Rob Delaney on the loss of his son Henry and writing about his grief
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- Опубликовано: 10 ноя 2022
- Rob Delaney is a comedian, actor and writer, best known for co-creating the British sitcom Catastrophe, which won him a Bafta for comedy writing.
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But during the height of his success, he learnt that his son, Henry, was dying of a brain tumour. He’s written a book about it in which he grapples with the fragility of life, the mysteries of death, and the question of purpose for those left behind.
In this episode, Rob joins Krishnan to talk about his new book, ‘A Heart That Works’ and why he felt it was important to tell his family’s story.
Produced by : Imahn Robertson and Nina Hodgson
Photo Credit: Southbank Centre
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Rob is doing a huge, huge service to parents especially in the UK and defending our NHS. I relate so much to Robs words used early on after Henry's death where Rob recounted walking through the IC ward and seeing other parents looking like ghosts, whilst feeling like one. My wife and I experienced this, totally, with our daughter of 18 months old. We were lucky our daughter survived and is happy at uni, very grateful indeed.
I don't know why, but seeing Rob hold it together when talking about his son makes this so much sadder than listening to someone breaking down. Incredible strength.
I had no idea who Rob Delaney was until quite recently. I just want to express how much I appreciate his book, A Heart that Works. I am a bereaved mother and find myself so comforted by other bereaved parents. Thank you for sharing Henry and his beautiful life and death with us. He has certainly helped me.
My Brother died in October 2021 aged 36. My father died January 2022 and I lost my 2 aunts in between. The most acute pain I still feel is for my younger brother, who sadly succumbed to years of alcohol abuse / liver failure. Like Rob states, the physical pain is one I wish to never experience again - the sense of total loss and the utter directionless emotions you face is like a mental marathon. Exhausting and ongoing. I feel better now than I did over the summer and I think the 1st anniversary of his death helped me along the path to feeling "better".
But, the grief will always be by my side - a constant companion to what once was. I really feel for my Mum as she had to watch her youngest son drink his life away. As a parent you always think your children will outlive you - as a sibling you always think you could protect your only brother. I guess I am a mirror which has been broken and put back together again. It still works, but there's pieces of you missing.
That an extraordinary amount of grief, I hope you are doing ok. I wish you the best and the strength to come to terms with it all. For what its worth, you seem well equipped for the challenge, utmost respect to you. "May the road rise to meet you and the wind be at your back" (english translation of an Irish saying...)
I've lost a beautiful daughter and son Yr half apart from drink it's a nightmare the hurt is there all the time
@@brendadrumm9451 absolutely heartbreaking. So very sorry, wish you strength X
Grief is the price of love. When someone told me that it made it a lot more bearable.
Exactly.
It makes me feel good that Rob has some spirituality in his life. He lets other bereaved families know that you won’t people to function but you will start to feel better. You will never stop grieving but the love for your child and them for you will pull you through, beautiful x
Thank you so much. So beautiful. I've been on a similar bereavement journey myself the last few years and yeah, it's undescribable and heartbending and mindbending and you come through it and end up being a different person. I'm still trying to surf the waves of the tsunami of grief every day and this deeply honest and moving conversation have been a blessing to watch and I just bought the book online because anyone who "gets it" is a friend that accompanies you on your journey of grieving and I think this book will be one of those many friends that help guide you and carry you through in such unexpected and surprising ways. All the best to Rob and his family.
What a lovely caring man. Rob's family is so lucky to have him.
🤲🏽❤️🤲🏽 such a lovely man < May Henrys light and love continue to surround his family and inspire others to lOVE
Rob is a great person, with excellent insight
He literally is just so amazing, love him loads and have so much respect for him.
sledgehammer to the heart from 6:15 to 8:29 😍 ..."I don't how we did that"......we also had our own parents to lean on, god we needed the wisdom of elders at that point. At the end of everything, love is all we have.
So sad for Rob for and his family. May your little one Rest in Peace 🙏 ♥️
Around the 22 minute mark: "I want to see the slides the he slid down." I don't know why but that absolutely got me. Immediately put me in Rob's shoes.
Such a wonderful interview and discussion about families and grief
I'm glad Rob is channeling his grief into standing up for the NHS and tlking generally about the huge wealth inequality in this country but worldwide really.I cannot imagine living in America and having to worry about health insurance and sorting all that out whilst dealing with an ill or dying child or any health issue.It sounds like an utter nightmare unless you can afford top notch health insurance and never worry if you lose your job etc about getting healthcare.
He is right we must fight for our NHS at all costs and that does not mean it needs imporvement and modernising and to be more effectively managed and early diagnostics and other early preventiontative measures.There are lots of ways we could save money and avoid expensive interventions later down the line but overall we have a very cost effective healthcare system that is free at the point of need paid for by taxes.
Another healthcare system that is excellent and has high survival rates and early diagnoists and access to specialists etc with little waiting time is Germany but they pay high healthcare insurance for this and often way above what private health insurances would be in Britain.
Other commensurate health insurances that rely on insurance d pay very highly for such services so we need to decide of we want top notch healthcare than it needs funding properly.
This is so good _ Rob really nails the feelings of child bereavement - love the part about other people's problem - soooo true - your bar definitely is raised! I can't get too upset about someones minor problem anymore - all relative after losing a child. RIP Sam 1990-2021
The adverts in this interview completely ruined it.
A shame to Henry’s story.
This was an insightful piece and needn’t be monitized.
Rob delaney is a very funny man and I feel sorry about your loss
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Very brave of Krishnan to do this interview. I'd rather not provide adjectives for the other guy.
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woven
I don’t know who this person is
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