Wasn't a great experience, as a child, it was hard enough going to school learning English, mathematics, art, history and science and on top of that still got to learning Chinese when I get home, was a real torture. Was more or less a ritual, wasn't really learning. And once there's no reason to use Chinese, I completely stopped using Chinese in college. Yes, there was a period of time I struggled with Chinese. Eventually, I found my way back to relearning Chinese again. I now can read and speak Mandarin and Cantonese fluently, not so much writing. I can only say, from my experience, being pushed to constantly learn Chinese cause a different reaction in my part. If I were given a chance to learn Chinese from interacting with others and learning on my own, I may have a better appreciation for learning Chinese growing up.
Hi Mike, my kid is a about the same age as yours. My kid is born and raised in Canada but he is able to retain his Chinese fluency primarily because my wife and I both speak to him in Mandarin at home. We did this intentionally because he talks to teachers and friends in English in school. The only way for him to maintain his Chinese is to talk Chinese whenever possible.
It's an absolutely normal phenomenon. I lived in Sichuan province when I was only 4-5 years old, so I could speak Sichuan dialect fluently. But when I was 6 years old, I moved to Anhui province, I forgot all the Sichuan dialects and picked up Auhui dialects. This was an interesting thing. So kids can learn everything fast in an immersive environment and also everything can be easily forgotten without further practice.
Now my 15 years old kid can speak German, English, Chinese, and Spanish, and writing as well. 😂It is very difficult to insist on that, one parent one language, but I did it. Now it's autopilot
Speaking Chinese at home is the best way to help Little Mike. As Teacher Mike can speak Chinese, this rule can be easily enforced. Kids learn from parents. 加油!
Once we decide to go back to Europe, we will face similar challenges. I heard it from other expats as well. And the same thing happened with my daughter‘s German once we had been in China for a few months. One of the things I start to consider for our next destination will be possible Chinese language education. Either in school or via a club or so. Also a Chinese community will be something we want to look out for to make it easy to stay in contact with the language. The approaches you mention are definitely great options and I will keep them in mind once the time comes. 😊
My son born in the 🇺🇸, he is 37 now, he speaks fluent Chinese even he can’t read. He watched Stephen Chow movies a lot plus we speak Chinese most of the time
Language is all about the environment. Many ABC who grow up in the US could not speak proper Chinese, let alone a mix family. Those I know who are bilingual usually travel to China oftenly or have very strict policy such as only speaking mandarin at home
Agreed. Definitely a challenge for kids to speak mandarin. We all hope that as long as we speak mandarin to them they will continue speaking mandarin. But the truth is that they will reply in English. Language immersion school is a great choice but if that is not an option, online class is probably the most helpful way.
@ thanks for reply! yeah you mentioned in the video. Glad to hear that! Duo lingual is a big advantage, providing different opportunities and perspectives of viewing the world. You have done a great job and hope little Mike continues enjoying Chinese!
In fact, learning a language is more like developing a skill. For example, my company is an international one, and when clients from around the world come for business visits, my boss specifically arranges colleagues who speak the clients’ native languages to accompany them and host business dinners. This makes the clients feel very comfortable. So, people who speak multiple languages are highly valued.😂
One thing is for sure like my son and all my friends children even those kids were born in USA to study in elementary school just because your daily life in a place which they were maturely change their mother tune to speak English, and English is their daily live communication . That’s it . Nothing wrong with it .
In his mind, his identity is English speaking American. Please respect that and don’t impose the China identity on him, or else he will be confused especially when he is getting adopted to the American culture. Make it fun for him to practice Chinese but not an identity issue.
If you do not want your child to not able to speak Mandarin. You need to provide only speaking Mandarin environment this can be at home. So he receive the exposure and speak it. Then, when he is back in China able to speak the language to his grandparents. Maybe every year you can go back to China able to have him speak the language. There is Chinese immersion school in the US that you can have your child go too.
It's good that you're aware of it and try to find a solution. I have 6 cousins, all born in the US. All but one would not speak Chinese at all. That's rather shameful to be honest.
It happens to every Chinese immigrants family, your son will eventually forgot how to speak Chinese even your wife speaks Chinese. because nobody speaks Chinese at school, that the main reason.
It’s normal, you need to be exposed to the language environment. After years in US, I found myself speaking English in my dreams and I was adult when I moved here. My dad was shocked when I told him that I bought a rice cooker in Chinese, but instead I said a robot that cooks rice in Chinese😂
And maybe find a few Chinese kids from your relatives' families to practice Chinese with him online. Or maybe ask Xiao Mai to open a RUclips channel for himself. :D
It will come, if he wants to. If Xiaoma can learn that skill in 1 year, so can your son. The window starts to close around 10-12,after it becomes harder. Your situation is probably the same everywhere in the world, if people go to another country with smaller children. And it should be like that. The future of the children is not your original country. Prevent them from mastering the new language they are in, and they get a serious disadvantage later. Example: Arabs in Scandinavia. The children that are not fully emerged in the local language, but kept inside arab-speaking environments often have a permanent "ghetto language" with a very heavy accent. That is a handicap later in job searches. Especially in a more mono-culture environment often found in Europe.
My nephew,who is fluent in English,Chinese and Japanese at a native level,received a job offer with an annual salary of $300k upon graduation 😅,you need to seriously consider it .
If he has been in elementary school in China for two years, he will be used to speak Chinese on a daily basis, otherwise, his Chinese will be evolved poorly.
When you shared your story during the election night, it reminded me of my 1st and 2nd English teachers in Beijing, one guy from Colorado, the other one Sean from West Michigan, man you let me remember my old days back in 2007 Beijing. 😭😭😭 Xie Xie
I love how at 06:17 you attribute your son's language proficiency failure due to you (a white American) not taking the initiative to SPEAK MORE CHINESE???? Come on Mike, don't raise the bar to high for the rest of us now that's just unfair.
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麦克老师这期广告做得真丝滑
中国人花了那么多精力学英语，为啥还是看不懂times，economics，西方一大堆人跑到中国来旅游，最深的印象就是没人懂英文，他们要知道中国人多重视英文，花了多少力气学，肯定极为吃惊
Wasn't a great experience, as a child, it was hard enough going to school learning English, mathematics, art, history and science and on top of that still got to learning Chinese when I get home, was a real torture. Was more or less a ritual, wasn't really learning. And once there's no reason to use Chinese, I completely stopped using Chinese in college. Yes, there was a period of time I struggled with Chinese. Eventually, I found my way back to relearning Chinese again. I now can read and speak Mandarin and Cantonese fluently, not so much writing.
I can only say, from my experience, being pushed to constantly learn Chinese cause a different reaction in my part. If I were given a chance to learn Chinese from interacting with others and learning on my own, I may have a better appreciation for learning Chinese growing up.
hi mike~any english private lessons available for adult? I checked on the Lingoace website it seems only for kids
应该让小孩之间更多交流比大人要好
小麦妈妈说的英语很好听❤👍
小麥能有這樣的一個父親是幸運的❤
喜欢看小麦这个小机灵，每句话都反着说，太可爱了😻
我們家是三種語言，很慶幸六歲多的孩子目前為止還是跟我說中文，跟爸爸說丹麥話，然後跟我們一起說英文。語言是一種習慣，希望孩子能一直保持下去，我想他應該也能保持下去，因為他不喜歡我的丹麥文發音😂，不准我說。
这套方法很棒，可以套用在学习任何语言上面，孩子启蒙越早越有语言优势
Hi Mike, my kid is a about the same age as yours. My kid is born and raised in Canada but he is able to retain his Chinese fluency primarily because my wife and I both speak to him in Mandarin at home. We did this intentionally because he talks to teachers and friends in English in school. The only way for him to maintain his Chinese is to talk Chinese whenever possible.
小麦妈妈要经常出声哟，给视频增色不少！
麦克老师的太太英文说得好棒
小麦 is sooo cute, thanks for sharing!
Can’t wait for the day when your wife joins you to do a full episode in English! I’m sure everyone would be super interested! 😄
“中文和英文都喜欢多一点”😂遗传了父亲的都不得罪……小孩的语言能力很强，我女儿在小麦这个年龄，在一群家人中间英文中文自由切换，最困难的部分是写中文
Xiaomai is blessed to have a good father like you, amazing teaching
小麦好可爱❤
It's an absolutely normal phenomenon. I lived in Sichuan province when I was only 4-5 years old, so I could speak Sichuan dialect fluently. But when I was 6 years old, I moved to Anhui province, I forgot all the Sichuan dialects and picked up Auhui dialects. This was an interesting thing. So kids can learn everything fast in an immersive environment and also everything can be easily forgotten without further practice.
Just want to keep them as he’ll be going back and forth in both environments
父母应该在家只和孩子说中文，这样他才不会忘记中文！另外不用担心孩子不会说英语，因为在学校大家都说英语，所以他也应该是不教自会的。
麦克老师🎉恭喜你预测总统成功🏅！😂
推荐一个适合孩子看的中文电视：棋魂，讲一个孩子学棋的故事，拍的很好，我都看完了。 ：）
原来都拍成电视剧了，我只看过日本的动画，才发现已经20年了，这部动画也很好看的。
Now my 15 years old kid can speak German, English, Chinese, and Spanish, and writing as well. 😂It is very difficult to insist on that, one parent one language, but I did it. Now it's autopilot
You definitely have to be disciplined
小麦好可爱
Speaking Chinese at home is the best way to help Little Mike. As Teacher Mike can speak Chinese, this rule can be easily enforced. Kids learn from parents. 加油!
Once we decide to go back to Europe, we will face similar challenges. I heard it from other expats as well. And the same thing happened with my daughter‘s German once we had been in China for a few months.
One of the things I start to consider for our next destination will be possible Chinese language education. Either in school or via a club or so. Also a Chinese community will be something we want to look out for to make it easy to stay in contact with the language.
The approaches you mention are definitely great options and I will keep them in mind once the time comes. 😊
THANKS to YOU
我家女儿4岁多跟着我们来美国，进了学校之后也是只说英语，中文几乎不说，之后也是因为疫情期间在家无聊天天听《凯叔讲故事》，字不一定认识多少，但是表达和写作是一骑绝尘，中文吵架不在话下。
字不认识多少，写作怎么会一骑绝尘。
有这样一款软件，确实会方便很多，这样小麦以后就不会丢掉中文了😊
刚在知乎上也刷到了！❤
完了，我双胞胎儿子们看太多Ms. Rachel，所以不到两岁的他们，很多第一次说的词和句子都是英文。而且语调和表情和Ms. Rachel一模一样。我得个他们找点中文叫说话的节目看看了。我们日常基本都说中文，每天看一个或两个小时Ms. Rachel，她的频道真的很厉害😂
麦克老师确实是包容的人，是愿意解决问题的人。身为美国人，看着自己的儿子说英语，不是完全没有问题吗？！
最多只有妈妈担心一些，麦克完全可以假装看不到，当作问题不存在。
我觉得孩子不说中文的一个原因是，他觉得没有必要说中文，他完全没有一个说中文的理由，也没有这个需要。孩子现在学习中文也不是为了考试成绩，也没有什么身份认同的问题，只要能满足信息交流就行了。
所以，可能的建议就是在家里只说中文，并且主动设置一些提高语言难度的活动，例如讲个故事。不做就没有奖励甚至有惩罚。
麦克是个好人，愿意去处理这个问题。
麦克老师夫妇很称职。小麦很辛运。坚持和孩子讲中文很重要，但蛮难的，主要看家长能否坚持。我家孩子们都长大了，只能用流利的中文说：“对不起，我听不懂”。
Please speak Chinesse at home with the kid as much as possible.
可以推荐非常棒的中文老师
小麦的中文老师挺好的，你也可以上她的课
omg, he is so cute and reminds me of Eden, sass!!!!
My son born in the 🇺🇸, he is 37 now, he speaks fluent Chinese even he can’t read. He watched Stephen Chow movies a lot plus we speak Chinese most of the time
不错不错，我家也有这个需求！
好棒！
So cute ❤❤❤❤
很喜欢小麦，有时候英语没看，光看可爱阳光的小麦了😂😂😂
Bamboo Garden. Haha, it is everywhere across the US.
Language is all about the environment. Many ABC who grow up in the US could not speak proper Chinese, let alone a mix family. Those I know who are bilingual usually travel to China oftenly or have very strict policy such as only speaking mandarin at home
We read our kid bed time stories every evening both in German and Chinese, not alternate 😂
朋友孩子从3岁回国上幼儿园一直到上小学前回到美国。之后每年暑假回国学一个月的中文课程再参加一些夏令营。现在还可以能听能说，虽然越大也不愿意说或者说得慢一点。但是幼儿园阶段是对小孩子建立中文语言系统非常重要的阶段。环境非常重要。
请问一个月的中文课程是什么名字啊。我也有这个打算
是去当地的青少年活动中心参加的暑期课。 活动中心暑假除了中文课，还有很多兴趣班，像画画，书法，唱歌跳舞等等，参加哪一个对他们融入语言环境都是很好的。
hello，欢迎来试试我们lingoAce的中文课哦😃
我们家孩子也是和小麦一样的情况，我们现在在用悟空中文，孩子进步真的是看在眼里，比当妈妈教的好多了
麦克现在也是百万订阅频道主了😏
Agreed. Definitely a challenge for kids to speak mandarin. We all hope that as long as we speak mandarin to them they will continue speaking mandarin. But the truth is that they will reply in English. Language immersion school is a great choice but if that is not an option, online class is probably the most helpful way.
He’s starting to reply in Chinese again
@ thanks for reply! yeah you mentioned in the video. Glad to hear that! Duo lingual is a big advantage, providing different opportunities and perspectives of viewing the world. You have done a great job and hope little Mike continues enjoying Chinese!
In fact, learning a language is more like developing a skill. For example, my company is an international one, and when clients from around the world come for business visits, my boss specifically arranges colleagues who speak the clients’ native languages to accompany them and host business dinners. This makes the clients feel very comfortable. So, people who speak multiple languages are highly valued.😂
Exactly, like playing basketball or learning piano
请问小麦用什么软件听中文podcast？谢谢
I think I (Ray) need to get onto LingoAce...
One thing is for sure like my son and all my friends children even those kids were born in USA to study in elementary school just because your daily life in a place which they were maturely change their mother tune to speak English, and English is their daily live communication . That’s it . Nothing wrong with it .
In his mind, his identity is English speaking American. Please respect that and don’t impose the China identity on him, or else he will be confused especially when he is getting adopted to the American culture. Make it fun for him to practice Chinese but not an identity issue.
Parents have the right to bring up their children in any way they see fit.
If you do not want your child to not able to speak Mandarin. You need to provide only speaking Mandarin environment this can be at home. So he receive the exposure and speak it. Then, when he is back in China able to speak the language to his grandparents. Maybe every year you can go back to China able to have him speak the language. There is Chinese immersion school in the US that you can have your child go too.
Where is his mother?
It's good that you're aware of it and try to find a solution. I have 6 cousins, all born in the US. All but one would not speak Chinese at all. That's rather shameful to be honest.
我家每天都写诗背诗，晚上读中文
几岁啊
It happens to every Chinese immigrants family, your son will eventually forgot how to speak Chinese even your wife speaks Chinese. because nobody speaks Chinese at school, that the main reason.
He has roots in both countries.
環境容易讓小孩忘記，我小孩沒去學校前，在家還會中文，去了pre-k 後，回家後，都是英文。我也都沒逼他講中文，現在他會聽，不會講
小麦太可爱了🥰
It’s normal, you need to be exposed to the language environment. After years in US, I found myself speaking English in my dreams and I was adult when I moved here. My dad was shocked when I told him that I bought a rice cooker in Chinese, but instead I said a robot that cooks rice in Chinese😂
方法就是每天都学
可爱死了
可愛真可憐
我孩子周末上中文学校，还玩中文游戏，就能说中文
我知道有的混血宝宝在家里跟外边讲话严格分开
是家长硬性要求，否则必然会丢掉一种
比如在上海，在家里要求必须讲英文，因为外边大环境是中文
在美国，在家里严格要求讲中文，外边大环境是英文
这样仅存口语
如果写和读，还必须上课外班才能达到双语
Take kids to china in the summer for 2 months, they will speak Chinese right away
说明语言环境对小孩影响很大，当几乎所有人都在说中文的话他很难忘记中文，但几乎所有人都在说英文是他肯定也只会说英文,而且更容易达到母语者的水平.
All the Singaporean Chinese kids are exactly like your son even though they learn Chinese 华语 in school
Mike is one of the best white dads who marry non native wives
Don't worry about it, by the time he grows up he probably could get an AI translator for $10 and instantly translate to any language on the fly.
My aunt lives in Cary!
Cool!
推薦看「紐約山林記」，他們家兩個孩子中文好得很，
因為媽媽多用中文和小孩對話，從學說話開始
開眼界了😅
竟然阻擾自己的兒子的認同😢
前两天看到一个中法混血孩子在国内英语考试最后一名，笑喷了！
回中国一个月，让他沉浸在中文的环境中，他中午肯定能回来。
And maybe find a few Chinese kids from your relatives' families to practice Chinese with him online. Or maybe ask Xiao Mai to open a RUclips channel for himself. :D
It will come, if he wants to. If Xiaoma can learn that skill in 1 year, so can your son. The window starts to close around 10-12,after it becomes harder.
Your situation is probably the same everywhere in the world, if people go to another country with smaller children. And it should be like that. The future of the children is not your original country. Prevent them from mastering the new language they are in, and they get a serious disadvantage later. Example: Arabs in Scandinavia. The children that are not fully emerged in the local language, but kept inside arab-speaking environments often have a permanent "ghetto language" with a very heavy accent. That is a handicap later in job searches. Especially in a more mono-culture environment often found in Europe.
国内也遇到类似情况，小孩长大就不说方言的，情况类似，孩子大部分时间在学校的环境，听得懂方言但是交流还都是普通话，所以不喜欢说方言。
过来人的一手经验：你们在家要坚持和他说中文，18岁以后，他会感谢你们的。Btw，汉语读写能力基本不要指望了。
My nephew,who is fluent in English,Chinese and Japanese at a native level,received a job offer with an annual salary of $300k upon graduation 😅,you need to seriously consider it .
😂正常 我一年就忘记怎么写了 很奇妙 小学毕业
懂王当选。您怎么看？
这说明男孩更多以父亲为骄傲，他会成长为一个坚强、有担当的人。
说明个鸡儿，要是在中国，肯定说中文。
我也学中文
He has your hair color.
我记得up在上海买房定居了的？怎么又去美国了？
因为2022
Many reasons. Shanghai lockdowns was one.
Being bilingual is very important on children's brain and personality development especially during this age. 小麦加油！多会一种语言能让孩子的人格发展更加丰富
😂😂😂❤❤❤
在家就要创造另一个语言环境，双母语者的经验之谈
多给孩子看中国的动画片电视节目它会慢慢喜欢中文的
很偶然看到你的视频，内容和发音都挺好的。但有个建议可不可以不要一边走路一边录视频，看得眼花，而且也显得很随意。虽然油管上都是闲聊和交流的频道，但怎么让新的观众感受更舒服也是需要考虑的点。
这种现象在美国很普遍，在欧洲的混血小孩甚至在英国的我看中文说的都很好， 可能是美国的英语文化太强势了，美国人又善于表达，让语言在生活里渗透的很深，所以看到一个东西，大脑第一个联系上的就是英文。
Chinese Indonesian don't speak Chinese either
我每天尽可能用英语和孩子对话，慢慢的没有强制要求，孩子也会开口说，你可以试一试不要要求孩子说什么，你自己不断学习，不断和你老婆用中文，孩子先是听，如果感兴趣就会参与，当他说英语就不要回应，切记不要强制，如果让孩子抵触这会是灾难性的。另外说到语言不代表root，他也不懂什么是根，让他记住妈妈外婆来自叫中国的地方，那里有外婆家。再过两代他们就不知道了，因为交集几乎没了
规定在家只能说中文，我们家就这么规定，现在我小孩16岁，中英文流利
Chiina is the enemy Now
Truump said.
If he has been in elementary school in China for two years, he will be used to speak Chinese on a daily basis, otherwise, his Chinese will be evolved poorly.
孩子千万要让他学中文，要会写会认，我儿子5岁回美国，也是混血儿，现25岁了，不会写，也不认，他越大越不爱学了！学也困难，一直学过来就不难！祝福！！！赞！！！
中国便强大的年代，不懂中文，注定失败
只要在家讲中文就可以了，长大后再学读和写很容易
When you shared your story during the election night, it reminded me of my 1st and 2nd English teachers in Beijing, one guy from Colorado, the other one Sean from West Michigan, man you let me remember my old days back in 2007 Beijing. 😭😭😭 Xie Xie
除非將來他想去教英文或者對中華文化有興趣，沒有必要強求他保留一門語言。
家里的语言环境没有设立好。我们在家里是不准说英文的。
麦老师你太太的逻辑不咋地。
I love how at 06:17 you attribute your son's language proficiency failure due to you (a white American) not taking the initiative to SPEAK MORE CHINESE???? Come on Mike, don't raise the bar to high for the rest of us now that's just unfair.
随着ai的发展，未来双语言不再具有优势，学得多不如学得精