@@anupritapotnis7241They think that giving birth means getting gold bar asset or some certificate in share where it will keep growing, they don't understand that the children has not choosen their parents for them to come here , on this matter I will actually agree with Elon,s Quote that I don't own my children anything they don't owe me because at the end I choose them to bring here they didn't ask my permission to come.
every convo my father has had with me in these 19 years, is only about studying never interested to even talk with a straight face about anything I achieve on the side
Meine apne 12th class mein aise hi sab ke samne bola tha muje animation karna hai animator ban na hai meri mother ne tok tak yeh bol diya yeh sab karegi itna padhne ke baad , aaj meri baat ki value itna hai market mein lekin meri life 4 sal brbad ho gayi for govt jobs now I am sitting in my 27 yrs just watching videos because I have given up on my motivation or doing anything now and livin' on my mother's income abhi jakar iss lady ko kaun samjayega ki what she said to me could have changed today seriously I hate being parent or in family bhagwan kare ki moksh mil jaye from this faltu world I am done with it.
@@prachisaini1 that's kind of an issue with me too, I'm preparing for jee rn, even if I get a good college and maybe a good package, my parents still want me to leave all that and just prepare for upsc, but Im not really sure if I wanna waste my time on it since the selection rate is so low, but if I pursue what I want, then the parents aren't happy, idk what to do then btw, if you are good at animation you can do it even now, 27 isn't late ig
@@theguy2940 probably but jis trah se aap bade hone ke baad aap se ek trah ka jo knowledge seeking or probably to say the willingness to grasp something slows down I know abhi bhi time hai lekin yeh time itna kam hai ki now even if you get advanced up it's highly that ki aap ko Bikul achi top ki koi animation comp mile incase agar aap game animation hoto you can do that but it also has tough competition.
my father himself went through all these pressures and so he never literally pressurized me instead he himself supported me to do many hobbies,when my mom says something like " what other's will say?" father says " others never cared when we needed them so now who cares about others" and I wish I could show this video to my father's dead parents.
@@Saurabh_20Yyeah I'm grateful to have a father like him but at a point I had to fight with him to take the batchelor degree I want , my father himself at that moment told that I want to support u but no one is giving me any good advice and idk if whatever u choosed is gud or not , and I was soooooo damn stubborn to pursue whatever I want that at the end he supported me anyways, so I think you have to be "stubborn" also to achieve ur goal .btw bro ur not lazy and ur self dependent👏🏻, that's good I rarely see boys who doesn't rely on others and still when people ignored your works it hurts I understand but just don't stop doing it bcz ur mother is not being expressive or thankful it's our duty .my mother also never express gratitude but if I do something gud and question her like "now what?! I did this or that " she be like "😶" she won't yell but can't give a compliment (that's a compliment)😂.
Sir pls make a video on smoking, drinking, pubs, night club, hook up culture, dating more than one person at a time, one night stand etc cultures which are drastically increasing among teens ,youths and in corporate world
@@Bllinkworld We all have to take action against all this stuff to stop it , small individual action from every one or even few people can make a huge huge impact According to some data 20-30 cr people are drinking and smoking and I am preety sure among them more than 10cr people only do because of peer pressure and fomo And If people individually take responsibility atleast of themselves that they don't have to do all this and other people will also get inspired from them and will not come under pressure of some or will feel any kind of fomo And by this people who don't even like smoking and drinking and only do because of some pressure or fomo will not all do that and the number (20-30 cr) will decrease automatically in future Most importantly we can't just depend on government to take some action We all have to take responsibility atleast for ourselves and only decide not to perform any of this stuff and culture in any situation at all Tomorrow is Independence Day 🇮🇳 so let's take a Oath that we all will never perform and promote this culture in our entire life in any situation and will save our country 🙏🏻
Overprotectivs parenting is worst type of parenting. I've been overprotected all my life. I didn't learn to take care of myself till recently. I did not know how to solve problems and to deal with hardships and failure. When I was 'thrown in the world' I felt like a kid, I didn't know how to manage anything. Other children, who were raised more independently, knew how to deal with hardship and failure much easier. I just developed a huge fear of failure that haunted me throughout my life. And because of all this, i am facing many mental problems.
i recently turned 18 and this is same situation i didnt know my own routes of home i dont know how to take metro idk how to make acc and didnt able to open insta ...cuz my parents think { these aree habits of bad kids and now they say u are such a dumb girl doing nothing wow }
@@aditi..349 i always think we people should make a alliance or army 🤝 like something to understand each other and fight for rights Because we face almost same problems.
@@architraj9460 kya bol rue ho ya kya puch rhe ho hme samjh nhi aaya. par hm es bar k NEET exam ki baat nhi kar rhe h pichle bar k exam ki baat kar he h.
I feel sad for the children who aren't ready to take the steps out from such environment....I was raised in a similar scenario but I made sure I chose my career by myself rather than going for coaching classes.....which my mother back then wanted me to do it....she isn't happy with me till today....but I have no regrets with my career and decisions I have taken ...and have immense respect to her till date....please break the chain.......I am so glad someone spoke about toxic parenting 🙏🏽....
My mother if she wouldn't have taunted me tok na dete ki animation penimatin karegi itna padh kar aaj 27 sal hogaye koi naukri nhi 5 saal barbd now livin' on my mother pension because my degree doesn't give me any good job except for construction labour level wage , skill development kar bhi lo toh pata nhi itne sal bad hi iccha hi mar gaye hai ki kuch padh na likhna nhi ho ra hai.
@@Sandwich-h1e Tm khud kar lo meine dek liya kya natija nikl ta yeh sab ka , I am happy to be brahmachari look for yourself stop giving advices , I can also give you plenty in spiritual one u won't take it so keep to yourself.
Iam veryyyy lucky i have supportive parents they supports in every thing....jab mai competitive exam clear nhi kr payi they said doesn't matter if you want one more chance we are ready...ham itni mehnat aap hi ke liye to kr rhe Million thanks of allah Alhamdulillah ❤
Same with me. My parents also supported me in the same way when I could not clear my attempt in CA Inter. They did not scold me for it instead said it's ok beta CA is a tough nut to crack. Give it another try. 😊 Lucky to have such parents
I exactly remember the moment jab mujhe padhai se nafrat ho gyi.... I was very bright student but in the sixth standard I got 17 out of 20 and my friend had 19... My mom was so furious at me ki unhone mere papers hi jala diye and scolded shit out of me... Bas wahi moment tha, uske baad jab bhi books dekho ik ajeeb si nafrat hone lagi
We should also blame those creepy relatives who manipulate our parents . Even if some parents are supporting their kids there are some shit relatives and family members who constantly target kids and manipulate their parents And some uneducated parents get influenced by them and constantly control their kids I know one aunty and uncle who controlled their elder son so much that even after marriage he always as his parents what to do what not Even his parents made him leave his wife and kids his parents where so cruel that they spoiled their sons marriage life by not letting him talk to his wife or his own kids even whem they where in same house He was so manipulated by his parents that he gave divorce to his wife and even left his kids with out even giving any facilities to his kids Later after few years he was mentally ill that he started harming him self by knife his parents dint even bother to give him medication They where only concerned about theirs other 2 sons who earns in lakhs
One day, I behaved poorly with my father. He called and scolded me for no reason, so I cut the call, which he considered disrespectful. When I got home, I explained that I was in a bad mood because of something that had happened on the road. My father abruptly responded, "That's your problem, not mine. You don't have the right to cut my call, no matter how bad the situation." That day, I realized I was wrong because i expect something from him.
@@SD-nh9mu my father need a Neeraj chopra throwing Javelin full drawing on chart paper on this independence day for school event and I draw quite good but for one drawing I took 5-6 days but for only my father I make in day because he asked me on 14 August my eyes were hurting and back pain also but I completed that drawing in night he said I make nose bad and he took the chart paper and leave that stupid man did not care my efforts and now today is 15 August but still I am crying and feeling I really makethat drawing good that nose part was not bad tho
@@Identical_ART bro imperfection is real beauty, you tried your best . The problem is that our parents want us to be perfect in everything but they don't understand that no human being can ever be perfect . We are not and They are also not perfect but we can't tell them the truth.
I have a youtube channel which I recently started and wants me to create videos like machinery and saqlain khan , and I only have one mobile phone for editing and voice recording one day the conversation got so heated up that I was about get something and hit him till he died but I stopped myself thinking about the future
My mother is the most toxic human i have seen since a kid and i hate her a lot 2nd she has anger management issues. She loses her temper in petty issues, the only person who cares for me is my father, who has supported me every time in worst scenario, unlike my mother whose mouth is more like poison when she speaks. Since then i have promised myself that i will never become a toxic parent like my mother, i will give more love and care which i didn't receive since a kid, if i commit some mistake i.e breaking a promise or lying I will apologize to them, unlike my mother who has told me so many disgusting things which i can't type, she thinks what she said or yelled are for my betterment, Hell with your betterment. I will show her and prove her what is actually parenting is.
same my dad is too good but due to my mum he also acts like her now im much fkd up now tbh lol,i hate em so much cuz i wanted console for gaming but they denied +they only love me when i study lol ion want these type of parents tbh
My mom is uneducated. she is not known anything but she is love me too much and she always how to become me a good man. Ialways respect of my parents ❤❤🎉🎉
Guru last Tak dekha ......... professionally I'm a teacher mai hmesha Apne school ke ptm me aisa approach krta hu parents se contact krta hu love you Guru❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Iam 18 now ,This video really for us yaar it's true , I remember I was only 10 when my father and uncle together very badly beated me just because I was playing with my twin brother cat race to catch each other and also my uncle used to beat me with thick branch of tree. Means my childhood was very very dark uncle use to abuse me and my mother several times just because sometimes my uncle beats me badly and my mother speak up to him why did you beat so badly on that sentence only . At 2017 me my brother my mother and father stayed at Durga Mata's mandir because of my uncle only . I was not very good at studies initially but parents and other relatives never support us properly always like "nhi padhe toh kya karega tanpu chalega car garage me kam karega" and all this , they have to change the mindset about doctors and engineering are only the career which can given you success , suppose you will be successful at these profession but can't earn in crores remember this 😢
Thank you so much ....for this video bhai 🥺💜it's actually fact that we can't shere what we want to be in future with our parents......not all parents ...but still it's about indian parents
My friend's father served in the army, and they didn't spend much time together when my friend was a teenager, and even before that. Now that the father is retired, my friend, who is in their 20s, finds it awkward to have normal conversations with him. They only talk when necessary.
I remember when my sis was 13 or 14 yr old and she visited a wedding with mom , my mom openly made fun of her brown skin and said how she feels uncomfortable in front of relatives because of her color.. That was the last time my sis visited any place with her. Even my dad often used to say her "Why are you so dark ?? look at your mom, she's so fair even at this age" !!!
Same somewhere happened with me " you facial features is not so good " " you are average looking " " you will find difficulty in finding a boy becoz you have flat chest and nowadays boys look for perfection" "your hairs are so curly " I have heard all these from my mother . And the result is I am not even confident in smiling in front of anyone . I avoid going to family functions and group gatherings .
@@Kidoooooooooook I can feel you because I'm going through the same :) My parents too always have been telling I'll never get a girl, I'm good at nothing, I'm a loser, I'm talentless.. Idk why they can't tolerate my happiness, once I was so popular in my class but now I lost all of my friends because of them... Everything makes me happy they hate.. My friends, my pets, my guitar... they hate when I keep myself happy with those things
Some people say sit and talk with your parents which I think is quite impossible. They are not ready to see things from our perspective. They will not understand our emotional needs. So all we can do is working hard to achieve our goals and then only we'll have the freedom to speak to move to explore. We need to have that patience and dedication to our goal.
We don't need to listen to anyone. God is a good artist and we all are beautiful. Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder. And those who say you are not good enough have definitely a faulty mind. God loves us just the way we are. Self love is enough to be happy in life. Love yourself unconditionally and you'll see the magic. ❤
i think there is a very bad thing about indian society that when you do something different according to your interest then instead of helping you and supporting they start to criticise you and i am not saying for everyone but most of the people in india are like that,the simple thing we need to understand is if we work together and support each other at the end of the it is beneficial to india only and not for any other country btw happy independence day to whoever reading this❤
Fortunately my parents are not like that ,they said that you can become whatever u like so now iam gonna become a software engineer. Iam so lucky to have parents like this
So what? Just become independent as soon as possible and then follow your passion, don’t expect society and parents to go along with you , you have to leave them if they are in your way, all great people in past have done this, btw why neet, why not jee?
i really wish you luck and i hope you find time between those gaps to write a novel. tell me your name and im definately going to buy your novel when you launch it!
@@anandkumarsingh2109 it’s great if someone questions his her own existence, most people just blindly go with the flow, no one stop and ask why I am here, who am I, what’s my purpose, these are very fundamental questions one need to ask himself and try to find real answers to these, btw I could help you with this thing , at one point I also had same question as you
@@anandkumarsingh2109 regarding doubts and questions of interest, passion , life , purpose etc. I have spent time on these things and got some answers also still learning many things
I failed my 11th class and repeating the same class, my parents are always gives me a lot of taunts, abuse, physical torcher, and said me to die or suicide. They always say me to go and die anywhere we don't need child like you, we are regretting by giving birth you. I completely tired because of this . I don't know who is wrong . I think I am wrong because they wants a brilliant child and I am a average student. Please guide me guys I am in a big trouble. Help me 😢😢
Bhai main thume achhe se samjhta hu me asli main padhai pe achha hu lekin thume pata hai fir v parents khus nahi he q ki mere se v achhe log hai matlab padhai pe, thume jo bolte hai mujhe v sunna padta hai 😮💨mere sath kia kia hota hai bata v nahi sagta dil k andar lagta hai koi pathar se daba diya hai 😮💨
That's very sad. If you're weak in studies then that's okay but you should be good in something else so that your parents don't think that our kid is not a waste.
I promise, when i become a father, i will NOT become like my parents. I will NOT commit the same faults they did. I will try to come back to this video after some years, and I'll let everyone know and you'll see
It's not just parents fault this whole problem is systemic and societal level so if you want to be a good human being then don't bring kids in this world and break free from the cycle
Thank god bhaiiya Mere parents ne kabhi mereko aise pressure nahi kiya ki vo karo ye karo maine khud apne career ka decesion liya hai Thanks god fir giving wonderful supporting parents ❤❤❤
They asked abt trauma? I replied- my parents Thank you choosing this topic, this was literally needed. But its very hard to change our parents behaviour, if i show them this video they will start again abusing ☹️
You can't expect parents to understand you, if they say "You would've been better dead / never born" Not just me, my friends get this too from their parents. Can we really ever expect them to understand? Even after they want us rather dead than understand us?
I have a solution You can do something is that you can say if you think like that then I will accept it Because I am leaving the house and I will live my own life Can you find this idea efficient?
@@architraj9460 Yeah, I've already thought of this. I'm gonna work hard and leave this house, I might as well support them financially but I can't see them again. Their toxic behaviours & speech won't leave my mind, it affects me even while working as I have no confidence whatsoever, I can't speak up for myself even if anything happens outside the house, idk what to do with myself and how to get out of here fr.. Kinda like..I just know I want to, but got no plans.
I am 24 now and under therapy for depression, anxiety. One incident changed my life which bought back all the trauma I suppressed since I was a kid. When I said to my parents they replied : " Every one is happy why can't you they are earning more and going to foreign country at your age. Now I am in therapy since 4 years. There are days where I thought game over for me. Even in therapy I am not sure whether I'll overcome it or not. The uncertain days of my life
Mee too but YK whenever they watch reality show like indian idol , sa re ga ma pa , rising star they say logo ke baccho ko dekho or ek humare baccho ko dekho or jab mai bolu ki muzhe bhi Banna hai toh kehte hai " ban gayi tu , kar liya tune , kya hi gaayegi humare samne toh gaati nahi hai , padhai toh ho nahi Rahi , singer banegi " mai unke saamne toh tab gaaungi na jab vo log muzhe support kare or motivate kare . YK I started hating dance because in my neighbour there are two sis who are good in dance around my age and when I was a kid 6-8 yrs old they use to demotivate me , make fun of me and say me heart breaking lines. My parents and my all neighbours. They say I can't dance , i dance so bad they compare me with them . And after then , I never danced till now atleast not infront of my parents. I feel very shame in dancing because I know they will insult me how they use to . And now they force me to dance , they say humare baccho ko toh dance hi nahi aata etc. and still shows that it's all our fault not their .I start hating dance really much. when I was 6-8 yrs old my mom say I can't sing , my voice is not good but I always wanted to become a singer it broke my heart at early age. I made it happen now everyone like me singing . But I don't sing in front of parents. They never supported when I needed them they just insult me . This is the first time I am letting it out to anyone it was all inside me from when I was 6 now i am 16. And I want to say that I never got less than 90% still they say this kind ye log toh padhte hi nahi hai . My dad focus on having first position in class . Which I never got . He taunts me he want me to get scholarship and I only get it by coming first so they say " in se toh padhai bhi nahi hoti ye log dance karenge , singing karenge etc. And I bet my parents never gat above 70% in any of their class I am bringing above 90 from the start but still they scolds me . They say studying me is most likely to waste money .
Last mai maine bola ki muzhe doctor Banna hai toh unhone muzhe commerce dilwa di emotionally blackmail karke CA banane ke liye . And I thought the same as bhaiya said I this vdo
@@KhushiNegi-21 Ek baccha Apne Man Ka Kuchh Kar Bhi Nahin Sakta just because of the society nowadays. Aisa lagta hai ki Ham robot hain Ek Hi to life hai use to khulkar Jeene Do😔 Don't be sad sis, bas Tumhen Jo Achcha Lage vah Tum karo ,duniya ki mat Suno Duniya Ko Jo Kahana Hai Kahe , Hamen apne aap ko Khud Hi Sambhala hai so don't lose hope OK😊
Kuchh career bahut risky hote h to aap use kisi or career k sath try kro. I mean hm sbko sirf ek hi chiz psnd nhi hoti to agr aapka pehla option bahut risky h or aapki financial situation esi h ki it's just too dangerous to choose that then choose the second or third thing you like. Or uske sath hi ske to us pehli chiz ko bhi kro. Maybe hm kbhi apne first option ko career nhi bna ske pr use apni life Mai hobby bnakr use hmesha jee skte h💛. Use bilkul kbhi Mt chhodna.
I never appreciated my parents more before this video, they are the polar opposites of what the picture drawn in this video, we have personal time and I was completely open to choose what I wanted to do.
Bhai aapne 6:54 pe yeh baat bolke emotional kar diya aapko sahi mei gifted parents mile jo aapko support karte aur jitne bhi aur sab yaha pe jo yeh video dekh rahe unme se kaafi blessed honge supportive parents hai unpe bas unka dhyan bahut acchi tarah se rakha aur unki wishes aur tumhari khood wishes ek saath puri karna 🥲
Bhai I am truelly happy ki mere Aai BaBa mera bahut support karte hai isiliye me Always Confident To FACE every Fu*king Worst Situation.And I can't lieve my Parents because they are Legends❤ Love From MAHARASHTRA 🚩
As a 18 yr old girl i can totally relate to the whole video ... I lost my mom when i was in 7th std .. and my dad always overcontroll my life .. na kahi jaane dete naa kuch krne dete hai even apni marzi se career bhi choose nhi krne diya mujhe doctor banna tha uno ne mujhe forcely arts me addmission dilwaya .. ab now mujhe d el ed nhi krna tha to us me admission dilwaya...aur na hi college jaane de rhe ... Ab books samjh nhi aarhe to wo bhi nhi bol pa rhi main un ko ... Even main apne basic needs bhi un ko nhi bol paati.... Bachpan se ghr se nikalne hi nhi dete bas ghr me raho frnd pass jaane ka pucho to bhi mana kr dete hai ... Isi wajah se bhi baat krne ka man nhi krta ... un ki attention paane k liye ek baar to thyroxine ka overdose le liya tha lekin kuch hua nahi bas tab se heart palpitations hote hai... In k isi behavior ki wajah se kisi pr bhi trust kr leti hoon aur phir wo deceive kr k chala jaata hai ek incident aise hi hua tha ab wo bhi nhi bata paayi main even mujhe abhi padhne k liye phone chahiye lekin samajh nhi aaraha kaise baataun...man karta hai kahi door chali jaaun ...Aur naa wo mere life pr overcontroll krte hai ... Ab to kisi se milne ka baat krne ka man nhi krta ... Kabhi kabhi to feel hota hai su***de kr lu... Kabhi kabhi to subha uthna ka bhi man nhi krta ... Well next video is pr banao k aise parents se deal kaise krein.. And thank uh so much for this video i wish ye video mere dad dekh len 😅😅😅
You might fail or try failing eventually going against your parents. But, when You are Parent remember this exact emotion You felt everyday towards Your Only Parents... and Be Understanding and Different. If You slip up as a Parent just take Time and Go and Beg to Your Child For Forgiveness but Never Let them Feel the Way You Feel since Birth
I wanted to be a artist or animator or wanted to create comics like Japanese mangas i had some good stories. But now i am stuck in school marks exams and families expectations. And i am walking it a path to be an DOCTOR 🙂
@@mobile_pe_ungli_karta_hu..mai dekh rhi hu....I'm parent to a teenager boy aur mai dekh rhi hu...aur bhi bahut parents honge jo dekhenge aur hopefully samjhenge
Bhaiyyaa ek video Kolkata Rape case par bhi banao that Dr. and her Family deserves justice It's Nirbhaya case 2.0 It's so sad to hear that even the doctor's are not safe in hospitals now Where will women go??? In her own home she is not safe In her Workplace she is not safe In Public places she is not safe After her death in her coffin her dead body is also not safe 💔
I think the fault is with both somewhere with parents and somewhere with children too. No side is 'Pure Innocent' in any case so in order to correct things the efforts should be taken by both the parties i.e. Parents as well as Children for a better nation
i agree with you my brother, 5 saal ke bacche ko puri duniya ka gyaan hona chahiye, koi bhi sawaal nahi puchna chahiye, sab kuch khud hi samjh jana chahiye. kyuki parents yahi expect karte hai ek 5 saal ke bacche se.
Find someone in ur family in whom you can confide....talk openly to them and if they're close to ur parents they can talk to them as well... they'll help you to seek professional help to get rid of ur addiction too
I am 20 yrs old now. mere12th class me aane tak mere papa bahut overly strict the, mko yaad he jab maarte the to neel pad jata tha. Unke liye acchi cheeze sikhane ka sabse best tareeka marna hi tha.I remember he used to beat me with hard plastic bat aur kabhi kabhi to sabke saamne bhi maarte the dikhane ke liye ki vo kitne ideal dad he aur baccho ko aise hi sikhaya jata he. Isse hota ye he ki ladko ka( Obviously itne buri tarah se ladke hi pit te he) apne father se emotional connection nahi ban pata, balki ulta hota he- hum unse bahut darne lagte he, mebhi bahut darta tha aur aaj bhi kahi na kahi those childhood traumas haunt me. Aur fir hum ladke apni mummy se emotional connection banate he aur vo connection kuch zyzda hi ban jata he. Isse ladke apni mummy se choti se choti baato share karte he aur unki best advice lete he. But it has a downside- Isse ladke MAMMA'S BOYS ban jate he (Due to lack of masculine energy from father). Mene dekha he fathers bahut proudly kehte he ki- Hamare teachers to hume dando se ya sehtoot ki dandiyo se fingers pe maarte the, isleye aaj hum successful he. THAT'S utter BS dad. Today I am learning about life on my own, watching High value men content. EDIT- Aur isse relationship bhi effect hoti he ladko ki, because ladkiyo ko to mammas boys pasand nahi aate, aur ladkiya judge karti he bina reason jane ki us ladke ne kitna jhela he past me.( no doubt girls have traumatic past too).
u are exactly correct!! but sirif ladko ko hee itni buri tarike se maar nahi padti, My dad also beats me a lot :( so much that When i was 17 he beated me so much I left my home and went to sleep in my freind's home!
I really thank to my father , that he didn't even said to choose my stream of subjects, he just said, choose that subject that you have an interest in... I chose biology which was so fascinating to me.. I thank you mahi bhai, this makes me so inspired from you, I WANT you to make video on recent DOCTOR RAPE CASE, she was brutally murdered and raped, I want you to tell about the cause and reason of the mindset of such cases. THANK YOU .
I am really grateful to god for gifting me with my parents who before being my guardian try to be my friends and understand that I am unique in my own way. They never compare me to others and always encourage me to persue what I love to do. I love my parents and the support they provide me...❤
To be very honest my parents don't very much from me. At least now. Don't know about future. But yeah some time they being rude to me. And every parents from every part of the world should hear and respect what their child want to do in future because of course everyone have their own plans about their future. By the way watching your video from Bangladesh. 🇧🇩.
I told you in your recent videos to make a video on this topic, thanks for making one, ❤ Such a nice, important, and unique video you have done a LOT of research for this video (dekh kr hi pata chalta hai) thank you so much Mahi bro 😊 I hope 500k jaldi hi jaye
Me ek parent hun mene pura last tok dekha and mene realize kiya ki me kuch kuch galti karta hun apne parenting ko lekar and me wada karta hun me sab correct karunga 👩👧👍👍
Really saying... I was watching this video with a lot of patience ... As I got 63% in my 12th boards , my parents brutally judged me and said you are no more to live in the society as you can't do anything in the society . They said we can't show our face now in front of society .I got 92% in my 10th boards os they treated me like this . I cried so loudly as my parents told me this in front of that I was so alone getting decisions like suicide in my mind every moment even I have picked up a sharp knife to cut through my nerves but afterwords I thought if I took my life this way then I woldn't go through my future anymore . I started forgetting all those and living now happily .😌
Same somewhat with me I have got 90% in 10 and 70% in 12 . They have comparing me a lot . And makes those unsatisfied faces in front of me . Taunt me again and again . Don't think about these thoughts bro just live your life be happy and stop comparing atleast you by yourself
I scored 92 in 10 still they compared me by saying aur bhi bache hai na jinhone ne 92 se upar laya hai and u have not done anything very big at least u got more than 90 saved my nose and again that comparison
you are one of the best influencer i had ever seen i also watch your videos again again when i was sad or depresses about something you are explaining our current life problems or situations .
Loved this video it was much needed !! Also I've commented on ur previous video for a topic commenting it here again. Ik so many people are going to hate me for saying this I also know that not everyone will agree to me but I've to say that don't uh all think that this category bifurcation for studies is not okay. Me being general category student it's very difficult for us to secure a single seat in anything all the favours n opportunities are only for the OBC SC etc etc which in my pov is very unfair. They think just because they are in that category of OBC or st they are poor or are more deserving this is wrong at so many levels. Not all of them are poor or deserving to get all that facilities. General category students are working n studying day n night to get that one seat or opportunity but as always the OBC n st are being put forward first. Also not every general category students are rich or are born with silver spoons. This category system of worse. Be it feels structure it's not even half of what we pay, be it seat it's not even half that are secured for us whyyyy??? Students with no skills not even good grades n with whole lot of money are given all the opportunities. This system needs to be changed badly. Bhaiya I really want to know ur opinion on this please make a video on this!!
10:19 I have always been a curious person, I would often ask questions to know more details but people would say I'm just dumb to ask questions and that affected my confidence. But now I realise it's rather intelligent to ask questions.
Same reason, i am in 12th class , currently I have no friends in college, i have always fear to ask questions to anybody, during 7 class I love to draw but when mother saw the drawings she literally torn it apart, it's been 5 years since that incident I have never ever drew anything till now💛
im from bangladesh and this whole video was 100% relatable for me and others . and people should talk about this in bangladesh . as a teenager and genz i agree
Of course last tk dekhi. Yun toh aapne har chapter mein as clue jikr kiya lekin finally clearfy kar hi diya which is really clear and true. i. e. Clear, open communication between parents and their children. Very good son
3:10 hey bro parent's says where you should go and whom you should make friends is only for safety of thier own child. If child make friends the guy who smokes and fight with other people then you think parents have responsibilities to keep safe the child from bad guy and bad habbits
Bro safety purpose is ok but over intrapting mai jaha par v jata hu mere parents ko batanaparta hai agar local kai v dosto k sath jata hu mujhe ghar pe ake batana padta hai dosto k bich main kia bat hua hai ,bolo ap isko kia khaita hai bro , kisika phone ata hai to mere phone oe to fir pas a jate he kia bat karta hu sunk liye kon phone kia bo sabsunte hai or mera age sunoge 19 hai, is age pe v or kia bolu😮💨 tum nahi samjhoge safety purpose ar itna jyada strict kia hota hai
@@PiyushNanda99 I am sure u don't know a thing how can this over care can become a curse u won't be let out of house to play and every kid who is playing out wold said he is a bad guy u will be compared and told that some children don't go out and only study u will be interfered to talk on speaker with friends and I'd friend doesn't greet u parent he or she will be bad ................think before speaking how sevre situation one should have faced
One day i was very ill, i told my dad to bring some medicines for me but he refused me in a very bad way. From that day i hesitate asking him anything. And my friend's father helped me with the medicines. I have no one to talk freely, i don't have friends and all to talk with. I'm living a miserable life
Bhaiii, sab sey phleyyy mein bht bht ziyada appreciate kroon ga aapko key aap ney iss topic ko discuss kia. Mein hamyshaa sey he apki videos dylhna hun there are several reasons why I watch your videos and on the top there's your way of conveying the message. The way you talk is so fascinating. Commendable!!! . Doosri cheez bhaiii next topic mein suggest krna chahoun ga key aap hamein guide karein k hamein kis trhaan apney parents ko convince krna chaiyey like the best way. . Or meyney yey note kia hey meyney openly apney father sey communicate kia thaa while being polite. Mery father ney meri baat purey 1:30hours tak sunii or next day unka behavior change tha, mery father bht supportive hein but sometimes I literally feel like am in prison. Mgr mein phr bhi wide perspective ko he pursue krooon ga q key ayk yeyhi cheez hey jo mujhey jeeney or seekhney ka moka deytii hey. . Bht bht thanks bhai❤
Every child deserves parents.
But every parent doesn't deserve children.
Hits hard yaar 😢
But thanks to God, mere saath esa nahi h 🙂
@@saloni357 true lines...
Wow..really..very very true...
Bro.. ❤😢
@@anupritapotnis7241They think that giving birth means getting gold bar asset or some certificate in share where it will keep growing, they don't understand that the children has not choosen their parents for them to come here , on this matter I will actually agree with Elon,s Quote that I don't own my children anything they don't owe me because at the end I choose them to bring here they didn't ask my permission to come.
Target audience 👨👩👧👨👩👧👦
Majority audience 👦(Teenagers)
Bro 😔
😂😂😂😂😂 sehi hai
Bro grow parents okays 144k people good
He is the on raised this topic🗿
Advice for all the children suffering from toxic parents>>
1. never try to please them
2. Be financial independent & make permanent distance from them
Change your number and leave them forever
Can't support your advice because of such a drastic change but also cannot go against of it because after all they are your parents.
@@ShubhamKumar-tb7vu Just by giving birth you don't become parent
That's wrong way just never let them know about your interest and work on your interest silently and if you succeed in it show that to them
Tumhari tarah sabke parents toxic nahi hote 🙄🙄🙄
Irony Is That, We Can't Even Show/Send This Video To Our Parents!!!
I was just thinking that
Yeah ye soch ke or dukh ho rha ki.....kaise galat ko bhi chupchap sahna Sikh chuke hai.....
cz they're still airborne as helicopters?
Im gonna show this to my mother
i mean u can show them
The saddest part is that here are more teenagers than parents
Atleast teenagers watching this will groom their future child better
Atleast teenagers watching this will groom their future child better
Yeah bro 😢
@@zainabshaikh803 atleast teenagers watching will groom their future kids better
🥲
every convo my father has had with me in these 19 years, is only about studying
never interested to even talk with a straight face about anything I achieve on the side
Meine apne 12th class mein aise hi sab ke samne bola tha muje animation karna hai animator ban na hai meri mother ne tok tak yeh bol diya yeh sab karegi itna padhne ke baad , aaj meri baat ki value itna hai market mein lekin meri life 4 sal brbad ho gayi for govt jobs now I am sitting in my 27 yrs just watching videos because I have given up on my motivation or doing anything now and livin' on my mother's income abhi jakar iss lady ko kaun samjayega ki what she said to me could have changed today seriously I hate being parent or in family bhagwan kare ki moksh mil jaye from this faltu world I am done with it.
@@prachisaini1 that's kind of an issue with me too, I'm preparing for jee rn, even if I get a good college and maybe a good package, my parents still want me to leave all that and just prepare for upsc, but Im not really sure if I wanna waste my time on it since the selection rate is so low, but if I pursue what I want, then the parents aren't happy, idk what to do then
btw, if you are good at animation you can do it even now, 27 isn't late ig
@@theguy2940 probably but jis trah se aap bade hone ke baad aap se ek trah ka jo knowledge seeking or probably to say the willingness to grasp something slows down I know abhi bhi time hai lekin yeh time itna kam hai ki now even if you get advanced up it's highly that ki aap ko Bikul achi top ki koi animation comp mile incase agar aap game animation hoto you can do that but it also has tough competition.
@@prachisaini1 yeah that's true..well wish you all the best for future
@@theguy2940 Thks same to you
my father himself went through all these pressures and so he never literally pressurized me instead he himself supported me to do many hobbies,when my mom says something like " what other's will say?" father says " others never cared when we needed them so now who cares about others" and I wish I could show this video to my father's dead parents.
@@Saurabh_20Yyeah I'm grateful to have a father like him but at a point I had to fight with him to take the batchelor degree I want , my father himself at that moment told that I want to support u but no one is giving me any good advice and idk if whatever u choosed is gud or not , and I was soooooo damn stubborn to pursue whatever I want that at the end he supported me anyways, so I think you have to be "stubborn" also to achieve ur goal .btw bro ur not lazy and ur self dependent👏🏻, that's good I rarely see boys who doesn't rely on others and still when people ignored your works it hurts I understand but just don't stop doing it bcz ur mother is not being expressive or thankful it's our duty .my mother also never express gratitude but if I do something gud and question her like "now what?! I did this or that " she be like "😶" she won't yell but can't give a compliment (that's a compliment)😂.
Oh thankgod he grew up to be a good parent. I am going through a similar situation but im really scared to turn out like my parents
Mere papa aise hi the.......❤❤❤❤❤
@@iasoing4919Same brother😢
my father went through the same pressure and now he's just putting that pressure onto me....
Indian parents should learn parenting before becoming a parents .
Killing curiosity → creation of submissive workforce →under realization of self worth→ depression
Yeah that sum it up
02:24 "7 career options se hi aware hote hai" like bro seriously..?? Mere time pe to mujhe sirf 2 hi cheez pata thi..engineer and doctor..
😢
😂😂 सही बात एक और jod दो NDA
Sir pls make a video on smoking, drinking, pubs, night club, hook up culture, dating more than one person at a time, one night stand etc cultures which are drastically increasing among teens ,youths and in corporate world
It's already made, go watch the genz video
Well it's not going to stop
@@Bllinkworld We all have to take action against all this stuff to stop it , small individual action from every one or even few people can make a huge huge impact
According to some data 20-30 cr people are drinking and smoking and I am preety sure among them more than 10cr people only do because of peer pressure and fomo
And If people individually take responsibility atleast of themselves that they don't have to do all this and other people will also get inspired from them and will not come under pressure of some or will feel any kind of fomo
And by this people who don't even like smoking and drinking and only do because of some pressure or fomo will not all do that and the number (20-30 cr) will decrease automatically in future
Most importantly we can't just depend on government to take some action
We all have to take responsibility atleast for ourselves and only decide not to perform any of this stuff and culture in any situation at all
Tomorrow is Independence Day 🇮🇳 so let's take a Oath that we all will never perform and promote this culture in our entire life in any situation and will save our country 🙏🏻
@@Bllinkworldyess! Our culture is dying 💔
Yess sir please
Overprotectivs parenting is worst type of parenting. I've been overprotected all my life. I didn't learn to take care of myself till recently. I did not know how to solve problems and to deal with hardships and failure. When I was 'thrown in the world' I felt like a kid, I didn't know how to manage anything. Other children, who were raised more independently, knew how to deal with hardship and failure much easier. I just developed a huge fear of failure that haunted me throughout my life. And because of all this, i am facing many mental problems.
How they overprotect you ? Like what they used to do especially when you were younger?
@@granthmewara5531Bro, Parents didn't let the child even step out of house
That's makes Independency difficult to manage at last
Same bro
I also lack in solving problem and don't know how to face difficult situations 😮💨
i recently turned 18 and this is same situation i didnt know my own routes of home i dont know how to take metro idk how to make acc and didnt able to open insta ...cuz my parents think { these aree habits of bad kids and now they say u are such a dumb girl doing nothing wow }
@@aditi..349 i always think we people should make a alliance or army 🤝 like something to understand each other and fight for rights
Because we face almost same problems.
Honestly we needed this video. In my society recently one medical student jumped from 6th floor cause she wasn't allowed to give papers of her college
Yrrr 😢😢😢 hme v pichle saal NEET ka exam nhi dene diya gya tha.
@@Shivani15399 damn that's sad 😢
@@Drishti-354 hu 🥺
@@Shivani15399one exam is equal to 2 years?
@@architraj9460 kya bol rue ho ya kya puch rhe ho hme samjh nhi aaya. par hm es bar k NEET exam ki baat nhi kar rhe h pichle bar k exam ki baat kar he h.
I feel sad for the children who aren't ready to take the steps out from such environment....I was raised in a similar scenario but I made sure I chose my career by myself rather than going for coaching classes.....which my mother back then wanted me to do it....she isn't happy with me till today....but I have no regrets with my career and decisions I have taken ...and have immense respect to her till date....please break the chain.......I am so glad someone spoke about toxic parenting 🙏🏽....
My mother if she wouldn't have taunted me tok na dete ki animation penimatin karegi itna padh kar aaj 27 sal hogaye koi naukri nhi 5 saal barbd now livin' on my mother pension because my degree doesn't give me any good job except for construction labour level wage , skill development kar bhi lo toh pata nhi itne sal bad hi iccha hi mar gaye hai ki kuch padh na likhna nhi ho ra hai.
@@prachisaini1 poor you hope u find your way....
@@abigail01pakhuongte Hmm hope so
@@prachisaini1 Apne mummy se bolo shadi karado
@@Sandwich-h1e Tm khud kar lo meine dek liya kya natija nikl ta yeh sab ka , I am happy to be brahmachari look for yourself stop giving advices , I can also give you plenty in spiritual one u won't take it so keep to yourself.
Iam veryyyy lucky i have supportive parents they supports in every thing....jab mai competitive exam clear nhi kr payi they said doesn't matter if you want one more chance we are ready...ham itni mehnat aap hi ke liye to kr rhe
Million thanks of allah
Alhamdulillah ❤
You are really lucky....🙂💗🥹
Happy for u. You are lucky 🙂
Lucky ❤😊
Same with me. My parents also supported me in the same way when I could not clear my attempt in CA Inter. They did not scold me for it instead said it's ok beta CA is a tough nut to crack. Give it another try. 😊
Lucky to have such parents
Batt ke naam par comparison - hit hard. Now we don't want to talk, then it becomes a lack of communication skills.
101% true
Their is a line I learned from my classmate,, Their is no Generation Gap it is only Communication Gap...
I exactly remember the moment jab mujhe padhai se nafrat ho gyi.... I was very bright student but in the sixth standard I got 17 out of 20 and my friend had 19... My mom was so furious at me ki unhone mere papers hi jala diye and scolded shit out of me... Bas wahi moment tha, uske baad jab bhi books dekho ik ajeeb si nafrat hone lagi
Be besharam, itna farq padega toh zindagi ni ji paoge
@@arjuntyagi5860 bahu tum kia khai rahe ho bro, nahi samjhge tum
Ye toh bahut galat hua aapke saath 😢
Jab main 7th me thi tab.😢😢😢
Same with me 😢
We should also blame those creepy relatives who manipulate our parents . Even if some parents are supporting their kids there are some shit relatives and family members who constantly target kids and manipulate their parents
And some uneducated parents get influenced by them and constantly control their kids
I know one aunty and uncle who controlled their elder son so much that even after marriage he always as his parents what to do what not
Even his parents made him leave his wife and kids his parents where so cruel that they spoiled their sons marriage life by not letting him talk to his wife or his own kids even whem they where in same house
He was so manipulated by his parents that he gave divorce to his wife and even left his kids with out even giving any facilities to his kids
Later after few years he was mentally ill that he started harming him self by knife his parents dint even bother to give him medication
They where only concerned about theirs other 2 sons who earns in lakhs
One day, I behaved poorly with my father. He called and scolded me for no reason, so I cut the call, which he considered disrespectful. When I got home, I explained that I was in a bad mood because of something that had happened on the road. My father abruptly responded, "That's your problem, not mine. You don't have the right to cut my call, no matter how bad the situation." That day, I realized I was wrong because i expect something from him.
@@SD-nh9mu my father need a Neeraj chopra throwing Javelin full drawing on chart paper on this independence day for school event and I draw quite good but for one drawing I took 5-6 days but for only my father I make in day because he asked me on 14 August my eyes were hurting and back pain also but I completed that drawing in night he said I make nose bad and he took the chart paper and leave that stupid man did not care my efforts and now today is 15 August but still I am crying and feeling I really makethat drawing good that nose part was not bad tho
@@Identical_ART bro imperfection is real beauty, you tried your best . The problem is that our parents want us to be perfect in everything but they don't understand that no human being can ever be perfect . We are not and They are also not perfect but we can't tell them the truth.
@@SD-nh9mu exactly bro 😔
I have a youtube channel which I recently started and wants me to create videos like machinery and saqlain khan , and I only have one mobile phone for editing and voice recording one day the conversation got so heated up that I was about get something and hit him till he died but I stopped myself thinking about the future
uss bro uss matlab hamari dikkat parents ki dikkat nahi to parents ki dikkat hamari nahi .
My mother is the most toxic human i have seen since a kid and i hate her a lot 2nd she has anger management issues. She loses her temper in petty issues, the only person who cares for me is my father, who has supported me every time in worst scenario, unlike my mother whose mouth is more like poison when she speaks. Since then i have promised myself that i will never become a toxic parent like my mother, i will give more love and care which i didn't receive since a kid, if i commit some mistake i.e breaking a promise or lying I will apologize to them, unlike my mother who has told me so many disgusting things which i can't type, she thinks what she said or yelled are for my betterment, Hell with your betterment. I will show her and prove her what is actually parenting is.
Same here 😔😢 but I'll show my parents what actuall parenting looks like ❤ I'll give love and care to my children which I never get from my parents 😞
Apni to parents bnne ki ichha khtm hogyi...
Mine is same too
same my dad is too good but due to my mum he also acts like her now im much fkd up now tbh lol,i hate em so much cuz i wanted console for gaming but they denied +they only love me when i study lol ion want these type of parents tbh
"This Man is Revolutionizing the Way Youth Think-Get Ready for a Mindset Shift!" 💯💯
My mom is uneducated. she is not known anything but she is love me too much and she always how to become me a good man. Ialways respect of my parents ❤❤🎉🎉
Guru last Tak dekha ......... professionally I'm a teacher mai hmesha Apne school ke ptm me aisa approach krta hu parents se contact krta hu love you Guru❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Biggest joke in the world : "PARENTS" LOVE IS UNCONDITIONAL" 😂
I was never even loved conditionally 😭
nahhh not a joke
Exactly. A child's love is most selfless. Parents are selfish.
Indian parents’ love is not unconditional
It's definitely not a joke , they are just UNEDUCATED
Iam 18 now ,This video really for us yaar it's true , I remember I was only 10 when my father and uncle together very badly beated me just because I was playing with my twin brother cat race to catch each other and also my uncle used to beat me with thick branch of tree. Means my childhood was very very dark uncle use to abuse me and my mother several times just because sometimes my uncle beats me badly and my mother speak up to him why did you beat so badly on that sentence only . At 2017 me my brother my mother and father stayed at Durga Mata's mandir because of my uncle only . I was not very good at studies initially but parents and other relatives never support us properly always like "nhi padhe toh kya karega tanpu chalega car garage me kam karega" and all this , they have to change the mindset about doctors and engineering are only the career which can given you success , suppose you will be successful at these profession but can't earn in crores remember this 😢
Thank you so much ....for this video bhai 🥺💜it's actually fact that we can't shere what we want to be in future with our parents......not all parents ...but still it's about indian parents
even we can't share what is going on in our life
My friend's father served in the army, and they didn't spend much time together when my friend was a teenager, and even before that. Now that the father is retired, my friend, who is in their 20s, finds it awkward to have normal conversations with him. They only talk when necessary.
Same my condition😢
Same either live with them or not
My dad is not even in military but I couldn't have a normal conversation with him I don't even talk to him
I remember when my sis was 13 or 14 yr old and she visited a wedding with mom , my mom openly made fun of her brown skin and said how she feels uncomfortable in front of relatives because of her color..
That was the last time my sis visited any place with her.
Even my dad often used to say her "Why are you so dark ?? look at your mom, she's so fair even at this age" !!!
Same somewhere happened with me " you facial features is not so good " " you are average looking " " you will find difficulty in finding a boy becoz you have flat chest and nowadays boys look for perfection" "your hairs are so curly " I have heard all these from my mother . And the result is I am not even confident in smiling in front of anyone . I avoid going to family functions and group gatherings .
All my school life I have never laughed out loud in class .
@@Kidoooooooooook I can feel you because I'm going through the same :)
My parents too always have been telling I'll never get a girl, I'm good at nothing, I'm a loser, I'm talentless..
Idk why they can't tolerate my happiness, once I was so popular in my class but now I lost all of my friends because of them...
Everything makes me happy they hate..
My friends, my pets, my guitar... they hate when I keep myself happy with those things
Some people say sit and talk with your parents which I think is quite impossible. They are not ready to see things from our perspective. They will not understand our emotional needs. So all we can do is working hard to achieve our goals and then only we'll have the freedom to speak to move to explore. We need to have that patience and dedication to our goal.
We don't need to listen to anyone. God is a good artist and we all are beautiful. Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder. And those who say you are not good enough have definitely a faulty mind.
God loves us just the way we are. Self love is enough to be happy in life. Love yourself unconditionally and you'll see the magic. ❤
i think there is a very bad thing about indian society that when you do something different according to your interest then instead of helping you and supporting they start to criticise you and i am not saying for everyone but most of the people in india are like that,the simple thing we need to understand is if we work together and support each other at the end of the it is beneficial to india only and not for any other country btw happy independence day to whoever reading this❤
Relatable 😢
Fortunately my parents are not like that ,they said that you can become whatever u like so now iam gonna become a software engineer. Iam so lucky to have parents like this
I think "Taare Zameen Par" and "3 Idiots" are really good movies that Indian parents should definitely watch.
Even if they watch they won't take it seriously
@@Eva_aestheticwolf true
They will only take bagban seriously and overthink about their child
@@maneet6009 I agree
My dream was to become a novelist.
Now preparing for NEET. 🙂
Me too
So what? Just become independent as soon as possible and then follow your passion, don’t expect society and parents to go along with you , you have to leave them if they are in your way, all great people in past have done this, btw why neet, why not jee?
i really wish you luck and i hope you find time between those gaps to write a novel. tell me your name and im definately going to buy your novel when you launch it!
@@anandkumarsingh2109 it’s great if someone questions his her own existence, most people just blindly go with the flow, no one stop and ask why I am here, who am I, what’s my purpose, these are very fundamental questions one need to ask himself and try to find real answers to these, btw I could help you with this thing , at one point I also had same question as you
@@anandkumarsingh2109 regarding doubts and questions of interest, passion , life , purpose etc. I have spent time on these things and got some answers also still learning many things
Justice for Moumita Debnath ( The lady doctor who was Raped & Killed in RG Kar medical college in Kolkata ) 😠😠😠😠✊✊✊✊
Sanjay roy?
Sanjay Roy (proud Ramta proud Tanatunni)
@@saqlainrazvi2521yeh he is the guy behind this ...
@@mohdyasir1645There are more accused of being caught for this
nice pfp. now get a nice username too
I love my parents, they weren't too soft they weren't too strict. They are perfect.
I failed my 11th class and repeating the same class, my parents are always gives me a lot of taunts, abuse, physical torcher, and said me to die or suicide. They always say me to go and die anywhere we don't need child like you, we are regretting by giving birth you. I completely tired because of this . I don't know who is wrong . I think I am wrong because they wants a brilliant child and I am a average student.
Please guide me guys I am in a big trouble.
Help me 😢😢
In which subject you are weak
@@noopurshri3701 i choose commerce with maths in 11th, and I failed in maths. I learn in K.V Noida
Bhai main thume achhe se samjhta hu me asli main padhai pe achha hu lekin thume pata hai fir v parents khus nahi he q ki mere se v achhe log hai matlab padhai pe, thume jo bolte hai mujhe v sunna padta hai 😮💨mere sath kia kia hota hai bata v nahi sagta dil k andar lagta hai koi pathar se daba diya hai 😮💨
That's very sad.
If you're weak in studies then that's okay but you should be good in something else so that your parents don't think that our kid is not a waste.
Hey that's oke we r there with you
I promise, when i become a father, i will NOT become like my parents. I will NOT commit the same faults they did.
I will try to come back to this video after some years, and I'll let everyone know and you'll see
Try as much as you want, you have limitations, your kids will have complains to you when they grow up.
It's not just parents fault this whole problem is systemic and societal level so if you want to be a good human being then don't bring kids in this world and break free from the cycle
Same here. I promise to myself that I will never take the toxicity i experienced to my children or to my partner....
So will you let them have relationships 😂
Thank god bhaiiya
Mere parents ne kabhi mereko aise pressure nahi kiya ki vo karo ye karo maine khud apne career ka decesion liya hai
Thanks god fir giving wonderful supporting parents ❤❤❤
You are in delusion you have also choosen the career from the same limited option the system and parents want you to choose
My father never pressured me but he indirectly did in many ways
Every parent must watch this video.
Thanks a lot for this video dude.😘😘
They asked abt trauma?
I replied- my parents
Thank you choosing this topic, this was literally needed.
But its very hard to change our parents behaviour, if i show them this video they will start again abusing ☹️
U r not alone 😔
Bro,if we suffer what they done then let the world suffer what we done
Trauma ka matlab to batana jara?
@@stigmaplayzabuse from childhood verbal abuse +Being compared what's more traumatic then that
Bahut sahi bole ho yaar
You can't expect parents to understand you, if they say "You would've been better dead / never born"
Not just me, my friends get this too from their parents. Can we really ever expect them to understand? Even after they want us rather dead than understand us?
I have a solution
You can do something is that you can say if you think like that then I will accept it
Because I am leaving the house and I will live my own life
Can you find this idea efficient?
@@architraj9460 Yeah, I've already thought of this. I'm gonna work hard and leave this house, I might as well support them financially but I can't see them again. Their toxic behaviours & speech won't leave my mind, it affects me even while working as I have no confidence whatsoever, I can't speak up for myself even if anything happens outside the house, idk what to do with myself and how to get out of here fr.. Kinda like..I just know I want to, but got no plans.
I am 24 now and under therapy for depression, anxiety. One incident changed my life which bought back all the trauma I suppressed since I was a kid. When I said to my parents they replied : " Every one is happy why can't you they are earning more and going to foreign country at your age. Now I am in therapy since 4 years. There are days where I thought game over for me. Even in therapy I am not sure whether I'll overcome it or not. The uncertain days of my life
Watched till end... Thanks for this video
I'm a teenager and yeah I'm depressed just because of my parents and I hope they are happy with it❤
my dream was to become a singer, and now I am a jee aspirant🙂
Mee too but YK whenever they watch reality show like indian idol , sa re ga ma pa , rising star they say logo ke baccho ko dekho or ek humare baccho ko dekho or jab mai bolu ki muzhe bhi Banna hai toh kehte hai " ban gayi tu , kar liya tune , kya hi gaayegi humare samne toh gaati nahi hai , padhai toh ho nahi Rahi , singer banegi " mai unke saamne toh tab gaaungi na jab vo log muzhe support kare or motivate kare . YK I started hating dance because in my neighbour there are two sis who are good in dance around my age and when I was a kid 6-8 yrs old they use to demotivate me , make fun of me and say me heart breaking lines. My parents and my all neighbours. They say I can't dance , i dance so bad they compare me with them . And after then , I never danced till now atleast not infront of my parents. I feel very shame in dancing because I know they will insult me how they use to . And now they force me to dance , they say humare baccho ko toh dance hi nahi aata etc. and still shows that it's all our fault not their .I start hating dance really much. when I was 6-8 yrs old my mom say I can't sing , my voice is not good but I always wanted to become a singer it broke my heart at early age. I made it happen now everyone like me singing . But I don't sing in front of parents.
They never supported when I needed them they just insult me . This is the first time I am letting it out to anyone it was all inside me from when I was 6 now i am 16.
And I want to say that I never got less than 90% still they say this kind ye log toh padhte hi nahi hai . My dad focus on having first position in class . Which I never got . He taunts me he want me to get scholarship and I only get it by coming first so they say " in se toh padhai bhi nahi hoti ye log dance karenge , singing karenge etc.
And I bet my parents never gat above 70% in any of their class I am bringing above 90 from the start but still they scolds me . They say studying me is most likely to waste money .
Last mai maine bola ki muzhe doctor Banna hai toh unhone muzhe commerce dilwa di emotionally blackmail karke CA banane ke liye . And I thought the same as bhaiya said I this vdo
@@KhushiNegi-21 Ek baccha Apne Man Ka Kuchh Kar Bhi Nahin Sakta just because of the society nowadays.
Aisa lagta hai ki Ham robot hain
Ek Hi to life hai use to khulkar Jeene Do😔
Don't be sad sis, bas Tumhen Jo Achcha Lage vah Tum karo ,duniya ki mat Suno Duniya Ko Jo Kahana Hai Kahe , Hamen apne aap ko Khud Hi Sambhala hai so don't lose hope
OK😊
Mee too
Kuchh career bahut risky hote h to aap use kisi or career k sath try kro. I mean hm sbko sirf ek hi chiz psnd nhi hoti to agr aapka pehla option bahut risky h or aapki financial situation esi h ki it's just too dangerous to choose that then choose the second or third thing you like. Or uske sath hi ske to us pehli chiz ko bhi kro. Maybe hm kbhi apne first option ko career nhi bna ske pr use apni life Mai hobby bnakr use hmesha jee skte h💛. Use bilkul kbhi Mt chhodna.
"That day when no one will think about society will solve half of the problem"
He deserve more subscribers... How many of u agreed that...
Me bro ❤😊
Me 😃😃
1:59 I'm in those 18%
and lucky to have such parents ❤
When I'll become a father inshallah. i will definitely watch this video once again.. I learned a lot from you. Btw your are doing so good👍
Kya mahi bhai, emotional kar dia. Much appreciated for you efforts for making this genre of videos. Love you!
I never appreciated my parents more before this video, they are the polar opposites of what the picture drawn in this video, we have personal time and I was completely open to choose what I wanted to do.
Badhiya tha bhai
Please if possible make video on how relationships are affecting this generation and about mental health 💚
Already done go watch other videos
@@EramSayed-yd7sm where?
@@arundhatikurle8721on his channel
Thanks for telling me about bad parents. I couldn't save myself from them but i wont let it happen to my child
Last tak dekha Video ekdum sahi banayi hai 🫂❤️
Bhai aapne 6:54 pe yeh baat bolke emotional kar diya aapko sahi mei gifted parents mile jo aapko support karte aur jitne bhi aur sab yaha pe jo yeh video dekh rahe unme se kaafi blessed honge supportive parents hai unpe bas unka dhyan bahut acchi tarah se rakha aur unki wishes aur tumhari khood wishes ek saath puri karna 🥲
Bhai I am truelly happy ki mere Aai BaBa mera bahut support karte hai isiliye me Always Confident To FACE every Fu*king Worst Situation.And I can't lieve my Parents because they are Legends❤ Love From MAHARASHTRA 🚩
Yep not everyone is same
Same.❤❤
As a 18 yr old girl i can totally relate to the whole video ... I lost my mom when i was in 7th std .. and my dad always overcontroll my life .. na kahi jaane dete naa kuch krne dete hai even apni marzi se career bhi choose nhi krne diya mujhe doctor banna tha uno ne mujhe forcely arts me addmission dilwaya .. ab now mujhe d el ed nhi krna tha to us me admission dilwaya...aur na hi college jaane de rhe ... Ab books samjh nhi aarhe to wo bhi nhi bol pa rhi main un ko ... Even main apne basic needs bhi un ko nhi bol paati.... Bachpan se ghr se nikalne hi nhi dete bas ghr me raho frnd pass jaane ka pucho to bhi mana kr dete hai ... Isi wajah se bhi baat krne ka man nhi krta ... un ki attention paane k liye ek baar to thyroxine ka overdose le liya tha lekin kuch hua nahi bas tab se heart palpitations hote hai... In k isi behavior ki wajah se kisi pr bhi trust kr leti hoon aur phir wo deceive kr k chala jaata hai ek incident aise hi hua tha ab wo bhi nhi bata paayi main even mujhe abhi padhne k liye phone chahiye lekin samajh nhi aaraha kaise baataun...man karta hai kahi door chali jaaun ...Aur naa wo mere life pr overcontroll krte hai ... Ab to kisi se milne ka baat krne ka man nhi krta ... Kabhi kabhi to feel hota hai su***de kr lu... Kabhi kabhi to subha uthna ka bhi man nhi krta ...
Well next video is pr banao k aise parents se deal kaise krein..
And thank uh so much for this video i wish ye video mere dad dekh len 😅😅😅
This is a tough situation
Girls are so much restricted I have seen so many comments like this about overcontrolling by parents to their daughters
@@granthmewara5531 yeah they think thy r doing it for our betterment but they dont know by doing this they make there daughters mentally ill
I'm sorry to hear this. Hugs. ❤
Don't worry this too shall pass
@@Ay_e_sha 😇🫂
Can you please make video on pressure on indian boys from society😢its really important issue
Become besharam, don't allow people to make expectation
Yup
Really appreciate your words, hope my parents will understand these things and so do I. Great videos man learnt a lot from you.
Last tak dekha ❤..
One topic which strikes my mind is * toxic friendships or .. fake friendship *
You might fail or try failing eventually going against your parents. But, when You are Parent remember this exact emotion You felt everyday towards Your Only Parents... and Be Understanding and Different. If You slip up as a Parent just take Time and Go and Beg to Your Child For Forgiveness but Never Let them Feel the Way You Feel since Birth
4:22 My parents saying After doing Engineering then preapare for Government job
5:23 Comparison is my worst enemy
I wanted to be a artist or animator or wanted to create comics like Japanese mangas i had some good stories.
But now i am stuck in school marks exams and families expectations. And i am walking it a path to be an DOCTOR 🙂
The only reason why we don't have Indian animes .
@@henrik908 🥲
You will certainly earn more as a Doctor
@@Sameer2107 a drug dealer earns more than a doctor 💊 so ?
@@henrik908 that's different..that's illegal business
Bhai ne aaj Indian parents ki achi Class li hai 😂😂
😂😂
😅😂😂
But reality main koi parents ye video dekh rahe honge 🥲
@@mobile_pe_ungli_karta_hu..mai dekh rhi hu....I'm parent to a teenager boy aur mai dekh rhi hu...aur bhi bahut parents honge jo dekhenge aur hopefully samjhenge
Bhaiyyaa ek video Kolkata Rape case par bhi banao that Dr. and her Family deserves justice
It's Nirbhaya case 2.0
It's so sad to hear that even the doctor's are not safe in hospitals now
Where will women go???
In her own home she is not safe
In her Workplace she is not safe
In Public places she is not safe
After her death in her coffin her dead body is also not safe
💔
Ruk jao bhai ruk jao time lagta hai time research mien woh papad nahi tal raha hai ki
I think the fault is with both somewhere with parents and somewhere with children too. No side is 'Pure Innocent' in any case so in order to correct things the efforts should be taken by both the parties i.e. Parents as well as Children for a better nation
But everything starts with parents naa ... children are what thier parents made them 🤌🏻
@@Klumsyyykitshz yep. I totally agree but don't forget that children too learn from the world, friends, relatives by observing them
i agree with you my brother, 5 saal ke bacche ko puri duniya ka gyaan hona chahiye, koi bhi sawaal nahi puchna chahiye, sab kuch khud hi samjh jana chahiye. kyuki parents yahi expect karte hai ek 5 saal ke bacche se.
porn addiction and lack of open communication is my major problem
Find someone in ur family in whom you can confide....talk openly to them and if they're close to ur parents they can talk to them as well... they'll help you to seek professional help to get rid of ur addiction too
Wait, you're addicted to P*rn and you can't escape?
I am 20 yrs old now.
mere12th class me aane tak mere papa bahut overly strict the, mko yaad he jab maarte the to neel pad jata tha. Unke liye acchi cheeze sikhane ka sabse best tareeka marna hi tha.I remember he used to beat me with hard plastic bat aur kabhi kabhi to sabke saamne bhi maarte the dikhane ke liye ki vo kitne ideal dad he aur baccho ko aise hi sikhaya jata he.
Isse hota ye he ki ladko ka( Obviously itne buri tarah se ladke hi pit te he) apne father se emotional connection nahi ban pata, balki ulta hota he- hum unse bahut darne lagte he, mebhi bahut darta tha aur aaj bhi kahi na kahi those childhood traumas haunt me. Aur fir hum ladke apni mummy se emotional connection banate he aur vo connection kuch zyzda hi ban jata he.
Isse ladke apni mummy se choti se choti baato share karte he aur unki best advice lete he. But it has a downside- Isse ladke MAMMA'S BOYS ban jate he (Due to lack of masculine energy from father).
Mene dekha he fathers bahut proudly kehte he ki- Hamare teachers to hume dando se ya sehtoot ki dandiyo se fingers pe maarte the, isleye aaj hum successful he. THAT'S utter BS dad.
Today I am learning about life on my own, watching High value men content.
EDIT- Aur isse relationship bhi effect hoti he ladko ki, because ladkiyo ko to mammas boys pasand nahi aate, aur ladkiya judge karti he bina reason jane ki us ladke ne kitna jhela he past me.( no doubt girls have traumatic past too).
Not all girls are judgmental bruh! If one girl is judgmental it doesn't mean that all girls are same
@@Luna_3234-x1t Naahhh but girls dont like mammas boys. Thats a fact
I am not mammas boy btw
@@PhysioOm some girls really find mammas boy attractive believe me or not!
@@Luna_3234-x1t asian mamas boy r a bit diff
Like uk it may turn out to be the Indian serial sas bahu toxic thing
u are exactly correct!!
but sirif ladko ko hee itni buri tarike se maar nahi padti, My dad also beats me a lot :(
so much that When i was 17 he beated me so much I left my home and went to sleep in my freind's home!
I really thank to my father , that he didn't even said to choose my stream of subjects, he just said, choose that subject that you have an interest in... I chose biology which was so fascinating to me..
I thank you mahi bhai, this makes me so inspired from you, I WANT you to make video on recent DOCTOR RAPE CASE, she was brutally murdered and raped, I want you to tell about the cause and reason of the mindset of such cases. THANK YOU .
I will share this video to my father...... But I know he never understand me. 😢
Last tak dekha bhaiya soo good truth explained...!! Iss jamane mein direct sach bolne walo ki zarurat hai...!!
Thanks ❤❤❤
Last Tak dekha❤❤❤
THIS IS THE MAIN REASON WHY OUR COUNTRY DIDN'T WON ANY GOLD MEDAL IN OLYMPICS IN ANY OTHER SPORTS
I am really grateful to god for gifting me with my parents who before being my guardian try to be my friends and understand that I am unique in my own way. They never compare me to others and always encourage me to persue what I love to do. I love my parents and the support they provide me...❤
Same brother ❤❤ I always feel so grateful for having supportive parents ❤🤗
asalam alikum bahi end tak dekha mene or kafi kuch humesha seekhne ko milta hai apki har video main you are creating such a good content
To be very honest my parents don't very much from me. At least now. Don't know about future. But yeah some time they being rude to me. And every parents from every part of the world should hear and respect what their child want to do in future because of course everyone have their own plans about their future. By the way watching your video from Bangladesh. 🇧🇩.
I told you in your recent videos to make a video on this topic, thanks for making one, ❤
Such a nice, important, and unique video you have done a LOT of research for this video (dekh kr hi pata chalta hai) thank you so much Mahi bro 😊 I hope 500k jaldi hi jaye
@mahinergy Mai aapke sab videos ko hi last tak dekhta hu....
Thank you so much 👍👍 bahut hi achha content rahta hai aapka..❤❤❤
24:00 I watched your video till last. and I am one of the lucky children whose parents support.😊. Nice video
I'm over 20... still my dad doesn't think twice to abuse me , mock me , beat me in front of public
Me ek parent hun mene pura last tok dekha and mene realize kiya ki me kuch kuch galti karta hun apne parenting ko lekar and me wada karta hun me sab correct karunga 👩👧👍👍
Kya aap please bata skte hai ki apka bacha abhi kya kar raha ( apne career ke liye ) ?
According to indian parents baccho ko depression nahi hota . My own parents say this . They say baccho ko kis baat ka stress kama toh hum rahe hai .
Really saying... I was watching this video with a lot of patience ... As I got 63% in my 12th boards , my parents brutally judged me and said you are no more to live in the society as you can't do anything in the society . They said we can't show our face now in front of society .I got 92% in my 10th boards os they treated me like this . I cried so loudly as my parents told me this in front of that I was so alone getting decisions like suicide in my mind every moment even I have picked up a sharp knife to cut through my nerves but afterwords I thought if I took my life this way then I woldn't go through my future anymore . I started forgetting all those and living now happily .😌
Same somewhat with me I have got 90% in 10 and 70% in 12 . They have comparing me a lot . And makes those unsatisfied faces in front of me . Taunt me again and again . Don't think about these thoughts bro just live your life be happy and stop comparing atleast you by yourself
I scored 92 in 10 still they compared me by saying aur bhi bache hai na jinhone ne 92 se upar laya hai and u have not done anything very big at least u got more than 90 saved my nose and again that comparison
MashaAllha bohot accha...last tak daykha...ar share bhi kardiya...lots of love bhaiya
you are one of the best influencer i had ever seen i also watch your videos again again when i was sad or depresses about something you are explaining our current life problems or situations .
I request all to young viewer plz give freedom to your children's ❤
Loved this video it was much needed !! Also I've commented on ur previous video for a topic commenting it here again.
Ik so many people are going to hate me for saying this I also know that not everyone will agree to me but I've to say that don't uh all think that this category bifurcation for studies is not okay. Me being general category student it's very difficult for us to secure a single seat in anything all the favours n opportunities are only for the OBC SC etc etc which in my pov is very unfair. They think just because they are in that category of OBC or st they are poor or are more deserving this is wrong at so many levels. Not all of them are poor or deserving to get all that facilities. General category students are working n studying day n night to get that one seat or opportunity but as always the OBC n st are being put forward first. Also not every general category students are rich or are born with silver spoons. This category system of worse. Be it feels structure it's not even half of what we pay, be it seat it's not even half that are secured for us whyyyy??? Students with no skills not even good grades n with whole lot of money are given all the opportunities. This system needs to be changed badly. Bhaiya I really want to know ur opinion on this please make a video on this!!
Par aap bhi toh car ke peeche Rajput,Jaat likhte ho
10:19 I have always been a curious person, I would often ask questions to know more details but people would say I'm just dumb to ask questions and that affected my confidence. But now I realise it's rather intelligent to ask questions.
Same reason, i am in 12th class , currently I have no friends in college, i have always fear to ask questions to anybody, during 7 class I love to draw but when mother saw the drawings she literally torn it apart, it's been 5 years since that incident I have never ever drew anything till now💛
@@selfcontrol-lg5jd I feel you, bud. :(
I am really blessed to have parents who never force me on anything ❤🥰😊.... wo bolte hain ki jo bhi karna hai Karo but usme best hona chahiye
This video is Big slap for Indian parents
From today onwards I permanently subscribe your channel you are the best person I ever saw mahi ❤
Thank God. now respect for my parents have increased so much.
They simply said it,s your life , do whatever you ( positively)
You're lucky.
Bhai, boht achi video banayi hai. The scripting is super fantabulous. I loved it ❤
im from bangladesh and this whole video was 100% relatable for me and others . and people should talk about this in bangladesh . as a teenager and genz i agree
Of course last tk dekhi.
Yun toh aapne har chapter mein as clue jikr kiya lekin finally clearfy kar hi diya which is really clear and true.
i. e. Clear, open communication between parents and their children.
Very good son
3:10 hey bro parent's says where you should go and whom you should make friends is only for safety of thier own child. If child make friends the guy who smokes and fight with other people then you think parents have responsibilities to keep safe the child from bad guy and bad habbits
Bro safety purpose is ok but over intrapting mai jaha par v jata hu mere parents ko batanaparta hai agar local kai v dosto k sath jata hu mujhe ghar pe ake batana padta hai dosto k bich main kia bat hua hai ,bolo ap isko kia khaita hai bro , kisika phone ata hai to mere phone oe to fir pas a jate he kia bat karta hu sunk liye kon phone kia bo sabsunte hai or mera age sunoge 19 hai, is age pe v or kia bolu😮💨 tum nahi samjhoge safety purpose ar itna jyada strict kia hota hai
Bro 1 se 5 class me bhi literally
@@PiyushNanda99 I am sure u don't know a thing how can this over care can become a curse u won't be let out of house to play and every kid who is playing out wold said he is a bad guy u will be compared and told that some children don't go out and only study u will be interfered to talk on speaker with friends and I'd friend doesn't greet u parent he or she will be bad ................think before speaking how sevre situation one should have faced
At the end of the day last tak dekha ... Many many thanks for this serious topic❤
One day i was very ill, i told my dad to bring some medicines for me but he refused me in a very bad way. From that day i hesitate asking him anything. And my friend's father helped me with the medicines.
I have no one to talk freely, i don't have friends and all to talk with. I'm living a miserable life
Bhaiii, sab sey phleyyy mein bht bht ziyada appreciate kroon ga aapko key aap ney iss topic ko discuss kia. Mein hamyshaa sey he apki videos dylhna hun there are several reasons why I watch your videos and on the top there's your way of conveying the message. The way you talk is so fascinating. Commendable!!!
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Doosri cheez bhaiii next topic mein suggest krna chahoun ga key aap hamein guide karein k hamein kis trhaan apney parents ko convince krna chaiyey like the best way.
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Or meyney yey note kia hey meyney openly apney father sey communicate kia thaa while being polite. Mery father ney meri baat purey 1:30hours tak sunii or next day unka behavior change tha, mery father bht supportive hein but sometimes I literally feel like am in prison. Mgr mein phr bhi wide perspective ko he pursue krooon ga q key ayk yeyhi cheez hey jo mujhey jeeney or seekhney ka moka deytii hey.
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Bht bht thanks bhai❤
Please make a video on peer pressure...
As majority of your audience are under 18😐