Practical Tips for Being Present with a Hyperactive Mind | Eckhart Answers
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- Опубликовано: 22 фев 2023
- When asked about hyperactive minds, Eckhart suggests practising listening in conversation with others, devoting oneself to listening actively 80 percent of the time. Additionally, bringing awareness to the inner feeling of your hands can help to deepen Presence in an everyday situation.
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I love how Eckhart is always taking his time to answer a question. It's so beautiful to see the calmness in him ❤
Eckhart is hillarious haha! As someone who is diagnosed with ADHD as an adult I can safely say that this works! It can take a while to see results, just dont give up and find ways to keep it interesting and fun! Your mind is like a Ferrarri and with the ability to slow it down with awareness, you now have a Ferrari with brakes. Then you suddenly have a super powerful tool!
@@jesusbermudez6775 It is very unfortunate for you to see this way. We must be engage in some sort of practice, called sadhana, to see how relevant Eckhart is. Otherwise, we would just see an ordinary man that is talking about all sort of things...He is engaged 100% with his wife Kim to spread spirituality.
Tell me how could someone possibly perform at so many plateform without money? Money is needed. Now a day, nobody listen to a beggar.
Whats funny meds do this miracously for me life is interesting, without everything(lot) feels boring , and im just mindlessly scrolling , sometimes nothing catches my intention and im very impulsevely jumping from one thing to another without paying any real attention bored by the tasks and v low energy. Hyperactivity. I scored high on a qb test.
beautiful analogy!
Thank you to the questioner and of course Eckhart for the answers. I was diagnosed with ADHD as an adult, and medication literally changed my life. But it's still a daily struggle. ADHD is not attention deficit, it's an overactive attention on many things at once with great difficulty pointing your attention to one of the things at a time. It's also a low level of dopamine and executive function disorder. Being present, daily practice, meditation, body awareness.. all these have been extremely beneficial to say the least. I can really identify with this questioner, it's still very hard. But practice helps.
I have found that big pharma's prescriptions to treat ADHD, were not worth the Time I spent on them. The trials and errors in changing medications because one didn't work so they tried something else... I wasted my life not to mention the list of effects that come with it because there are no side effects. There are only effects. If I was you, I would look into John Hopkins University in psychiatry and behavioral sciences and look at what they are doing with psychedelic therapy.
Perhaps worthwhile for some to check out Gabor Mate and what he has to contribute to ADHD from a medical perspective 🙏
Yes I was diagnosed as a child and it's exhausting. I have 3 now and my eldest - 10 has adhd too. He has tried medication but unfortunately affects his appetite too much but he is doing well. I also can never remember names it takes me several times of meeting them . I'm so busy in my own mind it goes in and out. I hope this man can practise his medication and its a good reminder for me to practice in a world so full of distractions.
As someone who is in the diagnoses process as well, I’ve been wondering strongly, to what degree can ADHD still be part of your identity when you are present? Or is it solely a part of the ego?
@@kusjie I am not Eckhart, but (having ADHD myself) I consider it part of my identity, although it can emerge the ego too when it becomes 'too much'. I can be witty, but when I notice attention from others, the wittyness grows due to the ego, since I experience others like it. When I am on the road driving my car, my ADHD makes me alert of everything (and makes me present in the 'now'), but when a car doesn't give way to me, my ADHD alerts the ego to respond in an overreacting way.
Hope this helps a little bit.
Eckhart, that was such a beautiful answer. Toward the end of this video, your advice to be in nature, I could feel myself doing the things you say, touching a leaf, or water as I usually do, and it was as if I was there. so peaceful. Thank you for caring about that lovely young man. 😇😊
THESE precious tips,to feel my hands or my breath, finding myself in the middle of an argument 🤣 have saved me more than once....💓🙏
@@jesusbermudez6775 I have nothing 😁 Feeling my hands and my breathing was/is what I had/have!
@@jesusbermudez6775 Absolutely NO. I am sicure of nothing about myself
@@jesusbermudez6775 I don't have mental security I don't want mental security. My mind gives me just problems. I surrender to the Consciusness... That is what really IS...🙏
I always struggles with my mind and ego controlling me. I understand now how I’m never listening to anyone and my mind racing to the next frase, next drama. It’s very difficult to stop. Thanks for giving us a direction 😘😘😍
ADHD-alert! Good tips. 80% listening, 20% talking. And I love the tarmac reference btw. It's a combination of 'a lot going on' and 'all of the same', I guess.
What a gentle response and suggestions from Eckhart. One suggestion he said “ go in nature and touch something” bravo.
Works only when you actually FEEL it. 🙂
The best way I could handle my business was whenever challenge comes … without a second thought I start feeling my hands intensely and then think from the silence ….I’ve always got creative solution from it and I’m running my business successfully::thanks Eckhart
Im starting a business very soon, in a couple weeks. And hoping to get through like you have I will definitely keep that in mind as I get very overwhelmed in planning and the mind attacks start, will remember to direct back to the body. Congrats on your success.
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- I just want to let anyone who’s reading this comment to know; Awakening is not changing who you are, but discarding who you are not ✨
There you go again quoting Deepak Chopra without acknowledging Deepak Chopra 🙄
@@MrHarlstar The words are the important part, a lot of people saying stuff others said without giving credit.. 🤨
@@MindMoulder Yes. If it's true it comes from the same place.
If you are not who are than what have you got to discard?
@@MrHarlstar so what? Good for you who knows who owned the qoute. We don't GAF as the writer isn't important to us. stfu 👋
Thank you for all your teachings I love you Eckhart ❤.
Gratitude
One of the effective practices I do is when I'm drinking water. I used to just drink and drink it fast but now I feel the water, feel to goes in to my body and pause and feel my breathing. I still have long way to go but I find that really helpful.
Water is on of the most delicious substances in the world. This is why breathing has so much power and used so much in meditation. Both air (oxygen) and water are chemicals that are transformed within us through an amazing process. This can continue to eating, and in general all other "doing" of the ego-mind.
@@jesusbermudez6775 I've drunk two litres+ of coke per day since the age 17 to the age of 49 (I'll be 51 in March). When I now (rarely) drink a can of coke, it is also "one of the best". Everything is an experience for your illusory self.
Water is however necessary. Coke is not.
Such good advice I need to be more of a listener,I struggle with my mind going so fast I can hardly listen.Thinking of what to say next.
Edit: I’m grateful for this video and I have no complaints
Thank you for fixing the tagline ❤
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Pure gold behind a questionable tagline…racing thoughts are not to be stopped nor is that what this is about 🙄 it’s about practicing presence in social situations (which can be the hardest)
Thank you Eckhart: such simple, wise advice. I find wiggling my toes and feeling them helps.
This awesome fella is just an intense guy, there is plenty of us.
I feel the same way, Im glad I watched this, Im know im not alone
This is one of my favorite videos.
This is helpful...I appreciate the question being asked and your response and humor, Eckhart, I also appreciate the various comments 🙏💗💗💗🙏
Good advice Eckhart! Thank you. I found this to be very helpful to use in my daily interactions.
His teachings are simple and work like a manual of the human system.
Listen breathe feel into hands and/or inside the body listen more than talking this will help me focus on the speaker and quiet an active mind. Timely assistance as I had to have a steroid shot for medical reasons and I needed to be reminded of some tools. Thank you for your loving service
When I was a kid, I had ADHD. I was bouncing off the walls and was in special needs classes at school. Thankfully, I never took medication for it.
When I was a teenager, I started meditating and it completely changed me. Although I wish I still had the energy I had, the meditation did calm me in a positive way. I became more clear headed and was able to focus my attention better and be mindful of whatever task was at hand.
So I would highly recommend meditation for those with ADD or ADHD. Just don't turn the meditation into a chore. Instead enjoy the process.
Hey, which type of meditation do you practice ?
So great to hear you find not succumb to the drugs which are harmful. Therefore you were able to overcome it and reveal your true self. Congrats. Much love and blessings. Namaste.
@@Gaurav.P0 I don't really meditate much anymore, but when I did, I would focus on my breath or a maybe a candle. I think I went overboard with it, with my fingers in a circle, and chanting "Om" and all that. I also would make sure I meditated for exactly 15 minutes, so it wasn't really a meditation, since I was thinking more about the time, rather than just allowing myself to be immersed in the moment. So I was pretty legalistic about it, which defeats the whole purpose.
If I were to do it all over again, I would just sit quietly in a room and just stop thinking. I might close my eyes. Or maybe not. My main goal would be to stop thinking, and just be alert to my surroundings, knowing that thoughts will come and not grab onto them, and just let them go.
I also wouldn't be concerned about a time limit. I would just chill and be present until I felt it was time to stop.
Also, because meditation is all about mindfulness, you can meditate by being mindful in all that you do. Fur example, I usually don't listen to anything while I'm driving. Instead, I just immerse myself in the experience. I hear the road noise, and I'm aware of the other vehicles. I feel my car as it goes around the curves.
So you can bring a meditative mindset to whatever it is you're doing.
No need to demonize medication, it is very helpful for a lot of people. It's also not either/or, you can meditate and take meds and there's nothing wrong with that. Also, ADHD is a neurodevelopmental disorder, so it is quite unlikely that you *had* it at one point and don't have it now. What's more probable is that your symptoms have changed (outwardly displayed hyperactivity to the level of "bouncing off the walls" is very uncommon in adults for obvious reasons) and/or you're managing the condition better.
Beautiful, thank you ❤
Ask yourself, do I have relaxation built into my day? This will take different forms for different people. It will even take different forms on different days for you. The key is choosing something that you know is deeply good for you.
Blending relaxation into your weeks, month after month, year after year, will add up. This balance will actually keep you healthier and stave off depression and anxiety over time.
So find some joy today. Repeat tomorrow, and watch that balance seep into your months and years. Get ready to look back on a life well spent.
Thanks im letting something take joy from me. regret and fearing future despite my practice which is not good
@@theamalgamatedtheory same here...
Cool practice! I keep taking too long to put my thoughts in the best way which keeps my mind unnecessary busy!
My hands were near my heart. A good reminder; placing my attention on It has always been very exciting.
This is my question as well. Thanks for asking
I love you, Mr. tolle
With ADHD, I’ve found the more I practice the more things to say pop up in my mind that I can see and then let go of that impulse that I need to “contribute” to the conversation.
Oh wow 🤩 remembering this wonderful gathering by seeing this episode… ❤
I was sitting on the second row in this seminar when this gentleman was asking his question 😊
Cool, I'm sure it was fun.☺️👍
Practicing reflective listening is also a good way to overcome hyperactive personality. Also a good tool to have if you are a therapist. 😅
Eckhart is so humorous and funny!!!
@@jesusbermudez6775 OK. That's your opinion. I STILL want to say, "Eckhart is so humorous and funny!!!!".....
A Yorkshire based audience member! Wasn't expecting that in one of Eckhart's videos 😁
WOW! This was... really... so revealing to me. I always found myself identified with ADD testimonies. Then, the name changed, and the "H" (Hyperactivity) added to it never made sense to me. Sometimes I'd even write ADhD. But this video... WOW! I'm exactly like this guy from Yorkshire, England!!! "Content? What the hell do you mean?", I thought then. "Creating more content"... that's exactly what I do daily! And what he says about "when someone tells me the name" WOW-WOW! Me, me, me. This was so enlightening to know more about who I am. Perfect questions made, perfect advices given, and the best genuine answers from this Yorkshire man. I'm sure I'll be listening to this video a lot times... and you (probably might already) know why is that 😂. Many thanks to everybody who made this moment possible in my life ❤️
Racing and constant thoughts are always a problem for me. I may have to try that hand trick to see if it helps.
Notice your inner senses, the energy fields and inner feelings of your hands and legs.
Be aware of you breathing.
Thanks Eckhart. 24 February 2023.🐝🍕🏊♂️🚀👻✡🌴🦆
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Thank you 😊
I know... you got a lot goin on up there right now. That’s ok. It’ll all peice itself together on it own. Let’s just take a minute together and let your thoughts go where they want. Just as if you’re letting your kids outside to play, just open that door and let your thoughts run free for a minute. They’ll go where they feel like right now.. you have nothing to ponder right now. It’s an empty mind relaxing on that hammock. Trust me on this- You’re gonna accomplish everything you set out to AND MORE. You’ve got all the time in the world to get everything you want Done and more. You are exactly right where you are supposed to be at this moment in time. I feel really good about where things are headed for you now. Just let everything take is corse and enjoy the ride on the way there. You’re gonna have lots of fun. You did it! 🙏
Great clip. Especially for young men with attention deficit. Thank you
Or women
@@agaricsun definitely. But I say especially young men as the message is coming from grown men
@@jesusbermudez6775 to each their own I guess
@@jesusbermudez6775 beautifully put
Osho used to do this! Now I know why!
Another one,......very well done Eckhart :) .Thank you .
I can relate to this , I/ my mind is going 100mph when I’m in a conversation. I NEED to respond quickly and because I’m doing thatI really don’t remember what the other person said I lose details of what they say. Remembering a name of someone I just meet…seems to never happen. I want to have conversations not react to what is said, any advice be it books, you tube content etc.
thanks bruh
Perfect
thank you peolle :)
I am the same I isolate because my mind is overactive and come out with all sorts on fast forward.
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Would anyone else like to hear Eckhart's thoughts on AI like meeee?
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Great, helpful video but I had seen this clip few weeks ago on your channel. Do you upload it twice?
Ignore this comment above me its a SCAM
@@beyondnow1600 Yes, I know but thank you :)
I rarely can remember names as well. It just disappears!!
coolllll
Maybe it's easier when dealing with a "mild" situation? What about when dealing with harder situations? Tried to face it by going within me to let it subside, but didn't work
Im feeling the same way found there are a lot of relaxation techniques you can look up here on youtube that help some.
I have a similar issue where I say random stuff to ppl without even thinking 🤪
In a way, it's good. Spontaneous.
Feeling "your" (the) body, hands, etc. is an illusion created by the ego-mind (which "I" believe is a model created of physiology by the nervous system so it can react accordingly; this is what people normally tend to confuse with the self). When the Self is accessed, it is this being (verb not noun), it is holistic without division and includes the ego-mind, the physiological model, all other ego-minds, and all other beings. It is the universe and the universal godhead. Hard to describe in words. What does it mean to say "your energy field" or "your hands" when referring to Being (noun) being (verb)? That seems to be introducing the ego-mind back into the equation. The point is that all this (division) is illusion.
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Can I ask Ekhart a question? I am so tired of one devastating burning emotion - no matter what I do, I dont feel connection with life, I feel trapped, but I want to experience freedom. I feel free only when I dont have a job.. But then I do not feel free after all money gone. I am not a lazy looser or something, I am a Phd 40 years old student with 3 previous degrees and various work experiences , and no possessions. I dont owe anything because I suppose my subco😮ncious percieve it as a trap, attachment to one place as well.. But I want to have better quality of life and want to feel free. I feel dependant on employer, scientific advisor, country, situation. I do not think about it at all, but its all sit in me. I have everything to be greatful for, I dreamt of being in academia, living in different countries. But I lie to myself when i say words of gratitude. Because I feel myself in a cage. And this feeling follows me since I was born. What and how can change my perception? Or I really need to change country, start business etc.
Try googling Infinite Silence Philip Wade💖🙏🏼
I would speak to a psychologist. There are some neurosis/disorders that are strongly counter-dependent, never free enough, glibbly imagining some new circumstance that will be ideal -- only to discover it's not (too many dependencies; an image to live up to that doesn't produce the "return on investment" that was imagined.). Psychology and mindfulness/presence/awakening are not mutually exclusive. They both seek a more honest relationship with reality, the present moment, the only thing that's real (and how the mind deludes the person in the present moment, yearning for something else, not happy with what was previously yearned for.). Some psychologists openly incorporate mindfulness in their therapy.
I look at mindfulness/presence/awakening as something the average person can do. But, some people have more repressed/dis-integrated subconscious trauma/anger/shame. Psychology can be the heavy-duty help to be peaceful in the moment (to clear out the past; integrate the subconscious better).
@@markfuller thanks a lot for your reply. I am into psychology, midfulness, philosophies, practice of presence and concentration for many many years. I can easy direct the flow of my thoughts or stop them at all for up to 20 minutes. But I just dont feel connection to the world even if i am present. And I dont feel joy / freedom unless I am in the places of power, mountains, monasteries, by the ocean, or even at some cities. Somehow life sends me to other places, sometimes I have a feeling that it doesn't depend on me much, and there is a plan for me to learn how to live well in the place/ conditions I do not enjoy and make peace with them. I have never had illusions about the places I was moving. Some I knew I would like, others I knew I would hate. Though even in the places I liked I felt a lack of freedom because of the job. But it might be natural feeling of an empathetic person working in a company. Not sure what can help here. I will try to discuss it with psychologist as well but what I noticed, no one can feel exactly what you feel and they follow their script and school. This subject might be more esoterical.
@@TatianaSitnikova Maybe you expect (desire) a connection to the world that isn't realistic? Not accepting what is? A form of craving? (one of twelve factors/spokes of samsara. Feeling leads to craving, leads to clinging, leads to existence through volitional/karmic actions). What if you were an unrealized arahant? :) They've reached a level of disconnect from the 5 aggregates such that the 12 factors are stilled, not leading to endless dependent origination. They have loving kindness for others, but not a yearning for connection. If someone had that level of awakening but didn't realize it, they might think something's wrong? "I can't seem to connect the way I should." When, in fact, it's the arahant's nature to be disconnected?
Or, maybe it's a matter of "what is?" If you're working it's probably with unawakened people. You can't relate or feel validated by your surrounding? That would be improved by the 8-fold path (the 2nd step of "right intention" which is non-aversion, loving kindness)?
Or, back to the psychological aspect: it sounds a little disassociative? There are people who have gotten into awakening/presense and had disassociative (depersonalization, de-realization) disturbance. They lose their sense of self, how they fit, etc. Going back to the first point above, that may not be bad unless they need the sense of self. If someone has a deep psychological need for a self, they would struggle more with awakening than the average person. (It doesn't sound like you struggle. I guess it's a question of why you feel what is isn't sufficient. That there should be more connection somehow.).
@@markfullerwow, thanks, all three theories sound very interesting and probably partially reflects the reality, especially first and second. Yeah, may be the contrast is so huge with what I experience in sacred places or places of power in my personal perception. Or sometimes even here in Canada which is empty in terms of energy, I can feel for seconds something real, like wind that came from somewhere else and it brings this real almost physical sensation of life. Also, I felt this way after I visited one great osteopath, so I also connect it with some blocks in the body. Because after that session.. Wow, I was really connected with the world, even traffic on the road, lights, faces, peoples eyes, we were part of the one. But most of the time I feel like I am trapped in the bubble, not of the thoughts, but almost like a physical border between mind/soul and outer world. Not sure if it can even be solved or eased at all. I was even thinking to become a monk but want to try to experience it here, in the world.
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I wish you would post more examples about how to manifest.. we are in this world to expeience joy and the physicality of thus world too.. people are suffering from lack.. how do we create abundance
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An ADHD brain is visible different than neurotypical brains. The transmitter and receiver is disturbed every day.
Cannabis alcahole benzoes work but also meditation but that s harder
smoking drinking or taking ills is easer but meditation has ore of a lasting relaxation
or takink pills
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everything is hopeless and nothing helps
Every thought is a false flag.
Мое мнение- Если Вы нашли Экхарта, можно больше никого не искать! Он такая глыба….!
Shaikh Eckhart Tolle, regarding simplicity and the complicated creation of human being and his happiness of thankfulness as such creature of Loving Creator, regarding diversity of such knowledge up to endless Blessings, there is a lot of light to such endless knowledge of mind up to truthful talented combinated pieces of Qur'an, The Recital, The Light, The Book, The Criterion, The Revelation, The Spirit, pieces that should come together in such approach of yours, and a spring of knowledge from Praised Prophet Muhammad that removes thirst such that (I pray to Loving Allah, Worshipped Creator) to remove materialism, ego, atheism from knowledge, because it makes it sick, blocked fixation, deleted etc, and such that you would truly find yourself as an expert mind and spread to the world the unique western personality with the heart of home, an update of Qur'an nowadays, a beautiful knowledge that everyone needs, everyone, by HIS MERCY, everyone, I swear by HIS ENDLESS MERCY, EXALTED LOVING ALLAH
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Eckhart can you comment on Trans people?
That was 7 recycled videos ago (Feb 9).
@@markfuller thanks, he talked a bit about what i wanted to know i believe but he didnt talk about people who desire to modify their bodies.
@@pouncerist It's probably a touchy subject. The simple answer would be that desire is craving (leading to clinging) -- ultimately not accepting the "is-ness" of the moment, reality).
But, where do we draw the line on this? Someone said Eckhart dyes his hair (implying that the advocate for being at peace with is'ness isn't practicing what he preaches). They had a point, but then what about women (predominantly) wearing makeup, hiding flaws, or accentuating things more than they are? Or, even clothing? Anything more than sackcloth is egoic in some way (we spend time choosing brands, fit, color, style).
It seems to me like this stuff is all on the same spectrum. It's a subjective(?) matter of how far a person goes with it? Any of these things could turn into an obsession.
Another example that comes to mind is someone born palsied. Often they will have surgeries to improve that condition. Is that like the topic you're interested in? (Not accepting of the person's is-ness? Or, a reasonable attempt to "fix" a problem using reasonably-accepted means?). It seems like a difficult topic prone to extremes (politics)?
@@markfuller thanks Mark, I agree with what you said and have found my own answer. I would love to hear Eckhart speak about it. It is indeed the politicalness and extremeness of the topic. I talk about people who cut their genetalia off and replace it by something different. Also people who have an extreme thing for body modification that desire to have fingers or even whole legs amputated. People who desire to be blind and let themselves be helped by „psychologists“ to put acid in their eyes. Should we allow surgeons to perform these body modifications? Even if the person „identifies as trans“? Or identifies as some form of disabled or the like?!
@@pouncerist Things like this (and "war on drugs," climate change, etc) are often out of our control but we let it occupy our minds as if we do have control. I think that being able to recognize that and not be too preoccupied with things we can't change is all we can do. I.e., if everyone had that inner awareness (ability to have boundaries pertaining to what they can/can't change, and keep their mental investment reasonable) maybe the world would be a better place (we'd have more of a shared language about being realistically present in the moment. Most problems stem from not being. Maybe that's all we can do is to set an example that, if others followed it, these things would be less divisive, less debatable, etc.).
I wish we taught vipassana/mindfulness meditation in school (starting at 3rd grade, 8 yo old). It's interesting to think about what the world would be like if the vast majority of people knew the difference between "me in the moment" and "me thinking/narrating/obsessing/ruminating in the moment." More common language about the dark side of human nature (dark when it's not seen, unknown, everyone chasing something out of their control, easily influenced by appeals to their ego). That might be a more do-able goal than the hot-button issues. IMO, the key is to make it as secular as possible (not new-age, spiritual, etc. No larger topics of cosmology that have to be taken on faith.). Just "this is something anyone can experience, and be better for doing so, being familiar with themselves this way." It doesn't have to mean anything more than that. But, typically is proclaimed to be more. (That leads parents to oppose teaching it in school because it's some kind of religious belief being pushed on impressionable kids.).