I worked for an attorney like this two years ago. I remember sobbing in my office three or four times. He tried to act like he fired me when I quit, sending me all these texts about how I wasn't allowed to step foot in the office again. I printed them off and took them to HR. They fired him. Hope you're doing awful, Jim.
PTSD is NOT an excuse to be straight up abusive,toxic,create a hostile environment. And I say this as someone who has extremely severe PTSD. If Daniel is that mentally unstable,he damn sure should never be in the position he was in.period. He will end up costing that company a lot of money, because employees will quit, customers will leave,and send poor reviews.suppliers won't deal with that. H.R really isn't for employees. They're there for the company
As a psych major and someone who has ptsd from a past abusive relationship, I agree. If you cannot control yourself and your emotions while at work you need to get help
That's ridiculous how they sweep everything under the rug but one day they will meet the right one and get sued for abuse. So glad you got out of that toxic abusive environment.
This is actually a really sad twisted story. That is 100% abuse and the fact that Ronda was putting up with it shows she’s so battered and used to it:( that is an EXTREMELY toxic work environment and I’m so glad you left that is unacceptable
My MIL has an ex-veteran as a husband, and omg! This man is condescending. PTSD is no excuse to belittle and abuse people. I feel for my MIL living with a man like that
As someone who had ptsd for close to 20 years: it is not an excuse. Yes it was so exhausting and agitating that I often had issues with other people, but as an adult it’s your responsibility to remove yourself before you get pushed to that point.
PSTD my a**!! The fact that the boss shut up after you said “phone call” shows that his rage is voluntary! Also there’s a reason the HR manager works remote is because of his rage! 🤣
I quit a job on the spot for a VERY similar reason. Eff that. I understand it’s unprofessional to quit like that, but I’m not subjecting myself up that kind of treatment. Cheers! 🥂
My heart goes out to the wife & those close to Daniel. My father in law deals with fairly serious bouts of PTSD due to an entire army career. I can cope well enough because there’s physical distance, but it would be very difficult to work daily in that environment.
Exactly. I have a grandfather with PTSD and it causes all kinds of problems especially with his sleep. But he never ever takes it out on others and is the most gentle and kind hearted man I know. Never even raises his voice. He’s proof enough that ptsd is no excuse for bad behavior.
Exactly i have diagnosed PTSD. Major depressive disorder, anxiety disorder. No way would i treat any one like this. I admit i do have my "asshole days" but i feel them and i reach out to a counsellor to a friend. The other day i even put on music and danced for 2 hours. Just dont take ot out on others and then make people who have some sort of mental "ailment " look like bad people.
Girl just listening to this story made my anxiety spike. I feel horrible for all of your coworkers especially Rhonda and the wife. There is no excuse for the abuse he was giving yall, but I hope that he got the help he needed to feel better and heal. So glad you left that toxic environment. ❤️
Mental health issues when work is concerned are only a valid excuse when you are taking time off to address them. Just like any other medical issue. They are not an excuse to be abusive.
I am 21 and me and my younger sister has been watching you since I was 16. I appreciate all your sharing. You are amazing and I just want to let you know you inpsired me.
I am high anxiety. I know that when it comes to a new job, I know I can learn and adapt. But only when I have a boss I don't have to be afraid of. I am grown, do not belittle and intimidate me when you know I'm still learning.
I love that Nikki stands up for people and for what she believes in. I find that truly commendable.. I know not a lot of people will do that. Men like Daniel clearly have anger issues and need professional help. No woman should be spoke to that way, especially in a work environment. Like “sir, I know you sign my checks, but you’re not my parent. Not even my parents speak/ yell at me like that”. 😤
Perfect timing! ❤ I know veterans need work but, hiring him knowing he has ptsd isn't the best idea. He clearly can't function or work with others without spazzing & throwing things. That's too much of a toxic environment... I'm glad you left. I'm like that too - I'm never on my phone when I'm waiting for an interview. Sometimes I chat with the people around me, I read magazines, sometimes there's TV's so I watch the news etc.
I knew “Daniel” was going to be a literal man child the moment you described him “decorated” war veteran with PTSD aka a r@cist narcissist man child with fits of rage. 👀🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️ I would’ve recorded him and took him to court, so sick of pos like that getting away with that!
Omg! That was like work abuse. I used to work for a lawyer’s office and the head was so nasty to the other lawyers, the admins….to everyone even his own family members that worked there…2 months and I just walked out. Didn’t say a word just walked out and never went back! I was done…no1 should ever have to work with someone who acts like that…Good for you for doing the same!
There are just as many people suffering from PTSD caused by abusive spouses as there are war vets suffering from it. I'm not saying vets don't deserve care, but it frustrates me that there seems to be this expectation to just deal with it if a vet doesn't have the coping skills to treat other people in their lives w care
It's one thing to be a stern boss with high expectations and it's another thing to be straight up abusive. His issues had nothing to do with anyone in that work environment. I hope he got some help.
Rhonda sounds like an amazing person 😊 hope all is well for her. And I’m glad you were able to leave that work environment. It doesn’t matter how good the money is, the benefits, if it’s affecting your mental health that much. It’s best that you leave
What sucks the most about bosses like these is that the people who work above them know about it, and rarely do anything to put a stop to it. Or at least in my experience. When Nikki says, "You're not here" I felt that DEEPLY.
I have the same condition. There is absolutely no excuse to treat anyone terrible because of said condition. Take ya meds, go to therapy etc to function with others.
I had a manager who was military police and she was horrible to us employees.. I only stayed 8 months because I was over her thinking she was still a MP and treating us very bad.
I’ve been there done that no way ever again. No one needs to be treated like that just because you work for somebody doesn’t give them the right to degrade you and disrespect you and be a little you no matter what the compensation they think just because you were that employee they can treat you that way no one test that right it goes to show how people really truly are and it doesn’t take two cents to be a decent human being
this story time made me sob for the women that go through this. I wanna cry thinking abt how happy i was that u slammed opened the door to rhonda’s office. it pains me so much to think of the times i had to watch my dad verbally abuse my mother. thank u for being there for rhonda. i love u sm nikki.
Her anxiously fidgeting with her necklace is me💀 sometimes I complain about my working situation and then I hear these type of horror stories about other people’s jobs and suddenly I feel very blessed.
It’s not PTSD, I’ve worked with professionals who have been through actual war and are the sweetest people to work with meanwhile a supervisor I had did not go to war and was exactly how you described your supervisor.
Same here, Nikki. I also get triggered in a fight or fight mode with a situation like this one. If you know, you know. Hopefully, Rhonda is being blessed wth a better job.
Nikki my mouth dropped! Can’t believe they let that boss continuing to work there. That is extremely disappointing. Like you said everyone has a part and everyone even the bosses should be respectful and professional.
i grew up in the same sort of environment you did nikki with a single mom and terrible men. i COULD NOT deal with a man yelling like that at another woman. like that’s ptsd on its own. i completely understand both you and rhonda
The HR Director came there in person because they don’t want a legal paper trail of her trying to make excuses for bad behavior so most likely she wrote an email saying “let’s talk about it in person” so that if there ever is a legal issue, there is no documentation that she said “oh, he has PTSD”
Daniel sounds like my boss when i worked at a Olive Garden. He was super condensending and woukd go off on people for absolutely no reason. He ended up gettimg fired after he straight up assaulted one of the servers
Girl. I am going through the exact same thing at my current job. My boss is an asshole who claims to have PTSD and corporate always makes excuses for him…..
Ooof your storytime brought a memory for me when I worked with a retired military man (my manager at the time) that was the same way. He was a nightmare to work with: he micromanaged everyone and was a smarta** knowing no one liked him, and he didn’t want music or chatting to exist. He made it known that he didn’t care about being liked as long as the job gets done. The work environment sucked, but ya girl needed the money so I stuck throughout the contract. But man, when i tell you he wasn’t the easiest to work with, he was not.
Oh gosh this triggered a lot of memories from my teenage years, only it wasn't at a job. I feel like he was using his PTSD as a "get out of of jail free" card to mistreat his employees
I've been watching your videos for a long time and this by far, was one of your best. Thank God you left, no one should ever work in a hostile environment.
The military trains people to be like this for war. Sadly it affects them and changes them forever. Hopefully he gets the help he needs for his work and personal life.
im dealing with a similar situation and currently looking for another job because of it. it's so stressful but all I can think of "getting the hell out" before It starts to really affect my mental health.
Your work stories are so valuable for me for so many years and throughout all my professional career. You've helped me get all of my jobs since 2018. I continue my professional growth thanks to you. Warm hugs from Paris.
Omg!!! My heart goes out to you and all the Rhonda’s in the world I swear the “Daniel’s” are hella uncalled for regardless of any danggone mental issues they got going on!!!
So..I found your videos back in 2017 when I was deep in a veryyy abusive relationship and have followed your channel ever since. All of your storytimes from when you were in middle school and high school and how you would get in all of these fights, somehow was comforting to me but more than that it was when you would talked about relationships and you handled guys not having respect or any issues you encountered that ultimately inspired me to get out of my relationship. You always have stricken me as the type of person to respect her worth and it was so inspiring for me at that time and still to this day. I have literally eaten so much abuse it's not even funny and watching RUclipsrs like you who have had the strength to fight back or clearly not accept that b.s. has always been so inspiring to me. Thank you Nikki, you probably have no clue how the way you handle conflict is the way I wish I did and now do. You are helping a lot of people and you probably don't even know it.
You inspire me so much with these stories of how you stand up for yourself in these crazy situations! You should teach a class or something because I am so afraid of confrontation 😅
Dude, if I was Rhonda, I wouldn't have even let him talk to me that way, I would have stood up and walked right out without saying a damn word. Fuck men who think they can act however they want because of so-called ptsd. No fucking excuse.
Nikki I had a veryyyy similar experience to this one, except my boss was the co owner of the company with extreme anger issues and would cuss you out at the drop of a dime. I cannot even count the amount of times I was screamed out or called incompetent, it was the most high stress anxiety inducing job I’ve ever had. It’s part of the reason I will not go back into a normal corporate office job to this day
@@WhiteRaven696 then carry on...at least you can tell about your bad boss and how you are planning to do nothing to get yourself out of a damaging situation
Had a very similar experience in my past with a former boss, like verrry similar. And like you, Nikki, it did not take me that long to realize that I needed to leave. In fact, I probably should have left sooner than I did. I left without notice. It was THAT bad. I think you did the right thing by resigning. Sometimes, you just have to protect your energy. My experience was as a receptionist at a real estate office. As a new employee, I noticed how the broker (name was Robert, actually 🤭) was very blunt, rude, never wanted to update anything (we were still using physical punch cards in 2015), and would use foul language. But, he had never talked to me sideways... until the honeymoon phase was over, like around my 2nd month. Then, he decided that it was OK to curse me out. Guess I was no longer special as the newbie. He seemed to have 2 personalities, too. He differed from Daniel as he could be goofy and pleasant at times. But, he could switch so quick. If his day was bad, EVERBODY'S day would be bad until he was over it. One day he called me on my extension and cursed me out with his office door open so everyone could hear it, over something that was not even my fault. His secretary, who had been used to his temper tantrums, started laughing, saying "here we go again." Um... no. His behavior was unexceptable. I'm a very passive person, but I started to lose my cool that day. Only reason why I stayed after being cursed out was because I convinced myself that it wasn't personal. 😕 Yeah... I don't know. I swear it was so bad, that one of his real estate agents actually printed out and handed me a job posting for something else. She probably thought that I was about to quit. The real estate office also did property mgmnt, and so I would process rent payments as well, and a few of the tenants expressed their surprise that I was lasting as long as I was there. Really bad sign. The former receptionist who was training me for a few weeks would have crying fits outside. Robert's secretary had 4 ulcers, his maintenance guy had very severe anxiety. All bad signs. The final straw was when I overheard him talking to his secretary about me and another new hire like we were idiots. Apparently, he was tired of us not understanding anything. He was like, "I guess I'M going to have to train them!" I thought to myself, oh heck no. He would be super condescending whenever he would show me how to do something. Always made you feel like a clueless idiot while requiring you to do things that were out of your scope and above your pay grade. I handed him my key and told him straight up "I am not going to work here anymore." Yeah, he had the nerve to be shocked, tried to act like I didn't just quit in his face, tried to argue with my list of reasons for quitting, but he finally got the message. I had nowhere else to go jobwise, but I knew I wasn't spending one more day in that real estate office. Thank God another job opportunity fell in my lap a month later. 😌
not going to lie I'm 22 years old and when I 20 maybe younger I went through something similar at a job and was draining it felt like I was stepping on eggshells it was a bad environment all around it didn't help that one of few women on the job I did the same and quite because I couldn't do it anymore. and hearing this gave so much anxiety and I wasn't even there. I am glad you got out while you could I and I do hope the lady that worked with him... I hope she got out at some point
This reminds me of when I was working at Starbucks as a barista, so while I was working at the drive through a lady was being so rude to me had dropped her change on the ground. Mind you it’s maybe .27cents at most and she demands I go in the cash register and give her more change because she’s “not picking anything up from the ground.” So I have to get my boss to open the register because I don’t have the code to open it, so I tell him the situation and he just loses it on me and starts screaming “this is not ok to do!! When the register is off at the end of the day who do you think will get in trouble for it?! Me, the manager of this entire Starbucks or you? Just a barista???” I literally cried when I went home that day and never went back. Later that day though, I vented to my co worker because he was yelling so loud at me that even the lady in her car heard and apologized but my co worker said “he means well and I’m sure he’s a good person it’s just he gets very passionate.” …. I just yeah. It was the worst work environment ever and now I’m happily somewhere else
Wow. Everytime I watch your videos I think what a women of valor and integrity. The way you knew how to step up at the right moments and just the way you carry yourself. I love you Nicki and definitely look up to you. ❤💯🌠
Come on consistent Nikki!!!! I literally binge your old videos for my fix 🤣🤣🤣 our childhood stories are so similar and we’re both from TX (Ft Worth ☺️) I feel like you’re my Latina big sis. Lol. You give the best advice and keep it a buck. Honestly taking notes has helped me to work on standing up for myself and not letting shit slide cause Nikki said DONT TAKE NO SHIT!! Sorry this is a MF ramble but girl I loves me some you!! 🥰❤️‼️
PTSD is something crazy, something that’s hard to deal with and hard to get over- especially, if it’s from military service. Buttttttttt, it doesn’t make it okay to treat people with such disrespect and be so explosive. If he can’t run a business hire more ppl with better training, or train them weekly to handle the work. He definitely needs therapy and sometime to gather himself before going back into the work place. A office place isn’t the easiest job, especially for retired vets and it comes with a lot of people problems. That most average people can’t deal with. Sooooo yhhhh. That’s crazy. Glad you got out of there Nikki! 47:02
Dude, I don't care if someone has PTSD or not. That is absolutely NOT an excuse to use other employees as emotional punching bags. Daniel is clearly unstable and unhinged.
Omg tell me why I was biting my nails this wholeeeeeee video!!!!!! Sooo crazy! Thank you nikki for all the advice and knowledge you share with us!! You are the BEST! ❤
Nikki girl! Here for the video but noticed the cute set up in the background. Can you give us a video on your set up for makeup and decor? I have 2 little ones and feel like I can’t ever decorate or have my stuff out all cute! Thank you! ♥️ Also yes also taught to take a resume, don’t be on your phone and interview the job as well! ☺️
I don’t care who you are you can be a town mayor or whatever but I would not allow anyone to disprespect me in that way either. At the end of the day we are all human and equal no matter what position or status we hold in this world. I’m sorry you had to endure that and work in that hostile environment however, you did the right thing of leaving. Keep doing what you do Nikki much love!
What made his PTSD more important than Rhonda’s? She experienced trauma as well from her past abusive relationship. That’s so sad and unfair. And shame on that HR lady for making excuses. Y’all didn’t deserve that. I appreciate his service but it’s never okay to treat people that way. I hope Rhonda is doing well too 🙏🏼❤️
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😮 Waw srry u went through that, u handled it like a queen! 👑
I worked for an attorney like this two years ago. I remember sobbing in my office three or four times. He tried to act like he fired me when I quit, sending me all these texts about how I wasn't allowed to step foot in the office again. I printed them off and took them to HR. They fired him. Hope you're doing awful, Jim.
As you should 💅💅
Good!
Speak your truth! Glad you took action and sorry to hear you went through that !
Siiiigh. It's always a Jim, isn't it?
Girl same!! Attorneys are evil
PTSD is NOT an excuse to be straight up abusive,toxic,create a hostile environment.
And I say this as someone who has extremely severe PTSD.
If Daniel is that mentally unstable,he damn sure should never be in the position he was in.period.
He will end up costing that company a lot of money, because employees will quit, customers will leave,and send poor reviews.suppliers won't deal with that.
H.R really isn't for employees.
They're there for the company
Exactly. If someone's PTSD is that bad, they need serious therapy. And they shouldn't be allowed to traumatize other people.
As a psych major and someone who has ptsd from a past abusive relationship, I agree. If you cannot control yourself and your emotions while at work you need to get help
That's ridiculous how they sweep everything under the rug but one day they will meet the right one and get sued for abuse. So glad you got out of that toxic abusive environment.
Fr. People like Daniel need to learn that not everyone is gonna put up with that. It’s not their job!
This is actually a really sad twisted story. That is 100% abuse and the fact that Ronda was putting up with it shows she’s so battered and used to it:( that is an EXTREMELY toxic work environment and I’m so glad you left that is unacceptable
My MIL has an ex-veteran as a husband, and omg! This man is condescending. PTSD is no excuse to belittle and abuse people. I feel for my MIL living with a man like that
HEAVY on the multi tasking and no pay raise. They will absolutely take advantage of you. I’m currently dealing with this at my job.
Girl, me too! It’s the pits
The way you explained the tone of this man ESPECIALLY when he threw everything in that break room is LITERALLY the way my father is. I’m over it.
Babe you need to get tf away from your dad, for your safety
I’m so sorry & I hope you can get out ASAP.
I'm actually scared for his poor wife. I have a bad feeling that he hurts her bad. If he acts that way at work, I can't imagine how he is at home
As someone who had ptsd for close to 20 years: it is not an excuse. Yes it was so exhausting and agitating that I often had issues with other people, but as an adult it’s your responsibility to remove yourself before you get pushed to that point.
I genuinely hate when bosses act like you can’t make mistakes. Like not leaving room for human error, is horriable management.
Girl I don't blame you at all for leaving. I can't imagine being in that type of environment!
PSTD my a**!! The fact that the boss shut up after you said “phone call” shows that his rage is voluntary! Also there’s a reason the HR manager works remote is because of his rage! 🤣
exactly!!! Good point 🎯
This!
Right, the fact that he can just turn it on or off. When he wants is a major red flag.
I quit a job on the spot for a VERY similar reason. Eff that. I understand it’s unprofessional to quit like that, but I’m not subjecting myself up that kind of treatment. Cheers! 🥂
well done
My heart goes out to the wife & those close to Daniel. My father in law deals with fairly serious bouts of PTSD due to an entire army career. I can cope well enough because there’s physical distance, but it would be very difficult to work daily in that environment.
PTSD is not an excuse to behave this abusive or aggressive :(
Exactly. I have a grandfather with PTSD and it causes all kinds of problems especially with his sleep. But he never ever takes it out on others and is the most gentle and kind hearted man I know. Never even raises his voice. He’s proof enough that ptsd is no excuse for bad behavior.
Exactly i have diagnosed PTSD. Major depressive disorder, anxiety disorder. No way would i treat any one like this. I admit i do have my "asshole days" but i feel them and i reach out to a counsellor to a friend. The other day i even put on music and danced for 2 hours. Just dont take ot out on others and then make people who have some sort of mental "ailment " look like bad people.
Girl just listening to this story made my anxiety spike. I feel horrible for all of your coworkers especially Rhonda and the wife. There is no excuse for the abuse he was giving yall, but I hope that he got the help he needed to feel better and heal. So glad you left that toxic environment. ❤️
Mental health issues when work is concerned are only a valid excuse when you are taking time off to address them. Just like any other medical issue. They are not an excuse to be abusive.
This video made me cry!! Also I hope his wife divorced, she deserves better.
So great that you crossed paths with Rhonda she sounds amazing
I am 21 and me and my younger sister has been watching you since I was 16. I appreciate all your sharing. You are amazing and I just want to let you know you inpsired me.
BRO THE WAY I CLICKED ON THIS WHEN I SAW “2 MINUTES AGO” 😭😭
LITERALLY 😂😭
sameeee 😭
I am high anxiety. I know that when it comes to a new job, I know I can learn and adapt. But only when I have a boss I don't have to be afraid of. I am grown, do not belittle and intimidate me when you know I'm still learning.
I love that Nikki stands up for people and for what she believes in. I find that truly commendable.. I know not a lot of people will do that. Men like Daniel clearly have anger issues and need professional help. No woman should be spoke to that way, especially in a work environment. Like “sir, I know you sign my checks, but you’re not my parent. Not even my parents speak/ yell at me like that”. 😤
Shoutout to Ronda! Love that you guys had someone to lean on.
Perfect timing! ❤
I know veterans need work but, hiring him knowing he has ptsd isn't the best idea. He clearly can't function or work with others without spazzing & throwing things. That's too much of a toxic environment... I'm glad you left.
I'm like that too - I'm never on my phone when I'm waiting for an interview. Sometimes I chat with the people around me, I read magazines, sometimes there's TV's so I watch the news etc.
I knew “Daniel” was going to be a literal man child the moment you described him “decorated” war veteran with PTSD aka a r@cist narcissist man child with fits of rage. 👀🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️
I would’ve recorded him and took him to court, so sick of pos like that getting away with that!
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War vets with ptsd are typically man-children? I don't understand the connection.
Omg! That was like work abuse. I used to work for a lawyer’s office and the head was so nasty to the other lawyers, the admins….to everyone even his own family members that worked there…2 months and I just walked out. Didn’t say a word just walked out and never went back! I was done…no1 should ever have to work with someone who acts like that…Good for you for doing the same!
There are just as many people suffering from PTSD caused by abusive spouses as there are war vets suffering from it. I'm not saying vets don't deserve care, but it frustrates me that there seems to be this expectation to just deal with it if a vet doesn't have the coping skills to treat other people in their lives w care
It's one thing to be a stern boss with high expectations and it's another thing to be straight up abusive. His issues had nothing to do with anyone in that work environment. I hope he got some help.
Rhonda sounds like an amazing person 😊 hope all is well for her. And I’m glad you were able to leave that work environment. It doesn’t matter how good the money is, the benefits, if it’s affecting your mental health that much. It’s best that you leave
What sucks the most about bosses like these is that the people who work above them know about it, and rarely do anything to put a stop to it. Or at least in my experience.
When Nikki says, "You're not here" I felt that DEEPLY.
I have the same condition. There is absolutely no excuse to treat anyone terrible because of said condition. Take ya meds, go to therapy etc to function with others.
I had a manager who was military police and she was horrible to us employees.. I only stayed 8 months because I was over her thinking she was still a MP and treating us very bad.
You posted at the PERFECT time I was just about to get ready for the day! What a blessing 🥰
I’m so glad you left that hostile/ abusive work environment because you don’t know what far lengths he will go next time.
I’ve been there done that no way ever again. No one needs to be treated like that just because you work for somebody doesn’t give them the right to degrade you and disrespect you and be a little you no matter what the compensation they think just because you were that employee they can treat you that way no one test that right it goes to show how people really truly are and it doesn’t take two cents to be a decent human being
this story time made me sob for the women that go through this. I wanna cry thinking abt how happy i was that u slammed opened the door to rhonda’s office. it pains me so much to think of the times i had to watch my dad verbally abuse my mother. thank u for being there for rhonda. i love u sm nikki.
Her anxiously fidgeting with her necklace is me💀 sometimes I complain about my working situation and then I hear these type of horror stories about other people’s jobs and suddenly I feel very blessed.
Nikki you the bomb! I scanned the QR code and my total went from $76 to $31!!!! Yay!! I’m so excited thank you so much!!!
You posted this just in time for me to get ready for a date! I needed this
The fact that you we’re able to match a military stare is so impressive!! He should have stayed in the military if he wanted to behave that way.
The hands thanking the friend, had to rewind, priceless 🎉! And how fast are you to come up with words in sticky sitsumations, so so smart ❤.
It’s not PTSD, I’ve worked with professionals who have been through actual war and are the sweetest people to work with meanwhile a supervisor I had did not go to war and was exactly how you described your supervisor.
Men like Daniel, mediocre and abusive, should never be in positions of power.
Same here, Nikki. I also get triggered in a fight or fight mode with a situation like this one. If you know, you know. Hopefully, Rhonda is being blessed wth a better job.
Nikki my mouth dropped! Can’t believe they let that boss continuing to work there. That is extremely disappointing. Like you said everyone has a part and everyone even the bosses should be respectful and professional.
i grew up in the same sort of environment you did nikki with a single mom and terrible men. i COULD NOT deal with a man yelling like that at another woman. like that’s ptsd on its own. i completely understand both you and rhonda
I love that you so effortlessly advocate for yourself and others with class; definitely taking notes 📝
The HR Director came there in person because they don’t want a legal paper trail of her trying to make excuses for bad behavior so most likely she wrote an email saying “let’s talk about it in person” so that if there ever is a legal issue, there is no documentation that she said “oh, he has PTSD”
Daniel sounds like my boss when i worked at a Olive Garden. He was super condensending and woukd go off on people for absolutely no reason. He ended up gettimg fired after he straight up assaulted one of the servers
Girl. I am going through the exact same thing at my current job. My boss is an asshole who claims to have PTSD and corporate always makes excuses for him…..
I just left a job also. People can be so unprofessional. Ugh! So uncomfortable and disrespectful!
Ooof your storytime brought a memory for me when I worked with a retired military man (my manager at the time) that was the same way. He was a nightmare to work with: he micromanaged everyone and was a smarta** knowing no one liked him, and he didn’t want music or chatting to exist. He made it known that he didn’t care about being liked as long as the job gets done. The work environment sucked, but ya girl needed the money so I stuck throughout the contract. But man, when i tell you he wasn’t the easiest to work with, he was not.
Oh gosh this triggered a lot of memories from my teenage years, only it wasn't at a job. I feel like he was using his PTSD as a "get out of of jail free" card to mistreat his employees
WE LOVE LONG STORYTIMES ❤️❤️❤️
I've been watching your videos for a long time and this by far, was one of your best. Thank God you left, no one should ever work in a hostile environment.
You already know imma watch this on my work break !! ❤️
The military trains people to be like this for war. Sadly it affects them and changes them forever. Hopefully he gets the help he needs for his work and personal life.
im dealing with a similar situation and currently looking for another job because of it. it's so stressful but all I can think of "getting the hell out" before It starts to really affect my mental health.
Your work stories are so valuable for me for so many years and throughout all my professional career. You've helped me get all of my jobs since 2018. I continue my professional growth thanks to you. Warm hugs from Paris.
Girl tell the truth…speak girl speak. I hope everyone is okay from that work environment and do not get treated like that anymore. Disgusting behavior
Omg!!! My heart goes out to you and all the Rhonda’s in the world I swear the “Daniel’s” are hella uncalled for regardless of any danggone mental issues they got going on!!!
So..I found your videos back in 2017 when I was deep in a veryyy abusive relationship and have followed your channel ever since. All of your storytimes from when you were in middle school and high school and how you would get in all of these fights, somehow was comforting to me but more than that it was when you would talked about relationships and you handled guys not having respect or any issues you encountered that ultimately inspired me to get out of my relationship. You always have stricken me as the type of person to respect her worth and it was so inspiring for me at that time and still to this day. I have literally eaten so much abuse it's not even funny and watching RUclipsrs like you who have had the strength to fight back or clearly not accept that b.s. has always been so inspiring to me. Thank you Nikki, you probably have no clue how the way you handle conflict is the way I wish I did and now do. You are helping a lot of people and you probably don't even know it.
All these uploads are making me so happy 😭🫶🏻
You inspire me so much with these stories of how you stand up for yourself in these crazy situations! You should teach a class or something because I am so afraid of confrontation 😅
Dude, if I was Rhonda, I wouldn't have even let him talk to me that way, I would have stood up and walked right out without saying a damn word. Fuck men who think they can act however they want because of so-called ptsd. No fucking excuse.
Nikki I had a veryyyy similar experience to this one, except my boss was the co owner of the company with extreme anger issues and would cuss you out at the drop of a dime. I cannot even count the amount of times I was screamed out or called incompetent, it was the most high stress anxiety inducing job I’ve ever had. It’s part of the reason I will not go back into a normal corporate office job to this day
Girl idk how u could sit through what that boss was doing to you I would be crying tbh 😭
OMG, Daniel sounds EXACTLY like my boss. I’ve had to deal with her for 5 years. Girl’s given me a severe anxiety disorder.
Girl, find a new job!
@@janeasmith955 in this economy? I wish. Plus I got a mortgage to pay.
@@WhiteRaven696 Understandable but 5 years is a really long time to deal with that at work!
@@WhiteRaven696 then carry on...at least you can tell about your bad boss and how you are planning to do nothing to get yourself out of a damaging situation
Had a very similar experience in my past with a former boss, like verrry similar. And like you, Nikki, it did not take me that long to realize that I needed to leave. In fact, I probably should have left sooner than I did. I left without notice. It was THAT bad. I think you did the right thing by resigning. Sometimes, you just have to protect your energy. My experience was as a receptionist at a real estate office. As a new employee, I noticed how the broker (name was Robert, actually 🤭) was very blunt, rude, never wanted to update anything (we were still using physical punch cards in 2015), and would use foul language. But, he had never talked to me sideways... until the honeymoon phase was over, like around my 2nd month. Then, he decided that it was OK to curse me out. Guess I was no longer special as the newbie. He seemed to have 2 personalities, too. He differed from Daniel as he could be goofy and pleasant at times. But, he could switch so quick. If his day was bad, EVERBODY'S day would be bad until he was over it. One day he called me on my extension and cursed me out with his office door open so everyone could hear it, over something that was not even my fault. His secretary, who had been used to his temper tantrums, started laughing, saying "here we go again." Um... no. His behavior was unexceptable. I'm a very passive person, but I started to lose my cool that day. Only reason why I stayed after being cursed out was because I convinced myself that it wasn't personal. 😕 Yeah... I don't know. I swear it was so bad, that one of his real estate agents actually printed out and handed me a job posting for something else. She probably thought that I was about to quit. The real estate office also did property mgmnt, and so I would process rent payments as well, and a few of the tenants expressed their surprise that I was lasting as long as I was there. Really bad sign. The former receptionist who was training me for a few weeks would have crying fits outside. Robert's secretary had 4 ulcers, his maintenance guy had very severe anxiety. All bad signs. The final straw was when I overheard him talking to his secretary about me and another new hire like we were idiots. Apparently, he was tired of us not understanding anything. He was like, "I guess I'M going to have to train them!" I thought to myself, oh heck no. He would be super condescending whenever he would show me how to do something. Always made you feel like a clueless idiot while requiring you to do things that were out of your scope and above your pay grade. I handed him my key and told him straight up "I am not going to work here anymore." Yeah, he had the nerve to be shocked, tried to act like I didn't just quit in his face, tried to argue with my list of reasons for quitting, but he finally got the message. I had nowhere else to go jobwise, but I knew I wasn't spending one more day in that real estate office. Thank God another job opportunity fell in my lap a month later. 😌
No matter what company you’re in HR is NEVER on your side
This is my first time coming on RUclips and as it loaded, I was there hoping you posted a video. So happy! ❤️
not going to lie I'm 22 years old and when I 20 maybe younger I went through something similar at a job and was draining it felt like I was stepping on eggshells it was a bad environment all around it didn't help that one of few women on the job I did the same and quite because I couldn't do it anymore. and hearing this gave so much anxiety and I wasn't even there. I am glad you got out while you could I and I do hope the lady that worked with him... I hope she got out at some point
This reminds me of when I was working at Starbucks as a barista, so while I was working at the drive through a lady was being so rude to me had dropped her change on the ground. Mind you it’s maybe .27cents at most and she demands I go in the cash register and give her more change because she’s “not picking anything up from the ground.” So I have to get my boss to open the register because I don’t have the code to open it, so I tell him the situation and he just loses it on me and starts screaming “this is not ok to do!! When the register is off at the end of the day who do you think will get in trouble for it?! Me, the manager of this entire Starbucks or you? Just a barista???” I literally cried when I went home that day and never went back. Later that day though, I vented to my co worker because he was yelling so loud at me that even the lady in her car heard and apologized but my co worker said “he means well and I’m sure he’s a good person it’s just he gets very passionate.” …. I just yeah. It was the worst work environment ever and now I’m happily somewhere else
I’m so sorry that happened to you, but I’m glad that even the lady apologized.
I know, like me, y’all’s heart skip a beat every time y’all see Nikki upload
You are such a great story teller
Yessss new storytime I've literally been binge watching your podcasts so glad a new video is out luv you Nikki 🫶🏽
Girl I came to watch another old video as I do everyday and saw this! Here we go 🎉
Ugh my heart hurts at this situation.
i just came on youtube to find something to watch while i cook and yess you came thru with a long video thank you 😭❤️
I love a long Nikki story time I get so excited when i see 30 plus minutes on the thumbnail
WHO ELSE LOVES ALL THESE STORYTIMES🥳 “God loves you more” love it 🫶🏼
Wow. Everytime I watch your videos I think what a women of valor and integrity.
The way you knew how to step up at the right moments and just the way you carry yourself. I love you Nicki and definitely look up to you. ❤💯🌠
Period Nikki. I needed this video, I’m at work rn
Come on consistent Nikki!!!! I literally binge your old videos for my fix 🤣🤣🤣 our childhood stories are so similar and we’re both from TX (Ft Worth ☺️) I feel like you’re my Latina big sis. Lol. You give the best advice and keep it a buck. Honestly taking notes has helped me to work on standing up for myself and not letting shit slide cause Nikki said DONT TAKE NO SHIT!! Sorry this is a MF ramble but girl I loves me some you!! 🥰❤️‼️
yesss I am here on time!!! I love you, Nikki! Happy holidays!! xoxxo love you
WE LOVE THE CONSISTENCYYYYYY NIKKKIIIII
PTSD is something crazy, something that’s hard to deal with and hard to get over- especially, if it’s from military service. Buttttttttt, it doesn’t make it okay to treat people with such disrespect and be so explosive. If he can’t run a business hire more ppl with better training, or train them weekly to handle the work. He definitely needs therapy and sometime to gather himself before going back into the work place. A office place isn’t the easiest job, especially for retired vets and it comes with a lot of people problems. That most average people can’t deal with. Sooooo yhhhh. That’s crazy. Glad you got out of there Nikki! 47:02
Dude, I don't care if someone has PTSD or not. That is absolutely NOT an excuse to use other employees as emotional punching bags. Daniel is clearly unstable and unhinged.
i swear nikki gets more gorgeous with timeee
Omg tell me why I was biting my nails this wholeeeeeee video!!!!!! Sooo crazy! Thank you nikki for all the advice and knowledge you share with us!! You are the BEST! ❤
loving this consistency 😍
you posted just in time!! we just lost the cricket WC and your notification just made me feel better 🥺♥️
Australia beat us on Thursday don’t worry. You guys played well the whole World Cup 🔥🔥🔥🔥
@@bontlelethetsa thankyou!! ♥️
Yay! So glad I finally caught a video lol I been lacking!
girl you know we cant be SPOIILLLTTT like this🤯
THE WAY I GASPED AS I OPENED THE RUclips APP TO REWATCH AN OLD VIDEO BUT SAW YOUR BEAUTIFUL FACE MY LOVE ❤️❤️ I was like 17 min ago ??? Yes pls
Nikki girl! Here for the video but noticed the cute set up in the background. Can you give us a video on your set up for makeup and decor? I have 2 little ones and feel like I can’t ever decorate or have my stuff out all cute! Thank you! ♥️
Also yes also taught to take a resume, don’t be on your phone and interview the job as well! ☺️
I don’t care who you are you can be a town mayor or whatever but I would not allow anyone to disprespect me in that way either. At the end of the day we are all human and equal no matter what position or status we hold in this world. I’m sorry you had to endure that and work in that hostile environment however, you did the right thing of leaving. Keep doing what you do Nikki much love!
a bunch of times I've been in environments like that and girl I just hauled ass. Gone.
What made his PTSD more important than Rhonda’s? She experienced trauma as well from her past abusive relationship. That’s so sad and unfair. And shame on that HR lady for making excuses. Y’all didn’t deserve that. I appreciate his service but it’s never okay to treat people that way. I hope Rhonda is doing well too 🙏🏼❤️