her own? Do you live nearby her? I’d love to hear anything you’re willing to share.
I'm 65, lost my mom 12 years ago and my dad almost 7 years ago. not a day that goes by that they are not in my thoughts and I miss them so. "What is grief but love with nowhere to go" ... thank you both for opening up and sharing ...
Thank you too!!!😊😊❤❤
“I have a grief story”.!!! I’m in the process of writing ✍️ my true “memoir” right now. It has taken me years to write ✍️ my book 📖, because it’s so deviating, having to relive off that tremor that i went through. It’s going to be a “bestseller”, “TMHYAH” told me so, he told me that my book 📖 was a very “good book 📖 “ & that it was going to sell over a million copies. I “receive” that in “YAHUSHUA’s” name, because he can’t & will not lie. Hallelujah” in TMHYAH HOLY NAME”. I’m so sorry 😢 that “Whoopie” had to go through so much pain. If anyone knows how “pain” feels, it’s me & a whole lot of other people, that had to go through “pain”.💔💔💔💔🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹😭😭
I love your quote. ❤. I needed to hear that today so thank you.
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Thank you so much for saying that that. It means a lot?
Thank you for this, I too lost my family when I was 10. My world fell apart, my parents disappeared and no one told me anything. I hope children are more respected now. Again, thank you
I pray that all you've been through you're living a happy life. People are so quick to judge. Even if you've experienced or not. I pray people are understanding and loving to those who they cross in the path of their lives as you never know the impact you can have. Status in one's life doesn't matter. Be thankful
Whomever comes into your life for hood and consider it a blessing. All family ain't blood and all blood ain't family.
I hope you were/are able to carve out a beautiful life for yourself...possibilities can be endless. ❤
This interview helps me to understand why I still struggle with my Mother’s passing.Still learning how to live without her 13 years later at 61. I lost my father at the age of 6.My mother was my world. Thank you both ❤
The loss is indescribable. So don't bother. Write what you remember. Whatever it is. Her story matters and you can do it.
I promise, I understand your struggle!!
Hello Mary Jane Christie... I truly UNDERSTAND your emptiness... It has been 12yrs for me that I lost my heart, my hero - My Precious Mother ... and I will NEVER be the same
I lost my mom 14 months ago. I will never be the same person again. Life goes on. But it hurts every day
76 here, with parents and brothers gone, and it changes the world forever.
This interview is beautiful. You both will help a lot of us who are dealing with similar grief. Bless you both.
I just lost my mother September 29th and this conversation is so helpful and I thank you for it ❤
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Sorry for your loss
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My prayers to you
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This is a terrific exchange. Whoopi is a WOW. I love her to bits. And I miss Gloria Vanderbilt too. Anderson Cooper demonstrated a wonderful relationship with his mother. They were very blessed to have each other. And I’m so happy he’s a daddy!
Vanderbilt was great especially given her upbringing. Both Whoopi and Gloria had tough rows to hoe, but they remained open and loving.
This was a beautiful conversation ❤
Being the only one left! Wow! Thank you for having this talk. You both did it well.❤ Learning to live with the void is not easy.
I am all that is left of my family branch plus just lost my husband. I feel like the Cheese stands alone!
My Dad died last year and I will miss his presence, his voice, even his scent until the day I die. I dream about him and my grandma almost every single night now. I have a wonderful husband, children, and a grandson but I have felt so alone in this great big old world ever since Dad left us. It's so hard to continue to live now and I have struggled so much to stay anchored to my family because it would be so very easy to to let go of this life. I never realized I would want to die when I became the only one left of the family I was born into. This sorrow has wrapped right around me like a quilt but it is a comfort to know that I am not alone in my sorrow and grief. 😢
Praying for you, I know grief. Hold on to God's hand
You are so not alone sister, so not alone 🥹
@@MoralAndManners33 Thank you, it's much appreciated!!
You are not alone. Your father and grandmother are with you still. They will always be with you. Please also remember to cherish your physical family, who remain with you. For them you are everything 😊❤
I empathize with all of you as well as Whoopi and Anderson. I buried my adult son with my Mom in 2019 and I watched my Dad die this year. Watching my parents become ill and suffer for 8 years was really, really tough. It was harder than watching my adult son pass away…grief is a beast
Thank you Anderson & Whoopi, my heart really needed to hear this tonight. “Why did you leave me” really hit home ❤
Don't lnow the two of you but cant help sheding tears. Funny enough am a 60 yr old man in far away Ghana and lost my mum 6 months ago. I also find myself asking why?
I guess humanity does not depend on geography and color. Thank you both for this heart warming epic interview.
Prayer's to you. Hold on to God's hand
We're all connected, aren't we? My condolences to you. Peace from Canada.
i'm soryr you lost your mum. i lost mine a year ago. my friend is about to lose hers. it's sad but like the queen said 'grief is the price we pay for love'. i hope you find peace.
I am an only child with no children of my own, no real family to share grief with. It can be a lonely place … glad I can share here.
had a complicated, dysfunctional relationship w/ my Mom.. like Whoopi. I did all the big growth work of learning & healing. I’m much better for it but MAN it was 2 decades of ongoing work. Now, she is close to me in. long term care home, 93 yrs. old, w/ dementia. There’s some inner drive in her that is a SURVIVOR. She falls (literally, often 🫣) and just keeps getting up & going. She’s lost so much weight .. she’s 5’1” & 60lbs. - like a concentration camp survivor. It hurts my heart, but I’m there to support this part of her journey … she has fallen about 10 times in the last 6 mos. & 3 times in a wk… they monitor her, but she won’t stay still. The anticipatory grief is so hard.. I wish she’d let go but it’s nit up to me, it’s her soul journey & I need to allow, with Grace, the pro I am an only child with no children of my own, no real family to share grief with. It can be a lonely place … glad I can share here.
had a complicated, dysfunctional relationship w/ my Mom.. like Whoopi. I did all the big growth work of learning & healing. I’m much better for it but MAN it was 2 decades of ongoing work. Now, she is close to me in. long term care home, 93 yrs. old, w/ dementia. There’s some inner drive in her that is a SURVIVOR. She falls (literally, often 🫣) and just keeps getting up & going. She’s lost so much weight .. she’s 5’1” & 60lbs. - like a concentration camp survivor. It hurts my heart, but I’m there to support this part of her journey … she has fallen about 10 times in the last 6 mos. & 3 times in a wk… they monitor her, but she won’t stay still. The anticipatory grief is so hard.. I wish she’d let go but it’s nit up to me, it’s her soul journey & I need to allow, with Grace, the process to flow .. not resist. This is the lesson I must learn as she lives out her final days, wks, months .. who knows 🤔
The best thing I ever did was to heal myself (little Stephanie & adult) so I could set healthy boundaries. It’s a beautiful thing. I’m so proud of myself.
Grief is a heavy topic, but I don’t think anyone escapes it in their lifetime. Sharing how it helped shape us & how we dealt with it is therapeutic for all ❣️
As Brene Brown says ..”vulnerability is courage.”
"Nothing left unsaid", so very important this, for all of us.
Amen
The absolute most and best. “Nothing left unsaid”.
Not true for everyone.
Some things are better left unsaid.
No regrets.
If anything needs to be said someday, I'll whisper it to the universe, and that will have to be enough.
I'll hug my horse, or my cat.
Those who return my love.
I can't change, nor need to, what was when I was a child.
I'm fine with it all.
Thank you, Dear Anderson and Dear Dear Whoopi, for sharing this Grief and Loss conversation! I cried along with both of you. I, too, am in that 'I'm the last one left, I am now the memory keeper for four generations of my family'. I only have one little grandson left, in another city. He has already been touched by extreme loss and grief at his young age. Thankfully, I am still here to help talk to him and speak with him about his feelings. This is soooo hard! Waves of grief and loneliness come in and out and occur at the most unexpected moments... a smell, a touched object, a sound, a taste, a song, or a scene from a movie and the tears start flowing.
Thank you Anderson and Whoopi!!!!❤❤ I recently lost my beloved dog of 15-1/2 yrs. She is/was like loosing another child to me... and the grief rollercoaster continues...
Again, thank you to Anderson and Whoopi for this podcast. Love to both of you ❤ and your extended families.
My heart goes out to both Whoopi and Anderson! The heart loves and misses!❤️
GREAT SHOW 😢 GREAT LESSONS, THANK YOU 😂 GP
Absolutely 💯
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Thanks for sharing.This is so relatable. I lost my mom two years ago. I keep asking till today why do you have to go ? I love and miss my mother DEARLY. I had so many lovely memories with her. She is the best gift from God to me and my siblings
Thank you for the touching conversation. I have been fortunate to still have one brother. It is just the two of us and we treasure that.
Whoopi, I so appreciate this...Nothing left unsaid, Powerful!❤
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As I watched this interview, it brought back all the memories of my dad’s sudden passing decades ago. I still ask these questions today. This interview helped to realize that it’s ok. Grief comes in waves and comes when it comes. Thank you both for being raw, vulnerable and just real about both your loss. The journey continues.
As I walked through the graveyard one day, I saw a grave that was crumbling. The headstone was almost falling in. It was very old with dates into the 1800’s. That day, is when I realized that you are only around for your life, and then in the hearts of your kids, grandkids and maybe some great grandkids. And in the lifetime of them. And then you are forgotten. Just like that person in that grave.
Except people keep paying forward the effect you had on their lives; even if you don't have kids but you just focus on being a good friend, coworker, or mentor, you will probably make people's lives better, and that benefit to others will continue to travel in a wave forward, long after people have forgotten your name, like a ripple from a raindrop moving outward on a pond.
being forgotten is nice
True
@@chrissnyder8108 That is a very beautiful sentiment ❤
We are immortal in the hearts of the people that love us. Keep passing family stories around, keep them alive!
Dear Whoopi, you are an artist I have always admired. My husband and I saw you when you were starting out in a theatre in San Francisco so many years ago. I went to a club with a dear friend several years later, where we saw you in a more intimate setting and you brought us to tears with laughter. I'm so very sorry for your pain. Of course, I had no idea of your hard young life...but because of your innate strength, you were able to rise above and conquer with the brilliance of your very brainy wit. Many Blessings, Always, Whoopi. ❤️😍🙏👍👏🤗
Lost Dad, Mom & then my brother & I felt like an orphan. I will always miss them in this life & focus on the future when I will see them again. Right now it is my duty to keep moving forward after losing my husband. 😢 I believe they are still with me in spirt & remind them I love & miss them. ☺️
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What an amazing interview! Thank you both so much.❤❤❤❤❤😊
I lost my mom last Tuesday. I’m in awe of the depth of the pain I feel; I did not know I was going to suffer this much before she left us. But I would absolutely sign up for this if it meant that I could experience the joy of spending time with my mom in this life. The pain is just something that comes with the package but I’ll do it again if had to.
I can definitely relate.....Lost my mother May 16, 2024 to breast cancer.....Im 27 and she was 47.....Nothing in life could ever prepare me for that and I continue to struggle with it because just realizing she's not coming back feels wrong because the person who gave me life is gone......Thank you Anderson and Whoopi for this it truly helps and gives people experiencing this kind of grief a voice because if you never lost someone you dont know how it feels.
So young your mother was😢😢😢
When I was in my early 30s and my mom was in her early 50s, she died of a sudden onset brain disease. I was absolutely devastated. I felt like a motherless child.
Two of my favorites Anderson & Whoopi, oh how I love y'all! ❤
I have watched Anderson’s documentary with his mother and every now and then I rewatch it again. His mother was such an amazing woman and had so many aspects to who she was. It was so worth the watch.
It was great! I should rewatch it. It's been awhile.
Read his books too! He is a great storyteller! What a life he and his family have had. Love Anderson and so happy for his sweet babies ❤️🥰🤗
Thank you. This was perfect for me. I lost both best friends last year and I am struggling.
Sorry for your losses 💔🙏🏾
@Jenger69 It's so hard, isn't it? I lost both parents and my older sister, but that hasn't been as hard for me as losing, one by one, my best friend from high school, my best friend from college, then my best friend from my motherhood years. I'm 68 now. I don't know how to make new friends, and I don't really want friends that haven't known me for years; there's just too much to explain. 💔💔💔
WOW, I just happened to click on this video because I love both Whoopi and Anderson and I didn't plan on hearing what I did
I just lost my brother. I had already lost both parents and NOW, I'm the only one left. Whoopi talking about her brother but a chord with me. We never got the chance to repair our relationship and be as close as I always dreamed and pretended to be.. Thank you!! I didn't and still having hard time understanding why his death hurts so much. I think it's because he was the only person who truly understood my childhood. No one else has any idea what it was like for us growing up. Again, thank you.
I love this. As a parent who lost her son. I ask everyday why did you leave me. I’m honored to keep his memory alive and feel him beside me all the time. Grief is very powerful and very sneaky. Im honored to stand tall next to my granddaughters. I’m also scared on every other emotional level
'Grief comes and it comes in strange ways', is so true. My mother died suddenly without warning and it was the worst possible feeling. She had some slight trimmers in her hands so my dad and I took her to the ER. They took a few routine scans and found two brain tumors. She was a pancreatic cancer survivor and unfortunately things took a turn for the worse spreading to her lungs and eventually her brain. We had NO idea. She didn't have any other symptoms, she wasn't in any pain, it was truly shocking. And in exactly 19 fking days she was gone!!! I am grateful that she did not suffer, but we will never get over the shock.
That must have been a shock. You did at least have those 19 days… My father-in-law suddenly, unexpectedly, died while sitting next to me on the couch, watching television. My husband was 23, I was 19. We were both students, and I was so grateful we were both at his parents’ house when it happened. Otherwise, his mom would have been all alone.
I'm sorry. It's so painful to lose our moms. 💕⚘️
Whoopi, Anderson, thank you so much for sharing this very personal conversation. There were full of useful tips coping with deep lasting grief and choking despair coming by the loss of the loved one. I have been telling myself that I was super lucky that I was raised by my mom and the heartache and the grief I keep feeling by the loss of her life are the price I pay for the shared heartwarming time with her, which only was possible by her devotion. I feel not left alone when I listened your conversations and when I listened Anderson ＆Colbert conversation regarding the family loss. It gave me a power to live a day. Thank you.
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Same thing goes for me. I’ve lost 😠 “6 family member’s. My dad, mom, & 2 brother’s & 2 sister’s. There’s 4 off us living now, one ☝🏿 brother & 2 sisters, plus myself. I asked that question 🙋♀️ all the time, why am I still here, I say that because I have one ☝🏿 sister that has never 👎🏿 cared anything about me,& she is trying to turn my other sister against me. My older sister that never 👎🏿 cared anything about me, unless I was giving her things, then she pretended to care, but I knew it was all & act. I gave her and her family a building to keep them from living on the street, you would thank that she would’ve been grateful 😇, but she still has a lot off “hate” for me. But I know “TMHYAH”, is still by my side & he will never 👎🏿 leave me, nor Forsake” me. She is going through a lot right now, I’ve tried to “reach out to her”, but she will not take my phone 📱 calls. I’ve never 👎🏿 done ✅ anything to hurt 😔 her, I tried to buy her love ❤️ by giving her that building. My “Uncle” that I was living with, died & left me everything, 2 buildings & a house 🏠. I gave my 3 sisters a lot off money 💰, when I didn’t have anything, I couldn’t get nothing from them. But when my “Uncle & Aunt left everything to me, the ones that never 👎🏿 gave me a dime, had their hands 🙌🏿 out, & I “Gladly” gave them what they asked for. I have a “good & loving 🥰 heart ♥️, but I’m hated by most off my family, & that hurts sooooo bad. I still love ❤️ & forgive them, for all the hurt 😢 that they has caused me. “Because I know my Heavenly Father”.💔💔💔💔💔💔💔😭😭😭🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿⁉️‼️‼️‼️‼️
Boy, can I relate to this interview. Both of my Parents & my oldest Sister have passed away, & I don't speak with my middle Sister. I feel alone but I carry memories that always put a smile on my face. I am a richer person for having them in my life. I talk to them on occasion & on their birthdays & the anniversaries of their death, I celebrate their lives by doing things that I know they loved.
Maya Angelou once said, "Remember, your Parents are just people too, & they are doing the best they know how to do." That one quote changed my whole relationship with my Parents.
I send/say just the words "I love you" and for a little while I'll send simply a heart in a text or I love you again. I don’t want them to feel like they need to answer me, I want them to know that I'm there if they need me. It's amazed me how many people have told me how much that meant to them, many said more than anything else through that time.
Loved hearing both of you, it's a privilege to have you both be so open for all of us. Thank you!!! Beautiful, both of you!!!
Anderson--thanks for sharing this conversation for so many reasons. I remember, "there was nothing left unsaid" with both my parents when they transitioned within 40 days of each other, and suddenly I was an orphan. However, all the things had been said. I have struggled. I have adult children and a granddaughter, and I am so very complete. Thank you for this interview.
While my opinions on many things are different than these 2 people, what a beautiful moment to find our shared humanity. This was so deep and touching and raw and honest. If only we could look beyond our differences, and connect through our human experience, a lot of the walls would fall and we could find common ground. We all feel pain and grief. We all feel alone at times. We all need a hug now and then. No man is an island. Thank you both for your transparency and vulnerability. ❤
I lost my mom at 10, the pillar of our family my brother mid twenties and my dad in my late twenties. I am 58 now, and still grieved my lost. I cried watching Anderson and Whoopi in this heartfelt conversation and has giving me hope. My mom used to tell me there is a lot of people worse out there when we felt sad, sick or troubled. It made my feel better. I passed it on to my children. Watching this interview is important and know we are not alone and build our strengths from others. Thank you Anderson and Whoopi for being you. It's very healing watching this clip.❤❤❤❤❤
I have followed All There Is from the beginning. It has helped me to see my grief differently and to respect another’s grief better. This interview in particular answers the question of why we go on - to finish what we are meant to do.
This was an amazing Podcast! I lost my youngest sister 3 1/2 years just before her 63rd birthday and just three weeks ago lost my youngest brother just before he turned 64. It has hit not only myself, but my remaining 2 older siblings hard. My oldest brother passed over 25 years ago, so now it just the three of us. Yes, I shed many tears listening to this, but it is also inspiring at the same time. I will honor both of them by living the best life possible. Thank you.
I am 54, I lost my beloved sister in 2004 and my mom in 2017, and I still cries sometimes 😢😢
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Sorry for your loss, it’s hard. We have loved and been loved in this world.
I have lost both parents and close friends and what I can share is that, once the sadness and pain disappear, tha's when you truly appreciate their being. Take as much time as you need to grief, but trust me, it will get better. Hugs
One must remember that we are not on this earth forever, and when he calls, it is go. Yes, it is hard, but one must go on.
We are 12 siblings, I lost a sister at age 54 in 2020 due to Covid. The hardest part was not being able to see her or sit next to her. I wasn't able to go to the funeral. I mourned her for 1 year. She left behind 4 children. Since then, I have come to accept that when THE Man up above says it's your time, you have to learn to let go, and they are in a better place!!😢😢😢
I have lost my Mother and 2 brothers. After I pray each night, I imagine they are on a beautiful beach. I am sure that my Mother is drinking a small glass of white wine. One of my brothers is drinking a frozen margarita. My other brother is drinking a sweet glass of ice tea.🙏
I lost my dad in 2021, mom in 2022 and granny in 2023. Usually, I try to find these videos that help me out to surf this wave of grief. Thank you so much for something so human. I needed this. thank you
Oh my goodness. Lost my mom August 8, 2008. The time leading to her death, oddly, were our best time as mother and daughter. And we left nothing unsaid.but I still miss her every single day.
My dad is still with us and is 85. He has 3 wishes- 1. to see the white sand beaches of Florida. To visit Disney word. But his mobility will probably prevent that from happening. 3. Getting to see the Changing of the guards at the tomb of the unknown soldier. My dad is a Marine! No commission…but one hell of a private!! I did get the opportunity to ask both my mom and dad what they were most proud of accomplishing through their lives. My mom told me she is most proud of making sure that all five of Kids 2 girls and 3 boys…are ALL WONDERFUL COOKS!! My dads proudest moment was ..being a Marine!!!
They were wonderful parents and forged a lot of strength into us and taught us the love of family! Daddy is still with us but seems to disappear a little day by day.I know when he goes I will have lost a part of my heart that will never be replaced.but I try to enjoy and appreciate him every day
❤❤ great interview y’all!! ❤️❤️ to you both!❤❤ 1:30
Thanks for the lovely story about your parents. They would smile at both your memories of them and the fact that you took the loving time to write the memories down for strangers.
Thank you for sharing them. I understand how you feel about your dad - my mom is in her 90s and also seems to be disappearing too. I'm trying to spend as much time as I can with her.
This is the first in this series I’ve caught and I have to say, bravo! Excellent conversation by Anderson and Whoopi. The topic was handled with heartfelt care. Thanks for sharing your journeys with us. I lost my Mom 3 years ago and I identify with everything said here. Thank you for letting us know we are not alone.
Amazing. My Mom died too, over 50 years ago, I still miss her & was so very moved by your interview together. Respect both of you for many moons now.
this is such a great conversation, lost mum 8 months ago and dad 15 years ago! I'll never be the same.
I am so happy to have come across this conversation … it resonates so deeply with my experience of loss. Especially Whoopie’s explanation of how she and her mom (in not so many words) left no stone unturned. My mother and I did the same. As much as I miss her daily, I don’t feel like she left me on this earth with questions … I realized I am blessed to have had this with her. ❤
Never would have thought I had so much in common with Whoopi and Anderson.
Oh, Whoopi! My mama told me she would be everywhere, too! Anderson, my father died when I was ten and my sister 21 years ago. I often hear myself saying I am envious of them all being together! My mother died ten years ago this month and I realize, I have not known how to find joy! Thank you both!
My mother has a nervous breakdown. This was in the fifties and that’s what they did is put them in an asylum. My father did not put her in one and she recovered at home. We were all farmed out to family members while she recovered. My parents are both long gone and I am glad my father decided to keep my mother at home and got her help. Different times…
thank you for sharing
I lost my father when I was 13 years old. Thank you for opening up and being vulnerable. ❤ from 🇹🇹
I call it being a family of one. There is a real emptiness and level of separation that is always there. It has taken me years to adjust to it, and I’m still working on it.
THIS IS EXACTLY HOW I FEEL ABOUT LOSING MY IDENTICAL TWIN SISTER. 😭 I Lost her in 2016 and losing her, i lost my job, lost my identity and lost my reason to care about being here.
I’m so sorry. A horrible loss. When I lost my adult son and my Mom and a grandchild 47 days apart…I nearly gave up too. Life just didn’t work anymore. But I decided I needed to be there for my other son and my grandkids. I hope you are doing a little better today. I know that it will never, ever be the same
It's interesting to hear her say she feels alone. I feel the same way after losing my mom, but I thought it was because I never had children.
This hit home so deeply...thank you for being so strong in sharing..my dad has been gone 12years and he was my everything.
What an amazing conversation. Makes me love them both even more.
I buried both my parents in four years (2003/2007) and will never get over it. My dad was 98, and my mom was only 80. She was super strong and would have lived another 10 years but she was a diabetic. The Diabetes did it and destroyed her heart. She went to the ER on a Friday and had an EKG. The doctor said it was fine and she died the following Friday. You learn to live with it and don't get over it. I was their caregiver and was lost after their deaths. I also lost my daughter and never recovered. GOD is holding me up and I am grateful to my parents for my faith. They really love GOD and used to pray non-stop. Whoopi is genuine and sincere. Love her for it.
Anderson and Whoopi, your spoken words, fueled by your unspoken words and facial and bodily expressions, allowed me to tap into aspects of my parental loss journey that I did not know existed. Thank you both for allowing yourself to be vulnerable, transparent, and open. This collaboration will stay with me for a lifetime because it offered healing in areas I had not yet concluded needed healing. I pledge to share this healing with others on the same journey.
I lost my mum 101 with cancer, in Feb and my husband 78, 9 weeks ago unexpectedly . It has been a very difficult year. I am the oldest now and I really appreciate this interview….thank you.
I love this woman💜
Thank you, Anderson, for being brave and compassionate enough to welcome people to talk about grief. Loss happens to all of us. How we deal with it, survive it, has a lot to do with how much we can express our feelings about the people we've lost and about our relationship with impermanence. So grateful for this series. Your conversation with Stephen Colbert was very moving, too.
This speaks to me so deeply right now. This is what’s happening me in my 50’s. I appreciate these two amazing minds and voices helping me through this.
Whoopi my respect grows more after this conversation with Anderson I lost my mom when I was to young, I watch the view because you been grounding me for years, I I’m what I learned from you and other people, thank you beautiful lady you mom is in you and you brother always with both of you
So wonderful. I lost my mom in 2017 and husband in 2020. 2 loves of my life. To hear these successful adults speak on grief was affirming.
This really meant a lot to me... 'Finding the Joy' Greif isn't an easy journey it's often bitter sweet. Thank You ALL for sharing such a beautiful exchange among one human being to another. Ase🙏🏼
I think of my family members everyday because most of them are gone now....I feel abandoned because I feel so alone without them....I don't know why I'm still here and they aren't....loneliness is a terrible thing....and my cats died too....Whoopi is my bright spot everyday watching her and the other women on the View.... and I saw Anderson's documentary about his Mom and it really touched me....thank you to Anderson and Whoopi for sharing this. : (
I never experienced 'movie grief' when my Father died in 2011, despite him being the single greatest influence on my life and my hero. We dealt with everything while he was dying. Even towards the end when we discussed where his funeral Mass would be held, he said, 'I can never find the entrance,' to which I replied, 'Don't worry, you won't be driving!' That's how we dealt with what is inevitable without fear or regret. Thank you both for your stories!
Grief is part of our existence, unfortunately! Thank God for time because time helps us to heal! I was so miserable when I lost my mum, five years ago. Dealing with her death was the toughest; the pain of losing my dad and sister was nothing close to what I felt when I lost my mother! I was so angry with God and life generally! It's still a miracle how God helped me pull through that pain. If we let God into our broken hearts, we will find the strength to heal!
Thanks for sharing. I am the youngest of three. I lost my mom in 2009 and my dad and sisters within a year apart. I think about them often and remember all the memories shared when I was a child. I know they are still with me. I hope that I make them proud. ❤❤️❤️❤️
Just what I needed to listen too at 3am when I can't sleep. My mom passed away in 2009 so its been a while but I still feel lost with out her.
Really enjoyed the conversation between Anderson Cooper and Whoopi Goldberg, thanks for sharing 💙💙😊
Yes, back then the adults never talked to children about important things. Even if we knew or figured things out on our own. We still needed adults to just explain things and let us ask questions.
Boy. Whoopie is spot on in so many statements. Grief comes at different times. The death of my 14 month old son years ago, is still causing me grief at unexpected times. In a grocery store, driving anywhere. Something triggers you and you go thru minutes or several hours of raw grief. Losing so many family members and best friends. You are alone now, or so many you can’t share life with anymore. Anderson is so sweet and vulnerable. Whoopie is a very wise woman. Loved this conversation❤
These two made me cry - Anderson always does but now Whoopi too
Wow! This is just wow! So much love
Thank you Anderson and Whoopie for opening up about your grief like this ❤️ I totally understand, losing my mother and then losing my husband four years later, I feel I’m “one” by myself, even though I have children and grandchildren…… I still feel alone at times ☹️ but like Whoopie said “it’s not our time”
Thanks for this deep and honest interview about grief.🙏
LOVE WHOOPI!! Always have. She is real, and that’s so rare, especially among celebrities. She’s got some sage wisdom for sure. Her mix of intuition, intelligence and empathy are attributes I admire so much. Her honesty and integrity are what we can all aspire to. I’d Love to be able to hear all the stories she could tell. Hilarious and full of heart. 😊✌️💙
A lot of what was said really hit home for me. My mom also suffered from depression and mental health issues and spent a week or two institutionalized, getting electroshock therapy. At the time I didn't know what was going on, because back then my parents didn't talk to us, they only talked AT us. Mom told me decades later.
This resonated with me so much. Thank you Whoopi and Anderson ❤🩹
Oh my Goodness.
I so relate to everything you both have shared. I could never verbalize it. But, you two did gracefully for me. GRIEF is not a NOTABLE thing. Loosing your Love ones, each one has its own different TRAUMA.
Thank you
Very powerful interview. Thank you both for being so vulnerable and sharing. ❤️❤️
This was a great interview... I wish it was longer. In Whoopi Goldberg I see the power of a great storyteller. She has such a profound ability to be relatable, relevant, & real. Thank you for sharing transparently a portion of your life story. Many Blessings to all that need peace, closure, strength, and healing in the time of need.❤
She's an ICON FOREVER.
I recently lost an Uncle very special to me. My thoughts are always feel the loss, let it go through you when it needs to. At the same time I smile and laugh at all the good things I shared with that person. The night I found out, I got up and wrote down all the funny things he used to say. It is on my fridge, and makes me smile. ❤
She is a legend, her movies in the 80s and 90s were break through cross divide and wholesome. Mixed cast mostly and respected. She is amazing.
And Whoopi made two films with Maggie Smith! I’ll bet they had a good time.
@@susanwilliams6710 Yes!🤩
This is beautiful. My mother and sister transitioned two years apart. I still often think about being the last one left. This helped me. Thank you.❤
I'm so glad I listened to this. I just fell better knowing that I'm not alone in some ways. I'm now 69 and my mom died in a car accident when I was 6. To this day I was never told exactly what happened. I was sent to relatives for a while and then to neighbors after school in 1st grade then my dad remarried (for convenience, she had a daughter) and I was forced to call her mom. Most of my young life I have blocked out of my brain. I married at 20 to a wonderful man, 49 years now, and have 2 children. Life may have been so different if I had my mom who loved me with me growing up. ❤
These conversation you are having with Whoopi and others, allowing us to be witnesses... so genuine and powerful. Thank you Andrew. Keep going!
Moving. Thank you for having and sharing this conversation.
Thank you for this opportunity to hear how you all were and are able to live with such a thing as grief especially from the loss of your mom. I lost my mom 11 years ago and it’s still very difficult but hearing this gives me a small amount more of closure ❤
Poor Anderson he seems so hurt. Breaks my heart every time I see him cry 😢
Thank you for sharing❤❤
I am so glad I found this. I listened to your podcast. My brother had a terrible accident in July 2022. He is not with us physically anymore. My family is still devastated. Your podcast has been a blessing for me. I cry a lot while listening to it but it helps me to cry. Thank you Anderson and I am sorry for your loss, and everybody’s loss. I try to get used to death but it’s difficult and complicated. I love your work Anderson. Thank you for this.
Thank you to you both! ❤❤ you guys! “ Why did you leave me “ “because we still have stuff to do “.
Changed my whole outlook to move forward!! ❤❤
I am 70 years old. The middle child with an older brother and a younger brother, who both passed away this year within 5 months of each other...leaving me the last one standing. To hear this morning, that others grieve being the last was so comforting to me. Thank you so much!