Why Being Impatient, Needy & Clingy Quickly Ruins The Romantic Spark & Attraction
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- Опубликовано: 26 окт 2024
- Why being impatient, needy and clingy quickly ruins the romantic spark and attraction and leads to rejection.
In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a viewer who has been following me for a long time, but never read the book 10-15 times as instructed. He recently hooked up and spent the night with a woman he met online during their 2nd date. They went out on 2 dates in the 1st week. After he left he became impatient, needy and clingy when he reached out to set a 3rd date. He kept texting her and wouldn’t wait for her to reply and she became more and more distant. After a week she told him she didn’t feel the spark. He’s focused on how she acted before he came unglued and is shocked that he violated the principles in the book and ruined his chances with her. It’s another good example on what to avoid doing after having a few good dates that lead to a successful seduction.
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Corey, as a woman I can say with 100% assurance that you are completely spot on with all your points in this video. So many men pedestalize us before they even know us! They are projecting their insecurity and "manic pixie dreamgirl" image onto us which is not only unfair but incredibly unattractive. It's suffocating. I've dated otherwise "good" men like this - in one case, he even reached out to apologize after our inevitable breakup because he realized that his neediness and impatience to have a girlfriend was what ultimately caused the divide. Guys, be calm, stay centered - even if she is your "dream girl", you need to keep a clear head. It takes time to truly get to know someone and develop a strong foundation for a harmonious relationship.
For the guy that reached back out and apologized about his behaviour, did you give him a second chance? or did you find his apology a weak move on his part?
@@businessmotivation1942 good question
@@businessmotivation1942 She probably didn't care. The damage was done and could never see him the same way again
@@mdmarshall17 I don't want to assume but probably. This is why its imperative after a break up you go no contact aka if they don't reach out you don't. I would even say for the people watching these comments. If you haven't changed and your ex reaches out DO NOT REPLY. You will only hurt your chances. By not replying you show strength, and it gives you time to improve yourself. All my exes have come back at one point, some i wanted some i didn't but the pattern was the same they come back to TEST YOU to see if you are still a simp. So the best course of action if you have changed is to reply when you want to do what Big C says. BUT if you haven't ENERGETICALLY changed if you don't feel that shit inside you. Do not reply. Trust me they can tell.
@@businessmotivation1942 No, by that point he was chasing after a married woman (lol) and embroiled in a super dramatic, cheating situationship with her. He had some serious abandonment issues, was a drama addict and needed to work his troubles out in therapy instead of the way he chose, which I suggested to him at the time. Instead, he ended up marrying that woman. He was desperate to get coupled up one way or another, to his detriment. They're still married at this point but I can't imagine it's a very secure relationship based on their mutual lack of integrity. Once a cheater...
Mate I was 4yrs in on my 2nd marriage and its was on it's way down when I found your book. Read it countless of times to the point when I could recite it. Best investment of my life, I still read it twice a year. 10yrs on and it's like when we first met. Sex is always there and still great after 2 kids. She is always messaging me and doing things for me. I still fall out of the boat now and again but 99% I'm centred. Can't express my gratitude if you ever need a success case I'm your man.
Hey Corey, About 8 years ago, your videos made me realize my relationship was doomed. And I dumped her quick. It was the best decision and after learning about narcissim and personality disorders in 2023. Man did I avoid a fucked up life down the road. To say the least she had A LOT of issues.
HAPPY NEW YEAR
Pain is perhaps the best lesson
And I must take this lesson wholeheartedly and not over pursue the woman of my dreams in 2024 and means reading the book 15+ times.
Pain is the truly the best lesson I agree ☝️ 😂
“How can she say those things” brother….. women speak from their feelings IN THE MOMENT. The moment my friend. They are not like us. Their brains don’t work like ours.
If you chase and scare her off… you killed the spark that was there. It’s ok. Learning experience. Send the text. Be decisive. Be direct. Wait for her response. Simple, rinse and repeat.
I haven’t talked to a girl in 10 days. Texted her “your place friday?” And she said 7pm daddy. I’ll wear your fav outfit.
This shit is easy, guys. Read the book over and over and over and over. NEVER GET OFF CENTER FROM A WOMANS BEHAVIOR.
Ever.
i totally agree , you need to understand women and if you do it just gets easier and easier
@jeffysacks I Love this, keep killing it man! I recently got engaged to the woman of my dreams 💍
@@DylanDockerwhat an idiot. A man going to a gorgeous woman’s place? Betas don’t get that invite if the woman is a catch.
@@DylanDocker yep. In lingerie in her king bed. Her making 200k more than me. I’m the ultimate beta male :)
He's communicating intention, assertiveness confidence in himself and leading her basically by the hand and where do you see the beta? Gotta get out of your comfort zone you simpa
"A beautiful woman is the most dangerous creature on the face of the earth" - Doc Love: The System
Confidence is key, coming off your center is like a train running off the tracks. All men need to understand what Corey has given us. Thank you Corey!
Needy = scary. Since we primarily have to worry about our safety, the over pursue always comes across as dangerous and scary. Most of the time in dating situations it’s more what you don’t do that will attract a girl. Don’t try to impress, just genuinely be yourself. The right girl will fall in love with that.
Please, when Chad acts like that you don't care.
I'm guilty of this one and it's crazy how I was never self-aware of it until now. Thanks
had a similar situation , first date was amazing and ended with great sex after that she started chasing me , being clingy , asking me out herself and texting tons. I made the mistake of following that instead of going slowly in my own paste , obviously she started slowly losing interest after few weeks even tho she was totally obsessed at first . I fixed it by just pulling away , not giving her much attention other that the one on dates , not even texting unless i wanted to make plans, you need to give women time and space to think about you and crave you , dont be a simp.
I have done this to with a 19 yr old college girl and I was 29. Things went great until I got to impatient. It also didn’t help that she was the only option I had available after I stopped talking to 3 others.
Bro I just don’t have words… it’s like once you get it, it’s kinda game over for every other man. The reason why you need to read the book so many times is cause coach wants your mind set to change. There’s a massive difference between masculine and feminine energy and once you get that, all you need to do is act like a man and the woman will come to you, they can’t control themselves around a real man.
Long time no see, coach. I'm just trying to refresh some of the basic knowledge
Guilty but learning and improving
LESS IS MORE
READ THE BOOK FFS
Thr book works....ive heard the audible more thr. 100+ times and everything c dub says is on point....woman ALWAYS test you..stay in your center. Always judge a woman by what she does not what she says...ive been woth this girl for 4 month and she loves me and i rarely so anything..she cooks cleans.. and does everything to please me...thats how it should be
Were do you find the audio book?
The chocha breaks men like baseballs break windows... 😅
aint that the truth.....
How did we end up here?
I love that hand motion that Corey does every time in irony of what the woman says. "I don't do this often!" I'll make sure to wrap it up every time I hear that...
This is a good recap and reminder of Corey's fundamentals. Been following you, Coach, for 12 years. Back then, you really would have crushed this guy's balls, but you are becoming more humorous and understanding as you age! Sign me, been there, and have done that, as well! 🤣🤣
Lost a good one this time coach, back to the basics!
"Work is crazy, soo crazy" - And the Oscar goes to Corey 🤣🤣🤣🙌
Good morning coach, :) hope you had a great Christmas period, you're a star with your work. Owe you a drink. Jon
This is a great video to show you us men how quickly the attraction can change. One false move and it could be done
True that..I a Female trying to understand men better
Having "that taste" is like the One Ring...can make a man turn into Gollum.
Stay strong
Can you please do a video and explain being needy, being clingy, and all other things men do and compile everything. 🎉
Corey is genuinely so funny lmao
Yeah I did that once trying to lock down a 2nd date. Never again though. I was just texting and texting long paragraphs. I only did it 1 time though.
Sex probably wasn't as great as he thought it was
Eh I wish we could get a full story from the writers. The fact she says they have no spark after having sex on the 2nd date and saying what she said, tells me there is more at play here beyond the guy communicating with her right away. Frankly, if he hadn't contacted her within a day or two of having sex, she probably would have been bent out of shape and say she feels used. I have a feeling there was more than one dude at play here, she was more into the other guy. If not, she' might've been a headcase.
I have had that happen with me, second date we hit it had good indoor Olympics, she is back home texts me she had good time, 3 days later she is angry as to why I haven’t texted her for the last 3 days, i said that she could have texted too.. still she mad, as a man who doesn’t want any drama in his life I hit the exit door.
Inauthenticity. He doesn’t even know me yet.
Bro… this the is funniest I’ve ever seen you. Keep the jokes and roasts going ! 😂👌🏽
I don't know maybe dude didn't perform up to her standards lol
Then it's on her for lying to him and saying she never got off like that before.
8:50 watch the opening of "Gone with the Wind" and see hiw Scarlett treats tbe men who show this type of personality.
Scarlett is a raging narcissist. She only wants the one man who is unavailable and getting married to a charming and lovely woman that Scarlett can’t hold a candle to. Rhett knows how to treat her.
No more cho cha for you!!! 😂
I had girls do 100% of the chasing and date planning in the first few weeks and then they still start saying we need to slow down. Gotta be more elusive even if its their idea its kinda ridiculous tbh
People always value what is hard to obtain, if she is crazy about you quickly, she is running on an addictive high which can burn itself out if you don’t put the breaks on, or she could just burn through her initial passion. Rationing her and not letting her overdose on you will keep that flame alive. You can be charming but unavailable due to “life” and “work” and she will long to see you. Just stay centered and calm and she will come to you, like Cory says women are like cats and he is right. My husband almost chased me away because he was so obviously crazy about me as soon as we met, but lucky for him his work demands meant it was impossible for us to spend much time together and I gradually realized what an amazing catch I had on my hands.
@@viviennedunbar3374 thank you so much! 🙏
If the girl is chasing the guy and the guy turns around and matches and mirrors her like Corey always says to do and THEN she starts pulling away from the guy, the problem is with HER.
I find it fuqin hilarious when guys who claimed to have read the book more than 5 or 8 times are 1, doing the opposite of what the book explains to do and 2, still writing in…asking coach for advice when the information is in the book. cherry picking information to begin with, and instead, reading the gotdamn book 10-15 times as instructed, and applying what’s in the book is the reason why you’re in this situation!! READ THE BOOK 10-15 times to the point where you can give a fuqin symposium on it! Stop the cherry picking!
Nope don't be fooled found out the girl I was trying to be patient with has a boyfriend they are playing you fellas don't be fooled.
THE CHOCHA 🤌