Что ухудашет ситуацию, так это то, что многие из них пишут, что не заявили. Преступник остался ненаказанным. И ладно, если это дети. Но взрослые блин. И тут же жалуются, что в этом обвиняют жертв. Да обвиняют. Этим молчанием они помогают ублюдкам.
+Iggy Izzys One in five women get sexually assaulted, they never said anything about 1 in 5 women getting raped or that women are the only victims. Still, most of the sexually assaulted victims are female, that's a fact. But yeah, I forgot: Feminists are making everyhing up, sexual assaults are no serious issues and men suffer a lot more in our terrible society that is trying to make white, heterosexual men not the alpha leaders of evertyhing. Horrible, right?
I was told that men can’t be raped or sexually assaulted, they told me to get over it and that I would be fine. I couldn’t even look at myself in the mirror after he did what he did to me. I hated myself for so long. I still have issues with it, but I’m slowly starting to love myself again.
This song can hold so many meanings to so many different people. The fact remains, that no one can ever understand another individuals struggle... until it happens to them. This song brings me to tears every time.
I escorted my son today to talk to detectives about being sexually assaulted 7 years ago. I'm proud of him. Please pray for him as well, he's hurting and processing everything all over again now, and I can't take away that hurt.
God bless you for believing him and trying to do something. I'm almost ashamed to say that because it should be an automatic response from a parent but so many times it isn't.
I am so proud of him too!!! From the bottom of my heart, I feel so much love for him. I am so sorry he's had to suffer this. And I'm sorry you're having to also. You're in my prayers.
To everyone struggling with something whether it is sexual abuse, depression, or anything in between, I believe you. I love you. You are so strong. I know you'll get through this.
This song got me to realize how strong I really am. Been through sexual abuse, rape, physical abuse, and emotional abuse. I used to beat myself up all the time for what I gone through, choices I made that got me in those predicaments; I chose drug abuse, and alcoholism to cope, only to follow the same cycle again. I have contemplated suicide, have asked people if I could "borrow" their guns, for "hunting" purposes or "practice" when in reality, pulling the trigger on myself sounded like a dream to the nightmare I was living. When Gaga came out with this song, it took me a year to even want to listen to it. When I finally did, I cried, because for once, I felt understood, I felt like I could open up, I felt like I could breathe again. Recovery from abuse, drug use, alcoholism, torment never gets any easier, but I realized I became stronger, mentally stronger. My husband knows I'm not easy to deal with, he knows my outbursts, knows, when I'm in that dark place, I'm not me. He understands why I'm not affectionate, but he still lets me know he loves me. Always will. When I say Lady Gaga saved my life, I really mean it. This song alone saved my life. If I ever had a chance to meet you, the first words to her I would say is Thank you for giving me a second chance of life. To Stephanie G. Thank you.
You just made me cry. How fucking strong you are. I'm so glad you found your husband who accepts you as you are and that you made it through this time...
I'm a 22 year old man. It happened twice. When I was 7, my own father. When I was 15, my first boyfriend. I will never recover from it. I hate it when people tell me I'll be fine, that I'll get over it, or accuse me of lying because I'm a guy. This stuff ruins lives. People don't just "get over" being assaulted. This song hurts and heals at the same time. Thank you, for speaking about this. People do not want to believe us victims, they don't want to listen, so thank you for making them listen.
I'm a genderfluid 20yo female. My father, at 14, and my third and last boyfriend at 19. I felt my heart break reading this, not only because of the similiarities, but also the gender inequality that is in this. I really, really hate when people gaslightes men over abuse. Like, really, what the fuck are you talking about, get a grip. Those are people who don't deserve a single glance from you, or anybody. Those are literally the worst. But hey, until it happens to them. I would never wish someone to experience this, but my rage is building up. I really hope that you at least escaped all of that.
I'm not here to tell you that you will "just be fine". I'm here to wish you all the best and a healthy path towards recovery, freedom and happiness. I'm with you man.
I haven’t gotten over the four months of sexual assault I had received from a classmate in school when I was 15. No one ever told me it wasn’t my fault and when I refused to talk about what had happened, they said that I was “fine” and misunderstood it was just a joke or something like that. And when I started to show signs of PTSD and using extreme avoidance techniques to make sure no one could ever touch me without my permission ever again, they said it was my fault and I was doing it for attention.
@@sherimourThe worst part is that the school psychologist even blamed me. I still have a paper she wrote about me where she said that all of the bullying and also my fear of certain classmates were of my own doing. I mean what kind of woman whose job is to try to help kids would say such a thing to a kid she knows was sexually assaulted because the kid who did it was punished lightly the first and only time the school knew about it and was showing very obvious signs of trauma and hyper vigilance because they were afraid of being sexually assaulted again since it kept happening for months?
I’m reading Y’all comments and want to say I believe you. I believe all of you and I am so sorry. I prayed for you even if you don’t believe (that’s okay). I love you and I wish you all healing, happiness, support and love. 🖤
Thank you so much. I don’t know you but you seem so lovely. And this really brought a tear to my eye, even though I hardly ever cry. No one else would believe me, so thank you. I wish happiness for you too, I hope you have a great day. You deserve the world
@@xo_lexie of course Darling! 🖤 Thank you so much. This world is a cruel place but there still love out here. You also have a great day and continue to wish you nothing but the best and love! 💜💜
It's sort of funny how people say they want pop stars and singers to sing "real stuff" but when GaGa releases a song like this, it's talked about but it doesn't chart that high and gets no radio play.
because no one wants to face what's happening to our young women. we're a first world country we shouldn't be having these problems right? I was sitting in the library at my college campus and in a study room where groups have priority. these guys were in there at first they were watching porn on their laptops then it went to looking at female students online. they were describing her breasts but saying vulgar things and one was describing her vagina and what it was like. outraged I told them I was here for a education and reported it to the librarian. she actually asked me to leave and told me boys will be boys. Now I've been through worse I was also assaulted but my point is its so bad that rape culture its even apparent in the smallest form were you can even get introuble for reporting behavior that is a precursor to assault. I should be able to go to my library without hearing about how they dehumanized another human being. That unfortunately isn't what really going on. We all saw the cat call video of the woman walking down the street in New York city. People just don't want to face up to what has happened.
+Martha Redfield It doesn't get radio play because it's not a "Gaga" song. In order for it to play on the radio it has to be released from her album as a single, but this song is actually for a film called "The Hunting Ground" so there won't be radio play through her. (something like that, I don't know exactly how it works but I know when it comes to radio play there's specific criteria involved)
Andres wrong!!! Any song that is solicited to radio by a record company can get airplay. Album tracks can get unsolicited airplay..it happens all the time..it just debuted at #30 on adult contemporary radio this week..
@@Blueboy1144 of course! you're a kid! you'll believe what your parents tell you, no matter what the rest of the world does. i believed things my parents said till i was 28. it's very hard to think differently when you've always heard one thing.
I was sexually assaulted 3 or 4 years ago, it’s a changing event that effects the person on a daily basis. People don’t realize the trauma of what it’s like to be in our shoes. Lady Gaga is truly amazing and inspiring to me. To the survivors out there; stay strong and don’t ever give up hope.
I was sexually assaulted the first time in front of others and no one told me my rights or that it wasn’t my fault. After that the assaults kept happening every time I turned around and when I became too afraid to be in that class and refused to move away from the wall because I knew no one could assault me if I never turned around, they blamed me for doing this for attention.
I only found this song because I was searching, I really DIDN'T hear this song anywhere It has 22 million views, but I still don't think it reaches enough people. Why is her other music more popular than this? This is a song that I've listened to over and over, and it doesn't get old at all - I feel it everytime.
+NANCAY WANG Because people is so superficial. There is good music and strong social musical messages out there, but usually they don´t get to be heard by many people.
+EarthenImage That's rich! This is not a strategy for anything and falls along the lines of a GROWING concern and ACTION BY the U.S. Government to look into the issue of sexual assault on campuses. It wasn't meant to be released with anything else... it was a power ballad FOR THIS CAUSE! It's obvious to me you missed the point!
I was 4. Still just a child. He took my innocence from me. He still hasn't been found or prosecuted. I am now 21. To all the other survivors, you are STRONG! You are BRAVE! You are SEEN! I see you, and I share your pain
I feel your pain. I was 3 years old when it happened to me. My parents and sister believed me when I spoke at 7 years old. The rest of the family called me a liar. It's the last time I talked about something that was hurting me.
I'm a survivor and my mom is also a survivor. I would prefer to not share my story because I was only 13 when it happened. I sadly did not get justice. The nightmares and the memories still have not gone away. I'm still upset, frightened and angry that no one believed me. Instead every thought I was promiscuous and wanted it to happen. But it scares me that 19k people even disliked this video. It makes me question are they okay with this happening? It makes me lose hope in trusting people/ dating anyone. I applaud everyone in the comment section who has opened up about their story. I hear you. I believe you. I care about you.
Try to understand that this video can give a extremely visceral reaction. Possibly, the guilt of some people who've crossed the line & the guilt that fills them. Same with someone who's never experienced harassment or assault, but, possibly knew something about someone else & stayed silent. Then, there are those that were victimized & still cannot deal with it at all. This video is a painful reminder that brings their pain to the surface & they believe they just cannot deal... Period! So, they find this video abhorrent. I do appreciate it, but, I now feel sick to my stomach in this moment. It brings my demons to the surface. I'm old now, 55, it's been 40 yrs since I was continually assaulted from a young child to teen. I can imagine that if it's affected me this way, there are those that haven't had yrs to deal & find peace in their lives. Try to understand & sympathize that not everyone is ready to face this...
Society as a whole doesn't understand the impact the whole thing causes. While everyone's experiences are different, it is never okay, or justified. I'm sorry you weren't believed, sometimes that is a really harsh reality. I believe you, I hope you are somewhat on the road to recovery, whatever that maybe.
Mikayla Sings don’t give up. I know you’ve probs got no reason to listen to me but I’ve written a little something for you. I really want you to know that your not just an object that can be used by other people. Your a living human being with a soul and a heart. I had a friend who was raped many times, she committed suicide...you can’t give up, you can’t give in to the darkness in this world you have to be the light. You have to believe in yourself and believe that you can go on. Learn to feel the strength within yourself. The hands and feet you control, your very sight and your mind, it is YOU. And you have complete control over your future, your destiny. You have power, you have strength. You have no limits to your strength. Many troubles and hard times will beat against us, many failures, many times we will doubt ourselves... In life we bend but we must never break Your spirit may twist but you must never snap And even though we may lose the battles in our lives You will not lose the battle in your heart God bless you, I bless you. The time has come to become who you were always meant to be! Not next year Not tomorrow NOW⚔️
Chris DMF I mean 1 in 5 girls are sexually assaulted I’m 14 and I already know the reality that comes with being a girl when it’s rape culture. It probably wasn’t given enough attention so people could hear it.
theres many reason firstly it depicts a side of our societies that most people just wanna sweep under a rug and pretend doesn't exist ... secondly if you haven't been there you can't really understand simple but mainly most topics of this nature get's thrown to the sides as most societies seem to still see it as a social taboo to of hear let alone speak of.. the sad harsh reality :|
As I type this, I'm in a mental health facility dedicated to helping people recover from PTSD. This song is so incredibly validating. There is no "You're ok," just "it's ok that you don't feel okay" I'm kinda sick of people telling me I'll get over it, or be stronger for it. It's really nice to have a song that just says "This sucks and that's normal"
Lady Gaga didn't win the Oscar, but: 1- She Was the most spoken Female of the Oscars. 2- Better and emotional performance of the night. 3- Trending on Twitter, Facebook, Google and Yahoo 4- Won the respect and admiration of everyone 5- TIHTY in the top 10 of iTunes USA 6- First and only artist to participate in the Super Bowl, GRAMMY and Oscars in the same year. A true legend.
He's my cousin and it was long time ago and I never realised it was wrong until 1 year ago.I always thought only rape is sexual assult but its not.touching is sexual assult too
It's my dad. It's not super bad...an occasional smack on the butt but I'm a 15 year old girl. Not okay. I can relate to you. Everyone thinks my dad is a great guy.
+Ann Le {Anneorshine} Gaga didn't make it. A team of highly specialized writers, musicians, psychologists, producers, and marketing agents made this video. Truth.
I’m here because after everyone kept on telling me how I should feel after my assault, I found the song that speaks for me. I’m crying right now- tears of joy because we are being heard. Boys and girls, let’s stand strong together!
Some people don't understand the fear and trauma of being raped or sexually assaulted.. I was diagnosed with PTSD after my ex used me...it still makes me sick to my stomach...he wouldn't let me leave..this was back in highschool and I'm 21 and to this day....it still haunts me to think about and still makes me sick... Everyone has been through this type of hell..Idk if you have but if you did, you stayed strong and you're a legend to us ladies..but when we all go through something like that, it can leave a scar..it'll fade but won't heal
That is pretty much how I was treated. No one told me or made me feel like it wasn’t my fault. The school blamed me for it and even wrote it down in a psych evaluation that everything bad that happened to me was of my “own doing.” The school didn’t separate me from my attacker or take any actions to protect me from more assaults until I was extremely terrified to go to the class where I was constantly being assaulted. It traumatized me so much that I started to self harm just to repress the memories. I lived like this for seventeen years because no one made me feel safe and that it wasn’t my fault. They all made me feel ashamed. Honestly the only person who would have supported me would have been my sister but she was away at college when it was happening and I was embarrassed, traumatized, and ashamed for it all because that’s how the school made me feel.
Jin, no, you can't blanket people like that. I'm Gen-X and am very aware that men are raped. One of the most common places for a man to be raped is in the military. 1 in 7 men have experienced sexual assault. It's a real issue, and the stigma of being victimized needs to go away for everyone...
Sexual assault is not limited to ONE type of person. Anyone can be a survivor sadly. We need to change this is society but also teach everyone that’s it’s k to show emotions. If emotions are not processed it can be very harmful.
I wasn't raped. But I support everyone who was. I want you to stay strong and to life your life in the way you always wanted. Be careful but don't be afraid. Also I am really moved by the amount of comments and people who are sharing their story. I love you all. Stay strong!❤
Most of my friends were, and I'm an empath. I can feel other people's pain, whether physical or emotional, around them. So when i was told the stories, I suffocated on the pain they felt as much as they did. I haven't been through it myself, and I pray I never will, but I understand more than I ever thought I would.
I was 14 He was 16 turning 17 I was a freshman, he was a junior He pressured me into doing it even after I said no and stop it multiple times Today is the day I told my mom what happened to me, it happened the day before my birthday on October 3rd of last year To the people reading this who are also s/a survivors: What that person did to you has *nothing* to do with your smile, your friendships, the way you look, the clothes you wear, how you do your makeup, your current relationship if you have one, and most of all it is *not your fault*
I am sorry for what happened... you are so strong and brave. Sharing your story it takes a lot of courage. You did well telling your mother, I hope you are doing ok, sending you my love 💜.
I had to repeat that to myself every day after my first day of group therapy..."it's not your fault" 🫂. Thank you. Words can't express how hurt I am that this also happened to you 😔
they never "had it coming". Nor was anyone ever "asking for it". If you have sex or engage in sexual activity with someone and they don't consent, it's sexual assault/rape. End of story.
The dorm room scene when he walked in while she was doing her work REALLY got to me. I was like "what a fucking bastard". nobody, male or female, should have a piece of them taken away like that.
Professor Rob I don’t know if this means anything but I’ve written a little something for you. :) Listen to me. Alright? Please just listen my friend. YOUR NOT POINTLESS. Let that sink in alright? Take those words in right now close your eyes and remember those words. “Your not pointless.” Because it’s true and I know right now you don’t believe me cause your afraid. I know you are, but that’s okay. It’s ok to be afraid. Fear is a superpower, it can make you stronger, faster. You can truly do anything you set your mind to. But even more than that you have powers you could never even dream of you can do things amazing things. I have got your back. Please don’t give up. Right now life is harsh, hard, difficult in so many ways and it is hard to see a clear answer to all this mess! It feels like sinking in a swamp. My friend committed suicide, she thought that no one loved her, thought everyone hated her and that she had no purpose. Please, don’t do this. Even tho it’s difficult to see, if you allow your mind to settle, if you focus hard on a goal, it will become clear. I know you’ve got no reason to trust me I’m just a stranger. Maybe don’t trust me, trust my words. We may lose the battles in our lives but you must never lose the battle of your soul. Your spirit may bend but never break, your soul may twist but you will never snap. I believe in you. God bless you truly, Godspeed. A new time is dawning. You can become who you really are! Find out your true potential to change the world! No surrender! You can do this, not tomorrow Not next year NOW I believe in you I believe in you I believe in you And soon you Will believe in YOU God BLESS you You know I got bullied every week for 3 years bashed up in the streets. I tried fighting back I never gave up. I was sent to hospital with an engraved face I was so ashamed of my defeat against those bullies. But I won’t give up. I know I can make a difference, I know that everyone who suffers like I did, and have gone through more, can do anything. Because anything is possible. Through the years I’ve tried to make a difference, help others like I’m trying to do now :) I even made a short film on my channel, 2 whole years of my life making it and now finally it’s out. I hope I can motivate people, and maybe you, with it. (The Kings World:Battle of the Soul) it’s called. And it’s about defeating your inner doubts and coming out on top. I know you can do just that if you believe in yourself. Anything is possible. I BELIEVE IN YOU! IN YOU! Run fast, laugh hard, be kind :)
same happened to me when i was 19, just meeting and getting to know my biological dad. Went to visit him, he drugged me, and told me no one would believe me he would tell everyone i was lying. i tried to tell my mom but she didnt even want to hear it.
This song assisted in my taking the steps I needed to take after keeping my secret to myself for 40 years. I told my mom once, and my brother who did it to me was right there. She told me I was lying. So I never said another word about it. My husband recently passed away , I never told him the whole horrible story. But thank you Lady Gaga, for giving us the right to feel the way we do. We do heal, or just put it on the back burner, and never want to bring it up up again.
I’m sorry for your loss…I lost mine 8 years ago. And I’m sorry for what your brother did but mostly, for your mom not believing you. My daughter was assaulted by he bio dad (not my husband) and when she told me-I didn’t doubt her truth for a moment!
I’m a Man, I’m from Pakistan, & I’m against any kind of violence on Women, specifically Rape. It is the worst thing a man can ever do in his life, “REAL MEN... RESPECT WOMEN...” Thank you for making a song on this.
@Rosa Frederiksen It doesnt where someone is from, all that matters is that theyre a decent person. 1 guy from Pakistan who may mention it because they have a bad reputation isnt the same as another guy from Pakistan who is a bad person.
It's not just women it's about men too because those males who have endured this find it even harder to cope due to the toxic masculinity standards. Assault is Assault no matter the gender. We should stand united if it happens to anybody regardless of their gender...
My son was 5 at the time. Thankfully, he told me. Of course I believed him, that's my baby. We're suppose to protect them no matter what! The guy is in jail, and my son will never have to see him again
Wow, this brought me to tears. I was SA’d by my boyfriend last year and I’m still working through it. I can remember just feeling worthless after everytime he touched me, and I would get in the shower and scrape at my skin until I felt like every trace of him was gone. He told me I needed him and that even if I said no, if it felt good I should let him do it, and that I was just weak and scared if I didn’t. Sorry to anyone who knows how this feels, I hear you and I believe you, I stand with you, you’re never alone.
You are so brave to talk about what happened to you. I know all too well it is not easy to talk about. You have to believe you are a strong and beautiful Woman. Any one who survives SA are heroes because it is not easy to come to terms with.
I too know how this feels I’m sorry you have experienced this pain but also knows it’s okay to know other people are with you I pray a lot and will for you as well sometimes I try not feel at all but as it is still happening we will always feel something just pray about it and shove it it doesn’t work that way and you know what it can when we fall just get up I struggle from it and still am please pray for me as well love much me too
@@meow97830 I grew up in a broken home, got bullied in school by classmates and teachers, in HS my female teacher molested me for a few years. Everywhere I went for help I got blamed and thrown around. I even got kicked out of school for my awkwardness around other girls. The abuse by my teacher stopped when I was 19. It took me 2 years after to realize it wasn't all my fault. Sje was the one person I did trust and thats where it got me.. My whole community makes me feel like second level trash. Less than. Like a pity project. So if you think sharing will make me better it only makes me more bitter. No one gets it. I wish i can share more....
@@Fluffstirdog Now be very strong....raise your voice against such injustice....try to make people aware....when you speak up such creatures understand that they aren't that strong.... I'll pray that you have a very happy life ahead friend♥️♥️
This made made me cry. I don't understand why people constantly blame the girl for what she is wearing and that's why she got raped. Instead of having dress codes in school teachers should be having discussions with the children and explain to them that sexual abuse is not okay. Rape is not a joke, it's serious and will mentally and emotionally scar a person for life.
+LoveChezzabella clothes do not make her a target because they look like that, some clothes are easier to remove than others. its easier to rape, and don't say nuns don't get raped because they cover up. Long dresses can be ripped to tie them up and gag their mouths so they cannot scream for help.
I was sexually abused by my oldest sister when I was 4-5....I had to live with her in fear that she would do it again til I was 19.... Remember females can also do it to others...
Yuri Trash You are not the cause of what happened to you, these traumas May never leave you, there will be times that you will be overcome with sadness. That is normal, there’s no such thing as “get over it” or “it will be fine.” The truth is that it won’t, it’s the harsh truth and people cover life in fairy tales like it will be alright. You will be sad in life, you may never be able to move on. The best thing is to just accept what happened, accept its a permanent scar, and use the experience to make you stronger. To make a difference, help relate to others and use your strength till it happens to us....well what about after it happens? Do we just give up? No, we march on, to victory or defeat, we never surrender. Cause there’s some good in this world, and it’s worth fighting for :) YOU! Are worth fighting for! :) God bless you Our spirits may bend but we will never break!
I am so sorry that is not ok and not right I believe this should be stopped if you believe it to reply to this comment with yes and i will add your name to the petition
Even though I'm a boy. This happened to me when i was 5-10 years old. When my mother comes to work, my uncle looks after me. I didn't know what he was doing.. i was too innocent back when i was a kid. He said that wants to have fun with me. He made me do things to him. And he did things to me. It aches my heart when i remember what have he done to me. I only knew it was wrong when i was 8... I did everything i could, to stop him from doing that to me... He threatened me that if i told someone about this, he would kill me. I've never been this scared in my life. And remembering it will always fume myself with anger. I regret that i never told anyone about this. He should be in jail right now. I'm now 24 years old. I hope other victims are okay aswell
Anybody can be a victim or survivor of this type of abuse. Don’t let anybody tell you that your experience isn’t as bad or wrong because you’re not a girl like me. Boys and men deserve all the support in this as we do.
Im sorry what you went through, You deserve justice, None of this was your fault, You were a kid, I wish you the best in life and i wish you may heal and hope you are doing fine.
That sucks really bad, did you tell the police everything? Because I'm pretty positive that if there was any penatration at all (fingers, foreign objects, body parts) then its 1st degree Sexual Assault. And if the police dont do anything you could send a letter to the state you live in
Whatsername not to be rude but they most likely won’t do anything. That’s what they are suppose to do but unfortunately there is so many sexual assault cases that they just tell you something will get solved but nothing will.
If you didn’t consent to it it’s still assault and you can press charges. Don’t listen to these people in the comments, i know from experience from people In my life, there’s doesnr need to be penetration it’s still considered assault and and it’s wrong! It’s not your fault and it’s fucked up if nothing is done for you. Stay strong !!
Always tell someone. Even if you feel in the slitest that the person will sexually assault you because if you don't say anything the situation will only get worse...You are a very mentally strong person.....stay that way.
same with me, but the most disturbing thing is that he is my uncle and i was afraid to tell someone because i didnt want to ruin his family (even tho is known the fact that he cheated on his wife, they re still together) and im afraid of how my parents will react.. i mean i think they will believe me but hes friend with my father and everytime he come at my home i tell my parents that i dont like him at all but they never knew the reason why and they think that im kinda joking.. idk how to tell them. this happened when i was little and sometimes i try to convince myself that it didnt really happened because its fucking disgusting when i think about it. im afraid that he will make people believe that i am lying and nothing really happened and that everyone will see me different or nothing will change at all.. it really sucks and i dont think that i'll be ever brave enough to say something.
'Till it happens to you, you don't know how it feels' That really spoke to me when everyone was saying that they understand and that I should calm down. This happened to me when I was 11. It stills shakes me and I am so happy that she is laying in bed so guilty because of what she did.
“Why didn’t you report it?” I was only a kid and it took me years to realize what had actually happened and by then it was too late. I figured no one would believe me so i suffered in silence.
@@user-kk9re8sm5d I am so so sorry. I know that doesn't mean very much, but you don't ever deserve to be disrespected and harmed. Please know that you have the power to change things. It may not feel like it, I know, but you do and I really really REALLY hope you have people willing to help. You can break the chain. You can heal yourself. I offer my help in any way, but I don't know how much that's worth, considering I'm just an internet stranger, but I will do the best I can. Meanwhile, I hope you find a way to make it through the day.
I’ve read through a lot of these comments and I never new that rape was such a common thing and I think I speak for everyone when I say it’s not alright. It’s never happened To me but I’m so sorry if it’s happened to you.
Most of my friends were, and I'm an empath. I can feel other people's pain, whether physical or emotional, around them. So when i was told the stories, I suffocated on the pain they felt as much as they did. I haven't been through it myself, and I pray I never will, but I understand more than I ever thought I would.
Its happen to almost my whole family of girls it happens to almost all girls (guys too just I haven't heard many stories but they are as important as us girls story's!!!l
When I was a child and disclosed to my mother, I was told that it happens to everyone and the conversation was over. It has happened so many different times over so many years. It does not have to happen to everyone. It will NEVER happen to my two boys. To be fair, my mother only was doing what her mother had done. That generational curse is BROKEN.
My ex husband used to moleste me while we were dating and I never did anything "because it's what couples do" he would practically rape me when we were married "because we're married it's not a problem" I felt completely trapped. But my current husband has helped me see I was in a toxic relationship. That's why he's my ex husband. I just hope he doesn't treat his current wife like he did me.
Same, he tried many times and succeeded once. He would verbally abuse me, manipulate me, and gaslight me. He convinced me everything was my fault and I had to apologize with sex or a blow job. Then we broke up and my own best friend did the same to me even though he knew what I went through. He would get me drunk and have sex with me. I don't think anyone believes me anymore because it's happened so many times. I'm worried people will think I am trying to get attention but I'm not. I can't sleep. I can't even live without reliving everything.
How could anyone dislike this??? It draws attention to a problem in today's society and it is not limited to the US. Sexual Assault is a terrifying ordeal for anyone to go through and I would not wish it on my worst enemy. Survivors Stay Strong and LIVE your LIFE ENOUGH.
People that don't believe that this stuff happens. People who don't believe that those traumatizing things happen to other people and say "you're just doing this for attention". They dislike this.
To all the other survivors: We know what you went through. We know how you feel. We believe you. We love you. We are here for you. We will be with you. Always.
It's so heartwarming to see that one song, one song has moved so many people including myself. In the comments people are telling their stories, people are supporting each other and that's beautiful. I'm only 12 and I won't really be taken seriously but this video is the most beautiful thing I have ever seen.
{ •••Aleena••• } You're only 12 - oh my goodness!?! The reason I'm saying that is because you're actually more mature and understanding than people who are 3 times your age!!! What you wrote is beautiful and you're the exact type of person our future needs, and someone who can really stand up and make a difference - and I pray to God that you do!!! I have nieces and nephews that are around your age and I don't think that they would be allowed to watch or listen to this, but I think that's also sad cuz unfortunately, it is a part of the reality of what is happening - which does not depend on gender, age, race, etc!!! I'm so glad you can/could see how beautiful this song is, and that this song arms you with the knowledge, protection, and the kind of shield that one needs to stand up and make the difference that you can make!!! Never forget that!!! You are beyond smart and intelligent because you are aware the truths in this world, that unfortunately happen - which are not that person's fault - but make them feel like it is anyway!!! (Sorry I was just very emotionally moved by your comment - in a good way, that is realistic!!!)
First of all, your comment did way more than just make my day - cuz It's so above and beyond that!!! and I know that it means a lot to other people, as well as myself and you, making me more than happy because you're totally aware of both good and not good realities of this world, and people's actions and behaviors!!! I feel like the purpose of your life is so clear - which, of course - is to help others!!! So I hope that you pursue that to its full and greatest potential - because like I said in my previous comment - you have the ability, and the determination, courage, and mindset not to be sheltered or unaware of what's really happening - whether it's on a college campus, in your own house, or by ANYONE!!! I pray you never stop being a supportive person cuz your voice that can make a difference and allow others to realize what you already know by helping them and people who have been through this or other types of serious trauma!!! Sorry if I'm repeating myself but I'm Blown Away in a good positive way by your super mature realization!!! There are a lot VERY IMPORTANT issues that are kind of being swept under the rug - so that others don't have to face full reality! !!
According to psychology, there is a higher percentage of men being a victim of sexual assault than women. I, myself, I am a woman, also a victim of rape and now I am pregnant with his/their child. I am tired fighting with all of these battles but i need to keep going everyday because of this little human inside me. I know it hurts but we need to be stronger than yesterday.
@@sturg1853 i don't want to. he/she have nothing to do with this. this baby is just so innocent. i will love her/him even thought without her/his father. Even she/he comes unexpectedly and in that kind of situation. It is not enough reason for me to do that.
@@cln-ns2ci well whatever, conceiving a child from rape is automatically abortion in most eyes. I even knew a girl that had to abort twice, having the blood of a degenerate flowing through your future child's veins might come back to bite you in the ass.
the expression she makes at 1:37 completely defines how i felt. horror, disgust, confusion, it really puts the feeling of 'i didn't know how it would feel until it happened to me' into an expression
@@oliviagunda9914 BIBLE calls us all to be real, sober minded souls, who live holy lives on earth. BIBLE calls nor expect nobody to be: - religious of any kind - monk - nun BIBLE expect us to turn our LACK OF KNOWLEDGE into KNOWLEDGE OF TRUTH (HOSEA 4:6) Each human life on earth: - repent - BORN AGAIN and GO AND SIN NO MORE - be baptised in HOLY SPIRIT /THE COMFORTER - LIVE HOLY = soul, after earthly death in HEAVEN. Easy logic, asks no degree in anything. Bible calls us to give out RIGHTEOUS JUDGMENT, no to keep our mouth shut and support everything with blind eyes and deaf ears. See no evil, speak no evil and hear no evil - that old saying, it belongs to masons, am I right again? The vow of silence of theirs. SOULS, dare to read and study BIBLE (KJV) and search about FREEMASONRY.
i'm a csa survivor. i wasn't raped but i was touched in private parts when i was 7. this song helps me with healing. Gaga, thank you for writing this song. it means a lot to me and any other survivors.
ZebraManYouSuck she didn't make the video so she can stop the rapers, she made it for those people who can be potential victims and aware them even more about rape that's all :)
+Mehdii Laghzaoui What point is she informing on? Is she informing on the fact that men and only men rape women and only women? Is she informing on the point that women are more likely to get raped at college than not? Is she informing on the point that women aren't responsible for their own safety? Because that's what this video is suggesting. And those are all lies. She is saying nothing new or insightful, she is playing on women's fear for attention. It is an extremely old trick, and very many people are falling for it. Imagine if she swapped the genders in this video? THAT might actually be new or insightful. Or informative.
Obvious pseudonym we are aaall aware that men rape boys small ones young old and women with all kind there r even some sickos who violate 'animals' and bestiality stuff, but when she focuses the lights on what happens in the educational system, what lays behind ever rooms door, if the women who are potential future director or managers or any successful job they could have is actually raped in the place she goes to learn and to practice what could define her lifes path forever THEN everything will fail, it is bad that people are raped, it is bad for everyone, but it is worse for someone who's building their future.
I was 9 I didnt know what i was doing on social media I trusted him He threatened me I Gave him photos. He tricked me. No one deserves this You're a survivor You're strong Your story matters.
There are so many of us. It's easier than ever to share a photo or video, and find yourself threatened or blackmailed. We can never blame ourselves - only live, learn, and share from our experiences. Bless your soul. I hope you are well and never stop spreading your message. I'll be doing the same. We are in it together. Thank you for sharing.
Did anything happen to them? That’s more than just an assault it’s child material out online I hope that it was all handled and stopped and taken down I send you love and healing ❤️
"Why didn't you report it?" "he was my boyfriend and they believed him. Even my on father believed him." I was 17. I'm now 45 and been living with HIV since. He was never convicted, but killed a car accident. Karma will and does come around.
same thing happened. my boyfriend was 16 and i was 14, i didn't want to have sex yet because we were only together for a short amount of time. never really told anyone besides friends and none of my family knows besides maybe my sister
Your comment has me crying because I was about to share one the exact same as this. I am so sorry. The pain is incomparable, healing is even harder. I love you wherever you are, I hope you find peace xx
I'm a boy and was raped by an older girl when I was only young. I've been embarrassed of it my whole life because I thought I did something wrong and people would be disgusted in me but now I feel comfortable telling people. It wasn't my fault and I'm in know way ashamed to tell my story to my friends. Thank you Lady Gaga for this song, you have always been there for me when I've been at my worse. I hope I can meet you in person to tell you this one day. -Alex
Poor Gaga no one even cares to even see her video's now ... Only 866,644 views in 24 hours is pathetic for a so called big star = Gaga's time in music has come and gone.
As much as I absolutely salute Lady Gaga for making music about this I just want to say to whoeever needs to hear this: rape doesn't always look like how this video portrays and you don't need to have tried to fight off your rapist for it not to be rape. There's fight or flight but most of the time victims of rape freeze and appease as a trauma response. And that's OK. Sending you all big hugs and solidarity.
Freeze makes it even harder to talk about because you feel like no one will understand. You feel like you don't have a right to grieve the loss of your virginity, the loss of your innocence. You end up hating yourself because you didn't fight. Over and over in your mind the scene replays and you scream "NO! Get off of me!" You learn self defense, kick boxing, and you try to let it go. To move on. But you can't move on until you give yourself permission to grieve your loss. That admit that it was wrong and it actually wasn't your fault. That rape is about stealing something precious from a valuable person.
I didn’t even realize I had been sexually abused until I was 17. I wish people better understood how hard it is to tell even one person. Thank you Gaga.
Maddie Etzel I was sexually asalted when I was 5 and didn’t realize till I was 11. I’ve never told anyone but plan on telling my best friend tonight. Edit: I ended up not telling him :/
Only people who know what happened too me is my mom sister and best friend and my stepdad and the worst part is that my stepbrother was the one who did it
I thought it was my fault for 8 years. I was and still sort of am the person who believes that feeling guilt for being hurt is ridiculous and absurd and that you have to tell someone as soon as it happens and know in your gut that it's not your fault. But when I think about what happened to me, how long I stayed silent, the guilt and shame i felt, i realized you can't judge people for holding back. You really can't know till it happens to you.
You can't just "shake it off", but you can try to help yourself and replace the treatment towards your body, starting with yourself. Your body deserves love, genuine caresses, felt hugs, you don't have to feel this pain on you. You can share it. You can talk, you can be alone whenever you want, and you can, no, HAVE TO surround yourself with real people, not Monsters.
I read several comments and many people don't understand. Let me try and explain. This video is for the song Til It Happens To You, which was written for the documentary The Hunting Ground, about sexual assault on college campuses. In the film, both women and men talk about being assaulted and how colleges are failing to address the issue. Contrary to what many comments here say, the video and the film (which apparently some haven't watched before criticizing) aren't anti-male in any way; the fact is that the vast majority of rape is committed by men, against women and other men. The video clearly depicts this. FYI, feminists aren't anti-male, they speak out against rape period, no exceptions. I identify as a feminist myself and it just so happens that I'm a male; so people don't make this about slandering feminism. This song was co-written and is performed by Lady Gaga and just in case you aren't aware, she is a survivor of sexual assault herself. Please watch The Hunting Ground and get involved.
God I feel you i still havent said anything because he was my uncle and i though i had done something wrong to deserve it. I was 11 and he was 37 I couldn't stop shaking
@@unamdiamond1543 For reallll. When someone is robed police officers don't say "you should've hidden you valuable stuff" i something happens it's the perpetrators fault, unless it's rape or assault, then it's finding excuses time!
A lot of prayers are required cause sometimes a victim has hatred and desires others to go through which just keeps them in the cycle of being a victim cause of karma. Or wishing unto others so grab a bible a lot of prayers and of learning Gods laws.
I’ll never forget that moment when my brother came into my room with blood all over his face/clothes. His eyes were so lifeless. He was raped by a girl and then beat by a hammer. He didn’t want me to tell anyone because of how embarrassed he would be, I was with him when he told our parents, I’ve never seen my father cry that hard. Sexual assault is nothing to joke about! My brother is going through counseling with other men who have also been raped. So far I can his eyes coming back to life.
You are not at fault because of your abuse you never did anything to deserve that. That is negative thinking and it leads to nowhere good in your life! NO ONE DESERVES ABUSE!!!!
Let this spark the eternal rage in you. Connect with people. Be in solidarity. Stand up for each other. Stand up for yourselves. You have never been alone. This is a systemic issue. But together we can fight it.
“Why do you always wear baggy clothes?” “She dresses like a boy” There’s a reason for that.but you wouldn’t know that because you’re quick to judge someone you don’t know
I know how is...isn't easy, but just have faith, always I'm saying to myself "your faith have to be greater than your fear". You are a strong person. You not gonna forget that, but you will accept that.
Very real, sometimes unbearable, bad dreams ,nightmares, but I'm here, 50 years later I'm still fighting, surviving,winning. Always here for anyone that needs help.❤❤❤
I’m so sorry Megan. I know I’m just a stranger but that’s beyond messed up. If I were one of your friends, I would have hugged you and supported you and been there for you 24/7.
I am sorry you didn’t get the support you needed from the people you needed the most during a traumatic event. That is beyond awful. You are worthy of love and support. You didn’t deserve this
+Iván Espinal she's definitely not a flop, this is something emotional and real she talked about. Sorry that she's not throwing her body around like Demi Lovato but this is real life
The fact that it’s still happening 8 years later shows not much has changed 😢 We think we have evolved so much and that we shouldn’t have to still be fighting this fight. But the fact is there are still people who think they have the right to take something that isn’t theirs to take. Evil is all around us, now more than ever. Stay safe ❤
This has never happend to me, but with my boyfriend 3 times. One when he was a child (his grandpa), second when a teenager (his uncle) and then last year (uber). So, just because we are gay we like these things? No one deserves that. These things destroyed him.
oh God please send all of my positive vibes to your boyfriend. I hate the thought that because og LGBT discrimination that he couldn't report all of this. I honestly pray he can get justice when he is ready. Honestly it breaks my heart/makes me sick thinking people genuinely believe that gay men can't be r-ped and abused. I'm Pansexual but also an Ally. I really want you guys to work through this xx
Being abused by Father is the worst trauma one can go through and you survived this. I can't tell you and even you don't know how strong you are. You deserve to heal. You never did anything wrong nor were you at fault to go through so much suffering.. God loves you a lot. Stay strong.
I’m not understanding your comment. I’m not against it, it’s just that your wording was confusing. So from 6 to 27...you said nothing to anyone about it, right? I’m guessing because you were too scared & that you’d get blamed, right? Is that what you’re saying in your comment?
I'm 16 but at the time I was 15 when I first remembered. I was in Spanish class and out of nowhere got a flashback of my bio dad's friends roommate raping me at age 6 in the bathroom. I remember him saying my birth name over and over and how my body moved and his hand covering my mouth. I broke down in tears instantly and immediately left class and spent the period crying and hoping it wasn't true.
Anybody who can go through that and survive is stronger than I ever could be. People who go through that and dont let what happened control the rest of their life honestly baffle me. Anybody who reads this and needs to hear this. You are strong. I can't promise that it will get better, but I can say that I admire your strength. Even if you struggle, even if your depressed, even if you have trauma, even if you can never move past it. What you've gone through and survived already shows me that you are amazing. Try your best to keep going. I hope you can find people irl that support you the way you deserve.
I said "find where you may have", and for a child rape victim I would say that you can not learn how to better protect yourself from that. My comment was meant for adults obviously. I just don't like the mentality that rape victims tend to have of " nothing I do matters, I'll be raped anyway", because everything you do matters, including who you trust, or who you trust with your kids, or your friend's kids, or your young nieces and nephews, etc. I'm not simply victim blaming here, I'm trying to be constructive and encourage a preventative mindset, rather than a fatalist one.
But you wouldn't need to watch your back with if people didn't rape. So therefore all blame is on the rapist. It's like saying a person is at fault for dying from cancer. They shouldn't have got it. Lol
I get blamed every day. I was 15 at the time it happened. I'm 18 now and i can still feel him on top of me. I felt so helpless, especially when his friends called me a "stupid whore" for trying to turn him in. I was accused for putting in a "false" rape charge by his friends. My tiny 15 year old virgin self had no idea what was going on. All i knew was I didn't want it. He's still out there today.
I’m scared no one will believe me. I’m just 14. (It’s been a year and I’ve told my family, I’m still scared that they don’t believe me but I’ve learned to live with it, I’m not brave but others are, get help and report those disgusting people)
I believe you. If you need someone to talk to who understands what you are going through, aftersilence.org is a forum for survivors and is anonymous and helped me tremendously through my trauma. Whether you need advice, or just someone to hear your story without judgement. It does get better. You can get through this. And someone will believe you.
I believe you, find someone that you trust and know that will believe you....for me it was my grandmother, I finally brave enough to tell her after the years of being asulted. Trust me you will find a little peace after you tell someone. 💖💖💖
I was 16, in the hospital after I had just finished trying to commit suicide...for another unrelated reason that I won't mention. doctor: have you ever experienced any physical, emotional, or sexual abuse? at that moment, my heart started to race...I remembered something, but what was it? me: *nods my head yes* but slowly...I lowered my head because I was ashamed...why did I feel ashamed? it wasn't my fault... my mother: *looking at me* ...who? me: I dont wanna talk about it right now her: you're lying then, you never told me me: okay I'll talk to you about it later her: omg you should've told me *rolls her eyes at me* like mom...I was 4. I didn't even know what the fuck was going on, but luckily my brain new it was a dangerous experience and pushed it to the back of my mind to protect me...but after that question finally arose 12 years later, I've never been the same since... and I never expected someone that claims they love me to respond with anger as if...it was my fault? she was acting as if I hurt her... I told my family who it was. they literally said "yeah right"...my brother laughed when I told him it was his best fucking friend. you know, the guy you brought to your house every day to play video games? yeah, when you weren't around, he'd play with your little sister. I tell myself they only laughed it off because they felt guilty but still...laugh? to my mother, I'm her daughter, I'm a sister to my brother, a little one at that. 8 years apart. but when I tell them I was sexually assaulted, they say "yeah right"? I didn't really know what to do after that...after my brother laughed and walked away and my mother just stood there, telling me I should've said something and this all could've been avoided and they could've caught him blahblahblah...I had never felt so helpless and alone in my entire life. I am 21 years old now and I think about this still, at least once a day. thank you, Stefani...I am not alone and I'm glad that if I told you, at least you would believe me. #metoo
ペレスアジア I Believe you You are not the cause of what happened to you, these traumas May never leave you, there will be times that you will be overcome with sadness. That is normal, there’s no such thing as “get over it” or “it will be fine.” The truth is that it won’t, it’s the harsh truth and people cover life in fairy tales like it will be alright. You will be sad in life, you may never be able to move on. The best thing is to just accept what happened, accept its a permanent scar, and use the experience to make you stronger. To make a difference, help relate to others and use your strength till it happens to us....well what about after it happens? Do we just give up? No, we march on, to victory or defeat, we never surrender. Cause there’s some good in this world, and it’s worth fighting for :) YOU! Are worth fighting for! :) God bless you Our spirits may bend but we will never break!
Your story sounds so much like mine. My mother only started believing me after I told her the same story repeatedly for 20 years! I hope you can find some peace. You are believed. You are loved. We hear and see you ❤
@@lucindarenfro1708 same here, at 14 i was sexually assaulted by my brother a couple of times, his girlfriend sat and watched. i told my family, nothing was done. years later at 17 i accidentally told the school councilor and they reported it. i told the officer everything, my family lied. blamed it on my epilepsy.
This song is such an inspiration. Full support to all the survivors. We see you, we believe in you and we hear you. Thank you Lady Gaga for being so involved on issues that matter a lot.
Maggie I don’t know if this means anything but I’ve written a little something for you. 🙂 Listen to me. Alright? Please just listen my friend. YOUR NOT POINTLESS. Let that sink in alright? Take those words in right now close your eyes and remember those words. “Your not pointless.” Because it’s true and I know right now you don’t believe me cause your afraid. I know you are, but that’s okay. It’s ok to be afraid. Fear is a superpower, it can make you stronger, faster. You can truly do anything you set your mind to. But even more than that you have powers you could never even dream of you can do things amazing things. I have got your back. Please don’t give up. Right now life is harsh, hard, difficult in so many ways and it is hard to see a clear answer to all this mess! It feels like sinking in a swamp. My friend committed suicide, she thought that no one loved her, thought everyone hated her and that she had no purpose. Please, don’t do this. Even tho it’s difficult to see, if you allow your mind to settle, if you focus hard on a goal, it will become clear. I know you’ve got no reason to trust me I’m just a stranger. Maybe don’t trust me, trust my words. We may lose the battles in our lives but you must never lose the battle of your soul. Your spirit may bend but never break, your soul may twist but you will never snap. I believe in you. God bless you truly, Godspeed. A new time is dawning. You can become who you really are! Find out your true potential to change the world! No surrender! You can do this, not tomorrow Not next year NOW I believe in you I believe in you I believe in you And soon you Will believe in YOU God BLESS you You know I got bullied every week for 3 years bashed up in the streets. I tried fighting back I never gave up. I was sent to hospital with an engraved face I was so ashamed of my defeat against those bullies. But I won’t give up. I know I can make a difference, I know that everyone who suffers like I did, and have gone through more, can do anything. Because anything is possible. Anything is possible. God bless u
This happened to a friend of mine. He raped her in the old school building, and when she got up the courage to go report it with my support..... nothing happened. They said they couldnt do anything because he was disabled (apparently the mentality of a 9 yr old at 17, she was 14). Shes tried to kill herself 7 times in the last 2 years. They called her a liar.
Xeria II my friend experienced similar. She was raped in a basement for 3 years and raped at school following that. I helped her and tried to make her feel better and for 2 years we became very close. But eventually she committed suicide despite my efforts.
@@asherpikesgoldenmoralcinem5770 I'm sorry for your loss :( my friend and I have now lost connection due to her being bad for my own horrible mental health, but shes still alive. Struggling, but alive. No one deserves to go through it.
"Why didn't you report it?" Because he was my producer and threatened to burn my career. It aches to see Mother Monster cry and retell her story again.... but I know many people who take it as inspiration and hopefully change their destiny and confront their past. #THEMEYOUCANTSEE
People ask me that all the time and it happened to me in the 3rd grade after he did it he threatened me by saying to me forcefully that he would do the same to my sister who was in the 4th grade at the time
it doesn't matter if they were wearing something revealing it doesn't matter if they were flirting with you it doesn't matter if they were your s/o, it doesn't matter if you were in love it doesn't matter if they didn't say 'no' clothes, flirting, love and silence are not reasons for your disgusting actions. sexual assault is sexual assault and SILENCE IS NOT CONSENT
@@halfasleep7331 You shouldnt do anything unless you hear them say yes or give any verbal consent. If someone doesnt say no.. Or says nothing, they could be in shock or scared. Silence is not consent
@Sakura Cherry okay but like its not their fault if they lie about it smh, my friends ex gf said yes then later on said she didnt want to do it. Like tf
This song brings tears to my eyes every time. I may have never been a victim to sexual assault, but I feel sympathy for all who have. It’s bringing tears to my eyes just thinking about it. None of you “deserved it” or “had it coming.” I really hope that your wounds will heal and that the pain will lessen. I know it may never go away, but I hope and I pray for each and every victim that it gets better. I also hope that whoever inflicted this kind of pain on you, is somewhere, praying, begging, for forgiveness that they do not deserve.
anna antilla You and I are the same. I had a family member who was raped, and I have two male friends who were as well. Never personally happened, but I've seen their struggles and have helped them walk through it.
Thank You. It feels BETTER whenever someone acknowledges us and recognize recovery for what it is. We can finally stop blame ourselves so much for the unfortunate atrocities committed against us. My mother never fought for me or protected me. This song is the closest thing to justice most of us might ever receive. Thanks Lady GAGA.
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I'm reading the comment section and crying... So many broken souls... People, stay strong, please! Sending you all my love!!!
Love the support
its hard to stay strong but trust me I'm trying everyday and failing everyday.
@@sophiealenaa I believe in you!it'll be better ❤️
@@Milky__Way_ thank you I just wish I could feel the same, but it does mean a lot to have someone believe in me.
Что ухудашет ситуацию, так это то, что многие из них пишут, что не заявили. Преступник остался ненаказанным.
И ладно, если это дети. Но взрослые блин. И тут же жалуются, что в этом обвиняют жертв.
Да обвиняют. Этим молчанием они помогают ублюдкам.
This message is so important and I am glad there are big artists that aren't afraid to put it out front and make us listen.
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you're such an amazing person Chris! Im glad you appreciate the message as much as I do 💖💖
+SupDaily06 :D
+Iggy Izzys One in five women get sexually assaulted, they never said anything about 1 in 5 women getting raped or that women are the only victims. Still, most of the sexually assaulted victims are female, that's a fact. But yeah, I forgot: Feminists are making everyhing up, sexual assaults are no serious issues and men suffer a lot more in our terrible society that is trying to make white, heterosexual men not the alpha leaders of evertyhing. Horrible, right?
+Simba G I think you don't understand the basis of feminism
I was told that men can’t be raped or sexually assaulted, they told me to get over it and that I would be fine. I couldn’t even look at myself in the mirror after he did what he did to me. I hated myself for so long. I still have issues with it, but I’m slowly starting to love myself again.
I hope you are doing OK x
How are you feeling now? 💗
Glad to hear it stay strong we are here to stand together through are dark past and help eachother build love and acceptance for ourselves
Heyy. Its not your fault. Please dont hate yourself.. :( im sorry for what happend to you
You are amazing ❤️❤️❤️
Stay strong!
This song can hold so many meanings to so many different people.
The fact remains, that no one can ever understand another individuals struggle... until it happens to them.
This song brings me to tears every time.
I escorted my son today to talk to detectives about being sexually assaulted 7 years ago. I'm proud of him. Please pray for him as well, he's hurting and processing everything all over again now, and I can't take away that hurt.
God bless you for believing him and trying to do something. I'm almost ashamed to say that because it should be an automatic response from a parent but so many times it isn't.
You did a good thing that most parents rarely do.
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I am so proud of him too!!! From the bottom of my heart, I feel so much love for him. I am so sorry he's had to suffer this. And I'm sorry you're having to also. You're in my prayers.
I am so sorry for what happened to your son. You are being an amazing patent for being there for your son and taking his assault seriously
To everyone struggling with something whether it is sexual abuse, depression, or anything in between, I believe you. I love you. You are so strong. I know you'll get through this.
@Delaney Parker I know it's hard ...💔💔💔💔 I love you ....💜💜💜
Right on Annie! Great post.
Thank you for this I really needed this.
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Annie Chipps I love you too ❤️
This song got me to realize how strong I really am. Been through sexual abuse, rape, physical abuse, and emotional abuse. I used to beat myself up all the time for what I gone through, choices I made that got me in those predicaments; I chose drug abuse, and alcoholism to cope, only to follow the same cycle again. I have contemplated suicide, have asked people if I could "borrow" their guns, for "hunting" purposes or "practice" when in reality, pulling the trigger on myself sounded like a dream to the nightmare I was living. When Gaga came out with this song, it took me a year to even want to listen to it. When I finally did, I cried, because for once, I felt understood, I felt like I could open up, I felt like I could breathe again. Recovery from abuse, drug use, alcoholism, torment never gets any easier, but I realized I became stronger, mentally stronger. My husband knows I'm not easy to deal with, he knows my outbursts, knows, when I'm in that dark place, I'm not me. He understands why I'm not affectionate, but he still lets me know he loves me. Always will.
When I say Lady Gaga saved my life, I really mean it. This song alone saved my life. If I ever had a chance to meet you, the first words to her I would say is Thank you for giving me a second chance of life. To Stephanie G. Thank you.
You just made me cry. How fucking strong you are. I'm so glad you found your husband who accepts you as you are and that you made it through this time...
I have been through similar and just want you to know I hear, see and believe you. You deserve love and I hope you're healing well.
Your story gave hope to everyone we all with you😊😊😊😊😊
Beat the trauma cycle. Uproot and bloom
Thank you for sharing
I'm a 22 year old man. It happened twice. When I was 7, my own father. When I was 15, my first boyfriend. I will never recover from it. I hate it when people tell me I'll be fine, that I'll get over it, or accuse me of lying because I'm a guy. This stuff ruins lives. People don't just "get over" being assaulted. This song hurts and heals at the same time. Thank you, for speaking about this. People do not want to believe us victims, they don't want to listen, so thank you for making them listen.
I'm a genderfluid 20yo female. My father, at 14, and my third and last boyfriend at 19. I felt my heart break reading this, not only because of the similiarities, but also the gender inequality that is in this. I really, really hate when people gaslightes men over abuse. Like, really, what the fuck are you talking about, get a grip.
Those are people who don't deserve a single glance from you, or anybody. Those are literally the worst. But hey, until it happens to them.
I would never wish someone to experience this, but my rage is building up.
I really hope that you at least escaped all of that.
I'm not here to tell you that you will "just be fine". I'm here to wish you all the best and a healthy path towards recovery, freedom and happiness. I'm with you man.
I haven’t gotten over the four months of sexual assault I had received from a classmate in school when I was 15. No one ever told me it wasn’t my fault and when I refused to talk about what had happened, they said that I was “fine” and misunderstood it was just a joke or something like that. And when I started to show signs of PTSD and using extreme avoidance techniques to make sure no one could ever touch me without my permission ever again, they said it was my fault and I was doing it for attention.
@@kenthuang436 it is not your fault, you did nothing wrong, stay strong , it takes time to heal, I’m sorry for what you’ve been through
@@sherimourThe worst part is that the school psychologist even blamed me. I still have a paper she wrote about me where she said that all of the bullying and also my fear of certain classmates were of my own doing. I mean what kind of woman whose job is to try to help kids would say such a thing to a kid she knows was sexually assaulted because the kid who did it was punished lightly the first and only time the school knew about it and was showing very obvious signs of trauma and hyper vigilance because they were afraid of being sexually assaulted again since it kept happening for months?
I’m reading Y’all comments and want to say I believe you. I believe all of you and I am so sorry. I prayed for you even if you don’t believe (that’s okay). I love you and I wish you all healing, happiness, support and love. 🖤
Thank you so much. I don’t know you but you seem so lovely. And this really brought a tear to my eye, even though I hardly ever cry. No one else would believe me, so thank you. I wish happiness for you too, I hope you have a great day. You deserve the world
@@xo_lexie of course Darling! 🖤 Thank you so much. This world is a cruel place but there still love out here. You also have a great day and continue to wish you nothing but the best and love! 💜💜
@Brianna Morgan 💜💜💜 Of course
@@xo_lexie I hope you fine happiness and joy in you life
Tnx for believing, I lied. Haha got em!
It's sort of funny how people say they want pop stars and singers to sing "real stuff" but when GaGa releases a song like this, it's talked about but it doesn't chart that high and gets no radio play.
+Martha Redfield and songs about meaningless love and cough netflix and chill- they get all the attention. so annoying.
+Martha Redfield this won an award
because no one wants to face what's happening to our young women. we're a first world country we shouldn't be having these problems right? I was sitting in the library at my college campus and in a study room where groups have priority. these guys were in there at first they were watching porn on their laptops then it went to looking at female students online. they were describing her breasts but saying vulgar things and one was describing her vagina and what it was like. outraged I told them I was here for a education and reported it to the librarian. she actually asked me to leave and told me boys will be boys. Now I've been through worse I was also assaulted but my point is its so bad that rape culture its even apparent in the smallest form were you can even get introuble for reporting behavior that is a precursor to assault. I should be able to go to my library without hearing about how they dehumanized another human being. That unfortunately isn't what really going on. We all saw the cat call video of the woman walking down the street in New York city. People just don't want to face up to what has happened.
+Martha Redfield It doesn't get radio play because it's not a "Gaga" song. In order for it to play on the radio it has to be released from her album as a single, but this song is actually for a film called "The Hunting Ground" so there won't be radio play through her. (something like that, I don't know exactly how it works but I know when it comes to radio play there's specific criteria involved)
Andres wrong!!! Any song that is solicited to radio by a record company can get airplay. Album tracks can get unsolicited airplay..it happens all the time..it just debuted at #30 on adult contemporary radio this week..
"Why didn't you tell someone"
It was my father. The same person who told me it was normal. I was twelve.
I feel bad omg
At 12 you still believed it was normal?
@@Blueboy1144 stop victim blaming. its 2021.
@@Blueboy1144 of course! you're a kid! you'll believe what your parents tell you, no matter what the rest of the world does. i believed things my parents said till i was 28. it's very hard to think differently when you've always heard one thing.
@@umchileanywaysso3780 This guy is a disgusting troll. He's been rude in other comment sections.
I was sexually assaulted 3 or 4 years ago, it’s a changing event that effects the person on a daily basis. People don’t realize the trauma of what it’s like to be in our shoes. Lady Gaga is truly amazing and inspiring to me. To the survivors out there; stay strong and don’t ever give up hope.
@@oliviagunda9914 it’s okay with me.
@@dunwoodie27Thank you, so how do I reach you? Any social media platform that you are comfortable with.
Don't listen to them it could be a dangerous trap
I was sexually assaulted the first time in front of others and no one told me my rights or that it wasn’t my fault. After that the assaults kept happening every time I turned around and when I became too afraid to be in that class and refused to move away from the wall because I knew no one could assault me if I never turned around, they blamed me for doing this for attention.
To all of the warriors out there:
I see you.
I hear you.
I believe your story.
Thanks. You are a wonderful person 💕
Thank you 😭❤️
💕
Thank you
2019 and I still believe this song deserved the oscar for best original song
Shallow win
roma trend definitely. When she performed it I lost it and couldn’t stop crying for an hour.
I only found this song because I was searching, I really DIDN'T hear this song anywhere
It has 22 million views, but I still don't think it reaches enough people. Why is her other music more popular than this? This is a song that I've listened to over and over, and it doesn't get old at all - I feel it everytime.
+NANCAY WANG this song is not an official single thats why the number of views is not really high
+NANCAY WANG Because people is so superficial. There is good music and strong social musical messages out there, but usually they don´t get to be heard by many people.
+EarthenImage That's rich! This is not a strategy for anything and falls along the lines of a GROWING concern and ACTION BY the U.S. Government to look into the issue of sexual assault on campuses. It wasn't meant to be released with anything else... it was a power ballad FOR THIS CAUSE! It's obvious to me you missed the point!
+NANCAY WANG me too i complitly agree with u
+NANCAY WANG its called lack of promotion
I was 4. Still just a child. He took my innocence from me. He still hasn't been found or prosecuted. I am now 21. To all the other survivors, you are STRONG! You are BRAVE! You are SEEN! I see you, and I share your pain
I feel your pain. I was 3 years old when it happened to me. My parents and sister believed me when I spoke at 7 years old. The rest of the family called me a liar. It's the last time I talked about something that was hurting me.
@@msanna4 I'm so sorry that happened to you, I hope you are doing okay ❤
i was 4.... and still no one has believed me after 7 years and the people who did it still deny me the sad part of it is there my family.....
@@msanna4 We love you
@@MyNameIsMissMe How am I attention seeking? Don't bother commenting if you can't say anything nice!
I'm a survivor and my mom is also a survivor. I would prefer to not share my story because I was only 13 when it happened. I sadly did not get justice. The nightmares and the memories still have not gone away. I'm still upset, frightened and angry that no one believed me. Instead every thought I was promiscuous and wanted it to happen. But it scares me that 19k people even disliked this video. It makes me question are they okay with this happening? It makes me lose hope in trusting people/ dating anyone. I applaud everyone in the comment section who has opened up about their story. I hear you. I believe you. I care about you.
Try to understand that this video can give a extremely visceral reaction. Possibly, the guilt of some people who've crossed the line & the guilt that fills them. Same with someone who's never experienced harassment or assault, but, possibly knew something about someone else & stayed silent. Then, there are those that were victimized & still cannot deal with it at all. This video is a painful reminder that brings their pain to the surface & they believe they just cannot deal... Period! So, they find this video abhorrent. I do appreciate it, but, I now feel sick to my stomach in this moment. It brings my demons to the surface. I'm old now, 55, it's been 40 yrs since I was continually assaulted from a young child to teen. I can imagine that if it's affected me this way, there are those that haven't had yrs to deal & find peace in their lives. Try to understand & sympathize that not everyone is ready to face this...
Society as a whole doesn't understand the impact the whole thing causes. While everyone's experiences are different, it is never okay, or justified. I'm sorry you weren't believed, sometimes that is a really harsh reality. I believe you, I hope you are somewhat on the road to recovery, whatever that maybe.
We care about you too!❤
I 100% understand you dont want to be public but if you need someone I'm here, I'm 13 and was 12 when it happened to me
I have nightmares about what happened to me and they are literally the worst. Im still here, ive faced the challenges and i will continue to face them
"Why didn't you tell anybody?"
He was my therapist, no one believed me. They said I was lying.
Mikayla Sings don’t give up. I know you’ve probs got no reason to listen to me but I’ve written a little something for you.
I really want you to know that your not just an object that can be used by other people. Your a living human being with a soul and a heart.
I had a friend who was raped many times, she committed suicide...you can’t give up, you can’t give in to the darkness in this world you have to be the light. You have to believe in yourself and believe that you can go on.
Learn to feel the strength within yourself. The hands and feet you control, your very sight and your mind, it is YOU. And you have complete control over your future, your destiny. You have power, you have strength. You have no limits to your strength.
Many troubles and hard times will beat against us, many failures, many times we will doubt ourselves...
In life we bend but we must never break
Your spirit may twist but you must never snap
And even though we may lose the battles in our lives
You will not lose the battle in your heart
God bless you, I bless you.
The time has come to become who you were always meant to be!
Not next year
Not tomorrow
NOW⚔️
@@asherpikesgoldenmoralcinem5770 thank you so much for this. It's taken me any months to realize that I can't let this control me. Thank you ❤❤
Oh my....I am so sorry!! I believe you! Sending love...
@PurpleLiza thank you. And that's awful and I'm so sorry that happened to you. I'm here if you need someone to talk to ❤
same thing happened to me but i havent told anyone yet
This song deserved proper and better recognition. Sadly, people don't appreciate this masterpiece. ☹️
Tell me about it.
Hmm, well to understand this song you need to be a victim of sexual abuse. So maybe it's best that not many people can relate to it.
Chris DMF I mean 1 in 5 girls are sexually assaulted I’m 14 and I already know the reality that comes with being a girl when it’s rape culture. It probably wasn’t given enough attention so people could hear it.
I do and for over 30 years of my life I could of sang this to myself 💔
theres many reason firstly it depicts a side of our societies that most people just wanna sweep under a rug and pretend doesn't exist ... secondly if you haven't been there you can't really understand simple but mainly most topics of this nature get's thrown to the sides as most societies seem to still see it as a social taboo to of hear let alone speak of.. the sad harsh reality :|
As I type this, I'm in a mental health facility dedicated to helping people recover from PTSD. This song is so incredibly validating. There is no "You're ok," just "it's ok that you don't feel okay" I'm kinda sick of people telling me I'll get over it, or be stronger for it. It's really nice to have a song that just says "This sucks and that's normal"
Lady Gaga didn't win the Oscar, but:
1- She Was the most spoken Female of the Oscars.
2- Better and emotional performance of the night.
3- Trending on Twitter, Facebook, Google and Yahoo
4- Won the respect and admiration of everyone
5- TIHTY in the top 10 of iTunes USA
6- First and only artist to participate in the Super Bowl, GRAMMY and Oscars in the same year.
A true legend.
Yes she was incredible at the oscars and is an incredible person!
love your comment
cheered me up
TIHTY 😚😍
yessss. :)
All this + more and it's not even May yet...
*Why didn't you report it?*
He's family. No one would take my side.
That's so disgusting i'm so sorry justice will come one day
He's my cousin and it was long time ago and I never realised it was wrong until 1 year ago.I always thought only rape is sexual assult but its not.touching is sexual assult too
Same x
It's my dad. It's not super bad...an occasional smack on the butt but I'm a 15 year old girl. Not okay. I can relate to you. Everyone thinks my dad is a great guy.
@@allthefeelz4423 Please tell someone. There must be someone you can tell.
This is so powerful. Thank you for making this song.
Love your videos!!
+Ann Le {Anneorshine} Gaga didn't make it. A team of highly specialized writers, musicians, psychologists, producers, and marketing agents made this video. Truth.
+kingdomboost Omfg. Can you read. Ann Le said: Thank you for making this *song*
+lame awesome person 👏
+Ann Le {Anneorshine} YES!
Every single time I watch this video I cry. Every time
It should be in one of the top 10 saddest music videos
💪✌️
Hugs
Me too! It’s been 3 years and Im still trying to find me. Hes in prison! But I feel like im doing time and I didn’t even do the crime 😢
I’m here because after everyone kept on telling me how I should feel after my assault, I found the song that speaks for me. I’m crying right now- tears of joy because we are being heard. Boys and girls, let’s stand strong together!
Some people don't understand the fear and trauma of being raped or sexually assaulted.. I was diagnosed with PTSD after my ex used me...it still makes me sick to my stomach...he wouldn't let me leave..this was back in highschool and I'm 21 and to this day....it still haunts me to think about and still makes me sick...
Everyone has been through this type of hell..Idk if you have but if you did, you stayed strong and you're a legend to us ladies..but when we all go through something like that, it can leave a scar..it'll fade but won't heal
O my me too I'm sorry
“Why didn’t you report?”
Because i was a young kid, in a society which says that males have no feelings and this doesn’t happen to males.
I feel terrible for what happened to you but yes it does happen to men
Literally people this generation say all the time it happens to men. It was past generations that had this bs ideology.
That is pretty much how I was treated. No one told me or made me feel like it wasn’t my fault. The school blamed me for it and even wrote it down in a psych evaluation that everything bad that happened to me was of my “own doing.” The school didn’t separate me from my attacker or take any actions to protect me from more assaults until I was extremely terrified to go to the class where I was constantly being assaulted. It traumatized me so much that I started to self harm just to repress the memories. I lived like this for seventeen years because no one made me feel safe and that it wasn’t my fault. They all made me feel ashamed. Honestly the only person who would have supported me would have been my sister but she was away at college when it was happening and I was embarrassed, traumatized, and ashamed for it all because that’s how the school made me feel.
Jin, no, you can't blanket people like that. I'm Gen-X and am very aware that men are raped. One of the most common places for a man to be raped is in the military. 1 in 7 men have experienced sexual assault. It's a real issue, and the stigma of being victimized needs to go away for everyone...
Sexual assault is not limited to ONE type of person. Anyone can be a survivor sadly. We need to change this is society but also teach everyone that’s it’s k to show emotions. If emotions are not processed it can be very harmful.
I wasn't raped. But I support everyone who was. I want you to stay strong and to life your life in the way you always wanted. Be careful but don't be afraid. Also I am really moved by the amount of comments and people who are sharing their story. I love you all. Stay strong!❤
Dude, it’s not funny
Most of my friends were, and I'm an empath. I can feel other people's pain, whether physical or emotional, around them. So when i was told the stories, I suffocated on the pain they felt as much as they did.
I haven't been through it myself, and I pray I never will, but I understand more than I ever thought I would.
Earla Weese
Close enough. 1 in 5 women get raped every day, globally, by straight men.
Thank you that honestly made me cry idk u but ur an amazing person!
I was 14
He was 16 turning 17
I was a freshman, he was a junior
He pressured me into doing it even after I said no and stop it multiple times
Today is the day I told my mom what happened to me, it happened the day before my birthday on October 3rd of last year
To the people reading this who are also s/a survivors:
What that person did to you has *nothing* to do with your smile, your friendships, the way you look, the clothes you wear, how you do your makeup, your current relationship if you have one, and most of all it is *not your fault*
I am sorry for what happened... you are so strong and brave. Sharing your story it takes a lot of courage. You did well telling your mother, I hope you are doing ok, sending you my love 💜.
a day before my birthday too, since then I have never had the courage to celebrate my birthday because it reminds me of my trauma 😭
Thank you
I am sorry 😞 you where attached stay strong 😊
I had to repeat that to myself every day after my first day of group therapy..."it's not your fault" 🫂. Thank you. Words can't express how hurt I am that this also happened to you 😔
A little girl in my school committed a suicide because she couldn't take anymore the harassment she was victim of in her previous school.
She was 11.
Tsu Zu a friend of mine 14 years old. A girl called chloe committed suicide, she was very close to me to. I feel u
That is soulbreaking :'(
Tsu Zu dam rip sorry for the loss
OMG that is really hurt when you think about it,hope she is in a better place now
❤️
they never "had it coming". Nor was anyone ever "asking for it". If you have sex or engage in sexual activity with someone and they don't consent, it's sexual assault/rape. End of story.
^THIS
What baffles me the most is how it's so difficult for people to even understand that in the first place.
Exactly!
The dorm room scene when he walked in while she was doing her work REALLY got to me. I was like "what a fucking bastard". nobody, male or female, should have a piece of them taken away like that.
+Greenville Belle I agree
“Why didn’t you report it?” Because they didn’t believe that my dad would do that to his son
Professor Rob I don’t know if this means anything but I’ve written a little something for you. :)
Listen to me. Alright? Please just listen my friend.
YOUR NOT POINTLESS.
Let that sink in alright? Take those words in right now close your eyes and remember those words.
“Your not pointless.” Because it’s true and I know right now you don’t believe me cause your afraid.
I know you are, but that’s okay. It’s ok to be afraid.
Fear is a superpower, it can make you stronger, faster. You can truly do anything you set your mind to.
But even more than that you have powers you could never even dream of you can do things amazing things.
I have got your back.
Please don’t give up. Right now life is harsh, hard, difficult in so many ways and it is hard to see a clear answer to all this mess! It feels like sinking in a swamp. My friend committed suicide, she thought that no one loved her, thought everyone hated her and that she had no purpose. Please, don’t do this.
Even tho it’s difficult to see, if you allow your mind to settle, if you focus hard on a goal, it will become clear.
I know you’ve got no reason to trust me I’m just a stranger. Maybe don’t trust me, trust my words.
We may lose the battles in our lives but you must never lose the battle of your soul.
Your spirit may bend but never break, your soul may twist but you will never snap.
I believe in you.
God bless you truly, Godspeed.
A new time is dawning.
You can become who you really are! Find out your true potential to change the world! No surrender!
You can do this, not tomorrow
Not next year
NOW
I believe in you
I believe in you
I believe in you
And soon you
Will believe in YOU
God BLESS you
You know I got bullied every week for 3 years bashed up in the streets. I tried fighting back I never gave up. I was sent to hospital with an engraved face I was so ashamed of my defeat against those bullies.
But I won’t give up. I know I can make a difference, I know that everyone who suffers like I did, and have gone through more, can do anything.
Because anything is possible. Through the years I’ve tried to make a difference, help others like I’m trying to do now :) I even made a short film on my channel, 2 whole years of my life making it and now finally it’s out. I hope I can motivate people, and maybe you, with it. (The Kings World:Battle of the Soul) it’s called. And it’s about defeating your inner doubts and coming out on top. I know you can do just that if you believe in yourself.
Anything is possible.
I BELIEVE IN YOU! IN YOU!
Run fast, laugh hard, be kind :)
You are not alone
same happened to me when i was 19, just meeting and getting to know my biological dad. Went to visit him, he drugged me, and told me no one would believe me he would tell everyone i was lying. i tried to tell my mom but she didnt even want to hear it.
Omfg what kind of monsters are we living with I'm sorry
i believe you
To all of the survivors out there, man or women:
I see you.
I hear you.
I believe your story.
Thank you Noone ever said that to me
@@elenamartinez3340 Your Welcome. Reminder, someone out their loves you and respects you :)
+1
Thank you
This song assisted in my taking the steps I needed to take after keeping my secret to myself for 40 years. I told my mom once, and my brother who did it to me was right there. She told me I was lying. So I never said another word about it. My husband recently passed away , I never told him the whole horrible story. But thank you Lady Gaga, for giving us the right to feel the way we do. We do heal, or just put it on the back burner, and never want to bring it up up again.
Well done! So corageous.
I'm sorry about the loss of your husband. ❤💔 I hope he lived a long and comfortable life.
I’m sorry for your loss…I lost mine 8 years ago. And I’m sorry for what your brother did but mostly, for your mom not believing you. My daughter was assaulted by he bio dad (not my husband) and when she told me-I didn’t doubt her truth for a moment!
I was 3 when it began...
I love you, and I'm so proud of you! You inspire me. Thank you for sharing and leading with courage ❤
I’m a Man, I’m from Pakistan,
& I’m against any kind of violence on Women, specifically Rape.
It is the worst thing a man can ever do in his life, “REAL MEN... RESPECT WOMEN...”
Thank you for making a song on this.
@Rosa Frederiksen you really said "lol" in the same sentence as "raped me". id be traumatic. nothing funny about being raped yk.
@@festive5476 We laugh to hide the pain.
@Rosa Frederiksen It doesnt where someone is from, all that matters is that theyre a decent person. 1 guy from Pakistan who may mention it because they have a bad reputation isnt the same as another guy from Pakistan who is a bad person.
@@sarahgabriella84 oh damn. Yeah that makes sense.
It's not just women it's about men too because those males who have endured this find it even harder to cope due to the toxic masculinity standards. Assault is Assault no matter the gender. We should stand united if it happens to anybody regardless of their gender...
My son was 5 at the time. Thankfully, he told me. Of course I believed him, that's my baby. We're suppose to protect them no matter what!
The guy is in jail, and my son will never have to see him again
You're an awesome parent. I'm reading comments and in most cases parents reject their children. It is really sad.
Same for my sister
I wish my mom would believe me
I'm happy for you and your son :)
Omg, hope your son mental health recovery well
Wow, this brought me to tears. I was SA’d by my boyfriend last year and I’m still working through it. I can remember just feeling worthless after everytime he touched me, and I would get in the shower and scrape at my skin until I felt like every trace of him was gone. He told me I needed him and that even if I said no, if it felt good I should let him do it, and that I was just weak and scared if I didn’t. Sorry to anyone who knows how this feels, I hear you and I believe you, I stand with you, you’re never alone.
You are so brave to talk about what happened to you. I know all too well it is not easy to talk about. You have to believe you are a strong and beautiful Woman. Any one who survives SA are heroes because it is not easy to come to terms with.
@@oliviasmith6192 Thank you so much..
I too know how this feels I’m sorry you have experienced this pain but also knows it’s okay to know other people are with you I pray a lot and will for you as well sometimes I try not feel at all but as it is still happening we will always feel something just pray about it and shove it it doesn’t work that way and you know what it can when we fall just get up I struggle from it and still am please pray for me as well love much me too
❤
Me too❤❤❤❤❤
I just wanna hug everyone that experience anything toxic.
@TimothyWright I think you'll run out of hugging energy. 😉 Too many victims. Too many sad stories.
Mine included
@@FluffstirdogWhat happened with you ??
I would request you to share... you will feel better...and remember WASN'T YOUR FAULT ♥️♥️
@@meow97830 I grew up in a broken home, got bullied in school by classmates and teachers, in HS my female teacher molested me for a few years. Everywhere I went for help I got blamed and thrown around. I even got kicked out of school for my awkwardness around other girls. The abuse by my teacher stopped when I was 19. It took me 2 years after to realize it wasn't all my fault. Sje was the one person I did trust and thats where it got me.. My whole community makes me feel like second level trash. Less than. Like a pity project. So if you think sharing will make me better it only makes me more bitter. No one gets it. I wish i can share more....
@@meow97830 thank you
@@Fluffstirdog Now be very strong....raise your voice against such injustice....try to make people aware....when you speak up such creatures understand that they aren't that strong....
I'll pray that you have a very happy life ahead friend♥️♥️
This made made me cry. I don't understand why people constantly blame the girl for what she is wearing and that's why she got raped. Instead of having dress codes in school teachers should be having discussions with the children and explain to them that sexual abuse is not okay. Rape is not a joke, it's serious and will mentally and emotionally scar a person for life.
+LoveChezzabella clothes do not make her a target because they look like that, some clothes are easier to remove than others. its easier to rape, and don't say nuns don't get raped because they cover up. Long dresses can be ripped to tie them up and gag their mouths so they cannot scream for help.
+Stavol2Dual very true. I never thought about that.
+nosferotica char.txa.cornell.edu/lennon.htm
yup , its not about what we are wearing , muslims cover them selfs cause they dont want to get raped but we raped :((( .
***** you should be ashamed of yourself
I was sexually abused by my oldest sister when I was 4-5....I had to live with her in fear that she would do it again til I was 19.... Remember females can also do it to others...
Yuri Trash You are not the cause of what happened to you, these traumas May never leave you, there will be times that you will be overcome with sadness. That is normal, there’s no such thing as “get over it” or “it will be fine.”
The truth is that it won’t, it’s the harsh truth and people cover life in fairy tales like it will be alright.
You will be sad in life, you may never be able to move on. The best thing is to just accept what happened, accept its a permanent scar, and use the experience to make you stronger. To make a difference, help relate to others and use your strength
till it happens to us....well what about after it happens? Do we just give up? No, we march on, to victory or defeat, we never surrender.
Cause there’s some good in this world, and it’s worth fighting for :)
YOU! Are worth fighting for! :) God bless you
Our spirits may bend but we will never break!
@@asherpikesgoldenmoralcinem5770 I love you♥️ and thank you♥️
I am so sorry that is not ok and not right I believe this should be stopped if you believe it to reply to this comment with yes and i will add your name to the petition
Men AND women do it, although men do it more.
Yuri Trash
I hope you didn’t forgive her.
Even though I'm a boy. This happened to me when i was 5-10 years old. When my mother comes to work, my uncle looks after me. I didn't know what he was doing.. i was too innocent back when i was a kid. He said that wants to have fun with me. He made me do things to him. And he did things to me. It aches my heart when i remember what have he done to me. I only knew it was wrong when i was 8... I did everything i could, to stop him from doing that to me... He threatened me that if i told someone about this, he would kill me. I've never been this scared in my life. And remembering it will always fume myself with anger. I regret that i never told anyone about this. He should be in jail right now. I'm now 24 years old. I hope other victims are okay aswell
You still can Tell you storx
Anybody can be a victim or survivor of this type of abuse. Don’t let anybody tell you that your experience isn’t as bad or wrong because you’re not a girl like me. Boys and men deserve all the support in this as we do.
Im sorry what you went through,
You deserve justice, None of this was your fault, You were a kid,
I wish you the best in life and i wish you may heal and hope you are doing fine.
"Why didn't you tell me?"
Because all he did was touch me and himself, and nothing can be done because it "wasn't bad enough."
That sucks really bad, did you tell the police everything? Because I'm pretty positive that if there was any penatration at all (fingers, foreign objects, body parts) then its 1st degree Sexual Assault. And if the police dont do anything you could send a letter to the state you live in
Whatsername not to be rude but they most likely won’t do anything. That’s what they are suppose to do but unfortunately there is so many sexual assault cases that they just tell you something will get solved but nothing will.
If you didn’t consent to it it’s still assault and you can press charges. Don’t listen to these people in the comments, i know from experience from people In my life, there’s doesnr need to be penetration it’s still considered assault and and it’s wrong! It’s not your fault and it’s fucked up if nothing is done for you. Stay strong !!
Always tell someone. Even if you feel in the slitest that the person will sexually assault you because if you don't say anything the situation will only get worse...You are a very mentally strong person.....stay that way.
same with me, but the most disturbing thing is that he is my uncle and i was afraid to tell someone because i didnt want to ruin his family (even tho is known the fact that he cheated on his wife, they re still together) and im afraid of how my parents will react.. i mean i think they will believe me but hes friend with my father and everytime he come at my home i tell my parents that i dont like him at all but they never knew the reason why and they think that im kinda joking.. idk how to tell them. this happened when i was little and sometimes i try to convince myself that it didnt really happened because its fucking disgusting when i think about it. im afraid that he will make people believe that i am lying and nothing really happened and that everyone will see me different or nothing will change at all.. it really sucks and i dont think that i'll be ever brave enough to say something.
"Why didn't you report it?"
Because I'm a female that got assaulted by another female. People don't think that's possible, but it sure as hell is.
I did report it, but I don’t know they feel cause it was a female, and yesterday.
@@madisonwilliams9555 I'm so proud of you, that was an incredibly strong thing to do. I hope you are doing good.
@@madisonwilliams9555 Emma that was immensly bravr of you. Hang in there sweety 🧡
I am so sorry to hear that. I hope you are doing ok right now.
Same I was assaulted by a female when I was 6 to 8 by my own family my family still doesn't know about it
“Why didn’t you report it?”
I. Was. Five. Years. Old.
Same, when your 5 you don’t know what’s going on
that is at least the seventh time i read that, and it grosses me out. People are seriously sick, hope you are doing well now.
I was 6 years old, nou i am 50 years old and the dond beleve me
Fr, like when ur 5 u dunno whats going on
I hate it when they say that ! Like we were kids !!! What do you expect me to do ... I was told I was making stuff up... I felt so lost
'Till it happens to you, you don't know how it feels' That really spoke to me when everyone was saying that they understand and that I should calm down. This happened to me when I was 11. It stills shakes me and I am so happy that she is laying in bed so guilty because of what she did.
I am sorry for what you went through... you are so strong and brave. I hope you are ok 💜.
I have never cried harder at a song. I finally told my mom. She is sending me to talk to someone.
@@junicure6962 Thank you so so much
@Chinmayee Jeyapriya thank you so so much
@@mackpasco5468 I am so proud of you! Remember that it was NOT your fault.
I am so proud of you ❤️❤️❤️
“Why didn’t you report it?”
I was only a kid and it took me years to realize what had actually happened and by then it was too late. I figured no one would believe me so i suffered in silence.
same. it still happens to me and I say "oh wow i'm used to it"
well inside i'm dying
imo it's never too late, the chances that event had mental implications on you an your development is high - it's never too late
@@user-kk9re8sm5d I am so so sorry. I know that doesn't mean very much, but you don't ever deserve to be disrespected and harmed. Please know that you have the power to change things. It may not feel like it, I know, but you do and I really really REALLY hope you have people willing to help. You can break the chain. You can heal yourself. I offer my help in any way, but I don't know how much that's worth, considering I'm just an internet stranger, but I will do the best I can. Meanwhile, I hope you find a way to make it through the day.
@@eliseocorona4693 thank you so much that meant a lot
I relate a lot to this
I’ve read through a lot of these comments and I never new that rape was such a common thing and I think I speak for everyone when I say it’s not alright. It’s never happened To me but I’m so sorry if it’s happened to you.
Most of my friends were, and I'm an empath. I can feel other people's pain, whether physical or emotional, around them. So when i was told the stories, I suffocated on the pain they felt as much as they did.
I haven't been through it myself, and I pray I never will, but I understand more than I ever thought I would.
Animal Lover one in five WOMEN 12/100 men
Its happen to almost my whole family of girls it happens to almost all girls (guys too just I haven't heard many stories but they are as important as us girls story's!!!l
Animal Lover it’s ok. I was adding not correcting
Bridgette Bianchi it’s sad coz the men’s one is probably
even higher than we think since they are less likely to say anything.
When I was a child and disclosed to my mother, I was told that it happens to everyone and the conversation was over. It has happened so many different times over so many years. It does not have to happen to everyone. It will NEVER happen to my two boys.
To be fair, my mother only was doing what her mother had done. That generational curse is BROKEN.
I'm sorry for what you went through... you are so strong. I wish you the best. Hope you are ok 💜.
Same. I waited for a while for my mom to understand and take my side. She never did. But as a mom with two girls, over my dead body!!!!!!
"Why didn't you report it?" Because he was my boyfriend and I didn't think anyone would believe me.
I believe you ❤️
My ex husband used to moleste me while we were dating and I never did anything "because it's what couples do" he would practically rape me when we were married "because we're married it's not a problem" I felt completely trapped. But my current husband has helped me see I was in a toxic relationship. That's why he's my ex husband. I just hope he doesn't treat his current wife like he did me.
I do. ❤️
I understand cause my boyfriend did too but at the time I didn't understand it
Same, he tried many times and succeeded once. He would verbally abuse me, manipulate me, and gaslight me. He convinced me everything was my fault and I had to apologize with sex or a blow job. Then we broke up and my own best friend did the same to me even though he knew what I went through. He would get me drunk and have sex with me. I don't think anyone believes me anymore because it's happened so many times. I'm worried people will think I am trying to get attention but I'm not. I can't sleep. I can't even live without reliving everything.
It's almost 2018 and I'm still here crying to this masterpiece.
Me to
me too
Ana P it is 2018
Im Here in 2018 😔❤️❤️
How could anyone dislike this??? It draws attention to a problem in today's society and it is not limited to the US. Sexual Assault is a terrifying ordeal for anyone to go through and I would not wish it on my worst enemy. Survivors Stay Strong and LIVE your LIFE ENOUGH.
Only rapists dislike this.
It’s the guilty ones who dislike. They don’t want to hear what they had done.
People that don't believe that this stuff happens. People who don't believe that those traumatizing things happen to other people and say "you're just doing this for attention". They dislike this.
To all the other survivors:
We know what you went through.
We know how you feel.
We believe you.
We love you.
We are here for you.
We will be with you.
Always.
It's so heartwarming to see that one song, one song has moved so many people including myself. In the comments people are telling their stories, people are supporting each other and that's beautiful. I'm only 12 and I won't really be taken seriously but this video is the most beautiful thing I have ever seen.
{ •••Aleena••• } You're only 12 - oh my goodness!?! The reason I'm saying that is because you're actually more mature and understanding than people who are 3 times your age!!! What you wrote is beautiful and you're the exact type of person our future needs, and someone who can really stand up and make a difference - and I pray to God that you do!!! I have nieces and nephews that are around your age and I don't think that they would be allowed to watch or listen to this, but I think that's also sad cuz unfortunately, it is a part of the reality of what is happening - which does not depend on gender, age, race, etc!!! I'm so glad you can/could see how beautiful this song is, and that this song arms you with the knowledge, protection, and the kind of shield that one needs to stand up and make the difference that you can make!!! Never forget that!!! You are beyond smart and intelligent because you are aware the truths in this world, that unfortunately happen - which are not that person's fault - but make them feel like it is anyway!!! (Sorry I was just very emotionally moved by your comment - in a good way, that is realistic!!!)
K G thank you, your comment made my day and I'm really glad I could make someone happy ❤️
First of all, your comment did way more than just make my day - cuz It's so above and beyond that!!! and I know that it means a lot to other people, as well as myself and you, making me more than happy because you're totally aware of both good and not good realities of this world, and people's actions and behaviors!!! I feel like the purpose of your life is so clear - which, of course - is to help others!!! So I hope that you pursue that to its full and greatest potential - because like I said in my previous comment - you have the ability, and the determination, courage, and mindset not to be sheltered or unaware of what's really happening - whether it's on a college campus, in your own house, or by ANYONE!!! I pray you never stop being a supportive person cuz your voice that can make a difference and allow others to realize what you already know by helping them and people who have been through this or other types of serious trauma!!! Sorry if I'm repeating myself but I'm Blown Away in a good positive way by your super mature realization!!! There are a lot VERY IMPORTANT issues that are kind of being swept under the rug - so that others don't have to face full reality! !!
K G thank you so much 💖
im 12 too. :)
"Why didn't you report?"
*Because I'm a guy and it doesn't usually happen to men*
According to psychology, there is a higher percentage of men being a victim of sexual assault than women. I, myself, I am a woman, also a victim of rape and now I am pregnant with his/their child.
I am tired fighting with all of these battles but i need to keep going everyday because of this little human inside me.
I know it hurts but we need to be stronger than yesterday.
You have so much support form all of us
@@cln-ns2ci why don't you abort that cretin growing before it's too late?
@@sturg1853 i don't want to. he/she have nothing to do with this. this baby is just so innocent. i will love her/him even thought without her/his father.
Even she/he comes unexpectedly and in that kind of situation. It is not enough reason for me to do that.
@@cln-ns2ci well whatever, conceiving a child from rape is automatically abortion in most eyes. I even knew a girl that had to abort twice, having the blood of a degenerate flowing through your future child's veins might come back to bite you in the ass.
This was so powerful. Thank you Lady Gaga ❤️
the expression she makes at 1:37 completely defines how i felt. horror, disgust, confusion, it really puts the feeling of 'i didn't know how it would feel until it happened to me' into an expression
Hello, how would you like to use your experience to help other victims like ourselves out there who can't speak out?
@@oliviagunda9914 BIBLE calls us all to be real, sober minded souls, who live holy lives on earth.
BIBLE calls nor expect nobody to be:
- religious of any kind
- monk
- nun
BIBLE expect us to turn our LACK OF KNOWLEDGE into KNOWLEDGE OF TRUTH (HOSEA 4:6)
Each human life on earth:
- repent
- BORN AGAIN and GO AND SIN NO MORE
- be baptised in HOLY SPIRIT /THE COMFORTER
- LIVE HOLY
= soul, after earthly death in HEAVEN. Easy logic, asks no degree in anything.
Bible calls us to give out RIGHTEOUS JUDGMENT, no to keep our mouth shut and support everything with blind eyes and deaf ears.
See no evil, speak no evil and hear no evil - that old saying, it belongs to masons, am I right again? The vow of silence of theirs.
SOULS, dare to read and study BIBLE (KJV) and search about FREEMASONRY.
No one knows but I remember it every day.
This might be late. But girl we're with you. Stay strong. Stay safe. You are not alone.
I feel it, I’ve gone downhill ever since it happed
I know, it happened to me too. Lots of us are with you, everyday. ❤️
Me too...
Me too... i have learned to forgive but not to forget. The pain will always be there...
“why didn’t you report it”
because it was my own grandad and i was at the age of 6 and threatened to kill me if i told anyone
me too:(
Did this happen to you or are you giving an example?
Alfie H this happened to me
My friend has a similar story, you are not alone
You are not alone I promise you that.
i'm a csa survivor. i wasn't raped but i was touched in private parts when i was 7. this song helps me with healing. Gaga, thank you for writing this song. it means a lot to me and any other survivors.
It's happened too many times to me. I've had years of therapy. No justice, no sympathy, no support, and I'm still standing somehow.
I have sympathy for you stay strong
You're a fighter! I don't know you, but I am proud of you. 🌺
Madeline Sprecher me too
stay strong baby. youre more than you think you are. it happened unfortunenately for a reason. youre a voice of change. love you!
@@lucalongh IT DID NOT "HAPPEN FOR A REASON" THATS BULLSHIT, there is literally nothing that sad she was meant to get sexually abused
Stop blaming the victims, some weren’t even conscious.
So true
I wasn't conscious and may be that was my only fault
Or drunk unable to fight back
ANKITA SHARMA
It IS NOT your fault. Rape is caused by one thing; rapists. That’s it. Period.
I was 18 and roofied, I am a victim.
If every other 'artist' used their fame to inform or point something out the world would be so much brighter.
+Mehdii Laghzaoui I'm pretty sure people aren't going to stop raping others just because lady gaga made a song though.......
ZebraManYouSuck she didn't make the video so she can stop the rapers, she made it for those people who can be potential victims and aware them even more about rape that's all :)
Mehdii Laghzaoui Oh sorry then
+Mehdii Laghzaoui What point is she informing on? Is she informing on the fact that men and only men rape women and only women? Is she informing on the point that women are more likely to get raped at college than not? Is she informing on the point that women aren't responsible for their own safety? Because that's what this video is suggesting. And those are all lies. She is saying nothing new or insightful, she is playing on women's fear for attention. It is an extremely old trick, and very many people are falling for it. Imagine if she swapped the genders in this video? THAT might actually be new or insightful. Or informative.
Obvious pseudonym we are aaall aware that men rape boys small ones young old and women with all kind there r even some sickos who violate 'animals' and bestiality stuff, but when she focuses the lights on what happens in the educational system, what lays behind ever rooms door, if the women who are potential future director or managers or any successful job they could have is actually raped in the place she goes to learn and to practice what could define her lifes path forever THEN everything will fail, it is bad that people are raped, it is bad for everyone, but it is worse for someone who's building their future.
I was 9
I didnt know what i was doing on social media
I trusted him
He threatened me
I Gave him photos.
He tricked me.
No one deserves this
You're a survivor
You're strong
Your story matters.
I am so sorry for what you went through... you are so strong and brave. I hope you are ok, you are amazing.
There are so many of us. It's easier than ever to share a photo or video, and find yourself threatened or blackmailed. We can never blame ourselves - only live, learn, and share from our experiences. Bless your soul. I hope you are well and never stop spreading your message. I'll be doing the same. We are in it together. Thank you for sharing.
Did anything happen to them? That’s more than just an assault it’s child material out online I hope that it was all handled and stopped and taken down I send you love and healing ❤️
@@JustinaJayne My stupid child brain didnt tell anyone, and then he deleted his account
It's so hard not to blame ourselves but it's not our fault we were young and being taken advantage of by adults
"Why didn't you report it?"
"he was my boyfriend and they believed him. Even my on father believed him."
I was 17. I'm now 45 and been living with HIV since. He was never convicted, but killed a car accident.
Karma will and does come around.
You're so strong.
Your a warrior!
I'm sorry you were forced to join our "club"
Shame...I feel for you. Hope and love from South Africa. And always remember you can do anything with a positive mindset.
same thing happened. my boyfriend was 16 and i was 14, i didn't want to have sex yet because we were only together for a short amount of time. never really told anyone besides friends and none of my family knows besides maybe my sister
I watched this when it came out at 14 and it scared me; I hoped to never have to relate to these lyrics. Now I am 19, and I relate.
Your comment has me crying because I was about to share one the exact same as this. I am so sorry. The pain is incomparable, healing is even harder. I love you wherever you are, I hope you find peace xx
I’m so so sorry. I love you ❤️
Omg same. Someone took advantage of me while I was drunk 😞
I am beyond sorry to hear that this.
*Sigh*
It wasn’t ur fault! U matter and ur loved. We see u, hear u and believe u. I hope ur healing well, stay strong
I'm a boy and was raped by an older girl when I was only young. I've been embarrassed of it my whole life because I thought I did something wrong and people would be disgusted in me but now I feel comfortable telling people. It wasn't my fault and I'm in know way ashamed to tell my story to my friends. Thank you Lady Gaga for this song, you have always been there for me when I've been at my worse. I hope I can meet you in person to tell you this one day. -Alex
Alex Farrell i'm so sorry because it happens to you. me either...he is my teacher Maths and my boyfriend. it such, right??
Alex Farrell Thank you for sharing your story it will help others like you come forward
Stay Strong and love yourself Alex, Your a brave and Strong Boy, Through the bad You have fought, Very Brave
Don't feel embarrassed, you didn't do anything wrong she did. I'm sorry that you had to go through this, you're very strong and brave.
Alex Farrell I'm literally tearing up hang in there
35 years later and still struggling...
Is there anybody out there?!? 😭
I couldn't even help but cry! So powerful. this song will help so many people. #touchingsouls
+Anthoney Ferrell (FerrellOnline) same here, and I'm not one to cry with songs, this was just that powerful.
shows a lot about yourself.
I cried as well so sorry to those people who got raped.
Poor Gaga no one even cares to even see her video's now ... Only 866,644 views in 24 hours is pathetic for a so called big star = Gaga's time in music has come and gone.
it moves slowly give it a month. plus the premiere of AHS she still in the light.
As much as I absolutely salute Lady Gaga for making music about this I just want to say to whoeever needs to hear this: rape doesn't always look like how this video portrays and you don't need to have tried to fight off your rapist for it not to be rape. There's fight or flight but most of the time victims of rape freeze and appease as a trauma response. And that's OK. Sending you all big hugs and solidarity.
It is very true. Although it's crazy how insane ppl know this and know it's true but believe the lue
This!! 💯💯💯
Freeze makes it even harder to talk about because you feel like no one will understand. You feel like you don't have a right to grieve the loss of your virginity, the loss of your innocence. You end up hating yourself because you didn't fight. Over and over in your mind the scene replays and you scream "NO! Get off of me!" You learn self defense, kick boxing, and you try to let it go. To move on. But you can't move on until you give yourself permission to grieve your loss. That admit that it was wrong and it actually wasn't your fault. That rape is about stealing something precious from a valuable person.
I froze. Each time. 😢
@@margikay6199same..and still have flashbacks
I didn’t even realize I had been sexually abused until I was 17. I wish people better understood how hard it is to tell even one person. Thank you Gaga.
Thanks for sharing your feelings
Maddie Etzel I was sexually asalted when I was 5 and didn’t realize till I was 11. I’ve never told anyone but plan on telling my best friend tonight.
Edit: I ended up not telling him :/
Only people who know what happened too me is my mom sister and best friend and my stepdad and the worst part is that my stepbrother was the one who did it
I thought it was my fault for 8 years. I was and still sort of am the person who believes that feeling guilt for being hurt is ridiculous and absurd and that you have to tell someone as soon as it happens and know in your gut that it's not your fault. But when I think about what happened to me, how long I stayed silent, the guilt and shame i felt, i realized you can't judge people for holding back. You really can't know till it happens to you.
Im 28 i was raped at 5 years old and its now catching up to me and its destroying my life 💔
Thank you Lady Gaga. It happened to me when I was in graduate school. Twenty-five years later and it still hurts like hell.
I am so sorry for that. You never deserved that kind of treatment
You can't just "shake it off", but you can try to help yourself and replace the treatment towards your body, starting with yourself. Your body deserves love, genuine caresses, felt hugs, you don't have to feel this pain on you. You can share it. You can talk, you can be alone whenever you want, and you can, no, HAVE TO surround yourself with real people, not Monsters.
I read several comments and many people don't understand. Let me try and explain. This video is for the song Til It Happens To You, which was written for the documentary The Hunting Ground, about sexual assault on college campuses. In the film, both women and men talk about being assaulted and how colleges are failing to address the issue. Contrary to what many comments here say, the video and the film (which apparently some haven't watched before criticizing) aren't anti-male in any way; the fact is that the vast majority of rape is committed by men, against women and other men. The video clearly depicts this. FYI, feminists aren't anti-male, they speak out against rape period, no exceptions. I identify as a feminist myself and it just so happens that I'm a male; so people don't make this about slandering feminism. This song was co-written and is performed by Lady Gaga and just in case you aren't aware, she is a survivor of sexual assault herself. Please watch The Hunting Ground and get involved.
FINALLY SOMEONE, WHO EXPLAINS THIS!! You are right!
thank you!!! Omg people need to read this.
+HausofJon It's so sad that most ppl are too biased.
True, well said
thank you
“why didn’t you report?” because I felt ashamed.
don’t feel ashamed it’s not our fault. we did nothing to deserve this pain
God I feel you i still havent said anything because he was my uncle and i though i had done something wrong to deserve it. I was 11 and he was 37 I couldn't stop shaking
Hug
"Why didn't you tell us sooner?!"
*I did but you didn't believe me when I told you the first time*
-- I am so sorry they refused to believe you, I believe you and you are strong ❤️ it was not your fault ❤️
How a song released in 2015 continues to give incredible feelings of nostalgia 😢❤
Sexual assault takes many different forms, but something will always be consistent: IT IS NEVER A VICTIM'S FAULT. Sending light and strength.
I swear sexual assault is the only crime where the victim is blamed
@@unamdiamond1543 For reallll. When someone is robed police officers don't say "you should've hidden you valuable stuff" i something happens it's the perpetrators fault, unless it's rape or assault, then it's finding excuses time!
@@jasminetapia458 Everyone thought I was accusing my ex
Thank u we keep fighting
A lot of prayers are required cause sometimes a victim has hatred and desires others to go through which just keeps them in the cycle of being a victim cause of karma. Or wishing unto others so grab a bible a lot of prayers and of learning Gods laws.
I’ll never forget that moment when my brother came into my room with blood all over his face/clothes. His eyes were so lifeless. He was raped by a girl and then beat by a hammer. He didn’t want me to tell anyone because of how embarrassed he would be, I was with him when he told our parents, I’ve never seen my father cry that hard. Sexual assault is nothing to joke about! My brother is going through counseling with other men who have also been raped. So far I can his eyes coming back to life.
OMG IM SO SO SORRY IS HE OK?!
My best friends brother had the same thing but it was an older man he has severe PTSD
I'm so sorry. I hope your brother feels better
I'm soo sorry. .how's he now
Can I talk to him😢😢
How can woman rape man if his d is not up
"You probably did something to deserve it."
I was a 7 year old watching cartoons in my bedroom.
I was 6 trying to not get late for school..
Wtf you can't deserve an abuse??? How can people even think that?
They're sick, no one deserve an abuse.
i was 3, just being curious in a dark room....
I was watching bee movie and 9
You are not at fault because of your abuse you never did anything to deserve that. That is negative thinking and it leads to nowhere good in your life! NO ONE DESERVES ABUSE!!!!
Let this spark the eternal rage in you. Connect with people. Be in solidarity. Stand up for each other. Stand up for yourselves. You have never been alone. This is a systemic issue. But together we can fight it.
“Why do you always wear baggy clothes?”
“She dresses like a boy”
There’s a reason for that.but you wouldn’t know that because you’re quick to judge someone you don’t know
Ms CHIN they shouldn’t judge when they don’t know u
I feel you
And yet when you show a bit of skin by not covering up much with baggy clothing, they go crazy as if they never seen skin before
That's the thing, they want you to give in and give up the image of your body to them
same
"Why didn't you report?"
I did... But nothing happened. He's still free.
I know how is...isn't easy, but just have faith, always I'm saying to myself "your faith have to be greater than your fear".
You are a strong person. You not gonna forget that, but you will accept that.
@@beatricegagos8591 Thank you so much. I really appreaciate this ❤
Me too baby
felt.
I tried reporting and the police just told me that they cant do anything and to forget about it.
We are with you
❤♡
mother monster
of course we are
I love LG
agree
Very real, sometimes unbearable, bad dreams ,nightmares, but I'm here, 50 years later I'm still fighting, surviving,winning. Always here for anyone that needs help.❤❤❤
Gaga does not need to undress, use explicit language or make strange signs to win the love of others, this world needs more artists like her.
+jeremias matos according with you
true
+jeremias matos she is a good vocal artist
+jeremias matos eh maybe not in this clip but the rest of her career especially the start uve just describe very well lewls
jim jacobs She does not call for their attention being naked but for his talent, so do not care to undress or not
“Why didn’t you report it?”
I drank too much at a party.. the people I needed blamed me
😥
I’m so sorry Megan. I know I’m just a stranger but that’s beyond messed up. If I were one of your friends, I would have hugged you and supported you and been there for you 24/7.
I am sorry you didn’t get the support you needed from the people you needed the most during a traumatic event. That is beyond awful. You are worthy of love and support. You didn’t deserve this
my story is similar to yours...
That’s exactly my position, you are not alone
she sould've won the oscars i'm so upset right now
Flops don't deserve an Oscar
Flops wouldn't be nominee to Oscar
+Iván Espinal she's definitely not a flop, this is something emotional and real she talked about. Sorry that she's not throwing her body around like Demi Lovato but this is real life
She is not a flop
She has never flopped actually
+Iván Espinal bitch please
The fact that it’s still happening 8 years later shows not much has changed 😢 We think we have evolved so much and that we shouldn’t have to still be fighting this fight. But the fact is there are still people who think they have the right to take something that isn’t theirs to take. Evil is all around us, now more than ever. Stay safe ❤
I was thinking the same thing. When are people going to stop. It's not like they don't know what they're doing. They know rape is wrong.
This has never happend to me, but with my boyfriend 3 times. One when he was a child (his grandpa), second when a teenager (his uncle) and then last year (uber). So, just because we are gay we like these things? No one deserves that. These things destroyed him.
He is so strong. I understand, as a gay man who has been violated, everyone just seems to brush it off. I hope he knows he never deserved that.
oh God please send all of my positive vibes to your boyfriend. I hate the thought that because og LGBT discrimination that he couldn't report all of this. I honestly pray he can get justice when he is ready. Honestly it breaks my heart/makes me sick thinking people genuinely believe that gay men can't be r-ped and abused. I'm Pansexual but also an Ally. I really want you guys to work through this xx
I'm so sorry for him
You are loved :). I hope you and him are ok.
I could message you support groups and organizations if you are on Facebook if you want. One is @SafeBae on IG
“Why didn’t you tell me?”
*Because I knew you wouldn’t listen.*
@AYLIN KOHAN thank you, but I'm fine now ;^;
What’s this song about?
@@WowwowLulu it's about rape and sexual assault/harassment
I would have listened intently and hugged your pain away.
Because I knew you couldn't handle it.
Because I knew you'd get angry "for me" which would make it all about you.
"Why didn't you say anything?"
Because I'm 27 years old and I just remembered what my dad did to me when I was six.
Being abused by Father is the worst trauma one can go through and you survived this. I can't tell you and even you don't know how strong you are.
You deserve to heal. You never did anything wrong nor were you at fault to go through so much suffering..
God loves you a lot. Stay strong.
@@justbreathing8003 wooh yes
I want to give you a hug. I'm sorry you had to go through that.
I’m not understanding your comment. I’m not against it, it’s just that your wording was confusing. So from 6 to 27...you said nothing to anyone about it, right? I’m guessing because you were too scared & that you’d get blamed, right? Is that what you’re saying in your comment?
I'm 16 but at the time I was 15 when I first remembered. I was in Spanish class and out of nowhere got a flashback of my bio dad's friends roommate raping me at age 6 in the bathroom. I remember him saying my birth name over and over and how my body moved and his hand covering my mouth. I broke down in tears instantly and immediately left class and spent the period crying and hoping it wasn't true.
Anybody who can go through that and survive is stronger than I ever could be. People who go through that and dont let what happened control the rest of their life honestly baffle me. Anybody who reads this and needs to hear this. You are strong. I can't promise that it will get better, but I can say that I admire your strength. Even if you struggle, even if your depressed, even if you have trauma, even if you can never move past it. What you've gone through and survived already shows me that you are amazing. Try your best to keep going. I hope you can find people irl that support you the way you deserve.
This is so sad :( what's even worse is that some people blame the victim
Okemilyv never blame but find where you may have put yourself in danger. Control what you can, accept what you can't.
I was abused as a child. Did I put myself in danger?
I said "find where you may have", and for a child rape victim I would say that you can not learn how to better protect yourself from that. My comment was meant for adults obviously. I just don't like the mentality that rape victims tend to have of " nothing I do matters, I'll be raped anyway", because everything you do matters, including who you trust, or who you trust with your kids, or your friend's kids, or your young nieces and nephews, etc. I'm not simply victim blaming here, I'm trying to be constructive and encourage a preventative mindset, rather than a fatalist one.
But you wouldn't need to watch your back with if people didn't rape. So therefore all blame is on the rapist. It's like saying a person is at fault for dying from cancer. They shouldn't have got it. Lol
I get blamed every day. I was 15 at the time it happened. I'm 18 now and i can still feel him on top of me. I felt so helpless, especially when his friends called me a "stupid whore" for trying to turn him in. I was accused for putting in a "false" rape charge by his friends. My tiny 15 year old virgin self had no idea what was going on. All i knew was I didn't want it. He's still out there today.
I’m scared no one will believe me. I’m just 14.
(It’s been a year and I’ve told my family, I’m still scared that they don’t believe me but I’ve learned to live with it, I’m not brave but others are, get help and report those disgusting people)
I believe you.
I believe you girl
I believe you.
If you need someone to talk to who understands what you are going through, aftersilence.org is a forum for survivors and is anonymous and helped me tremendously through my trauma.
Whether you need advice, or just someone to hear your story without judgement.
It does get better.
You can get through this.
And someone will believe you.
I believe you, find someone that you trust and know that will believe you....for me it was my grandmother, I finally brave enough to tell her after the years of being asulted. Trust me you will find a little peace after you tell someone. 💖💖💖
I believe you. Stay strong and you are loved.
I was 16, in the hospital after I had just finished trying to commit suicide...for another unrelated reason that I won't mention.
doctor: have you ever experienced any physical, emotional, or sexual abuse?
at that moment, my heart started to race...I remembered something, but what was it?
me: *nods my head yes*
but slowly...I lowered my head because I was ashamed...why did I feel ashamed? it wasn't my fault...
my mother: *looking at me* ...who?
me: I dont wanna talk about it right now
her: you're lying then, you never told me
me: okay I'll talk to you about it later
her: omg you should've told me *rolls her eyes at me*
like mom...I was 4. I didn't even know what the fuck was going on, but luckily my brain new it was a dangerous experience and pushed it to the back of my mind to protect me...but after that question finally arose 12 years later, I've never been the same since... and I never expected someone that claims they love me to respond with anger as if...it was my fault? she was acting as if I hurt her...
I told my family who it was. they literally said "yeah right"...my brother laughed when I told him it was his best fucking friend. you know, the guy you brought to your house every day to play video games? yeah, when you weren't around, he'd play with your little sister.
I tell myself they only laughed it off because they felt guilty but still...laugh? to my mother, I'm her daughter, I'm a sister to my brother, a little one at that. 8 years apart. but when I tell them I was sexually assaulted, they say "yeah right"?
I didn't really know what to do after that...after my brother laughed and walked away and my mother just stood there, telling me I should've said something and this all could've been avoided and they could've caught him blahblahblah...I had never felt so helpless and alone in my entire life.
I am 21 years old now and I think about this still, at least once a day. thank you, Stefani...I am not alone and I'm glad that if I told you, at least you would believe me. #metoo
ペレスアジア I
Believe you
You are not the cause of what happened to you, these traumas May never leave you, there will be times that you will be overcome with sadness. That is normal, there’s no such thing as “get over it” or “it will be fine.”
The truth is that it won’t, it’s the harsh truth and people cover life in fairy tales like it will be alright.
You will be sad in life, you may never be able to move on. The best thing is to just accept what happened, accept its a permanent scar, and use the experience to make you stronger. To make a difference, help relate to others and use your strength
till it happens to us....well what about after it happens? Do we just give up? No, we march on, to victory or defeat, we never surrender.
Cause there’s some good in this world, and it’s worth fighting for :)
YOU! Are worth fighting for! :) God bless you
Our spirits may bend but we will never break!
I'm sorry.
You are loved 💗
Your story sounds so much like mine. My mother only started believing me after I told her the same story repeatedly for 20 years! I hope you can find some peace. You are believed. You are loved. We hear and see you ❤
@@lucindarenfro1708 same here, at 14 i was sexually assaulted by my brother a couple of times, his girlfriend sat and watched. i told my family, nothing was done. years later at 17 i accidentally told the school councilor and they reported it. i told the officer everything, my family lied. blamed it on my epilepsy.
This song is such an inspiration.
Full support to all the survivors. We see you, we believe in you and we hear you.
Thank you Lady Gaga for being so involved on issues that matter a lot.
“Why didn’t you report it?”
I did, but the school “couldn’t do anything”
Maggie I don’t know if this means anything but I’ve written a little something for you. 🙂
Listen to me. Alright? Please just listen my friend.
YOUR NOT POINTLESS.
Let that sink in alright? Take those words in right now close your eyes and remember those words.
“Your not pointless.” Because it’s true and I know right now you don’t believe me cause your afraid.
I know you are, but that’s okay. It’s ok to be afraid.
Fear is a superpower, it can make you stronger, faster. You can truly do anything you set your mind to.
But even more than that you have powers you could never even dream of you can do things amazing things.
I have got your back.
Please don’t give up. Right now life is harsh, hard, difficult in so many ways and it is hard to see a clear answer to all this mess! It feels like sinking in a swamp. My friend committed suicide, she thought that no one loved her, thought everyone hated her and that she had no purpose. Please, don’t do this.
Even tho it’s difficult to see, if you allow your mind to settle, if you focus hard on a goal, it will become clear.
I know you’ve got no reason to trust me I’m just a stranger. Maybe don’t trust me, trust my words.
We may lose the battles in our lives but you must never lose the battle of your soul.
Your spirit may bend but never break, your soul may twist but you will never snap.
I believe in you.
God bless you truly, Godspeed.
A new time is dawning.
You can become who you really are! Find out your true potential to change the world! No surrender!
You can do this, not tomorrow
Not next year
NOW
I believe in you
I believe in you
I believe in you
And soon you
Will believe in YOU
God BLESS you
You know I got bullied every week for 3 years bashed up in the streets. I tried fighting back I never gave up. I was sent to hospital with an engraved face I was so ashamed of my defeat against those bullies.
But I won’t give up. I know I can make a difference, I know that everyone who suffers like I did, and have gone through more, can do anything.
Because anything is possible.
Anything is possible.
God bless u
This happened to a friend of mine. He raped her in the old school building, and when she got up the courage to go report it with my support..... nothing happened. They said they couldnt do anything because he was disabled (apparently the mentality of a 9 yr old at 17, she was 14). Shes tried to kill herself 7 times in the last 2 years. They called her a liar.
Xeria II my friend experienced similar. She was raped in a basement for 3 years and raped at school following that. I helped her and tried to make her feel better and for 2 years we became very close. But eventually she committed suicide despite my efforts.
@@asherpikesgoldenmoralcinem5770 I'm sorry for your loss :( my friend and I have now lost connection due to her being bad for my own horrible mental health, but shes still alive. Struggling, but alive. No one deserves to go through it.
this one ☝🏻
"Why didn't you report it?"
Because he was my producer and threatened to burn my career.
It aches to see Mother Monster cry and retell her story again.... but I know many people who take it as inspiration and hopefully change their destiny and confront their past. #THEMEYOUCANTSEE
She is such a strong person
Lady Gaga is a survivor ❤️
People ask me that all the time and it happened to me in the 3rd grade after he did it he threatened me by saying to me forcefully that he would do the same to my sister who was in the 4th grade at the time
it doesn't matter if they were wearing something revealing
it doesn't matter if they were flirting with you
it doesn't matter if they were your s/o,
it doesn't matter if you were in love
it doesn't matter if they didn't say 'no'
clothes, flirting, love and silence are not reasons for your disgusting actions. sexual assault is sexual assault and
SILENCE IS NOT CONSENT
@@halfasleep7331 no it's not, if they don't say yes then it's not okay
@@halfasleep7331 You shouldnt do anything unless you hear them say yes or give any verbal consent. If someone doesnt say no.. Or says nothing, they could be in shock or scared. Silence is not consent
@Sakura Cherry okay but like its not their fault if they lie about it smh, my friends ex gf said yes then later on said she didnt want to do it. Like tf
@Sakura Cherry are you stupid? They said yes
@Sakura Cherry i said that LATER ON shes like "eh i didnt really want to do it" AND THATS NOT HIS FAULT but she made it seem like it was
To all survivors, I hear you and I believe you.
Because it happened to me too.
❤️
This song brings tears to my eyes every time. I may have never been a victim to sexual assault, but I feel sympathy for all who have. It’s bringing tears to my eyes just thinking about it. None of you “deserved it” or “had it coming.” I really hope that your wounds will heal and that the pain will lessen. I know it may never go away, but I hope and I pray for each and every victim that it gets better. I also hope that whoever inflicted this kind of pain on you, is somewhere, praying, begging, for forgiveness that they do not deserve.
people need to be told that it isn't their fault!
they didn't do anything wrong
anna antilla You and I are the same. I had a family member who was raped, and I have two male friends who were as well. Never personally happened, but I've seen their struggles and have helped them walk through it.
anna antilla i hope god never forgives those who have abuse anyone cause damm sure they dont deserve it
Thank You. It feels BETTER whenever someone acknowledges us and recognize recovery for what it is. We can finally stop blame ourselves so much for the unfortunate atrocities committed against us. My mother never fought for me or protected me. This song is the closest thing to justice most of us might ever receive. Thanks Lady GAGA.