When the birth mom sang “I’m trusting you can give this baby BOTH his mothers’ love,” and her voice wavered, that’s when I lost it! 😭😭😭 Such a powerful testimony and a beautiful story! Thank you so much for sharing!
Beautiful. Because infertility issues, failed attempts to create our own baby that would grow inside of me we adopted 3 children that grew in our hearts. This was not an open adoption but our children always knew that they were adopted. We shared their journey to us and when they were adults if they wanted to find their birth families I gave them the information to start their search. Our twin sons have connected with their birth family and our daughter has connected with hers. It has been a beautiful journey. Thank you for sharing your story.
The birth mother is very brave !!! she loved her baby so much she knew she had to give him up to have a better life than she could give him.I don't think I could have ever given up my baby because back in the 80,s there was no open adoptshin . if there would have been I could have given my son up for adoption. The birth mother has given the gift of love to so many people. I wish the birth mother a life time of health and happiness !!!
What a beautiful, beautiful story. We're an open adoption family multiple times over and it is such an incredible journey. Your birth mother's song was so moving, I almost lost it a few times, having watched birth mothers go thru the process, its very hard not to be emotional. Thank you so much for sharing this and to all the birth mothers out there, THANK YOU FOR CHOOSING LIFE!!
gosh birth mum only looks to be a babe herself, bless her. What a wonderful outcome though - she was brave, kept her baby and went thru with the labour then handed him over to a loving family who will love and care for him throughout his life. Wonderful that birth mum still has access to her boy. A lovely story thanks for sharing.
My heart breaks when the girl ( I'm thinking the birth mom either wrote, sung or both). The song says how much she loved that baby with all of her heart. I'm trusting you can give him both his mother's love. As the baby is born from God's arms, to mine to yours. It's the most beautiful birth mother's love to make sure he knows that she will always love him. I hope an open agreement is made so the birth mother can get to know her beautiful baby boy. May God bless you all & I pray the baby will understand why his bio-mom had to make the sacrifice to him & for him. I know hearts were overjoyed while others were broken. God Bless you all.
What an incredibly beautiful, and important story you've told. The song lyrics are so heartfelt and you can feel the emotion in them. What a beautiful legacy you have all given to your son. He is clearly a very loved little boy. Open adoption is such a wonderful thing for some people, and you've all clearly embraced it. I loved this video.
This is so beautiful! The song sung by birth mom was so precious! And what a brave and selfless young woman she is for choosing life for her son, and doing one of the hardest things I could imagine which is place the child that grew in your body into another's arms. Thank God for brave and selfless women like her, who chose the blessing of adoption instead of abortion. ❤
This song is so nice the birth mom has a lovely voice.the birth mom was brave and selfless to give her son up for adoption he is a handsome baby he is loved by his adoptive family it is a open adopted and that his birth mom see him he is one luckily boy
Birth Mommy's song was absolutely precious & perfect. When baby grows up & hears it, it will reaffirm her unselfish love for him. Thank you for sharing.
This is a beautiful tribute to the power of openness and love. It's so great that the birth mom can know and see that her child is happy, loved, cared for. It's a great gift for the adoptive parents to be so secure, inclusive and open to cultivate an ongoing relationship to the birth mom. This is true love and community in action.
What a beautiful story in pictures. My sister gave two babies up for adoption in fairly open adoptions. The timing wasn't right for her and they have had great homes to grow up in for sure. SHe was totally unselfish for sure. God bless to all that do this.
The BEST open adoption video I have ever seen. Your family's story was presented in such a beautiful and loving way and not one word was spoken during the entire video. I absolutely loved it and was in tears during many of the clips. Considering my children were adopted over 35 years ago, I have seen my fair share of adoption videos over the years and yours captured the essence of adoption and especially an open adoption, so perfectly.
I'm in tears as a mother myself having children young and knowing how hard it is. Such a brave birth mum and a beautiful adoptive family. Tears of joy I definitely think. Beautiful.
Adoption is a really great thing I was adopted when I was it was the best thing for me because my mom didn’t want me parents to make sure if you’re going to eat when I talk to child and they don’t lock them in the car because that’s dangerous in the truck on a hot day the child could end up getting overheated or a truck or seen people do that when I lived in California someone locked her child in the car when it was 99° in San Jose California and they got the police called and came out and I was very glad woman got arrested she deservedit
It's a bitter sweet God bless the mother who gave it up for adoption Dear God please help her in all she does guide her in every step she makes,and the family God bless you
Thank you all for the kind words! I am so thrilled that someone out there found this video! Answers to your questions: My son's birth mom did sing this first song. It was originally written and sung by
Andrea Harker ::Young girls like u are ruled by entities the lust of the flesh, eyes, mouth and when u first meet yur "pleasure stick" with the longing to feel real special by giving u cuddles and kisses until everything is nice and nasty and he reaches deep inside u by you hearing 3 magic words (I love you!) Than u just open yur gulliable body and legs. U probably have never been closed to the Creator and certainly not in yur moment of passion or even know the will of god infact the Creator is so far away from yur thoughts all that filled yur mind was the pleasure of lust stick and when you could be with that demon of lust kid with no morals or respect for u or u no respect for yourself and nothing else matters to u or what consquences could come from this and hear u probably raised in some well to do where you should be focusing in the Creator Will for yur life. And like there isn't enough orphans in this condemn wrld already. Or you could have been thinking of going to college most upper middle class kids have it made u don't have to worry about staying alive and your spoiled rotten where u never have to think where can u get yur next meal as a good portion of this world has too. Did u ever once considered "what if I get pregnant" Just think how the third wrld country youth and midtwenties sinful godless pagans live and most whites feel they are better than the poor thinking I am so glad I am better than those other races and any way if something happens mommy/God will come with a plan for my bundle of burden should I get knock up. There's has to be somebody out there that may want to raise and pay for my mistake. Why should I get weight down with this little throw away pancake I have so much better choices after I grow up. God knows that and he/she?? what's his name God will find someone to give my bundle of burden too, oh yes and give "it" a hug and a kiss or with the love and support of everyone I guess I could keep this burden but, I am to young oh I know I'll make a beautiful side of sin show!! so everyone including God/ satan will not condemn me in away and I will still get to go to heaven I am sure God will always find ways to clean up the little or big messes I make. All because I just wanted to feel what it felt like to be touched disrespectfully because I don't respect myself enough to stay pure for God and my parents who have spent thousands of dollars to make sure I get every thing I want and this nasty empty headed coward possessed by the demons of lust and temporary boyfriend will not wait to marry me beside we are to young to be Responsible darn all l want to is to have fun and what itnfeels like to be grabbed sexually and than throw away our mess a bundle of burden bastard child and physically raise it till she or he the baby will pass the curse to the next generation and so on. God will understand because after all we are better than any race. They have much more curses like idol worships and marry more than one wife and satanist worship the devils beside the lust/ fornication are not so sinful. The young girls in India are killed because they are consider unimportant unless the parents have enormous amount of downry when the male marrys the still unimportant female. The male and his family are just looking at the riches of this world their mindset on being cuddle and made feel a little special is not important but, females are sold as whores and the end result is a bastard baby another throw away just like the ones where the females are wanting to feel special and kissed and experienced sex at the price of a precious innocent baby with no future they are just like pancakes throw away where the pagan godless females walk away from where they birth the baby mostly out doors in a alley, brushes, woods, etc. they abandoned their unwanted baby these females in third wrld countries that act no better than the false gods and their probably looking for someone to rescue them because of poor living conditions many young girls are sold by their mom for money or are rape so what happens to the bundle of burden they go to ORPHANAGES OR GO TO MARRIED COUPLES OR GIVEN TO IMMORAL INDIVIDUALS TO BE SOLD IN HUMAN TRAFFICING TO BE USED AS SEX SLAVES FOR LIFE. OR TILL THEY DIE BUT, MANY ARE KILLED. MANY BABIES ARE LEFT TO DIE BY THEIR LITTLE SELVES FRIGHTENED, COLD, HUNGRY, NEEDING TO BE LOVED INSTEAD COME INTO A WRLD FULL OF SIN AND EVIL AS CAN BE. I KEPT MY BABY AND WORKED THRU THE YRS. TO PROVIDE FOR MY BASTARD CHILD. NO ONE RESCUE ME NO MONEY BUT, SHE MARRY WELL AND I HAVE GRD. KIDS ABOUT TO GRADUDATE FROM THE COLLEGE ALL OF THEM IN CHURCH KEEPING THEMSELVES TILL THEY MARRY I HOPE I WAS AN EXAMPLE FOR NOT THROWING ONE TO GODLESS LUSTFUL MALE AND I MARRIED TOO.
HaveFaithBerry Berry Not sure where to begin with deciphering your tangential wanderings. The Bible does say, as Jesus himself said when the religious men wanted to stone the woman, that "HE WHO Is WITHOUT SIN cast the first stone. I too am a Grandma, but I had, as you so politely put it, a " bastard child" when I was in my teens. His father and I eventually married and now have 5 kids. I have been a Bible believing Christian since my teens. To me this means that Jesus is my Lord and Saviour and NOTHING but His dying on the cross and shedding His blood for ME could get me to heaven. I believe that the Bible is the ONLY book that clearly states what He wants me to know. THAT and NO other. I am born in sin and I need to repent of my sin every time I sin. But God's love never changes and never fails. I live under His GRACE not His condemnation. He is the ONLY one with any right to judge another. Yes, the young woman gave into lust, but she didn't make that baby on her own. A child is a gift regardless of its making. That little baby is loved by all. Please keep your judgemental ramblings to yourself and go and examine your own heart. Jesus came to save the lost and His is the only way to Heaven. Are you worthy to throw stones?
Whatayusay Bery how dare you comment on this beautiful amazing story with all that rubbish. We can't change the past only this moment she made the best choices she could in that moment and has created a happy life for the child and made a beautiful family even more complete. Keep your negative thoughts to yourself.
Watching this video broke me so much, I just made this choice for my baby girl one month ago. The words she sang in that song touched my heart so deeply. Thank you for sharing your story. Thank you.
Brittney Summers wow! You are now one of the brave, loving mothers who will always carry this joy, sometimes pain, and sacred title of being a birth mom. Not sure if you have placed yet or not, but wherever you are on your journey, surround yourself with wonderful people who are supportive and uplifting! Reach out to my birth moms on social media if you would like, or find a support group in line or locally. We have been navigating open adoptive relationships with our children’s birth families for 5 years but always blazing trail, learning and growing. It’s teamwork. Best wishes ❤️
Andrea Harker I did place her already, she went home with the adoptives, and we have an open adoption as well. I'm visiting for the first time soon, right after mothers day! I'm thankful and BLESSED. I would love to connect on social media, how can I do That? 😁
Andrea Harker You're such a sweet soul, thank you so much for your kind wishes, and thank you for creating this beautiful video, women like me need to see. What is the name of the 2nd song you play in this video? Is it by Celine Dion?
Brittney Summers Facebook friend invite me and Nicole Bremner, and send her a message telling her you are a birth mom and want more resources. She can connect you to some fbgroups and I can send you links! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Andrea Harker Okay, I actually went on a Facebook hiatus through the end of my pregnancy so I will have to reactivate it and look y'all up. Thank you again.
I admire this family. I would never agree to an open adoption. They are basically just paying to raise the kid and the BM gets all the benefits without the work
Annalisa Young I appreciate you commenting, but this statement could not be farther from the truth. I would love to share my view with you and hope it doesn’t sound disrespectful. We have 2 biological children and 2 adopted children. All 4 of these kids are ours. Always were, always will be. Birth families, including birth moms, do not get all the “benefits” of raising their birth child. They miss them and mourn in a deep way. However, being involved in a healthy form of an open adoption that is appropriate for the circumstance, they, along with the adopted child, the adoptive family, and all other birth family members are most often able to heal and experience emotional health and life success in a way that is not even comparable to what all parties go through in a closed adoption (as proven by proven, scientific, empirical, extensive research). The birth families have a connection- yes. Similar to what our children’s aunts or uncles or family friends have. We love each other, respect each other, and acknowledge the roles we play in each other’s lives. But I am these babies’ mother and their dad is their father. Having Jordan’s birthdad here over Thanksgiving this past week did not take my husband’s fatherhood away in any shape or form. Because our birthdad is a safe and healthy person, he is able to get a glimpse into our life once in a while and see the joy that not only his decision to agree to placement has made, but also feel joy that good things can come from bad choices. He himself was adopted and experienced a closed adoption. He is 22 and still trying to work through some very difficult emotions regarding the fact that he has no connections with his biological parents. This is a complex issue and every family needs to decide what is best. His parents did what they felt was right and I respect their decision. But being one who lives in the situation every day, And admitting that it can be hard at times, I feel very strongly to point out that love and charity never fail. Love does not mean there is an absence of boundaries. I’m sure there will be periods of time in my children’s life when birth family will take a backseat. While two of my children are still young, it has been very beautiful to allow my families to heal and experience joy and see the miracles God has created in our lives. We will be sensitive as these kids grow to make sure that their needs are being met above anyone else’s. And that they are proud of who they are, where they came from, and why their story is so significant to their purpose in this life. No secrets, no shame, no fears. Our actions as parents regarding their adoption will be their model for how they feel about it in large part. I’m sure I will make mistakes, but I will never act out of jealousy, territory, or fear.
Annalisa Young I appreciate you commenting, but this statement could not be farther from the truth. I would love to share my view with you and hope it doesn’t sound disrespectful. We have 2 biological children and 2 adopted children. All 4 of these kids are ours. Always were, always will be. Birth families, including birth moms, do not get all the “benefits” of raising their birth child. They miss them and mourn in a deep way. However, being involved in a healthy form of an open adoption that is appropriate for the circumstance, they, along with the adopted child, the adoptive family, and all other birth family members are most often able to heal and experience emotional health and life success in a way that is not even comparable to what all parties go through in a closed adoption (as proven by proven, scientific, empirical, extensive research). The birth families have a connection- yes. Similar to what our children’s aunts or uncles or family friends have. We love each other, respect each other, and acknowledge the roles we play in each other’s lives. But I am these babies’ mother and their dad is their father. Having Jordan’s birthdad here over Thanksgiving this past week did not take my husband’s fatherhood away in any shape or form. Because our birthdad is a safe and healthy person, he is able to get a glimpse into our life once in a while and see the joy that not only his decision to agree to placement has made, but also feel joy that good things can come from bad choices. He himself was adopted and experienced a closed adoption. He is 22 and still trying to work through some very difficult emotions regarding the fact that he has no connections with his biological parents. This is a complex issue and every family needs to decide what is best. His parents did what they felt was right and I respect their decision. But being one who lives in the situation every day, And admitting that it can be hard at times, I feel very strongly to point out that love and charity never fail. Love does not mean there is an absence of boundaries. I’m sure there will be periods of time in my children’s life when birth family will take a backseat. While two of my children are still young, it has been very beautiful to allow my families to heal and experience joy and see the miracles God has created in our lives. We will be sensitive as these kids grow to make sure that their needs are being met above anyone else’s. And that they are proud of who they are, where they came from, and why their story is so significant to their purpose in this life. No secrets, no shame, no fears. Our actions as parents regarding their adoption will be their model for how they feel about it in large part. I’m sure I will make mistakes, but I will never act out of jealousy, territory, or fear.
I do admire you for what you are doing as I said, the video made it look like the BPs will be playing a huge roll in their lives, maybe I'm mistaken. I was just saying that if I was to agree to an open adoption, the BPs would have a minimal role as a child can't have two mother's raising him at the same time. Your values could be different than hers. What if she decides she doesn't want him home schooled or thinks it's ok to go see rated PG 13 movies when he's older? If you don't let him and he knows she will...I can think of so many scenarios that could make it hard for you to parent. The occasional mother will also be something the child will look forward to as he/she doesn't have to discipline him/her and you will be looked at as the bad guy and her a person they can run to when they don't get what they want. I have seen so many nightmare scenarios online that I still believe the model they have used for decades is the best until they are old enough to make their own decision about the BPs or out of your house.
Annalisa Young - I now can see where you are coming from. The birth parent in the adoption triad is by no means a parent in that he/ she has no more say in their life or interaction than a friend or extended family member would. The video did show a lot of interaction. This was the case at first as our birth mom found visits to be reassuring, ease the pain, and build her confidence in his future with his family. It is frequent at times and sparse at others during the first years of their lives, while our birth parents are trying to heal and make peace and resolution. We just went through a time period of 2 years with our other birth mom of almost zero contact. And that was okay. It can be tricky to figure out where she fits in the picture moving forward after an inconsistency. But usually just happens organically. Birth moms, like all people, try their best to do what’s She has 3 other kids and is focused on her family. It’s also how she felt she could best heal. In our home mom is mom, dad is dad, and person who you inherited your genetics and got you to us safely is a really important person who has our respect. I feel like the decades of closed adoption brought a much deeper level of shame and emotional pain to birth families and most importantly, the adoptee. Things that are bad and embarrassing get overlooked and not brought up a lot in a family- like affairs, bankruptcies, and addictions. We cast a birth parent out and it’s like we are casting out a part of our kid. My teenager regularly sees what he likes about other people’s parents and sometimes even declares that he would rather live with their rules. If he had a birth parent, I’m sure I’d be hearing that one too. But oh well, they aren’t your parent and that’s life. Just like the friends’ way cool mom, their grandmas, and my sisters, my kids’ birth moms will at times in the future seem way more appealing than I do. But as much as we love those people and admire what they have done for us as characters in our story, they aren’t the parent and don’t have the stewardship or the deep connection so the phase is just that- a phase with a go- to default to want to explore an alternate reality with a birth parent. I’m sure it will happen. Sorry for my ramblings. It helps a lot to hash my feelings out once in a while. Thank you. PS- watch the series “This is Us.” Best TV show I have EVER seen and this topic is a regular one. God bless
How do you give your own baby??I can’t imagine that 😢😢I’m sure it’s very painful and heart she doesn’t understand she is very young age now!!! I have 3 children one of them I lost,one ectopic pregnancy i don’t describe my pain 😢
A beautiful baby and I am glad she was able to carry to his birth for this wonderful Open-Minded family, they seem to be a perfect fit! Though I do not wish any cause for Medical Procedure I feel that is NONE of my business... but I am Glad SHE still has Individual Choice to DECIDE FOR HERSELF!! A "Choice that is between a Woman and her Doctor, NO ONE ELSES!! "Individuals" decide for themselves if they wish to be Foster OR Adoptive Parents, Men are given the Option whether they want to have children in their lives, BUT *Giving Birth* ??? Is ONLY the Woman's Decision **While REASON For PREGNANCY IS NOT Always HER Choice** ...in the End... Her Body Her Decision > MANY of us who feel differently about GIVING Birth >> THAT is OUR Choice!!
Yes! It was originally written and sung by a member of my church named Micheal McLain. Mary Osmond has also sung it. It’s called, “From Gods arms, to my arms, to yours.” There is also a beautiful little hard cover book by the same name that McLain put together.
Yes! It was originally written and sung by a member of my church named Micheal McLain. Mary Osmond has also sung it. It’s called, “From Gods arms, to my arms, to yours.” There is also a beautiful little hard cover book by the same name that McLain put together.
Yes! It was originally written and sung by a member of my church named Micheal McLain. Mary Osmond has also sung it. It’s called, “From Gods arms, to my arms, to yours.” There is also a beautiful little hard cover book by the same name that McLain put together.
Yes! It was originally written and sung by a member of my church named Micheal McLain. Mary Osmond has also sung it. It’s called, “From Gods arms, to my arms, to yours.” There is also a beautiful little hard cover book by the same name that McLain put together.
Yes! It was originally written and sung by a member of my church named Micheal McLain. Mary Osmond has also sung it. It’s called, “From Gods arms, to my arms, to yours.” There is also a beautiful little hard cover book by the same name that McLain put together.
As one of the birth grandmothers, we visit him, he knows us and he knows his story. We don't have the same relationship with him as we have with our other grandkids but he has so many people who love him, that it's ok. He knows we love him.
Yazmine Cristina Thanks for your comments. Oh, he is definitely all mine to love and keep! Jordy is now 20 months old and is attached to my hip permanently! Open adoption doesn’t entail sharing your eternal children with other parents, it just keeps a relationship of love and peace thriving in some way. She is like a little sister to my husband and I. You love these girls so much because their sacrifice changed your life forever. We get to see our birth moms every few months or so, and we love seeing them just like we love seeing family members and good friends. My kids know that these special girls are not their moms, but that they are very special because they were responsible of getting them to their family safely through a lot of prayer, sacrifice, and heartache. One of our birth moms now has 3 children of her own, and this one from the video is excited to start her own family. Closed versus open really just means whether or not your children and their birth families know who the other one is and that identifying information is shared at time of placement. We feel like it’s a big and important part of all of our kids’ self esteem to own and love their story of how they got from God to us, and of the miracles and characters in it.
With an adoptive family AND his birth mom, he has more love. He will never have to search or wonder about his birth mom, or she about him. Love grows when given away, not kept...
@@TallDiana -- Yes, with the love of both birth mom and adoptive mom, the little one is twice blessed! "The love in your heart wasn't put there to stay, Love isn't love 'til you give it away."
Sorry, I feel sad for the baby. I just feel that the best choice for a child is to grow up with the real mother. And this card with : " Yes I am adopted!", makes me upset, like it is a great thing to not be with the real mother
@Jennifer Bremner No doubt that the adoptive mother loves the child, also I don't think that anybody should feel ashamed and I do respect all the parents in their choices. In my opinion adoption should be a last choice since too many adopted children struggle with the fact that they are adopted. Despite you are saying that 80% of the children born to unwed teenage mothers end up in the justice system, I didn't read very positive things about adopted children as well: drtracylcarlis.com/adopted-children-syndrome/ You are living in another country with a different society and different problems, one of the problems in the USA is the high rate of teenage pregnancies and a difficult financial situation from teenage mothers what makes that they feel they can't provide the best for their child and that really makes me sad. I am a mother myself and simply can't imagine to be in a situation that I have to give away my child for her or his benefit . I believe that in an ideal world no child should be born to be adopted but unfortunetely we don't live in an ideal world. The best option for a child is of course growing up by biological parents that can care for the child and I think you agree with me. So it is not a beautiful story to me but maybe the best choice out of the bad choices because there were no good choices possible. Also the child can only see in the future how it feels about it In my country, the Netherlands, there are 4 teenage pregnancies (under the age of 20) per 1000 pregnancies and only 15 Dutch babies per year are given up for adoption, I don't know how many of them are from teenage mothers but I guess the most of them are from women from another culture who have to keep the pregnancy secret for the family. So that makes that I feel so sorry to see a small innocent baby given away to new parents. I think it is better if a mother can make this difficult choice if she knows that she never need to worry about financial sources to continue her study and a monthly income to provide everything for her child and herself. I think that almost every mother would keep her baby on this way. So because of that I don't find it a beautiful story but a sad story for the birthmother and the child. My son in law is adopted as an infant ( from another country), his parents are very sweet and love him a lot but he feels that he is totally different than them and that causes a lot of distance between them. I am sorry for my bad English.
@Jennifer Bremner You are right that I never mentioned God because I personally don't believe there is a God. I hope you agree that believing there is no God is a believe as well and needs to be accepted as any other believe. I also think and feel, and I know that it also confirmed according research that open adoption is much better than a closed adoption but also I feel, and that is also confirmed by research that growing up by biological parents is better than growing up by adoptive parents, even if it will be a single mother: ifstudies.org/blog/the-adoptive-difference-new-evidence-on-how-adopted-children-perform-in-school My son in law is struggling with the fact that his parents are so different than him. His mother is a teacher, his father an engineer an they love literature and hiking in nature and they are devoted christians while he is an athïst. They are calm and serious people, who have fixed days for dinner choice, very simple food and too much caring to not waste money. What my son in law translates in boring and not understanding how fun life can be. He loves to be in our noisy family with our many family gatherings and often asks my daughter to call us to join our weekly saturday buffet evening. His parents are really warm and sweet people. It was my daughter who encourages him many times to meet his parents. Now they are in contact again but I really feel sorry for his parents because he is still on distance to them while my daughter has a very good contact with her mother in law and she also says that they are very sweet and warm. My son in law doesn't want to know anything from his birthparents, he also says that he is totally not interested. His birthmother was a 14 yrs old girl, extremely poor in a very poor country. She sold her body out of poverty and his biological father is unknown and one of the "customers". That is something he likes to keep secret. Anyway, my daughter and son in law are expecting their first child and he is very happy to get a blood related family member soon. He grew up without behaviour problems, was only a week old when he got adopted, took his education serious, no alcohol, cigarettes and drugs and very sportive but his adopted sister has psychological problems, is automutilating herself and can't live without the support of her parents. She was 3 when she got aopted and faced hunger and child neglection in her early childhood.
elena hennis LOL you must have had a bad experience with someone or some people who are members of my religion. I wish so much that people who are baptized, committed members of a religion were somehow less prone to human nature and being ridiculous or making poor choices than those who are not members of that faith. Unfortunately, though some have been taught more light and knowledge than others so far in their life, it doesn’t usually make them better people and more like Christ than the rest. Just gives them bigger responsibilities, opportunities to sacrifice and learn, and a larger lens to look at their life through when they do make mistake after mistake. Members of the LDS faith tend to also develop a culture within that group that is independent from the gospel teachings, and that as any culture does, breeds both good and bad traits. Green jello for instance- horrible trait 😂. I’m sorry if someone forgot who they were supposed to be representing (Christ) and caused you grief in any way. As members of the LDS faith we are in theory and hopefully in practice committed to loving, serving, protecting, and respecting our Savior, God, our eternal families, and our communities. We should be there to aid the poor and needy, lift the sick or afflicted, and raise our children to fulfill their own divine purposes for which they showed up for on earth. Anything you see or hear otherwise is not according to our beliefs nor our Heavenly Father’s teachings.
sorry but if realy you would help this young girl , help her to keep her baby , you have still 3 children...nevermind the baby looks like exactly like her both mother , and when he will be a man he would like to be with her
Good for you choosing to give him away. Its a very selfless thing to do. And he was lucky to get good parents. BUT never ever deny a girl to decide over her own body and do what she thinks is right. There are 200 million children in orphanages in the world today. Most of them will never be adopted and live a short horrible life worse than death. They are neglected, abused suffers from reactive attachment disorder and other mental issues and are thrown out at thirteen and becoming victims of trafficking or killed straight away. . No child deserves to go through that, that’s not a life . They are dead and doomed before they are born . Yes to legal and free abortion all over the world, it’s the one most important thing to end childrens suffering and child prostitution !!!
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I am a birth mom and I'm so blessed that my girls adoptive family and I have a close relationship like this. Open adoptions is truly a blessing.
When the birth mom sang “I’m trusting you can give this baby BOTH his mothers’ love,” and her voice wavered, that’s when I lost it! 😭😭😭 Such a powerful testimony and a beautiful story! Thank you so much for sharing!
all adoptions need to be Open Adoptions. I have seen first hand the agony that mothers go through, year after year.
What a beautiful voice!
From God’s arms to my arms to yours. You are an awesome woman. This is a love story.
Just beautiful with birth mother's voice.
Beautiful. Because infertility issues, failed attempts to create our own baby that would grow inside of me we adopted 3 children that grew in our hearts. This was not an open adoption but our children always knew that they were adopted. We shared their journey to us and when they were adults if they wanted to find their birth families I gave them the information to start their search. Our twin sons have connected with their birth family and our daughter has connected with hers. It has been a beautiful journey. Thank you for sharing your story.
The birth mother is very brave !!! she loved her baby so much she knew she had to give him up to have a better life than she could give him.I don't think I could have ever given up my baby because back in the 80,s there was no open adoptshin . if there would have been I could have given my son up for adoption. The birth mother has given the gift of love to so many people. I wish the birth mother a life time of health and happiness !!!
What an absolute selfless birth mummy (tummy mummy). You have much to be proud of. You're courageous beyond your years. Xx
What a beautiful, beautiful story. We're an open adoption family multiple times over and it is such an incredible journey. Your birth mother's song was so moving, I almost lost it a few times, having watched birth mothers go thru the process, its very hard not to be emotional. Thank you so much for sharing this and to all the birth mothers out there, THANK YOU FOR CHOOSING LIFE!!
gosh birth mum only looks to be a babe herself, bless her. What a wonderful outcome though - she was brave, kept her baby and went thru with the labour then handed him over to a loving family who will love and care for him throughout his life. Wonderful that birth mum still has access to her boy. A lovely story thanks for sharing.
Oh my heart, I want to hug his first mommy so badly. What a beautiful tribute to this little boy.
My heart breaks when the girl ( I'm thinking the birth mom either wrote, sung or both). The song says how much she loved that baby with all of her heart. I'm trusting you can give him both his mother's love. As the baby is born from God's arms, to mine to yours. It's the most beautiful birth mother's love to make sure he knows that she will always love him. I hope an open agreement is made so the birth mother can get to know her beautiful baby boy. May God bless you all & I pray the baby will understand why his bio-mom had to make the sacrifice to him & for him. I know hearts were overjoyed while others were broken. God Bless you all.
What an incredibly beautiful, and important story you've told. The song lyrics are so heartfelt and you can feel the emotion in them. What a beautiful legacy you have all given to your son. He is clearly a very loved little boy. Open adoption is such a wonderful thing for some people, and you've all clearly embraced it. I loved this video.
This is so beautiful! The song sung by birth mom was so precious! And what a brave and selfless young woman she is for choosing life for her son, and doing one of the hardest things I could imagine which is place the child that grew in your body into another's arms. Thank God for brave and selfless women like her, who chose the blessing of adoption instead of abortion. ❤
This song is so nice the birth mom has a lovely voice.the birth mom was brave and selfless to give her son up for adoption he is a handsome baby he is loved by his adoptive family it is a open adopted and that his birth mom see him he is one luckily boy
Birth Mommy's song was absolutely precious & perfect. When baby grows up & hears it, it will reaffirm her unselfish love for him. Thank you for sharing.
This is a beautiful tribute to the power of openness and love. It's so great that the birth mom can know and see that her child is happy, loved, cared for. It's a great gift for the adoptive parents to be so secure, inclusive and open to cultivate an ongoing relationship to the birth mom. This is true love and community in action.
What a beautiful story in pictures. My sister gave two babies up for adoption in fairly open adoptions. The timing wasn't right for her and they have had great homes to grow up in for sure. SHe was totally unselfish for sure. God bless to all that do this.
Heartwarming! Beautiful video with a meaningful story. Every life shown here is blessed. Thank you for sharing!
So amazing and such a selfless thing to do! ❤️
beautiful story beautiful first song.
The BEST open adoption video I have ever seen. Your family's story was presented in such a beautiful and loving way and not one word was spoken during the entire video. I absolutely loved it and was in tears during many of the clips. Considering my children were adopted over 35 years ago, I have seen my fair share of adoption videos over the years and yours captured the essence of adoption and especially an open adoption, so perfectly.
2:56 broke my Heart as a Mom... 😧💔
She will realistically never get over that agony..
blondago56 so true and so sad
That song just broke my heart.
I'm in tears as a mother myself having children young and knowing how hard it is. Such a brave birth mum and a beautiful adoptive family. Tears of joy I definitely think. Beautiful.
Adoption is a really great thing I was adopted when I was it was the best thing for me because my mom didn’t want me parents to make sure if you’re going to eat when I talk to child and they don’t lock them in the car because that’s dangerous in the truck on a hot day the child could end up getting overheated or a truck or seen people do that when I lived in California someone locked her child in the car when it was 99° in San Jose California and they got the police called and came out and I was very glad woman got arrested she deservedit
the world needs strong women ,so be sure there are people standing by you so beautiful
It's a bitter sweet God bless the mother who gave it up for adoption Dear God please help her in all she does guide her in every step she makes,and the family God bless you
That's so great that the birth Mom gets to love him throughout his life as well
Thank you all for the kind words! I am so thrilled that someone out there found this video! Answers to your questions: My son's birth mom did sing this first song. It was originally written and sung by
Andrea Harker ::Young girls like u are ruled by entities the lust of the flesh, eyes, mouth and when u first meet yur "pleasure stick" with the longing to feel real special by giving u cuddles and kisses until everything is nice and nasty and he reaches deep inside u by you hearing 3 magic words (I love you!) Than u just open yur gulliable body and legs. U probably have never been closed to the Creator and certainly not in yur moment of passion or even know the will of god infact the Creator is so far away from yur thoughts all that filled yur mind was the pleasure of lust stick and when you could be with that demon of lust kid with no morals or respect for u or u no respect for yourself and nothing else matters to u or what consquences could come from this and hear u probably raised in some well to do where you should be focusing in the Creator Will for yur life. And like there isn't enough orphans in this condemn wrld already. Or you could have been thinking of going to college most upper middle class kids have it made u don't have to worry about staying alive and your spoiled rotten where u never have to think where can u get yur next meal as a good portion of this world has too. Did u ever once considered "what if I get pregnant" Just think how the third wrld country youth and midtwenties sinful godless pagans live and most whites feel they are better than the poor thinking I am so glad I am better than those other races and any way if something happens mommy/God will come with a plan for my bundle of burden should I get knock up. There's has to be somebody out there that may want to raise and pay for my mistake. Why should I get weight down with this little throw away pancake I have so much better choices after I grow up. God knows that and he/she?? what's his name God will find someone to give my bundle of burden too, oh yes and give "it" a hug and a kiss or with the love and support of everyone I guess I could keep this burden but, I am to young oh I know I'll make a beautiful side of sin show!! so everyone including God/ satan will not condemn me in away and I will still get to go to heaven I am sure God will always find ways to clean up the little or big messes I make. All because I just wanted to feel what it felt like to be touched disrespectfully because I don't respect myself enough to stay pure for God and my parents who have spent thousands of dollars to make sure I get every thing I want and this nasty empty headed coward possessed by the demons of lust and temporary boyfriend will not wait to marry me beside we are to young to be Responsible darn all l want to is to have fun and what itnfeels like to be grabbed sexually and than throw away our mess a bundle of burden bastard child and physically raise it till she or he the baby will pass the curse to the next generation and so on. God will understand because after all we are better than any race. They have much more curses like idol worships and marry more than one wife and satanist worship the devils beside the lust/ fornication are not so sinful. The young girls in India are killed because they are consider unimportant unless the parents have enormous amount of downry when the male marrys the still unimportant female. The male and his family are just looking at the riches of this world their mindset on being cuddle and made feel a little special is not important but, females are sold as whores and the end result is a bastard baby another throw away just like the ones where the females are wanting to feel special and kissed and experienced sex at the price of a precious innocent baby with no future they are just like pancakes throw away where the pagan godless females walk away from where they birth the baby mostly out doors in a alley, brushes, woods, etc. they abandoned their unwanted baby these females in third wrld countries that act no better than the false gods and their probably looking for someone to rescue them because of poor living conditions many young girls are sold by their mom for money or are rape so what happens to the bundle of burden they go to ORPHANAGES OR GO TO MARRIED COUPLES OR GIVEN TO IMMORAL INDIVIDUALS TO BE SOLD IN HUMAN TRAFFICING TO BE USED AS SEX SLAVES FOR LIFE. OR TILL THEY DIE BUT, MANY ARE KILLED. MANY BABIES ARE LEFT TO DIE BY THEIR LITTLE SELVES FRIGHTENED, COLD, HUNGRY, NEEDING TO BE LOVED INSTEAD COME INTO A WRLD FULL OF SIN AND EVIL AS CAN BE. I KEPT MY BABY AND WORKED THRU THE YRS. TO PROVIDE FOR MY BASTARD CHILD. NO ONE RESCUE ME NO MONEY BUT, SHE MARRY WELL AND I HAVE GRD. KIDS ABOUT TO GRADUDATE FROM THE COLLEGE ALL OF THEM IN CHURCH KEEPING THEMSELVES TILL THEY MARRY I HOPE I WAS AN EXAMPLE FOR NOT THROWING ONE TO GODLESS LUSTFUL MALE AND I MARRIED TOO.
HaveFaithBerry Berry Not sure where to begin with deciphering your tangential wanderings. The Bible does say, as Jesus himself said when the religious men wanted to stone the woman, that "HE WHO Is WITHOUT SIN cast the first stone. I too am a Grandma, but I had, as you so politely put it, a " bastard child" when I was in my teens. His father and I eventually married and now have 5 kids. I have been a Bible believing Christian since my teens. To me this means that Jesus is my Lord and Saviour and NOTHING but His dying on the cross and shedding His blood for ME could get me to heaven. I believe that the Bible is the ONLY book that clearly states what He wants me to know. THAT and NO other. I am born in sin and I need to repent of my sin every time I sin. But God's love never changes and never fails. I live under His GRACE not His condemnation. He is the ONLY one with any right to judge another. Yes, the young woman gave into lust, but she didn't make that baby on her own. A child is a gift regardless of its making. That little baby is loved by all. Please keep your judgemental ramblings to yourself and go and examine your own heart. Jesus came to save the lost and His is the only way to Heaven. Are you worthy to throw stones?
Whatayusay Bery how dare you comment on this beautiful amazing story with all that rubbish. We can't change the past only this moment she made the best choices she could in that moment and has created a happy life for the child and made a beautiful family even more complete. Keep your negative thoughts to yourself.
Michelle Sartori so jesus meant no body throw stones because none of us are without sin. I think that's beautiful if so and very very powerful.
Whatayusay Bery sir are you on drugs??? Please seek immediate help and reach out to someone near you..ASAP
beautiful song beautiful words
Such a beautiful video I cried so much !!
Watching this video broke me so much, I just made this choice for my baby girl one month ago. The words she sang in that song touched my heart so deeply. Thank you for sharing your story. Thank you.
Brittney Summers wow! You are now one of the brave, loving mothers who will always carry this joy, sometimes pain, and sacred title of being a birth mom. Not sure if you have placed yet or not, but wherever you are on your journey, surround yourself with wonderful people who are supportive and uplifting! Reach out to my birth moms on social media if you would like, or find a support group in line or locally. We have been navigating open adoptive relationships with our children’s birth families for 5 years but always blazing trail, learning and growing. It’s teamwork. Best wishes ❤️
Andrea Harker I did place her already, she went home with the adoptives, and we have an open adoption as well. I'm visiting for the first time soon, right after mothers day! I'm thankful and BLESSED. I would love to connect on social media, how can I do That? 😁
Andrea Harker You're such a sweet soul, thank you so much for your kind wishes, and thank you for creating this beautiful video, women like me need to see.
What is the name of the 2nd song you play in this video? Is it by Celine Dion?
Brittney Summers Facebook friend invite me and Nicole Bremner, and send her a message telling her you are a birth mom and want more resources. She can connect you to some fbgroups and I can send you links! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Andrea Harker Okay, I actually went on a Facebook hiatus through the end of my pregnancy so I will have to reactivate it and look y'all up. Thank you again.
I am cry watching this video, this family so touching my heart ♥
this is a beautiful story its helping me realize what will happen when I do the same and I myself am in tears... you are a strong woman.
Mother Of 5 strong woman for giving it away?
😭 I cried!!! What a beautiful love story!
What an amazing family he will have when he grows up god bless u
Woww,beautiful baby,and what a song,so touching,the ultimate gift ...life!
Beautiful story, get the tissues!
The baby looks like the adopted family n brothers...as he growing up...
Powerful video.
I know this child will get his mom s heart n will power and grace of God
I’m in love with this song! Where can I get a recording? Just beautiful!
I try so hard to hold back tears
Oh my Gawd, I cried buckets watching this. That first song is beautiful. xxx
I love these types of stories
Oh my lord, I just came to watch because the baby seemed sooo beautiful!
Wow !!!Beautiful words so powerful. Beautiful mums & family's 💙
This is powerful
Beautiful! A true gift of love.
I wish I can adopt a baby girl. God Blessed them.
Originally written and sung by Micheal McLean.
Not meaning to be negative here..but couldn't the grandma help her raise him?
@Jennifer Bremner Thank you for taking the time to respond. I'm sure that was not an easy decision. Best wishes..and God bless💗
So glad they let her be there.
Love the song! So unselfish!
Pure and simple. BABIES ARE THE BEST !! ❤❤❤❤❤
List that baby has chance in life . Love and will good life sweet baby
He looks like the Family 💞
I admire this family. I would never agree to an open adoption. They are basically just paying to raise the kid and the BM gets all the benefits without the work
Annalisa Young I appreciate you commenting, but this statement could not be farther from the truth. I would love to share my view with you and hope it doesn’t sound disrespectful. We have 2 biological children and 2 adopted children. All 4 of these kids are ours. Always were, always will be. Birth families, including birth moms, do not get all the “benefits” of raising their birth child. They miss them and mourn in a deep way. However, being involved in a healthy form of an open adoption that is appropriate for the circumstance, they, along with the adopted child, the adoptive family, and all other birth family members are most often able to heal and experience emotional health and life success in a way that is not even comparable to what all parties go through in a closed adoption (as proven by proven, scientific, empirical, extensive research). The birth families have a connection- yes. Similar to what our children’s aunts or uncles or family friends have. We love each other, respect each other, and acknowledge the roles we play in each other’s lives. But I am these babies’ mother and their dad is their father. Having Jordan’s birthdad here over Thanksgiving this past week did not take my husband’s fatherhood away in any shape or form. Because our birthdad is a safe and healthy person, he is able to get a glimpse into our life once in a while and see the joy that not only his decision to agree to placement has made, but also feel joy that good things can come from bad choices. He himself was adopted and experienced a closed adoption. He is 22 and still trying to work through some very difficult emotions regarding the fact that he has no connections with his biological parents. This is a complex issue and every family needs to decide what is best. His parents did what they felt was right and I respect their decision. But being one who lives in the situation every day, And admitting that it can be hard at times, I feel very strongly to point out that love and charity never fail. Love does not mean there is an absence of boundaries. I’m sure there will be periods of time in my children’s life when birth family will take a backseat. While two of my children are still young, it has been very beautiful to allow my families to heal and experience joy and see the miracles God has created in our lives. We will be sensitive as these kids grow to make sure that their needs are being met above anyone else’s. And that they are proud of who they are, where they came from, and why their story is so significant to their purpose in this life. No secrets, no shame, no fears. Our actions as parents regarding their adoption will be their model for how they feel about it in large part. I’m sure I will make mistakes, but I will never act out of jealousy, territory, or fear.
Annalisa Young I appreciate you commenting, but this statement could not be farther from the truth. I would love to share my view with you and hope it doesn’t sound disrespectful. We have 2 biological children and 2 adopted children. All 4 of these kids are ours. Always were, always will be. Birth families, including birth moms, do not get all the “benefits” of raising their birth child. They miss them and mourn in a deep way. However, being involved in a healthy form of an open adoption that is appropriate for the circumstance, they, along with the adopted child, the adoptive family, and all other birth family members are most often able to heal and experience emotional health and life success in a way that is not even comparable to what all parties go through in a closed adoption (as proven by proven, scientific, empirical, extensive research). The birth families have a connection- yes. Similar to what our children’s aunts or uncles or family friends have. We love each other, respect each other, and acknowledge the roles we play in each other’s lives. But I am these babies’ mother and their dad is their father. Having Jordan’s birthdad here over Thanksgiving this past week did not take my husband’s fatherhood away in any shape or form. Because our birthdad is a safe and healthy person, he is able to get a glimpse into our life once in a while and see the joy that not only his decision to agree to placement has made, but also feel joy that good things can come from bad choices. He himself was adopted and experienced a closed adoption. He is 22 and still trying to work through some very difficult emotions regarding the fact that he has no connections with his biological parents. This is a complex issue and every family needs to decide what is best. His parents did what they felt was right and I respect their decision. But being one who lives in the situation every day, And admitting that it can be hard at times, I feel very strongly to point out that love and charity never fail. Love does not mean there is an absence of boundaries. I’m sure there will be periods of time in my children’s life when birth family will take a backseat. While two of my children are still young, it has been very beautiful to allow my families to heal and experience joy and see the miracles God has created in our lives. We will be sensitive as these kids grow to make sure that their needs are being met above anyone else’s. And that they are proud of who they are, where they came from, and why their story is so significant to their purpose in this life. No secrets, no shame, no fears. Our actions as parents regarding their adoption will be their model for how they feel about it in large part. I’m sure I will make mistakes, but I will never act out of jealousy, territory, or fear.
I do admire you for what you are doing as I said, the video made it look like the BPs will be playing a huge roll in their lives, maybe I'm mistaken. I was just saying that if I was to agree to an open adoption, the BPs would have a minimal role as a child can't have two mother's raising him at the same time. Your values could be different than hers. What if she decides she doesn't want him home schooled or thinks it's ok to go see rated PG 13 movies when he's older? If you don't let him and he knows she will...I can think of so many scenarios that could make it hard for you to parent. The occasional mother will also be something the child will look forward to as he/she doesn't have to discipline him/her and you will be looked at as the bad guy and her a person they can run to when they don't get what they want. I have seen so many nightmare scenarios online that I still believe the model they have used for decades is the best until they are old enough to make their own decision about the BPs or out of your house.
Annalisa Young - I now can see where you are coming from. The birth parent in the adoption triad is by no means a parent in that he/ she has no more say in their life or interaction than a friend or extended family member would. The video did show a lot of interaction. This was the case at first as our birth mom found visits to be reassuring, ease the pain, and build her confidence in his future with his family. It is frequent at times and sparse at others during the first years of their lives, while our birth parents are trying to heal and make peace and resolution. We just went through a time period of 2 years with our other birth mom of almost zero contact. And that was okay. It can be tricky to figure out where she fits in the picture moving forward after an inconsistency. But usually just happens organically. Birth moms, like all people, try their best to do what’s She has 3 other kids and is focused on her family. It’s also how she felt she could best heal. In our home mom is mom, dad is dad, and person who you inherited your genetics and got you to us safely is a really important person who has our respect. I feel like the decades of closed adoption brought a much deeper level of shame and emotional pain to birth families and most importantly, the adoptee. Things that are bad and embarrassing get overlooked and not brought up a lot in a family- like affairs, bankruptcies, and addictions. We cast a birth parent out and it’s like we are casting out a part of our kid. My teenager regularly sees what he likes about other people’s parents and sometimes even declares that he would rather live with their rules. If he had a birth parent, I’m sure I’d be hearing that one too. But oh well, they aren’t your parent and that’s life. Just like the friends’ way cool mom, their grandmas, and my sisters, my kids’ birth moms will at times in the future seem way more appealing than I do. But as much as we love those people and admire what they have done for us as characters in our story, they aren’t the parent and don’t have the stewardship or the deep connection so the phase is just that- a phase with a go- to default to want to explore an alternate reality with a birth parent. I’m sure it will happen. Sorry for my ramblings. It helps a lot to hash my feelings out once in a while. Thank you. PS- watch the series “This is Us.” Best TV show I have EVER seen and this topic is a regular one. God bless
So much love for the little one!
Amazing❤️🙏
Beautiful. It made me cry.
Hermoso bb papas
I love it. It is so beutiful❤️❤️❤️❤️😊.
Beautiful ❤️
Truly Beautiful!
Wish they would of open adoption when gave up my Daughter 1970 memories cherish for ever beautiful beautiful
So much love 💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕🦋
How do you give your own baby??I can’t imagine that 😢😢I’m sure it’s very painful and heart she doesn’t understand she is very young age now!!! I have 3 children one of them I lost,one ectopic pregnancy i don’t describe my pain 😢
Beautiful!
this was such a beautiful video
A beautiful baby and I am glad she was able to carry to his birth for this wonderful Open-Minded family, they seem to be a perfect fit!
Though I do not wish any cause for Medical Procedure I feel that is NONE of my business... but I am Glad SHE still has Individual Choice to DECIDE FOR HERSELF!!
A "Choice that is between a Woman and her Doctor, NO ONE ELSES!!
"Individuals" decide for themselves if they wish to be Foster OR Adoptive Parents,
Men are given the Option whether they want to have children in their lives, BUT
*Giving Birth* ???
Is ONLY the Woman's Decision **While REASON For PREGNANCY IS NOT Always HER Choice**
...in the End... Her Body Her Decision >
MANY of us who feel differently about GIVING Birth >> THAT is OUR Choice!!
Wow the song is amazing. Is there anyway we can download a copy somewhere?
Yes! It was originally written and sung by a member of my church named Micheal McLain. Mary Osmond has also sung it. It’s called, “From Gods arms, to my arms, to yours.” There is also a beautiful little hard cover book by the same name that McLain put together.
Yes! It was originally written and sung by a member of my church named Micheal McLain. Mary Osmond has also sung it. It’s called, “From Gods arms, to my arms, to yours.” There is also a beautiful little hard cover book by the same name that McLain put together.
Yes! It was originally written and sung by a member of my church named Micheal McLain. Mary Osmond has also sung it. It’s called, “From Gods arms, to my arms, to yours.” There is also a beautiful little hard cover book by the same name that McLain put together.
Yes! It was originally written and sung by a member of my church named Micheal McLain. Mary Osmond has also sung it. It’s called, “From Gods arms, to my arms, to yours.” There is also a beautiful little hard cover book by the same name that McLain put together.
Yes! It was originally written and sung by a member of my church named Micheal McLain. Mary Osmond has also sung it. It’s called, “From Gods arms, to my arms, to yours.” There is also a beautiful little hard cover book by the same name that McLain put together.
As an adoptee, I would have found open adoption totally confusing.
Siii , que bonito , que bonitooo vídeo , cuanto AMOR
Love the beginning song did she write it or is it just a cover
How do the birth grandparents feel about this child being apart from them ?
As one of the birth grandmothers, we visit him, he knows us and he knows his story. We don't have the same relationship with him as we have with our other grandkids but he has so many people who love him, that it's ok. He knows we love him.
O god I'm crying
I loved this
I'm sorry but I would of been happier having a closed adoption, because once that. bundle of joy is in my arms its all mine to love and keep
Yazmine Cristina Thanks for your comments. Oh, he is definitely all mine to love and keep! Jordy is now 20 months old and is attached to my hip permanently! Open adoption doesn’t entail sharing your eternal children with other parents, it just keeps a relationship of love and peace thriving in some way. She is like a little sister to my husband and I. You love these girls so much because their sacrifice changed your life forever. We get to see our birth moms every few months or so, and we love seeing them just like we love seeing family members and good friends. My kids know that these special girls are not their moms, but that they are very special because they were responsible of getting them to their family safely through a lot of prayer, sacrifice, and heartache. One of our birth moms now has 3 children of her own, and this one from the video is excited to start her own family. Closed versus open really just means whether or not your children and their birth families know who the other one is and that identifying information is shared at time of placement. We feel like it’s a big and important part of all of our kids’ self esteem to own and love their story of how they got from God to us, and of the miracles and characters in it.
With an adoptive family AND his birth mom, he has more love. He will never have to search or wonder about his birth mom, or she about him. Love grows when given away, not kept...
@@TallDiana -- Yes, with the love of both birth mom and adoptive mom, the little one is twice blessed!
"The love in your heart wasn't put there to stay,
Love isn't love 'til you give it away."
Tearsssss😪😪😪😪😪😪😪😪😪 omg its hard😪
My mom is trying to have open adoption for my twin brothers
Kai'Onna Ellis is your mom the birth mom or adoptive mom?
Andrea Harker she is the birth mom
Kai'Onna Ellis Let is know how it goes with the adoptive family!! Are they willing to have an open placement?
Lovely.
❤@🏡
Beautiful song?
Complimenti per tutto..
Beautiful video
❤❤❤❤
those songs
Is it crying in here😓💞
😨😲😢😭😭
Sorry, I feel sad for the baby. I just feel that the best choice for a child is to grow up with the real mother. And this card with : " Yes I am adopted!", makes me upset, like it is a great thing to not be with the real mother
@Jennifer Bremner No doubt that the adoptive mother loves the child, also I don't think that anybody should feel ashamed and I do respect all the parents in their choices. In my opinion adoption should be a last choice since too many adopted children struggle with the fact that they are adopted. Despite you are saying that 80% of the children born to unwed teenage mothers end up in the justice system, I didn't read very positive things about adopted children as well: drtracylcarlis.com/adopted-children-syndrome/ You are living in another country with a different society and different problems, one of the problems in the USA is the high rate of teenage pregnancies and a difficult financial situation from teenage mothers what makes that they feel they can't provide the best for their child and that really makes me sad. I am a mother myself and simply can't imagine to be in a situation that I have to give away my child for her or his benefit . I believe that in an ideal world no child should be born to be adopted but unfortunetely we don't live in an ideal world. The best option for a child is of course growing up by biological parents that can care for the child and I think you agree with me. So it is not a beautiful story to me but maybe the best choice out of the bad choices because there were no good choices possible. Also the child can only see in the future how it feels about it In my country, the Netherlands, there are 4 teenage pregnancies (under the age of 20) per 1000 pregnancies and only 15 Dutch babies per year are given up for adoption, I don't know how many of them are from teenage mothers but I guess the most of them are from women from another culture who have to keep the pregnancy secret for the family. So that makes that I feel so sorry to see a small innocent baby given away to new parents. I think it is better if a mother can make this difficult choice if she knows that she never need to worry about financial sources to continue her study and a monthly income to provide everything for her child and herself. I think that almost every mother would keep her baby on this way. So because of that I don't find it a beautiful story but a sad story for the birthmother and the child. My son in law is adopted as an infant ( from another country), his parents are very sweet and love him a lot but he feels that he is totally different than them and that causes a lot of distance between them. I am sorry for my bad English.
@Jennifer Bremner You are right that I never mentioned God because I personally don't believe there is a God. I hope you agree that believing there is no God is a believe as well and needs to be accepted as any other believe. I also think and feel, and I know that it also confirmed according research that open adoption is much better than a closed adoption but also I feel, and that is also confirmed by research that growing up by biological parents is better than growing up by adoptive parents, even if it will be a single mother: ifstudies.org/blog/the-adoptive-difference-new-evidence-on-how-adopted-children-perform-in-school
My son in law is struggling with the fact that his parents are so different than him. His mother is a teacher, his father an engineer an they love literature and hiking in nature and they are devoted christians while he is an athïst. They are calm and serious people, who have fixed days for dinner choice, very simple food and too much caring to not waste money. What my son in law translates in boring and not understanding how fun life can be. He loves to be in our noisy family with our many family gatherings and often asks my daughter to call us to join our weekly saturday buffet evening. His parents are really warm and sweet people. It was my daughter who encourages him many times to meet his parents. Now they are in contact again but I really feel sorry for his parents because he is still on distance to them while my daughter has a very good contact with her mother in law and she also says that they are very sweet and warm. My son in law doesn't want to know anything from his birthparents, he also says that he is totally not interested. His birthmother was a 14 yrs old girl, extremely poor in a very poor country. She sold her body out of poverty and his biological father is unknown and one of the "customers". That is something he likes to keep secret. Anyway, my daughter and son in law are expecting their first child and he is very happy to get a blood related family member soon. He grew up without behaviour problems, was only a week old when he got adopted, took his education serious, no alcohol, cigarettes and drugs and very sportive but his adopted sister has psychological problems, is automutilating herself and can't live without the support of her parents. She was 3 when she got aopted and faced hunger and child neglection in her early childhood.
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Glad it's an open adoption. Not so much that they are Morman's.
elena hennis LOL you must have had a bad experience with someone or some people who are members of my religion. I wish so much that people who are baptized, committed members of a religion were somehow less prone to human nature and being ridiculous or making poor choices than those who are not members of that faith. Unfortunately, though some have been taught more light and knowledge than others so far in their life, it doesn’t usually make them better people and more like Christ than the rest. Just gives them bigger responsibilities, opportunities to sacrifice and learn, and a larger lens to look at their life through when they do make mistake after mistake. Members of the LDS faith tend to also develop a culture within that group that is independent from the gospel teachings, and that as any culture does, breeds both good and bad traits. Green jello for instance- horrible trait 😂. I’m sorry if someone forgot who they were supposed to be representing (Christ) and caused you grief in any way. As members of the LDS faith we are in theory and hopefully in practice committed to loving, serving, protecting, and respecting our Savior, God, our eternal families, and our communities. We should be there to aid the poor and needy, lift the sick or afflicted, and raise our children to fulfill their own divine purposes for which they showed up for on earth. Anything you see or hear otherwise is not according to our beliefs nor our Heavenly Father’s teachings.
Biological mom was seems to me that she wasn't ready to give her baby....the baby bis copy paste with his biological mom!!
sorry but if realy you would help this young girl , help her to keep her baby , you have still 3 children...nevermind the baby looks like exactly like her both mother , and when he will be a man he would like to be with her
her birth mother sorry
Good for you choosing to give him away. Its a very selfless thing to do. And he was lucky to get good parents.
BUT never ever deny a girl to decide over her own body and do what she thinks is right. There are 200 million children in orphanages in the world today. Most of them will never be adopted and live a short horrible life worse than death. They are neglected, abused suffers from reactive attachment disorder and other mental issues and are thrown out at thirteen and becoming victims of trafficking or killed straight away. . No child deserves to go through that, that’s not a life . They are dead and doomed before they are born .
Yes to legal and free abortion all over the world, it’s the one most important thing to end childrens suffering and child prostitution !!!
What a silly thing to say: the best thing to do to end a child suffering is to kill him? Like a dog or a horse?
Lovey video the birth mom was young made the right choice it is good it is a open adoption she can watch baby grow up
Beautiful!