My sister is 31 she’s still unmarried by choice she daily gets bashed by my parents and now they look at me like “once your education is over we gon get you married” and I’m like “no”
My cousin sister's situation was also like tht but alas she did arranged marriage to my now brother in law and she's happy with her son who was born only an year after their marriage.
What is disturbing about our wedding ceremonies is that, it doesn't really focus on grrom and bride. It mostly revolves around the guests and their ego. I have seen at some weddings, the bride isn't allowed to meet eyes with the groom, then how are we really celebrating their union??
As a 28-year-old light-skinned virgin with a master's degree who's indifferent to the prospect of marriage, I'm my family's blackest sheep. Sanskaaridon potential down the drain! 😂
I feel like crying watching this video because the pressure is insane. Will never understand how people are so eager to control us and our lives with their narratives, checklists and constructs.
So sick of people telling me that my wedding day will be the biggest day of my life. NO, IT WON'T BE. It will be an important day, for sure, but not the biggest day of my life. And I hate this concept. No matter what a girl does, how hard she has worked to be successful in her career, the wedding is the biggest day. As if we work hard in our life only to find a boy who thinks we are worthy enough for him. Might buy that sanskaaridon pill, SO SICK OF THIS DAMN SOCIETY!
This has been a terrific series! As a Canadian white woman who is also twice the age of most of you (lol), this has been really helpful in my continuing efforts to learn more about my sisters around the world. I hope there will be another series of these!
Watcher from South Africa here, really enjoying the content. One thing that i have observed about the concept of marriage is that it is used to "validate" a relationship. As though any connections that you build outside of this concept are not valid, hence why you'll see couples that have been together for years who have a really good and healthy relationship being asked 'when will they be getting married'. And this is why we see it as an automatic next step in our relationships, never really questioning why we feel so compelled to get married. Does your relationship mean any less is if it never gets there? Is the connection you have any less deep or meaningful without the "marriage" aspect? Is your relationship any less valid? And lastly, outside of the religious reasons and societal norms/pressures that have been sold to us, does getting married actually add anything to your relationship/connection?
@@trishnamonilahkar9294 I wrote the comment before watching the whole thing. And gotta say, I completely agree, BuzzFeed want that stardom on their channel but still don't wanna be outshone by a goddess
I love GirlsFeed so much it's rediculous. I am an Indian we grew up outside India and when my sister told my parents she wants to get married to my now brother in law, they were against it cause of the caste difference. It took my sister forever to explain to them as much as we appreciate the culture of our nation we don't understand this caste business. I grew up with so much diversity around me and for me to only have a certain pool of individuals to get married to is bizzare. My parents then decided to educate us on the different castes and why things work that way. I flat out refused to learn cause I don't want these unnecessary barriers in my mind against a group of people cause it's bizarre to think of that. It's so discriminatory!
As I guy, I really enjoyed this. Didn't agree to everything but it was nice to hear other people talk about their views on something like marriage. Maybe now I'll watch the other videos. Good going girls !
People be like: oh you are 25, why arent you married? oh you are married, why dont you have kids? oh you have a kid, why not have another one? and nowadays there is an addition: oh you are divorced? why dont you get married again? 🤦🏽♀️😠💆🏽♀️🙄
I too think the divorce idea is pretty good. The relatives will shut up and you don't have any high expectations to live up to. You get a peaceful life and are treated as an adult. Till you marry no one treats you like an adult, everyone has advices to give you, you can't go out without permission, people will tell you not to study or work on your career instead worry about marriage. But once you get married all those boundaries are gone, you have fulfilled and failed at fulfilling everyone's expectations, now you can have a life and a career of your own
I don't think it's wrong for people to choose someone within their religion, amount of money they make, etc. as a partner. When you're looking for a partner, you want someone who's like minded, who can provide for your family ( I believe in shared costs so both can earn), and ensuring you have a happy life together. For people who are going to jump at my throat and say " money doesn't make happiness" I will tell you this - you are right it does not, but it does help make your life smoother when you don't have to worry about where your next meal is coming from or if you can afford to have 2 kids, send them to university and still have enough money to retire. Marriage is a partnership. It's equality within that relationship. That's what marriage means to me. For the girl on the panel who doesn't attend her friends marriage because she doesn't like seeing them bowing down to patriarchy this is for you - the idea that marriage comes with a long line of patriarchal bullshit is true, but you can change what the definition of marriage is by making it your own. You can choose to do a live in relationship, but people who are choosing to get married it doesn't mean that they are submitting to patriarchy, they can choose to redefine marriage. You choosing not to attend your friends wedding just because you think they're enslaving themselves makes you look like an ass and a shitty friend, I'm sorry to say but if they're happy with their decision who are you to say that it's wrong? Why wouldn't you show up for your friends and support their decision? Do they criticize your live in relationships'? If they did, you'd be pissed off.
Im Naina from South Africa. I've just loved Girlsfeed. You ladies have discussed such important topics and i feel a bit disappointed that this was the last of the series. This topic of marriage is really so deep and complex. It can be discussed for hours, I feel. I was also involved in a semi arranged relationship which ended shortly after our engagement. It was such an eye-opening experience for me. I think the context of any ideal is the driving force behind it and marriage has, contextually, become irrelevant. According to the customs and societal expectations of marriage, it plays no significant role in any person's life. Unless one is marrying for love, which that too is questionable, it serves no other purpose. Love you girls for bringing burning discussions to the fore. 🔥 🔥 🔥 🔥 ❤️🌸🙏🏼
Absolutely agree with you. Marriage nowadays really does serve no purpose other than the fact that you're doing it for love. The earth is overcrowded anyway, so it's not a way for societally approved reproduction. It's not like long ago when girls couldn't support themselves after their parents have passed either. I just don't get it 🤷♀️
I'm 20 and I've already told my mom that I won't get married soon.. I still need 5-6 years to complete my study and get a job...but weeks ago when my grandmother came and started the topic of my marriage..after that my mother brings up the marriage topic frequently....she be like..."sbki betiyo ki shadi ho rhi h"...In india relatives are more concerned about our marriage rather than our own parents...and that's the most annoying thing.
Well modern way of askin for dowry is "samdi ji bus apki todi HELP chiye! Akhir bacho k future ka saval h" Ppl can b punished bt changing der mentality is wt really matters!
When Regha said about not changing SURNAME ❤ I felt her..was waiting for someone to talk about it. This thought crossed my mind 2 years ago and since then its there.. N ITS NOT GOING TO CHANGE!
Loved what Malini said towards the end - You should want to live with your partner everyday, without letting the spirit of trying die once you are married or after a few years.
I'm 21 and this is my biggest concern... when such questions will start hitting me from many people 😂😂and I'm a rebel so ... It's gonna be a chaos 🤣🤣yay bring it on aunties. Let's fight 🤔
I am 22 years old I have been since 21 years I don't need a guy in my life I have music, books, a job I don't like depending on anyone I will remain single forever. Yesterday my mom was talking about my marriage, After 3 years when I will turn 25 they will start finding a guy for me, I fought with my mom like anything I told her never get married... She started emotionally blackmailing me but still I was stood by my decision because I don't believe in institution marriage I am more like kalindi from veere di wedding all marriage rituals confuse me I feel rituals weird. Now I have stopped attending a family function also. When you are in your 20s it really hard be around family especially in functions cause of matrimonial aunties who will bring random ristas " my cousin son, " my beta" 🙄🙄. It is not window shopping for God sake😂😂😂 it marriage. I want to go on a solo trip, party, eat, read a lot, Marriage is never on my list.
These conversations are much needed. Watching this episode especially was humbling. I feel privileged to be born to broad minded parents. They were so supportive towards me. Boys vs girls wala scene, problems that women face, i experienced them only after I started working. I knew of these issues, but didn't have first hand experience with getting objectified, getting judged on the basis of my clothes or marital status, behavior of colleagues (both male and female) at certain situations..if i didn't have a strong support system, i wouldn't hv been able to face these troubles head on. I think having transparent conversations with your parents and family is the key to solving most problems women face in their family.
Might I add, a big reason your parents prefer you to marry within the religion and caste is because they know the society and especially in-laws will likely be so sticky about imposing their own traditions on you that it will weigh down on the marriage itself. If the Indian society changed such that neither sides parents get to have say or influence on their adult kids’ married lives, the only consideration that remains is how the guy is and how you both can manage together, and then your parents would be more open to inter-religion or inter-caste marriage. Girls and guys our age (20s and 30s ) don’t care so much about the caste or religion but their frigging parents do, and everyone knows, girl, after marriage, belongs to the new family , right.. That said, keep your eyes open and find that supportive guy when you are looking for arranged marriage options. See how excited he is about your education and career while also looking for a soft/kind side to his personality. Good luck.
You should have an episode on intercaste and inter religion marriages. And you should bring in people who have actually dealt with the pressure and overcome it. Or people who are still dealing with it.
Yes. True. When a girl finally decides to get married again her choices will be judged based on caste status etc. Marriage is just like a business transaction for parents , where whole status and respect in society depends on.
I'm thankful to God that this is not in my case .I'm 22 I have to do 4 years of more ug course and then my 1 year internship and I have to crack my pg and have to do 3 years of pg and again 1 year of internship and after that either job or my clinic . Even my parents constantly talk about -"beta ache se pg karo,aiims nikalna,clinic set up krege phir 😅 n tbtk if u like someone, you can marry that person 😅 but not before pg" (*that's what I want for now ) It's really sad that even today 21 or 30 is the benchmark for getting married , rather than focussing on studies and jobs .
I fell in love with all the buzzfeed ladies.., because I hardly get any chance to talk about what i feel, think and want to do, I really want my parents to watch these videos...
WOW. This was amazing! Much needed. Loved the concept and how lot of things that aren't much talked about are discussed here. ♥️ MORE POWER TO ALL OF US!
So from all my recent experience and watching this video I can clearly say that I am not interested in relationships or marriage at all. I am happy with my family and don’t want any other person in life. Talking about friends, I can say that they also will eventually leave you be it because of marriage, long- distance or some issues ongoing so just invest in yourself and do what you love to do. Now my goal is to buy a house and live there alone and take my parents to yearly trips somewhere they love. End of the story😌😌❤️❤️❤️
Everything was on point..... except the sexual monogamy thing. Guys we are humans ... we have emotions and intellect ... our biology is not the only thing that we have unlike a bull or a cow. The whole concept of one life one partner is nothing about letting women down and all but it's all about love and well being of two bodies and minds. Casual sex or sex with multiple partners is just gonna ruin u from inside and at some point of ur life u will surely regret it..... it will never let u be joyous. I don't think it's anything to do with culture ,tradition or even generation . Sex is not at all a bad thing to look down upon as long as u are doing it with the correct person, at an appropriate time and in a healthy mental state..... which u r never going to regret. P.S : not being a moralistic
Give👏🏻us👏🏻season👏🏻2👏🏻 I’m awed at this, all different girls with all different perspectives, talking about experience and love and sex and life.....and it being recieved positively....in INDIA.....it all seemed like a dream, still does when i interact with people around me....but I’m in love at the fact that this not only gives me all the different lives women lead around india, but also, it gives me hope!
Oh I so hope there'll be a season 2 of girlsfeed ... BuzzFeed you've done a great job by coming up with this concept... it's like the need of the hour.
It would make alot of sense if u bring in the traditioned Indian women (our mothers, granny ) who were all out for their will, in talks to the women of Free and empowered era
Omg why is this the last video? We love this series where you talk about common challenges faced by every girl out there. Please I wish you keep making videos like this.
It's because to prove oneself a feminist one has to oppose each and every traditional idea and concept... specially related to marriage....another reason is, they have to get more views to get earn from videos... so they have to create what people like more.
They are stating clear facts about someone’s entire life being judged as being successful or not based whether they are married or not. Even though they are very happy and satisfied in their life, that clearly does not matter. There’s a balance in the discussion here.
Can we have a session discussing about Dalit women, and people who represent more than one oppressed identity? Raising issues on women who cannot express their 'choice', who cannot exercise basic human rights everyday, and have been discriminated for a very long time. There could be a discussion on the struggles they are urging, on how they are fighting with the patriarchy and class opression and the stigma of poverty and many more.
I agree. We do need to have that conversation. I am from a lower caste, already told my parents about my boyfriend but they are placid towards this. They expect me to have no choice in this. Trying to fight my way out of this.
really liked the episode. u guys are doing a great job by telling us what are the things that bothers u and we might just have to let those stupid things go. so a thumbs up to you guys the video was good.
I’m only 17 years old but I will never get married. It is way to much work. Even if I do, I will get married at the right time and with the right partner. I will focus on my career and once I get fully settled then maybe a kid.
By the grace of God I couldn't relate with Srishti. My parents & friends never said such vile things. Atleast they always listened to me for wanting to finish education, get independent and only then think of marriage. Especially my father. He's okay with whatever decision I take!
The fact that people treat marriage as a transaction rather than a bond between two people, makes me not want to marry.
Same
Anusha Thota I absolutely love your profile pic!!
Same here sister. 🖐
So true😊
Exaclty😫
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR HAVING ME! 🏳️🌈 I HAD SUCH A GREAT TIME!😇
Girl you were amazing 😍
@@shivanigurjar13 Aww thank you so much ❤️
Love your haircut 🌈
Thank you so much for the queer representation ♥️ As I am queer myself, it feels really good to be represented 🌈♥️
You are wow
My sister is 31 she’s still unmarried by choice she daily gets bashed by my parents and now they look at me like “once your education is over we gon get you married” and I’m like “no”
My cousin sister's situation was also like tht but alas she did arranged marriage to my now brother in law and she's happy with her son who was born only an year after their marriage.
When she says she is twice everyone's age ......I was like Really OMG!!!!!!!!
And she speaks most intelligent
Props to the people for subtitling an entire 22 minute video.
I saw you in Asian boss comment section too
they're paid for this...
Ankit Banerjee because it’s their job 😂
Lol you're ubiquitous
@Ankit Banerjee I see her everywhere that's what I meant
Where is Sonia man???
I miss her !!
She was there for the whole season except the finale.
What is disturbing about our wedding ceremonies is that, it doesn't really focus on grrom and bride. It mostly revolves around the guests and their ego. I have seen at some weddings, the bride isn't allowed to meet eyes with the groom, then how are we really celebrating their union??
Totally agree
As a 28-year-old light-skinned virgin with a master's degree who's indifferent to the prospect of marriage, I'm my family's blackest sheep. Sanskaaridon potential down the drain! 😂
Why would you mention being light skinned?
Those are references to ingredients for Sanskaaridon!
@@adlinkujur2382 she means light skin girls get married easily because societies stereotypical mind but she chose not too. Her life her rules
How can i relate to you on sooo many levels .
Dude I am 22 n am already baba black sheep
Because I talk back to those bitchy aunties who can't mind their own business
I feel like crying watching this video because the pressure is insane. Will never understand how people are so eager to control us and our lives with their narratives, checklists and constructs.
It's seriously so frustrating
But our next generation will be very lucky
We won't put any pressure on them
So sick of people telling me that my wedding day will be the biggest day of my life. NO, IT WON'T BE. It will be an important day, for sure, but not the biggest day of my life. And I hate this concept. No matter what a girl does, how hard she has worked to be successful in her career, the wedding is the biggest day. As if we work hard in our life only to find a boy who thinks we are worthy enough for him. Might buy that sanskaaridon pill, SO SICK OF THIS DAMN SOCIETY!
Same! Preach girl💯
Woah!!!!! Love that line "SO SICK OF THIS SOCIETY"
This has been a terrific series! As a Canadian white woman who is also twice the age of most of you (lol), this has been really helpful in my continuing efforts to learn more about my sisters around the world. I hope there will be another series of these!
WE NEED A SEASON 2 🙌🏻
Don't know how people think of marriage at 26-27 i am 23 and still i am a kid😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
And guess Wat am 20 and getting hooked up in October 😑 FML
@@noCRAPplz I am 22 and so am I
I m a 35 years old virgin and happy with my life😄😘
@Puja Sharma there's nothing wrong with not having sex.
Carrot kharid lo ab time ho gaya hai
Wao lady
Ur wife must be doin the same thing boy
@@doremifasolatee6258 I am not a boy
Watcher from South Africa here, really enjoying the content.
One thing that i have observed about the concept of marriage is that it is used to "validate" a relationship. As though any connections that you build outside of this concept are not valid, hence why you'll see couples that have been together for years who have a really good and healthy relationship being asked 'when will they be getting married'.
And this is why we see it as an automatic next step in our relationships, never really questioning why we feel so compelled to get married. Does your relationship mean any less is if it never gets there? Is the connection you have any less deep or meaningful without the "marriage" aspect? Is your relationship any less valid? And lastly, outside of the religious reasons and societal norms/pressures that have been sold to us, does getting married actually add anything to your relationship/connection?
cool i never knew south africans liked indians! im korean but i love indians. africans only like their own race right?
@@jenniekim-5155 wtf is Africans only like their race 😒
@@jenniekim-5155 I thought it was Korean people who only like their own kind
Kusha's here, that's it, that's what I'm living for
But she is rarely speaking which I never expected from her.
@@trishnamonilahkar9294 I wrote the comment before watching the whole thing. And gotta say, I completely agree, BuzzFeed want that stardom on their channel but still don't wanna be outshone by a goddess
@@shantanupanda1650 exactly even I came to see her and Malini.
shantanu panda i came in the comments to exactly see if someone felt this way. She has strong presence and energy. And it was dimmed 🙁
Where is that 33 year old lady ???😂😂😂😂
Yup I love her
This comment is at 33 likes and I don't wanna hit like cause I want it to stay at 33 in respect to her
@@arwen3478 idk her name but maybe
@@arwen3478 She's not Supriya she is *33 years old!*
What a coincidence ..just today my mom started the topic about marraige ... but I'm just 20
Just say ur mom that u r not even the age of marrying anyone .....live ur life to the fullest content
Don't fall for it..This early! Pls!
Yeah ! But she will never understand
Alisha u have to make her understand.... Or take a step for this.... Police will help u
my 20th birthday is in next month but still my parents and relatives are not losing a single chance to talk about my marriage it hurts
Season 2!!!!
Season 2!!!!
SEASON 2!!!!!!!!
This was an amazing season!! The content is so WOKE! I'm so excited for Season 2!!!
I love GirlsFeed so much it's rediculous. I am an Indian we grew up outside India and when my sister told my parents she wants to get married to my now brother in law, they were against it cause of the caste difference. It took my sister forever to explain to them as much as we appreciate the culture of our nation we don't understand this caste business. I grew up with so much diversity around me and for me to only have a certain pool of individuals to get married to is bizzare. My parents then decided to educate us on the different castes and why things work that way. I flat out refused to learn cause I don't want these unnecessary barriers in my mind against a group of people cause it's bizarre to think of that. It's so discriminatory!
I missed Srishti:')
We want Season2 right !?
Sinistral Koy please!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Yeeeees!!!!!
As I guy, I really enjoyed this. Didn't agree to everything but it was nice to hear other people talk about their views on something like marriage.
Maybe now I'll watch the other videos.
Good going girls !
People be like:
oh you are 25, why arent you married?
oh you are married, why dont you have kids?
oh you have a kid, why not have another one?
and nowadays there is an addition:
oh you are divorced? why dont you get married again?
🤦🏽♀️😠💆🏽♀️🙄
Soooo true
Do true dude
It's the aunties
I too think the divorce idea is pretty good. The relatives will shut up and you don't have any high expectations to live up to. You get a peaceful life and are treated as an adult. Till you marry no one treats you like an adult, everyone has advices to give you, you can't go out without permission, people will tell you not to study or work on your career instead worry about marriage. But once you get married all those boundaries are gone, you have fulfilled and failed at fulfilling everyone's expectations, now you can have a life and a career of your own
My father did say this to me...there is no money for my MBA only for marriage 😞
Saanskaridon savage!! 😂, love this content, and these women with strong opinion really inspired 🤘
I don't think it's wrong for people to choose someone within their religion, amount of money they make, etc. as a partner. When you're looking for a partner, you want someone who's like minded, who can provide for your family ( I believe in shared costs so both can earn), and ensuring you have a happy life together. For people who are going to jump at my throat and say " money doesn't make happiness" I will tell you this - you are right it does not, but it does help make your life smoother when you don't have to worry about where your next meal is coming from or if you can afford to have 2 kids, send them to university and still have enough money to retire.
Marriage is a partnership. It's equality within that relationship. That's what marriage means to me. For the girl on the panel who doesn't attend her friends marriage because she doesn't like seeing them bowing down to patriarchy this is for you - the idea that marriage comes with a long line of patriarchal bullshit is true, but you can change what the definition of marriage is by making it your own. You can choose to do a live in relationship, but people who are choosing to get married it doesn't mean that they are submitting to patriarchy, they can choose to redefine marriage. You choosing not to attend your friends wedding just because you think they're enslaving themselves makes you look like an ass and a shitty friend, I'm sorry to say but if they're happy with their decision who are you to say that it's wrong? Why wouldn't you show up for your friends and support their decision? Do they criticize your live in relationships'? If they did, you'd be pissed off.
i felt the same sister💜💜
I want to get married for the WEDDING not for MARRIAGE....
relatable
Im Naina from South Africa. I've just loved Girlsfeed. You ladies have discussed such important topics and i feel a bit disappointed that this was the last of the series.
This topic of marriage is really so deep and complex. It can be discussed for hours, I feel. I was also involved in a semi arranged relationship which ended shortly after our engagement. It was such an eye-opening experience for me. I think the context of any ideal is the driving force behind it and marriage has, contextually, become irrelevant. According to the customs and societal expectations of marriage, it plays no significant role in any person's life. Unless one is marrying for love, which that too is questionable, it serves no other purpose.
Love you girls for bringing burning discussions to the fore.
🔥 🔥 🔥 🔥 ❤️🌸🙏🏼
Absolutely agree with you. Marriage nowadays really does serve no purpose other than the fact that you're doing it for love. The earth is overcrowded anyway, so it's not a way for societally approved reproduction. It's not like long ago when girls couldn't support themselves after their parents have passed either. I just don't get it 🤷♀️
@@SooryaRajesh absolutely!! 💯
I'm 20 and I've already told my mom that I won't get married soon.. I still need 5-6 years to complete my study and get a job...but weeks ago when my grandmother came and started the topic of my marriage..after that my mother brings up the marriage topic frequently....she be like..."sbki betiyo ki shadi ho rhi h"...In india relatives are more concerned about our marriage rather than our own parents...and that's the most annoying thing.
I jus turned 25 ystrday ... and I had all these confusion about marriage .... thank u girlsfeed relatable af
Well modern way of askin for dowry is "samdi ji bus apki todi HELP chiye! Akhir bacho k future ka saval h"
Ppl can b punished bt changing der mentality is wt really matters!
When Regha said about not changing SURNAME ❤ I felt her..was waiting for someone to talk about it. This thought crossed my mind 2 years ago and since then its there.. N ITS NOT GOING TO CHANGE!
Yeah because of so called husband
i'm living for these ads
Loved what Malini said towards the end - You should want to live with your partner everyday, without letting the spirit of trying die once you are married or after a few years.
I'm 21 and this is my biggest concern... when such questions will start hitting me from many people 😂😂and I'm a rebel so ... It's gonna be a chaos 🤣🤣yay bring it on aunties. Let's fight 🤔
I am 22 years old I have been since 21 years I don't need a guy in my life I have music, books, a job I don't like depending on anyone I will remain single forever. Yesterday my mom was talking about my marriage, After 3 years when I will turn 25 they will start finding a guy for me, I fought with my mom like anything I told her never get married...
She started emotionally blackmailing me but still I was stood by my decision because I don't believe in institution marriage I am more like kalindi from veere di wedding all marriage rituals confuse me I feel rituals weird. Now I have stopped attending a family function also. When you are in your 20s it really hard be around family especially in functions cause of matrimonial aunties who will bring random ristas " my cousin son, " my beta" 🙄🙄. It is not window shopping for God sake😂😂😂 it marriage. I want to go on a solo trip, party, eat, read a lot, Marriage is never on my list.
I am the same
I stand strong
Going to become independent
The boss of my own life
Go girl
These conversations are much needed. Watching this episode especially was humbling.
I feel privileged to be born to broad minded parents. They were so supportive towards me. Boys vs girls wala scene, problems that women face, i experienced them only after I started working. I knew of these issues, but didn't have first hand experience with getting objectified, getting judged on the basis of my clothes or marital status, behavior of colleagues (both male and female) at certain situations..if i didn't have a strong support system, i wouldn't hv been able to face these troubles head on.
I think having transparent conversations with your parents and family is the key to solving most problems women face in their family.
There should be another season because this season was phenomenal and I think the episodes were very refreshing to watch!
Might I add, a big reason your parents prefer you to marry within the religion and caste is because they know the society and especially in-laws will likely be so sticky about imposing their own traditions on you that it will weigh down on the marriage itself. If the Indian society changed such that neither sides parents get to have say or influence on their adult kids’ married lives, the only consideration that remains is how the guy is and how you both can manage together, and then your parents would be more open to inter-religion or inter-caste marriage. Girls and guys our age (20s and 30s ) don’t care so much about the caste or religion but their frigging parents do, and everyone knows, girl, after marriage, belongs to the new family , right.. That said, keep your eyes open and find that supportive guy when you are looking for arranged marriage options. See how excited he is about your education and career while also looking for a soft/kind side to his personality. Good luck.
I lost it when Sonia put bathroom cleaner on the roti. 😩
Girls Feed is amazing!! You guys discuss the most important topics .Please be back with Season 2!
You should have an episode on intercaste and inter religion marriages. And you should bring in people who have actually dealt with the pressure and overcome it. Or people who are still dealing with it.
Yes. True. When a girl finally decides to get married again her choices will be judged based on caste status etc. Marriage is just like a business transaction for parents , where whole status and respect in society depends on.
Missing Srishti and Sonia🙄
Girlsfeed is the best thing that ever happened to you tube
Happy with Shrishti representing most of us and then first glance at the table , trying to search Sonia!!
I'm thankful to God that this is not in my case .I'm 22 I have to do 4 years of more ug course and then my 1 year internship and I have to crack my pg and have to do 3 years of pg and again 1 year of internship and after that either job or my clinic .
Even my parents constantly talk about -"beta ache se pg karo,aiims nikalna,clinic set up krege phir 😅 n tbtk if u like someone, you can marry that person 😅 but not before pg" (*that's what I want for now )
It's really sad that even today 21 or 30 is the benchmark for getting married , rather than focussing on studies and jobs .
Both married guests were very sensible and chilled out. Ideal life partners.
I fell in love with all the buzzfeed ladies.., because I hardly get any chance to talk about what i feel, think and want to do,
I really want my parents to watch these videos...
I love GirlsFeed! Please bring it back with another season! And as always, awesome job everyone. Eye-opening, very informative, and fun episode. 💕
WOW. This was amazing! Much needed. Loved the concept and how lot of things that aren't much talked about are discussed here. ♥️ MORE POWER TO ALL OF US!
So from all my recent experience and watching this video I can clearly say that I am not interested in relationships or marriage at all. I am happy with my family and don’t want any other person in life. Talking about friends, I can say that they also will eventually leave you be it because of marriage, long- distance or some issues ongoing so just invest in yourself and do what you love to do. Now my goal is to buy a house and live there alone and take my parents to yearly trips somewhere they love. End of the story😌😌❤️❤️❤️
"Your eggs are in short supply so go have a baby" seriously guys for me this line stole the whole episode 😂😂😂
BuzzFeed!!! This is too precious!!! We need mooooreeee!! 😻
Rega jha's lipstick is amazing...😍😍😍😍😍...plz mention the name
+1 need the name
Lipstick dark colour.
Someone really needed to talk about it ,generous thanx to Buzzfeed.Thankyou girls.Keep it up.
Rega 💗 my role model.. she is like my spirit animal
Please continue this please the society need you people.
Everything was on point..... except the sexual monogamy thing. Guys we are humans ... we have emotions and intellect ... our biology is not the only thing that we have unlike a bull or a cow. The whole concept of one life one partner is nothing about letting women down and all but it's all about love and well being of two bodies and minds. Casual sex or sex with multiple partners is just gonna ruin u from inside and at some point of ur life u will surely regret it..... it will never let u be joyous. I don't think it's anything to do with culture ,tradition or even generation . Sex is not at all a bad thing to look down upon as long as u are doing it with the correct person, at an appropriate time and in a healthy mental state..... which u r never going to regret.
P.S : not being a moralistic
Glad to see women having discussion. This country needs it, then only will the population be controlled and a lot of social issues would disappear.
I was instantly furious when she poured harpik on chapati.. #notdone
Thank god this exists and talks about the real problems about women
A Big Cheers to U Guys. 🍻🍻
Just Loved it♥️♥️ Truely Covered Everything♥️
Petition for season 2!!!!
Tinder: paisa nahi hai
And petition for men's feed with Shayan, Arshad and Andre please😍😘
Give👏🏻us👏🏻season👏🏻2👏🏻 I’m awed at this, all different girls with all different perspectives, talking about experience and love and sex and life.....and it being recieved positively....in INDIA.....it all seemed like a dream, still does when i interact with people around me....but I’m in love at the fact that this not only gives me all the different lives women lead around india, but also, it gives me hope!
i love these series and the queer rep just makes me happy !!
please make a s2 !!
Such a relevant conversation. Eagerly waiting for season 2
I can't thank enough for the queer representation on your channel..
Well don't feel left out any more 🥺❣️
Yeah man that's the coolest part of the girls feed episodes...
Oh I so hope there'll be a season 2 of girlsfeed ... BuzzFeed you've done a great job by coming up with this concept... it's like the need of the hour.
We needed more ideas from kusha 😒😒😒😒
Kusha is a happily married woman.. I dnt think she related to much of this bitching..
@@SJ...... Please don't call it bitching
It's healthy conversation from girl's point of view
Take it like that 😊
Shes happily married with her crush.. i dont understand why is she even here.
@@PujaSharma-mm6eg to tell the point of view from experienced one
It would make alot of sense if u bring in the traditioned Indian women (our mothers, granny ) who were all out for their will, in talks to the women of Free and empowered era
Totally agree with Malini and Kusha
Girlsfeed will be missed! 💕
Can’t wait for season 2🙌🏻
Omg why is this the last video? We love this series where you talk about common challenges faced by every girl out there. Please I wish you keep making videos like this.
I don't know why they are so negative about marriage.. I mean marriage is such a beautiful bond.. Beautiful thing happen to anybody
It's because to prove oneself a feminist one has to oppose each and every traditional idea and concept... specially related to marriage....another reason is, they have to get more views to get earn from videos... so they have to create what people like more.
They are stating clear facts about someone’s entire life being judged as being successful or not based whether they are married or not. Even though they are very happy and satisfied in their life, that clearly does not matter. There’s a balance in the discussion here.
More episodes!!!! I love this show❤
Probably the best part of the whole video was the sanskaaridon!!....hats off!
I love this show! Pleaseeeee come back with season 2 asap!!!!
This is an important issue... In which a girl has to face majority of the issues.. In arranged marriages ppl are very much judgemental.
Loved the advertisement though🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂sanskraridon
I am gonna be Eagerly waiting for a Season 2!
You guys are therapy ❤️
Can we have a session discussing about Dalit women, and people who represent more than one oppressed identity? Raising issues on women who cannot express their 'choice', who cannot exercise basic human rights everyday, and have been discriminated for a very long time. There could be a discussion on the struggles they are urging, on how they are fighting with the patriarchy and class opression and the stigma of poverty and many more.
I agree. We do need to have that conversation. I am from a lower caste, already told my parents about my boyfriend but they are placid towards this. They expect me to have no choice in this. Trying to fight my way out of this.
really liked the episode. u guys are doing a great job by telling us what are the things that bothers u and we might just have to let those stupid things go. so a thumbs up to you guys the video was good.
You guys almost had us in the end 😂😂. Wasn’t expecting the cat ✨
Sansakaridon😂
True thing tho! We’ll miss Girlsfeed. Come back w part 2 soon!
The ad left me hyperventilating!
The level of reality 😱
I've never clicked on something so far in my life!
I'm so sad it's the last ep I've really enjoyed this series
Not sure 'bout my opinions on marriage but sure that THERE NEEDS TO BE A SEASON 2!!
Man when she put harpic on the roti😏..... So baddd great series girls opened my mind.... 💜💜 Buzzfeed is underrated
Wedding is the reason why I don't want to get married....it's so expensive these days!!
I feel like that too. I want to get married quietly with max 5 people in court room. Not make it a show out of it.
I thought shristi was getting married irl from this episode skit and previous one. That fakeout tho. Congrats on the cat.
Live your life. Don't give a damn to Log Kya Kahenge. None would compensate your loss , so never give in to pressure. Go ahead with what you want.
Thanks for this great series! Hoping to see the next season very soon :)
Please PLEASE have a second season!!!!!
I’m only 17 years old but I will never get married. It is way to much work. Even if I do, I will get married at the right time and with the right partner. I will focus on my career and once I get fully settled then maybe a kid.
this is the first time i am waiting for break
If i ever have a marriage it will be on our terms(me and my partner) to every smallest detail.
By the grace of God I couldn't relate with Srishti. My parents & friends never said such vile things. Atleast they always listened to me for wanting to finish education, get independent and only then think of marriage. Especially my father. He's okay with whatever decision I take!