I’m a Stage 3 melanoma patient. The comment that got me the most was when someone told me my cancer was a gift. I know what they meant behind it (a gift in everything I would learn from it, etc.) but I just can’t see this as a gift in any way, shape or form. If it’s a gift, I would have liked to be able to return it!
I’m so sorry. People who haven’t gone through this don’t understand how certain words affect us. And sometimes even if what they say has some truth behind it, it’s just not what we need to hear in that moment. So sorry you are going through this, but you are not alone. Prayers for peace and patience during this difficult time 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻💕💕💕
As an atheist it grinds my gears to hear this. If we would like our child to learn something we would treat them with love and kindness. We sure wouldn’t give them cancer. I wonder how they would like this “ gift”?
💜💜💜As a Stage 4 Pancreatic cancer warrior just approaching my 1 year diagnosis anniversary, I want to say THANK YOU SO VERY MUCH FOR Taking the time to do this VERY DIFFICULT AND 100% ACCURATE video. I appreciate you more than any words could ever express 💜💜💜
First of all, I’m so glad you are here and part of this community. And secondly, THANK YOU for sharing your experience. Prayers for your journey. You are a WARRIOR 💪🏻
The way you have taken these comments and turned them back with kindness and empathy for the one making them, shows empathy, kindness and caring for that person. You never know what, why and how they mean it, are doing personally or their intentions! YOU TOOK THE HIGH ROAD! Much respect to you and I wish you always the best in this walk.
Thank you so much for saying that. I really do think most people have good intentions, and I know I’m guilty for saying the wrong thing to someone at some point in my life. That was why I wanted to shed some light on how these comments might make someone feel… people just don’t know. And I don’t fault them for that! I don’t expect anyone to read my mind, so wanted to share my thoughts and feelings with everyone 🫶🏻
As a cancer patient that is still here 20 years later, what we all need to remember are facts. Heart disease is the number one killer, not cancer. So people need to stop the fear part, direct it to heart disease. So I keep a perspective that is based on truth. But I heard it all, every cancer patient does. We need a thicker skin at times. Focus on love, positivity, and faith.
Yesssss! People say you don’t look like you have cancer or you don’t look sick and I find myself feeling like they think I’m lying! It’s like a slap in the face. Another thing is when they start talking about someone they know that was ‘much sicker’ when they don’t know what you’ve gone through. I know people mean well so I don’t react.
I totally understand where you’re coming from. Like, we shouldn’t have to PROVE how horrible cancer is. Regardless of the type, stage, etc. The bottom line is that we no longer feel healthy, and that is hard to face. Regardless of whether other people “have it worse.” There will always be someone worse off than you, but that doesn’t make your feelings not valid. Prayers for you 💕 you are a WARRIOR!
Hi Meredith. I love your videos. Here's what I say, as a cancer survivor, to stay positive. 1. I've been healthy 17 years out from my cancer diagnosis and treatment. 2. If it comes back, I beat it the first time; I can beat it again. 3. Don't live in fear. For instance, we all know the statistics on car crashes but we still keep driving because we have to. When I get in the car I say a prayer to Jesus "please keep me safe", I wear my seat belt, stay alert, keep my gas tank full, my car in good running order with proper maintenance, carry extra drinking water in case I do get stuck and have to wait, and my kids can see my location at all times! Then I get on the road and enjoy myself and my freedom! Thank you Meredith for your wisdom and insight!!❤❤
That is such great advice, and I completely agree with you! Thank you for sharing your insight and your story. So glad to have you here, as a positive presence and warrior of God 🫶🏻
@@Meredith_Feira Thank you Meredith. I live in a city with a very hot climate. I have a little insulated box that fits perfectly in my back seat. I bungy cord it in place and keep it filled with cold water bottles every time I hit the road. My kids make fun of me but then ask me for water lol. Moral of my story: do everything you can do to stay safe, healthy, etc, and leave the rest up to God. "You do your part and He will do His part"! (Joyce Meyer said that!) Love you Meredith. 😊❤❤
Yes! Thank you. I too have Stage IV melanoma diagnosed July 2021. I relate to everything you said, and I appreciate you sharing what its like to be on this journey. You've got this! I've got this! Now I'm going to have a small cookie and enjoy every bite. Blessings to you always.
I am so sorry you are going through this as well. Prayers for peace during this journey, and for continued strength! You are a warrior 💪🏻 and enjoy that cookie 🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻
So sorry you and any other cancer patient has ever had to hear any of these 😢 I appreciate how hard it was to make this video. It's very informative and anyone could learn from it. Thank you Meredith ❤
I really appreciate that 🫶🏻 I don’t think people realize how these comments might affect someone they’re saying it to. Glad to get it off my chest and shed some light on the issue!
@@Meredith_Feira I wish I could find a primary care doctor who has also personally been through cancer or has an immediate family who has had cancer. Maybe then that doctor would take my concerns and worries more seriously. My PCP, who I do like and we get along fine, has said to me, nicely though, "oh you worry too much" ( about my cancer returning). He is good about addressing my concerns but I always feel defensive and have to "explain " why I'm worried.
@@psrwhite THAT is ABSURD, and their bedside manner needs some serious work. I am so sorry. That has to be so frustrating!!! I hope you try to find someone who takes your seriously 🫶🏻
@@Meredith_Feira my first oncologist, (who I no longer see)!!, said to me when I went to talk about my health and a worrisome area where my cancer had been located said to me "you are more than 10 years out, you don't need to worry", and he rolled his eyes! I said hey don't roll your eyes at me!". Then he kinda back tracked and said "well I do have a patient who likes to come in annually, but I always reassure her that she is fine!" I never went back to him!
I so appreciate this video, as a co-worker of mine might have breast cancer. She gets biopsy tomorrow. I want to be supportive and sensitive to her needs. This has been eye opening! Thank you - I am saving it to watch again.
I am a 69-year-old grandmother who is a so far one year cancer survivor from stage four endometrial cancer…. I can relate to some of this also prayers you continue to do well.👍🤗🙏❤️
What an amazing feat! Congratulations, and I pray that you continue to live a healthy, cancer-free life! You are a WARRIOR 💪🏻 thanks so much for your encouragement!!
I’m 61 and have stage 4 endometrial cancer too. I was diagnosed spring of last year. Currently on Keytruda. There are not many personal experiences about this cancer/stage. Meredith, your top 5 are spot on. I also suffer guilt, I should have seen my doctor sooner. It’s a heavy burden and it’s painful for me to see my family hurting because of my cancer.
@@Valerie-ik7oo first of all, I love that my video helps you feel seen/heard, and that the above comment from a fellow endometrial cancer warrior probably helps you feel less alone. I love the community that is being built here on my channel, and I love you guys for following along. Prayers that your treatment goes well, and that you will be joining @safaridreamer5831 as a SURVIVOR soon 💪🏻❤️❤️❤️
Thank you so much!! I so appreciate your encouragement 💕💕💕 definitely trying to live in the excitement of being finished with my treatment and moving on with my life!
I’ve been following your journey and keeping you in my thoughts and prayers. Thanks for making this video. It is helpful to everyone that wants to support you and encourage you to keep up this fight. We are here in the background cheering you on. You go girl!
Thank you so much for your support and encouragement! And thank you for taking the time to watch my videos, that means a lot! So thankful I have a platform to shed light on the thoughts/feelings of someone fighting this disease. 💕
I just love you so much. You are so inspirational, in SO MANY WAYS. I am so proud of you and the beautiful person you are, my badass daughter-in-law!!!❤
Wow, thank you. I want to be able to say the right thing to those who are suffering. You were very gracious in your explanations why it is hurtful to those going through cancer. So I am grateful to you for this lesson in compassion. ❤
Thank you so much for taking the time to watch/listen to better your understanding. That means so much! The fact that you took time to watch this video shows how caring and compassionate you are 🫶🏻
It’s a video I’ve wanted to make for a while, but finally found the words to explain where I was coming from. I hope it educates others, but also helps other cancer patients feel seen/heard.
Oh Meredith I’m sorry you have to make this video, I’m praying I’ve never done any of these things! But it breaks my heart you have to deal with cancer at all, and then have to deal with stupid comments. Yes, people sometimes mean well, but it’s all still hard. This is your journey and your channel and I think it’s great you spoke out, even though I wish you didn’t need to! I think you’re truly an amazing mom, wife and person and you are slaying your cancer journey. I hope you’re feeling better having gotten things of your chest, and I really hope you don’t get any more ridiculous comments. People are sometimes clueless, or not that bright…I always try to remember that. There’s a lot of stupid in this world unfortunately! Have a great weekend and good for you for speaking up!❤
Thanks so much for saying all that, and for being so supportive. I really do believe that most people have the purest of intentions, and they don’t realize that these comments can be hurtful and frustrating. That’s why I thought it was important to shed some light on this 🫶🏻
New subscriber here. Let me just tell you that you are an amazing young woman. This video was done from your huge heart. I have learned so much from you today. Keep on running, eat whatever the heck you want and keep that HOPE💛
I am so glad to have you here! And you are so so kind. I love that I have this opportunity to share with others 🥰❤️ thanks for being here, and for being so supportive!
Yes, I definitely think these comments can accompany so many other diseases, disorders, etc. That’s a good point! Thanks so much for sharing 💕 best of luck to you!!
Hi Meredith Unfortunately These people who post rude comments are Ignorant. Uneducated, or just plane rude. Even though we have melanoma We are all different. Our bodies all react differently to the treatment. Great Video I'm so out of sequence but will catch up You're Awesome. Alan we love you too❤
That’s why I made this video… to educate those that might not know any better. I can’t expect people to know how these comments come across if they’ve never experienced cancer. Yes, sometimes people can just be rude, but I think most of the time people have good intentions. Glad you are here, and thank you for watching 🫶🏻
Hi Meredith.. thanks for this video. It is such a great learning even for those who unintentionally passed comments . Sorry to know some comments have hurt you so much.. we are proud of you dear ..
You are so sweet, and thank you for watching! I definitely think most everyone has good intentions, so I’m so glad to shed light on how these comments can make me (and others) feel. 💕💕💕
Hello earth angel 😇😇😇 I just came around your page today. I think you are doing a wonderful job with your cancer. My husband has lung cancer so I go to other people's channels to learn as much as I possibly can to make his life better. You are truly an earth angel 😇😇😇😇 you have got so much going on in your life plus the cancer you are truly amazing. This last video I just watched earth angel 😇❤️😇 you don't need to apologize and say your sorry if it hurts someone feelings. Every word you said I can truly understand. I just wanted to share a little about my aunt. She has had sage 4 skin cancer for 20 years and is still living her best life. You are truly an amazing woman you please never forget that. I would love to follow you along your life journey. I can't say I know how you feel because I have never been there. I am 60 years young and by the way my aunt is 65 years young. I can't imagine how you feel physically or mentally but I would love to have you as a friend. I live in West Tennessee and I don't know where you live but if there is anything I can do to help you PLEASE LET ME KNOW. You have a beautiful week earth angel 😇😇😇😇 and looking forward to seeing you soon in your next video. I almost forgot you are a beautiful woman inside and out. You are doing an amazing amazing job in the trip we call life. MUCH LOVE ❤❤❤❤EARTH ANGEL 😇😇😇😇
Thank you so much for your kind words and encouragement, you are too sweet! And prayers for your husband (and for you!) as he fights that awful disease. And thank you for sharing your aunt’s story… I love hearing stories like hers that bring me so much hope 🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻
My family bombards me with all things natural and I know how you feel! You are awesome and I watch you to learn how to beat this like you are!!❤ Yes, cancer does suck, you are so right!!
I totally get it!! I know it can be so frustrating 🫠 just know that the fact that you are trying to learn more to become healthier, and do whatever is in your control, shows that you are amazing. Keep going strong 💪🏻 we got this.. YOU got this!
your diet is absolutely wonderful! Doctor told me sugar does feed cancer but body needs carbs. Somehow there is a balance and I think you have found it!! ! I ate somewhat like you when sick as best I could and I am doing great. I know I love sugar so once in awhile I eat things I make so not so processed. That’s my concession. I had a Thick skin and stuck to my convictions. That’s my advice. Hope is everything, I agree. With faith you just let go and let go GOD and peace walks in. He made a wall for me and I was insulated from all hurts. sorry forgot one word!!,
My oncologist got very rages when I passed on a comment about sugar and cancer. Right now my diet isn’t very good. Home made yoghurt. Granola, home made fruit sauce. Boiled egg and toast. I take supplements. I ear what I can manage.
Oh, I am sure that you do! Some of these comments can feel frustrating to so many (not just those with cancer). Prayers for you 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 and thank you for watching 💕
I'm a cancer survivor and please know everyone gets these nasty comments about your condition it's because you r coping and the other person cannot cope with your illness
That’s a great way of putting it, and I completely agree. Which is exactly why I felt like making this video is important… to shed light on how these comments come across 🫶🏻
I live with lymphoma and I am so with you on the advice part. I had to leave facebook because the advice on cancer pages about eating made me pretty much orthorexic. I already eat a whole food plant based diet but I was (and still am) afraid of so many foods. I just brought some protein powder after a huge battle with myself, literally sitting crying trying to press buy on amazon
Yes, Facebook “support” groups can give you such a negative outlook on your disease! I totally get this. The bottom line is that this is YOUR journey, not theirs. Your journey isn’t going to look like theirs, so no point in taking advice from them. You have to figure out what works for YOU. I’ve definitely had to learn that the hard way, but so grateful for that lesson learned. I wish you the best of luck!! 💕💕💕
@@Meredith_Feira of course. I am a big supporter of people with different backgrounds, especially those with different types of disabilities and diseases. I would like to connect with you if you don’t mind. I would love to hear your story.
Oh my...some of these comments make my blood boil 😡..when my mom was going through surgery and treatment for hard palate cancer..she kept getting suggestions/advice from a friend about doing coffee enemas and fasting 🙄 She is doing very well, but some of the unsolicited advice is wacky.
I’m so glad your mom is doing well (despite the crazy unsolicited advice… I’m sure she hears it all)! Sometimes people don’t realize that we receive advice from every direction and how OVERWHELMING it can be. So glad to shed light on this, and hoping it helps people understand where I (and other cancer warriors) are coming from! 🫶🏻 thanks for being here, as always!
I’m so glad to have you here! And I agree… this is a video that I’ve wanted to make for a while now, and finally found the words to explain 💕 thanks so much for watching!
I’m an atheist. Someone actually told me that god gave me cancer because I have hidden sin. Now while on the one hand it matters not because I don’t believe there is a god, nonetheless a truly awful thing to say. I trust a karma will catch up with her.
I’m so sorry that you had that experience. Some people have a way of making us feel small, and saying the one thing that can hurt us most. You don’t deserve that… ❤️
Don't feel guilty. You can't change the past; move on. I am someone who was diagnosed with cancer. If the comments are overwhelming, turn off the comments. The stress is not worth it. That's why I didn't put my diagnosis out there. I didn't want the attention, you should've have put it out to the whole world; maybe just to family and friends to keep them updated. I didn't look sick either because I used a holistic doctor and didn't go through what the advantage cancer patient goes through. As a Christian, your hope is in the LORD. I looked to Him for comfort, strength, wisdom and direction and watched His hand at work.
I know I can’t do anything about it, and that I shouldn’t feel guilty… but that’s just the way I feel. Can’t really help how I feel! And the comments actually don’t bother me that badly, or cause stress for me. I’m just simply sharing how these comments might affect someone going through this. I’m pretty thick-skinned, and they don’t get to me… at least not for long. But I know that if these comments were made to someone not as thick-skinned, it could really hurt them. Just trying to educate and help people that don’t know what to say, or don’t want to say the wrong thing.
My friend has had stage 4 skin cancer. The high grade kind. (Dont worry its good). She's about our age. Her medicine did the same thing as yours did, shrunk modestly and stable for 1 year, and she was sad because she wanted it to get better, but then all of a sudden, it started shrinking just like yours. Finally, after 2 years of shrinking, she became NED ( no evidence of disease). She's been that way for the past six years and counting. It seems the reason why it does this pattern of stable for so long before it gets better because you can think of the imunitherapy drug as a cancer fighting trainer. Your immune system is not quite ready.... it needs to train and learn and when it's becomes strong enough it then can do its job. You think Joe Montana or Michael Jordan were instant pros starting out. They had excellent trainers that worked with them to become all they could be. I know that's weird analogy. I think you're gonna see more and more of people like you with stage three and four cancers do so well because the treatments are just so much better now than they were many years ago. Look at Jimmy Carter.
You’re right… things have come such a long way for treatment of melanoma and other cancers! So so grateful that these treatments are available ❤️ Thank you for that amazing story about your friend too. So encouraging 🥰
Fortunately, I don’t let the negative comments bring me down. And there are 10x more positive, uplifting, encouraging comments that mean the world to me 💕
These are simply comments that I, and MANY other cancer patients/survivors, have received. And like I said in the video, I don’t fault people for saying the “wrong thing” because people just don’t know how their comments come across sometimes. And that’s exactly why I made this video - so people know how these comments can make cancer patients feel. And if you think these are comments that I’ve only received on RUclips, you are wrong. We get these comments in real life too… but I choose to use RUclips as a platform to educate and help other cancer patients feel less alone in their struggles. Thanks for watching 😘
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I’m a Stage 3 melanoma patient. The comment that got me the most was when someone told me my cancer was a gift. I know what they meant behind it (a gift in everything I would learn from it, etc.) but I just can’t see this as a gift in any way, shape or form. If it’s a gift, I would have liked to be able to return it!
I’m so sorry. People who haven’t gone through this don’t understand how certain words affect us. And sometimes even if what they say has some truth behind it, it’s just not what we need to hear in that moment. So sorry you are going through this, but you are not alone. Prayers for peace and patience during this difficult time 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻💕💕💕
As an atheist it grinds my gears to hear this. If we would like our child to learn something we would treat them with love and kindness. We sure wouldn’t give them cancer. I wonder how they would like this “ gift”?
💜💜💜As a Stage 4 Pancreatic cancer warrior just approaching my 1 year diagnosis anniversary, I want to say THANK YOU SO VERY MUCH FOR Taking the time to do this VERY DIFFICULT AND 100% ACCURATE video. I appreciate you more than any words could ever express 💜💜💜
First of all, I’m so glad you are here and part of this community. And secondly, THANK YOU for sharing your experience. Prayers for your journey. You are a WARRIOR 💪🏻
Stay safe and take care!
Stage 4 ovarian cancer sufferer. First anniversary on September 28 th
@@india1422 Stay safe!
The way you have taken these comments and turned them back with kindness and empathy for the one making them, shows empathy, kindness and caring for that person. You never know what, why and how they mean it, are doing personally or their intentions! YOU TOOK THE HIGH ROAD! Much respect to you and I wish you always the best in this walk.
Thank you so much for saying that. I really do think most people have good intentions, and I know I’m guilty for saying the wrong thing to someone at some point in my life. That was why I wanted to shed some light on how these comments might make someone feel… people just don’t know. And I don’t fault them for that! I don’t expect anyone to read my mind, so wanted to share my thoughts and feelings with everyone 🫶🏻
As a cancer patient that is still here 20 years later, what we all need to remember are facts. Heart disease is the number one killer, not cancer. So people need to stop the fear part, direct it to heart disease.
So I keep a perspective that is based on truth. But I heard it all, every cancer patient does. We need a thicker skin at times.
Focus on love, positivity, and faith.
Yesssss! People say you don’t look like you have cancer or you don’t look sick and I find myself feeling like they think I’m lying! It’s like a slap in the face. Another thing is when they start talking about someone they know that was ‘much sicker’ when they don’t know what you’ve gone through. I know people mean well so I don’t react.
I totally understand where you’re coming from. Like, we shouldn’t have to PROVE how horrible cancer is. Regardless of the type, stage, etc. The bottom line is that we no longer feel healthy, and that is hard to face. Regardless of whether other people “have it worse.” There will always be someone worse off than you, but that doesn’t make your feelings not valid.
Prayers for you 💕 you are a WARRIOR!
@@Meredith_Feira prayers for you too! I get you! 😉
I have stage two lung cancer and when I tell people I get this horrifying look or "Did you smoke?" I am sick of it.
Oh, I can only imagine how frustrating that must feel 🙄 people can be so ignorant. Prayers for you 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Wish I were closer. You need a hug! Sending a virtual one your way 🥰
Aw, thank you so much 🥰❤️
Hi Meredith. I love your videos. Here's what I say, as a cancer survivor, to stay positive. 1. I've been healthy 17 years out from my cancer diagnosis and treatment. 2. If it comes back, I beat it the first time; I can beat it again. 3. Don't live in fear. For instance, we all know the statistics on car crashes but we still keep driving because we have to. When I get in the car I say a prayer to Jesus "please keep me safe", I wear my seat belt, stay alert, keep my gas tank full, my car in good running order with proper maintenance, carry extra drinking water in case I do get stuck and have to wait, and my kids can see my location at all times! Then I get on the road and enjoy myself and my freedom! Thank you Meredith for your wisdom and insight!!❤❤
That is such great advice, and I completely agree with you! Thank you for sharing your insight and your story. So glad to have you here, as a positive presence and warrior of God 🫶🏻
@@Meredith_Feira Thank you Meredith. I live in a city with a very hot climate. I have a little insulated box that fits perfectly in my back seat. I bungy cord it in place and keep it filled with cold water bottles every time I hit the road. My kids make fun of me but then ask me for water lol. Moral of my story: do everything you can do to stay safe, healthy, etc, and leave the rest up to God. "You do your part and He will do His part"! (Joyce Meyer said that!) Love you Meredith. 😊❤❤
Yes! Thank you. I too have Stage IV melanoma diagnosed July 2021. I relate to everything you said, and I appreciate you sharing what its like to be on this journey. You've got this! I've got this!
Now I'm going to have a small cookie and enjoy every bite. Blessings to you always.
I am so sorry you are going through this as well. Prayers for peace during this journey, and for continued strength! You are a warrior 💪🏻 and enjoy that cookie 🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻
Don’t ever feel guilty. No one expects these things to happen at your age. You are an amazing young Mom and a warrior. ❤
Thanks so much for saying that 🫶🏻
I promise to never offer anything but love, light and best wishes to enjoy your life however you wish and may it be for many years ❤
You are so kind to say that 🫶🏻 I appreciate that more than you know!
So sorry you and any other cancer patient has ever had to hear any of these 😢
I appreciate how hard it was to make this video. It's very informative and anyone could learn from it. Thank you Meredith ❤
I really appreciate that 🫶🏻
I don’t think people realize how these comments might affect someone they’re saying it to. Glad to get it off my chest and shed some light on the issue!
@@Meredith_Feira I wish I could find a primary care doctor who has also personally been through cancer or has an immediate family who has had cancer. Maybe then that doctor would take my concerns and worries more seriously. My PCP, who I do like and we get along fine, has said to me, nicely though, "oh you worry too much" ( about my cancer returning). He is good about addressing my concerns but I always feel defensive and have to "explain " why I'm worried.
@@psrwhite THAT is ABSURD, and their bedside manner needs some serious work. I am so sorry. That has to be so frustrating!!! I hope you try to find someone who takes your seriously 🫶🏻
@@Meredith_Feira my first oncologist, (who I no longer see)!!, said to me when I went to talk about my health and a worrisome area where my cancer had been located said to me "you are more than 10 years out, you don't need to worry", and he rolled his eyes! I said hey don't roll your eyes at me!". Then he kinda back tracked and said "well I do have a patient who likes to come in annually, but I always reassure her that she is fine!" I never went back to him!
Thank you for sharing this message. There is always Hope!
Amen 🫶🏻 thank you for watching!
I so appreciate this video, as a co-worker of mine might have breast cancer. She gets biopsy tomorrow. I want to be supportive and sensitive to her needs. This has been eye opening! Thank you - I am saving it to watch again.
I am a 69-year-old grandmother who is a so far one year cancer survivor from stage four endometrial cancer…. I can relate to some of this also prayers you continue to do well.👍🤗🙏❤️
What an amazing feat! Congratulations, and I pray that you continue to live a healthy, cancer-free life! You are a WARRIOR 💪🏻 thanks so much for your encouragement!!
I’m 61 and have stage 4 endometrial cancer too. I was diagnosed spring of last year. Currently on Keytruda. There are not many personal experiences about this cancer/stage. Meredith, your top 5 are spot on. I also suffer guilt, I should have seen my doctor sooner. It’s a heavy burden and it’s painful for me to see my family hurting because of my cancer.
@@Valerie-ik7oo first of all, I love that my video helps you feel seen/heard, and that the above comment from a fellow endometrial cancer warrior probably helps you feel less alone. I love the community that is being built here on my channel, and I love you guys for following along. Prayers that your treatment goes well, and that you will be joining @safaridreamer5831 as a SURVIVOR soon 💪🏻❤️❤️❤️
Bless you, you are so sweet and kind. Praying you will live a long lovely happy life. !!!!!!🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️🥰😍❤️
Thank you so much 💕💕💕
I love how you can show empathy and love even when you have been hurt. God has given you such a big heart, Meredith! ♥️
Aw, thank you so much! What an amazing compliment. And thank you so much for taking the time to watch 💕
@@Meredith_Feira You are most welcome, dear Meredith! ♥️
Eat the damn cookie 🍪, do the run, You do You girl and celebrate your health in this moment! ❤
Thank you so much!! I so appreciate your encouragement 💕💕💕 definitely trying to live in the excitement of being finished with my treatment and moving on with my life!
Amen! Well said!
I’ve been following your journey and keeping you in my thoughts and prayers. Thanks for making this video. It is helpful to everyone that wants to support you and encourage you to keep up this fight. We are here in the background cheering you on. You go girl!
Thank you so much for your support and encouragement! And thank you for taking the time to watch my videos, that means a lot! So thankful I have a platform to shed light on the thoughts/feelings of someone fighting this disease. 💕
I just love you so much. You are so inspirational, in SO MANY WAYS. I am so proud of you and the beautiful person you are, my badass daughter-in-law!!!❤
Thank you 🥰❤️ love you!
This is such a very informative video. Thank you so much for taking the time to do this. Sure do love you!!!
Thank you so much for taking the time to watch, and for your encouragement 💕💕💕
I think you’re doing great! 🥰💕
Thank you so much for saying that 💕
Wow, thank you. I want to be able to say the right thing to those who are suffering. You were very gracious in your explanations why it is hurtful to those going through cancer. So I am grateful to you for this lesson in compassion. ❤
Thank you so much for taking the time to watch/listen to better your understanding. That means so much! The fact that you took time to watch this video shows how caring and compassionate you are 🫶🏻
Thank you for sharing your journey with us. I send you all of my love.
Thank you so much for your love and support 💕
So true!! Well said as well!! Strength in numbers is the best.. We got this...BOOM!!!!!💪💪💪
Thank you so much 🥰 and you got that right!! 💪🏻
🙌🙌🙌Preach!!! Thank you Meredith for making this video on behalf of all of us cancer patients. 🖤🖤🖤
It’s a video I’ve wanted to make for a while, but finally found the words to explain where I was coming from. I hope it educates others, but also helps other cancer patients feel seen/heard.
Oh Meredith I’m sorry you have to make this video, I’m praying I’ve never done any of these things! But it breaks my heart you have to deal with cancer at all, and then have to deal with stupid comments. Yes, people sometimes mean well, but it’s all still hard. This is your journey and your channel and I think it’s great you spoke out, even though I wish you didn’t need to! I think you’re truly an amazing mom, wife and person and you are slaying your cancer journey. I hope you’re feeling better having gotten things of your chest, and I really hope you don’t get any more ridiculous comments. People are sometimes clueless, or not that bright…I always try to remember that. There’s a lot of stupid in this world unfortunately! Have a great weekend and good for you for speaking up!❤
Thanks so much for saying all that, and for being so supportive. I really do believe that most people have the purest of intentions, and they don’t realize that these comments can be hurtful and frustrating. That’s why I thought it was important to shed some light on this 🫶🏻
New subscriber here. Let me just tell you that you are an amazing young woman. This video was done from your huge heart. I have learned so much from you today. Keep on running, eat whatever the heck you want and keep that HOPE💛
I am so glad to have you here! And you are so so kind. I love that I have this opportunity to share with others 🥰❤️ thanks for being here, and for being so supportive!
Great job!! Very helpful for those of us who care.
Thank you! And thanks for taking the time to watch and listen 🫶🏻
Number 4 really hits home. My Aunt had to deal with those comments so many times and it was the last thing she wanted to think about.
I hate that she had to go through that, and I know it must be SO difficult from your point of view, seeing her go through that. *hugs* 🫶🏻
Boy this was great! I don’t have cancer but I do have vasculitis,and all those comments have been said to me!
Yes, I definitely think these comments can accompany so many other diseases, disorders, etc. That’s a good point! Thanks so much for sharing 💕 best of luck to you!!
Hi Meredith Unfortunately These people who post rude comments are Ignorant. Uneducated, or just plane rude. Even though we have melanoma We are all different. Our bodies all react differently to the treatment. Great Video I'm so out of sequence but will catch up You're Awesome. Alan we love you too❤
That’s why I made this video… to educate those that might not know any better. I can’t expect people to know how these comments come across if they’ve never experienced cancer. Yes, sometimes people can just be rude, but I think most of the time people have good intentions.
Glad you are here, and thank you for watching 🫶🏻
Hi Meredith.. thanks for this video. It is such a great learning even for those who unintentionally passed comments . Sorry to know some comments have hurt you so much.. we are proud of you dear ..
You are so sweet, and thank you for watching! I definitely think most everyone has good intentions, so I’m so glad to shed light on how these comments can make me (and others) feel. 💕💕💕
Hello earth angel 😇😇😇 I just came around your page today. I think you are doing a wonderful job with your cancer. My husband has lung cancer so I go to other people's channels to learn as much as I possibly can to make his life better. You are truly an earth angel 😇😇😇😇 you have got so much going on in your life plus the cancer you are truly amazing. This last video I just watched earth angel 😇❤️😇 you don't need to apologize and say your sorry if it hurts someone feelings. Every word you said I can truly understand. I just wanted to share a little about my aunt. She has had sage 4 skin cancer for 20 years and is still living her best life. You are truly an amazing woman you please never forget that. I would love to follow you along your life journey. I can't say I know how you feel because I have never been there. I am 60 years young and by the way my aunt is 65 years young. I can't imagine how you feel physically or mentally but I would love to have you as a friend. I live in West Tennessee and I don't know where you live but if there is anything I can do to help you PLEASE LET ME KNOW. You have a beautiful week earth angel 😇😇😇😇 and looking forward to seeing you soon in your next video. I almost forgot you are a beautiful woman inside and out. You are doing an amazing amazing job in the trip we call life. MUCH LOVE ❤❤❤❤EARTH ANGEL 😇😇😇😇
Thank you so much for your kind words and encouragement, you are too sweet! And prayers for your husband (and for you!) as he fights that awful disease. And thank you for sharing your aunt’s story… I love hearing stories like hers that bring me so much hope 🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻
My family bombards me with all things natural and I know how you feel! You are awesome and I watch you to learn how to beat this like you are!!❤ Yes, cancer does suck, you are so right!!
I totally get it!! I know it can be so frustrating 🫠 just know that the fact that you are trying to learn more to become healthier, and do whatever is in your control, shows that you are amazing. Keep going strong 💪🏻 we got this.. YOU got this!
your diet is absolutely wonderful! Doctor told me sugar does feed cancer but body needs carbs. Somehow there is a balance and I think you have found it!! ! I ate somewhat like you when sick as best I could and I am doing great. I know I love sugar so once in awhile I eat things I make so not so processed. That’s my concession. I had a Thick skin and stuck to my convictions. That’s my advice. Hope is everything, I agree. With faith you just let go and let go GOD and peace walks in. He made a wall for me and I was insulated from all hurts. sorry forgot one word!!,
A good lesson to learn. Thnaks.
Thank you for sharing. Here's one more that i've heard someone say to somebody else. "You're too pretty to have cancer."
That’s just awful 🤦🏼♀️
Love this video. Perfectly said.
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Thank you ❤️ I know it has resonated with so many!
My oncologist got very rages when I passed on a comment about sugar and cancer. Right now my diet isn’t very good. Home made yoghurt. Granola, home made fruit sauce. Boiled egg and toast. I take supplements. I ear what I can manage.
You have to eat what makes you feel good 💕 within reason, of course. But everyone’s bodies have to be fueled in different ways for optimal health.
As an ms warrior I can relate to what you're saying.
Oh, I am sure that you do! Some of these comments can feel frustrating to so many (not just those with cancer). Prayers for you 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 and thank you for watching 💕
Hi Sweetie, you shouldn't have to explain yourself to anyone. Bless you 💋💋
Thank you for saying that 💕
@@Meredith_Feira you are very welcome. Who are we to judge, everyone is unique in their own right. His & 💋💋
Typo, hugs.
I'm a cancer survivor and please know everyone gets these nasty comments about your condition it's because you r coping and the other person cannot cope with your illness
That’s a great way of putting it, and I completely agree. Which is exactly why I felt like making this video is important… to shed light on how these comments come across 🫶🏻
I live with lymphoma and I am so with you on the advice part. I had to leave facebook because the advice on cancer pages about eating made me pretty much orthorexic. I already eat a whole food plant based diet but I was (and still am) afraid of so many foods. I just brought some protein powder after a huge battle with myself, literally sitting crying trying to press buy on amazon
Yes, Facebook “support” groups can give you such a negative outlook on your disease! I totally get this. The bottom line is that this is YOUR journey, not theirs. Your journey isn’t going to look like theirs, so no point in taking advice from them. You have to figure out what works for YOU. I’ve definitely had to learn that the hard way, but so grateful for that lesson learned. I wish you the best of luck!! 💕💕💕
@@Meredith_Feira thank you so much. ❤️
So beautifully explained darling. ❤❤❤❤🤗🙏💐💐Xx
Thank you ☺️
I cut my brother off. He kept telling me that people with metastasis always die.
Well that’s obviously just not true 🤦🏼♀️
Many prayers and much love for you dear Meredith 😊
Thank you so much. That means a lot 💕
@@Meredith_Feira of course. I am a big supporter of people with different backgrounds, especially those with different types of disabilities and diseases. I would like to connect with you if you don’t mind. I would love to hear your story.
Oh my...some of these comments make my blood boil 😡..when my mom was going through surgery and treatment for hard palate cancer..she kept getting suggestions/advice from a friend about doing coffee enemas and fasting 🙄 She is doing very well, but some of the unsolicited advice is wacky.
I’m so glad your mom is doing well (despite the crazy unsolicited advice… I’m sure she hears it all)! Sometimes people don’t realize that we receive advice from every direction and how OVERWHELMING it can be. So glad to shed light on this, and hoping it helps people understand where I (and other cancer warriors) are coming from! 🫶🏻 thanks for being here, as always!
Thanks for sharing Meredith... always cheering for you ❤😊
Great video! Needed to be addressed! Just subbed you, new here! Thank you!
I’m so glad to have you here! And I agree… this is a video that I’ve wanted to make for a while now, and finally found the words to explain 💕 thanks so much for watching!
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I’m an atheist. Someone actually told me that god gave me cancer because I have hidden sin. Now while on the one hand it matters not because I don’t believe there is a god, nonetheless a truly awful thing to say. I trust a karma will catch up with her.
I’m so sorry that you had that experience. Some people have a way of making us feel small, and saying the one thing that can hurt us most. You don’t deserve that… ❤️
Hi again sweetie. Try & read the Blurb on A Boy in 5 Billion. He Survived against all odds xxxx❤
Don't feel guilty. You can't change the past; move on. I am someone who was diagnosed with cancer.
If the comments are overwhelming, turn off the comments. The stress is not worth it. That's why I didn't put my diagnosis out there. I didn't want the attention, you should've have put it out to the whole world; maybe just to family and friends to keep them updated. I didn't look sick either because I used a holistic doctor and didn't go through what the advantage cancer patient goes through.
As a Christian, your hope is in the LORD. I looked to Him for comfort, strength, wisdom and direction and watched His hand at work.
I know I can’t do anything about it, and that I shouldn’t feel guilty… but that’s just the way I feel. Can’t really help how I feel!
And the comments actually don’t bother me that badly, or cause stress for me. I’m just simply sharing how these comments might affect someone going through this. I’m pretty thick-skinned, and they don’t get to me… at least not for long. But I know that if these comments were made to someone not as thick-skinned, it could really hurt them. Just trying to educate and help people that don’t know what to say, or don’t want to say the wrong thing.
My friend has had stage 4 skin cancer. The high grade kind. (Dont worry its good). She's about our age. Her medicine did the same thing as yours did, shrunk modestly and stable for 1 year, and she was sad because she wanted it to get better, but then all of a sudden, it started shrinking just like yours. Finally, after 2 years of shrinking, she became NED ( no evidence of disease). She's been that way for the past six years and counting.
It seems the reason why it does this pattern of stable for so long before it gets better because you can think of the imunitherapy drug as a cancer fighting trainer. Your immune system is not quite ready.... it needs to train and learn and when it's becomes strong enough it then can do its job. You think Joe Montana or Michael Jordan were instant pros starting out. They had excellent trainers that worked with them to become all they could be. I know that's weird analogy.
I think you're gonna see more and more of people like you with stage three and four cancers do so well because the treatments are just so much better now than they were many years ago. Look at Jimmy Carter.
You’re right… things have come such a long way for treatment of melanoma and other cancers! So so grateful that these treatments are available ❤️
Thank you for that amazing story about your friend too. So encouraging 🥰
Turn off your comments for awhile, just keep reporting how you are.
Fortunately, I don’t let the negative comments bring me down. And there are 10x more positive, uplifting, encouraging comments that mean the world to me 💕
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Would you prefer someone to say you look terrible? ?
If it were me I would rather people not say anything than spout bullshit.
Don’t do u tube then if you don’t want people to ask questions your choice to tell the world . Keep your privacy … unbelievable 😂😂😂😂 get off u tube
These are simply comments that I, and MANY other cancer patients/survivors, have received. And like I said in the video, I don’t fault people for saying the “wrong thing” because people just don’t know how their comments come across sometimes. And that’s exactly why I made this video - so people know how these comments can make cancer patients feel. And if you think these are comments that I’ve only received on RUclips, you are wrong. We get these comments in real life too… but I choose to use RUclips as a platform to educate and help other cancer patients feel less alone in their struggles.
Thanks for watching 😘