Why I have no friends

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  • Опубликовано: 7 ноя 2024

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  • @juliej8184
    @juliej8184 2 месяца назад +177

    The betrayal from women is very hurtful 😢

    • @bennigoddess
      @bennigoddess 2 месяца назад

      Yessssss!!!

    • @sheronwilliamson8224
      @sheronwilliamson8224 2 месяца назад +2

      I truly understand why you don't have that go-to-person. When the time comes you will know it. Just wondering if you attend church now.
      I love you though. Love your accent and I feel blessed to have found you in this space❤. I have friends(not many though) but I have my church family. You are wonderful! Your sense of humour is next to none

    • @dredae876
      @dredae876 2 месяца назад +1

      And family members

    • @karenmartin2457
      @karenmartin2457 2 месяца назад +4

      Very hurtful I recently got a friend and every time we go shopping and I buy anything. Even though her style is not the same as mine she would just want whatever she see me with. And try to get something like it or the same thing and started trying to dress exactly like me if I stop at her house she would just steal whatever she wants out the bag if I go😂 to the bathroom and next time I see her she would be wearing it in front of me and trying to tell me it’s not mine she bought it somewhere else she was much bigger than me but would squeeze herself into whatever it was as long as it stretched. The last straw was when I stop at her house another day and took my wig and a hat that I was wearing of and put them in a plastic bag while sitting in the kitchen 😅 and she ask me you wanna put the bag in the room and took the wig and hat out the bag I ask her for my bag when I was leaving and she pretended as if she didn’t know what bag I was talking about then she finally gave me the bag and say check it I didn’t because I didn’t expect her to steal a wig that I had already worn I check when I was already outside and she said you could get it tomorrow and then she didn’t answer her phone when she finally answered her phone she said she didn’t know what I was talking about I stopped dealing with her and saw her one day walking on the street with same hat and wig on. I just said you thief and keep walking. Never spoke to her again.

    • @karenmartin2457
      @karenmartin2457 2 месяца назад +6

      @@sheronwilliamson8224even church people like to be hypocritical sometimes though.

  • @Cindyrelisha
    @Cindyrelisha 2 месяца назад +201

    I have 3 friends, me, myself and I.

  • @michellejackson2099
    @michellejackson2099 2 месяца назад +155

    Your Cuban/Jamaican accent is so cute. I have never heard this mixture before.

    • @Omololasodyssey
      @Omololasodyssey 2 месяца назад +8

      Right!! I thought it was just me, such a beautiful accent. I found myself falling in love 😅 a mix I never knew I needed.

    • @Florkubana
      @Florkubana  2 месяца назад +23

      Awww thank you so much always warms my heart and makes me so happy when I get positive comments about my accent, because in my mind for almost 20 years, my ass was very annoying for people but it’s always nice to be proving wrong

    • @Florkubana
      @Florkubana  2 месяца назад +20

      Awwww thank you so much it’s sad that cubans usually don’t stay in Jamaica as long as I have to catch on this mixture of an accent

    • @wesleysmith852
      @wesleysmith852 2 месяца назад +5

      @@Florkubana There are a lot of Cubans that marry Jamaicans so they can stay in Jamaica. You just have to know where they hang out.

    • @fitnessbabe7958
      @fitnessbabe7958 2 месяца назад +5

      Wow, lots of us are here.

  • @naturallivingbyenovi
    @naturallivingbyenovi 2 месяца назад +119

    When I was younger I thought I had many friends but as I got older I realise they don't want you to be in a better position than them. My siblings are my friends

    • @LiveByDesign
      @LiveByDesign 2 месяца назад +8

      Lucky you …mine are my opps

    • @Psycodon2771
      @Psycodon2771 2 месяца назад +3

      My fresh opp is my blood brother

    • @Kris_413
      @Kris_413 2 месяца назад +2

      How lucky, its the same issue with siblings for me

    • @malikabryan329
      @malikabryan329 2 месяца назад +3

      This is very true!!! While I was being the helpful supportive genuine fun friend ( in my 20’s-30’s and STILL TO THIS DAY) Those DEMONS were cutting me up behind my back bcz I HAD MORE GOING ON FOR MYSELF than them. Jealousy is always at the top of the chain with female friends. I’m 41 now and I can count on one hands how many ppl I talk to that are supportive in my life.

    • @juliettesimmonds5893
      @juliettesimmonds5893 2 месяца назад +4

      Me too, my siblings are my best friends.

  • @AndieMcTV
    @AndieMcTV 2 месяца назад +110

    Having no friends is actually a very common thing these days. I also have NO friends. Crazy

    • @i_am_chantiee
      @i_am_chantiee 2 месяца назад +6

      Ditto

    • @kiraslyfestyle6856
      @kiraslyfestyle6856 2 месяца назад +6

      Too common.. I wonder if it’s the social media why everyone just become so self absorbed 😢😢 no one is genuine again. Every one throw shades on their social or say they don’t need ple.. But that’s not TRUE WE ALL NEED PEOPLE AROUND US. Just imagine a world with u alone

    • @karenmartin2457
      @karenmartin2457 2 месяца назад +5

      @@kiraslyfestyle6856but because of social media it’s hard to have friends because like you say everyone is very selfish.

    • @AndieMcTV
      @AndieMcTV 2 месяца назад +2

      @@kiraslyfestyle6856 Yup! And any time I see a friendship that makes me say "Oh them cute eeh, wish I had a friend to do stuff with too" couple months or years later is raddam and they're airing each other out on the internet! And I just watch from under my rock and appreciate the friendless life I have!

    • @DonnaWellington-gu6ku
      @DonnaWellington-gu6ku 2 месяца назад +3

      Selfish and fake

  • @lloydgeorge8799
    @lloydgeorge8799 2 месяца назад +38

    Some people are blessed with the gift of being independent, rather than a follower.

    • @EmpressQueenB
      @EmpressQueenB 2 месяца назад +2

      I give thanks to God everyday for making me this way.

  • @marymills4943
    @marymills4943 2 месяца назад +8

    I love that you say that you are in therapy thereby normalizing this very important need for mental health.
    I thoroughly enjoy your posts.

  • @Hypermetamorphosize
    @Hypermetamorphosize 2 месяца назад +64

    It's actually hard to find genuine and consistent people. I believe it's harder for women too. It's much better to have a few people you trust than have lots of "friends" using you.

    • @MarianLivingLife
      @MarianLivingLife 2 месяца назад +1

      It’s definitely not hard to find genuine people in the world.

    • @kiraslyfestyle6856
      @kiraslyfestyle6856 2 месяца назад +1

      @@MarianLivingLifeit is sometimes .. bc ple change after a while sometimes

    • @karenmartin2457
      @karenmartin2457 2 месяца назад +1

      @@MarianLivingLifeit’s hard to me.

    • @DonnaWellington-gu6ku
      @DonnaWellington-gu6ku 2 месяца назад

      Lucky you, it’s very hard to have genuine people who truly care about you.

  • @theblessone3411
    @theblessone3411 2 месяца назад +189

    I have no friends either. I have a few associates but no real friends

    • @Florkubana
      @Florkubana  2 месяца назад +18

      And that is ok ❤️🤗 mucho love

    • @boogsybrooks
      @boogsybrooks 2 месяца назад +7

      Me as well.

    • @AshaMalchan
      @AshaMalchan 2 месяца назад +10

      I thought it was just me ..glad to know am not alone

    • @bajanbliss
      @bajanbliss 2 месяца назад +4

      Same. I had a close friend for over 20 years. She let a really petit incident get between us. Mainly I could not afford to go to an event which we planned to attend together but I lost my job and couldn't go

    • @eileenwatt8283
      @eileenwatt8283 2 месяца назад +10

      ​@@Florkubanait's okay not to have friends. There are people with fake friends.

  • @lindelmccormack1660
    @lindelmccormack1660 2 месяца назад +48

    A good friend is like a good shade tree when the sun is hot. As the saying goes, a good friend is better than pocket money.

    • @Sharonbless876
      @Sharonbless876 Месяц назад +2

      Can I tell you,I have friends for years,my best friend over50 years,almost 60,I give God thanks for the friends I have.

  • @level11ethur84
    @level11ethur84 2 месяца назад +84

    No drama no nonsense no jealousy over rubbish
    Journaling talking to myself my husband and family
    I enjoy my own company I enjoy going out and doing things by myself
    People are funny these days they envy even your peace I don’t have the energy for the silliness
    I do have friends overseas but these are highly spiritual and confident people we don’t have to talk everyday or see each other but when we do it’s like no time has passed since we met some 20 years ago.
    I am very very very selective in the people I choose to enter the circle I enjoy having people around but I don’t need them as solitude is golden to me I can be selfish with what I do or I can spend time creating

    • @karenmartin2457
      @karenmartin2457 2 месяца назад

      You are right.

    • @tweetzzzz2365
      @tweetzzzz2365 2 месяца назад +2

      All in all said and done I wanted to comment but me explaining this time n time again seem uneasy for people SO ME GLAD YOU SAID IT EXACTLY LIKE I WOULD...rate who rate you, I believe too much in energy and energy exchange and since where I'm from I'm surrounded by jealousy envy lets just say negative energy I stay to myself ,my partner and my family..no matter how u think people happy fe u they arent n me tiad a c d fakeness in so call friends n me not even ago say the things I look past al me ago say is me still try fe do good all when me knw dem messed up n I know thats draining n since I'm different me stay inna me house,work hard and take care of my child.💯

  • @victorcharles8686
    @victorcharles8686 2 месяца назад +88

    Even though you have no friends, you can surely have acquaintances.

    • @DiandraStarShine
      @DiandraStarShine 2 месяца назад +1

      god bless her!..& as a straight sis western female I admit that I'm clueless. but there must be others - even if in the closet by day the shared black market computer files were missed by her?? so sorry she didn't get that support.😕 & as a western, licensed health care worker WE also were not offered certain, imho, VERY important understandings..& ok, the early part of her being DISCRIMINATED against. ok, I'll continue to listen to listen to the remainder of her story..but it's CLEAR money was ALSO a factor! so sorry & I'll get more of my dinner plate & listen the remainder of, for now, what is her story...which that guy was so INSECURE ABOUT? himself?? clearly, teenage relationship happenings - losing a best girlfriend to the crazy - but I recently experienced the other girl friend apologizing - because sbe said some YEARS later the HE said: if you ever see her before I do (the guy said this) he told her: please tell her I messed up and how sorry I AM..because even though many years had gone by? like after much time, my girl/woman friend, like he said I'm his explanation that matched hers, he said he was wrong...so NO EVER assume your response or heartbreak was *wrong.* always understand the heart 💯 *speaks volumes* & without the need to question it's hear truth & reality..god bless!🙌🍀🛐❣️📿

    • @chosenrasta7111
      @chosenrasta7111 2 месяца назад +1

      ​@@DiandraStarShine What??

    • @sterlingkayon84
      @sterlingkayon84 2 месяца назад

      @@chosenrasta7111 lol

    • @DonnaWellington-gu6ku
      @DonnaWellington-gu6ku 2 месяца назад

      Exactly, didn’t understand anything that was said. It made no sense, rambling with no cohesion

    • @DonnaWellington-gu6ku
      @DonnaWellington-gu6ku 2 месяца назад

      ?????????????????????????????????????????

  • @godiseverything1482
    @godiseverything1482 2 месяца назад +74

    A Professor once told me that friends are an illusion..

  • @laureldemercado8107
    @laureldemercado8107 3 дня назад +1

    Love your stories Flor, especially your mix of cuban & Jamaican accents. Please keep the stories coming. You are beautiful and real. Mucho amour.❤

  • @JaneMacgizmo
    @JaneMacgizmo 2 месяца назад +27

    I feel like if you are genuine and real, it is hard to have friends. And it is very hard when you are a one of kind person. Happy to have made a friend recently that feels tribe-like and aligned and it took me all of 33 years.

  • @YoliOlivia
    @YoliOlivia 2 месяца назад +8

    The moment you spoke about being open to finding sweet, meaningful friendship and connection brought tears to my eyes. I feel the same way, but is it possible?

    • @Florkubana
      @Florkubana  2 месяца назад +3

      I have hope 🤗❤️

  • @lisakmar
    @lisakmar 2 месяца назад +28

    @Florkubana I can relate. I moved to Canada from Jamaica 15 years ago and my husband is my friend. I have met two friends from church, but we dont go out like I did with friends in Jamaica. I have two friends in Jamaica who I am still close to, so "Thank God" for them.

    • @Florkubana
      @Florkubana  2 месяца назад +5

      Thank you so much for watching and for taking the time to comment. This is why I wanted to share my story so that anyone who is in the same situation of not having friends because of cultural differences doesn’t feel left out or alone

  • @INERGYVIBRATION
    @INERGYVIBRATION 2 месяца назад +2

    Bless Up Queen 👸 iam watching and loving your interesting conversation. Amazing

  • @onlinegenie
    @onlinegenie 2 месяца назад +9

    You are a great story teller. I love your sprinklings of patwa throughout the narrative.

    • @Florkubana
      @Florkubana  2 месяца назад +1

      I still can’t wrap my mind around your comment. You calling me a great story teller is the biggest compliment I can ever get. Thank you so much.❤️🤗

  • @shawna-kayelester4082
    @shawna-kayelester4082 2 месяца назад +6

    I enjoyed this. I have a few close friends and 99% of them are from high school. I honestly believe that a friend after high school is a truly rare blessing. And I know, from experience, that situations reveal who are your friends... if you have never had certain life challenges, you don't yet know your friends.

  • @user-yp9od3lx6l
    @user-yp9od3lx6l 2 месяца назад +22

    I have only one friend from church I pray with. And then my husband...and I do not trust family members. But God is still GOOD. More friends, more drama.

  • @robynaw6735
    @robynaw6735 2 месяца назад +6

    Wow.. it’s sad to hear. I thought it was strange I only have a small group of friends. Now I know It’s a blessing to have a small circle.

  • @IsabelWilliams
    @IsabelWilliams 2 месяца назад +14

    I am friend to many people, but I have no friends. To be my friend you must same values, virtues, and most of the people I know do not reciprocate. I am Cuban from another generation, we never talked like you just narrated. Un abrazo.

  • @CliffLynch-hl6nd
    @CliffLynch-hl6nd 2 месяца назад +1

    Love ❤️ your journey just saw your page and I am impressed you look just like my daughter,keep posting,thanks!!

  • @ninamarley777
    @ninamarley777 2 месяца назад +9

    Real friends are not easy to find . Whit good aura and good energy. The most are jealous for no reason sad but true. Take care enjoy your life peace ✌️

  • @scottenglish4502
    @scottenglish4502 2 месяца назад +3

    Having no fren that don’t make you less and you won’t be different from another. Keep loving your family esp your children peace n love to u and family 🇯🇲🇯🇲🇯🇲🇯🇲🇯🇲🙏❤️

  • @Grenadier1976
    @Grenadier1976 2 месяца назад +2

    I just discovered your page, tonight, totally by accident.
    This is the 2nd video I’m watching.
    The 1st one was about how you came to be in Jamaica.
    Fascinating story.
    I love your Jamaican/Cuban accent.❤🇯🇲🇨🇺
    Keep posting content. Your story is remarkable and very, very interesting. 😄👍🏽

    • @Florkubana
      @Florkubana  2 месяца назад

      Thank you so much for your comment. I am so amazed by the reception of my storytelling on my story. These are things that I am just starting to learn to appreciate, and I am so grateful of you for pointing it out. Stay tuned I have a brand new story time loading.

  • @Karen-ot4mg
    @Karen-ot4mg 2 месяца назад +1

    Your words ring so true. The strength it takes to walk without friends...nothing can surpass that. Circumstances put each of us in different path, and if you are good with it, you good...period.
    Bless up! 🇹🇹🇨🇦

  • @bdraytod5748
    @bdraytod5748 2 месяца назад +14

    Thanks for sharing. I'm a Jamaican living in Canada. I have a friend who was born in Jamaica, and we've been friends for 30 years. My other best friend is from Panama, and we've been friends for 10 years. I feel truly blessed to have loyal and trusting friends.

  • @michaelmcdonald2663
    @michaelmcdonald2663 2 месяца назад +1

    Very rich and interesting life. Intrigued by your life's journey, and eager to hear more. I will keep watching😊 You've made it this far without friends and seem very happy, so cheers to you. Very confident woman you are

  • @JuneRichards-x9s
    @JuneRichards-x9s 2 месяца назад +6

    love you girl your so down to earth and really funny 😂😂

  • @gloriahitchins2494
    @gloriahitchins2494 5 дней назад +1

    I am now watching your blog. DWl at your Patios. I have about three friends. But lots of relative. Blessing with you and husband.

  • @jacquelinemcfarlane2
    @jacquelinemcfarlane2 2 месяца назад +4

    That sketel demonstration was hilaaarious 😂

  • @Meloyadina
    @Meloyadina 2 месяца назад +5

    I'm very happy to come across your channel, and your storytelling pulled me right in.
    I've had to step away from NUFF friendships in the last few years.
    For over 20 years, I've had a deep connection with Cuba, (I live here in Kingston) and have been there many times staying with local families.
    Probably one of the most important people in my life journey was my first Padrino (may he RIP). He lived in Jamaica for about 10 years before he left for the USA (,same dangerous Mexico crossing), but he built a good life in Miami before he passed away.
    Watching your stories brought back so many memories from my past 20 yrs 😊

    • @Florkubana
      @Florkubana  2 месяца назад +2

      Oh my God you had a Padrino in Jamaica how didn’t I know of this? I also lost my Padrino, but he was still in Cuba. They try to force him to leave Cuba when the Mariel happened but he stay and he never left. Thank you so much for sharing your story is a pleasure to have you here.

    • @Meloyadina
      @Meloyadina 2 месяца назад +1

      @@Florkubana Really, for the past 20 years or more there have been many Padrinos who have both visited and lived here. For a while I knew so many Cubanos living here, but I've lost touch with most of them over time.
      The thing I adore about the culture is everyone sitting around and eating together and laughing like crazy about every little thing & teasing each other. So yes when you said the Jcan work culture was a shock because it's so conservative I completely understood how that was strange for you.
      I'm actually an Iyánifa now, made in Africa but I don't talk about it much with my fellow Jcans. Stay blessed ✨

  • @jamdum2290
    @jamdum2290 2 месяца назад +13

    I migrated years ago from Jamaica, i have no friends, i tried, and it didn't work out. I dont do drama, jealousy and people in my business. My husband is my friend.. My closest girl friends are back home in Jamaica.

  • @annmariesalmon399
    @annmariesalmon399 2 месяца назад +9

    Awesome story. I hope you find the BFF you deserve

  • @romainesenior3935
    @romainesenior3935 2 месяца назад +4

    Awww, sometimes it's good to be isolated. The world can be cruel and you are a walking ball of sunshine, happiness and love. I remember you everyday.

    • @Florkubana
      @Florkubana  2 месяца назад

      That is true. I think a lot of my personality. Today is a result of not having friends.

  • @NVMonte
    @NVMonte 2 месяца назад +1

    I enjoyed your very honest and transparent disclosure of personal experiences. I do have friends but not so much in the community where I live here in Jamaica. I moved from the southern coast to St. Ann. I had a circle of woman friends there, some of who I keep in touch with to this day. When I moved here I missed the female sisterhood that I have always known. I prayed about it and then through a yoga class I found a new sisterhood that were like minded and spirited. I like having deep conversations with both male and female but it is a little bit trickier with males. Some men haven't experienced a "platonic" kind of closeness with a female without a sexual connection. With my girlfriends we like to go to nature places, do yoga, go get something to eat. One particular friend who comes and goes to Jamaica, likes karaoke so I do that with her. I do alot of things that keeps me active and connected. We learn from all of life's experiences and I can tell you have as well. You seem to be a joyful person able to be genuine and with no time for any thing that would lead you to not be the person who you are. So am I. I wish you well and look forward to more of your videos as I am now subscribed. Yes you are mature for your age because some women still haven't found the true selves and purpose. Be well and Buena Suerte .....

  • @lawrencedavidson6195
    @lawrencedavidson6195 2 месяца назад +14

    There are friends, and there are "FRIENDS". I don't really mix much with people anymore, so i understand. Love your Cuban/Jamaican accent, and you do the female dance hall "lang out tongue" ting very well (Although that's faar from my style..lol) Take care mi fren.

    • @Florkubana
      @Florkubana  2 месяца назад +2

      “Uptown sketel” 🤣 to the core 🤣 I agree with you there is a difference between friends and FRIENDS. Thanks so much for all the complements it really means a lot. Mucho love ❤️🤗

  • @keepingitrealwithchinell7565
    @keepingitrealwithchinell7565 2 месяца назад +4

    You’re a beautiful Queen! It’s ok to not have friends and have friends. You will find your true tribe just by being you. When you’re an amazing person you have to protect your soul. Pretty girls have it hard too because a lot of women are insecure so their hate can be very telling. Trust me, if I was close we would’ve been the best of friends. I am that girl!!
    Sending love from Tampa to your town Queen😘😘

  • @AmariDeraisx
    @AmariDeraisx 2 месяца назад +34

    😂😂 muma seh she nuh waa be the community bicycle 🤣 you aint gon speed pass that like u didn't say what u jus said 😅

    • @Florkubana
      @Florkubana  2 месяца назад +9

      🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I am on the floor 🤣🤣 thanks for watching

    • @fitnessbabe7958
      @fitnessbabe7958 2 месяца назад +2

      What does “community bicycle “ mean?

    • @oslong
      @oslong 2 месяца назад +3

      @@fitnessbabe7958 it means everybody can get a ride

    • @fitnessbabe7958
      @fitnessbabe7958 2 месяца назад +1

      @@oslong Thanks for the explanation.

  • @chriswatson8230
    @chriswatson8230 Месяц назад

    You are hilarious! I just love listening to you.

  • @ncsaudioblast5619
    @ncsaudioblast5619 2 месяца назад +9

    You're doing better than most so don't worry about it. The road to success is lonely and cold but you should definitely network with people in your socioeconomic space.

    • @Florkubana
      @Florkubana  2 месяца назад +2

      Indeed, and I have and many of the acquaintances that I know process have been form through business relationships

  • @tiadean2434
    @tiadean2434 2 месяца назад +18

    Oh my gosh I came across her too, lol I thought I was the only person who had no friends

    • @Florkubana
      @Florkubana  2 месяца назад

      No way 🤣 this so weird and that video is one year old

  • @CeciliaCarleen_Stories
    @CeciliaCarleen_Stories 2 месяца назад +6

    I have a few amazing female friends that I called my Sister's they are pure and secure in their lives.
    Love you all my Gurls so happy to have you all in my life 😊 Christine. Kim. Simone. Chereece. Janelle. Valerie. Faith. Lashawn. Marlene.
    Let's take our friendship into God's Heaven 🙏 🙌 ✨️ ❤️

  • @MarshasJourney
    @MarshasJourney 2 месяца назад +42

    I have very few friends. I think not having financial freedom limits social life and therefore friendships.

    • @Florkubana
      @Florkubana  2 месяца назад +13

      Never thought of finances and friendship in the same sentence but it makes a lot of sense

    • @ManigaMOtep
      @ManigaMOtep 2 месяца назад

      My wife has no friends...my mother has no friends...i have no friends... 💡 my children have no friends...

    • @Nyammings
      @Nyammings 2 месяца назад +12

      It's interesting that you say that. I found that I formed the purest bonds when I didn't have a cent. What I had though was lots of time. I think it's harder to form real friendships the older you get.

    • @MarshasJourney
      @MarshasJourney 2 месяца назад +9

      @@Nyammings this was true for me in high school and primary school. I still have friends from then but the need to keep up with birthdays, meetups etc with adult friends can be hard when you’re not coming from a well off background. Maintaining friendships with people who have migrated is a lot harder if you’re not able to travel often etc. Sometimes no matter how much love is there bonds wear thin when you can’t be physically present.

    • @bennigoddess
      @bennigoddess 2 месяца назад +1

      Don't agree that finance has anything to do with it.

  • @msbabe63
    @msbabe63 2 месяца назад +1

    OMG Flo I love you. I'm almost 20yrs older than u and relating to every single statement u just shared. I work from home so don't have a workplace to create any kinda friendship per se. The closest to a friend I have are my sisters. I'm skeptical about female friendships because I honestly feel anxiety about trusting women in general. I, however, am more comfortable with male friends even tho I keep them at arms length. Guess I feel I know what they are about and how to handle them. I love that u are an uptown sketel that's hilarious😅. I've been seeing snippets from u for a while now and been enjoying your Spanish Patwa accent. I'm now subscribed and looking fwd to your future post.

  • @Hommebody
    @Hommebody 2 месяца назад +3

    Your experiences in life makes you wiser and stronger. As the saying goes keep your friends close and your enemies even closer. There’s a lot of frenemies around. Never take anyone for granted in your life. I have learnt this the hard way..
    Being friendless can be a blessing in disguise a lot of the time. So stay blessed and keep being true to yourself. Having a lot of acquaintances is not a bad thing either it keeps you informed and life goes on.😊

  • @AmariDeraisx
    @AmariDeraisx 2 месяца назад +13

    Exactly, caz all me a watch the video me a say inna mi head "but aren't we ur friends on Social Media" 😂 only to here u finally include us in the end lol also yall really go to school 6 days a week in Cuba 😳 wow

    • @fitnessbabe7958
      @fitnessbabe7958 2 месяца назад +1

      That’s nothing, in Japan there in school most f the day.

  • @CherylJones-i5g
    @CherylJones-i5g 2 месяца назад

    You are so honest and fun. I have my one bestie friend for over 30 years. It’s nice to have at least that one true friend you can count on.I totally understand your situation, you have a great personality and you will be able to trust again.

    • @Florkubana
      @Florkubana  2 месяца назад

      Thank you so much!!☺️

  • @facingreality6189
    @facingreality6189 2 месяца назад

    😂uptown sketel ...subscribing ..I love your realness ..i dont like friends ..no bad experiences but i have learnt through my sisters and mothers friends and how hard betrayal is ...

  • @514relaxmode
    @514relaxmode 2 месяца назад +4

    Hope yuh find the deep connections u deserve!

  • @nadzjam
    @nadzjam 2 месяца назад +2

    Thank you, Flor. You are wonderful and enough all by yourself. It is common to have fewer friends as we get older and that is OK. In fact, even the experience of friendship changes and you realize you don't need a lot of friends and practically can't maintain a lot of friendships because other commitments take priority. Sometimes, just one good friend is plenty.

    • @Florkubana
      @Florkubana  2 месяца назад

      Indeed life changes as we get older

  • @alafiamcdermott8000
    @alafiamcdermott8000 2 месяца назад

    I can relate totally, friendships are very hard to foster especially when you’re in your thirties!… I also worked for your mother-in-law and husband before I migrated, we met in passing when your boys were very tiny but my experience was wonderful! New sub!

  • @CliveAshley-d7g
    @CliveAshley-d7g 2 месяца назад +8

    You're such a beautiful lady 🎉❤ watching fr Mandeville Jamaica 😮

    • @Florkubana
      @Florkubana  2 месяца назад

      I love Mandeville I have a branch of Eyeland Eyewear there 🤗❤️

    • @CliveAshley-d7g
      @CliveAshley-d7g 2 месяца назад

      @@Florkubana that's cool 😊🙏

  • @JAMAICANAMOUR
    @JAMAICANAMOUR 2 месяца назад +26

    The older you get the more alone you realize. I lost my best friend years ago to Lupus. Now i have a few bonds but it's different. My daughter is my Friend

    • @Florkubana
      @Florkubana  2 месяца назад +1

      I am so sorry for your loss 😔

  • @Yahspeaksministries5069
    @Yahspeaksministries5069 2 месяца назад +2

    Girl you not alone. I have no friends either. I never speak about because i thought I was abnormal. I was also made to feel that by those closest to me.
    😊

  • @lolah5271
    @lolah5271 2 месяца назад

    I love your honesty, my husband is my best and only friend and I like it that way! I can honestly see with you and there is nothing wrong with you not having friends, in fact it’s the best way!
    You can have work colleagues and you can have people as acquaintances, but you have your children and your husband and that’s all you need!
    God bless, you are doing well!👍🏾

  • @magimagsbromfield8584
    @magimagsbromfield8584 2 месяца назад

    I love your sweet self❤. I'm Jamaican. I truly enjoy your story 🎉

  • @Fashionfirstdolls
    @Fashionfirstdolls 2 месяца назад +1

    Lol you’re funny, love your videos by the way ❤

    • @Florkubana
      @Florkubana  2 месяца назад

      Glad you like them! It makes me happy to make you laugh🤣 best compliment ever

  • @shawnaw9750
    @shawnaw9750 Месяц назад

    I can relate. Thank you for sharing. ❤

  • @85amil
    @85amil 2 месяца назад +2

    I’m so glad you started a RUclips channel. I saw a video of you on instagram and I instantly love your Spanish Patois accent. Like for real I love it! 😄 And then to hear the back story of you being from Cuba…
    Listening to your story maybe it’s been harder for you because you’ve always had one good friend at a time. Instead of it over lapping. Like if you had 3 go to friends and one left for whatever reason you still have 2 left and then a few years later you have a next good friend then one of the original 2 gets married and busy so it feel like 2 again ect.
    I’ve learned if you don’t have a handful of good friends before marriage and kids it will definitely be harder after. And a lot of woman that I see that have a good group of friends tend to come from a bigger family so when ever a friend comes and goes they have their siblings to fall back on (obviously this has to be a family that actually likes each other and gets along). But it is probably harder when you’re an only child to begin with and don’t have a lot of cousins too. Sigh there’s so many factors.
    But I think the pandemic really showed people who really aren’t their friends too! I’ve made a handful of friends through work in my adult life. I wouldn’t say best friend but we’re definitely catching up for lunch or invited to major life events and checking in on each other since we no longer work at the same place anymore. And you definitely can’t talk to your family the way you talk to a friend of no relation no matter how close you are it’s not the same. Sometimes if you’re lucky you could have a sibling that is your best friend.

    • @Florkubana
      @Florkubana  2 месяца назад +1

      my friend you have made my day with this comment. It really makes a lot of sense and I think you have discover the reason why I don’t have any close friends right now you should send me your therapist fees cause I owe you one there is power in quantities and as you said, I had three friends, at least instead of the just one I would probably have at least one friend right now, I think maybe because I am an only child and I am one burner always been and always will be. I have that tendency to be entwine and loyal to that one person instead of 2 or 3 and four but now that I have three kids, I know that love can be shared equally, so it will be easier to have more than one friend. Thanks again 🤗❤️ mucho love

  • @rokellan
    @rokellan 2 месяца назад

    Hey Fleur, thanks for that video, it was very useful. My story is so similar to yours. Had many friends back home growing up in Jamaica but since I migrated to the UK I found myself alone and simply can't find a genuine friend. Friends are important but if there's none then one must be self sufficient as best as we can.

  • @IamMille
    @IamMille 2 месяца назад +7

    Hola señora. Saludos desde una jamaiquina aprendiendo español . Me han dicho que mi bisabuelo es cubano así que es un placer escribiéndole . La cosa es que es difícil encontrar a amigos auténticos y sinceros. También es un camino solitario sin amigos pero no se sienta presionada. Usted me parece una persona chévere. Un fuerte abrazo 🤗

    • @Florkubana
      @Florkubana  2 месяца назад +1

      Muchas gracias por las palabras tan bellas. En la embajada de Cuba quizás le puedan ayudar a encontrar a su familia

    • @IamMille
      @IamMille 2 месяца назад +1

      De nada y gracias por el consejo. Cuídese

  • @Juma2u
    @Juma2u 2 месяца назад

    Thank you for story. It's very difficult to have friends they are rare to find. I enjoy your Storytime. You have me cracking up with the expression.

  • @vpp5001
    @vpp5001 2 месяца назад

    I can see your channenl growing very fast....positive contents

  • @glenmcdaniel
    @glenmcdaniel 2 месяца назад +1

    Very interesting video. Sometimes a person's upbringing and past experiences influence how they feel about friends. But friends should make you feel better, offer support, be there for you. Many friendships are toxic, cause more drama, or they are one-sided. One gives and the other only takes without giving. I have very few friends, but many hands stretched out for help all the time, so i get it. Love your videos. Mucho amor y buena suerte !

  • @charleymonn5848
    @charleymonn5848 2 месяца назад

    Interesting perspective. You are very likeable positive human being and I am sure if you choose to add new friends many would want to be your friend. Keep on doing videos showing the love and positivity you bring to the community. Also you have a great camera persona, artististic dancing spirit. Maybe you should take up acting!

  • @xaivercampbell1587
    @xaivercampbell1587 2 месяца назад +1

    Jordy. I dont have tictoc but so glad youre posting here. I think about you and forever grateful for my dance abilities. You have always been such a breath of fresh air and a giving person. 💕

    • @xaivercampbell1587
      @xaivercampbell1587 2 месяца назад

      Omgggg I also alwaysss knew you were an uptown skets eno!!! Omg Denise!!! ❤

    • @Florkubana
      @Florkubana  2 месяца назад

      Oh my little friend I am so happy to have you here and you should get TikTok . What is wrong with you? Lol.

    • @Florkubana
      @Florkubana  2 месяца назад

      Do you know me very well from day one so yes 🤣

  • @patriciabalfour6194
    @patriciabalfour6194 2 месяца назад

    I am new here, love your vibes, hoping to continue to enjoy your videos... Blessings

    • @Florkubana
      @Florkubana  2 месяца назад

      Thanks so much Is a pleasure to have you here

  • @elizabethking8763
    @elizabethking8763 Месяц назад

    Flor, I lived in Cuba for 3 and half years and you bring back great memories ❤

  • @Spele10
    @Spele10 2 месяца назад

    I enjoy listening to your stories. Very authentic, even if you must filter what you say. Keep composed.

  • @malachkmalcom6328
    @malachkmalcom6328 2 месяца назад +1

    Flo you're phucking funny..yuh mek mi leaf nonstop...now you have a friend. Uptown settle.. laaad yuh nuh easy. Luv yuh girrrrl

  • @bamwizzle9000
    @bamwizzle9000 2 месяца назад

    This was pretty Kool to see, I feel seen haha. Thanks for sharing 😎

    • @Florkubana
      @Florkubana  2 месяца назад

      Glad you enjoyed! Mucho Love

  • @chosenrasta7111
    @chosenrasta7111 2 месяца назад

    I really feel you, my sister, I relate to everything you said. ❤.

  • @ByronWoolley-x7t
    @ByronWoolley-x7t Месяц назад

    Friends are few and far between. Your mind seems to be perfectly put together, a necessity for a person alone. Hoping that you don’t feel offended by my cultural insensitivity, but your vocabulary and flow of conversation is beautiful. I am an older white American and my wife is a very young Jamaican woman with two young girls. Since I had a long career in the military, I have much experience with cultural differences. I treasure every person’s story. I don’t do any comparisons.

  • @PC-zg3eo
    @PC-zg3eo 2 месяца назад +4

    Sometimes it’s very hard to find true friends when you are a genuine person. If you are looking for superficiality, there are many “friends” to be found.
    I have acquaintances where I live but my two real friends do not live in the country in which I reside.
    So I get what you are talking about.

    • @Florkubana
      @Florkubana  2 месяца назад +1

      You know seh ah true! Thinking about how I get along better with religious ppl 🤣

  • @vernadew
    @vernadew 2 месяца назад

    Hello 😂I understand fully being an only child I can relate to you a being an introvert, my father always said “be careful how you choose your friends.” He was Jamaican. You are who you are nothing unusual. People just have respect our differences. Your story has some similarities in my life too. Stay blessed. Yes …I can be your friend ❤

  • @GuardianAngel..
    @GuardianAngel.. 2 месяца назад +8

    You’re not the only one Young Lady I’m from Jamaica and I don’t have any Friends either.

    • @samgee3683
      @samgee3683 2 месяца назад

      Same here. I’m from Jamaica too and have no friends.

    • @denisedixon6518
      @denisedixon6518 2 месяца назад +1

      Same here

  • @mellesashelloytimothyandzu6283
    @mellesashelloytimothyandzu6283 2 месяца назад

    This relates to me in some ways, thanks for this. For me I'm doing things day by day people have different mind set these days, just can't do what people giving these days 😢

  • @KIKI_RISINGQUEEN
    @KIKI_RISINGQUEEN 2 месяца назад +3

    Yes most of us over 40 don't have much friends...you're not alone

  • @ericthompson-9072
    @ericthompson-9072 2 месяца назад +1

    I just came across one of your video the one about why you move to jamaica but I like your vibes and the fact that you didn't speak English but I love how your learn to speak the patwah

    • @Florkubana
      @Florkubana  2 месяца назад

      Thanks 🥹 so much, it means a lot

  • @jujuray913
    @jujuray913 2 месяца назад +1

    Flor, mi lke you. Yu real. You are a blessed woman and am praying that the Lord will provide you with a Proverbs 27:9 friend . Have a great day.

    • @Florkubana
      @Florkubana  2 месяца назад

      🥹🙏🏾❤️ thank you so so much

  • @helenannleeshung9028
    @helenannleeshung9028 2 месяца назад +5

    Well in my head we are already friends😂❤ Just saying😂 Love,love your personality 💖🙃

    • @Florkubana
      @Florkubana  2 месяца назад +1

      Yes we are friends. Thank you so much. Mucho love.❤️🤗

    • @helenannleeshung9028
      @helenannleeshung9028 2 месяца назад

      @@Florkubana 💖🤗

  • @Florkubana
    @Florkubana  2 месяца назад +7

    You can support me by booking my Airbnbs
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    Thank you so much ❤😊

    • @ehmon8142
      @ehmon8142 2 месяца назад

      @@Florkubana do you own all these airbnb's?

    • @Florkubana
      @Florkubana  2 месяца назад

      @@ehmon8142yes 🙏🏾

    • @ehmon8142
      @ehmon8142 2 месяца назад

      @@Florkubana I'd like to hear more of the backstory how your businesses came about if you don't mind explaining sometime. I'd love to go to Cuba one day too!

    • @ehmon8142
      @ehmon8142 2 месяца назад

      @@Florkubana or if you're ever into collaborations to bring another airbnb to life in Montego Bay. I'm familiar with ochi and Negril also but I find being close to the airport is most convenient for travelers etc

    • @Audrey-ov4jm
      @Audrey-ov4jm 2 месяца назад

      Is Islabd Eyewear a very good place to get my eyes tested ,seriously , I am having eye problems

  • @sunshinesoulsister2529
    @sunshinesoulsister2529 2 месяца назад

    I truly enjoyed your video, I have no friends either, just acquaintances. I just started a tiktok account and I feel like those are my friends. I like it that way…

  • @harrisclive77
    @harrisclive77 2 месяца назад +14

    Your enemies can never hurt you. It’s your friends that get in close and twist the knife. You need allies ❤

    • @Florkubana
      @Florkubana  2 месяца назад +2

      So true

    • @Intentionaltia
      @Intentionaltia 2 месяца назад

      Those are not friends. You guys have the wrong definition. You were hurt so your POV is jaded unfortunately. There are good people out there! It’s unfortunate that some people haven’t experienced true, loving friendships!

  • @NattyByNature-
    @NattyByNature- 2 месяца назад +18

    I have lots of friends and some close ones. I love them all but I don’t think I have any friends that truly understand me or we have the level of deep connection I’m seeking.

  • @mollymaragh5177
    @mollymaragh5177 2 месяца назад

    You are cracking me up!! You up town sketel 😅😅

  • @maxinehiggins1130
    @maxinehiggins1130 2 месяца назад

    I Flor new subscriber ❤ you are not alone I have no friends either and my reason for that is if I need to have friends just to say I have friends when deep down I know they are not good friends is not me ❤❤❤

  • @clarareid458
    @clarareid458 2 месяца назад

    Florkubana are a beautiful soul and a strong funny,smiling woman I have enjoyed your videos. True friends are a blessing which l'm bless to have a couple .You have Love in your husband that's a great start, l'm still waiting to meet my soul mate. The saying nothing before its time ,wish it would hurry up😊

  • @francenegoulding314
    @francenegoulding314 2 месяца назад +1

    I was always a loner growing up till now but I have learnt to be content in the matter. I believe the deep things we would want to share with another person, we should choose to share it with God who cares for us. At the right time in life, God will connect us with the right person with whom we can open up to who will understand us and be our true selves with. Speaking from experience, God is faithful to provide. On my friendless journey, I had to endure encountering and dealing with seasonal people who appeared to be for me but turned out to not be so until recently I met the reflection of myself in a destiny friend that I never thought existed.

  • @duttymackandal2493
    @duttymackandal2493 2 месяца назад +3

    We love your insight, analysis, warm and delightful personality….your story telling ability is amazing….and indeed I can see you working very diligently to contain the uptown sketel 😂😂😂.
    There is a sketel under the surface of most Hispanic women….and I mean that in a complimentary way…. You have to keep sketel ready whenever you need her.
    I have been married to an uptown sketel for the last 30 years.

    • @Florkubana
      @Florkubana  2 месяца назад +1

      🤣🤣🤣🤣 my go to technique to keep the uptown sketwl tame is ronspeak with my hands in my pockets

    • @duttymackandal2493
      @duttymackandal2493 2 месяца назад

      @@Florkubana my girl…..Sketel caaah tame. You can only manage her and exploit her attributes whenever it is necessary. 😂😂😂

  • @dorothytitus8082
    @dorothytitus8082 2 месяца назад

    Nothing's wrong with you. Maybe that's just your journey. Ive tried to form friendships and have had similar experiences like you & that's why I had children.
    I was tired of people and disappointments. So far my children have been my hugest blessings and we are super close, so i dont have the bandwidth for friends.
    Plus, the jealousy alone is enough for me and that is the curse with me and people. Most friendships are codependent and are not genuine at all, plus I hate gossip and that's one of the things most females love to do. Males friends were my "go-to" for decades until i realized dem sneaky to and eventually get fresh wid yuh!
    So I take it for what it is, *MY JOURNEY*. I have a lot of things to do that most people cant relate to anyway, so im good.
    Just remember *"people come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime!"*

  • @barringtonmclaughlin9760
    @barringtonmclaughlin9760 2 месяца назад

    Very sweet story 1love

  • @portlandportland-s2n
    @portlandportland-s2n Месяц назад

    you are a real person and to find a real person doesn't really have friend, most "persons" you meet you really meet their Representatives first and it never usually change
    because we live in a very competitive culture

  • @chocolatemead
    @chocolatemead 2 месяца назад

    Flor, pleaseeee keep the videos coming! You’re hilarious btw😂

    • @Florkubana
      @Florkubana  2 месяца назад

      lol Thank you so much. I will for sure.

  • @angelarhule4239
    @angelarhule4239 2 месяца назад +15

    I’m a Jamaican & I have no friends,thought it was me alone

    • @Florkubana
      @Florkubana  2 месяца назад +3

      You are not alone my youtube friend 🤗❤️

    • @Florkubana
      @Florkubana  2 месяца назад +2

      Thank you so much for saying that cus I thought it was me alone nuh have friends 🤣. But guess what?? Now you are MY friend 🤗❤️

    • @angelarhule4239
      @angelarhule4239 2 месяца назад

      @@Florkubana😁👍

  • @Alkemiss
    @Alkemiss 2 месяца назад +9

    I resonate with this deeply. I too was an only child until the age of 12 when my siblings were born. We lived far up on the hills which left me isolated and I played by myself alot. I did notice that I was super insecure and shy even when I had friends especially other female friendships. I think the insecurity came from not fitting in or not having the same interest as the group. As I aged I realized I had a tendacy to attract alot of fren-enemies and overpowerimg personalities that enjoyed pushing my boundaries. Now that im older im more self assured and dont care as much about frivolous connections. Im quiet content being by myself and enjoy interacting with strangers here and there. Truth be told, being in solitude and enjoying your own company seems to make others suspicious as hell of you. Its like they cant fathom how someone can enjoy their own company 😂.

    • @karenmartin2457
      @karenmartin2457 2 месяца назад

      You are right I am the same way similar experiences.

  • @cbgroupltd
    @cbgroupltd 2 месяца назад

    Thanks for sharing. Glad to know I'm not alone