I'm 60. When I was 30, I cut off all contact with my abusive alcoholic father, for the sake of my mental well being. Let's just say that the last 30 years have been much happier than the 30 years I spent with him in my life. My daughter is almost 30, and when she was 14 she made the same decision regarding her own father. I supported her decision completely, but she's had to deal with the same friends and family members as I did, giving her the whole "but he's your dad" and "you'll regret it when he's gone" BS. I don't understand it when people say things like that...all those people know what POS these 2 men are.
so basically you were abused by your father, became a victim, and let an abuser into being your partner becuase it was familiar to you. glad you broke that cycle of abuse.
@@12yroldedgelord41 It's not ideal, but you don't know their circumstances. Also it's not like they cut off contact with their father, then later got together with 2nd abusive guy... from the timeline it looks like she had her daughter about the same time she decided to break off contact with her father.
I want to raise my daughter in such a way that instead of thinking "dad's gonna kill me" they will think "I need to call my dad" when in a car crash. -Some legend of a father
My mom makes me call her first, not the cops, not an ambulance (even though health care in America is worth more than a hottub) even when both my arms are freaking paralyzed and she would make me call her first, otherwise if im in the hospital and she was second to know about it, she would yell at me and I would finish cure for insomnia before she even starts
5:08 literally broke me, like, full tears running down my face. Thank you Robin for the parent slander, for some reason it’s extremely comforting to know someone in the world knows what kind of abuse we have to go through.
Really sorry to anyone who has to deal with parents like this. They have no rights to invade your privacy, take your money or use the fact they raised you against you (that's their damn job!!).
I wouldent call my stepdad abusive but he is paranoid, i once asked him if he could apply some no-squeak to some of the doors in the house and his response was "No, i wanna know when you sneak out of your room" i have never done this in my life other than to head to the bathroom or get water.
And I though my mom was invasive... So, she is. I'm 33 years old and she still wants to decide what house or car I have to buy, what I should do, what I shouldn't, how I should date a man (I'm still single). Pretty sure she read my personal diary when I was a teen. But damn, now I think I was lucky !
Unless there hitting you collect evidence of abuse isn’t always good theirs a chance no family or the adult will take you so then foster care or cps doesn’t care the other two are better options if you dont wanna face the chance of foster care
@@gingamingayo6609 don’t worry kid, save up every cent you got, just keep aiming to become an independent and self-sufficient adult, get employed no matter what so you can move out faster, if things are really bad don’t be scared to report
That itself is a symptom of a severely fucked up legal system. If someone breaks the LAW and the only recourse is a civil suit paid for by the victim that means enforcement of the law has to be individually paid for by victims and if the victim can't afford to pay to enforce the law than the criminals get away with it. Fortunately in a lot of these straightforward cases no attorneys would be required (technically attorneys are never "required"). Like the one where the mom stole money from the bank account, all they'd need to do is file a report with their bank and than the police. Since she committed theft and wire fraud above the limit of a few hundred dollars set by most jurisdictions she would be charged with at least a misdemeanor and possibly a felony (some U.S. states set the felony limit at or below $1000).
Please find YHWH Elohim and keep the commandments in Exodus 20 and Leviticus 11. Please read Exodus 20 and pray for forgiveness, 2nd Corinthians 5:17 “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here!” [37] Jesus said unto him, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind. [38] This is the first and great commandment. [39] And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself. [40] On these two commandments hang all the law and the prophets. Matthew 22:37- 40 Please read the book of Jonah, Matthew, Exodus you'll have the information you need.
I like how parent break things they love (that keep them sane) and then say "So now you'll be happy" and then are surprised when the child is always sad.
Another thing is that parents remove the childs genuine intrests and hobbies for some shit that makes them miserable Then they wonder why their child is depressed and blames it on everyone but themselves
Fun story: I had a pair of headphones I got for my 9th birthday (I'm 13 now) and about 7 months ago my stepmother got really mad at me (Like always) and said she was sick of me being on my computer all of the time. Mind you, she was fully aware of how much I loved those things. My father got them for me, and I used to love him with all my heart, so of course there was quite some sentimental value to these headphones, since they reminded me of a time that my father wasn't a prick and I got to see my birth mother (a total saint) more then two weekends a month. Anyway, I loved these headphones. I put my favorite stickers on them, I cleaned them regularly, I even took great care in keeping the battery life as healthy as possible and being careful not to damage them. Well, you know what my stepmother does after I drown in the world of the internet to get away from the "Teasing" and belittlement? She takes them, walks over to the trashcan, looks me dead in the eyes, and throws them on the ground in a fit of rage and *smashes them.* In front of me. While I'm pleading for her to stop. Saying I won't ignore them anymore. Then, when she's done, she slams them in the trash can and tells ME to take it out. It's not even a quarter of the way full. It's also trash day tomorrow. I have never forgiven them since. The they have the AUDACITY to buy me new ones for my 13th birthday and say "We love you and we hope we can make amends for something that was still justified but we did anyway" or something to that effect. I still haven't forgiven them, though I said I did so she (hopefully) won't break these too. I live in constant fear for my sentimental stuff stuff now and I've purposely belittled both me and my stuffed animals since they're the only things I hold dear anymore and I don't want it to hurt as bad when she destroys them too.
@@atomicunicorngaming yes! Parents apparently don’t know what sentimental value is because they just replace it all “oh 👉👈 we broke all the valuable things in your life 👐 but we got you new ones 🤭😊👉👈” like, In my case, I have a gray WebKins kitten and it’s meant life to me. I could not imagine letting anyone touch it and will kill anyone who even causes a tiny rip because I’m sentimental. If all that s* happened to me, they would be dead. Bro, idk if you’re my sibling and all but…⚰️
If I closed a tab because I didnt want my parents to see it, then my mouse was already hovering over the close button when they got to the top of the staircase because I was listening to hear which direction they turned. I never risked it. It was always shut before they entered the room
i once had a full blown meltdown because my stepmother kept asking me why i closed an app when she came near me when i just so happened to be closing it at that time, not because i noticed her.
@@That1HistorianI've always believed you should separate the art from the artist. You can like Hitler's paintings without supporting the Nazis, for example.
basically the abuse issue is from people not recognizing the boundary between establishing yourself as an authority and figure of respect (necessary to parenting), and making them fear you, because all too many managers/parents/teachers etc. mistake terrified obedience for respect, trust and loyalty.
Very true, especially with how common this kind of parenting is. I was extremely uncomfortable around my dad as a child and I still am. But to make matters worse, this kind of parenting spreads like wildfire, and the “I’m your parent therefore whatever you say doesn’t matter” almost entirely bars them from repairing their relationships with their children and possible future family, that or continues the nasty cycle, making your children believe that’s how to treat your future children. I really hope we see some softer parenting examples to follow and soon, media and parental paranoia is getting worse, thus making it worse ;-; (Sorry for the long comment I’m kinda passionate about it)
And there's my mother, who said that i have to fear her, but if i say that i fear her and i don't trust her she gets even madder (she started hitting me when she's mad when i was basically 5) (i'm a minor i can't do anything about it)
The mother that threatened to “call the cups” on her daughter is the exact reason I, a child, am never coming out to my mother because being disowned is not fun
If I ever have a kid, and they're gay or whatever, I'd love to make it so they THINK I'd be super pissed, so when I eventually find out, I can go "Oh... You're _gay_ ... Cool, have fun, be safe, consent is important." and that's it.
My dad lived a rough life, and he always said to me, “Choose the family you need, not the one you have.” He himself did this and it’s been good advice to live by.
8:56 I relate to this greatly. My dad, who was 47 at the time of this event, got angry at me over something I didn't do. Instead of him giving me a normal lecture, he forces 9-year old me into his room, with him carrying his belt. While I was crying when this was happening (I was 9 and barely knew any better) and try running from him, man decides to pick me up, throw me on his bed, kneel on top of my back, and he did this in such a way where I was unable to breathe, while he was still beating me with his belt. Hit three times on my legs, twice on my butt, and twice on the back of the head because I tried lifting my head to breathe, and I was screaming the entire time. I got a trauma flashback of this watching a video of the beginning sequence of the Outlast Trials (I think that's what that game is called) because the screaming sounded so similar. I asked him about it today and he replied with "Oh you were screaming so I knew you were fine." No dad, me screaming is not a sign that I'm ok, it's a sign that I'm either in immense pain or am incredibly scared. Another story while I'm at it. This story takes place during April to May, and I was trying to make up for some late work. It was a lot, but because it was late, my dad decided to kick me out of the house with nowhere to go except my car. He told me this while I was at school, he made no arrangements, and didn't tell anyone else. My mom, thankfully, managed to hold my dad off long enough for me to sleep in the house and not have to sleep in my Jeep in the 85F at night Alabama heat. The next day, I tried telling a teacher about what happened, and she responded with "your dad probably just got really mad at you" and didn't show a shred of concern for the problem I was facing. Mind you, this was the teacher who I had late work for. I turned it in, asked my dad why he kicked me out of the house, and he responded with "I didn't kick you out of the house, your late work kicked you out of the house." Cool, dad. Wait till I turn 21 and press charges for Child Abuse and Child Abandonment due to the crazy stunts you pull. Oh wait, I can't, cause you think all of my money, including the money I RIGHTFULLY EARNED AT MY OWN 8 TO 5 JOB, is yours since "we gave you that money" and "I gave you the opportunity to work that job." No, you didn't. I worked my own connections, managed to get a job, and you threatened to make me pay rent for living at your house while I'm 16, and now not even earning a paycheck. (For clarification, I wasn't fired, nor did I quit. The job terms specified I could only work during the summer due to the hours I had to work, and working there being near impossible during the school year.) I don't want to call CPS (I've heard stories about how much worse some kids can end up as a result of it), can't call the authorities without my dad knowing it, and I don't have anywhere else to go other than here. If this stuff isn't insanity, I have no idea what is.
‘You were screaming so i knew you were ok’ bro HOW OLD ARE YOU BECAUSE YOU NEED TO GET OUT OF THE HOUSE AND GET YOUR PARENTS ARRESTED FOR HARASSMENT AND PHYSICAL ABUSE, THIS IS A SERIOUS ISSUE but i understand your hesitation to resort to cps or law enforcement, sadly i cant give advice for this since im only 13 and im also going through abuse but what i can say is to stay strong, one day you will be free of them.
@@vanitythenolife I'd prefer not to outright answer this, I like keeping most of my personal details (such as name and age) a secret. Also, my mom's fine, most of the time. She has her moments but she is normally A-ok. It's my dad who's the main asshole, and my mom is a reason I don't wanna call CPS. I don't want her to seem like the asshole in my life when she wasn't.
@@Projection_ ah i understand, same thing when your 18 and you move out you can cut your father off of your life (though keep your mother if you prefer) and press charges against him at 21 like you said
@@Projection_ Get your mother out of the house, bring her somewhere where you're alone with her then call CPS on your father. Just excuse yourself while you're out with your mother, go somewhere where she can't see you and call CPS. Your father needs to be rightfully punished for the actions he did to you since what he did to you is unacceptable.
My female parent's way of dealing with us misbehaving was to hit us - a lot. A relative told her "They won't love you when they grow up" and she said "They don't have to love me, just so long as they respect me". She was quite proud of this, and retold it often - and, every time, when she said the word "respect" she'd lift her clenched fist. Depends how you define "respect", I suppose.
Something I've noticed in these parents is that they think that children somehow owe them for taking care of them. No, taking care of a child is a responsibility of a parent who decided to have a child. Or think of them as property. Those people don't deserve children. And then they get all confused when their kids don't talk to them anymore, and the parents just say "this is how I grew up and I turned out fine, you're just ungrateful"
7:26 Okay, That one riled me up to no end. OP is trying to better themselves by taking a helpful class that could make OP some Bank and the Parents just wanna block OP from being successful and be A**holes about it. Screw those Parents. Also regarding the WiFi Hotspot bit: Not all Hotspots work well and also some folks don't have an Unlimited Data Plan to take advantage of said Feature if they had it to begin with
True well my dad is, my mom was a addict and would always go to the hospital for any little thing just to get pills I remember all those times sitting in the lounge area at like 2 in the morning as a kid watching the crappy TV shows that would show at that time and sleeping in the car, only real thing I've ever had as a child
Had these parents myself. I knew it was going to be hell for me further on so I worked and collected some money took some loan from my friends who were very supportive and then moved the fuck out of there all the way to Canada on study visa right after high school. I can tell you the moment I got off the plane in a completely different country I cried out of happiness. There is only one way to deal with these people and that’s to ignore them and run away as far as you can.
@@why7032 of course and I wouldn’t recommend taking my way either. In more than a few ways I completely lucked out. Things could have gone very wrong but it’s fine now. All is well that ends well.
Consider that parents like these create the people that may even run a country. This is the stuff you hear about. Think about those in rich places where the info does not come out. We live in a world of fear and hate every day of our lives.
BRUH, THAT MOTHER WHO STOLE THAT GRANT MONEY NEEDS TO GO TO JAIL, that is litterally robbery. Government grants are given to one person and one person alone, the person the government designates.
Accessing someone else's bank account by impersonating them is wire fraud and possibly identity theft. If that was in certain U.S. states the amount stolen was enough to class it as a felony. So she may have committed up to three crimes and at least one felony.
I’ve got a note for the mom in that last post: Accessing the social media profile of someone else if they haven’t given permission or have denied you permission, is illegal and against privacy laws, you better damn well hope your daughter doesn’t do anything about this, because otherwise you’re finished. You may think they do not have the power to do anything about this, but if Snapchat sees that this story is worth picking up, suddenly your daughter will have the power of a multimillion dollar company in her back. It’s also listed in the ToS, and if you have your own Snapchat, you can say goodbye to that, and accounts on associated platforms as well.
@@unamedzube7xb297 You’re not allowed to break the law just because you’re punishing your child. What the mom did was illegal, regardless of if she was punishing the child or not, even if the child was posting nudes of her on Snapchat, she was still not allowed to do what she did. One bad deed does not justify another.
A minor is not allowed to agree to the terms and conditions. Read them if you want to say this. You are required to be 18 or older to agree to the terms in the US. A minor is not allowed to agree to any terms. A parent has the right to renounce anything a minor signs. And it should be that way. Kids are stupid. So are some parents. This channel is mostly just whinny people not getting there way. This country is screwed.
As someone who's living under a parent like these, I kinda realized just how awful it was. I already had a massive dislike for my own mother considering everything she's been doing, and I'm planning on moving out in a month or two. I'm at the legal age to own property in Canada (16+), and there's a good apartment building near my school that i'll be going to. Wish me luck guys, applying for my second job this week :)
Finally an acknowledgment by a reddit narrator that CPS does very little (various reasons, not saying don’t report or they do absolutely nothing) Its a very broken, overwhelmed, underfunded system and reddit LOVES responding “call CPS and get them taken away” Its not that easy; its not. And complete removal often require some pretty, repeated awful treatment
@@theweepingskull9839 and theyre often required/forced to give neglectful parents multiple tries - parents can clean up their acts for 6 months, maybe a couple years before putting children through another cycle
CPS sucks. It's true that because of them I'm out of my abusive home, however they isolated me from my best friend (my dad) because they were biased as hell and entirely ignored me when I tried to explain that my mom was abusive. Things only got better near the end of the case when we were given a new caseworker who actually cared about fixing things
My dad once yelled at my sister to move out since she was in college It was June Of 2020 He got into a huge fight with her and my mom He called the police We left for my grandparents house We came back a week later He threw a tantrum a few days after we came back We left for our grandparent's house again Hell, that's not even the stupidest thing my dad has been mad about. I told him that coco beans used to make chocolate are harvested via child slavery. Instead of looking it up, he punished me for saying it. Honestly surprised the police haven't arrested him during all those times he's called the police
My brother got mad at me for saying cows are abused in the dairy industry. He called me brainwashed and started a fight about right wing politics (who he believes are straw puppets for some big sheme and the good ones in his story) and the *rona virus and my mother had to step in to make clear they don't believe in the tracking chip bs and stuff like this because he really made it sound like it. My other sibling tried their best to stop that argument. I was seen as weak because I talked about things I believe are importand and more so for apologising later because I spoke harsh words during this argument. We are mid 30 to 40 and I am the only sibling not living at my parents place anymore. There should be a subredit for insane siblings, too... My brother and mother went to the hospital the next day due to the stress I believe they cause each other every day for years and due to me disturbing the water. Also one family member is finally moving out and is now waiting because they don't want to push my mother into another stress faint... All in all I would say that was a peacefull christmas compared to other years... I think people underestimate how bad a good day can be and how crazy those reasons to pick a fight and make a scene about it really are and how bad those crazy family members really are and how bad they take care for themselves even if they need help for years... But honestly I am fine. I think my husband took all this far worse that I did because his family is normal and he just can't deal with it. I feel sorry for you. But you will have a nice life because you know what is truly important. You have your goals right and you will manage so well. And later in life when you look back at this you will know how strong you were even back then and the usual stuff wont shock you as much as others. And thats not your families credit, it is yours! Keep your head high!
I'm really happy me and my mom are getting along now... We had a rough start, but she actually worked on herself. She's a great mom now and I love her. I really hope these "parents" get on the right path and start acting like grownups. Sending love and hope to all the people who are struggling with these kinds of parents💚💚💚
My daughter and I were the same way, and yes it was generally my fault. We are both older now and have become very close. She made the conscious decision to not fight with me anymore and because of that I did the same. We have both decided it's not worth the time or the effort and that we'd much rather just be happy around each other and we are. And I feel blessed.
My mom was really abusive most of my life, but now she's sober and doesn't call me screaming anymore. I've invited her to my martial arts belt testing next week. It's a step towards us building a relationship back up but it's gonna take a while before I see her as truly a parent again
One of my teachers (huge shoutout to her) is a mother of two, she has taught them manners, and how to respect her and others WITH RESPECT. She would wait for them to finish talking and they would wait for her. She also has a rule “if I cannot give a good reason, you do not have to do it” (unless it is something like cleaning their room or a rare chore.) THIS IS HOW PARENT(s) SHOULD ACT. BE LIKE HER, RESPECT YOUR SPAWN.
My parents have sort of taken the role of treating me like a friend as well as their child. This is the way parenting should be done. Fear = respect is outdated rhetoric that needs to be stopped.
I would like if you posted this on r/insaneparents, or anywhere about parenting to spread the word, because I am unfortunately a victim of "Fear = Respect" and I desperately want parents like this to realize, this doesn't help one fucking bit
Positive reinforcement, friendliness, helping them out, etc. Thats what makes a child respect you Hitting, yelling, excessive punishment, lying Thats what makes your child scared of you and lie, go behind your back when doing anything, etc.
@@WestGarbage6 this is a lesson my parents need to learn, my mom understands it, my father doesn't seem to understand it. And he's also very expectant of short-term returns...
@@Azyne My mom treated me like she was my mother and my friend so she gained my everlasting trust. I'm 37 and moved out of her house but I still call her for guidance when I feel lost.
I am so grateful for my mother, whose own mother treated her in an abusive manner. Beatings and emotional abuse were pretty normal for my mom growing up, as well as victim blaming when she went to her mother (my grandmother) with serious safety and well-being concerns. My mom decided, however, early on that she was not going to be like her mother. She basically took her mother's behavior as a guide on what NOT to do as a parent and remembered how it felt when she was treated that way. When it came to us kids, she knew she never wanted us to be put in the same positions of hurt and danger that she was. My mom isn't a perfect parent, but every time I see one of these and remember how the cycle of abuse operates, I am so incredibly grateful that she is the person she is.
That’s what I plan on doing. My mother was abused too, but she didn’t end the cycle. The pain, fear, and eventual worthlessness I went through growing up under her thumb ends with me. My kids are never going through that. I’m really proud of your mom for having the strength to do that. It’s really hard sometimes to not be who your parents were because of learned habits, so I really admire her.
@@justalittleturtle5600 If I ever have kids, I won't, but if I do. I will be abusive to them. Not because of my mom. She's amazing. It's because I know that children are little shits only made to ruin parents lives.
Man, I really needed to hear that from Robin today... I was kicked out for being part of the LGBTQ+ community and it was difficult. I'm unfortunately now in a pretty rough situation but it was nice to hear someone say it's okay and people like the person in the post and myself deserve better, thanks Robin
i hope you're doing alright man, no one deserves to be shunned because of who they are, from one lgbt person to another i wish nothing but good things upon you
It's always okay to be yourself: gay, straight, whatever. It's. Your. Life. Don't let anyone tell you it's not. Those people aren't worth knowing. I hope things turn out right for you, and you find contentment. 👍👍👍
Bruh, the mom digging in the trash of her grown adult daughter got me XD like just imagine it: *You are making yourself a cup of coffee, stirring the creamer in and happens to glance out of the window of your town house and there in the backyard was your mom digging through the trash. You watch her concern but also amused as she holds up a piece of trash righteously and marches towards your back doors. She begins knocking on the back door, you can see her; she can see you, it is a sliding glass back door. You submit to defeat and go up to the door as your mom screams through the door.* "You see this?! This is why you are getting fat!" *You watch as she presses the piece of trash against the door like you were blind. You didn't respond out of disbelief. She then knocks on the door harder and yells louder.* "YOU SEE THISSSS?! THISSSS IS WHY YOU ARE GETTING FAT!" *You sigh as a response and roll your eyes before speaking calmly through the glass door* Mom, you are the crazy one who is looking like an oversized trash panda digging through my trash. I don't think you have room to talk *With that said, you drew the curtains; shutting her out and ending the performance.*
@@Acoustic_Screecher Call the cops & tell them "there's some homeless lady digging through people's garbage & screaming nonsense, could you please have her taken back to the shelter or something?" Sip coffee & wait for the show.
Ive kinda been having some parent problems recently. I got distracted by my phone while doing the dishes so they took it. That was understandable. What wasn’t ok is that they started looking through it. They found people calling me by my preferred name rather than my legal name and started asking about it and I eventually felt forced to come out as trans to them. They said that being trans wasn’t a thing and that I’m a girl and not anything else (I’m afab but I identify is nonbinary). They acted like it was my friends who influenced me since I have quite a few trans friends. While nothing else has really happened since, I am still not feeling the best.
I'm sorry. I had a similar situation with my "dad" (dad in quotes because he was physically my dad but he was having mental issues at that point.) Where he asked for my phone saying he needed to update it and then he looked through everything on my phone before calling my grandparents to tell them about it and then yelling at me that I was being influenced by the devil. While fortunately my dad finally did get the help he needs and he's back to normal, I will never ever trust him with my phone again. Edit: And I'm a trans man too and my family is transphobic. Being trans is absolutely a thing, you are completely valid. Don't let anyone else tell you that you are a girl, because you're not and only you know what you are.
Our collective deepest condolences. I had a friend who switched in middle school, and even still, to this day, their mother refuses to call them by their preferred name, even when my own dad unknowingly used their correct name (the one I told him), and his mother just never moved an inch. All of their friends love them to bits, but it's sad to see that their family doesn't support it. I'm fairly certain that their going to be moving out, coincidentally with one of my friends, so I hope that you can find some solace in some of your friends or those close to you, who support your decision. Love from us all! 💙
Hey! Also nonbinary/afab, and I just wanted to say that I support you. I didn't really have anyone tell me that about being nonbinary when I was younger (I'm now in college) because I was some combo of afraid to come out / felt that it was already intrinsic enough to me that it wouldn't really influence me if people continued using she/her to describe me (spoiler alert, it did). If you can manage to go to a good college in the future, it is honestly one of the most uplifting places I've been as far as gender and sexuality stuff goes. People introduce themselves with their pronouns attached, and people use the pronouns that a person likes the best. I wish you the best of luck
My mom was like that. She isolated me from literally everyone because she was paranoid I'd make her look bad by being what I am. It sucks, and I hope you're able to get out of that situation
You are completely valid and they have no right to do that to you. Being trans is real. I personally can't understand those feelings as I am CIS but being trans is real.
My mum once called CPS to get away from my dad, he wouldn’t let them talk to my mum alone so she didn’t end up getting us out of the shit until she divorced him before New Years this year
I get punished for things that my brother and sister do, and when I tell my Mum I did nothing wrong, she shouts at me for something that isn’t even relevant. In about 4 Years I’ll be able to move out so I don’t have to deal with stuff like that.
Burn you house down, as that way you win 3 times. You: 1) Give a reason 2) Get revenge 3) Get a new place to stay, with the added bonus of your cunt of a mum not being there.
That’s called blame shifting, my mother does it too. It’s commonplace apparently, and it starts with one child being labeled as the trouble child. Then everything bad or wrong that happens within the family dynamic is suddenly the trouble child’s fault. I’m one too. I literally got blamed for shattering a glass door that my sister broke while trying to stone my brother. I had no part in their shenanigans and even told them to knock it off but got ignored. And then got blamed for it somehow (I don’t even remember their reasoning at the time). Years later, both my siblings have tried telling them I had nothing to do with it, and they stubbornly refusing to admit it and still blame me. This behavior often goes unnoticed because parents don’t even realize they’re doing it and believe it’s entirely the child’s fault. You’ll probably never get them to understand what they’re doing yourself. It has to come from an outside source they respect. It took my mother being chastised by a lady at church (who she was gossiping to about me) for treating me so poorly, for her to finally realize after 16 years how she’d mistreated me. And it was only in that one area! She’s still shitty about a lot of other things, and while I won’t ever excuse her past (she was horrendously abusive), she’s gotten a lot better. Luckily my mothers oblivious to the way she treats me and just blabs about it to people like she’s done nothing wrong, making opportunities for her to realize her mistake. Hopefully your family is mature enough to be willing to get family therapy (mine sure isn’t!), but that really helps untangle the knots. If you think they’d never agree to family therapy because they can’t stand the idea of possibly being the problem, suggest a family therapist in a way that makes you sound like the problem (but go to an actual family therapist) and that if they go and talk with the therapist about family issues, it can help the therapist to better cure you. They’ll probably take the bait.
I think I read a story some years ago of a child calling CPS, and the CPS worker actually advised the parents how to be more discreet with their beatings. Disgusting!
CPS is rampant with abuse. They almost always talk down to children & accuse them of lying for attention while giving dangerously large amounts of trust to people responsible for overseeing children suffering with debilitating trauma. Lots of kids are taken out of loving but poor families & placed in the hands of abusers while child beaters are just told "now, you better not beat your children hard enough for me to get called back here, okay?" It's common knowledge amongst abused children & teens that calling CPS is a last resort because they're practically guaranteed to put the child in a worse situation. When I was finally reported, they never even looked into my case (as far as I am aware). Before then, the mandatory reporters who I begged to do it for me all refused, saying that I should find ways to receive their attention & validation that won't hurt their careers. (Edit: typo)
5:13 really hit me in the heart strings. I know their pain and agree with what you said. You CAN choose your family. They may not be blood but you can always find a family. My family gave up on me because they couldn't understand what I was going through with agoraphobia so they packed me and some clothes up put me in the car and dropped me off 2 states away with $120 in my pocket and left. That was 5 years ago and I have great friends here I call family. Everyday is a struggle to stay afloat but I'm trying with the help of my family I have here now. Dont let anyone, blood or not, try and bring you down to there level. Keep your head up out there you always have a family in the world, just not always the one you started with.
My mom was like this. Financially abusive, more unsavory things. I’m now 21, live in an apartment with my younger brother and we are both free and happy. I’m not in contact with her much anymore and have set my boundaries moving 3+ hours away from her. For those of you still in these situations, it’ll get better. Please hang in there. One day you will be free and happy ❤
Oh boy this video hit HARD. Been neglected by my mom and abused by my dad and his current wife. Fortunately my mom went into therapy after she saw how she treated my sister and I (mainly me unfortunately) and we get along fine now. But my dad hasn't learned a thing and is still doing stuff the way he used to do, even after I moved out.
@@Duke_Of_Havoc They have gone better! Moved out in 2020, went to therapy and I'm slowly getting better. Trying to cut contact with my dad soon as well :>
i had parents like these, but after i learned to adapt to their bullshit and fought fire with fire, i eventually managed to shut them up and gain fairness and authority in our household
Same here, if there is one thing people do not want to know is the raw truth. Of who they are, their every flaw and quirk, just a complete breakdown of their existence and comparing them negatively to anything you can, as fast as you can say it. Shock and awe works, and if you destroy their confidence you destroy their authority.
for years i thought i was dealing with emotional abuse in my house. i had no evidence, but i thought that i just didn’t know any better. turns out, for years i’ve had autism, adhd, anxiety, and i’m also pretty sure i have bipolar depression. now, it’s *my* job to repair the damage my parents caused from not knowing any better. it’s a damn nightmare.
8:30 I felt this in my bones and nearly teared up My parents used to withhold my favorite stuff from me too just because I didn't get "good marks" despite getting straight As throughout my school life
Same. Grades k through 12, I spent more than half as a high honors student. Was off the honor roll entirely for only 1/4 of that time. I was a super good kid, but my videogames got taken away basically any time they could find an excuse. They even used to take my favorite books away because they wanted to make sure I had literally nothing to do when I didn't have school because they thought I'd have no choice but to do chores more often to kill the time.
I really hope those kids are okay. When someone says "you can't choose your family", I straight up say back to them "yeah well I can choose if they in my life or not. That's for damn sure I'm not having toxic shit in my life anymore."
8:38 my mom and dad are an older generation and they raised me perfectly, like they love me and respect every single one of my opinions and choices. They tell me how they're proud of me and that they'll forever support me even when they get old and fragile etc. I seriously dont get why its so hard for those parents in the vid to be like mine. They literally decided "hey im gonna bring a child into this world without their will and im gonna treat them like they're in the military" BRO
Sometimes too little discipline can lead to abuse of power between parent and child. Let me say my parents have 0 discipline what so ever. Last time I was grounded was about 3 years ago and I was only grounded for 2 days. But I’ve learned not to take advantage of it and respect what they would want over what I could abuse. Something not every child with little to no discipline would do. You clearly also respect your parents and wouldn’t dare go against their wishes for you to be the best you can be. But some other people don’t which can create tension.
@@zenith0079 I agree and honestly its flabbergasting to see others disrespect their parents. My parents also dont ground me, like ever, but honestly i think thats for the best since i'd rethink my actions either way. I believe their form of discipline is more, mental? But anyway, everytime i watch a show where the kids and parents have that tension (example super nanny, worlds strictest parents...) i have to admit, its obvious that its the parent's fault. So occasionally i'd see a kid who did nothing wrong, but their parents turned them into someone who's disrespectful etc.
9:33 I had to live with this for every single damn day and night of my life. Every single time I would screw up on homework, didn’t do the chores properly, or accidentally miss something important. One of them would actively go to the other parent to talk shit within ear shot and yell about it too. The walls were thin and even with headphones on, I was still listening to it. Not to mention I developed a fear of doors, not the door itself but what was behind it since my dad would barge in to look through my stuff or yell at me. So I would always be terrified at night since childhood. Thank you for your time, sorry I just had to vent.
I’m afraid of knocking! It’s knocking and not doors like you because I was fortunate enough to have a lock on my door, which I to this day keep locked at all times. Of course, that lock didn’t stop my mother from literally breaking through the door “here’s Johnny” style once while screaming about how she was going to kill me….because I had a argument(verbal) with my brother(I’m female). I still jump a little whenever someone knocks a little too loudly on a door. I never liked what was behind it.
Thats perfectly fine, you dont need to be sorry about feeling the need to vent. But i gotta say, those were some dead beat parents alright, really really hope you’ve gotten away from them and doing better now and if not, good luck in reaching that point!!
The moms with the money thing is super relatable. Since I’m Asian American, my grandparents give me money, so when I got $1k for my bday, my mom said that she will give me half the money, but instead, she gave me $100 which I was ok with because money is money. Then when I graduated from middle school, I got $10K from my grandmother. But when I was sleeping, the money was gone, I soon saw it on my mom’s nightstand. I secretly took my money back and decided to move in with my dad. But get this, I’m literally 16 and my mom says “you can’t have too much money.” Asian moms are a different level.
Asian moms are on a different level trust me, my mom has the audacity to make the rule of "no games on weekdays" and call me gay and a coward for complaining behind her back (not literally)
It's not just Asian moms on that B.S. My dad is African-American and growing up in the 60s and 70s when he got his first jobs his parents took basically all the money under the auspices of "all income belongs to the household and we're the heads of the household". He very quickly learned to hide all his money in bank accounts his parents didn't know about opened with sympathetic relatives.
The "Loving and respecting your children; Making your children fear you" is relatable to me. My mom has been.... rude ever since she came home from the hospital after she gave birth to my sister. Before she went to the hospital, she never made me feel depressed, said rude things to me that made me feel like s__t, and didn't threaten to burn my sketchbook. After she came home? She's not the same person that I knew before. It's like she's a different person.
The reason my mom threatened to burn my sketchbook was because I didn't sweep the floor well enough. I moved the litter box out of the bathroom, moved everything, swept, and got all the dust in the corners.... everything. And she didn't believe me, and threatened to burn my sketchbook if it wasn't done right. I also remember being told that I would be grounded for one day if I left a lid to a can of cat food behind the bathroom sink. She later said that it was because she didn't want my baby brother reaching the sink and cutting himself on it. There's a gate keeping my baby brother in the living room. He's never been in the bathroom.
I Actually Looked into the Charge. $1,400 Stolen by False Impersonation will Land Her both a Felony Charge (False Impersonation) , and a Class A Misdemeanor. (Fraud) Combined, these are Punishable by fines up to $9,000, And up to 4 Years in Prison. I Hope she enjoys that Vacation.
Me and my mom got into a fight recently that led to me getting my stuff and moving out to go live with my dad. She's appologised but I can't quite except it yet. She said some pretty rude stuff. Thank you Robin for your kind words. It means a lot to me and i'm certain it means a lot to the other fans going through things like this.
I love how this came up and last night to prepare for my cat costume for work at Walmart, a simple costume, I was looking for the cat fingerless gloves my girlfriend got me and though she saw it months ago; She went to complain that "It has pink. That's weird." The pink in discussion was the Cat paw pads on the glove. Did she forget that most cat's paw pads are actually pink? And to top it off; our white skin tone is technically peach color and therefore a pink? I'm tired of her treating every color that exist as a gendered color, and I'm almost 28.
This makes me think "damn, i'm so lucky that my parents are so good" I respect my parents cuz they are the best, if they build your respect based on fear, they don't deserve it
4:49 that is actually a crime to keep someone's property in your house without their consent and then not allow then to reclaim it, she can call the cops on her mom
I knew my parents were good beforehand but this really just puts it into perspective. Jeez. And sorry to anyone with bad parents, you don’t deserve that.
@@Cookiekopter I don't think he means around his neck. When I was little my mom got me a leash that basically attached around my back, but yeah it does sound strange
@@Cookiekopter when my 18yo was 2ish I swore I would never use one, they loved to run and I tried everything. One day they wandered off and it was the most terrifying moment of my life. Even though it is silly a leash is a wonderful tool for protecting children.
I had this on in the background for a bit and I had the realization that something I went through and as of the time of writing is still somewhat going through involving life at home. My family has had birds as pets for years, and I didn't mind the noises until a few months ago. I don't know what changed but one specific noise started irritating me. It was just annoying back then but fast forward to a few weeks ago and I just can't stand it anymore, I was so frustrated that I almost snapped my phone in half. I tried going downstairs to help make the noise less noticeable and my mom talked to me about it saying she's trying her best to help but I was like "you don't understand how close I am to breaking something, just hearing it once is too much now" or something I can't remember. I then took my food and slammed the door behind me and she seriously yelled at me and said if I "dIsReSpEcTeD" her one more time my phone would get taken away. Which is the main thing I used to keep myself sane. It didn't go so well and I broke a box and a Pepsi can downstairs while crying. I tried talking to her again in the morning but no dice, she just didn't seem to care as much as she thought she did. More fights happened later down the line and nothing changed much other than how fed up I was that this sound that legitimately makes me wanna destroy something isn't being taken care of properly. All I could do was drown out the noise or just not be in the house since I could hear it everywhere in the goddamn house. And then I had another fight that ended with me saying "I hate this family" because some stuff that was said HURT. I was even considering trying to move in with a friend at some point or hell even emancipation. I was dreading being in my own house because of that goddamn noise. And they acted like I was the problem. I've been trying my best to put up with so much crap, and yet I'm the problem. They even seriously try talking to me while I'm trying to drown the noise out. Although recently my mom did say that she's gonna move the birds into one of her friend's houses for now. That should be great news to me but when I heard it I just was like "OKAY" because I had to drown out noise too. That and I've been dealing with so much other crap alongside it. Im not sure how much I trust my own family anymore I guess. I'm still considering emancipation. But I'm gonna think about it after that and another thing gets taken care of. And also just after I can take some time to kick back for a bit. I've been through too much this year, let alone the past few weeks. I need a break. Sorry for the paragraph, I just wanted to get that off my chest.
Regarding the mom that took the child's inhaler and gave them essential oils, you can get the mother on involuntary manslaughter, possibly criminally negligent if she was unwilling to face to right facts about the child's condition. She would only get a year at most sadly
a tip to all people who hated their scummy parents you are better than them and you don't owe them any thing, not even your own shit, they owe you everything for being idiots stay strong, after all, you were strong enough to make it here
this is the first video i watched from you and that little speech in the middle made me cry.. i guess i didnt know how much a little speech from a nice online stranger could mean to me and my situation! I watch these types of videos to remind myself that im not alone and sometimes i have it better but it still doesnt change that ive been fucked over by my own parents. great video tho!
God. I've never dealt with toxic parents, but my roommate has told me some crazy stories about her narcissistic mother who stole the family's money, kicked out her kids and was so awful everybody cut off contact with her six years ago. I'm amazed at the strength of people who have grown up with that.
Can’t exaggerate enough how curious I am if Illuminaughti is still in the picture based on what’s come out I really can’t picture anyone here associating with her
I feel for the artist one, when I was fourteen I tried to improve my art, I showed my mom this drawing I made that I was super proud of and she told me it was terrible, I was so upset I shredded the drawing and many others with it, I still can’t enjoy art because of her. I hope that artist is okay, or gets the money to buy a new tablet
Parents been really quiet since this video came out.
yes
this video only came out 5 minutes ago
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it’s been 5 minutes
I know it’s a joke but still, only 5 min xD
I'm 60. When I was 30, I cut off all contact with my abusive alcoholic father, for the sake of my mental well being. Let's just say that the last 30 years have been much happier than the 30 years I spent with him in my life. My daughter is almost 30, and when she was 14 she made the same decision regarding her own father. I supported her decision completely, but she's had to deal with the same friends and family members as I did, giving her the whole "but he's your dad" and "you'll regret it when he's gone" BS. I don't understand it when people say things like that...all those people know what POS these 2 men are.
Now you can dance on his grave
so basically you were abused by your father, became a victim, and let an abuser into being your partner becuase it was familiar to you. glad you broke that cycle of abuse.
@@12yroldedgelord41 It's not ideal, but you don't know their circumstances. Also it's not like they cut off contact with their father, then later got together with 2nd abusive guy... from the timeline it looks like she had her daughter about the same time she decided to break off contact with her father.
You're the mom right? The way you wrote it made it seem like you were the father to your daughter.
The way you worded it makes it look like your father was an alcoholic abuser and that you still chose to marry an alcoholic abuser
I want to raise my daughter in such a way that instead of thinking "dad's gonna kill me" they will think "I need to call my dad" when in a car crash.
-Some legend of a father
Fr. Huge W
My mom makes me call her first, not the cops, not an ambulance (even though health care in America is worth more than a hottub) even when both my arms are freaking paralyzed and she would make me call her first, otherwise if im in the hospital and she was second to know about it, she would yell at me and I would finish cure for insomnia before she even starts
That's exactly what that video Beau made was saying. Good stuff friend.
@@mudkip984 your mom is a piece of shit for not caring about her child first.
W comment
5:08 literally broke me, like, full tears running down my face. Thank you Robin for the parent slander, for some reason it’s extremely comforting to know someone in the world knows what kind of abuse we have to go through.
I use u to clean my house, keep going cause you got this. Just like the vacuum, ur hardworking
ur amazing out of character vacuum cleaner
I legit cried over this, robin is such a father-figure
@@lemonOspade FRR
Stupid libs, don’t understand life. THE POINT IS TO REPOPULATE PEOPLE!!!
Really sorry to anyone who has to deal with parents like this. They have no rights to invade your privacy, take your money or use the fact they raised you against you (that's their damn job!!).
My family doesn't trust me at all they always look through my phone thinking I'm hiding something
Thanks. I really wish there was an exam and license for parenthood + a felony charge for having kids without a license.
I wouldent call my stepdad abusive but he is paranoid, i once asked him if he could apply some no-squeak to some of the doors in the house and his response was
"No, i wanna know when you sneak out of your room"
i have never done this in my life other than to head to the bathroom or get water.
And I though my mom was invasive...
So, she is. I'm 33 years old and she still wants to decide what house or car I have to buy, what I should do, what I shouldn't, how I should date a man (I'm still single). Pretty sure she read my personal diary when I was a teen. But damn, now I think I was lucky !
@@grenade8572 thankfully i have a lockable diary but how hard they have been trying to open it i cant describe
How to deal with these parents:
1. Save up money
2. Collect Evidence of abuse
4. Find help from trusted adult
3. Move out as soon as possible
No easy task, but certainly effective
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Unless there hitting you collect evidence of abuse isn’t always good theirs a chance no family or the adult will take you so then foster care or cps doesn’t care the other two are better options if you dont wanna face the chance of foster care
How am I supposed to move out I'm 10 I don't have anywhere to go :(
@@gingamingayo6609 don’t worry kid, save up every cent you got, just keep aiming to become an independent and self-sufficient adult, get employed no matter what so you can move out faster, if things are really bad don’t be scared to report
I love how most of these are ACTUAL CRIMES but people usually can’t sue due to costs
They can't sue me if I first raid their bank account.
-Some person unworthy of being called a parent
That itself is a symptom of a severely fucked up legal system. If someone breaks the LAW and the only recourse is a civil suit paid for by the victim that means enforcement of the law has to be individually paid for by victims and if the victim can't afford to pay to enforce the law than the criminals get away with it.
Fortunately in a lot of these straightforward cases no attorneys would be required (technically attorneys are never "required"). Like the one where the mom stole money from the bank account, all they'd need to do is file a report with their bank and than the police. Since she committed theft and wire fraud above the limit of a few hundred dollars set by most jurisdictions she would be charged with at least a misdemeanor and possibly a felony (some U.S. states set the felony limit at or below $1000).
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Please find YHWH Elohim and keep the commandments in Exodus 20 and Leviticus 11.
Please read Exodus 20 and pray for forgiveness,
2nd Corinthians 5:17
“Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here!”
[37] Jesus said unto him, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind. [38] This is the first and great commandment. [39] And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself. [40] On these two commandments hang all the law and the prophets. Matthew 22:37- 40
Please read the book of Jonah, Matthew, Exodus you'll have the information you need.
@@Lolirock971deez nuts lol
I like how parent break things they love (that keep them sane) and then say
"So now you'll be happy"
and then are surprised when the child is always sad.
Also, its a waste of money.
@@raptormage2209 yeah.
Another thing is that parents remove the childs genuine intrests and hobbies for some shit that makes them miserable
Then they wonder why their child is depressed and blames it on everyone but themselves
Fun story: I had a pair of headphones I got for my 9th birthday (I'm 13 now) and about 7 months ago my stepmother got really mad at me (Like always) and said she was sick of me being on my computer all of the time. Mind you, she was fully aware of how much I loved those things. My father got them for me, and I used to love him with all my heart, so of course there was quite some sentimental value to these headphones, since they reminded me of a time that my father wasn't a prick and I got to see my birth mother (a total saint) more then two weekends a month. Anyway, I loved these headphones. I put my favorite stickers on them, I cleaned them regularly, I even took great care in keeping the battery life as healthy as possible and being careful not to damage them. Well, you know what my stepmother does after I drown in the world of the internet to get away from the "Teasing" and belittlement? She takes them, walks over to the trashcan, looks me dead in the eyes, and throws them on the ground in a fit of rage and *smashes them.* In front of me. While I'm pleading for her to stop. Saying I won't ignore them anymore. Then, when she's done, she slams them in the trash can and tells ME to take it out. It's not even a quarter of the way full. It's also trash day tomorrow. I have never forgiven them since. The they have the AUDACITY to buy me new ones for my 13th birthday and say "We love you and we hope we can make amends for something that was still justified but we did anyway" or something to that effect. I still haven't forgiven them, though I said I did so she (hopefully) won't break these too. I live in constant fear for my sentimental stuff stuff now and I've purposely belittled both me and my stuffed animals since they're the only things I hold dear anymore and I don't want it to hurt as bad when she destroys them too.
@@atomicunicorngaming yes! Parents apparently don’t know what sentimental value is because they just replace it all “oh 👉👈 we broke all the valuable things in your life 👐 but we got you new ones 🤭😊👉👈” like, In my case, I have a gray WebKins kitten and it’s meant life to me. I could not imagine letting anyone touch it and will kill anyone who even causes a tiny rip because I’m sentimental. If all that s* happened to me, they would be dead. Bro, idk if you’re my sibling and all but…⚰️
I just want all parents to understand, no, we didn’t close the tab because we saw / heard you.
You just so happen to be there when we closed it.
i did lol
If I closed a tab because I didnt want my parents to see it, then my mouse was already hovering over the close button when they got to the top of the staircase because I was listening to hear which direction they turned. I never risked it. It was always shut before they entered the room
i once had a full blown meltdown because my stepmother kept asking me why i closed an app when she came near me when i just so happened to be closing it at that time, not because i noticed her.
I close it because i have paranoia created by the internet, maybe i have issues
@@timohara7717 honestly me to
We need an r/goodparents. That would balance this out.
if this weren't emkay i'd think this a pissed mom thinking "what about me, im a good mom!" when shes really not. i could be wrong tho
I want to see people loving and respecting their kids like normal parents not smashing their kids phone because "they didn't wake up on time!!!"
I'll create it
nevermind the names already taken
@@shadowthefurryscientist we appreciate your efforts
"A banger episode over at Illuminaughtiii"
That did NOT age well
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@@dorsalfinn79 illuminaughtii got exposed for being a horrible person a few months ago lmao
@@dorsalfinn79 illuminaughtii would be on this subreddit if she were a parent
Eh her episodes are still good it's just... Y'know
@@That1HistorianI've always believed you should separate the art from the artist. You can like Hitler's paintings without supporting the Nazis, for example.
basically the abuse issue is from people not recognizing the boundary between establishing yourself as an authority and figure of respect (necessary to parenting), and making them fear you, because all too many managers/parents/teachers etc. mistake terrified obedience for respect, trust and loyalty.
you need a healthy balance of being stern enough to teach your child valuable life lessons wile still being loving and caring.
Very true, especially with how common this kind of parenting is. I was extremely uncomfortable around my dad as a child and I still am. But to make matters worse, this kind of parenting spreads like wildfire, and the “I’m your parent therefore whatever you say doesn’t matter” almost entirely bars them from repairing their relationships with their children and possible future family, that or continues the nasty cycle, making your children believe that’s how to treat your future children. I really hope we see some softer parenting examples to follow and soon, media and parental paranoia is getting worse, thus making it worse ;-;
(Sorry for the long comment I’m kinda passionate about it)
@@corpsenymph4644 I am NEVER comfortable around my parents!!! :DD
They don't mistake it, they know you will obey them and thats it, it dosen't matter if they are scared, if they are obedient
And there's my mother, who said that i have to fear her, but if i say that i fear her and i don't trust her she gets even madder (she started hitting me when she's mad when i was basically 5) (i'm a minor i can't do anything about it)
The mother that threatened to “call the cups” on her daughter is the exact reason I, a child, am never coming out to my mother because being disowned is not fun
if you ever build up the courage to attempt it,
1. place a secret camera
2. get yelled at and shit
3. send that to cps
@@hdw_Kn no way am i building up courage to do that
@@zeewhyareohess should do it on election day. 😉
If I ever have a kid, and they're gay or whatever, I'd love to make it so they THINK I'd be super pissed, so when I eventually find out, I can go "Oh... You're _gay_ ... Cool, have fun, be safe, consent is important." and that's it.
@@Klekowksii that’s..horrible. Don’t do that.
My dad lived a rough life, and he always said to me, “Choose the family you need, not the one you have.” He himself did this and it’s been good advice to live by.
Wise advice indeed.
damn, that short moment of Robin talking bout parents got me tearin up man....
Yeah that was amazing. I have good parents even but it was very touching. Big round of applause for that one. Amazing.
Yeah. (Also nice stinky orca PFP)
8:56 I relate to this greatly.
My dad, who was 47 at the time of this event, got angry at me over something I didn't do. Instead of him giving me a normal lecture, he forces 9-year old me into his room, with him carrying his belt. While I was crying when this was happening (I was 9 and barely knew any better) and try running from him, man decides to pick me up, throw me on his bed, kneel on top of my back, and he did this in such a way where I was unable to breathe, while he was still beating me with his belt. Hit three times on my legs, twice on my butt, and twice on the back of the head because I tried lifting my head to breathe, and I was screaming the entire time.
I got a trauma flashback of this watching a video of the beginning sequence of the Outlast Trials (I think that's what that game is called) because the screaming sounded so similar.
I asked him about it today and he replied with "Oh you were screaming so I knew you were fine."
No dad, me screaming is not a sign that I'm ok, it's a sign that I'm either in immense pain or am incredibly scared.
Another story while I'm at it.
This story takes place during April to May, and I was trying to make up for some late work. It was a lot, but because it was late, my dad decided to kick me out of the house with nowhere to go except my car. He told me this while I was at school, he made no arrangements, and didn't tell anyone else.
My mom, thankfully, managed to hold my dad off long enough for me to sleep in the house and not have to sleep in my Jeep in the 85F at night Alabama heat.
The next day, I tried telling a teacher about what happened, and she responded with "your dad probably just got really mad at you" and didn't show a shred of concern for the problem I was facing. Mind you, this was the teacher who I had late work for. I turned it in, asked my dad why he kicked me out of the house, and he responded with "I didn't kick you out of the house, your late work kicked you out of the house."
Cool, dad. Wait till I turn 21 and press charges for Child Abuse and Child Abandonment due to the crazy stunts you pull.
Oh wait, I can't, cause you think all of my money, including the money I RIGHTFULLY EARNED AT MY OWN 8 TO 5 JOB, is yours since "we gave you that money" and "I gave you the opportunity to work that job." No, you didn't. I worked my own connections, managed to get a job, and you threatened to make me pay rent for living at your house while I'm 16, and now not even earning a paycheck. (For clarification, I wasn't fired, nor did I quit. The job terms specified I could only work during the summer due to the hours I had to work, and working there being near impossible during the school year.)
I don't want to call CPS (I've heard stories about how much worse some kids can end up as a result of it), can't call the authorities without my dad knowing it, and I don't have anywhere else to go other than here.
If this stuff isn't insanity, I have no idea what is.
‘You were screaming so i knew you were ok’ bro HOW OLD ARE YOU BECAUSE YOU NEED TO GET OUT OF THE HOUSE AND GET YOUR PARENTS ARRESTED FOR HARASSMENT AND PHYSICAL ABUSE, THIS IS A SERIOUS ISSUE but i understand your hesitation to resort to cps or law enforcement, sadly i cant give advice for this since im only 13 and im also going through abuse but what i can say is to stay strong, one day you will be free of them.
Holy shit im so sorry dude i hope you’re life gets much better
@@vanitythenolife I'd prefer not to outright answer this, I like keeping most of my personal details (such as name and age) a secret.
Also, my mom's fine, most of the time. She has her moments but she is normally A-ok. It's my dad who's the main asshole, and my mom is a reason I don't wanna call CPS. I don't want her to seem like the asshole in my life when she wasn't.
@@Projection_ ah i understand, same thing when your 18 and you move out you can cut your father off of your life (though keep your mother if you prefer) and press charges against him at 21 like you said
@@Projection_ Get your mother out of the house, bring her somewhere where you're alone with her then call CPS on your father.
Just excuse yourself while you're out with your mother, go somewhere where she can't see you and call CPS.
Your father needs to be rightfully punished for the actions he did to you since what he did to you is unacceptable.
0:14 That one didn't age quite so well
You could say that... it aged like milk
@@AngelicGuardian36905it sadly did
My female parent's way of dealing with us misbehaving was to hit us - a lot. A relative told her "They won't love you when they grow up" and she said "They don't have to love me, just so long as they respect me".
She was quite proud of this, and retold it often - and, every time, when she said the word "respect" she'd lift her clenched fist.
Depends how you define "respect", I suppose.
I'll never understand this mindset, like once their kids are big enough to hit back there is no respect for they. Just a lot of hate and angry.
2 solutions on that:
1 - Move out.
2 - If You cannot move out, then call the police.
@@EmperorProtects1 3- if you cannot call the police, shit. Guess you are done for
Why did they even bring you to the world if thats they attitude
Power I guess
Something I've noticed in these parents is that they think that children somehow owe them for taking care of them. No, taking care of a child is a responsibility of a parent who decided to have a child. Or think of them as property. Those people don't deserve children. And then they get all confused when their kids don't talk to them anymore, and the parents just say "this is how I grew up and I turned out fine, you're just ungrateful"
And then they don’t talk to their parents cause they had to deal w the same things
My personal favourite insane parent quirk; “WE DONT HIT PEOPLE IN THIS HOUSE”
*SMACKSMACKSMACK*
Like, thank you for doing the bare minimum?
When he made that little rant about choosing your own family, I feel like many people needed to hear that. I know I did
same man, i wanna try moving in with all my friends one day because i trust them infinitely more than my family
@@lxmesoda i hope you’re aboe to :)
able*
@@paperstrawsYT This isn't texting.
You can edit your comment without adding another one.
7:26 Okay, That one riled me up to no end. OP is trying to better themselves by taking a helpful class that could make OP some Bank and the Parents just wanna block OP from being successful and be A**holes about it. Screw those Parents.
Also regarding the WiFi Hotspot bit: Not all Hotspots work well and also some folks don't have an Unlimited Data Plan to take advantage of said Feature if they had it to begin with
*Me being happy about how normal my parents are*
Damn must be nice 😥
True well my dad is, my mom was a addict and would always go to the hospital for any little thing just to get pills I remember all those times sitting in the lounge area at like 2 in the morning as a kid watching the crappy TV shows that would show at that time and sleeping in the car, only real thing I've ever had as a child
Had these parents myself. I knew it was going to be hell for me further on so I worked and collected some money took some loan from my friends who were very supportive and then moved the fuck out of there all the way to Canada on study visa right after high school.
I can tell you the moment I got off the plane in a completely different country I cried out of happiness.
There is only one way to deal with these people and that’s to ignore them and run away as far as you can.
My story animated just got an epic story to steal for content now
Good for you many wont be able to do that
@puteqx ikr bro. Never been happier💃
@@why7032 of course and I wouldn’t recommend taking my way either. In more than a few ways I completely lucked out. Things could have gone very wrong but it’s fine now. All is well that ends well.
@@Lala-artart good for you and good luck on life
I respect all the kids and adult who survived these insane people
Press F to pay respect
@@The_Dr_Fate f
Consider that parents like these create the people that may even run a country. This is the stuff you hear about. Think about those in rich places where the info does not come out.
We live in a world of fear and hate every day of our lives.
@@The_Dr_Fatef
F@@The_Dr_Fate
0:10 aged like milk.
Absolutely
What aged like milk?
@@supersillysammy272iilluminaughtii.
@@markanthonyportem3430 wait what? What did she do?
@@supersillysammy272 being a cold back stabbing liar.
BRUH, THAT MOTHER WHO STOLE THAT GRANT MONEY NEEDS TO GO TO JAIL, that is litterally robbery. Government grants are given to one person and one person alone, the person the government designates.
Accessing someone else's bank account by impersonating them is wire fraud and possibly identity theft. If that was in certain U.S. states the amount stolen was enough to class it as a felony. So she may have committed up to three crimes and at least one felony.
I’ve got a note for the mom in that last post: Accessing the social media profile of someone else if they haven’t given permission or have denied you permission, is illegal and against privacy laws, you better damn well hope your daughter doesn’t do anything about this, because otherwise you’re finished. You may think they do not have the power to do anything about this, but if Snapchat sees that this story is worth picking up, suddenly your daughter will have the power of a multimillion dollar company in her back. It’s also listed in the ToS, and if you have your own Snapchat, you can say goodbye to that, and accounts on associated platforms as well.
There’s absolutely nothing illegal about this lmao. There is absolutely nothing that the US government or Snapchat would do.
The daughter isnt allowed to use snapchat, she broke the rules and she got the consequences
@@unamedzube7xb297 You’re not allowed to break the law just because you’re punishing your child. What the mom did was illegal, regardless of if she was punishing the child or not, even if the child was posting nudes of her on Snapchat, she was still not allowed to do what she did. One bad deed does not justify another.
@@unamedzube7xb297that’s like saying it’s suddenly legal to hurt someone if they didn’t put away the dishes 😢
A minor is not allowed to agree to the terms and conditions. Read them if you want to say this. You are required to be 18 or older to agree to the terms in the US. A minor is not allowed to agree to any terms. A parent has the right to renounce anything a minor signs. And it should be that way. Kids are stupid. So are some parents. This channel is mostly just whinny people not getting there way. This country is screwed.
“A banger episode over on illuminaighti”
Aged like sad milk
As someone who's living under a parent like these, I kinda realized just how awful it was. I already had a massive dislike for my own mother considering everything she's been doing, and I'm planning on moving out in a month or two. I'm at the legal age to own property in Canada (16+), and there's a good apartment building near my school that i'll be going to. Wish me luck guys, applying for my second job this week :)
Good luck man! I hope things get better for you soon.
@@zenny7479 Thank you! Your support means everything to me :)
Good luck, also being able to work 2 jobs at 16 y/o is some serious dedication, keep it up man
Good luck and safe travels, mate!
@@DoctorBones1 also quite bullshit that ANYONE NEEDS 2 JOBS
Finally an acknowledgment by a reddit narrator that CPS does very little (various reasons, not saying don’t report or they do absolutely nothing)
Its a very broken, overwhelmed, underfunded system and reddit LOVES responding “call CPS and get them taken away”
Its not that easy; its not. And complete removal often require some pretty, repeated awful treatment
Yep, it often comes down to which is worse than which, the abusive parents, or the abusive foster system. Either way, it's hell.
@@theweepingskull9839 and theyre often required/forced to give neglectful parents multiple tries - parents can clean up their acts for 6 months, maybe a couple years before putting children through another cycle
I feel like the problem is that CPS has become a business first, and their actual purpose second if that makes any sense
had CPS called on my parents 3 times by telling school therapist NOTHING HAPPEND
CPS sucks. It's true that because of them I'm out of my abusive home, however they isolated me from my best friend (my dad) because they were biased as hell and entirely ignored me when I tried to explain that my mom was abusive. Things only got better near the end of the case when we were given a new caseworker who actually cared about fixing things
That iilluminaughtii shoutout did not age well...
Why
@@Im_a_blue_bomberwas exposed for being a horrible person
My dad once yelled at my sister to move out since she was in college
It was June
Of 2020
He got into a huge fight with her and my mom
He called the police
We left for my grandparents house
We came back a week later
He threw a tantrum a few days after we came back
We left for our grandparent's house again
Hell, that's not even the stupidest thing my dad has been mad about. I told him that coco beans used to make chocolate are harvested via child slavery. Instead of looking it up, he punished me for saying it. Honestly surprised the police haven't arrested him during all those times he's called the police
i honestly want to come over there and fight him but i have no say in anything :')
My brother got mad at me for saying cows are abused in the dairy industry. He called me brainwashed and started a fight about right wing politics (who he believes are straw puppets for some big sheme and the good ones in his story) and the *rona virus and my mother had to step in to make clear they don't believe in the tracking chip bs and stuff like this because he really made it sound like it. My other sibling tried their best to stop that argument.
I was seen as weak because I talked about things I believe are importand and more so for apologising later because I spoke harsh words during this argument.
We are mid 30 to 40 and I am the only sibling not living at my parents place anymore.
There should be a subredit for insane siblings, too...
My brother and mother went to the hospital the next day due to the stress I believe they cause each other every day for years and due to me disturbing the water. Also one family member is finally moving out and is now waiting because they don't want to push my mother into another stress faint...
All in all I would say that was a peacefull christmas compared to other years...
I think people underestimate how bad a good day can be and how crazy those reasons to pick a fight and make a scene about it really are and how bad those crazy family members really are and how bad they take care for themselves even if they need help for years...
But honestly I am fine. I think my husband took all this far worse that I did because his family is normal and he just can't deal with it.
I feel sorry for you. But you will have a nice life because you know what is truly important. You have your goals right and you will manage so well.
And later in life when you look back at this you will know how strong you were even back then and the usual stuff wont shock you as much as others. And thats not your families credit, it is yours! Keep your head high!
@@catulusinferni8612 excuse me, what?
@@Shocked_Joe yikes. i mean, that's still a horrible parent, but you can't say that.
what did the reply say. it's gone.
I'm really happy me and my mom are getting along now... We had a rough start, but she actually worked on herself. She's a great mom now and I love her.
I really hope these "parents" get on the right path and start acting like grownups.
Sending love and hope to all the people who are struggling with these kinds of parents💚💚💚
My daughter and I were the same way, and yes it was generally my fault. We are both older now and have become very close. She made the conscious decision to not fight with me anymore and because of that I did the same. We have both decided it's not worth the time or the effort and that we'd much rather just be happy around each other and we are. And I feel blessed.
My mom was really abusive most of my life, but now she's sober and doesn't call me screaming anymore.
I've invited her to my martial arts belt testing next week. It's a step towards us building a relationship back up but it's gonna take a while before I see her as truly a parent again
One of my teachers (huge shoutout to her) is a mother of two, she has taught them manners, and how to respect her and others WITH RESPECT. She would wait for them to finish talking and they would wait for her. She also has a rule “if I cannot give a good reason, you do not have to do it” (unless it is something like cleaning their room or a rare chore.) THIS IS HOW PARENT(s) SHOULD ACT. BE LIKE HER, RESPECT YOUR SPAWN.
My parents have sort of taken the role of treating me like a friend as well as their child. This is the way parenting should be done. Fear = respect is outdated rhetoric that needs to be stopped.
I would like if you posted this on r/insaneparents, or anywhere about parenting to spread the word, because I am unfortunately a victim of "Fear = Respect" and I desperately want parents like this to realize, this doesn't help one fucking bit
Positive reinforcement, friendliness, helping them out, etc.
Thats what makes a child respect you
Hitting, yelling, excessive punishment, lying
Thats what makes your child scared of you and lie, go behind your back when doing anything, etc.
@@WestGarbage6 this is a lesson my parents need to learn, my mom understands it, my father doesn't seem to understand it. And he's also very expectant of short-term returns...
@@Azyne My mom treated me like she was my mother and my friend so she gained my everlasting trust. I'm 37 and moved out of her house but I still call her for guidance when I feel lost.
@@Moons_haunted lucky you then, if I tell my mom almost anything I'll get yelled at
I am so grateful for my mother, whose own mother treated her in an abusive manner. Beatings and emotional abuse were pretty normal for my mom growing up, as well as victim blaming when she went to her mother (my grandmother) with serious safety and well-being concerns. My mom decided, however, early on that she was not going to be like her mother. She basically took her mother's behavior as a guide on what NOT to do as a parent and remembered how it felt when she was treated that way. When it came to us kids, she knew she never wanted us to be put in the same positions of hurt and danger that she was.
My mom isn't a perfect parent, but every time I see one of these and remember how the cycle of abuse operates, I am so incredibly grateful that she is the person she is.
That’s what I plan on doing. My mother was abused too, but she didn’t end the cycle. The pain, fear, and eventual worthlessness I went through growing up under her thumb ends with me. My kids are never going through that. I’m really proud of your mom for having the strength to do that. It’s really hard sometimes to not be who your parents were because of learned habits, so I really admire her.
@@justalittleturtle5600 If I ever have kids, I won't, but if I do. I will be abusive to them. Not because of my mom. She's amazing. It's because I know that children are little shits only made to ruin parents lives.
1:17 wtf that plankton impression is spot on
Agreed
Yes
Ikr XD
Me: *trying to give a logical reason for me doing this*
My parents: *gets even more upset with me*
Me in my mind: BRUH
Man, I really needed to hear that from Robin today... I was kicked out for being part of the LGBTQ+ community and it was difficult. I'm unfortunately now in a pretty rough situation but it was nice to hear someone say it's okay and people like the person in the post and myself deserve better, thanks Robin
i hope you're doing alright man, no one deserves to be shunned because of who they are, from one lgbt person to another i wish nothing but good things upon you
It's always okay to be yourself: gay, straight, whatever. It's. Your. Life. Don't let anyone tell you it's not. Those people aren't worth knowing. I hope things turn out right for you, and you find contentment. 👍👍👍
That has always confused me things like the oh you hate your son/daughter because they like men/women or something
Who they have "loved" for the years leading up to it
dont worry bro
I hope you'll do alright!
“Every child deserves a parent, but not every parent deserves a child.”
Makes me want to cry
Its time we stop saying it and start implementing it instead
I sure hope that that illuminaughtii charecter mentioned at 0:14 isnt in any hot water, boy that would be a shame.
Bruh, the mom digging in the trash of her grown adult daughter got me XD like just imagine it:
*You are making yourself a cup of coffee, stirring the creamer in and happens to glance out of the window of your town house and there in the backyard was your mom digging through the trash. You watch her concern but also amused as she holds up a piece of trash righteously and marches towards your back doors. She begins knocking on the back door, you can see her; she can see you, it is a sliding glass back door. You submit to defeat and go up to the door as your mom screams through the door.* "You see this?! This is why you are getting fat!" *You watch as she presses the piece of trash against the door like you were blind. You didn't respond out of disbelief. She then knocks on the door harder and yells louder.*
"YOU SEE THISSSS?! THISSSS IS WHY YOU ARE GETTING FAT!"
*You sigh as a response and roll your eyes before speaking calmly through the glass door*
Mom, you are the crazy one who is looking like an oversized trash panda digging through my trash. I don't think you have room to talk
*With that said, you drew the curtains; shutting her out and ending the performance.*
I believe that's when you get a retraining order put on them. Or cops called for trespassing.
@@sumdude4 that would make sense lol
If my mom pulled that crap on me, I'd pretend like I didnt know her and shut the door
@@Acoustic_Screecher Call the cops & tell them "there's some homeless lady digging through people's garbage & screaming nonsense, could you please have her taken back to the shelter or something?"
Sip coffee & wait for the show.
LOVED THAT
XD
Ive kinda been having some parent problems recently. I got distracted by my phone while doing the dishes so they took it. That was understandable. What wasn’t ok is that they started looking through it. They found people calling me by my preferred name rather than my legal name and started asking about it and I eventually felt forced to come out as trans to them. They said that being trans wasn’t a thing and that I’m a girl and not anything else (I’m afab but I identify is nonbinary). They acted like it was my friends who influenced me since I have quite a few trans friends. While nothing else has really happened since, I am still not feeling the best.
I'm sorry. I had a similar situation with my "dad" (dad in quotes because he was physically my dad but he was having mental issues at that point.) Where he asked for my phone saying he needed to update it and then he looked through everything on my phone before calling my grandparents to tell them about it and then yelling at me that I was being influenced by the devil. While fortunately my dad finally did get the help he needs and he's back to normal, I will never ever trust him with my phone again.
Edit: And I'm a trans man too and my family is transphobic. Being trans is absolutely a thing, you are completely valid. Don't let anyone else tell you that you are a girl, because you're not and only you know what you are.
Our collective deepest condolences.
I had a friend who switched in middle school, and even still, to this day, their mother refuses to call them by their preferred name, even when my own dad unknowingly used their correct name (the one I told him), and his mother just never moved an inch.
All of their friends love them to bits, but it's sad to see that their family doesn't support it.
I'm fairly certain that their going to be moving out, coincidentally with one of my friends, so I hope that you can find some solace in some of your friends or those close to you, who support your decision.
Love from us all! 💙
Hey! Also nonbinary/afab, and I just wanted to say that I support you. I didn't really have anyone tell me that about being nonbinary when I was younger (I'm now in college) because I was some combo of afraid to come out / felt that it was already intrinsic enough to me that it wouldn't really influence me if people continued using she/her to describe me (spoiler alert, it did). If you can manage to go to a good college in the future, it is honestly one of the most uplifting places I've been as far as gender and sexuality stuff goes. People introduce themselves with their pronouns attached, and people use the pronouns that a person likes the best. I wish you the best of luck
My mom was like that. She isolated me from literally everyone because she was paranoid I'd make her look bad by being what I am. It sucks, and I hope you're able to get out of that situation
You are completely valid and they have no right to do that to you. Being trans is real. I personally can't understand those feelings as I am CIS but being trans is real.
My mum once called CPS to get away from my dad, he wouldn’t let them talk to my mum alone so she didn’t end up getting us out of the shit until she divorced him before New Years this year
I get punished for things that my brother and sister do, and when I tell my Mum I did nothing wrong, she shouts at me for something that isn’t even relevant.
In about 4 Years I’ll be able to move out so I don’t have to deal with stuff like that.
Burn you house down, as that way you win 3 times. You:
1) Give a reason
2) Get revenge
3) Get a new place to stay, with the added bonus of your cunt of a mum not being there.
@@Klekowksii alright then…
That’s called blame shifting, my mother does it too. It’s commonplace apparently, and it starts with one child being labeled as the trouble child. Then everything bad or wrong that happens within the family dynamic is suddenly the trouble child’s fault. I’m one too. I literally got blamed for shattering a glass door that my sister broke while trying to stone my brother. I had no part in their shenanigans and even told them to knock it off but got ignored. And then got blamed for it somehow (I don’t even remember their reasoning at the time). Years later, both my siblings have tried telling them I had nothing to do with it, and they stubbornly refusing to admit it and still blame me. This behavior often goes unnoticed because parents don’t even realize they’re doing it and believe it’s entirely the child’s fault. You’ll probably never get them to understand what they’re doing yourself. It has to come from an outside source they respect. It took my mother being chastised by a lady at church (who she was gossiping to about me) for treating me so poorly, for her to finally realize after 16 years how she’d mistreated me. And it was only in that one area! She’s still shitty about a lot of other things, and while I won’t ever excuse her past (she was horrendously abusive), she’s gotten a lot better. Luckily my mothers oblivious to the way she treats me and just blabs about it to people like she’s done nothing wrong, making opportunities for her to realize her mistake.
Hopefully your family is mature enough to be willing to get family therapy (mine sure isn’t!), but that really helps untangle the knots. If you think they’d never agree to family therapy because they can’t stand the idea of possibly being the problem, suggest a family therapist in a way that makes you sound like the problem (but go to an actual family therapist) and that if they go and talk with the therapist about family issues, it can help the therapist to better cure you. They’ll probably take the bait.
Make sure to give her a nice cozy spot in the lowest quality retirement home you can find in your local area.
Both my parents have been horribly abusive my entire life. I’m 16.
I didn’t know how much i needed that whole speech right now. Thank you so much
Good luck. Just try to plan your future and dont let them get in the way of it. I had to deal with one up until 4 years ago.
By the way if you don’t want to tell me because it’s personal
What do they do so bad?
i agree, 14 with one abusive parent
*-Get a chainsaw. Go into your parents room. And. Let. Your. Thoughts. And. Anger. Win.-*
I hope the best for you. Please set aside all the bad stuff.
@@Billy_plays2017 Ah very tempting. I’m 17 now and hoping to move out this year or next year
0:16 aged like (sad) milk that shoutout did
I think I read a story some years ago of a child calling CPS, and the CPS worker actually advised the parents how to be more discreet with their beatings. Disgusting!
CPS is rampant with abuse. They almost always talk down to children & accuse them of lying for attention while giving dangerously large amounts of trust to people responsible for overseeing children suffering with debilitating trauma.
Lots of kids are taken out of loving but poor families & placed in the hands of abusers while child beaters are just told "now, you better not beat your children hard enough for me to get called back here, okay?"
It's common knowledge amongst abused children & teens that calling CPS is a last resort because they're practically guaranteed to put the child in a worse situation. When I was finally reported, they never even looked into my case (as far as I am aware). Before then, the mandatory reporters who I begged to do it for me all refused, saying that I should find ways to receive their attention & validation that won't hurt their careers.
(Edit: typo)
5:13 really hit me in the heart strings. I know their pain and agree with what you said. You CAN choose your family. They may not be blood but you can always find a family. My family gave up on me because they couldn't understand what I was going through with agoraphobia so they packed me and some clothes up put me in the car and dropped me off 2 states away with $120 in my pocket and left. That was 5 years ago and I have great friends here I call family. Everyday is a struggle to stay afloat but I'm trying with the help of my family I have here now. Dont let anyone, blood or not, try and bring you down to there level. Keep your head up out there you always have a family in the world, just not always the one you started with.
I trust in you. You can live by your own strength. Even if its heavy. But you can. And im sorry for what happened to you. You deserves better
@@sincil2328 thank you. Even a random "you got this" from someone you dont know can make a positive impact. 👍
i have no idea what to say but you do deserve better
What is it with these abusive parents? It's like they hate their children just for the sake of it. It's really sad
My mom was like this. Financially abusive, more unsavory things. I’m now 21, live in an apartment with my younger brother and we are both free and happy. I’m not in contact with her much anymore and have set my boundaries moving 3+ hours away from her.
For those of you still in these situations, it’ll get better. Please hang in there. One day you will be free and happy ❤
Glad that your free now!
Oh boy this video hit HARD. Been neglected by my mom and abused by my dad and his current wife. Fortunately my mom went into therapy after she saw how she treated my sister and I (mainly me unfortunately) and we get along fine now. But my dad hasn't learned a thing and is still doing stuff the way he used to do, even after I moved out.
I hope things turn better for you.
Got physically abused by my brother and emotionally abused by my parents, so I sympathize
@@Duke_Of_Havoc They have gone better! Moved out in 2020, went to therapy and I'm slowly getting better. Trying to cut contact with my dad soon as well :>
@@fatnuget1488 I'm sorry to hear..I hope things will get better for you :(
@@Cygator_ thanks
0:17 me when I get reminded of anything regarded of controversy
i had parents like these, but after i learned to adapt to their bullshit and fought fire with fire, i eventually managed to shut them up and gain fairness and authority in our household
please tell me how
Same here, if there is one thing people do not want to know is the raw truth. Of who they are, their every flaw and quirk, just a complete breakdown of their existence and comparing them negatively to anything you can, as fast as you can say it. Shock and awe works, and if you destroy their confidence you destroy their authority.
Sad you had to do such a thing in the first place to survive...
Care to write a guide for the desparate?
dang how the hell did you do that?
Bet even if I tried it wouldn't work for most people, me neither.
Videos like this make me grateful that I have the chillest parents in the world.
Yeah same
Same.
Grateful and also very very angry on behalf of the people who didn't get as lucky because dammit everyone deserves parents that love them
me too :)
I wish I could just share my mom with these people
0:16 yea this may or may not have aged pretty badly
I started crying over an arguement that ruined my day and then got even more mad at me because I was crying and “making her feel like the bad guy”
aaaaaaAAAAAAAAAah
for years i thought i was dealing with emotional abuse in my house. i had no evidence, but i thought that i just didn’t know any better. turns out, for years i’ve had autism, adhd, anxiety, and i’m also pretty sure i have bipolar depression. now, it’s *my* job to repair the damage my parents caused from not knowing any better. it’s a damn nightmare.
I can relate so much
Just my parents didn't abuse
Wow, fake disorder cringe.
5:58 that talk was actually really uplifting and I thank you
8:30 I felt this in my bones and nearly teared up
My parents used to withhold my favorite stuff from me too just because I didn't get "good marks" despite getting straight As throughout my school life
asian parents be like:
Same. Grades k through 12, I spent more than half as a high honors student. Was off the honor roll entirely for only 1/4 of that time. I was a super good kid, but my videogames got taken away basically any time they could find an excuse. They even used to take my favorite books away because they wanted to make sure I had literally nothing to do when I didn't have school because they thought I'd have no choice but to do chores more often to kill the time.
@@PRODICALRAMthis ain’t a joke shut
@@Billy_plays2017 that was 6 months ago
I really hope those kids are okay.
When someone says "you can't choose your family", I straight up say back to them "yeah well I can choose if they in my life or not. That's for damn sure I'm not having toxic shit in my life anymore."
0:11 well that aged like milk
edit: robin's speech made me cry
8:38 my mom and dad are an older generation and they raised me perfectly, like they love me and respect every single one of my opinions and choices. They tell me how they're proud of me and that they'll forever support me even when they get old and fragile etc. I seriously dont get why its so hard for those parents in the vid to be like mine. They literally decided "hey im gonna bring a child into this world without their will and im gonna treat them like they're in the military" BRO
Sometimes too little discipline can lead to abuse of power between parent and child. Let me say my parents have 0 discipline what so ever. Last time I was grounded was about 3 years ago and I was only grounded for 2 days. But I’ve learned not to take advantage of it and respect what they would want over what I could abuse. Something not every child with little to no discipline would do. You clearly also respect your parents and wouldn’t dare go against their wishes for you to be the best you can be. But some other people don’t which can create tension.
@@zenith0079 I agree and honestly its flabbergasting to see others disrespect their parents. My parents also dont ground me, like ever, but honestly i think thats for the best since i'd rethink my actions either way. I believe their form of discipline is more, mental? But anyway, everytime i watch a show where the kids and parents have that tension (example super nanny, worlds strictest parents...) i have to admit, its obvious that its the parent's fault. So occasionally i'd see a kid who did nothing wrong, but their parents turned them into someone who's disrespectful etc.
When i was younger i didnt even know people's parents were actually like this. Now, seeing stuff like this makes me very grateful for my patents.
I have to admit emKay would be a great therapist
9:33 I had to live with this for every single damn day and night of my life. Every single time I would screw up on homework, didn’t do the chores properly, or accidentally miss something important. One of them would actively go to the other parent to talk shit within ear shot and yell about it too. The walls were thin and even with headphones on, I was still listening to it. Not to mention I developed a fear of doors, not the door itself but what was behind it since my dad would barge in to look through my stuff or yell at me. So I would always be terrified at night since childhood. Thank you for your time, sorry I just had to vent.
I’m afraid of knocking! It’s knocking and not doors like you because I was fortunate enough to have a lock on my door, which I to this day keep locked at all times. Of course, that lock didn’t stop my mother from literally breaking through the door “here’s Johnny” style once while screaming about how she was going to kill me….because I had a argument(verbal) with my brother(I’m female). I still jump a little whenever someone knocks a little too loudly on a door. I never liked what was behind it.
@@justalittleturtle5600 dude, that sounds like a nightmare. I hope you love a better life than the one offered to you
It's okay bro. I'm here for you and you deserve better than that.
@@i_eat_nintendo_cartriges_lmao Thanks. It’s nice to know there’s people who care.
Thats perfectly fine, you dont need to be sorry about feeling the need to vent.
But i gotta say, those were some dead beat parents alright, really really hope you’ve gotten away from them and doing better now and if not, good luck in reaching that point!!
The moms with the money thing is super relatable. Since I’m Asian American, my grandparents give me money, so when I got $1k for my bday, my mom said that she will give me half the money, but instead, she gave me $100 which I was ok with because money is money. Then when I graduated from middle school, I got $10K from my grandmother. But when I was sleeping, the money was gone, I soon saw it on my mom’s nightstand. I secretly took my money back and decided to move in with my dad. But get this, I’m literally 16 and my mom says “you can’t have too much money.” Asian moms are a different level.
And they still wonder why you never call or text them
Asian moms are on a different level trust me, my mom has the audacity to make the rule of "no games on weekdays" and call me gay and a coward for complaining behind her back (not literally)
I’m so glad you got your money back
It's not just Asian moms on that B.S. My dad is African-American and growing up in the 60s and 70s when he got his first jobs his parents took basically all the money under the auspices of "all income belongs to the household and we're the heads of the household". He very quickly learned to hide all his money in bank accounts his parents didn't know about opened with sympathetic relatives.
The "Loving and respecting your children; Making your children fear you" is relatable to me. My mom has been.... rude ever since she came home from the hospital after she gave birth to my sister. Before she went to the hospital, she never made me feel depressed, said rude things to me that made me feel like s__t, and didn't threaten to burn my sketchbook. After she came home? She's not the same person that I knew before. It's like she's a different person.
The reason my mom threatened to burn my sketchbook was because I didn't sweep the floor well enough. I moved the litter box out of the bathroom, moved everything, swept, and got all the dust in the corners.... everything. And she didn't believe me, and threatened to burn my sketchbook if it wasn't done right.
I also remember being told that I would be grounded for one day if I left a lid to a can of cat food behind the bathroom sink. She later said that it was because she didn't want my baby brother reaching the sink and cutting himself on it. There's a gate keeping my baby brother in the living room. He's never been in the bathroom.
2:07
I hope his mother knows that fraud is considered a felony in all 50 states.
I Actually Looked into the Charge.
$1,400 Stolen by False Impersonation will Land Her both a Felony Charge (False Impersonation) , and a Class A Misdemeanor. (Fraud)
Combined, these are Punishable by fines up to $9,000, And up to 4 Years in Prison.
I Hope she enjoys that Vacation.
5:14 really got me feeling better about a lot of different things. thanks for that, Robin, honestly.
That Illuminaughtii plug didn't age quite so well
Yeah…
You know it’s a good day when Emkay uploads 😊
Emkay uploads like 2 times a day
@@rat_consumer93423 I know I’m just a huge fan
@@rat_consumer93423 because of your pfp I’ll sub to yo
@@rat_consumer93423 I love that this means that every day is a good day for you :)
Fellow watcher of EmKay, I can say that it’s nice to see robin giving actual good advice
"some women weren't meant to be mothers."
- calvin, calvin and hobbes
Me and my mom got into a fight recently that led to me getting my stuff and moving out to go live with my dad. She's appologised but I can't quite except it yet. She said some pretty rude stuff. Thank you Robin for your kind words. It means a lot to me and i'm certain it means a lot to the other fans going through things like this.
Did she say something lgbtqia-phobic?
Or some other form of bigotry?
@@idontknoq4813 It wasn't quite that personal but she did say that she wished I was never born.. so... yeah....
I love how this came up and last night to prepare for my cat costume for work at Walmart, a simple costume, I was looking for the cat fingerless gloves my girlfriend got me and though she saw it months ago; She went to complain that "It has pink. That's weird." The pink in discussion was the Cat paw pads on the glove. Did she forget that most cat's paw pads are actually pink? And to top it off; our white skin tone is technically peach color and therefore a pink? I'm tired of her treating every color that exist as a gendered color, and I'm almost 28.
The "Mom 👺👹" contact name has me dying rn
This makes me think "damn, i'm so lucky that my parents are so good"
I respect my parents cuz they are the best, if they build your respect based on fear, they don't deserve it
Exactly!
4:49 that is actually a crime to keep someone's property in your house without their consent and then not allow then to reclaim it, she can call the cops on her mom
No she will call the cups on her
I knew my parents were good beforehand but this really just puts it into perspective. Jeez. And sorry to anyone with bad parents, you don’t deserve that.
1:10 that's a damn good plankton impersonation
As a mom who has used a leash for my kids when they were younger, asking if the kid is a rescue is hilarious and it sucks no one ever asked me that.
Bruh wtf
@@Hydraboss343 leashes and harnesses are perfect for kids who love to run and for areas that are busy/crowded.
@@bridgetbenson6291 i mean i kinda get your point but im sure there are better ways
@@Cookiekopter I don't think he means around his neck. When I was little my mom got me a leash that basically attached around my back, but yeah it does sound strange
@@Cookiekopter when my 18yo was 2ish I swore I would never use one, they loved to run and I tried everything. One day they wandered off and it was the most terrifying moment of my life. Even though it is silly a leash is a wonderful tool for protecting children.
Insane Parent: *Does everything possible to mentally, physically, and emotionally abuse their child"
Child: *Moves Out*
Insane Parent: *shocked pikachu face*
I had this on in the background for a bit and I had the realization that something I went through and as of the time of writing is still somewhat going through involving life at home. My family has had birds as pets for years, and I didn't mind the noises until a few months ago. I don't know what changed but one specific noise started irritating me. It was just annoying back then but fast forward to a few weeks ago and I just can't stand it anymore, I was so frustrated that I almost snapped my phone in half. I tried going downstairs to help make the noise less noticeable and my mom talked to me about it saying she's trying her best to help but I was like "you don't understand how close I am to breaking something, just hearing it once is too much now" or something I can't remember. I then took my food and slammed the door behind me and she seriously yelled at me and said if I "dIsReSpEcTeD" her one more time my phone would get taken away. Which is the main thing I used to keep myself sane. It didn't go so well and I broke a box and a Pepsi can downstairs while crying. I tried talking to her again in the morning but no dice, she just didn't seem to care as much as she thought she did. More fights happened later down the line and nothing changed much other than how fed up I was that this sound that legitimately makes me wanna destroy something isn't being taken care of properly. All I could do was drown out the noise or just not be in the house since I could hear it everywhere in the goddamn house. And then I had another fight that ended with me saying "I hate this family" because some stuff that was said HURT. I was even considering trying to move in with a friend at some point or hell even emancipation. I was dreading being in my own house because of that goddamn noise. And they acted like I was the problem. I've been trying my best to put up with so much crap, and yet I'm the problem. They even seriously try talking to me while I'm trying to drown the noise out. Although recently my mom did say that she's gonna move the birds into one of her friend's houses for now. That should be great news to me but when I heard it I just was like "OKAY" because I had to drown out noise too. That and I've been dealing with so much other crap alongside it. Im not sure how much I trust my own family anymore I guess. I'm still considering emancipation. But I'm gonna think about it after that and another thing gets taken care of. And also just after I can take some time to kick back for a bit. I've been through too much this year, let alone the past few weeks. I need a break. Sorry for the paragraph, I just wanted to get that off my chest.
*tweet tweet tweet eh eh eh uhe uhe uhe*
_gets ww2 flashbacks_
It really does disgust me how parents will treat their own children.
Control freaks amirite
Because of this I feel like every parent in the world is bad even though that is not true
@@mrman4318 Yeah, no one really knows how to parent properly, despite it being obvious what's right and what isn't.
@@NeoplayzGames yep
I got in trouble for being sick
So yeah
Regarding the mom that took the child's inhaler and gave them essential oils, you can get the mother on involuntary manslaughter, possibly criminally negligent if she was unwilling to face to right facts about the child's condition. She would only get a year at most sadly
I feel really bad for everyone who has to deal with these types of mean and abusive people
a tip to all people who hated their scummy parents
you are better than them and you don't owe them any thing, not even your own shit, they owe you everything for being idiots
stay strong, after all, you were strong enough to make it here
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Lemme Guess, You Rolled A One In The Game Of Life?
@emilyzimmerman8232 i rolled a -10/10 in life on the game menu unfortunately
Your speech at 5:30 made me cry
I really need a hug
5:00 best speech ever got me to think about everything I did with my family ❤
it’s ungodly O’clock and it’s time to watch an emkay video!
he just like me fr
Couldn't have said it better myself
8:00 my jaw just went to the core of the earth 💀
this is the first video i watched from you and that little speech in the middle made me cry.. i guess i didnt know how much a little speech from a nice online stranger could mean to me and my situation! I watch these types of videos to remind myself that im not alone and sometimes i have it better but it still doesnt change that ive been fucked over by my own parents. great video tho!
God. I've never dealt with toxic parents, but my roommate has told me some crazy stories about her narcissistic mother who stole the family's money, kicked out her kids and was so awful everybody cut off contact with her six years ago. I'm amazed at the strength of people who have grown up with that.
Parent: *scares away Child’s date*
Also Parent when Child refuses to give them grandchildren: *surprise Pikachu face*
was almost in tears after robin’s talk about how we can choose our family and then i saw the chainsaw man screenshot and started bawling
Honestly, the “parents talking shit” one, I relate to it so much.
Can’t exaggerate enough how curious I am if Illuminaughti is still in the picture based on what’s come out I really can’t picture anyone here associating with her
I feel for the artist one, when I was fourteen I tried to improve my art, I showed my mom this drawing I made that I was super proud of and she told me it was terrible, I was so upset I shredded the drawing and many others with it, I still can’t enjoy art because of her. I hope that artist is okay, or gets the money to buy a new tablet
Have u drawn ur pfp?
@@metafox6942 no
I’m sorry your mom called your drawing terrible. I’m sure it was great! She was probably jealous that you have talent
@@Catcher.InTheRai a
What are they talking about? I've seen your animation test, the drawings were great.