How do we become addicts? | Addiction 101
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the stress part is so true. when I come home and don't smoke like rn I just feel like life is slowly crushing me
The Habenula part made me realise that abuse victims are addicted to their abusers! “You don’t know him like I do! He’s wonderful when he’s good”.
Oh wow, that's a really interesting way to look at the phenomenon.
I heard some therapists say codependency is harder to heal than alcoholism or drug abuse, much more insidious
@@rev.rachel Oh yeah, love addiction is a thing. There’s a 12-step group for it, even. It’s more like a gambling addiction than alcoholism, tho.
It makes a lot of sense actually.
I agree there is a gambling aspect to it as you will always hope for their « good side » to show up, but what’s worse is that you can probably think that you will be able to change and better them, thus enslaving yourself as you will obsess over how you can better serve them so they will become a better person.
very great technique, ill try to make use of this
Saving my favorite moments for later 🙌
49:52 if you are in a stressful situation it is very hard to quit your addiction. Dealing with your stressful situation and managing stress is one of the most foundational things in overcoming addiction. The biggest mistake people make in overcoming addiction is you try to overcome that addiction in a vacuum and you don't address the other parts of your life. And if the situation created the addiction you can't overcome it in the same situation.
52:55 if you grow up in a secure environment you will literally cut away your stress response system. Because you don't need it. As you go through normal life you will experience less stress.
58:04 for some people, it (an addictive substance) helps us regulate our emotions.
58:34 if I have ways to get my needs met, then I don't need my addiction.
1:00:06 this is the birth of an addictive personality. Because now the solution to problems in here come from out here. If I feel unloved, let me go have sex. If I feel unhappy, let me go get high.
1:00:40 why the f*ck are you going travelling all over the world to feel connected to yourself?! you're right here!
1:01:00 failure of an independent identity. Whether I feel good about myself depends on how this other person treats me.
1:17:17 that's why we get addicted to stuff, it's not because of what we expect. It's because we're chasing the unexpected.
1:31:59 you need to learn to use coping mechanisms when you actually have something to cope with. And if you're emotionally unaware, you don't even know what you need to cope with.
1:42:23 if you look at a lot of spiritual practices or religious practices they help train our brains in particular ways - like fasting, praying before eating - they train us to delay gratification.
1:50:35 the shame must go away. once the shame goes away then we can develop an identity of ourselves that we are comfortable with. If you're ashamed of yourself you can't be happy with yourself. The shame is what's getting in the way of your identity. The real value of spirituality is that the true self is behind all of that shame.
Thank you for a summary of the video I'm screenshotting this comment now because I don't feel like watching 2 hours of content for this
Thanks for summarizing it, once I'm done watching the whole thing, I'll use this to come back to specific points to answer the questions in my notes.
Great points, thanks for sharing
Thank you very much
This is really helpful, thank you
Starts @ 11:40
Really starts @ 19:40
These May videos should be on youtube with a separate playlist as a mental health 101
thanks king 👑
These long form videos are absolutely oustanding; bringing maximum value and by far helping the most people. I've gotten to the point, your voice soothes me into repose with a focused aim to personal improvement. It is healing. Can't thank you enough!
When he said “read the book that you write about your own internal experiences”. That hit hard.
Thanks Dr K. Hopefully I can solve my RUclips addiction by repeatedly watching this video.
That's what I'm doing
Man ive used phrases like " it was like eating or drinking, just necessary for survival" and " i felt like if i didnt go get it, that i was going to physically literally die"
As he was saying those exact words, i was over here having an aneurysm over how spot on that was. Holy shit dude
Neurochemistry is awesome. Being able to point to something measurable for abstract things like feelings has always been the coolest part of science to me.
Transformative lecture. Honestly, it’s like a light was switched on. Only half way through, but already thinking about learning better coping mechanism and dealing with stressors instead of avoiding them with learned survival tactics.
Notes I took:
1. Neuroscience of Addiction: Addiction involves various parts of the brain, including the dopamine system, kappa (stress) receptors, the insula (responsible for introspection), and the habenula (responsible for expectation). The brain learns addictive behaviors through a reward system, where dopamine is released, providing a sense of pleasure or relief. Over time, the brain becomes conditioned to seek out this reward, leading to the cycle of addiction.
2. Psychological Aspects: Addiction often stems from a failure to develop an independent identity during growing up, leading to a sensitivity to negative internal states. Individuals with addiction often turn to external substances or behaviors to cope with these internal states. The insula, responsible for introspection, plays a crucial role in this process.
3. Actionable Steps: The video outlines several strategies for overcoming addiction:
- Awareness of Emotions: Through practices like body scan meditations and therapy, individuals can learn to become more aware of their emotions and internal states.
- Decoupling Stimulus from Craving: This involves avoiding triggers and practicing restraint in the face of temptation. Over time, through continued exposure without engagement, the association between the stimulus and the craving can be weakened.
- Reducing Stress Response: Certain meditations can help reduce the body's stress response, which often triggers addictive behaviors.
- Delaying Gratification: Practicing impulse control and delaying gratification can help break the cycle of addiction.
- Playing the Tape Through: This strategy involves mentally playing out the consequences of giving in to the addictive behavior, which can deter the individual from engaging in it.
- Building a Relationship with Oneself: Developing self-love and self-compassion is crucial in overcoming addiction. This can involve psychotherapy, psychedelic therapy, or self-help books.
- Building a Life of Meaning: Defining personal life goals and what one wants from life can provide motivation to overcome addiction.
4. Reversal of Addiction Effects: The video mentions that it takes time to reverse the effects of addiction. Initial changes in the brain can be observed within two weeks of sobriety, with further reversals around three to four months. Significant life changes can be seen around 12 to 18 months, and by three to four years, a person can be completely different.
5. Medication: Certain medications can be used as part of a comprehensive treatment plan for addiction. However, the goal should not be to replace one addiction with another, but to move from harmful coping mechanisms to healthier ones.
Remember, these are just the main points. The video contains a lot more detail and context, so I recommend watching it in full when you have the time.
A: thank you for taking the time to make these notes, and B: taking notes while watching a educational video is something that never occurred to me.
It would help with studying/chunking, kinda like reviewing the test outline 3 times to commit to long memory.
And thank you still. Very greatful 🙏🙏
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Deficits that help with overcoming addictions;
Overcoming shame: journaling, meditation and psychotherapy
Internalising awareness , body scans
Play the tape through: sit in the lobby...
Control impulses: focusing meditations.
Pls add on this if you can, I know I missed a couple of things.
Pray before you eat
I’m 3 years sober and in August I will be 4 years sober. From alcohol. I used to only spend my last dollars on alcohol and my life was surrounded by the bar life. Lockdown oddly helped me because I was forced inwards and reflected on my life and bars were closed. Now, I’m almost done massage therapy school and I have a completely different life. The best way to change your life is to quit and with all that extra time(and money) you have, you can change your life. It all comes from listening to the inner compass
Congrats! I noticed you play music on your channel. I play guitar and piano and write and sing my own songs as well but I havent in at least 6 months because I used to drink a lot when i played my music. Trying to get back into it with a sober mindset but its proven to be difficult, hard to focus unless im drunk or high.
Anyway, I hope its going well for you and good luck in your new career.
This made me want to cry but I can’t because I’m on antidepressants. Now I understand that my chaotic upbringing played a role in my addictive personality, which is something I couldn’t do anything about and wasn’t my fault. I still feel so bad about myself but knowing that part of it was out of my control allowed me to let go of some of that shame and that felt really good. This video is really good. I’m feeling pretty hopeful now that I can stop using every day. Thanks! 🤘
You are not alone, I am the same. Had such a bad childchood and o suport, nor love from parents. We are alone and all we can do is do become the best version of ourselves.
I'm 34. Smoking weed for 18 of those years. I've never heard an explanation like this. You should get a statue somewhere. Greetings from Belgium.
33:19 Just a note that tolerance is actually more complicated than that. Your brain actually has two primary mechanisms for developing tolerance at a receptor level.
The first I colloquially refer to as desensitization, though that term has its own definition within neuroscience and molecular biology which is different from my layman's usage here. This "desensitization" is achieved through an uncoupling of receptors from signal transduction.
To understand this, you can think of a receptor as a switch that connects a battery to a light bulb. The greater the number of switches we flip, the greater the number of batteries we connect to the light bulb, and thus the brighter the light bulb will shine. (Higher number of receptors activated = higher signal intensity)
In the desensitization mechanism, your brain responds to a consistent increase in the number of switches flipped, by cutting some of the wires that connect batteries to the light bulb, bringing the light bulb back into its natural range of brightness.
This mechanism of tolerance development seems to be more easily reversed than it's brazen and heavy-handed cousin, endocytosis.
If we maintain the light bulb / light switch analogy, then endocytosis would be the equivalent of disconnecting the light switch, breaking it down, and then recycling its materials for use elsewhere. And just as it would take more time to rebuild a light switch then it would to reconnect a wire, it takes more time to grow replacement receptors than it does to recouple them, and because rebuilding that light switch is such a pain, your brain may decide that it can live with a slightly dimmer bulb. It's got important things to do. It doesn't have time to sit around rebuilding light switches just to the pump up the brightness on a perfectly functional bulb.
This is actually one of the reasons that fentanyl is such a problematic component of the opioid crisis.
For context, understand that the potency of a drug depends on many factors, ie how much of the drug is absorbed into the bloodstream, how easily it enters the brain, etc. One of those factors is called activation efficacy, a term which describes the level of receptor signal generated when a ligand (drug/chemical) binds to the receptor. It's important to note that activation efficacy is distinct from binding affinity (how tightly a drug/ligand attaches to a receptor. A drug can bind vary strongly, but not activate the receptor at all.
Going to back to our tolerance mechanisms, a general rule, the endocytotic response scales with a drugs receptor efficacy. Put another way, the more effectively a drug activates a receptor, the more your body will prefer to respond by recycling the receptor instead of decoupling/uncoupling it.
To account for this in our lightbulb analogy, we can swap out the two-way, on / off light switch for a dimmer dial, that can send more or less power to the lightbulb depending on how far the dial is rotated. In the case of opiates, fentanyl activates receptors far more strongly than heroin or morphine do, ie it sets the dimmer at a much higher brightness, and as a result your body tends to recycle the light switches instead of disconnecting them.
In practical terms, fentanyl use results in a longer lasting tolerance phenomenon than historical opiates of abuse like heroin, which means it now takes an addict a lot longer to return to baseline than it did when the majority of the drug supply had not been adulterated with or even completely replaced by fentanyl, and for some, a certain degree of tolerance may even be permanent.
This is a huge problem hiding in plain sight, obscured by clinical speak, and largely ignored or neglected by an incompetent media apparatus and a vapid, ineffective governing body that is at best antipathetic, if not utterly complicit.
TLDR: A legislative exception to the prohibition on human torture should be enacted for those that knowingly distribute fentanyl and its analogues, reserving the most cruel, and inhumane varieties for those that sell fentanyl or fentanyl adulterated heroin under false pretenses.
P.S. The fastest way to combat this prolonged tolerance is via long acting opioid antagonists like oral naltrexone or vivitrol. Agents like Methadone or Suboxone will continue to activate receptor sites, which will allow for some recoupling if the doses are low enough, but often inhibits the growth of new receptor sites entirely, because the lack of receptors is still helping to maintain homeostasis.
To wrap your head around this, imagine for moment that you're being stabbed by some nutjob with a buck knife. Let's say at some point you manage to knock it away, so your assailant produces a switchblade and the stabbing resumes.... Would you take that as your queue to sit down and start stitching yourself up? ...No?
...Well, neither do your receptors.
Thank you for taking the time to make this comment and explaining further
As someone who’s really struggling with alcohol, and a bit older than your target audience, it made my day to hear the subtle “put on my robe and wizard hat” reference.😂
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@@benz9790 I got on disulfiram (antabuse) and have been sober since without much trouble at all. It's been a miracle drug for me, I don't know why it's not discussed more. Cheers to sobriety!
This man is a true saint. Thank you for your work Alok. ❤
stream starts at 11:30
Thanks for the How-To guide! I've never been addicted to anything before, and now I can finally learn how!
Lol😂
Starts 11:40
Uh oh
Ironically, sometimes the best way to avoid something is having a very clear idea of how to cause it
@@wishesandfishes yes, but that's not as funny :)
40:50 In other words, Fun is the reward for learning. That's why everyone hates school; school is boring. School makes learning boring. School should be fun. Everyone would learn more at a school that is fun. Don't let school get in the way of your education.
🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation:
19:42 🧠 *Understanding Addiction Phases*
- Addiction has distinct phases: enjoyment, habituation, and dependence.
- The initial phase involves pleasure and positive experiences.
25:05 🤔 *Defining Addiction*
- Addiction is characterized by engaging in a behavior despite negative consequences.
- It results in functional impairment across various life dimensions.
27:00 🧪 *Neuroscientific Phases of Addiction*
- Addictions progress through enjoyment, habituation, and dependence.
- The lecture introduces the concept of habituation, where the brain adapts to a stimulus over time.
30:20 📊 *Tolerance and Dopamine Regulation*
- Tolerance is explained using the analogy of adjusting volume levels.
- The lecture delves into the neuroscience of dopamine receptors and how their regulation contributes to tolerance.
33:56 🧠 *Introduction to Downregulation and Habituation*
- Downregulation of receptors leads to dysphoria and withdrawal.
- Habituation process illustrated, marked by decreased response to regular stimuli.
34:28 🔄 *Factors Affecting Addiction Risk*
- Addiction risk increases with the regularity of substance use.
- Size of the stimulus correlates with the level of addiction.
35:41 📈 *Tolerance and Escalation*
- Tolerance explained: using more to achieve the same effect.
- Escalation of substance use to maintain desired high.
36:40 📅 *Spacing Substance Use to Prevent Addiction*
- Minimum of four days between substance use lowers addiction likelihood.
- Daily use increases the risk of addiction significantly.
37:58 🧪 *Beyond Dopamine: Anhedonia and Non-Drug Activities*
- Dopamine downregulation leads to anhedonia (inability to enjoy activities).
- Non-drug activities feel less enjoyable due to reduced dopamine receptors.
42:21 🔗 *Evolutionary Perspective on Pleasure and Addiction*
- Pleasure is tied to behaviors promoting survival.
- Addictive substances hijack survival circuitry, leading to uncontrollable cravings.
44:28 💡 *Introduction to Kappa Circuitry and Stress Sensitivity*
- Kappa circuitry regulates response to stress.
- Substance use upregulates Kappa receptors, making individuals stress-sensitive.
46:52 🔄 *Kappa Circuitry, Stress, and Addiction*
- Substance use increases stress sensitivity via Kappa receptors.
- Stressful situations make overcoming addiction more challenging.
49:16 🧘 *Managing Stress as Fundamental to Overcoming Addiction*
- Managing stress is crucial for overcoming addiction.
- Stressful environments hinder addiction recovery efforts.
50:50 🔄 *Development of Addiction: The Role of Childhood Environment*
- Human development requires emotional support, physical safety, and nutrition.
- Adverse childhood experiences increase the risk of addiction.
55:06 🔄 *Genetic Vulnerability and Environmental Influence on Addiction*
- Addiction is a combination of genetic vulnerability and environmental factors.
- Changing the environment can alter addiction outcomes.
58:49 🔄 *Addictive Personality and Fulfilling Needs*
- Addictive personality develops when substances fulfill various needs.
- External solutions become primary for individuals with addictive personalities.
01:00:22 🌐 *Addiction and External Solutions*
- Addictive personalities seek external solutions for inner connection or happiness.
- Failure of independent identity development leads to emotional amalgamation with caregivers.
01:01:46 🧠 *Deficits in the Insula and Addiction*
- Addicts often exhibit deficits in the insula, responsible for introspection.
- Insular deficits lead to a lack of awareness of internal emotions.
01:04:02 🧲 *Frontal Lobes, Incentive Salience, and Cravings*
- The frontal lobes get conditioned through incentive salience, creating cravings.
- Associated stimuli trigger cravings in addicts, mediated by the frontal lobes.
01:08:27 🤔 *Impaired Consequence Prediction and Inhibitory Control*
- Impaired consequence prediction leads to a lack of consideration for the consequences of actions.
- Frontal lobe deficits contribute to impulsivity and a diminished ability to control impulses.
01:10:19 🧠 *The Habenula and Addiction Cycle*
- The habenula plays a crucial role in addiction, acting as the "stock" of the pineal gland.
- It is responsible for anti-reward, forming expectations, and gatekeeping dopamine release.
01:19:09 💔 *Impact on Relationships and Self-Comfort*
- Addiction affects relationships due to hypersensitivity to negative states and a lack of independent emotional development.
- Addicted individuals oscillate between a functioning and falling-apart state, impacting relationships.
01:23:01 🚨 *Development of Shame in Addiction*
- Prolonged substance use leads to the accumulation of shame.
01:24:16 🧠 *Understanding Addiction and Fixing It*
- Addiction is a result of various factors, including unhealthy relationships, emotional reactivity, and environmental influences.
- Shame often drives addictive behaviors as a way to escape or cope with negative emotions.
01:26:12 🧪 *Medication in Addiction Treatment*
- Medication plays a crucial role in addiction treatment by short-circuiting brain processes related to addiction.
- Naltrexone, for example, inhibits the positive effects of substances, shutting off dopamine release in the nucleus accumbens.
01:29:11 🤔 *Addressing Emotional Unawareness*
- Emotional unawareness is a significant factor in addiction, leading individuals to engage in addictive behaviors without understanding their emotions.
- Practices like body scans, psychotherapy, and coaching contribute to emotional awareness.
01:32:30 🚫 *Managing Cravings and Conditioning*
- Incentive salience and conditioning play a role in cravings; avoiding triggers is essential.
- Decoupling stimuli from cravings through exposure and response prevention is an effective strategy.
01:37:55 💆 *Reducing Stress and its Impact*
- Addiction makes stress circuitry hypersensitive; reducing overall stress is crucial for recovery.
- Practices like meditation, triphasic breathing, and stress reduction in various life dimensions aid in addiction recovery.
01:40:57 🔄 *Overcoming Impulsivity through Delayed Gratification*
- Impulsivity is a common trait in addiction; practicing delayed gratification, like praying before eating or waiting on loading screens, helps build restraint.
01:43:39 📽️ *Playing the Tape Through - Predicting Consequences*
- Prediction errors in addiction can be addressed by playing the tape through-thinking through the consequences of using substances.
01:46:50 🧭 *A Deeper Perspective on Addiction and Identity*
- Addiction not only affects brain circuits but also shapes one's identity and self-worth.
01:48:34 🧠 *Understanding Addiction Coping Mechanism*
- Addiction stems from an externally focused problem-solving strategy.
01:49:06 🩹 *Addressing Shame in Psychotherapy*
- Overcoming addiction involves addressing and working on deep-rooted shame.
01:51:03 🚪 *Breaking Through the Wall of Shame*
- Addiction creates a barrier of shame and negative identity.
01:52:54 🌅 *Connecting with Inner Peace for Addiction Recovery*
- The real cure for addiction lies in connecting with the inner self and recognizing inherent decency.
01:54:14 🔄 *Practical Approaches to Conquering Addiction*
- Internalizing awareness and dealing with emotions is key to conquering addiction.
01:57:24 ⚖️ *Limitations of Addiction Recovery Methods*
- Some individuals may face limitations due to hardwired neuro-circuitry or severe lack of self-awareness.
01:57:54 🍄 *Caution on Psychedelics in Addiction Recovery*
- Psychedelics may have positive outcomes, but caution is advised due to varying results.
02:00:25 🌊 *Overcoming Urges and Cravings in Addiction Recovery*
- Managing environments and creating barriers helps resist urges and cravings.
02:02:06 🛋️ *Recommended Psychotherapy for Addiction*
- Motivational interviewing and trauma-informed therapy are recommended for addiction.
02:04:00 🍔 *Common Mechanisms in Food and Sugar Addiction*
- Common mechanisms underlie various addictions, including food and sugar addiction.
02:05:07 🤷♂️ *Origins of Addictive Personality in a Healthy Household*
- Addictive personalities can develop even in healthy households.
02:13:34 🚫 *Overcoming Porn Addiction*
- Overcoming addiction involves finding something worth giving up the addictive behavior for.
02:14:25 🔄 *Duration to Reverse Addiction Changes*
- Reversal of addiction changes can start within two weeks, with additional improvements over three to four months.
02:16:43 🔄 *12-Step Programs and Alternatives*
- 12-step programs can be beneficial, but alternatives exist if they don't work for an individual.
02:19:25 🌿 *THC as a Beneficial Element*
- THC can be beneficial in managing chronic opioid addiction and chronic pain.
02:20:33 🎯 *Recap on Understanding Addiction*
- Deep dive into understanding addiction: focus on how and why addiction forms rather than specific substances.
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Hey Dr. K thank you for this video! I’ve quit a lot of addictions of things, weed, alcohol, video games. The only addiction I couldn’t stop is smoking cigarettes. Now it’s getting so bad that my breathing impairs my normal activities. I’m going to use this vid in hopes to fight!
So much gold here.
One of the most interesting points I've learned was that improving your self-perception will greatly reduce the desire for the addiction.
It's amazing how Dr.K was able to connect so many different threads into a cohesive message.
Dude help me pls
Dr K, your videos in a very short span of time literally turned my life around. Never stop
Notes for self:
1:24:10 : motivational speech (why not)
1:26:15 : medication route
1:28:29 : Insula deficit (probably don't have)
- 1:29:29 - solutions = body scans + Psycho Therapy + Journaling + coaching
1:32:20 : incentive salience (PFC)
- 1:33:30 - keep good company
-- 1:33:50 - have a plan of avoidance
- 1:34:36 - plan for games (avoid twitch
stream, subreddits, uninstall)
- 1:35:00 : decouple (get close but don't engage)
-- 1:37:05 - video games example (sit in lobby for 15 minutes then quit, do it intentionally with phone timer)
1:37:50 : Kappa circuitry
- 1:38:26 - rehab value (low stress environment, hard to overcome addiction in high stress environment)
- 1:38:44 - meditations to fix kappa circuitry (reduce stress response and activate parasympathetic nervous system, bing chilling)
--1:39:06 - meditation examples (triphasic breathing, nadishudi braniam, undalom vilom, any extended exhalations)
- later tip - reduce stress in other areas of life - low stress environment
While I am thankful to not have an addictive personality, nor have history of addiction in my family, these videos are still so incredibly beneficial to me. I have learned so much about myself and how I tick through these videos I never expected, and it helps me to understand/be there for friends and others who DO have these struggles. Thanks Dr. K for the great lecture and helping me be a better human!
Man I've been taking notes lately on youtube stuff and I just noticed how densely you can pack information into a single video. I have to pause every few seconds cuz ur vomiting liquid gold here. Amazing work, Dr. K
Was an addict for ten years, almost have a month in (3weeks) from my vices and I couldn’t be happier. What gets scary about addiction is when it stops impacting your relationships and people just accept you as you are, they stop trying to help. As I stopped my addictions, this has become clearer to me and I wish to not be that person anymore and care for myself cause ain’t no one else will.
Hey Kevin you got an update for us? Hope all is well!
Same here Kevin, wonder how you’re doing. Cool dog
I have been introduced to some truly fascinating concepts in your videos and I appreciate it very very much. Off I go to prune my neurons :D
DR K I can’t tell you what this video means to me. I’m literally clapping with joy and understanding. Everything your saying feels like a lighting clap in my soul for real ⚡️it’s so clear and simple thank u thank u 🙏 I really wanna sign up for coaching. I’m praying there is space for me 🙏 god bless all of y’all if anyone read this❤ good luck everyone ❤ we can do this!!
I thought I knew enough about addiction, but this just proved that I knew so little. It’s been so long and I felt so hopeless but listening to this gave me so much hope.. and it really made me realize that I really do struggle with shame. Thank you so much for making this so accessible, I’m going to start making more changes. I love that this was clinical enough but also relatable.
Thanks so much Dr. K and the team members of HG for preparing this stream for us. There were some things that came like a bombshell to me at the right time, especially the idea that there’s goodness inside us beyond the wall of fire of shame. It’s given me a lot to think about. Thank you.
I finally feel seen and I finally went back to a psychiatrist today and I feel heard and I’m so grateful for the work being done here. I know people want to be helpful by encouraging will power but it’s been so incredibly helpful to feel like I am heard and seen. It’s given me the courage to reapproach psychiatry.
This is a perfect video for making people really UNDERSTAND WHY they do what they do without blaming others and you wouldn't know how many individuals in the world need to hear this. I have a very close case of a person who struggled with addiction who just could not see that it is his own actions and lack of understanding of his family dynamics that led him to have such a low self esteem and low level of care for others that he ended up seeing no way of making himself feel better other than with drugs because for the life of him he could not see what was wrong with all the other aspects of his life. Now this person has gotten better and much of that I owe to information like this I used to be able to help said person. Im very happy he found a better way to look at his life and now seems to truly want to be a better person, Little by little. The end goal is to love yourself, because a mistake doesn't make you a bad person. Thank you.
I love this man so much! Thank you for what you do, Dr. K. You're amazing!
Such a wealth of wisdom ❤
I love that you guys upload these videos with the entire musical intro included. It's very relaxing! I'm not a gamer, I'm a stone mason. I usually listen to the videos on my headphones while shaping stones and building walls, or pathways etc.
most positive and powerful comment section I've been to in a long long while ❤
I never even tried doing drugs of any kind but I love to learn more about it so I can help people that I care about ❤
I work in an addiction med office and THIS TALK is A+++. You foster hope, explain 'the science/neuro/psych basics' as take aways, helpful insights and by far, the real deal- lived commentary and examples r cherry on top! Ty ❤
1:46:41 this section on shame helped me a lot. I was very in denial about being ashamed of myself/choices. This helped me realize the root of the issue
Video came at the right time. I needed this reinforcement
Preach. "You've unlocked this whole bonus level of life" couldn't be more true. I'm heavily addicted to cigarettes and weed, been so for nearly a decade now. It's really tough going through life without either of them. I wake up in the morning cause of cigarettes/weed/smoking anything. I'd fucking love to chat with someone like you. It feels so good listening to these and not feeling like I'm alone in this.
Dr.k you have helped me so so so much.
Maybe I just needed to do more therapy maybe every therapist I've had has been inadequate but regardless you have saved my relationship but teaching me how to understand my addiction.
3rd time watching this video and the absolute bars at the one hour mark and one hour 20 make me cry like a baby.
Thank you Dr K, for teaching me that I do have control over my life and that I can def get back on course with this. Thank you so much
One Love!
Always forward, never ever backward!!
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Thanks for the clarity. I appreciate it.
As someone with Substance addiction and possibly video game addiction this is what I needed. Thak you so much for picking this topic up
Humans are a) reward-seeking and b) habit-forming creatures. It's more surprising that MORE of us don't have problems than that some of us do.
The play the tape through strategy is really helping me stay sober!
2:05:37 What is an ADDICTIVE PERSONALITY?
"I USE something OUTSIDE of me to FIX something INSIDE of me"
1:08:54 - What if I am conscious of my drug addiction, I know it will set me back if I relapse, I spend a good 10 minutes introspecting upon my decision and enforcing all the negatives that will come of this relapse, and decide to relapse anyways? This is the current phase I'm on. I understand "riding the wave" for the craving was mentioned in a previous video... some times I win that day, some times I last 3-4 cravings for that day before I finally cave. I literally had to empty my bank account and live paycheck to paycheck because having money in my bank account is the one trigger I can't escape. I'm forcing myself on a tolerance break this way... sucks that I have to take this drastic of a measure, but I can't think of any other way currently :/
Edit: I gotta stop commenting impulsively xD All I needed to do was watch a few more minutes... okay, saving questions until AFTER the video >_<
Edit 2: No further questions :D Thank you for everything you do for us Dr. K!!
I know it probably doesn't feel like it, but your making sustainable progress this way. You're practicing the skills needed to become sober and stay sober every time you do what you just described. Just keep your goals in mind and know that two steps forward and one step back are still progressing you forward one step at a time. It isn't easy, as I'm sure you know, but you're on the right track. Just hang in there ❤
@@MrsFitzus That's fair enough, you're right... Instead of appreciating the progress I made with this addiction, I'm just annoyed... and that's not the right mindset to have. Thank you for taking the time to respond and for the words of encouragement!
I've been sober for over 2 years now.
One of the things I focus on is when I want to use imagine the days after and the consequences of using. I imagine the come down, the exhaustion, the shame and guilt.
@@somethingclever8916 Focus on the future consequences. I like that. I usually just run through the list of negatives but actually imagining the scenario... that's gold! Thank you so much for sharing that insight! :D
Also, congratulations btw on staying sober!!! 🥳
Video starts at 11:40 for anyone trying to skip to the content. You're welcome all.
Nah-ima-stay sober. ❤
One thing here right as I’m toward the end of this out standing lecture - I think there is a value in reading books in surfing out your impulses. Consider it an exercise of self control and delayed gratification.
It’s great cuz i get high and watch Dr K videos ! What an experience
There’s a thing called spirituallity/religious addiction where people feel like they just need to be connected. If I go to this reatreat I will be connected if I go this retreat I will be connected. Why the fuck are you going across the world the find yourself and feel connected? You are right here!
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First half of this stream has already helped me reduce my consumption.
this is gold, dr k thank you so so much
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2:11:45 "If you really want to quit p*rn,
BUILD A LIFE OF MEANING."
Thanks for saving my life. ❤
1:01:55 Wow, that really hits me. I thought only myself can see the cause of current me. But, Im super impressed that others can know. And there is hope to fix this kid(me). Thabks
Wow I really needed this 😭
I've quit smoking and been free for over a month, now I plan to quit nicotine and caffeine entirely, I am super grateful for you making this video ❤️ I will start with nicotine first and wait with caffeine till next month
What if you’re struggling with a sleep addiction? I can sleep endlessly and I think it’s usually my way of “escaping” reality/stressors specifically in my life.
I'm reversing the effect of addiction rn
Bro you‘re coughing so much. Take a rest. Don‘t forget physical health as well :)
Addicted to work 😆
IFS is a therapy that really stimulates the love for yourSelf. This is why it really works
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Thanks!
Thank you so glad I found this
You mention the key correlation with pornography addiction being meaninglessness. What about other substances? What are their main issues?
Just noticed this episode isn’t available as a podcast FYI
About emotional unawareness (of dependence), some people are just too aware of everything, it pains.
1:21:55 waiting for the Dr. Chad Thundercock merch
"Nothing intended for medical advice" --- but people will take his advice seriously even though it (at least theoretically) can't replace clinical advice. But, clinical advice/help also can't replace understanding ourselves and good social support; both go hand in hand
Therapists don't usually hold lectures about neuroscience and psychology either
Sometimes I need therapy, so I go to my therapist. Sometimes I want to understand how something works on a little deeper level, I have better things to do in therapy than listen to a lecture so this is perfect
This will help me better than my therapist saying "are you sure they meant it"
More helpful and free
47:41 - Why we relapse when we're stressed out. CRF circuitry activates to make you fix the problem with the same urgency as though you've lost a limb
Highlighting for the comment skimmers.
Thank you.
Man I hope this addresses addictions to like gaming and other behaviors and not just substances 0:46
My sense is it’s applicable to both
I'm going to recommend this video to everyone I know that understands English. Just epic.
2:13:26 To complete NNN, and I actually achieved it, a clear goal really makes things easier, but until NNN it's a STRUGGLE!
i think that in the description of an addiction, you missed one sign: not being free to do it or not. having no more choice, because something from the unconscious drives you irresistibly
Great pod cast I think I’m addicted ;)
This may be the video that has helped guide me the most
this music is nice.
Uh oh Dr. K- this video out-maneuvered my Habenula…
i need help so bad. idk what to do anymore. im not far gone but my mental health is the worst its ever been. Idk what to do anymore and i feel like i dont have anyone that I can talk to. This videos reassuring to me and gives me hope, but im still struggling with addiction. Its not easy because manic depression runs in my family and i have to live with someone who also suffers from that illness. I dont have the means to go live somewhere else currently but I can work towards that right now. Im really stressed out. Failure of an independent identity exactly describes my situation. I understand my environment is toxic
See if you can get a counselor or an HG coach, that will give you someone to talk to at least. Or if you have any close friends, try to open up to them. If you aren't sure if they will be fine opening up that much, you can slowly open up and see if they also open up or if they back away.
It's good to hear that you are able to work towards moving out, but you probably don't want to wait until then to get help. See if you can contact someone!
If anyone from the team reads this, please forward to Dr K that it would be immensely helpful if he could write out meditation or yoga practices if he uses their indian name (like at 1:39:07), sometimes I just can't find them even if I try all spellings that make any sense to me at all haha
Pranayam
Nadi Shuddhi Anulom Vilom
But Shambhavi Mahamudra Kriya from the Inner Eng Yoga course encapsulates all these
@@shaxpx Thanks a lot, I appreciate it :)
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Thank you time stamp terry!
Can you talk about the buzz around semaglutide potentially being helpful for addictions?
Though smokong addiction is very common, Dr. K haven't mentioned it. Why could it be?
I knew about the dopamine but the kappa thing is really important and I learned a lot. Makes sence.
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Wow this makes so much sence. The kappa is also very affected by heroin btw. That is why opioids are so addictive.
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❤ Magnificent video with terrific wisdom.
Work your 12 steps folks!!
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Can you tell me about any drawbacks or challenges linked to the use of nootropics? Are you familiar with alfabrain or normotim based on your own experimentation?
I can strongly say as an avid smoker of mj, I can now diagnose myself as not addicted to weed 👍
Ohhhh it is the nice, cute, happy DR.