Yea, been trying with love and calmness from the past 26 years. Every single time we had a disagreement or arguement, I am always the one to mend things. No matter what the issue is whenever we talk it ends up that "it all started because of something I did". And if I ask him question that makes him realize that he was at the wrong, he lovingly tells me that I am the better (bigger) person in this relationship. He never says sorry. And now after 26 years I am getting really really tired of being the bigger person.
That’s understandable. And 26 years, that’s a long time! Pride and ego can really block a person from seeing clearly. Find ways to break through to him without him getting defensive, find ways to get him to sympathize with you. In this way he possibly will approach an issue with less “well u did this” and more “this is how we can work on this for a better outcome next time”
Totally agree and my experience as well w/ relationships. I had a relationship end with someone I was planning on marrying just because of this reason. She was SO prideful that she refused to not only apologize or even acknowledge any wrong doing when I would bring up legitimate disrespectful things she would do. She wasn’t even willing to hear my side of things. I would kindly call her out on , or kindly assert a small boundary. But then again, it’s like you guys said , she has one failed relationship after another and she’s 33. Never married yet ( even tho she wants that ). I kind of feel bad for her. She’s the one constant in all her relationships yet fails to see her ego and pride have caused many issues on her end. She couldn’t even take constructive loving criticism . Like hey you won’t even hear my side of things !!! Ugh. So frustrating as well
Sorry to hear that! In order to have longevity that lasts the test of time, it comes down to proper communication and both people being rational. There is many other things as well like being able to view someone else perspective and receive it rather than being defensive. I am not saying that’s the case with you or with your previous partner because I don’t know y’all, but these are some key things that keep both people level headed and on the same page, even when the inevitable conflicts arise that happen over time. 😁🖤
She was wrong for not not apologising when she was wrong. Sometimes a person wont see they are wrong, but if your partner points out you have hurt then or disrespected them, you should apologize. I always do. Im curious though, have you been married yourself? Have you been in successful relationships?
I’ve been single for a couple years now; i think I’ve let my ego in the way of not allowing me to speak my feelings for someone, or speak my needs. I feel like it’s so easy for me to walk away because I’m too prideful
that is understandable, and is common.. so hope you know that you are not alone in these concerns... pride will keep you from saying how you feel, or even make you say something you don't mean... Just try to be mindful in those times of challenges, conflict, or disagreements with your partner that you should try to put pride aside and have conversations rationally with a sound mind void of ego and pride leading the way.
What do you do if you’re the one who owns your faults, and your partner uses that as “proof” that you’re the problem and continues to refuse to own their own part? I’m constantly changing, but nothing is ever good enough. They’re always right, I’m always wrong… Me speaking up about any of this leads to an argument.
That’s a tough situation.. don’t feel that you have to constantly change. You need to stay true to the root of who you are. That’s what is going to keep you happy for yourself. If you get to a place where you feel that you don’t recognize yourself because of all the changes you are making for them, then that just leads to you getting disconnected with the genuine you. As for the “proof” part, it’s not fair for a partner to always throw wrongs in your face and think that they don’t ever do any wrongs. As humans, we are flawed, and we all make mistakes and errors. In a relationship both ppl have to understand that both ppl will make errors. But it’s about how you communicate and approach those errors as a couple. Rather than it being met with anger and finger pointing, but should be met with “how do we grow from this?” Working together is a place where you need to get to with them. And that won’t happen overnight, but focus on non confrontational convos of growth and eventually more productive convos can occur. “Find Joy In The Journey”
what if its been 10 years and made myself eat my pride, always be the one to take initiative and talk about what happened. But she never listens, never wants to talk about anything. Specially when it comes to her pride. I want to know if when is the time to stop. I mean I dont want to break my family. But this is hurting me and bringing down. I did a lot of changes just to try to make sure that we grow our relationship. But I am at my point that I dont know if she really wants to work on our relationship. I am just tired.
10 years is a long time to be with someone. So you have that to your advantage, in 10 years time you have had a lot of good and bad experiences together. Feed off of that. Let your longevity together be the strength that gets you through. It starts with clear and positive communication together. Talk specifically to putting the pride aside for both of you and both come completely humble and vulnerable to the table and talk about issues you both have. But having a discussion in a positive, supportive, and productive way. And both have to be truly open to listening. That’s a good start.
But a lot of times a partner doesn't want children, but the other in the relationship wants. In this case, one cannot demand to give up on their "ego" and give in to other person's need. This is a difference one cannot overcome, so it's better to respectfully split no matter how much painful it might sound.
this is one of the biggest differences between some couples. and you are right, if you can't come to a mutual understanding on kids, it will be hard for the relationship to flourish.... but everything starts with healthy communication around topics of major importance.. and you go from there to try to work out any and everything..
That’s why I ended my relationship,pride,arrogance and ego was the person downfall,it’s exhausting always saying you sorry .The person never takes accountability for their actions.You always putting in all the work in the relationship and your the one always talking and they just deflect,they don’t want to deal with problems that they are cause.It was draining and I realized this is not from God.
you have to do what is best for your mental and physical health. And sometimes that means walking away, if things are not changing with many efforts to come to a happy & fulfilling place for both ppl
Ughhh I’m been talking to this one lady and her pride is getting in the way too much. It’s only when we have arguments and almost every single time we argue she’s just so prideful and can’t just admit when she’s wrong. I really really like her but I’m just almost to the point where if it happens a few more times then I’m just gonna cut her off. I want her to change so bad but it’s sooo hard for her to put her pride to the side. And the worst part is she’s even told me herself after an argument that she has a big pride and it can be difficult for her to apologize but she continues to let it get in the way. What do you two think I should do? Should I end it now? It’s happened so many times I couldn’t even count it on four sets of fingers. But I want us to work out so bad
I struggle the same as well, but I'm still trying to make the relationship better even though its hard, I get tired from it but I still believe that she'll change
Not sure exactly what you mean… but it’s fine to be proud, but where it gets difficult for relationships is if your pride doesn’t allow you to apologize or be vulnerable or admit that you could be wrong in a certain situation. Thats examples of pride getting in the way of truly connecting with your partner
Sorry you feel this way. Just trying to help in areas where some people could use a little bit of help or guidance + real perspective from a couple that has been through it. 🙏🏽🖤
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Yea, been trying with love and calmness from the past 26 years. Every single time we had a disagreement or arguement, I am always the one to mend things. No matter what the issue is whenever we talk it ends up that "it all started because of something I did". And if I ask him question that makes him realize that he was at the wrong, he lovingly tells me that I am the better (bigger) person in this relationship. He never says sorry. And now after 26 years I am getting really really tired of being the bigger person.
That’s understandable. And 26 years, that’s a long time! Pride and ego can really block a person from seeing clearly. Find ways to break through to him without him getting defensive, find ways to get him to sympathize with you. In this way he possibly will approach an issue with less “well u did this” and more “this is how we can work on this for a better outcome next time”
Totally agree and my experience as well w/ relationships. I had a relationship end with someone I was planning on marrying just because of this reason. She was SO prideful that she refused to not only apologize or even acknowledge any wrong doing when I would bring up legitimate disrespectful things she would do. She wasn’t even willing to hear my side of things. I would kindly call her out on , or kindly assert a small boundary. But then again, it’s like you guys said , she has one failed relationship after another and she’s 33. Never married yet ( even tho she wants that ). I kind of feel bad for her. She’s the one constant in all her relationships yet fails to see her ego and pride have caused many issues on her end. She couldn’t even take constructive loving criticism . Like hey you won’t even hear my side of things !!! Ugh. So frustrating as well
Sorry to hear that! In order to have longevity that lasts the test of time, it comes down to proper communication and both people being rational. There is many other things as well like being able to view someone else perspective and receive it rather than being defensive. I am not saying that’s the case with you or with your previous partner because I don’t know y’all, but these are some key things that keep both people level headed and on the same page, even when the inevitable conflicts arise that happen over time. 😁🖤
She was wrong for not not apologising when she was wrong. Sometimes a person wont see they are wrong, but if your partner points out you have hurt then or disrespected them, you should apologize. I always do.
Im curious though, have you been married yourself? Have you been in successful relationships?
Sou ds just like my exinly difference u was prideful to Haiti let all that go
Pride is a killer indeed!
yup!
Hey guys! Great topic. I can now see how an over-blown ego can ruin all sorts of relationships.
Thank you! 😊
Yeah, it definitely can damage relationships. We get so wrapped up into ourselves that we forget the impact our ego has on others.
Love the topic! So important and def a huge issue in relationships
We’re so glad to hear that you enjoyed this topic!! 😊
Watching this in 2023. I really needed to hear all that you both said in this video. Thank you! Happy New Year!
Oh that’s great and happy new year to you too!
“Loves gonna kill you but prides gonna be the death of you and me”
Yup pride definitely can ruin a relationship unfortunately
I’ve been single for a couple years now; i think I’ve let my ego in the way of not allowing me to speak my feelings for someone, or speak my needs. I feel like it’s so easy for me to walk away because I’m too prideful
that is understandable, and is common.. so hope you know that you are not alone in these concerns... pride will keep you from saying how you feel, or even make you say something you don't mean... Just try to be mindful in those times of challenges, conflict, or disagreements with your partner that you should try to put pride aside and have conversations rationally with a sound mind void of ego and pride leading the way.
What do you do if you’re the one who owns your faults, and your partner uses that as “proof” that you’re the problem and continues to refuse to own their own part?
I’m constantly changing, but nothing is ever good enough. They’re always right, I’m always wrong… Me speaking up about any of this leads to an argument.
That’s a tough situation.. don’t feel that you have to constantly change. You need to stay true to the root of who you are. That’s what is going to keep you happy for yourself. If you get to a place where you feel that you don’t recognize yourself because of all the changes you are making for them, then that just leads to you getting disconnected with the genuine you. As for the “proof” part, it’s not fair for a partner to always throw wrongs in your face and think that they don’t ever do any wrongs. As humans, we are flawed, and we all make mistakes and errors. In a relationship both ppl have to understand that both ppl will make errors. But it’s about how you communicate and approach those errors as a couple. Rather than it being met with anger and finger pointing, but should be met with “how do we grow from this?” Working together is a place where you need to get to with them. And that won’t happen overnight, but focus on non confrontational convos of growth and eventually more productive convos can occur. “Find Joy In The Journey”
That’s a narcissist and they are probably gaslighting you. Run!
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Indeed! Everyday it’s a learning process! 😊
Combat it with love, that will definitely work for me… thank you
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Excellent video on Pride Ego sharing 👍🏽
Thank you and much appreciated for sharing!
this video is amazing
Thank you! Glad you enjoyed it! 🙏🏾
what if its been 10 years and made myself eat my pride, always be the one to take initiative and talk about what happened. But she never listens, never wants to talk about anything. Specially when it comes to her pride. I want to know if when is the time to stop. I mean I dont want to break my family. But this is hurting me and bringing down. I did a lot of changes just to try to make sure that we grow our relationship. But I am at my point that I dont know if she really wants to work on our relationship. I am just tired.
10 years is a long time to be with someone. So you have that to your advantage, in 10 years time you have had a lot of good and bad experiences together. Feed off of that. Let your longevity together be the strength that gets you through. It starts with clear and positive communication together. Talk specifically to putting the pride aside for both of you and both come completely humble and vulnerable to the table and talk about issues you both have. But having a discussion in a positive, supportive, and productive way. And both have to be truly open to listening. That’s a good start.
But a lot of times a partner doesn't want children, but the other in the relationship wants. In this case, one cannot demand to give up on their "ego" and give in to other person's need. This is a difference one cannot overcome, so it's better to respectfully split no matter how much painful it might sound.
this is one of the biggest differences between some couples. and you are right, if you can't come to a mutual understanding on kids, it will be hard for the relationship to flourish.... but everything starts with healthy communication around topics of major importance.. and you go from there to try to work out any and everything..
Love this
soo nice to listen it helps me verry much
Happy to hear you got value from this conversation! More topics like this to come!
Lord have mercy, this is sooooo why I am not speaking to the man that I truly love that ego and that pride is destroying us.
Best of luck to you taking this info to help you fix that pride and ego challenges. It’s not easy but it starts with humble conversations. 🙏🏽
That’s why I ended my relationship,pride,arrogance and ego was the person downfall,it’s exhausting always saying you sorry .The person never takes accountability for their actions.You always putting in all the work in the relationship and your the one always talking and they just deflect,they don’t want to deal with problems that they are cause.It was draining and I realized this is not from God.
you have to do what is best for your mental and physical health. And sometimes that means walking away, if things are not changing with many efforts to come to a happy & fulfilling place for both ppl
love it!
👌🏽👌🏽
Ughhh I’m been talking to this one lady and her pride is getting in the way too much. It’s only when we have arguments and almost every single time we argue she’s just so prideful and can’t just admit when she’s wrong. I really really like her but I’m just almost to the point where if it happens a few more times then I’m just gonna cut her off. I want her to change so bad but it’s sooo hard for her to put her pride to the side. And the worst part is she’s even told me herself after an argument that she has a big pride and it can be difficult for her to apologize but she continues to let it get in the way. What do you two think I should do? Should I end it now? It’s happened so many times I couldn’t even count it on four sets of fingers. But I want us to work out so bad
I struggle the same as well, but I'm still trying to make the relationship better even though its hard, I get tired from it but I still believe that she'll change
@@unknown-qn8lr I left the situation man. I have a lot more peace in my life right now.
I am proud and have a very good relationship so what’s the point 😅😅
Not sure exactly what you mean… but it’s fine to be proud, but where it gets difficult for relationships is if your pride doesn’t allow you to apologize or be vulnerable or admit that you could be wrong in a certain situation. Thats examples of pride getting in the way of truly connecting with your partner
Its too many black people given advice on RUclips 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄this has to stop
You got pride issues
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Sorry you feel this way. Just trying to help in areas where some people could use a little bit of help or guidance + real perspective from a couple that has been through it. 🙏🏽🖤