So glad I found this. Newly married and trying not to hate myself for hating niddah. Lovely lecture and great points and I agree with you, just a few questions about the second explanation: - So death is the absence of Hashem's holiness. So He just leaves me while I'm niddah? I'm just that icky? - What about niddah post-birth? I can understand niddah following stillbirth/miscarriage (can't understand why she can't get so much as her hand held by her husband while going through such a traumatic experience and I think that's horrible), but a live birth?? That's innately a life created! - Why the focus on ME separating? He can't touch me either. He has to know and remember the rules too. - Isn't niddah part of Chava's punishment after gan eden? Why are we still being punished for that? You'd think after over 5,000 years we'd have compensated for that by now. And then there's the fact that we're being punished for something we didn't do and wasn't our fault because we weren't born yet and wouldn't be for thousands of years.
In der tora gibt es immer 2 sachen einmal + und - dann kann man in allen hinein interpretieren sei es guf oder böses ,himmel oder erde. Und um etwas rein zu machen wird estwas wieder unrein. In der Geburt wird ein heiliges aller heiliges erschaffen daru, wird wieder etwas anderes so unrein. Genauso ist es bei der periode um für dein mann rein zu sein must du erst mal durch das dunkle dur dafür ist deine Spiritualität umsomehr großer als dein man. Anderes beispiel , mit dem Sport wenn du deine traum figur erlangen willst musst du erst hart arbeit und leiden. Dafür ist das end ergebniss wunderschön shavoa tov!
It makes sense you would hate this. It’s horrible. Absolutely disgusting and hateful. Do you honestly believe that God would the you for your body doing what he designed it to do? You’re filthy because you didn’t get pregnant? Really? Absolutely disgusting.
How beautiful! Honestly I think this is beautiful of God to give you this mitzvah. This makes so much sense. Your husband learns to value you more. God made men and women and knows how you work and what you need. He knew what he was doing by giving you this mitzvah. God cares so much for you. Beautifully explained 💐 God doesn’t see his daughters as less important just different roles. You’re a lovely example 🙏🏼💕 God Bless You!
I hope it’s not a problem that I, as a Christian, am contributing to this discussion. We Christians almost never talk about this topic because we don’t observe this mitzvah, even though I think it has a fascinating and incredible message for Christians as well (in fact, it contains the central message of Christianity). We interpret ritual impurity as the metaphor of humanity’s separation from God. As you mentioned in the video, bleeding symbolizes death, and death is incompatible with God, who is Life. However, the prophets very often use sexual intimacy as a metaphor for unity with God, and many interpret the Song of Songs as an allegory of the relationship between God and Israel. (If I’m not mistaken, that’s why you read the Song of Songs during Passover, right?) So the law prohibiting sexual relations between a husband and wife due to bleeding symbolizes the separation caused by sin and death between us and God. And this is where it becomes fascinating for us Christians. The ritual washing in the mikveh is the historical precedent of Christian baptism. For us, the act of baptism symbolizes that, just as water washes away external impurities from the body, Yeshua’s blood (as the ultimate and perfect sacrificial lamb) washes away the stain of sin and death from our souls so that we can be united with Him, with God. The New Testament speaks of Yeshua as the Bridegroom (just as the prophets speak of God as the Bridegroom). From a Christian perspective: - A husband and wife cannot be in physical unity during bleeding, just as humanity cannot be in unity with God due to sin and death. - After the period of impurity, the wife washes in the mikveh, immersing herself completely, symbolizing death to the old and resurrection to new life, so she can once again be in sexual unity with her husband. In the same way, Yeshua’s blood washed away our sin and death, we died to the old and resurrected to the new, eternal life with Him, so that we could be holy and in unity with Him! I apologize, as I know this is a Christian perspective, and some elements may not be relevant to Judaism, but I wanted to share it because I find it truly fascinating and I am passionate about it. Thank you for this video!
The emotional instability around menstruation makes connection and vulnerability, unnecessarily challenging, even damaging to our relationship. Going another layer of truth deeper (love that!): another way Niddah is genius: hormones are elevated just before, and immediately after menstruation, stirring emotional conflict. As a 41 yo man I practice being a strong, steady container to receive her emotionally. Personally, it’s exhausting and I don’t sense deeper connection or really any positive outcomes for being fully available to my woman around her period. Niddah solves for this! Presumably the ancients infer separation in communication if physical separation was enforced, so I tend to disagree on your notion of continuing with touchless communication (tho I agree it’s a way to heal any wounds avoided by sex’s healing effects). I fully respect the feminine, and her waves of beautiful, inspiring energy that shift and flow around my otherwise steady life.
Very interesting video, thank you so much. I am Christian, but I am very interested in Jewish tradition. Send you LOVE for you and your family from Germany, Andrea (new subscriber) 💯💞
Great class! Question that surges after listening is what happens when a woman becomes menopause? Is it ok to would assume niddah stops? And if what replaces the aspect of building upon verbal communication? Thanks :)
So I heard an incredible rabbi speak in israel about this. He said that after years of following this cycle of verbal and physical communication, Closeness and intimacy, after menopause - you kind of just reap the benefits of all the work you put into your marriage. And there’s a certain, silent knowing of eachother that sets in later in life.
@@Rochel_LeahSo you're no longer "dead" to God for 2 weeks every month after you start menopause? This is incredibly stupid, you're not physically available but your intellectually available "all" the time. Why would God consider you "unclean" based on the sin of Eve? The menstrual cycle is your curse from God, for Eve's sin. He did not "curse" you from touching or sexually enjoying your relationship with your husband.
Ich finde Nidda ist so fansastisch den ein Mensch sei es Frau oder Mann braucht vor allem wenn man in der Ehe ist abstand damit man selber fersteht das ich selbst und meine Neshama wissen das ich hir in dieser welt eine Mission habe und obwohl ich mein Mann für alles liebe darf ich mich nicht zu sehr von ihn abhängig machen den das einziege von dem ich abhängig sein darf ist Hashem und in dieser zeit kannst du deine Verbindung mit hashem du alleine tiefer verbinden und das geht nicht nur für dich sondern auch für dein mann (i hope you can translated it) thank you so much for this shuir BH🎀💞 you are a amazing Neshama
Very insightful. Thanks for sharing. I'm a Muslim guy btw looking to make friends with Jewish ladies like yourself, seeking to understand and to build bridges and friendships. I hope that we can be friends.
Interesting that a Muslim man would be seeking “friendship” with women outside of his family. Not super devout I see. You may also not realize that the gender segregation practiced in Islam is nothing to Orthodox Judaism. Women and Men do not socialize outside of immediate family after early childhood. They simply do not.
This is why I’m not religious at all. It’s your husband It’s all man made It’s so crazy It’s not important to me Your not pure anymore once you have sex so at that point what ms the difference.I like my hair and I would never wear a wig
Are there exceptions to this? For example, if the woman experiences a loss while she has her period and is distraught and upset, can her husband hug her and physically comfort her during that time?
Why is a woman unclean for longer after giving birth to a girl? Is the reason the mother's special relationship with her daughter? Or because the son is circumcised on the 8th day?
There are literal foundations set up to help Orthodox women to get pregnant if their cycles don’t fall into step with the “ mitzvah”. It’s absolutely ridiculous.
I don’t understand your argument where you say, you’re not an entertainment to your husband, you are supposed to be attracted to your husband as well, and when u keep Niddah, if renew chemistry and attractions to both sexes. you make it seem as women are just being with a husband for his benefit. That’s just ridiculous.
We are come to this worl for a reason and we go also but what we need to do is what Hashem want is not allways what we want it's what God want at the end you need to be so Great fol every day and every secon in your intied live that we are womens end not men's it's so dificult to be a men in this sexist wold because a men since his birth is prepared that he need to be a (macho) and get well money,Women's but this is not right and women know this and a mann need to change this minesed to be than a religest person. We women can fast recedniced that this materiallistic wold is fake an i bless god for that 🎀💞🎉 so be gradefull that we are Womens
In my kallah classes they taught the woman it was savout the man, and the man it was about the woman. Because the perpose of coming together is to think about your partner
Hello, I saw your comment, and it got me thinking. I see where you're coming from, a ise to feel a bit odd about many topics related to this too. But something I learned that really helped me is understanding that when a woman is on her menstrual cycle, it is a time where she becomes special to G-d. Only her and G-d. She is for G-d. And if her husband touches or has an intimate relation with her, he is the one who becomes impure, not her. A deeper meaning to this beautiful mitzvah (connection, commandment) is that when a woman is on her menstrual cycle. Sge is releasing blood from her body, this blood represents death, and a man releases sperm which represents life as it is life. And it would be wrong for life and death to meet, during this time period. It would be a major disconnection from life, light and the Creator who created life. So it is not essentially something against the woman, or to say she is dirty, no, but ways to protect both man and woman, a marriage. This connects and unites the family more to G-d and each other, preventing many negative aspects that come with having relations during a woman's menstrual cycle.
Incredibly shocked you dont have more followers... this was so enlightening.
So glad I found this. Newly married and trying not to hate myself for hating niddah. Lovely lecture and great points and I agree with you, just a few questions about the second explanation:
- So death is the absence of Hashem's holiness. So He just leaves me while I'm niddah? I'm just that icky?
- What about niddah post-birth? I can understand niddah following stillbirth/miscarriage (can't understand why she can't get so much as her hand held by her husband while going through such a traumatic experience and I think that's horrible), but a live birth?? That's innately a life created!
- Why the focus on ME separating? He can't touch me either. He has to know and remember the rules too.
- Isn't niddah part of Chava's punishment after gan eden? Why are we still being punished for that? You'd think after over 5,000 years we'd have compensated for that by now. And then there's the fact that we're being punished for something we didn't do and wasn't our fault because we weren't born yet and wouldn't be for thousands of years.
In der tora gibt es immer 2 sachen einmal + und - dann kann man in allen hinein interpretieren sei es guf oder böses ,himmel oder erde. Und um etwas rein zu machen wird estwas wieder unrein. In der Geburt wird ein heiliges aller heiliges erschaffen daru, wird wieder etwas anderes so unrein. Genauso ist es bei der periode um für dein mann rein zu sein must du erst mal durch das dunkle dur dafür ist deine Spiritualität umsomehr großer als dein man. Anderes beispiel , mit dem Sport wenn du deine traum figur erlangen willst musst du erst hart arbeit und leiden. Dafür ist das end ergebniss wunderschön shavoa tov!
It makes sense you would hate this. It’s horrible. Absolutely disgusting and hateful. Do you honestly believe that God would the you for your body doing what he designed it to do? You’re filthy because you didn’t get pregnant? Really? Absolutely disgusting.
You have some very valid questions!
Rochel, why haven't you answered them?
Need more of this in the world! Yes!! Thank you so much for doing what you do and please keep going!!!!! 💗🌸
How beautiful! Honestly I think this is beautiful of God to give you this mitzvah. This makes so much sense. Your husband learns to value you more. God made men and women and knows how you work and what you need. He knew what he was doing by giving you this mitzvah. God cares so much for you. Beautifully explained 💐
God doesn’t see his daughters as less important just different roles. You’re a lovely example 🙏🏼💕 God Bless You!
I hope it’s not a problem that I, as a Christian, am contributing to this discussion. We Christians almost never talk about this topic because we don’t observe this mitzvah, even though I think it has a fascinating and incredible message for Christians as well (in fact, it contains the central message of Christianity).
We interpret ritual impurity as the metaphor of humanity’s separation from God. As you mentioned in the video, bleeding symbolizes death, and death is incompatible with God, who is Life. However, the prophets very often use sexual intimacy as a metaphor for unity with God, and many interpret the Song of Songs as an allegory of the relationship between God and Israel. (If I’m not mistaken, that’s why you read the Song of Songs during Passover, right?)
So the law prohibiting sexual relations between a husband and wife due to bleeding symbolizes the separation caused by sin and death between us and God.
And this is where it becomes fascinating for us Christians.
The ritual washing in the mikveh is the historical precedent of Christian baptism. For us, the act of baptism symbolizes that, just as water washes away external impurities from the body, Yeshua’s blood (as the ultimate and perfect sacrificial lamb) washes away the stain of sin and death from our souls so that we can be united with Him, with God. The New Testament speaks of Yeshua as the Bridegroom (just as the prophets speak of God as the Bridegroom).
From a Christian perspective:
- A husband and wife cannot be in physical unity during bleeding, just as humanity cannot be in unity with God due to sin and death.
- After the period of impurity, the wife washes in the mikveh, immersing herself completely, symbolizing death to the old and resurrection to new life, so she can once again be in sexual unity with her husband. In the same way, Yeshua’s blood washed away our sin and death, we died to the old and resurrected to the new, eternal life with Him, so that we could be holy and in unity with Him!
I apologize, as I know this is a Christian perspective, and some elements may not be relevant to Judaism, but I wanted to share it because I find it truly fascinating and I am passionate about it.
Thank you for this video!
Insightful video! Learned something new today. Your message really resonated . Thank you :)
The emotional instability around menstruation makes connection and vulnerability, unnecessarily challenging, even damaging to our relationship.
Going another layer of truth deeper (love that!): another way Niddah is genius: hormones are elevated just before, and immediately after menstruation, stirring emotional conflict.
As a 41 yo man I practice being a strong, steady container to receive her emotionally. Personally, it’s exhausting and I don’t sense deeper connection or really any positive outcomes for being fully available to my woman around her period. Niddah solves for this!
Presumably the ancients infer separation in communication if physical separation was enforced, so I tend to disagree on your notion of continuing with touchless communication (tho I agree it’s a way to heal any wounds avoided by sex’s healing effects).
I fully respect the feminine, and her waves of beautiful, inspiring energy that shift and flow around my otherwise steady life.
Wow this was incredible! Totally relate to what you shared about husbands as the sun and wives as the moon.
This law of niddah seems to be geared to baby making . They couple are kept apart during the time the wife is not fertile.
Very interesting video, thank you so much. I am Christian, but I am very interested in Jewish tradition.
Send you LOVE for you and your family from Germany, Andrea (new subscriber) 💯💞
Yes understood the importance of self control in marriage and every aspect of your life. Todah.
Thank you for this !
I really like your teaching style :) looking forward to hearing more Torah from you!
Fantastic video! I learned so much. Thank you.
Of you love Thora, read THE NEW TESTAMENT. It's a Jewish book written by Jewish people, a continuation of the Tora
Watching in the UK.❤
Great class! Question that surges after listening is what happens when a woman becomes menopause? Is it ok to would assume niddah stops? And if what replaces the aspect of building upon verbal communication? Thanks :)
So I heard an incredible rabbi speak in israel about this. He said that after years of following this cycle of verbal and physical communication, Closeness and intimacy, after menopause - you kind of just reap the benefits of all the work you put into your marriage. And there’s a certain, silent knowing of eachother that sets in later in life.
@@Rochel_LeahSo you're no longer "dead" to God for 2 weeks every month after you start menopause? This is incredibly stupid, you're not physically available but your intellectually available "all" the time. Why would God consider you "unclean" based on the sin of Eve? The menstrual cycle is your curse from God, for Eve's sin. He did not "curse" you from touching or sexually enjoying your relationship with your husband.
Can you talk more about being shomer neguiah? Along with the importance of head covering. Thanks
Yes I would love to! I’ll upload some soon gd willing
Ich finde Nidda ist so fansastisch den ein Mensch sei es Frau oder Mann braucht vor allem wenn man in der Ehe ist abstand damit man selber fersteht das ich selbst und meine Neshama wissen das ich hir in dieser welt eine Mission habe und obwohl ich mein Mann für alles liebe darf ich mich nicht zu sehr von ihn abhängig machen den das einziege von dem ich abhängig sein darf ist Hashem und in dieser zeit kannst du deine Verbindung mit hashem du alleine tiefer verbinden und das geht nicht nur für dich sondern auch für dein mann (i hope you can translated it) thank you so much for this shuir BH🎀💞 you are a amazing Neshama
Hope you bring a 1,000 views
Thank you so do much, could you talk a little bit about does men apport to the marrige?
Yes!! Will upload more videos this week gd willing!
Very insightful. Thanks for sharing. I'm a Muslim guy btw looking to make friends with Jewish ladies like yourself, seeking to understand and to build bridges and friendships. I hope that we can be friends.
Interesting that a Muslim man would be seeking “friendship” with women outside of his family. Not super devout I see. You may also not realize that the gender segregation practiced in Islam is nothing to Orthodox Judaism. Women and Men do not socialize outside of immediate family after early childhood. They simply do not.
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This is why I’m not religious at all. It’s your husband It’s all man made It’s so crazy It’s not important to me Your not pure anymore once you have sex so at that point what ms the difference.I like my hair and I would never wear a wig
Are there exceptions to this? For example, if the woman experiences a loss while she has her period and is distraught and upset, can her husband hug her and physically comfort her during that time?
Great class
Why is a woman unclean for longer after giving birth to a girl? Is the reason the mother's special relationship with her daughter? Or because the son is circumcised on the 8th day?
Because this is geared toward making as many babies as possible, and sons are better than daughters to whoever made this up.
I am watching thanks Shalom
I wonder how this impacts fertility. I’m not Jewish. But my cycle crazy but overall it was only 22-23 days.
Wait, how do you ever get pregnant then? My cycle is pretty short and I ovulate 6-7 days after my period ends!
There are literal foundations set up to help Orthodox women to get pregnant if their cycles don’t fall into step with the “ mitzvah”. It’s absolutely ridiculous.
The blessed mother has a beautiful heart. Jewish catholic jk?
I don’t understand your argument where you say, you’re not an entertainment to your husband, you are supposed to be attracted to your husband as well, and when u keep Niddah, if renew chemistry and attractions to both sexes. you make it seem as women are just being with a husband for his benefit. That’s just ridiculous.
We are come to this worl for a reason and we go also but what we need to do is what Hashem want is not allways what we want it's what God want at the end you need to be so Great fol every day and every secon in your intied live that we are womens end not men's it's so dificult to be a men in this sexist wold because a men since his birth is prepared that he need to be a (macho) and get well money,Women's but this is not right and women know this and a mann need to change this minesed to be than a religest person. We women can fast recedniced that this materiallistic wold is fake an i bless god for that 🎀💞🎉 so be gradefull that we are Womens
In my kallah classes they taught the woman it was savout the man, and the man it was about the woman. Because the perpose of coming together is to think about your partner
Hello, I saw your comment, and it got me thinking. I see where you're coming from, a ise to feel a bit odd about many topics related to this too. But something I learned that really helped me is understanding that when a woman is on her menstrual cycle, it is a time where she becomes special to G-d. Only her and G-d. She is for G-d. And if her husband touches or has an intimate relation with her, he is the one who becomes impure, not her. A deeper meaning to this beautiful mitzvah (connection, commandment) is that when a woman is on her menstrual cycle. Sge is releasing blood from her body, this blood represents death,
and a man releases sperm which represents life as it is life. And it would be wrong for life and death to meet, during this time period. It would be a major disconnection from life, light and the Creator who created life. So it is not essentially something against the woman, or to say she is dirty, no, but ways to protect both man and woman, a marriage. This connects and unites the family more to G-d and each other, preventing many negative aspects that come with having relations during a woman's menstrual cycle.
Sorry but this is so Neanderthal We are not living in the stone ages I just can’t understand this We are in the 21 century not the 17 century
I was looking at your hair and as a Chasidic Jew, who practises the rules of the Torah, I’m wondering if you’ve shaved your head and are wearing wigs.
Please stop shouting so much, it's hard on the ears and reduces the overall impact of your words.
Shalom Israel!🇮🇱
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