Lady Gaga - Til It Happens To You (Official Music Video)
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- Опубликовано: 24 авг 2024
- A portion of proceeds from the sale of the song will be donated to organizations helping survivors of sexual assault.
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“Til It Happens To You” written by Diane Warren and Lady Gaga; performed by Lady Gaga, from the film THE HUNTING GROUND, available now: bit.ly/1E6XAFl
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I'm reading the comment section and crying... So many broken souls... People, stay strong, please! Sending you all my love!!!
Love the support
its hard to stay strong but trust me I'm trying everyday and failing everyday.
@@sophiealenaa I believe in you!it'll be better ❤️
@@Milky__Way_ thank you I just wish I could feel the same, but it does mean a lot to have someone believe in me.
Что ухудашет ситуацию, так это то, что многие из них пишут, что не заявили. Преступник остался ненаказанным.
И ладно, если это дети. Но взрослые блин. И тут же жалуются, что в этом обвиняют жертв.
Да обвиняют. Этим молчанием они помогают ублюдкам.
I was told that men can’t be raped or sexually assaulted, they told me to get over it and that I would be fine. I couldn’t even look at myself in the mirror after he did what he did to me. I hated myself for so long. I still have issues with it, but I’m slowly starting to love myself again.
I hope you are doing OK x
How are you feeling now? 💗
Glad to hear it stay strong we are here to stand together through are dark past and help eachother build love and acceptance for ourselves
Heyy. Its not your fault. Please dont hate yourself.. :( im sorry for what happend to you
You are amazing ❤️❤️❤️
Stay strong!
I'm a 22 year old man. It happened twice. When I was 7, my own father. When I was 15, my first boyfriend. I will never recover from it. I hate it when people tell me I'll be fine, that I'll get over it, or accuse me of lying because I'm a guy. This stuff ruins lives. People don't just "get over" being assaulted. This song hurts and heals at the same time. Thank you, for speaking about this. People do not want to believe us victims, they don't want to listen, so thank you for making them listen.
I'm a genderfluid 20yo female. My father, at 14, and my third and last boyfriend at 19. I felt my heart break reading this, not only because of the similiarities, but also the gender inequality that is in this. I really, really hate when people gaslightes men over abuse. Like, really, what the fuck are you talking about, get a grip.
Those are people who don't deserve a single glance from you, or anybody. Those are literally the worst. But hey, until it happens to them.
I would never wish someone to experience this, but my rage is building up.
I really hope that you at least escaped all of that.
I'm not here to tell you that you will "just be fine". I'm here to wish you all the best and a healthy path towards recovery, freedom and happiness. I'm with you man.
I haven’t gotten over the four months of sexual assault I had received from a classmate in school when I was 15. No one ever told me it wasn’t my fault and when I refused to talk about what had happened, they said that I was “fine” and misunderstood it was just a joke or something like that. And when I started to show signs of PTSD and using extreme avoidance techniques to make sure no one could ever touch me without my permission ever again, they said it was my fault and I was doing it for attention.
@@kenthuang436 it is not your fault, you did nothing wrong, stay strong , it takes time to heal, I’m sorry for what you’ve been through
@@sherimourThe worst part is that the school psychologist even blamed me. I still have a paper she wrote about me where she said that all of the bullying and also my fear of certain classmates were of my own doing. I mean what kind of woman whose job is to try to help kids would say such a thing to a kid she knows was sexually assaulted because the kid who did it was punished lightly the first and only time the school knew about it and was showing very obvious signs of trauma and hyper vigilance because they were afraid of being sexually assaulted again since it kept happening for months?
I was 4. Still just a child. He took my innocence from me. He still hasn't been found or prosecuted. I am now 21. To all the other survivors, you are STRONG! You are BRAVE! You are SEEN! I see you, and I share your pain
I feel your pain. I was 3 years old when it happened to me. My parents and sister believed me when I spoke at 7 years old. The rest of the family called me a liar. It's the last time I talked about something that was hurting me.
@@msanna4 I'm so sorry that happened to you, I hope you are doing okay ❤
i was 4.... and still no one has believed me after 7 years and the people who did it still deny me the sad part of it is there my family.....
@@msanna4 We love you
@@MyNameIsMissMe How am I attention seeking? Don't bother commenting if you can't say anything nice!
It's sort of funny how people say they want pop stars and singers to sing "real stuff" but when GaGa releases a song like this, it's talked about but it doesn't chart that high and gets no radio play.
+Martha Redfield and songs about meaningless love and cough netflix and chill- they get all the attention. so annoying.
+Martha Redfield this won an award
because no one wants to face what's happening to our young women. we're a first world country we shouldn't be having these problems right? I was sitting in the library at my college campus and in a study room where groups have priority. these guys were in there at first they were watching porn on their laptops then it went to looking at female students online. they were describing her breasts but saying vulgar things and one was describing her vagina and what it was like. outraged I told them I was here for a education and reported it to the librarian. she actually asked me to leave and told me boys will be boys. Now I've been through worse I was also assaulted but my point is its so bad that rape culture its even apparent in the smallest form were you can even get introuble for reporting behavior that is a precursor to assault. I should be able to go to my library without hearing about how they dehumanized another human being. That unfortunately isn't what really going on. We all saw the cat call video of the woman walking down the street in New York city. People just don't want to face up to what has happened.
+Martha Redfield It doesn't get radio play because it's not a "Gaga" song. In order for it to play on the radio it has to be released from her album as a single, but this song is actually for a film called "The Hunting Ground" so there won't be radio play through her. (something like that, I don't know exactly how it works but I know when it comes to radio play there's specific criteria involved)
Andres wrong!!! Any song that is solicited to radio by a record company can get airplay. Album tracks can get unsolicited airplay..it happens all the time..it just debuted at #30 on adult contemporary radio this week..
To everyone struggling with something whether it is sexual abuse, depression, or anything in between, I believe you. I love you. You are so strong. I know you'll get through this.
@Delaney Parker I know it's hard ...💔💔💔💔 I love you ....💜💜💜
Right on Annie! Great post.
Thank you for this I really needed this.
🤗
Annie Chipps I love you too ❤️
I was sexually assaulted 3 or 4 years ago, it’s a changing event that effects the person on a daily basis. People don’t realize the trauma of what it’s like to be in our shoes. Lady Gaga is truly amazing and inspiring to me. To the survivors out there; stay strong and don’t ever give up hope.
@@oliviagunda9914 it’s okay with me.
@@dunwoodie27Thank you, so how do I reach you? Any social media platform that you are comfortable with.
Don't listen to them it could be a dangerous trap
I was sexually assaulted the first time in front of others and no one told me my rights or that it wasn’t my fault. After that the assaults kept happening every time I turned around and when I became too afraid to be in that class and refused to move away from the wall because I knew no one could assault me if I never turned around, they blamed me for doing this for attention.
Every single time I watch this video I cry. Every time
It should be in one of the top 10 saddest music videos
💪✌️
Hugs
Me too! It’s been 3 years and Im still trying to find me. Hes in prison! But I feel like im doing time and I didn’t even do the crime 😢
We are with you
❤♡
mother monster
of course we are
I love LG
agree
I escorted my son today to talk to detectives about being sexually assaulted 7 years ago. I'm proud of him. Please pray for him as well, he's hurting and processing everything all over again now, and I can't take away that hurt.
God bless you for believing him and trying to do something. I'm almost ashamed to say that because it should be an automatic response from a parent but so many times it isn't.
You did a good thing that most parents rarely do.
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I am so proud of him too!!! From the bottom of my heart, I feel so much love for him. I am so sorry he's had to suffer this. And I'm sorry you're having to also. You're in my prayers.
I am so sorry for what happened to your son. You are being an amazing patent for being there for your son and taking his assault seriously
To all of the survivors out there, man or women:
I see you.
I hear you.
I believe your story.
Thank you Noone ever said that to me
@@elenamartinez3340 Your Welcome. Reminder, someone out their loves you and respects you :)
+1
I was 14
He was 16 turning 17
I was a freshman, he was a junior
He pressured me into doing it even after I said no and stop it multiple times
Today is the day I told my mom what happened to me, it happened the day before my birthday on October 3rd of last year
To the people reading this who are also s/a survivors:
What that person did to you has *nothing* to do with your smile, your friendships, the way you look, the clothes you wear, how you do your makeup, your current relationship if you have one, and most of all it is *not your fault*
I am sorry for what happened... you are so strong and brave. Sharing your story it takes a lot of courage. You did well telling your mother, I hope you are doing ok, sending you my love 💜.
a day before my birthday too, since then I have never had the courage to celebrate my birthday because it reminds me of my trauma 😭
Thank you
I am sorry 😞 you where attached stay strong 😊
I had to repeat that to myself every day after my first day of group therapy..."it's not your fault" 🫂. Thank you. Words can't express how hurt I am that this also happened to you 😔
If every other 'artist' used their fame to inform or point something out the world would be so much brighter.
+Mehdii Laghzaoui I'm pretty sure people aren't going to stop raping others just because lady gaga made a song though.......
ZebraManYouSuck she didn't make the video so she can stop the rapers, she made it for those people who can be potential victims and aware them even more about rape that's all :)
Mehdii Laghzaoui Oh sorry then
+Mehdii Laghzaoui What point is she informing on? Is she informing on the fact that men and only men rape women and only women? Is she informing on the point that women are more likely to get raped at college than not? Is she informing on the point that women aren't responsible for their own safety? Because that's what this video is suggesting. And those are all lies. She is saying nothing new or insightful, she is playing on women's fear for attention. It is an extremely old trick, and very many people are falling for it. Imagine if she swapped the genders in this video? THAT might actually be new or insightful. Or informative.
Obvious pseudonym we are aaall aware that men rape boys small ones young old and women with all kind there r even some sickos who violate 'animals' and bestiality stuff, but when she focuses the lights on what happens in the educational system, what lays behind ever rooms door, if the women who are potential future director or managers or any successful job they could have is actually raped in the place she goes to learn and to practice what could define her lifes path forever THEN everything will fail, it is bad that people are raped, it is bad for everyone, but it is worse for someone who's building their future.
This made made me cry. I don't understand why people constantly blame the girl for what she is wearing and that's why she got raped. Instead of having dress codes in school teachers should be having discussions with the children and explain to them that sexual abuse is not okay. Rape is not a joke, it's serious and will mentally and emotionally scar a person for life.
+LoveChezzabella clothes do not make her a target because they look like that, some clothes are easier to remove than others. its easier to rape, and don't say nuns don't get raped because they cover up. Long dresses can be ripped to tie them up and gag their mouths so they cannot scream for help.
+Stavol2Dual very true. I never thought about that.
+nosferotica char.txa.cornell.edu/lennon.htm
yup , its not about what we are wearing , muslims cover them selfs cause they dont want to get raped but we raped :((( .
***** you should be ashamed of yourself
Wow, this brought me to tears. I was SA’d by my boyfriend last year and I’m still working through it. I can remember just feeling worthless after everytime he touched me, and I would get in the shower and scrape at my skin until I felt like every trace of him was gone. He told me I needed him and that even if I said no, if it felt good I should let him do it, and that I was just weak and scared if I didn’t. Sorry to anyone who knows how this feels, I hear you and I believe you, I stand with you, you’re never alone.
You are so brave to talk about what happened to you. I know all too well it is not easy to talk about. You have to believe you are a strong and beautiful Woman. Any one who survives SA are heroes because it is not easy to come to terms with.
@@oliviasmith6192 Thank you so much..
I too know how this feels I’m sorry you have experienced this pain but also knows it’s okay to know other people are with you I pray a lot and will for you as well sometimes I try not feel at all but as it is still happening we will always feel something just pray about it and shove it it doesn’t work that way and you know what it can when we fall just get up I struggle from it and still am please pray for me as well love much me too
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Me too❤❤❤❤❤
When I was a child and disclosed to my mother, I was told that it happens to everyone and the conversation was over. It has happened so many different times over so many years. It does not have to happen to everyone. It will NEVER happen to my two boys.
To be fair, my mother only was doing what her mother had done. That generational curse is BROKEN.
I'm sorry for what you went through... you are so strong. I wish you the best. Hope you are ok 💜.
Same. I waited for a while for my mom to understand and take my side. She never did. But as a mom with two girls, over my dead body!!!!!!
This message is so important and I am glad there are big artists that aren't afraid to put it out front and make us listen.
♡
you're such an amazing person Chris! Im glad you appreciate the message as much as I do 💖💖
+SupDaily06 :D
+Iggy Izzys One in five women get sexually assaulted, they never said anything about 1 in 5 women getting raped or that women are the only victims. Still, most of the sexually assaulted victims are female, that's a fact. But yeah, I forgot: Feminists are making everyhing up, sexual assaults are no serious issues and men suffer a lot more in our terrible society that is trying to make white, heterosexual men not the alpha leaders of evertyhing. Horrible, right?
+Simba G I think you don't understand the basis of feminism
Lady Gaga didn't win the Oscar, but:
1- She Was the most spoken Female of the Oscars.
2- Better and emotional performance of the night.
3- Trending on Twitter, Facebook, Google and Yahoo
4- Won the respect and admiration of everyone
5- TIHTY in the top 10 of iTunes USA
6- First and only artist to participate in the Super Bowl, GRAMMY and Oscars in the same year.
A true legend.
Yes she was incredible at the oscars and is an incredible person!
love your comment
cheered me up
TIHTY 😚😍
yessss. :)
All this + more and it's not even May yet...
'Till it happens to you, you don't know how it feels' That really spoke to me when everyone was saying that they understand and that I should calm down. This happened to me when I was 11. It stills shakes me and I am so happy that she is laying in bed so guilty because of what she did.
I am sorry for what you went through... you are so strong and brave. I hope you are ok 💜.
Even though I'm a boy. This happened to me when i was 5-10 years old. When my mother comes to work, my uncle looks after me. I didn't know what he was doing.. i was too innocent back when i was a kid. He said that wants to have fun with me. He made me do things to him. And he did things to me. It aches my heart when i remember what have he done to me. I only knew it was wrong when i was 8... I did everything i could, to stop him from doing that to me... He threatened me that if i told someone about this, he would kill me. I've never been this scared in my life. And remembering it will always fume myself with anger. I regret that i never told anyone about this. He should be in jail right now. I'm now 24 years old. I hope other victims are okay aswell
You still can Tell you storx
Anybody can be a victim or survivor of this type of abuse. Don’t let anybody tell you that your experience isn’t as bad or wrong because you’re not a girl like me. Boys and men deserve all the support in this as we do.
Im sorry what you went through,
You deserve justice, None of this was your fault, You were a kid,
I wish you the best in life and i wish you may heal and hope you are doing fine.
"Why didn't you tell someone"
It was my father. The same person who told me it was normal. I was twelve.
I feel bad omg
At 12 you still believed it was normal?
@@Blueboy1144 stop victim blaming. its 2021.
@@Blueboy1144 of course! you're a kid! you'll believe what your parents tell you, no matter what the rest of the world does. i believed things my parents said till i was 28. it's very hard to think differently when you've always heard one thing.
@@umchileanywaysso3780 This guy is a disgusting troll. He's been rude in other comment sections.
2024 anyone?😢
Me
Me too
🫂
Me😢
21st July, 2024. 🥺
please don’t allow the abuse to destroy your life, if you are reading this and have been a victim of rape or sexual assault and are destroying yourself please stop and think about what you are doing, you have not done anything wrong and you need to let go of those negative beliefs, you have every right to be happy and to lead a fulfilling and happy life.
I didn't let that happen; fellow survivors in my family let me down (of course, under the spell of our abusers), which forced me to accept my destruction from everyone surrounding me.
@kittyonmydesk5532 don't ever let them gas light you or make you feel unworthy of love, happiness and self-worth. You deserve love. You deserve happiness. You deserve to get back your self-worth.
@@kallandracampbell2105 That's the thing: you're groomed to let them twist you anyway they want, so they do, and it's the worst when the only people surrounding you have done exactly that, and when organizations and others out of the circle do little to even console you
@kittyonmydesk5532 I know. I have very little support myself but I found the strength not just to get back up, but to build from it and become who I am today. I am working in mental health. I believe in you, I have faith in you. Try to seek people that are not toxic towards your healing. Find the helpline #'s
I only found this song because I was searching, I really DIDN'T hear this song anywhere
It has 22 million views, but I still don't think it reaches enough people. Why is her other music more popular than this? This is a song that I've listened to over and over, and it doesn't get old at all - I feel it everytime.
+NANCAY WANG this song is not an official single thats why the number of views is not really high
+NANCAY WANG Because people is so superficial. There is good music and strong social musical messages out there, but usually they don´t get to be heard by many people.
+EarthenImage That's rich! This is not a strategy for anything and falls along the lines of a GROWING concern and ACTION BY the U.S. Government to look into the issue of sexual assault on campuses. It wasn't meant to be released with anything else... it was a power ballad FOR THIS CAUSE! It's obvious to me you missed the point!
+NANCAY WANG me too i complitly agree with u
+NANCAY WANG its called lack of promotion
"You probably did something to deserve it."
I was a 7 year old watching cartoons in my bedroom.
I was 6 trying to not get late for school..
Wtf you can't deserve an abuse??? How can people even think that?
They're sick, no one deserve an abuse.
i was 3, just being curious in a dark room....
I was watching bee movie and 9
You are not at fault because of your abuse you never did anything to deserve that. That is negative thinking and it leads to nowhere good in your life! NO ONE DESERVES ABUSE!!!!
This song will always have a special place in my heart. After 13 years (14 in July), I’m finally getting help and there is an open investigation because another victim came forward. I never truly realized how big of an impact it made on my life. I was a child, and I still remember every detail like it was yesterday. I pray for those that have gone through the same. I see you. I believe you, and I care about you💗
You are so strong and brave... sending you my love❤
My body still remembers everything even if my mind forgot. the trauma stayed with me, affecting my whole life.
I'm just waiting till July when the statute of limitations runs out for a courts martial on anything that can be wringfully turned around against me. Then it's game on!
I sadly can’t do anything to my perpetrator because of the stupid statute of limitations and no one ever telling me about my rights as a victim. I missed the cutoff by two years and may never get justice unless someone else comes forward which I doubt will ever happen considering the sexual assaults happened 23 years ago.
This song can hold so many meanings to so many different people.
The fact remains, that no one can ever understand another individuals struggle... until it happens to them.
This song brings me to tears every time.
"Why didn't you tell anybody?"
He was my therapist, no one believed me. They said I was lying.
Mikayla Sings don’t give up. I know you’ve probs got no reason to listen to me but I’ve written a little something for you.
I really want you to know that your not just an object that can be used by other people. Your a living human being with a soul and a heart.
I had a friend who was raped many times, she committed suicide...you can’t give up, you can’t give in to the darkness in this world you have to be the light. You have to believe in yourself and believe that you can go on.
Learn to feel the strength within yourself. The hands and feet you control, your very sight and your mind, it is YOU. And you have complete control over your future, your destiny. You have power, you have strength. You have no limits to your strength.
Many troubles and hard times will beat against us, many failures, many times we will doubt ourselves...
In life we bend but we must never break
Your spirit may twist but you must never snap
And even though we may lose the battles in our lives
You will not lose the battle in your heart
God bless you, I bless you.
The time has come to become who you were always meant to be!
Not next year
Not tomorrow
NOW⚔️
@@asherpikesgoldenmoralcinem5770 thank you so much for this. It's taken me any months to realize that I can't let this control me. Thank you ❤❤
Oh my....I am so sorry!! I believe you! Sending love...
@PurpleLiza thank you. And that's awful and I'm so sorry that happened to you. I'm here if you need someone to talk to ❤
same thing happened to me but i havent told anyone yet
they never "had it coming". Nor was anyone ever "asking for it". If you have sex or engage in sexual activity with someone and they don't consent, it's sexual assault/rape. End of story.
^THIS
What baffles me the most is how it's so difficult for people to even understand that in the first place.
Exactly!
The dorm room scene when he walked in while she was doing her work REALLY got to me. I was like "what a fucking bastard". nobody, male or female, should have a piece of them taken away like that.
+Greenville Belle I agree
Thank you Lady Gaga. It happened to me when I was in graduate school. Twenty-five years later and it still hurts like hell.
I am so sorry for that. You never deserved that kind of treatment
You can't just "shake it off", but you can try to help yourself and replace the treatment towards your body, starting with yourself. Your body deserves love, genuine caresses, felt hugs, you don't have to feel this pain on you. You can share it. You can talk, you can be alone whenever you want, and you can, no, HAVE TO surround yourself with real people, not Monsters.
How a song released in 2015 continues to give incredible feelings of nostalgia 😢❤
this is so fucking important
+The Antichrist Shouldn't have been raped in prison unless they raped someone else before they were arrested, but why did they end up in jail? They were a threat to innocent people. They don't deserve rape but they reserve restricted freedom.
+The Antichrist My new reply is also, men raped outside of prison do exist, and yes it is serious as well. Please don't misunderstand. I wasn't very clear in my precious comment.
Preach it
The song is important because of the issue
+Hey It's Kyla You agree they don't deserve rape? So then it's a problem? You can't justify it just because they're in prison, not everyone in prison is there because they raped someone, there are other crimes...
I was 9
I didnt know what i was doing on social media
I trusted him
He threatened me
I Gave him photos.
He tricked me.
No one deserves this
You're a survivor
You're strong
Your story matters.
I am so sorry for what you went through... you are so strong and brave. I hope you are ok, you are amazing.
There are so many of us. It's easier than ever to share a photo or video, and find yourself threatened or blackmailed. We can never blame ourselves - only live, learn, and share from our experiences. Bless your soul. I hope you are well and never stop spreading your message. I'll be doing the same. We are in it together. Thank you for sharing.
Did anything happen to them? That’s more than just an assault it’s child material out online I hope that it was all handled and stopped and taken down I send you love and healing ❤️
@@JustinaJayne My stupid child brain didnt tell anyone, and then he deleted his account
It's so hard not to blame ourselves but it's not our fault we were young and being taken advantage of by adults
Crap, this hit hard. I was sexually assaulted by a family member when I was 6 years old, and it happened more than once; then again when I was 15, by my best friends boyfriend. And just last month. I was asleep and had accidentally left my front door unlocked one night, and some drunk guy from my neighbors party thought it would be a good idea to sneak in and try his luck. I feel absolutely disgusted with myself, and like I am absolutely worthless.
I can't believe people disliked this song, or have the nerve to say anything bad about it.
I am so sorry for what you went through... for everything. You are so strong and brave. Sharing your story it takes a lot of courage. You deserve hapiness, you deserve to live without fear and pain, you deserve the best. I hope you are doing better, if not please remember that you are amazing 💜.
You are not worthless. You didn't "invite" this, nor did you cause it. The abusers are worthless.
I hear you, it hits different when it has happened multiple times, sometimes I wonder, am I at fault or is my fate this messed up
@@lwn2021 I have spent countless sleepless nights wondering how I brought this on myself, and have spent many years questioning why it happened. Something I didn't have 7 months ago when I left this comment, was the love and support from my partner. I'm doing a lot better, although the memories still haunt me, and everyday is a challenge. It took a great deal of strength to let my new partner get close to me, but he's a good one.
I'm sorry this has happened to you, and I pray you find the peace of mind and recovery that you deserve. It's not easy, and I'm here for you. It can be so physically, mentally, and emotionally exhausting. And daunting to try new things and open yourself up to new experiences.
If people don't like the song? The music? Or the rythim?
This song got me to realize how strong I really am. Been through sexual abuse, rape, physical abuse, and emotional abuse. I used to beat myself up all the time for what I gone through, choices I made that got me in those predicaments; I chose drug abuse, and alcoholism to cope, only to follow the same cycle again. I have contemplated suicide, have asked people if I could "borrow" their guns, for "hunting" purposes or "practice" when in reality, pulling the trigger on myself sounded like a dream to the nightmare I was living. When Gaga came out with this song, it took me a year to even want to listen to it. When I finally did, I cried, because for once, I felt understood, I felt like I could open up, I felt like I could breathe again. Recovery from abuse, drug use, alcoholism, torment never gets any easier, but I realized I became stronger, mentally stronger. My husband knows I'm not easy to deal with, he knows my outbursts, knows, when I'm in that dark place, I'm not me. He understands why I'm not affectionate, but he still lets me know he loves me. Always will.
When I say Lady Gaga saved my life, I really mean it. This song alone saved my life. If I ever had a chance to meet you, the first words to her I would say is Thank you for giving me a second chance of life. To Stephanie G. Thank you.
You just made me cry. How fucking strong you are. I'm so glad you found your husband who accepts you as you are and that you made it through this time...
I have been through similar and just want you to know I hear, see and believe you. You deserve love and I hope you're healing well.
Your story gave hope to everyone we all with you😊😊😊😊😊
Beat the trauma cycle. Uproot and bloom
Thank you for sharing
“Why didn’t you report it?”
I. Was. Five. Years. Old.
Same, when your 5 you don’t know what’s going on
that is at least the seventh time i read that, and it grosses me out. People are seriously sick, hope you are doing well now.
I was 6 years old, nou i am 50 years old and the dond beleve me
Fr, like when ur 5 u dunno whats going on
I hate it when they say that ! Like we were kids !!! What do you expect me to do ... I was told I was making stuff up... I felt so lost
As I type this, I'm in a mental health facility dedicated to helping people recover from PTSD. This song is so incredibly validating. There is no "You're ok," just "it's ok that you don't feel okay" I'm kinda sick of people telling me I'll get over it, or be stronger for it. It's really nice to have a song that just says "This sucks and that's normal"
To all the other survivors:
We know what you went through.
We know how you feel.
We believe you.
We love you.
We are here for you.
We will be with you.
Always.
To all of the warriors out there:
I see you.
I hear you.
I believe your story.
Thanks. You are a wonderful person 💕
Thank you 😭❤️
💕
Thank you
Gaga does not need to undress, use explicit language or make strange signs to win the love of others, this world needs more artists like her.
+jeremias matos according with you
true
+jeremias matos she is a good vocal artist
+jeremias matos eh maybe not in this clip but the rest of her career especially the start uve just describe very well lewls
jim jacobs She does not call for their attention being naked but for his talent, so do not care to undress or not
1997
I was 16
He was the “cute, quiet, nice guy”
Couldn’t be what I thought it was? :::
I was drunk
My shirt was tight
He “liked” me
He asked me if we were “cool” afterwards
Late 2021 quarantine:
I’m a mother
I have daughters
One daughter is 14
We’re talking ‘consent’ & SA
My mind so many years after that night it hit me hard: omg... that happened to ME.
I spiraled; but so much of my life after that night makes more sense to me now.
Today:
I’m nearly 42
I’ve told 4 people (and strangers on the internet)
It’s been a very long road. Very long
The fact that it’s still happening 8 years later shows not much has changed 😢 We think we have evolved so much and that we shouldn’t have to still be fighting this fight. But the fact is there are still people who think they have the right to take something that isn’t theirs to take. Evil is all around us, now more than ever. Stay safe ❤
I was thinking the same thing. When are people going to stop. It's not like they don't know what they're doing. They know rape is wrong.
I’m reading Y’all comments and want to say I believe you. I believe all of you and I am so sorry. I prayed for you even if you don’t believe (that’s okay). I love you and I wish you all healing, happiness, support and love. 🖤
Thank you so much. I don’t know you but you seem so lovely. And this really brought a tear to my eye, even though I hardly ever cry. No one else would believe me, so thank you. I wish happiness for you too, I hope you have a great day. You deserve the world
@@xo_lexie of course Darling! 🖤 Thank you so much. This world is a cruel place but there still love out here. You also have a great day and continue to wish you nothing but the best and love! 💜💜
@Brianna Morgan 💜💜💜 Of course
@@xo_lexie I hope you fine happiness and joy in you life
Tnx for believing, I lied. Haha got em!
This song deserved proper and better recognition. Sadly, people don't appreciate this masterpiece. ☹️
Tell me about it.
Hmm, well to understand this song you need to be a victim of sexual abuse. So maybe it's best that not many people can relate to it.
Chris DMF I mean 1 in 5 girls are sexually assaulted I’m 14 and I already know the reality that comes with being a girl when it’s rape culture. It probably wasn’t given enough attention so people could hear it.
I do and for over 30 years of my life I could of sang this to myself 💔
theres many reason firstly it depicts a side of our societies that most people just wanna sweep under a rug and pretend doesn't exist ... secondly if you haven't been there you can't really understand simple but mainly most topics of this nature get's thrown to the sides as most societies seem to still see it as a social taboo to of hear let alone speak of.. the sad harsh reality :|
i'm a csa survivor. i wasn't raped but i was touched in private parts when i was 7. this song helps me with healing. Gaga, thank you for writing this song. it means a lot to me and any other survivors.
i was a 17 y/o girl in a public park bathroom.
people didnt listen, i was scared to tell my religius parents, i was scared to tell my bf..
i told them, filed a report, and got told i didnt give enough for them to help me. my parents acted like it didnt happen to me
my bf was the only one to check on me daily, make sure i was okay. never called me anything rude
never blammed my clothes or how it happened.
Her voice is incredible.
+Alain Bruno she's the Queen
+Alain Bruno she is really talented
+Alain Bruno but she is so ugly
+gelu4in shut up :)
es increíble :3
she sould've won the oscars i'm so upset right now
Flops don't deserve an Oscar
Flops wouldn't be nominee to Oscar
+Iván Espinal she's definitely not a flop, this is something emotional and real she talked about. Sorry that she's not throwing her body around like Demi Lovato but this is real life
She is not a flop
She has never flopped actually
+Iván Espinal bitch please
“Why didn’t you tell anyone”
I was 13 he was 11-12 it lasted a year
He wasn’t sent to Jail there was no punishment so for other survivors please know your not alone and try to do something about it to bring you the justice you need 🖤🖤
I'm sorry for what happened... you are so strong and brave. Sharing your story it takes a lot of courage. I hope you are ok 💜.
This song is such an inspiration.
Full support to all the survivors. We see you, we believe in you and we hear you.
Thank you Lady Gaga for being so involved on issues that matter a lot.
2019 and I still believe this song deserved the oscar for best original song
Shallow win
roma trend definitely. When she performed it I lost it and couldn’t stop crying for an hour.
I can't listen to this song without crying
you're not alone.
Me neither...
well i listen to this song while masturbating..... this video kinda hot actually
+Shawn Rishwan looool
such a sadist!
When I was 10 this happened I’m 11 now and I just got free today and still no one knows I just want to forget about it and act like it didn’t happen I tried to fight it I couldn’t fight it i tried so so hard I’m crying writing this because I’m finally free 😃
Hello dear,
Do uou need to talk about it?
I'm here.
i'm available to talk too okay? If you need anything, reach out love x
You don't deserve this and it's never your fault.
@@sxb8246 awww thanks very much I will be sure to talk to you do you have any other social media platforms?
@@mumisha6627 thanks I needed that 🥰do you have any other social media platforms for us to talk
Tell them. Tell everyone. Scream it out loud. Because it’s always going to stay with you and it should stay with him too. I was your age and younger when it happened to me. Make it his burden.
I think this song saved my life. I just wish I could thank Gaga in person, let her wipe the tears from my face; this song wipes my tears.
I just wanna hug everyone that experience anything toxic.
@TimothyWright I think you'll run out of hugging energy. 😉 Too many victims. Too many sad stories.
Mine included
@@FluffstirdogWhat happened with you ??
I would request you to share... you will feel better...and remember WASN'T YOUR FAULT ♥️♥️
@@meow97830 I grew up in a broken home, got bullied in school by classmates and teachers, in HS my female teacher molested me for a few years. Everywhere I went for help I got blamed and thrown around. I even got kicked out of school for my awkwardness around other girls. The abuse by my teacher stopped when I was 19. It took me 2 years after to realize it wasn't all my fault. Sje was the one person I did trust and thats where it got me.. My whole community makes me feel like second level trash. Less than. Like a pity project. So if you think sharing will make me better it only makes me more bitter. No one gets it. I wish i can share more....
@@meow97830 thank you
@@Fluffstirdog Now be very strong....raise your voice against such injustice....try to make people aware....when you speak up such creatures understand that they aren't that strong....
I'll pray that you have a very happy life ahead friend♥️♥️
This is so sad :( what's even worse is that some people blame the victim
Okemilyv never blame but find where you may have put yourself in danger. Control what you can, accept what you can't.
I was abused as a child. Did I put myself in danger?
I said "find where you may have", and for a child rape victim I would say that you can not learn how to better protect yourself from that. My comment was meant for adults obviously. I just don't like the mentality that rape victims tend to have of " nothing I do matters, I'll be raped anyway", because everything you do matters, including who you trust, or who you trust with your kids, or your friend's kids, or your young nieces and nephews, etc. I'm not simply victim blaming here, I'm trying to be constructive and encourage a preventative mindset, rather than a fatalist one.
But you wouldn't need to watch your back with if people didn't rape. So therefore all blame is on the rapist. It's like saying a person is at fault for dying from cancer. They shouldn't have got it. Lol
I get blamed every day. I was 15 at the time it happened. I'm 18 now and i can still feel him on top of me. I felt so helpless, especially when his friends called me a "stupid whore" for trying to turn him in. I was accused for putting in a "false" rape charge by his friends. My tiny 15 year old virgin self had no idea what was going on. All i knew was I didn't want it. He's still out there today.
i was 23 when my ex assaulted me when i confronted him he just laughed at me and brushed me off I've been listening to this song gotten me through alot after that day.
If you only knew what I've been through beyond survival many times innocent victim of sexual assault and attempted murder... can't reveal at this time
Thanks Diane Warren for being so extraordinary.
I was sexually harassed online by one of my classmates last year. I tried to publish him online so that other girls took care of themselves. I was a victim of jokes and bullying, telling me I was exaggerating and that I shouldn´t post it and I should´ve talked to him. My school knows and still hasn´t done anything about it. Now, I have to go to class everyday and see his face, feel pain every time, not secure. This video and song means a lot to me now. Please spread this, sexual assault in college is more frequent than we think, it´s just that sometimes, people tend to make the victims feel bad about it. Thanks a lot Gaga, I love you.
+Ana Fernanda de Regil Uribe find the police, try something
+Ana Fernanda de Regil Uribe Online. Assault. Did he stick his dick through the computer screen. I mean are you kidding right now -.-
+Andrew L hey! play nice. bullying is still bullying no matter the type. people hurt over these things! be more sensitive
wait what? how did you get sexually assaulted online? if you dont mind me asking
Andrew L Are YOU kidding me? Having Gaga as your icon and bullying someone like this, she would be ashamed. SEXUAL ASSAULT can come in different ways. It still HURTS. You CLEARLY didn´t get this song and the message AT ALL. You don´t know, till it happens to you.
My son was 5 at the time. Thankfully, he told me. Of course I believed him, that's my baby. We're suppose to protect them no matter what!
The guy is in jail, and my son will never have to see him again
You're an awesome parent. I'm reading comments and in most cases parents reject their children. It is really sad.
Same for my sister
I wish my mom would believe me
I'm happy for you and your son :)
Omg, hope your son mental health recovery well
This music video is so powerful. Its true you really dont know how it feels till you go through it yourself
I have been trying to get any understanding, any sort of understanding of how it feels. It's because ever since I was a child I've been romanticizing rape without knowing it, or how bad that was, either that or id think about how much i just wanted to support and help survivors. Someday, someday I think I'm going to get assaulted, I don't know why but it's just a feeling, and when it happens, my life will be at some of its worst moments. It's a terrible thing, but I have this weird "connection" to it. I hope that if I have any idea of what it's like, maybe that feeling would go away, maybe I'd stop sxualizing it in my head, maybe I'll be able to help surivors even if just a little. Because rape is a terrible thing, and if I haven't been raped I should be thankful that I have not been. I don't know, if you have any advice, I'd appreciate it.
thank you. I feel seen even if not heard. I still feel the hurt, shame and fear six years later
Nothing is gone forever, unfortunately, however, we can rise up again stronger. You deserve so much more.
I just can't deal with all these ignorant comments. This video is about rape in college. It does not specify that these are the only ways rapes happen or anything. These are just examples. This video would be way too long if they included all the different types of rape. Also, Feminism isn't about hating men. It's about equality. I don't know why a lot of people don't understand that.
Thank you! I agree with you 100% :))!
Because modern day examples of "Feminists" like Beyonce are just a bunch of man bashing, pretentious jerks who haven't the slightest clue of what real Feminists are.
girl thank you!! these people are retarded
+kats938 who exploit it for money
+Sarah E AMEN. If you can find my other LONG comment within this mess of comments, read it. The people who are trying to dilute the topic are usually MRAS. I explain in my other comment in more detail.
"Why didn't you tell me?"
Because all he did was touch me and himself, and nothing can be done because it "wasn't bad enough."
That sucks really bad, did you tell the police everything? Because I'm pretty positive that if there was any penatration at all (fingers, foreign objects, body parts) then its 1st degree Sexual Assault. And if the police dont do anything you could send a letter to the state you live in
Whatsername not to be rude but they most likely won’t do anything. That’s what they are suppose to do but unfortunately there is so many sexual assault cases that they just tell you something will get solved but nothing will.
If you didn’t consent to it it’s still assault and you can press charges. Don’t listen to these people in the comments, i know from experience from people In my life, there’s doesnr need to be penetration it’s still considered assault and and it’s wrong! It’s not your fault and it’s fucked up if nothing is done for you. Stay strong !!
Always tell someone. Even if you feel in the slitest that the person will sexually assault you because if you don't say anything the situation will only get worse...You are a very mentally strong person.....stay that way.
same with me, but the most disturbing thing is that he is my uncle and i was afraid to tell someone because i didnt want to ruin his family (even tho is known the fact that he cheated on his wife, they re still together) and im afraid of how my parents will react.. i mean i think they will believe me but hes friend with my father and everytime he come at my home i tell my parents that i dont like him at all but they never knew the reason why and they think that im kinda joking.. idk how to tell them. this happened when i was little and sometimes i try to convince myself that it didnt really happened because its fucking disgusting when i think about it. im afraid that he will make people believe that i am lying and nothing really happened and that everyone will see me different or nothing will change at all.. it really sucks and i dont think that i'll be ever brave enough to say something.
Very real, sometimes unbearable, bad dreams ,nightmares, but I'm here, 50 years later I'm still fighting, surviving,winning. Always here for anyone that needs help.❤❤❤
Still trying everyday to be strong for my kids and still being so young. I’ll never forget what my dad did. He deserves all that comes. For the rest of my life I’ll forever suffer. You took everything, from me.
I am so sorry for what you went through... you are so strong and brave. You deserve hapiness, you deserve to live without fear and pain, you deserve the best 💜.
I'm a boy and was raped by an older girl when I was only young. I've been embarrassed of it my whole life because I thought I did something wrong and people would be disgusted in me but now I feel comfortable telling people. It wasn't my fault and I'm in know way ashamed to tell my story to my friends. Thank you Lady Gaga for this song, you have always been there for me when I've been at my worse. I hope I can meet you in person to tell you this one day. -Alex
Alex Farrell i'm so sorry because it happens to you. me either...he is my teacher Maths and my boyfriend. it such, right??
Alex Farrell Thank you for sharing your story it will help others like you come forward
Stay Strong and love yourself Alex, Your a brave and Strong Boy, Through the bad You have fought, Very Brave
Don't feel embarrassed, you didn't do anything wrong she did. I'm sorry that you had to go through this, you're very strong and brave.
Alex Farrell I'm literally tearing up hang in there
A little girl in my school committed a suicide because she couldn't take anymore the harassment she was victim of in her previous school.
She was 11.
Tsu Zu a friend of mine 14 years old. A girl called chloe committed suicide, she was very close to me to. I feel u
That is soulbreaking :'(
Tsu Zu dam rip sorry for the loss
OMG that is really hurt when you think about it,hope she is in a better place now
❤️
I know it's not what this song was intended to be about, but it hits hard.
I told my kids there's no worries about the people most recently living out of their car in the back parking lot behind our house. My 7 year old asked, "junkies?"
I said no, just two honest young kids who tried to leave home couldn't afford rent and lost their home.
I have not had this happen to myself but it did happen to my best friend when I was younger… I might not know how it feels personally but I do see the horrific destruction it causes and it breaks my heart to think of how many women go through this every day… my heart goes out to you all, I believe you…
“Why didn’t you report?”
Because i was a young kid, in a society which says that males have no feelings and this doesn’t happen to males.
I feel terrible for what happened to you but yes it does happen to men
Literally people this generation say all the time it happens to men. It was past generations that had this bs ideology.
That is pretty much how I was treated. No one told me or made me feel like it wasn’t my fault. The school blamed me for it and even wrote it down in a psych evaluation that everything bad that happened to me was of my “own doing.” The school didn’t separate me from my attacker or take any actions to protect me from more assaults until I was extremely terrified to go to the class where I was constantly being assaulted. It traumatized me so much that I started to self harm just to repress the memories. I lived like this for seventeen years because no one made me feel safe and that it wasn’t my fault. They all made me feel ashamed. Honestly the only person who would have supported me would have been my sister but she was away at college when it was happening and I was embarrassed, traumatized, and ashamed for it all because that’s how the school made me feel.
Jin, no, you can't blanket people like that. I'm Gen-X and am very aware that men are raped. One of the most common places for a man to be raped is in the military. 1 in 7 men have experienced sexual assault. It's a real issue, and the stigma of being victimized needs to go away for everyone...
Sexual assault is not limited to ONE type of person. Anyone can be a survivor sadly. We need to change this is society but also teach everyone that’s it’s k to show emotions. If emotions are not processed it can be very harmful.
I read several comments and many people don't understand. Let me try and explain. This video is for the song Til It Happens To You, which was written for the documentary The Hunting Ground, about sexual assault on college campuses. In the film, both women and men talk about being assaulted and how colleges are failing to address the issue. Contrary to what many comments here say, the video and the film (which apparently some haven't watched before criticizing) aren't anti-male in any way; the fact is that the vast majority of rape is committed by men, against women and other men. The video clearly depicts this. FYI, feminists aren't anti-male, they speak out against rape period, no exceptions. I identify as a feminist myself and it just so happens that I'm a male; so people don't make this about slandering feminism. This song was co-written and is performed by Lady Gaga and just in case you aren't aware, she is a survivor of sexual assault herself. Please watch The Hunting Ground and get involved.
FINALLY SOMEONE, WHO EXPLAINS THIS!! You are right!
thank you!!! Omg people need to read this.
+HausofJon It's so sad that most ppl are too biased.
True, well said
thank you
I was a child when.
To all other survivors- you are not alone. I'm sorry it happened to you. And I hope you find justice and peace. ❤
For all of you going through this im sending hugs love prayer I have been through this and abuse and I'm a female and there needs to be something more done it's so hard to heal from everything
“why didn’t you report?” because I felt ashamed.
don’t feel ashamed it’s not our fault. we did nothing to deserve this pain
God I feel you i still havent said anything because he was my uncle and i though i had done something wrong to deserve it. I was 11 and he was 37 I couldn't stop shaking
Hug
Next Oscar winner song.
PREACH
:3
yes!! of course!!
+Sam 새뮤얼 This song is boring, ugly and pretentious, and it won't win any Oscars because it is not from a movie.
+Mommy Guada check the news chick lol she is one nominee
To all survivors, I hear you and I believe you.
Because it happened to me too.
❤️
23 years since it happened the first time.... 19 years since it finally stopped for ever....
Wounds heal, but scars won't vanish. They stay to remind me each and every day of HOW FUCKING STRONG I AM! I AM STRONGER THAN YOU WOULD HAVE EVER IMAGINED!
Nothing can bring me down! Nothing will ever make me question myself again! Nothing will ever make me hate myself so much again! Nothing will ever make me feel ashamed for who I am and for what happened to me. I am srong, I am beautiful, I am worthy! You thought you could defeat me. You. Are. Nothing!
This is so powerful. Thank you for making this song.
Love your videos!!
+Ann Le {Anneorshine} Gaga didn't make it. A team of highly specialized writers, musicians, psychologists, producers, and marketing agents made this video. Truth.
+kingdomboost Omfg. Can you read. Ann Le said: Thank you for making this *song*
+lame awesome person 👏
+Ann Le {Anneorshine} YES!
I'm a survivor and my mom is also a survivor. I would prefer to not share my story because I was only 13 when it happened. I sadly did not get justice. The nightmares and the memories still have not gone away. I'm still upset, frightened and angry that no one believed me. Instead every thought I was promiscuous and wanted it to happen. But it scares me that 19k people even disliked this video. It makes me question are they okay with this happening? It makes me lose hope in trusting people/ dating anyone. I applaud everyone in the comment section who has opened up about their story. I hear you. I believe you. I care about you.
Try to understand that this video can give a extremely visceral reaction. Possibly, the guilt of some people who've crossed the line & the guilt that fills them. Same with someone who's never experienced harassment or assault, but, possibly knew something about someone else & stayed silent. Then, there are those that were victimized & still cannot deal with it at all. This video is a painful reminder that brings their pain to the surface & they believe they just cannot deal... Period! So, they find this video abhorrent. I do appreciate it, but, I now feel sick to my stomach in this moment. It brings my demons to the surface. I'm old now, 55, it's been 40 yrs since I was continually assaulted from a young child to teen. I can imagine that if it's affected me this way, there are those that haven't had yrs to deal & find peace in their lives. Try to understand & sympathize that not everyone is ready to face this...
Society as a whole doesn't understand the impact the whole thing causes. While everyone's experiences are different, it is never okay, or justified. I'm sorry you weren't believed, sometimes that is a really harsh reality. I believe you, I hope you are somewhat on the road to recovery, whatever that maybe.
We care about you too!❤
I 100% understand you dont want to be public but if you need someone I'm here, I'm 13 and was 12 when it happened to me
I have nightmares about what happened to me and they are literally the worst. Im still here, ive faced the challenges and i will continue to face them
Don't let it define you. You are not that, it happened to you. It doesn't change who you are and it's not on you.
The strength of a man is unreal. You can’t fight against it. And somehow you blame yourself, and they walk away with no remorse. I was lucky and able to stop him, but worst feeling in the world to feel so helpless.
SO MANY DISLIKES, NOW I UNDERSTAND WHY THE WORLD IS PRETTY FUCKED.
So many dislikes? There's not even a thousand. I understand that there shouldn't be even one but compared to the millions others get every year it's okay.
Yoopsen213 Did you even read what I put? What on Earth gave you the impression I was a troll? I literally put in my comment "there shouldn't even be one." How can you complain about that? Also you surely can't expect a video from someone popular to be have no dislikes.
+Lucs Sebá 68,000 vs 1,000 is over 95% approval rating.. calm down
bigfurhat bigfurhat It's astonishing how many stupid people there are on the internet. Did I ever say that no one should be allowed to dislike a video? On an ethical standpoint this video shouldn't have any dislikes because of how good the message of the song is. That doesn't mean that people aren't allowed to dislike.
You're such a mislead soul. Just go off the internet. Read a book. You're clearly not intelligent enough to handle the internet. And believe me - that is an insult.
+Lucs Sebá Lack of empathy. That's why everything is so fucked.
*Why didn't you report it?*
He's family. No one would take my side.
That's so disgusting i'm so sorry justice will come one day
He's my cousin and it was long time ago and I never realised it was wrong until 1 year ago.I always thought only rape is sexual assult but its not.touching is sexual assult too
Same x
It's my dad. It's not super bad...an occasional smack on the butt but I'm a 15 year old girl. Not okay. I can relate to you. Everyone thinks my dad is a great guy.
@@allthefeelz4423 Please tell someone. There must be someone you can tell.
No other song has validated my pain and what I go through after loosing my husband that this song. I'm sad I'm just now hearing it. I could wallpaper the world with how many times I've heard, you'll be fine. You'll be ok. Hey back up. Be strong. It's almost 5 years and I still can barely even think about it without falling completely apart.... I actually apologized to everyone I ever tried to console or help that was dealing with grief. I had no right. No one does, til it happens to you. Its an unbearable pain you'd never imagine you could live through, and if you're anything like me, I wouldn't call what I've been doing living..... No one should ever have to hurt this much
8yrs later this song is more important than ever I was 12 he was a close family friend he lured me into a corn field I was supposed to die that day here I stand broken but together
Edit : im 17 graduating highschool going to college hopefully soon and I still stand
❤
How are you going?
"Why didn't you report?"
I did... But nothing happened. He's still free.
I know how is...isn't easy, but just have faith, always I'm saying to myself "your faith have to be greater than your fear".
You are a strong person. You not gonna forget that, but you will accept that.
@@beatricegagos8591 Thank you so much. I really appreaciate this ❤
Me too baby
felt.
I tried reporting and the police just told me that they cant do anything and to forget about it.
Stop blaming the victims, some weren’t even conscious.
So true
I wasn't conscious and may be that was my only fault
Or drunk unable to fight back
ANKITA SHARMA
It IS NOT your fault. Rape is caused by one thing; rapists. That’s it. Period.
I was 18 and roofied, I am a victim.
I was 14 when it happened to me and I didn't know what to do after it happened. Thank you gaga for this song
I'm sorry for what you went through... you are so strong and brave. Sharing your story it takes a lot of courage. I hope you are doing ok, if not please try to remember that you are an amazing person 💜.
I was 15 when I became a victim and no one ever told me it wasn’t my fault or that I had rights as a victim or that I could ever press charges against the kid. The school didn’t even try to help me until I had entered the hyper vigilance state of mind and did everything I could to make sure no one could ever sneak up behind me and sexually assault me ever again and then came the victim blaming.
This happened to me last week...it was week 4 of college and as someone who was S.A.ed at 13...what happened was just devastating but I'm thankful that I had friends that alerted me before things could get worse.
I am sorry for what you went through... hope you are ok 💜.
I am sorry that you had to go through this. I am working on a paper on Gender based violence if it is okay with you I would like you to participate so that we spread awareness and help reach out most of the victims that can't come out out there.
Damn. I'm not usually a fan of lady gags but this has gained her respect from me. Damn. That is one powerful bideo
Video*
+Mia Batchelor Edge of glory has a strong story to it;.
+jackee jeffries no it doesnt. ugh her worst video tbh
+jackee jeffries Even poker face is very well written and meaningful. You will never find a song in her albums that doesn't have a story.
Agree
I attempted suicide after it happened to me. I lost 50 pounds and thought if I looked sick it would never happen again. While I spent 3 months inpatient I had 13 rounds of ECT (electric shock therapy) just so I could go one day without reliving such a terrifying situation. I almost completely lost everything. This is the first time in 12 years I feel free. I have been sober and eating for almost a whole year. This happened when I was 15. I am 27 now. Just getting my life back.
+Emily Walsch For the beginning... I apologize,for the end, I Must Say... Good Job!
+Boo Berries thank you! I think the best feeling other than truly being proud of myself for the first time in such a long time, is knowing that my loved ones can actually sleep now. Nobody is consumed by fear and worry for me. That was the last thing I ever wanted to do but by hurting myself I was hurting those around me. Everyday is a new adventure! 😀
+Emily Walsch So proud of you
So glad for you x
+Emily Walsch hey emily, we all love you and so proud of you
I just can’t articulate how meaningful this song is. She speaks from the heart and the knowing. Fuck, more people need to hear this. I feel heard.
It gets real when you can’t even move. It gets real when you freeze and can only look at it happening to yourself. It gets real when you look back and realize you came even closer to more than one for a threat that was made and you wanted to protect some people so you almost died.
“Why didn’t you report it?”
I was only a kid and it took me years to realize what had actually happened and by then it was too late. I figured no one would believe me so i suffered in silence.
same. it still happens to me and I say "oh wow i'm used to it"
well inside i'm dying
imo it's never too late, the chances that event had mental implications on you an your development is high - it's never too late
@@user-kk9re8sm5d I am so so sorry. I know that doesn't mean very much, but you don't ever deserve to be disrespected and harmed. Please know that you have the power to change things. It may not feel like it, I know, but you do and I really really REALLY hope you have people willing to help. You can break the chain. You can heal yourself. I offer my help in any way, but I don't know how much that's worth, considering I'm just an internet stranger, but I will do the best I can. Meanwhile, I hope you find a way to make it through the day.
@@eliseocorona4693 thank you so much that meant a lot
I relate a lot to this
"Why didn't you report it?" Because he was my boyfriend and I didn't think anyone would believe me.
I believe you ❤️
My ex husband used to moleste me while we were dating and I never did anything "because it's what couples do" he would practically rape me when we were married "because we're married it's not a problem" I felt completely trapped. But my current husband has helped me see I was in a toxic relationship. That's why he's my ex husband. I just hope he doesn't treat his current wife like he did me.
I do. ❤️
I understand cause my boyfriend did too but at the time I didn't understand it
Same, he tried many times and succeeded once. He would verbally abuse me, manipulate me, and gaslight me. He convinced me everything was my fault and I had to apologize with sex or a blow job. Then we broke up and my own best friend did the same to me even though he knew what I went through. He would get me drunk and have sex with me. I don't think anyone believes me anymore because it's happened so many times. I'm worried people will think I am trying to get attention but I'm not. I can't sleep. I can't even live without reliving everything.
I did't realise what happened till I told someone they explained what the person did wrong. My mom said it was no big deal the person lives in another town. Still can't get out of my mind
I am so very sorry this happened to you. Most women I spoke with their own moms or mother figures had been assaulted and had no support. Small communities are hard as the doctor/nurse/spiritual counsel or guidance counselor is known to you or your parents. Don't just get on with it seek counseling with a female counselor. Keep trying till it feels right. For some it takes more than one try to find the right person. I read the Bible daily something I never did while I was younger and could have used some wonderful messages without the preach feeling
To all the survivors out there you have courage and don't forget that what happened wasn't your fault. I respect you and I think if you continue to speak to people about it, then you're doing the right thing because then it will help them find the strength to tell their story.
Every time I heard this cry it makes me cry because this continues to happen to people, and there needs to be a change for this to stop.
Also, try to forgive the person who has hurt you, even if it takes the time to do so. You all deserve to live your lives and not focus on the bad. Just focus on the good.
“why didn’t you report it”
because it was my own grandad and i was at the age of 6 and threatened to kill me if i told anyone
me too:(
Did this happen to you or are you giving an example?
Alfie H this happened to me
My friend has a similar story, you are not alone
You are not alone I promise you that.
No one knows but I remember it every day.
This might be late. But girl we're with you. Stay strong. Stay safe. You are not alone.
I feel it, I’ve gone downhill ever since it happed
I know, it happened to me too. Lots of us are with you, everyday. ❤️
Me too...
Me too... i have learned to forgive but not to forget. The pain will always be there...